Finding My Way Back To You A Decade After Our Breakup | {THE AND} Jackie & Tony
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2024
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Jackie (she/her) and Tony (he/him) got back together after a ten-year breakup. The couple discusses their "Round one", where Tony believes he didn't offer much to the relationship, and the two speak about his past drug addiction. Now, after Tony's achieved sobriety and ten years have passed, the two sit down as a couple and talk about where they've been and where they're going.
We'd like to thank Jackie and Tony for participating openly & vulnerably in our project. We appreciate what they've shared with us and hope you do as well.
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EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR | Topaz Adizes
DIRECTOR | Mériem Dehbi-Talbot
CAMERAS | Kate Fitzsimons, Nick D'Agostino
AUDIO | Corey Mcminn
PRODUCER | Mériem Dehbi-Talbot
ASSOCIATE PRODUCERS | Nazareth Soberanes, Sydney Laws
SPECIAL THANKS | Miriam Rieck, Enrique Romero
WITH THE PARTICIPATION OF | Jackie and Tony
Finding My Way Back To You A Decade After Our Breakup | {THE AND} Jackie & Tony
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To the people in the comments who expect to get back together with their exes: please think what made you break up and if you solved that. Because if you didn't, there's no point in trying to get a rebound. Still being in love with your ex is not enough of a reason to get back together again.
preach! so true....
FACTS.. the work must be done or you'll be repeating history..
Seems like they did the work, it’s possible
@@ThisIsCottonMouth I know, they sure did. I should have mentioned that my comment was just addressed to other comments I read, not to the couple on the video.
I feel like I needed to read that.. someone to tell me the same; thank you!
It been 6 years , my true love just contacted me out of nowhere , to tell me he had been chasing me in other women . He was even engaged . Now that were older , 35/43 , we are finally getting our second chance at love . ❤
Thank you for sharing your story! ❤
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I love this! It gives me hope. My ex and I broke up 18 months ago but stayed in contact. I made a ton of self improvement and was interested in reconnecting romantically, but recently she told me she has been dating someone else. I told her I can't stay here and watch her date someone else so we can't have contact anymore, but if it doesn't work out with this guy and her feeling for me change I hope she reaches out to me. We've been friends for almost 20 years and dated for two of those years in a good relationship. We're in our late 40s and I truly feel she's my soul mate. So I'm going to try and get over her and somewhere deep in me I hope i hear from her again for a new beginning that will last for the rest of our lives. I miss her son, her family, and the dog as well.
Congrats to you! Should we all be so lucky. Hopefully both of you are in a better place this time and you'll be together for the rest of your lives. I'm rooting for you two!
Wow 🥲
Congratulations. May all be well with you.
Love is a lot like the universe. Some people share the same orbit and some orbits never meet. Some orbits drift apart for some time only to come back together. I’m happy theirs did and to anyone reading this that’s missing someone, I hope your orbits meet. ❤️
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that is so sweet :)
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Smh. Stop the fairytale thinking
women! we have to allow men to have & express their authentic emotions without curation or correction (even when it makes us uncomfortable). even if they doesn’t resonate with our personal experience, emotions and feelings are still worthy of expression and acceptance.
I agree ☝🏾. ✨💚
@@DMKC ✨
#Thatpart
I'm crying because this is what i only ask for, especially for black men we don't have that support, yes there's therapy but it felt better when your significant other understands you.
His eyes are beautiful. It’s not the color or the appearance of them per say. Just beautiful for some reason. Lots of depth.
Like he has warm eyes if that makes sense . lol i get it
Both of their eyes. That pure love for one another.
I can relate. Separated almost 10 years and reconnected. The flame never died. Those years were hard but all happens for a reason. What’s meant to be will always be. ❤️ thank
You for sharing.
5 years and I still think about her every day.
5 years as of June 7th.. not a day has gone by where she hasn’t crossed my mind. Not a single f*cking day.
@@brandoncheney821 Do you want to contact her?
Going through sth similar but it´s been 1 Month and there is a chance of getting back together. I broke things off due to my insecurities and uncertainty and lack of self worth. I want to work on those things, but can´t I work them out with her?
@@brandoncheney821 why can’t you contact her?
Same here Dude , it's getting darker and darker and darker everyday , 5 years and I've been facing the same exact insecurities and self worth issues , I'm about to reach out but I'm so perplexed because the one thing that keeps holding me back is that i still can't figure my life out while she's about to graduate this year and become a doctor
@@ThisisEnzoman take the risk ❤
"That I've always tried."
Such a powerful answer to that question.
They are beautiful. It’s crazy she got married and had kids and now she’s back with him. I’d love to know the full story,
I know when it's meant to be its meant to be.
I’ll try to dive into the full story this week. Thanks for the love.
Happen to me..move on with life than found my way back to my soulmate
That last Question always gets me. And I loved her answer, that he's her person. I'm really glad he got clean and I Hope it works out for this couple
I use to romanticize a lot about people coming back in my life in the future if it's meant to be and thinking we would eventually cross paths again, but it hasn't happened to me before. Once they leave I really never hear from them again. It's hard for me to believe that people find each other again cause it always been so one sided for me.
i feel you 😭😭😭 and still hopin for them to come back and say something
I think everyone needs closure. My ex & I were together for 12 yrs. One silly argument, he left. This time he didn't call, come back etc like all the times b4. It was all I thought about. I didn't date for a yr & afterward I only dated men who were much younger bc subconsciously I knew the age differences were too big for us to ever be serious. One night after too many drinks, I stopped by my ex's home. It was so weird. I'd thought of this moment for 3 yrs. I realized I wasn't in love w/him like I'd thought . He pursued a relationship afterward but it wasn't there for me anymore. Never ever did i think the day would come that I wasn't madly in love with him. I think I'd grown & changed in those 3 yrs & he hadn't. We all need that instead of always wondering what if...
Walked away after 29 year marriage due to his substance abuse. We are amicable but we both know we are soulmates. But with the drugs... I love me more... One day... ❤️💕❤️
Hopefully he'll wake up one day & choose love over the loneliness of being an addict. I've seen so many addicts isolate themselves while craving love. Only they can save themselves.
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Loving an addicted spouse is one of the most painful experiences coz having to let them go so they hit rock bottom feels rotten and they blame the clean spouse for abandoning them.
I really don’t understand relationship/love .Because some people still think about their ex or the one who got away years after. And for me that’s insane. Especially because I never been in a relationship .
And this just proves that time don’t erase real feelings.
I’m not trying to lecture but intellectually assessing relationships is very different from being in a relationship. All relationships are different and true love is simple unconditional and everlasting but humans with their egoic fears are complex. It’s good to know what you want from afar but until you practice with another person willing to love you in real time in real ways you can’t really understand it for yourself. It’s like reading about Paris and looking at pictures on the internet...unless you physically go to Paris and experience it for yourself you can’t know what’s it really like, what you truly need, and how you truly give and receive love.
This is true. Time doesn’t erase real love.
You don't understand bc you've never met someone who made you light up when they walked in the room. Who was the first person you wanted to call with good or bad news. Who made you feel beautiful and act silly. Love is a wonderfully scary thing.
@@numbernine3436 this... 🥺
She literally looks like Katie Holmes right
I was specifically looking for this type of comment because I think the exact same thing!
Yes
I think more Kate Middleton?
I’m getting drew Barrymore vibes
Literally 🤩
Me and my ex were together 4.5 years. But he had past trauma with family members and suicidal thoughts often. He was always in his own world, never could see past himself at times. He would always be there for his boys more than me. I just grew tired of it all. So we tried being friends, he still wasn't getting it together. I did the no contact thing a few times, he'd find a way to find me, email me, stalk my social pages etc. He was in the way of our relationship. I told him before we made it official what I wanted, he agreed with the same things. Felt like a waste of time. And as stupid as this sounds, I still care for him. We've been broken up almost 4 years now, and I JUST stopped talking to him 3 months ago. A woman gets tired when a man isn't doing what he's supposed to do. He always said things like "I'm his peace" and "He has a soft spot for me" and "No matter what, he'll always love me" words aren't enough and he has some growing up to do, age doesn't mean a thing when your mental isn't there. Damn I miss him, even though I blocked him from contacting me. This year, I want to get back to myself because all loving these do, is hurt me in the end. I can't lie, I have that same soft spot for him and if it's meant to be, we'll meet each other in our new spaces. God please cover him😥
This kinda gives me hope. I haven’t spoken to my person in 8 months and it’s tough. I’m happy they were able to come back together.
I hope he comes back to me too someday and this time, it would be the right feeling and get together of our selves.
So uplifting to see people talking about honest growth. Loved these two.
Wow!! That final comment, ...something I would want you not to forget: "That I always tried." Simple words, yet so deep!
Dang the end got me in my feels.😭 They seem so emotionally aware and open after havin gone through the chaos. They’re both so strong and hope it only gets stronger between the two of them, a lot of unconditional love can be felt there. ❤️
Took a lot to get there- and we continue to try to improve. Thanks for the love.
Thank you for bringing on the more mature couples! :) Keep it up
A lot was said here and not always in words, well done Tony & Jackie
Beautiful conversations just beautiful!
Love how honest and open they are
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story.
💙💙💙wishing you both all the best for many years to come !
Thank you for sharing.
There's always one person for you, that's just meant to be and you have to work yourselves throw it. The person that always sees the YOU underneath the surface. Always.
(It can also be a best friend, sister or something)
That was beautiful.
This one hit hard. Would love to hear both of their perspectives in more detail.
"that i have always tried" made my heart sink 💜
the end had me sobbing internally… 😭❤️ glad the universe and their choice of free will, led their connection back together. Even after all that time… not everyone allows themselves to experience that second chance if you encountered your person but man is it magical to witness how possible it is if you do. Just him powerfully stating “I tried,” is everything… god I love this platform. Long time fan… 💫✨
Addiction always drives a wedge between people. Glad he got clean & turned his life around . 💓💓💓
He's got a great sense of humor😝. She is so kind❤️
This is such a beautiful, powerful, vulnerable and important conversation, thank you so much! I think it's very brave to open up like that about the past, very inspiring too, the way they both speak about it. I really hope that everything is easier now and that life is beautiful for them🙏🏽
Also, so amazing to see their love has always stayed with both of them in a way. Such a beautiful couple! I'm wishing them the very best in life! 🧡🌻🦋
Thank you 🙏🏼
@@jackiewillome5407 you're welcome! ☀️
oh how I wish this was true for everyones love… growth and rebirth.
I wish that too
Where is the rest of this? I feel like I've accidentally opened a great novel right in the middle.
This channel brings most interesting and mature couple with worth watching content.💑👍
I think that shoulder thing she did towards the end is really cute.
It always gets me.
She explored the Universe and he remained on earth. Years later, after her return he still see's a blinding star, ignorant to his subconscious .
Thank you for posting.
Thank you all for the love ❤️❤️
It's crazy to think someone could be with you but thier hearts are else where
Woooo that last answer he gave! 🥺
Wish you both well in your journey.
She still loves him a lot..
She does. 🥰
Alright, in the mood to cry. Let’s do thisssss !! 🙌🏾
lol same
That’s why I don’t like watching these, it makes me think about my own life and I get so emotional. 😭
@@gypie88 hugs
I ❤️ their story… you can feel the love…. She reminds me of the girl from Dawson’s Creek!! 💕💕
Woah… this is such an interesting situation. And I love the set for this one!
I met my boyfriend in July of 2015. We started dating in November, but I broke up with him in March of 2016. We tried staying friends but in September of that year it was too hard for him because he still had feelings for me. We went no contact for a few months but started talking again early 2017 but by that time I had another boyfriend, and a few months after that he also had a new girlfriend. We stayed friends while also keeping a respectable distance from each other. Him and his girlfriend broke up November of 2018. Me and my ex stayed together until Feb of 2020. Me and him started talking more and more... and in October of 2021 we started dating again! 1.5 years into it we live together, go on vacations, his family loves me and mine loves him, and we even got a cat together. I have no doubts that I will marry him one day. :) Feel free to ask me any questions!!
Wow - haven't been in touch w first bf in about 8yrs. stumbled on pic and it all came back. is it wrong to message out of the blue or maybe leave it
Lol no one asked any question from you
I appreciate the vulnerability to share the challenges they experienced and fought for love. Love is beautiful
The And show - Please put out their full unedited version (with their consent of course). Thanks.
He's built af, I love his hair too. Great sense of self style.
I wonder if he ever puts it up. his hair....
It's called "The Adolf"
@@jimmljammlz It's called an undercut you absolute clown.
"I feel like it was always you." I'm sure her ex-husband must be thrilled to hear that, especially when she describes that marriage as "stable and super-loving."
Her husband is probably already aware of that and, who knows, might be fine with it :)
Yeah i cant dig that tbh Bruh put his all into that , what if she just up n left him or cheated on him? Im not sayin that happened but thats kinda cold lol
Actually, my ex husband and I are in a fantastic place. We both are with partners that are best suited for each of us, are still great friends - and co parent very openly with the four adults who very much love our kiddos. My marriage was stable, and loving- and it’s a chapter in my life that I’m grateful I was able to experience- but I’m really happy for both of us that we didn’t hold onto something that wasn’t working- and we’re brave enough to go out and find what we needed separately- and that we are all a beautiful blended family.
@@jackiewillome5407 That's beautiful!
@@jackiewillome5407 that is so amazing and beautiful 🙌👏
I love when people can honor their own and their Beloved's paths. Hats off to these two people! Love is not always easy to understand...karma has a lot to do with it. This is not their first rodeo.
He is FINE.. i had to say that again. Beautiful couple
They so humble and honest and open with each other
😭😭😭
This has kicked me so hard in the feels. I just left someone I didn’t want to but felt I had to because of similar stuff as this couple (ie addiction).
That part where he wanted her to know he’s always tried. I know my ex would say the same, & I believe that he is, but I just can’t go through the trying anymore. I feel like I’m dying in the place that he’s currently in.
Me leaving is hopefully saving us both though this is the most painful thing, ever.
Lord Jesus come!!! 💔
In my 50 years, I’ve never seen a haircut like that!!😂 this guy has the convict and the nerd look in one head!!😂😂😂😂🎉🎉
This was not the comment I was expecting 😂
The eyes, chico. They never lie.
I hate these conversations, Why not just move on. Deal with the situations and move on. Some of the things with relationships are the ability to learn and deal with ones issues. Personally, I still have many emotions with a couple of ex's. They were amazing but I realized that they were in the past. One specific Girlfriend entered into my life and I was still in love with her. But when we met, I realized that I was so far ahead of her in relationships. I realized she was still searching for her true love. Luckily I was able to recognize this and move on.
the way he describes whatever it is that fully happened reminds me a lot of something similar to me
That last part broke me down
Please do a part 2 where they share their full story! They are a beautiful couple and give such hope!
We’d be down for this!
@@jackiewillome5407 Was the part 2 done and if so do you have a link to it please?
Time to get married 🙂
She thinkin bout her ex during her whole marriage, idk if thats the route you wanna take smh
beautiful ❤️
I caught up with my first love after 24 years. College sweeties of two years, engaged till he cheated. Lots still there but lives too different to fit together in a continual way.
That one was something 🥺
Still waiting on the episode with Jack and Diane. What happened to them? Two American kids done best they can. Jack was gonna be a football star
Love the set better than warehouse
Last I heard, the Bible belt saved their souls.
sucking on a chili dog
I relate to this, This is the reason my ex broke up with me, she wants me to be clean and discipline. She loves me and help me, but she knows I can't be clean if she do it this, so she leaves. Clean myself up. I ended, fighting with her. I wish she takes me back in five years. I'm so sincerely sorry my dear. I understand why you leave me.
I woke up crying out of bed because my ex bf who I'm still technically talking to is really confusing me. We hurt each other so much and I was so clueless about his addiction issues. He would tell me little details but never enough. He is now one year sober but has transferred his addiction to social media. He is still a recovering addict and the only thing that has kept him clean is the fear of going back to prison. He has lost 65lbs, doesn't eat, doesn't want to exercise, is living back with his mom after staying with me, he still steals from stores sometimes and throws fits of rage outside making people look at us. He doesn't understand his behavior affected me and thinks I did this on purpose because I'm "cold".. I love him so much and I am afraid of losing him but this drama is much more than I can take emotionally, to the point that I have started the process for therapy. Addiction and love is a dangerous combo. I hope to be with him forever and care for him and love him. I hope he realizes it.
Her voice 😍😍😌
Hah. I hate it 🤭
@@jackiewillome5407 I love it 🤭
Am I the only one who thinks he looks like Johnny Depp?
Yes I can definitely see Johnny in him
@@HAZYHEAUX especially at 6:09 😱
@@nanati2886 yes if he had longer hair and was a bit smaller he would be his twin
@@HAZYHEAUX yes true that
And she looks like
Drew Barrymore
I’ve always tried got to me “ I’m not crying your crying”😢
She’s beautiful like a model
Is there a longer version of this? I’m interested in their story
Peaky Blinders haircut!
If Drew Barrymore and Katie Holmes had a baby...
Bingo!!!
That's cute
He gives me Virgo energy and she gives me Pisces energy.
Me: Libra She: Sagittarius
Quit the witchcraft and draw closer to ALLAH .
Love!!!!!
👀 👀 This man is gorgeous. I would go for it again too, giiiiirl!
Also, love is nice. Enjoy one another!
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She is gorgeous
Aw, thank you. ☺️
Bruhhh… why do I feel like this would be me and my ex sometimes in the future…? I’m in a healthy relationship and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
I’m over my ex and he did me so dirty. Maybe I’m still waiting for that apology and I’m totally oblivious to it… However, I wouldn’t take him back even if I was on my death bed and he would be the one to save me… I’d rather die.
Something about their relationship rubs me the wrong way...and I don't know why? Mainly on her side. But as long as they are happy
If I was the guy, I'd never be with her again regardless of whatever good or bad memories we had. Now based on this edited video itself, I can see that she left him. I think if you can't be with someone if he/she brings lesser things to the table then you're never experiencing love but trying to find something to add or fill your search. Most people don't randomly do drugs, there's always a psychological reason why they resort to such escape but I'll give the benefit that she was young enough to see better.
Also, the fact that he said 'you nearly killed me', I wonder why. Also she admitted to comparing her marriage life vs relationship she had before so what would that make of her ex-husband. If you're comparing your current relationship to your last one then either you're going to dump your expectations on your new partner or you've never truly loved that new person so why play another person like that?.
Oh the guy fuck up too where he was selfish and did drugs but here's the thing, the guy didn't play with another person's feelings so he can own up to his mistakes but I wonder if I can say the same about the girl.
@@yuvan6499 HELLO, someone mentioned it above. The whole marriage + kids she knew her ex was the one for her. Something dont rub me right bout this one
He’s raw as hell, and she’s petty lol
Twin Flames
Dang she's Katie Holmes/Kate Middleton in looks
She looks so much like Drew Barrymore even her mannerisms.
Tough ending🔥.....I always tried
Amor Fati: I agree (" "Tough ending. "I always tried." "). Ouch. He didn't reciprocate expressing love for her.
Isn’t the saying he always tried the definition of love? Am I missing something?
I can see why you would both come to that conclusion but I'm drawn more to the side that says he has always tried to be a better person for her because of the love they share and I think that's what she wants the most from him.
@@amorfati9163 ahh, I see! I interpreted your original comment incorrectly! What you’re saying I agree with! Thanks :)
@@amorfati9163 this exactly. And we both continue to try to be better everyday.
Lots of waterworks with this one. ☹️
Omg she is SO much like Katie Holmes!! I’m going to scroll now to see if I’m the only one…
Yeah I am not feeling them at all.
Reconnected with my first boyfriend three years ago. What a disaster. He needed a place to live. He moved in with me. I asked him to leave because he was a lazy pig.
Dudes head really said 🪨
Where is the rest of the conversation??
How do I get on the show ? I have a story I’d like to share
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My high school sweetheart broke up with me (we had an amazing relationship just his own internal issues got in the way) 10 years ago. We would reconnect at times then go mia on each other in respect of the relationships we end up having with other people. But everytime we reconnect its as if we're still back in the old times, just new and improved versions of ourselves. I now recently reconnected with him. But this time i really dont wanna ignore the feelings by just remaining neutral and calling him buddy all the time. Im so nervous to bring it up, i wanna use the chance now while we're both single. Do i just tell him or just continue being neutral?
Just listen to your heart 😊
how did it go
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How can I buy these cards from Indonesia?
Round one sounded rough for Katie Holmes here!
Woah- she looks like me 15 years from now 🤣