Jasmine Harman Helps Britain’s Hoarders | Biggest Hoarders | Only Human
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- Опубліковано 27 лип 2018
- Hoarding has become acknowledged as a distinct psychological disorder since Jasmine Harman tackled her own family's hoarding issues in the documentary, "My hoarder Mum & Me."
However, in this documentary, she meets some of Britain's biggest hoarders, living secret double lives riddled with shame while scrapping through almost unlivable conditions at home.
See how it goes Jasmine, in her attempt to help the hoarders and their families in this second episode of Biggest Hoarders.
Is hoarding a form of obsessive-compulsive behaviour?
And what happens, when a hoarding obsession begins to affect the relationship with family and friends - preventing the person from having a normal life?
Jasmine Harman is seeking the answers to these questions in this remarkably honest documentary series.
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I was a environmental health inspector for a major metropolitan city about 2002-2009 and we would get calls on hoarders frequently. This was not recognized as a psychological disorder back then. It was so tragic to witness. I am glad this is now recognized as a real compulsion. Our city would literally haul the hoard away right in front of the hoarder's eyes if the hoarder didn't make progress. They would literally break down as they watched their belongings being taken away. No matter how many warnings the hoarder would be given, the person simply could not let go of even a small portion of their belongings...even on the threat of losing it all. Everyone in my department understood that the hoarders were disturbed and needed help, but their was no help for them then. This series is so compassionate and helpful. Thank you.
Must have been so hard to witness x
Tough love. Bring it back.
my sister did that to me. my room was a disaster and i wouldnt clean it up so she threw every thing out. thanks to that im sure i would be worse off. i tell people i have hoarder tenancies and if i am not careful i could become a full blown one
@Moon Teller I know of a woman who lost her children to it. The authorities were so punitive of her. They harrass and hound these poor mothers. It's horrible. The treated her like she was doing it on purpose. I don't condone children living in such a state but child welfare needs to start educating themselves on this disorder. By removing the children and not treating the disorder, you're making it worse and tearing a family apart for nothing.
@S D forcing them accomplishes nothing, they will just gather a new hoard. You need to treat the underlying psychological condition, not just deal with the junk.
I love how she talks so calmly and patiently to the hoarders
She treats them like the people they are: worthwhile, wonderful, complex human beings. She doesn't treat them like they're disgusting or the scum of society because they're not. I love how Jasmine gets to their story and takes the time to just let them talk. She really, genuinely cares.
Because its an illness, and yelling or using verbal abusive won't work. She must be trained to deal with this.
I think because she's lived with it and she knows how stressful it can be for the hoarder to even think about getting rid of things, so she's interested in the person (at least it seems to me) rather than just focusing on the disorder
I definitely think Jasmine would make a fabulous counsellor. She has a very loving way towards these people and is so genuine.
it's actually a health hazard going in there. you can get legionnaires disease, alzheimer, cancer, all sort of infections, respiratory infections. 16:41 you can see the amount of shit growing on the floor that he's kicking up with the vacuum.
I swear that elderly man is the loveliest person I've seen yet on the show, he's so well spoken and intelligent...and he's got that razor sharp wit, he had me laughing several times. I swear I could listen to him talk for hours. IT really goes to show that it isn't a problem with intelligence that causes hoarding, it's emotional and it can happen to anybody.
Tisha Kenney My brother hoarded because of his, alcoholism, but before he became a heavily drinker, nothing like that happened in his life.
yes....he just got stuck
He really is lovely, so likeable, and goodness, what good skin he has for 79! I can only hope for that. He deserves a life as wonderful as he is himself.
You would never guess he was 79 ! with a hair cut and a beard trim, he would look even younger.
His problem is reading Richard Dorking
"I don't think there's any such thing as happiness- only the absence of misery" - Someone hug this poor fellow!
Indigo Montoya 😭
His words are entirely true.
Sounds like the first step in hoping for a better life when enduring severe depression
He's perfectly correct. Are you familiar with the theory of depressive realism? We know from clinical studies that people who are depressed show markedly superior judgement to those who are not depressed at tasks like estimating whether a given shape will fit a given hole. The implication is that depression just removes a filter which makes the world seem irrationally pleasant for everyone else.
If there's such a thing as happiness, I certainly have never experienced it. I've felt cessation of pain, the absence of misery, and satisfaction of certain biological drives like hunger and the need to sneeze, but I'm 50 years old and I've never experienced what people pretend is "joy." If you look inside yourself, you'll see I'm right. People pretend that they're "happy" simply because everyone else around there is doing the same thing.
I don't think he's wrong. Schopenhauer said the same thing.
The way they protray these people is so real. This is the first show on hoarding that I've watched where you really see these people are suffering instead of just something to gawk at. Absolutely brilliant
No American hype and exploitation of human suffering through contrived and exacerbated conflict.
The thing about Jasmine is she respects these people, she honors their humanity, she listens. That's why she's effective. She really burrows down to the real root of the problem. There are deep problems underlying this behavior.
Jasmine sees her mom in each and every one of them. It makes her compassionate, and that's great.
Ellen Henderson she must be on Valium she seems so out off it lol
She's not on Valium.. She knows how to talk to people in a relatable calm way and in turn they open up to her...
Yeah respect
I could not do what she does without getting annoyed
Jasmine is a wonderful caring person, she of all people knows, what these people are going through, and noo she is not on valium, ain't you got any sense.????
Jeff cleaning the floor with the vacuum and completely avoiding what's above it is the ULTIMATE mood😂
I think that was an act for the cameras. If he truly vacuumed things wouldn't look the way they do.
I felt so triggered by that
I think that is what my mum sees when I clean my room
Flipsey Frog 😂😂😂😂😂
Yup. 😅🤣😂
I am a totally straight woman, but man, I could look at Jasmine all day. She is so freaking pretty and also just soooo nice and understanding of others. What a wonderful woman. Not many people like her in the world.
"I mean basically. do I want to get my place sorted out or not, or am I going to run a museum for 20 year old magazines with a request in my will that they be cremated with me, which would present a real problem to the crematorium."
I love Jeff's deadpan and somber delivery.
Jasmine is so patient and understanding and truly cares for each person she tries to help
Side note, Jasmine is so beautiful. Inside and out. Giving soul, which is what every person should have. The world would be a happier place if so.
Mel Rose I agree. She's a really beautiful woman with an angels heart. ❤️ Not narcissistic or arrogant but kind and sympathetic and generally wants to help others - wish more women were like her.
it's amazing how well this documentary humanizes jeff; it's such an emotionally fulfilling watch.
The sad thing is that if someone broke into her house every week and took three black bags worth of stuff out of her flat then she probably would not notice and would never remember what was in those bags.
Don't bet on it. Many people know exactly where everything is. Those types of tricks just upset them and make the hoarding worse. If you just empty out a hoarder's stuff without their permission, it gets replaced with more incredibly quickly. That's not the solution. You have to deal with the mental illness and cognitive problems that are causing the problem.
My mum used to send me on school camp for this exact reason, so she could throw out my hoard, and yes I honestly never noticed. But she would only do like, one shelf or little bits and pieces. And when I tried to dehoard myself, I was throwing a garbage bag per shelf out (never had as much as they do on these shows, I always had floor space)
@@robinlillian9471 No, most of them don't know.
@@ancaas7945 We used to haul a few stacks of magazines at a time out of my mom's place. She never missed them.
Agree. I did that with a relative, she never noticed. She could just block the mess out. If you pointed it out she'd get defensive then go into victim mode. It was easier just to clear bits that way, as she was unsteady & it was a trip & fire hazard.
I kind of find Jeff's taste in hoarding items charming. Some people choose soda cans or straight up garbage but his is books and the rolls and pretty pieces of wood. I know it's bad but it reflects his wonderful taste and personality. He's so sweet.
some of his stuff can even be sold to niche collectors, like the technology. some people like to rebuild/refurbish old tech
Yeah, and he's acknowledging that there is a problem and that it can be solved. Sweet man
@anonymous reviewer Yeah, that's just way too far for anyone to let anything get that bad and gross. It's straight up a bio-hazard,a health concern and you're just asking for a ton of bad concoctions to happen. I understand people have issues and problems including myself and everyone does. But,I don't care what you've or what's going on,if you live like that then don't ever let children come anywhere near that place for many reasons but health and safety concerns first and foremost. They also don't need to be living on their own at all if they let their fridge and food get like that. They just don't. It's very sad but you're clearly not capable of taking care of yourself or your home anymore if you live like this or think it's safe and also don't see a major problem with it. For their own sake and safety,go to a nursing home or some kind of elderly living facility. It's also putting people that live around you in harm's way and there is no telling what is coming from that house or what is in that house due to the massive neglect.
I think that old man is a very interesting person. I'm sure it would be amazing to just spend a couple of hours with him and have a nice chat.
I understand the mindset of 87 year old lady . She thinks of recycling and then making money out of it and then donate it . That's how their generation think instead of discarding things in trash. And avoid waste generation unlike present generation
I cried so much almost every time Jeff was filmed. 😭 Such a charming character. I hope the very best for him.
Same
Same .. God Bless jeff..
oh, please. You wouldn't if you really knew him.
@@tcreative8030 LOL I'm with you. I couldn't stand him. Him, Jill and Vance from Hoarders, as soon as they start trotting out the pseudo-intellectual rationalizations for their mental illness, I'm done.
@@BlueCyannwhat a compassionate view of a serious MH issue.
Jeff, sitting in that chair, when he was letting go of his things, just looked so lost. It broke my heart and I've literally got tears running down my cheeks 😪 I just want to move next door and adopt him as a grandpa
@AgathaPoirot I was talking about how it made ME feel, not about whether he would want it or not 🤷♀️ also it was about feelings, not actions I was actually going to take !
I really admire anyone who has the patience to work with a hoarder. I would be pulling out my hair within 5 minutes.
Well they are real people and emotions and indeed you need patience for those emotions
Me too
I couldn't be patient
I was pulling my hair out watching it 😂
To work with anyone who isnt seeing whatever situation clearly. I want to scream.
It's easier to work with them when you've been through the hoarding yourself.
Holds the dead rat: "i can't afford a vet to do a proper autopsy..but I think it's food poisoning" 🤣🤣 I love that guy. He's so charming with a great sense of humor.
Watching Jeff get into his tiny bed surrounded by stuff looking so sad and alone 😭
Sooooo sad. 😥
Happy Day Yes He’s such a lovely old fellow... I imagine many ladies would have loved to share life’s adventures with him.❤️❤️❤️
@@KM-nq7ez what about his wife and kids that don't talk to him anymore? Perhaps they have a reason
@@ph4780 they just had a divorce and the mother took the children so i doubt they will remember him
KM, no woman in their right mind would ever be with someone like him. Why would anyone want to be with someone who lives surrounded by trash and junk? I bet he was unbelievably stubborn and dismissive to his wife's feelings. Hoarders care more about stuff than people.
Jean is in for a shock and will regret not taking Jasmine up on her offer. If the government clears her home they won't care or have her interests in mind. She may actually lose things that important like family pictures and heirlooms
Jeff seems like such an intelligent, witty, good guy. I'm so glad he's in recovery, instead of hiding. Life will be much sweeter...which will translate into happiness. :)
you are an angel Jasmine. As a former therapist what you are doing is just perfect. the fact that you have first hand experience is so comforting. my schizophrenic brother is a hoarder, he ruined my father's house.
i miss my mum like mad. she was a lot like yoursthey would have got on very well.
it's really lovely to see someone who loves their very very lovely mum, so much. Thank you Jasmine!
"The bath is temporarily full of shoes." - That sounded like a public announcement XD
Well, Jeff is why I am becoming a Social Worker. You don't make a lot of money but you get to truly help your fellow man and make a difference in someone's life, every day. What a sweet guy.
God bless Jeff the rat made me laugh “can’t afford a vet for a proper autopsy but I’d say it was food poisoning” keeps a sense of humor through it all 💗 prayers he sorts it all out
He’s a beautiful man - he collected rolls of music for an instrument he did not have - it could be a faith issue for him
I feel like the marketing industry also hold some blame. The amount of algorithms and psychological research going into telling us we need things is definitely a contributing factor. It’s certainly not the only thing at play but it’s definitely not helping.
Advertising is as old as dirt, years ago it was radio then tv and then one day somebody realized that hey this new fangled homeless carriage is really catching on, why not post signs along the roads telling those drivers about new and wonderful products, the billboard was born, then who could forget the infamous Burma shave signs. Everywhere you go there is advertising, notice that a lot of these people are not tech savvy, a main part of a hoarders hoard are print material, they rely on old magazines books newspapers etc, there isn't a tablet or smartphone to be found. Hoarders aren't interested in the latest gadgets they scavenge garage sales, they pick peoples garbage, flea markets, if you notice most of what they have is household trash. Next time leave your smartphone at home or in your car when you go shopping because the store tracks every item you may pick up and look at as well as what you purchase, there's no getting away from it unless you never put your name to anything ever which is impossible, again the latest gadgets are not what a hoarder is interested in.
I don't want to harp about capitalism, but yes, we are all encouraged to buy buy buy, and if we don't throw it in a landfill, our homes become landfills. I wonder how common this disorder was before mass production? I once read about a pair of wealthy brothers in the 1800s who hoarded, but regular people? 🤔
Jeff reminds me so much of my father. His personality, his history and the fact that items hold him hostage. My father has been gone for a couple of years now and I have to say, a weight has been lifted off me. I know it sounds harsh but it's true. I'm extremely uncomfortable watching Jeff because it rubs raw nerves from within me. I'm 57 and I feel the need to watch this video as therapy. I realize now, it's time to work on ME. Awesome video. Thank you very much for showing the variety of people you've dealt with. This one hit home ❤
I hope Jeff gets to re-connect with his children before he passes. I hope his kids see this documentary and get in touch.
Paul Casson same here, what happened to him that made him sad, shopping can make u happy but without family in your life those items can’t keep u happy. You will be much happier having relationships with family and friends.
Maybe his childrens are ashamed and tired of his hoarding, most of these hoarders are very stubborn, I'm on the bring of leaving my hoarding Mom soon, can't stand her.
@@TeleeFONE he started hoarding after they left he said
People who've lived the mental illness experience have compassion that others an only mimic. It's heart warming to see this woman helping others with a genuine understanding. 💗🇦🇺
I made myself throw out some shoes I couldn't wear any more yesterday. It was HARD. "BUTbutbutbutbutbutbut!!!!!What if you NEED them!?!?!?!?" That part of my brain isn't seeing that a cat has thrown up all over one of them. Or that they don't fit my nerve damaged feet any more. I have new, well fitting shoes now, expensive ones. I don't need the ones I threw out. But I kept them for about a year, just around on the floor. Because, GASP, I couldn't throw out the shoes!!! What if I need them!?!?!??
Yes, it took at least a year to gear myself up to toss the shoes that have no more use. I had to talk myself into it. Because when you hoard, keeping things that have NO MORE USE makes wonderful sense. Because, GOD FORBID, what if you NEED IT!?!?!?!?
Hoarding isn't rational or reasonable. But in my head, it seems perfectly reasonable to hold on this crap!!!! But...I tossed them!!!!
Even your cat was sick of you keeping those shoes for so long! hahaha
@@mimionthecatwalk9711 If only cats could speak ;-) You put a big smile on my face!
@Intro Pedagod O.I know that feeling! Trowing something away, thinking should I take it back? Perhaps? Remembering the happy feeling of when we were trowing it away and then today asking yourself why we did it because we were so happy when we bought it. But finaly its gone like it should have been.
@Jake Dean not always true... It's not always about buying things. It's about not being able to let go as well. Clothing that no longer fits, broken electronics, books already read etc. They're always looking to fill a void in their lives or have experienced trauma and are trying to control a part of their life.
-hoarder
Good for you!
I love how empathetic she is and that she gets to know each person. It’s refreshing to see! 💕
jasmine pours her whole heart and soul into the people she helps and it's absolutely beautiful. you could see the pure pain on her face when jean rejected her help and god, it broke me. she's a truly amazing person inside and out and what she's doing to help these people, working off of her own experience and emotions, is so, so wonderful and so, so admirable. what a kind soul.
I love the empathy and compassion she shows whilst interacting with the hoarders. Clearly her background with her mother has influenced her outlook and behavior, and it's heartening to see someone who genuinely wants to help these people.
There's a special place in heaven for Jasmine, if you believe in that sort of thing, what a good egg.
I take pictures of things I need to get rid of. Sometimes keeping an image of something is good enough and you can then proceed to throw it away, knowing you still have it - in your camera.
yep ive done that b4 🤤
I have done that it’s a good idea
Well, I have used in another way; when I have thrown away husband's mankey item; he gets mad; and I show him photo of soles of house shoes I threw away. Full of holes. Or the hairbrush with barely any bristles left. And I replaced with new ones.
My mum made me keep everything I had ever owned till I was 13 in a tiny room until I threw it away and even then she held most of it in the spare room & I hated it so now I have the complete opposite problem I can’t stand stuff & I throw away everything!!
Rebecca kent same here, all the way
Rebecca kent actually I don’t want a mental emotional attachment to any object including car or furniture or jewelry because I figure it can all be lost stolen or ruined beyond my control. So I’ve willed myself to not care. Only thing I feel an emotional attachment is a flat when I move, I miss the neighborhood, and I miss people.
This is 100% me
And minimalism was born
I know what you mean Rebecca, I was married to a hoarder for 40 years until I couldn't stay any more. Now I have
my own home, and I'm on the other extreme. Everything has to be immaculate and completely clutter free.
Jeff is very dear to my heart. Those who've lived through the great depression were raised in an era that was not a "disposable" society. Recycling or upcycling was nothing new.... it was a way of life. They passed those traits on to the next couple of generations. We FIX or REUSE instead of throw away. Its no winder here's so much task and pollution..... think about it. I'm the same way. Give Jeff a big hug for me, please. ❤
"The bath is temporarily full of shoes." Never expected to hear those words.
Jeff is such a sweetheart. I feel for him, and I hope he gets to live the rest of his days happy. What a gem 💎
When my mum died my father and brother decided I should be their carer, housecleaner, and main person to do their washing, cleaning and basically everything. I never had time to grieve for my mother. Eight months after working three jobs to get enough money in to pay for my electricity etc. I had my own husband and house to look after but they were so selfish that when I took ill and had dropped to less than 7 stone in weight my husband took me back to my father's house. I met the horror of similar. I met 68 bottles of milk in various levels of decay. Every dish, pot , cutlery item and carry out was piled up to nearly the ceiling. I could not even see out of the window. I remember how I burst into tears and turned to my father who expected me to clean up the mess. I turned round and he said "if you don't like it you know what you can do." Until this day I bless my husband who marched me out away from this. It took such a long time and in honestly, I am now 69 and the horror memories haunt me still. I know I could not ever have done more but my heart and my love for my family was ripped asunder.
I know it's not easy but guilt (when it was never yours) and ruminating on the paste waste present and future enjoyment. I hope you have found peace with these relatives who did not have your best interests at heart.
Why would your husband take you back and why were you working three jobs?
Both of my grandfathers had passed away before I was born, and my father died at a young age (49). What I wouldn't give to have a gentleman like this one as a foster grandpa. He is just a sweetheart.
I'm so sorry for your loss and Jeff is such a beautiful soul I really feel for him :(
I love Jeff's humor! He is absolutely hilarious! I am sad that he has lost contact with his children. I find that some of the funniest people have trouble with real emotion regarding those that they should love the most. I hope that changes.
These people are hurting, often isolated trying to fill the emptiness with stuff. So sad to see, but heartening to see them examining themselves and turning things around.
Agree.
We all have a hole in us which needs to be filled.... the best way of filling it is with Jesus. For he is our comfort and he is what so many people lack. Find Jesus and you shall find peace and joy.
GRACE I have to disagree. Some people have different beliefs. It’s not fair to say that because people believe in gods other than Jesus, that is the reason for their discomfort and emptiness.
GRACE I mean actually the only way is to let the spaghetti monster in. He’s way bigger, he’ll fill up more space.
@@GRACE-lw4zq Amen..Jesus Christ saves and gives a new life and lasting hope in this hurting world
The level of compassion for these people is heartwarming.
These shows are incredible. You really feel for these people - the holes in their hearts. You have the patience of saints - all of you helping them do. I hope there are many more of these shows!
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Jeff's personality and story really touched my heart. I cried more than I would like to admit... I hope he's still doing well and has had a chance to enjoy his golden years.
I just finished the episode with Jasmine's mum and now I'm watching this. It's so nice to see someone like Jasmine doing this show, someone who really has an insight and empathy to the daily struggles of people with the disorder.
Jasmine, you are a beautiful soul, reaching out to others in a gentle, compassionate way. Your own experiences have given you the insight to tread softly and patiently. Your videos have helped me realise that letting go of 'stuff' is ok and that the connections we have with people far outweigh the bits and pieces that fill our homes. May you have a beautiful life and hoping your mum is doing well.
When Jeff made the decision to keep the 88 pianola rolls and let the 65s go, I recognized an approach I have used myself. When I determined to reduce my fabric stash, I let all the synthetic fabrics go, no matter how lovely they looked. I realized that I never sew up the synthetics, most likely because the feel of them under my hands while I sew them is not pleasant. Now Jeff needs to find himself a functioning "88" pianola so that he can enjoy the ones he's kept.
I was thinking the same. Also, there would have been an opportunity to install some shelving before moving everything back in from the warehouse, getting some organization going.
i have a personality disorder .when jeff said "there's no such thing as hapiness,just the absence of misery",it broke my heart to bits for him because i have that feeling constantly too.i can't bear to see a miserable old man,i just can't,i don't know why.the other protagonists touched me too but jeff is special in my eyes.it hurts to see him hurt like that:(
We see him reading a Richard Dawkins book at one point. That's probably what got him depressed!
I have that feeling, too. Or maybe with a slight moderation: "For me as an adult, there's no such thing as happiness, just the absence of misery". And there's hardly any absence.
Jeff is so intelligent, you can just tell by the way he talks and what he says. I'm glad he's on the road to find happiness again
Jasmine. Bless your heart.
Well produced and edited, Jasmine is a good one.
True she's has a great approach unlike some more stressful ones
It's always hard for my mom to throw uncessary things, esp if it has sentimental value.
And whenever she attempts to clean, it gets a lot more messier than it is.
So sometimes she would go out for days and ask me to clean the entire house.
She'd also get mad at me for the things that I threw or donated and she'd say hurtful things, but I just shrug it off, because I'm use to it and she'd forget about it eventually.
Maybe if I wasn't there for her.
She'd probably end up like this.
Awwh thats so adorable that u help her tho
Wow, you’re an amazing daughter. I wish I had people in my life like you
Princess Sarah
I’m sorry 😐.
Gee it'll be a big shock for Jean when the council come and take her things.
Sadly I think that's the only way Jean's horde will get cleared. I find it hard to have sympathy for her because she is using a council flat which she does not need (because she lives with a friend) to store clutter, when it could be used by a family for housing.
@@Londonfogey I find it strange that, as a renter, I get an inspection every 3-6 months from my landlady's agent, but the council doesn't do the same. Council accommodation can be some of the worst abused by tenants and inspections could nip it in the bud.
My mum was a hoarder - who would go to jumble sales and car boot sales every week and bring home bags of items. Some were useless to her and she would make the excuse of wanting to pass them onto other people. It was purchasing the items which gave her a buzz, as well as storing them at home.
I understand why she was like this - born in the 1930s, growing up in the war, when clothes were scarce. Then two close family members died untimely deaths, within a few months of each other, so there was a sense of emptiness and loss. It was a pity there was no bereavement counselling or psychotherapy available for her.
So your saying because of the deaths she was hoarding or also being poor?? The buzz...I think that Tru... it's crazy though how buzz of useless items that my mum won't wear..... she tried buy XXL clothes and pass on to me for pregnancy and it look like parachute .... then tells me give to my mother in law... I would never give her anything... she stopped buying stuff and then picked up recent buying baby clothes, most useful, some random not useful eg sale top for swimming.. no bottom... bizarre pieces on sale and bizarre stuffed animal... if there anything I hate in baby stiff is useless stuffed animals .. we have 100s...I told her this and her brain was like, oh I thought they were in basement or old....I have 4 and 5yr old. ... all stuffed stiff is in bags.. new old.. useless
I wish the us version was like this, I love this and it brings more awareness to mental illness and trauma.
Well few hoarders on the us show were as well behaved as Jeff, a lot of them were drug addicts and borderline psychopatic
He's just doesn't see all that junk as treasure, he sees all that stuff as his companions and his only friends in the world
These episodes really show how bad the older generations are/were about males not showing feelings. Holding it all in.
I hope the younger generations are improving this.
And you can tell all that from observing the personality of a single elderly man, well you certainly mastered the art of generalizing
Very distressing.
So few people could actually afford to have their stuff moved to a warehouse so that they could look through it outside of their home. If one can afford to do that, it seems the best approach.
I think people whose parents don't have this problem might think, "Just send in the council clearers, and lock the crazy old people up in a mental institution for the week or two it takes to do it." The problem with that is that I am quite sure that in 90% of the cases, the hoarders will re-fill their homes within a year.
But I think the council should have removed Jeff's filthy refrigerator, with or without permission.
Jeff is one of the rare hoarders who is self-aware and realises he has a problem. Notice that at one point he describes himself as a 'recovering hoarder'. Most of the hoarders, like the lady in the tower block, don't seem to make that breakthrough into self awareness.
I m happy that after watching these documentaries all day, I ve been able to get rid of lots of my stuff ..and I m still on it... :) Thanx!
Yay!! Good for you darling yellow fish!! ♥️
Jean is gonna have a major breakdown when the council clears out the flat...sad.
I've always tried to live by the rule that if I havent looked for or used something in a year or 2, then its trash
I honestly cannot comprehend how someone can hoard themselves out of their bathroom. Some things are essential. I guess that's why it's a mental disorder, it makes no sense.
These episodes were originally aired back in 2012. Does anyone have any updates on any of these individuals and how they're doing?
probs dead
I really want to know how Jeff is doing.. He seems like a really nice guy
So kind of you thinking about them 😊
Dead
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Jeff has/had a pretty impressive collection, all the oscilloscopes(?) alone. He's a bit like a weird scientist off the books. I like him, and wish him well.
The brains of these people are not wired like others. Things are the manifestation of feelings and memories and emotions.
Mr Jeff's such a gentleman...!👌🎩🕰🎹🖥📟🔬🔎📚📑
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His father's top hat is worth a LOT of money. A 1930s top hat in good condition can fetch upwards of £700. (Although I suspect Jeff's one may have had a few moth holes).
I really like this man. I think he's been incredibly incredibly brave and open to change although it is clearly difficult for him.
What self-awareness this guy has:) And courage, to recognize the doc's point about his 6 yr old grandson (hypothetically) saying 'no happiness'. An intelligent, kind and lovely man right down to it. Best of luck:)
When people can't even take a shower in their own home and have to go to a friend's there is a major problem
As the psychologist said, it's the technical definition of hoarding; if you cannot use your rooms for their intended purpose because of 'stuff'.
It's part of being level 5 of the 5 levels of hoarding
There's also a major problem if you type double spaces and don't use punctuation.
Just now condensed 10 bottles of half or quarter filled shampoo and conditioner under the sink into one each bottle and threw the emptied ones away! Clean my shower too. I don't have any place to go other than a hotel.
What I find the most puzzling is that if the things they have, mean SO much to them, howcome they don't take proper care of them. They just stand around rusting and wasting away. It's so strange.
It's a form of OCD. They cannot bear to even throw away trash. People who hoard are controlled by this illness. Most hoarders, with work with a therapist, can change their mindset, but need to have that realization that they're punishing themselves. Others are way too mentally ill and do not have the capacity to understand. I saw this one episode of Hoarders, a programme here in the States, of this one woman who destroyed her home. And she literally went to the bathroom all over the living room. She did not see a problem with it. She continued this disturbing behavior when she was staying with a relative who had a working toilet. She still went to bathroom in cups and left it all over the relative's home before she went back to her nightmare of a house. Needless to say, nothing was saved and the property was condemned. The hoard was collapsing the house.
Joelle, Linda did move back in the house and her son in law was working on it.
Jeff needs someone to visit him at least One time a week to talk seems to be sad and lonely
Maybe he holds onto the stuff to not feel lonely? Perhaps because people are not close to him, he can surround himself with things to compensate for the feeling of emptiness.
Jasmine is so kind and patient.
Bless you beautiful Jasmine for continuing to help others!
Everytime I start putting off cleaning, I come here and remind myself that this could become my house... Commenting in between folding laundry
Same... now i have to clean again...
Same :-D
i get such mixed feeling with these type of shows. Like - my place is a little cluttered, and not super clearn (dust...) so i feel bad but then i feel okay because - i can still walk around freely and use my bed and bathroom.
" I may need this later " 5 things needs to go out right Now
m lynn
Everyone has some clutter, dust is never ending.
What you need is a good habit routine. Pick a day that you normally don’t have social activities
Example on Wednesday night I dust, clean bathroom, wash the floors.
What a sweet intelligent guy, hope only the best for him he deserves a lot better.
I completely admire how truly kind and compassionate Jasmine is. She never makes light of anyone's struggle.
"I've got a tea towel now as well. I've got two of them, actually."
~Jeff
That was such a cute statement! :) Jeff really did the hard work, the emotional reflection, the letting go and not accumulating more possessions. He also had the courage to tell his family and he says he's happier! :)
I hope the rest of his life is full of friends, gatherings and visits and bright hope for the future. :)
Keep up the wonderful work ..Jasmine....Your an angel........Giiving people ... their lives back.... !!!
Omg jeff is an dorable man! Haha hes such a character. And for a hoarder. He sure is a breath of fresh air
The mountains of pianola rolls reminds me of Ollivanders wand shop in Harry Potter lol
Nora K those are very rare my grandmother had that type of piano which is now at my moms
@@liztrainer895 I was thinking that Jeff should have used the money from auctioning his stuff to buy a pianola!
I feel so bad for people like this because people clutter up because they are trying to ignore something else or replace a feeling with things. And therapy is something that would help that.
Agree. I think therapy is essential to recover from hoarding. Just removing the things without addressing the emotional issues won't resolve the core problem.
It seems to me that Jeff is punishing himself for failures in life.
I've seen and heard of some things in my time as a journalist... but that fridge... Bless you for the work you're doing Jasmine.
Poor sweet jeff.. He is lonely. That breaks my heart. I wish there was a website that could connect lonely elderly people with other people to be friends.. somebody make one! Even if they can not do the computer maybe another person could help.. could even just write letters. Better than nothing.
People need to care for eachother more. If you see a person who is sad, reach out.. an apt building where somebody lives alone reach out!
This woman is providing more than cleaning. She is giving company.
My god Jeff is so intelligent and wise. Sweet man. I wish I could write him a letter. How brave he is. Wonderful to see him do good
That is a really, really good idea. Got me thinking about how to design such a site, there are big issues with scammers and general abuse to overcome but it would be a lovely service if you could make it work.
That's like using the yellow pages to advertise a new form of social media... ineffective and won't reach their target audience
kitty mom in Australia we have an organisation called “do care” and we visit elderly people trapped within their own homes on a weekly basis, all they Ned do is call and ask to be allocated a friend to visit.
@@OtterSC2 There's something called the Men's Shed Movement in the UK. It's a loosely organised network of men who share shed/garage space to work on projects together, share tools, know-how etc. He could get involved with something like that.
Jasmine is such a good person! She has such a good heart, the way she tears up, she really cares about these people.. she also has far more patience then I would in this situation!
Hoarding is a psychological condition with its roots in trauma. As much as I don’t understand it and would likely not be good with dealing with people who need help but are equally resistant to it, I am extremely grateful I have not had to experience any trauma that has triggered this type of coping mechanism. I also understand that these people are deserving of love and support.
35:35 Jeff collected all those machines and was willing to let them go to auction. However the best quality pianola rolls which he started collecting because it was something his ex-wife enjoyed are what he chooses to keep, that's just heart wrenching.
Pianola rolls with n eBay going for $150.
@@carolwong1456 I don't believe he'd sell them because of his emotional attachment but it's great his hoard became a valuable collection.
What a lovely gentle soul Jasmine is, she is the perfect person to work with these unfortunate people.
Poor Jeff, I hope his kids find him and give him some love!
How Lovely jeff was and I was cheering to see him realise the craziness of the situation and start to choose to handle it.
I love seeing the moment when a hoarder is able to let go of the fear and the stuff, when some of them realise it's not as fear filled as they once thought. Freedom!
"I can't afford a vet to do an autopsy, but I think its food poisoning"
He is so hilarious. I hope he's doing well.
I have (less extreme) hoarding tendencies myself. It helps so much when getting rid of things to know that they may be used and appreciated by other people. If they could tempt that last lady with a scenario like--" There are needy families who need these blankets, etc.", maybe she could budge a bit.
Thank you Jasmine for this. I have finally gotten to a point after 5 years of not cleaning/hoarding? a single widow by changing job location that had work place bullying towards me almost lost my job, 1 car rear ended, moving mom to another state, clearing her house, daughter in high school, then mom passing away, 4 pets passing away of old age, menopause myself, 2nd car purchased a lemon, knee problems, sometimes too much life happening, I have began to start over.
Jeff has a great sense of humor and he seems like a really interesting, gentle person. I hope he's doing well 😊
Jeff thank you so much for doing this. We need more people like you.
My house is always straight, but when I watch this, I go on a sanitizing rampage.
I'm washing window blinds as I listen to this, I'm scared senseless!!
I do the same thing!
Love from Canada
When the council come in to clear Jeans flat don't think they'll be storing it for one minute. The council are not a storage company and it'll all be getting skipped. The council can't have their property in that condition for fire risk and just all round safety for their tenant , they would be held liable if something happened to her and they knew what the state of the flat was like.