I'm 58 now and I cannot listen to this song without shedding a few tears. My dad and I were very close but he grew very ill quickly 10 years ago. He battled for a while and I thought he was doing better. But, my mom called me 6:30 one morning and found him dead outside from a self inflicted gun shot to his heart. He couldn't handle the pain; knowing he was not going to get better; and never wanted to burden anyone to care for him. I never got to say goodbye to him and man does it hurt. If there's anyone reading this and holding a grudge with your parent; sibling or close friend, get over it and make up. Love your show Stacey!
You are so right. After my Dad died, some of my brothers and sisters began to fall out. Even me with a sister. Even though I felt betrayed, I decided to give it to GOD and made peace with my sister and she did the same. One brother of ours can't bring himself to forgiveness especially towards my sister. The anger eats him up. I pray for him. GOD bless you. Have faith one day that our CREATOR will reunite you and your Dad.
I didn't speak to my father for 5 years prior to his death. We had a falling out. Then one day, i called him. He was very sick and was dying. We talked for about 10 minutes. Said our good byes. I called him 2 weeks later and said everyrhing i needed to. Told him nothing matters and that i loved him. He died 3 days later. All thise years i wasted being angry. Id give anything to have 5 minutes with him again. Buckaroo
On the night I lost my father, I was of course a mess trying to figure out how to handle my grief. I put on 80s music. I jokingly said to myself, I am taking a chance that this song will come on. And sure enough within 20 minutes it came on. I was sobbing, but I needed to hear it. It helped me cope in that moment.
And the lead singer is Paul Carrack from the band Squeeze, and The Bleeding Heart Band which often worked with Roger Waters of Pink Floyd during his solo career.
My dad died earlier this summer. I've known this song since I was a teenager and have always been moved by it. In fact, it is precisely because of this song that I was able to have a beautiful relationship with my dad, and did get to say all the things I wanted to say to him before he died. It meant the world to me.
The singer is Paul Carrack. Mike Rutherford (Genesis) is the man with long hair and a beard who, in the video, walks hand in hand with his young son. Mike Rutherford co-wrote the lyrics with Brian Alexander Robertson. The song won the Ivor Novello Award for Best Song Musically and Lyrically in 1989, and was nominated for four Grammy Awards in 1990, including Record and Song of the Year, as well as Best Pop Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocals and Best Videos. In 1996, famed composer Burt Bacharach said that the song was one of the greatest lyrics of the past decade. "Silent Running" and "All I Need Is a Miracle", from the 1985 self-titled debut album, were also quite successful, although I really like "You Are the One". From the 1988 album "Living Years", in addition to this song, I would also recommend "Nobody's Perfect", "Beautiful Day" and "Why Me?", although one of my favorites from a musical/instrumental point of view is "Don't".
You've got me bawling with this one, Stacy. 3 months ago today, my younger brother turned 60. On Sunday, my sisters and I scattered his ashes to the ocean where spent our childhood. We shared a room while growing up. We laughed and fought. We got into trouble together. We shared our love of music, introducing each other to new bands and styles. All I can say is that we should never miss an opportunity to make time for the people we love. Never miss an opportunity to say "I love you".
My dad was a a tough person who was old school, and just before he died, all 6 of his kids had a chance to Have their last talk with him. I was last and my dad and I fought a lot, and I opened up to him, and at the very end, we settled many issues, without and shouting, rather both of us showed our love to each other. All of our stupid BS was resolved, and we made peace which made both of us felt pure love, and believe me, it was very important to both of us. TALK to your loved ones, and stay humble, and you will be uplifted. I miss both of my parents, and that last talk was beyond important. God bless anyone who need to start the conversation, and it will heal you heart and soul. Best wishes to anyone who needs to do this. ❤️❤️
I lost my brother November 27th 2023 I lost my father June 23 2024 My mother has dementia and doesn’t recognize me sometimes. Other times she’s asking where my brother and her husband are…. Saturday Sept 14th my 14 year old chihuahua passed away This song makes me grateful there was no riff in our relationships. I can’t imagine adding guilt on top of my grief
That's how my 90 year old grandmother is. She doesn't recognize my mother most days. I know I'm gonna regret it but I don't have the heart to see her like that. I want to remember her how she was a year ago. Not how she is now.
Lost my mentor to covid January 2021 . My god , this song reduces to tears everytime . We fought , we loved , but he was always there . I really miss him so much . Dad , thankyou for everything . 😢❤
You can add the independent works by Anthony Phillips, Steve Hackett, Phil Collins and Tony Banks to the list as well. They all had their genesis from Genesis.
Well, you got me now! "The Living Years" by Mike + The Mechanics is a song that always brings tears to my eyes. It reminds me of my incredible father, who has been my rock through the good and bad times. His unwavering support and love have shaped me into who I am today. Every time I hear this song, it serves as a powerful reminder to cherish every moment with him and to be the best son I can be, just as he has been the best father to me, although nobody is perfect. This song is a beautiful tribute to the importance of expressing our love and gratitude while we still have the chance. Say "I love you" today, because maybe tomorrow can be too late! Thank you, Stacey, again!!!
"I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away..." This killing me every time I hear it.... and I listen to it for like 30 years, and it still does... shields down, direct impact. These lyrics are so meaningful, and so important.
Paul Carack sang vocals on a bunch of songs with bands and as a solo artist - How Long (with Ace) - Tempted (with Squeeze) - Silent Running (with Mike and the Mechanics) - Don't Shed a Tear (Solo)
Once again a wonderful reaction! This song came out 3 years after I lost my father. I had no regrets but it made me very nostalgic and touched me. Thank you for this song. I still get emotional almost every time I hear this. I have loved all of your reactions and always look forward to the next. 🥰
Until two months ago, for me, this was "just" a beautiful song with beautiful lyrics and carefully arranged music; I bought the album on vinyl as soon as it came out, and a few years later, in 1996, I also bought it on CD in Manhattan, New York, in that five-story store that I don't think exists anymore.. Since last July, when my mother passed away, the song has taken on another meaning. Inside me, in addition to the natural melancholy, there remains a slight sense of guilt because to convince her to be admitted to hospital I had assured her that I would not let her die in a hospital bed but, with a clear head and reasoning rationally, when her kidneys and heart "gave up", if she had been at home without treatment and "pain therapies" she would have suffered much more. The day they started with sedation, forced hydration and morphine, she was still mentally clear and, when she saw and heard me, she held my hand and said: "Mom's love, you are here" and I replied: "Of corse Mom, I'm here and I will not let you go away", even though she was aware of what was happening. Her last words and her look remain a comfort to me but, more than anything, what can really put my conscience and soul at peace is having shown her and made her feel my affection and my love throughout her life, even if there were discussions and some arguments, as I think is normal in any family and in any parent/child relationship. You gave me life, the most precious gift, and unconditional love: "I love you mommy!" ❤❤❤❤
I was a hippy type/rocker .. My dad a Fighter Pilot/Marine in WW2... I had finally got my life figured out, married, two kids a boy and a girl. I looked him up and he was four years dead .. This was out around that time. I think we loved each other but his outlook and mine were so far apart. His sister told me that he had tried to find me in his last six months .... WoW ...
This makes me weep every time I hear song. I truly miss my Dad. Sure,, he might have been tough at times but made me the man I am now. Fredrick Franklin Deal (1928-2007) I'll always love you Dad.
I'm a child of divorce, born in Illinois in the mid 70's and was always close with my dad until 1987 when I moved to south Florida. our weekly father son time was cut to school holidays. then this song came out in my early high school days and made such an impact . there were things missed "like my graduation" and a change in point of view of people " we came from a small rural farm community to the cultural melting pot of Broward County. my dad was a man of few words throughout his life, and before he passed in 2016 there were still conversations we needed to, but hadn't had. the regrets I have had diminished. but this song stirrs up thoughts of what should have been. but also brings forward the fond memories I have with him.
This song has always been a very touching, and loving song that speaks so much truth! It's one that everyone should hear and take in for some self-examination, IMHO.
Thank you for listening to the message that was sung in the song and you definitely have a heart of gold. Too much of everything in the last 25 years has been sugar coated and made as the new truth. Take a hammer to the sugar coating and just stay blunt truthful loving and caring stand up straight remember you are worth it.
My dad died about four years after this song came out and we never bridged the gap. There are things in life you have to live with that you wish you didn't. Not easy.
I was fortunate to work with my Dad. We butted heads at times but it was with love. I was with him and my Mom at the hospital when he passed and had to tell the doctors and nurses at the hospital to stop trying to resuscitate him. It was the toughest thing I’ve ever done. Carpe Diem.
My Dad and I stopped talking for 6 months in the 80s before I sent this song to him. My mother forced him to listen to it. He called me two days later. We never fought again, he died in '95
This is such a great song and I love Mike Rutherford and he’s a member of one of my favorite all time bands Genesis with Phil Collins, Peter Gabriel. This song hits you straight in the feels.
A heartfelt and beautiful reaction to this song Stacey. This one gets to me every time, even though I lost my parents in the 1980's. It does strike a chord with me, as we don't say the important things to our parents sometimes when we are young adults. And then in the blink of an eye it's too late. Thanks. ❤ 🇬🇧
Beautiful song. Lost my big brother a year ago. Once they're gone, it's impossible not to think back and wish you could've done more, or told them how much you love them. I sure miss him.
@@TheCornishCockney Oh dear someone hasn't been doing their homework - Paul Carrack was a keyboard / 'piano player in Roxy Music for a while and was also in Squeeze after Jools Holland left the band!!
And don't forget he toured with Roger Waters as part of his Bleeding heart band on the Radio Kaos tour and also the awesome performance he gave singing " Hey You " at the " Live in Berlin " concert ❤
Hi, for info Mike is Mike Rutherford, the lead guitarist from the band Genesis. He is playing the guitar on this track. This was his solo project away from Genesis. He had more than one singer in this project.
Thanks for reacting to this song! I haven't heard this song in at least 20 years and it just reminds me of all the great songs that I grew up on. Thank you Stacey!
I was about fifteen or sixteen when this song came out and it pointed out that the generational divide applies to everyone, not just me, and that I shouldn't let it become a problem. I lost my dad ten years ago but, unlike in this story, I got to be there when he passed away. I got the opportunity to tell him that I love him and to thank him for everything he did for me. He was also the first person I told that I was going to ask my now wife to marry me. I will forever be grateful that I had that opportunity. This song always brings me to tears because of what it means to me.
Saw them live in Manchester UK around 1995? They were supported by 'The Swans' (Bell & Wade ) who were also superb! Fantastic concert all round. Will never forget both bands.
It hits even harder when you are older and your parents are gone. No matter how much you've said you feel like you've never said enough. In my case not even close to enough and therein lies the seeds of regret.
So nice to see you are emotioned by this new music for you. We...the 'old music people' ... than realize how blessed we were to witness this for years and years... thank you Stacey for giving us this new emotion ❤
It’s a double edged sword really loving a parent, it’s incredibly painful when they die but you had their love all your life. My dad just died aged 93 and the man was incapable of love so his funeral on Tuesday will just be a procedure for tying up loose ends….I shall not mourn or miss him, in emotional terms, I get off lightly.
My father passed in 2011 due to a blood clot...and thankfully, my dad and I got to the point where we could hug and tell each other how much we loved each other! My mother passed on November 30, 2023....and I remember thinking..."Mom, It's okay to go be with dad!" She passed that next morning. I hope you and your sister will come back together to listen to more music together! I would love to see you and your sister react to "Nights in White Satin" by "The Moody Blues" Such a beautiful song....and let the song play all the way to the end!!!
The song was inspired by Mike Rutherford (lead guitarist here and for Genesis) and songwriter B. A. Robertson realizing their fathers had died around the same time (Robertson's 11 days before B. A.'s son was born), and they later learned singer Paul Carrack's father had died when he was young (11), as well. The video was released January 1989.
Great reaction Stacey! If there is any 'estrangement' within a family, especially with parents, this one hits deep! It's really a call to say time is too short to let allow a wedge to drive us apart...because some day, it will be too late to make amends. There is nothing more expensive than regret. Wish my eldest sister would realize that...she's ostracized herself from the family. Wasn't at my wedding, didn't attend my grandmother or mother's funerals, doesn't know her nephews or nieces. It's sad really. So for me, this song hits hard...and did for my mom & dad too.
Seen mike many times in Genesis, GENESIS WHEN IN ROME is a great concert Stacey to have a look at HOME BY THE SEA, LOS ENDOS, DOMINO, great tracks and definitely worth a reaction Stacey.
"blunt, but beautiful..." you said it, Stacey. Another excellent choice of music; a song with more just any old shallow message. I your admire your taste in music!
This song has always been a bittersweet punch in the gut for me. It may be hard to rebuild bridges that may have been burned, but it's even harder to live with things the way you left them in the name of pride.
Before this amazing job of Mike Rutherford and his project called Mike & The Mechanics, just we need to remember that Mike is a main member of Genesis with Tony Banks and Phil Collins; by the way, I suggest you Taken In, Silent Running, All I need is a miracle, and Par Avion, these tracks are included in his first album, enjoy them and I hope listen your reactions about them, regards Stacey, you look beautiful always!!
Awesome reaction, great analysis, beautiful reactor !!! They did a lot of great songs. I would suggest starting off with songs like All I Need is a Miracle, Over My Shoulder, Silent Running (On Dangerous Ground), Taken In and Another Cup Of Coffee.
I am very glad you did this one thanks and yes I agree say what you have to say to your loved ones now because we arent promised tomorrow I had to learn that the hard way and regret on top of grief is not an easy road.
Ok, Before I even begin to watch your reaction, I'm betting their will be tears flowing during this video. Especially if you've never seen it. But guess what? That's a lot of the reason I'm glad I Found you. Lol Not to see you cry. But to know you're Human, and have Sympathy, and Empathy. You're emotions, actually set you apart from so many who are afraid to show their feelings, and or those who simply have none. Sooo, continue to care. Wishing You The Best, in your business. 🙂 F Y I, I also had a few tears after watching this. My wife just passed away a month ago. So hard.😢 My heart just hurts.
Wow, Stacey, you are as strong as you are beautiful !!! I was waiting for the tears to roll down your cheeks and by the looks they were close to !!! I usually would bet money on this making any woman and grown man cry 😂❣️ I still do and I've heard this track hundreds of times and there's not many tracks as powerful as this one ❣️👍🦘
Genesis were/are a remarkable band. Their 5 key members not only steered genesis through a remarkably successful career, but all had success as solo Artists. The first to jump ship was lead vocalist, songwriter and flower, Peter Gabriel, he of Sledgehammer fame. Then Lead Guitarist Steve Hackett. He remained successful but only really as a Prog Rock album artist. Going to see him in November. You know Phil Collins, drummer and lead vocalist ran two parallel careers, both enormously successful. Mike Rutherford, Bass, Lead, Rhythm, of Mike And The Mechanics, ran two parallel careers having some big hits as MATM, the Living years of which is the biggest. He co wrote Living Years and Follow You follow Me, a Genesis song you may like to take a listen to. Seeing them twice next year. Finally Tony Banks, Keyboardist extraordinaire, who's solo career never really took off like the others. Oddly enough it is his writes/cowrites, I like best in Genesis. That Stacey, is where Mr 'Mike' Rutherford has been hanging around these last 55 odd years. Another thing, if you do a 'first time' on Follow You Follow Me, listen closely to the rhythm guitar and compare to the living years. Very very similar and impossible not to conclude they were written by the same guy. You will love it.
Always liked the contrast of the young choir at the beginning and elderly choir coming in later to emphasise the point of time passing. Also the guy at 6:00 with the kid is Mike (Rutherford). The vocalist is Paul Carrack, in case you weren't aware. It's Mike's band but he isn't the guy singing, he's a guitarrist.
Thanks for the reaction to this song! To this day, I continue to learn from my dad gone 30 years now. We had it pretty good while he was here, and now I continue to draw on his wisdom and possibly impart it to others. Mike Rutherford, Peter Gabriel, Phil Collins, Tony Banks and Steve Hackett all have had fine solo careers during and post Genesis. I do recommend Genesis from the Genesis of Genesis as a fascinating study of the evolution of one of the highly adventurous progressive bands to come out of the UK in the early 70s.
If you are a man who has lost their father and listens to this song, you will surely think of things that you should have said or done with your father when he was alive. Regret and tears always follow when listening to this song.
Lead singer Paul Carrick. Mike.is guitarist for Genesis seen in the band and on the video with his son. The song won numerpus awards including the Ivor Novello award on its release in 1988 Paul is now an accomplished solo artist
Such a great song... Paul Carrack and that vocal just gets me every time... definitely hits harder if you've last your father or really any parent or person that help raised or mentor you and maybe had unsaid things...
Lovely reaction. Another song about fathers is James Blunt, "Monsters". Try watching/ listening to that one without tearing up. Much love from England 🏴
Wonderful reaction. As others mentioned, the writer is Mike Rutherford, the guitarist. The sing is Paul Carrack, a wonderful singer and keyboardist. You would enjoy "Tempted " by Squeeze where he is the lead singer.
I love this song! The Dutch have the image of being straightforward...blunt is in the eye of the beholder.😉 Being straightforward serves to benefit an honest and clear conversation. Greetings from the Netherlands.
I can't listen to this song anymore without crying. Not only am I too late, having lost my father, no one told me about it until well after. My advice, don't leave things. It will hurt worse.
This band has a handful of real hits worth listening to. (Mike is the tall man with his son in the video with the photo of his dad in that one scene) Chill songs with hard lyrics were so '70s and '80s. Another song in this vein with important and impactful lyrics is 'Another Day in Paradise' by Phil Collins.
The story behind the song is two of the writer both lost their father around the same time. The one songwriter then has a baby l after that year and knowing his baby would never know his grandfather led to the lyrics
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My dad died 25 years ago today.... this song still haunts me and brings me to tears... .
I'm 58 now and I cannot listen to this song without shedding a few tears. My dad and I were very close but he grew very ill quickly 10 years ago. He battled for a while and I thought he was doing better. But, my mom called me 6:30 one morning and found him dead outside from a self inflicted gun shot to his heart. He couldn't handle the pain; knowing he was not going to get better; and never wanted to burden anyone to care for him. I never got to say goodbye to him and man does it hurt. If there's anyone reading this and holding a grudge with your parent; sibling or close friend, get over it and make up. Love your show Stacey!
You are so right. After my Dad died, some of my brothers and sisters began to fall out. Even me with a sister. Even though I felt betrayed, I decided to give it to GOD and made peace with my sister and she did the same. One brother of ours can't bring himself to forgiveness especially towards my sister. The anger eats him up. I pray for him.
GOD bless you. Have faith one day that our CREATOR will reunite you and your Dad.
I didn't speak to my father for 5 years prior to his death. We had a falling out. Then one day, i called him. He was very sick and was dying. We talked for about 10 minutes. Said our good byes. I called him 2 weeks later and said everyrhing i needed to. Told him nothing matters and that i loved him. He died 3 days later. All thise years i wasted being angry. Id give anything to have 5 minutes with him again.
Buckaroo
You said everything that matters to him when it mattered! He died knowing you loved him! So sorry for your loss!!
@@BlairDeurucki thanks. Regret is a helluva thing.
Same - my fault. Luckily I wised up before he went. He was my hero, still is.
Almost the exact same story here, except it was 10 years. I still kick myself over it 6 years later. I can't believe how stubborn I can be.😢
On the night I lost my father, I was of course a mess trying to figure out how to handle my grief. I put on 80s music. I jokingly said to myself, I am taking a chance that this song will come on. And sure enough within 20 minutes it came on. I was sobbing, but I needed to hear it. It helped me cope in that moment.
The 'Mike' is Mike Rutherford. Lead guitarist and founding member of Genesis ❤🇬🇧
My all time favourite band . Genesis . ❤
And the lead singer is Paul Carrack from the band Squeeze, and The Bleeding Heart Band which often worked with Roger Waters of Pink Floyd during his solo career.
@@KenCyrus-tb3nhPaul has fantastic vocals…he’s very talented!
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@@brianjohnston4117 I hate Genesis
Lost my Dad when I was ten years old I'm 71 now and still love and miss him so much love you Dad always
My dad died earlier this summer. I've known this song since I was a teenager and have always been moved by it. In fact, it is precisely because of this song that I was able to have a beautiful relationship with my dad, and did get to say all the things I wanted to say to him before he died. It meant the world to me.
Well done
The singer is Paul Carrack. Mike Rutherford (Genesis) is the man with long hair and a beard who, in the video, walks hand in hand with his young son.
Mike Rutherford co-wrote the lyrics with Brian Alexander Robertson. The song won the Ivor Novello Award for Best Song Musically and Lyrically in 1989, and was nominated for four Grammy Awards in 1990, including Record and Song of the Year, as well as Best Pop Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocals and Best Videos. In 1996, famed composer Burt Bacharach said that the song was one of the greatest lyrics of the past decade.
"Silent Running" and "All I Need Is a Miracle", from the 1985 self-titled debut album, were also quite successful, although I really like "You Are the One".
From the 1988 album "Living Years", in addition to this song, I would also recommend "Nobody's Perfect", "Beautiful Day" and "Why Me?", although one of my favorites from a musical/instrumental point of view is "Don't".
Got my eyes all misty thinking of my Dad, love and miss you Pops
"You can listen as well as you hear".
Such a brilliantly written song .
You've got me bawling with this one, Stacy. 3 months ago today, my younger brother turned 60. On Sunday, my sisters and I scattered his ashes to the ocean where spent our childhood. We shared a room while growing up. We laughed and fought. We got into trouble together. We shared our love of music, introducing each other to new bands and styles. All I can say is that we should never miss an opportunity to make time for the people we love. Never miss an opportunity to say "I love you".
So sorry for your loss :(
My dad was a a tough person who was old school, and just before he died, all 6 of his kids had a chance to
Have their last talk with him. I was last and my dad and I fought a lot, and I opened up to him, and at the very end, we settled many issues, without and shouting, rather both of us showed our love to each other. All of our stupid BS was resolved, and we made peace which made both of us felt pure love, and believe me, it was very important to both of us. TALK to your loved ones, and stay humble, and you will be uplifted. I miss both of my parents, and that last talk was beyond important. God bless anyone who need to start the conversation, and it will heal you heart and soul. Best wishes to anyone who needs to do this. ❤️❤️
Some of the best and most straightforward lyrics ever written. "We're only immortal for a limited time." Neil Peart, legendary drummer for Rush
I lost my brother November 27th 2023
I lost my father June 23 2024
My mother has dementia and doesn’t recognize me sometimes. Other times she’s asking where my brother and her husband are….
Saturday Sept 14th my 14 year old chihuahua passed away
This song makes me grateful there was no riff in our relationships. I can’t imagine adding guilt on top of my grief
I lost my father June 22 2024
That's how my 90 year old grandmother is. She doesn't recognize my mother most days. I know I'm gonna regret it but I don't have the heart to see her like that. I want to remember her how she was a year ago. Not how she is now.
Lost my mentor to covid January 2021 . My god , this song reduces to tears everytime . We fought , we loved , but he was always there . I really miss him so much . Dad , thankyou for everything . 😢❤
Ooft. This song wrecks me, man. Every time.
Me too. Every time.
As a fan, I recommend listening to anything by Genesis, Mike and the Mechanics, Peter Gabriel... very good music.
You can add the independent works by Anthony Phillips, Steve Hackett, Phil Collins and Tony Banks to the list as well. They all had their genesis from Genesis.
@@DUGGER1947 yes of course.
Well, you got me now! "The Living Years" by Mike + The Mechanics is a song that always brings tears to my eyes. It reminds me of my incredible father, who has been my rock through the good and bad times. His unwavering support and love have shaped me into who I am today. Every time I hear this song, it serves as a powerful reminder to cherish every moment with him and to be the best son I can be, just as he has been the best father to me, although nobody is perfect. This song is a beautiful tribute to the importance of expressing our love and gratitude while we still have the chance. Say "I love you" today, because maybe tomorrow can be too late! Thank you, Stacey, again!!!
"I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away..."
This killing me every time I hear it.... and I listen to it for like 30 years, and it still does... shields down, direct impact. These lyrics are so meaningful, and so important.
That verse is just so so perfect in drawing out emotion. Gorgeous but harrowing.
Paul Carack sang vocals on a bunch of songs with bands and as a solo artist
- How Long (with Ace)
- Tempted (with Squeeze)
- Silent Running (with Mike and the Mechanics)
- Don't Shed a Tear (Solo)
Genesis, Peter Gabriel, Phil Collins, Mike & the Mechanics... long line of talented intertwined musicians.
Paul Carrick vocals didn’t hurt!😊
Once again a wonderful reaction! This song came out 3 years after I lost my father. I had no regrets but it made me very nostalgic and touched me. Thank you for this song. I still get emotional almost every time I hear this. I have loved all of your reactions and always look forward to the next. 🥰
His voice is like a melted butter! Such an underrated singer!
Agreed 👍
Over My Shoulder is another really beautiful, catchy and memorable song from these guys.
This one is timeless. It's just as impactful now as it was when it first came out
Until two months ago, for me, this was "just" a beautiful song with beautiful lyrics and carefully arranged music; I bought the album on vinyl as soon as it came out, and a few years later, in 1996, I also bought it on CD in Manhattan, New York, in that five-story store that I don't think exists anymore..
Since last July, when my mother passed away, the song has taken on another meaning. Inside me, in addition to the natural melancholy, there remains a slight sense of guilt because to convince her to be admitted to hospital I had assured her that I would not let her die in a hospital bed but, with a clear head and reasoning rationally, when her kidneys and heart "gave up", if she had been at home without treatment and "pain therapies" she would have suffered much more.
The day they started with sedation, forced hydration and morphine, she was still mentally clear and, when she saw and heard me, she held my hand and said: "Mom's love, you are here" and I replied: "Of corse Mom, I'm here and I will not let you go away", even though she was aware of what was happening.
Her last words and her look remain a comfort to me but, more than anything, what can really put my conscience and soul at peace is having shown her and made her feel my affection and my love throughout her life, even if there were discussions and some arguments, as I think is normal in any family and in any parent/child relationship.
You gave me life, the most precious gift, and unconditional love: "I love you mommy!" ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for your heart felt reaction.
The songs message touches is where we are.
Clearly you can sense its value.
I was a hippy type/rocker .. My dad a Fighter Pilot/Marine in WW2... I had finally got my life figured out, married, two kids a boy and a girl. I looked him up and he was four years dead .. This was out around that time. I think we loved each other but his outlook and mine were so far apart. His sister told me that he had tried to find me in his last six months .... WoW ...
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Doesn't matter how many times I hear this, it always resonates deeply and brings a tear or 100 to my eyes.
All the best to you and yours.
Cheers.
This makes me weep every time I hear song. I truly miss my Dad. Sure,, he might have been tough at times but made me the man I am now.
Fredrick Franklin Deal (1928-2007) I'll always love you Dad.
I'm a child of divorce, born in Illinois in the mid 70's and was always close with my dad until 1987 when I moved to south Florida. our weekly father son time was cut to school holidays. then this song came out in my early high school days and made such an impact . there were things missed "like my graduation" and a change in point of view of people " we came from a small rural farm community to the cultural melting pot of Broward County. my dad was a man of few words throughout his life, and before he passed in 2016 there were still conversations we needed to, but hadn't had. the regrets I have had diminished. but this song stirrs up thoughts of what should have been. but also brings forward the fond memories I have with him.
This song has always been a very touching, and loving song that speaks so much truth! It's one that everyone should hear and take in for some self-examination, IMHO.
Thank you for listening to the message that was sung in the song and you definitely have a heart of gold. Too much of everything in the last 25 years has been sugar coated and made as the new truth. Take a hammer to the sugar coating and just stay blunt truthful loving and caring stand up straight remember you are worth it.
This is one of those songs I can't listen to without tears.
My dad died about four years after this song came out and we never bridged the gap. There are things in life you have to live with that you wish you didn't. Not easy.
I was fortunate to work with my Dad. We butted heads at times but it was with love. I was with him and my Mom at the hospital when he passed and had to tell the doctors and nurses at the hospital to stop trying to resuscitate him. It was the toughest thing I’ve ever done. Carpe Diem.
Timeless and inspirational
My Dad and I stopped talking for 6 months in the 80s before I sent this song to him. My mother forced him to listen to it. He called me two days later. We never fought again, he died in '95
Mike and his buddies came over and rebuilt a carburetor in my '87 Buick. It never ran right again. However, turns out they can sing pretty good
This is such a great song and I love Mike Rutherford and he’s a member of one of my favorite all time bands Genesis with Phil Collins, Peter Gabriel. This song hits you straight in the feels.
Love this song, always reminds me of my dad. God rest his soul.
A heartfelt and beautiful reaction to this song Stacey. This one gets to me every time, even though I lost my parents in the 1980's. It does strike a chord with me, as we don't say the important things to our parents sometimes when we are young adults. And then in the blink of an eye it's too late. Thanks. ❤ 🇬🇧
Beautiful song. Lost my big brother a year ago. Once they're gone, it's impossible not to think back and wish you could've done more, or told them how much you love them. I sure miss him.
Mike Rutherford is the guitarist with the beard who was in 'Genesis'. Paul Carrack is the singer who was in 'Roxy Music' & 'Squeeze'
Eh?
He was in neither of those bands.
He started out with Ace ( How Long)
@@TheCornishCockneyhe was in Squeeze, he sang the song Tempted with them.
@@TheCornishCockney Oh dear someone hasn't been doing their homework - Paul Carrack was a keyboard / 'piano player in Roxy Music for a while and was also in Squeeze after Jools Holland left the band!!
And don't forget he toured with Roger Waters as part of his Bleeding heart band on the Radio Kaos tour and also the awesome performance he gave singing " Hey You " at the " Live in Berlin " concert ❤
This song/message has gotten even more relevant today with all the divisiveness in politics and social media. Great reaction, again!
Hi, for info Mike is Mike Rutherford, the lead guitarist from the band Genesis. He is playing the guitar on this track. This was his solo project away from Genesis. He had more than one singer in this project.
Thanks for reacting to this song! I haven't heard this song in at least 20 years and it just reminds me of all the great songs that I grew up on. Thank you Stacey!
Nice reaction I have never made it through this song without welling up.
You and me both!
This is a beautiful emotional song. Thank you . Cheers from a finn in Sweden.❤ Congrats to 100 000.🎉
I never listened to this without my eye's filling with tear's...
I was about fifteen or sixteen when this song came out and it pointed out that the generational divide applies to everyone, not just me, and that I shouldn't let it become a problem. I lost my dad ten years ago but, unlike in this story, I got to be there when he passed away. I got the opportunity to tell him that I love him and to thank him for everything he did for me. He was also the first person I told that I was going to ask my now wife to marry me. I will forever be grateful that I had that opportunity. This song always brings me to tears because of what it means to me.
Saw them live in Manchester UK around 1995?
They were supported by 'The Swans' (Bell & Wade ) who were also superb! Fantastic concert all round. Will never forget both bands.
You are so articulate! You nailed it. Good job!
Nice job keeping it together through the song….tears well up in my eyes whenever I listen to this tune. Great reaction Stacey🫶
It hits even harder when you are older and your parents are gone. No matter how much you've said you feel like you've never said enough. In my case not even close to enough and therein lies the seeds of regret.
So nice to see you are emotioned by this new music for you. We...the 'old music people' ... than realize how blessed we were to witness this for years and years... thank you Stacey for giving us this new emotion ❤
It’s a double edged sword really loving a parent, it’s incredibly painful when they die but you had their love all your life. My dad just died aged 93 and the man was incapable of love so his funeral on Tuesday will just be a procedure for tying up loose ends….I shall not mourn or miss him, in emotional terms, I get off lightly.
Awesome beautiful #1 song.❤
I appreciated your reaction to this. It was genuine and thoughtful. You did justice to the song. Thank you for this.
Totally loved this song as a child. Still do.
Had to pull over when I was driving the first time I heard this. Hit me hard!
Paul Carrack the singer is from Sheffield - like me, he came to the live music venue I used to run there. Nice bloke 🙂
My father passed in 2011 due to a blood clot...and thankfully, my dad and I got to the point where we could hug and tell each other how much we loved each other! My mother passed on November 30, 2023....and I remember thinking..."Mom, It's okay to go be with dad!" She passed that next morning.
I hope you and your sister will come back together to listen to more music together!
I would love to see you and your sister react to "Nights in White Satin" by "The Moody Blues" Such a beautiful song....and let the song play all the way to the end!!!
The song was inspired by Mike Rutherford (lead guitarist here and for Genesis) and songwriter B. A. Robertson realizing their fathers had died around the same time (Robertson's 11 days before B. A.'s son was born), and they later learned singer Paul Carrack's father had died when he was young (11), as well.
The video was released January 1989.
i have heard this song so many times, it always brings a tear to my eye =/ . keep up the great work please! big love to all people :)
First Phil Collins, now Mike Rutherford... Stacey ist beating around the Genesis bush. 😄
Tony Banks is missing.
Peter Gabriel next
Very truthful and meaningful lyrics that everyone should take on board .
Great reaction Stacey! If there is any 'estrangement' within a family, especially with parents, this one hits deep! It's really a call to say time is too short to let allow a wedge to drive us apart...because some day, it will be too late to make amends. There is nothing more expensive than regret.
Wish my eldest sister would realize that...she's ostracized herself from the family. Wasn't at my wedding, didn't attend my grandmother or mother's funerals, doesn't know her nephews or nieces. It's sad really. So for me, this song hits hard...and did for my mom & dad too.
It was late in the 80s but it was still the 80s. Legendary decade.
NO NO , Mike is Mike Rutherford, The Guitarrist of Genesis and Singer is Paul Carrack. Kisses
Side note Mike's is a member of Genesis Phil Colin's.....but u knew that.....right?.....keep pumping out great content stacey.....😊
I had no idea! That’s so cool!
@@StaceyRPGReacts He was the guitarrist/bass player in Genesis, he started Mike + the Mechanics as a separate project while Genesis were on hiatus.
Seen mike many times in Genesis, GENESIS WHEN IN ROME is a great concert Stacey to have a look at HOME BY THE SEA, LOS ENDOS, DOMINO, great tracks and definitely worth a reaction Stacey.
@@StaceyRPGReactsThat's him and his son on the video
Recommend In The Cage medly from Genesis When in Rome concert too
"blunt, but beautiful..." you said it, Stacey. Another excellent choice of music; a song with more just any old shallow message. I your admire your taste in music!
This song has always been a bittersweet punch in the gut for me. It may be hard to rebuild bridges that may have been burned, but it's even harder to live with things the way you left them in the name of pride.
Well done Stacey! A very emotional song and you held it together very well.
Before this amazing job of Mike Rutherford and his project called Mike & The Mechanics, just we need to remember that Mike is a main member of Genesis with Tony Banks and Phil Collins; by the way, I suggest you Taken In, Silent Running, All I need is a miracle, and Par Avion, these tracks are included in his first album, enjoy them and I hope listen your reactions about them, regards Stacey, you look beautiful always!!
Awesome reaction, great analysis, beautiful reactor !!! They did a lot of great songs. I would suggest starting off with songs like All I Need is a Miracle, Over My Shoulder, Silent Running (On Dangerous Ground), Taken In and Another Cup Of Coffee.
I am very glad you did this one thanks and yes I agree say what you have to say to your loved ones now because we arent promised tomorrow I had to learn that the hard way and regret on top of grief is not an easy road.
Ok, Before I even begin to watch your reaction, I'm betting their will be tears flowing during this video. Especially if you've never seen it. But guess what? That's a lot of the reason I'm glad I Found you. Lol Not to see you cry. But to know you're Human, and have Sympathy, and Empathy. You're emotions, actually set you apart from so many who are afraid to show their feelings, and or those who simply have none. Sooo, continue to care. Wishing You The Best, in your business. 🙂 F Y I, I also had a few tears after watching this. My wife just passed away a month ago. So hard.😢 My heart just hurts.
I hope thousands here this song and patch things up with their Dads.
This song is my nemesis. Kills me each time.
Rather than "say the things you want to say before you die" it's before "they" die.
Beautiful song.
Just let the beauty of this song wash over you!
Wow, Stacey, you are as strong as you are beautiful !!! I was waiting for the tears to roll down your cheeks and by the looks they were close to !!! I usually would bet money on this making any woman and grown man cry 😂❣️
I still do and I've heard this track hundreds of times and there's not many tracks as powerful as this one ❣️👍🦘
Genesis were/are a remarkable band. Their 5 key members not only steered genesis through a remarkably successful career, but all had success as solo Artists. The first to jump ship was lead vocalist, songwriter and flower, Peter Gabriel, he of Sledgehammer fame. Then Lead Guitarist Steve Hackett. He remained successful but only really as a Prog Rock album artist. Going to see him in November. You know Phil Collins, drummer and lead vocalist ran two parallel careers, both enormously successful. Mike Rutherford, Bass, Lead, Rhythm, of Mike And The Mechanics, ran two parallel careers having some big hits as MATM, the Living years of which is the biggest. He co wrote Living Years and Follow You follow Me, a Genesis song you may like to take a listen to. Seeing them twice next year. Finally Tony Banks, Keyboardist extraordinaire, who's solo career never really took off like the others. Oddly enough it is his writes/cowrites, I like best in Genesis. That Stacey, is where Mr 'Mike' Rutherford has been hanging around these last 55 odd years. Another thing, if you do a 'first time' on Follow You Follow Me, listen closely to the rhythm guitar and compare to the living years. Very very similar and impossible not to conclude they were written by the same guy. You will love it.
Always liked the contrast of the young choir at the beginning and elderly choir coming in later to emphasise the point of time passing.
Also the guy at 6:00 with the kid is Mike (Rutherford). The vocalist is Paul Carrack, in case you weren't aware. It's Mike's band but he isn't the guy singing, he's a guitarrist.
You took the words out of my mouth,
I'm 61 and I thanked the generations befor they made it better for us. The world owes us nothing!
Thanks for the reaction to this song! To this day, I continue to learn from my dad gone 30 years now. We had it pretty good while he was here, and now I continue to draw on his wisdom and possibly impart it to others.
Mike Rutherford, Peter Gabriel, Phil Collins, Tony Banks and Steve Hackett all have had fine solo careers during and post Genesis. I do recommend Genesis from the Genesis of Genesis as a fascinating study of the evolution of one of the highly adventurous progressive bands to come out of the UK in the early 70s.
If you are a man who has lost their father and listens to this song, you will surely think of things that you should have said or done with your father when he was alive. Regret and tears always follow when listening to this song.
Beautiful reaction, Stacey!
Lead singer Paul Carrick. Mike.is guitarist for Genesis seen in the band and on the video with his son. The song won numerpus awards including the Ivor Novello award on its release in 1988 Paul is now an accomplished solo artist
Such a great song... Paul Carrack and that vocal just gets me every time... definitely hits harder if you've last your father or really any parent or person that help raised or mentor you and maybe had unsaid things...
Always reminds me of my Dad! I miss him so much.
This one of the most beautiful & stirring songs ever penned.
Lovely reaction. Another song about fathers is James Blunt, "Monsters". Try watching/ listening to that one without tearing up. Much love from England 🏴
Wonderful reaction. As others mentioned, the writer is Mike Rutherford, the guitarist. The sing is Paul Carrack, a wonderful singer and keyboardist. You would enjoy "Tempted " by Squeeze where he is the lead singer.
I love this song!
The Dutch have the image of being straightforward...blunt is in the eye of the beholder.😉
Being straightforward serves to benefit an honest and clear conversation.
Greetings from the Netherlands.
I can't listen to this song anymore without crying. Not only am I too late, having lost my father, no one told me about it until well after.
My advice, don't leave things. It will hurt worse.
This is one of the best songs of all time.
Such a beautiful song, and a beautiful video.
This band has a handful of real hits worth listening to. (Mike is the tall man with his son in the video with the photo of his dad in that one scene) Chill songs with hard lyrics were so '70s and '80s. Another song in this vein with important and impactful lyrics is 'Another Day in Paradise' by Phil Collins.
The story behind the song is two of the writer both lost their father around the same time. The one songwriter then has a baby l after that year and knowing his baby would never know his grandfather led to the lyrics
Mike Rutherford was the guitarist and the adult with the child in the video. David Carrack was the vocalist.
Paul Carrick