Overcoming The Pain of Adultery
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Whether you are married or have been married in the past, or maybe you’re single and looking for that special someone, today’s episode “Overcoming the Pain of Adultery” will help you understand the vital need for a strong marriage foundation.
In this episode Creflo sits down with Lisa Johnson who has suffered through a failing marriage, adultery, rejection, and emotional pain. You’ll step into her world of brokenness, and hear tips from Creflo on how to apply the grace of God in times like these.
Like so many, Lisa deals with blaming herself during this time of emotional stress, but God has a plan for her life, and you’ll see how blame should never bear its burden on the victim.
I just found out about my husband's affair about 2 in a half weeks ago, and I am still very angry. Everyday I try to force him but it is very hard because the way he betrayed me was triffling and venomous. I'm still confused as to why he wants this marriage because he sure wasn't concerned over 2 weeks ago. Pray for me
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Mine has been over a year mine begs n says he wants the marriage n if Iam unhappy for me to leave I told him I wasn't looking the fighting n rage turned to numb n a who cares he will be eaten by conscience n God so I don't fight n tho I love him I tell God thank u for caring for me constantly
I also just found out my husband cheated on me after being married for over 25 years, how many times are you suppose to forgive him for doing you wrong, I hurt he cheats
I am in the processing of forgiving... Am really struggling but trusting GOD everyday.
anjeli Naidoo because He is the only One who will NEVER fail you. Mankind is something else.
🙏
It's such ashame that infidelity is all too common. There's a such thing as faithfulness. Try it sometime.
The pain will not go away, it will always be there, the way they blame you, the way they lie to you, the way they betrayed will come back to you in your head once in a while and in that moment you will be filled with hatred for them , and if you keep that pain in your heart, it will effect you, but if you let it out, they will get unhappy again and it continues , so it's always better to let go someone who purposely betrayed you and cheated on you !
Telling the truth!
I would appreciate advice. My husband left on the 12.09.18 to live with another woman. In July I found messages from him to another woman. We had a huge fight. huge. And I moved out and went to my sister for a 2 weeks..we reconciled and decided to work in our marriage...but the trust was a huge issue until this point. Over the period of our marriage we have had so many fights because he drinks and would go out and come home late...he had friends I didn't know. Our sex life got affected because he would never say he loves me..He wasn't affectionate towards me. I prayed throughout our marriage and even now since he has left. I have been praying and fasting for my marriage to be restored because I believe God can change anything and do anything. I feel betrayed. I feel like everyone I love hurts me. I feel used. I feel unattractive and hopeless. Everyday I keep saying I forgive him Lord.....Lord help me.
How are you feeling now Vee H?
Wow your story sounds so much like mine....pray for me...we are trying reconciliation but like u said FORGIVENESS is hard
I need help too. Your story is so much similar to mine. I had my suspicions, he treated me like trash n not fit nor good enough,even before I discovered the whole truth. Then it all made sense, the new behaviour towards me
as someone who has been a cheater in my past relationship, I needed to see the opposite side and the harm it causes. Pray for me please
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Chevrohn McBean May God be with you. It's never too late to be better and to change...your past does not define you.All the best.
I'm going through this right now and it's so hard
Feel u same here, only God can help
the pain is unbearable but God sees us all may the Lord bring peace to your heart
They continue to lie and blame you! Does praise and worship on sunday!
If one really loves someone infidelity is non existence., no communication thts not a marriage
I went through the same thing, all the lies and cheating! It’s devastating!
I was married to him for 34 years(he left 7 months ago)
I NEED HELP COPING. I HOPE THIS VIDEO HELPS
It's such ashame that infidelity is all too common. There's a such thing as faithfulness. Try it sometime.
It’s been 12 yrs still with my husband but I still hurt and beat myself up on why it happened. He cheated on me with a marriage counselor of all things. I’m not 100% happy or trust him 100%. I know it sounds easy to leave but my kids don’t know what happen and they have said so many times “I am so glad you and daddy aren divorced”. We did marriage counseling and it did help for a while but I get paranoid a lot when I see him on his phone. When have been married 24yrs. We did go to our Bishop and work on forgiveness for his sins and to work on our marriage. I just can’t after all these years still let it go 😩
Asking questions won't help because men will do what the fuck they want to do and when you confront them they try to make u look like the bad guy. They will go on day to day like nothing happened but u still having emotional issues. It's not fair.
Cheating starts with a thought or a lingering glance at someone. You have to nip it the the bud
I discovered that my husband cheated on me for two years now and just weeks ago I saw the evidence and I'm pregnant for him it hurts so much. Though he says he's sorry I can't stop asking myself if he's really serious or he'll still go on with his secretary's sister.I feel aweful I'm trusting God to help me.
Evelyn Limunga I pray for your strength during this time!
I love you sis! I pray The Lord strengthens you and restore your peace in Him. I pray peace in your mind that you can't understand or articulate.
Once a cheater always a cheater .
Once a cheater is not always a cheater because people can change and the reasons they cheat are different from one to other... However I am not denying the fact that cheating is wrong.. Marriage is covenant that needs to respected and honored, its best to keep it as God Almighty intended it...
Warning Against Adultery
5 My son, pay attention to my wisdom,
turn your ear to my words of insight,
2 that you may maintain discretion
and your lips may preserve knowledge.
3 For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil;
4 but in the end she is bitter as gall,
sharp as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 She gives no thought to the way of life;
her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.
7 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
do not turn aside from what I say.
8 Keep to a path far from her,
do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you lose your honor to others
and your dignity[a] to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
and your toil enrich the house of another.
11 At the end of your life you will groan,
when your flesh and body are spent.
- Proverbs 5
A repeat cheater......LEAVE! Especially if you do not have children yet.....LEAVE! DO NOT WASTE 30 YEARS, THE CHEATER WILL JUST SEE YOUR FORGIVENESS AS WEAKNESS AND CHEAT AND DISRESPECT YOU MORE!
Cheating really is selfish
She's beautiful!
Some of those thousand questions are awesome
If the husband or wife is sincerely sorry for committing adultery and truly repent, the marriage can be restored. It is going to take forgiveness, work and commitment to move forward. My prayers are with those who are going through the same issue.
Ringer Lucinda absolutely! I’m a witness. When 2 agree with God and are willing to put in the work, anything can be overcome.! 💯💯💯
@@marymac1972 Amen!
Thank you, I'm one of them
Oh how I wish that Creflo had been around when my husband had cheated on me. I didn't get this kind of encouragement from family or church and I needed it desperately. I am saving this video if I find I am ever in a position to try and help someone who may be going through what I went through.
@Little Boots You should be proud.
Pastor God almighty bless you and keep your ministry safe
This was triggering - IDK that it helped...
Thank you Lord for this video,Im going through the same thing,it is so painful every night i pray to God to take the pain away..
This was heartbreaking, but God was really in the mist. How can I get a copy of the list of questions to ask while dating?
Greetings,
Beloved of GOD,
Majority have been deceived
Concerning marriage , divorce ,
REMARRING another while first
Spouse is still living.
Beloved of GOD it's a sin to
Get A Divorce from your first
Spouse and marry another while
Your first spouse is still living.
Majority pastors in America
Are not preaching or teaching
Sound doctrine.
Your Eternal Destiny depends on
Sound doctrine.
Beloved please listen to these
End time videos on marriage,
Divorce and REMARRING another
While your first spouse is still living.
On you tube :
After marriage Case closed part 1:
One Flesh - by EVANGELIST Claire Andoun Atongo
On you tube :
After Marriage Case Closed Part 2:
No Divorce - by EVANGELIST Claire Andoun Atongo
On you tube :
After Marriage Case Closed Pt.3
He Left Me Can I Remarry ?
By EVANGELIST Claire Andoun
Atongo
Not : sister Claire went home to. E with the Lord Jesus in 2017.
As time permits please listen
To and share her anointed end
Time messages, warnings all lead
By the Spirit of GOD, to empower,
Encourage and Strengthen the body
Of Christ in this End Time
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Saforo Ministries
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What does the scriptures say ?..........
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As these End Time Anointed
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GOD BLESS,
SHaLOM
Would be a women. We need to be more like men. Don't tolerate cheating.
I am going thru this right now and it's confusing and hurtful. I just want God to take the pain away 😓
I feel your pain. My husband had a long term affair with a motel check in clerk thirty years ago. We stayed together and he does not have any affairs as far as I know. The pain of betrayal is like cancer, it might be in remission but
when it comes back, the pain is devastating. I am still in pain!
Me too,the pain is excruciating. I get lost in thought and the pain in my eyes is so evident.
1 Corinthians 15:1-4
Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
You need more than just his love to forgive him and the marriage work...HE NEEDS TO TRULY REPENT!!!! NOT JUST BE UPSET THAT HE GOT CAUGHT BUT TRUE REPENTANCE!!!!!
Cheating is dangerous business the person you cheat on may kill you and the person you cheated with.
Ummm her husband clearly didn’t care about her why should she state for the sake of saying she did?
Forgiveness is not always reconciliation
Absolutely the point many (Christians, especially!) miss... Yes, forgiveness is incumbent on (and beneficial to) the offended; yet, restoration is a long way away from forgiveness place, and is rather contingent upon many other factors.
She pray and God will make something. With her husband
Can you please pray for my marriage to be restored. I am guilty of cheating on my beautiful wife 3x over a 10 year span and have since given over my life to the Lord. She is a Godly woman but decided to separate and wants me to get right with God while she takes her time to heal. She is feeling like the marriage is over but is not in a rush to make any decision. I am in Christian counseling and meeting with new mentors on a weekly basis and am in complete surrender to the Lord now. I am praying for His perfect will, but I am also praying for His will to be to restore my marriage. I do not know if that is the right thing to do but I am doing it until God says no. Please keep us in your prayers and our 3 beautiful daughters. TY! God Bless
Praying for you!
It's hard to forgive a cheating spouse especially when think you should be over how they betrayed you. If God doesn't change a cheating spouse they will never change. I think when you have a cheating spouse I don't think you can forgive them as long as you're with that person. I know from experience sometimes I hate myself for not leaving him along time ago. Now I dislike him so much.
I am hurt being a man we can be shameful at times Jesus save my beautiful sister
People will not tell the truth no matter how much question yu ask Dem lol
God has never leave us and he he his always there . Bad thing happen to good people.
Not everyone answers the questions honestly.
Really love this episode. thanks for this. Forgiveness is always the key.
This never goes away 13 years later
I subscribed at 8 min 21 sec😂
We need great videos with this kind of content...
This help me so much
My boyfriend cheated and I’m honestly not really forgiving him. I say I’m trying but it’s so freaking hard. I literally trust him with nothing. Absolutely nothing he says. He lied to me so much and the only way I found out was by taking a picture of the woman’s number and contacting her, asking who she is and if my boyfriends been with her. She told me EVERYTHING. Broke my heart. I literally shattered. I can’t trust him but I’m so in love. I love him so much but I don’t believe anything he says. I’ve prayed but I can’t seem to get past this. I’m sure I need to let him go. I’m waiting on a visible sign from God. Maybe I’m intentionally ignoring it because I want to make this work... idk. I’m just tired and emotionally drained.
I understand same shoes,a kid together,he is 1 year old
going thru the same issue
praying for you to go trough it victorious and to come out with more then with what you went in it!!
Lots of marriage issues makes me become more afraid to get into this marriage commitment and my age is ticking. Hope God will help me somehow.
By the way I would be glad to know what microphone and sound system Rev Creflodollar is using. It is so glorious.
My parents have been married for almost 40 years. I don't know if there was infidelity in there marriage.
I know what u go through
I had the same experience whereby my ex would say that she loved me but have affair with someone else.So I made a choice no more of the relationship and if that is what it meant of love ,I said no more of toxic relationship and the "love"thing.Toxic relationship is demon driven and can lead to death
I've been with my husband for 30 years....he has cheated more times then I can count, treated me with disrespect, turmoil, total disregard. I stayed constantly hoping one day....I no longer have hope. I caught him again looking at sexual pictures of another woman, while he acts disgusted with me. I no longer have hope. Idk if staying was the right thing for my children and the many children we took in. It definitely wasn't a perfect marriage. Now he had me take in another one of his family members to raise, he is 6, I am 50, and yet he continues to check out and leave everything to me...and now looking at another woman sexually. I tried to get him to understand by saying how would he feel if I sent such pictures of myself to other men. He said with such disgust that he didn't care where I send pictures of me! I have no hope left and I feel like a fool. I hope God is happy with my life even though I am not sure if I did his will or just trying to make everyone happy.
6:15
My husband of 11yrs or should I say 12 yrs had Adultry in our marriage and I want him back but I want to move past this and be with him but there can not be and will not be any more of this crap in our lives I will not allow it as I did in the past if he comes back because It hurts me more then it hurts him .I do still truly am In Love with him I and my husband had gotten married back in December 20th of 2008 at the morman church and he thought that he could more then 1 wife but in the state we live in you go to prison for it.
going thru the same issue
But we can only marry again if the spouse is dead and god said that the only thing that break the Covenant of first marriage.
@@stroudtemekia4Marriage should be for life. Unfortunately, there are a lot of fraudulent people out there willing to con you. Fraudulent marriages are not real and they exist only in your mind. They don't honour God and they don't lead to a fulfilling life. This woman was defrauded in her marriage and she'll be damaged for life. This is the fault of her ex. I don't believe she's divorced. I believe she was never married. It's a fantasy. So many other people experience this and view their marriage and divorce as real when it was a lie from the beginning. We need to be careful when we condemn someone for remarriage.
Its not only happening with women its with men as well.
I am going through it now and I found out a month now that my husband has a child out side our marriage . I love my husband and we have 2 wonderful sons and we have been married 14 years and I be came a Christian 3 years now .and he has a 3months baby now . I am not defending my husband he his a excellent father and a wonderful provider . But now I am hurting I hate him today I love him tomorrow . Sometimes I give so mad at him . But in spite of all that I am trusting God , and God has forgiven me so many times so I am given my husband a next chance . I am holding on to Gods promise that he will never leave me nor for sake. My God has not fail me yet . Trust God
With all my respect for you pastor Creflo, where is God in all of this mess ?
God is where everyone left Him- in the secret place. When they decide to incorporate him into their lives then you will see a different story.
I would love to go to see this sermon..so funny but spot on..you really need to know the person your marrying..even then you can still get fooled..I sure did.
Greetings,
Majority are being deceived
Concerning marriage Divorce
And REMARRING Another while
Your first spouse is still living
Beloved Of GOD it's A Sin.
Please watch these anointed
End time ministries on you tube.
Majority pastors and Bishop's
Etc . Men And Women Of God
In America Are not preaching or teaching sound Doctrine on this serious matter your Eternal Destiny depends on the undiluted word of GOD.
On you tube:
Wronged marriages are taking Many to Hell - by Esther Saforo from Esther Saforo Ministries
On you tube :
Broken Vows - Esther Saforo
From Esther Saforo Ministries
With Pastor Boateng
On you tube :
After Marriage Case Closed Part 1:
One Flesh- By Claire Andoun Atongo
On you tube :
After Marriage Case Closed Part 2:
No Divorce - Evangelist Claire Andoun Atongo
On you tube :
After Marriage Case Closed Pt 3
He left Me Can I Remarry ?
By EVANGELIST Claire Andoun
Atongo
Note : sister Claire Went Home to be
With The Lord Jesus in 2017
All of her end time anointed videos
Are all inspired by the Spirit of GOD
They will bless you please share with others .
On you tube :
Men stop Giving your Strength to women Proverbs 31:3.............
Jeremiah Gregg
On you tube:
Sex - Esther Saforo From Esther Saforo Ministries
On you tube :
Before I Say I Do Pt 1:..................
Esther Saforo Official UA-cam
Channel
On you tube :
Marriage And Divorce ! - ( Many Miss Heaven ) - Apostle Simon Gichinga.............
Watchman peter Official Channel ETV
On you tube:
Apostle Gino Jennings- marriage ,
Divorce,and remarriage................
Tony Harbin
On you tube:
A word from GOD Concerning Marriage...................
IAM Redeemed Ministry
On you tube :
Is Marriage Really Honorable in all??
What Does the Scriptures Say ?..........
IAM Redeemed Ministry
On you tube :
A word From GOD To married Couples......................
I Am Redeemed Ministry
On you tube :
Marriage And Divorce ! - ( many Miss Heaven ) - Apostle Simon Gichinga............
Watchman peter Official Channel ETV
On you tube :
The Chambers of The Divorced and
Remarried people...................
Peniel Ngonde
Beloved of God, as these end time
Anointed warnings / messages
Empower, Encourage, And Strengthen you please share with
The body of Christ our destiny
Depends on The Undiluted Word Of
GOD.
GOD BLESS,
SHaLOM
I thought that as a minister, you would suggest the woman to pray for her husband's deliverance from the spirit of sensuality/adultery, but instead you are encouraging her to remarry. No wonder divorce has a higher rate in Christianity lately.
She has grounds for divorce
Tracey Ferrell, you are absolutely right that she has grounds for divorce. However, you'd expect a pastor to ask what does the hurt want to do and encourage them. Not only suggest divorce.
This situation can be, of course, uncomfortable and tricky. You want to get over it and pray for them bc you want your family. Whilst the contrary, you don't trust and don't believe they will change. You know what I mean?
@Janet Adebanwo well said
Exactly. God hates divorce. Period. And there is no remarriage with the spouse still alive.
Thank you
Right so good!! Thank you so much!
my wife abandoned our marriage and moved out without giving me any reason God hasn't revealed to me if it's been going on 2 year's our Anniversary in April not once nev we betrayed my wife never lied to my wife not seeing any women besides her I've been faithful to God No matter what happens and faithful even to our marriage fasting, and praying for her deliverance from pride and the Jezebel spirit she moved out to another apartment across the court from me so wen I'm jogging I see her in her new car but I ignore her and her name is Cynthia Jones I'm waiting on my Father to reveal thing's to me to do something about my marriage.
Jerod Grant Yes I am.
Andre Brady move on is not God's answer to your situation my brother. This is definitely not God's voice to you. Please continue to pray, you have been tested, please ask the Lord to give you more strength to pass the test.
1) The devil is checking you out to see if you are really obedient to God.
2) he's checking to see if you know your Father's voice.
3) you have been tested to see if the love you claim to have is real, is it from God ? for no matter how much we cheat on God and betray and ignore and moved away from God, He's love remain unchanged toward us, He continues to pray for us like He did for Peter, and always ready to take us back as we confess. So this is the type of love He wants us to have for our spouses Ephesians 5 and for others John 13:34
4) he's checking to see if you have patience, tolerance, temperance, true wisdom, goodness, forbearance, long suffering, true love, and faithfulness in all situations. These are fruit of the Spirit. If we don't have that, we may not enter into the kingdom of heaven.
Please continue to pray and fast with all of your heart and soon you will be hearing from your Father.
If anyone wants you to get a divorce and move on with your life, I pray that you don't listen to that voice for scripture say in Mark 9 no body should separate their marriage.
Please stop telling people online your wife's name, and please stop saying she has a Jezebel spirit. If you know about the spirit, you should pray to God so the spirit would leave her.
If you who are a human can see the bad spirit who is attacking your wife, how much more that God can see it and even allowed it to happen so later on you both can glorify God ?
God is already knew your wife is weaker than you in that particular area, this is the reason He has placed you two together so you can be a strength for her in any given situation.
Remember what made you fell in love with her and remember to possess God's unconditional love for her and that would be enough to open up the gate of heaven in your marriage.
And you two shall be a role model to the rest of the falling marriages in Christianity today.
May the Lord bless you and keep you in His will. In Jesus Christ name I pray Amen.
Andre Brady we must remember we dont fight against flesh and blood we have to fight in the realm of the spirit thats where the real battle is...i have to remind myself that also...
Read the scriptures and follow them before taking the advice to stay or leave that you've been given.
Going through this now, my partner and myself been together for more than 13 years and have two children, he cheated and produced a child. I didn’t find out about the infidelity until the kid was 4 years old. Now he wants to make things right with me by getting married, I’m highly confused and upset with it all.
What I wished he had touched on or asked her was what she felt needed to be done in reference to the outside child if they were going to make it
Nice ward's
my long distances dad of my 5yrs son has been betraying me in every vacation he come home...he played me with more than 7 ladies in a month of vacation.i keep forgiving him but he keep hurting me in every vaction,,,,pains pains
he has 3kids now with those ladies
he has already learnt that you'll take his crap always just leave him.. i gave my exhusband 4 chances n he always cheated.. the 5th time i didn't even say anything i packed up n left.. it was so hard i couldn't sleep through the night the first two months n finally it got better n I'm happier now my kids are good..
thanks gal
God's ways are not our ways.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.
- Isaiah 55:8-9
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. - Matthew 6:33 King James Version (KJV)
I have never suffered the pain of adultery whenever I've been having affairs with married men, Girls, always pick a married man whenever you want to have a fling, they are much more experienced and they don't lay any trips on you about how they love you, you are both doing it for the fun and it is a lot of fun.
Adultery and being part of ruining a marriage with the result of children (if there are any) being hurt is fun to you? Its sounds like you lack a conscience. Good luck on judgement day.
Wtf does somebody’s credit and there finances have to do with the holly father?? He sounds very judgmental it’s kinda cringe
i was wondering the same thing!
Not judging ... I believe you should Know that because if he/she has debt well guess what that becomes your debt! If you a baller aye kudos to those that is ready to take on debt of a spouse without at least talking about before hand. That’s also like child support well now you married so that monthly money coming out and he is short so you have to come up with the amount ... Yessss Questions need to be asked during the dating process for sure. I have been married for 18years & it’s hard work especially when you get married at 21 you know nothing your still a kid. Until one day your like omg!!! I did not take Time to learn this boy... young man... now a grown man...!!! I teach my children especially our 18 year old son ask questions because if you don’t ask you won’t know until the mask comes off then you are looking like what did I just do✔️✔️✔️✔️!!! You all are taking finances to seriously you have to be a an open book once you decide to become a unit... union!! What is mine is now yours & what is yours is now mines!!!! #THINKABOUTIT