Вставка
- Опубліковано 11 бер 2024
- Father Josiah Trenham
Event Announcement: Sacred Arts Conference
Patristic Nectar is pleased to announce The Sacred Arts Conference featuring speakers Jonathan Pageau and Fr. Maximos Constas . The conference will take place from March 29-31, 2024. Secure your spot at www.conference.patristicnectar.org for more details.
Support Our Ministry
To make a tax-deductible donation, text “PNP” to 53-555.
Purchase "Enduring Love: Laying Christian Foundations for Marriage" at your preferred bookseller:
Amazon: www.amazon.com/Enduring-Love-Christian-Foundations-Marriage/dp/1735011657
Barnes & Noble: www.barnesandnoble.com/w/enduring-love-josiah-trenham/1144547044?ean=9781735011653#
Explore merchandise at patristic-nectar.mybigcommerce.com.
Visit / @patristicnectarkids for Patristic Nectar Kids content.
Enduring Love: Laying the Christian Foundations for Marriage
Patristic Nectar Publications presents a new resource by Fr. Josiah Trenham. This workbook, designed for engaged and married couples, singles aspiring to wed, and priests, includes 10 chapters on various topics, discussion questions, scenarios, and space for notes.
Foreword by Bishop Basil (Essey)
ISBN# 978-1735011653
Chapters:
God's Design for Marriage
Love and Expectations
Friendship and Goals
Communication and Conflict
Sex and Romance
Children and Parenting
Roles and Responsibilities
Finances
Spiritual Life
Enduring to the End
Appendix - The Orthodox Rite of Marriage
Newest Lecture Series: "The Holy Trinity" by Fr. Thomas Hopko
Explore the lecture series for free here. The series covers various topics related to the Holy Trinity.
Lecture Titles:
Jesus and the One God
How Does Jesus Relate to God?
Who Do People Say That I Am? (Part 1)
Who Do People Say That I Am? (Part 2)
Understanding Our Being in Regards to the Holy Trinity.
The Trinity and the Filioque.
Human Life in Imitation of God.
Recapitulation.
Living the Divine Life in This World.
If You Want to Be Saved.
Iconography Regarding the Trinity.
Connect with Patristic Nectar
Website: www.PatristicNectar.org
Instagram: bit.ly/3kmupqE
Facebook: bit.ly/33Bzmpx
Twitter: bit.ly/3igrH4f
Support Patristic Nectar
Spread the Word: Share content with family and friends.
Make a Donation: patristicnectar.org/donations.
Pray For Us: Include Patristic Nectar in your prayers for strength, help, and divine guidance.
Hashtags:
#orthodoxchristianity #jesus #christianity #patristicnectarpublications #patristicnectar #frjosiahtrenham #josiahtrenham #orthodoxchristianity #orthodoxchristian #christianity #church #jesus #jesuschrist #god #shorts #salvation #youtubeshorts #ytshorts #priest #ministry #pastor #identity #internet #christianity #churchfathers #saints #protestant #conscience #holyspirit #trinity #prayer
*The Sacred Arts Conference* featuring speakers *Jonathan Pageau* and *Fr. Maximos Constas* will take place from March 29-31, 2024. Secure your spot at www.conference.patristicnectar.org for more details.
Wish you could have given this conference to the conciliar catholic bishops, who gutted our Latin rite churches and replaced them with 1960s brick ugliness. And creepy art ...
How can you blindly repeat this stuff about the church ("glory is the church") when I've traveled the world and find it difficult to find a single church that isn't openly satanic (according to their own religion, even). The Vatican has a baphomet statue and the Pope preaches in a new building designed to be the shape of a snake's head for God's sake... Ridiculous. To say something more on topic, I don't pay attention to DINKs.
You said:"One of the greatest Investments that any couple can make is the investment in conceiving and bearing and raising children to the glory of God..." And to be fair DINKs are exactly one of the types that would not raise their children this way, if they had them.
I will pray that the Lord blesses you many children. Your cup runneth over is the goal.
My wife and I have been trying to have kids. Pray for us.
God have mercy and give you childrens
Praying for you broseph 🙏💯 May God bless your union with children
May St. Anna, the mother of the Theotokos intercede in your behalf. Panagia save you.
🙏🙏🙏
Adopt. Lol
My grandma used to say :"We used to have a house with 2 rooms and 10 people in it. Now you have a house with 10 rooms and 2 people in it! So, so sad!"
Yes, the bigger the houses the less people live in them. The smaller the houses the more people living in them. It’s really an upside down world.
No "middle class" family has a 10 bedroom house today.
Did he say middle class. The elite of the country have the smallest amount of children. They are also often much richer than in latter times, as wealth has concentrated at the top, to little purpose but evil as it happens, as these people are a source of funding for the ngo sector.
Nobody said bedrooms. @@BM_100
@@vorynrosethorn903where does their money go when they die?
I dont have any kids or a husband, but I've been taking care of my cousins son for 7 years. Finally, I'm going to court to get custody. Please play for me and the child. His name is James.🙏🏽
Remember that kids need fathers. And also remember to keep the Sabbath, sister. God bless.
@warpath7824 They need good fathers who live by example. Unfortunately, this child doesn't have a good father or a good mother.
Good luck sister ❤️
@@milou22rh thank you 😊
Why don't you get married?
I'm a SINK.
Single income, no kids. Also I'm just single.
💔
Is not that we are sinks is that we stink brother
You are single period 😂
@@liquidh5226 What a useless, hollow comment... Single people with kids exist
the majority of women naturally seek the best 10% of men for child rearing. Upward of 80% of men will not attract a mate. This is the natural order. We are not all meant to have children and many men make the mistake of seeking out a woman this is a big mistake because it is unnatural and will often end in a disastrous divorce when the woman tree branches which is in a woman's nature to seek out the best genes. Don't chase women be content with the life God provides and you will be happy.
I would be driven insane in this modern era if not for Orthodoxy.
Becoming reacquainted with my Orthodox Christian roots has brought me back to sanity. I'm a cradle Orthodox but between the popular culture, college, etc., I let my brains get scrambled. I struggled with depression and anxiety on my own. The Orthodox church, something I took for granted because Sundays were for running 5Ks or brunching with friends, became my hospital. I wish everyone the peace that can only be found through Jesus Christ.
@@cathywithac3793
I highly respect the Orthodox Church. I was born Catholic, strayed in my teens and returned in the second half of my twenties. Their traditions and techniques help me immensely. I considered conversion, but I fear that in a sense that would be a kind of betrayal. The Catholic Church was sufficient for my fathers and their fathers and my parents baptized me within it. The Lord placed me here for a reason, so I will stand.
@My10thAccount Betrayal for whom? Catholic church has betrayed the core values of Christianity and teachings of Jesus Christ- the very existence of the bank of Vatican (!!!😮) says it all...! You are only obliged to your soul and God, noone else!!
I’m in my 70s and busted up my knee. All my grown kids called or came by to see if I needed anything. Glad I took the time to be a good father while they were growing up. Love when the grand kids come over.
Thank you for being awesome
I’m in a DINK marriage. I was born with half a uterus, so I know God had a different plan for me. I feel at peace with that. Sometimes I worry I’ve missed out but I remind myself that He knows the plans He has for me and they are good m. He is good and so kind. I have loads of time and a strong call to work with the elderly. Even at church I love to help them and just be a support in that part of the body
You have a special calling, we are all different. Father is speaking of those that choose this life out of selfish gain not our circumstances . You are a blessing 🙌 🙏
@@Oilofmercy thanks for the encouragement
You can always adapt a kid. This will make God happy too ❤
I mean this is all a fry-cry from " We've chosen to end our bloodline so we can eat Cheetos".
@@Oilofmercy This priest is very confused on this issue due to his protestant background.
1 income, 5 kids and feel so blessed. Unfortunately lost a precious baby due to ectopic pregnancy yesterday. Praying God gives us more. I will never regret having children.
God bless your family!
@@posttenebraslux7571 thank you!
Really not even a tiny regret?
Lifting you up in prayer for you loss.
@@twainalex996pregnant with our 6th and no regrets. Our life has only gotten richer.
Former DINK here; glad I left that sad life behind. We love every moment with our little guy, the joy is something a DINK cannot understand so we must pray for them.
Expecting child #4 now, due in November. Glory to God!
awesome. I have 3 sons and 2 daughters. It gets easier they more you have. Don't expect them to be with you for the whole of your life. I don't hear from them any more. They don't hang around for long so enjoy the times you have with them.
Congratulations- how wonderful!🙏🏼❤️
Wonderful 🎉
Bless you I just had my 4th child this friday!!!!
God bless your family
In this life, having children is the greatest blessing one can ever receive. ❤
A few years ago when I began my new profession, I was expecting my first child. My peer colleagues in the office one day were chatting together. Each one of them shared reasons why they were either not ready or did not want to bring children into the world. I was the solitary person to share with them the meaning and value of bringing children into the world.
Almost 5 years later, and now with three children of my own, my other peers on my current project team at work are either married or have “partners,” but no children. While do not know all the reasons for them not having children, what a sad future to live without posterity. I hope someday they will.
People do what they want. It really doesn't matter what you say. But they will take notice of you if your actions display that your life has meaning and purpose and you are happy. When you come to work everyday and can smile no matter how bad things are in your life then people will ask what drugs you are on.
Childlessness is the last straw that will destroy our societies
They followed the lead of that quietly miserable intelligencia that destroys the middle class by destroying themselves first. As a man of God, we lead by example first, and instruction second. Let the fruits of your labor speak for themselves.
I agree with you. I feel sad that i became unwell and was never able to have kids. My husband left me as he wanted kid's. What a privilege and joy it is to celebrate life and have kids. . I've been alone for 20 years now still unwell with little help and no family. He sustains me. He's all in all. Glory to God.
Prayers to you, may God's prosperity be with you🩵
May the Lord bless, guide, & save u & us all!
@@genevieverose1234 thank you 😊
God bless you
A marriage is still a marriage regardless of infertility...thats horrible
When I clicked on this video, before it played, an ad played promoting DINKS. Lord have mercy.
Sounds about right. YT knows what it's doing. When I listen to the bible on YT my adds are typically for laxatives or something. Its grotesque.
Yes that is a major point, it is becoming obvious that these are part of a very deliberate policy of ethic replacement, it's been policy for decades, but now the propaganda is becoming explicit. In Europe it is now only denied with repression, and they boast where they think people aren't watching.
Brave Browser + UBlock Origin + Adblock
The video start with that ad, he is showing how prevalent the movement is.
Trends like these break my heart. My wife and I are unable to have children and would love nothing more than to have even just 1. So sad.
why? most children just end up going to hell
@@eg4848well done
@@eg4848 Why would you say such a horrible thing? What prompted you to type this comment? Why?
Think about adopting one, brother. Talk to your preist about it
@@eg4848weird comment
My girlfriend and I need prayers... We want to get married but we have financial difficulties, and the economic system in our country (Brazil) is designed to make Christian standards difficult... If only it were just a matter of choice... It would be It's so good to just choose "we want to get married and we want to have as many children as God wills", but at the moment we can't make that choice because we depend on external circumstances... Please pray for us so that God can grant us a miracle!
May god be with you my brother I'm from Greece and i can understand you
@@theodore6288 How is the situation there?
What’s stopping you? You don’t have to have a big ceremony, just go to the church and ask your priest. Whether or not the State recognizes your marriage or if you have a party is irrelevant. Get married now if you’re ready and celebrate it later.
@@mattthetrucker5585 do you know that in some countries even in parishes you have to pay fees to get married, fees for baptism certificate, pay to sacristan, flowers and etc...
@@mattthetrucker5585 When I say "financial problems getting married" it's not just about the ceremony itself, but everything that involves family life... Rent or real estate financing, monthly market purchases, electricity, water, etc... emergency funds , looking for a way to leave the wife at home taking care of the home and the children, etc... But with only one income here in Brazil it is very difficult (as in many parts of the world) and we would not like to live a life where two work outside the home all day, while their children are cared for by strangers outside the home.
Heresy of “Living your best life”.
More like not realizing what your best life actually can be.
That moment when on your deathbed alone and miserable and your plane tickets and the boat you have can't help deal with the emptiness inside
Nevertheless,we must pray for these people
@@welp5970 Parents die alone too. All the time. Everyone does.
@@KK-sv7pcBut not miserably.
@@dquzmanovicthat’s not true at all
Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,
I've been living for so long as a SINK myself, even though I heartily do not condone such a lifestyle. Why am I single? My own hubris. It's only recently that I've come to the realization of the full extent of my sin. It took me five years of going to church to do that. My sins are many. Yet, I do want to get married, I do want to have children. I will be turning 40 soon. If anyone here sees fit, please pray for me, David, a sinful Orthodox brother from Serbia. Even one prayer will be enough.
May St. Simeon help you brother!
@@BodilessVoice Thank you, dear brother!
@@eristaviserbiaGod bless you. My wife is 42 and I'm 46 years of age and we have no kids. We are married since '21 but no children have come. St.John of Kronstadt interceed for us. ☦️🙏
theses' videos are part of the reason for my conversion to Orthodoxy.
Dinks should lose the right to vote as they have no stake in the future.
They even have the right to vot what the others should do with their kids...
"Caesar once, seeing some wealthy strangers at Rome, carrying up and down with them in their arms and bosoms young puppy-dogs and monkeys, embracing and making much of them, took occasion not unnaturally to ask whether the women in their country were not used to bear children; by that prince-like reprimand gravely reflecting upon persons who spend and lavish upon brute beasts that affection and kindness which nature has implanted in us to be bestowed on those of our own kind." - Plutarch
This is one of my favorite Plutarch quotes.
Puppies and monkeys deserve affection and kindness too! Why would we not give it to them? Loving animals and loving children are not mutually exclusive! Why would it have to be one or the other? At the end of the day, love is the only thing that you can give to everyone and for ever and never run out!!!
@@om526 Spoken like a true brainwashed feminist.
@@ElonMuskrat-my8jy Replied like a real braindead phallocrat.
I worked at a bank as a teller when I was going through University. It was in a retirement populated area. I couldn't count the number of eldery who never had children who told me they made the biggest mistake in their life not having children, and to make sure I didn't follow their choices. Now I have 3 children and occasionally go to Father Josiahs church. (I do need to go regularly and become a member)
Yes you do! 😊
i am in the choir at St. Andrews, always happy to see returning faces 😊
I’m surprised this video missed the main reason people don’t have kids-all of their own childhood trauma. It’s directly related. We see broken marriages. We experience the extreme pain from brokenness, from years of generational cycles, and deep within us we reject motherhood and fatherhood. As children, we play house and hold baby dolls and desire babies until we are damaged. It is a spirit born from a deep-seated pain, though of course selfish and nourished by the culture. I myself know it well. Wanted nothing to do with motherhood before I knew Christ. Directly related to pain from my mother, and from my parents awful marriage. God restored me to have that desire again. I recognize it everywhere now.
@OrthodoxChristianArticles
Thank you for sharing this insight. Once you see this pattern, it's hard to unsee it right? Part of the being traumatized is being unaware of how traumatized you are, especially when you surround yourself with others who have been similarly traumatized. This tends to happen unconsciously. I have also had a similar journey with motherhood due to childhood trauma. The Lord has been so merciful and healed my heart in time for me to have a child. The unhealed trauma led me to become a mother in my late 30s, I almost missed the boat. Being a mother is an absolute gift and I pray for those who are avoiding motherhood/fatherhood because of childhood trauma to seek the Lord and counselling. It is possible to heal, I am a testament to that :)
Absolutely, not all, but most people who have opted out of parenthood come from broken households.
then why do they constantly deny it when we point it out? They claim its their uninfluenced choice
People must be healed from childhood or previous relationship trauma before even being in a relationship.
There's no point being in a relationship if it will not lead to marriage and there's no point being married if it's not open to procreation.
When I was a teenager, I didn't want to be in a relationship because my atheist father is disloyal, lusty, and greedy, he broke our beautiful family, that's why I did not start dating until I worked on myself and healed completely.
I picked a Christian man who is loyal and loves family and children.
@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot Because it hurts. It is their burden to carry.
Can’t imagine my life without my kids.
they grow up and leave the nest very quickly make sure you invest in yourself as well as your kids there is no guarantee they will be in your life for the whole of your life
@@sshields2173it doesn't matter, raising children is an act of selflessness, it's not for ourselves, it's for the Glory of
God. Don't invest in this life, invest in the Kingdom of God. This life and this world is nothing, the eternal Kingdom of God is everything. It's in heaven that you will get your reward, you only need to have faith and be selfless because that is how God made us, so that's what will bring true peace and happiness. God bless you! ❤
I have one son and another who is about to be born in the coming weeks.
I do not exaggerate when I say that having children is single handedly the best thing I have ever done in my life asides from getting married. The richness that he has brought into my life is incomparable and it is difficult to not be emotional when considering the greatness of the gift God has graciously granted to me and my wife.
Lord willing, we'll have more than two.
Congratulations!🙏🏼❤️
What gift? You and your wife engaged in the natural phenomena of reproduction.
My wife suffers with MS and mental health issues, so I am her caregiver. We didn't become "DINKs" on purpose. It was a matter of practicality.
Yeah. Similar here. Obviously he’s not covering every situation, which is why I think they should make that clear. it’s not a one size fits all in life. If that was the case, God would have every married woman become pregnant, which doesn’t happen at all. So, It’s not for everyone to have kids that’s very obvious. And even scripture talks about this too. I don’t like when people cherry pick scriptures. People need to learn to be content and make the best of every situation in life whether is having kids or not having kids, simple.
This video is about our call to have children and people actively choosing to forego that call out of selfishness. That is it. It is not meant to scorn those who do not have children due to medical challenges.
I’m a SILK in 2024. It’s unbelievably difficult, expensive, and exhausting. But children are wonderful.
What's a SILK?
Single Income Lots of Kids?
the majority of women naturally seek the best 10% of men for child rearing. Upward of 80% of men will not attract a mate. This is the natural order. We are not all meant to have children and many men make the mistake of seeking out a woman this is a big mistake because it is unnatural and will often end in a disastrous divorce when the woman tree branches which is in a woman's nature to seek out the best genes. Don't chase women be content with the life God provides and you will be happy.
That’s great! As long as you are happy. I’d have to disagree with some of this message too tho Bcz I’ve seen most people bring in kids or especially many kids in the world and can’t take care of them. This to me is also even more wrong. I was just using wisdom and responsibility by waiting to have kids until I can Actually afford to. Because I lived most of my life paycheck to paycheck, married late, and then wife couldn’t get pregnant anyway. I think these are all also signs.
But now ever since we’ve been wanting to have kids my wife is not able to have kids anyway, so oh well. It’s just not in the cards for everyone and people have to understand that too. So there’s many reasons it’s not so black-and-white cut and dry either. Obviously he’s talking about people who are purposely not having kids and then are boasting about it and about their money, so that’s totally different thing, which I can see..but that’s not the category I was in anyway.
@@Andel-1995 it doesn’t mean that it is necessarily smart or the smartest thing to do though.
As I said, there is important reasons to wait sometimes. To me and in our situation it seemed wiser to wait especially when I saw the alternative around me. Why have many kids when you are poor? That seems very counterintuitive and wrong. Also, Not everyone is made to even have kids and many can’t. So, people don’t think about all of that as there are different ramifications of things they just do things without thinking. And if people want to use scripture, Paul actually said it’s better not to be married, but to focus on Christ, so there’s that. I just get so Tired of people cherry picking or using scripture to back up their own agendas.. because it goes both ways. Scripture is actually clear that it’s better not to do that, which is exactly why many clergy especially are against that and many churches require them to be single, or celibate, just saying.
You also forgetting back in the old days it wasn’t like now. You could survive off of almost nothing back then. They didn’t have all of the bills and expenses like now, food was also organic and natural and you can grow it and eat your own food and so many other things. People Overlook so many things. I am a retired bishop now myself and didn’t marry until later in life anyway. So, there are many reasons, it’s really not a one size fits all. I don’t care what anyone says. Also my wife wasn’t able to have kids anyway and many other reasons. I’m fine with it, and it’s definitely not a sin.
The flipside of this selfish coin is both parents working and not truly being there for their children. The Uber Teen commercials absolutely break my heart. Showing all these parents too busy working to show up in their child's life. Lord have Mercy.
yep that was a big part of my experience. No wonder couples don't have children the financial burden these days is insane. And if you have kids the chances you'll be able to provide for them and have time to be with them are very small. You wouldn't build a house if you didn't have the money to buy the bricks. Similarly not everyone has the capacity to be a parent. Choose wisely.
And whats even worse, is they will spiritually and socially pressure you into having kids, but then disappear when you struggle because you followed their advice.
I despise people who have no intention of loving their neighbor by providing a support system to make the risk of having kids worth taking, but are then on the front lines of insulting those who don't have them like Josiah is. Its very sick and where the true selfishness is.
Easy for people who can afford a single income house to tell those who would be financially destroyed by losing half their income to childcare or a stay at home spouse that they should have kids. Out of touch to the highest degree.
Exactly why this video is full of lies.
These truly are troubling times when a priest is informing me about meme terms.
😨
Lmao
The concept remains the same regardless of the terms used. It makes sense to adress cultural trends in the language of the culture.
When I ask the young adults ages 20-40 why they don’t marry or have children the answer is either I am to selfish or the most common answer is I see no value in it. It breaks my heart. They don’t know what they are missing. We had little money all of our married life but enough to feed our children. We had four children and one passed away at three weeks. As hard as it was I loved being a mother. We had so much difficulty conceiving and every time another friend would get pregnant I would cry. I am so thankful God heard our prayers and when his time was right he granted us children. Injustice can’t imagine a life without them.
Yeah I also have heard "I am afraid my kid will inherit my depression or other mental issues." Which sounds fine on the surface but *anybody* with a modicum of mental health knowledge know mental health isn't so cut and dry and I see it as cowardly and a bit of self-loathing. Like you presume your bad DNA are the dominant plus wouldn't your depression be actually an ace in the hole *if* they have depression?
@@BoondockBronySome mental illness is genetic.
I live in London and there are DINKS everywhere... it's quite surreal
Fatherhood and Motherhood are no longer respected. Feminism has taught women the lie that they can be fulfilled by a career in the job market. Fathers are depicted as fools by the world and the majority of women don't respect men. It's a sure sign of the end of civilization and the return of Christ the King.
only among the indigenous white population
"London"
People who earn 80K a year can not afford to buy a 1 bedroom flat in London. How much money do you think one needs to get a mortgage on a house and to support wife and 5 children. Not to mention cost of childcare and the insane working hours, state of public schools, crime levels. It’s not a place to have a family unless you are a multimillionaire
@@hautecouture2228 Or on social housing.
My brother and his wife are intentional “DINKS.” They make over $200k a year and they are still the most miserable people I know.
Children is not going to fix that. People who dont want kids should not have them.
@@LemonJuice516 Living with accordance to God would fix that, for which children is of a natural consequence.
@@noiedward8847 We already have enough problems forcing people to live in a way they dont want is not the solution. Majority of people are not religious and Chrstians have no right to shove their way of life in others people throat. People need to accept Christian way of life not be forced into it.
@@LemonJuice516 we don't have a right, that's why we don't force our opinions on others. That's not Christ like. God isn't forceful and we are meant to be like Christ.
@@noiedward8847 You will be surprised how many people want to force religion on everyone and i am talking as a Christian. The reason we are in this mess is because religion didnt come naturally to people.
This reflection was encouraging. It's been heavy for us that our children have no cousins from either side. Yet, all of our siblings have dogs that they treat as good, or better, than a human. When we get together, they spend more time talking about their dogs than we do our children. Its a sad societal trend!
Its tragic that these people have been led to believe that life without children is something to be celebrated or that children are an unbearable burden. My children on good days or challenging ones are the light of my life. There is nothing that will bring a bigger smile on my face than my children, not even my adorable dog.
I’ve noticed that married couples I have known, who choose to not have kids, always have multiple pets. It illustrates their need to be maternal and paternal to something.
Or do we just like pets. I have had a pet since I was a toddler.
As a mother of 4 + one on the way my husband and I prefer being SILKS!
Single income lots of kids!
I'm not even gonna judge someone for not having children, because I'm a single and don't know if I'll ever reproduce. But proudly broadcasting "we're dinks!" is one of the cringiest things I've ever heard haha, and all of their reasonings glorify selfishness
the majority of women naturally seek the best 10% of men for child rearing. Upward of 80% of men will not attract a mate. This is the natural order. We are not all meant to have children and many men make the mistake of seeking out a woman this is a big mistake because it is unnatural and will often end in a disastrous divorce when the woman tree branches which is in a woman's nature to seek out the best genes. Don't chase women be content with the life God provides and you will be happy.
There's a big difference between won't and can't @@Andel-1995
@Andel-1995 Who did I judge? Have you confused me with the original commenter?
@@Andel-1995 We agree 🤝 Good on you for having standards, I know too many men who've latched onto the first female attention that comes their way; even when it's to their detriment.
Good luck out there 🙏
@ Andel; lol. So then how are you any different too??! 😂😂😂
I agree with you and his message overall tho BUT, it’s not always that easy and simple or cut and dry. I’m in a similar boat too. So apparently, it’s not “God’s will” for everyone to have kids obviously
I wasnt sure about kids at first but i can say my daughter is a blessing in my life, the highlight of my day and the best thing i have ever done. I wish i had her sooner in life.❤
I gotta say my dog is the best creature in my life at the moment. I had some fun times with my children while they were with me. Kids grow up and leave the nest they won't necessarily be with you forever.
@sshields2173 Sorry your kids no longer take the time to visit or talk to you. Must be a sad life when you value a dog over your own offspring.
@@Silphwave woah no need to be so mean hes just saying that now that his kids are gone his dog is the best friend. There nothing bad about that. We dont know his life where his kids are or if theyre even alive. Please Dont fall into the devils tricks of being judgemental over the internet. We need to do better.
@@sshields2173 yea i totally understand that. A dog is Mans best friend right? Its a very bitter and sweet thing to be a parent. My girl is 1 so i have a few years to make the best out of it God willing. Im just happy i did go on the road to become a father after all😊 God bless!
@abrahamkassis3138 He's left several other comments on this video referring to his children taking him for granted and disparaging the notion that couples should have kids and focus on their financial situation instead and is a follower of MGTOW philosophy.
These notions fly in the face of the Lord and he's spreading his negative parental experiences to those who are celebrating the greatest gift and joy in their lives.
I shouldn't have left a mean comment, you're right. I'll seek for the patience and understanding to compose a more passionate response in future.
Apologies Mr.Shields, I don't know what personal circumstances have led you down such a path.
FATHER!!! you missed the most important and wonderful part of having kids--grandkids! We have 24 of them and they are the true reward for all the hard work of raising children.
My Macedonian grandmother tells the story of an old rich couple without children. They are watching their poor neighbors play, watching the poor children laughing running around. The old wife says, look at them having so much joy - husband go get the sack of money and bring it here . He dumped the money out front and they watched as it did nothing. It didn’t laugh it didn’t sing ..
God Bless everyone who has chosen to take parenting seriously and understands the significance.
It’s hard at times when you’re trying and it hasn’t happened. I know some people try make their lifestyle attractive because they couldn’t conceive.
Well said. Even before Christianity, I agreed with every single point you've made.
Praying to the Lord that my wife and I are granted the maturity and income means to begin our family one day soon ☦️❤️🙏🏻
Dinks? Is that the final stage of Darwinian Evolution? I’m sure Klaus approves!
Macro evolution isnt real
Selfabortion because of idol whorship of wealth
Me snickering realizing *One Income No Kids* makes you an OINK 🐷
OMG 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Selfishness is bringing children into this world they aren’t capable of providing for.
My mom was single, poor and had absolutely no business having multiple kids. If we didn’t go to school, we didn’t eat. She was always stressed out so any perceived unruliness was met with beatings. And not just with a belt, she’d strip us down, naked and beat us with extension cords, cables until she got tired. Children born to homes living in poverty are more susceptible to all times of abuse, verbal, physical and sexual.
How many children are murders annually because their caregivers abuse went to far? How many children are SA? How many are born to parents who don’t want them?
Choosing NOT to have children if you aren’t emotionally and financially able to is the Moral, selfless decision in my opinion.
My mother was also poor. she used to tell me "we're not poor, we're 'poe'" and life was very hard due to all kinds of circumstances, but we were rich in spirit. I have been able to share this spiritual enrichment with those of good financial station, but with an empty inner world. I will not reveal the abuses or trials that I had to endure for posterity sake, and will just say that the decision to be a good parent can be made at any time, and likewise to be a good son. The Lord Jesus can transform your heart, if you would give it to him.
That's a lie from the pit of hell. You have been programmed to think of life through what you have and can afford. The vast, vast majority of the world is poor, that is no excuse to not have children.
What you are displaying is toxic empathy.
Kids bring money because God's wants to.Greetings from Greece.
We have a second child on the way, but are in a time of great struggle. Anyone, please pray for us to make it through.
I'll confess here that my username is a lie.
Kids bring money.Dont worry❤❤❤
My dear husband and I have been trying to have a baby for over 3 years. Can confirm having a big empty house isn't fun. 💔
I've worked in hospice before. Being with some near the end of their life when they are alone is heart breaking. The worst thing is, so many people have children that just don't come. Everyone moves, and the world keeps us from what matters.
Earning the title "Dad" is by far the greatest accomplishment I have ever achieved in my life... "Dinks" don't know what they're missing.
I have friends in this condition. They have consigned themselves to ensuring one of them dies utterly alone. If both are sick or feeble in old age it will be ugly. They will be in the hospital or rest home without anyone that loves them. Truly one of the most wicked delusions embraced by our culture.
We are FBILKs! Family business income lots of kids! We were single income for 11 years but God blessed us with the ability to run a business from home and have our children involved. We also moved to the country so we could all work together raising our own food and fill our days with hard but good labor. We homeschool as well, which is challenging, but He is faithful and provides for our deficiencies. We also live near a monastery, which has been a huge HUGE blessing. Ask the Lord, and He will grant you the desires of your heart, if they are good and pure. ….We started out: got married while both in college, got pregnant before having a job even, at 21 and 25 years old. Lived in very obscure places just to get by, but always put the Lord first. That was 11 years ago. Now all these blessings. He truly is faithful and takes care of His children.
I’m not suggesting people have kids if they’re unprepared. we knew where we were headed, we just didn’t want to wait to start having children, we really put our trust in God in that respect and then tried our best to make ends meet, and He always met us half way.
That is wonderful glory to God
Kids bring money ❤❤
I'm mother of 6 and no income.
Living on God's mercy and others it is living in the hell.
God's mercy is hell???
That is incredibly difficult. My mom did something similar. May God help you and bless you for this effort.
Praying for you and your children ❤
My mother of 4 was in the same situation, but without God. She died when she was 44. I had to adopt my youngest sibling.
@@SilphwaveThis sounds so terrible!! So young and what a responsibility for you!!😮
Amen! We didn't have kids until we found faith in Jesus Christ. I was shocked to learn how amazing and profound it was to have children. There is no journey, no tour, no destination on this earth that comes anywhere near as awesome as having children is. If people knew they would feel cheated for not knowing and not having kids. A child raised right will be a friend for life: someone who owes you their life and care.
Then there's the practical side to it: the woman who wrote "Sex and the City" admitted in recent years that she regrets not having any kids, as she is older now and no one comes to visit her and she is lonely. You have no one who shares your values and feels responsible for you when you are old and possibly unable to care for yourself.
Everything you just wrote are all the wrong reasons to have children! It's actually ridiculous calling childless people selfish, when all your reasons come down to your own benefit from having them!! The only true selfless reason for becoming a parent is because you have lots of love to give!! Nothing else is selfless, but you took it to a whole new level!!😠
@@om526 Of course! But people's hearts have grown cold! Having a child can and usually will wake people up to their agape. I said the other things because that is the world we live in! Excuses and selfish motivations people think are true, but they are lies. People think they have nothing to gain from child-rearing. I know, because before I found faith in Christ, I had excuses and selfishness blocking me from even considering having children, when the truth was always that people, even those with less ability to love initially, have much to gain from the work of raising children.
Wonderful, wonderful video. Thank you father.
This is a truly profound and beautiful reflection. Thank you.
I have a couple people in my family who don't want kids and now that they are getting older, 40+, they friendships are drying up and their lives are becoming more and more lonely. It's very sad.
What's really interesting is they all have pets that they treat like children. There is a natural desire to have children, these people just replace actual kids with pets.
I’m 40 years old, never been married and no kids. I feel I live only for myself and sometimes not even…
I don't see the need to physically, mentally & financially burden myself with children knowing that the world will come to a violent end according to the book of Revelation.
Plus loving father in heaven can always send your lovely son or daughter to hell for eternity supposedly.
By that logic you shouldn't do anything at all.
@@Stephen-uz8dm you have to ask yourself the question, when you get the ultimate promotion, in the ultimate career which gives you the ultimate car & the ultimate house & you have reached the zenith of material success & the thrill wears off & it will wear off, then what??? How long are you prepared to walk down that path, be a rat in the race before you see where it leads? Nothing I clutch, consume or hoard will ever be enough nor can I take with me when my time on the earth is done. The crux of the question is WHAT MATTERS?
@@thepiratepenguin4465 None of that stuff matters but human souls are forever. Raising children is one of the most meaningful things you can do in this world and with God's help, populates the kingdom of heaven.
I have 3 kids and wish I could have more. My wife and I have a lot of fun with our children. We live for Christ and we live for our kids and it feels good man.
I know so many good Christian women that are getting on in age and having such a hard time finding a good Christian man. Please pray for these women.
Maybe they shouldn't have waited so long. There's a reason they're single at an older age and it's not other men.
I was 24 when I decided to get married to my beautiful wife, who is one year younger than me. It was a very hard decision for me to make, as even though I recognized that I wanted to start a family and that my relationship with my girlfriend (now wife) was naturally going that way and that this is what the Church also taught me to do, the cultural influences were also very big and I had a lot of doubts. You talked about a lot of those cultural influences in the video ("Aren't I too young?", "Shouldn't I 'enjoy' life more before getting married?", "Is having children a good idea in today's world?", "Am I ready for this responsibility?" etc., etc.). Luckily, I took the great decision to make a pilgrimage to Holy Mount Athos in order to ponder on the situation and to pray for the right decision. Obviously, I came down from there and instantly proposed to my wife, as the monks on the Holy Mountain made things clear to me (some in a very straightforward, almost brutal way), but when I made the announcement public, I was extremely surprised to see how much those cultural influences are engraved into people’s psyche, even in those of my close family’s, who are really traditional in their thought. I encountered resistance from everywhere, almost nobody supported my decision completely at first. Even my father, who is the most dedicated family man in the world and who did everything for me, was reluctant at first, not because he didn't like my wife or anything, but because of the same reasons that I gave in the beginning. And the same story played out when we announced that we were having a baby, all I could hear was "you are too young", "you should have waited and enjoyed life a little more", "you rushed" etc., etc. This time though, I didn't let culture ruin my excitement and one year later, I can confidently say that having children is the best thing that happened to me and my wife. It really changed our lives in a very good way and it gives me so much meaning and love that I cannot comprehend how in the world so many people are against having children in today’s world. What I didn’t expect though, was the deep effect that having children would have on my parents and on my extended family. It really had the same effect on them as it had on me. My child is now a beacon of hope and love that brought my family closer than ever, despite the fact that we all live in different cities (unfortunately). My father has even started to keep Lent now, despite that he never did in his 60 years of life. His official reason for this is that he wants to be more healthy so that he lives “at least to be able to participate in my granddaughter’s wedding”, but I sense that there is also a deeper meaning behind this. The bringing of children into this world is a huge blessing that, if you allow it and if you treat it with the huge responsibility that it deserves, it can really change your life and that of your family in a really meaningful and divine way, and I think that we, as Christians, should fight with all our might against this evil anti-children propaganda that is coming from the west (and which has way darker roots). Thank you, father, for the work that you do and God bless you!
Thank you for sharing this. It’s really changed my perspective!
No kids of my own, but I have nieces and nephews who i adore and love to death. I work to help care for them. I spend plenty of time with my nephew and love watching him grow.
They’re blessed to have you!
Brutal truth. 😢wow 🙏
I truly believe that it depends from a situation. I for example have 1 child ( 10 year old son ) whom I love dearly. Yet, there is no way I would be able to have anymore children ( part of the reason is a health condition which makes it hard to conceive or carry to a full term).. the other element of my decision is When my son was a baby, I was suffering from severe postpartum depression. Basically, I barely remember Anything from my son’s first year of life. In addition, when my baby turned 16 months, we were struck with diagnosis of autism. It took me years to become the best mom I could be for my boy. There is no way, I would ever take a chance to throw myself back into the darkness ( postpartum depression) and then fail again not only the child I already have, but a newborn baby as well or go through a heartbreak of miscarriage ( been there done that). Life without children is empty, but I completely understand young couples who are terrified to have children nowadays.
In my 20s I held the DINK view, I'm most fortunate that I relinquished this and chose marriage and family.
DINKS literally don't know what they're missing.
Glory to Jesus Christ
GLORY FOREVER!
♥️
Can't imagine not having my kids and stepkids. Children are an amazing gift.
Jesus didn't have kids.
@@apo.7898 so what
@@emreakkaya6400 Nothing but people should be aware he is just a priest. I would not trust him very much. And I would certainly not buy the lectures.
Of course he did. @@apo.7898
@@apo.7898 thanks for your unsolicited, unwarranted, uneducated opinion. I'll take it with a grain of salt.
The psychological warfare portion of depopulation is working perfectly. There’s a whole culture of depopulation
There's even a shopping app called depop.
Very well said, Father. God help us.
Sometimes people don’t reveal their personal struggles. Instead of exposing this vulnerable side of life, because we have seen that in the end people either don’t care or don’t listen, my generation has started to just embrace life as it happens. I have struggled with fertility issues as have many women and men have. I don’t have a large home but couples without children have a right to be homeowners. Many of us are exhausted by the dirty looks, the assumptions that we are selfish and the general lack of compassion we get in society. What’s worse is the fact that it’s spreading to the church. I am blessed with a church family that has never made me feel like less than a woman for being childless. I probably look like yet another selfish millennial with a spoiled cat. In reality I lost my baby and I still feel immense pain that my body wasn’t strong enough to carry her. Ironically, I was given a kitten by a stranger the week I was supposed to give birth. May God grant us all patience. Look at everyone as an individual rather than a statistic.
I bet the boat manufacturers are thrilled to watch the video you presented here, Father.
My little daughter just bore my 2nd grandson!❤. Somehow, owning a boat never factored in.
Really love this channel ! Keep it up
“We’re Dinks, as we get older I have be careful what I say around my wife so she doesn’t break down and weep over our terrible decision”
God bless you to father.
One of the best things about having children are the grandchildren that come later ❤
The circle of eternal human suffering
These people are dying inside, can read it on their faces. Sad!
Rampant materialism and hedonism - it's as simple as that for couples like those you showed. I am troubled with how we are to overcome this pervasive culture, especially with how external and easily it tempts all of us in the modern West.
I bought a boat to enjoy with my wife and three children. It’s something we can do as a family
May God have mercy on us and our total lack of appreciation of the miracle of conception, childbirth, and parenthood.
There are a lot of couples that should not have or raise kids.
We were dinks for quite some time, but never spent the money on other things than bigger houses. No expensive vacations, simple small cars. After some 15 years together we changed our minds. If kids show up, they're welcome. They showed up in the shortest possible time, we were lucky.
Best decision of our lives.
Christ is LORD
It's crazy to realize that humans fought and evolved for thousands of years just to have their bloodline die out because their descendants chose material goods over family
I enjoyed this video.
Greetings from catholic viewer
I never knew there was such a thing as a DINK. Been too busy raising my five kids. Holy cow, some people have it all backwards, I never deserved the incredible children I have and my beautiful wife. And yes, father, as great as dogs are, not in any world do they substitute for a child. I am sorry for these people because they just missed the greatest part of life. What the father says here is so full of wisdom and truth.
Thank you, Father, for this very relevant video. Incidentally, my name is Nick, which (quite accurately) stands for No Income Compound Kids.
I’m actually this man’s child and he is a wonderful father, which is more than money can ever buy.
Only the devil would convince us that materials will bring us happiness.
Also tunnel diggers.
Something not said is the great camaraderie that would be missed by choosing not to have children. When you have children and see other parents, you share in a brotherhood of people who know real sacrifice, real joy, and real purpose and you're all rooting for each other.
*Welcome to Sillicon Valley People's Republic, Mr. Seven Stars!! ;;)*
God bless you father for a lecture that actually told why I had 3 children. Looking back, I wish I had of had more.
More and more I'm compelled that we are nearing the second coming... St. Gabriel told us back in 90s that us young generation would be living in biblical times, every we stray further from god.
❤🔥💥😍👩❤👨💍🙏✝GOD BE WITH US✝🙏⛪👨👩👧👦💞💪
Well I'm 50 and had a hysterectomy so no kids for me and my husband. Not exactly DINKS. I don't really work anymore, so no dual income. We're on our farm birthing calves instead of babies, hatching geese and chickens instead of children, training ponies for other people's kids. We're both therapeutic riding volunteers too, but I guess that's the best we can do???
So you never wanted children?
You are not a DINK though. Fathers video isn't addressing you or your mentality. DINKS typically wouldn't want the responsibility of farm animals either.
He's referring to people who choose to have financial security over the sacrifice of raising children. Nothing due to medical reasons.
There's no Orthodox men my age in my community, and the younger single men don't want an older woman (I'm 38) because they think I'd "mother" them. Well, I'll devote myself to serving my parish. What can I do but pray for the Lord's will to be done in my life? I've led a very sinful life and am not deserving of anything but that which He gives me, and maybe that's for me to be a single woman for all my life, serving Him in His families. But if He wants me to become a wife, then He will arrange it thusly. May it be blessed. Thank God I'm in the Church and not where I used to be. The Lord is good and merciful.
I’m a 46 year old Orthodox man. My life story is similar to yours. You said, “thank God I’m in the church and not where I used to be”. I couldn’t have said it any better myself.
☦️☦️☦️
@@DChristinaMeeting from UA-cam is creepy and borderline glowie behavior.
Those young men are wise to not want an older woman. There are far more men than women in the Orthodox Church so if you network you might be able to find someone.
whenever i hear true and wise words, I cant help but glorify God. It is so refreshing and motivating to hear truth shine through the insanity of our times.
Thank you for this message, Father.
There is learning something of the nature of the Lord in parenthood.
In raising my own daughter, I discovered what it was like to love someone so unconditionally, sometimes in spite of their disobedience, willful ignorance, and dereliction.
I began to understand what it was like to love someone so much that, indeed, I would be willing to suffer for their errors that they might be spared.
I began to understand what it might be like to say "I would die, that they may live."
And I also began to understand how pleasing jt is when those that you love and look after return your love in kind with praise and action.
The enemy of our souls, and his cult of death, they would deny our future generations that connection with the Lord.
But thrash, struggle and scheme as they might, our Lord is the mighty, holy, immortal, and He will have His way.
Rebellious teenage daughters used to get married off and then they obey their husbands. Fake and goofy AOC laws prevent that from happening now.
Very good Video Father!
How depressing to not have a family. That’s literally my dream, to raise as many children as God allows.
It's just your opinion that it's depressing.
We love our big family- God is good