Great vid!! No sex till marriage increases the depth of emotional, mental, spiritual bonding....for LIFE! I waited till marriage. We've been married for 17 years and it feels like we love one another more each day. We have 2 boys, one with cerebral palsy, yet despite some challenges, it's as if the solid devoted foundation of our marriage has enabled us to stand super strong together, facing the struggles, yet the romantic feelings are intensifying & aging like a fine wine. Never underestimate the (unexpected) FAR-reaching blessings of saving wifey benefits (sex) till marriage. 💯 Vive la différence! 💃🕺
Men are hunters - they like the chase - so DO NOT EVER be at his beck and call, otherwise he’ll view you as a doormat (and I should know - I literally had “Welcome” stamped on my forehead!!). Make yourself scarce, that’s the key: and even if you cohabit or marry, make sure you do your own thing so he has a chance to miss you.
I started to follow you on Instagram, but today I found your channel here and I subscribed immediatly. Your videos and advices are excellent 💯 Thank you.
Not sure if you know much about this topic, but I’d love to see a video about dating men who have been divorced. It’s the worst time of their life and men who were established with a successful career and a home suddenly find themselves feeling broke and starting over. Then there’s coparenting and child support. When is it safe to date them and what to watch out for and how to face discussions about lifestyle expectations while also not being disrespectful given their circumstances? If he’s a good man and once had it all, but now will be rebuilding for awhile, should a woman wait to date him until he recovers financially or be with him in the hardship? It’s not just about the money, but more about his mindset and self worth issues and what losing stability does to a man’s psyche and behaviors that I’m worried about.
Considering how fragile men are even in the best circumstances, I would absolutely wait until he was financially recovered. He may think of you as a placeholder if you allow him to date you right now because unfortunately humans are horrible and illogical and most men wouldn't think the logical thing--this woman is so great for waiting to join herself to me while I'm struggling, she must really love me--but the reality is, subconsciously at least he's thinking--why is this woman interested in me while I have nothing? She must have low self-esteem/ be desperate--and then when he's back on his feet he'll replace you with someone he considers "high quality" someone who would not tolerate him while he was still getting his act together. I think the best thing you can do is tell him you will be his friend right now. And don't have sex with him. Whatever you do, don't have sex with him until he's stable and pursing you is his priority. A lot of guys date a couple rebounds after a divorce, so be careful and pay attention to his actions, not his words. And if you are already sleeping together, kindly friendzone him for the time being.
I learned just to be there…many times they need company and want to talk. Give him a soft place to fall…but make it positive talk. They don’t need advice…Companionship. Go to dinner and have a great time so he remembers good company. I wouldn’t get involved when his children are around. It makes it complicated for them, him and you. High potential for rebound until he gets his head on straight.
Hi Mr. Gomez, I got to know this man who is my neighbor & we kinda developed a friendship but then we got physical & all of a sudden things changed. He is not calling me just texting but he waits 5 days before contacting me. We have never dated nor done activities with me. Is he playing me? I like him but I feel betrayed. Help. Thanks for your advice.
Take absolutely no further notice of him other than a polite Good Morning if you accidentally bump into him. Then just keep walking. He'll get back in touch.
I thought a lot knew this,I thought thy were bright,men thing different then woman,I worked whith me and a lot demean there woman,and woman stick up fore them,yes some good one's but not meny,men need too be taught how too treat woman,
Just watched your video, for the first time yestetday. I chose to subscribe. I have listened to other male coaches. I like how direct and easy you make your suggestions.💅
Why do men lie? I was talking to a guy on a dating app. He suggested he would plan a date when I returned from a trip. He said he’d wait for me. The day of my flight he checked on me to make sure my flight went okay. Then he leaves me on read when I sent him a few songs on my playlist, and I asked him what he was listening to. I did this in the middle of my trip as a check in and to keep the connection going. A few days later he deletes his account. I’ve summed it up to him not liking my taste in music. The rudeness of lying and leading someone on though. I would have appreciated a reply like this is not going to work. Maybe this day and age people just don’t have the courtesy.
Also, a man who wants to het to know you will progres the conversation to phone, then date. If he's still talking to you on an app, then he's not that serious about hetting to know you.
Never take it personally before you get the meeting stage. He probably either went on a couple amazing dates with someone and decided he wanted to only focus on them, or maybe a previous ex came back into the picture and he wanted to get back together with her. Until you've actually met face-to-face or at least talked on the phone, I don't think anyone owes anyone an explanation for disappearing. That's just how it is these days. I'm sorry you are hurt though. Just know it isn't about you or anything you did. It had nothing to do with your musical tastes.
I’m sorry but I didn’t quite get this part. If a man I’m interested in is suddenly pulling away to 20% I SHOULD NOT MATCH HIS ENERGY?? what should I do? Do I continue giving my 100% attention as before? Thank you. You got a new subscriber ❤
@@SaveTheMessengerif I do that and he comes back full force, do I say anything to him about it? Do I repeat that process every time if it happens again or if it happens again does it mean he’s gotta go?
The most important thing is that you don't address his flakiness. I did that and instead of just giving him space, because we hadn't seen each other in awhile and I really wanted to see him, when he asked to postpone us seeing each other so he could hang out with his friends, I panicked and told him I needed to see him to feel like I could trust that he keeps his word. Plus I felt (and still do honestly) that it was BS he picked his friends over me since he sees them every week and we hadn't seen each other in 3 weeks. Well he dumped me the next day instead of seeing me. So yeah, just don't freak out if he cancels plans or reschedules a few times. Just say, "Oh that would actually help me out because I have [activity/excuse]." You could try that a few times. Try to be as "busy" as he is. If he keeps doing it over and over though, it might be something you have to address because he might actually just not be into you.
This doesn’t work with a man that was cheated on years ago n hasn’t worked through his pain.. at that point it’s about trust, the woman has to be consistently stable to trust
Sorry. Without trust, the relationship you are building will be brittle. Relationships are like pieces we build everyday. And you will always fight if the guy doesnt trust you. Drama filled relationship. My ex was like that. Never again to men who doesnt trust!
I’ve had a few of these videos pop recently, why should I be concerned about attracting a man… I’m a strong, independent woman, if he doesn’t like me then so what? I’m married by the way so who cares, but these videos are really pandering to men - women, be awake, be yourselves and never pander to what you think men want, trust me they’ll be drawn to you!
Hey Ismael, love your videos! I just dont see much around in youtube on tips on how a woman shows interest to a man. I find it difficult to find the balance between "dropping handkerchief'' and '' too progressive''. Like if I find a man interesting and I want to get to know him more, what can I do? Should I ask a him out? Thanks!
I don't get it- you said this moment of doubt is normal for men before committing and he tests if the woman knows her worth....but then you say a woman in this situation should not take him back when he comes with his explanations?
Thanks for the helpful guidance. I'd appreciate it if you could guide me on this. What if I texted him, and he's avoiding me, and now I feel like taking a step back and waiting until he messages me. So, when I see his text, should I immediately send back the reply or should I wait? What should I do? Your guidance would be really appreciated.
Hey, a Question...lets say you're in the 1st few months.of getting to know someone,its been slow, then things went to the next level which left u both breathless,then on the 3rd occasion he says he wants to go slowly this time...whats that saying?
That's actually a great sign. Sounds like he really wants to know you and takes dating you seriously. I wouldn't have sex with him for at least a few months. Personally, I'm waiting at least six months if I ever date again.
funny thing is if my women try most of these things... they will very soon be replaced and they know this because i made clear, "no games, i will see through shitt"
“Women?” Sounds like you’re the one playing games. *Everything this guy is saying, is simply common sense ….. and basic boundaries. Your “Women” sound more like abuse victims. + “If they try” + “They will soon be replaced” + “And they know this” + “I made clear” WOW …… You sound like you’re running a tight prison camp, or keeping women hostage.
Hi Ismael, days ago i read something that is: Women need connection to have sex. On the contrary...Men need sex to connect with you. I'd just like to know what you think about it😊
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Great vid!!
No sex till marriage increases the depth of emotional, mental, spiritual bonding....for LIFE!
I waited till marriage.
We've been married for 17 years and it feels like we love one another more each day.
We have 2 boys, one with cerebral palsy, yet despite some challenges, it's as if the solid devoted foundation of our marriage has enabled us to stand super strong together, facing the struggles, yet the romantic feelings are intensifying & aging like a fine wine.
Never underestimate the (unexpected) FAR-reaching blessings of saving wifey benefits (sex) till marriage. 💯
Vive la différence! 💃🕺
How long did you date before getting married?
That only works if you are a virgin. Born again is nonsense.
Many a horrific disappointment has awaited women who follow this!
1. Dont be predictable
2. Allow him to show up
3.give him a unique compliment
4. Make him feel free
5. physical intimacy
Thank you for the list!!
Notice how it’s all about HIM?
I'm taking lots of notes. I won't make the same mistakes next time. 💯
Smart move Jackie.
Yes but he will
How/Do these things apply when you’re a LDR ? Could you please make a video on LDR and how these apply ?
let him do whatever he wants! if there is no commitment, let go of all wanted control over him!! and in the end, he sees u as valuable.
This is SO true - wish I’d have known it years ago.
Men are hunters - they like the chase - so DO NOT EVER be at his beck and call, otherwise he’ll view you as a doormat (and I should know - I literally had “Welcome” stamped on my forehead!!). Make yourself scarce, that’s the key: and even if you cohabit or marry, make sure you do your own thing so he has a chance to miss you.
I started to follow you on Instagram, but today I found your channel here and I subscribed immediatly. Your videos and advices are excellent 💯 Thank you.
This was well presented even to me, a woman who's just celebrated 30 years of marriage with my man ❤ he's giving legit advice here ladies!
@selah7702
Congratulations! I pray for the same!!! 🙏🏻🕊
thank you!! this was great advice, keep up the good work!
Thank you! Will do!
THE COMPLIMENTS WORKED 😌I COMPLIMENTED HIS EYEBROWS
Wonderful. Thanks for sharing.
Cute
Not sure if you know much about this topic, but I’d love to see a video about dating men who have been divorced. It’s the worst time of their life and men who were established with a successful career and a home suddenly find themselves feeling broke and starting over. Then there’s coparenting and child support. When is it safe to date them and what to watch out for and how to face discussions about lifestyle expectations while also not being disrespectful given their circumstances? If he’s a good man and once had it all, but now will be rebuilding for awhile, should a woman wait to date him until he recovers financially or be with him in the hardship? It’s not just about the money, but more about his mindset and self worth issues and what losing stability does to a man’s psyche and behaviors that I’m worried about.
Considering how fragile men are even in the best circumstances, I would absolutely wait until he was financially recovered. He may think of you as a placeholder if you allow him to date you right now because unfortunately humans are horrible and illogical and most men wouldn't think the logical thing--this woman is so great for waiting to join herself to me while I'm struggling, she must really love me--but the reality is, subconsciously at least he's thinking--why is this woman interested in me while I have nothing? She must have low self-esteem/ be desperate--and then when he's back on his feet he'll replace you with someone he considers "high quality" someone who would not tolerate him while he was still getting his act together. I think the best thing you can do is tell him you will be his friend right now. And don't have sex with him. Whatever you do, don't have sex with him until he's stable and pursing you is his priority. A lot of guys date a couple rebounds after a divorce, so be careful and pay attention to his actions, not his words. And if you are already sleeping together, kindly friendzone him for the time being.
I learned just to be there…many times they need company and want to talk. Give him a soft place to fall…but make it positive talk. They don’t need advice…Companionship. Go to dinner and have a great time so he remembers good company. I wouldn’t get involved when his children are around. It makes it complicated for them, him and you. High potential for rebound until he gets his head on straight.
Thank you so much sir 👍❤
By heart i appreciate you for guidance & how to improve communication skills 🎉
Hi Mr. Gomez, I got to know this man who is my neighbor & we kinda developed a friendship but then we got physical & all of a sudden things changed. He is not calling me just texting but he waits 5 days before contacting me. We have never dated nor done activities with me. Is he playing me? I like him but I feel betrayed. Help. Thanks for your advice.
@Claudiarainone5548… Please stop texting him and delete his number. 🤗
Yeah played sorry
Definitely played for sex
it was just a game to him .
Take absolutely no further notice of him other than a polite Good Morning if you accidentally bump into him. Then just keep walking. He'll get back in touch.
I love your all quick tipss , really helpful. I'm smarter about men too now 💅
I'm glad my content is helping you.
sir ur words are great..im reflecting myself and my relation while listening with you.and ur true...thank you sir🙏
I am so happy that I found your channel! You have good solid content, and feel like a... loving uncle.
hey Ismael, why are you so smart? I can't resist your videos, full of wisdom and encouragement. Hope I found your You tube channel earlier....
You are the best! 👌👏
I salute u, God bless u, evil eyes off, I'm in love with your passion ❤
This is so exhausting...There are many men watching videos about manipulative and not being a simp🤦♀️. When you give them a compliment, they run🤦♀️
We are women and we need to not do anything to attract man because god has designed man to be attracted to women
Make him feel free!
I thought a lot knew this,I thought thy were bright,men thing different then woman,I worked whith me and a lot demean there woman,and woman stick up fore them,yes some good one's but not meny,men need too be taught how too treat woman,
Thank you very much!
Thanks a lot ! I appreciate this ! You being a man/ male, yourself, you being so authentic !!!!
Just watched your video, for the first time yestetday. I chose to subscribe. I have listened to other male coaches. I like how direct and easy you make your suggestions.💅
Welcome to my channel. Thanks for the kind words.
Why do men lie? I was talking to a guy on a dating app. He suggested he would plan a date when I returned from a trip. He said he’d wait for me. The day of my flight he checked on me to make sure my flight went okay. Then he leaves me on read when I sent him a few songs on my playlist, and I asked him what he was listening to. I did this in the middle of my trip as a check in and to keep the connection going. A few days later he deletes his account. I’ve summed it up to him not liking my taste in music. The rudeness of lying and leading someone on though. I would have appreciated a reply like this is not going to work. Maybe this day and age people just don’t have the courtesy.
Never take those personally. He was probably talking to different women at the same time and decided to pursue someone else.
Also, a man who wants to het to know you will progres the conversation to phone, then date. If he's still talking to you on an app, then he's not that serious about hetting to know you.
Never take it personally before you get the meeting stage. He probably either went on a couple amazing dates with someone and decided he wanted to only focus on them, or maybe a previous ex came back into the picture and he wanted to get back together with her. Until you've actually met face-to-face or at least talked on the phone, I don't think anyone owes anyone an explanation for disappearing. That's just how it is these days. I'm sorry you are hurt though. Just know it isn't about you or anything you did. It had nothing to do with your musical tastes.
@@MadisonEstesthat make a huge sense ❤ High five from Morocco
Bullshit its not work, he aint into you thats all
Good advice ❤
If you make some of these mistakes, is it possible to regroup and start again, provided you haven’t slept with him?
It can't hurt to try, right?
I’m sorry but I didn’t quite get this part. If a man I’m interested in is suddenly pulling away to 20% I SHOULD NOT MATCH HIS ENERGY?? what should I do? Do I continue giving my 100% attention as before?
Thank you. You got a new subscriber ❤
You redirect your energy and give 100% to yourself if you see he keeps neglecting your needs.
@@SaveTheMessengerif I do that and he comes back full force, do I say anything to him about it? Do I repeat that process every time if it happens again or if it happens again does it mean he’s gotta go?
The most important thing is that you don't address his flakiness. I did that and instead of just giving him space, because we hadn't seen each other in awhile and I really wanted to see him, when he asked to postpone us seeing each other so he could hang out with his friends, I panicked and told him I needed to see him to feel like I could trust that he keeps his word. Plus I felt (and still do honestly) that it was BS he picked his friends over me since he sees them every week and we hadn't seen each other in 3 weeks. Well he dumped me the next day instead of seeing me. So yeah, just don't freak out if he cancels plans or reschedules a few times. Just say, "Oh that would actually help me out because I have [activity/excuse]." You could try that a few times. Try to be as "busy" as he is. If he keeps doing it over and over though, it might be something you have to address because he might actually just not be into you.
This doesn’t work with a man that was cheated on years ago n hasn’t worked through his pain.. at that point it’s about trust, the woman has to be consistently stable to trust
you can’t speak for everyone right
Hense it's for important for women not to entertain a man who hasn't dealt with his past pains or traumas. It's his responsibility to heal himself.
True neaver do all kind's fore him,let him do fore you I neaver had too all this fore men,you neaver sed a truer a word,
Sorry. Without trust, the relationship you are building will be brittle.
Relationships are like pieces we build everyday.
And you will always fight if the guy doesnt trust you. Drama filled relationship.
My ex was like that. Never again to men who doesnt trust!
It works on a man who wants you...sometimes people use trust issues as a cover up for the reality that they don't want you
Do you feel that book models by mark manson is applicable for women to try the same for a man?
Thank you 🙏🏻💯
Wow so right
I’ve had a few of these videos pop recently, why should I be concerned about attracting a man… I’m a strong, independent woman, if he doesn’t like me then so what? I’m married by the way so who cares, but these videos are really pandering to men - women, be awake, be yourselves and never pander to what you think men want, trust me they’ll be drawn to you!
Hey Ismael, love your videos! I just dont see much around in youtube on tips on how a woman shows interest to a man. I find it difficult to find the balance between "dropping handkerchief'' and '' too progressive''. Like if I find a man interesting and I want to get to know him more, what can I do? Should I ask a him out? Thanks!
I really like your videos.
I love your advice, Ismael! Stupid, you're not!
I don't get it- you said this moment of doubt is normal for men before committing and he tests if the woman knows her worth....but then you say a woman in this situation should not take him back when he comes with his explanations?
Thanks for understanding my inner inquisitive thoughts.
You mean "Non-STOP"?
Thaxs,, b,blessed
Excellent advice.
This is only applicable for the loyal man not a cheater🤣anyway thank you
Golden advice my friend! Thank you ❤
This video is so amazing!!! It definitely gave me a eureka moment!! Now I know why it didn't work with the last guy. Thank you, Ismael! I subscribed!
Are these applicable when you are already in an exclusive relationship?
Ismael, this content is priceless. OMG!!😱 ❤❤❤🎉
thank you so much for this video Ive learned many things 🙏🙂💕
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You are the best Gomez ☀️❤️
Thanks for the helpful guidance. I'd appreciate it if you could guide me on this.
What if I texted him, and he's avoiding me, and now I feel like taking a step back and waiting until he messages me.
So, when I see his text, should I immediately send back the reply or should I wait? What should I do?
Your guidance would be really appreciated.
I love all your advices .
Hey, a Question...lets say you're in the 1st few months.of getting to know someone,its been slow, then things went to the next level which left u both breathless,then on the 3rd occasion he says he wants to go slowly this time...whats that saying?
You should be the one slowing things down and him following your pace.
That's actually a great sign. Sounds like he really wants to know you and takes dating you seriously. I wouldn't have sex with him for at least a few months. Personally, I'm waiting at least six months if I ever date again.
Nice, thank you.❤
3:45 thanks!
Hi loved what you said and how you explained it
I appreciate your comment.
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funny thing is if my women try most of these things... they will very soon be replaced and they know this because i made clear, "no games, i will see through shitt"
Men say this but it only applies to women they are not really into. When they really like you they become helpless kittens.
@@Bluesmoke4200on top of this...that will be hard to spot in a woman he's just getting to know...
“Women?”
Sounds like you’re the one playing games.
*Everything this guy is saying, is simply common sense ….. and basic boundaries.
Your “Women” sound more like abuse victims.
+ “If they try”
+ “They will soon be replaced”
+ “And they know this”
+ “I made clear”
WOW …… You sound like you’re running a tight prison camp, or keeping women hostage.
Asalamu aleykum ismael,let me give you an idea why don't you write a book on this
Hi Ismael, days ago i read something that is:
Women need connection to have sex.
On the contrary...Men need sex to connect with you.
I'd just like to know what you think about it😊
it’s true