THE MEN TAKEOVER 🙌🏾
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- We asked you to ask the guys ANYTHING that you would want answered from a male perspective, and they DELIVERED.
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We asked you to ask the guys ANYTHING that you would want answered from a male perspective, and they DELIVERED.
We are so excited for you to watch this episode and know that you'll love it.
Let us know what surprised you most about their point of view in the comments below.
Thanks to Brian, Patrick, Ben and Mathew for the awesome show!
With love from Bump Love 🤣
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Bestest episode!
Everything was on point👌
Please don’t allow them there unsupervised again. Please. Thanks.
Please don’t allow them there unsupervised again. Please. Thanks.
Rach Mwine wesibe biiri, ur man is not so easy. Mukowu nyooooo eeeeeehhhh
I was a student mother..my mum was the toughest in the area we lived in..everyone knew her..when I came home pregnant n crying..she broke down with me..she hugged me n told me we shall get through it..and indeed we did get through it..
Ben properly explained grace on this. It is the grace that puts us in line
I wish i had amother wen i became astudent mother
Aww and I bet she is the bestest grandma too
"...and indeed we did get through it." Love this. Hugs. P
@@NOTANOTHERUA-cam yes she is the best..and my number one fan
Woooooow I like the episode
Mulondo has matched very well as the wife
Mathew as Angie 😅
Salvador has shared both Pumla and Rosette's character.....😀 Very lively....
Ben as serious as the wife😅😅😅😅😅😅😅. Enjoyed and learnt.
Ben showed the best poise,Mulondo was the most joyous,Mathew was the most calm and ofcourse Salvador was there to stir fun😂😂😂😂but kudos guys it was alllllll intriguing and actually straightening at the same time
The Spouses to these men, Bambi forgive them if you feel like they over-shared. We needed it raw.
Brian, there could not have been a better host 🥳
Mathew is an empath, love that. If all men could relate like him
The chemistry between the men is 👌🏾
Away from the show. They are close friends.
Cuz thy a close friends even off camera 😂😂😂
Brian seems mindful in his interventions, which is nice. I also get vibes that his marriage to Manuela is founded on partnership and friendship. I see it in the way they interact, which is a better approach as opposed to expectations around holding just a title of wife and husband. Doesn't mean they dont have problems, seems they are comfortable being vulnerable around eachother. Most men in Ug mistake being vulnerable to being weak. They are OK being vulnerable everywhere else but at home, which is why they dont feel taken care of by their spouses. I know women we are not innocent in all this but men do set trends on how they get treated at home.
I love bumplove and was excited for the men take over but I couldn’t get myself to watch till the end. There was a lack of accountability for the most part. There was visible evidence of a lack of communication but very high expectations of women in marriage. I personally lost it when the “ men being friends with their wives and women forgetting their place “ statement was made. It felt as though women are more like servants and men are some where in a high place that women shouldn’t have access to. I understand men rarely speak up and we don’t want criticize what was said but this also feels like we gaslighting each other into not expressing how it felt listening to this conversation. I think expressing ourselves should start a conversation of self examination. Now there could have been better points that I missed because I couldn’t finish the show. I really hope there was. Otherwise, this shows our men need to be more intentional with working on their self awareness, communication and understanding when it’s healthy to feed the ego and when to not. Thanks!
I am sorry but I think you approached this with too much of emotions. And I hope this is not how you address all your issues. Because when you want to have an objective conversation, should be able to listen to even things that sit well with you, and listen to them with an open mind, not biases.
@Pac Isco I would appreciate if you addressed the rest of the points i mentioned because they explain why I was unsuccessful with finishing the video. You can’t just address an effect and ignore the cause.I would like to hear your perspective on those points. Thanks!
Your response shows clearly that you got the message.
There’s lack of accountability and justification of abuse from some of these men (and all those they are representing here). This constant reference to “…as a man, I should … because I’m a man” and “... women should do a, b, c, …z because they are women …” etc is very problematic. Many women cannot stand toxic masculine behavior anymore (and if they are doing so, they are tolerating you), and honestly women shouldn’t carry that burden. Men should positively contribute to changing this narrative concerning gendered roles and practice. Women should start unlearning tolerating some things that no longer serve them. Traditional gender roles are a thing of the past and that’s just the truth. Let’s make the world better by creating better systems that serve the current societal needs. Toxic masculinity behavior is alive and well in this conversation, unfortunately.
Yes, like when Mathew said the man is financially stressed because of pregnancy and the woman carrying triplets has to chip in..uuum how? Abandon the new borns and go to work?
Mwine still upholds the traditional gender roles 😂. It's not just a woman's responsibility to keep the fire burning. Are you providing her emotional needs. Most men think it's all about the money and the woman should be the nurturer to everyone else in the home, displinarian, do the homework, work outside the home, etc. All these things take an emotional toll on the woman making sex the last thing on her mind. I think you should treat your spouse as a friend not a servant. Why not grab that juice from the fridge? Is it such a herculean task? Imagine if your able bodied wife asked you to remove her shoes every single day. Would you do it? Culture should evolve. Many of the so called gender roles are just skills and responsibilities that should be done by all people. 🤷🏽♀️
What a time to be alive...men getting to express themselves,giving their PoV, being vulnerable & honest. This is a facet of equality,allowing all sides to be heard. Thank You!
I agree 1000 percent
Never commented on anything ever but couldn't resist.
This conversation can run you up a wall with the patriarchal attitudes, excuses,and sense of entitlement, but the fact is we need to celebrate the fact that men can finally share their honest(even when unpleasant) thoughts and feelings. That's the beginning of dialogue, which will hopefully bring about mutual understanding.
I feel you on this!! I was so surprised that these so-called ‘modern’ men still cling to old patriarchal norms and view the advancement of their wives and maybe their mothers as the norm in Uganda. The upper-middle class woman has much more access to a great education, and a great career. She can easily afford househelp which allows her to advance in her chosen career. This is not the case for majority of the Ugandan woman. I never heard any of them sympathize with the woman in rural Uganda who needs an ally to improve on her state. Acknowledge your position of privilege when everyone around you has an easier life than the majority.
The men were too sympathetic to men who get ‘trapped’ by women. Men can provide for a family in many ways other than financially, if that’s not possible. He can protect his home, offer direction, discipline and nurture his children even when he is not employed. It was refreshing hearing their honest perspectives though.
Mothers of boys, do better for the next generation, please 😅
I think negative Patriarchy is not good, unproductive and not needed. Same as negative matriarchy. But Patriarchy also has a positive side. Women always ask me to be leaders when it comes to provision, protection and etc. That's also part of Patriarchy. The challenge is also notice is that Women want men to be who women want them to be which is unrealistic.
@@kiizajohnson8684 there is no such thing as negative or positive patriarchy or matriarchy. Please read more on those terms before you use them
If there's anything this episode has taught me, it's that women and men are very different. I have always known this fact, but this episode has confirmed it so firmly. And whereas some of the opinions expressed were honestly hard to swallow, I am glad men are opening up and as women, we need to listen with open minds. One thing surely stood out for me, the roles of husbands and wives in the bible need to be honored for marriages to work. The more we fight them, the worse it gets. If the man pays the bills and provides and protects, what's hard about giving him juice when he gets home and understanding what mood he's in so as to know when to pick a fight and when not to. Whereas we can wear the pants at work and be boss babes, let's leave those pants at work and not carry them home.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
But Brian you have a naughty face, the laugh and facial expressions of when you did that slay queen mimicking, eyeroll and finger up - I died😆😆😆
Loved this panel ,they should be the one talking to our young boys ,they should be used as the face of our men in our generation,all married ,hard working ….
Great presentation . they should have thrown pumla in there. To add salt into the wound.
Hahahaaaa! Wouldn't Golden Tulip have caught fire? 🤣. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 n that’s wat I’m advocating for.
I loved the part Salvador talked about men being supported during pregnancy too so they better support their spouses
What an episode! 🙂Please bring these guys to the show more often
Yes bring these guys to the show more often
Salvador and ben are the most honest and raw…..legit🤜🏾
That's true 😘😘
Kindly note that no one knows when they are at depression. please don't blame anyone for the aftermath, you men need to observe the character change, even with other people like our parents, you cannot blame anyone for not telling you that they are getting in to depression, they just don't know or they are in denial. its never easy for anyone
Well said!!!!
I agree with you! I think women invest alot in understanding men and their emotions. They will ask, read and attend seminars but you hardly see that kind of effort from men. I think it's time for men to put some effort. Read and ask about pregnancy, motherhood etc. It will may be increase your empathy and compassion towards women and improve the communication.
@@winnienassazzi4484 Facts!!!! Many men focus just on the financial aspect ( which is great by all means) but all the other areas are Equally important. They will not want to go to therapy, they too have childhood trauma that is not dealt with etc. They always refer to the woman of those days, but guess what, she was just as stressed but hid it well from her children. If you look at many photos, you will see a sadness in their eyes. Secondly, many gave very harsh punishments to their children. Part of that was the marital stress they were bottling up 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
This is true Juliana. People really don't know that they are depressed. The ones around them should do the work and support when they see the signs. P
This show was so 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 i laughed from the begining to the end. Naye the discussion was on point. Please bring them back😊😊
Salvador, thank you for your transparency.
It's amazing how Manuela and Brian speak so alike 😀
I thought I was the only one that noticed that. Wow
Hmmm so iam not alone!
The comment i was looking for😂😂😂😂
People who share a duvet after a few years start to resemble each other
The laughter.......so alike
Exactly what my mother told me. Whenever you accuse a man of cheating when he is not cheating, he will actually think or wish he had cheated. Men men!
The way Nabwiso cleaned up his face and put the katambala aside😂😂😂. He was prepared for this question
This episode is worth going globally viral. "Is it a premier league"😂😂😂😂😂 the things we take for granted.
Nedda Nedda we need a part 2... Wisdom.. Not married yet no baby yet but am glad to be a family here on bump love... Salvador was just so honest bambi
Yeah,we tend to judge people so quickly based on hear say and public opinion, yet in reality...someone just needs a tight hug! and assurance that they will be okay😊
How am praying for another episode like this but with both men and women on set. Am already imagining Pumla Nabachwa's views on such a hot topic 🥰
Haha! I rolled my eyes a little but mostly I laughed and I learned. P
😂😂😂😂 the expressions!
Mutuzo 😘
Omusajja eyasoma hints different naye ba ssekigandda ba down town naaaa naaaaa naaaa🫡thumb up bump love ❤️
Love how honest Salvador is. By the way we miss those couple shows when are you resuming?
Love hearing from the men's perspective
This is interesting 😁
It's always nice knowing the men's perspective.
Great perspectives. From this insightful tete - a- tete, I come to the conclusion that men want the same thing. A Nigerian- man from Malaysia.
This thing of married people looking alike is sooo true. I see it in the men.
Very solid panel. Ben's submission on finances should be every woman's take home
This labour thing with my bae made me feel the most loved woman in the whole world, all the night I was dancing with my labour pains he was there to help me go through it and I can never compare it to any thing else.
You were lucky that the pregnancy treated you fairly I hated my husband from the beginning up to the end to a point that labour started when he was at work I called my friend and lied to her that my husband is aware but to far for him to come back so that she couldn't call him again and I was lucky gave birth before he was home and he surprised to get a call from me after labour
I actually normally enjoy the men on this show but this one has grated my soul cos patriarchy is all over this episode. The entitlement is very very wildddddd. I just have one question for these men, if ur doing what ur providing as u say u are why are ur women still working ? They should be ladies of leisure retired off and enjoying life. Men expect women to work just as hard as them then come home and pamper the men ??? Not a single conversation was had about collaborative working in relations. I hateeeee it here sooo much.
Noreen honey. I do agree that some remarks were giving - patriarchy. I also think that there was so much to learn. We live in a culture where men dont speak up. When they do, we shun them for being medieval and regressive. I thought they were just being honest. So personally, I shut out the regressive parts and listened to the key messages. Otherwise, if you feel too triggered by any content, it just means the conversation isn't for you...and that's okay. P
98% of the comments are highlighting how good the conversation was and yet your opinion is otherwise
Just create a show wit the men . I think people need such an honest conversation 👏🏾
Great show! married and those planning to get married NEED to watch it. Both women and men. Thank you guys.
True, not yet married and am really learning a lot so that when that time comes it won't be a surprise to me.♥️🇿🇲.
Oh my God this was so beautiful! The urge to type my comments here kept up but the zeal to watch the next minute of the MEN's discussion overpowered me. Watched till the end and kept my phone on do not disturb! What a show that was! What a realistic discussion the men gave us. It is such a beautiful segment of bump love and I hope we often get them on the show. You all women to these MEN are married to exciting husbands. Your families are lucky to have you both as husbands and wives.
Thanks the men I love the way Mathew brought out his statements but the men really nailed it naye the I wish pumla was here for muchuzi mix😂😂💕💕💕
Hahaha! Golden Tulip would have caught fire mwana gwe. I think it is safer that I stayed away 🤣. P
Wow...in listening to these men in detail am starting to have a different perspective on marriage. It's about tolerance, it's about respect, support and effort. Thank you gentlemen and the incredible women beside each of you
Fantastic episode! I learnt alot from this. Please organise another for us to be better wives and wives-to-be😊
This is really good. When men have it. It helps a young father like me grow up. Whoever put it together thank you.
Thank you Bump love for these men doing the show. it gives a great insight to us
I love the maturity that was displayed here.
Lots of love from Kigali Rwanda. Big up to yourselves great minds. It's my first time to see Mbokoro like this serious.
I have really enjoyed the show
In brief abaana bakikubye Brian ekintu yakivuze bulungi nnyo💪💪💪💪💪
Watching this very late (11pm) I even don't want to sleep this is too good y'all. These should be done more often please
Ben Ben u have saved marriages...that was deep... Kudos Rachael ❤️
I would have Nini😜😜😜naye Mr.Mulondo
Kudos to y'all wives bantu mwe, yr the men of our generation n surely yr so different 🙏🏼kudos to the Mwine', mulondo',idring'& Namwiso'..Bambi, bakyaala, mmwebale🙏🏼thanks for yr contribution era mwalonda bulungi🙌🙌🙌🙌
I love the fact that Salivordor is learning together with wife.....
Thanx guys for bringing yr ladies along on the finances
Walayi this has been the best episode since the year began 🥰🥰 with love ...
Came here to hear praises for women naye mama ho! The men are using this episode to vent 😆
Anyways,I'm grateful for this honest conversation from you all our distinguished special hosts.
My man will reap from the nuggets I've picked from this conversation. Thanks Bumplove.
Obalabye 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣They have been waiting for this moment 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@anonnona6433 Nkugambye!
Hahahahaaahaaaaaaaaa! They have been patiently waiting for this opportunity 😅. P
Great show from the male perspective. Keep this show running, it is a very good compliment of the bump love show.
What a vibe! Ben's accent sounds perfect but bring them often pleaseeeee..i have enjoyed every inch of it
U guys are clearly friends!!!! I feel Eleanor has a very good hubby.....most men miss that.......the Bible clearly says women are the weaker vessel....so husbands deal with your wives with understanding......Ben and Brian look and sound like their wives 😅. Salvador's stories were so relatable and i learnt alot.
The show was 🔥 🔥. Let them come back 😂😂😂
I've really enjoyed and learnt a lot.
Their laughter is contagious 😂
Bryan and Salvador very funny Guys🤣 Matthew is a calm Guy Bambi Ben seems to be a serious Human 😀. But thanks for the Show. U pulled it well . Kudos✊💪
This episode was both hilarious and informative. Thank you gentlemen.
Wow.........this was a great show by the guys!
Mulondo kudos, you always speak respectfully about your wife no matter what!. You don’t just speak fwaa.. that is lovely
Absolutely to fantastic to have balanced the boat on this forum!!!! Thank You!!! Great insight from our Gentlemen!!! Tubebaza xx
woooooh, Good communication skills and relationship skills has really been a key point in family and society .Thank you bump love ❤
Let's all of us know wat to do,..let's play or balance our roles as adults..ladies tuterezeemu ko..the respect is needed, gents are asking bambi🙏🏼
Wow wow! It's amazing to hear from men, Fabulous 4, please come back again. Maximum respect to all of you, thank you for enlightening us.
This was educative about how men feel about women n vide vasa plz let me men come again next time it was reflecting and opening for me . Especially on the emotional n respect bit of it. As for the finances we need to always give our men the power to do their roles even when we’re earning more than them.
By far the best Bump love innovation 2023!!!!!!!!!! perfecto!
This was very educative especially the ways of communication. I only pray we have another episode of these men.
Ooh my ....!!!, the show was so educative, it is fun, learning. Much respect 🙏 Bump Love ❤ 😍
Wow! This is soooo interesting!! It felt like the bump love ladies were talking!
So you guys can actually talk like we do. Why not talk to your ladies like that? Me I'm blessed to have a hubby who shares with me some things you guys are scared to tell your ladies about because mbu we can't handle. We don't have to handle the situations, we want to know what ur going through, bambi don't die inside. Sometimes neither of us can handle so we take it to the Lord together.
Thanks so much for this episode, hope there's part 2,3......
Wooow this is amazing have enjoyed ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🤣🤣🤣😅😅 Guys thank you so much.
Thanks guys. This was on point
We should have this more often
I honesty learnt a lot…
But salvador’ story of the lockdown was so relatable 😂😂😂😂Great job guys👍
I used to quickly flip by Pearl Magic except to watch Mzigo Express , till I saw Sanyu, the Nabwisos did a great job . The set and talent 👏 👌
This was amazing!!! I have learnt a lot, thank you for sharing your lives with us. Many more blessings
Matthew has solid facts. Great show, dear men. Read Bishop Daag's book on the need for women to provide.
But can we have these men back???? Pulizzzzzzz I loved this show, watching it the 4th time
Where to draw the line between friendship and authority of the husband. Eh! Thank you gentlemen. Very very amazing show
Ben Mwine; thank you so much for being open, honest and vulnerable.
It’s refreshing to see & you are one of a kind man.
May God bless you with success.
This was very interesting. I liked this because it bursts open my bubble. I know that this panel represents men out there, especially the kind you want to build a future with. Marriage as an institution is conservative and remains so in Uganda no matter how progressive a man presents himself at the start.
It was so informative. The best session is when they talked about how men like to be treated.... respect....serving them etc....
We can't thank you enough but you have really done us good. Mutukoze obulungi obutagambika.
Thanks Mathew, Salvador, mulondo and Bebecool too cos he was there for mum zuena during childbirth, banange, men bambi be part,..tudaamu kumanyi'..y'all shd go together for child birth seriously..it even brings that closure n respect for yr women🙏🏼
Finally the comment i was looking for... Great discuss. Much love from Kenya
Bump Love we need a show with the Ladies plus their Hubbies here ..... I Can imagine .......with .....live here..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤭🤗
This show is full of laughter's we need another episode
This is so touching, educative from men show. Kindly this shouldn't stop
Loved every bit of the show. Thank you for serving something different. It was an absolutely great choice of the hosts
Wondering episode indeed. Please include subtitles when speaking in your native tongues, so those who are not from Uganda can laugh with you 😂😂😂
Aaaaaawwwww....I hear you. Let's do that in the coming shows. We love our offshore audience. P
Ooh.....
@@pumlanabachwa8668off shore audience oyeee🎉🎉🎉
A very enlightening episode. So good to hear the men's perspective. And so funny
I have loved the maturity and right judgement with which all issues are discussed! Keep it up🙏
I definitely love this, great episode, will surely need more of these, thanks guys.
I am so so grateful for this show Bumplove. I have discovered my mistakes in marriage and are determined to do better. I hope though that it is not too late......
But thanks. The men made every effort to be honest...
Mr mwine banange, am enjoying yr submissions too...u literally speak like Mr Andrew mwenda..wow... thank you for yr Tym guys🙌🙌🙌❤️
Loved this show. Salvador :Is it a premier league? 😂😂😂😂
Men take over has killed me today.. thanks bump love, i have failed to even ask my question because of laughter🤣
This show is my turning point!! Wow!!
I have really enjoyed and learnt alot from this show especially on the financial bit of it can you please bring these interesting gentle men again
I love that y'all came out so real. And i keep talking to my fellow women about the man's ego. Also I speak about how most of the things are natural instinct to women especially parenthood but unfortunately are not as obvious when it comes to men. And this can strain the relationship.