How To Keep A Man Interested in You - Relationship Coach Reveals Harsh Truth

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  • Опубліковано 20 гру 2024

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  • @SaveTheMessenger
    @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +6

    Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
    It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 2 місяці тому

      Welcome to life not everything’s gonna be exciting all the time if that’s what they want. Wait till they get old, you can make things exciting and do things but let’s get real too.!

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 2 місяці тому

      How about he keeps us excited about the relationship because we can get bored too you know😂😂 why does the women always need to keep everything exciting interesting

    • @shakilamalki8510
      @shakilamalki8510 Місяць тому

      Smile plz recommend man physcology books for readings

  • @haddadiwanassa
    @haddadiwanassa 3 місяці тому +80

    This must be clarified "work must be both ways" that is he also must keep his woman excited , we get bored too😊 thank you

  • @arlenelovelace18
    @arlenelovelace18 3 місяці тому +33

    Great info Ismael! Last month I was able to really hear the true vulgarity, anger, lack of patience, hate & intolerance from a man I was dating. None of this was directed at me, but at the general population he ran into within our 20 minute phone conversation.
    When I tried to talk to him about, he told me that I was unreasonable, and that I was looking for a Saint, and he angrily hung up on me. I blocked him, and I cannot tell you the sense of peace that has returned to my life. I would rather be single than to settle for values & beliefs that aren’t in alignment with mine. Don’t settle ladies!

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 2 місяці тому +1

      Agreed!

    • @olwentibbit639
      @olwentibbit639 2 місяці тому +2

      This is true, remember ladies only dust settles! ❤x

  • @angelatillman4323
    @angelatillman4323 3 місяці тому +39

    I may be wrong, but I just go in as myself. Take it or leave it.

    • @macm2373
      @macm2373 3 місяці тому +4

      Same. Lol! What you see is what you get.

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 2 місяці тому

      😂😂

    • @sommyanaberia518
      @sommyanaberia518 2 місяці тому

      he has just said to be yourself but in a guided way

    • @cindy8588
      @cindy8588 21 день тому

      Same here no pretence..😂

  • @stellac0910
    @stellac0910 Місяць тому +5

    I don’t feel pressured to keep men interested they have free will but I really enjoy your videos and hearing your insight ❤

  • @1trueloveforever
    @1trueloveforever 3 місяці тому +16

    Another insightful video, my parents have been married for 47 years and they do not tell each other I love you all the time. And yes I plan to be the star in my movie, wouldn't have it any other way .

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +1

      You are the star. Thanks for sharing your parents' example.

    • @RenetTimemaster
      @RenetTimemaster 2 місяці тому

      My parents have been married 50 years and I never hear them say I love you. Only in birthday cards. 😂

  • @angelaharris6577
    @angelaharris6577 Місяць тому

    Needed to hear this today. Good timing.

  • @judyc1589
    @judyc1589 3 місяці тому +19

    Please acknowledge the value of the platonic relationships built on trust and respect.

  • @ruthresetar5940
    @ruthresetar5940 2 місяці тому +2

    I have family members who are masters of the silent treatment. I think it's funny that people think not talking to you somehow hurts you. It doesn't affect me; they just removed the stress of dealing with them.

  • @andreiamendes9116
    @andreiamendes9116 2 місяці тому +5

    I always try to include new interesting things in my life to share with him and talk about it. And the other day he didn't feel like talking on the phone nor open up about a problem. I didn't insist. I just reassured him that I'm there if he needs me, that I understand him and that he has value.

  • @domingacanilang2929
    @domingacanilang2929 25 днів тому

    Thank You Ismael for Awesome Advice ❤ God Bless You and Your Beautiful Family ❤

  • @berliant7121
    @berliant7121 2 місяці тому +1

    Yep. That's the problem. These questions been swirling inside my head: "do I want him or was I actually depending my happiness on him? "
    Appreciate the new insights, Ismael! It's funny how to learn to be in relationship, actually.
    But my question is, I kissed him but we're not even sure what are we. And I start to show him my 'neediness' side. Should've change that🤦‍♀️

  • @Zitagirl76
    @Zitagirl76 2 місяці тому +3

    Thank you Ismael....I needed to hear this...we need to own our self worth, and not be available for them all the time😊

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому

      You're welcome. I'm glad it resonated with you. It’s important to prioritize our own self-worth and set boundaries.

  • @GabriellaHarold
    @GabriellaHarold 3 місяці тому +7

    You are so intelligent ... Smart .. direct ... 🔥 You make a lot of sense 🔥🔥🔥

  • @asdfrgn
    @asdfrgn 3 місяці тому +2

    You said you glad that we choose you to learn about self love and dating
    We say we’re glad you thought us about self love and dating

  • @ninasm
    @ninasm 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for having such a wholesome approach.

  • @dreamsaremadeofthesefists2602
    @dreamsaremadeofthesefists2602 3 місяці тому +3

    You’re so good! I’m so glad I found your channel

  • @Gisela8603
    @Gisela8603 3 місяці тому +4

    you are so right be yourself and love to learn I

  • @Mila-vo2xn
    @Mila-vo2xn 2 місяці тому

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  • @pallaviyadav7587
    @pallaviyadav7587 2 місяці тому +1

    Love your videos! So much practical sense!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому

      Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad you find them helpful.

  • @delwarhossain1699
    @delwarhossain1699 3 місяці тому +8

    Please make one for long distance

  • @ElenorWallin
    @ElenorWallin 3 місяці тому +2

    Thank you for this very importent message 🙏🙏

  • @sachalebabe
    @sachalebabe 2 місяці тому

    Thank you Ismael!!! This was very empowering. God bless❤❤❤❤❤

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому +2

      You're very welcome. Glad to hear it was empowering.

  • @verarobinson6759
    @verarobinson6759 11 днів тому

    ❤love your videos

  • @NIKI888SUCCESS
    @NIKI888SUCCESS 2 місяці тому

    You are always spot on. I appreciate your help

  • @elenacorciu6317
    @elenacorciu6317 3 місяці тому +2

    I like the ethics of your teaching 😊

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому

      Thank you, I appreciate your kind words and support.

  • @mmreditz00
    @mmreditz00 Місяць тому

    Excellent❤

  • @lynettepieters2890
    @lynettepieters2890 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow, thank you, you are spot on❤

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому

      Thank you, I'm glad the message resonates with you.

  • @jasmincordelia5477
    @jasmincordelia5477 2 місяці тому

    Great sharing! Thanks!!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому

      Thank you for your feedback. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

  • @mengepauline2943
    @mengepauline2943 2 місяці тому

    This is so amazing

  • @kimanhbui4819
    @kimanhbui4819 3 місяці тому +2

    thank you so much. I feel everything is clear, and I don't easily fall in love with any guy I meet. I study to improve my value, I know the type of man I want,... everything is so gentle and peaceful.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +1

      Best mindset. Become more so you can attract more.

  • @yqyolo878
    @yqyolo878 2 місяці тому +1

    Appreciate it 😊

  • @RR-kv1zj
    @RR-kv1zj 3 місяці тому +5

    If they really love all these things would fall in place, both parties

  • @JudithKorumbnga-px3jj
    @JudithKorumbnga-px3jj 2 місяці тому

    I always enjoy 👏🎉♥️

  • @SushmitaBanerjeeMotivation
    @SushmitaBanerjeeMotivation 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much 😊🙏

  • @TerryGuzmanMartinez
    @TerryGuzmanMartinez 3 місяці тому +2

    Hi. I have a question: I've heard that men need to feel needed to fall in love, I mean, they want to feel they're "useful", and that we women need/appreciate their help, so I got confused with your last "secret", what is the healthy balance?

    • @queenj.8i895
      @queenj.8i895 3 місяці тому +3

      I caught that too, but he’s talking about in the beginning of getting to know someone, before you’re in a relationship with them. Men want to feel needed once they are your man, in the relationship with you, in a marriage…U should need your life partner, not someone you’re just now choosing to get to know.
      God bless! 🦋

    • @TerryGuzmanMartinez
      @TerryGuzmanMartinez 3 місяці тому

      @@queenj.8i895 Ohhh, that makes sense! Thanks. Have a great day 😃

    • @TerryGuzmanMartinez
      @TerryGuzmanMartinez 2 місяці тому

      @@queenj.8i895 Ohh, ok. That makes sense. Thanks!

  • @DreamLife-bd7rz
    @DreamLife-bd7rz 3 місяці тому +1

    Tnx for sharing 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

  • @Caroguerra888
    @Caroguerra888 3 місяці тому +1

    Waow me encanta la parte en la que dices que es expandiendo la energía donde puedes atraer a la persona correcta, porque justo así mismo funciona 💜🥰

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +1

      Gracias Carolina. Me alegra ver a mujeres hispanas viendo el canal.

  • @AmikaroPertin
    @AmikaroPertin 3 місяці тому +2

    Thnks❤

  • @Scienceandtechnology3b
    @Scienceandtechnology3b 2 місяці тому +2

    Hi
    Can you please make a video on a long-distance relationship.

  • @rubaiatasnim2476
    @rubaiatasnim2476 2 місяці тому

    How do men (both single and divorced or widowed) think about pursuing divorced and single mothers? Does the relationship status really make a difference if they really wanna be with someone? Would appreciate it if you make a video on the psychology of men regarding this.

  • @Aerialgoddess
    @Aerialgoddess 2 місяці тому +1

    I LOVE BASHAR !!

  • @blueskies773
    @blueskies773 2 місяці тому

    Ismael, something I’ve realized is that while I’ve always had men that are friends-and these are GOOD friends, I never really learned “how to speak to men.” Let me clarify. As a woman, I expect men to speak to me with understanding of my emotional self- tactful, thoughtful, respectful. Of course I speak to men this way too. But, I’ve realized women are emotional beings. Men’s core needs are different than women’s but how, I don’t quite know. I haven’t heard men discussing this. I’ve just recognized as I’ve grown older that there is a difference in speaking to each other. Just as there is a proper way men should speak to women, there is a proper way women should speak to men that reflects this thing. But, what is that? Can you share a video where you divulge?

  • @EddaAlma
    @EddaAlma 3 місяці тому +3

    Hi Ismael, thank you for your video! I'd like to expose my experience.. I am a singer and a dancer.. got a lot of interests.. music above all... I constantly feel the need to learn new things and I love pursuing my dreams... but when it comes to men... my God... it's funny cause I'm really independent , as you said, I don't search for validation and still what I attract is pretty much superficial people who find it hard to understand my persona... lately I've set strong boundaries and what happened is that I find now myself alone... I guess that a lot of men just wanna play some games or they cannot handle strong women.. I pretty much follow all your advices in this video, doing it by instinct.... so... really I don't get the whole thing..... could you help me understand?

  • @helenamarhounova1120
    @helenamarhounova1120 2 місяці тому

    You are the best❤❤

  • @Sudhyashree
    @Sudhyashree 3 місяці тому +4

    Please make a video on what things to do and the ones to avoid in exclusive dating phase.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  2 місяці тому

      Look up my video "First date tips"...that may be helpful.

  • @aarzoobramhe7008
    @aarzoobramhe7008 3 місяці тому +2

    The vdo of that girl is actually so me😩
    I'm so fuckin attached to him and everything is so boring when im not with him.....
    I was so happy before we met...
    But now I need him every single time, I'm completely obsessed over him and I need his attention, efforts and time all the frekin time....and he don't want the same....
    😭
    What do I do?

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +3

      Have you checked out my video on detachment? I'd suggest you to watch videos on that topic.

  • @yamaha3859
    @yamaha3859 3 місяці тому +1

    Ismael. Why he used to ask me to take care of him etc.but if i asked him the same in some other ocations he thinks i am needy?
    I mean why he can expect me and not be needy but if u expect him the same i become needy?

    • @Rikatsu97
      @Rikatsu97 3 місяці тому +5

      He's selfish and doesn't really love you. Find another guy who'll take care of you

    • @queenj.8i895
      @queenj.8i895 3 місяці тому +2

      Like he said at the end - why would you even want to be with someone like that? Say bye bye and love yourself for a good while. Focus on your family and friends and hopefully God. Get to know who you are on your own. Become a whole, happy, healthy person.
      God bless 🦋

  • @grachellebombardieri7663
    @grachellebombardieri7663 3 місяці тому +5

    🎉thankyou for your advice 🙏 on men I am learning well from you. I am 52byrs young in a new serious relationship. Thankyou so much .. I understand your support videos really help Me in Australia 🇦🇺

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому

      Always my pleasure. Wishing you all the best in your new relationship.

  • @tallspicy
    @tallspicy 3 місяці тому +3

    Not my job to keep things interesting alone.

  • @misriya8197
    @misriya8197 3 місяці тому

    I really appreciate ur videos , i was so frustrated, i keep having headache after fight, i keep like end the life , not only love entire surrounding which i have is toxic , least i could find some releif for love relationship,
    Pls recomand a channel or any link that i can cure myself mentally and have aa good life ……
    I need help pls ….. i am in the level of ending life …..

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +2

      Hello dear. Sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. Be kind to yourself. I would advise you to look for help in person, someone close to you that can support you, friend, family or stranger if necessary. Don't be afraid to ask others for help. One channel I'd suggest you is look up videos from David R. Hawkins about letting go.

    • @misriya8197
      @misriya8197 2 місяці тому

      @@SaveTheMessenger nt about love life , but entire people around me is so toxic …… If they need any help , they come and make me feel i am someone to them , after the help they make me feel like worse ………. It wont hurt much by being alone if there is no one … but it hurts bad when feel lonely around many peoples…

  • @thymetrees
    @thymetrees 3 місяці тому +2

    I absolutely love your words of wisdom! Thank you:)

  • @JessE-mr4yu
    @JessE-mr4yu 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for sharing beautiful soul. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there 💜💥❤️💥🩷💥 love Bashar btw 😊

  • @Portia620
    @Portia620 2 місяці тому

    Have fun and always work on attraction but always be willing to walk away if you were used to treat it like junk!!!!
    I only need God I don’t need for anything. I might love and care for someone. I’m really want them in my life, but I’m not begging them to stay. !!! I know what I bring to the table and it shows more and more! I hope they do the same

  • @mariannasantorinaiou3535
    @mariannasantorinaiou3535 3 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @ruva_wacho
    @ruva_wacho 2 місяці тому

    I think this is all too much. Just grow and be yourself for the sake of you and not the other person. Personally I love I love you too much and I know couples who say it too much have been together and all and thats ok

  • @colleenarezio32
    @colleenarezio32 3 місяці тому

    I enjoy listening and learning from you but, why aren't you married yet or have a lovely woman in your life?

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  3 місяці тому +3

      Maybe I have one but we keep our relationship private from social media. As I always teach here, mystery is always enticing.

  • @alenaadamkova7617
    @alenaadamkova7617 2 місяці тому

    Feminity is feeling of safety, and also offering safe space for other partner.
    Masculinity is about pursuing and action.
    Feminity is about accepting love and action from men.
    Feminity isnt about action, but acceptance.
    But the thing is women also take a lot of action...
    because being still may too often cause an anxiety or depression
    action creates a motivation in women as well...because it is oposition of anxiety.
    But women like to pursue also feminine hobbies, or sports.
    People think women are so active and taking action, because they want to be masculine.
    Actually they take action, because they feel discomfort of anxiety, therefore they love sports and hobbies.
    She feels like she builds her own confidence, health etc, it has nothing to do with men but her own confidence.
    The skills she learns help her to be also feminine.
    But during dating woman shouldnt take so much action, but let the man lead, and accept his love,
    feminity is about accepting love, accepting gifts, accepting his effort.

  • @mollynananderson1299
    @mollynananderson1299 2 місяці тому

    Yea. I said no and he left.

  • @RencieAmbaco
    @RencieAmbaco 3 місяці тому +1

    I don't say I love you often, but every message I insert a heart emojis.

    • @babyxox949
      @babyxox949 3 місяці тому

      Every message? Thats over kill.

    • @RencieAmbaco
      @RencieAmbaco 3 місяці тому

      @@babyxox949 it's a greetings message. Like goodnight Ang good morning that's it.

  • @meganknowles322
    @meganknowles322 3 місяці тому +1

    Ok, so I'm expected to be a guy's entertainment? Lol! Gtfoh. He can speak up like a grown ass person because communication is key