how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

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    In this chatty video, I answer one of my most asked questions: how do I find my style and the confidence to wear what I want? I break it down into steps, from assessing what clothes you already wear the most in your wardrobe, to finding aesthetic inspiration, building a moodboard, and tips for going shopping and styling outfits.
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    what’s your name? ashley
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 12 тис.

  • @elliee.232
    @elliee.232 5 років тому +2890

    "fashion disaster to fashionable disaster" is the transformation we all aspire to

  • @myeahonline
    @myeahonline 5 років тому +17452

    "From this fashion disaster, to this *fashionable* disaster"
    I STAN AN INTELLECTUAL

  • @theatrekid5898
    @theatrekid5898 3 роки тому +4069

    Does anyone else wanna assess their wardrobe but feels so guilty about getting rid of stuff cause you feel like u wasted ur money?

    • @aaliyonnahrobertson5099
      @aaliyonnahrobertson5099 3 роки тому +130

      sell it

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 роки тому +452

      gurl my style is "whatever my mom approves of" i'll GLADLY sell/donate my entire wardrobe no cap

    • @hebebebe139
      @hebebebe139 3 роки тому +58

      I've decided to clear out most of my wardrobe and start nre besides a few favourite items and I'm only allowing myself to spend the money I make selling to get new clothes, and thrift it all

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 роки тому +21

      @@hebebebe139 where do you sell your clothes? i usually donate mine but idk what store would pay for used clothes

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 роки тому +1

      @@hebebebe139 oh ok thank you!

  • @BeaR-gd8ll
    @BeaR-gd8ll 3 роки тому +4042

    Anyone else actually love fashion but is not confident enough to wear anything because you don't want to look "overdressed" or get asked "wHo aRe yOu tRyInG tO iMpReSs?"

    • @ananyasampathkumar3832
      @ananyasampathkumar3832 3 роки тому +314

      ive been dressing up a little recently whenever i go out, and while my parents gave me those comments a lot, they eventually stopped. if you just power through, you’ll be fine. at some point, id be able to go to the mall in a ballgown if i wanted to, and my mom would just accept it.

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 роки тому +146

      Literally I wore a crop top and some jeans in which was a top my mom bought me and some jeans she gave me and she said who you tryna impress like you think I'm tryna impress the icecream in kroger or smthn😭

    • @gabrielle6663
      @gabrielle6663 3 роки тому +116

      "who are you trying to impress" literally me, its for me...and other cute girls but mostly for me

    • @kio4173
      @kio4173 3 роки тому +70

      I've always been so insecure about that. Like, I would want to wear an outfit, but then in the back of my brain, im panicking if I'm overdressed or if it isn't the right occasion or if its even fit for the weather. It's a lot-

    • @pandajoyd4992
      @pandajoyd4992 3 роки тому +33

      “Myself! I like wearing things for me :)”
      Also in my experience most people are really sweet and excited about how cute your clothes are :) and if no one is, you don’t dress for other people anyway. And if lots of people are excited, that’s great! But you don’t dress for them. My advice is to not get too caught up in making sure people like (or continue to like) your outfits. Have fun! And relax :))

  • @mj-zl7kf
    @mj-zl7kf 5 років тому +16375

    “who are you trying to impress?” is the most compliment-y/non-compliment-y/uncomfortable question ever

    • @whitykitty2651
      @whitykitty2651 4 роки тому +789

      It's just fun to wear what you want I don't understand how some people don't understand that

    • @nikolinaninkovic6748
      @nikolinaninkovic6748 4 роки тому +599

      Dude, I put on a dress and every fucker in my surroundings asks me that.

    • @funkybugman
      @funkybugman 4 роки тому +467

      My little cousin asked me that the other day, I just looked at her and said, “myself, honey life is too short, do things for yourself”

    • @klompaca5934
      @klompaca5934 4 роки тому +205

      it's so awkward cause rn my friends think i am dressing up for my driving instructor (spoiler: i'm not. i am dressing up for myself)

    • @duhberman
      @duhberman 4 роки тому +214

      Also things like "oh, look who's wearing (x item of clothing, ex. a skirt)!!! Like, pls stop, I feel weird already and you're not helping

  • @jonginisholy
    @jonginisholy 5 років тому +20424

    Ashley really is the big sister we all so desperately need in our insecure lives.

    • @kristina-my5ws
      @kristina-my5ws 5 років тому +142

      facts, life would be so much easier if she was my big sister lmao

    • @marahdais9773
      @marahdais9773 5 років тому +3

      so true

    • @Meg_Lovegood
      @Meg_Lovegood 5 років тому +1

      2.2k of easy pickings...

    • @zoerapanot
      @zoerapanot 5 років тому +13

      Jongin is Holy this is actually the best description of ashely i’ve ever seen

    • @rebekkalindknoph1557
      @rebekkalindknoph1557 5 років тому +4

      couldn't have said this any better

  • @cailynpope6167
    @cailynpope6167 3 роки тому +3603

    When you can't choose between grunge, cottagecore, and light academia.

    • @polly1579
      @polly1579 3 роки тому +224

      I can't choose between dark academia, fairycore, and skater/surfer...
      :(

    • @agirlcalledmist
      @agirlcalledmist 3 роки тому +202

      @@polly1579 beachy acedemic fairy that likes to vibe at skate parks BAM!

    • @polly1579
      @polly1579 3 роки тому +31

      @@agirlcalledmist lol thank you!

    • @mikuhidinginyourwifi5615
      @mikuhidinginyourwifi5615 3 роки тому +89

      mix mix mix

    • @salonikullar3627
      @salonikullar3627 3 роки тому +13

      OMG SAME

  • @card0qnyu
    @card0qnyu 2 роки тому +74

    11:30 I seriously felt this because I have had the same style of dark shirts, sweaters, jeans, and very bland clothes just because I've always been afraid to wear my preferred style OR I'm so weird about people seeing me want to change who I've been for so long. It's a sad view and I'm like ready to start changing a bit by bit, I'm seriously into fashion and I'm very thankful for this video. Cheers to finally dressing the way I have always wanted to, and to be confident enough to stand out 💕💕

  • @Ktbolton2
    @Ktbolton2 5 років тому +8286

    Ashley: does it reflect your personality
    Me: *existential crisis on what my personality is*

    • @VictoriaMeira7
      @VictoriaMeira7 5 років тому +149

      Oof I felt that one

    • @honeylavenderbakery
      @honeylavenderbakery 5 років тому +20

      oops

    • @yc2877
      @yc2877 5 років тому +12

      Katie Bolton me too

    • @marinejoseph5304
      @marinejoseph5304 5 років тому +62

      when you're a gemini so you've got 5 different personalities to reflect

    • @bleuleuc6961
      @bleuleuc6961 5 років тому +135

      Questions about my personality make me wonder if I even have one

  • @Sisuchkaaa
    @Sisuchkaaa 4 роки тому +4186

    my style is just: going to the mall with my mom and i end up hating my mom...

    • @susannalinshalm5638
      @susannalinshalm5638 4 роки тому +345

      Your're not the only one. The problem is that my friends don't really help, either and I'm not confident enough to buy clothes on my own.

    • @aetosia6490
      @aetosia6490 4 роки тому +83

      Why is that such a mood

    • @ravn_73
      @ravn_73 4 роки тому +123

      Sameee my mom forces me into dresses and I I littarly only were jeans 👁👄👁

    • @rskjghdaljf
      @rskjghdaljf 4 роки тому +122

      Same, she always says I need basic t-shirts. I want to get into Gothic Lolita fashion. If I find a cute blouse or something, she says it looks like old lady clothes T-T

    • @skiesky6224
      @skiesky6224 4 роки тому +12

      Damnn i feel you

  • @houseplant_3084
    @houseplant_3084 3 роки тому +366

    I have a style I know my aesthetic BUT I have strict parents, therefore I am screwed

    • @Pr1ncess0vv
      @Pr1ncess0vv 3 роки тому +14

      They would just look at me like is this my child then look back at there phone ._.

    • @darnielladd6131
      @darnielladd6131 3 роки тому +28

      Same. I'm expecting a major glow-up when I move out but you can wear things that have a flattering fit that doesn't need to be showing a lot of skin.

    • @keyachy1657
      @keyachy1657 3 роки тому

      samee

    • @beamiauu
      @beamiauu 3 роки тому

      Yah me too

    • @Trisha._3
      @Trisha._3 6 місяців тому

      Same here

  • @maryeckberger5758
    @maryeckberger5758 3 роки тому +65

    I worked in fashion retail, please know we loved customers like you. Always smiling, making other customers smile and using fashion like the basic art it is.

  • @melissapilato6541
    @melissapilato6541 4 роки тому +4486

    I have anxiety, so whenever I wear clothing that I really love I become insecure and paranoid. that’s why I usually come back to the same boring clothes.

    • @contactmyheart3296
      @contactmyheart3296 4 роки тому +74

      same 😔

    • @kiaraw8297
      @kiaraw8297 4 роки тому +150

      Be confident in yourself and the things you love to wear! Heck!,my own family talks bad about my style but idc because I love it 😻!!

    • @goddessloretta776
      @goddessloretta776 4 роки тому +13

      Me too.

    • @bearsneezer1929
      @bearsneezer1929 4 роки тому +79

      I believe in u girl I do too but I’m slowly starting to change my style without stretching too far, so just swap baggy tees with tucked in tees that are pulled out halfway, for an example

    • @Emma-ku6ql
      @Emma-ku6ql 4 роки тому +11

      Kiara Walker HOW

  • @thelazygirllifestyle3562
    @thelazygirllifestyle3562 5 років тому +1689

    My coworker: "why are you dressed up today"
    Me: " I wanted to feel pretty today."
    That's all you need to dress up! Love yourself enough to Indulge in your fashion.

    • @eva3173
      @eva3173 5 років тому +12

      PREACH

    • @geuresu
      @geuresu 5 років тому +11

      true!!!!!! my friend asked me a few days ago why i was so chippy(???) dk what it means but then he explained that i was wearing my boots (and he didn’t point it out but he obv wanted to say something about me wearing a skirt but ok) and i rly didn’t know what to say so i was like... “cos it’s winter” like come on i don’t need to explain my outfit (sorry i made a little rant)

    • @taniawew
      @taniawew 5 років тому

      TheLazyGirlLifestyle lol😂

    • @tenleyhanson1077
      @tenleyhanson1077 5 років тому

      this is me in the middle of the night wearing makeup and a fancy dress

  • @kat08
    @kat08 3 роки тому +64

    I would also totally recommend thrift stores when trying out a new style!! You can get a lot of pieces for cheaper and it's less of a risk if you end up not liking the style bc you didn't spend a ton of money on it

  • @rosalindwinneker8638
    @rosalindwinneker8638 2 роки тому +17

    Another tip I suggest is looking at movie characters who’s style you like.
    Since they exist in their little bubble of existence, they can’t change and follow current trends which more often then not, you follow cause you see a lot of people wearing and then get sick of.

  • @Doeneseya
    @Doeneseya 5 років тому +740

    *“Fashion Disaster to Fashionable Disaster.”* 😭😹💗

  • @irisl2359
    @irisl2359 4 роки тому +9272

    me : *wears a hat*
    social anxiety : *intensifies*

    • @ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381
      @ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381 4 роки тому +639

      me: wears anything other than hoodies and leggings
      social anxiety: *intensifies*

    • @candy3974
      @candy3974 4 роки тому +262

      Me: has been wearing the same thing over and over and over again since I was 6 and wanting to be able to wear converse, shorts, ripped jeans, crop tops without being called fat by my parents while they also say I dress like a grandma
      Depression: *INTENSIFIES*

    • @saalthmeme5280
      @saalthmeme5280 4 роки тому +92

      i wish i had the confidence to wear leggings😔😔

    • @mochismom7572
      @mochismom7572 4 роки тому +26

      oim veuch ikr. If i where anything i usually dont no matter how cute i think it is i get insecure

    • @brittneyearnshaw6015
      @brittneyearnshaw6015 4 роки тому +5

      hahaha i felt this in my soul

  • @haruutoee
    @haruutoee 2 роки тому +35

    For anyone whos 13-18 years of age watching this video, IT WORKS.
    My confidence sky rocketed.
    PS: Have fun having a glow up! You deserve it

  • @matcha2953
    @matcha2953 3 роки тому +176

    I sorta found my style through it and my mother described it as "Hello, yes I am an intern at my grandmother's workplace"

  • @ivyk1050
    @ivyk1050 4 роки тому +2550

    when my style is different from what i wear because
    1.I have no confidence to wear it
    2. im poor, no money to buy those clothes

    • @fwelony5252
      @fwelony5252 4 роки тому +34

      Rightttt I’m looking on Aliexpress and ROMWE for clothes 😭

    • @avery6648
      @avery6648 4 роки тому +44

      I agree with the first one so much 😭😭😭 I know what my style is and I can afford to buy most of the clothing I want but I’m too scared to wear skirts and dresses to school

    • @madyv8620
      @madyv8620 4 роки тому +18

      @@fwelony5252 me to, me to :( AND I STILL CANT AFFORD IT-

    • @valeria3325
      @valeria3325 4 роки тому +10

      Maybe try thrifting? It's pretty cheap and you can find pieces that you love

    • @claireporter2416
      @claireporter2416 4 роки тому +6

      Vælærïå yes thrifting is amazing, but you definitely need to have the patience to flip through everything

  • @soobdragon2962
    @soobdragon2962 5 років тому +2203

    Step one: look at your wardrobe
    Me: I have three black T-shirt’s and a pair of jeans, let’s get it

    • @franny9344
      @franny9344 5 років тому +46

      Highkey an underrated comment

    • @lavellans
      @lavellans 5 років тому +9

      I’m laughing so hard xD

    • @violet-uv8xm
      @violet-uv8xm 5 років тому +7

      FUCKING MEEEEE

    • @sayuriando3379
      @sayuriando3379 5 років тому +5

      I have mainly black t-shirts.
      I have one piece of clothing in 3 different colours which I wear on hot days but I don't like the cleverage so I mainly wear them at home.
      In my wardrobe is a grey dress that I want to wear more but I don't know how which is still better than the grey-brownish woollen blazer that I got thanks to my mom [and she annoys me with saying that I should wear it more often]. It's warm enough that it only makes sense during cold days but at the same time moving my arm even a tiny bit means exposing my wrist to the cold. Yeah, the next time I go through my closet I cm going to get rid of it

    • @ulisesescorza3323
      @ulisesescorza3323 5 років тому +2

      Oh yessss. I have a lot of plain shirts, and most of them are grey.

  • @onionpuddle8124
    @onionpuddle8124 3 роки тому +136

    me: wearing something that i want to wear and that fits my style
    my sister: you don’t look in that/ you can’t pull that off
    me: going back to wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts 24/7

    • @klavi842
      @klavi842 3 роки тому +3

      oh my god me too

    • @alllamalala9903
      @alllamalala9903 3 роки тому +11

      You guys got this! Fashion is only about confidence, yall can slay it!

    • @erinyes3943
      @erinyes3943 3 роки тому +12

      All I’m saying is that spite can be an amazing motivator-

    • @jacquelinematte1663
      @jacquelinematte1663 3 роки тому +5

      I hate judgement by sisters so I can sympathize

    • @asr4405
      @asr4405 3 роки тому +3

      Sis are the biggest problem lol!

  • @paul8623
    @paul8623 3 роки тому +250

    Does this happen to anyone else? I try on an outfit, think its ugly, then keep changing something one by one until im in a completely new outfit. Then I just change back into my first outfit lol.

    • @SalamanderMagic
      @SalamanderMagic 3 роки тому +12

      every fucking morning

    • @rubymack5782
      @rubymack5782 3 роки тому +2

      yess

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 роки тому +1

      All the time🥲

    • @pineapplec0ke
      @pineapplec0ke 2 роки тому

      Yeah lmao

    • @trueblue.u
      @trueblue.u 2 роки тому +2

      My dying so fucking relatable 😅😂 i legit mess up my ENTIRE room, closet...just to go through hell cleaning it all up and wearing the same jeans and graphic tee 🥸

  • @thegallantgangster577
    @thegallantgangster577 4 роки тому +3356

    "what's your style?" *sweaters*
    "what do you wear?" *sweaters*
    "what's the fit?" *sweaters*
    "what colour palette?" *sWeAtEr-CoLoUr!*

    • @helenaravens6812
      @helenaravens6812 4 роки тому +92

      The Gallant Gangster I did NOT ask to be called out like this

    • @coolperson4418
      @coolperson4418 4 роки тому +9

      Mee

    • @AlciesWorld
      @AlciesWorld 4 роки тому +12

      This is so funny 😂 😂😂😂

    • @hariniobla422
      @hariniobla422 4 роки тому +49

      Sweaters have styles too! Turtleneck? Cowl neck? Mock neck? Tight? Loose? Drop shoulder? Long? Short? Crop?

    • @thegallantgangster577
      @thegallantgangster577 4 роки тому +3

      AllyHiran 1215 gah i don't know these things! teach me 😂

  • @kaylasanchez1228
    @kaylasanchez1228 4 роки тому +1659

    *me having 2 tee shirts
    "Ah yes, time to assess"

    • @rat7465
      @rat7465 4 роки тому +11

      Lmao me

    • @eden-.-3483
      @eden-.-3483 4 роки тому +26

      The only reason I'm here is because my mom told me I need more clothes. But I'm not sure what my style is yet so I just get some stuff and kinda forget I need clothes.

    • @honeyheaven482
      @honeyheaven482 4 роки тому +3

      { kaylapitter } I felt that 😔

    • @lauraduca125
      @lauraduca125 4 роки тому +1

      I feel attacked

    • @ari-xn5dr
      @ari-xn5dr 4 роки тому

      same i wear the same sweatpants and hoodie every day

  • @ChicaneMedia
    @ChicaneMedia Рік тому +10

    I feel most people are lacking the confidence to be themselves because they aren't completely open towards how other people express themselves. What we personally find uncomfortable, we tend to think of negative thoughts first-hand because it's something different which feels alien to you. I feel that in order to be more confident you have to accept others for who they are and see everyone more open minded. That in hand makes you more comfortable wearing what you want because others see you being yourself and don't judge you for it

  • @theprousteffect9717
    @theprousteffect9717 3 роки тому +8

    Understanding that your style journey is an ongoing process that is never fully complete, is really key. I have a terrible habit of wanting to curate the "perfect" wardrobe right now and buying a bunch of items all at once. I have since decluttered or don't wear most of what I've purchased over the past few years 😩
    Your content is just so positive and inspiring! I wish I had known all of these things when I was young like you, and could have saved myself years of feeling unattractive and uncomfortable in my clothing. But I'm very grateful to have found your channel.

  • @Abby-vs1nx
    @Abby-vs1nx 5 років тому +6120

    i hate those “wHo ArE YoU TrYiNg tO ImPResS” headass people lmao

    • @ellatrentini2209
      @ellatrentini2209 5 років тому +316

      Abby YES! Im dressing for myself now shut your mouth (the people that say that are the ones who wear sweats everyday 🥵)

    • @sistershook232
      @sistershook232 5 років тому +94

      Well to those people I say myself and thank you for telling me I look good

    • @panagiotis4805
      @panagiotis4805 5 років тому +100

      If you're getting comments like that, it means you're doing it right 💜

    • @somebodysopinion543
      @somebodysopinion543 5 років тому +36

      my mum tells me this everyday and my sisters LOL

    • @alaebk7825
      @alaebk7825 5 років тому +71

      Abby "AhA YoU hAvE a CrUsH!1!1!1!1"

  • @nosir0174
    @nosir0174 4 роки тому +3952

    me, in corona lockdown: oh! this'll pass the time!!
    her: track what you wear every day and it'll show your style
    me in pj's because i have no reason to get dressed: oh.

    • @thechattycavy1551
      @thechattycavy1551 4 роки тому +16

      Stella Saridis lol same

    • @mea5989
      @mea5989 4 роки тому +22

      So totally only do this if you want to, but if you have work to do during this quarantine like, maybe working from home or going to school, getting dressed will actually make you more productive. This is called embodied cognition (well, this is a subset of embodied cognition called enclothed cognition, but same diff) and it's really helped me do my school work :)

    • @floorberendsen3567
      @floorberendsen3567 4 роки тому +7

      Ha I get dressed every day to at least try to be productive but it ends up being the same two outfits in rotation

    • @thechattycavy1551
      @thechattycavy1551 4 роки тому +2

      Mea I get dressed but it’s mainly lounge wear that I get dressed in now

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 роки тому +1

      Mood

  • @leciaraphim
    @leciaraphim 3 роки тому +30

    i’ve found my style this quarantine yet i haven’t bought those clothes yet. i’m mostly inspired by kpop idols lol

  • @runway5338
    @runway5338 3 роки тому +22

    Thank you so much for mentioning how most of us have an eclectic style when we’re first trying to figure out what types of aesthetics we love and reflect our most authentic selves.
    I personally love vintage, minimalism, dark & light academia, and also a basic outfit consisting of a crop top and high waisted bottoms. I’m definitely figuring out how to wind them in together that is uniquely me. 💕

  • @juneritter31
    @juneritter31 4 роки тому +2117

    “You shouldn’t have to change for your clothes” wow that hit hard

    • @juneritter31
      @juneritter31 4 роки тому

      Marielle makes senseee

    • @kelseybradbury1241
      @kelseybradbury1241 4 роки тому +4

      suddenly i don’t speak english

    • @m.kjordan5449
      @m.kjordan5449 4 роки тому

      Ur pfp-💀😂

    • @laragrove75
      @laragrove75 4 роки тому +4

      *me having lost 10 out of the 20 pounds i need to fit into my new wardrobe* : 👁️👄👁️

    • @negg7046
      @negg7046 4 роки тому

      *cough* brAndy

  • @lyssamary5845
    @lyssamary5845 4 роки тому +1343

    When her necklace broke, the CC said " *goes through all five stages of grief* " haha I love it :')

    • @reehufflepuff9909
      @reehufflepuff9909 4 роки тому +30

      Lyssa R
      Me when when I have to put in the *slightest* bit of effort into anything

  • @sugarhoneyicedtea9704
    @sugarhoneyicedtea9704 3 роки тому +38

    Sections ✨
    1. Asses current wardrobe (0:50)
    2. Finding inspiration (2:48)
    3. Create a moodboard (5:58)
    5. Shopping (7:30)
    6. Practise (8:23)
    7. Confidence (10:52)
    8. Fashion is subjective (13:32)

  • @lasutherlin9398
    @lasutherlin9398 2 роки тому +21

    It’s so nice to look at this after a few years and realize I did follow this advice. Thank you so much this really helped me dress in a way that gives me confident in myself

  • @emilyisawesome1455
    @emilyisawesome1455 5 років тому +18061

    people: who are you so dressed up for?
    me: you never know where harry styles could be, karen.

    • @connyspiess9665
      @connyspiess9665 5 років тому +417

      only aliferxus this is an incredibly underrated comment

    • @dominiquesimonetan4187
      @dominiquesimonetan4187 5 років тому +353

      It's always the Karen

    • @user-hb6mt9eq3t
      @user-hb6mt9eq3t 5 років тому +32

      ^^^

    • @harrystyles1122
      @harrystyles1122 5 років тому +71

      I LOVE YOUUUU

    • @elena-3172
      @elena-3172 5 років тому +102

      Yesssss, I only care about how I look because i want to look good if I see someone I Stan and I would have a cute picture with them.

  • @gracedsouza9067
    @gracedsouza9067 5 років тому +1897

    Ashley: Find Inspiration
    Me: Goes to UA-cam and types bestdressed

  • @shannongabriella
    @shannongabriella 3 роки тому +9

    dressing up and looking stylish and good is so fun!! it gives me an enormous amount of happiness and confidence that not a lot of people in my life can “give”, especially during this quarantine period :))

  • @aflowercloud
    @aflowercloud 3 роки тому +17

    The second waves starting here and I am going on my second marathon of all of Ashley's videos and I am so freaking proud that my teenage self discovered her cause I am rewatching all of these videos and realising wWOW!!

  • @hannahbanana6149
    @hannahbanana6149 5 років тому +7377

    Story: In high school I literally wore dresses every. single. day. Most people knew or people in my class just knew that I wore dresses every day. One day I showed up to school in jeans and I visited my friend in another class and she was like "you're wearing pants!!" and some random guy in her class looks over, and pops in like "I don't even KNOW you and I know you wear dresses every day"
    yeetin

    • @lararibeiro3343
      @lararibeiro3343 5 років тому +893

      i admire your motivation and the jeans day was a power move. well done

    • @rymno7466
      @rymno7466 5 років тому +435

      It’s the opposite for me haha props to you for being comfortable wearing dresses to school.

    • @emmarose9997
      @emmarose9997 5 років тому +260

      every time i wear jeans random people are like no dress?? and if i do wear jeans it’s jeans flats and a blouse i wore a hoodie and jeans one day and my friends thought i was dying

    • @ruth9077
      @ruth9077 5 років тому +40

      Haha I love that!! I wish it was warm enough where I am to do that

    • @emilia3313
      @emilia3313 5 років тому +12

      Hannah Banana this was totally me in middle school! Except with skirts as well as dresses

  • @oliviacoe7297
    @oliviacoe7297 4 роки тому +2331

    bestdressed: "Is this clothing something that suits my personality?"
    me: "searches how to find out what your personality is video"

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 роки тому +35

      There's videos and niche pictures about outfits for your zodiac, Meyers briggs, ennegram, fandom, Harry Potter house, etc

    • @greta5835
      @greta5835 4 роки тому +6

      HAHAHAHA SAMMMMMEEE!😂

    • @anoushka2946
      @anoushka2946 4 роки тому +2

      Sameeee ! 😂

    • @AnjaliBakhru
      @AnjaliBakhru 4 роки тому +18

      @@PS-bn6st the way i've done all of those things because i'm in a permanent identity crisis 😂

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 роки тому +4

      @@AnjaliBakhru omg same 😂

  • @lenalikescats6583
    @lenalikescats6583 3 роки тому +60

    Everyone : I know my style
    Me : **Cries in Fat**

    • @rubymack5782
      @rubymack5782 3 роки тому +2

      nooo i hope u feel as beautiful as u are soon

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 роки тому +10

      Not fat, pretty and simply a bit bigger. I know it doesn't help having all this stick figure models and influencers and what not but you're like a normal human being 🙂

    • @lenalikescats6583
      @lenalikescats6583 3 роки тому +1

      @@Cam-fv5op Awh ty!

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 роки тому

      @@lenalikescats6583 omg np

    • @sophiagionis
      @sophiagionis 2 роки тому +1

      im kinda late but just know that beauty standards are absolute bullshit and the beauty industry is constantly making up "problems" in order for people to buy their "solution" products - nothing can take away from your own beauty and the only opinion that matters is your own :) i hope you're more comfortable with your body now, sending lots of love

  • @doodlemort
    @doodlemort 3 роки тому +19

    0:50
    *goes over to dresser:* *sees black shirts, white shirts, and sweatpants:* oh..

  • @klc2834
    @klc2834 4 роки тому +5930

    So like, referring to step one, what if I hate all the clothes I own?

    • @-t9214
      @-t9214 4 роки тому +79

      KLC 28 me

    • @hium8716
      @hium8716 4 роки тому +421

      Same. All of them are like Walmart and target kid clothes because there cheap . Crap didn't think this comment would blow up but also all I basic own is a couple good shirt , shorts, and jeans and I'm still stuck with my cat clothing from last year lol

    • @adriananoriega
      @adriananoriega 4 роки тому +169

      BRO same. I have one pair of shorts I like

    • @jaycrawford752
      @jaycrawford752 4 роки тому +26

      Same

    • @casevids818
      @casevids818 4 роки тому +194

      Same. I’m here to fix my style because the only thing I wear is a t-shirt and shorts

  • @mer4738
    @mer4738 4 роки тому +4049

    When I put together a nice outfit that really makes me feel comfortable and "100% my style" i take a pic of the whole look and save it to an outfit album on my phone gallery, when i don't know what to wear i just check these outfits and mix the pieces then come up with a few new ones! maybe this advice could help someone

    • @isabellap9703
      @isabellap9703 4 роки тому +33

      Mer Vargas omg!! i do that too and it’s so helpful

    • @zoereid782
      @zoereid782 4 роки тому +59

      That’s so SMART

    • @Marie02605
      @Marie02605 4 роки тому +21

      Ooo I love this tip

    • @jello8867
      @jello8867 4 роки тому +11

      Fricken genius

    • @duckcylinder9903
      @duckcylinder9903 4 роки тому +3

      i do that! its very helpful

  • @rubyxx9803
    @rubyxx9803 3 роки тому +14

    "move the clothing that you've worn that week"
    me: my school uniform lmao

  • @ThatOneLadyOverHere
    @ThatOneLadyOverHere 3 роки тому +50

    Me: starting a new instagram to try to redefine my style that I haven't updated in years
    Me: liking elements of vastly different styles
    Also me: "No Instagram, I don't want to be a witch, wear dreadlocks, or be a fancy country girl."
    Instagram: visible confusion

  • @nithiyaakarunakaran8319
    @nithiyaakarunakaran8319 5 років тому +2232

    I WANT A 3-HOUR VIDEO ON YOUR ENTIRE CLOSET PLEASE AND THANK YOU

    • @cheruwong2075
      @cheruwong2075 5 років тому +4

      Nithiyaa Karunakaran same

    • @diywithparnika689
      @diywithparnika689 5 років тому +25

      She made a video with everything in her closet already! :)

    • @nithiyaakarunakaran8319
      @nithiyaakarunakaran8319 5 років тому +30

      DIYwithParnika haha yeah i know but wasn’t that like 7 months ago, and knowing ashley and her thrift-addiction she must’ve gotten something new - also i want three hours not 7 minutes, haha :)

    • @ratking6668
      @ratking6668 5 років тому

      Yess

    • @alexmacnab-stark8593
      @alexmacnab-stark8593 5 років тому +2

      DIYwithParnika I went through that video on the slowest speed to look at all those clothes 😂

  • @softmongreal2522
    @softmongreal2522 5 років тому +2067

    Ashley should start a podcast. I swear she's such a good motivational speaker and a smart ass person I wish to hang out with. Her cool style & understanding of things just calms me down because finally, I'm not the only one struggling here, even Ashley who's a famous girl with a wonderful fashion sense is still struggling sometimes. WE NEED ASHLEY TO MAKE PODCASTS.
    LIKE HARDER SO ASHLEY CAN SEE AND NOTICE OUR PLEA!! PODCASTS!!!

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 років тому +6

      Yup, u stole my words.

    • @Julia-ws9pq
      @Julia-ws9pq 5 років тому +1

      Omg yesss

    • @cath5137
      @cath5137 5 років тому +4

      i would 100% listen to her in the morning while i’m getting ready lol💖

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 років тому

      @@cath5137 sameeeee

    • @AllisonLee0110
      @AllisonLee0110 5 років тому +2

      Oh my God yes, she can talk about so many things and her voice ugh I can just listen for hours!!

  • @uNL4m3nt3d
    @uNL4m3nt3d 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much for this video. I've always felt worthless and think that I never deserve to live the best life because I am ugly. Your video literally saved my life.

  • @sushidashi6152
    @sushidashi6152 2 роки тому +2

    I used to watch your videos in awe, like, I could never be that fashionable or confident. I'm 21 now and I can't believe that I'm finally finding my own style and curating my closet with the help of your videos.

  • @sarahbear2928
    @sarahbear2928 5 років тому +1640

    I remember wearing dresses my freshman year and everyone would be like 'oh what's the occasion'. I would say 'there isn't one, I just wanted to show my cankles ok'. Lol

    • @geengengena
      @geengengena 5 років тому +72

      Sarah bear same experience! "Are you going on a date?" uhhhh no

    • @dianneperico
      @dianneperico 5 років тому +17

      All the damn time I get this comment in school. We only have one day to wear our preferred outfits since we have school uniforms, I wear plain longsleeves, croptops and other super casual for me and still some just can't let me be 😌😂

    • @zahara1115
      @zahara1115 5 років тому +49

      I’m a very confusing person and often I’ll go from a hoodie and sweatpants one day to a dress and stilettos another 😂

    • @emijune2171
      @emijune2171 5 років тому +2

      Same, a lot of my friends had this happen to them. We're just on another level 😉

    • @monsta6144
      @monsta6144 5 років тому +2

      I used to have a thing for blazers & shirts so when I was walking in hoodie filled corridors at school, ppl mistook me for a teacher all the time. (shirts I still love so much I will be buried in one so crisp you could cut someone with it and so bright it'll temporarily blind you if you look directly at it lol)

  • @annalynpoulsen2077
    @annalynpoulsen2077 5 років тому +2901

    “it’s a 30 year old mom thing or a thing for 17 year olds” i feel attacked

  • @sarasicus
    @sarasicus 3 роки тому +3

    Genuinely thank you so much for this. I've spent so much time buying random thrifted clothes that I just kind of like. This really helped me think about what I really like wearing and it helped find my personal style. I ended up clearing out 75% of my wardrobe, selling and donating it all, and then buying clothes I actually would wear and love. You probably won't see this but thank you Ashley!

  • @aastha8034
    @aastha8034 2 роки тому +1

    I really love how Ashley just increases our confidence by her amazing personality. Most of the times, we are all surrounded by people who either judge us for our style or are more stylish than us which makes us insecure as hell! I accidentally stumbled upon Ashley's channel a few days back and I am OBSESSED! She's natural, friendly and just amazing. I feel my fashion improving already. Thanks a lot Ashley!

  • @RosyPosyGirl
    @RosyPosyGirl 5 років тому +13819

    Damn Ashley, stop improving my life so much. I might end up an actual person instead of a potato

  • @samantanicoleruiz9181
    @samantanicoleruiz9181 5 років тому +2099

    Honestly Ashley should start a podcast, I could hear her talk for the rest of my life with no problem

  • @soyadise6235
    @soyadise6235 3 роки тому +9

    Me: *found my style
    Wallet: yep, dreaming is absolutely free.

  • @lifeisgood9889
    @lifeisgood9889 Рік тому +6

    Hey, Ashley, you’ve been a major inspiration for me in finding my sense of style. And I definitely agree that confidence takes time. I personally think of confidence as a skill, one you have to practice to get better at. These days, I wear a superhero cape to class, because it’s fun. And it makes me very happy. I’m glad I got to see this video, because it was very helpful

  • @dodo-sr8jp
    @dodo-sr8jp 5 років тому +2768

    Ashley is only UA-camr who gives tips that I actually follow because they're actually useful and researched.
    This is quality content.

    • @lilpoppy1328
      @lilpoppy1328 5 років тому +2

      True😬

    • @ibenengberg6713
      @ibenengberg6713 5 років тому +21

      try watching some of AlexandrasGirlyTalk's videos, I love ashley as well, but if you are looking for more with real tips, try her :))

    • @furrylego643
      @furrylego643 5 років тому

      ua-cam.com/channels/U8ssMY0rZQtCgWVwQNpmUA.html

    • @TheMsPants
      @TheMsPants 5 років тому +5

      I just just thinking 'this girl is very clever and I would actually follow her advice !'

  • @malinasakamoto
    @malinasakamoto 4 роки тому +16171

    i have a style...i just don’t own anything that is that style

  • @AshlynnHerondale
    @AshlynnHerondale 3 роки тому +4

    this video is so helpful and i love how she talks about finding the confidence to actually fit your style 🥺

  • @brittanystorey9460
    @brittanystorey9460 2 роки тому +3

    Something I wanted to say about the clashing styles is that I have separate looks for categories of life!
    for example, my work wardrobe is classic with a bit of an edge, my casual grocery store/hiking outfits have a slight edge but are a bit more sleek and practical, and my going out clothes for literally everything else in my life is ethereal/edgy, natural because the fabrics are more chiffons and silks vs cotton synthetic blends for outdoor. All of the colours go together so I can mix and match styles.

  • @vophie
    @vophie 5 років тому +2164

    My tip is, don't be afraid to be "basic" and to wear ordinary or common clothing, you don't have to be unique to be incredible

    • @orangew.3055
      @orangew.3055 5 років тому +8

      Yash

    • @m_mmko
      @m_mmko 5 років тому +11

      Sophie Williams This!

    • @annabanana1141
      @annabanana1141 5 років тому +23

      Sophie Williams i been wanting the fila disruptors but i’ve seen so many people roast them & i don’t want to be flamed on

    • @bethb9926
      @bethb9926 5 років тому +17

      I felt like a badass wearing a plain tank top with black leggings and a white jacket with (more black) sneakers. So, this!! Yes.

    • @soapy2587
      @soapy2587 5 років тому +19

      this...i always like to wear bright colors and eye attracting stuff because i thought basic clothes were boring but recently i have experimented with basic crop tops & jeans and i find that it really flatters my body :>

  • @tohruchan6093
    @tohruchan6093 5 років тому +3249

    "Why're you all dressed up?" idk mum I just wanted to look cute but I guess I'll go change-
    I'll wait until I move out to do that thing we call fashion.

    • @anjaanja6448
      @anjaanja6448 5 років тому +82

      Tohru Chan no you got this do your thing now:)

    • @emijune2171
      @emijune2171 5 років тому +111

      I have the same philosophy about eating healthily oof

    • @tohruchan6093
      @tohruchan6093 5 років тому +53

      @@emijune2171 I feel that. I don't know why some things just seem like you shouldn't them, even though you probably should and it's just normal???

    • @sayuriando3379
      @sayuriando3379 5 років тому +22

      I slowly managed to change it more to my style but to be honest I still have a lot of clothes that belonged once to my sisters since I'm the smallest one and our mom doesn't accept reasons like it does not fit my style to go shopping for new outfits

    • @shizotypical
      @shizotypical 5 років тому +8

      Why change tho? Nothing wrong with dressing nice if you want to!

  • @vvtaecute8770
    @vvtaecute8770 3 роки тому +53

    I have been loving Korean fashion lately but I’m to nervous how to tell my mom about it since I have always been the introverted person I am. And especially when your mom is a Filipina, permente panganchaw.
    btw, I am just 12 years old

    • @Hi-bh8uv
      @Hi-bh8uv 3 роки тому +3

      Just show your mom a photo of someone wearing clothes you like and see if she thinks ur look good maybe

    • @user-kl6cw5er7t
      @user-kl6cw5er7t 2 роки тому +2

      Same!!! (I'm 18 now) and seeing pretty Korean style dresses made me want to try wearing them. But when I show them to my mom, she will 100% confirm say "I thought you said you HATED dresses (incorrect - i dislike off shoulder and low waisted dresses)

    • @ozge8262
      @ozge8262 2 роки тому

      try to talk to her about it from a point of view she'd understand. btw i'm sure the clothes you buy wont fit you in a couple years so don't buy a whole new wardrobe right now, just go with a couple pieces instead because you'll have to redo it once you grow up. good luck!!

  • @ariskremcallac6720
    @ariskremcallac6720 3 роки тому +3

    I can totally relate to the "there's no one close to me that I feel appreciates my fashion style" and it's so hard to change your style cause I feel like it not something that I should do cause it's different from how people see me.

  • @elficity-2737
    @elficity-2737 4 роки тому +1949

    Okay, but when my mother takes me shopping, she needs to know the difference between taking your time to shop, and literally just spending forever trying to convince me to buy something I don’t wanT

    • @anuroigas942
      @anuroigas942 4 роки тому +128

      I had the same problem but i get around it with saying:"you will just throw away money on something that i will never wear" maybe that will help you

    • @TyTy-gr4lt
      @TyTy-gr4lt 4 роки тому +13

      YESS OMG

    • @hannahslager6674
      @hannahslager6674 4 роки тому +36

      my mom used to do that and i would just never wear it and she eventually stopped

    • @fuwa1276
      @fuwa1276 4 роки тому +13

      Or stay in one section of the store for over an hour deciding to buy jeans#1 or jeans#2 -.-

    • @leeyaa457
      @leeyaa457 4 роки тому +8

      Mom used to do that too & I decided to stop wearing them & not buying clothes... Then she stopped but eventually my mom choice of choosing my clothes got better.. I was kinda surprised lol

  • @sally-annehunt8820
    @sally-annehunt8820 5 років тому +1783

    I can just imagine Ashley dragging in all those houseplants from around her house just to have them in the frame and you know what...? Me too Ashley. Me too.

    • @bestdressed
      @bestdressed  5 років тому +220

      the tragic part is that i own so many plants that i didn't even have to move any into frame.. those are just the usual plants that hang out in my mirror corner

    • @sally-annehunt8820
      @sally-annehunt8820 5 років тому +34

      @@bestdressed Hahaha I hope one day I own so many plants that I end up having 4 in the same corner

    • @cebulsoon8232
      @cebulsoon8232 5 років тому +1

      relatable. cuz we care in this house. WE CARE

  • @yvettekim9185
    @yvettekim9185 2 роки тому +2

    Rewatching Ashley's videos just to hear her talking again🥲

  • @thejazzpianist25
    @thejazzpianist25 2 роки тому +1

    I love how you say it takes time and you have to be patient and that you're not just born with perfect fashion this is so helpful

  • @artisticsoulless
    @artisticsoulless 5 років тому +771

    me: putting together a dope outfit for school
    also me: realizing it is way to extra and that i cant pull it off because who do i think i am

    • @memequeen5026
      @memequeen5026 5 років тому +38

      a big fat MOOD

    • @ellagibbons1416
      @ellagibbons1416 5 років тому +5

      exactly

    • @coainc
      @coainc 5 років тому +15

      ok i’m gonna be cheesy and say that i’m 100% sure you can, it’s all about confidence. go wear whatever you want and just know that you rock it

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 років тому +2

      SAME.

    • @goyangeden9891
      @goyangeden9891 5 років тому +2

      hey wear it ! you're you that's all you need to be to wear an extra outfit !

  • @LiliLala1991
    @LiliLala1991 5 років тому +3281

    this video is quite
    1. informative
    2. clear
    3. motivating
    4. inspiring
    !

  • @yashasohtun1523
    @yashasohtun1523 2 роки тому +2

    i wish you still put out content. i learnt alot from this video. thank you🧡

  • @harharharlee9308
    @harharharlee9308 2 роки тому +2

    You can really hear the passion in your voice

  • @claireabel2788
    @claireabel2788 5 років тому +1931

    I’d love it if you did a fashion for beginners! Like about different cuts and shapes etc and also how to dress for your body shape x

    • @sarahstans9801
      @sarahstans9801 5 років тому +4

      Yes!!!!

    • @madeleiner4035
      @madeleiner4035 5 років тому +36

      @alexandrasgirlytalk has some really helpful videos about different cuts and what looks good on the body, I'd def recommend checking them out :)

    • @LL-sp9nb
      @LL-sp9nb 5 років тому +2

      Check out, Alessandra's Girly Talks

    • @BocolatePlays
      @BocolatePlays 5 років тому +3

      Oof Alexandra's girly talk is 👌👌 when it comes to that

    • @KpopManiac4Life
      @KpopManiac4Life 5 років тому +8

      Justine leconte is perfect for this

  • @ayeirin
    @ayeirin 4 роки тому +1850

    1. assess ur current wardrobe
    me: *looks in wardrobe*
    me: school uniform, ok
    me: *looks on the floor*
    floor: hoodies, sweatpants, tshirts
    me: ok then

    • @Zoe-gp1uj
      @Zoe-gp1uj 3 роки тому +64

      LOL. I have no clothe because I’m usually wearing my school uniform

    • @marinamorton8458
      @marinamorton8458 3 роки тому +5

      felt

    • @greencheese3717
      @greencheese3717 3 роки тому +6

      Same gurl same ...

    • @siyona6569
      @siyona6569 3 роки тому +7

      You could go for like a grunge type of look? Maybe go with oversized stuff

    • @janicelau5309
      @janicelau5309 3 роки тому +10

      I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO WEARS SCHOOL STUFF EVERY DAY LMAO

  • @mynamehere3906
    @mynamehere3906 3 роки тому +12

    her: "ur girl loves organization"
    Me: VIRGO HELLO THERES A VIRGO IN THE HOUSE

    • @j.a.489
      @j.a.489 3 роки тому +1

      YESSSS VIRGOS UNITE

  • @karinasoch612
    @karinasoch612 3 роки тому +1

    I love how she's so confident and funny talking about something that really passionate her

  • @honeyhive2896
    @honeyhive2896 5 років тому +4763

    *Picks out a cute shirt I like* Mom: YoU lIkE tHaT?😣 Me: *sigh* I guess not

    • @vividd1186
      @vividd1186 5 років тому +325

      Oh my goodness it's the same with me😞 It's so sad honestly

    • @rosiefoulston1635
      @rosiefoulston1635 5 років тому +186

      Don’t let that stop you!! ❤️

    • @zakyiaclanton6877
      @zakyiaclanton6877 5 років тому +83

      Same I’m like come on uhhh

    • @angelacooper5681
      @angelacooper5681 5 років тому +37

      Ahh yes so true

    • @renoirrr
      @renoirrr 5 років тому +156

      Why are parents still stuck in the past?

  • @sangeetha6979
    @sangeetha6979 4 роки тому +7199

    *me* : likes vintage clothing
    *every single person I know* : yOU DrEsS likE A grAndMa
    well atleast I'm trying karen

    • @joanagutierrez7082
      @joanagutierrez7082 4 роки тому +157

      Sangeetha at least not like your grandma, karen

    • @arson8265
      @arson8265 4 роки тому +13

      Sis you already one

    • @arson8265
      @arson8265 4 роки тому +9

      @karen

    • @zahrasultan6460
      @zahrasultan6460 4 роки тому +99

      I call it "grandma chic"

    • @evelyn-bz7hv
      @evelyn-bz7hv 4 роки тому +9

      Joana Gutierrez well yeah, she’s not going to dress like a gHoSt

  • @ashes3053
    @ashes3053 2 роки тому

    23 yrs old here and wanting my own style ... I have literally worn t shirts from highschool and bummy sweats for years. I have no style of my own. Anytime I had spent time putting an outfit together in middle school or highschool, and walked upstairs happy with it, my mom would turn me around to "fix it". So. Been terrified to create my own style. But this video was really sweet I'm gonna start getting to work on my style. 💜 Thank you

  • @lauryn8003
    @lauryn8003 3 роки тому +9

    The pain in her voice when she said “ if you don’t like gingham it’s fine by me” ... it was just too much🤌

  • @kiirolicht
    @kiirolicht 4 роки тому +2554

    My issue: scared of looking like overdressing/being extra loooll cuz i sometimes i like polished styles (like buttoned shirt, slacks, loafers) but most people in my class wears hoodie/tshirt and jeans :/

    • @gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042
      @gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042 4 роки тому +224

      omg do it hunny!!!! i used to wear oxfords and button ups with a slim jean jacket! no one cares, express yourself!

    • @coolperson4418
      @coolperson4418 4 роки тому +10

      Same hereeee

    • @tamani2514
      @tamani2514 4 роки тому +112

      Do it! I used to wear skinny high waist jeans with Tshirt so like really basic and stuff and it never felt right. It was okay but not RIGHT. Now I wear (extremely) ripped, Jeans, oversized Tshirt and men's sweater, stuff like that and since this change I feel so much more comfortable and it feels more like myself. You'll find people loving you for beeing that extra. Don't hide in the crowd be special!

    • @thegallantgangster577
      @thegallantgangster577 4 роки тому +90

      that's me exactly. i feel like i'm going to stand out because my entire school wears sweats and sweatshirts, and i want to wear a skirt and blouse and clothing that makes me look nice.

    • @evelyn-bz7hv
      @evelyn-bz7hv 4 роки тому +10

      Be confident!!!

  • @rosesndthorns
    @rosesndthorns 5 років тому +2491

    Me: wants to buy that thing that really fits my style and calls my heart.
    Thing: is $300
    Me: *blinks*
    Edit: wow glad I’m not alone 😭

    • @ratafeia
      @ratafeia 5 років тому +16

      Elsa thrift shops!!!

    • @ratafeia
      @ratafeia 5 років тому +12

      Elsa oh and also depop!

    • @jksbananamilk
      @jksbananamilk 5 років тому +25

      Jennifer Bordignon I can never find anything good in thrift shops 😩

    • @Celestialperils
      @Celestialperils 5 років тому +2

      Go to multiple thrift shops! Consignment!

    • @jessicakay3695
      @jessicakay3695 5 років тому +4

      Try stores like Ross, TJMax, Winners, and outlets like Dillard’s Clearance Outlet (you can get high quality name brands for cheap prices) hope that helps 💕

  • @Ashley-lz9jh
    @Ashley-lz9jh 2 роки тому +1

    What you said in the beginning about fashion being uncomfortable is so relatable. I have sensory issues and the feeling of cloth on my collarbones and neck is intolerable. Turtlenecks are my worst nightmare. Been this way my whole life. Crew necks are even hard if they’re smaller. I’ve just stopped buying them altogether even though I love the look :/

  • @yuhansungscoffee
    @yuhansungscoffee 3 роки тому +5

    I was just talking about this today. I can’t seem to choose between casual tees with cute converses, and cute girly blouses with heels, and dark academia, and all black with combats and camo.
    As a result I have all the above in stupidly low amounts and I’m always confused about what to wear.
    Me last year: bought girly shirts and shoes from Zara
    Me this year: ordered superdry tees and a converse lift.
    I literally can’t choose TT

    • @agirlcalledmist
      @agirlcalledmist 3 роки тому +1

      right so i know n o t h i n g about fashion but I am really into interior design/architecture so I'm gonna look at your wardrobe like a bedroom, just bare with me. 1; Okay so the casual part is a good starting point first pick a few basics that go with everything have half of those basics be girly, 2; to tie in the dark academia some statement pieces would be good 3; do the same with the dark style 4; try to lay out outfits for a week. 5; I'm gonna just list some things that would make good statement pieces for your general style satchel, heeled boots, various jewlery pieces such as necklaces for layering and some simple earings, 6; colour ideas: dark pink, browns, greys, blacks, greens and some copper/brass looking accents
      Hope I helped

    • @yuhansungscoffee
      @yuhansungscoffee 3 роки тому

      @@agirlcalledmist aww thank you so much for your advice. :) I literally own only one necklace. And I don’t own any greens and pinks. I’ll keep them in mind next time I shop. :)

  • @Janelou42
    @Janelou42 3 роки тому +6624

    There is a style I like, but that style doesn't like me.

    • @sara-vf5xz
      @sara-vf5xz 3 роки тому +311

      I felt this 😔 I really like a couple styles but they don’t work with my skin color, height, or build

    • @nuriam.1598
      @nuriam.1598 3 роки тому +238

      @@sara-vf5xz same. I like korean fashion, and a bit of cottagecore but I'm not a tall skinny girl :/

    • @ThatOneLadyOverHere
      @ThatOneLadyOverHere 3 роки тому +161

      @@sara-vf5xz the skin color thing is just a matter of adjusting the colors slightly so that they match your skin color. Do you have warm or cool skin? If you don't know what I'm talking about then look it up, there's plenty of resources for helping you understand it and figure it out. Took me a while, but I have warm skin color and I love purple, but the purple that is typically sold is too blue and washes me out, eventually I realized that when purple is more red looks amazing on me. Just small adjustments to any color and you can make it work.

    • @bbeach5675
      @bbeach5675 3 роки тому +17

      Everyone should love their own style or maybe u don't have any style but that doesn't mean you are guilty or boring type person .....It simply means "just stand on your feet and buy all clothes that you love and wear it even though it doesn't look good on you..bt still wear it"and and and specially if you love western clothes bt cannot wear it ..then it's ok ....bc hiding our body is wayy better than showing off body!

    • @urvimande
      @urvimande 3 роки тому +8

      I feel you
      I'm fat so nothing really looks good on me (especially in my eyes)😂

  • @Kneec4ps
    @Kneec4ps 4 роки тому +3114

    You need to make merch labeled “fashionable disaster”

  • @Jesusismyking4
    @Jesusismyking4 8 місяців тому +1

    you fr are gorgeous never feel like you need to look like someone else girly ❤

  • @Alejandra-ge9gm
    @Alejandra-ge9gm 2 роки тому +2

    I’m a person who deeply struggled with finding myself in fashion and just did what people expected of me. Like: Don’t wear makeup because it stands out. Only wear cottagecore because I seem like a cottagecore pal. Or even guilt because I thought I wasted my/others money on clothes.
    As of right now, I’ve found myself in clothing and I’m hoping to continue wearing what I like regardless of what people think. Because I’m badass, I’m awesome, I’m amazing. Who cares what people think? My anxiety? Pfft, nah. I’m amazing.

  • @larissam4267
    @larissam4267 5 років тому +1358

    Could you do a video of facing your fashion fears??!!

    • @larissam4267
      @larissam4267 5 років тому +30

      I think you would make a good video on working with pieces that you yourself have trouble being confident in sometimes

    • @vmstevy
      @vmstevy 5 років тому +5

      yes pls

    • @lilia426
      @lilia426 5 років тому +2

      @Larissa M 1000st like! I agree!

    • @faithh6565
      @faithh6565 5 років тому +1

      Larissa M yesssss

  • @yesicastefanie
    @yesicastefanie 5 років тому +16221

    the only two problems about finding my style:
    1. don’t have the money for it
    2. don’t have the body for it

    • @rosesfromseptember517
      @rosesfromseptember517 5 років тому +641

      Go to a thrift store or a second hand store! So many gems from so many different styles haha

    • @hunterkristina9106
      @hunterkristina9106 5 років тому +327

      Yesica Stefanie the money struggle is so real

    • @salmalk6737
      @salmalk6737 5 років тому +41

      Same

    • @hunterkristina9106
      @hunterkristina9106 5 років тому +78

      elf bugs there are also apps like poshmark and depop which sell second hand

    • @user-dm5sd6qz6j
      @user-dm5sd6qz6j 5 років тому +254

      You just don’t know yet what types of clothes is great for your body

  • @Redfernroses
    @Redfernroses 2 роки тому +6

    For those who love a style but believe the style doesn’t love them. It’s not you, it’s the the way the clothes are made, or cut, or it’s the wrong hairstyle. Remember you don’t change to fit the clothes, clothes are meant to fit you. Find a style of dress or shirt that flatters your body. Be 1000% you, 100% of the time. If someone has a problem with you that their problem. But don’t do anything illegal

  • @froggychair5818
    @froggychair5818 2 роки тому +2

    all the style vids I've seen are like 'look in ur closet' but broski I literally only have ONE pair of jeans that makes me feel confident and pretty. out of my entire wardrobe just one thing

  • @lmaoabby9034
    @lmaoabby9034 4 роки тому +6632

    *when you have a dream aesthetic but your aesthetic doesn’t look good on you*
    👁💧👄💧👁

    • @aninhasS2
      @aninhasS2 3 роки тому +215

      Story of my life 👁💧👄💧👁👍

    • @Scott-on2er
      @Scott-on2er 3 роки тому +262

      girl you just need clothes with a silhouette that flatters your body type

    • @shreya8719
      @shreya8719 3 роки тому +50

      The struggle 😩

    • @phoebe1273
      @phoebe1273 3 роки тому +12

      sameeee

    • @hoolhyoh
      @hoolhyoh 3 роки тому +8

      relatable

  • @alyssahall9830
    @alyssahall9830 4 роки тому +707

    Also I’ve found that building self-confidence helps with enjoying fashion in general. I use this tip: Next time you’re sitting at a coffee shop or outside somewhere, or even scrolling through Instagram. Try and think one positive thing about everyone you see, “damn they look confident af!” “Wow girl is killing it in those shoes” “those glasses look awesome on him!” “Her hair is styled so well, looks amazing!” “I love that jacket he’s wearing!” “They look sensational” “I love the colour they dyed their hair!” Etc etc Then at some point after you just keep complimenting everyone instead of comparing yourself to them you slowly start just building that positivity about others and internalising it, to a point where you can say “yeah I look good today!” “I’m feeling confident in this” “I love this jacket it makes me feel good” “I love how my hair is styled this morning” and recognise sometimes you’re just going to have off days, but keep going ❤️

    • @CarolinaMendivil
      @CarolinaMendivil 4 роки тому +28

      Alyssa Hall I love this so much

    • @laura6204
      @laura6204 4 роки тому +24

      You are the nicest person ever. Thank you so much!!!!

    • @Alicia-kg3hs
      @Alicia-kg3hs 4 роки тому +17

      This is sweet!

    • @wonholover1507
      @wonholover1507 4 роки тому +14

      Thank will be using this 😍

    • @NENEJESSER
      @NENEJESSER 4 роки тому +10

      I love this. Thank u so much. I will!🦋

  • @deborahooi6856
    @deborahooi6856 3 роки тому +4

    I genuinely wanted to search for my style, and I knew ashley did a video on it a while back so here I am. What I did not predict was how much I miss this big sister character.
    Wherever you are Ashley, I hope you are doing well. ❤

  • @lysolmyfish
    @lysolmyfish 3 роки тому +1

    Another thing you can do is pick out emojis that you like, what you gravitate towards could be a hint of what style you like, favorite color, etc.
    For example: picking your favorite heart based on your favorite color: ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎
    Or you can pick your favorite miscellaneous emojis depending on what style you like: 🍓🎀🪞🌷🏩
    Or you can pick activities relating to what you enjoy doing and you can form your style around that: ⛸, 🎸, 🎮