I heard a statement years ago, if you do not work on your problems (issues), no matter where you go or what relationship you get into the problems/ issues still exists
It is hell trying to get someone to see that. No matter what it is its ultimately up to them and sucks because you know how good potentionally they are, but they are too stubborn to work on themselves
@@IMPRESSIONISTS91 Yep you can never go into a relationship thinking the person is going to change or you are going to change the person. You have to love them for who they are off the bat, if they improve great but it’s ultimately up to them.
I've returned to attempting online dating, haven't been depressed in a while and thought I'd bring it on. One of the first profiles I saw said, "Poor boys need not apply." I wanted to send her a message, "But you aren't worth it."
I was with my child's mother and she refused to work. I came home from a 12 hour shift in the summer sun,heat, and humidity in south Florida, to see her laying on the couch watching T.V. eating ice cream didn't want to leave, but I had to.
Last year I asked a group in an online community "When your last relationship ended, who initiated the breakup and is there anything you would do differently?" Only women responded and every one of them said a variation of "I initiated the split. I wouldn't do anything differently because I didn't make any mistakes. He's to blame." Most of these women are partnered/married, they all claim to be happy. None of them have anything positive to say about men.
Loving one’s self and dealing with one’s problem first before bribing another person in and not having them try to fix your problems for you. This is what we all should learn from
When I got first married we got along good was happy she kept taking painkillers and when I couldn't afford to buy her prescription of 900 of them I didn't work hard enough and her having bipolar and a personality disorder didn't help any at all I try to save my marriage didn't work but I'm happy now been married for 16 years to my beautiful wife now❤❤❤
There's a doctor out there prescribing 900 painkillers? A prescription is usually good for a month. 30 days. That's 30 a day. She's lucky she didn't die from respiratory depression. That's why EMTs carry narcan these days. And I bet she took a healthy amount of stool softeners, because opioids really bind you up.
You ever known a woman, where you could one hundred new friends with- but not be ‘friend zoned’ ? That’s you, Roma. Bless you and blunt you. I smoke with you every damn video
Honestly I feel like in most relationships if you’re feeling unappreciated you should look at yourself and see if you’re really appreciating your man. You get what you give.
I asked...I got told to shut up about it and called obsessed for asking what I did wrong. Watched as everyone who I ever considered a friend started going to her side and the ones on my side stayed silent the entire time letting injustice happen.
What happened after that? Did you cut off the ones who stayed silent, because the fact they did nothing really shows their loyalty. How did you move on?
You hear the same thing from these women when they talk about their ex-boyfriends. They were all narcissists, they were all toxic, they were all abusive. Really all of them? Every single one? That tells me all I need to know about her and who those terms actually describe.
Roma, thank you for being here for us guys going through domestic violence, as I am currently dealing with the police about my ex who is saying I was verbally aggressive when I was stating my point now she's gone and started to cry wolf on inst while I've done nothing but worked every day since and I'm not sure what I'm going to. Do
Being with your other half is a lifetime of work for both of you but it's worth it. Your not always goina be happy, you'll have unseen hurdles to jump and you have signed up for one hell of a rollercoaster ride but it's alll worth it waking up by the one who loves you 😊. 2 decades and counting.
I get told all the time I’m not putting in a good enough effort when I work every day, have two kids to chase around and trying to have somewhat of a life
I'm 63 and have been married twice, did the internet dating thing and had numerous relationships. There never seems to be a 50/50 aspect to a relationship. There is always a giver and there is always a taker. Don't get me wrong girls, I think most guys are dogs and are never satisfied with who they have. My issue with most women I meet is that they are ME Monsters. I never hear them talk about us as the relationship but it's about them. Now that I'm older, all women seem to want is money. True love is rare. If you have it, fight to keep it with all your might.
Being a girls girl and a true friend means sometimes saying things the other person may not want to hear. But you'll tell them the truth knowing you may get shot down for it to begin with, knowing it will help them in the long run. Real friends aren't yes people.
For me it was my fault I shouldn't have let my severe depression take over I should have talked to my ex-wife more and should have gotten help for my depression and listen to ex-wife more but I didn't and she ended up walking out on me if I go back and change it I would all I can do now is move on it was 14 years ago and now I'm much older and a lot more wise back then I was a kid and now I'm with a great girl
Thing is I have broken up with my "wife" and got back together many times(been with her for 18y now).... I can't say it was just me who needed to work on myself but she also said that she was going to try to work on herself as well. To be honest there were times I didn't want to go back to her however during those break-ups the woman that I spent time with just didn't share as much compassion and me and the date I had would end in just a few days and before I knew it I went back to her and well we made up saying to try again with our relationship. And no I'd never "sleep" with a woman unless I had been with her for more than 3 years and I knew I'd be with her for more years to come.
"The proof is in the pudding": when relationships between men and women end early in the relationship, women usually leave the men wondering "what happened? I don't have a clue why she broke up with me, and she never really told me why". When relationships end after years, it's like there isn't enough blame in the world that can be heaped on the men; so much so that you have to kind of wonder how much of it is real.
I’m nearly fifty and I’ve been with the same woman since I was fifteen! And while I adore my wife and am grateful for the children and happy years she’s given me, I’ve come to believe that monogamous relationships are pointless and subjugating! We should be open to partnering for purposes of procreation and raising children together, however limiting yourself and your partner to just each other seems counterintuitive to happiness!
My ex would always use that excuses, I'm not man enough, or I wouldn't of cheated if you asked me to marry you. It echoes like a bad dream, I'll never be good enough,I thought, until I realized that I just wanted to keep her safe from the lifestyle she wanted to live. You can't save everyone
@@rachaelford5525 yeah you can't stand that women are being held accountable so you mention men so people will stop talking about women. Every woman does that ''both genders'' crap to pretend that they agree while at the same time trying to hide the deflection.
Chloe, I proved alimony and child support are voluntary payments in January 2008. I went public in June 2008. You didn't start anything...you have done nothing for men.
what i hate about feminists in todays relationships is that they never put in the work to fix any problems in the relationship. its always "if its not for you then its not for you". its a cheap cop out
on that note, rest assured MY marriage may have been longer and DEFINITELY more enjoyable if my ex actually took the time to complement my renos and property improvements (leading to FOUR easy sales) instead of BITCH BITH BITCH BITCH about the cost of for instance, WIRING THE GARAGE MYSELF AFTER IT WAS ADDED ON.
I’m nearly fifty and I’ve been with the same woman since I was fifteen! And while I adore my wife and am grateful for the children and happy years she’s given me, I’ve come to believe that monogamous relationships are pointless and subjugating! We should be open to partnering for purposes of procreation and raising children together, however limiting yourself and your partner to just each other seems counterintuitive to happiness!
I heard a statement years ago, if you do not work on your problems (issues), no matter where you go or what relationship you get into the problems/ issues still exists
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It is hell trying to get someone to see that. No matter what it is its ultimately up to them and sucks because you know how good potentionally they are, but they are too stubborn to work on themselves
@@IMPRESSIONISTS91 Yep you can never go into a relationship thinking the person is going to change or you are going to change the person. You have to love them for who they are off the bat, if they improve great but it’s ultimately up to them.
“You always have to deal with yourself,” is the way I heard it.
Ok dr seus
Roma's right, but, women who need to hear, and, watch this clip .... they won't do it ! ... 😂😂😂
Lol for real though!! But I do hope for best that this division can change.
Because they DON'T CARE
I've returned to attempting online dating, haven't been depressed in a while and thought I'd bring it on. One of the first profiles I saw said, "Poor boys need not apply." I wanted to send her a message, "But you aren't worth it."
Honestly your one of the few women in my life that has their head on straight glad your speaking up and keeping us all honest.
Lol. Yeah...
I was with my child's mother and she refused to work. I came home from a 12 hour shift in the summer sun,heat, and humidity in south Florida, to see her laying on the couch watching T.V. eating ice cream didn't want to leave, but I had to.
I know women in their 40s who never ask these questions of themselves.
It’s always the guys fault.
I’ve changed a lot for my marriage. Gave up unhealthy things. So did he. 21 years and going strong 💪
Last year I asked a group in an online community "When your last relationship ended, who initiated the breakup and is there anything you would do differently?"
Only women responded and every one of them said a variation of "I initiated the split. I wouldn't do anything differently because I didn't make any mistakes. He's to blame."
Most of these women are partnered/married, they all claim to be happy. None of them have anything positive to say about men.
It's sad to say that truly stupid and/or prideful people can't see that they are afflicted with their respective condition.
It's not always the man's fault for an opposite-sex relationship going bad. Some women need to be more accountable for their parts.
Kicking the door intro will never get old😂🙂↕️
She didn't do that this time?
@@kingzach74it's a bot
Another spot-on video. Thanks Chloe! ❤
That guy was spouting facts just like Chloe is. ;)
Loving one’s self and dealing with one’s problem first before bribing another person in and not having them try to fix your problems for you. This is what we all should learn from
I love the way she thinks. ❤
When I got first married we got along good was happy she kept taking painkillers and when I couldn't afford to buy her prescription of 900 of them I didn't work hard enough and her having bipolar and a personality disorder didn't help any at all I try to save my marriage didn't work but I'm happy now been married for 16 years to my beautiful wife now❤❤❤
There's a doctor out there prescribing 900 painkillers? A prescription is usually good for a month. 30 days. That's 30 a day. She's lucky she didn't die from respiratory depression. That's why EMTs carry narcan these days. And I bet she took a healthy amount of stool softeners, because opioids really bind you up.
Until you can truly and properly love yourself it’s impossible for you to properly and truly love another.
You have no idea how insane your timing is for me rn
Haha asking modern women to take accountability that’s a funny one I like it I needed that laugh
You ever known a woman, where you could one hundred new friends with- but not be ‘friend zoned’ ?
That’s you, Roma. Bless you and blunt you. I smoke with you every damn video
Honestly I feel like in most relationships if you’re feeling unappreciated you should look at yourself and see if you’re really appreciating your man. You get what you give.
I asked...I got told to shut up about it and called obsessed for asking what I did wrong. Watched as everyone who I ever considered a friend started going to her side and the ones on my side stayed silent the entire time letting injustice happen.
What happened after that?
Did you cut off the ones who stayed silent, because the fact they did nothing really shows their loyalty.
How did you move on?
That sucks, man.
You hear the same thing from these women when they talk about their ex-boyfriends. They were all narcissists, they were all toxic, they were all abusive. Really all of them? Every single one? That tells me all I need to know about her and who those terms actually describe.
Right, let's ask all their ex boyfriends and see what they would say.
Accept people as they are, but place them where they belong
@FredCarpenter-vv9ld true
As a former peer support specialist one of our tasks is mutuality and like it's described, if it doesn't work for one person it can't work for both.
No man ever left a woman that kept him well fed. Metabolic and sexually.
I swear I Love this lady!!😂❤🫶
Roma, thank you for being here for us guys going through domestic violence, as I am currently dealing with the police about my ex who is saying I was verbally aggressive when I was stating my point now she's gone and started to cry wolf on inst while I've done nothing but worked every day since and I'm not sure what I'm going to. Do
Being with your other half is a lifetime of work for both of you but it's worth it. Your not always goina be happy, you'll have unseen hurdles to jump and you have signed up for one hell of a rollercoaster ride but it's alll worth it waking up by the one who loves you 😊. 2 decades and counting.
FACT'S 💪🏽💯🥃
Immaturity is one of the biggest (that I've seen) boat anchors of relationships.
I get told all the time I’m not putting in a good enough effort when I work every day, have two kids to chase around and trying to have somewhat of a life
Your such a good person.....
What about "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best."?
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Except some people are always at their worst and don't care about anyone but theirselves...
I'm 63 and have been married twice, did the internet dating thing and had numerous relationships. There never seems to be a 50/50 aspect to a relationship. There is always a giver and there is always a taker. Don't get me wrong girls, I think most guys are dogs and are never satisfied with who they have. My issue with most women I meet is that they are ME Monsters. I never hear them talk about us as the relationship but it's about them. Now that I'm older, all women seem to want is money. True love is rare. If you have it, fight to keep it with all your might.
Being a girls girl and a true friend means sometimes saying things the other person may not want to hear. But you'll tell them the truth knowing you may get shot down for it to begin with, knowing it will help them in the long run. Real friends aren't yes people.
"Call them out Mua Dib...call them out!!" 🥳 🌹❤️🌹🌹💋🌹💞
Yeah, what you are talking about is introspective and accountability. Most women don't do that, just like paying for dates and making the first move.
The most beautiful thing that a person can be is to be vulnerable.that is where we grow and get kicked in the Ass at the same time.❤😂😊
For me it was my fault I shouldn't have let my severe depression take over I should have talked to my ex-wife more and should have gotten help for my depression and listen to ex-wife more but I didn't and she ended up walking out on me if I go back and change it I would all I can do now is move on it was 14 years ago and now I'm much older and a lot more wise back then I was a kid and now I'm with a great girl
Thing is I have broken up with my "wife" and got back together many times(been with her for 18y now).... I can't say it was just me who needed to work on myself but she also said that she was going to try to work on herself as well. To be honest there were times I didn't want to go back to her however during those break-ups the woman that I spent time with just didn't share as much compassion and me and the date I had would end in just a few days and before I knew it I went back to her and well we made up saying to try again with our relationship. And no I'd never "sleep" with a woman unless I had been with her for more than 3 years and I knew I'd be with her for more years to come.
"The proof is in the pudding": when relationships between men and women end early in the relationship, women usually leave the men wondering "what happened? I don't have a clue why she broke up with me, and she never really told me why". When relationships end after years, it's like there isn't enough blame in the world that can be heaped on the men; so much so that you have to kind of wonder how much of it is real.
Amen!
I’m nearly fifty and I’ve been with the same woman since I was fifteen! And while I adore my wife and am grateful for the children and happy years she’s given me, I’ve come to believe that monogamous relationships are pointless and subjugating! We should be open to partnering for purposes of procreation and raising children together, however limiting yourself and your partner to just each other seems counterintuitive to happiness!
Thanks Chloe!
My ex would always use that excuses, I'm not man enough, or I wouldn't of cheated if you asked me to marry you. It echoes like a bad dream, I'll never be good enough,I thought, until I realized that I just wanted to keep her safe from the lifestyle she wanted to live. You can't save everyone
Roma for President . . .
Honestly you ladies need to start dating them bears in the woods. Because that's the only thing that's going to go out with you. 😂😂😂😂😂
A lot of women need to watch Roma's clips.
You are very correct
My girlfriend needs this.
I just want to talk about how i was bullied until almost killing my self by 2 girls non the less, its been a few months since then and i feel betted
They really dont give as much effort as us.
And yet most women won't fucking listen because it's easier to be in an echo chamber
Preach
Woman won't change ask me after 2 divorces 24 years and 12 years and 2 failed relationships I decided to stay single I am 68 young now
PREACH!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Thanks beautiful.
Anyone should work on themselevs whatever gender
this is another problem with women,instead of accepting criticism they deflect it
@@Victhemighty lol by making a true statement?
@@rachaelford5525 yeah you can't stand that women are being held accountable so you mention men so people will stop talking about women.
Every woman does that ''both genders'' crap to pretend that they agree while at the same time trying to hide the deflection.
@@Victhemighty lol that's not true at all
@@Victhemighty also I didn't mention men. I said everyone. That includes women. So your comment doesn't even make sense
We just combated human abduction in a 90 day siege in cali
The worst thing about most women is that they want us to change but they are unwilling to tell us wtf we did wrong 🤦🤦
I learned not to take advice from someone that is trying to give you a lesson when they don't even have what they are teaching you .......@
Facts
Chloe, I proved alimony and child support are voluntary payments in January 2008. I went public in June 2008. You didn't start anything...you have done nothing for men.
Yep
She should ask: Am I a "women" or a "woman"?
what i hate about feminists in todays relationships is that they never put in the work to fix any problems in the relationship. its always "if its not for you then its not for you". its a cheap cop out
You're getting so strong. Biblical love. Let truth find you.
on that note, rest assured MY marriage may have been longer and DEFINITELY more enjoyable if my ex actually
took
the
time
to complement my renos and property improvements (leading to FOUR easy sales) instead of
BITCH BITH BITCH BITCH about the cost of for instance, WIRING THE GARAGE MYSELF AFTER IT WAS ADDED ON.
Roma Amy you and I need a conversation about everything.
He canteen talk right
💯💯💯💯
Why didnt he change for me and how much can I get from him now?
❤❤
-hhhhhhhhhhh-hhhhhhhhh
Ty for everything you are doing Roma 🥰🥰
Pick me
How old are you?
I’m nearly fifty and I’ve been with the same woman since I was fifteen! And while I adore my wife and am grateful for the children and happy years she’s given me, I’ve come to believe that monogamous relationships are pointless and subjugating! We should be open to partnering for purposes of procreation and raising children together, however limiting yourself and your partner to just each other seems counterintuitive to happiness!