Anno 2024: Thank you father, for the money you earned by working, allowing us to eat now. Thank you mother for going to work with us and preparing the delicious food for all of us. Thank you mother and father for taking good care of us. Thank you Tim for this wisdom and teaching you give us
What if Dad died on Christmas Eve morning? Reach out for help? To who? How? To someone who says a bunch of generic cliches that they dont 4eally mean or have no way of knowing and make you feel even more lost , broken, and completely alone than you already were? I'm mot 6rying to be difficult. Just honest. It feels so completely hopeless and is overwhelming
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Losing your dad, especially at this time of year, is so heavy, and it makes sense that everything feels overwhelming. Reaching out doesn’t have to mean finding someone with the perfect words-it could just mean finding someone who’s willing to sit with you in the mess of it all, no fixing, no clichés, just being there. You don’t have to carry this alone, even if it feels that way right now.
@annwe6 someone to sit with would be perfect. Nobody wants to do that though. They want away from that energy as fast as possible. Someone who is willing to just be there by your side while you go through because they understand its rough going through it alone is someone who genuinely cares for you. That cares for you more than spending their time and energy doing things that benefit them directly. People just arent like that though. Instead they just want ti to listen without listening and then say stuff like its hard right now but it will get better. This will pass and your going to be ok. As bad as this seems things could always be worse. Even though it may feel like it, its not thr end of the world, etc., etc., etc.. People are your friend as long as it doesn't cost them more than they receive and when you're feeling hopeless, defeated, and irreparably broken you don't have any thing for yourself much less anything worthwhile to share or give. So many want to say and pretend that's not how it is but in reality its all just crap people say then, then in the same breath that they tell you your not alone, you dont have to do this alone, they use to escape the first opportunity that strikes and that's just how it is whether anyone wants to admit it or not. And who wants to beg someone to care about them? Who wants to keep begging for help when its repeatedly shown that noone thinks you're worth it. When it has becomes more than abundantly obvious the only person you can count on us yourself only you've been beaten down so many times you cant even stand up for yourself anymore, and besides you know what a life like that feels like, like a slow painful, torturous suffering robbing you of you soul piece by piece with each agonizing breath that consumes every calorie of energy your body can muster each time you breathe one in. And I don't know about you but that doesn't seem any kind of life worth living to me.
@@77SunnyDazeInDecember You’re not wrong-most people aren’t equipped to hold space for that kind of pain, and honestly, it’s more about them than you. But please know this: just because so many people fall short doesn’t mean your pain isn’t worth sitting with, or that you’re not worth showing up for. You are. And even if it feels impossible right now, I hope you can find one small step or even one person who can sit with you in this. I’m not here to hand you platitudes or tell you everything will magically get better, but I do want to say that the fact you’re still here, still sharing these words, means there’s a part of you-however small-that still wants to fight for yourself. And that’s not nothing. You deserve care, compassion, and a space where you don’t have to carry it all alone. I’m so sorry it feels like no one sees that. But I see it. And I’m holding space for you, even if it’s just through these words.
Tim Fletcher has been so instrumental in helping me grow more aware of what I’ve been doing and should continue. ❤
I have already started doing this with my two daugthers. Building a healthy lifestyle.
Thank you.
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Anno 2024: Thank you father, for the money you earned by working, allowing us to eat now. Thank you mother for going to work with us and preparing the delicious food for all of us. Thank you mother and father for taking good care of us. Thank you Tim for this wisdom and teaching you give us
What if Dad died on Christmas Eve morning? Reach out for help? To who? How? To someone who says a bunch of generic cliches that they dont 4eally mean or have no way of knowing and make you feel even more lost , broken, and completely alone than you already were? I'm mot 6rying to be difficult. Just honest. It feels so completely hopeless and is overwhelming
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Losing your dad, especially at this time of year, is so heavy, and it makes sense that everything feels overwhelming. Reaching out doesn’t have to mean finding someone with the perfect words-it could just mean finding someone who’s willing to sit with you in the mess of it all, no fixing, no clichés, just being there. You don’t have to carry this alone, even if it feels that way right now.
@annwe6 someone to sit with would be perfect. Nobody wants to do that though. They want away from that energy as fast as possible. Someone who is willing to just be there by your side while you go through because they understand its rough going through it alone is someone who genuinely cares for you. That cares for you more than spending their time and energy doing things that benefit them directly. People just arent like that though. Instead they just want ti to listen without listening and then say stuff like its hard right now but it will get better. This will pass and your going to be ok. As bad as this seems things could always be worse. Even though it may feel like it, its not thr end of the world, etc., etc., etc.. People are your friend as long as it doesn't cost them more than they receive and when you're feeling hopeless, defeated, and irreparably broken you don't have any thing for yourself much less anything worthwhile to share or give. So many want to say and pretend that's not how it is but in reality its all just crap people say then, then in the same breath that they tell you your not alone, you dont have to do this alone, they use to escape the first opportunity that strikes and that's just how it is whether anyone wants to admit it or not. And who wants to beg someone to care about them? Who wants to keep begging for help when its repeatedly shown that noone thinks you're worth it. When it has becomes more than abundantly obvious the only person you can count on us yourself only you've been beaten down so many times you cant even stand up for yourself anymore, and besides you know what a life like that feels like, like a slow painful, torturous suffering robbing you of you soul piece by piece with each agonizing breath that consumes every calorie of energy your body can muster each time you breathe one in. And I don't know about you but that doesn't seem any kind of life worth living to me.
@@77SunnyDazeInDecember You’re not wrong-most people aren’t equipped to hold space for that kind of pain, and honestly, it’s more about them than you. But please know this: just because so many people fall short doesn’t mean your pain isn’t worth sitting with, or that you’re not worth showing up for. You are.
And even if it feels impossible right now, I hope you can find one small step or even one person who can sit with you in this. I’m not here to hand you platitudes or tell you everything will magically get better, but I do want to say that the fact you’re still here, still sharing these words, means there’s a part of you-however small-that still wants to fight for yourself. And that’s not nothing. You deserve care, compassion, and a space where you don’t have to carry it all alone. I’m so sorry it feels like no one sees that. But I see it. And I’m holding space for you, even if it’s just through these words.