We are sharing my journey with gender affirming procedures because we want to give a transparent sense of what this process has been like for us. As I state in the video, this is not an endorsement that surgery is something necessary or even good for everyone to undergo. This channel represents my experience and my experience alone, so I don’t claim to speak for other trans people in any way. -Shaye
Shay you were a very handsome man. But you are an absolutely gorgeous woman. Your eyes are even brighter. It’s like your inner beauty and confidence is really coming out. I know this had to take a lot of guts and courage. I applaud you for sharing your life with all of us. And Amanda you are one strong supportive person. You both are beautiful. I’m glad you are sharing your journey with us. A lot of people myself included do not understand a lot of this. But with you being so open honest and vulnerable it is helping us to understand. And I want to thank you for that. I’ve never judged I’ve just always been curious. Like how does one know? What kind emotions are they dealing with? And then most of all I think to myself do they have a support system without being judged. My bonus child I believe is going through this as an adult. My spouse is not supportive. It really bothers me. Watching you has given me some insight of how just maybe I can help them.
What you’ve felt like on the inside is becoming more apparent to us all. Beautiful. I am an 85 year old woman who is becoming educated. Thank you. Carry on! ❤❤
Hi! Love your content! I'm 80, just started HRT 4 weeks ago, already feeling better! My skin is softer and less oily, my chest is beginning to "stir". I may never have such surgeries, but the benefits of HRT, I believe, will still be a comfort to me. I may have to depend on a wig and wardrobe to present more feminine, or, at least androgynous! Best of luck to you both! I will subscribe!❤❤❤
Shaye looks like a model to me. As a fellow shy person, I love seeing her go from being really shy to being more comfortable talking to the camera... more confident. 💕
I love watching this couple, this is as bold as a person can be, to find their True self, one question I do have is, and Forgive my ignorance or maybe I shouldn't go there, but will voice adjusting be part of the transition to meet the closest possible to that of a Woman voice? Can that be adjusted surgically or is it strictly through personal training and coaching?
@@Defender78 As with any part of transition, it is entirely up to the individual. I'm not sure how Shaye feels about her voice, but I myself am working towards a more feminine voice. I have been to a speech therapist to help, but it mostly comes down to practice, and trail and error. There are two different surgeries around that area. One is the tracheal shave, which reduces the size of the adam's apple to a feminine standard, but doesn't change the voice. The other is voice feminisation surgery, which hightens the pitch that you speak at. It's important to note though, that even after this surgery, you will need to train it so it won't sound coarse. It's also not uncommon for your total range of pitch to be decreased, unfortunately. Because of this potential risk, as well as the fact that you have to train anyway, it's recommended to put as much effort into training as you can, before jumping to surgery. Personally, I believe that I won't need to vocal surgery. I can get it to where I want it to be, I just can't maintain it yet. So practice will be key (too bad I internally cringe whenever I try...). I do plan on getting the tracheal shave though. While shifting your voice into a higher register actually moves the adam's apple up naturally, and can somewhat hide it, I'm just worried about it being visable when I'm not speaking.
@jcoulton4 From what I've seen/heard, people can most certainly train their voice to a higher pitch. I followed Eden The Doll's journey with that surgery and she was having quite a bit of issues with her voice after her surgery. It seemed really intensive from her videos. I hope all is amazing with everything you have planned. 💕
Amanda, the love you have for Shaye reminds me of my wife. I’m going to be 37 this week and I’ve been with my lovely wife Jordan since 2014. I began my mtf transition in 2022 and day by day I’m just happier and happier. Just HRT and social transition. FFS is something I want but it’s scary too. Thanks for being so open about this journey. I would have understood if she couldn’t do this and left me. She didn’t. Transition is such a beautiful but overwhelming and terrifying process. It would have been so much harder and lonelier without my wife. I love the love you two share. Keep shining your light. You’re both beautiful souls and I look forward to all your new content. Lots of love. 🫶 -Sara
I just love Amanda. I don’t think she gives herself enough credit for being just as wonderful of a person as she is. She shows her love in so many different ways. You can tell she’s just such a caretaker, and she loves you Shaye, to the moon and back! ❤
Shaye is so beautiful. I’m so grateful she’s able to have these procedures that make her feel more comfortable in her skin. And Amanda, besides being very beautiful herself, is such a wonderful partner. What an amazing journey this couple is on! I’m grateful that they choose to share it with us.
Thank you so much for taking the time to film these little interviews as a way of documenting your journey! It helps so many people to have you both as a wonderful example of pure LOVE!
I have a family member who is transitioning, which whilst I support them, it can be worrying and difficult to get my head around it all. Your videos are so helpful for me to have a better understanding. Thank you. I hope your surgery and healing goes well xx
Beautiful both of you, I'm 70 years of age and I think things could have been better back in the 80s when I dreamed of transitioning but did not like now have the money. Shaye, I wish like you go through with surgery you have been going through now for the last three years. beautiful.
There is a comment just above yours of a 80 year old lady who just started hormone replacement therapy. Maybe that’s something you still could consider. Wish you all the best! ❤
From here, Shaye already looks STUNNINGLY beautiful! I can’t wait to see what you’re having done. I just can’t imagine you getting any prettier! 😍 Amanda is gorge too!!!
Shaye, I know you already had your surgery but I hope you are healing well! Shaye and Amanda you love for each other is just amazing. I’m glad you’re there for each other to walk through life. I always look forward to your videos. It honestly helps me to be more open and understanding of transgender women and men and have honest conversations with myself about being an ally and what that means. I believe I’ve come far especially coming from a fundamental Christian background but I still have ways I can improve. I first fell in love with you decorating your home, before your Mormon Stories episode, but I love this side of your UA-cam too, maybe more. Thanks ladies!
It’s very brave to share your journey with us. You’re both so intimate on Camera. It’s like you’re chatting directly to us. Amanda are such a lovely person and so thoughtful and deep in how you approach everything you’re a really wonderful couple both of you. I wish you the very best with your surgery, but Amanda is right how you feel really comes from the inside. The outside does matter but the inside is where things really change. Sharing your journey with us I’m sure helps so many people find their beautiful insides as well. Sending you both love.
I just want to say that I think that you both are such beautiful women inside and out. Shaye, I just have to say that I think that yo have one of the most gorgeous, sincere, and amazing smiles that I have ever seen. the way that the sun is hitting you and then the sunbeams that you emit into the world...just beautiful! The way that Amanda looks at you and the way you look back at her...that speaks volumes! I could only dream of being half as beautiful as both of you! Thank you for all the rays of sunshine you both put into the world!
Shaye you are so gorgeous. There is a peace & stillness I get to experience when you speak to us. I'm so happy at the support you have - it wasn't the same for my friend & she died. I'm still a bit haunted by her journey and have educated myself ever since she expressed her intention to transition in 2015. Back then I noticed so much fear arising in my system around her opening up & it did take me several months to catch up & realise 'no big deal'.
You both are so beautiful inside and out. Shaye, your journey was meant to be. You are so brave to live your life authentically, and thus far, you look and sound amazing. Love to you both from Royal Oak, MI ❤
Beautiful women both inside and out. It’s refreshing to watch your channel. It’s so full of honesty, transparency, positivity, and understanding. The support and love you have for one another is enviable. Speaking of envy, I wish my hair looked as good as Shaye’s.
I just went through FFS and still so swollen. I heard 6-8 wks for the swelling to come down. Can’t wait to see the results. I love your wife’s support. I wish we could all be so happy.
You are both so brave and so loving. Shaye shows such appreciation for Amanda when it would be so easy to be caught up in her own journey. Really admire you both. Xxx
Congratulations! Would love a video of what you did that was helpful post-op to make recovery as comfortable as possible. My wife is having surgery later this year and I’m feeling all those feelings with you!
Shaye, you are stunning, first of all. I have watched your journey the whole time. You and Amanda need to know that you really are changing the world! Secondly, I am a completely straight woman, and you are so inspirational even to me! I love that you two don’t let anyone dictate your happiness. Keep it up you two, I love you both!
Praying the surgery is smooth for you both! Also, that Shaye will heal quickly and be as pain free as possible, and Amanda will know that she is helpful and be easy on herself! You are both so WONDERFUL and I always pray for the easiest road possible in your journey! 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I find it fascinating and it is educating me on the things individuals/couples go through when they are "different" from the "norm". However, while I starting watching for education, I find myself coming back and to watch the love between both of you. I see the work that Amanda has had to go through in understanding this change and showing you the unconditional love she has for you and her family. I see the appreciation from Shaye and the need to make sure Amanda is comfortable with every step. It's beautiful to watch and is very apparent in your videos. I pray that you continue to grow and love each and always cherish each other because I put myself in your shoes and although my husband is the love of my life, I think it would be so difficult for me to go though this. In the end, I believe I would, because I can't imagine not having my husband in my life and if this is the only way I could so that he is happy, I would. But it takes a love so grand as the love you both have for each other. Cherish it because it does not come around often.
I saw a few of your Halloween and home theater videos years ago and then lost track. Now I see you’ve been very busy. Good for you! I’m sending nothing but love to you and your family. I’m so glad you are all supporting each other, and growing together. It’s a wonderful thing.
I was at your talk at Encircle St. George last night and it was life changing! I wish I could have talked to you both after. Shaye you are so beautiful and kind and I loved your French-looking style. Amanda you are just the coolest! You seem like such a great human. And you two really do have a "love of a lifetime" relationship ❤ Thank you both for being you.
Thank you both, for continuing to share with us 😊. Today I received word that the Nuffield Brighton (UK) hospital have increased their surgical capacity. They're able to offer me an outpatient appointment, within the next few weeks..I'm finally going to be considered for GRS! It's been such long wait - I was first referred in 2022. I've been able to save enough money to start having Laser Hair removal again, & my is BMI is an acceptable 24.4. (the maximum allowed/preferred by the NHS is 28). Anywho, I was just really chuffed, & wanted to share. I hope that's okay? Best wishes to you both 😊.
I just really hope for you that leaxing the mormon church didn't shatter your belief in god. God has you in his loving hands just the way you are. I really want to pray for you that god will make his/her presence known to you every day.
Me and my beautiful partner discovered your content a couple of weeks ago. I would just love to say that your story is so inspiring it made us cry. My girlfriend is just at the very beginning of her journey and seeing you guys and the wonderful home you have built gave us hope for the future we might have as a cis/trans family. Thank you for sharing your story and helping young queer people like us!💗✨
You both are beautiful, inside and out. And reading the other comments from older trans women has given me hope. I'm a 71 year old trans man who transitioned late and still have another surgery I desperately want. Maybe this will give me the courage to go forward! Thank you!
There are another 3 60+ trans people in this comment section, you guys seriously need to get in contact and form like a support group for each other... And if you could make some videos, that would be amazing 😍😂, I'm so intrigued 😂. But even if not, just to encourage and love each other 😚, just my idea... But it's a good one 👀🤭😂, take care
Saying we should just be happy the way God made us is such a baseless statement. If all of us lived by that, we would never seek to improve ourselves. We would never change or grow. I admire your the candidness, understanding, and love for one another. I enjoy watching your videos and wish you all the best of luck throughout your journey.
I admire Shaye for her courage to go through this process to become the perosn on the outside that she is on the inside. I hope everything with the surgery goes well!
Thank you again for sharing your experience. I just had FFS last month and it proved harder than I expected. I unfortunately went through the entire surgery and first couple of weeks of healing by myself in another country and then traveled back home. I’m so happy with my results so far and look forward to when all the swelling goes away and feeling comes back. Speedy recovery Shaye. Love you guys.
I loved your story on Mormon Stories, and wondered how things had gone. At the time, I thought that Amanda was the ideal partner in her attitudes and support, and I'm so happy to see that my impression was right. 😊
Any kind of medical decision is so personal... I tend to shy away from medical procedures for myself, but it's so inspiring what can be done to help those for whom it's the right choice! May the procedure and healing process go as smoothly as possible!
Gender dysphoria is a trauma response. Shaye is experiencing a mental health breakdown and our current society doesn't help people find the root of the problem, they join in with the dysphoria. If it were 500 years ago, you would have to face the trauma and deal with the issue that caused the dysphoria in the first place. If we told a bulimic person, "yes, you are so far, you should go throw up again"....that would be insane. No one would do that, but yet, when people have trauma that manifests as gender dysphoria, everyone jumps on board to support the mutilation of people's sacred, divinely given bodies. Our society is drowning in mental health problems. I'm so sorry for whatever you experienced that made you feel unworthy as a male. You were worthy of love, you still are, and you're a child of God.
I couldn’t have said any better. Thank you for your educational and kind thoughts. We have national mental health crisis and everyone is just fine with normalizing it.😢
I also think after he mutilated his genitalia he will be off looking for a man to make him feel womanly. I don’t think his “ project” ends here.. I feel bad for his wife to go with it this far and just being discarded after everything is said and done. I don’t see this …whatever they got going on lasting.
If it were 500 years ago, you'd probably die in childbirth - I don't think we should be looking to the past with approval. Being trans is not a mental health problem - the brains of trans persons show neurological patterns that are consist with the opposite sex. And trans people have always existed - we have no idea of what personal traumas they went through because most people lived and died without leaving any testimony of their existence.
Being so open about such a personal part of your life is beautiful and amazing. From my end I find it most fascinating, enlightening and I'm so happy that you are both honouring yourselves.
I discovered your account on Instagram. I love seeing the love between you both and with your children. I can't think of anything more 'congruent' then following your heart and soul. Love from Canada ❤
I am so happy for you Shaye!..To see that you have such a phenomenal support system in your life!..Your biggest cheerleader is clearly Amanda, and she is also number one out of your whole support system!.. It’s so nice to see that when someone is struggling and is trying so hard to find themselves, and their true self at that, they also have the love and encouragement needed when navigating throughout this journey!..I only wish that everyone who is going through what Shaye has, also had the amazing support that she has!..How incredibly awesome would that be?.. You are both truly blessed to have each other!..and I wish you both every happiness that this world has to offer!.. You guys have a beautiful family and are such an inspiration!..I have no doubt whatsoever, that you guys are helping so many people through your honesty and vulnerability and your courage to put your lives on all social media platforms!.. By doing so you will give others the courage needed to line up and match how they look on the outside with how they feel on the inside!.. I love your channel and content and I thank you for sharing!..❤❤❤.. I will also be praying for Shaye and her upcoming surgery!..Praying for success and a speedy and pain free recovery!..😊
This is such a beautiful video. The way you both talk to each other makes me feel so safe. The respect and love is so apparent, honestly, humility, and faith in humanity are traits you both clearly share. Sending much love.
What a breath of fresh air to listen to 2 people that REALLY love each other. In this world people are so selfish that love never has a chance. You are both beautiful.
I totally understand Shaye’s dysphoria when looking in the mirror. I’m recently out as nonbinary and learning the trans-umbrella. I recently got a gender affirming haircut which has been LIFE CHANGING! 😊❤ I had so much dysphoria when looking in the mirror seeing a feminine human when I felt neither. After my haircut I was so euphoric, so I completely understand how important the surgery is to Shaye. I’d love to have top surgery in the future but I live in a state and surrounding area that doesn’t allow gender affirming care. Maybe one day in the future, but until then I can rejoice in watching Shaye’s transition. ❤
You both are giving such an amazing platform for people of all ages, genders, etc to understand. As a heterosexual female who has zero understanding of what it’s like to be trans, I appreciate hearing from your perspectives!! My mom always made sure I knew to love everyone, especially those who are different from myself. Much love to you both and to your beautiful family!
Shea you are gorgeous and you can hear peace and comfort coming through your voice. You literally are slaying it. Simply stunning. I’m so grateful you and Amanda are still together and love. Will always follow your journey.
Honestly I only heard about top and bottom surgery and never knew about the feminine face surgery. We are evolving daily and it’s good to keep and open mind! You look great and I hope you feel more like yourself now ❤
Shaye, my thoughts are with you and all the family on your next step to be the true you. wishing you all the best and a healthy recovery and can't wait to see the next updates. 💐
I do have a question.. if you were not presenting or"dressing"how did you bypass that part to obtain ffs?. Why I ask is I messed up on this and still have no letter yet. I ended up keeping a few of my old clothes for dirty work. Fixing the car etc. Even though I fully dress as myself every, and privately since 8.
I showed my daughter your video on your first surgery and it solidified that it was the first surgery that she wants done as she goes through her journey
You two demonstrate the best example of healthy communication between two people who are suppose to truly love each other. Good luck and blessings on your surgery shaye, and I hope everything goes seamlessly and you have the speediest recovery. Namaste to the both of you beautiful ladies.🌞❤
So crazy to follow your guys journey, as this was us back in like 2001!!! My boy told me, after 5 years, he wasn't a boy. I did NOT take it well at first (it was not nearly accepted then as it is now) but soon after decided i didn't care and just wanted to be with this person no matter how they presented. And almost a quarter of a century later, here we are! A bit different then we'd planned, okay, A LOT different than we planned, 😂 but still deeply, deeply in love! ❤ I couldn't have asked for a more amazing person!
Amanda!! I want to be you when I grow up! You are so supportive, loving and knowledgeable!! I use every single one of your videos as a lesson that I get to apply to my daughter and I’m just so grateful!! Kate will be starting puberty blockers within the next year, which I’m so grateful we can do for her and I feel like I’m the lucky one that gets to come along side her and just cheer her on! Thank you both!!
It's a true gift to not walk alone through the journeys in our lives. Not everyone has the desire to find or even become their desired self. I often find myself in deep thoughts to grapple with the hardest questions that living this life has presented onto me. No easy answers and no easy solutions, but the more true intention has always yelled the outcome that is enough. ❤
Amanda, I can hear (and see) that you’re slowly getting over your cold and sounding much better. Apologies for my comment on your previous video, the cold threw me off and it sounded like you were on the verge of crying at any moment - watery eyes, shaky voice, etc., but it all makes sense now. Regardless, what you’re going through is tough and kudos to both of you for approaching it with empathy, open minds, and willingness to share your journey with the world - God knows we need it. In the name of openness (and perhaps my own personal curiosity), Shaye, I’m quite interested in the specifics of your surgeries. You seem to talk about them quite vaguely - which of course, is completely up to you since it’s your face, your life, and your channel. My sibling is going through this and is considering FFS. If you’d be willing to share, I’m sure the community would be interested to know what you’ve actually had done. I know you said “everything” but what exactly does that entail? Besides the typical ‘male features’ like jawline and browbone reshaping, did you have a nose job, filler/fat transfer or anything else? If your surgeon would be open to this, it would be great to see more footage from your initial consultation, as well as well as from future consultations. I’d personally love to know because you look gorgeous, I’m trying to educate myself on this topic and offer suport/advice to my sibling.
Shaye, you look great to me, the plastic surgeon definitely knows what he is doing. Amanda is so incredibly supportive in helping you both (and us), navigate through these processes. Feeling really confident that all will be well. Question: I was wondering if both of you have thought about taking some courses in meditation Ike TM, it would be fascinating to see what spiritual connections this would add to your souls journey. Thank you for the update Amanda and Shaye, have a safe trip.👍❤️
I’ve been in such a dark place for much longer than I’m willing to admit…but…every time I hear Shaye’s voice & witness her calming demeanor, I’m transported somewhere so incredibly peaceful. And even for just a short time, I’m grateful. So thank you, means more than you know. ❤️🩹 Love & light from Brooklyn, NY
Shaye, your surgery is amazing, you are so beautiful! Wishing you and your family the very best! I hope you are feeling better in your new authentic self. Thanks for sharing, it is such an education for many people including myself!
I wish you the best with your surgery Shay!! And I wish the very best for both of you beautiful ladies Amanda & Shay ❤❤ Sending you lots of love & hugs.
Good luck on your second surgery. I hope all goes well. My hope is you don’t get addicted to going under the knife regularly. It could become an obsession. Please be careful. I don’t think you need a second surgery as you all ready look and act as a regular every day woman. No one is ever perfect.
Blessings on your surgery. May you heal on the inside as well as the outside and feel more like the true you as each day passes. My positive thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!! ❤
Hi ladies can I just say that I have been thinking this for a few days. .. How good you Shaye, would look with fringe bangs!!Long whispy fringe! 🎉 I hope you don't mind me sharing that. I know this isn't about the video, but I have been waiting for too long to share it! You both are doing amazing navigating the kindness with the trolls. Don't even hear their words. Let it be read in another language and block the really troubled ones if needed. And keep doing what you do ! Love conquers all❤
Most of the controversy surrounding gender affirming surgery is actually related to minors getting it, because kids haven't lived long enough to know if those feelings are going to change or not, and one psychologist reported the 70% of his patients grew out of their gender dysphoria.
Shaye I hope it's your last facial surgery as you look stunning. I think some people go too far and look awful...please dont fall into that trap...you are such a beautiful lady, it would be such a shame if you dont see what we see. Amanda is amazing. She is so sweet and kind...bless her xxxx
I wish no one had to have face operations to look the way they feel inside. Life is and can be so unfair. But you need to know you are so beautiful and also is your very caring wife. Xx
I really love you both sharing your journey. I have to say I haven't understood transgender very well. Then one day I came across your videos. Now I watch you beautiful ladies all the time. I think Amanda is just amazing with so much love and Shay it's beautiful to see the person you are inside coming to life on the outside. What a beautiful family ❤️
I believe everything will go well for Shaye and Amanda and your family. I've said a prayer for each of you. I look forward to following your increasing happiness in the future. Cheers! BG. :)
You two are so amazing, thoughtful, entertaining, and compelling. What a wonderful aesthetic you have. I value your inner selves, even though your appearances are stunning.
We are sharing my journey with gender affirming procedures because we want to give a transparent sense of what this process has been like for us. As I state in the video, this is not an endorsement that surgery is something necessary or even good for everyone to undergo. This channel represents my experience and my experience alone, so I don’t claim to speak for other trans people in any way. -Shaye
Shay you were a very handsome man. But you are an absolutely gorgeous woman. Your eyes are even brighter. It’s like your inner beauty and confidence is really coming out. I know this had to take a lot of guts and courage. I applaud you for sharing your life with all of us. And Amanda you are one strong supportive person. You both are beautiful. I’m glad you are sharing your journey with us. A lot of people myself included do not understand a lot of this. But with you being so open honest and vulnerable it is helping us to understand. And I want to thank you for that. I’ve never judged I’ve just always been curious. Like how does one know? What kind emotions are they dealing with? And then most of all I think to myself do they have a support system without being judged. My bonus child I believe is going through this as an adult. My spouse is not supportive. It really bothers me. Watching you has given me some insight of how just maybe I can help them.
Well stated Shaye ❤🎉
@@gottahavefaith2971 I concur! Shaye & Amanda, you're both just so stunning and radiant.
I love you two so much! Just the thought of you makes me smile! ❤❤
It was meant to be, you are stunning! 🎉😊
What you’ve felt like on the inside is becoming more apparent to us all. Beautiful. I am an 85 year old woman who is becoming educated. Thank you. Carry on! ❤❤
Hi! Love your content! I'm 80, just started HRT 4 weeks ago, already feeling better! My skin is softer and less oily, my chest is beginning to "stir". I may never have such surgeries, but the benefits of HRT, I believe, will still be a comfort to me. I may have to depend on a wig and wardrobe to present more feminine, or, at least androgynous! Best of luck to you both! I will subscribe!❤❤❤
I wish you so much love in your journey! Good for you!!🎉💛🥰
You freaking go girl, its never to late to be you!!! You got this, stay strong and keep your head up, and remember you are beautiful
Thank you for showing that it’s never too late! Enjoy the changes! ❤
I'm so happy for you...❤❤❤
80?! Girl, call lifetime.
Shaye looks like a model to me. As a fellow shy person, I love seeing her go from being really shy to being more comfortable talking to the camera... more confident. 💕
I love watching this couple, this is as bold as a person can be, to find their True self, one question I do have is, and Forgive my ignorance or maybe I shouldn't go there, but will voice adjusting be part of the transition to meet the closest possible to that of a Woman voice? Can that be adjusted surgically or is it strictly through personal training and coaching?
@@Defender78 As with any part of transition, it is entirely up to the individual. I'm not sure how Shaye feels about her voice, but I myself am working towards a more feminine voice. I have been to a speech therapist to help, but it mostly comes down to practice, and trail and error. There are two different surgeries around that area. One is the tracheal shave, which reduces the size of the adam's apple to a feminine standard, but doesn't change the voice. The other is voice feminisation surgery, which hightens the pitch that you speak at. It's important to note though, that even after this surgery, you will need to train it so it won't sound coarse. It's also not uncommon for your total range of pitch to be decreased, unfortunately. Because of this potential risk, as well as the fact that you have to train anyway, it's recommended to put as much effort into training as you can, before jumping to surgery.
Personally, I believe that I won't need to vocal surgery. I can get it to where I want it to be, I just can't maintain it yet. So practice will be key (too bad I internally cringe whenever I try...). I do plan on getting the tracheal shave though. While shifting your voice into a higher register actually moves the adam's apple up naturally, and can somewhat hide it, I'm just worried about it being visable when I'm not speaking.
@jcoulton4 From what I've seen/heard, people can most certainly train their voice to a higher pitch. I followed Eden The Doll's journey with that surgery and she was having quite a bit of issues with her voice after her surgery. It seemed really intensive from her videos. I hope all is amazing with everything you have planned. 💕
Amanda, the love you have for Shaye reminds me of my wife. I’m going to be 37 this week and I’ve been with my lovely wife Jordan since 2014. I began my mtf transition in 2022 and day by day I’m just happier and happier. Just HRT and social transition. FFS is something I want but it’s scary too. Thanks for being so open about this journey.
I would have understood if she couldn’t do this and left me. She didn’t. Transition is such a beautiful but overwhelming and terrifying process. It would have been so much harder and lonelier without my wife.
I love the love you two share. Keep shining your light. You’re both beautiful souls and I look forward to all your new content.
Lots of love. 🫶
-Sara
I just love Amanda. I don’t think she gives herself enough credit for being just as wonderful of a person as she is. She shows her love in so many different ways. You can tell she’s just such a caretaker, and she loves you Shaye, to the moon and back! ❤
Shaye is so beautiful. I’m so grateful she’s able to have these procedures that make her feel more comfortable in her skin. And Amanda, besides being very beautiful herself, is such a wonderful partner. What an amazing journey this couple is on! I’m grateful that they choose to share it with us.
Thank you so much for taking the time to film these little interviews as a way of documenting your journey! It helps so many people to have you both as a wonderful example of pure LOVE!
You both are so soft and well spoken! I love hearing your story!
One more step towards looking like the person you’ve always been Shaye ! So happy for you ♥️
I have a family member who is transitioning, which whilst I support them, it can be worrying and difficult to get my head around it all. Your videos are so helpful for me to have a better understanding. Thank you. I hope your surgery and healing goes well xx
Beautiful both of you, I'm 70 years of age and I think things could have been better back in the 80s when I dreamed of transitioning but did not like now have the money. Shaye, I wish like you go through with surgery you have been going through now for the last three years. beautiful.
There is a comment just above yours of a 80 year old lady who just started hormone replacement therapy. Maybe that’s something you still could consider. Wish you all the best! ❤
Sending you love ❤
The love between you two is so strong. You are so refreshing to watch!
From here, Shaye already looks STUNNINGLY beautiful! I can’t wait to see what you’re having done. I just can’t imagine you getting any prettier! 😍 Amanda is gorge too!!!
Amanda seems like she's on the verge of tears. You can see her deep love for Shaye and the worriment of surgeries. A beautiful family ❤
I think she had a cold while filming. Not that she doesn’t love her deeply! ❤
Glad he I mean she had the balls to do this
Shaye, I know you already had your surgery but I hope you are healing well!
Shaye and Amanda you love for each other is just amazing. I’m glad you’re there for each other to walk through life.
I always look forward to your videos. It honestly helps me to be more open and understanding of transgender women and men and have honest conversations with myself about being an ally and what that means. I believe I’ve come far especially coming from a fundamental Christian background but I still have ways I can improve.
I first fell in love with you decorating your home, before your Mormon Stories episode, but I love this side of your UA-cam too, maybe more. Thanks ladies!
She's so attractive and stunning!!! Specially her personality! Wow
You are both so eloquent. I truly believe you are trailblazers.
It’s very brave to share your journey with us. You’re both so intimate on Camera. It’s like you’re chatting directly to us. Amanda are such a lovely person and so thoughtful and deep in how you approach everything you’re a really wonderful couple both of you. I wish you the very best with your surgery, but Amanda is right how you feel really comes from the inside. The outside does matter but the inside is where things really change. Sharing your journey with us I’m sure helps so many people find their beautiful insides as well. Sending you both love.
I just want to say that I think that you both are such beautiful women inside and out. Shaye, I just have to say that I think that yo have one of the most gorgeous, sincere, and amazing smiles that I have ever seen. the way that the sun is hitting you and then the sunbeams that you emit into the world...just beautiful! The way that Amanda looks at you and the way you look back at her...that speaks volumes! I could only dream of being half as beautiful as both of you! Thank you for all the rays of sunshine you both put into the world!
Best response I heard lately is: "It my happiness, not yours."
All the best and a speedy recovery.
Right? Why do soo many people feel soo comfortable telling other adults how they should live their life? 🤯
Shaye you are so gorgeous. There is a peace & stillness I get to experience when you speak to us. I'm so happy at the support you have - it wasn't the same for my friend & she died. I'm still a bit haunted by her journey and have educated myself ever since she expressed her intention to transition in 2015. Back then I noticed so much fear arising in my system around her opening up & it did take me several months to catch up & realise 'no big deal'.
Praying for a speedy recovery! I hope Shaye loves her results once she heals too! ❤
You both are so beautiful inside and out. Shaye, your journey was meant to be. You are so brave to live your life authentically, and thus far, you look and sound amazing. Love to you both from Royal Oak, MI ❤
Beautiful women both inside and out. It’s refreshing to watch your channel. It’s so full of honesty, transparency, positivity, and understanding. The support and love you have for one another is enviable. Speaking of envy, I wish my hair looked as good as Shaye’s.
So this is what LOVE looks like between 2 people.
Shaye is absolutely gorgeous now
And was absolutely Handsome before
I just went through FFS and still so swollen. I heard 6-8 wks for the swelling to come down. Can’t wait to see the results. I love your wife’s support. I wish we could all be so happy.
Thank You Shaye and Amanda for sharing your journey. Your message of Love is greatly appreciated and needed in the world! 😘💕❤️❤️❤️
What a GORGEOUS transformation. This family is an inspiration. ❤❤
The way you two look at each other is really beautiful.
You are both so brave and so loving. Shaye shows such appreciation for Amanda when it would be so easy to be caught up in her own journey. Really admire you both. Xxx
Congratulations! Would love a video of what you did that was helpful post-op to make recovery as comfortable as possible. My wife is having surgery later this year and I’m feeling all those feelings with you!
Shaye, you are stunning, first of all. I have watched your journey the whole time. You and Amanda need to know that you really are changing the world! Secondly, I am a completely straight woman, and you are so inspirational even to me! I love that you two don’t let anyone dictate your happiness. Keep it up you two, I love you both!
Praying the surgery is smooth for you both! Also, that Shaye will heal quickly and be as pain free as possible, and Amanda will know that she is helpful and be easy on herself! You are both so WONDERFUL and I always pray for the easiest road possible in your journey! 🙏🏻
Shaye!!! You’re absolutely gorgeous 😭🤍😭 Your face looks so natural, I would never have guessed you had surgery!
YOU ARE JUST A STUNNING WOMAN SHAYE. ENJOY YOUR NEW LIFE AND YOUR NEW PHYSICAL BEAUTY.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I find it fascinating and it is educating me on the things individuals/couples go through when they are "different" from the "norm". However, while I starting watching for education, I find myself coming back and to watch the love between both of you. I see the work that Amanda has had to go through in understanding this change and showing you the unconditional love she has for you and her family. I see the appreciation from Shaye and the need to make sure Amanda is comfortable with every step. It's beautiful to watch and is very apparent in your videos. I pray that you continue to grow and love each and always cherish each other because I put myself in your shoes and although my husband is the love of my life, I think it would be so difficult for me to go though this. In the end, I believe I would, because I can't imagine not having my husband in my life and if this is the only way I could so that he is happy, I would. But it takes a love so grand as the love you both have for each other. Cherish it because it does not come around often.
I saw a few of your Halloween and home theater videos years ago and then lost track.
Now I see you’ve been very busy. Good for you!
I’m sending nothing but love to you and your family. I’m so glad you are all supporting each other, and growing together. It’s a wonderful thing.
I was at your talk at Encircle St. George last night and it was life changing! I wish I could have talked to you both after.
Shaye you are so beautiful and kind and I loved your French-looking style. Amanda you are just the coolest! You seem like such a great human. And you two really do have a "love of a lifetime" relationship ❤ Thank you both for being you.
I just found your channel, and I love your story. Bravery is the word that comes to mind
Thank you both, for continuing to share with us 😊. Today I received word that the Nuffield Brighton (UK) hospital have increased their surgical capacity. They're able to offer me an outpatient appointment, within the next few weeks..I'm finally going to be considered for GRS! It's been such long wait - I was first referred in 2022. I've been able to save enough money to start having Laser Hair removal again, & my is BMI is an acceptable 24.4. (the maximum allowed/preferred by the NHS is 28). Anywho, I was just really chuffed, & wanted to share. I hope that's okay? Best wishes to you both 😊.
I just really hope for you that leaxing the mormon church didn't shatter your belief in god. God has you in his loving hands just the way you are. I really want to pray for you that god will make his/her presence known to you every day.
Me and my beautiful partner discovered your content a couple of weeks ago. I would just love to say that your story is so inspiring it made us cry. My girlfriend is just at the very beginning of her journey and seeing you guys and the wonderful home you have built gave us hope for the future we might have as a cis/trans family.
Thank you for sharing your story and helping young queer people like us!💗✨
You both are beautiful, inside and out. And reading the other comments from older trans women has given me hope. I'm a 71 year old trans man who transitioned late and still have another surgery I desperately want. Maybe this will give me the courage to go forward! Thank you!
There are another 3 60+ trans people in this comment section, you guys seriously need to get in contact and form like a support group for each other... And if you could make some videos, that would be amazing 😍😂, I'm so intrigued 😂. But even if not, just to encourage and love each other 😚, just my idea... But it's a good one 👀🤭😂, take care
Saying we should just be happy the way God made us is such a baseless statement. If all of us lived by that, we would never seek to improve ourselves. We would never change or grow. I admire your the candidness, understanding, and love for one another. I enjoy watching your videos and wish you all the best of luck throughout your journey.
Good luck with your healing Shaye!!! Sending love to you all
Wow, I never would have guessed Shaye needed any kind of revision. She's so pretty already! I can't wait to see the results.
I admire Shaye for her courage to go through this process to become the perosn on the outside that she is on the inside. I hope everything with the surgery goes well!
Thank you again for sharing your experience. I just had FFS last month and it proved harder than I expected. I unfortunately went through the entire surgery and first couple of weeks of healing by myself in another country and then traveled back home. I’m so happy with my results so far and look forward to when all the swelling goes away and feeling comes back. Speedy recovery Shaye. Love you guys.
You two have the most amazing, supportive marriage and your love shines through.
I loved your story on Mormon Stories, and wondered how things had gone. At the time, I thought that Amanda was the ideal partner in her attitudes and support, and I'm so happy to see that my impression was right. 😊
Any kind of medical decision is so personal... I tend to shy away from medical procedures for myself, but it's so inspiring what can be done to help those for whom it's the right choice! May the procedure and healing process go as smoothly as possible!
Your surgeon had good material to start 😊 and he has sculpted a glorious beautiful masterpiece! So gorgeous 🎉
Gender dysphoria is a trauma response. Shaye is experiencing a mental health breakdown and our current society doesn't help people find the root of the problem, they join in with the dysphoria. If it were 500 years ago, you would have to face the trauma and deal with the issue that caused the dysphoria in the first place. If we told a bulimic person, "yes, you are so far, you should go throw up again"....that would be insane. No one would do that, but yet, when people have trauma that manifests as gender dysphoria, everyone jumps on board to support the mutilation of people's sacred, divinely given bodies. Our society is drowning in mental health problems. I'm so sorry for whatever you experienced that made you feel unworthy as a male. You were worthy of love, you still are, and you're a child of God.
I couldn’t have said any better. Thank you for your educational and kind thoughts.
We have national mental health crisis and everyone is just fine with normalizing it.😢
I also think after he mutilated his genitalia he will be off looking for a man to make him feel womanly. I don’t think his “ project” ends here..
I feel bad for his wife to go with it this far and just being discarded after everything is said and done.
I don’t see this …whatever they got going on lasting.
Yes, thank you for sharing some common sense.
If it were 500 years ago, you'd probably die in childbirth - I don't think we should be looking to the past with approval. Being trans is not a mental health problem - the brains of trans persons show neurological patterns that are consist with the opposite sex. And trans people have always existed - we have no idea of what personal traumas they went through because most people lived and died without leaving any testimony of their existence.
Being so open about such a personal part of your life is beautiful and amazing. From my end I find it most fascinating, enlightening and I'm so happy that you are both honouring yourselves.
And Shaye is slaying!
I discovered your account on Instagram. I love seeing the love between you both and with your children. I can't think of anything more 'congruent' then following your heart and soul. Love from Canada ❤
I am so happy for you Shaye!..To see that you have such a phenomenal support system in your life!..Your biggest cheerleader is clearly Amanda, and she is also number one out of your whole support system!..
It’s so nice to see that when someone is struggling and is trying so hard to find themselves, and their true self at that, they also have the love and encouragement needed when navigating throughout this journey!..I only wish that everyone who is going through what Shaye has, also had the amazing support that she has!..How incredibly awesome would that be?..
You are both truly blessed to have each other!..and I wish you both every happiness that this world has to offer!..
You guys have a beautiful family and are such an inspiration!..I have no doubt whatsoever, that you guys are helping so many people through your honesty and vulnerability and your courage to put your lives on all social media platforms!..
By doing so you will give others the courage needed to line up and match how they look on the outside with how they feel on the inside!..
I love your channel and content and I thank you for sharing!..❤❤❤..
I will also be praying for Shaye and her upcoming surgery!..Praying for success and a speedy and pain free recovery!..😊
Both of you are such amazing creatures of joy to listen to and see the faces of. Loving the lipstick. ❤
This is such a beautiful video. The way you both talk to each other makes me feel so safe. The respect and love is so apparent, honestly, humility, and faith in humanity are traits you both clearly share. Sending much love.
What a breath of fresh air to listen to 2 people that REALLY love each other. In this world people are so selfish that love never has a chance. You are both beautiful.
I totally understand Shaye’s dysphoria when looking in the mirror. I’m recently out as nonbinary and learning the trans-umbrella. I recently got a gender affirming haircut which has been LIFE CHANGING! 😊❤ I had so much dysphoria when looking in the mirror seeing a feminine human when I felt neither. After my haircut I was so euphoric, so I completely understand how important the surgery is to Shaye. I’d love to have top surgery in the future but I live in a state and surrounding area that doesn’t allow gender affirming care. Maybe one day in the future, but until then I can rejoice in watching Shaye’s transition. ❤
You both are giving such an amazing platform for people of all ages, genders, etc to understand. As a heterosexual female who has zero understanding of what it’s like to be trans, I appreciate hearing from your perspectives!! My mom always made sure I knew to love everyone, especially those who are different from myself. Much love to you both and to your beautiful family!
Shea you are gorgeous and you can hear peace and comfort coming through your voice. You literally are slaying it. Simply stunning. I’m so grateful you and Amanda are still together and love. Will always follow your journey.
Honestly I only heard about top and bottom surgery and never knew about the feminine face surgery. We are evolving daily and it’s good to keep and open mind! You look great and I hope you feel more like yourself now ❤
Shaye, my thoughts are with you and all the family on your next step to be the true you. wishing you all the best and a healthy recovery and can't wait to see the next updates. 💐
I do have a question.. if you were not presenting or"dressing"how did you bypass that part to obtain ffs?. Why I ask is I messed up on this and still have no letter yet. I ended up keeping a few of my old clothes for dirty work. Fixing the car etc. Even though I fully dress as myself every, and privately since 8.
Wifey has the greatest confidence. What a brave/strong woman. I hope everything is going well. ❤
I showed my daughter your video on your first surgery and it solidified that it was the first surgery that she wants done as she goes through her journey
You are absolutely STUNNING!!!! Your face just radiates beauty. ❤️😍
That doctor did an AMAZING job and I hope Shaye knows how beautiful she is! She is honestly stunning!!!
You two demonstrate the best example of healthy communication between two people who are suppose to truly love each other. Good luck and blessings on your surgery shaye, and I hope everything goes seamlessly and you have the speediest recovery. Namaste to the both of you beautiful ladies.🌞❤
So crazy to follow your guys journey, as this was us back in like 2001!!! My boy told me, after 5 years, he wasn't a boy. I did NOT take it well at first (it was not nearly accepted then as it is now) but soon after decided i didn't care and just wanted to be with this person no matter how they presented. And almost a quarter of a century later, here we are! A bit different then we'd planned, okay, A LOT different than we planned, 😂 but still deeply, deeply in love! ❤ I couldn't have asked for a more amazing person!
I want to see more Shay and Skylar videos! The last one cracked me up! Love you both!
Amanda!! I want to be you when I grow up! You are so supportive, loving and knowledgeable!! I use every single one of your videos as a lesson that I get to apply to my daughter and I’m just so grateful!! Kate will be starting puberty blockers within the next year, which I’m so grateful we can do for her and I feel like I’m the lucky one that gets to come along side her and just cheer her on! Thank you both!!
It's a true gift to not walk alone through the journeys in our lives. Not everyone has the desire to find or even become their desired self. I often find myself in deep thoughts to grapple with the hardest questions that living this life has presented onto me. No easy answers and no easy solutions, but the more true intention has always yelled the outcome that is enough. ❤
Amanda, I can hear (and see) that you’re slowly getting over your cold and sounding much better. Apologies for my comment on your previous video, the cold threw me off and it sounded like you were on the verge of crying at any moment - watery eyes, shaky voice, etc., but it all makes sense now. Regardless, what you’re going through is tough and kudos to both of you for approaching it with empathy, open minds, and willingness to share your journey with the world - God knows we need it.
In the name of openness (and perhaps my own personal curiosity), Shaye, I’m quite interested in the specifics of your surgeries. You seem to talk about them quite vaguely - which of course, is completely up to you since it’s your face, your life, and your channel. My sibling is going through this and is considering FFS. If you’d be willing to share, I’m sure the community would be interested to know what you’ve actually had done. I know you said “everything” but what exactly does that entail? Besides the typical ‘male features’ like jawline and browbone reshaping, did you have a nose job, filler/fat transfer or anything else?
If your surgeon would be open to this, it would be great to see more footage from your initial consultation, as well as well as from future consultations. I’d personally love to know because you look gorgeous, I’m trying to educate myself on this topic and offer suport/advice to my sibling.
I love your shorts-they crack me up!
Shaye, you look great to me, the plastic surgeon definitely knows what he is doing. Amanda is so incredibly supportive in helping you both (and us), navigate through these processes. Feeling really confident that all will be well. Question: I was wondering if both of you have thought about taking some courses in meditation Ike TM, it would be fascinating to see what spiritual connections this would add to your souls journey. Thank you for the update Amanda and Shaye, have a safe trip.👍❤️
Shaye I know that beauty isn’t the end goal but you are gorgeous, as is your wife. It is so awesome that both of you are beautiful inside and out!
I’ve been in such a dark place for much longer than I’m willing to admit…but…every time I hear Shaye’s voice & witness her calming demeanor, I’m transported somewhere so incredibly peaceful. And even for just a short time, I’m grateful. So thank you, means more than you know. ❤️🩹
Love & light from Brooklyn, NY
Shaye, your surgery is amazing, you are so beautiful! Wishing you and your family the very best! I hope you are feeling better in your new authentic self. Thanks for sharing, it is such an education for many people including myself!
So here for the comedy era! All the best with the surgery and the healing & caring to both of you & your family!
Beautiful - Inside and out !!!!
Beautiful and Healthy! I love the lavenders on you, Shhaye! Amanda, your dress designs are lovely!
I wish you the best with your surgery Shay!! And I wish the very best for both of you beautiful ladies Amanda & Shay ❤❤ Sending you lots of love & hugs.
I am so impressed and thankful for the openness on your channel!
Good luck on your second surgery. I hope all goes well. My hope is you don’t get addicted to going under the knife regularly. It could become
an obsession. Please be careful. I don’t think you need a second surgery as you all ready look and act as a regular every day woman. No one is ever perfect.
Blessings on your surgery. May you heal on the inside as well as the outside and feel more like the true you as each day passes. My positive thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!! ❤
this is my second comment. I absolute love you two! Thank you for sharing your journey. Many blessing for healing & acceptance.
Hi ladies can I just say that I have been thinking this for a few days. .. How good you Shaye, would look with fringe bangs!!Long whispy fringe! 🎉 I hope you don't mind me sharing that. I know this isn't about the video, but I have been waiting for too long to share it! You both are doing amazing navigating the kindness with the trolls. Don't even hear their words. Let it be read in another language and block the really troubled ones if needed. And keep doing what you do ! Love conquers all❤
Most of the controversy surrounding gender affirming surgery is actually related to minors getting it, because kids haven't lived long enough to know if those feelings are going to change or not, and one psychologist reported the 70% of his patients grew out of their gender dysphoria.
Also because gender dysphoria is highly related to ED, depression and autism
Your videos always make me so happy. It’s a joy to see you becoming more and more your authentic self. It must feel amazing.
Best of luck to you. Make no apologies living your best life when you’re not hurting anyone.
Shaye I hope it's your last facial surgery as you look stunning. I think some people go too far and look awful...please dont fall into that trap...you are such a beautiful lady, it would be such a shame if you dont see what we see. Amanda is amazing. She is so sweet and kind...bless her xxxx
I wish no one had to have face operations to look the way they feel inside. Life is and can be so unfair. But you need to know you are so beautiful and also is your very caring wife. Xx
I really love you both sharing your journey. I have to say I haven't understood transgender very well. Then one day I came across your videos. Now I watch you beautiful ladies all the time. I think Amanda is just amazing with so much love and Shay it's beautiful to see the person you are inside coming to life on the outside. What a beautiful family ❤️
I will be holding you close in thought and prayer as you move through this surgery process, Shaye and Amanda:). You are truly an inspiration to me:)
I believe everything will go well for Shaye and Amanda and your family. I've said a prayer for each of you. I look forward to following your increasing happiness in the future. Cheers! BG. :)
You're beautiful, Shaye. Thank you both for this conversation.
You two are so amazing, thoughtful, entertaining, and compelling. What a wonderful aesthetic you have. I value your inner selves, even though your appearances are stunning.