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Jess, for your deep dive series I'd love a conversation solely about motherhood. I'm 23 with a toddler and pregnant and this life has been so amazing but sooooo difficult. I'd love to hear more about losing identity as a mother, marriage struggles, self image, and drive to do the things we used to love before motherhood. Love you girl!
Please make one of your "getting real" videos on having kids, and wanting to have kids, but include Tyler please. I remember vividly something he said in a previous video on the topic ua-cam.com/video/Ys0zTZYkgvo/v-deo.htmlfeature=shared
My 30s and 40s were the best. In my 40s, I learned a lot more about myself even though this is an ongoing process. The wisdom, knowledge and inner-strength we built
Human Resources professional here-it is ABSOLUTELY illegal for employers to inquire about how employees spend personal days. It is also illegal to ask how they’re spending sick days, but they can require a doctor’s note excluding specific medical information. It is positively wild that we’re still having these kinds of issues today, which is one enormous reason why I got my Master of Public Administration this year. It’s time to be a voice for people and really make some positive change in this country. We have the potential for greatness-it’s time to live up to it! Btw, this passion came to me at the age of 30 so there is never a right or wrong time to live your dream. 😊
One of my best friends once told me “trust your future self to handle whatever issue comes your way because you’ve handled everything life’s thrown at you so far” and that has stuck with me ever since. I definitely have anxiety and worry all the time about the future but there’s nothing present me can really do so I just really try to remind myself to trust myself bc I’ve made it so far!
I was a social worker for over 10 years and finished my masters in mental health counseling at 39. I am now 41 so I am two years into being a therapist and I really feel like it’s been fulfilling.
I will finish my Masters in Social Work in August (also at 39)! I am focused on removing maternal mental health barriers at the community level. It's been fulfilling so far and I can't wait until I'm done with school so I can fully focus on that purpose!
I wanted to become a clinical mental health therapist, but life never presented the circumstances to make that happen for me. However, I just finished my Master of Public Administration, so I’m hoping to be able to advocate for people on the political and legislative level to improve mental and social health community-wide. I’m 31 and I’m hoping to use my young age, knowledge base, and heart for the community to the collective advantage. Anyone who has the grit to get through a graduate program, at whatever stage in life, should be incredibly proud of that achievement. It really is fulfilling! Congrats to all of you who are doing this!❤
That’s so encouraging to hear! I’m 35 and feel like life is so good now, how could it get any better. But then I think in my 40s my kids will be older and I won’t be in the tiny littles stage and my hubby and I will hopefully be able to go on more adventures together and with our older children.
@@prayersponytails6227 I have two teenage daughters, and I’ve truly enjoyed every single stage of their lives. This one is just as special as when they were little. In my 40’s I’ve noticed I’ve stopped caring as much what people think, and I’m suddenly ok with saying the word “no” in my life. It’s allowed me to be way more less stressed. The 30’s are better than your 20’s, but there’s a certain confidence with who YOU really are that happens in your 40’s. It’s easier to forgive your past failures and know those same failures have helped form the victories you have today.
I'm 35 and have known Jesus my whole life but it wasn't until 8 months ago that I realized I never actually had a relationship with Him. My journey/walk with Him in 8 short months has been wild. I can't believe it took 30 years to begin my true walk and looking back I can't believe how little I knew. I feel most of us could agree this journey can be a roller-coaster and for me, so far it sure has been😅. So it's super comforting to hear from like minded folks!
I've been a teacher for almost 30 years and when I first started teaching I had a principal that would ask teachers what they were going to do on their personal days. One veteran teacher told him "It's called a personal day for a reason! When they call it a principal day I'll let you know!" LOL!!
Whew Jessica I needed this 😢 hearing “you got through every difficult moment in your life.” We just bought our 1st home, and despite having a home inspection, we have had nothing but trouble with the house. Plumbing issues, water damage, etc. I have cried more days in that house than not. It sucks that such a big accomplishment (and what should have been an exciting time in our lives) has been the center of stress and disappointment. But just like everything else I’ve been through, I’ll make it through.
I'm 54 and you just made me cry...I have made it!! I'm raising my grandkids and it's tough but I wouldn't have it any other way 😢😊 I'm definitely interested in more mom content , you inspire me more than you know ❤
PS you are adorable, real, raw, vulnerable, and super humble and normal :) I appreciate you so much, in this world of loud loud loud chatter all around us.
30s had wonderful life changing milestones (especially becoming a mother) but 40s feel great because I’m confident, peaceful, financially stable, professionally accomplished, my kids are still young but developing more independence and I am making time to nurture deeper relationships with my children and husband and other people who have a meaningful part of my life ❤️
Oh my word sweetheart you had this lady in tears again.I struggle with being and staying in pjs all day as I have 2 serious and chronic illnesses LUPUS and FIBROMAYALGIA which causes sooooo much pain 24/7 as well as depretion. I have been fighting lupus since birth and fibro for 39 years. I do use medication that takes the edge off but oh boy I am at 59 now tired of it all. I feel mostly that I simply just cannot go on anymore. I do not tell anyone anymore as I realized they dont GET it and want to preach to me how to solve myself. Iys the loneliest place to be and illness to have. I love you and your amazing lil family and wait everyday for the two of you to post especially you darling. May God Bless you and keep you to be our safeplace everyday. Thank you sweet girl xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx😘😥😥💌🙏🏼🤗🤗🤗
You should absolutely focus an episode on parenting specifically being a new mom, growing into that role finding yourself again, postpartum depression/anxiety etc. you’re the reason I was brave enough to tell my doctor how much I was struggling and get therapy and medication. Not to be dramatic but you helped save my life ❤
I was one of those people on the fence about having kids... and kept pushing it further until I was 35. I don't regret it becoming a mom at all I was surprised how much I love it. I am grateful I was still able to have a child and have a supportive partner. I kept telling myself I can't travel anymore once I have kids or pursue my interests and it really affected me from wanting children but its not true that you cant pursue your interests as a mom it just looks really different and your priorities and sense of self really changes definitely for the better. I really enjoy watching you and Tyler travel with your family. Sure it's different to travel with children but I've taken my daughter so many places and she is only two 😊 now i look at it as i get to share my love for travel with her. I think an interesting real talk along with your parenthood topic would be pursuing your passions while having kids. It's cool tyler pursues his passion for travel nd you do youtube and makeup vids with 2 daughters! And yes the Europe videos were epic I was looking forward waking up every Saturday to watch the next episode so glad he did edit them!
I’m 36 and have a newborn. My god, I can’t believe I ever went back and forth about this. I’m thankful I didn’t have children with my ex husband, that was a blessing and probably my body was telling me “NO!”. But now that I’m with a good man, this is by far the most exciting, fun, fulfilling, and beautiful time in my life by a mile. Gone are the feelings of wondering what to do next or those painful unsure feelings. It all makes sense now.
I’m so happy you’re sharing your faith online! I’ve watched you for probably 6-7 years and it’s been amazing to watch you and your family grow in so many ways! Also I’m so sad you don’t love the Dior concealer! I LOVE it and the foundation!! They look so natural and skin-like!
I’ve been loving Tyler’s vlogs!😊 Having children opens life up to so much future love. They grow up, marry, have children. It’s a joy to watch your adult children. And now, my oldest grand child is 18. Life is a beautiful gift. It’s amazing that we get to be part of the creation of an eternal soul.😊
You have every right to choose what you believe. That being said, if no one has ever told you, for God so loved you that He gave His only Son Jesus, and if you will believe on Jesus as your Savior, then you shall receive with Him eternal life. Thank you for allowing me to share this with you. The love and grace of God in my life by receiving Jesus for myself have so filled my life with hope and fulfillment and peace that I want others to enjoy these gifts, as well. Again, thank you for graciously reading my message. Please know that it comes from a place of good will. I hope you have a good day. 😊
Oh you all have so much to look fore forward to, I’m 65 and love it. I find I’m a lot calmer about a lot of things because your priorities are different. You have lived through so much by this age. Wait till they hit school, you’re in for a totally different life, I hope you talk about it on your channel, as a parent that was a teacher. The girls will start having a life away from home. Plus they seem to grow up so much faster after they start school.
I am 62 yrs "oh sweet child"... So much of life has been lived at this point. So many milestones met and memories made Yes, I am taking things more in stride, however the stress of aging is also real. Much more learning to do. ❤
Jess, I love these real, raw, chats as you get ready. I am 62 and I STILL don't have it all figured out! But, God does. The older I get, the more I realize that, learning to listen to his still small voice, the promptings He sends us along the journey... Are what it's all about. You keep doing you honey. Sweet baby girl you are a couple years older than my daughter and I smile as I watch the two of you go through many of the same challenges and mommy things, raising toddlers. Now. If you really want to talk... Being a grandmother, I am a Mimi, is a whole another life journey. That one I was not prepared for at all. The love you feel for your grandchildren is explosions of everything you felt for your own child. It truly is a whole new roller coaster of emotions. Get ready get ready get ready😊❤🎉
Research shows that about 30% of people regret having kids. I personally know a handful of people who wish they'd not had them. It's not like they don't love their kids, it's just that the impact and the sacrifices made meant that they never got to have the lives that they wanted. Then there's a lot of stress to do with childcare, finances, not having support from your spouse etc. My friend's marriage has fallen apart because of the stress that having a child with health problems put on her and her husband. People should definitely think carefully about how having a child fits into their life because for the most part it is the biggest responsibility you'll ever have. There's no turning back and your life will revolve around your kid for the next two decades and there are far too many kids out there who have been born to inadequate and dysfunctional parents
Man, I feel that about being split between being a SAHM and a working mom. I'm a full time+ attorney who works remote and I currently juggle sending my son to daycare 3 days per week and watching him at home (while working) the other 2 days. I don't want to give up my time with him OR the chance to advance in my career. I think the moral of the story is that being a mom in this day and age is HARD.
I’m an empty Nester. My kids are 41,38 and 20. I have had kids in my home for 40 years and absolutely loved it. I can tell you having other hobbies or groups to be involved with during this time has literally saved me -Bible studies I love to paint are things I look forward to. However, the empty nest syndrome is so real - it’s grieving - it’s getting through letting go of the life you had. I have experienced lots of changes in my life and this is one of the biggest. You have to trust God to show you the opportunities. You have to trust him with your heart whether it’s grieving or whether it’s being joyful. It’s not easy. But it’s growth. Jessica you are so insightful. I love hearing your ideas and girl you have more wisdom than you think you do. Trust yourself. You are making the world a better place.
Can I just say how comforting you are to listen to. I lost 2 of my dogs within 47 hours this week... and listening to you helps distract from my reality. Thank you
Awh Jessica🥰Talking about faith and spirituality!!! You are sooo great at explaining your thoughts on this subject. I’m 61 in April and a Nondenominational Christian who believes in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I went to so many controlling, “do this not that churches!” My husband and I do our own private devotionals each day and prayers together for our family and friends. Thanks so much for sharing your journey so openly🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼I’ve been watching your videos for years. You are so inspiring!
Loved this video so much. The quote you said "you got through every difficult moment in your life" is something that is so powerful and more people need to hear that. Evryone experiences pain or discomfort in their life and how they overcome the difficult moment is very empowering but to remember that they overcame is just as powerful. I also enjoyed the perfectionism video as well.
I switched careers at 32 and did grad school (social work) during the pandemic to become a therapist and it was the best decision I ever made. I love my job and get so much fulfillment out of it!!! Highly recommend!!!
I agree so much about children. I’m 55 now and one regret I have is not having more children. We have 3, but now I wish we would have had at least a couple more. As an only child, I’ve always wanted a big family. We stopped having children because we didn’t think we could manage it financially or otherwise. Looking back, that was the wrong way to look at it (for us). If we had put our trust in the Lord, He would have provided.
You’re absolutely right dear one, no one has everything figured out in life. We are all just doing our best. And I think you’re overthinking the book review video. You don’t need to follow someone else’s style or structure. People like hearing your thoughts on the books you’ve read the same way you do your reviews at the end of the year. You don’t need to change the way you do things. And like you said you could totally do it in a vlog, or you could even do it at the end of a favorites video. And that way if some aren’t interested in it they can move on. ♥️
Yessss to red hair! Me, my mom, and my 2 year old daughter have red hair (all natural). I think you’d love it and rock it. There’s something about being a red head (natural or not) that just sits well with the soul. And I wholeheartedly agree, Tyler’s videos are so well done; thorough, informative, interesting, entertaining and professional. I’ve been enjoying watching the Yurt videos so much!
Your life thoughts did give me some solace so thank you! I’m feeling COMPLETELY lost in life right now, I’m 44 and have had a full time job since I was 15 and now I’m a stay at home mom and just nothing feels certain it’s so different every day when I have always been regimented to a 60 hour work week. I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing.
I am 53, I look back at my 30s and say "oh sweet child!" haha!! But, you are so right. When I hit my 30s, I definitely felt like I had arrived at adulthood.
LOVING this series!! I also love seeing you come into your own when it comes to stating your opinion and how you live your life. I really do look up to you like a big sister (I’m 29) 🩷
on the topic of kids, it really is forever changing. I have 3 children. a toddler, a pre-teen and a teenager. It is an ongoing learning process. My oldest were not planned and even though I was young I don't regret any decision I've made! I've been a mom for 15 years and still can't believe I'm their mother.
You're so right! Having kids is so much more than having a baby. I say this all the time, you have a baby for 1 year, then a toddler, then a kid, then a teenager, then a young adult. And parenting looks different at every stage, emotionally and financially!
I recently told a friend I never knew or even realized one of the best things about being a parent is having adult kids! I’ve enjoyed “most” all of it haha but this time of our relationships is so full ❤️. I also really appreciate your honesty about where you are on your faith journey 😊
I am currently in a counseling program with a specialization in school counseling. The way you talk about self-care, burnout, and mental health in general resonates with some of what we're taught about it in our classes. I think if you ever decided to go into the field you'd be a great therapist :)
I loooove these videos. You speak so well, and great advice. Makes me feel as a mother, and business owner. Not SO ALONE. The work, family has been soooooo hard! Shutting down, letting yourself feel and be human is so importance. Thank you so much for these videos.
Re: Faith. I totally agree that we are on a JOURNEY. One hard thing I had to learn is that God wants us to focus on becoming a “good person,” NOT a “good Christian.” If you are TRULY a good christian then you will be a good person, and that is the goal - but there are a lot of people out there who will tell you that you have to do x y z rules in order to be a “good Christian” but those things can be in fact damaging. It takes a lot of work to sort out the good and the bad.
Girl I just switched to a flip phone and the difference it made it just one day with no phone….LIFE CHANGING! ❤️ Side note: I’d love to see a video on finances. How your family saves, how your spending habits have changed over the years, who taught you about finances and who do you still currently learn from, how do you feel about credit cards, saving for your kids future, etc.
I’m 52- I have a healthy sense that I have a part of my life all figured out. My job/ career. I had SO much instability in my childhood, didn’t get the high school experience, no prom, none of the average life events. I got married to my best friend after 6 months, just celebrated our 29th wedding anniversary. We have two kids- empty nesters now. I’ve worked at two careers. I started this one at age 33. I WILL retire in public health in a social work type position. I have this part figured out. This is my passion. I get to visit families in their homes and bring them information about how to be the parent they can be and how they get to make decisions for their families and I support and encourage them, link them to resources in the community, and that’s the simplified version. I am back in school. Just made the dean’s list for this semester- new for me! 🥳😎 I LOVE being in school. I’m doing part time, though. So I get to still travel with my husband, work and study without stress. I’m 52. And I have this figured out. Because my life was chaos in the beginning. And it feels GREAT to know I am where I’m suppose to be. I am 100% aware and respectful that this is not for everyone. My kids, especially. They are still grappling with who they are and where they’re supposed to be. And I feel really bad that they use us as their barometers my husband being in the job, he always wanted to be in, since he was a small child, and me being where I think I should be. But we tell them all the time that they don’t HAVE to know yet. My oldest one turns 25 next week, I still have not found my Place in this world at that age. We told them both they still have time and to enjoy life right now. And always. But there is no deadline to reach for at an age they’re suppose to reach it. It’s different for everyone. Great video!
Jess you constantly amaze me at your maturity and wisdom level for someone so young, I am old enough to be your mum so yes you are very young 😂 I think that you have exactly what it takes to one day become a very successful qualified therapist or a life coach. But until then I will continue to watch your free therapy sessions I mean vlogs 😉 Colour your hair any and every colour you have ever thought of and do it now while you’re young. It’s just colour if you do it and you decide it’s not working for you, change it back or change it up. Because the day will come when your hair is white and difficult to colour and you will long for those ‘colourful days’. Speaking from first hand experience here. Regarding the question on finding your purpose you answered it beautifully. Sadly it took me a long time, to late 40’s early 50’s before I realised that there was not that “One Purpose” that often makes us feel like we are all on some sort of Karmic treasure hunt to find that when we do find it suddenly life becomes easier and fulfilling and that makes those of us that aren’t finding the right clues are somehow failing at life and all that rubbish that I at least have bought into during my life. I know believe, as you said, that each phase/stage of our lives brings with it its own changes, challenges, experiences. And so now I believe therefore there just has to be different “purposes”, lessons and chances for growth so it is doesn’t even make sense to me that it is even possible for there to be just one, seemingly elusive, magical purpose that will finally make sense to us. Keep doing what you’re doing Jess and thank you for letting us watch you and learn from you as you change and evolve yourself and your channel. It is an honour and a joy 🥹 ❤from 🇦🇺
why do I feel so special that you answered my question about hair color 😂😂❤ i agree tho maybe you should try the reddish brown one day!! i think now a days its being called “ cowboy copper “ 😂
I love your makeup and lifestyle blogs. And it's why i continue to watch the channel. Not crazy about the churchy or kid stuff so if you could label that in the video so it could be skipped, that would be nice. Alot of us aren't into those things. Or just do separate videos when you want to talk about those things so we can choose? Food foe thought.
Along with what you said about not having just 1 purpose in life, your purpose can change in every season and it doesn’t have to be this monumental thing.. for me right now it’s being a good wife & mom & helpful friend. Last year it was worship leading and only God knows that next year I could add on something completely new and what currently feels out of my element!! All that to say I think this is part of your purpose, I know that these talks are so inspiring and relatable for many! You are blessing a lot of people with your stories & knowledge! I’ve been here many years and I’ve been praying for your family and faith to flourish and it’s so cool to see that more and more come through in your videos💕🙏🏼
Oh my… i am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. Could you share a little bit about him, if you dont mind? My favorite thing is talking about my best friend who passed away …
@@lorievem There are no words to describe the suffering. I didn’t put this on for people to feel sorry for me but when Jessica was saying something it came to my attention that it was related to what she was talking about.
I’m a child and family therapist and work with ages 0-18. I got my degree online and it was easy to do because I went at my own pace. It’s a very rewarding job but can be very exhausting and burn out is real
“Your faith should be a journey.” Yep. We never get to the depth of it, there’s always more to learn in our relationship with God. That’s what I love about my now Catholic faith. So much deeper than the evangelicalism I grew up in. There’s a divine simplicity, but also a depth you could never reach the bottom of.
I had just decided last night that after work and school we are gonna start taking walks in the afternoon. We really need to get out as a family and it’s getting warm enough to enjoy a walk
Lol.. yes! Oh sweet child.. Im in my 40s and still getting wiser.. definitely great decade for me.. come to terms that things are great and I don’t always to have hard if I don’t want too.. I do things my terms.. I have life experience that have taken me thus far.. and its great!
I watched your husband’s videos about your trip in Europe: amazing! It’s like a true documentary, I was impressed. Also I could be your mother but for a 35 years old, you are rather smart with mature thoughts, just to say, not an irresponsible child anymore 😊
Jess, I recommended your channel to my 11-year-old SIL because you are trustworthy not just as beauty-tuber but as an example of a classy human being who wants to please God…and also because SIL has somehow loved family vlogs for years, lol. Last night she told me she LOVES your videos!! Thank you for being you. 😊
I’m 40 and I have a lot to say about life path and career choices. In my experience, all of my education led me towards certain opportunities and I realized certain strengths and interests I have while pursuing those opportunities. Those opportunities, people, and interests have led me to other opportunities I did not anticipate or ask for! All of this to say, life is a strand of connections and experiences that lead us from one thing to another. It would be boring to be doing the same thing all of the time! My undergraduate degree was in dance education, I later became a Montessori teacher, I became interested in pole dance, now I am a pole dance instructor, and I own my own studio now! The path has led me to be a business owner, and I never would have anticipated that!
I’m turning 30 in July and I’m seriously so excited. 🎉 Also, I’ve had a rough life, lots of trauma and whatnot, but I always remind myself “god will never give me more than I can handle” and it gives me so much comfort when I’m feeling beat down. ❤ Jess, I freaking love your channel and your videos. You’re such a light on this dark earth and I’m so thankful for you. 🩷
Oh I used to dye my hair red and I loved it! Was often mistaken as a natural red head because it looked great on me...but it's A LOT of maintenenance. I gave it up after two kids because I just don't have the time/money it takes to maintain anymore. Now I'm just rocking my natural dirty blonde/bronde hair and just highlights updated 2-3x year. I do miss it at times, but yeah. Just a forewarning on the level of maintenance required for red hair! Edited to add: Another thing I think people need to think about when they are discussing whether or not to have children is what would you do if something doesn't go typically with the pregnancy or with your child's development? I say this coming from experience. Both of my boys are on the Autism spectrum. I never thought about what would happen if my child didn't develop typically before having kids. Thank goodness we were in a place for me to become a SAHM because there is zero way I could've managed working and getting my children to all of the different evaluations, therapies and appointments! I'm defintely not trying to scare anyone out of having kids, but I think neurodivergencies are so much more common than anyone talks about with new parents!
As a 53 year old mother of two daughters and their 20s, and an elementary teacher of 31 years I cannot tell you how much I would love to relax in the evening, listening to a podcast about lifestyle and make up and just anything in general. I have been searching for something like that for a long time. Throw in a little spirituality and you have the making for one winning show!❤ until then I would love to see a video about how to get through the Easter holidays on a budget. That goes for make up, clothing for church and family, events, recipes, filling Easter baskets for children of all ages (yes my daughter still expect an Easter basket and they want them hidden on Easter morning! I will do that for as long as they desire!), etc. For those of us who don’t have an extended Easter break, they took some of ours to make up snow days, how do you revive yourself to make it until summer?
I have been watching you since the beginning of your youtube career and I have to say it is refreshing to hear you be open about your religion:) I myself am not religious but I am always intrigued when others share their beliefs:) Also, you would look great as a redhead!🥰🔥
So true on having kids. I had a son and he just passed 6 mths ago. Like you said we have gotten through tough times in life before, but I couldnt begin to know how I could get through this. Its the worst thing that has happened to me in my life. Its something that you can’t make it better. He was my everything and not having him here destroyed my soul and being. He was my only child. He was the light that kept me going. A child makes a big difference in our lives. They become a part of you.
I love what you’ve said about religion and faith. I’ve never felt closer to my faith and god since letting go of what I was told religion and faith looked like or should look like! ❤
Oh my goodness the purpose of life and religion portion was honestly so helpful I never thought about it that way and you are so right! Thank you for this! ❤
I love your “oh sweet child “, I have read comments where people are older, I’m 66 and my younger years were the best. I was married for 23 years and then divorced. I remarried 4 years later and am coming up on my 20th anniversary. The second is my best! My first was when I had my 3 children (the best kiddo) Sorry didn’t mean to ramble.
I relate so much to the sentiment of "you got through all the hard things". Im 37 and a single Mom to a special needs kiddo. I have had to work so hard to get our life to this place of peace (its not perfect but we are doing so much better) and now its even better bc I was able to take all my years of my career to end up working along side my 2 sisters. Always growing and still facing challenges but I really feel the confidence of being comfortable in myself!
This spoke to me. As someone who is going through a tough season, your words brought comfort. We think that we can't keep going any longer or we can't make it and forget what we have already overcome...I'm also a believer in Christ, and I just hold on to His word.."I will not leave you or forsake you."
In your new series could you please cover PPD?❤ I went through it so badly and had to go through so much treatment to cope and remember watching your videos during it and being able to relate, didn’t make me feel alone! 🩷
I would also really love a video on becoming a mother/PPD. Recovering from it 5 month PP with my first and it really helps to know how others have gotten through it
Jess- when I was 35…. I know I wasn’t nearly as wise and poised and self-aware as you are! I’ve commented many times…… It’s just so enjoyable to watch your videos, and hear what you have to say. I look back at my 20s and 30s and definitely say “ oh dear sweet child” 😆 I am 54 years old and I feel like my 40s were great… but the last three or four years I’ve REALLY come into my own as far as confidence and wisdom and emotional intelligence…… Does anybody else feel that way?? That it’s taking you into your 50s to really feel like you’re fully blooming? Love you, Jessica!! If you become a therapist, I am immediately booking an appointment. ☺️☺️😁❤️
I've been a follower for a long time and all these lovely, intelligent, concise comments are so true. AND Tyler did do a spectacular job on the European videos. Finally. 😂 love you girl.
I am truly enjoying your getting real videos and how your channel has evolved over the years! You have a calming effect that helps me unwind thank you!
🙋♀️ hi, it’s me, still unsure whether I want kids or not lol but I do like your sentiment that most people will never look back and regret having children. I’m just terrified that having kids will alter the incredible relationship I have with my husband currently. But I don’t want to look back in 30 years and regret never having kids.
Your perfectionism video really got me thinking, too! I am an adult woman with adhd so I struggle with hyper focusing on my perfectionism. I can’t even put into words what it’s like to have a constant struggle in the neurodivergent brain. It can be so painful at times.
I believe that faith is not a denomination, it's not a religion, it's a relationship. Do I belong to a specific denomination, currently yes. Have I been in a different one over the years yes. Mind you, I'm almost 75 and I've had a deep relationship with the Lord since i've been a child. He is my all in all and I can't imagine my life without Him in it. I just don't hang my hat on any one specific denomination claiming it has all the answers. None of them do. Sorry just wanted to throw my two cents in. I pray you also find that deep abiding faith in your life. If you're not 100% now keep seeking and He will make it real for you.
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Jess, for your deep dive series I'd love a conversation solely about motherhood. I'm 23 with a toddler and pregnant and this life has been so amazing but sooooo difficult. I'd love to hear more about losing identity as a mother, marriage struggles, self image, and drive to do the things we used to love before motherhood. Love you girl!
I literally shared the perfectionism on my fb feed 😄 and I never share on fb
Please make one of your "getting real" videos on having kids, and wanting to have kids, but include Tyler please. I remember vividly something he said in a previous video on the topic
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oh, sweet child...hahahah (I'm 57) The 30s and 40s were some of the very best of my life. Loved them. 50s are great too.
I am laughing also. I’ll be 52 on Thursday the 7th. My 40’s through now have been the best! Although some of my 30’s were omg so much fun!
My 30s and 40s were the best. In my 40s, I learned a lot more about myself even though this is an ongoing process. The wisdom, knowledge and inner-strength we built
Just turned 58 and enjoy all the laughs of life!
Same!
Definitely but I’m striving to make my 50’s just as good as the others.
Human Resources professional here-it is ABSOLUTELY illegal for employers to inquire about how employees spend personal days. It is also illegal to ask how they’re spending sick days, but they can require a doctor’s note excluding specific medical information. It is positively wild that we’re still having these kinds of issues today, which is one enormous reason why I got my Master of Public Administration this year. It’s time to be a voice for people and really make some positive change in this country. We have the potential for greatness-it’s time to live up to it! Btw, this passion came to me at the age of 30 so there is never a right or wrong time to live your dream. 😊
👏👏👏PREACH!
One of my best friends once told me “trust your future self to handle whatever issue comes your way because you’ve handled everything life’s thrown at you so far” and that has stuck with me ever since. I definitely have anxiety and worry all the time about the future but there’s nothing present me can really do so I just really try to remind myself to trust myself bc I’ve made it so far!
That seems like solid advice!
I have been following you for years. You have grown and evolved to be a wise, fun, clever, delightful woman. This video was amazing!
I was a social worker for over 10 years and finished my masters in mental health counseling at 39. I am now 41 so I am two years into being a therapist and I really feel like it’s been fulfilling.
Clinical social workers can also do therapy! I’m so glad you are feeling fulfilled!
I will finish my Masters in Social Work in August (also at 39)! I am focused on removing maternal mental health barriers at the community level. It's been fulfilling so far and I can't wait until I'm done with school so I can fully focus on that purpose!
I wanted to become a clinical mental health therapist, but life never presented the circumstances to make that happen for me. However, I just finished my Master of Public Administration, so I’m hoping to be able to advocate for people on the political and legislative level to improve mental and social health community-wide. I’m 31 and I’m hoping to use my young age, knowledge base, and heart for the community to the collective advantage. Anyone who has the grit to get through a graduate program, at whatever stage in life, should be incredibly proud of that achievement. It really is fulfilling! Congrats to all of you who are doing this!❤
I’ve got news for you. Your 40’s are even a 1000 times better than your 30’s
Agree!!!
Agree!! I was thinking to myself Ahhh sweet child, you are going to LOVE your 40’s! 😃
That’s so encouraging to hear! I’m 35 and feel like life is so good now, how could it get any better. But then I think in my 40s my kids will be older and I won’t be in the tiny littles stage and my hubby and I will hopefully be able to go on more adventures together and with our older children.
@@prayersponytails6227 I have two teenage daughters, and I’ve truly enjoyed every single stage of their lives. This one is just as special as when they were little. In my 40’s I’ve noticed I’ve stopped caring as much what people think, and I’m suddenly ok with saying the word “no” in my life. It’s allowed me to be way more less stressed. The 30’s are better than your 20’s, but there’s a certain confidence with who YOU really are that happens in your 40’s. It’s easier to forgive your past failures and know those same failures have helped form the victories you have today.
50's are pretty good too. Each decade I level up I love myself more and more.
Im 46 and feel like my faith is ALIVE for the first time in my life. It really is a journey. I would love an entire video about your faith journey ❤❤
Me too 🙏🏼
I would love that too 🙏🏻
I'm 35 and have known Jesus my whole life but it wasn't until 8 months ago that I realized I never actually had a relationship with Him. My journey/walk with Him in 8 short months has been wild. I can't believe it took 30 years to begin my true walk and looking back I can't believe how little I knew. I feel most of us could agree this journey can be a roller-coaster and for me, so far it sure has been😅. So it's super comforting to hear from like minded folks!
@@katiestevens6207 that’s so awesome 👏🏼 so happy for you 🙏🏼I’m 61 and still feel like I’m on a relationship journey with the Lord.
@@sandybowers5085🙂thank you! That's amazing!! I imagine it just gets better and better ❤
Omg yes PLEASSSSSSE do a video about becoming a parent!! I would love to hear your deeper thoughts
I’d love to hear some perspective on going from 1 to 2 kiddos!
Especially because I'm pretty sure Tyler didn't want kids in the beginning.
I've been a teacher for almost 30 years and when I first started teaching I had a principal that would ask teachers what they were going to do on their personal days. One veteran teacher told him "It's called a personal day for a reason! When they call it a principal day I'll let you know!" LOL!!
Whew Jessica I needed this 😢 hearing “you got through every difficult moment in your life.” We just bought our 1st home, and despite having a home inspection, we have had nothing but trouble with the house. Plumbing issues, water damage, etc. I have cried more days in that house than not. It sucks that such a big accomplishment (and what should have been an exciting time in our lives) has been the center of stress and disappointment. But just like everything else I’ve been through, I’ll make it through.
I'm 54 and you just made me cry...I have made it!! I'm raising my grandkids and it's tough but I wouldn't have it any other way 😢😊 I'm definitely interested in more mom content , you inspire me more than you know ❤
I’m 13 wks pregnant after trying for 4 years. Would love a video on parenting!
Jessie girl, I've been wanting to say that in your last several videos you've seemed so much more relaxed and at ease! So happy to see it :)
PS you are adorable, real, raw, vulnerable, and super humble and normal :) I appreciate you so much, in this world of loud loud loud chatter all around us.
30s had wonderful life changing milestones (especially becoming a mother) but 40s feel great because I’m confident, peaceful, financially stable, professionally accomplished, my kids are still young but developing more independence and I am making time to nurture deeper relationships with my children and husband and other people who have a meaningful part of my life ❤️
I agree my 40’s so far have been so peaceful.
As someone who’s grown up with and had a tricky relationship with religion, I love how you speak about it
Oh my word sweetheart you had this lady in tears again.I struggle with being and staying in pjs all day as I have 2 serious and chronic illnesses LUPUS and FIBROMAYALGIA which causes sooooo much pain 24/7 as well as depretion. I have been fighting lupus since birth and fibro for 39 years. I do use medication that takes the edge off but oh boy I am at 59 now tired of it all. I feel mostly that I simply just cannot go on anymore. I do not tell anyone anymore as I realized they dont GET it and want to preach to me how to solve myself. Iys the loneliest place to be and illness to have. I love you and your amazing lil family and wait everyday for the two of you to post especially you darling. May God Bless you and keep you to be our safeplace everyday. Thank you sweet girl xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx😘😥😥💌🙏🏼🤗🤗🤗
You should absolutely focus an episode on parenting specifically being a new mom, growing into that role finding yourself again, postpartum depression/anxiety etc. you’re the reason I was brave enough to tell my doctor how much I was struggling and get therapy and medication. Not to be dramatic but you helped save my life ❤
What a lovely speech about not having life all figured out and why that’s a good thing. I need to remind myself of that often. Thanks Jess!
I was one of those people on the fence about having kids... and kept pushing it further until I was 35. I don't regret it becoming a mom at all I was surprised how much I love it. I am grateful I was still able to have a child and have a supportive partner. I kept telling myself I can't travel anymore once I have kids or pursue my interests and it really affected me from wanting children but its not true that you cant pursue your interests as a mom it just looks really different and your priorities and sense of self really changes definitely for the better. I really enjoy watching you and Tyler travel with your family. Sure it's different to travel with children but I've taken my daughter so many places and she is only two 😊 now i look at it as i get to share my love for travel with her. I think an interesting real talk along with your parenthood topic would be pursuing your passions while having kids. It's cool tyler pursues his passion for travel nd you do youtube and makeup vids with 2 daughters! And yes the Europe videos were epic I was looking forward waking up every Saturday to watch the next episode so glad he did edit them!
I’m 36 and have a newborn. My god, I can’t believe I ever went back and forth about this. I’m thankful I didn’t have children with my ex husband, that was a blessing and probably my body was telling me “NO!”. But now that I’m with a good man, this is by far the most exciting, fun, fulfilling, and beautiful time in my life by a mile. Gone are the feelings of wondering what to do next or those painful unsure feelings. It all makes sense now.
I agree. Tyler’s videos are so professional and impressive. The Alaskan cruise videos blew my mind.
I agree. The Alaskan cruise is my favorite of Tyler’s travel videos. Vlogmas is my favorite over all
I’m so happy you’re sharing your faith online! I’ve watched you for probably 6-7 years and it’s been amazing to watch you and your family grow in so many ways!
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I’ve been loving Tyler’s vlogs!😊 Having children opens life up to so much future love. They grow up, marry, have children. It’s a joy to watch your adult children. And now, my oldest grand child is 18. Life is a beautiful gift. It’s amazing that we get to be part of the creation of an eternal soul.😊
Love your coffee chats! I am not religious/spiritual at all, but I like that you present it in a way that is general and respectful of all.
You have every right to choose what you believe. That being said, if no one has ever told you, for God so loved you that He gave His only Son Jesus, and if you will believe on Jesus as your Savior, then you shall receive with Him eternal life. Thank you for allowing me to share this with you. The love and grace of God in my life by receiving Jesus for myself have so filled my life with hope and fulfillment and peace that I want others to enjoy these gifts, as well. Again, thank you for graciously reading my message. Please know that it comes from a place of good will. I hope you have a good day. 😊
Oh you all have so much to look fore forward to, I’m 65 and love it. I find I’m a lot calmer about a lot of things because your priorities are different. You have lived through so much by this age.
Wait till they hit school, you’re in for a totally different life, I hope you talk about it on your channel, as a parent that was a teacher. The girls will start having a life away from home. Plus they seem to grow up so much faster after they start school.
I am 62 yrs "oh sweet child"... So much of life has been lived at this point. So many milestones met and memories made
Yes, I am taking things more in stride, however the stress of aging is also real. Much more learning to do. ❤
Jess, I love these real, raw, chats as you get ready. I am 62 and I STILL don't have it all figured out! But, God does. The older I get, the more I realize that, learning to listen to his still small voice, the promptings He sends us along the journey... Are what it's all about. You keep doing you honey. Sweet baby girl you are a couple years older than my daughter and I smile as I watch the two of you go through many of the same challenges and mommy things, raising toddlers. Now. If you really want to talk... Being a grandmother, I am a Mimi, is a whole another life journey. That one I was not prepared for at all. The love you feel for your grandchildren is explosions of everything you felt for your own child. It truly is a whole new roller coaster of emotions. Get ready get ready get ready😊❤🎉
Research shows that about 30% of people regret having kids. I personally know a handful of people who wish they'd not had them. It's not like they don't love their kids, it's just that the impact and the sacrifices made meant that they never got to have the lives that they wanted. Then there's a lot of stress to do with childcare, finances, not having support from your spouse etc. My friend's marriage has fallen apart because of the stress that having a child with health problems put on her and her husband. People should definitely think carefully about how having a child fits into their life because for the most part it is the biggest responsibility you'll ever have. There's no turning back and your life will revolve around your kid for the next two decades and there are far too many kids out there who have been born to inadequate and dysfunctional parents
Man, I feel that about being split between being a SAHM and a working mom. I'm a full time+ attorney who works remote and I currently juggle sending my son to daycare 3 days per week and watching him at home (while working) the other 2 days. I don't want to give up my time with him OR the chance to advance in my career. I think the moral of the story is that being a mom in this day and age is HARD.
On my third comment on this one video because this was just so thought provoking and real! You’re the best, Jess. The ultimate internet big-sis
I’m an empty Nester. My kids are 41,38 and 20. I have had kids in my home for 40 years and absolutely loved it. I can tell you having other hobbies or groups to be involved with during this time has literally saved me -Bible studies I love to paint are things I look forward to. However, the empty nest syndrome is so real - it’s grieving - it’s getting through letting go of the life you had. I have experienced lots of changes in my life and this is one of the biggest. You have to trust God to show you the opportunities. You have to trust him with your heart whether it’s grieving or whether it’s being joyful. It’s not easy. But it’s growth. Jessica you are so insightful. I love hearing your ideas and girl you have more wisdom than you think you do. Trust yourself. You are making the world a better place.
Can I just say how comforting you are to listen to. I lost 2 of my dogs within 47 hours this week... and listening to you helps distract from my reality. Thank you
Awh Jessica🥰Talking about faith and spirituality!!! You are sooo great at explaining your thoughts on this subject. I’m 61 in April and a Nondenominational Christian who believes in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I went to so many controlling, “do this not that churches!” My husband and I do our own private devotionals each day and prayers together for our family and friends. Thanks so much for sharing your journey so openly🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼I’ve been watching your videos for years. You are so inspiring!
But it’s not about rules and control it’s the opposite it’s about having the tools to help you on this journey to heaven.
@@roseg1333 I wholeheartedly agree with you ❤️
@@roseg1333 I wholeheartedly agree with you ❤️
30's was alot more learning for me.. Upper 30's and now at 41 I am truly excepting and loving myself... Also forgiving my younger self..❤
The Europe vlogs were absolutely amazing!!! It was like watching a picturesque movie and it was adorable seeing GiGi at a younger age!!!
My forties are my favorite decade yet! It just keeps getting better!🥰
That’s so encouraging to hear!
Due in 5 weeks with first baby and would love your next chat to be about becoming a parent!
Loved this video so much. The quote you said "you got through every difficult moment in your life" is something that is so powerful and more people need to hear that. Evryone experiences pain or discomfort in their life and how they overcome the difficult moment is very empowering but to remember that they overcame is just as powerful.
I also enjoyed the perfectionism video as well.
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I switched careers at 32 and did grad school (social work) during the pandemic to become a therapist and it was the best decision I ever made. I love my job and get so much fulfillment out of it!!! Highly recommend!!!
I just like how you are so open and honest…😊
Ooh a red brown hair color would look amazing on you!
I agree so much about children. I’m 55 now and one regret I have is not having more children. We have 3, but now I wish we would have had at least a couple more. As an only child, I’ve always wanted a big family. We stopped having children because we didn’t think we could manage it financially or otherwise. Looking back, that was the wrong way to look at it (for us). If we had put our trust in the Lord, He would have provided.
You’re absolutely right dear one, no one has everything figured out in life. We are all just doing our best. And I think you’re overthinking the book review video. You don’t need to follow someone else’s style or structure. People like hearing your thoughts on the books you’ve read the same way you do your reviews at the end of the year. You don’t need to change the way you do things. And like you said you could totally do it in a vlog, or you could even do it at the end of a favorites video. And that way if some aren’t interested in it they can move on. ♥️
Yessss to red hair! Me, my mom, and my 2 year old daughter have red hair (all natural). I think you’d love it and rock it. There’s something about being a red head (natural or not) that just sits well with the soul. And I wholeheartedly agree, Tyler’s videos are so well done; thorough, informative, interesting, entertaining and professional. I’ve been enjoying watching the Yurt videos so much!
Your life thoughts did give me some solace so thank you! I’m feeling COMPLETELY lost in life right now, I’m 44 and have had a full time job since I was 15 and now I’m a stay at home mom and just nothing feels certain it’s so different every day when I have always been regimented to a 60 hour work week. I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing.
I am still new but I am so thankful for you! Tonight you made me cry and THANK YOU! I needed it!! 😢
I am 53, I look back at my 30s and say "oh sweet child!" haha!! But, you are so right. When I hit my 30s, I definitely felt like I had arrived at adulthood.
LOVING this series!! I also love seeing you come into your own when it comes to stating your opinion and how you live your life. I really do look up to you like a big sister (I’m 29) 🩷
on the topic of kids, it really is forever changing. I have 3 children. a toddler, a pre-teen and a teenager. It is an ongoing learning process. My oldest were not planned and even though I was young I don't regret any decision I've made! I've been a mom for 15 years and still can't believe I'm their mother.
I’d love to hear you talk about mom guilt, the realities of parenthood not always being enjoyable or easy, how you’ve grown since becoming a parent. ❤
You're so right! Having kids is so much more than having a baby. I say this all the time, you have a baby for 1 year, then a toddler, then a kid, then a teenager, then a young adult. And parenting looks different at every stage, emotionally and financially!
I recently told a friend I never knew or even realized one of the best things about being a parent is having adult kids! I’ve enjoyed “most” all of it haha but this time of our relationships is so full ❤️. I also really appreciate your honesty about where you are on your faith journey 😊
I am currently in a counseling program with a specialization in school counseling. The way you talk about self-care, burnout, and mental health in general resonates with some of what we're taught about it in our classes. I think if you ever decided to go into the field you'd be a great therapist :)
I loooove these videos. You speak so well, and great advice. Makes me feel as a mother, and business owner. Not SO ALONE. The work, family has been soooooo hard! Shutting down, letting yourself feel and be human is so importance. Thank you so much for these videos.
These chats always feel like I’m hanging out with a sister 💕 thank you for always being so real and honest about life.
Podcast about life??? 1000% yessss ❤
LOVE how you handled the parenthood question. You answered it perfectly 🥰
Re: Faith. I totally agree that we are on a JOURNEY. One hard thing I had to learn is that God wants us to focus on becoming a “good person,” NOT a “good Christian.” If you are TRULY a good christian then you will be a good person, and that is the goal - but there are a lot of people out there who will tell you that you have to do x y z rules in order to be a “good Christian” but those things can be in fact damaging. It takes a lot of work to sort out the good and the bad.
I love your thoughts about purpose in life and how things are a journey and not supposed to look the same your whole life! ❤
Your comments about faith being a journey and less about rules and knowing everything really hit me. I love the way you thoughtfully share your faith.
How come this beautiful amazing lady don’t have over a million subs!!! You have a beautiful soul it makes me happy every time I see you post ❤
Totally!!!
Girl I just switched to a flip phone and the difference it made it just one day with no phone….LIFE CHANGING! ❤️
Side note: I’d love to see a video on finances. How your family saves, how your spending habits have changed over the years, who taught you about finances and who do you still currently learn from, how do you feel about credit cards, saving for your kids future, etc.
I’m 52- I have a healthy sense that I have a part of my life all figured out. My job/ career. I had SO much instability in my childhood, didn’t get the high school experience, no prom, none of the average life events. I got married to my best friend after 6 months, just celebrated our 29th wedding anniversary. We have two kids- empty nesters now.
I’ve worked at two careers. I started this one at age 33. I WILL retire in public health in a social work type position.
I have this part figured out. This is my passion. I get to visit families in their homes and bring them information about how to be the parent they can be and how they get to make decisions for their families and I support and encourage them, link them to resources in the community, and that’s the simplified version.
I am back in school. Just made the dean’s list for this semester- new for me! 🥳😎 I LOVE being in school. I’m doing part time, though. So I get to still travel with my husband, work and study without stress.
I’m 52. And I have this figured out. Because my life was chaos in the beginning. And it feels GREAT to know I am where I’m suppose to be.
I am 100% aware and respectful that this is not for everyone. My kids, especially. They are still grappling with who they are and where they’re supposed to be. And I feel really bad that they use us as their barometers my husband being in the job, he always wanted to be in, since he was a small child, and me being where I think I should be. But we tell them all the time that they don’t HAVE to know yet. My oldest one turns 25 next week, I still have not found my Place in this world at that age. We told them both they still have time and to enjoy life right now. And always. But there is no deadline to reach for at an age they’re suppose to reach it. It’s different for everyone.
Great video!
Jess you constantly amaze me at your maturity and wisdom level for someone so young, I am old enough to be your mum so yes you are very young 😂 I think that you have exactly what it takes to one day become a very successful qualified therapist or a life coach. But until then I will continue to watch your free therapy sessions I mean vlogs 😉
Colour your hair any and every colour you have ever thought of and do it now while you’re young. It’s just colour if you do it and you decide it’s not working for you, change it back or change it up. Because the day will come when your hair is white and difficult to colour and you will long for those ‘colourful days’. Speaking from first hand experience here.
Regarding the question on finding your purpose you answered it beautifully. Sadly it took me a long time, to late 40’s early 50’s before I realised that there was not that “One Purpose” that often makes us feel like we are all on some sort of Karmic treasure hunt to find that when we do find it suddenly life becomes easier and fulfilling and that makes those of us that aren’t finding the right clues are somehow failing at life and all that rubbish that I at least have bought into during my life.
I know believe, as you said, that each phase/stage of our lives brings with it its own changes, challenges, experiences.
And so now I believe therefore there just has to be different “purposes”, lessons and chances for growth so it is doesn’t even make sense to me that it is even possible for there to be just one, seemingly elusive, magical purpose that will finally make sense to us.
Keep doing what you’re doing Jess and thank you for letting us watch you and learn from you as you change and evolve yourself and your channel. It is an honour and a joy 🥹 ❤from 🇦🇺
why do I feel so special that you answered my question about hair color 😂😂❤ i agree tho maybe you should try the reddish brown one day!! i think now a days its being called “ cowboy copper “ 😂
I love your makeup and lifestyle blogs. And it's why i continue to watch the channel. Not crazy about the churchy or kid stuff so if you could label that in the video so it could be skipped, that would be nice. Alot of us aren't into those things. Or just do separate videos when you want to talk about those things so we can choose? Food foe thought.
Along with what you said about not having just 1 purpose in life, your purpose can change in every season and it doesn’t have to be this monumental thing.. for me right now it’s being a good wife & mom & helpful friend. Last year it was worship leading and only God knows that next year I could add on something completely new and what currently feels out of my element!!
All that to say I think this is part of your purpose, I know that these talks are so inspiring and relatable for many! You are blessing a lot of people with your stories & knowledge! I’ve been here many years and I’ve been praying for your family and faith to flourish and it’s so cool to see that more and more come through in your videos💕🙏🏼
You should totally do the brownish red!! It would be gorgeous with your skin
I lost my 40 year old son in August 2023. He had a heart attack and I found him. I’ll never get over that. I struggle every day not to cry 😢.
Oh my… i am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. Could you share a little bit about him, if you dont mind? My favorite thing is talking about my best friend who passed away …
I’m so sorry. I’m 42 and lost my stepmom and mom last year. Every day is a struggle
I’m so sorry. I lost my 30 year old daughter in 2018. There’s nothing worse. Hugs.
@@lorievem There are no words to describe the suffering. I didn’t put this on for people to feel sorry for me but when Jessica was saying something it came to my attention that it was related to what she was talking about.
I'm so sorry.
I’m a child and family therapist and work with ages 0-18. I got my degree online and it was easy to do because I went at my own pace. It’s a very rewarding job but can be very exhausting and burn out is real
My son just fell asleep and I warmed up my lunch. This couldn't have been better timing!
“Your faith should be a journey.” Yep. We never get to the depth of it, there’s always more to learn in our relationship with God. That’s what I love about my now Catholic faith. So much deeper than the evangelicalism I grew up in. There’s a divine simplicity, but also a depth you could never reach the bottom of.
I did not now how much I needed this video until I watched it. Thank you for being so genuine ❤
I had just decided last night that after work and school we are gonna start taking walks in the afternoon. We really need to get out as a family and it’s getting warm enough to enjoy a walk
Would love a deep dive on your faith journey. I know it's such a personal thing, but I would love to hear more about that 😊
Lol.. yes! Oh sweet child.. Im in my 40s and still getting wiser.. definitely great decade for me.. come to terms that things are great and I don’t always to have hard if I don’t want too.. I do things my terms.. I have life experience that have taken me thus far.. and its great!
I watched your husband’s videos about your trip in Europe: amazing! It’s like a true documentary, I was impressed.
Also I could be your mother but for a 35 years old, you are rather smart with mature thoughts, just to say, not an irresponsible child anymore 😊
Jess, I recommended your channel to my 11-year-old SIL because you are trustworthy not just as beauty-tuber but as an example of a classy human being who wants to please God…and also because SIL has somehow loved family vlogs for years, lol. Last night she told me she LOVES your videos!! Thank you for being you. 😊
I’m 40 and I have a lot to say about life path and career choices. In my experience, all of my education led me towards certain opportunities and I realized certain strengths and interests I have while pursuing those opportunities. Those opportunities, people, and interests have led me to other opportunities I did not anticipate or ask for! All of this to say, life is a strand of connections and experiences that lead us from one thing to another. It would be boring to be doing the same thing all of the time! My undergraduate degree was in dance education, I later became a Montessori teacher, I became interested in pole dance, now I am a pole dance instructor, and I own my own studio now! The path has led me to be a business owner, and I never would have anticipated that!
I feel like I just had a great one-sided conversation with the older sister I never had 💛
I’m turning 30 in July and I’m seriously so excited. 🎉 Also, I’ve had a rough life, lots of trauma and whatnot, but I always remind myself “god will never give me more than I can handle” and it gives me so much comfort when I’m feeling beat down. ❤ Jess, I freaking love your channel and your videos. You’re such a light on this dark earth and I’m so thankful for you. 🩷
Oh I used to dye my hair red and I loved it! Was often mistaken as a natural red head because it looked great on me...but it's A LOT of maintenenance. I gave it up after two kids because I just don't have the time/money it takes to maintain anymore. Now I'm just rocking my natural dirty blonde/bronde hair and just highlights updated 2-3x year. I do miss it at times, but yeah. Just a forewarning on the level of maintenance required for red hair!
Edited to add: Another thing I think people need to think about when they are discussing whether or not to have children is what would you do if something doesn't go typically with the pregnancy or with your child's development? I say this coming from experience. Both of my boys are on the Autism spectrum. I never thought about what would happen if my child didn't develop typically before having kids. Thank goodness we were in a place for me to become a SAHM because there is zero way I could've managed working and getting my children to all of the different evaluations, therapies and appointments! I'm defintely not trying to scare anyone out of having kids, but I think neurodivergencies are so much more common than anyone talks about with new parents!
As a 53 year old mother of two daughters and their 20s, and an elementary teacher of 31 years I cannot tell you how much I would love to relax in the evening, listening to a podcast about lifestyle and make up and just anything in general. I have been searching for something like that for a long time. Throw in a little spirituality and you have the making for one winning show!❤ until then I would love to see a video about how to get through the Easter holidays on a budget. That goes for make up, clothing for church and family, events, recipes, filling Easter baskets for children of all ages (yes my daughter still expect an Easter basket and they want them hidden on Easter morning! I will do that for as long as they desire!), etc. For those of us who don’t have an extended Easter break, they took some of ours to make up snow days, how do you revive yourself to make it until summer?
I have been watching you since the beginning of your youtube career and I have to say it is refreshing to hear you be open about your religion:) I myself am not religious but I am always intrigued when others share their beliefs:) Also, you would look great as a redhead!🥰🔥
So true on having kids. I had a son and he just passed 6 mths ago. Like you said we have gotten through tough times in life before, but I couldnt begin to know how I could get through this. Its the worst thing that has happened to me in my life. Its something that you can’t make it better. He was my everything and not having him here destroyed my soul and being. He was my only child. He was the light that kept me going. A child makes a big difference in our lives. They become a part of you.
Sending hugs. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I just can't imagine. ❤🙏
@@nolegirl2863 the worst pain I have endure in my life. Thanks for the comment. ❤
I love what you’ve said about religion and faith. I’ve never felt closer to my faith and god since letting go of what I was told religion and faith looked like or should look like! ❤
I love how you described faith and how it's a journey. That it isn't about all the other stuff it is about a relationship.
Oh my goodness the purpose of life and religion portion was honestly so helpful I never thought about it that way and you are so right! Thank you for this! ❤
I love your “oh sweet child “, I have read comments where people are older, I’m 66 and my younger years were the best. I was married for 23 years and then divorced. I remarried 4 years later and am coming up on my 20th anniversary. The second is my best! My first was when I had my 3 children (the best kiddo) Sorry didn’t mean to ramble.
As always I loved to hear about your faith journey. Thx for sharing. Tell my mid 20’s daughter how much more confident the 30’s can be❤🎉
I relate so much to the sentiment of "you got through all the hard things". Im 37 and a single Mom to a special needs kiddo. I have had to work so hard to get our life to this place of peace (its not perfect but we are doing so much better) and now its even better bc I was able to take all my years of my career to end up working along side my 2 sisters. Always growing and still facing challenges but I really feel the confidence of being comfortable in myself!
This spoke to me. As someone who is going through a tough season, your words brought comfort. We think that we can't keep going any longer or we can't make it and forget what we have already overcome...I'm also a believer in Christ, and I just hold on to His word.."I will not leave you or forsake you."
In your new series could you please cover PPD?❤ I went through it so badly and had to go through so much treatment to cope and remember watching your videos during it and being able to relate, didn’t make me feel alone! 🩷
I would also really love a video on becoming a mother/PPD. Recovering from it 5 month PP with my first and it really helps to know how others have gotten through it
Jess- when I was 35…. I know I wasn’t nearly as wise and poised and self-aware as you are! I’ve commented many times…… It’s just so enjoyable to watch your videos, and hear what you have to say. I look back at my 20s and 30s and definitely say “ oh dear sweet child” 😆 I am 54 years old and I feel like my 40s were great… but the last three or four years I’ve REALLY come into my own as far as confidence and wisdom and emotional intelligence…… Does anybody else feel that way?? That it’s taking you into your 50s to really feel like you’re fully blooming?
Love you, Jessica!!
If you become a therapist, I am immediately booking an appointment. ☺️☺️😁❤️
I've been a follower for a long time and all these lovely, intelligent, concise comments are so true. AND Tyler did do a spectacular job on the European videos. Finally. 😂 love you girl.
I'd love a video about parenthood! Personally i'm so afraid of pregnancy, with all the pain and body changes, etc
I am truly enjoying your getting real videos and how your channel has evolved over the years! You have a calming effect that helps me unwind thank you!
🙋♀️ hi, it’s me, still unsure whether I want kids or not lol but I do like your sentiment that most people will never look back and regret having children. I’m just terrified that having kids will alter the incredible relationship I have with my husband currently. But I don’t want to look back in 30 years and regret never having kids.
Your perfectionism video really got me thinking, too! I am an adult woman with adhd so I struggle with hyper focusing on my perfectionism. I can’t even put into words what it’s like to have a constant struggle in the neurodivergent brain. It can be so painful at times.
I believe that faith is not a denomination, it's not a religion, it's a relationship. Do I belong to a specific denomination, currently yes. Have I been in a different one over the years yes. Mind you, I'm almost 75 and I've had a deep relationship with the Lord since i've been a child. He is my all in all and I can't imagine my life without Him in it. I just don't hang my hat on any one specific denomination claiming it has all the answers. None of them do. Sorry just wanted to throw my two cents in. I pray you also find that deep abiding faith in your life. If you're not 100% now keep seeking and He will make it real for you.