The truth: well my moms a Karen so I don’t talk to her that much anymore 😢😅 Honestly though if my mom started acting like that I would stare her down and say. I love you and I appreciate what you have done for me all my life but I am an adult now. I will not tolerate you being disrespectful to me. If you want to remain in my life you have to change your attitude. ❤
Thats not "swatting", swatting is calling in a tip on criminal activity at an address that will likely result in a swat raid. A wellness check is just the local PD or sheriff checking to make sure you havent fallen down the stairs or had a heart attack or stroke. Swatting is someone trying to get you arrested at minimum with a strong possibility of your being killed by telling the police that you are doing criminal activity. Big difference.
Swatting: "This person said they're going to kill someone." The result is usually a heavy police response expecting to find a violent suspect. Welfare check: "I haven't seen or heard from this person when I normally would." The result is 1 or 2 cops showing up to make sure they're not dead.
My x husband did this exact thing. 7 years of divorce and 7 years of not seeing my oldest daughter. Both my girls are slowly figuring out what their dad really is
Many years ago, o e of my sisters went thru a traumatic event. Our mother took her to a therapist. Less than 5 minutes into the session, the therapist recommended therapy for our mother. My sister was not allowed to go to ANY therapist after that. Turned out our mother was bipolar. She refused to get treatment until she suddenly did. Forty years later, I still have no clue what led to that.
the first part actually happened to me too after some sessions, she got as far as to kick me out of the house (i moved with my father) bc she thought i was talking shit about her at the phycologist.
Something very similar happened to me. Therapist was visibly upset at my birth giver and told her, “It’s not (my) responsibility to make excuses to the family why my stepbrother can’t go to the family reunion while I’m there” He anally raped and molested me for years as a child. I stopped going to “family” events for obvious reasons, and I just had twins. I had also started openly talking about my abuse, and they couldn’t have their skeletons out of the closet. So they went on a mission to try and silence me, no matter the cost. She also pulled the same crap in the video after I moved my family an hour away. She then gave the local police some bs story, and they conspired, successfully, to kidnap my kids. The state placed them with those same people we escaped from and I was protecting them from. They dragged everything on for those 9 months, trying EVERYTHING they could to build a case on why they took them in the first place. When we finally got to court on of the DCF c**ts slipped up on the stand that they spoke to the (now) Sheriff out in the parking lot, even before they entered my home, agreeing they were going to take my kids. Judge heard this, stopped the court, gave them a verbal lashing, and ordered they return my kids immediately. 9 months of pure Hell. And it didn’t stop there. She works for Capstone Headstart, and I had to move into subsidized housing trying to start over as a single parent with nothing. She went to my neighbors and the housing authority, and I was a done deal right there. Right from the beginning. It’s almost been 6 years and she still sporadically shows up trying to bait my kids with “gifts”. Completely isolated, triangulated, stalked harassed, and abused. I have no way out. No supports. No help. No friends.
@@CarpeDiezNutzI am so, so sorry. Honestly, if I were in your position, I don't know what I'd do. I suppose you've already tried reporting her abuse to the police?
@@alexisberg2046it depends, if it’s serious if you gaslight someone into thinking that someone killed themselves because of you, then it’s not funny, but if it’s this cartoonishly evil then I’m gonna die laughing
@@neville2308 Happened to me again this year, it was great. Three police men that found me enjoying the sun in the garden with my son. Ungortunately, they don't seem to punish women for this abuse, doesn't matter if it happens every year around my birthday. But they sent me a birthday card this year, slightly surreal.
And when you get married, lord have mercy on your spouse. Mother realized real quick she didn’t have a tight hand on me anymore once he came in the pic and I got pregnant, he’s felt her wrath for years and now that I’ve made the choice to completely cut her out, he’s become her target with false abuse claims, calling the cops on him etc., ….
@@kaitsfateAbusive parents hate spouses that they didn’t handpick for their child because it’s the one factor they can’t control. The spouse is always the evil monster who’s trying to steal mommy’s and daddy’s precious little baby away from them. Never mind that the ‘precious little baby’ is an adult who can make their own decisions.
Omg this hits home so hard right now! Short version, my mom has hated my hubby since the very beginning. Like all you had to do was say his name and there’s a scowl on her face. She’s also the kind of person that it’s her way or it’s wrong, we do it someone else’s way fine but we’re gonna deal with her passive aggressive BS for days sometimes weeks depending who the person is. Well after years of gaslighting and manipulation from her that damn near ruin my marriage and heightened my depression significantly, I quit giving her what she wanted. She instantly retaliates by spreading FALSE abuse accusations about my husband along with stalking me and getting my aunts to harass me. What hurts too is none of my family is willing to see her lies or any of the mental BS she put me through, just keep getting “well she’s your mom and she’s hurt, go fix it” they don’t care about my feelings and I’m just selfish and ungrateful putting myself, my son, my husband, and marriage before her ego. I at least have friends that support us and know the truth, but pretty much my whole family besides one cousin that also cut off his mother, have unquestioning sided with her, and she’s gotten them to call in welfare checks on me too. I wish I could simply hang up the phone and the toxic be gone….instead I have to rely on friends sending me evidence of her trying to get info about me out of them so I can use that to build up a stalking case with the police, hopefully get an official no contact order soon.
Check the laws in your area about recording consent, and if you can, record her. What she's doing is illegal and she CAN go to jail for false accusations.
God, my ex's mom would call the police on him any chance she got. It was so ridiculous, but idk. Idk what her intentions were with it, because it seemed like she only wanted him in jail, and to take his kids away from him. Glad to hear he's been doing very well, and has had his girls full time the last few years after their mom o.d'd
The genuine audacity of these types of parents who are so self centered and selfish that they think everything revolves around them It is infuriating and I'm amazed you made that so well
My mum - back in the day as the kids say - would call the house phone, then My pager, which was supposed to be for emergencies only before cell phone became available - incessantly until I called back, if I didn't - after 90 minutes, she'd just show up and pound on my door - or she would actually show up at my job and embarrass me. Having the cops do a welfare check is or would have been preferable. All her drama was simply because she wanted to talk and find out about my day. Stuff she would use to talk down to me about. Her : Have you found a job? - Me : I have a job. Her : a better job / or a real job... (Because she didn't think what I did was good enough, even though everyone else was impressed). Have you met anyone yet / Why haven't you got a husband? - etc... as a grandma now, in conversations with people, many are amazed at the things I've done or overcome, yet to my mum I was just a huge disappointment. My younger sister who never did anything - except according to mum, could do no wrong. Which is why I love channels such as these. Helping the generations sort out this human condition of becoming better...
@@jeilynvasquez2476 experience this with my dad. My dad doesn't answer his phone and he has health issues, so lots of times I wonder if he is just being a douche or if he has blacked out or something. And when he finally answers, he acts like he did nothing wrong. It's not even just me, his other relatives worry about him too. So for goodness sake, for everyone reading my comment, just pick up the phone and answer it when a relative or your parents call. They may not know how to show it, but they care about you. Unless of course the said person is an abuser, if that is the case, block their contacts.
@@ellevillamor4454 I have to disagree. I get the logic, but I don't owe anyone a conversation. If I don't want to talk, I am not going to answer. I'm not obligated to talk to anyone, nor are they entitled to my time if I don't want to give it.
I have never been more thankful my mom isn't toxic. There was a childhood friend who was a skinny as a bean pole and her mom put her on a diet because she was "fat". People should be psych evaluated before producing offspring.
My ex sil wasnt allowed to weigh more than 105 lbs. If she went over her mom pad locked the fridge til she was under again. Her mom tried to khs in front of xsil and they sent her to live with her dad who didnt have custody already cause he would sleep nude in bed with his daughters but they still decided she was better off with him than her mom
this shit straight-up hits like a actual reflection of what life was like until I moved out about 7yrs ago and haven't had ANY contact with my mother at all for 7yrs now. no text, call, voicemail, email, social media shit, aol aim, fax, ect, not a damn thing ligit for 7yrs now. if it wasn't for my older brother sometimes talking to me I wouldn't even know if my mother was alive or dead, all cause this video was her on her best fucking day! she was really bad to me and my brother. she was even bad to her parents (my grandparents who I'm close to) but ya, this hits like a reflection of everything. thanks for the content. it actually helps seeing I'm not alone, rather than just "knowing" I'm not alone, you know?
I hear you girl, my mother is toxic as well and I've had to distance myself from her. Haven't spoken to her for almost 2 years now. She tells anyone who will listen what an ungrateful daughter I am, spreading lies and half truths to whomever will listen. Has kept a ledger of every dollar she "loaned" me since I was 18, I'm 57 now, and has expected payment back for years which I have refused. There are details which are too confusing to go into but suffice it to say, I have helped my own kids for years and have never kept a running tab of how much I've given them or bought them and don't expect anything in return for everything I've done for them but the love they have for me...I just keep her toxic negativity out of my life ❤
That’s exactly the point. If your mom doesn’t stop being your parent and you are over 18, and you don’t live under her roof, you can and should cut her off. So yes, she does stop being your family, your mom.
Yeah, but people call it, “moms just being moms.” And it keeps young adults trapped in these abusive relationships for way too long. I know this because I lived it.
Nobody ever stops being a parent because we are still their children but at same time adults need their space. That said if an adult is on drugs, alcohol or suffering mental illness and doing bad things then yes the parent should step in but otherwise no they need space.
I'm actually dealing with this exact situation right now! Plus if I call her out on her bs she gets vindictive and calls cys and makes aligations😭 I've been cleared buy that's an unforgivable betrayal.
I quit giving my toxic mother what she wanted and she retaliated by telling everyone my husband abuses me (not true), says he’s dangerous because he owns a gun (he’s ex military and aspires to become a gunsmith so yes he owns one, and fails to tell people about the MANY guns in her own home), says he threatened her (worst he ever said was go to hell while my dad actually did threaten his life), like parents are crazy when they don’t get what they want. And they’re seriously confused asf when we cut off contact wtf
Record then play back to anyone she tries to lie to including herself. It’s extremely hard for a narcissist to watch a video of themselves being narcissistic! U can just compile them for evidence 😉
@@berniemae9205first check the consent recording laws where you're from. Make sure they can't sue you for it. If it is illegal to record someone without them knowing don't do it. It just gives them more power.
An example of what to anticipate when going No Contact with a toxic/abusive family member and you strategically need to avoid telling them why so they don’t respond back with massive retaliation (ex: telling them they are a Pathological Narcissist and intend to never see them again, and in cases like mine, you are that person’s only abuse target with minimum risk of genuine consequences like divorce/getting fired/CPS taking away your kid/losing positive supply friends.
"Cluster B mother"??? What does that even mean?? Like is this referring to cluster B personality disorders? Bc if so thats not even remotely okay. Just because assholes use it as an excuse, doesn't mean that it's a valid excuse. There are tons of us that aren't at all like this, and are honestly the opposite. I couldn't live with myself if I was this awful to someone I claimed to love. Signed, a very annoyed and tired borderline 🙃🙃🙃
My parents offered me, a single mother back over 40 years ago, a home with my baby son. He grew up with loving grandparents who couldnt have been better role models. They were so supportive of all their 5 kids. Yes there were frictions from time to time but when the time came I was able to repay them by supporting them to remain as independent as possible as they aged until they died. I always tried to treat my own son with respect. I am here if and when he needs me. I do not interfere. I know he aporeciates our relationship mostly by the way he cheeks me, even now. But also the way he is ready to help me if he can. I wish I could spread a bit of that love back to all on here who have not experienced it. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
It's perfectly acceptable to tell toxic family members they are dead to you & kick them out of your life. A lot of times that is the only thing that works. I've had to do it myself.
These are so triggering, but also weirdly cathartic. My mom has done so many of these examples she shared. Hang in there, y'all. Someday, you get to put her in a home like I did mine.
Ooo my mom did this to me! The police officer was actually in tears from how funny the welfare check was. My mother and I didn’t talk for a year after that, and we’re actually better for it.
I've been having problems with my parents. Nothing like this, cops have been involved, but I definitely appreciate not like that. Feel a little better about my current relationship with my parents. Thank you ❤
Omg😂 please make one where while the daughter is a child the mom wants to go to therapy but the child is terrified to tell the truth. Then as adults the daughter says she wants to work on the relationship and go to therapy but the mom acts like she's crazy and tells her to get therapy😂
I used to go to therapy while I was younger because of my horrible family I was super depressed. So I would tell me therapist all of these things that my family would do to me and then she would tell my mother and my mother would beat me after wards. At that point there was no point in seeking therapy for anything because they would just tell my mom what I said and I would always suffer the consequences.
👏 i'm so happy for you, being able to respect your own boundaries when family is involved is not easy. If your family don't treat you correctly then is not your family 💔
That last line, "Out of all you children, you were the last one I expected", was the same thing my step-mom said to me after they gave me the ultimatum of obey or leave and I chose homelessness over being stuck under them for any longer. Never thought I'd hear it again in a skit about toxic parents. Thank you for helping reaffirm my wavering doubts.
I love my mom but she never has a kind word to say about anyone . She is upset when I don't call her or want to talk but life is hard to do everyday with all the negativity without your mom adding to the sauce.
Yeah. This is about how it went a couple months back when my mom's(49) mother (70) who she hasn't spoken to in 15 years called in two wellness checks on her 5 days apart saying she hadn't heard from my mom for months and she was concerned. My mom had to tell the officers "She's an old bat that's mad that neither of her kids talk to her or visit her."
"Pull another stunt like this one, and *I* will be calling the police on *you* for harassment. As of right now, we are No Contact... don't give me reason to file a restraining order."
Sounds like our situation. She was warned, ignored it and started stalking me, took her to court, unfortunately the judge denied my restraining order request. Judge literally told me to come back when I have proof of her pointing a gun at me….
Just gonna put it out there. Calling your parents or just texting them once a fortnight really helps ease their minds. Keep in touch with your family everyone :)
Okay, but I'm actually told this by my toxic father, & he recently told me if I didn't answer him he'd call the cops on me for a welfare check...he speaks to my sister who tells him ABOUT me & bothers everyone in my family to get me to talk to him.
My phone wasn't working at one point, my cell company got it fixed once I realized it. My daughter couldn't get a hold of me and I live 3000 miles away from everyone. She sent a wellness check to my house. The police told me to call my daughter, she was worried about me! LOL! Then I called my carrier to find out why I wasn't getting calls or texts. They ended up doing some tech support stuff and I suddenly got a host of messages from my daughter.
my dad did this when I moved out of state, had the local police calling me and everything, I was only ya know.... 26 at the time. there's a reason I don't talk to him anymore.
GAAAAWD!!! This sounds like some BS my daughter's father would pull....so quick! Narcissistic jerk would blame EVERYONE but him, for the fact that NO one wants to talk to him. He already does it.... 🤦♀️
Girl I LAUGHED when they showed up. They left laughing. The best way to get through these situations is to ASK questions (most officers don't mind letting you know who was checking on you) but also quickly and thoroughly getting through it. Then call the person and let them know you appreciate their care, and will be sure to show your own kind someday. Lol
"why would i lie when i can tell them the truth about you"
Damn-😂😂
The truth: well my moms a Karen so I don’t talk to her that much anymore 😢😅
Honestly though if my mom started acting like that I would stare her down and say. I love you and I appreciate what you have done for me all my life but I am an adult now. I will not tolerate you being disrespectful to me. If you want to remain in my life you have to change your attitude. ❤
@@RubyRedbird333👏
I heard this at the same time I read it lol 😂
Gonna put some ice for that burn
Fr💀
“i answer the phone-for people i wanna talk to.”
LITERALLY.
Me watching my phone ring until it turns off-👁️👄👁️
Exactly ❤
At first I thought it said your toxic man called the police on you.
So, don't answer the phone. My perfect solution 😊
"Omg, why don't you keep in contact with me?!" - toxic mother that has been verbally and mentally abusing her kids for over 19 years
"So how are you gonna make this up to me?"
"How about a wellness check 🙂?"
🤣🤣
"I'm going to add this false wellness check, a waste of police resources, to my portfolio of reasons I need a restraining order"
or how about a restraining order :)))
This is a perfect example of emotional manipulation. She swats you and then the conversations ends up in “well how are YOU gonna make this up to ME?”
Thats not "swatting", swatting is calling in a tip on criminal activity at an address that will likely result in a swat raid. A wellness check is just the local PD or sheriff checking to make sure you havent fallen down the stairs or had a heart attack or stroke. Swatting is someone trying to get you arrested at minimum with a strong possibility of your being killed by telling the police that you are doing criminal activity. Big difference.
Swatting: "This person said they're going to kill someone." The result is usually a heavy police response expecting to find a violent suspect.
Welfare check: "I haven't seen or heard from this person when I normally would." The result is 1 or 2 cops showing up to make sure they're not dead.
click!
I think that is hyperbole for the purposes of SATIRE. @@shawnwales696
My x husband did this exact thing. 7 years of divorce and 7 years of not seeing my oldest daughter. Both my girls are slowly figuring out what their dad really is
Many years ago, o e of my sisters went thru a traumatic event. Our mother took her to a therapist. Less than 5 minutes into the session, the therapist recommended therapy for our mother. My sister was not allowed to go to ANY therapist after that.
Turned out our mother was bipolar.
She refused to get treatment until she suddenly did. Forty years later, I still have no clue what led to that.
Sounds like a religious experience ngl but damn sorry yall had to go through that
the first part actually happened to me too after some sessions, she got as far as to kick me out of the house (i moved with my father) bc she thought i was talking shit about her at the phycologist.
@@rowanfox3009 - sorry for your experience. I sincerely hope you were able to heal from whatever led you to therapy.
Something very similar happened to me. Therapist was visibly upset at my birth giver and told her, “It’s not (my) responsibility to make excuses to the family why my stepbrother can’t go to the family reunion while I’m there”
He anally raped and molested me for years as a child. I stopped going to “family” events for obvious reasons, and I just had twins. I had also started openly talking about my abuse, and they couldn’t have their skeletons out of the closet. So they went on a mission to try and silence me, no matter the cost.
She also pulled the same crap in the video after I moved my family an hour away. She then gave the local police some bs story, and they conspired, successfully, to kidnap my kids. The state placed them with those same people we escaped from and I was protecting them from.
They dragged everything on for those 9 months, trying EVERYTHING they could to build a case on why they took them in the first place. When we finally got to court on of the DCF c**ts slipped up on the stand that they spoke to the (now) Sheriff out in the parking lot, even before they entered my home, agreeing they were going to take my kids. Judge heard this, stopped the court, gave them a verbal lashing, and ordered they return my kids immediately.
9 months of pure Hell. And it didn’t stop there. She works for Capstone Headstart, and I had to move into subsidized housing trying to start over as a single parent with nothing. She went to my neighbors and the housing authority, and I was a done deal right there. Right from the beginning. It’s almost been 6 years and she still sporadically shows up trying to bait my kids with “gifts”.
Completely isolated, triangulated, stalked harassed, and abused. I have no way out. No supports. No help. No friends.
@@CarpeDiezNutzI am so, so sorry. Honestly, if I were in your position, I don't know what I'd do. I suppose you've already tried reporting her abuse to the police?
"I answer the phone for people I want to talk to"
Relatable 👌
Same 😆
That's why 30 plus years ago I was so thankful for the answering machine and voice mail... LoL
The level of gaslighting in this video- 😂
Gaslighting isn't funny.
@@alexisberg2046 yes it is
@@alexisberg2046 yes it is you're just crazy
@@alexisberg2046it is your just crazy
@@alexisberg2046it depends, if it’s serious if you gaslight someone into thinking that someone killed themselves because of you, then it’s not funny, but if it’s this cartoonishly evil then I’m gonna die laughing
That "wellness check" can turn into "abuse of an emergency line" really fast.
Yep that’s how my evil abuser mom used it on me when I was 18
@@neville2308 Happened to me again this year, it was great. Three police men that found me enjoying the sun in the garden with my son. Ungortunately, they don't seem to punish women for this abuse, doesn't matter if it happens every year around my birthday. But they sent me a birthday card this year, slightly surreal.
Once you move out, toxic parents WILL DO ANYTHING to try to control you even though you no longer live under their roof
And when you get married, lord have mercy on your spouse.
Mother realized real quick she didn’t have a tight hand on me anymore once he came in the pic and I got pregnant, he’s felt her wrath for years and now that I’ve made the choice to completely cut her out, he’s become her target with false abuse claims, calling the cops on him etc., ….
@@kaitsfate literally, although I don’t plan to tell her I’m leaving with someone, she only will know I left by myself
@@kaitsfateAbusive parents hate spouses that they didn’t handpick for their child because it’s the one factor they can’t control. The spouse is always the evil monster who’s trying to steal mommy’s and daddy’s precious little baby away from them. Never mind that the ‘precious little baby’ is an adult who can make their own decisions.
Omg this hits home so hard right now!
Short version, my mom has hated my hubby since the very beginning. Like all you had to do was say his name and there’s a scowl on her face. She’s also the kind of person that it’s her way or it’s wrong, we do it someone else’s way fine but we’re gonna deal with her passive aggressive BS for days sometimes weeks depending who the person is.
Well after years of gaslighting and manipulation from her that damn near ruin my marriage and heightened my depression significantly, I quit giving her what she wanted. She instantly retaliates by spreading FALSE abuse accusations about my husband along with stalking me and getting my aunts to harass me.
What hurts too is none of my family is willing to see her lies or any of the mental BS she put me through, just keep getting “well she’s your mom and she’s hurt, go fix it” they don’t care about my feelings and I’m just selfish and ungrateful putting myself, my son, my husband, and marriage before her ego.
I at least have friends that support us and know the truth, but pretty much my whole family besides one cousin that also cut off his mother, have unquestioning sided with her, and she’s gotten them to call in welfare checks on me too.
I wish I could simply hang up the phone and the toxic be gone….instead I have to rely on friends sending me evidence of her trying to get info about me out of them so I can use that to build up a stalking case with the police, hopefully get an official no contact order soon.
Check the laws in your area about recording consent, and if you can, record her. What she's doing is illegal and she CAN go to jail for false accusations.
Press charges on her
Were you able to press charges?
God, my ex's mom would call the police on him any chance she got. It was so ridiculous, but idk. Idk what her intentions were with it, because it seemed like she only wanted him in jail, and to take his kids away from him. Glad to hear he's been doing very well, and has had his girls full time the last few years after their mom o.d'd
The genuine audacity of these types of parents who are so self centered and selfish that they think everything revolves around them
It is infuriating and I'm amazed you made that so well
Gurl she just looks worried to me. If I had a daughter and she would not answer for days I would get worried
My mum - back in the day as the kids say - would call the house phone, then My pager, which was supposed to be for emergencies only before cell phone became available - incessantly until I called back, if I didn't - after 90 minutes, she'd just show up and pound on my door - or she would actually show up at my job and embarrass me. Having the cops do a welfare check is or would have been preferable. All her drama was simply because she wanted to talk and find out about my day. Stuff she would use to talk down to me about. Her : Have you found a job? - Me : I have a job. Her : a better job / or a real job... (Because she didn't think what I did was good enough, even though everyone else was impressed). Have you met anyone yet / Why haven't you got a husband? - etc... as a grandma now, in conversations with people, many are amazed at the things I've done or overcome, yet to my mum I was just a huge disappointment. My younger sister who never did anything - except according to mum, could do no wrong. Which is why I love channels such as these. Helping the generations sort out this human condition of becoming better...
@@jeilynvasquez2476there is a lot of truth to what you say but the " how are you going to make this up to me......fix it?" kinda lets you know ......
@@jeilynvasquez2476 experience this with my dad. My dad doesn't answer his phone and he has health issues, so lots of times I wonder if he is just being a douche or if he has blacked out or something. And when he finally answers, he acts like he did nothing wrong. It's not even just me, his other relatives worry about him too. So for goodness sake, for everyone reading my comment, just pick up the phone and answer it when a relative or your parents call. They may not know how to show it, but they care about you. Unless of course the said person is an abuser, if that is the case, block their contacts.
@@ellevillamor4454 I have to disagree. I get the logic, but I don't owe anyone a conversation. If I don't want to talk, I am not going to answer. I'm not obligated to talk to anyone, nor are they entitled to my time if I don't want to give it.
I have never been more thankful my mom isn't toxic. There was a childhood friend who was a skinny as a bean pole and her mom put her on a diet because she was "fat". People should be psych evaluated before producing offspring.
My ex sil wasnt allowed to weigh more than 105 lbs. If she went over her mom pad locked the fridge til she was under again. Her mom tried to khs in front of xsil and they sent her to live with her dad who didnt have custody already cause he would sleep nude in bed with his daughters but they still decided she was better off with him than her mom
this shit straight-up hits like a actual reflection of what life was like until I moved out about 7yrs ago and haven't had ANY contact with my mother at all for 7yrs now. no text, call, voicemail, email, social media shit, aol aim, fax, ect, not a damn thing ligit for 7yrs now. if it wasn't for my older brother sometimes talking to me I wouldn't even know if my mother was alive or dead, all cause this video was her on her best fucking day! she was really bad to me and my brother. she was even bad to her parents (my grandparents who I'm close to) but ya, this hits like a reflection of everything. thanks for the content. it actually helps seeing I'm not alone, rather than just "knowing" I'm not alone, you know?
“Why would I lie when I could just tell them the truth about you.” Boom. Mic drop. Mom was so not ready! 😂
"What are you going to do to fix this?" "this" *hangs up*
Walking away from a toxic and narcissistic family is THE best feeling out there! I did it 8 years ago and it's been so great since!
I hate it when people say stay in touch with your mother she's the only one you've. Thank God! It was hell having just her.
I hear you girl, my mother is toxic as well and I've had to distance myself from her. Haven't spoken to her for almost 2 years now. She tells anyone who will listen what an ungrateful daughter I am, spreading lies and half truths to whomever will listen. Has kept a ledger of every dollar she "loaned" me since I was 18, I'm 57 now, and has expected payment back for years which I have refused. There are details which are too confusing to go into but suffice it to say, I have helped my own kids for years and have never kept a running tab of how much I've given them or bought them and don't expect anything in return for everything I've done for them but the love they have for me...I just keep her toxic negativity out of my life ❤
Your mom never stops being your mom, but at some point she has to understand she's no longer your parent.
That’s exactly the point. If your mom doesn’t stop being your parent and you are over 18, and you don’t live under her roof, you can and should cut her off. So yes, she does stop being your family, your mom.
This is not being a parent nor a mother, what snerrix is demonstrating is abusive behavior
Yeah, but people call it, “moms just being moms.” And it keeps young adults trapped in these abusive relationships for way too long. I know this because I lived it.
Nobody ever stops being a parent because we are still their children but at same time adults need their space. That said if an adult is on drugs, alcohol or suffering mental illness and doing bad things then yes the parent should step in but otherwise no they need space.
@@aspieangel1988thia isn't "not giving soace". This is abuse
I could hear the toxic radiation noises as the conversation kept going 😂
This is why I made sure my bio mom didn't help me move last time. She has no idea where I live and that gives me so much peace.
Ooh that mocking "oKaY" is what got me. Such good acting that i legitimately want to punch the character.
I'm actually dealing with this exact situation right now! Plus if I call her out on her bs she gets vindictive and calls cys and makes aligations😭 I've been cleared buy that's an unforgivable betrayal.
I quit giving my toxic mother what she wanted and she retaliated by telling everyone my husband abuses me (not true), says he’s dangerous because he owns a gun (he’s ex military and aspires to become a gunsmith so yes he owns one, and fails to tell people about the MANY guns in her own home), says he threatened her (worst he ever said was go to hell while my dad actually did threaten his life), like parents are crazy when they don’t get what they want. And they’re seriously confused asf when we cut off contact wtf
Record her
Record then play back to anyone she tries to lie to including herself. It’s extremely hard for a narcissist to watch a video of themselves being narcissistic! U can just compile them for evidence 😉
@@berniemae9205first check the consent recording laws where you're from. Make sure they can't sue you for it. If it is illegal to record someone without them knowing don't do it. It just gives them more power.
Yo, we need Toxic mom to go to hell so we can have Stanzi torment her, that would be a fun halloween crossover
Yes!
Another Stanzi fan!
Yay!!! 💗
An example of what to anticipate when going No Contact with a toxic/abusive family member and you strategically need to avoid telling them why so they don’t respond back with massive retaliation (ex: telling them they are a Pathological Narcissist and intend to never see them again, and in cases like mine, you are that person’s only abuse target with minimum risk of genuine consequences like divorce/getting fired/CPS taking away your kid/losing positive supply friends.
What are you gonna do?
This. *hangs up*
*insert OOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! Meme*
Best part of the video. I was just waiting for the click. Bye Bye
I "ooooo-d"
Don’t forget to block!
"How are you going to make this up to me?" Is literally what my mom says to me all the time
Some parents don’t understand the best way to check on their kids is to check their story on instagram
Your acting never fails to amaze me
I went no contact with my mother some months ago and these videos don't even make me angry just scared of how accurate they feel daammmnnn
The way the mom said”OoKk”💀
My mom does the same shit too 😭
It’s really hard dealing with a cluster b mother, stay strong with your boundaries. She won’t get it.
"Cluster B mother"??? What does that even mean?? Like is this referring to cluster B personality disorders? Bc if so thats not even remotely okay. Just because assholes use it as an excuse, doesn't mean that it's a valid excuse. There are tons of us that aren't at all like this, and are honestly the opposite. I couldn't live with myself if I was this awful to someone I claimed to love.
Signed, a very annoyed and tired borderline 🙃🙃🙃
My parents offered me, a single mother back over 40 years ago, a home with my baby son.
He grew up with loving grandparents who couldnt have been better role models.
They were so supportive of all their 5 kids. Yes there were frictions from time to time but when the time came I was able to repay them by supporting them to remain as independent as possible as they aged until they died.
I always tried to treat my own son with respect. I am here if and when he needs me. I do not interfere.
I know he aporeciates our relationship mostly by the way he cheeks me, even now.
But also the way he is ready to help me if he can.
I wish I could spread a bit of that love back to all on here who have not experienced it.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
‘why don’t you answer the phone?’
my dad always calls me when im in the bathroom and that’s why i don’t answer 💀
This was SO HEALING!
It's perfectly acceptable to tell toxic family members they are dead to you & kick them out of your life. A lot of times that is the only thing that works. I've had to do it myself.
Yeah, this happened. I’m so sorry and you handled it well ❤
This becomes extremely hard when your parent becomes elderly snd unabke to care for themselves
These are so triggering, but also weirdly cathartic. My mom has done so many of these examples she shared. Hang in there, y'all. Someday, you get to put her in a home like I did mine.
The cheapest home you could find, I hope.
Ooo my mom did this to me! The police officer was actually in tears from how funny the welfare check was. My mother and I didn’t talk for a year after that, and we’re actually better for it.
Never give your info to the toxic people 😂
I've been having problems with my parents. Nothing like this, cops have been involved, but I definitely appreciate not like that.
Feel a little better about my current relationship with my parents. Thank you ❤
Ring-"did you hang up on me?". +"I don't know. Did it sound like this? CLICK"
You are so good at acting! Keep up the great work!
And the minute you’re defensive they talk about how they carried you for nine months when they were pregnant-
Or when they want you to do something for them that they could do themeselves they say "But i did so many nice things for you today"
Omg😂 please make one where while the daughter is a child the mom wants to go to therapy but the child is terrified to tell the truth. Then as adults the daughter says she wants to work on the relationship and go to therapy but the mom acts like she's crazy and tells her to get therapy😂
I used to go to therapy while I was younger because of my horrible family I was super depressed. So I would tell me therapist all of these things that my family would do to me and then she would tell my mother and my mother would beat me after wards. At that point there was no point in seeking therapy for anything because they would just tell my mom what I said and I would always suffer the consequences.
@@yelitzandiaz that's actually so sad. I hope you're doing good now. It's really messed up that therapists would do that
Have you been talking to my mom? 😅
@@yelitzandiazThat's blatantly illegal and your former therapist should have their license revoked.
This woman is a great writer who develops identifiable characters. She also wrangles emotions! I am anger, sad…involved with each sketch. Kudos!
a wellness check? in the us that's basically the same as calling a hit on someone.
I wish I had a mother who cared about my safety or anything about me
thank you sam for posting all of the amazing content that you do! i hope you have a great day! ❤️🫶
"I'm your mother, you should want to talk to me!"
Oh the unmitigated dissertation I could put down responding to this one...
This content is so well done that I can't watch because I get heated.
Sometimes I feel like people forget about texting.😂
👏 i'm so happy for you, being able to respect your own boundaries when family is involved is not easy. If your family don't treat you correctly then is not your family 💔
“I never thought you’d disappoint me.” Jokes on you, I was your #1 disappointment
Yesss! I love that you hung up on her. Way to be strong!
The hangup at the end 🤌 full on chefs kiss
Wow, this hit home. Perfectly captures a relationship with a toxic and self-absorbed parent.
Toxic parents tend to end up being dangerous.
That "ok" moking just triggered me to my bones. Like hidden memories were unlocked hearing that
God this is satisfying, I can't relate but support the attitude, thank you for the content!!
jesus, as someone whos ignoring their mom whos just like this, that mocking "okay" just re-traumatised me
I absolutely hate the mocking thing that parents do, it drives me mad!! 🐝
I hate that I immediately felt identified with the caption 💀
Love the way she said this snd then hung up. ☎️📞
That last line, "Out of all you children, you were the last one I expected", was the same thing my step-mom said to me after they gave me the ultimatum of obey or leave and I chose homelessness over being stuck under them for any longer. Never thought I'd hear it again in a skit about toxic parents. Thank you for helping reaffirm my wavering doubts.
This would make me not want to talk to my parent even more because its such a waste of resources lol
I love my mom but she never has a kind word to say about anyone . She is upset when I don't call her or want to talk but life is hard to do everyday with all the negativity without your mom adding to the sauce.
I really ❤ love love how you Fixed her "DiSapPoinTMent" towards you.
Yeah. This is about how it went a couple months back when my mom's(49) mother (70) who she hasn't spoken to in 15 years called in two wellness checks on her 5 days apart saying she hadn't heard from my mom for months and she was concerned. My mom had to tell the officers "She's an old bat that's mad that neither of her kids talk to her or visit her."
I love the toxic piece of art over the fireplace!
I'm glad she didn't take that toxic mom's BS.
My grandmother is the exact same way also the " why would i lie about you when i could just say the truth about you" is just perfect
This video inspired me to finally stand up to my lying, parental gate keeping, thieving and mentally abusive mother 😬
"Pull another stunt like this one, and *I* will be calling the police on *you* for harassment. As of right now, we are No Contact... don't give me reason to file a restraining order."
Sounds like our situation.
She was warned, ignored it and started stalking me, took her to court, unfortunately the judge denied my restraining order request. Judge literally told me to come back when I have proof of her pointing a gun at me….
My mom has done this multiple times. She lives in the same town, only miles away!
Just gonna put it out there. Calling your parents or just texting them once a fortnight really helps ease their minds. Keep in touch with your family everyone :)
Unless they're like this. Then block them.
Wow the "I thought you (of all the kids) would never disappoint me" cuts deep
This happened to me so many times as an adult. So relatable.
UUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHH, this is so relatable... not the wellness check thing but EXACTLY how my mom talks to me...
Ooooo! Excellent boundaries! Nicely done!
Mom uses that as a threat.. -.-
I hope if your mom really is like this that she sees these all the time unsolicited from her peers and strangers
The "no one ever tells me anything🥺" is so fkn relatable 😭 my toxic grandma says it all the time while we just look at her like yeah I wonder why🙃
Okay, but I'm actually told this by my toxic father, & he recently told me if I didn't answer him he'd call the cops on me for a welfare check...he speaks to my sister who tells him ABOUT me & bothers everyone in my family to get me to talk to him.
Exactly my mom. I am 65 and she's still up to her tricks.
*and you wonder why she doesn't want to talk*
I felt that hang up at the end. It was like the cherry on the sprinkles on the whip cream on top of the mountain of ice cream. SO GOOD!
My phone wasn't working at one point, my cell company got it fixed once I realized it. My daughter couldn't get a hold of me and I live 3000 miles away from everyone. She sent a wellness check to my house. The police told me to call my daughter, she was worried about me! LOL! Then I called my carrier to find out why I wasn't getting calls or texts. They ended up doing some tech support stuff and I suddenly got a host of messages from my daughter.
Every time she calls *answers* “I’m alive” *hangs up*
"What are you going to do to fix this?" Well a restraining order sounds like a start.
EXACT convo I had with my Mom ... down to the 'How are you going to fix this' .....
The final was the most right thing to do.
And this is when you call the non emergency number and inform them that people are making false wellness check reports on you.
my dad did this when I moved out of state, had the local police calling me and everything, I was only ya know.... 26 at the time. there's a reason I don't talk to him anymore.
this is too relatable it haunts me 😞
GAAAAWD!!! This sounds like some BS my daughter's father would pull....so quick! Narcissistic jerk would blame EVERYONE but him, for the fact that NO one wants to talk to him. He already does it.... 🤦♀️
Girl I LAUGHED when they showed up. They left laughing. The best way to get through these situations is to ASK questions (most officers don't mind letting you know who was checking on you) but also quickly and thoroughly getting through it. Then call the person and let them know you appreciate their care, and will be sure to show your own kind someday. Lol
Ah no the mocking "okay" upset me more then anything-
I hate when my mom does that like, it boils my blood
I did that last post 10 years ago with my egg donor & never looked back!!!
Couldn't be happier!!😊