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- Опубліковано 8 бер 2023
- We asked you to ask the guys ANYTHING that you would want answered from a male perspective, and they DELIVERED.
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We asked you to ask the guys ANYTHING that you would want answered from a male perspective, and they DELIVERED.
We are so excited for you to watch this episode and know that you'll love it.
Let us know what surprised you most about their point of view in the comments below.
Thanks to Brian, Patrick, Ben and Mathew for the awesome show!
With love from Bump Love 🤣
If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who will relate and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one.
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Bestest episode!
Everything was on point👌
Please don’t allow them there unsupervised again. Please. Thanks.
Please don’t allow them there unsupervised again. Please. Thanks.
Rach Mwine wesibe biiri, ur man is not so easy. Mukowu nyooooo eeeeeehhhh
Woooooow I like the episode
Mulondo has matched very well as the wife
Mathew as Angie 😅
Salvador has shared both Pumla and Rosette's character.....😀 Very lively....
Ben as serious as the wife😅😅😅😅😅😅😅. Enjoyed and learnt.
The Spouses to these men, Bambi forgive them if you feel like they over-shared. We needed it raw.
I was a student mother..my mum was the toughest in the area we lived in..everyone knew her..when I came home pregnant n crying..she broke down with me..she hugged me n told me we shall get through it..and indeed we did get through it..
Ben properly explained grace on this. It is the grace that puts us in line
I wish i had amother wen i became astudent mother
Aww and I bet she is the bestest grandma too
"...and indeed we did get through it." Love this. Hugs. P
@@NOTANOTHERUA-cam yes she is the best..and my number one fan
Ben showed the best poise,Mulondo was the most joyous,Mathew was the most calm and ofcourse Salvador was there to stir fun😂😂😂😂but kudos guys it was alllllll intriguing and actually straightening at the same time
Mwine still upholds the traditional gender roles 😂. It's not just a woman's responsibility to keep the fire burning. Are you providing her emotional needs. Most men think it's all about the money and the woman should be the nurturer to everyone else in the home, displinarian, do the homework, work outside the home, etc. All these things take an emotional toll on the woman making sex the last thing on her mind. I think you should treat your spouse as a friend not a servant. Why not grab that juice from the fridge? Is it such a herculean task? Imagine if your able bodied wife asked you to remove her shoes every single day. Would you do it? Culture should evolve. Many of the so called gender roles are just skills and responsibilities that should be done by all people. 🤷🏽♀️
Brian, there could not have been a better host 🥳
Brian seems mindful in his interventions, which is nice. I also get vibes that his marriage to Manuela is founded on partnership and friendship. I see it in the way they interact, which is a better approach as opposed to expectations around holding just a title of wife and husband. Doesn't mean they dont have problems, seems they are comfortable being vulnerable around eachother. Most men in Ug mistake being vulnerable to being weak. They are OK being vulnerable everywhere else but at home, which is why they dont feel taken care of by their spouses. I know women we are not innocent in all this but men do set trends on how they get treated at home.
Mathew is an empath, love that. If all men could relate like him
What a time to be alive...men getting to express themselves,giving their PoV, being vulnerable & honest. This is a facet of equality,allowing all sides to be heard. Thank You!
I agree 1000 percent
The chemistry between the men is 👌🏾
Away from the show. They are close friends.
Cuz thy a close friends even off camera 😂😂😂
If there's anything this episode has taught me, it's that women and men are very different. I have always known this fact, but this episode has confirmed it so firmly. And whereas some of the opinions expressed were honestly hard to swallow, I am glad men are opening up and as women, we need to listen with open minds. One thing surely stood out for me, the roles of husbands and wives in the bible need to be honored for marriages to work. The more we fight them, the worse it gets. If the man pays the bills and provides and protects, what's hard about giving him juice when he gets home and understanding what mood he's in so as to know when to pick a fight and when not to. Whereas we can wear the pants at work and be boss babes, let's leave those pants at work and not carry them home.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I loved the part Salvador talked about men being supported during pregnancy too so they better support their spouses
I love bumplove and was excited for the men take over but I couldn’t get myself to watch till the end. There was a lack of accountability for the most part. There was visible evidence of a lack of communication but very high expectations of women in marriage. I personally lost it when the “ men being friends with their wives and women forgetting their place “ statement was made. It felt as though women are more like servants and men are some where in a high place that women shouldn’t have access to. I understand men rarely speak up and we don’t want criticize what was said but this also feels like we gaslighting each other into not expressing how it felt listening to this conversation. I think expressing ourselves should start a conversation of self examination. Now there could have been better points that I missed because I couldn’t finish the show. I really hope there was. Otherwise, this shows our men need to be more intentional with working on their self awareness, communication and understanding when it’s healthy to feed the ego and when to not. Thanks!
I am sorry but I think you approached this with too much of emotions. And I hope this is not how you address all your issues. Because when you want to have an objective conversation, should be able to listen to even things that sit well with you, and listen to them with an open mind, not biases.
@Pac Isco I would appreciate if you addressed the rest of the points i mentioned because they explain why I was unsuccessful with finishing the video. You can’t just address an effect and ignore the cause.I would like to hear your perspective on those points. Thanks!
Your response shows clearly that you got the message.
There’s lack of accountability and justification of abuse from some of these men (and all those they are representing here). This constant reference to “…as a man, I should … because I’m a man” and “... women should do a, b, c, …z because they are women …” etc is very problematic. Many women cannot stand toxic masculine behavior anymore (and if they are doing so, they are tolerating you), and honestly women shouldn’t carry that burden. Men should positively contribute to changing this narrative concerning gendered roles and practice. Women should start unlearning tolerating some things that no longer serve them. Traditional gender roles are a thing of the past and that’s just the truth. Let’s make the world better by creating better systems that serve the current societal needs. Toxic masculinity behavior is alive and well in this conversation, unfortunately.
Yes, like when Mathew said the man is financially stressed because of pregnancy and the woman carrying triplets has to chip in..uuum how? Abandon the new borns and go to work?
Salvador and ben are the most honest and raw…..legit🤜🏾
That's true 😘😘
Loved this panel ,they should be the one talking to our young boys ,they should be used as the face of our men in our generation,all married ,hard working ….
Kindly note that no one knows when they are at depression. please don't blame anyone for the aftermath, you men need to observe the character change, even with other people like our parents, you cannot blame anyone for not telling you that they are getting in to depression, they just don't know or they are in denial. its never easy for anyone
Well said!!!!
I agree with you! I think women invest alot in understanding men and their emotions. They will ask, read and attend seminars but you hardly see that kind of effort from men. I think it's time for men to put some effort. Read and ask about pregnancy, motherhood etc. It will may be increase your empathy and compassion towards women and improve the communication.
@@winnienassazzi4484 Facts!!!! Many men focus just on the financial aspect ( which is great by all means) but all the other areas are Equally important. They will not want to go to therapy, they too have childhood trauma that is not dealt with etc. They always refer to the woman of those days, but guess what, she was just as stressed but hid it well from her children. If you look at many photos, you will see a sadness in their eyes. Secondly, many gave very harsh punishments to their children. Part of that was the marital stress they were bottling up 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
This is true Juliana. People really don't know that they are depressed. The ones around them should do the work and support when they see the signs. P
This episode is worth going globally viral. "Is it a premier league"😂😂😂😂😂 the things we take for granted.
Never commented on anything ever but couldn't resist.
This conversation can run you up a wall with the patriarchal attitudes, excuses,and sense of entitlement, but the fact is we need to celebrate the fact that men can finally share their honest(even when unpleasant) thoughts and feelings. That's the beginning of dialogue, which will hopefully bring about mutual understanding.
I feel you on this!! I was so surprised that these so-called ‘modern’ men still cling to old patriarchal norms and view the advancement of their wives and maybe their mothers as the norm in Uganda. The upper-middle class woman has much more access to a great education, and a great career. She can easily afford househelp which allows her to advance in her chosen career. This is not the case for majority of the Ugandan woman. I never heard any of them sympathize with the woman in rural Uganda who needs an ally to improve on her state. Acknowledge your position of privilege when everyone around you has an easier life than the majority.
The men were too sympathetic to men who get ‘trapped’ by women. Men can provide for a family in many ways other than financially, if that’s not possible. He can protect his home, offer direction, discipline and nurture his children even when he is not employed. It was refreshing hearing their honest perspectives though.
Mothers of boys, do better for the next generation, please 😅
I think negative Patriarchy is not good, unproductive and not needed. Same as negative matriarchy. But Patriarchy also has a positive side. Women always ask me to be leaders when it comes to provision, protection and etc. That's also part of Patriarchy. The challenge is also notice is that Women want men to be who women want them to be which is unrealistic.
@@kiizajohnson8684 there is no such thing as negative or positive patriarchy or matriarchy. Please read more on those terms before you use them
Hello bump love gents...as a married woman i have learnt alot about men i can can relate with everything that has been discussed.
Sincere thanks to these men n host.
Special one to ben mwine great guy last met him in 2015 in bugolobi dissecting the ugandas budget at the time
It's amazing how Manuela and Brian speak so alike 😀
I thought I was the only one that noticed that. Wow
Hmmm so iam not alone!
The comment i was looking for😂😂😂😂
People who share a duvet after a few years start to resemble each other
The laughter.......so alike
This show was so 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 i laughed from the begining to the end. Naye the discussion was on point. Please bring them back😊😊
The way Nabwiso cleaned up his face and put the katambala aside😂😂😂. He was prepared for this question
Very solid panel. Ben's submission on finances should be every woman's take home
Nedda Nedda we need a part 2... Wisdom.. Not married yet no baby yet but am glad to be a family here on bump love... Salvador was just so honest bambi
Yeah,we tend to judge people so quickly based on hear say and public opinion, yet in reality...someone just needs a tight hug! and assurance that they will be okay😊
Exactly what my mother told me. Whenever you accuse a man of cheating when he is not cheating, he will actually think or wish he had cheated. Men men!
Thank you gentlemen for sharing this was worth it #can't wait for another episode featuring you
This got me smiling throughout, very insightful interaction. Thank you!
What an episode! 🙂Please bring these guys to the show more often
Yes bring these guys to the show more often
This thing of married people looking alike is sooo true. I see it in the men.
Wow, I learned and laughed through it all. Thank you gentlemen. Please do return for more episodes
This labour thing with my bae made me feel the most loved woman in the whole world, all the night I was dancing with my labour pains he was there to help me go through it and I can never compare it to any thing else.
You were lucky that the pregnancy treated you fairly I hated my husband from the beginning up to the end to a point that labour started when he was at work I called my friend and lied to her that my husband is aware but to far for him to come back so that she couldn't call him again and I was lucky gave birth before he was home and he surprised to get a call from me after labour
Loved it!! Thanks for considering bringing this guys. Salvador made me laugh when he found out about PND on his show. 😂
U guys are clearly friends!!!! I feel Eleanor has a very good hubby.....most men miss that.......the Bible clearly says women are the weaker vessel....so husbands deal with your wives with understanding......Ben and Brian look and sound like their wives 😅. Salvador's stories were so relatable and i learnt alot.
Salvador, thank you for your transparency.
This has been very insightful...pliz plan to come back with part 2...amazing episode its been
This was really life teaching and fun. thank you Bump love
And if Andrew Kyamagero joined you gentlemen, I can't even imagine what would've happened. Can you please feature him on the next men's edition.
Oh yes I agree
Yes, Andrew Kyamagero would be perfect
I was smiles althrought... what a show! thank you guys🙌. you're legit👏...
I love that y'all came out so real. And i keep talking to my fellow women about the man's ego. Also I speak about how most of the things are natural instinct to women especially parenthood but unfortunately are not as obvious when it comes to men. And this can strain the relationship.
Loved every bit of the show. Thank you for serving something different. It was an absolutely great choice of the hosts
This was so beneficial and interesting, thank you guys for the amazing show
So educative and funny at the same time. I loved this episode, thanks
This episode was both hilarious and informative. Thank you gentlemen.
This was a great episode. Men sitting and openly sharing out their experiences. I'm certain this has been of great benefit for both men& women.
Love how honest Salvador is. By the way we miss those couple shows when are you resuming?
Love hearing from the men's perspective
This one was world cup for me..We need these men back @Bump love
wowww....this was fun. need to be done more frequently and thanks for bringing the right selection of men. They exhibited Godly values and character plus respected each other. 🥰
It was good hearing it from the men themselves. This helps. Thank you guys.
Absolutely to fantastic to have balanced the boat on this forum!!!! Thank You!!! Great insight from our Gentlemen!!! Tubebaza xx
This was awesome! Thanks guys for the insight on those pertinent issues.
A very enlightening episode. So good to hear the men's perspective. And so funny
Loved seeing you guys here sharing experience of real life♥️♥️
Very educative program.
Thank you guys for putting up a nice show.
Ben Ben u have saved marriages...that was deep... Kudos Rachael ❤️
I would have Nini😜😜😜naye Mr.Mulondo
I have loved the maturity and right judgement with which all issues are discussed! Keep it up🙏
wow, hallelujah thank you so much bump for the men , am inspired encouraged taught and equipped as a young adult, God Bless YOU All l love you, long live bump love👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Nice one i loved this and i think all young men should be looking out for such talks 🎉🎉🎉
Watching this very late (11pm) I even don't want to sleep this is too good y'all. These should be done more often please
Era you chose well. All these guys haven't yet been registered in cheating scandals. And they all have respected their wives.
We should have this more often
I honesty learnt a lot…
But salvador’ story of the lockdown was so relatable 😂😂😂😂Great job guys👍
We need more of these. Thank you gentlemen.
woooooh, Good communication skills and relationship skills has really been a key point in family and society .Thank you bump love ❤
Wow wow! It's amazing to hear from men, Fabulous 4, please come back again. Maximum respect to all of you, thank you for enlightening us.
Great presentation . they should have thrown pumla in there. To add salt into the wound.
Hahahaaaa! Wouldn't Golden Tulip have caught fire? 🤣. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 n that’s wat I’m advocating for.
I enjoyed this episode, just laughters
Thank you!!
Loved the show with the bump love Men. Thanks for sharing openly.
What a vibe! Ben's accent sounds perfect but bring them often pleaseeeee..i have enjoyed every inch of it
Fantastic episode! I learnt alot from this. Please organise another for us to be better wives and wives-to-be😊
Oh my God this was so beautiful! The urge to type my comments here kept up but the zeal to watch the next minute of the MEN's discussion overpowered me. Watched till the end and kept my phone on do not disturb! What a show that was! What a realistic discussion the men gave us. It is such a beautiful segment of bump love and I hope we often get them on the show. You all women to these MEN are married to exciting husbands. Your families are lucky to have you both as husbands and wives.
Thank you Bump love for hosting the gentlemen...I enjoyed the conversation and I've learnt alot.
It was so informative. The best session is when they talked about how men like to be treated.... respect....serving them etc....
Thank you for being real and honest....I have learnt alot....Thanks to the team for bringing this episode....keep bringing the men so often.....
I pray we have a part 2 and 3. This conversation was very informative. As women we surround ourselves with only voices that sound and agree to us, this was good
Well done
Mr Mulondo thanks for moderating so good! Questions were answered satisfactorily…
Wow ,❤️❤️❤️bump lovers
Good to see you guys ♥️
Mulondo kudos, you always speak respectfully about your wife no matter what!. You don’t just speak fwaa.. that is lovely
Just create a show wit the men . I think people need such an honest conversation 👏🏾
This was very insightful and fun to watch! ❤
I love the maturity that was displayed here.
THIS WAS A GREAT EPISODE, PLEASE HOST ANOTHER ONE. THANK YOU 🙏
Very personal, very informative, well hosted.. Good job guys..
I have really enjoyed and learnt alot from this show especially on the financial bit of it can you please bring these interesting gentle men again
Wow, definitely waiting for another segment, gentlemen, great show
Interesting conversation here.....Bring back these very gentlemen... welldone Bump love
Wow...in listening to these men in detail am starting to have a different perspective on marriage. It's about tolerance, it's about respect, support and effort. Thank you gentlemen and the incredible women beside each of you
wow.....I've enjoyed this show so much. The men should return soon
This is really productive, hopefully we have more of men on bump love
What an episode 😍😍😍😍great job men
We need another session
But Brian you have a naughty face, the laugh and facial expressions of when you did that slay queen mimicking, eyeroll and finger up - I died😆😆😆
Indeed comedian Salvador. Great words and pieces of good wisdom from the men
Lovely discussion. Thanks bump love! It's always a pleasure to hear from the men. Even though I saw some bituli here and there, it was still quite insightful.
I loved every bit of this, part 2 please🙏
This is so touching, educative from men show. Kindly this shouldn't stop
Lots of love from Kigali Rwanda. Big up to yourselves great minds. It's my first time to see Mbokoro like this serious.
It was fun today thx bump love 💝
You guys are the best… come on the show often pls 🙏🏽
Thank you for this beautiful perspective. Please encourage men to form support groups that they can all access and utilise
I have been laughing from the start till
Hey bump love, we need more episodes of the sort🤗
We can't thank you enough but you have really done us good. Mutukoze obulungi obutagambika.