1. You attach too quickly. 2. You don’t fully commit to relationships. 3. You are a people pleaser. 4. You struggle with emotional intimacy. 5. You look for flaws in your partner. 6. You experience separation anxiety. Hope this helps!
A friend always have your back, no matter even if you drift apart. A friend you don’t/shouldn’t worry if they’re leave you lonely. A friend listens and is honest to you always. They call you out on your crap because you’ll more likely to listen to them than others who barely know you.
“When someone goes all out for you, be sure to value that energy and effort to the best of your ability. Never take it for granted because we often lose what and who we don’t appreciate.” ✨
Thats why i gave people i dated the best of me ..it was never good enuf but funny all wanted me back because no one treated them better .too late..i dont even want anyone to have bad kharma i just want to find someone to treat me good and thats the one il keep.
It's hard to trust when you've been betrayed and abandoned countless of times, but not everyone you meet will be the same. Give yourself a chance and give others the benefit of the doubt if you think they deserve it. :)
@Hafsa Muzafar if that is the reason then maybe they truly love you but at the same time afraid. But they are also trying to be brave. It's up to you if you still want to stay in that kind of situation because it's not easy.
I honestly don't know if I have a fear of abandonment or a fear of being manipulated and played with, or a mixture of both. It makes me scared that my partner may not have the same feelings for me as I do for them. And I feel like lately they've been getting a bit more cold towards me. And honestly. It scares me. A lot.
Hey there ! First of all don't be scared and ask your partner if there's a problem with them and if there is try to convince him/her that you only want to help her/him. Well I'm not in a any kind of relationship but as a human being i think i came out really cold towards people around me when i'm stuck in some kind of problem and they judge me as a cold person. But seriously though i love them but....well it's just wrong time to talk to me. I... hope this helps your concern.
Being diagnosed with BPD and having an intense fear of abandonment is rough. 8 months strong with the guy who isn’t afraid to call me out for worrying too much and be there for when I need a shoulder to cry on. Even after all my mood swings and mistakes he still cared and won’t let me go. It’s so difficult and I know I’m not alone in these problems. Hope everyone can also learn to reconcile with this and find the right person :)
I feel like I might be like this. For me, though, I find that I’m clingy, people pleasing to the point of annoying to those around me, and feel the need to always help others with their emotional problems and not thinking of/covering up my own. I’m a very open person naturally about how I feel so sometimes it sounds pushy. it genuinely makes me feel good to see others feeling better, but I’m so drained after. Does anyone else feel this way?
I've been helping my friends with whatever feelings they've have too and because of this, I haven't been taking care of myself and have been losing the balance. You need to make sure you have the time to relax and the time to socialize and help. It's a cycle I go through but I'm making sure I heal.
I feel like most people generally have moments of being "people pleasers" because of our social nature, so it's probably pretty normal. Like you said though, try to keep a good balance. Once people start taking advantage of your generosity, cutting them off would be better.
Another reason is you got abandoned in the past. I got abandoned a lot and my friends didn't understand my huge fear of being abandoned so I cut them out of my life since the friendship was getting toxic too anyways. Not only they didn't understand, but they also worsened it. I still miss my best friend but I'm slowly moving on and slowly getting my life back together.
I did that so much that now I wanna be alone and I am a afraid of not being alone. I’m afraid of being with someone because if I leave loneliness behind, and take a chance, that means there is a chance she will leave and I will be lonely again. To avoid that pain, I don’t even try to date.
I think it is also about them reassuring us and understanding we have trust issues. I think abandonment issues comes from a lack of trust in others and ourselves after a devastating event
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These all describe me perfectly, like 100%. The issue is, that while I don't want to stay like this, I also feel like these behaviors/feelings keep me safe/defend me on some level so I feel too scared to change :(
My partner seems to have abandonment issues and i have helped it a lot by just being patient and supportive. She seems to be getting more confident in herself and our relationship. Also more confdent in her relationship with her parents and friends.
I relate a lot with these, not in the exaggerated way is being shown but close enough, I think my fear of abandonment ruined my important friendships (and is not about a gf or relationships with a girl and such)
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I had a latent abandon me when I was still in kindergarten. I always had issues with getting too close to people to quickly, never payed attention to it. This video was a real eye opener. Thanks!
I may have feared the worst when I watched this video. I can't live with anyone yet I can't live without anyone. I still need space occasionally. Extreme isolation only worsen that fear further. I'm confused. 💔
Reach back out if that's what you really feel! I'm in the same situation on the other side (bf dumped me because he was afraid he wasn't good enough) and I hope every day that he comes back to me. She may still feel things for you, you'll never know if you don't ask
Kinda used to being alone, but it does suck when people aren't what they seem. The more people that leave from my life, the easier it gets for me though.
Last year...... I made two good friends whom to which I always talk to after school,But after 8months or something they started ignoring me and stopped talking to me..... I was shocked that they suddenly stopped talking to me....... From then I always think did I did something.... From then I am scared of being abondended, Being a ambivert(more on a introvert side) I have very few friends.... I do anything to make them happy and they just not leave me for no reason.... 😢😢 (If you really read till here..... Thank you 😊)
Don't worry 'People lose interest in you after a while' its sad but true people leave when they find better friends😢 I hope you will get friends who will never abandon you😊
In middle school I was continuously abandoned by my "friends" during break and lunch times. Even to this day I can't walk at the front of a group because they might walk off without me noticing.
I feel you 😢 Happened the same with me in every friend group ..now i keep things to myself most of the time and well,my partner is also doing ye smae to me i feel
Dang, this was uploaded on the date when my girlfriend started being unsecure and emotionally distant... Now, about a month later, she confirmed that she's afraid of being hurt if someone leaves her, and she got emotionally distant from me because she's afraid I'll leave her too... I wish I could help her, and to change things...
OOF this hit hard. I know I have abandonment issues. I figured it out a few years ago. Because of them, I've never been able to get really close with people. I feel like they're going to leave me or not care enough to put the effort in anyway. I especially relate to the picking of flaws. Whenever I feel like a relationship with someone could actually go somewhere I start seeing all their flaws clear as day and get deterred. I absolutely hate it and I always feel so guily, but at least now I know I'm not the only one! Thanks Psych2Go!
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I had a fight with my partner and these thoughts of losing them kept playing in my head. I do experienced loss when I'm just a child and I just don't want to feel that feeling again. But now, that person had started to ignore me..as if I've never existed in their life...now I'm just scared of losing them even more that I'm actually getting depressed and suicidal...😔
Ty for this video🥺 My mom used to get so angry she’d stomp out the door threatening to unalive herself and go for a drive and be gone for 3+ hours. I never knew if she’d actually come home or if she’d be gone forever. That fears translated into all my friendships and relationships and it really sucks.
The person doing the voiceover should start an ASMR channel !! Reminder :You are so much more than your mind tells you, your insecurities tell you or people tell you. I see you as an amazinggg person. I hope you know that. If you can't see your true worth in a moment its only because you are worth so much more. You are enough, actually more. ❤❤
This is real and most likely is tearing one down. Having so many horrible events like; Abandoned Rape the whole summer when I was 13 At 9 my father was dragged out of our house. By the Sheriff Department, one of them ended being Step Father. So many different types of abusive behavior, sister's, mother's friends every one that comes around. But the real tragedy is someone starts something, like yelling at me saying I'm going to be shown the door, lying that I did something and I wasn't even around..... The list goes on and on. May Love and Peace be within your soul. Take Care dearest friends.
Personally I have a fear of abandonment for as long as I can remember, but it has mainly projected onto my friendships, rather than my romantic relationships. Of course my fear leads to issues in the romantic aspect too, but... All I`m trying to say is we shouldn`t focus only on the intimate relationships, because fear of abandonment can also affect the way we interact with our frineds, family, coworkers, etc. We should take all of that into account before we try solving our problem.
I don’t have to watch a video or having signs to know I’m afraid of abandonment. I’ve had this fear ever since I was 5 and now I’m 12 and I’m still afraid cause whenever I do something wrong my mother always threatens me that she’ll disown me or my siblings if we don’t do what she wants...🥲 Me editing: holding back tears because sister is here😞😓🙁
I'm also 12 and sometimes in the past when I did something wrong my mom would get mad at herself. And since I spend a lot of time with my grandma she would always say "I'll just leave and you can live with your grandmother, is that what you want?" Thankfully she never left, but that terrified me. But she has been working on herself and doesn't do that anymore.
This fear of abandonment makes me feel like I will never be able to love someone as much as I want to. Just recently, I gave up in a potential partner because I was overwhelmed by the thought of how bad the breakup will be because I am starting to have so much feelings for him.
Here's a story about how I have had this- when I was 7 years old I called the cops before school because my dad was outside. I thought he left me forever and dialed 911. This is just one example! It's strange because, I don't think I lost anything as a child. I definitely don't think I have this anymore though.
Hahahaha... children are always like that. For me it's the exact opposite: one day my mother faked an abandonment and I was so calm that she felt betrayed instead. She'll never know I feared for my life HAHAHAHAHA
Bruh in the first grade I was sobbing because my mom didn’t say goodbye when she went to work so I had to call her Bruh when I was younger I slept over at my grandma’s house and was sobbing because I left my blanket(Blankie) Bruh a few years ago I went to sleep away camp and cried every day *Bruh last year i made up hundreds of excuses so I didn’t have to let go of a toxic relationship and gave myself anxiety* I see a pattern
hey there, the pattern must surely be tiring for you but i hope it all works out soon! i cant do much, other than send good vibes and a virtual hug for you :))
my dad wrote me a letter when i was 10, saying he had to leave for a while (him and my mom had contemplated splitting since i was born and they fought so often he needed to go), he told me to tell my siblings i loved them and that he’d miss me. my mom and baby sister and brother were all i had for those months, and i was horrified of my dad never coming. yes, he came back eventually, after a few months, but im still constantly terrified ill be abandoned again. so many friends (including my girlfriend) have left my life and my dad has been on and off doing it since i was a child... i don’t want to let anyone in again...
Can we get a video on sibling relationships? We know all siblings have fights all the time, so how do we differentiate between normal fights and verbal abuse?
It's comforting in a sense to hear a discussion on this by someone that isn't trying to tell me what I'm doing wrong (according to how they would handle things). I've been wishing to have a girlfriend for the past two decades because I wanted some constant in my life that would care about me and actually want to be around me. Now I'm too afraid to approach dating because I don't want to smother a woman with being needy and clingy, wanting to make up for the years and years and years of wanting to hug and hold someone and to not be starved for human affection anymore. I'm afraid if I ever do find someone, that they'll catch on to my lack of relationship experience and leave me for someone else. It's so incredibly difficult to fight this day in and day out. It makes me feel guilt for wanting to love and be loved.
Thank you for understanding this topic better! 🙏 someone who loves you won’t take you for granted, there may be many women who do this too. That’s not real healthy love. Good to understand this a bit better.
Signs and symptoms of abandonment issues in adults include: always wanting to please others (being a “people pleaser”) giving too much in relationships. an inability to trust others. pushing others away to avoid rejection. feeling insecure in romantic partnerships and friendships. codependency.
After watching the video I began thinking that maybe I didn't have abandonment issues, that it might be something else I suffer from. However after seeing your list I can identify with every single one. Thanks :)
Can you look into why somebody like me is so quick to cut people off, or act like I don’t care about the people I love? It’s like I destroy everything I get close to
*I think the reason why I have fears of Abandonment, is because my parents always say when I’m annoying, “If you don’t shut up I’m going to leave you here.”*
My best friend ended our friendship in January this year and since then I've been dealing with severe anxiety issues and breakdowns, I couldn't sleep nor eat. I miss him SOSOOOO much but he doesn't wanna fix things up neither he wants to hear my side of the story. I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. We were the closest friends 🥺❤
This video is so relatable. Thank you for this video. Really appreciate it. This video has really helped me realise and understand myself. I have been struggling with abandonment fear for a long time now. This is so me right now!
I think my brain rn is just in the worst of repression lol. Like: "Alone? What does 'alone' mean? Are there even people around? DO THEY EXIST?" Then I have a crisis because I'm alone and I'm like: "Oooh... wait, what? Do these feelings exist? Omg I'm feeling something. Awful :("
When I was a child, my best friends family moved away and she went to school and got new friends. Any time I asked her to hang out, she said she was meeting w her new friends. She said she was pretty popular in her school. My mother told me to stop calling her so I did. Many years passed and I had bffs on and off but one person in particular hur me alot. Sometimes she would be the nicest person and let me very close to her and sometimes she would just push me away and talk to other people. It continued for a pretty long time and i got really bitter about it. I found it almost impossible to forgive her, especially when she didn't listen to my side of things. She often invalidated my feelings and it was very hard to deal with. After those incidents I was really scared of commiting to a friendship but it was the thing I wanted the most. I craved meaningful friendships. In the spring of last year I started to hang out with a girl and we had a lot of fun. I was so excited and wanted to be bffs with her. I wanted us to be friends forever but I also feared that she would abandon me. And then, in the fall, she did just that. Se never really seemed to know why but I think it was because I clinged on her so hard. She knew she would hurt me and destroy me by letting me go and I'm pretty sure distressing to her to have such a responsibility. And now that I think about it. It wasn't fair either. I've done some soul searching lately and discovered all these things about myself and it has been eyeopening. I always considered if the problems in my relationships were my fault or were the people around me just spiteful. Was the universe just mean to me? But now I know and I'm so happy. I'm gonna work on it and I know I will get past it. I just have a question to you. Should I talk about these things to the last friend I told you about? I really don't know if it would be weird or...?
If you feel that talking to her about these things will put you in a better headspace then I say go for it. The worse thing is to wish you would have said something when you had the opportunity but you never said anything. If it’s imperative to you that she’s knows about how you feel, then yes you should tell her. However, if her response is not what you expect or even if there is no response at all, dont press the issue, because you’ve already spoke your truth.
I used to be a people pleaser when I was younger. It was horrible! Instead of standing up for myself, I began to isolate myself from others, and resented them for two decades.
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I got into a relationship with somebody and moved things very fast. We said we loved eachother after the first month. I never actually let myself fully connect with her emotionally but I still stayed with her for 11 months because I was terrified of losing her despite never being happy due to not being emotionally there at all. I finally broke up with her and terrible anxiety attacks and panic attacks over it. Recently things have calmed down and we’re becoming friends again but I find myself still terrified of her hating me or thinking I’m annoying. Everytime she tries to end a convo I get a wave of anxiety. I’ve worked through so much of the anxiety to get to the point where I can finally just be her friend like I always wanted to be but now I still find myself clinging and people pleasing and being annoying
Sign* I always keep losing friends and people I trust there is not much people to support me anymore, I am sad.... I just lost a friend yesterday and we used to be a very good friend. The only group of people I really trust is Psch2go, they never broke promises
I had a really bad messy childhood with left me with a lot of problems growing up. I didn't realize I had attachment issues until a coworker who was starting to be friend me pointed it out. At first, I was in complete denial until he gave me examples of what I do proving to me that I had attachment issues, and bc he helped me out I trusted him and started to trust him and told him things I've never told anyone. Yet with all he did for me and how nice and understanding he was, one day out of the bule he blocked me on everything and we have not talked since. This happened almost a year ago and still thinking about this brings me pain.
@@ashleyjohnson7496 It's too bad you didn't get a chance to ask him. Closure is healthy for both sides. I would try to get to the root of the problem IF he ever unblocks/gets in touch with you again. Not that you should or anything, just speaking for myself-it would help me move on, preserve my own sanity and not have me constantly questioning myself. I've found myself on the opposite end of the spectrum...I didn't block the person, just sort of left him, stopped using social media and whatnot. I felt like he wasn't being sincere, never really initiated conversations and when I'd once asked him to do something for me(something small-just get in touch with another girl that I needed to talk to)he simply didn't do it. Years later I ran into him; I was friendly and he was not. Turns out he'd been interested but did the whole "feign interest thing". To do this day, I do not know why people do that..I mean, if we care about someone, the logical thing would be to respect that person and not have someone count on us to do something and then simply not do it. This is why clear communication is so important..not sure what happened there with your co-worker. In my experience though, we ought to be wary of what personal stuff we share with co-workers. I had a not-so-positive experience with gossip in the workplace myself, so...
my friends who stopped talking to me a year ago, giving me a worse fear of friendship abandonment: *sends me friend request but even though i accept they dont say anything to me*
Jesus this video…this is what eventually drove me to kill my first relationship. We broke up yesterday on mutual terms but now I see what I was doing wrong. I hope to be able to use this as motivation for self improvement going forward
6 signs of abandonment: 1: u attach too quickly to someone 2: u don’t fully commit to relationships 3. ur a ppl pleaser 4: u struggle with emotional intimacy 5: u look for flaws in ur partner 6: u experience separation anxiety hope this helps :))
felt, smh.. it’s quite sad for myself and the others tho cuz where someone vents to their partner, they shouldn’t be afraid to vent to them, it was kinda weird where i was home and my person comes back home with their cousin and they got done eating from a bar/restaurant. like i thought he didn’t wanna hangout with his boy cousin anymore due to drama where he said “i’m done hanging out w/my cousin!” if so, why was he at a bar restaurant to hangout with his cousin and without telling me? like i tried to asking why he didn’t tell me that he’s gonna be at a restaurant bar with his cousin and then my bf said, “you wouldn’t understand” then just walked away from me and kept on continuing talking to his boy cousin in our home, like he said that he’s gonna go out for a ride since he was bored, idk.. i just thought of that was kinda sketchy since i thought he’s gonna go out for a lil, “joy ride”.. not to go to a restaurant bar to hangout like i dunno they bumped into each other by a accident OR they wanted to meet up with each other and planned to hangout behind my back soo idk rn like fr, this is why and now for myself i’m not really telling him what’s going on in my life or what i’m doing sometimes like couple days i told him that i went a on a joy ride to go to a haunted house in the capital of my state where i live at and then he was like, “u didn’t tell me that” and he did asked me “why did u go there?” in a concerning tune of his voice tho, now he’s wondering why i don’t train/work out with him for martial arts (shinye) tell him what’s going on in my life, or don’t even vent to him anymore, ect. (aka. more), rip.. /: ;-;
Ah, I wish I waited for this video for a little bit longer before saying some dumb stuff 😅 But I do not relate to the last one, I may overthink but I keep it to myself, I'd never spam my other half with messages. I'd send one and if they wouldn't respond, I would not send more
Fear of abandonment for me personally stems from childhood and adolescence, I was often times made fun, taken advantage of, ostracized at times, I was afraid to get hurt, I struggled with confidence, low self esteem, etc... it cost me countless opportunities to date quality girls. How can I overcome these fears?
1. You attach too quickly.
2. You don’t fully commit to relationships.
3. You are a people pleaser.
4. You struggle with emotional intimacy.
5. You look for flaws in your partner.
6. You experience separation anxiety.
Hope this helps!
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Thanks!
Yup that’s me now how do I fix it?
@@jeromykriege learning to heal your trust issues, not depending on a partner when in a relationship, and having more self-love for urself can help :)
A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are. 🧡
And a friend who dosent tell your secrets and tell there secrets to you and trust you
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I am that friend but she doesn't appreciate for having me so I'm out. 🤣
Or any real relationship.
A friend always have your back, no matter even if you drift apart. A friend you don’t/shouldn’t worry if they’re leave you lonely. A friend listens and is honest to you always. They call you out on your crap because you’ll more likely to listen to them than others who barely know you.
Kid version of me: don't leave... Pls!!
Adult version: here... Let me open the door for you.
The adult version is me, who is 13 years old
Yep pretty much, I spect that some persons leave me because is good to have boundaries.
Yeaaa
Sounds about right. As kids we begged them to stay, as adults we decide to reject them first in order to make it easier.
That hit in a different spot- that’s deep
“Never get too attached because people wake up with different feelings everyday. It’s only natural.”
-Unknown
Forgot who quoted that
well at least they don't wake up wanting to punch you just because you exist I see... why did I said that sorry I need help and a hug
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@@michaelokeke4976 thanks... I liked this quote tho
@@diogocasstro We all can learn from each other. With this quote, I am even teaching myself this as well.
@@michaelokeke4976 ah yes,
“When someone goes all out for you, be sure to value that energy and effort to the best of your ability. Never take it for granted because we often lose what and who we don’t appreciate.” ✨
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Excellent advice! Thank You
Thank you for the human advice. We are robots, but understand your sentence.
Thats why i gave people i dated the best of me ..it was never good enuf but funny all wanted me back because no one treated them better
.too late..i dont even want anyone to have bad kharma i just want to find someone to treat me good and thats the one il keep.
and in the brilliant word of joni mitchell:
''Don't it always seem to go
That you don't know what you've got till it's gone''
It's hard to trust when you've been betrayed and abandoned countless of times, but not everyone you meet will be the same. Give yourself a chance and give others the benefit of the doubt if you think they deserve it. :)
@Hafsa Muzafar love doesn't leave and come back when it's convenient. I'm not an expert tho haha.
@Hafsa Muzafar why are they leaving in the first place?
@Hafsa Muzafar if that is the reason then maybe they truly love you but at the same time afraid. But they are also trying to be brave. It's up to you if you still want to stay in that kind of situation because it's not easy.
Nah bro everyones the same
said by someone with severe mental health problems
3:05 My musical theatre kid self not recognizing until five seconds into the lyrics: OH I'm dumb.
Love the reference
Same! 😂
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Same !
I was wondering if others noticed that too!
I was scrolling the comments to see if anyone else picked up on that too😂Thanks everyone for existing🙈🕺🏼💥❤️
This channel understands me more than anyone else......
Didn't even need to hear the 6 signs, the title alone got me
I honestly don't know if I have a fear of abandonment or a fear of being manipulated and played with, or a mixture of both. It makes me scared that my partner may not have the same feelings for me as I do for them. And I feel like lately they've been getting a bit more cold towards me. And honestly. It scares me. A lot.
Hey there ! First of all don't be scared and ask your partner if there's a problem with them and if there is try to convince him/her that you only want to help her/him. Well I'm not in a any kind of relationship but as a human being i think i came out really cold towards people around me when i'm stuck in some kind of problem and they judge me as a cold person. But seriously though i love them but....well it's just wrong time to talk to me.
I... hope this helps your concern.
I have a fear of people leaving me because my family has abandoned me
When you experience something traumatic, it lives with you. What advice do you have for someone in your shoes?
The video said “three mins ago”-
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@@Psych2go I’m here for you and I’m here to listen
@@Psych2go Will you ever create a video on how to deal with abandonment issues?
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Being diagnosed with BPD and having an intense fear of abandonment is rough. 8 months strong with the guy who isn’t afraid to call me out for worrying too much and be there for when I need a shoulder to cry on. Even after all my mood swings and mistakes he still cared and won’t let me go. It’s so difficult and I know I’m not alone in these problems. Hope everyone can also learn to reconcile with this and find the right person :)
BPD Borderline Personality Disorder or BD Bipolar Disorder?
@@MiVidaBellisima Fear of abandomnent. Definitely BPD.
Yeah I'm the friend of someone with BPD and I adore the girl. Shame she wants to die :(
i'm diagnosed with BPD too. i've never had a serious relationship and i'm afraid i never will
@@Evanescence4ever100 you will,hang in there♥️🙏
I feel like I might be like this. For me, though, I find that I’m clingy, people pleasing to the point of annoying to those around me, and feel the need to always help others with their emotional problems and not thinking of/covering up my own. I’m a very open person naturally about how I feel so sometimes it sounds pushy. it genuinely makes me feel good to see others feeling better, but I’m so drained after. Does anyone else feel this way?
Yup
... same
I've been helping my friends with whatever feelings they've have too and because of this, I haven't been taking care of myself and have been losing the balance. You need to make sure you have the time to relax and the time to socialize and help. It's a cycle I go through but I'm making sure I heal.
I feel like most people generally have moments of being "people pleasers" because of our social nature, so it's probably pretty normal. Like you said though, try to keep a good balance. Once people start taking advantage of your generosity, cutting them off would be better.
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💖🖤在整個人類歷史上，強者，富人和具有狡猾特質的人捕食部落，氏族，城鎮，城市和鄉村中的弱者，無`'守和貧窮成員。然而，人類的生存意願迫使那些被拒絕，被剝奪或摧毀的基本需求的人們找到了一種生活方式，並繼續將其DNA融入不斷發展的人類社會。.
說到食物，不要以為那些被拒絕的人只吃垃圾。相反，他們學會了在被忽視的肉類和蔬菜中尋找營養。他們學會了清潔，切塊，調味和慢燉慢燉的野菜和肉類，在食品市場上被忽略的部分家用蔬菜和肉類，並且學會了使用芳香的木煙（如山核桃，山核桃和豆科灌木 來調味g食物煮的時候 1616853910
Another reason is you got abandoned in the past. I got abandoned a lot and my friends didn't understand my huge fear of being abandoned so I cut them out of my life since the friendship was getting toxic too anyways. Not only they didn't understand, but they also worsened it. I still miss my best friend but I'm slowly moving on and slowly getting my life back together.
My logic:
“I’m afraid of being alone so I don’t try to get into a relationship with anyone.” 😳
I did that so much that now I wanna be alone and I am a afraid of not being alone. I’m afraid of being with someone because if I leave loneliness behind, and take a chance, that means there is a chance she will leave and I will be lonely again. To avoid that pain, I don’t even try to date.
@@kaseyhussle Seriously?! This is literally me too!:o:/ I thought I was the only one. I feel it's such a hard feeling to have:(:/
And I'm 23 years old and never been with anyone before
I think it is also about them reassuring us and understanding we have trust issues. I think abandonment issues comes from a lack of trust in others and ourselves after a devastating event
not me shutting everyone out because i’m afraid of being abandoned 😳🤚
you're not alone ♥️
The adorable aesthetically pleasing animation, the simplified explanations, the welcoming community and the way you guys respond to most of the comments is just out of this world! Love your channel so much Psych2Go keep up the great work!!
Yay, thank you! :)
These all describe me perfectly, like 100%. The issue is, that while I don't want to stay like this, I also feel like these behaviors/feelings keep me safe/defend me on some level so I feel too scared to change :(
My partner seems to have abandonment issues and i have helped it a lot by just being patient and supportive. She seems to be getting more confident in herself and our relationship. Also more confdent in her relationship with her parents and friends.
That's amazing, thank you for doing that! I wish more people would realize how important and powerful those traits are!
thank you for doing good things like, comforting your gf. I'm claiming to the stuffs like these
I relate a lot with these, not in the exaggerated way is being shown but close enough, I think my fear of abandonment ruined my important friendships (and is not about a gf or relationships with a girl and such)
This channels cursee man get off while you can
This is actually my biggest fear
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!💖🖤❤️今後は気をライブ配信の再編ありがとうです！この日のライブ配信は、かならりやばかったですね！１万人を超える人が見ていたもん（笑）やっぱり人参最高！まさかのカメラ切り忘れでやら1かしたのもドキドキでした,.💖🖤
在整個人類歷史上，強者，富人和具有狡猾特質的人捕食部落，氏族，城鎮，城市和鄉村中的弱者，無`'守和貧窮成員。然而，人類的生存意願迫使那些被拒絕，被剝奪或摧毀的基本需求的人們找到了一種生活方式，並繼續將其DNA融入不斷發展的人類社會。.說到食物，不要以為那些被拒絕的人只吃垃圾。相反，他們學會了在被忽視的肉類和蔬菜中尋找營養。他們學會了清潔，切塊，調味和慢燉慢燉的野菜和肉類，在食品市場上被忽略的部分家用蔬菜和肉類，並且學會了使用芳香的木煙（如山核桃，山核桃和豆科灌木 來調味食物煮的時候 1616853910
Who here loves this ANIMATION as much we do? COMMENT IF YES! :)
Also, as part of our initiative to build more mental health awareness in Korea, we created a new video to help you see if there are signs of childhood trauma. You can watch here: ua-cam.com/video/WzJdU_1rt2Y/v-deo.html
The points are referenced from a book.
The animation and voiceover 🤩🤩 nailed it. Absolutely amazing. Yall are doing a great job
Yes
I'm always over thinking about everything and analizing everything and everyone, your team really helps me go through some problems in my life, i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, thank you and your team
I love the animation and of course but not now because my mom will kick my butt if she saw me on my phone 😅😁
Trying out new animators I see
A lot of theses videos made me realize I needed counseling and I’m so glad it did
THAT HAMILTON REFERENCE I LOVE YOU
YES
We stan hamilton
Time? 🤧
OUI
@Kaitlyn nope , Hamilton fans always notice😌
I had a latent abandon me when I was still in kindergarten. I always had issues with getting too close to people to quickly, never payed attention to it. This video was a real eye opener. Thanks!
#1 is eye-opening! I never knew that attaching too quickly is a sign of a fear of abandonment.
I've struggled with abandonment issues for YEARS. All these are spot on!
I may have feared the worst when I watched this video. I can't live with anyone yet I can't live without anyone. I still need space occasionally. Extreme isolation only worsen that fear further. I'm confused. 💔
same here....
So I’ve always known that I have a fear of abandonment, but the fact that I hit every single point perfectly makes it reality😂💀
I left her because i felt i wasn't good enough for her. It hurts me everyday & i regret it. I would give anything to have her back in my life. 💔
Reach back out if that's what you really feel! I'm in the same situation on the other side (bf dumped me because he was afraid he wasn't good enough) and I hope every day that he comes back to me. She may still feel things for you, you'll never know if you don't ask
Really went all out on the production value on this one, from the animation to the music to the brain maze pattern in the background. Simply gorgeous!
Kinda used to being alone, but it does suck when people aren't what they seem. The more people that leave from my life, the easier it gets for me though.
That feeling when you relate to all 6 signs...
I did relate to all of them, are abandonment issues bad??
Last year...... I made two good friends whom to which I always talk to after school,But after 8months or something they started ignoring me and stopped talking to me..... I was shocked that they suddenly stopped talking to me....... From then I always think did I did something.... From then I am scared of being abondended, Being a ambivert(more on a introvert side) I have very few friends.... I do anything to make them happy and they just not leave me for no reason.... 😢😢
(If you really read till here..... Thank you 😊)
Don't worry
'People lose interest in you after a while' its sad but true people leave when they find better friends😢
I hope you will get friends who will never abandon you😊
@@tejas4567 Oh, thanks😊😊
@@rajshriuparkar2017 you are welcome :)
To everyone who's here today watching this, sending positive energy to you all. You are wonderful and unique and you all deserve to be happy.
In middle school I was continuously abandoned by my "friends" during break and lunch times. Even to this day I can't walk at the front of a group because they might walk off without me noticing.
yeah... who you think is your best friend.. is bf with someone else..
I feel you 😢
Happened the same with me in every friend group ..now i keep things to myself most of the time and well,my partner is also doing ye smae to me i feel
I think I have this but with friends, that and im terrified of them.
yes exactly, I feel that
I had/have separation anxiety with friends. I try my hardest not to panic when I'm left alone though.
Been going through that myself. What sucks is I know I might be overreacting, but it's so hard to get out of that negative thought process.
Dang, this was uploaded on the date when my girlfriend started being unsecure and emotionally distant... Now, about a month later, she confirmed that she's afraid of being hurt if someone leaves her, and she got emotionally distant from me because she's afraid I'll leave her too... I wish I could help her, and to change things...
OOF this hit hard. I know I have abandonment issues. I figured it out a few years ago. Because of them, I've never been able to get really close with people. I feel like they're going to leave me or not care enough to put the effort in anyway. I especially relate to the picking of flaws. Whenever I feel like a relationship with someone could actually go somewhere I start seeing all their flaws clear as day and get deterred. I absolutely hate it and I always feel so guily, but at least now I know I'm not the only one! Thanks Psych2Go!
I JUST SAW THE HAMILTON REFERENCE YES
FINISH THE LYRICS, THERES NOTHING LIKE SUMMER IN THE CITY
SOMEONE IN A RUSH NEXT TO SOMEONE LOOKING PRETTY
THERES TROUBLE IN THE AIR YOU CAN SMELL IT...
alexanders by himself, i'll let him let it...
I hadn’t slept in a week, I was weak, I was awake. You had never seen a bastard orphan more in need of a break...
Longing for Angelica, missing my wife and that’s when ms. Mariah Reynolds walked into my life she said...
...I know you are a man of honour. I so sorry to bother at home but I don't know where to gooo and I came her all aloooone....
@@kalhue6165 My husband's doing me wrong, beating me, cheating me, mistreating me
Amanda is my favorite VO. Her voice calms me so much and helps me comprehend what's being said.
I had a fight with my partner and these thoughts of losing them kept playing in my head. I do experienced loss when I'm just a child and I just don't want to feel that feeling again. But now, that person had started to ignore me..as if I've never existed in their life...now I'm just scared of losing them even more that I'm actually getting depressed and suicidal...😔
Ty for this video🥺
My mom used to get so angry she’d stomp out the door threatening to unalive herself and go for a drive and be gone for 3+ hours. I never knew if she’d actually come home or if she’d be gone forever. That fears translated into all my friendships and relationships and it really sucks.
Me: writes down feelings of fear and mistrust
Her: it's free real estate!
Xd
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!❤️ 在整個人類歷史上，強者，富人和具有狡猾特質的人捕食部落，氏族，城鎮，城市和鄉村中的弱者，無`'守和貧窮成員。然而，人類的生存意願迫使那些被拒絕，被剝奪或摧毀的基本需求的人們找到了一種生活方式，並繼續將其DNA融入不斷發展的人類社會。
說到食物，不要以為那些被拒絕的人只吃垃圾。相反，他們學會了在被忽視的肉類和蔬菜中尋找營養。他們學會了清潔，切塊，調味和慢燉慢燉的野菜和肉類，在食品市場上被忽略的部分家用蔬菜和肉類，並且學會了使用芳香的木煙（如山核桃，山核桃和豆科灌木
來調味食物煮的時候
1616853913
The animation is so cute! I wish I could hug the little characters. ^^
I'm sorry but,
Why is your voice so soothing
It's therapeutic or on purpose for the listener.
3:04 OKAY IK THIS IS A SERIOUS VIDEO AND I HAVE MAJOR ABANDONMENT ISSUES BUT THE HAMILTON REFERENCE WAS PERFECT
I'm honestly this close to just, giving up
The person doing the voiceover should start an ASMR channel !!
Reminder :You are so much more than your mind tells you, your insecurities tell you or people tell you.
I see you as an amazinggg person. I hope you know that.
If you can't see your true worth in a moment
its only because you are worth so much more.
You are enough, actually more. ❤❤
is having occasional nightmares of suddenly being abandoned a sign? i've had lots of them in the past..
This is real and most likely is tearing one down. Having so many horrible events like;
Abandoned
Rape the whole summer when I was 13
At 9 my father was dragged out of our house. By the Sheriff Department, one of them ended being Step Father.
So many different types of abusive behavior, sister's, mother's friends every one that comes around.
But the real tragedy is someone starts something, like yelling at me saying I'm going to be shown the door, lying that I did something and I wasn't even around..... The list goes on and on.
May Love and Peace be within your soul. Take Care dearest friends.
This is a serious topic u.u
... But that Hamilton reference thou ¬v¬
(I thought I couldn't love this channel more)
omg the drawing/animation improved so much
Personally I have a fear of abandonment for as long as I can remember, but it has mainly projected onto my friendships, rather than my romantic relationships. Of course my fear leads to issues in the romantic aspect too, but... All I`m trying to say is we shouldn`t focus only on the intimate relationships, because fear of abandonment can also affect the way we interact with our frineds, family, coworkers, etc. We should take all of that into account before we try solving our problem.
Wow this is spot on. It sucks that I ruined potential relationships due to that.
I love the art style. It reminds me of the art style from the
3 ways to stay in the honeymoon phase video :>
Great presentation
I don’t have to watch a video or having signs to know I’m afraid of abandonment.
I’ve had this fear ever since I was 5 and now I’m 12 and I’m still afraid cause whenever I do something wrong my mother always threatens me that she’ll disown me or my siblings if we don’t do what she wants...🥲
Me editing: holding back tears because sister is here😞😓🙁
I'm also 12 and sometimes in the past when I did something wrong my mom would get mad at herself. And since I spend a lot of time with my grandma she would always say "I'll just leave and you can live with your grandmother, is that what you want?" Thankfully she never left, but that terrified me. But she has been working on herself and doesn't do that anymore.
Hang in there you guys.
@@elizadarcy8641 thank you
@@secretkqt my mom still does it to this very day, but it’s okey, you’re not alone☺️😁
@@Unsociable_Artist im sorry to hear that. hope it gets better
This fear of abandonment makes me feel like I will never be able to love someone as much as I want to. Just recently, I gave up in a potential partner because I was overwhelmed by the thought of how bad the breakup will be because I am starting to have so much feelings for him.
Here's a story about how I have had this- when I was 7 years old I called the cops before school because my dad was outside. I thought he left me forever and dialed 911. This is just one example! It's strange because, I don't think I lost anything as a child. I definitely don't think I have this anymore though.
Hahahaha... children are always like that. For me it's the exact opposite: one day my mother faked an abandonment and I was so calm that she felt betrayed instead. She'll never know I feared for my life HAHAHAHAHA
@@vespiqueen1984 Damn y did ur mom do that 😳😂 was it an experiment or somthin
@@ivythealiencat Yeah... she's a sadist like me :")
@@vespiqueen1984 Oof that suck. I kinda relate since id experiment on my mom when i was a toddler 😭 I was a creepy bastard. Atlest we aint boring 😎
@@ivythealiencat She taught me how to be an asshole, so I learnt something new HAHAHAHA
Can we just appreciate how quickly they put out new videos? It’s amazing
Bruh in the first grade I was sobbing because my mom didn’t say goodbye when she went to work so I had to call her
Bruh when I was younger I slept over at my grandma’s house and was sobbing because I left my blanket(Blankie)
Bruh a few years ago I went to sleep away camp and cried every day
*Bruh last year i made up hundreds of excuses so I didn’t have to let go of a toxic relationship and gave myself anxiety*
I see a pattern
hey there, the pattern must surely be tiring for you but i hope it all works out soon!
i cant do much, other than send good vibes and a virtual hug for you :))
@@SoumyaMehtalove yeah its rlly hard but thanks for taking the time to comment, it means a lot :)
have a great day
Back when I was 3 in kindergarten I was crying because my mom dident say bye..
my dad wrote me a letter when i was 10, saying he had to leave for a while (him and my mom had contemplated splitting since i was born and they fought so often he needed to go), he told me to tell my siblings i loved them and that he’d miss me. my mom and baby sister and brother were all i had for those months, and i was horrified of my dad never coming. yes, he came back eventually, after a few months, but im still constantly terrified ill be abandoned again. so many friends (including my girlfriend) have left my life and my dad has been on and off doing it since i was a child... i don’t want to let anyone in again...
Can we get a video on sibling relationships? We know all siblings have fights all the time, so how do we differentiate between normal fights and verbal abuse?
It's comforting in a sense to hear a discussion on this by someone that isn't trying to tell me what I'm doing wrong (according to how they would handle things). I've been wishing to have a girlfriend for the past two decades because I wanted some constant in my life that would care about me and actually want to be around me. Now I'm too afraid to approach dating because I don't want to smother a woman with being needy and clingy, wanting to make up for the years and years and years of wanting to hug and hold someone and to not be starved for human affection anymore. I'm afraid if I ever do find someone, that they'll catch on to my lack of relationship experience and leave me for someone else. It's so incredibly difficult to fight this day in and day out. It makes me feel guilt for wanting to love and be loved.
Yup this all sounds like me. Sadly they always leave me after the first point.😅But luckily Im already seeing a therapist. P.S love your videos
Thank you for understanding this topic better! 🙏 someone who loves you won’t take you for granted, there may be many women who do this too. That’s not real healthy love.
Good to understand this a bit better.
i've been hearing about god complexes and suprioty complexes is there a dissrence or are they the same?
3:04 I love this Hamilton reference!!
Signs and symptoms of abandonment issues in adults include:
always wanting to please others (being a “people pleaser”)
giving too much in relationships.
an inability to trust others.
pushing others away to avoid rejection.
feeling insecure in romantic partnerships and friendships.
codependency.
After watching the video I began thinking that maybe I didn't have abandonment issues, that it might be something else I suffer from. However after seeing your list I can identify with every single one. Thanks :)
Can you look into why somebody like me is so quick to cut people off, or act like I don’t care about the people I love?
It’s like I destroy everything I get close to
@V Maverick we gotta see people for who they really are, and let go of what we think of them.
*I think the reason why I have fears of Abandonment, is because my parents always say when I’m annoying, “If you don’t shut up I’m going to leave you here.”*
My best friend ended our friendship in January this year and since then I've been dealing with severe anxiety issues and breakdowns, I couldn't sleep nor eat. I miss him SOSOOOO much but he doesn't wanna fix things up neither he wants to hear my side of the story. I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. We were the closest friends 🥺❤
I'm ready to become Ur friend. I understand how u maybe feeling 🥺. Even I lost my friend few Hours ago🥺❤️
I don't think i have a fear of abandonment....
I know i have a fear of abandonment-
Thank you for all your things you explain in your videos
I relate to many signs🙋♀️
Dating has been a huge challenge with BPD and this hits pretty close.
bro not the hamilton reference 💀
This video is so relatable. Thank you for this video. Really appreciate it. This video has really helped me realise and understand myself. I have been struggling with abandonment fear for a long time now.
This is so me right now!
I think my brain rn is just in the worst of repression lol. Like: "Alone? What does 'alone' mean? Are there even people around? DO THEY EXIST?"
Then I have a crisis because I'm alone and I'm like: "Oooh... wait, what? Do these feelings exist? Omg I'm feeling something. Awful :("
I love these videos and yes once again her voice!! Its so relaxing 😌 😍
When I was a child, my best friends family moved away and she went to school and got new friends. Any time I asked her to hang out, she said she was meeting w her new friends. She said she was pretty popular in her school. My mother told me to stop calling her so I did.
Many years passed and I had bffs on and off but one person in particular hur me alot. Sometimes she would be the nicest person and let me very close to her and sometimes she would just push me away and talk to other people. It continued for a pretty long time and i got really bitter about it. I found it almost impossible to forgive her, especially when she didn't listen to my side of things. She often invalidated my feelings and it was very hard to deal with.
After those incidents I was really scared of commiting to a friendship but it was the thing I wanted the most. I craved meaningful friendships.
In the spring of last year I started to hang out with a girl and we had a lot of fun. I was so excited and wanted to be bffs with her. I wanted us to be friends forever but I also feared that she would abandon me.
And then, in the fall, she did just that. Se never really seemed to know why but I think it was because I clinged on her so hard. She knew she would hurt me and destroy me by letting me go and I'm pretty sure distressing to her to have such a responsibility. And now that I think about it. It wasn't fair either.
I've done some soul searching lately and discovered all these things about myself and it has been eyeopening. I always considered if the problems in my relationships were my fault or were the people around me just spiteful. Was the universe just mean to me?
But now I know and I'm so happy. I'm gonna work on it and I know I will get past it.
I just have a question to you. Should I talk about these things to the last friend I told you about? I really don't know if it would be weird or...?
If you feel that talking to her about these things will put you in a better headspace then I say go for it. The worse thing is to wish you would have said something when you had the opportunity but you never said anything. If it’s imperative to you that she’s knows about how you feel, then yes you should tell her. However, if her response is not what you expect or even if there is no response at all, dont press the issue, because you’ve already spoke your truth.
Whenever i watch your videos it makes me calm down..your videos sure help.
I'm glad when people abandon me. They finally show their true colors. All people are like this when you're not useful to them anymore.
I used to be a people pleaser when I was younger. It was horrible! Instead of standing up for myself, I began to isolate myself from others, and resented them for two decades.
I WANT TO HUG YOU, I WANT TO HUG THE CHARACTER, I WANT TO HUG THE PERSON WHO DRAW THAT CHARACTER, I WANT TO HUG EVERYONE
THANK YOU CAN I GET A HUG TOO?
@@SoumyaMehtalove YES *HUGS*
did i just see a hamilton reference in a psych2go video...?
i love all psych2go's crew, keep working hard thank you for making me smile yall are amazing-
Time travellers unite !!!
Yes comrade !!!
yesss!!
hellooooo...!!!
*Sad* I can't be one
I got into a relationship with somebody and moved things very fast. We said we loved eachother after the first month. I never actually let myself fully connect with her emotionally but I still stayed with her for 11 months because I was terrified of losing her despite never being happy due to not being emotionally there at all. I finally broke up with her and terrible anxiety attacks and panic attacks over it. Recently things have calmed down and we’re becoming friends again but I find myself still terrified of her hating me or thinking I’m annoying. Everytime she tries to end a convo I get a wave of anxiety. I’ve worked through so much of the anxiety to get to the point where I can finally just be her friend like I always wanted to be but now I still find myself clinging and people pleasing and being annoying
Sign* I always keep losing friends and people I trust there is not much people to support me anymore, I am sad.... I just lost a friend yesterday and we used to be a very good friend. The only group of people I really trust is Psch2go, they never broke promises
I had a really bad messy childhood with left me with a lot of problems growing up. I didn't realize I had attachment issues until a coworker who was starting to be friend me pointed it out. At first, I was in complete denial until he gave me examples of what I do proving to me that I had attachment issues, and bc he helped me out I trusted him and started to trust him and told him things I've never told anyone. Yet with all he did for me and how nice and understanding he was, one day out of the bule he blocked me on everything and we have not talked since. This happened almost a year ago and still thinking about this brings me pain.
Wow, I so very sorry...and he didn't let you know what it was that got him so upset as to block you..?
@@sybelle_esta_no_telhado_ad5040 nope never, I have no clue y he did what he did.
@@ashleyjohnson7496 It's too bad you didn't get a chance to ask him. Closure is healthy for both sides. I would try to get to the root of the problem IF he ever unblocks/gets in touch with you again. Not that you should or anything, just speaking for myself-it would help me move on, preserve my own sanity and not have me constantly questioning myself.
I've found myself on the opposite end of the spectrum...I didn't block the person, just sort of left him, stopped using social media and whatnot. I felt like he wasn't being sincere, never really initiated conversations and when I'd once asked him to do something for me(something small-just get in touch with another girl that I needed to talk to)he simply didn't do it. Years later I ran into him; I was friendly and he was not. Turns out he'd been interested but did the whole "feign interest thing". To do this day, I do not know why people do that..I mean, if we care about someone, the logical thing would be to respect that person and not have someone count on us to do something and then simply not do it.
This is why clear communication is so important..not sure what happened there with your co-worker. In my experience though, we ought to be wary of what personal stuff we share with co-workers. I had a not-so-positive experience with gossip in the workplace myself, so...
*feign disinterest, I meant. My bad
my friends who stopped talking to me a year ago, giving me a worse fear of friendship abandonment: *sends me friend request but even though i accept they dont say anything to me*
Jesus this video…this is what eventually drove me to kill my first relationship. We broke up yesterday on mutual terms but now I see what I was doing wrong. I hope to be able to use this as motivation for self improvement going forward
6 signs of abandonment:
1: u attach too quickly to someone
2: u don’t fully commit to relationships
3. ur a ppl pleaser
4: u struggle with emotional intimacy
5: u look for flaws in ur partner
6: u experience separation anxiety
hope this helps :))
Yes it helps thanks :)
felt, smh.. it’s quite sad for myself and the others tho cuz where someone vents to their partner, they shouldn’t be afraid to vent to them, it was kinda weird where i was home and my person comes back home with their cousin and they got done eating from a bar/restaurant. like i thought he didn’t wanna hangout with his boy cousin anymore due to drama where he said “i’m done hanging out w/my cousin!” if so, why was he at a bar restaurant to hangout with his cousin and without telling me? like i tried to asking why he didn’t tell me that he’s gonna be at a restaurant bar with his cousin and then my bf said, “you wouldn’t understand” then just walked away from me and kept on continuing talking to his boy cousin in our home, like he said that he’s gonna go out for a ride since he was bored, idk.. i just thought of that was kinda sketchy since i thought he’s gonna go out for a lil, “joy ride”.. not to go to a restaurant bar to hangout like i dunno they bumped into each other by a accident OR they wanted to meet up with each other and planned to hangout behind my back soo idk rn like fr, this is why and now for myself i’m not really telling him what’s going on in my life or what i’m doing sometimes like couple days i told him that i went a on a joy ride to go to a haunted house in the capital of my state where i live at and then he was like, “u didn’t tell me that” and he did asked me “why did u go there?” in a concerning tune of his voice tho, now he’s wondering why i don’t train/work out with him for martial arts (shinye) tell him what’s going on in my life, or don’t even vent to him anymore, ect. (aka. more), rip.. /: ;-;
Ah, I wish I waited for this video for a little bit longer before saying some dumb stuff 😅
But I do not relate to the last one, I may overthink but I keep it to myself, I'd never spam my other half with messages.
I'd send one and if they wouldn't respond, I would not send more
Oh a time traveller ..
Fear of abandonment for me personally stems from childhood and adolescence, I was often times made fun, taken advantage of, ostracized at times, I was afraid to get hurt, I struggled with confidence, low self esteem, etc... it cost me countless opportunities to date quality girls. How can I overcome these fears?
idk what's worse, fearing these things, or fearing that one has these things.
But at least I got the calming UwU outro dance UwU
I have it, but I'm healing currently. My therapist really helps and my bf knows about this and accepts it. He's wonderful and caring.