Just got diagnosed at 34 and feeling so much relief… but also intense grief for my younger self. She was so anxious. She never felt good enough. Something was always ‘wrong’…no matter how many straight A’s she scraped together from over-functioning. Being young was exhausting, you couldn’t pay me to go back.
I’m also 34 and got diagnosed very recently, and there’s definitely a sense of what could have been and sadness for all the self hate and loathing for all of those years that could have been avoided if I had treatment earlier. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of the Chinese farmer, but that story has helped me several times in my life with accepting the past and realizing that not everything that seems negative ends up that way.
I was diagnosed in my 30s. I kind of subconsciously realized that there was a problem and spent a lot of time and effort overcorrecting this issue (i.e. obsessively putting my important things in a specific place and becoming irrationally angry if others moved these items or showing up 30-45 minutes early to work/events because I know I had a tendency to lose track of time). It made me feel so physically and mentally exhausted. Having medication has been a game-changer for me. I am now holding a high-functioning job that I would never have been able to do previously. I know that medication is controversial, but it has made a huge change in my life.
Found out at 66. The lightbulb was sudden and bright, and I realize how much ADHD has impacted my life. Spent decades in therapy trying to figure out what’s wrong with me. I feel free finally.
Thank you for mentioning the "falling asleep" symptom. This is only the second place I've found it mentioned and I feel it's a part of ADHD that can cause huge problems. I have felt my life slip away by constantly falling asleep doing boring tasks, not to mention the risk it poses when you're driving...
Thank you for this video. I’m 36 and I’ve been unpacking everything for the last 2.5 years, I was about to turn 34 when I first realized it might be ADHD. The sleepiness when bored is such a problem for me and I had no idea it wasn’t “normal” until recently. I feel like I’ve been living my life until now just trying to survive.
Coming to the realization that I probably have adhd was mind blowing. It explained a lifetime of weirdness. I’m 40 and I know I’ve always been different and I just thought I was eccentric and there’s nothing to be done about it. Knowing there’s a reason…hits me right in the feels 😢
I'm in my late 50s, diagnosed a few years ago now, and the grief was profound. Having real acceptance of myself and who I am, and an understanding of why I've made some of the decisions I've made, or acted in certain ways has been beneficial. I find routines hard, but I've found adding 1 new one to an existing one to be my way forward - people think they have no routines, but they do have some even if it's just "get out of bed, get clothes on" you can add something else to the end of that. One that has worked for me is to every morning put a load of laundry on - that way even if I forgot to put yesterdays in the dryer, today it will go in - no more stinky laundry. Getting the diagnosis has helped me realise I'm a Zebra, not a broken horse, as the saying goes. Finding solutions to the things you find hardest, that's difficult but well worth while :)
I am exactly like you sydney my executive function isnt the best but i been doing neurofeedback with mendi for 2 months now and i feel so much better i can focus more remember things more my ptsd depression and anxiety has improved you will be amazed by this new technology hope u feel better nad well soon❤❤❤ if u ever want to talk about it reach out to me ❤
Being diagnosed and having patience with myself has been the best part of the adhd journey IMO. ty for this video, I was diagnosed a few months ago and still am wrapping my brain around what adhd does to me ❤
Hi! You are so sweet thank you for making these videos! I hope you are having fun and enjoying the process because your knowledge is so valuable and important. Thank you for sharing it!
Summary of symptoms: 1. Hyperfocus and hyperfixation 2. Emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity 3. Forgetting details and making small errors 4. Out of sight, out of mind. Losing things. 5. Easily distracted and understimulated 6. Brain fog
The idea of having a log of where you have put your stuff is great! Sometimes I lose things because I put them in a place that I think is perfect for them, but never really use...
Wow, I didn't even consider the fact that I was constantly almost falling asleep at school, especially when the lighting was warm and the room was quiet, could be ADHD related.
Her cognitive specializations from early life are in verbal language processing such as hyperlexia, and the emotional and ethical brain networks (she is a feeler).
At age 67 I'm just learning about this. That a well presented video. Thank you, I learned a few things and relate to some of these same traits I see play out in my life.
Thank you for this video. I have been doing more self-conpassion but I still slip up and feel down but I know I will get better. I do wish my parents made an effort to understand what I am going through because I don't like forgetting what they tell me, I don't do things on purpose and I try to get a handle as best as I can.
I lost everything when I was in preschool and school. I lost my pens pencils coloring things my books my notepads everything and I had to constantly ask my mom to buy them.
I’m currently trying to find out what’s wrong with me. Doctors first thought my symptoms such as always falling asleep during classes a few minutes after it began, especially those who were not stimulating to me or I didn’t enjoy, so I went to see a neurologist, another doctor specialized with sleeping diseases but the results were all good and they made me understand that I might have attention’s issues. And now, after watching your video I relate so much to all of your symptoms! Do you also have brain fog while walking? I haven’t yet pass my driver license because of this but I sometimes completely disconnect while walking. I mean I can hear what people say even though it’s not completely understandable, I still can walk and sometimes talk but I have no idea where I’m going or what my surroundings looks like and it’s really scary! Thanks for your video it helps a lot!😊
The fact that she was able to get a diagnosis so young despite the gender bias speaks to your dedication as a parent. Good job! Now she won’t have to wait until she’s in her late 30’s and severely burnt out from never feeling good enough to finally get her answers…this will make such a huge difference for her! You are doing great!
Im 57yrs of age man and Im sure I have adhd Jve been misdiqgnosed qnd taken paxil for 31 yrs for depression, thankyou for the wonderful video tou are great 😊
Hii I make too many silly mistakes in math and sometimes in other subjects. I have no control on these mistakes what so ever and these mistakes aren't due to a lack of practice. I am also forgetful often times . I don't have these other symptoms though. Could i have add?
When I started watching this….it looks like you were crying before you started the video, and seems like you’re holding back tears. Around 1:46 and 1:56 like you tried to hold back crying. F
Just got diagnosed at 34 and feeling so much relief… but also intense grief for my younger self. She was so anxious. She never felt good enough. Something was always ‘wrong’…no matter how many straight A’s she scraped together from over-functioning. Being young was exhausting, you couldn’t pay me to go back.
I’m also 34 and got diagnosed very recently, and there’s definitely a sense of what could have been and sadness for all the self hate and loathing for all of those years that could have been avoided if I had treatment earlier. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of the Chinese farmer, but that story has helped me several times in my life with accepting the past and realizing that not everything that seems negative ends up that way.
Dual diagnosis of ASD and Combined ADHD two years ago at the tender age 42
I was diagnosed in my 30s. I kind of subconsciously realized that there was a problem and spent a lot of time and effort overcorrecting this issue (i.e. obsessively putting my important things in a specific place and becoming irrationally angry if others moved these items or showing up 30-45 minutes early to work/events because I know I had a tendency to lose track of time). It made me feel so physically and mentally exhausted. Having medication has been a game-changer for me. I am now holding a high-functioning job that I would never have been able to do previously. I know that medication is controversial, but it has made a huge change in my life.
Found out at 66. The lightbulb was sudden and bright, and I realize how much ADHD has impacted my life. Spent decades in therapy trying to figure out what’s wrong with me. I feel free finally.
So relatable and need more adhd women content! I loved that you encouraged self compassion and forgiveness.
Thank you for mentioning the "falling asleep" symptom. This is only the second place I've found it mentioned and I feel it's a part of ADHD that can cause huge problems. I have felt my life slip away by constantly falling asleep doing boring tasks, not to mention the risk it poses when you're driving...
Thank you for this video. I’m 36 and I’ve been unpacking everything for the last 2.5 years, I was about to turn 34 when I first realized it might be ADHD. The sleepiness when bored is such a problem for me and I had no idea it wasn’t “normal” until recently. I feel like I’ve been living my life until now just trying to survive.
Coming to the realization that I probably have adhd was mind blowing. It explained a lifetime of weirdness. I’m 40 and I know I’ve always been different and I just thought I was eccentric and there’s nothing to be done about it.
Knowing there’s a reason…hits me right in the feels 😢
@@MarcusWarcus40 My mom went through the exact same process… so many feelings to work through ❤️
I'm in my late 50s, diagnosed a few years ago now, and the grief was profound. Having real acceptance of myself and who I am, and an understanding of why I've made some of the decisions I've made, or acted in certain ways has been beneficial. I find routines hard, but I've found adding 1 new one to an existing one to be my way forward - people think they have no routines, but they do have some even if it's just "get out of bed, get clothes on" you can add something else to the end of that. One that has worked for me is to every morning put a load of laundry on - that way even if I forgot to put yesterdays in the dryer, today it will go in - no more stinky laundry. Getting the diagnosis has helped me realise I'm a Zebra, not a broken horse, as the saying goes. Finding solutions to the things you find hardest, that's difficult but well worth while :)
I am exactly like you sydney my executive function isnt the best but i been doing neurofeedback with mendi for 2 months now and i feel so much better i can focus more remember things more my ptsd depression and anxiety has improved you will be amazed by this new technology hope u feel better nad well soon❤❤❤ if u ever want to talk about it reach out to me ❤
The plot is built logically, well done
Being diagnosed and having patience with myself has been the best part of the adhd journey IMO. ty for this video, I was diagnosed a few months ago and still am wrapping my brain around what adhd does to me ❤
@@chillturtle4724 Patience is the hardest thing for me as well, everything takes time 💕💕
Hi! You are so sweet thank you for making these videos! I hope you are having fun and enjoying the process because your knowledge is so valuable and important. Thank you for sharing it!
@@halinearing2360 Thank you so much for the kind words, I’m glad you like them! 💓
Summary of symptoms:
1. Hyperfocus and hyperfixation
2. Emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity
3. Forgetting details and making small errors
4. Out of sight, out of mind. Losing things.
5. Easily distracted and understimulated
6. Brain fog
Multiple ticks
The idea of having a log of where you have put your stuff is great! Sometimes I lose things because I put them in a place that I think is perfect for them, but never really use...
thank you for this video! I'm in the process of being diagnosed and it is so relatable💌 much love xx
@@melaniemarienfeld9450 Thank you, I’m glad to hear it 🩷🩷 good luck!!
just got diagnosed at 23 so these videos are super helpful ❤
I’m glad they’re helping you! Best of luck on your journey ❤
Thank you for this. I’m currently in the process of my diagnosis after 25 plus years.
The signs are there
Wow, I didn't even consider the fact that I was constantly almost falling asleep at school, especially when the lighting was warm and the room was quiet, could be ADHD related.
Her cognitive specializations from early life are in verbal language processing such as hyperlexia, and the emotional and ethical brain networks (she is a feeler).
At age 67 I'm just learning about this. That a well presented video. Thank you, I learned a few things and relate to some of these same traits I see play out in my life.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. They are helpful. ❤
@@wouterverheyden2486 Of course, I’m glad you find them helpful 💞
Thank you for this video. I have been doing more self-conpassion but I still slip up and feel down but I know I will get better. I do wish my parents made an effort to understand what I am going through because I don't like forgetting what they tell me, I don't do things on purpose and I try to get a handle as best as I can.
I lost everything when I was in preschool and school. I lost my pens pencils coloring things my books my notepads everything and I had to constantly ask my mom to buy them.
I’m currently trying to find out what’s wrong with me. Doctors first thought my symptoms such as always falling asleep during classes a few minutes after it began, especially those who were not stimulating to me or I didn’t enjoy, so I went to see a neurologist, another doctor specialized with sleeping diseases but the results were all good and they made me understand that I might have attention’s issues. And now, after watching your video I relate so much to all of your symptoms! Do you also have brain fog while walking? I haven’t yet pass my driver license because of this but I sometimes completely disconnect while walking. I mean I can hear what people say even though it’s not completely understandable, I still can walk and sometimes talk but I have no idea where I’m going or what my surroundings looks like and it’s really scary! Thanks for your video it helps a lot!😊
My adhd had to watch this at x2 speed..
Thank you for sharing ❤
Hey Sydney? It wasn't you, a lot of us out there... Best to you, you're not alone (I lose things sitting in my office chair- lol). xx from W.AU
My 14 yo daughter was diagnosed last year. She's in therapy, but I wish I knew ways to help her through all these symptoms.
The fact that she was able to get a diagnosis so young despite the gender bias speaks to your dedication as a parent. Good job! Now she won’t have to wait until she’s in her late 30’s and severely burnt out from never feeling good enough to finally get her answers…this will make such a huge difference for her! You are doing great!
@@emilyjgreenfieldabsolutely it will free her from the scars of being undiagnosed an entire lifetime
Im 57yrs of age man and Im sure I have adhd Jve been misdiqgnosed qnd taken paxil for 31 yrs for depression, thankyou for the wonderful video tou are great 😊
@@gerofiore9695 I’m glad this helped you, and good luck on your journey ☺️
Hii I make too many silly mistakes in math and sometimes in other subjects. I have no control on these mistakes what so ever and these mistakes aren't due to a lack of practice. I am also forgetful often times . I don't have these other symptoms though. Could i have add?
Poor girl. I will take care of you
When I started watching this….it looks like you were crying before you started the video, and seems like you’re holding back tears. Around 1:46 and 1:56 like you tried to hold back crying.
F
She's beautiful
Your video is wonderful! and your so beautiful too
@@strawterrycake Thank you so much! 😊
7 am is not conducive for adhd brain we are night owls
Good girl. Blessings. Cute and precious