You are so dialed in on finding root causes of our issues. I'm taken aback at how thorough you are. I think i may have experienced a dark night of the soul. I was discarded by my narc ex wife on 9/6/23. I was forced into an isolation that i think has done wonders for me. I was very codependent for my whole adult life. I'm now on a quest to heal my childhood trauma and to take my power back. I've dealt with therapists for few years now. Nothing against them but i always felt they didn't understand. This narcissistic abuse community has catapulted my healing. It has brought me to your channel and I'm in awe of your content. I sincerely want to thank you as i feel lille I've found the place for the answers i seek. 😊😊
This is so insightful. I’ve grown up with a narcissistic father and never understood why I’ve always been so self destructive. Always holding back from doing things that would make me happy, always doubtful and double minded. I didn’t realize it’s an effect of such abuse. Totally makes sense now. I needed this! Thanks!
Thanks Athena. It is an eye-opener. I know all this very well...!! But I also have the impression that the toxic bond with the narcissistic parents brings a lot of havoc in someone's life due to all this projection and negative energy. After going no contact with my father, I could still feel much negative energy bringing bad luck into my life. I also found out that my father had been jealous all the time about me being successful, may that's why I started to sabotage it. After a time of success everything started to went wrong, because I attracted narcissistic people and I entered into the same cycle. I felt the same destruction as in my childhood. 😢Very painful. Therefore videos like this are very helpful to me. Thanks. 💕
I second that...But it seems churches don't even have the concept of Psychology and mental health... If not mistaken, my narc mother was married to my father three times..
Hi, I like your content on narcissism, it's very direct and the way you explain it is devoid of fake emotions, please keep spreading information. On the other hand, I find it hard to recall my childhood memories and often times I doubt my memory, do you have any tips for those who need to remember the abuse they went through when children. Like I established the fact that I was abused but I want to go back and see myself as a child to reassure myself more, and thus break free easier. I mean I could ask the abusers, but for that matter, my parents are dead and my siblings are equally abused and delusional as me, so what are some of the things that I can do to remember in my own? Thanks :)
I've been knowing but realistically how do you really change after all the abuse and brainwashing. Our lives we're ruined at least mine was. It feels I missed every boat. Im older and it is a ridiculous life. Im glad that old bastard is dead. I use to think I would miraculously get better when he would die off. I was wrong. It's better but the damage was done & he left in place 2 nightmare psychopaths to take his place. Long story but my mother had some dementia, I have as trying to take care of her & by the time that old bastard died he had put money in trust & the new psychopaths had my mother's power of attorney etc etc etc. They connned the con man actually, the snake met his match, but it was & still is a ongoing battle costing a fortune to protect my mother. To long of a story but my God the evil never ends. Not to mention the failed relationships I've had that were horrific. Anyway too much info im sorry, but don't feel alone!! There are others out here feel line you do. Im sorry for your pain. I know what it does to u.
I gave you thumbs down because I dont work well with affirmations! What can you do when affirmations don’t work on you because they make the feelings of self doubt cleave in even deeper into your subconscious? For instance, when I repeat to myself something like what you said: “I am not what happened to me” or “I will not let my past defin me” this only makes the sabotaging voice in my head get stronger, so, the more I repeat myself “I am not my past”, “I can create a life that...” the more I hear the voice that tells me that I will never achieve what I wish and that ill end up just like my parents
@@alphanotmale1847 Hey First of all pls realise that there is no such internal voice at all. It is us speaking to ourself. But that voice is formed based on life experiences and assumed beliefs. If experienced trauma or severe isolation this voice tends to be based on beliefs which are way far from reality. And hence you gotta tweak that voice by recognising and digging into the past. Been there done that!! Just my two cents. Hope this helps.
@@Apolitical676 thank you Teja! You’re right, it’s not an internal voice, it’s us! I can’t believe after a year someone would reply to my comment! I even forgot I had replied to this video. Such great timing though! A year ago, your words wouldn’t have set well with me; I would have probably felt you were “blaming me” instead! So glad that’s not the case now a year later! I know exactly what you mean!
You are so dialed in on finding root causes of our issues. I'm taken aback at how thorough you are. I think i may have experienced a dark night of the soul. I was discarded by my narc ex wife on 9/6/23. I was forced into an isolation that i think has done wonders for me. I was very codependent for my whole adult life. I'm now on a quest to heal my childhood trauma and to take my power back. I've dealt with therapists for few years now. Nothing against them but i always felt they didn't understand. This narcissistic abuse community has catapulted my healing. It has brought me to your channel and I'm in awe of your content. I sincerely want to thank you as i feel lille I've found the place for the answers i seek. 😊😊
Love this, great reminder about what abuse is.
This is so insightful. I’ve grown up with a narcissistic father and never understood why I’ve always been so self destructive. Always holding back from doing things that would make me happy, always doubtful and double minded. I didn’t realize it’s an effect of such abuse. Totally makes sense now. I needed this! Thanks!
Thanks Athena. It is an eye-opener. I know all this very well...!! But I also have the impression that the toxic bond with the narcissistic parents brings a lot of havoc in someone's life due to all this projection and negative energy. After going no contact with my father, I could still feel much negative energy bringing bad luck into my life. I also found out that my father had been jealous all the time about me being successful, may that's why I started to sabotage it. After a time of success everything started to went wrong, because I attracted narcissistic people and I entered into the same cycle. I felt the same destruction as in my childhood. 😢Very painful. Therefore videos like this are very helpful to me. Thanks. 💕
😭this is me narcissist should be stopped from having children
I second that...But it seems churches don't even have the concept of Psychology and mental health...
If not mistaken, my narc mother was married to my father three times..
These affirmations words I said out loud for myself and I could feel they hurt but also creates a will to believe. Thank you so much for this video.
This is SO accurate!!!!
I am glad I never give so much power to those narcissist and I had the ability to focus on remaining authentic.
Thank you for those affirmations -- they are quite powerful
Thank you so much!
Hi, I like your content on narcissism, it's very direct and the way you explain it is devoid of fake emotions, please keep spreading information.
On the other hand, I find it hard to recall my childhood memories and often times I doubt my memory, do you have any tips for those who need to remember the abuse they went through when children. Like I established the fact that I was abused but I want to go back and see myself as a child to reassure myself more, and thus break free easier. I mean I could ask the abusers, but for that matter, my parents are dead and my siblings are equally abused and delusional as me, so what are some of the things that I can do to remember in my own?
Thanks :)
You just described me.
Unbelievable. This is me but I don't want to be.
Excellent video thanks
What if you finally wake up but you are too old for change to matter?
I've been knowing but realistically how do you really change after all the abuse and brainwashing. Our lives we're ruined at least mine was. It feels I missed every boat. Im older and it is a ridiculous life. Im glad that old bastard is dead. I use to think I would miraculously get better when he would die off. I was wrong. It's better but the damage was done & he left in place 2 nightmare psychopaths to take his place. Long story but my mother had some dementia, I have as trying to take care of her & by the time that old bastard died he had put money in trust & the new psychopaths had my mother's power of attorney etc etc etc. They connned the con man actually, the snake met his match, but it was & still is a ongoing battle costing a fortune to protect my mother. To long of a story but my God the evil never ends. Not to mention the failed relationships I've had that were horrific. Anyway too much info im sorry, but don't feel alone!! There are others out here feel line you do. Im sorry for your pain. I know what it does to u.
very accurate, thank you so much
thank you so much for making this video!
Yep
Tears.
❤❤❤
My stepfather did this to me all the time. Lots of hypnosis later I achieved big things when living there ha ha
Saabertaaj
I gave you thumbs down because I dont work well with affirmations! What can you do when affirmations don’t work on you because they make the feelings of self doubt cleave in even deeper into your subconscious? For instance, when I repeat to myself something like what you said: “I am not what happened to me” or “I will not let my past defin me” this only makes the sabotaging voice in my head get stronger, so, the more I repeat myself “I am not my past”, “I can create a life that...” the more I hear the voice that tells me that I will never achieve what I wish and that ill end up just like my parents
One thing I've heard is you can use "may I." Such as "may I not be defined by my past" or "may I create a life that is good for me" etc.
Grey thank you! I’ll look more into that technique ❤️
@@alphanotmale1847
Hey
First of all pls realise that there is no such internal voice at all. It is us speaking to ourself. But that voice is formed based on life experiences and assumed beliefs. If experienced trauma or severe isolation this voice tends to be based on beliefs which are way far from reality. And hence you gotta tweak that voice by recognising and digging into the past.
Been there done that!!
Just my two cents. Hope this helps.
@@Apolitical676 thank you Teja! You’re right, it’s not an internal voice, it’s us! I can’t believe after a year someone would reply to my comment! I even forgot I had replied to this video. Such great timing though! A year ago, your words wouldn’t have set well with me; I would have probably felt you were “blaming me” instead! So glad that’s not the case now a year later! I know exactly what you mean!