Extreme Declutter: Inside A Hoarder's Home | Britain's Biggest Hoarders E1 | Abode
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- Опубліковано 16 жов 2024
- Growing up with a hoarder Mum - presenter Jasmine Harman knows a thing or two about hoarding. In the first episode of this series, Jasmine meets Alan and wife Marion. Alan's hoarding has taken control - meaning the couple's Grandkids barely come over. Can Jasmine help Alan admit he has a problem?
Jasmine also visits Richard, a North Londoner who has an obsession with collecting old electricals and storing food way passed its use-by date. All of which is having an adverse effect on his health...
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From: Britain's Biggest Hoarders S1 E1
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If I were Marion, I would have left long ago. He does not love her, he loves all the things he hoards. She even said he doesn't love her nor their children. 41 years of marriage and zero happiness. How utterly sad!
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its very sad, they lost their house and now living in a small room which alan has filled with junk again
Wow. Which makes wonder if hoarding is not curable but only managed. @@isottaguttadauro8119
It's a mental disorder. Only they can FIX it. It's a disease...
@@RetroGam3rFanIt’s that or being alone your whole like like I am. Which is better depends on the individual I guess.
I feel so sorry for Marion. Alan does not care in the slightest how she feels, or if she's safe. She should just get away from him. It's basically an abusive situation.
I so agree, I think he's a creep 😬
If she would have wanted, she would have left. I am sure the children would help her
This is one of the most successful tactics that I have seen with Jasmin's Mum. I love that the items were able to be taken out of the home and put in a warehouse with help sorting. But most importantly, the therapist sitting down with her and discussing the trauma. It is so touching seeing the empathy, love and patience that is needed with this disorder.
It's not just a matter of being lazy or a grubby person. These episodes show that hoarding has deep psychological causes that can't just be dismissed like that. Even locking someone up and cleaning out their house for them won't address the underlying cause. Without going through a healing process, with help, quite likely hoarders will relapse. I also think it's a little unfair to dismiss the condition when it hurts close family and loved ones. That's the pain talking, from both sides.
Completely agree. My father died in his hoard Dec. 2022. It was the most difficult situation for my sister and me. He was alone and was as stubborn as could be. He had so many issues with code enforcement, and he had so much debt. We had to deal with the aftermath.@@DemstarAus
Alan had them there to sort it out for him, not even to get rid- Not for the love and sanity of his amazingly beautiful wife. I feel for all involved but more so the wife having to endure the stress of his compulsive disorder!
Absolutely obsessed with this series. That women is an angel on earth 👏🏽
This is a courageous young woman helping her mom & others. Well done!
I stopped outside Richard’s house shortly after this was broadcast. I was curious… the place was unbelievable, even from the outside. I myself grew up in a similar (though far less severe) hoarding environment and he reminded me of my dad somewhat.
I saw his obituary a couple of years later. Waiting for a heart bypass… sad story. As a working campaigner and lobbyist He helped bring about the London overground in its modern incarnation.
The house is now quite different. Matches the neighbouring houses in what is a very expensive part of north London. Ironically, he lived only a minute’s walk from another hoarder, the infamous Mr Trebus of 90s BBC. A Life of Grime.
Rest in peace Richard.
I find myself always watching fringe documentaries like this and it has helped me over the years internally reflect on things and to detach myself from possessions (I would say I collected but it was the start of hoarding specific things, no space for them but buying more of them.), and as I started watching this I just had a clear out of loads of stuff and cleaned my room. It was a bit untidy but its a gentle push and a motivation, which a lot of these people also lack.
Watching shows like these has helped me too. One of the things I used to hoard was periodicals and I used one of the techniques I learned from a "cleaning" show. I reminded myself the information was probably out of date and I could get it from the internet. I was able to just throw out all the magazines and newspapers etc without having go look through it all. It felt great!
Her children should have got social workers in to help Marion. She needs a safe and hygienic place to live. This is domestic abuse.
This was so well done. Horsing is a disorder that needs medication, counselling, and constant purging. It’s an addiction just like anything else.
Horsing has to do with horses, lol.
Hoarding is an altogether different animal. 🤣
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A lot of people are not from a country, who speak or write english. You Can try to write in danish…..
Come one ? Try it, or maybe you are to old to learn ? 😢😡
@@tmfromdenmark9158if they had written "hording" I would agree (even though it is written in the title and it only takes a look up online if they aren't dyslexic). Bur pronounce it and you get "horsing" which not D in it. That in this case should somehow tip you off. I think it's autocorrect and not re-reading the comment.
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My heart completely breaks for Marion. She deserves so much more. 😢
I love Jasmine. She has such a kind aura about her. Very strong ❤❤❤
She’s an angel!
December 2023. My mother hoarded. My dad tossed her papers and trash. Later, my brother and I tried to toss moldy garbage and broken stuff. Finally, 3 of us
cleaned out her mess. She tried to save trash in a nursing home. A cousin died in his massive hoard. Tina, Al's wife
Jasmine, you are so beautiful. Physically and spiritually. Your mum has a lovely daughter. Thanks for sharing your personal life.
I cannot imagine how much Richard's house would be worth if it were clean.
That is what I see in 90% of the hoarding show I watch on UA-cam. Not just this one. They have rotted wood, holes in the floors, no plumbing or heating. The have pest and insects that have taken over. It is sad.
I can totally see signs of being a potential hoarder. Thank you so much for this helpful information. I also love how you tell the story
Trauma and the PTSD tantrum response to what's happening makes Richard appear to behave like a spoiled child.
I'm surprised there aren't more people saying that Richard is a prat. Even if it's "not his fault" he doesn't have to act like they are his servants. That's not on ! If he's desperate for help he needs to take the help and listen to the experts.
Lots of patience required, but if the end result is a calmer, happier horder it's heartwarming and worth it.
I would have been thrown out immediately after starting and them having to go through everything. Even down to the rotted food. I have a very short fuse. I grew up in a hoarder house, or should I just say lazy cleaning house. I then started cleaning it on my own. I threw everyones clothing and stuff that belonged to them and did that cleaning of dishes etc. I grew up, now 62, going around to help people clean their homes, especially the elderly. My home is always clean. I just cannot real understand what it is to be like that and not be concerned.
@@Gingers4u1 Very often the 'apparent lack of concern' is a complex coping strategy ... *denial* is a wonderful way that the brain shuts out anything that is too threatening / scary / anxiety producing (btw, Hoarding Disorder is a form of anxiety disorder). Denial kicks in when someone feels overwhelmed / powerless to manage a situation; it's sort of like "if I don't see it, it's not there, and I don't have to worry about being powerless and ineffectual"
I love how gentle and understanding all those helping people are. Great to see they're making Progress. Every little step will bring them back to a more normal life. ❤️
These hoarders are often just playing the victims. Sadistic narcissists, rolling in self-pity. ✅
Spot on
oh Alan. Look at your loving wife and her beautiful but so sad blue eyes. And look at your daughter who loves you and want to be able to be with you. She got your wife's eyes. Did you notice?
I know that is not how a horder thinks, but isn't your loving family worth more than dead things?
I hope they are all better now.
I couldn't cope like Marion has. Honestly, I think I'd be furious and very bitter. All that stuff just everywhere, even viewed on my phone screen, is giving me anxiety. If my mum was in that situation, I'd have her to come and live with me, at least for a break.
He seems to throw a bit of a tantrum when challenged.
Richard's house would have been gorgeous in its heyday.
richard's voice and speech mannerisms sound exactly like sargon...
I really feel for the loved ones of hoarders having to live with this 😢 I understand it's classified as a mental illness but it just seems so self centred & uncaring of others...
truth be told, they are uncaring of *themselves* ... people who have been raised in a way that fosters their healthy development and esteem that allows them to feel worthy are able to take better care of themselves; this is a deep rooted problem that 'starts' way before the first room gets cluttered!
You are such an amazing Person, so good in talking to these People, even they are all so different. I saw a lot of your other episodes, every time I am touched again, how you feel the right time and are incredible patient. Bravo, absolutely important work, Chapeau.
That host woman is BEAUTIFUL! ❤
Richard changed a bulb then just dropped the package and the burnt bulb That poor man is unable to do anything at the start to help himself.
Forgive me..Richard needs reality
It seems that hoarders are emotionally immature. Which comes across as selfish because you
are dealing with a child. No one can change anyone, it has to come from within. Sorry for anyone
who is trapped within this nightmare.
*emotionally developmentally stunted* (which is not of their choosing)
33:55 “ Yes, I know SHE would enjoy them coming over….” So is HE not bothered if the grandchildren come over?🤔
Poor Jasmine. She’s so caring.😢
Isn't there a recycling program? All that paper, wood and some of the plastic can be reused. I saw empty plant containers. Easy reuse for container gardening.
this show is filmed at least 10 years ago. Back then the recycle system was not that developed and very fare from most peoples mind.
There are recycling routes for paper, wood, plastic, glass and most people use them. That's not the problem though with hoarders, they can't seem to see rubbish as rubbish/recycling and they don't want to get rid of it at all.. They have a mental health issue which needs addressing first, sadly..
This is the heart of the problem. Recycling, reusing to extreme lengths. Rubbish is rubbish don't send it to charity bins. You see it all the time.
My sister was a hoarder, she died in all her stuff, took the Coroner a minute to find her body.
Paula, my deepest condolences 💐 on the loss of your sister. 🕊
😢 so sorry
I can see why most hoarders are alone. Hoarding is narcissism. Thinking ONLY of what you feel, what you want and who cares what others feel or want. It seems very sad that people who are delicate and sensitive, force everyone around them to be delicate and sensitive to their feelings, because everyone else is so called strong. But this attitude weakens and traumatizes others especially loved ones. So in the end you have multiple people in distress and traumatized. It can only be a neutral/outside person who can actually deal with them because, until they are healed, they are incapable of showing true love towards anyone else.
Frankly, they tick me off and I end up not CARING about supposed mental illness.
I really like your way and support of doing this. I would though love to see the outcome.
4-storey townhouse in London....!!!! Millions.
I know!
I think it's really nice to say that you have to go gently with these people & let them lead the way, it's better for them etc, but these people are mentally ill, it's right in front of you to see & there lives are miserable. This just does not seem the best way overall to me, it's just not enough help & it'll never all get cleared at this glacial rate!!
but if you strip them of control IT WILL NEVER GET CLEARED in any LASTING or MEANINGFUL WAY!
When moving things to the warehouse Jasmine could have gotten rid of a lot of stuff before her mom came and her mom would have not known the difference.
So many children of hoarders run and never come back.
this comment sections disgusting how is anyone suposed to ask for help with this illness when theyre berated and judged or any illness for that matter. The fear of being judged is what makes it worse for many .
I sooo agree with you, emenuissleepus!
The best of luck to everyone 💯😊
Vassoula's dad was movie star handsome. Wow.
Alan: UGH!
49:00 this is the problem: if she could walk away even IF there is emotion attached, she would be free. People have to learn to bear negative feelings and TO SIT WITH THEM, not avoid them in every possible way. How she acts gives the THINGS and the EMOTIONS leverage on her. The other ones, the bystanders and helpers, have to find another approach. You cant evolve without growing pains.
Poor Marion, she should have got a divorce many, many years ago.
Just throwing this out there....what happens if they really have to face consequences
Hoarders are the most self centred controlling people on earth, and a nightmare to live with; Even when they do finally get their homes cleared up, they usually start the whole process over again.
I think Alan likes sounding like an upper crust know it all when in reality he sounds so deluded.
My wife is a bit of a hoarder as we move from the UK to Germany,we have been here for more than 10 years we have a house here the celer is still full will thing from the UK and I have tried to,to help her with getting her to get rid of thing that you don't know what is there, but she always says that she has to do it herself but she always put it off
Unfortunately, it is being shown that this may be a genetic disorder. I am a hoarder, and my father was a hoarder. He recently passed away. He didn't receive treatment, but I have had many years of therapy. I have had many traumatic experiences and that just exacerbates the condition. My husband has been patient and for the most part understanding. The therapist who specializes in hoarding has helped me have insight into this disorder.
@@dboyd1651 I really hope that you are getting the help that you need, Take care of yourself and best wishes for you and your family
You need to open a „British Shop“ in Your house 😂
The blame-shifting is so annoying. 🙄
You are Saints. Who could put up with this utter distrspect for others.
although it may not seem it from the outside, the disrespect they have for *themselves* is even greater; self-respecting people who have learned to value themselves and self-care don't struggle like this
That's abuse.
My father is a hoader off bike and tools if i get 4 bikes wherefor 1 is sELLable he wants the other 3 . Gedore and German tools. I off clocks, stamps some are worth nothing. Silver gold Vaticaan protestant collectabels and some Pokémon cards. Everything i ever ownt i invest...
Also watch; cleaning with Barbie.
49:17 towels
Hoarders are pathetic. If they have partners they are bullies.
Hoarders are the most selfish controlling individuals under the sun and rarely change, even after they clean up their hoards, they start the whole process again, making other family members, and their partners lives a misery. As you said, They are bullies.
Alan is a domestic abuser. He’s been using anger at his poor wife all these years to do exactly what he wants. I would get my Mum out of there.
Tell every one of these they have thirty days to completely remove rubbish ie their treasure, or crown takes the property.
The things I feel sorry about are the houses these horders live in. They are ruining them.
Its simple. If one of my family members was a hoarder i`d arrange for them to go away on a dayvisit to somewhere like Blackpool beach and when they returned every piece of useless junk that was in their house would now be in landfill - apart from crying like a little baby what would they do about it?
Exactly.
What would they do? They would start hoarding again. You wouldn't have done anything to resolve the motivation to hoard.
@@esmeralda3858 Next daytrip 6 months later then would be Brighton pier ! 😂
You guys need to make it illegal to be a hoarder and be put into a old folks home or a insane asylum
Look at the presenters front yard 2:31, full of pots and stuff, she is a hoarder too... Sad for all these people and neighbours
She’s probably concerned about herself too and that’s why she’s trying to learn more about it. It is a genetic tendency.
The presenter's Mum is a Hoarder, so growing up in a hoarded house is what led Jasmine to make this important series'
@@AbodeLDS Jasmine doesn't live in that house, even though she grew up in it; She lives in an immaculate clutter free home, and is the complete opposite of her mother, having everything perfect. Living with hoarding has made her into a perfectionist. The entire reverse of her mother's house.
It's her mother's house you saw her leaving; Jasmine is a perfectionist living in her own place, and having an immaculate home. Her mother's hoarding had the reverse affect on Jasmine.
No, that's the presenter's mother's home. Her mother has been a hoarder for many years and it's caused the presenter a lot of unhappiness throughout her childhood and beyond. She's using her experiences to help other hoarders and their families.
I think you should fine them more than they can afford.
Great expense and effort had gone into having her mother's possessions move to l.a. warehouse and spread out so she could see them. Then she cried in the next we knows they're having frozen pizza cooked on the rack in the oven, so what happened? Seriously you made the show you showed all this hoarding stuff in our face and you gave us no Solutions just.... nothing you wasted your entire time energy money and you never made a point. That means that this piece of film is useless to humanity to you to your mother to your family to the workers it's useless
I agree with you entirely; These people never change, and nothing ever really gets done.
There are more shows that show additional parts of the story.
... 'and the next we know they're having frozen pizza'. There is a series of episodes. The first is of the presenter's mother's home (the hoarded home that the presenter and her siblings grew up in). What you see of the mother's possessions spread out are 'snippets' from the original episode used as intros to the preceding episodes. If you're not happy with these episodes, just remember it wasn't YOUR time, YOUR energy and YOUR money that was spent. To those who pay attention there have actually been several very good points made. Perhaps is not the piece of film that is 'useless to humanity' ...
You might think it's useless but what we have learnt is what we are up against which believe it or not is definitely useful information.
The end was not too bad for the mum...big improvement she said she let go of half her stuff, she's done therapy is aware she needs more. We see what it can take for some people. Useful stuff.