My mother would say to my youngest sister that she actually wanted only 2 children (my older brother and I). She would relate how she placed an IUD after the second child, and when that contraceptive failed, my sister was born. How lovely a mother story.
Im kid number 4. Popular dinner conversation..."only supposed to be three.... boys " My older sister, #3.... there was even a name, starting with an 'R'. This us still angrily echoing at times
Thank you for this video, now I understand why I suffer so much with self worth, people pleasing tendencies and try not to bother others, my mom is a covert narcissist, I love her but it's really hard to be around her when her narcissism gets aggressive.
Wow! Did you read a book about my life? I only know you didn’t because there isn’t one. Your video helped me know I’m not alone and not to blame for the mocking, belittling and ambivalence. Finished off with her incandescent ongoing rage since last year when I finally put a stop to my acceptance of her words and behaviour. You’d think a terminally ill 80 year old would want to leave on good terms but apparently not.
Everything - true!! I’m a People pleaser to the “nth” degree! Especially in the workplace. I never spoke up for myself until 7 months before I retired at age 60. I’ve never had a successful romantic relationship. I’m so self critical, I sometimes have to remind myself not to hurt myself. Videos like this that help open up awareness are an incredible gift of healing. I’m slowly making progress and am working towards not taking responsibility for my mother’s happiness or unhappiness because of her disappointment in me.
Thank you! My mother said to me when I was a teenager: “Why aren’t you like other girls?” I’m 62, people-pleaser all my life, with a viscous inner-critic still tormenting me. On a healing path now. Lost marriage. Lost recent romantic relationship. Both covert narcissists. Estranged from my son. Completely alone. Isolating and finding it very hard to trust people. Most people take advantage of me. Still trying to find joy and happiness, mostly in nature. Your videos are very helpful. ❤
@@CourageCoaching Thank you for validating and encouraging me! “I’m sorry you suffered so much.” ~ These are the words I never have and never will hear from my son, my mother, my exes and other family and friends who have never genuinely loved me and cared about me but only exploited my giving nature. I get more validation and compassion from strangers than from people who I thought were closest to me. Very sad and heartbreaking. Despite all of that, I love my life, I love myself and will never ever abandon myself and reject myself just because others did. Thank you dear!
If you relate to this topic, then please feel free to comment, like and share this video! Love Athina
Good reminders, particularly when one's resolve is tested over having gone NC...
My mother would say to my youngest sister that she actually wanted only 2 children (my older brother and I). She would relate how she placed an IUD after the second child, and when that contraceptive failed, my sister was born.
How lovely a mother story.
Im kid number 4. Popular dinner conversation..."only supposed to be three.... boys " My older sister, #3.... there was even a name, starting with an 'R'. This us still angrily echoing at times
Word for word.
Thank you for this video, now I understand why I suffer so much with self worth, people pleasing tendencies and try not to bother others, my mom is a covert narcissist, I love her but it's really hard to be around her when her narcissism gets aggressive.
Wow! Did you read a book about my life? I only know you didn’t because there isn’t one. Your video helped me know I’m not alone and not to blame for the mocking, belittling and ambivalence. Finished off with her incandescent ongoing rage since last year when I finally put a stop to my acceptance of her words and behaviour. You’d think a terminally ill 80 year old would want to leave on good terms but apparently not.
Everything - true!! I’m a People pleaser to the “nth” degree! Especially in the workplace. I never spoke up for myself until 7 months before I retired at age 60. I’ve never had a successful romantic relationship. I’m so self critical, I sometimes have to remind myself not to hurt myself. Videos like this that help open up awareness are an incredible gift of healing. I’m slowly making progress and am working towards not taking responsibility for my mother’s happiness or unhappiness because of her disappointment in me.
Thank you so much for finally allowing me to understand myself! It felt like you were describing my exact relationship with my mother. ❤
Thank you♥️
You are exactly right about everything you said ! I’m glad I found you , and thanks ❤
Thank you so much! I have felt such immense shame from so many things my mother did to me.
Thank you! My mother said to me when I was a teenager: “Why aren’t you like other girls?” I’m 62, people-pleaser all my life, with a viscous inner-critic still tormenting me. On a healing path now. Lost marriage. Lost recent romantic relationship. Both covert narcissists. Estranged from my son. Completely alone. Isolating and finding it very hard to trust people. Most people take advantage of me. Still trying to find joy and happiness, mostly in nature. Your videos are very helpful. ❤
I am so sorry you have suffered so much! Nature is truly healing and I find it soothing too! Animals also! Take care of yourself and keep going!
@@CourageCoaching Thank you for validating and encouraging me!
“I’m sorry you suffered so much.” ~ These are the words I never have and never will hear from my son, my mother, my exes and other family and friends who have never genuinely loved me and cared about me but only exploited my giving nature. I get more validation and compassion from strangers than from people who I thought were closest to me. Very sad and heartbreaking. Despite all of that, I love my life, I love myself and will never ever abandon myself and reject myself just because others did. Thank you dear!
8:00 this is so true
Perfect 😊
Hey, would you do a video on how to get even with them please!!!
Thank you ❤