Why Self Improvement Never Sticks Long Term For You | Robert Greene
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- Опубліковано 10 лис 2018
- The motivations that drive us are often a mystery - even to ourselves. But if we draw back the shroud of emotions that obscure our view of these motivations, we take the first step toward true self-mastery and understanding what makes us - and others - tick.
On this episode, The Laws of Human Nature author Robert Greene shares his deep insight into our own nature as humans, delves into what makes us so easy to manipulate, and observes how our dark side, built as the result of our upbringing, creeps into everything we do as adults. Robert will then help us make better decisions based on these revelations.
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Robert Greene is the author of five New York Times Best Sellers. His highly anticipated sixth book, The Laws of Human Nature, is out now.
📖The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene
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What We Discuss with Robert Greene:
💡 Why you can't monumentally improve your life by modifying your behavior if you don't understand what causes such behavior.
💡 Why it's liberating to understand that the reason other people react to you in whatever way they do has more to do with them and their own baggage than you and yours.
💡 How oversimplifying the impression you have of someone robs you of the ability to relate to them beyond a surface level -- and what you can do to change the game.
💡 Why your lower nature seems to be the default you'll fall into without effort and what it takes to tap into the potential of your higher nature.
💡 The difference between active and passive envy, where envy comes from, why it's so often destructive, and how you can flip envy to your benefit.
💡 And much more...
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When Robert Greene opens his mouth I know that it's time to listen! Brilliant guy!
You know like that
@Nyle Haywood fffffffffffffffffufuufuffuuffufufuffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff du fu
Big facts,
It is refreshing to have an interviewer that shows vulnerability and to share personal experience that seems genuine rather than this fabricated stories that doesn't connect to listener/audience. I appreciate your candor and actually reading the book, and it is evident that you did.
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J Post I agree!
I agree
So true. He felt genuine
Robert Greene is one of the most brilliant men that ever lived. Every single thing he says makes sense to me. And everything that he tells you works! Please stay in good health and God bless you Mr. Greene.
I totally agree!
Agreed. Not only is he smart but he can also convey his wisdom to others. That’s a great gift.
I think ever lived is a stretch but I think he’s certainly brilliantly
Yes!! He is a Mastermind!! The Greatness of our generation.
bit of a stretch
Robert Greene is a real life defence against the dark arts professor.
This interview was so fascinating. I love the idea of resisting your emotions to become emotionally stronger just as we get physically stronger from lifting weights.
Yes I'm a Baha'i (member of the Baha'i Faith) and we fast sunrise to sunset for 19 days each year and its an awakening to consciousness. if you can abstain from food, you can abstain from backbiting, gossiping, it helps with discipline and transformation.
@@raia9 is that similar to the 30 day muslim fasting?
Robert Greene went deep into human psyche and contributed pragmatic approaches to SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. All his writings coaches people to succeed and let others succeed.
Jordan Harbinger is an excellent interviewer.
Beside the life saving content, Robert Greene has this smooth tone and voice, so I can listen to his interviews over and over again!
Love it when the interviewer knows the subject matter and asks good questions.
Makes it more interesting
thank you!
What ever u said is very true.
I have a friend who uses "dark humour" to make fun of me and is always indecent. I thought I was the sensitive one with the problem, but clearly, it wasn't about me. It is so hard not to take things personally sometimes. It's always important to trust your gut and surround yourself with people accordingly. Very eye-opening. I love Greene's interviews. Thank you.
You're speaking of evil not dark humor.
Never tolerate someone that puts you down and disguises it as a joke or sarcasm. Your body and subconscious are injured by it even if you say it.
@@ChooseLoveToday316 Would you say that to an Italian group of friends? I ask that because their culture, and many others, are always putting each other down and making it a joke, "breaking balls", and they love it. I have a similar relationship with my group of friends, using every chance to insult each other, and I believed this has caused bonding between our group. If my friend makes fun of me, I can either be sad and offended or I can use this moment to stand up for myself. We are lifelong friends so it is all with love. We both laugh hysterically after this. And with this, I would be practicing my skills of charisma and wit. It could be great practice for when you get into real argumentative situations, say in the work place or in front of a love interest. No, you will not have something clever to say every time, but you get better at it. I did not understand the part where you said your body and subconscious are injured by it even if you say it.
His books are absolutely fantastic and have taught me so much.I herd that he recently had a stroke I hope he’s recovering well.
He's truly an amazing person
Enjoyable and useful. Thank you.
The stroke to me is a ssign of thoughtfulness.
My brilliant hero! Love to hear this raw honesty!
@@mendumbilase1508 huh?
Our purpose in life is to find our purpose, Robert Greene found his, great human being Devine spirit.
I watched like 10 interviews of Robert Greene and this is by far my favorite one. It flowed organically and the interviewer obviously did his homework and interacted with the material beforehand. I can't say the same for other interviews. Bravo, Jordan!
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20:09 It's great to see Robert ask questions when he hears a story, showing his true curiosity on human nature.
Good point!
I have watched almost all of the recent interviews of Robert Greene on his new book The Laws of Human Nature, and i have to say your interview is the best one (even better than the Ryan Holiday one). It is the first time i ended the video and leaved a comment. I really liked your pace, and the fact that you actually let the interviewer talk (it sounds obvious, but not everyone do those important things that makes all the difference). Also, you had the courage to bring relevant and sensitive topics, and dealt well with them. As a listener, I was able to get something usefull out of it.
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@JordanHarbingerShow but are you taking it personally? 🤔😀
What he teaching is like the long lost key to my locked bitter heart, it’s such a blessing to my life♥️thank you Robert Green✨✨
This was one of the best Rob Greene interviews I’ve seen. Great questions. You got him to engage more than most people who have interviewed him.
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Get well, Mr. Robert Greene. The world needs your brilliance.
"The opposite of envy is gratitude." Very useful guidance.
Fantastic interview, one of the most important writers alive in my opinion.
I found Robert Greene about 2 months ago. One of the most brilliant authors I've ever read. I'm buying all his books to add to my collection. These are books you can read over and over and learn something new everytime. That was one of the best interviews I've seen with Robert Greene. Well done Jordan. I look forward to seeing more interviews by you.
On my second mastery read
I want my money back.
I had 2 huge insights from this interview.
- Ray Dalio taught me to be radically honest and transparent (and I'm also blunt by nature). So for a long time, I've always been (too) brutally honest with everyone and assumed it was the optimal strategy.
I've hurt some people but believed it was an all or nothing choice (either be brutally honest or a lying SOB with nothing in between).
From now on, I'll systematically add a layer of empathizing/acknowledging before delivering my usual brutal honesty regimen.
- Deeply observe people's patterns of behavior/past actions to really judge them objectively and escape dangerous people preemptively! Stop being naive and assuming that a person won't hurt you just because this person hasn't hurt you YET.
Same here
Brave of you to share this. I’ve been too blunt too and what you said enlighten me, thank you😊
“[M]any believe that by being honest and open they are winning people’s hearts and showing their good nature.They are greatly deluded. Honesty is actually a blunt instrument, which bloodies more than it cuts. Your honesty is likely to offend people; it is much more prudent to tailor your words, telling people what they want to hear rather than the coarse and ugly truth of what you feel or think. More important, by being unabashedly open you make yourself so predictable and familiar that it is almost impossible to respect or fear you, and power will not accrue to a person who cannot inspire such emotions.”
-Robert Greene
In my 38 years of existence only Robert Greene has given me wisdoms that I have never learned from all the combinations of books that I have ever read. For me Robert Greene is trully legendary.
EXCELLENT !!! EXCELLENT !!! IF ONLY I had Robert Greene in my life as a young adult !!! Robert has done his homework !!! Constantly saying to myself "YES that is exactly what I did. That is exactly what happened." A REAL LIFE COACH !!! I was just so ignorant of how the world works. Some success followed by complete failures!!! WHY ??? WHY ??? Finally I am beginning to understand. I had no idea of why I failed when I had tried so hard.. Finally I am beginning to understand. I violated so many of the LAWS. Thank You Robert Greene !!! Thank You !!!!
Brilliant man and so humble
I love this guy.
Narcissist are not humble. They only act that way bc it’s a social norm.
Have nothing intellectual to add the comments besides this:
Enjoyed this conversation. He’s honest AF …. and that’s refreshing AF!
Excellent interviewer and as always Robert Greene is my favorite author and is so insightful about what makes us tic.
I am so happy that I am stumbled upon these interviews of Robert Greene because The 48 Laws of Power is a required reading in our Philosophy classes when I took my Master's Degree of Education major in Special Education in University of the Philippines, Diliman, Quezon City !! :-) Thanks I learned a lot !!! :-)
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Awesome interview, I’ve watched it like 5 times. I’m obsessed with Robert Greene. Spectacular!
Grace Fitzgerald. Repetition is the key. Good on you
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THE JORDAN HARBINGER SHOW . Unfortunately I have not, Ive subscribed and if you have any suggestions for me I’d love to hear them. I admire philosophers and love being inspired. Ty
@@gracefitzgerald2227 the show is in any podcast app or spotify
Oh man you can tell by the look on Robert’s face that he’s a sweetheart deep down. He’s most likely a sweetheart that has been fucked over by life numerous amounts of times by a lot of people. Lucky for us he’s a sweetheart that is an author that instructs us on how to deal with these assholes and not be fucked over. At least if they do we now have the knowledge to see it from a mile away like a telegraphed punch. Robert is the man that we need for this generation. Thank you so much Robert.
I'm impressed by the interviewer. He asks great questions, then let the guest talk, and on top of that adds interesting insights and stories.
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@@JordanHarbingerShow ahah not yet. Will check this out!
@@mony_ch enjoy! it's a podcast you'll dig
Robert Green I heard he was sick, I hope he gets better and lives for ever.
Bright Sun Light why would you wish someone to live forever that's depressing and selfish lol
FreeYourselfMorowa 😂😂😂
He’s done interviews since he’s ok
I am loving these conversations w Robert Greene
By far the best interview someone's done with Robert Greene. Jordan actually listens and is insanely curious to learn more. #Best one
Green is an amazing sensible man. Thanks for all your books. Enjoyed your brutal honesty.
This is pure gold. Mr Greenes wisdom is enlightening In and of itself
This is one of the most amazing conversations I’ve listened to , just the speaking truth after truth after truth , thank you for this
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Knowledge is not change. Robert Greene is a great place to start change, the next step is the hard part.
My appreciation and respect towards Robert for encouraging people to be honest and accept the real animal as we are. We're not the center of the creation no matter how much we want to please the creator
laws of human nature is a must read
Thank you for existing Robsrt Greene.
The laws of human nature is a sick mind blowing book.
Gut-wrenching to see Robert Greene in bad health, my absolute favorite modern author.
He's amazing
Best book I have ever read to date! (well over 50 years of reading)
Honestly such a refreshing interview Jordan, often times interviews are done and it’s almost like you don’t feel engaged our have the will to listen.
Very important questions were asked therefore leading up so important discussions.
Much appreciated 🤍
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it
WoW Word of Wisdom, I discovered my ex was a covert narcissist. This little boy trauma was explained through the narcissist DSM but you are highlighting the exact actions he plays over and over, and the sorrow I feel for him, but at a distance now!
Love Robert Greene.the man is a treasure
Great interview 😊 Every book. Robert Greene makes is phenomenal
This was really interesting. I sat with my note book while listening to this to see if I could capture some of my shadow sides and I think it really allowed me to go deeper than I have been able to before. Thank you ❤️
What an apsolute golden interview. Much respect to both. I need to listen this every morning.
Thank you! Welcome to the show
Wow! What an incredible interview!
I'm looking forward to reading that book.
Thank you so much for this video. What an amazing interview!
You both ' connect' so much it makes me feel like I am sitting in the room listening and getting great advice from both of you.
Thankyou...Brendon
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Such a brilliant interview Jordan. Thank you.
It's amazing how an awful set of Hollywood experiences created this aspect of a human mind called Robert Greene. He's the type of seed that deserves to have deep roots which produce forests load of big fruitful trees feeding this planet. ❤️
I will definitely buy this book. Robert Grene is right on the spot with it also Jordan Harbinger is a masterful interviewer that knows how to get the best of every interview. I really enjoyed listening to this conversation.
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This Interview forces me to buy Robert 's book
I think you would be my one of favourite writer after Dale Carnegie
Glad you enjoyed the interview!
i am so happy i discovered you channel. i love when the interviewer actually have an idea on the subject and ask the right questions !
Embrace who you really are, be totally honest with yourself and what you really want or continue to waste precious time and suffer in self-denial.
Im going to listen human nature audio book continuously for 1 year. 18 chapters 365 days, 1 chapter = 20 days listening continuously . Understanding each and every words and sentences.
Johnson K I great idea!
Been listening for 10 full days. No reason to stop. Always learning from each pass through the book...
I have the audio book and just got the hardback to reread those key areas. Very good info. Hope to be as ambitious in my learning as you sir.
NO ONE can EVER... OUTSHINE you Bob. My entire existence is because of your books. Uncle Bob for President !!!!!!!!!!!
Dude!
You are good!
Really enjoyed it! You can structure a conversation very well
You truly deserve my following you! You grew on me 😊
Keep ist up!
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What a great interview! Thank you both for this.
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Bianca - work hard and believe in yourself without a man's approval!
@@JordanHarbingerShow Awesome, thanks for letting me know!🙂
When this guy throws an f bomb in his sentence it's beautiful.
Thank you for the video. Just found about this guy. What an amazing depth of knowledge. Just ordered the laws of human nature audio. Looking forward to listening and seeing his other work. Can’t believe I haven’t heard of Robert yet on my path of “self improvement” / “ higher knowledge “
Really love Robert Greene. Thank you so much
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You as an interviewer know that the author is supposed to be talking the most! Incredible way alluding the conversation in various topics, you admit your biases and imperfections. That is dangerously difficult to do, and I hope you do more interviewers. Would love to maybe have a conversation with you one day hahahha. Once again, amazing line of questions you raised. And you connected the dots almost perfectly!
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@@JordanHarbingerShow Of Course! They're 100% informative and positive, intriguing too! I listen to them on UA-cam!
This is a great interview. Who are the people who gave this a thumb down? 🤦🏿♀️
Got lots of random crazies on UA-cam.
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Wow this is pure gold, thanks!
you're welcome!
He’s a great speaker is Robert Greene 👍
And a very very clever man.. human nature and understanding people is everything really 👌
Great interview and the way Greene explains things here is ideal.
Nice of you to say.
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I would be so happy interviewing Mr Robert Greene
My favorite author
Wow the way he breaks things down is world class. Just woke up from a 4 hour Power Nap with auto play on. Waking up to this was very interesting.
He is simply a good linguist and researcher. It was in God's time that he became successful🙏🔥
Eyes, mind,heart and soul wide OPEN . NO FEAR ....NO ENVY . Just flow with the universal power of the oneness of BE-ING-NESS. The right NOW flow of your life .
Thank you Robert for you time !!! Precious 👍🏽💯
metaphor is a sign of genius
An excellent discussion, gentlemen. Thanks you so much!
Awesome interview, Jordan. Just subscribed. Robert's books have changed my life, I'd actually pay a $1000 for a signed copy.
I can get you a signed copy if you're willing to spend $1,000 -I'll even donate the profit to charity.
Do what you preach
Robert Greene books are simply awesome.
I got to read this book. I bathe in lower nature( better de diivil you know vibe) if I'm honest w myself but sometimes cleanse & befriend my higher nature... I love this man's work & this wonderful interview. I commend your actual sharing & LISTENING. Gratitude & thank s 💕☘️
Self-improvement hasn't stopped for me. 😊
Best greene interview in years.
Excellent excellent interview Jordan! Beautiful way to wrap up the interview. Such an honor to be in the Greene household. Is this interview in podcast form? it’s always awkward for me to stare at people talking to each other like a tennis match.
agree. this is why I waited 12 years to do video. Every episode of The Jordan Harbinger Show is a podcast
@@JordanHarbingerShow I like the podcast format too when I don't have a choice (like when cooking/walking outside), but there is nothing like getting to see the expressions of the people who talk.
PS - I hope that you will interview Jordan Peterson someday!
@@mony_ch I only put 5% of my interviews on youtube :)
@@JordanHarbingerShow lol I've got to dig that up then :D
15 minutes in and I’ve subscribed to both your channels. The interview has me longing for Robert’s books. Where to begin?
Thanks!!! Robert Greene’s most recent book, The Laws of Human Nature, is his life’s work and he put six years into it. It is amazing. His other book ,The 48 Laws of Power, is another incredible book. They are all hefty books so if you’d like all the key lessons from Robert Greene’s books, try out Blinkist.com/jordan for a free trial and check out the key lessons from his 4 books there.
Kelley W Thanks!!! Robert Greene’s most recent book, The Laws of Human Nature, is his life’s work and he put six years into it. It is amazing. His other book ,The 48 Laws of Power, is another incredible book. They are all hefty books so if you’d like all the key lessons from Robert Greene’s books, try out Blinkist.com/jordan for a free trial and check out the key lessons from his 4 books there.
THE JORDAN HARBINGER SHOW -what a gentleman and scholar. Have followed your advice and signed up/added to --Blinkist.com-- library. One more question- have you interviewed James Lawrence? I seem a bit addicted to motivational/mental tough videos.
Kelley W have not interviewed James Lawrence. Check out the At-a-glance list to interviews at www.jordanharbinger.com/at-a-glance/
Just received notification at 3AM... going to watch full interview Nonetheless 👍
hope you enjoyed it!
I have to say that as a chosen one..he is correct in addressing our dark side..we are dual beings..the Alpha omega the light and the dark..we have acknowledged the light side and hopefully have fed this side. But we also have a dark side..as is with all of nature..and we must acknowledge that side of our selves as well. Without judgment..Without guilt..
Top shelf quality content.
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I discover Rob because 48 laws, then I enjoy the 50th law but what l really became to admire this author was with Mastery, I agrre Laws of Human Nature is absolutely lovely great work
Agreed!
Gary Null’s mastering life series are a great set of tools who are on this path of mastery!!!!
Truly brilliant analogy about emotions and riding the horse
Wow. This is one of the best interviews I’ve watched here on UA-cam. I don’t want it to end. Also great interviewer, right amount of interruptions. Thank you. Subscribing!
Not everyone feels envy. I didn't even know what that emotion was until my late 20's... and even now 10 years later I'm not entirely sure if that feeling was envy. However I am on the spectrum so emotions can be a little weird with me anyway.
you may be an exception, being on the spectrum and all. interesting comment.
BS... Everyone experiences some form of envy. We are humans. It may not be in a huge dramatic way but we still experience it..
I experience envy for the first time when I was 26, I could just not believe how horrible that emotion feels, it was consuming my existence, it was painful therefore exhausting. That is how I understood enviers seems to be so bitter. Its a heavy emotion. Im 50yo now and I have felt envy 4 times in my life. Usually I have the certainty that there is plenty of everything for everyone. But when I feel stuck an deeply desperate is when envy appears. That is neurodiversity, indeed, not all people experiency envy so often.
I am not sure if I've ever experienced being envy of someone because I have so much to be grateful for. However, I do admit to feeling triggered by someone INTENTIONALLY trying to make me feel jealous or envious of them
1:22:32 this is what is happening in my relationship, when I'm loyal i just get steam rolled. I'm willing to reason i do not want to be used.
You helped me a lot in making decisions ❣️❣️❣️thank you Robert
You mentioned this episode at the end of the episode I listened to but couldn’t find in Podcasts available episodes...
Happy I found it here at least.
Thanks for providing some insight. I now think I will purchase his book. Nice interview!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Fantastic Interview- wow I love it- Robert Greene is such an excellent writer and has taught me so so much. Jordan taught me to walk through every door with confidence-great show! I love both of these guys! Watch both of them on Impact Theory so brilliant.
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@@JordanHarbingerShow No I don't but I must! I do recommend everyone in the UK to watch you on the Impact theory interview and your other shows/interviews.
@@lornag9608 I only put maybe 2% of my interviews on youtube
I am in love with this house!
Robert is a genius, I know he writes manipulative behavio...but if you use it in a good way perfect. God bless Robert.
Thanks uncle Robert!
Envoy leads us and healthy life.