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Mocking in front of other people is what started the demise of my marriage. Her excuse? "social anxiety". Super weird. Anyway, I unsubscribed from all of that. Life is better now.
My father mocked my mother for years and years long before I realized their marriage was doomed and long before they got a divorce. I didn't realize it then, but I am totally sensitive to it now.
I like the way you used the word unsubscribed lol.. effective
Unsubscribed, I like that!
Super B.S.
a woman is not loyal to her man, she is loyal to her emotions
She will be if she has a lot to lose. Be sure she does...
More loyal to her options or lack of options.
*if she has options.
....she should just marry her emotions then
That depends.
A woman goes to the Doctor and asks him, "I'm always fighting with my husband. What can I do to fix him?"
Dr: "Next time you guys are arguing, take a sip of water but don't swallow for 5 minutes."
* one week later she goes back*
"Oh my gosh, we haven't fought all week. How does the water do that!?"
Dr: "The water isn't special or anything, it just keeps your mouth shut long enough for him to fix the thing."
😂
I approve
Good one! 😂 But some people need a whole bottle!
@HeartOnHerSleevewell many people over estimation their worth the modern world is full of vain self important people how you see your worth is not how others see it in the modern world many people contributed little to society
@HeartOnHerSleeve people don't have inherent values. Lmao thats definitely delusional thinking. If people naturally have value then people as a whole would NEVER feel lost and confused and get manipulated. If people had inherent values then we'd have nothing left to learn.
1. The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. 3. A fool's talk brings a rod to his back, but the lips of the wise protect them. Proverbs 14
oooops! Just another psychologist misquoting the bible then. Move over Jordan P.
@@mtlicq I deleted citing of number 2, I think vanity would catch me :I
Amen. God's wisdom is the ultimate wisdom. You a George Bruno/listen my son watcher?
@@lukeswain1752 no, I didn't hear about him before your question. will you shave your hair for the summer
Yeah it was misquoted, but also cut...its an editing thing im guessing...
Wth were you 18 years ago when I was getting married 😂
The wisdom has always been there. Our gynocentric, feminist culture is doing its best to bury it.
But... you can't bury the truth. You can obscure it for a while, but not forever.
RIGHT! LOL!
I don’t agree with arguing and I also don’t agree with walking away technique many people are proud to suggest. Couple should learn to regulate emotion and carry on respectful conversation. If people keep walking away every time they disagree with anything they heard in meeting at work, they would get fired. So why it’s okay to walk away during conversations in relationship.
I said this very thing yo my extremely toxic parents. They storm out of the room like children when I have a difference in taste about something.
Or the more subtle feminine form of anger is through being passive aggressive with answers like "I don't know, I can't remember, I forgot".
Pfft, M do that chit often, and then claim they aren’t aggressive, so it must be ok.😂
@@AlexShiro stop speaking jive and speak English
I’ve learned that when some modern women says there is a lack of good man. What they most likely mean is the tall, mysterious, handsome, wealthy, intelligent men with tons of disposable Income. Who likely hit them up for short term fun in their prime but often don’t want them in the decline.
On point
Good men are out there but they're overlooking the 30s+ women demanding a serious LTR and choosing the 20s hotties and building something fun and personalized with them.
Define "Good" ?
Bingo! Wow. Finally someone is catching on
Why do ALL women feel they are automatically worthy of a good man? What do they have to offer him?
What i've learned as a man is it doesn't matter how wise and intelligent a women appears , her emotions always gets the best of her , so heavily that it distorts her reality, her perception , and her understanding of the opposite gender too. 🖤🖤
Dr Taraban is amazing.
As a woman, I agree with a LOT of this... the demanding answers is a tough one for me personally. I have a need to understand motive, particularly if my gut is sensing something is "off". A lifetime of betrayal didn't make it any easier sure, but understanding the "why" can help explain a LOT to a woman about a man's behavior, can help her feel more connected to him (particularly if he's not much of a sharer), and can clear up any potential misguided actions/feelings due to inadequate communication. Tone, approach, word choice... those can all be adjusted so the man doesn't feel attacked and instead (hopefully) supported.
Yes for me motivation and intent in action is very important. If they hurt me, I can forgive if it wasn’t their intent. If they tell me, what their intent was. However, when I come to him, I feel like he gets defensive and doesn’t want to talk about it. I am trying to use “I feel” statements, not sure how I can change my tone or whatever. I try to come gently, maybe he doesn’t respect that or sees that as not a big deal then based on tone.
@xoxjelloxox Hey Jello, thanks for the response! MAYBE a more structured "I feel" statement?
'I felt (blank) when you said/did (blank) because (blank)". This pinpoints the exact words/actions and the reason why it made YOU feel that way. You could maybe even follow up with "What did you mean by that?" IF the vibe feels safe to do so. We all are unique with different upbringing and understanding. To them, there may be a totally different connotation to statements or maybe you have a specific sensitivity to certain behaviors because of your life experience. I struggle often in my relationship with a language interpretation barrier because my mate is Puerto Rican. He used the phrase "stir the pot" the other day and it gave me huge anxiety. It was something my mom used to say hatefully towards my bonus (step) mom. I fought the urge to be defensive and asked him what he meant by it. He was using it in a TOTALLY different way, as a means to describe motivation to get things done. We've learned a lot about one another but these moments can be tricky sometimes. You just keep working it if it's worth the effort! 🫂
It creates closeness. His advice here is not a slam dunk, and it's misogynistic. Needs a lot of caveats. Perhaps the caveats came after this short was cut off.
One of my STBX's favorite techniques to emasculate was to ignore anything I asked her by stating her own question because that is what we were going to discuss. Somehow we never got back to talking about my original question.
STBX?
@@jackjones9460 Soon to be ex
@@jackjones9460Soon To Be eX
Can relate, everytime a question got answered by a question. Never an answer. I realise now, to some, it is just all a game, it was all it was to them ☺️
@@martinmartin9084just leave and dont look back......those types of women are narcissistic manipulators.
When a woman tries to argue, don't respond. Don't say anything. Walk away. Otherwise, state your point, which will be heard loud and clear, and abandon the conversation. Women do this as a game, but it's always a test for the man.
If you always run from fights then she wins by default. The only winning move is to shut her down, and if she refuses then end the relationship.
@benjaminolsen2381 there is no such thing as "winning." Giving life to her nonsensical argument is immature and indicative of an unstable man, which is exactly what women don't respect.
I understand a certain tests a woman pulls in the very beginning,as long as she doesn't cross certain boundaries. It's female nature,I get it........but certain test are actually outright disrespectful, and grounds for immediate dismissal. And there are only so many tests in total I can deal with. I'm not gonna let a woman test me once a week,or once a month. She can hit the road.
I am sorry. a good man will listen, and notice, that there is a reason for her, to talk about this topic.
@@Maggie.s.p.242 a good man will make sure his best friend in the whole world, his wife, doesn't say something she can't take back.
Most dont care. They wouldnt act that way with someone they truly value. She doesnt care if you leave because you can be replaced easily. They want to impress the guys they actually want so this side of them never gets shown.
Or it gets shown but after a veery long time when she becomes bored of him
Bang on!
They all think that way until the impending collision with the unyielding Wall forces a resentful adjustment to Reality.
The Men they desire don't even bother using them anymore, and if they continue hallucinating, they discover that the "second-string" husband-material Men have moved on too and are uninterested. Even then, they believe that the ptoblem is with the Men they encounter and fill sicial media with lamentations and queries for whereabiuts of "real" Men that will accept their foolishness!
Final stage is cat mithwr hagtivist Karen..
Exactly. 🎯..........or she will show it once she feels the man is emotionally attached to her,and won't leave her,and she gets too comfortable. If a woman is toxic,she can only hide it for so long, unless she is a narcissistic sociopath, and your her beta male provider. Those women are the absolute worst.
The left half of this is how my 2nd wife treated me. She was always bossing me around. Telling me how to act , what to say, how to sit, how to stand , where to look, etc. etc… problem is despite divorcing her and knowing she is narcissistic and her love was transactional, I am still madly in love with her….
First date:
1. Doesn't want to work
2. Wants to be supported
3. Wants a house (I own an apt. bldg and live in it)
4. Questioning why I manage my investments daily
5. In the middle of divorcing her hubby
6. In the middle of moving here
7. Won't tell me when she will be fully here
8. Flying back and forth
9. Wants to move her to be with daughter
I just thinks she just wants some guy to
to house her when she moves to this
very expensive location.
It's best to state clearly what she wants at the beginning? If it's not sure when to move over, how to tell at the beginning?
@@tiffanytiffany4161 You have a valid point. Since I never encountered this before, I was surprised that she would expect me to support her and for her not to work.
This is an extremely expensive area, and I have encountered major expenditures to maintain my rental property. I guess I am surprised by that expectation. With that said, I will probably eliminate her from further consideration. I also had a first date with a test engineer. I think she would both help be out, and contribute; she has a lot of her own assets. We could help each other out.
Im a woman and a psychologist tiffany and I dont get this. Why would a woman expect a man she JUST MET to take her on in this way...think about it, this is COMPLETELY IRRATIONAL. Would you as a woman, do that for a guy you barely knew ...someone on a first date? Anyone who says such things is a user of people and it CAN be a so called friend...."Hey can you put me up for awhile til I get my feet in the ground, we can be really good friends go shopping, get manicures, watch netflix romcoms. How about it tiffany?"
@@tiffanytiffany4161 Well, I was a bit surprised. It seems a bit forward. It seems you should go out 1-3 times and kind of slowly set expectation. My expectation is she would contribute; at least cover her own expenses. I have to be ready to covery major expenses on my rental property; I just bought my way out of one problem, and now I face another problem if insurance companies leave CA. The reason why I tell these stores is that she may not understand what it takes to maintain significant assets in this extraordinarily expensive area. I was also taken aback that she had a negative attitude and combined with a little ignorance when I say I watch the financial markets for 2 hours every morning... She is in the middle of divorcing her husband because she want to be near her daughter but her hubby (who has a good/high paying responsible technical job) doesn't want to move to CA...We'll I can't blame him.....and to divorce the guy? I am thinking I need to either set some boundaries (e.g. not see her until she is fully moved in here and visiting her daughter) or cut her off. Too much risk in this one, so I need to limit my time/resource expenditure.
@@tiffanytiffany4161 Well, I was a bit surprised. It seems a bit forward. It seems you should go out 1-3 times and kind of slowly set expectation. My expectation is she would contribute; at least cover her own expenses. I have to be ready to covery major expenses on my rental property; I just bought my way out of one problem, and now I face another problem if insurance companies leave CA. The reason why I tell these stores is that she may not understand what it takes to maintain significant assets in this extraordinarily expensive area. I was also taken aback that she had a negative attitude and combined with a little ignorance when I say I watch the financial markets for 2 hours every morning... She is in the middle of divorcing her husband because she want to be near her daughter but her hubby (who has a good/high paying responsible technical job) doesn't want to move to CA...We'll I can't blame him.....and to divorce the guy? I am thinking I need to either set some boundaries (e.g. not see her until she is fully moved in here and visiting her daughter) or cut her off. Too much risk in this one, so I need to limit my time/resource expenditure.
I have experienced all of this…..last night at work I got called a girl (as a man) by a female and then I just looked at my coworker like “did you really just say that?” And all she and another female coworker did was laugh. It was totally disrespectful. It is near impossible to work in majority female work space. I’ve experienced things like this countless times and it will never get taken seriously as I’m the man in the equation.
I would have asserted them by telling them I am about to change my gender, just to feel closer to you cuties.
Do'nt take them serious ... they're just overgrown poorly behaved children.
Humor is the intersection of the safe and the unsafe. There's safety and danger in taking either your side or hers, so she laughs.
It always goes from high to low, so we shouldn’t demand explanations and answers from our government or institutions? We should shut up and let them do what they want to because of their “authority”?
The demand to for an explanation doesn’t depend on which direction it’s going. It depends on whether someone is behaving in a way that needs explanation.
Exactly. I was confused on that as well. Good point
Not really. The things you just mentioned are still about power. In the U.S. the government often makes sure employers behave properly, therefore an employee has some boundaries that must be respected.
On the flip side voters decide to some extent who is in charge of the government, the populace has the ability to replace government leaders every few years, so politicians need to behave (not get caught in reality).
In total power situations, a slave doesn’t get to ask his/her master what he’s doing.
Government agents are supposed to be our public SERVANTS. Somewhere along the line people forgot this. Your example still fits in his model if it is viewed as it ought to be.
@@DuncanL7979 of course, and the people who forgot are the government agents, not all the rest of us. It's the ones who overstep the boundaries of their power for selfish reasons, failing in that responsibility. The positions they hold are still "public servants" but ultimately they are the ones writing and stamping the laws.
If what they stamp and veto fails the community, the community is owed an explanation and more than a few answers. "Explain why you failed as the one we chose to represent us", and if that answer is (as it far too often is with politicians and other 'leaders') some selfish/corrupt reason, they should be held accountable.
So woman is low level to man? What toxic channel
I wouldn’t generalize and say it’s “women” or “men” who have particular tendencies, it takes two to tango, and so much more needs to be taken into consideration such as values, love languages, unresolved wounds, attachment styles, expectations, communication styles, ability to repair, just to name a few. Relationships are a dance between two people; both need to put in effort and have the patience to learn each other. It’s a process but unfortunately in today’s age many treat it like a drive thru.
Goes both ways.
❤ thank you for helping us
Wise words!!! ❤
I think those who still think like that still live under a rock somewhere! And have not experienced/followed the evolution of change. We no longer live in 1950 where women had nothing to say and the man was indeed the one who led - brought money to the table - had a voice, etc. Meanwhile, women also have rights and they can also speak about how their husbands treat them. It is wonderful and beautiful if you still find a man who takes good care of his wife/girlfriend. And I'm not just talking about the financial aspects, but also about the mental - emotional - psychological, etc, understanding and offering this to his girlfriend/wife. But such men are rare. Today's men only want to do their own thing (don't contribute anything to the relationship, but still demand that their partner listens - follows them - doesn't cut corners - doesn't ask questions, etc., sorry, but that's not possible. You can't make demands if you don't do anything yourself, you have to contribute! You have to remain honest and fair about this. We women are not an object to use. And fortunately times have changed and we have more rights. So those who still think like that in the video (that women are at the bottom and are not allowed to have a voice ) are, in my opinion, very insecure men. Real men have evolved and understand that a relationship has no (the high and a low). But that is my opinion 🤷🏼♀️.
Such men are rare..........because men have nothing to gain by taking care of a modern woman. It's a waste of time,energy and money.
Are you getting the results you desire?😊
@@TheAustrianPainter87 Of course: she desires to argue and assert her personality and be dramatic . . . and that's what she's doing.
Quit trying to define masculinity
The right to ask for explanations does not always presuppose a power differential. That's patently untrue. If anything, it presupposes some kind of obligation, as in an job scenario, or high trust, as in friendships.
I love that our boy is getting more and more RPed especially since he went to Japan.
Exactly. That trip to Japan was really eye opening for him.
@@handsomeXwell remember women tend not to marry anymore In japan and thé Islande are losing millions of inhabitants because tradition is over
Women disrespect a man by demanding what they themselves are not prepared to offer i.e be my default boyfriend while I thot about.
I remember reading that and realizing that was my x 20 years ago.
Yeah, mine just destroyed ours for the past yr. And now I will be single and Happy.
Great info
You are right on point..men always keep quiet when disrespected but keep count of all incidences and always are observant....men usually leave or reduce the throttle in the relationship to complete halt when not valued...women need to understand that the value of a progressive man increases with time when treated right....thus being patient, humble and understanding with him...u will reap gold at the end of the day and gain promotion as a lady of the house
So true.
It’s strange to see emotional regulation in action. You could be explaining exactly how you feel, being, vulnerable, honest and empathetic. Yet she will be cold, distant and create an opportunity to change the dynamics from romantic to friendship, whatever works in her favor.
Excellent thoughts, very true...
Thousands of years and they still have not and refuse to learn
It's a misquote. The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with *her own hands.* In other words she takes an active role and bears primary responsibility for its destruction
Agreed this is a misquote. I'm not sure I agree with your interpretation. But glad you caught this 😊
The Bible also says that you should treat your loved one’s as an equal!! 🤷🏼♀️
Instead of “ the high and the low “ 👎🏻!
He never said women are of lesser value
I'd like to see a similar video on how men lose the women they want.
Yeah a man will always lose a woman by his actions.
Good men don't f*ck up things they value.
By loving and caring for her. By committing to her. By treating her well. Lol 😂😅
@@mrsherwood2599most women don't want good men. They want use good men.......after bad men have run through them.
Commitment. Women hate that. They'll tell you otherwise though 😊
And that's why it's important to know what the Bible actually says, so you can't get hoodwinked by smooth-talkers. "A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.". (Not her mouth) -- Proverbs 14:1
In reality, she does it with her mouth much more so than her hands.
And you're playing the "take the words from the bible literally" game. Because nothing in the verse contradicts what he says.
Are women going around with sledgehammers smashing their homes?
Or are they actually ruining households (the concept) with their words and actions?
The verse is speaking about destroying her home by her own doing (...her "hands").
@@garthy4u also..I would never hear she build her own home. She bought it from property agents.
I think he is making an intelligent alteration to the proverb.
Hands are the actual activities followed up after her mouth .
That’s why we are supposed to answer a fool accordingly to his folly !
Otherwise they are wise in their own conceit!
so true
Brilliant
The self-destruct button: Demanding an answer to a question that you can't handle. Most women just need to learn when to back off and chill vs when to push something.
Like what? Asking if you were cheating? Where were you? Please give an example if you didnt mean dont ask about the other women
@susanhaines7358 More like "why is [whatever situation] always happening to me." When it's a thing that she's doing that's always causing conflict.
If I've dedicated myself to ignoring it then I don't want to risk our relationship trying to figure it out with her (if that makes sense).
@@alanshezar8163 the man can't handle...I get that. I thought you meant the woman. Makes sense. Sensory overload etc is a big deal
@@susanhaines7358 Sure.🤷🏾♂️
@susanhaines7358 Tbh, I definitely meant the woman.
I really don’t want to seem bitter, but I keep getting into situations like this where women insist on messing up a good thing by overthinking. I would love to be married and have children but at 50 I feel like it’s too late.
I had my kid at 40. I think even that is pushing it. That being said, I know a 60 year old that is having another kid. Way too late IMHO. Every child deserves to have their father in their life.
You might have better luck in eastern Europe or South America.
Nope... No need to be married or cohabitate. Everything can be negotiated, prior to commitment... If there's a deal breaker walk away...
I think that over thinking comes with age and past trauma/failure that seeps into women's relationship ideas. Not sure there's a fix beyond finding a woman with less baggage.
@@yupindeed5422 You are young! There are a lot of single women near your age.
Serious question about the last two. Demanding an explanation and interrogation
Orion is a treasure of knowledge.
@ the VERY 1st time my X embarrassed me in front of family and friends 👁 knew the marriage was over and done
Allll facts
I agree with most of this. But I don't see that we are not allowed to ask our husband a question, a wise preacher once said that the worse forms of error in the Church are not outright lies, they are often a truth taken to far or to the extreme. I believe it's the way you say things (tone of voice), respect and honour comes from the heart. We also have a need to be respected.
Yes,the tone is very important.
Ask questions curiously, like you're trying to learn, not aggressively and blunt like you're trying to extract information and forcing your guy to try and explain himself.
@@DJ_Mooseknucks he was clear with his words. They understand... feminism just makes it a blow to a woman's ego
@@DJ_Mooseknuckslol. Women who love men deserve all these. I don't feel sorry for them. Only a man can ask a question? Smh
@lolabear8349 - I agree with your point, (but not your pastor's point).
The right to demand and the right to ask questuons... Those are the ones that kill me.
Listen, im a decent guy, amd you can certainly ask questions...
But check yoyrself... And ask them in a respectful way.
For thousands of years men only had the option to step up and meet the challenge. Within the last century the sisterhood gave men another option which is to step aside. So now that many men are getting ruined by the modern legal system more are opting to step aside rather than step up.
Alright demanding an explanation is maybe disrespectful but what about simply asking? I personally regret not asking more to some people (especially men in my life). My shyness, embarassement and sometimes assuming things made me refrain from asking and made me misunderstand situations and people's intentions in my opinion. Also I'm afraid my not being curious about their feelings made me look careless and like I didn't care whereas I really was just hurt and wasn't sure what to say. I think asking and having conversations can be important and also learn to remember that both men and women have feelings and we shouls try to empathise as much as we can ❤
Truth
Proverbs 14:1 "The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands."
Well said I agree 100%
Yoohoo952 nailed it!!
The Bible and proverbs is full of wisdom. The main point is, Follow God.
Using the Bible in relationship advice would be more like: "Be a Godly man, then you will have character, and know what is and how to handle a Godly woman.
So speak only when you feel your words are better than your silence..
What if the questions are about behaviors that are disrespectful of HER
I don't talk to women 😎
I can guarantee no woman is hankering for your attention
This only matters if you do relationships. Which I don’t tend to do since they’re a man made prison and you’re doing time
Ohhhh that's good! Thank you for sharing Obi-Wan. 🙌
FACTS 💯🎯
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1
Wow i Never thought about the "demanding answers" in the context of Respect and thinking about it it is actually very disrespectful, It's the kind of conversation you had with your mother, she demanded answers from you with intentions to punish you. A wife should communicate by expressing what's bothering her and give her husband the opportunity to fix it or make sense of it.
Demanding explanations is criticizing his leadership and devotion and implying that he's somehow not being good enough husband and she set up consequences for him, when he's the one who chose her to marry her
I agree with you! I don’t see how we can view a relationship as a hierarchy when both parties earn income.
🤔🧐🤫 It's actually amazing how few words it takes for a woman to destroy a relationship.
😳🤷😵
Goes both ways.
If a man says you are disgusting, it's done. 3 words, potentially 1.
100%!
Accepting attention from other men they should obviously be rejecting is another way women disrespect men.
I feel for him he should h😂ave said "Im paraphrasing a Bible qoute to make a certain point here:xxxxxxxx."
Im a clinical psychology professor
who grew up in south Texas ...part of the Bible belt.
I knew kids who had read the entire Bible, I knew some who were whizzes at Bible quotes. I went to Baptist Bible school one summer. I attended TENT revivals in the 1950s....I would never attempt to quote the Bible on YT because for certain there will be readers who dont even have to look it up. And you proved that correct...several of you.
However he is correct that women do this far too often. They do it in couples' therapy sessions.
Women are higher in neuroticism than men...they see and intuit threats, sometimes non existent threats men dont because they are and have been for thousands of years, more vulnerable physical prey to animals and other people. Thus it is a survival tool...to flee or if cornered, fight as a last resort physically. Sadly this carries over to into relationships.
I founded two womem's abuse centers and was president of the boards of both...we hired masters degreed women with solid psychological counseling backgrounds. It is a fact that more women INITIATE physical,attacks on partners...men do more DAMAGE often being usually larger. But some women are very volatile and have anger management problems, just as SOME men do and if anyone has ever seen such a woman acting out in public, they know it isnt a nice sight.
Preach... Or, they do the opposite and don't open their mouths to apologize or yield...
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You have misquoted Proverbs 14:1 "The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands."
But there is Proverbs 9:13 A foolish woman is clamorous; She is simple, and knows nothing.
(Though in a number of translations the woman is seen as a poetic representation of foolishness)
More pointed is the idea stated in 2 verses Proverbs 21:9 and Proverbs 25:24 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
We all die single if this is the requirement we put on women.
Don't worry, woman are doing a good job already
What's wrong with being unmarried?
No! That can't be because women are emotionally intelligent, right ladies?...
What do you mean high to low
Interesting, and right on point! It makes me wonder how much disrespect is too much? It seems that we (men) will always need to navigate women's turmoils caused sometimes by their hormones, but how much do we need to put up with? I am sure one guy can tolerate it for one day and then leave...and another guy will tolerate it for his entire life.
her mouth showing her mind
is how a woman takes her looks
from 8 to 4 OR ups her rating
from 5 to 9
How would a woman respectful how her partner accountable? I’m seriously asking
It depends on what the guy did to arouse her to interogate him. Did he spend their entire bank account? Did he disappear for 2 weeks without any warning? It's dangerous to make these generalizations of what men and women shouldn't do. It all needs to be reasonable.
Yep🎉
No. Women are not LESS THAN men. This nonsense where men get to do and ask all these things, but women can't needs to be done with. If she asks her partner to let her know where he is going when he goes out, and he does it, it only makes their relationship closer, instead of a roommates situation, for example. She'll be happier for not stuffing her words and desires in as well.
My Ex ironically was very good at parties to not openly disrespect me, though she was clever enough to do so in other ways, i.e. a covert narcissist. On the other hand, I know a guy who's been married over 20 years to an OPENLY mouthy, disrespecting woman. He's been on a long road of quietly bearing it while growing more of a spine over time. Plus, I let him know I wasn't going to tolerate her picking fights with me ( and then weasling out when I pushed back on her political opinions, for example ), that she either better not provoke me or I'll just leave. That did a lot to curb her mouth, but still, how have they stayed together? Some people are on an equal plane of dysfunction and they make it work. More power to them. Two sides to every story as well...he's not fully innocent, either.
And men never disrespect women? I know way more men who make demands and ask questions of women than vice versa.
… not in-wasting un-earned-before respect isn’t equivalent to ‘dis-respecting’. it’s just staying on square, un-moved by what’s being noticed, presumably.
He thinks it is ok because apparently, the man is always superior to the woman and gets to to and say what he wants, while the woman being inferior needs to stuff her words and desires down.
This is not fair as it sounds like you are saying women are not to ask questions to their husbands? Wives can and do have expectations and non-negotiables. Like I expect my husbands sexuality exclusively, and for me that includes online activities. It’s a non-negotiable for me. With porn as rampant as it is today, women must state their expectations if exclusivity is one of them. And if I notice something, yes I will bring it to his attention, ask questions and state my expectations. Just as I am faithful to do my best to fulfill his, I expect the same effort. Your advices are not for the young couple, who saved themselves, did not do hook up culture and want a traditional marriage. Your advice seems more geared towards the trending topics and for adults who are still dating because they messed around too much when younger. Just my impression…. Also, please read the Bible if you are going to quote it - the correct verse is “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1
That's not the Bible verse.
A wise woman builds her house and destroys it with her own HANDS.
@@valerie32973Almost! You missed a couple most important words in that verse!
The *_wise_* woman builds her house; But the *_foolish_* pulls it down with her hands.
@@valerie32973 - point being:
if you leave out the word _"foolish"_ then it would read _as if_ a wise woman tears it down
That’s not what it says in the bible
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
That's why I be so mad
Women hate when we tell them to stfu, be quiet, stop talking, etc. In reality it's a mans a last ditch effort to not walk away.
@HeartOnHerSleeve Statistically, women actually tend to stay in those relationships. Are you implying that women on average have no common sense?
@HeartOnHerSleeve You said that "with any common sense, she will run the other way." It was your words. That being said, many men and women both are ending up single. Not by choice. On top of that... saying stfu if a woman is being verbally abusive is actually in the man's best interest. Women typically don't consider a man's feelings when she is upset. She doesn't consider how the man's day has been and to put it simply, doesn't care. The "stfu" line is often reserved for when a woman is disrespectful, inconsiderate, and not giving the man enough personal space and solidarity. Take some time to reflect on this before responding emotionally. Don't blame men for your lack of understanding and compassion.
@HeartOnHerSleeve Wow, shutting down instead of discussing? You're doing all the things that you're saying that I'm doing lol. Projection at its finest. Take some time to reflect on yourself and figure out why you don't understand men and you can't communicate well with them. Many men can communicate effectively with women, but not many women can communicate effectively with men. Good luck to you.
If they're sleeping with others
I'm not going to stop them
Nor do I have delusions that they'll suddenly will see the light from my halo
I want to know I'm the first choice not figure that out as I latch onto his ankle picking my teeth with his toe nails
F**K that 💩
When i get angry i shut up and go for a run. And sfter 8 years, hoping he will marry me i like being alone😂
what century are you living in mate?
This is the modern woman, black women especially
This argument assumes that the man is psychologically sound and the woman is inherently flawed. Don't men demand explanations and interrogate women on the flimsiest of things?
And the Bible also says to turn your tongue 7 times in your mouth before you start talking
where?
Very interesting tip anyway.
Lol the kind of man who talks about power differentials in a marriage, is the kind who wants power over another and has probably been abusing his partner, thinking that will establish him as the more powerful one. It’s a psychological issue and it shows you how mentally disturbed the man is. He doesn’t want a marriage. He wants power. That’s what he places value on because every time his wife asks a question, he thinks he’s being interrogated. That’s immature.
I’ve seen men interrogate and argue their way to divorces. They thought that they had the right to interrogate, demean, harass and bully. They thought that they were high up and that the woman was answerable to any irrational
emotions, triggers, random hurts of anger or tantrums they threw. They argued for hours. Literally for hours. Shouting in people’s faces without their victims shouting back. They were served divorce papers.
You should ask yourself WHY a man would even use the word “interrogation” and claim that he has the right to interrogate. It has a very negative connotation. What could possibly happen in the 4 walls of a home, of a family living a regular life, that could justify an interrogation? Wearing short sleeves? Not calling the in laws over for dinner? Talking back when your husbands is abusive? Do any of these warrant an interrogation? I think not. That’s why they were served divorce papers.
Ironically, these men deliberately sought women who weren’t financially independent and also didn’t want wives with careers. They deliberately wanted to place themselves at a financial advantage to try to have power over their wives. The wives knew this and eventually divorced them, after decades of service, one sided contributions, no emotional support, condescension, finding faults, being ungrateful, lack of support and abuse. So, men who think that they are high up and that women are below them, are delusional and life has a way of giving men them a reality check 🌟
That's why a woman must not interrupt a man and barge into his business uninvited. Men need and want peace and silence to rejuvenate their minds for a break. Can't you stop being sus, sister? Sheesh.🙄
There's nothing wrong with asking for an explanation. So what, we're supposed to suppress our needs and wants to get clarity? Sometimes we need context and for something hurtful to be explained. That's all.
You're right. It can be done respectfully.
The problem is, in too many men's experiences, it's done disrespectfully, accusingly, with contempt & dismissively as a matter of course as if normal.
If your man doesn't respond positively to a respectful question about an issue or concern, get out of that relationship.
Women are not human according to the red pillers. That is why I have no time for men.
Nothing but Facts, the problem is that society does nothing to tackle the way woman abuse. Even the media actively promotes it in all the shows to the point where it is normalized
A man is always respected when he deserves it.
Worddd !!!
What exactly does that mean?
Not
This statement is asanine. If that were true, men would only be disrespected when they deserve it. No way you can make a blanket statement like that unless youre going to say women are perfect. Theres such thing as bad followers.
except by ppl. who aren’t capable of accessing such, to begin with. that’s why self-respecting rational gents need to detach from external validation, in particular from xx.s
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Jezebel spirit is all you need to say
You tell them again anain and again to stop it, but they don't even try. I think the Quran has itbright about this, and, this is different, Muhammad, pbuh, said that there will be two women for every man in hell becaus of this behavior and ingratitude, to their husbands, who are required to provide for them, in Islam, because (some) women are never satisfied.
Is this guy married, and for how long?
I doubt it. I find that most people who work in the area of relationship advice will tell you that they're in a relationship to give them more 'authority' on the subject. Kind of like, 'I know what I'm talking about because I've been in a happy marriage for the last 15 years.' Orion has never spoken about a marriage, so I presume he's single. Moreover, he went to Japan a couple of months ago for a fairly long period (a month, I believe) which might be difficult to organize time-wise with a wife.
He hates women. He literally has a problem with women. He said somewhere that he will never date an American woman so someone upset him.
He probably doesn’t get the girls he wants and this is his backlash
Hight to the low??....is he for real ?
1A wise woman builds her house.
But a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands. Not her mouth!! Maybe get the verse right before going on UA-cam. Have your say by all means. But to build and destroy to me, gives a different context.