1. Pain management 2. Support person’s name & relation 3. Labor specific preferences 4. What you want to avoid 5. C-section preferences 6. Cord blood and placenta plan 7. Newborn preferences 8. Feeding plan
I had a midwife and it was amazing, as everything on my “birth preferences” list she already supported and encouraged, and were routine in her practice anyway. Examples: intermittent fetal monitoring ad opposed to continuous, active and upright labor, upright pushing & delivery as opposed to lithotomy position, water immersion during labor (and also delivery), my water to break on its own as opposed to artificial rupture, minimal cervical checks during labor, dimmed lighting, aromatherapy, birth affirmations on the wall, delayed cord clamping & cutting - preferably until after placenta was delivered, immediate and extended skin to skin, no bath or even wiping down of baby to take off vernix, placenta encapsulation, etc. This list is not too much to ask for, but so many people I know have had to ask permission and from their doctors and nurses to do certain things and fight for what they want, and have even been scoffed at for expressing preferences. I loved that I was not looked down upon for preferring a more physiological birth experience rather than a highly medicalized one, but rather applauded and 100% supported 😊
Nicole Andromidas I’m glad it was helpful ❤️ It’s so empowering going into the birth of your child with knowledge, the ability to make informed decisions, and feeling like you have a voice 💪 I recommend reading book Babies Are Not Pizzas. It’s pretty eye opening and will leave you feeling empowered to be your own advocate during the process. The author is the founder of Evidence Based Birth, which is another wonderful and informative source for all things birth! 😊
Hmmm 🤔 my preference would be to have you as my nurse/midwife haha your amazing ❤ im 39 weeks today and super excited to meet my little man 😍 just wanted to say a big thank you for all your tips and tricks and for always having such a positive energetic vibe. The world needs more people like you x
1. Your energy and personality is amazing 2. This was a HUGE help. I am only 17 and a half weeks with my first and had absolutely no idea what a birth plan even was so this was great
I have 3 videos I’d love to see, 1) moms who are plus size/ overweight 2) moms going into labor who have cptsd/ptsd from previous trauma, 3) mamas giving birth with pcos
1. Pain Management Plan 2. Names and Role of Support People 3. Plan for Labor 4. Medical Inventions Preference (what's okay with you, what isn't?) 5. C-section Preference 6. What is your Plan for Cord Blood and Placenta 7. Newborn Preference 8. Feeding Preference 9. Anxieties or Triggers (related to birth) 10. How Can your Care Team make you Feel Safe & Comfortable
Anxiety about the possibility of not having any control over labor is a huge part of what has kept me from having a child, so this video is hugely helpful. I know I can't have full control, but my biggest anxiety is doctors and nurses doing things without permission, me being pushed around, no one listening to my preferences, etc. So it does make me feel better to know that I can lay this information out and have it to refer people back to.
Don't be anxious! I'm currently expecting my first baby, and truth be told, I was in your shoes. Not having control is the one thing that freaks me out about the whole process, but I took a childbirth class (Bradley Method) and it's given me tools to help cope with pretty much any outcome but mostly a focus on natural childbirth, which is what I'm inclining toward. There are actually many aspects of your birth you can control, and knowing that gave me peace of mind. You just really need the right tools and information so you know exactly what is happening and can make an informed decision that will leave you feeling empowered REGARDLESS of what kind of birth you're going to have. There are also many different childbirth classes out there. Feel free to find the right one for you. I recently read an article where a couple actually took said course pre-pregnancy and it helped them get into the mindset to have a baby and later got pregnant. You could always try doing something like that and see how you feel about the process.
I have a very hostile attitude towards hospitals and doctors and all things hospitals. Sounds, lighting, smells, literally everything. The esthetic of hospital rooms. Hospitals are for sick and hurt people and that’s always been my mentality. I’ve always seen birth as something so beautiful and spiritual. And trust me I get it complications are very real thing. I just have a hard time accepting that fully? I know I’m so hard headed. Idk what to do I dreamt of a homebirth but I’m low income I don’t have money for that. I’m grateful I have Medicaid and have not paid a single penny for any prenatal appointments. I’m praying taht I can go in the hospital relaxed and trusting, and I pray I get really sweet nurses that will respect my birthing preferences within reasonable means
Thank you! I'm due with my 1st any day now and this gives me a lot more confidence. I'll definitely be making a birthing plan now. This is a good quality video. 🙂
Yes there are a lot of goodies in the cord blood so it’s also good to point out delayed cord clamping so that baby can get all those good benefits instead.
Hi..Watching you from Dubai..Pregnant for the first time..your Videos are super Helpful as i dint knowmany things earlier..Thankyou so much.. I m 20 weeks today..I m A hijabi muslim ..that means i would like to be covered most of the time ..that was a good point to be written on the birth plan..
Wow! SO, I NEVER wanted to give birth, always planned on adopting because of several sexual traumas...Life happens, now, not only I am TTC as an older woman 43, which many are against, but I'm actually considering a non epidural vaginal birth after reading about how much healthier baby is! I just thought I would have to constantly manage anxiety or triggers, because surprise vaginal pain IS a trigger for me! I never thought I could put it in a Birth Plan about my trauma and have some control over being covered, male nurses, etc... Thank you SO much!!!
Thank you so much for your videos Sarah! You literally address ALL the questions in such a detailed manner and again...with humour! You are so caring and encouraging! I wish all the nurses were like you! ❤
Sitting here with my pen and paper writing this all down lol! 31 weeks tomorrow can't wait to meet my baby. This will be my second vbac and I want to try without an epidural this time!! Thank you so much for your videos they've really been helpful to me to prepare myself for the birth of my baby. Thanks so much Sara!!!!:)
@@zehranehar7892 Find a supportive provider, first of all. I didn't have a doula but that would probably be a great idea! I'm going to have one this time. And trust your body that's one the biggest things you can do. With my csection I got induced three times and was pregnant almost 42 weeks I didn't dilate at all. With my vbac when the doctor checked me at my 40 week appointment and I wasn't dilated I immediately felt disappointed! I thought oh here we go again I'm never going to dilate and end up having to get another csection. Well my doctor wouldn't let me give up! He told me to have patience, we wanted to allow my body to go into labor on it's own and if it didn't he'd induce me at 41 weeks. Well at 40 weeks 2days I started having contractions 5 to 10 minutes apart! 2 days later I delivered my precious baby boy vaginally without being induced!! Trust your body! YOU CAN DO IT! When doubt creeps into your mind, push it aside and believe in yourself!:)
@@zehranehar7892 Your welcome!! Wishing you luck on your vbac!! I was so dang proud of my body after my vbac, I felt like yes my body can do this!! Hopefully you get the birth your hoping for🤞
I really pray my care team has as much care and passion as you. I totally plan to do this but I am also nervous that they will be not receptive of it... How can I advocate for myself/husband nicely asking to use these preferences for awareness? .. welp you answered my question about 14:25 started with my doctor "flex and flow possiblity..." Lol "kinda where my head is at"
Interview doctors first! And watch the staff hun cause my butt would get up and leave if I wasn’t being heard at all, I’ve seen a lot of people go in and have police called on them because they weren’t listening to the nurses and what they wanted
Wow!!!!!!!! I wish I saw this 6 years ago when my daughter was born!!!!! I had such a traumatizing experience... I didn't realize the nurse's perspective. I love your videos. Thank you ♥️🌹♥️🌹♥️🌹🌼
This video was such a great resource! I really had no idea other than pain management preferences, of what could potentially be helpful for my team to know. Thank you!
This was so helpful, thank you! I suffer from panic attacks, and doctors/hospitals always trigger my anxiety. I will definitely be adding this to my sheet! God, I just learned about AFE the other day, and I'm traumatized/terrified now. All I pray for is a healthy and safe birth with pain management.
Alicia Luoma praying for your labor! In my birth I really learned how Birth Education was a must to help with eliminating fear, especially the fear of the unknown.
Thank you so much for all of these videos! I’m a third time mom, 39 weeks pregnant currently. I have learned so much through your videos over this last trimester and I wish I had found your videos sooner! Working on our rough birth preference sheet tonight. Thank you for the guidelines, as I’ve never had one before! ❤
I just have to say how grateful I am for your channel. I had my third in October and had been binging your videos for about four or five months before. My labor was completely different than my first two and had all the fun interventions (after two prior unmedicated/minimal intervention births). I kept reminding myself Flex and Flow, flex and flow. My hospital staff was amazing and because of all that had to happen, I was so glad I’d learned from you about how to ask questions. Thank you for sharing so much with us!
My husband and I will be TTC baby #1 starting in July. I love watching your videos in anticipation and preparation. I'm a major planner and I always need the reminder to be flexible. You are great! Keep doing what you're doing.
I made a birth plan and I had like I wanted to be able to walk, shower, move about, listen to music ex... and when I got to the hospital and asked my husband to give my birth plan to the nurse she cringed and said " ugh can you just tell me and not give me the paper" I looked at her puzzled and she said that it was like a curse to have a birth plan and told another nurse walking by the door not to come in my room bc I brought a birth plan. First time laboring in 2019 first time everything and I felt like I had no support and my sweet husband had no clue what to do with that or even when I was laboring and they kicked my mom out of my room bc my blood pressure was high. It was horrible thinking for the next one of getting someone like you to help
I would love a video on the effects of birth control on your fertility later in life. I’m seeing more and more women struggle with infertility and although I don’t want children for a few years I’m worried that my HBC use now will affect my future fertility.
Yessss! I really wish I would have known that it can take a bit for your cycles to come back or regulate. I went off the pill at the beginning of October(2019) and didn't have a period until Thanksgiving. I had 3 periods between October and now, and it's really stressful to be trying when you have no idea when you're fertile. Ovulation strips helped identify, but it was really emotionally taxing.
YESSSS, I’d love to know the risks and benefits of the multiple options for bc after having my first child. I DO want to have more children, just not right now. But being that I’m already 25 and so many women are having infertility issues younger and younger, I’d like to take the safest route.
Postive story: I started hormonal birth control at 11years old to help regulate my cycle. I stayed on birth control until just passed my 24th birthday (September is when I came off). I had my period within the week. My first cycle was a nightmare, every symptom in the book, it was wild. I was used to hardly any symptoms! The next cycle I was pregnant. I used the app clue to roughly track my cycle as I am very forgetful and previously relied on the pills for that. I am 31 weeks tomorrow with a baby boy 😁
Yes I would like to see this as well as women developing intense anxiety from it im almost certain that is what happened to me as my anxiety came out of nowhere in my early 20s and never got better
Hi Sarah! I love, love, love your education!! We’re planning on starting our family this year and I want to buy your course as soon as we (hopefully) get pregnant. 🤞🏻 Anyway, I would love to learn more about delivering the placenta. I feel like there’s a lot of information out there about pregnancy and birth but I don’t know what to expect when I comes to that part of the delivery experience! I videoed a friend’s second birth last fall, and after the baby was born the midwife pressed on the mom’s belly which apparently was to help the mom’s uterus contract and deliver the placenta? The mom was cringing and said it’s the worst part of labor so I’m just wondering if that’s normal or if there are other options? Do you have a video about this already or could you potentially make one? 😃
I’m 35 weeks now! So glad I watched this video I learned a lot specially to prepare my birth preferences. I don’t really know what to expect. Thanks for this very informative video. Keep up the good work Sarah.. 🥰😍
I’m so glad I didn’t have an exact birth plan with my first. The most important things to me were no c section and no epidural. I went into labor at 34 weeks so I needed IV antibiotics 4 hours apart. While waiting all I felt like doing in laying in bed. I thought I wanted all the natural pain management positions and shower. I thought I wanted just my husband and I ended up with my parents there also most of the time. If I would have had my mind set idk how happy I would have been with the experience.
I’m so glad I found you! I’m on baby number 3 but both times I’ve been in L&D I felt so weird to ask for things. My mentality was Docs and Nurses know best so I should just let them handle this. So long story short some things happened that I wasn’t completely comfortable with. I feel better knowing that nurses do want to hear my wants. Do you have any suggestions about prayer? As in having a quick prayer before we start the pushing and after baby is out??? Thanks in advance!
I swear I’m the same way! I’m 7 months now with my second my first pregnancy was kind of a rush I just went in and let them do their own thing but this time around I want to plan. I think I’m going to talk to my doctor about creating a birth plan because I don’t want any confusion when that time comes.
I get you, but because of the mentality out there now against religion especially Christianity you may not want to offend anyone. I say 20 decades of the Rosary during an early labour walk. I keep praying while I wait for things to progress. Something weird that happens to me while I’m labouring and giving birth is I sing all my childhood Igbo praise and worship songs, trust me I’m sure I’m off key and I don’t even know I’m singing, my midwife and support nurses just laugh cause I think my pitch goes up and down depending on my pain level, I rather do that than listen to some birth affirmations. After birth I do skin to skin and start to pray in thanksgiving and bless my child once baby is handed to me.
I had everything respected up to after baby was born! Everything happens so fast and they kind of do things very fast while you are in a love bubble and don’t really care what’s going on.
@@sarahlavonne def won’t have any good luck in that category I live in a very very small town and the health care system could not be worse here … it’s very disturbing that The nurses and doctors will tell anyone and everyone all of your information and medical history, share what medicine your on and beyond… I personally know all of this because I am a color specialist at a salon below the hospital and here everyone talking about the entire town. It is absolutely horrible.. I am scared to beyond words to have to go to this hospital
Thank you so much for this video! I'm due May 29th with my first baby. And there are so many preferences for birth that I hadn't even thought about yet. Especially considering most birthing classes near me are on hold with the coronavirus going on.
I love your personality. Very personable. One thing I would suggest would be to slow down with the list. I did have to keep rewinding to catch everything. But no big deal just a little suggestion 😊
My birth plan I have had for 3 of my 4 births were pictures with small sayings under them. Every doctor/nurse loved it. I didnt find the template until my 2nd baby.
Mamas remember it is your birth and your body and you can refuse ANYTHING. Make sure your OB/midwife has this by 32 weeks to ensure that they will follow your preferences. Then give another to the nurse at the hospital. I told the nurses over and over that I didn’t want pain meds with my first and was laughed at and mocked and pushed for an epidural.
Thank you for your advice and videos Sarah! Your nephew is so cute🥰and your sister is beautiful! FTM here due June 25, 2021and very nervous...😨 Quick question: How should I submit my birth preferences to my doctor and nurses before labor?
Hi I’m 32 weeks with my first baby and I’m having a boy. My baby is in a cephalic position and Idk what to put on my birth plan I haven’t even thought about this till someone mentioned it to me
Hi Sarah, I want video about placenta encapsulation, please. Im interested how it works in your country? Do you have specific laws about that? How it goes for women who are giving birth at hospital?
I have a question about feeding new baby. We had a traumatic birth experience first time around and have decided that we will formula feed this time around. I'm not opposed to expressing colostrum in the weeks before birth and had a great supply last time. How much colostrum would I need to express for the first 24 hours? Nutritionally is it worth it to freeze and defrost then feed to baby? Would that kill off the antibodies?
I just found an old birth plan of mine and had a good laugh. Towards the top of the list is said LEAVE ME ALONE and then again towards the bottom it said did I mention LEAVE ME ALONE!!!! I really like to labor in silence. I don’t want to be poked, prodded, checked, asked questions. Just leave me alone and let me birth in peace!
With my first born, I told my doctor I wanted to discuss my birth plan with her. She said she doesn't deal with birth plans and it will go how it goes ... I didn't even. Get skin to skin :(
If a birth plan is important to you and a doctor won't even acknowledge it, you could think about switching doctors. I've heard of people switching at 8 o 9 months. It's hard but if you are feeling unsatisfied it may be an option to consider.
I’m actually allergic to the medication that goes into the epidural so is that something I would need to specify as a reason for not wanting it I’m also allergic to some other pain medications as well I realize it would be in my records but would it also be helpful to add into my birth plan just so there is no confusion or would that be less helpful because it’s already in my medical history
It's a low-dose epidural, just to take the edge off rather than numb you out. You typically can't actually walk (even if just for safety reasons), but you may be more able to move yourself in the bed, you can follow your contractions better, it wears off more quickly
In europe tgey dont give enemas. Peeing/defecating by acciident during pushing is natural!! They have gloves; they will whipe it andwash and reglove up!
Unfortunately, my biggest trigger is the degree of harassment after birth. L&D nurses & doctors are different than maternity ward doctors & nurses. I wish there was a way to request that i do not have to talk to any doctor after birth unless they are checking on a complication with me or my child. The harassment particularly from the pediatricians is deeply triggering for me. There have been a couple of my births where i had just moved and needed some time to connect with people in my area to get a pediatrician and didn't want them interrupting my sleep or refusing to discharge me simply cause they wanted to insist they know who I'm going to go to after birth with my baby. It's not illegal to not go to well visits with a new, healthy baby. If my baby isn't getting shots, then it shouldn't be a rush. I'm also not particularly impressed with newborn testing. It creates a lot of unnecessary panic and harassment. They aren't well studied tests for accuracy. Loads of false positives. Makes being a new parent a bit medically oppressive. Anyway, all that to say that i just don't do hospitals anymore cause they make me feel controlled. I refuse to ever have to argue with a doctor when I'm in labor again. I had a birth plan and had already talked to my team about not wanting a vitamin K shot and i knew the risks, so having some jerk male doctor think it's OK to argue with a vulnerable woman in labor is something I'm not OK with at hospitals. They don't protect birthing women from these punks.
Hello Sarah! Something completely is not planned, but could happen is that the hospitals where I live might be so overwhelmed by the corona virus and I might be forced to give birth at home (not only because of the number of patients, but they don't protect the doctors enough, so that many of them need to be quarantined and potentially some departments need to be shut down)!!! It's f...ing scary!! Can you say something about home birth and what to do if there's no midwife present, or maybe have to call emergency afterwards to cut the cord, or what if we can't even reach the emergency?!! What to do if there is some complication like cord around baby's neck, etc, just things to be careful if a home birth should happen. Many thanks!!
Can you give your birth plan to your dr. before truly selecting a dr. I don't want to have exposed myself to a bunch of drs. before finding one that my birth plan will work with?
Thank you for this video! I'm planning to have a doula for laboring at home as long as possible then go to hospital when baby is coming. I only live a mile from the hospital so in no rush to get there if not an emergency. I agree to keep it to one page simple, to the point highlighting your most important concerns. Do you recommend to have it just typed out or bullet format? What are your thoughts on the layout of your birth preferences?
They don’t have any birth plans in India 😢 only the choice for opted C sec or normal delivery. Many hospitals don’t even have epidural. They are so backwards in many parts of India.
Yay! I was just sitting down to do this.Ok 1st, ENYA! I laughed so hard I havent heard her in forever! I wish you were my nurse lol I want to ask you, as far as delivering, I would REALLY not like to be restricted to my back. Is it a RULE that I have to lay on my back, or is it a right of mine to be able to deliver how I want (to an extent.) Obviously not smoking a pack of cigarettes but can I stand and push? Or are there certain things that the hospital can really say no to.
Ok when you talk about newborn preferences the first things you mention are a vitamin k shot and a urethra vice? I looked it up for a newborn and it's not telling me anything can anyone help me? Also what is the jelly that they put on babies eyes?
1. Pain management
2. Support person’s name & relation
3. Labor specific preferences
4. What you want to avoid
5. C-section preferences
6. Cord blood and placenta plan
7. Newborn preferences
8. Feeding plan
I had a midwife and it was amazing, as everything on my “birth preferences” list she already supported and encouraged, and were routine in her practice anyway. Examples: intermittent fetal monitoring ad opposed to continuous, active and upright labor, upright pushing & delivery as opposed to lithotomy position, water immersion during labor (and also delivery), my water to break on its own as opposed to artificial rupture, minimal cervical checks during labor, dimmed lighting, aromatherapy, birth affirmations on the wall, delayed cord clamping & cutting - preferably until after placenta was delivered, immediate and extended skin to skin, no bath or even wiping down of baby to take off vernix, placenta encapsulation, etc. This list is not too much to ask for, but so many people I know have had to ask permission and from their doctors and nurses to do certain things and fight for what they want, and have even been scoffed at for expressing preferences. I loved that I was not looked down upon for preferring a more physiological birth experience rather than a highly medicalized one, but rather applauded and 100% supported 😊
I LOVE this list. Thank you for sharing your examples, a lot resonated with me and I didnt even realize that I want that!
Nicole Andromidas I’m glad it was helpful ❤️ It’s so empowering going into the birth of your child with knowledge, the ability to make informed decisions, and feeling like you have a voice 💪
I recommend reading book Babies Are Not Pizzas. It’s pretty eye opening and will leave you feeling empowered to be your own advocate during the process. The author is the founder of Evidence Based Birth, which is another wonderful and informative source for all things birth! 😊
Yes. Yes. Yes 🙌🏼
Don’t place a baby on me with a vernix!
Hmmm 🤔 my preference would be to have you as my nurse/midwife haha your amazing ❤ im 39 weeks today and super excited to meet my little man 😍 just wanted to say a big thank you for all your tips and tricks and for always having such a positive energetic vibe. The world needs more people like you x
I need her as well
1. Your energy and personality is amazing
2. This was a HUGE help. I am only 17 and a half weeks with my first and had absolutely no idea what a birth plan even was so this was great
I have 3 videos I’d love to see, 1) moms who are plus size/ overweight 2) moms going into labor who have cptsd/ptsd from previous trauma, 3) mamas giving birth with pcos
What is cptsd?
1. Pain Management Plan
2. Names and Role of Support People
3. Plan for Labor
4. Medical Inventions Preference (what's okay with you, what isn't?)
5. C-section Preference
6. What is your Plan for Cord Blood and Placenta
7. Newborn Preference
8. Feeding Preference
9. Anxieties or Triggers (related to birth)
10. How Can your Care Team make you Feel Safe & Comfortable
Anxiety about the possibility of not having any control over labor is a huge part of what has kept me from having a child, so this video is hugely helpful. I know I can't have full control, but my biggest anxiety is doctors and nurses doing things without permission, me being pushed around, no one listening to my preferences, etc. So it does make me feel better to know that I can lay this information out and have it to refer people back to.
Don't be anxious! I'm currently expecting my first baby, and truth be told, I was in your shoes. Not having control is the one thing that freaks me out about the whole process, but I took a childbirth class (Bradley Method) and it's given me tools to help cope with pretty much any outcome but mostly a focus on natural childbirth, which is what I'm inclining toward. There are actually many aspects of your birth you can control, and knowing that gave me peace of mind. You just really need the right tools and information so you know exactly what is happening and can make an informed decision that will leave you feeling empowered REGARDLESS of what kind of birth you're going to have. There are also many different childbirth classes out there. Feel free to find the right one for you. I recently read an article where a couple actually took said course pre-pregnancy and it helped them get into the mindset to have a baby and later got pregnant. You could always try doing something like that and see how you feel about the process.
I have a very hostile attitude towards hospitals and doctors and all things hospitals. Sounds, lighting, smells, literally everything. The esthetic of hospital rooms. Hospitals are for sick and hurt people and that’s always been my mentality. I’ve always seen birth as something so beautiful and spiritual. And trust me I get it complications are very real thing. I just have a hard time accepting that fully? I know I’m so hard headed. Idk what to do I dreamt of a homebirth but I’m low income I don’t have money for that. I’m grateful I have Medicaid and have not paid a single penny for any prenatal appointments. I’m praying taht I can go in the hospital relaxed and trusting, and I pray I get really sweet nurses that will respect my birthing preferences within reasonable means
Thank you! I'm due with my 1st any day now and this gives me a lot more confidence. I'll definitely be making a birthing plan now. This is a good quality video. 🙂
Yes there are a lot of goodies in the cord blood so it’s also good to point out delayed cord clamping so that baby can get all those good benefits instead.
Hi..Watching you from Dubai..Pregnant for the first time..your Videos are super Helpful as i dint knowmany things earlier..Thankyou so much..
I m 20 weeks today..I m A hijabi muslim ..that means i would like to be covered most of the time ..that was a good point to be written on the birth plan..
Thank you for this video. I was SO LOST as to how to create a birth plan/preference list. Now I have one started!
Wow! SO, I NEVER wanted to give birth, always planned on adopting because of several sexual traumas...Life happens, now, not only I am TTC as an older woman 43, which many are against, but I'm actually considering a non epidural vaginal birth after reading about how much healthier baby is! I just thought I would have to constantly manage anxiety or triggers, because surprise vaginal pain IS a trigger for me! I never thought I could put it in a Birth Plan about my trauma and have some control over being covered, male nurses, etc... Thank you SO much!!!
You are too precious Sarah. Thank you for being so honest and gentle.
Thank you so much for your videos Sarah! You literally address ALL the questions in such a detailed manner and again...with humour! You are so caring and encouraging! I wish all the nurses were like you! ❤
❤😊 thankyou so much for this video it really helps me out I will be having my first in a couple months and I wasn't sure how to go about this
Sitting here with my pen and paper writing this all down lol! 31 weeks tomorrow can't wait to meet my baby. This will be my second vbac and I want to try without an epidural this time!! Thank you so much for your videos they've really been helpful to me to prepare myself for the birth of my baby. Thanks so much Sara!!!!:)
Kathryn Loewen hi I’m 25 weeks and going to try vbac for the first time! Do you have any tips?
@@zehranehar7892 Find a supportive provider, first of all. I didn't have a doula but that would probably be a great idea! I'm going to have one this time. And trust your body that's one the biggest things you can do. With my csection I got induced three times and was pregnant almost 42 weeks I didn't dilate at all. With my vbac when the doctor checked me at my 40 week appointment and I wasn't dilated I immediately felt disappointed! I thought oh here we go again I'm never going to dilate and end up having to get another csection. Well my doctor wouldn't let me give up! He told me to have patience, we wanted to allow my body to go into labor on it's own and if it didn't he'd induce me at 41 weeks. Well at 40 weeks 2days I started having contractions 5 to 10 minutes apart! 2 days later I delivered my precious baby boy vaginally without being induced!! Trust your body! YOU CAN DO IT! When doubt creeps into your mind, push it aside and believe in yourself!:)
Kathryn Loewen thank you so much!
@@zehranehar7892 Your welcome!! Wishing you luck on your vbac!! I was so dang proud of my body after my vbac, I felt like yes my body can do this!! Hopefully you get the birth your hoping for🤞
I really pray my care team has as much care and passion as you. I totally plan to do this but I am also nervous that they will be not receptive of it... How can I advocate for myself/husband nicely asking to use these preferences for awareness? .. welp you answered my question about 14:25 started with my doctor "flex and flow possiblity..." Lol "kinda where my head is at"
Interview doctors first! And watch the staff hun cause my butt would get up and leave if I wasn’t being heard at all, I’ve seen a lot of people go in and have police called on them because they weren’t listening to the nurses and what they wanted
this is by far my favorite video i’ve seen about a birth plan! i definitely will be looking into that childbirth class! thank you for educating me
Wow!!!!!!!! I wish I saw this 6 years ago when my daughter was born!!!!! I had such a traumatizing experience... I didn't realize the nurse's perspective. I love your videos. Thank you ♥️🌹♥️🌹♥️🌹🌼
This video was such a great resource! I really had no idea other than pain management preferences, of what could potentially be helpful for my team to know. Thank you!
This was so helpful, thank you! I suffer from panic attacks, and doctors/hospitals always trigger my anxiety. I will definitely be adding this to my sheet! God, I just learned about AFE the other day, and I'm traumatized/terrified now. All I pray for is a healthy and safe birth with pain management.
Alicia Luoma praying for your labor! In my birth I really learned how Birth Education was a must to help with eliminating fear, especially the fear of the unknown.
Thank you so much for all of these videos! I’m a third time mom, 39 weeks pregnant currently. I have learned so much through your videos over this last trimester and I wish I had found your videos sooner! Working on our rough birth preference sheet tonight. Thank you for the guidelines, as I’ve never had one before! ❤
I just have to say how grateful I am for your channel. I had my third in October and had been binging your videos for about four or five months before. My labor was completely different than my first two and had all the fun interventions (after two prior unmedicated/minimal intervention births). I kept reminding myself Flex and Flow, flex and flow. My hospital staff was amazing and because of all that had to happen, I was so glad I’d learned from you about how to ask questions. Thank you for sharing so much with us!
Yes on the placenta video!
I need this! lol Due in about a month and unsure what to do
I would love a placenta encapsulation video!
I didn’t even know where to start or what I could actually ask for for my first birth. Thank you so much for this information!
Amazing video! We’re due with our first any day now and I’m so grateful you posted this. Thank you!
Alicia Marstall congrats and best wishes on your upcoming birth!!
My husband and I will be TTC baby #1 starting in July. I love watching your videos in anticipation and preparation. I'm a major planner and I always need the reminder to be flexible.
You are great! Keep doing what you're doing.
Janell Martiny major planner too! 👋🏻 such a great idea to do before a huge event like birth!
Just from your energy I want you to be my nurse for real 😭😭😭 but thanks for the great information!!!
Thank you so much!! I'm four weeks from my due date and needed this help! I'm a first timer and I feel like I'm might miss an important note.
How did it go? I'm 5 weeks out and im also a first timer
I made a birth plan and I had like I wanted to be able to walk, shower, move about, listen to music ex... and when I got to the hospital and asked my husband to give my birth plan to the nurse she cringed and said " ugh can you just tell me and not give me the paper" I looked at her puzzled and she said that it was like a curse to have a birth plan and told another nurse walking by the door not to come in my room bc I brought a birth plan. First time laboring in 2019 first time everything and I felt like I had no support and my sweet husband had no clue what to do with that or even when I was laboring and they kicked my mom out of my room bc my blood pressure was high. It was horrible thinking for the next one of getting someone like you to help
Oh my goodness this is so upsetting. I’m so sorry she disrespected you like that. You can always change nurses in the future! 🤍🤍🤍
Very informative thank you!
I would love a video on the effects of birth control on your fertility later in life. I’m seeing more and more women struggle with infertility and although I don’t want children for a few years I’m worried that my HBC use now will affect my future fertility.
Yessss! I really wish I would have known that it can take a bit for your cycles to come back or regulate. I went off the pill at the beginning of October(2019) and didn't have a period until Thanksgiving. I had 3 periods between October and now, and it's really stressful to be trying when you have no idea when you're fertile. Ovulation strips helped identify, but it was really emotionally taxing.
YESSSS, I’d love to know the risks and benefits of the multiple options for bc after having my first child. I DO want to have more children, just not right now. But being that I’m already 25 and so many women are having infertility issues younger and younger, I’d like to take the safest route.
Postive story: I started hormonal birth control at 11years old to help regulate my cycle. I stayed on birth control until just passed my 24th birthday (September is when I came off). I had my period within the week. My first cycle was a nightmare, every symptom in the book, it was wild. I was used to hardly any symptoms! The next cycle I was pregnant. I used the app clue to roughly track my cycle as I am very forgetful and previously relied on the pills for that. I am 31 weeks tomorrow with a baby boy 😁
Yes I would like to see this as well as women developing intense anxiety from it im almost certain that is what happened to me as my anxiety came out of nowhere in my early 20s and never got better
I want a video on the placenta. Is eating it or consuming it in someway really beneficial,what effects does it have, etc.
Hi Sarah! I love, love, love your education!! We’re planning on starting our family this year and I want to buy your course as soon as we (hopefully) get pregnant. 🤞🏻 Anyway, I would love to learn more about delivering the placenta. I feel like there’s a lot of information out there about pregnancy and birth but I don’t know what to expect when I comes to that part of the delivery experience! I videoed a friend’s second birth last fall, and after the baby was born the midwife pressed on the mom’s belly which apparently was to help the mom’s uterus contract and deliver the placenta? The mom was cringing and said it’s the worst part of labor so I’m just wondering if that’s normal or if there are other options? Do you have a video about this already or could you potentially make one? 😃
I’m 35 weeks now! So glad I watched this video I learned a lot specially to prepare my birth preferences. I don’t really know what to expect. Thanks for this very informative video. Keep up the good work Sarah.. 🥰😍
Much better video than the other popular one I saw. This is more straight to the point and gives great information. Awesome job. Thanks!
I’m so glad I didn’t have an exact birth plan with my first. The most important things to me were no c section and no epidural. I went into labor at 34 weeks so I needed IV antibiotics 4 hours apart. While waiting all I felt like doing in laying in bed. I thought I wanted all the natural pain management positions and shower. I thought I wanted just my husband and I ended up with my parents there also most of the time. If I would have had my mind set idk how happy I would have been with the experience.
I’m so glad I found you! I’m on baby number 3 but both times I’ve been in L&D I felt so weird to ask for things. My mentality was Docs and Nurses know best so I should just let them handle this. So long story short some things happened that I wasn’t completely comfortable with. I feel better knowing that nurses do want to hear my wants. Do you have any suggestions about prayer? As in having a quick prayer before we start the pushing and after baby is out??? Thanks in advance!
I swear I’m the same way! I’m 7 months now with my second my first pregnancy was kind of a rush I just went in and let them do their own thing but this time around I want to plan. I think I’m going to talk to my doctor about creating a birth plan because I don’t want any confusion when that time comes.
I get you, but because of the mentality out there now against religion especially Christianity you may not want to offend anyone.
I say 20 decades of the Rosary during an early labour walk.
I keep praying while I wait for things to progress. Something weird that happens to me while I’m labouring and giving birth is I sing all my childhood Igbo praise and worship songs, trust me I’m sure I’m off key and I don’t even know I’m singing, my midwife and support nurses just laugh cause I think my pitch goes up and down depending on my pain level, I rather do that than listen to some birth affirmations. After birth I do skin to skin and start to pray in thanksgiving and bless my child once baby is handed to me.
Great video ☺️ thank you so much. I'm glad I found you.
I would love info about placental encapsulation
Mama dr Jones has a video on the subject, look it up. ☺️
Me too! I'll check out mama Dr. Jones, but I'd love Sarah's point of view. I love the way she explains things 🧡
Love your videos! Realistic expectations and “flex and flow” are so essential when learning about laboring and birth plans! ❤️
I had everything respected up to after baby was born! Everything happens so fast and they kind of do things very fast while you are in a love bubble and don’t really care what’s going on.
I love your videos!!!!! I am pregnant with my 3rd baby and your videos are so educating I'm not to worried about it!
Writing my plan up today!!😁😁😁😁 37 weeks on Thursday!!
I’m so glad I found your channel! You have been so helpful ❤️ I’m due with my baby girl in November
I’m binging your videos... just wanted to say I love your makeup. So pretty. Love your vibe.
So helpful ❤THANKYOU so much !!! Wouldn’t we all love if she was in our labor room!!!
Hopefully you get a taste with one of the nurses I’ve trained! ♥️♥️♥️
@@sarahlavonne def won’t have any good luck in that category I live in a very very small town and the health care system could not be worse here … it’s very disturbing that The nurses and doctors will tell anyone and everyone all of your information and medical history, share what medicine your on and beyond… I personally know all of this because I am a color specialist at a salon below the hospital and here everyone talking about the entire town. It is absolutely horrible.. I am scared to beyond words to have to go to this hospital
Thank you so much for this video! I'm due May 29th with my first baby. And there are so many preferences for birth that I hadn't even thought about yet. Especially considering most birthing classes near me are on hold with the coronavirus going on.
I love your channel Sarah. It was a great resource for me when I was pregnant. New sub here.
You have an amazing energy, thank you for this helpful tips 😊
I love your personality. Very personable. One thing I would suggest would be to slow down with the list. I did have to keep rewinding to catch everything. But no big deal just a little suggestion 😊
My birth plan I have had for 3 of my 4 births were pictures with small sayings under them. Every doctor/nurse loved it. I didnt find the template until my 2nd baby.
Can you please share it with me??
I'll try to find the original link that I used.
Yuh I found this to initially ! Thank you though!
Thank you! I found on google typing “Visual Birth Plan”
Hi Sarah! Can you do a video on pros and cons of water births?
I love this but idk how to fit this all onto one page!!
I love your vlogs❤️ I wish there wud have been some1 at the time when I delivered my son in 2014. I watch all you videos. Your so cute Ma'am
Mamas remember it is your birth and your body and you can refuse ANYTHING. Make sure your OB/midwife has this by 32 weeks to ensure that they will follow your preferences. Then give another to the nurse at the hospital.
I told the nurses over and over that I didn’t want pain meds with my first and was laughed at and mocked and pushed for an epidural.
Thank you for your advice and videos Sarah! Your nephew is so cute🥰and your sister is beautiful!
FTM here due June 25, 2021and very nervous...😨 Quick question: How should I submit my birth preferences to my doctor and nurses before labor?
I had what I felt was a really reasonable birth plan. Then none of that happened 😂 but I feel really positive about it anyways
Can you cover controlled cord traction, please? Your videos are very helpful and I am due in two weeks.
I love this! I’m a first time mom who’s really nervous. This helped me so much. PS: You kind of sound like Mika Kunis! I love it hahaha
This was so helpful thank you so much 😊
Please discuss high blood pressure and preeclampsia after 35weeks of pregnancy what to expect what to do about managing it ?
Such a helpful video!! Thank you!
My birth plan/preferences will basically be moving to your city so you can be my labor nurse. 😂
This was so incredibly helpful! Thank you so much! ❤
You should totally think about selling the Birth Preferences Plan separately! It's hard to find a good template out there!
It actually is for sale! It comes with my hospital packing list 😘😘😘
@@sarahlavonne omg! You are literally UH-MAZING! Just purchased- thank you sooo much!!! 😍❤
Sorry but where can I buy the birth plan?? I definitely need one .
@@sarahlavonne Hi! Is there a link where I can purchase ypur Birth Preferences Plan? :) Thank youuuuu
www.bundlebirth.com/product-page/hospital-essentials-birth-preferences-packing-list
This video was so helpful!
Yay!!! It’s finally here. Excited about this one!
To save y'all time, she starts at 4:42
Wish all nurses were as nice and accommodating as you
Hi! Loved this video. I am 12 weeks and I’m wondering when is the right time to start actually making and presenting my preference list to my midwife?
Make it whenever! And bring around 35-37 weeks! 💖💖💖
Sarah Lavonne Thank you!
So flipping helpful!! I absolutely love your videos!!
Hi I’m 32 weeks with my first baby and I’m having a boy. My baby is in a cephalic position and Idk what to put on my birth plan I haven’t even thought about this till someone mentioned it to me
Hi Sarah,
I want video about placenta encapsulation, please. Im interested how it works in your country? Do you have specific laws about that? How it goes for women who are giving birth at hospital?
Are you allowed to control who is in the room medical staff, visitors, support team and where they are allowed to be in the room?
So helpful!
I have a question about feeding new baby. We had a traumatic birth experience first time around and have decided that we will formula feed this time around. I'm not opposed to expressing colostrum in the weeks before birth and had a great supply last time. How much colostrum would I need to express for the first 24 hours? Nutritionally is it worth it to freeze and defrost then feed to baby? Would that kill off the antibodies?
Emma Biles I think As a nutritionist I think it would be so worth it!
I just found an old birth plan of mine and had a good laugh. Towards the top of the list is said LEAVE ME ALONE and then again towards the bottom it said did I mention LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!
I really like to labor in silence. I don’t want to be poked, prodded, checked, asked questions. Just leave me alone and let me birth in peace!
I would love a video on encapsulation please!
i have found you very useful
My birth plan is two pages and have headings for pregnancies. I included CoVid 19 into it.
Great vid as always!
With my first born, I told my doctor I wanted to discuss my birth plan with her. She said she doesn't deal with birth plans and it will go how it goes ... I didn't even. Get skin to skin :(
I’m sorry that you had that experience that should have never happened
If a birth plan is important to you and a doctor won't even acknowledge it, you could think about switching doctors. I've heard of people switching at 8 o 9 months. It's hard but if you are feeling unsatisfied it may be an option to consider.
So sorry... i would have had ran to another ob!!!
I’m actually allergic to the medication that goes into the epidural so is that something I would need to specify as a reason for not wanting it I’m also allergic to some other pain medications as well I realize it would be in my records but would it also be helpful to add into my birth plan just so there is no confusion or would that be less helpful because it’s already in my medical history
I wish I had the money to buy some of these classes :(
I love your videos!!! Do I have to get an iv when I go into the hospital?
Queen Lewis I believe so or at least just the hep lock..had this question too.
Yeah just incase something happens
What is a walking epidural? It's been brought up before im curious
Brittany Sanchez I believe it is a pain killing shot given through your IV. Doesn’t last as long as epidural but instantly starts working.
It's a low-dose epidural, just to take the edge off rather than numb you out. You typically can't actually walk (even if just for safety reasons), but you may be more able to move yourself in the bed, you can follow your contractions better, it wears off more quickly
Can you use enema when you are in labor so I would not have accidents during delivery?
In europe tgey dont give enemas. Peeing/defecating by acciident during pushing is natural!! They have gloves; they will whipe it andwash and reglove up!
Unfortunately, my biggest trigger is the degree of harassment after birth. L&D nurses & doctors are different than maternity ward doctors & nurses. I wish there was a way to request that i do not have to talk to any doctor after birth unless they are checking on a complication with me or my child. The harassment particularly from the pediatricians is deeply triggering for me. There have been a couple of my births where i had just moved and needed some time to connect with people in my area to get a pediatrician and didn't want them interrupting my sleep or refusing to discharge me simply cause they wanted to insist they know who I'm going to go to after birth with my baby. It's not illegal to not go to well visits with a new, healthy baby. If my baby isn't getting shots, then it shouldn't be a rush. I'm also not particularly impressed with newborn testing. It creates a lot of unnecessary panic and harassment. They aren't well studied tests for accuracy. Loads of false positives. Makes being a new parent a bit medically oppressive. Anyway, all that to say that i just don't do hospitals anymore cause they make me feel controlled. I refuse to ever have to argue with a doctor when I'm in labor again. I had a birth plan and had already talked to my team about not wanting a vitamin K shot and i knew the risks, so having some jerk male doctor think it's OK to argue with a vulnerable woman in labor is something I'm not OK with at hospitals. They don't protect birthing women from these punks.
Hello Sarah! Something completely is not planned, but could happen is that the hospitals where I live might be so overwhelmed by the corona virus and I might be forced to give birth at home (not only because of the number of patients, but they don't protect the doctors enough, so that many of them need to be quarantined and potentially some departments need to be shut down)!!! It's f...ing scary!! Can you say something about home birth and what to do if there's no midwife present, or maybe have to call emergency afterwards to cut the cord, or what if we can't even reach the emergency?!! What to do if there is some complication like cord around baby's neck, etc, just things to be careful if a home birth should happen. Many thanks!!
Shellfish's revenge shes discusses her views on home births in past videos :)
Can you give your birth plan to your dr. before truly selecting a dr. I don't want to have exposed myself to a bunch of drs. before finding one that my birth plan will work with?
Thank you for this video! I'm planning to have a doula for laboring at home as long as possible then go to hospital when baby is coming. I only live a mile from the hospital so in no rush to get there if not an emergency. I agree to keep it to one page simple, to the point highlighting your most important concerns. Do you recommend to have it just typed out or bullet format? What are your thoughts on the layout of your birth preferences?
They don’t have any birth plans in India 😢 only the choice for opted C sec or normal delivery. Many hospitals don’t even have epidural. They are so backwards in many parts of India.
My doctor says I need to be induced at 40 weeks and I want baby to come naturally is she allowed to do this?
Yay! I was just sitting down to do this.Ok 1st, ENYA! I laughed so hard I havent heard her in forever! I wish you were my nurse lol
I want to ask you, as far as delivering, I would REALLY not like to be restricted to my back. Is it a RULE that I have to lay on my back, or is it a right of mine to be able to deliver how I want (to an extent.) Obviously not smoking a pack of cigarettes but can I stand and push? Or are there certain things that the hospital can really say no to.
You're a free person I'll try to remember to address this in coffee and questions
Whear can i find a willing participant?
Ok when you talk about newborn preferences the first things you mention are a vitamin k shot and a urethra vice? I looked it up for a newborn and it's not telling me anything can anyone help me? Also what is the jelly that they put on babies eyes?
Vitamin k for bleeding/clots. Eye stuff is to help prevent infection
Does your hospital essentials pack have all these points laid out pretty simply?
When do you give them your birth plan?