My Hoarding Is Getting Dangerous For My Grandchildren | The Hoarder Next Door S2 Ep2 | Only Human
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- Опубліковано 4 бер 2021
- Fifty-eight-year-old Pauline is such a big fan of Christmas that her vast collection of decorations is bringing down a bedroom ceiling, and her house is so full of clutter that a family gathering on December 25 is usually out of the question. However, she is now determined to celebrate Christmas with her young grandchildren in her own home, and helping to make this happen is psychotherapist Stelios Kiosses, with assistance from straight-talking de-clutterers Zoe Steel and Allyson Pritchard. Plus, antiques dealer Greg, whose numerous `repair' projects are taking over girlfriend Judith's house.
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I played this on my tv and rage cleaned my apartment. 100% recommend.
Yes you are right it is very motivating to clean watching this!
Genius idea
Me too!! :D
@@dianea3324 ahahahah lmao!! So true! I wanted to throw away all my files, my diplomas, everything. My cleaning lady thought I had lost it!
I almost spit out my coffee laughing ... it’s so true.. I do the same thing.. I have to be careful with the 600 lb life ones though bc after watching them it makes me never want to eat again
I'm very impressed by this series--the part where Stelios says: "I'm less concerned about the stuff and more concerned about the way it makes you feel"??? THATS something you wouldn't see on TLC in a million years. It feels like most of those shows are only made to put the people on display like they're circus freaks. This show feels a lot more humanizing, and I can tell that they're actually getting help.
100% agree! I really feel that TLC exploits vulnerable people with serious mental health issues
There's an older series called Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners that is very entertaining and really tries to help the people. I loved that show!
Yes I agree. The setup and sentiment of this show is so much more humane. The U.S.- based show feels harmful, disrespectful, and sensational. I think there are kind professionals but the show still highlights shameful and shaming behavior instead of a solution.
@@barbarahenninger6642 Me too! I miss that show.
@@barbarahenninger6642 thank you for the suggestion!
Stelios is such an awesome guy. In a perfect world, every healthcare worker would behave in such a manner.
Right?! He got right in there and helped move stuff out. Above and beyond
I grew up in a horder house. Something would get buried so it was always easier to buy it again. Nevet again. I grew up and became a minimalist
Same. Growing up, each room had a single walkway and some of the rooms I didn't even know were carpeted for a few years.
Yep, grew up in a “just buy another one” house.
Dude needs to get his OWN house and fill it how he likes... Kinda selfish to be forcing his habits on his GF in HER home. Poor woman!
This woman must have the patience of a saint; I would have thrown him out long ago.
She has to take responsibility also .
Well, she must be 20 years older so may be reluctant to give him up. He may be sponging off her, otherwise it is puzzling why he is even with her.
He didn't force, she let him. They simply never discussed an end date to the 'temporary' placement of the first piece, so it snowballed from there.
He just moved in with all his junk. He acted like he didn't even have to ask her if he could fill her house. He's a loser or he would have had his own house to fill up.
"I did all this for YOU because I realized you were getting a LITTLE bit stressed over it. I think i PROBABLY pushed it a LITTLE too much" Good ole Greg....classic manipulator. He's a selfish one, that one!
Yes! That was so lame. I was like why is she letting him downplay it. “Little” should not have come out of his mouth! And why has she allowed this to get this bad? She needs therapy too.
@@AngelaAnaghoTV You are absolutely right!
Yeah I noticed that minimizing language as well 🙄 And his comment when they were asked how often they told one another "I love you" - she said she'd like to hear it more often & he was like "oh y'know how men are" (basically) it's like mate forget all that "MEN do this and WOMEN do that", just be A PERSON & treat her as one. If he's got that mindset when she expresses her unhappiness at his behaviors he's not gonna **hear** what she's saying, he'll just chalk it up to "oh she's nagging, like a WOMAN" rather than she's expressing her feelings, like A PERSON, y'know??
/off soapbox lol
@@marchi.fleming I agree 100%!
@@marchi.fleming absolutely, well said
She should make him rent a shop and move all his stuff to it. Then he will see that he has to sell things in order to keep his shop running. And then he would be an actual "antiques dealer".
That's what I thought too
He may well have done that and been unable to make a go of the business. People who love or are obsessed with things often don't want to sell them.
Damn, now you want her to pay for a shop as well???
@@amydecker6207 BandinBoston wrote: "She should make him rent a shop.." I think that means he would pay the rent and therefore be forced to sell things to be able pay the rent so he wouldn't lose the shop/all the antiques in it.
Good idea!
That so-called antiques dealer is a flaming misogynist. I thought he was so condescending to the women who came to help him and patronizing to his girlfriend, without whom he'd be on the street. They should've thrown HIM in the skip!
100%
I would be like, " take your stuff and leave" .
Agreed.
Thats so funny! Thank you for sharing your wit although I am only watching the episode a year after you!
He seems like a homelessexual to me! No way would I let someone move in with me and allow him to hoard the house.
If you ever watched Seinfeld, there was this guy from the UK that Elaine met and came to visit her. He was horrible to her. This guy reminds me of that character!
Ugh. Greg’s condescending attitude: “I’m the antique dealer, you’re the helper.” Nope. You’re a hoarder who can’t sell a thing, and she’s a professional working to help you address your hoard. Dealers sell their stuff, and helpers can only help if you take their advice.
Lmao i know right? I doubt he actually can support himself "antique dealing" since nobody actually buys his junk, if he did, he might actually have his own place at the age of 40 and wouldnt be mooching off his girlfriend thats 20 years his senior.
These hoarders are a nightmare to live with and they like churning their hoards from one room to another. Often they will keep the place clear for a time and then start the hoarding process all over again.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 I can imagine. And like any other addict, to get well they have to be willing to change. Just realized a 12-step program might be good for these folks!
It’s not an addiction. It’s a severe form of OCD based on irrational fear. It is a very visible and destructive form of mental illness. And they deserve to get the help they need just like anyone else in emotional or mental distress.
@@kamihayes5147 both substance use disorder, as well as OCD and hoarding are all driven at least in part by compulsive behaviors or thoughts. They are not dissimilar, in fact there is often comorbidity between the three. There is nothing wrong with noting the parallels between substance abuse, and hoarding disorder. In fact there are treatment models that mimic Alcoholics Anonymous framework for hoarders. Included are Clutterers Anonymous and Hoarders Anonymous. So no, they are not the exact same thing. But YES, 12-step type treatment and intervention models have proven benefical to those suffering from hoarding disorder, just as AA and NA has proven effective in helping those suffering from substance abuse.
Pauline’s story about her and her sister surviving on a tin of mushy peas for 2 weeks is heartbreaking. My late mother in law and best friend was born in the 1930’s her family was suffering abject poverty. I am writing a children’s book about her last Christmas with her older sister. They were about 3 and 8 years old. Kathleen the older sister took it upon herself to make sure her little sister got a Christmas present. I’m in tears typing this. Imagine being 8 years old, already knowing Santa isn’t coming, and stealing a walnut out of a basket your teacher received as a gift. Kathleen carefully wrapped that Walnut and gave it to her tiny baby sister Mildred. Mildred never forgot that gift. It was only a few months later that Mildred was given up for adoption. There is so much more to her story, but my heart can’t share it all in this thread.
What a heartwarming post thank you so much for this and I truly hope that your book is successful 💜
Awe🎀💝
ThankYou for sharing y’alls story.
I enjoyed that story♡ I remember when my little brother & I had nothing but rice to eat,well water to drink,& no heat:( hardships make people to become stronger people♡ I am humble & thankful for everything! God Bless you & your loved ones! RIP to Mildred & her sister♡
It won't make the cut. Just a piece of respectful truth since we need more honesty. Your story isn't unique enough to get published. You'll have to independently do so, I 99.9% guarantee you. I just don't want you wasting your time. The industry is more lucrative- and selective- than you think, especially in non-fiction. My suggestion- fictionize it and add huge unique plot twists to make it stand out. If it makes the cut, then you speak on the truths in it. Hope this helps& dont take offense. ❤
@@TheINFJChannel why would you care if I waste my time? Just because you don’t get it, doesn’t mean the rest of the world won’t. I haven’t even told you the whole story. I can assure you that it’s dream stealers like you that snuff out the light with in people all the time driving them to the mundane mediocrity know as the middle American suburban dream. You have a right to your opinion, and I have a right to walk away from that type of toxic negativity.
The guy that ruined that woman's house, she's an angel to put up with her home being destroyed his arrogance is something else. You're not an antique dealer you're an antique hoarder couldn't even sell a riding crop what a crock of
I was thinking more if how desperate she is to have a man.
at least the kitchen is clean and usable.
I can’t believe the entitlement Greg has. That’s not even his house to hoard! It’s so incredibly selfish.
Thats what my stepdad is doing to my mother and I
My father had something similar to her because of not having enough food as a child, but he was not a hoarder, he used to buy food for two families when he went to the supermarket. People don't realize how the lack of food affects children. :(
I live in india dharavi slum u know it ???
My sister-in-law is the same. She was a child refugee in Germany, then England, after WW2 and for a while they never had enough to eat. She has a freezer stocked full - would probably last her and my brother six months! However, she does follow use-by dates.
Same mentality as your father with me as well. Starving almost daily as a child and young adult. Often, just a small glass of juice for dinner because I was broke. Swore I would never go hungry again. I don’t have a lot of brick a brack, or clutter, but I’ve got too much food. It’s time to donate unexpired items and throw out the rest. I know the issue behind the food purchases, but it’s coming to terms that I’m not going to starve again that I have to mentally absorb. It’s been a slow process. That stuff stays with you for life.
I feel for you all. I have had some hungry times, it does change your mindset. In lands of plenty, some don’t have enough. It’s awful. And we can fix it, if only our voices get loud enough to demand change.
@@SW-su5ho Someone in another comment mentioned 'rotating'. Eat the oldest good stuff first, so it doesn't get lost in the back and go bad. That leaves a buffer for security. Helps if it's staples you like and eat regularly. Another trick the container method: Figure out how much is a good/reasonable amount. Like instead of 1000 cans of food spilling all over, just 50, or whatever amount. The items or food HAVE to be able to fit in that designated space (shelf, cupboard, plastic bin), if not, it's time to use it up by X time or get rid of something. I'm using this method for clothes, decorations, books, and the kids' toys because I struggle to organize and clean and this provides a concrete framework. I hope you can find what works best for you and keep healing as well
It's because of these shows, when I deep clean my house weekly, i see myself throwing out a lot of stuff🤣
My mum is a hoarder, although not quite on this level.
Around a year ago, my brother & I cleared & organised a load of stuff for her, so we could stay in the house.
The amount of verbal abuse we suffered & the level of blame she STILL puts on us about not being able to find something- or basically us not clearing enough- really shocked & scarred me.
I had never seen this show before, so was interesting to see people behaving EXACTLY like her.
I had a neighbor I met while doing a yard sale at my house - she was funny and upbeat. Then a few weeks later she asked me to help with her yard sale. Yup you guessed -major hoarder. She had a garage filled with stuff that she found in trash bins! and she thought she could sell this! Wow - it was my first experience with a hoarding personality and I was shocked at how she simply couldn't see 'trash'. Would you believe it took me about 3 days to finally throw up my hands and say 'sorry I can't do this anymore'. And even more weird was that this very nice funny upbeat woman ran a cleaning service-
I tried twice to help m mother get rid of 4 bedrooms of clothes. The first time she got rid of 2 pants. Second time: NOTHING went out the door. It's incredibe how every little item is SO vitally important to them. Pure insanity! PLUS I never even got a thank you for trying to help out!
Greg actually has some pretty incredible stuff in the hoard. But Greg, you can't call yourself an "antiques dealer" if your never selling anything.
Your just.....
A shopper.
Exactly what i was thinking Amy...
You're😂
He 'sees value in everything' except his girlfriend, her feelings and her home in which he lives. I'd have tossed him out years ago when he first started taking over my house with his junk. He is manipulative, egotistical, a bit of a narcissist as well as a hoarder. The 'I did this for you' statement he made seems condescending and disingenuous. Wonder what her home will look like in six months.
I felt he was using her for storage.
Totally agree with you
She seems to have low self esteem if she puts up with his lack of respect and genuine love. Sad
Yeah, I think he is a scum bag too.
You're 100% right about Greg. His 'I did this for you" comment?!🙄... I actually rolled my eyes & thought RUN!!...He comes across as a bit of a chauvinist!
I made a pact to throw away at least one or two items every time one of these episodes come on my feed ! So far its an old sweater and some cosmetic cream .
Are all these episodes from England
Gotta start somewhere👍
I LOVE that idea!
I have OCD and these episodes are like my drug, I use them to fuel my cleaning obsession. Not sure how healthy that is but hey, I’m not bored in lockdown!
@@gianninai3349 so how they help u with your obbesion
After seeing Pauline proclaim that she has no problem with eating food ten years or more past its expiration date, I would be afraid to eat anything she serves.
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Exactly!! 👊🤣🤣🤣👊
And I'd definitely ask about anything she served to my children (her grandchildren)!!!😒
Such a wsste of food and money just to accumulate roaches and rats
Bet she never gets covid. Good immunity.
@@palapalak.8907 did you see her mouth? the corner of it??
Gross, Lady!
I want Stelios as my psychologist! He's so gentle.
Yes he is, I only wish he were here in America more specifically NJ, if he could help my friend a compulsive hoarder who has had so may therapists with no success then I would somehow be recommend him to be canonized after he dies of course, even if he's an atheist or a non Catholic.
Had a boyfriend who tried doing this to me. Had is the operative word.
devilmecare
Humor me ? What was / is the operative word ? ✌️🇺🇸
My ex-husband was/is the same way. Took years to get it back to normal.
@@selfesteem3447 apparently the past tense of 'to have'.
@@selfesteem3447 Read it again and you’ll know.
Good for you!
I like this show better than the American version. They seem to give more suggestions and insights into the mentality of hoarding. They take more time to let the person realize their mindset, and help them find a better way to live. The stuff didn’t accumulate overnight, it should take more than 3 days to help the person accept a new route of thinking.
Same I like how they do 6 weeks of therapy before bringing in the decluttering unlike the American one where they do a quick counseling session as they are cleaning out the heard which is traumatic for the hoarder and they dont want to get rid of anything
I agree. There's much more respect shown to those who are de-cluttering. And to have the homes cleaned by the people themselves is great - but the best thing is how they are so much happier! Hmm...I wonder if the process this program takes to find "de-clutterers" is different from the American program?
IM DOCTOR ROBIN ZASIO A LISCENSCED CLINCIAL THERPIST SPICECIALZIG IN HOAIRDNG AND HOARDING BEHAVROUIR
As someone who is messy despite working on it, I watch such shows to learn for myself.
Unfortunately, the American version is more like exploitation than giving insights to this illness and some useful tips.
I’m in the US and I can’t watch Hoarders. It just seems so traumatic for the people. I much prefer the British programs in this genre. There’s much more kindness, respect, and concern shown to these people who genuinely need help.
So proud of the lady cleaning her home for Christmas.
They didn't show the 'bedrooms '....interesting 🤔
Hopefully she gets rid of the extra boxes. She may very do that. Her grandchildren seemed to enjoy it so much. Her house was still full...but in a good way. Now she can display the nice things she has.
Don't forget her hoard is sitting waiting patiently for her in a warehouse! Those mushy peas could be back after Xmas!!!!
@@jessicaellina3878 As long as she uses them BEFORE the "best before" date LOL!!
@@peggypeggy4137 Haha!! With her cast iron stomach botulism doesn,t stand a chance!!!!
I can’t believe Judith let that man take over her home. Just throw it all out! It’s your home, he has no right to invade your home
Some years back my mother married a hoarder who continually moved everything, including dogs into her neat and tidy house; The marriage didn't last and she threw him out, then divorced him. He was not a nice person either.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 very sad 😭
Love is blind I guess? lol
Maybe cuz she landed a cub!
@@maureentaylor4939 u know india dharavi slum I live there
Mother in law had hoarding issues. I was targeted whenever I culled my own things, and my hubby would intervene to direct whatever I had going to the rubbish bin or charity and instead give it to his mother who said she was giving it to charity. When she died, and hubby wanted to bring her left over belongings into our house, I got a shock to end up with all my own stuff again! She d kept those things for herself. Then I had to get rid of them again!
I wish they wouldn't call that guy an "antiques dealer" unless there is some evidence that he occasionally SELLS things.
The way he grins wants to make me shake him. He is an abuser and needs to be confronted with his problematic behavior
So much admiration for the two blonde organizer ladies!
Yes! They are so talented and tough as nails
This is why all can lids need washed before opening. Who knows where cans of food have been before you get them.
I've ALWAYS washed every can/bag of chips..washed all veggies and meat....always since you never know HOW many people have been 'touching' you food..........
It’s more fun to be a minimalist. The older I get the less stuff I want.
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@Joyce Wright
I hear that!!🤓
Also, I'm pushing 63+ and I don't wanna leave a bunch of stuff for my adult children & grandchild to deal with ... only lotsa 💲💲💲. 🤣👊
You can't take it with you
@@roserollins9800 No but I can leave it to others.
@@joycewright5386 you'd be surprised! Most younger people don't want your stuff! I'm 70 and I've been getting rid of stuff so that my son doesn't have to. He doesn't want what meant so much to me and my granddaughter hasn't been raised to collect. It will be tossed when I pass so I'll save him the hassle.
@@joycewright5386 most of the younger generation doesn’t want their parents “stuff”. I have cleaned out houses of people who died, and their children paid me to literally throw away their parents “treasures “. Don’t do that to your family.
Greg is using that nice lady. She needs to kick him out!
For sure!
Dudd your not an antique dealer, dealers sell things your an antique hoarder.
Oh dear, honey if you have a ketchup bottle from 1997 all that food is NOT gonna all get eaten. That's over 20 years old.
Antiques. Come on the majority of the stuff, especially in the shed, is junk. Like the carpet. You cld never sell that. It is destroyed. The guy is entitled and condescending. What was his comment to the organizing ladies, "I'm an antique dealer, your the helpers." Wld have been adios for me. Something nasty about that smirk of his as well. Big Yuk.
Most of the stuff in that shed needs to be chucked out it’s junk if it had any real value or if he had spent a heap of money on it it wouldn’t be in the shed like that.
This kind of shows make me realize how lighter we feel without worrying about so many gathered stuff...
I hope that by now, Judith had got rid of Greg and find someone who respects her.
I can’t imagine Judith allowing her house to even get like this. I would have put my foot down 6 1/2 years ago.
Noticed the British hoarders have a much jollier attitude than the American hoarders. No huge meltdowns, lots of laughter. And they dress much nicer.
Judith's house is classy even with the mess.... I cant believe she let that man clutter it this way😫
That's a new one...hoarding in another person's house. Why did she enable him? She seems quite nice and he walked all over her.
Lonely older woman, single younger man with too much stuff and nowhere to put it. He saw her coming a mile off.
She deserves better
@@eek1759 Even for an "older woman" she's HAWT! The whole episode I was like; why does she even put up with him. I'm certain she has options.
@@brandondaniels2504 I agree, shes bad af
What was his loss in life that made him take over this woman's life. He's what I'd call a freeloader!
I went on a redo project for a woman who wanted her closets rebuilt like California closets, she had 7 0r 8 cars outside all unprovable and filled with stuff, inside was the same. When I went in she did not seem to see her surroundings. That is one thing I see about these hoarders. They do not SEE the stuff, like we do.
Unprovable? Did you mean"immobile?"
As someone who loves interesting and beautiful antiques, it breaks my heart to see that Greg genuinely does appear to have a tremendous amount of truly rare, gorgeous & valuable items!
The art deco, art nouveau, liturgical and military items in particular would likely bring in a fortune, not to mention making countless collectors SO happy! It's really quite tragic to see so much lovely old stuff just mouldering away, being destroyed by weather, rodents, insects, etc. He clearly wants to preserve history, but doesn't seem able to comprehend that he's actually destroying it every bit as much as if he'd left it in the rubbish tip.
Most importantly, though- Judith seems an absolute treasure. She comes off as one of those rare women who are truly lovely, both inside and out. I hope he continues to remember what Stelios told him: she is unique & irreplaceable, more than all his things put together.
I don’t think he’s changed. I think he’s still trying to avoid admitting he has a problem. He’s still saying Judith was the reason he cleared up, so I doubt he’s done this because he believes he needs help. It seems like he hoards Judith too.
@Manecki Neckbeard... This is a really well thought-out, understanding and lovely comment. Had to be said 😊
@@acalledboboya7257 Aww, thank you so very much! That means SO much to hear! ♥️
The first thing to go would’ve been Greg. I feel so sorry that Pauline has hoarded all those tins of food because she’s afraid of not having
any food at all.
I was a bit of a horder as a kid. I still will find myself collect stuff, but every time I move I'll go through and get rid of quite a lot. Now all of my stuff except food fits in a small bedroom. Going minimalist is great, because you treasure more what you have and can keep it clean much more easily.
Gregs statement that he did it for her means that whenever anything bad crops up he is going to throw this back in her face. Poor woman needs rid of him as he appears very abusive and controlling.
All the hoarded food made me want to cry when you consider the number of homeless people who struggle to get a meal every day and she had a freezer full of probably expired food and tins that way years out of date. Such a terrible waste.
Years ago, one of my colleagues told us a funny story about her grandmother. When the family asked grandma what does she wish for her birthday, she replied: get me a dumpster, so non of you should do any cleanups when I die...
Even the after shots look so crowded and cluttered. Makes me feel anxious!
Hey girl, it's fine... It's not your burden to carry
Hi there.. how are you doing? Hope you are fine and staying safe??
It’s all good, guys. He’s an “”””antiques dealer “”””... “I think I’ve probably pushed it a little bit too much” - what an understatement!
No one understands the detriment of living with a hoarder unless you’re there. It’s an actual illness! The loss they felt in some aspects causes such damage to the brain. It’s really sad. Imagine, feeling overwhelmed, depressed, and helpless to stop, daily. As a child of a hoarder, let me tell you, you never know what demons these people are hiding. And when you start finding out, it’s extremely sad.
I agree. No one will ever know unless they’ve lived it. This is a true illness and if you’re in that type of household growing up it’s very difficult.
I've never been in such a terrific situation, it must be really painful and I'm really sorry you are going through this, I hope everything gets better as soon as possible.
@@toffiyarts what is a hoarder
I agree. I recently realized that my father is a hoarder, but I didn't notice it as much growing up because my mother absolutely refused to let him hoard. She would throw his things out, make him limit his hoarding to a certain area...on the one hand, she has control of the house, on the other hand, it's quite sad because you can see how much getting rid of things hurts him. Only today, I asked him why he hasn't thrown out my old kiddie pool (that I used to play in, so is over 25 years old) that is currently full of old sand that has hardened into concrete and is actively growing mold. His response: Because I filled it with sand. Me:...*gives up*
@@harshitkapoor8783 A hoarder is someone who collects things that are of little to no value and refuses to discard them due to a perceived need to retain or save them. It’s an illness and it ruins your life unless you can seek treatment quickly.
This was a great video with real insight. I saw my house going that way and climbed in and sorted out about 1/3rd and am now determined to do the rest. It is not as bad as either of these but before you know it, it can become so. The insights into the emotional causes is very helpful
Greg- dude is a narcissistic fool. "I did this for you" "I'm the dealer, you're the helper"
Pauline is a beautiful soul. Oh bless her heart!
Pauline's own children did not make it to the show. Somehow they sent the grand children only. Maybe her children have a story to tell also...
For a person who has starved to let food expire into basically tinned garbage, it's sinful.
Idk about judging the "sins" of others. It is a very sad yet understandable situation
You can't be a dealer unless you are selling something.
“I’m here to see you first.” Love this man.
And it’s not that Greg doesn’t realize how important it is to his girlfriend that the clutter goes (out of HER place, mind you), it’s that he doesn’t care.
This is so sad, I'm so sorry Pauline. I hope you reached peace and harmony in your life
Not very sad 😅
I grew up with hoarding parents and as an adult I absolutely refuse to have anything near a hoard. It was so traumatic that if more than 4 things are on a surface that don’t belong there, I actually start panicking, sweating and eyes dart automatically.
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@@dbentleyto95 ❤
That’s because you have developed PTSD. Being the child of a hoarder, then having anything that triggers that actual trauma, can bring back feelings of neglect, abandonment, inferiority, and intense shame. I remember my mom having a confrontational moment about it once and she said, “I just like STUFF, okay?!?” And I never felt less important to her... that her stuff drove us out of the house, her stuff took the place of us in her life.
@@kamihayes5147 So sorry you had to go through that experience. Sometimes the families we were given aren't good for us. But somehow some of us learn from it anyway and grow to give what we needed to ourselves. Hope you made your life great for yourself.
@happy face Thank You I have been through lots of therapy, still struggle occasionally but I’m keep my home a hoard free zone and that helps my children.
Knowing what it's like to not have enough food, and having more than she could ever consume, you would think she would be happy to donate to a food bank so other children don't have to go through that.
Not with bugs crawling all over it. There's no telling how much of it is expired. Excuse me while I barf.
No way.
It’s a survival mechanism she couldn’t overcome. When you’re in that mindset, you only are concerned with yourself. I hope she’s doing well now and can donate to/help needy people.
@@devilmecare - Obviously before it gets to that state..
I just did a major decluttering of my apartment the past 3 weekends (threw/donated about 85% of everything) and now am watching this. It feels quite satisfying! I hope both Pauline and Greg stick to their new ways. It was nice to see the improvements and I'm happy for them.
This is insanity. She doesn't want the bugs crawling around her food ( who ever would???) yet she sprays the food with bug spray :P The after is obviously much nicer and cleaner, but she still has too much stuff. The psychology behind it is interesting. Judy should have put a stop to this way before it got to this point.
Where I live bugs everywhere also lots of mosquitos flies etc
That bug spray is worse for you than the bugs, spraying it in a kitchen (!!!) is not a good solution
I sit here thinking my house is a mess, then I watch this, and I feel better.
Hi there.. how are you doing? Hope you are fine and staying safe??
A mess is different from being flat out dirty. This woman has bugs living in her food. Mess is fine….this is not mess.
I'm always fascinated how the hoarders have partners who enable this gross behavior.
Being an enabler for someone who has an addiction is such a complex thing. People with addiction can be master manipulators to get what they want. Hoarding enablers are no different than people who have drug and alcohol problems with enablers.
I would have to say though, most enablers have passive personalities and don’t like confrontation. They’d rather let things be instead of getting into a fight. In a lot of these shows I hear people say, “when my spouse was alive my hoarding/shopping was in check” or “I wasn’t allowed to bring this stuff in the house,” so when that non-passive partner dies the disorder explodes. Not having someone in your life to check your behavior let’s the disorder run amuck. And even when you do have someone in your life telling you it’s a problem, sometimes the disorder is so bad, it doesn’t matter.
So I don’t judge the enablers too harshly because most of their personalities just aren’t built to resist. Hoarding disorder is a mental condition that needs professional therapy to manage. A person’s family and friends typically aren’t equipped to handle it. The one thing I can say is now that hoarder disorder has become recognized as its own mental disorder means more awareness and assistance for the person with the disorder and their family.
You came into the WORLD WITH NOTHING AND TAKE NOTHING WITH YOU!!!!!!!
Oh so generous of Greg lol! Really ! It's her house amd you invaded it
Wow. Why doesn't she just kick him out? He's abusive.
Right!!! And that's her house!!
@@Ma_Pooh I know, right. I hope she isn't as desperate as she seems.She is not unattractive!
@@watershedbarbie9685 I agree with you 100% :)
Because she's dating a much younger guy. Shes at an age where its tough for a woman to find a guy unless the man is a trash no other women wants
He appears to be her "toy boy"
It is so lovely to see people get help and change their lives for the better.
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One thing I learned from my mother and her sisters is that you need to prioritize your wants. As such, I never buy something simply because it's 'on sale' because you often end up with something that doesn't really meet your needs and desires. Don't buy clothes/shoes that don't fit or work with other items in your wardrobe. As for your house, I figure out what I want and then purchase it resulting in fewer items that make me happy and despite often paying full retail, I spend less in the long run. For instance, I have a few very notable and expensive Christmas items and a nice, sentimental ornament collection rather than piles, stacks, and boxes of cheap dime store type items. A few well places items of quality is easier to enjoy year-after-year than rooms strewn with cheap items. The same goes for kitchen and table ware, clothing, shoes, accessories and jewelry. Even skin and body care, cosmetics and house essentials (soaps, cleaners, toiletries). I'm not a minimalist, but I ensure I have a place for everything and everything in its place.
Me... if l want to buy something new e.g shoes.. l will always throw an old pair out... can,t stand loads of " stuff" ... and yes, it,s something you realise as you get older.. wouldn,t want my family to be digging through mountains of old rubbish when l,m gone....
10:25 I love how gentle he’s being with her. And that he’s being very helpful with her. Also, I love how Pauline’s children love her so.
greg needs his own workshop that he needs to control it himself, his girlfriend is a saint poor lady and such a lovely home ruined by him.
Greg chose a girlfriend older than him so he can abuse of her, what a manipulator , he does not seem to love her - but he loves her house!
Whats her age got to do with it.
@@Areyousayingidontknowmyname I guess that it is likely that he manipulated her into believing that he is a catch and she couldn't do better because he is younger.
That Greg guy looks much younger than his girlfriend. She seems insecure and that's probably why she lets him get away with what he's doing.
Men have girlfriends/wives 30 years younger than themselves and nobody bats an eye. Btw, she’d be better off alone than to be shackled to that.
I think he's worn her down over the years and broken her a bit.
You must have missed his dirty big bald patch that he’s trying to comb over. At first I thought he was way younger but I’m assuming he’s late 40’s
@@siouxd799 , he's probably 40s, but she looks 70s!
Lmao does he??? Lol i dont see it
After waching this i want to becom a minimalist
Join the movement. I have been a minimalist for three years- this life is liberating. I have time to enjoy life with less stuff.
Yep
Those can be just as nuts though, I'm happy fluctuating somewhere in the middle
It’s the best.
Same here!!!
Dr Stellios is the kindest man, he is so patient, so calm, so understanding, so positive during the whole process. 💕
I have the opposite problem. When my house starts to get too cluttered, I feel like I can't breathe! Gives me huge anxiety.
i teared up when she was telling the story about the peas 😭
She should kick Greg from her house long time ago, that is her house, not his!!!!
I bet she even bought most of that stuff for him
Olivia Colman’s voice almost makes the hoarding sound charming.
I was wondering if it's her voice. I thought so.
You know this is the UK when you see British Shorthairs sitting about on garden walls and not kept inside with trackers hanging around their necks! Those cats weren't afraid of being nicked and acted like they owned the streets!!!🤣🤣🤣
Can’t these people see the dirt and filth? I’d be so embarrassed. All those bugs and vermin
Where I live lot of mosquitos flies etc
@@harshitkapoor8783 Do you live in hot climate? Put rice, dal and spices in containers with lids. I wish you the best.
hoard of food cans? some call that prepping instead :D i get where she is coming from, if someone survives hunger they try to avoid that situation under any circumstance and one can actually keep quite a lot of food if one eats the oldest and replaces them with new ones while keeping a bunch of cans as a buffer in between BUT thats only a good strategy if you actually eat what you buy.
Preppers rotate their food stash to ensure it’s still viable. She’s just holding onto it, regardless of whether or not it’s still edible.
@@DreamingCatStudio exactly! 'rotating' is a much simpler term to describe it
I bought 57 cans of tuna as well as many other things because of covid, had to organize my pantry and only found a few tins that were out dated that i had. You can safely eat canned food that is less than 10 years old. But a few months ago I found a guy on YT that makes videos about eating really, really, really old canned food! 😂 Here is a link to the guy who eats outdated food ua-cam.com/video/8k162i_8RE4/v-deo.html
@@DreamingCatStudio yeah I thought is awesome some rusty and bent cans...those should be the first to go .
@@annetoronto5474 so your the reason the shelfs were so empty. Haha just kidding you can keep your tuna I dont like it.
So interested in watching the link you posted!
Girl kick that boy friend out with his junk and live your coming days in peace 😡
It made me clean my place more and more and more.. think im overdoing it now..
Gave MANY MANY things away since I watched this
When they laugh to cover their embarrassment...it gets to me...poor Pauline...
Just as the saying goes* collect memories, not things*♡ Cherish those that you love & enjoy life..its so short
Even canned foods go bad after a while, so this lady has actually lost hundreds of dollars or pounds over the decades!!
not to talk about the huge waste of food that could have feed many many people.
If those cans were still in date imagine how many homeless people those cans could feed?
Stellios is an amazing human.
Greg's partner has been way too understanding for far too long
I have all my belongings in my 60 liter bag. I watch this in some sort of amazement not quite understanding why people need so much stuff. As a nomad i keep throwing things out, because i think 3 shorts is an overload to bring along……
Men have such disrespect for women. This man would not treat Stelios the way he dismissed the women who are actually doing the work
I see that 👀😖
Shows like this are so motivating. It gets me going through my entire home, reorganizing and sorting through every single item to look for things to toss/donate/sell.
Wow. I lived in a terrace house really similar to the one in the first woman's story, and it took me so long to even recognize it as almost the exact same floor plan: my mom is a compulsive cleaner, who doesn't like to hold onto anything, and our house seemed SO huge compared to hers! Even our similar, relatively small kitchen felt *gigantic* compared to hers!
@sueldrsyluvsutube It's tough, I have to admit, even though I love my mom. I would often come home from school to find that she'd gone through my belongings like a cyclone, throwing away things that had tremendous sentimental value to me, but which to her were all just "junk" and "clutter."
She has mellowed a bit with age, though. Now that I'm an adult, she's finally stopped trying to find ways to sneak into my house to clean. But, at one point, many years ago, she used the spare key I'd given her (for emergencies) to come in and "clean up"...which actually meant that she donated a huge amount of my & my husband's possessions, as well as huge amounts of my kids' toys & clothes (which I was either saving for hand-me-downs or which had sentimental value) to charity. She gave away 14 large trash bags of our stuff- including sentimental items I'd saved from my beloved deceased father-in-law- before I came home and stopped it!
Needless to say, she no longer has a spare key. It sucks to think that I can't trust my own mother in my house, but I've learned my lesson! I know it's a compulsive thing for her that's beyond her control, so I try not to blame her...but that still doesn't mean I ever want her in my house whilst I'm away ever again.
In some ways, I'd honestly say that it's almost as difficult as living with a hoarder: there's the same total lack of respect for the boundaries, property & space of others. And the same compulsive nature: my mom gets full-on panic attacks when she's not able to clean...just like hoarders get when they're forced to clean.
RE Pauline’s story about her and her sister surviving on a tin of mushy peas for 2 weeks - you'd think that she would never want to look at or eat another pea in her life. I wonder what her sister is like? My heart goes out to those two little girls.
hate to say - but that story and the way she told was a bit 'stagey'. I think she obviously really does have food scarcity issues but 'mushy peas' is just the top layer - what she can easily identify as probable reason. But sadly I think Pauline has some childhood abuse history - hence her enormous size. jus saying
@@batterbury4477 I starved as a child among my 6 siblings and now I'm overweight and tendencies to hoard food so it's not like you know the behinds of her story for sure
So sad how happy Greg's girlfriend is to have her home clean.
Stelios looks like Craig Ferguson.
😂😜
Oh wow, Paulines house at the end..it still has nick nacks..lots of them but I was so so so happy for her. Im going to put up two Christmas trees this December! lol She looks so happy, god bless her and her and her family.
Children do bring the magic of Christmas back, don’t they? It’s a good incentive to clean.
I have physical and mental health issues. I fight my hoarding issues everyday. I use the piles of stuff as a shield from reality, as protection. I physically, due to illness, have a dreadful time trying to clean and shift the trash. It depresses me terribly. Because I'm so fed up with it I could cry.
I just have to wonder why Judith allowed Greg to be so disrespectful towards her. Its HER home, NOT Greg's warehouse.
Pauline looks 10 yrs younger.
I'm sorry.... Ummmm maybe you can contact this Channel and tell your story to them? Who knows they can help you and put you in the next episode....
Can someone help you? Maybe call a church for help?
What a fantastic cleanup. I’m a little bit of a hoarder myself. I’m trying to rid of things now.
Good for you!! Don't give up on it😊
Good luck!
@@miradesnan38 I’m talking about my garage. Inside my house,I can’t even take finger prints.
@@Truth845 no, it’s nothing like that. It’s just my garage. Lol
@@jamiepan7650Okay!!🤗
it gives one pause... makes you think about what all you have and what you can get rid of! very touching and so real because it affects all of us to some extent.
1:27 I love how they said "can he cure their obsessive collecting" while showing the hoarder's cans at the same time.Nice pun.
Is that Olivia Colman narrating? I love her