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When my grandma saw my transfem friend dressing fem for the first time, she said "that's a lovely dress, but aren't you cold?"
Granny has her priorities straight 😂
We stan this grandmother 😆
I love that it’s a universal thing that every grandma is worried about temperature and the amount of food you’re apparently not eating
@@mcpudd1540 I mean, I'm from the UK so the temperature thing is particularly on brand 😂
@@unapologeticallylizzyfully relate omg it’s cold as balls rn
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That and whether I wear my piercings during job interviews :')
I gave my 93 year old grandfather a hat with my university logo on it and he said “Thank you. Now I can practice saying my grandson goes there.” I had just come out as ftm the year prior.
bro that's amazing
Wholesome. 🥺
That’s got me in tears of joy and hope.
Hurray for your grandfather!!
Omg I'm going to cry that is so sweet.
My mom tried to fix my gender dysphoria with tickets to see Hamilton. After telling her I was going to start medically transitioning she suddenly started going on about how she thinks I’m not going out enough and that she just doesn’t want me to waist my life. I think she came across one of those articles claiming TikTok is making people transgender. Somehow this conversation ended in her buying me and a friend Hamilton tickets. Went to the show on Friday. It was great! Still trans though.
Broadway musicals are known to be popular among LGBTQ+ people, as is theater in general because it gives people the opportunity to explore different aspects of identity. For trans people in particular, every day can feel like theater because you're having to perform your AGAB according to societal expectations. So perhaps this is an accidental ally moment?
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 That’s why I thought was so funny. Like you know what will fix my queer kid? Musical Theater!
she should know that Hamilton would make you gay
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Not just popular, they're a massive part of the culture! The history of LBGT people in nearly every aspect of Broadway plays and musicals goes back nearly a century.
I’ve seen Hamilton and it is quite funny, but wow, I have no idea how your mom came to the conclusion that watching Hamilton would stop you being trans.
Just sing the trans away I guess.
As a genderqueer person, being called “a piece of slime” would melt my little genloser heart
I'd love someone to call me that, since my online persona is literally a slimegirl
in german genloser means genless and i read it as genderloser, so "without gender" in my head haha
Idk if this is a reference to Ranboo but it would be funny if it was. Dont mind me, just a thought
@@claudiacat4249 it was heheehehee cause slime
It might be a reference to "Me when I reincarned as a slime", an isekai where the hero was a man in our world, died, then reincarned as a slime in a fantasy world and decided to have an androgynous/non-binary body (instead of male or female one)
1980s: (I think that person might be a fellow homosexual) Are you a friend of Dorothy?
2020s: (I think that person might be a fellow transperson) Are you a friend of Blåhaj?
Are you a friend of Mara ? :D
@@elpis_ezechiel Keisling or Gomez?
@@dukeskunk Neither, it's from She-Ra (the Netflix adaptation)
@@elpis_ezechiel Ah but Perfuma is the trans character in She-Ra not Mara.
@@dukeskunk "Friend of Mara" mostly refers to lesbians, haha
As a cis guy, I too am befuddled and frustrated by the lack of privacy in male bathrooms. I've had to extend a leg from seat to door to keep it closed. Pooping as if mid cossack dance. Not recommended.
But I thought it was women who didn't poop? /j
In all seriousness, thanks for this comment. I knew it wasn't just trans men frustrated by this.
It's an American thing, unfortunately. Any time I went to somewhere outside of North America there were real stalls with actual privacy. Japan even lets you play the sound of running water to cover up any noise!
@@malter95 Nope, cis guy here too, it's legitimately frustrating. Apparently women's bathrooms aren't any better.
As a non-American I'm befuddled by American public bathrooms. I could never EVER imagine a bathroom without a lock in Finland. Or with big gaps in the door for that matter. Urinals are rare here too, and there aren't really differences between male and female bathrooms. Finns are generally very private people though, so I guess it makes sense.
@fr33z1ng German here, and while there are urinals in the men's restrooms here, we definitely also have properly constructed doors, which can be locked. And we are NOT overrun with people doing drugs or having sex, despite what some USians claim as the reason for their bad doors, and our stalls still can be cleaned.
Funny story about public bathrooms. When I was a kid, we would sometimes go on road trips, and when we were at rest stops, I would instinctively follow my "dad" (will explain the quotation marks later) to the men's bathroom, until "he" noticed and told me I was going the wrong way.
Fast forward to now... I am a trans man, and the person I thought of as my "dad" at the time is a trans woman. She was actually the one going the wrong way, not that either of us knew it at the time.
Hey, did you go to any rest stops that simply didn't have doors at all in the stalls? Sometimes at campgrounds, too. I don't get it, except maybe to discourage people shooting up or putting graffiti on the walls?
@@jooleebilly Not rest stops, but there was a nightclub I went to once that didn't have stall doors. The bathroom doors were propped open too. I basically went to the stall farthest from the door and hoped nobody would come in. Thankfully, nobody did, but peeing at that nightclub was still a nerve-wracking experience.
@@jooleebilly The boys' bathroom at my high school didn't have any stall doors. (I don't know whether the girls' did or not.)
I don't know about rest stops, because I would always use the urinals, so I didn't really pay any attention to the stalls. (I haven't been to a rest stop yet since starting my transition, so I don't know about the women's, either.)
BTW, that is a really sweet story!
That's so cute! Do you still refer to her as Dad, since that's what she's been to you growing up, or did you switch to Mom, or do you have an alternate term? I know people in both of the former cases.
“Forgive me, Father, for I have slayed.” Part 2. My only suggestion is to do more dramatic readings while wearing outrageous hats and wigs.
Correction: Forgive me, Daddy. I've been naughty
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Boss gave me some papers and later he chased after me saying “I have your binder!” Cue my shocked silence before he clarified he thought I left a binder used for papers in his office, it was hilarious because I had to mentally make sure my binder didn’t fall off or something
I'm 34 amab, non binary, and present mostly femme. I have a 5 oclock shadow even immediately after shaving. I was getting my oil changed this week and the technician said, "Your car is ready ma'am... sir... ma'am... Sorry, im not used to the whole [gestures at my whole body]". I was so surprised, what I ended up saying was, "oh dont worry, you got it correct at least once." and i felt so awkward, i just got in my car and left.
at least they sounded not-transphobic, that's a relief
As a non binary person I hope that one day I’ll get the “sir… ma’am… sir”
I mean my (ex) husband got called ma'am quite a few times when we were together and he's cis ... So people get confused in situations that aren't that confusing too. There are also those with medical conditions that can make them look more in the middle, or heck even untreated menopause can give a lady a thicker jaw and some whiskers. People don't necessarily know without asking. That's why normalizing being different, asking for pronouns, ect is not a bad thing. It helps those that are not cis and also those who's bodies change in a way that makes them more ambiguous. Or a native man with smooth cheeks and long hair not having to feel horrendous because he got called ma'am again. 🤷
Hahaha i mean you're right in saying he got it correct at least once😂 not that that helped him but oh well
@@jessicaolson490i wish my brain was able to put together a proper response. What happened was awkward and did not help him feel more comfortable interacting with LGBT people. Feelsbad but i got a chuckle from it.
Oh my goodness my packer story made it in! Thanks Jamie for the nice words and support. Still living with my parents, but hoping to have enough money by the summertime to move out! And yeah it was really awkward, the only thing my brain came up with in that moment was that I was washing it and making sure it was clean. 🤣
I I am a Sis het female.( I hope I said that right) I am still learning I started listening to you when i met my boyfriends children he has tw9 trans fem daughters and I started listening to you based on their referral. Anyway I was watching this while shopping in a store without my headphones. So it was playing low but out loud and several people i passed just turned and looked at me. I thought about explaining but then thought whatever and continued my shopping.
As a mama, I'd be glad to know my kid was keeping their important personal items clean. Good for you! 💙💗🤍💗💙
Hey, hygiene is important!
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I'm the friend from the third confession (where my friend looked me up in the customer database and called me!) We both love your channel so much!! And funny we were hanging out this afternoon and she played me her confession. I was like OMG THIS IS ABOUT US! Thank you so much for including our story xoxo
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This is so adorable, I'm so glad you and your friend reconnected. 🙂
ik you probably won't see this, but I'd still like to share. I'm 15 and a trans man, I pass quit well apart from my voice. I was sitting in the eye doctors lobby with my brother waiting for my sister's appointment to be over. an old lady walked out of one of the rooms, I smiled and waved at her, and she said, " I hope you boys have a nice day." the joy that filled my body was so much I almost couldn't handle it as it was the first time a Stanger gendered me correctly. :)
Growing up, I was called a girl by my bullies who thought I hated it, told I act too girly by _teachers,_ wanted to grow my hair out reeeeeaaaaaally long, made more friends with girls in school than boysーalso got to braid their hairーopenly talked bout shoujo (girls) manga I read to my friends who didn't read the genre, always favored female characters in stories, liked to draw fashion, didn't correct people online when they assumed I was a girl, liked pink things a loooot, and eventually started crossdressing, all before graduating high school.
Y'all... It took me a whole decade after graduating to figure out I am trans... I am so ashamed of myself for being that freaking dense. Lol
Don't worry, it's never too late to figure stuff out!
I'm proud of you and wish you the best of luck in your transition!
I'm NB but still use my AGAB pronouns, but the one place I really feel the dysphoria is the hairdressers. They're still so ... traditional, and I can't afford to support smaller more LGBT+ supporting places because they often have higher prices (fewer clients), it really sucks sometimes
Trans guy here. My very first experience at a barber I called ahead of time and told them I was a trans guy to ensure I got someone who would be cool about it. When he sat me down in the chair he asked if I was looking for a masculine cut or a men's cut. It was such an insightful and honest question. I told him "men's" and described what I was looking for. Additionally he actually shaved my hairline (a tiny bit back on either side of the widow's peak) which really made my entire face look more masculine.
You are right that smaller places can be more expensive, especially if you are fem. I'd recommend a couple things. One, go to more affordable places' social media and scroll back looking for LGBT+ affirming posts. Once you find one, actually call and explain your situation and ask whomever you are talking to who they recommend. If they aren't at least a bit keen then thank them and move on to a different place. There are a lot of queer and allied people working in the industry at every level and it may take a bit of legwork to find a supportive stylist, but not a lot. And it's well worth the effort to emotionally feel comfortable as well as being able to get a result you love.
can you go less often so the money expenditure evens out?
Do people get angry with you for that? For using your AGAB pronouns I mean?
I've taken to cutting it at home, I'll be honest. For me it was better to change to a buzz cut than go through the dysphoria of it all, though it's not my preference for cut it's something I can do at my skill level. Some good advice about phoning round salons though, might give that a go!
As for the pronouns, I don't really know if folks get angry at me. I've certainly gotten my share of odd looks and genuine questions. But I live in a place where the majority of folks have a "live and let live attitude", so weirdly a lot of the worst comments have come from LGBTQ folks who are confused about why I don't fit the mould of the stereotype of the Non-Binary person they have in their head, rather than the more conservative folk out there who just think I'm the "weird neighbour" and let me be. Unfortunately folks who are early in a binary transition, or use they/them do not have a good time of it living round here
Find a black barber shop and ask for a masculine cut (oh... I guess it depends on how short you want it).
Bring pics too!
If someone called me a piece of slime to avoid misgendering me, I think I'd carry the joy of that moment with me for the rest of my life.
That is correctly gendering me. I'm a plasmoid irl
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@@blowinatrannybut why?
Last week I said something that outed me to a friend. He turned to me and said, "wait, you're trans?" Apparently he thought I was a cis woman. Really awkward, but it's something we can laugh about now
"Transitioning against my parent's wishes". Good on you for doing what you know is right for you, and not letting your parents wishes control your life!❤
Yep. It's not fun, but it's not gonna stop me. I was forbidden from getting a hysterectomy. Yeah sure, whatever, I'm in my 20s, get over it.
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@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jzyou deny science, nazi.
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lets analyse the nonsense /lies many amongst you believe in:
lie: schools are of use (fact. schools keep slavery alive and stands for dumbing down the population of mankind)
lie: moon and mars landings, (fact: even masons know they cannot leave - earth is closed system, unless you want to drown, there is no other place created for us to live in.)
lie: news channels share truth (fact: these are for politic propaganda)
lie: money has a value of its own (fact: it is just a tool of this world, which value has been agreed upon world wide)
lie: NASA lies (globe and all....) (fact: NASA stands for TO DECEIVE) - you havn´t searched - have you?
lie: the lgbtq++++ propaganda (fact: it is a part of masonry depopulation agenda, 500 000 000 souls, thats their goal.)
lie: Evolution and the dinosaurs. (fact: mankind is not hybrid kind)
to keep stating that there was an evolution, then we ain´t humans, we aint then mankind, we are then hybrids. Are you a hybrid?
Lie: holidays (xmas, Halloween, new year eve and so on) (fact: PAGAN HOLIDAYS, to praise BAAL, the god of this world)
lie: U.F.Os (fact: they are demons/evil spirits in high places, against whom we fight daily = spiritual warfare)
lie: rules and laws rule the world (fact: signs and symbols of masonry do)
lie: believe in being educated (fact: found daily living with the lack of knowledge)
lie: religions are ways to heaven (fact: JESUS CHRIST is only way to heaven. Religions, no matter its name = masonic garbage)
lie: our dead loved ones stay around to “ghost” (fact: hunting and ghosting is job of demons, not of humans. We, humans, come from GOD and return back to HIM and all the stories of having been seen a ghost - terrifying, scary, dark, cold - again no job of analysing been done here by you- right?)
Lie: Humans have no immune system and we need vaccines as these save lives (fact: humans HAVE IMMUNE SYSTEM and vaccines are created for one or two purpose: to kill or to cripple)
lie: there is no GOD (fact: There is GOD, who redeems sinners and we are directly created by GOD, Psalms 139:14
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.)
to keep claiming that there is no GOD and we aint created directly from the dust of the earth, we soon run out logic, regardless to we place “evolution” in our claims or not.)
lie: 911 was terror attack (fact: 911 was an inside job, meaning the work of your loved government)
16 lies, should i go on?
8:15 my highschool English teacher did the EXACT SAME THING once 😭
we were talking about social historical figures, and she said in front of the whole class "oh (Name), you know about Harvey Milk? no? huh, I thought you would... anyways, so he was an openly gay man (...)"
I was MOR-TI-FIED, bc:
1- it was a Catholic highschool, with a lot of homophobia by students;
2- I was not out to anyone, let alone people of my class;
3- I hadn't even told her I was any flavor of the rainbow??? 😨
didn't even know I was trans, at that time "just" thought I was bi, but omg??? 😭 I did mention the subject of USA LGBTQ+ fights for rights during the 60s to her, during a casual chat...
I mean, maybe she just thought you were supportive, but yeah that's an oof
For context, I still haven’t fully come out to my family.
I remember in November my sister and I were hanging out and ended up talking about how she started embracing doing things that were for “men”. At some point, our conversation led me to say something along the lines of “I don't see myself like that.”
She asked me why. I got nervous and started stuttering before saying “I don't feel like a girl.” That’s how I came out to my sister
I was the one near the beginning about my grandma outing to my dad that i wore binders😭 I’m so happy for the advice and reaction (and just for being in the video in general), i don’t have people around me to tell me how to bind safely. Thank you Jamie for the trans dad advice ❤
This happened a couple of months after I first went full time (mtf), and before I had my name legally changed.
I was working as an over the road truck driver. When I arrived at a particular customers warehouse in Georgia they had this little guard shack where I had to check in before being permitted onto the property. So I walk up, and give the guard my manifest number and then he asks to see my driver's license (still with dead name), not typical, but not unheard of, and seriously awkward for me at that point. So I fish my licence out of my purse and hand it over. His immediate response is, "I need *your* license, this looks like your cousin's or something." I then had to spend roughly 10 minutes trying to convince him that that was my license. He was obviously not convinced, but finally let me through saying, "I get you don't want to wake your cousin up, but please have him check out when you guys leave."
Hilarious that he wasn't bothered in the least that I might be illegally driving an 80,000 pound vehicle without a license. And extremely affirming that nothing I said could convince him I that my license was in fact mine. Also horrifying to be stuck in the position of trying to convince someone of that. I did make arrangements to get my name change expedited and get a proper ID ASAP.
I'm glad you and your cousin were able to get through safely!
I ordered a packer online, and went with my mom to get the mail when it came in. She kept asking what was in the (very discreetly packaged) box. I didn't want to tell her, so she thought it was a sex toy. Eventually I gave up and just told her it was a packer. She then made me unbox it and show it to her. My mom is supportive but MAN that was embarrassing.
I'm glad she's supportive but that is a total invasion of privacy
Recently I (i’m agender btw) had to use the restroom. I typically use the women's restroom, but it was blocked off and being cleaned. I figured “i have no gender, i can use whatever restroom i want!” And was all confident. I entered the guys restroom, was fine, and then someone came in. They were at the sink and i panicked (i look pretty feminine and i’ve never used the mens restroom before and was kind of hoping no one would come in while i was in there). I walked out, head down, and quickly washed my hands before leaving and seeing someone waiting for the kid that had been in there. I looked them right in the eyes and nodded awkwardly before quickly walking away. Not anything crazy but was so embarrassing for me as a socially anxious person.
You did great!
As someone who identifies as the gender they were assigned, I do the same thing when someone else comes into the bathroom lol
Listen, let me, your Internet Uncle-Gay🏳🌈, tell you a little secret about cis men and public restrooms: *_Everyone_*_ is _*_desperately ignoring_*_ everyone else._
• The straight guys don't want anyone to think they're gay.
• The gay guys [and bi and non-heterosexuals in general] don't want anyone to think they're perving on other guys, since that has the very real risk of getting yourself beaten up.
So, _nobody_ is gonna say anything, because _nobody_ wants to be faced with the response, "What, were you checking me out or something?!?! Dude, _WTF_ man?!?!?!?" Which is also what all of you Enby & agender peeps can respond with if you decide to use the men's room and someone gives you grief.
I mean... With women's lines I've been sorely tempted as somebody that's (probably) cis to use the usually empty men's room. Idk why we don't have private stalls in America. It would never matter if we didn't have 2 inch gaps...
I was at a show one time and during intermission, I had to pee sooo bad but the women's line was sooooo long. So I went in the men's room - there was a line, and I was super fem-presenting that day (skirt, high-heel boots, etc.) - but I waited in line for a stall anyways. A few of the guys kinda looked at me sideways, but didn't say anything. Then a guy come in behind and he said in a loud voice something about me seeing a penis & that I was in the wrong bathroom - so I, in a similarly loud tone, responded, "If I see something I've never seen before, I'll throw a dollar at it." He decided he didn't have to use the restroom, I guess, he walked away and the other guys in the restroom just looked down at the floor and minded their own business. I got to pee and washed my hands and then went back to my seat & enjoyed the rest of the show.
14:18 I once called my agender friend a "mess of a human being". It was meant to be endearing and they took it well.
As an agender person, that is absolutely a compliment.
in my personal opinion, when people used to compliment my deadname, it felt weird not only because I didn't like my name, but because it wasn't actually a compliment to me or anything I had done. Now when people compliment my name, I feel really proud that I put actually quite a bit of effort into choosing one that fits me, and it feels so right now that I always loudly take credit! My name is something that I accomplished and is part of my journey, not something that I was just assigned as that has nothing to do with my person, and it feels like a real compliment in comparison to what I felt when people complimented my pre-transition name/appearance before.
My trans female cousin looked so defeated whenever someone would deadname and misgender her at a funeral that we were at recently. So I hugged her and apologised that people were so rude. And she was like oh I'm used to it but she appreciated me hugging her and calling her by her name (I don't think she's quite legally changed it yet) she is also thinking of getting a trans tattoo at some point and has asked me to accompany her while she gets it done as it will be her first tattoo and she is nervous about it. And I was like absolutely ❤
My grandmother just can't remember my agenderd cousin's preferred name. (She's got dementia so she gets the pass from my cousin. And is just happy to be remembered. And the love and hugs and worrying.)
And I can't either mostly because my cousin deadname them as well so I get confused if they go by it or not.
Sometimes it's just honestly confused and mistakes because one can't be sure and assumes the "closest" knows. Now I know to ask explain I still get genuinely get confused because we don't see eachother that often that it slips me mind and I don't want to hurt them.
I'm almost 2 years into transition and I had to fly for the first time since transitioning. I pass very well and my binder set off the body scanner. I honestly expected it so I was ready for the TSA agent to pull me aside. I told him I was wearing a binder and of course he was confused. He slid his open palm down the front of my binder and was still confused. So I explained to him that I'm trans and it make my boobs disappear. He was so flustered but thanked me for explaining. I just wish I remembered my stp because I would have loved to see what exchange would have happened. 😂
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Slid his palm down the front of the binder??? Wtf, that has to qualify as sexual harassment... first time flying after transition, a patch of sweat on my back set off the scanner (???) and someone had to pat down my back (awkward) but they were quickly satisfied there was nothing alarming about that patch of sweat. Most awkward airport search I've had was when I forgot to take off my belt and someone had to examine the belt buckle (I was frozen) but again that was let go pretty quickly, I imagine because people forget to take off their belts all the time. No packer-related airport problems thankfully.
Semi-related, I had an awkward time flying in early transition because my passport photo wasn't the most up to date and I was a minor (17) flying with my mom who has a different last name. Most awkward conversation around ID documents I've ever had and my mom had to misgender me to not raise even more questions. But on the same flight, people who weren't questioning me about my passport called me sir, which was nice.
@@malter95 Nah that's not sexual harassment. The airport guy assumed he's cis cuz he passes well, and there isn't anything weird about touching a cis guy's chest
@@malter95 not OP, but not down as in "into", down as in "down the outside of the shirt on the front of your body". My binders always cause this, it can be uncomfortable because most people don't like strangers in their personal space, but it's not sexual harassment.
I've had similar. My binder set of the scanner, I was asked if I had anything on my chest, I replied "Boobs", and he replied "Oh, ok, well I have to do a pat down". Yeah, a few inches down my chest it was like his hand was magnetically repelled from my body, his eyes went wide and he just went "Oh, OH, you can go". Like dude, I told you.
I just hate it cause the scanners don't have to be like this. The engineers can make it so someone doesn't have to press a button to designate what sex they think you are.
I had already come out to my friend as nonbinary, and told him it was okay to let people know. However, he was hesitant to tell me how his mother reacted after it had come up in conversation. He'd told her that I was out as nonbinary and was going by they/them pronouns. Apparently his mother insisted on calling me he/him until my, "Parts were chopped off," and then asked my friend, "Why can't you get any NORMAL friends / a girlfriend?" I laughed so hard I nearly ran out of breath.
Grandmaster Spud has uploaded!
lol, i was so confused at a first glance at your comment, asking myself: 'wait, why is jamie a grandmaster spud? oh wait, he actually is.'
As of last wednesday, I am officially out as trans to my immediate family
Will take a bit for me to adjust to my name and pronouns being used, at least my brother doesnt screw up as much as my parents have recently
It was stressful but it feels like a big weight off my shoulders
Congratulations!! That's wonderful 💜💙💛💚❤
@@lasharael thank you
yay ! i'm happy for you ! good job for working up the courage
Goodjob!!!
Way to look out for yourself ❤❤❤
I'm cis and I hate using a urinal. Though I'm physically disabled so if there's a unisex bathroom, I'll just go in there and lock the door anyway. But yeah I don't like peeing in the open. But it is kinda nice when a urinal has one of those dividers between them. But I personally think they need full on stalls around them too.
As a cis woman, I do not understand urinals not being in their own stalls. Nobody wants to communally pee together, right?
@@cloudyskyz2237 Well, no, nobody wants to communally pee … except the Ancient Romans. Like, no, really, public toilets were a Big Social Deal in ancient Rome. It was the one place where people of all classes mixed. There were no private stalls or anything … you just went up to a free spot, hiked up your dress or toga and sat down, then started chatting with everyone else there.
Weird. Totally, Totally Weird. And something I always use as a good reminder that we are not, in any way shape or form, "successors" to any ancient civilization. They were all foreign, all unique cultures with unique and sometimes bizarre [to us] customs.
As cis Internet Uncle-Gay🏳🌈, I can say that I'd like to see much larger dividers … or, any divider at all, really … between urinals as well. Though I think the fear is that dudes will pee on them, making a bigger mess for staff to have to clean up.
@@cloudyskyz2237 Saves on time/space if all you need to do is pee. One of the reasons that the ladies' toilet often has longer lines.
Downside: crap privacy.
@@cloudyskyz2237 yeahhh there's kind of an agreement that guys just, very intensely look forward and definitely don't look to the sides.
For our Trans men bros out their getting their first male haircut. A basic cut that works for most people is asking for a 3 guard on the side with a fade to the top. Then, for the top, ask them to blend it in. I'm Trans fem, and this was the cut I used for most of my life before I figured out I was Trans. It should look good on just about anyone, and then you can keep using that until you decide what else you might want.
This is awesome advice, my first *real* haircut (lol) was in 7th grade and it looked like I got attacked by a lawnmower. It was really, really bad. I'm a trans man, but I'm pretty sure I just looked like I was trying to transition into some shrubbery. 😂
I have accidentally outed myself once. At least one of the people was like "oh, that explains a few things".
Also, awkward+adorable is probably adorkable.
I was with some friends and we were discussing crushes (they were, I was just kinda listening) until this girl turned around, looked me in the eyes, and just out of the blue asked, "Are you GAY?" And instead of the safe option of, "no" I just said "Well I don't fing know!" Anyway turned out she was gay as well so yay🌈
I work in a factory and (on most of the production lines there) we have packing the finished product into cases, by hand. And we do refer to this task as "packing", and the people assigned to do it as "packers".
And since discovering Jamie's videos, and learning a little about the trans experience, this makes me want to snigger a little.
does this mean you're made of silicone?
lmao i laughed way too hard at "my hobbies include transphobia and... sunscreen" 😂
Cis guy here. Yeah, it's really weird when guys pee standing up in a stall without locking the door. I wonder if it's a kind of power play or something? I don't know.
Also, age definitely isn't an excuse. My grandmother (born around the turn of the century) was once having a discussion about controversy over the United Church of Canada ordaining gay ministers. My uncle's mother asked him, "Well, Evelyn! How would you feel if there was a gay minister at your church?!" To which my grandmother replied, "Well, I wasn't planning on sleeping with the minister, so I don't see what the problem is."
@@Supervolcano09nazi
that's such a good response oml
iconic grandmother right there
When someone binds, their knockers are TRANSported into another dimension of course
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I used to wear a packer and would often just throw it anywhere in my bedroom without thought. We had a woman and her sister clean our house once a week. If I wasn't packing I would find my packer placed on my pillow. So yes, the cleaner at that point knew that I owned a sililicon, flaccid penis. And she knew I was trans, she started cleaning our house before I came out and started transition. I don't know if she knew what I used it for, I never asked!
19:31 my (transmasc) brother, always talks about characters having “ugly first transmasc haircuts” so this story made me giggle
Yeah, I chose from the mens hair style book and everything, they still gave me a girls short cut.
I gaslit my barber into thinking I'm a cis dude with T-deficiency to get a proper haircut. Heheheh.
“Sun safe”? More like SON safe 😎
since year 6, ive been growing my hair out(im year 13 currently amab and non binary) so all throughout secondary school a lot of the younger kids keep asking me if im a boy or a girl, and for a while i just said "yes" and walked away lol. it can be very affirming. I have now, however, switched to saying "no" because i realised why it felt so good them asking. I also got told i look like "that princess from Brave" Idk if it was an insult or what but it was very affirming
I wonder if the "a piece of slime" statement was referring to the anime "That Time I Reincarnated as a Slime." The main character, Rimurr, can shapeshirt into many different forms, all of whom are shown as gender neutral. To me, that is a really sweet way of explaining it.
Hold up! I've heard of that one! There's NB rep??
The most gender-affirming moment I've ever had with a stranger, was when I asked an employee for a key to the store's restroom, and she said, "Sure thing! Erm... Which one?"
Such a simple exchange, but I think about it all the time 😊
I also have a funny stp story. At the time during this story I was on night shift and my mother was living with me so I was asleep during this exchange. I have a bad habit of cleaning my stp in the bathroom sink and leaving it there to dry. My toilet was having leaking problems so finally a repair person was sent over to my apartment to fix it. I was asleep in the living room and the way my apartment is laid out the repair person would not see the living room at all. My mother is disabled so she is in my bedroom because it's more comfortable and closer to the bathroom. So when the person was here to fix the toilet my stp was just chilling out in the sink. The whole exchange this guy was giving my mom weird looks. She didn't realize why until he left and she went to the bathroom. When I woke up from work she yelled at me "Stop leaving your dick in the sink!" While gently slapping my upper arm like a mother does. I thought it was so funny. But my stp doesn't chill out in the sink anymore.
I am a cis woman. I changed my name about 45 years ago. It is a one letter name (not an initial), so I get comments all the time. Mostly along the lines of how cool my parents must be. I just laugh and say "it's a taken name, not a given name". My parents were born in 1914 and 1916, had me in their 40s, and were never cool that way.
Woah, I’ve never seen anyone say their parents were born in the 1910s! (For reference, I’m a pretty young adult). That’s genuinely really cool
That's so cool! My mom once knew a woman named B.
If you want to talk anxiety in the restroom, you can talk about the time i went to one in a park and the toilet stalls literally had NO DOORS!
So, when I came out as agender to my mother, she asked about pronouns or prefered names and such (she was and is still very supportive) I told her I didn't care much about pronouns and that I liked the name I had since birth.
So baisically every once in a while swiches between using He/she/they with me and calls me her son, not always her daughter and, IDK im just very happy to have someone as supportive as her in my life.
That’s so beautiful!!
GREAT NEWS TRAIN COMING 🚂🚂
So, my school building is undergoing some heavy maintenance work and will be closed down for some years. So we got moved to another building in town, which is a bit smaller, and the first day we got told that there was only going to be one restroom for both boys and girls. A lot of people were pissed but I'm so happy, we have a gender neutral toilet! Accidentally but it's still so great!
16:28 The Click will approve of your Swedishly-correct pronounciation of "blåhaj"! 😄 FunFact: The letter "å" is pronounced, in Swedish, more like a combination of "oh"+"ah". So "blåhaj"==/bloahai/.
I know that "blah hodge" is incorrect, but I still like pronouncing it that way anyway.
@@electronics-girlsame. I know it’s wrong but I can’t not pronounce it ‘blah-hahsh’
A fellow fan of Click? Yeeaah
Years ago my therapist told me they got leather couches for patients that get emotional and puked on the couch. Not for looks or trying to impress.
One of the moast afirming moment was when my friend said "yea you ARE Amy", as she says, no other name would fit with me as well as this
"I'm now questioning if my voice sounds normal" Me too, me too!
Also 34:10 I had almost the exact experience! Got called a lesbian a lot at school, but have never been interested in girls. At the time, though, there were really only straight trans people in the media so I was like "well, I feel like a boy, but I don't like girls, so that can't be the case," and then aggressively ignored it for another 7 years or so, lol.
Yep. I was called a lesbian because of my complete lack of interest in boys. Apparently my complete lack of interest in girls was irrelevant. Well that is when I wasn't being accused of making my best friend cheat on his girlfriend with me (also my friend). Nothing was actually going on, but the sheer disconnect between those two is bamboozling.
i'm transmasc, and my parents aren't very sportive, my sister has a weird tendency to simply refer to me as "that flesh sac over there (gesturing to my location)" and idk this is kinda funny especially bc everyone seams to know who she is referring to
Hey Jamie, hey everybody! I hope you're all safe and having a great day!
You too friend, have a nice day
Jamie, I love your content!! I’m also trans ftm, and when I’m feeling bad about myself, I sit back and watch your content and it makes me feel less alone. Thank you. 💕
I have so many stories around packers lol
My two weird but faves are ,
When my cat was afew months old I got a new Mr limpy and after opening it just left it on my bed in some packaging, came back a little while later and my cat had got into the packaging and had played with the packer , it was covered in fur and tiny kitty teeth marks 😂 since then I try my best to put them in a draw lol.
Also I used to live on my own in my own flat and used to wash my packers and stps in the kitchen sink and let them air dry on a dish rack.
Anyways one day I had done this and left them to dry, afew hours later I had an unexpected visit from my mum and totally forgot about the packers.
Mum went into the kitchen to make a coffee and scream "what the f are these" at the top of her lungs 😅😅
I went to the kitchen to see what she had found thinking it's a spider or something but she was holding a stp by its balls and I died 😂 I was like "oh that's one of my dicks" 😅😅
Don't ask someone a stupid question you'll get a stupid answer lol
It's so funny to me still to this day however my mum is still mortified by it 😂
Was your mum aware that you were trans?
@@calamityjean1525 yes :)
I've been out since 2011/2012, this happened afew years ago
I am a trans man and i have many awkward toilet stories, one of them was i went to the toilet at an aquarium in london. I hadn't long been out and was still new to to going into mens bathrooms.
There was only one stall at this bathroom so i went in to do my business. Part way through a dad walked in with his kid, and the reason i know this is becuase the gap between the stall and the closed door was so big we could all see each other.
There is nothing more awkward then locking eyes with someone as a young trans man who is sitting down to pee 😅
@@Supervolcano09 you cried again!!! hilarious!!
@@Supervolcano09 it's hilarious. duh. i have only told you that on every single one of your many, many, many, many, many, many posts where you got triggered and cried about trans people like it's your career.
Cis/het mom to a trans adult here, and I had to stop the video and ask my hubby about the men's bathroom stall thing. And yes. They do it in the USA too. He does not know why.
New sub! Found you through The Click and I think you're lovely! 😍 Thanks for making me smile on my horrendously cold, horribly boring, mostly outdoor security night shift. Best cure for depression? INTO THE MEMES!!
Hope ur security night shift went/is going well!😊
Thank you lovely! 40mph gale tonight. Just got hit by some fencing (on a construction site). Looks like it's going to be a long one. Thank God for Jamie...and UA-cam in general! ☺️
@@hollieBlu303 well i hope you stay safe and get through the night!😊 enjoy the rest of the video😁
I outed my self on discord because I forgot the status is global and not server specific... so all my discord friends noticed and I started getting questions, all were positive about it and I am happily out now but that is the most nervous I have been in my life
I had set my Zoom name to my new name, because I had been on a Zoom for a trans group. But then I forgot to change it back before I went on a Zoom with some people I wasn't out to yet. It didn't out me, though. They made the assumption that I had a new girlfriend and I was using her computer. I just let them assume that and didn't correct them. But then, a month later, I came out to them and explained everything.
Yeah I have my pronouns in my discord name but forgot about it when I joined a discord with irl friends
My cis brother does not use the urinals in public toilets because he says he is uncomfortable having his pee pee out in public.
Cis guy here, just on the bathroom thing: I also don't get people who use the stall with the door open. I only use stalls because urinals make me uncomfortable, and the amount of times I had the exact same thing happen of opening an unlocked one just to find someone using it is too many to count. I've even seen people not lock the doors in whole individual toilets, like in service stations and bars, instead of just stalls.
Even on the one toilet I sometimes use that has no locks (it's the only public toilet along my reulgar commute) I hold the door in place with one hand and aim with the other just to make sure no one opens it on my arse (though to be fair the stalls there are so small that the door would hit my side before anyone could see anything).
1:38 it's called Refuge Restrooms for anyone wondering :)
Boosting this, this is the one I use and I had to scroll so far to find this comment
I'm cis women, but during my teenage years I wore binders. Someone gifted few of them to my mother with bunch of used clothes. Neither of us knew what they really were, we thought that they are just cute tops. Now I feel very awkward looking at photos from that time 😅
The bit about the binder reminds me of the most awkward conversation ive ever had to have about them. I got booked into a residential hospital stay and they had to take inventory of all the belongings i brought in and this led to trying to explain WTF a binder was to the nurse. Later found they wrote it down on the records as "bra type top(?)" Lol
I was 5 years old when people started telling me I was in the wrong toilet.
Wtf? If theres no available parent bathrooms and your parent is a opposite gender to you and your under a certain age, that parent can take you in the bathroom of their gender, regardless of what gender you are. Im a woman and i had to take my son in the womens bathroom for a long time until he was old enough to use the mens by himself
I was 8. LOL!
Lmao, I was listening to this while knitting and I was so confused when he said about a trans icon "Blow high"... till I checked the screen and I was like "OOOH".
First time I heard Blahaj being pronounced like that! 😂
That's the correct way to pronounce it, but people usually don't care if you pronounce it differently
@@blahaj. is it? I heard the correct way is "Blah-hag"/"Blah-haj" (like a French "j" in "je suis" or like French "g" in "voyage"), but I'll check again then! :>
As someone who cuts their own hair, it only goes wrong the first few times you do it 😜
As with anything, you have to practice to get better.
As you said, it grows back 😀
The difference between a good haircut and a bad haircut is only like 3 days.
I second this! When I first cut my own hair 3 years ago (a masc haircut, using scissors) it was a little bit patchy, but I quickly became so good at it that I haven't needed the hairdresser since! 😁
my sibling couldn't remember my name after I had first came out. they asked me, "what is your name again? Stab?" my name is Pierce 🤣
Stab the Veil?
0oh Ooh, [ Raises Hand ] So I'm years on hrt at the moment. About 5 years of hrt my mum made a weird foobar talking to a neighbour. I was being silly, as I do and my mum blurts out "(deadname) Enough!" Then double takes, and says "I mean, (My fathers name!)"... cause him and I have the same sense of humor. Then sits there with a pained look and I'm just laughing, cause she was trying. At this point it had been lees than a year since she accepted me back after my coming out, and I could see she was trying. She had just blanked on my new name out of stress. So I just laughed, and gave her a hug!
My kids live with my mum because of their and mine disabilities. My eldest (enbie/masc) keeps saying "I want it cut like [my son]" but they get a barber to do my son and a hair dresser to do my eldest I regularly get "please tell Nanny!" I do, honestly.
Hey Archer, I do that too! My name is Alex though, so not as cool, but I love seeing peoples reactions when I answer like that. In my case I go to a very progressive school in Sweden so normally people barely react, but when they do it's mostly just funny.
The haircut story is WHY I BECAME A BARBER lol.
The Christmas flag collection story made me laugh way more than it should’ve 😭 I love your videos! ❤️
I came out 'cause someone I knew asked why I play female characters all the time and I pulled the "oh, I just like to look at girls" (which still isn't entirely a wrong answer... 😋) and she said "uh huh... you sure your not trans?" and I was all "..... I don't know what that is..." and she told me. After about a couple weeks of my daughter letting me try her cloths on ('cause who knew we were the same size 😂) I decided I really must be trans and now three years later... Ta dah. 🤪🙋♀🏳⚧
I'm somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum, and still in the closet about that. One time I was playing Munchkin with my sister, and I lifted a card which was some form of disadvantage to every player who wasn't a woman. My sister was trying to say there was harm since we were both wonen (I'm not), and I went on a rampage about gender. It was weird. And afterwards kinda funny.
Finally someone else who plays munchkin, the "change sex" curse transed my gender and I'm tired of pretending it didn't
I don't use public toilets. It's just a lot of sitting and not being able to pee out of nervousness.
To be fair, before I came out as trans, I hated public toilets annyway, disgusting, smelly, puddles everywhere... Just... No, don't go there.
I love the piece of slime! My wife and I refer to me as "amorphous blob" lol
I didn't know that Blahaj was a trans icon, but it explains why a trans fem kid who lived with me for a year wanted one for Christmas a couple of years ago.
Story time: Back in 2020, I came out to my best friend and next-door neighbor. He stopped looking me in the eye, or even talking to me once I started dressing femme. Then, a few days later, he came over and told me he couldn't see me any more because he's a married man and I'm a single woman.
Recently, I bumped into him as he was doing the gardening and told him I'm no longer single (I've been with my partner for just over a year) He came around the next day saying it was my fault for wearing "those clothes", that I'd betrayed him with my choices, and that he had prayed and been told by god that I'm excommunicated.
I tried telling him that this wasn't a choice. After 30 years of prayer and repentance trying to make this go away, this is who I am. He just yelled "NO!" and slammed his door in my face.
A couple of weeks ago I overheard his wife mention that I was outside hanging my washing out, so it seems like he was going to wait inside until I was done so we didn't have to cross paths.
I was still hoping that we could be friends again at some point, but given that he's still so bitter after four years, and won't even attempt to listen to anything I have to say, we can definitely call that bridge well and truly burnt.
I am so sorry, hatred and ignorance are truly terrible and hurt everyone, both of you lost a dear person because of that.
The dawn right before the bright sun rises is always the darkest so just look look into the future with your head held high.
"I saw this weird question, it said, *_You get a billion dollars but you have to change genders._* What do you think of that?"
"Ugh, I hate the idea of having to go back to being my assigned gender at birth!"
"Well, how much did it cost to transition the first time? You've got a billion dollars now, after all."
A couple of funny stories I have.
One time I was at a store, and I called out for an employee. They said "Yes, ma'am?" before they saw me. This was before any HRT on my part.
Then, a few days ago, I told a friend that the meds I'm on will cause my chest to be more sensitive. He jokingly asked if I was growing boobs. I answered "Yes" as seriously as I could.
My nipples have been so sore since I started HRT! (About 8 months, now.) It should be worth it, though.
So, not that you need more stories because everyone has sent so many but here we go! I am transfem at university however I come from a very conservative family so my university paperwork was filled out with he/him pronouns. I kind of just accepted it and just threw myself back in the closet. Until I joined my school's D1 Ultimate Frisbee team... and when they added me to the team GroupMe I forgot that I had my pronouns as public... Needless to say, showing up to practice was a little awkward however the team was super nice and supportive. They also helped me change my paperwork; I now live in women's housing and living a glorious feminine life at university!
"Narnia-Deep In The Closet" is a great quote, I am so using that.
THE 3 GENDERS: MAN, WOMAN, PIECE OF SLIME... I ALMOST SPIT MY COFFEE OVER FRESH FOLDED CLOTHES 🤣💗
Person’s story: So I’m a trans guy
Jamie: Oh, me too
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23:10
I’m trans, MtF, but before I was out And was using male restrooms I used stalls because of comfort and “cleanliness”. Urinals have a splash radius like some sort of awkward public magic piss spell. And I didn’t want people seeing anything.
But now I know it might’ve personally been because I’m trans and hated anything make related
Edit: I locked the door, I hate unlocked doors
@@QuinnOsgood-rj7wz wayyyy too gross, I’m just glad I rarely leave the house for long periods of times lol
Wholesome transmasc story:
I went to the mall for my birthday and felt very gender, while my mom did misgender me and absolutely killed my gender euphoria. As i was waiting outside a HotTopic (
@@Supervolcano09 you cried again!!
i've got a story!
i first figured out i was trans about a year and a half ago. there was a period of about 6 months where i was reasonably certain and questioning, but i didn't want to pull the trigger just yet. at the time i was living in a housing program with a very good friend who was identifying as trans at the time. towards the end of my period of questioning, i seapped vehicles from a suburban (massive) to an ancient subaru impreza (tiny). i had a lot of difficulty for a while with paarking, because i was used to parking a much larger vehicle with a lot more ground clearance. i was constantly grinding the front bumper against the little parking bars or leaving my ass hanging out way too far. my friend made fun of me a lot for being bad at parking, and at one point he straight up asked why i was having so much trouble
the response i came up with?
"you know that feeling when you feel out of place in your own body?"
I just started dating a guy from a conservative area and he has a trans friend who I know as well. She's out to anyone except her parents and doesn't pass. My bf doesn't really understand her trans-ness but now that I'm in his life and I consistently use she/her pronouns and her chosen name he's finally starting to pick it up too.
i came out to my friends as nonbinary (any pronouns, he/it pref) a few years ago. we were having a homecoming-ish dinner out somewhere, and everyone was still getting used to the transition. i was wearing a turtleneck and lab coat (who's surprised). my friend said something along the lines of "you're in big trouble, you..." pause for confusion, "sweater"
still makes me laugh when i think about it lmao
You've heard of "friends of sappho" and "friends of dorothy" now get ready for "friends of Blahaj"
@@Supervolcano09!!
L plus ratio get fked@@Supervolcano09
Tbh I find saying “thanks I picked it myself” kinda fun 😅
Funny story about how I came out to my high school english teacher: I'm AFAB non-binary and a friend and I went to ask this teacher a question after school one day and afterwards, we started walking away and he said "Bye ladies!" and I replied with "Bye, I'm not a woman!". The second part was meant to be said quietly to my friend, but instead was said quite loudly and I outed myself to my english teacher and the other twenty or so students in the hallway.
@Supervolcano09 conservatives are fake.
L plus ratio get fked @@Supervolcano09
32:40 "Sun safety" more like Son Safety, as the submitter is a Son who stayed Safe
Aww that’s a cute pun
No incentive to convince myself I'm trans. OMG so helpful. I cried so hard when I realized it. I will carry this in my little pocket to remind myself next time I'm feeling like an imposter.
@@Supervolcano09 LMAO.. trans people make you cry a lot. hilarious!!
@@Supervolcano09 I asked, actually. Don't see anyone asking for *your* input, tho.
My sibling takes so much genuine joy in confusing the shit out of people in regards to gender. The stutter over pronouns is very validating for them, being genderqueer 😂 I think my dad referred to them by it/its once accidentally and they were so chuffed lol