I actually relate to this so hard. I'm a writer, and as a kid I had really high expectations for what I wanted to do when I grew up, and those expectation never left me. And whenever I tried to create something, it fell short to what I imagined it to be like in my head, leading me to give up before I even began. Remember y'all, don't get to lost looking ahead in the future. It only demotivates you and takes away from what you can do in the present. Love your videos, underrated af.
When u decide to do the things you were thinking about all days and executing your ideas into actions, after a while you'll find out that you can't be perfect in all of them because being perfect at something requires you to dedicate and spend a huge amount of time on it therefore you realize it's time to choose the most valuable option among all those things and this is another phase of overthinking and it leaves you in a muddy swamp of procrastination. To those who are struggling with this pain, just be honest with yourself and go for the most valuable option and consider all aspect of it.
Yes. Sacrifice. I think people today have a problem with the world freedom. They seem to think that freedom is doing everything you want as long as it doesn't bother other people. To me, freedom is being able to make choices, even if it goes against public opinion, even if it goes against your pulsions. For instance, we are always free to decide wether we want to do something bad, that we know will hurt us, but that "feels good", that brings us pleasure, or not. I also loved the fact that you talk about sacrifice and relationship. Love (all kinds of love, platonic or not), do require time, and that is already a sacrifice.
I'm here at 17:13 IST, (haven't started with this video yet, but I've watched couple of videos before) with a notebook and a pen, willing to note each and every thing because I trust you with my benefit. I can't convey you my current state being so incomprehensible for me. But this video is more than just a video, more like a ray of hope, something that I can hold on to for long term. I will keep on updating to from time to time regarding what I learnt from you along with real time implementation.
The timing of this video is acc crazy cuz this is something I’ve been struggling with for so long and what u explained rlly helped me to understand and to become more self aware of what I was doing. Plsss keep making content💕
I've been struggling with a similar problem of being in a limbo of inaction. For me, it came down to an inability to slow down. Whenever I did something, I'd get impatient and rush just to get it done. However, in doing so, the magic of whatever I was doing got lost. This made me wonder whether how we do things might be just as crucial as what we do. For me, a lot of fulfillment comes from slowing down and doing things with care, though admittedly my mind still always tells me to just finish. But doing is more important than having got done because that's when we're being and expressing. Of course, there's the danger of using care as an excuse for perfectionism. So, I think it's important to strike a balance between getting things done and doing them with due care. ... Anyways sorry for yapping so much 😅
Nah, hit the nail on the head. For a personal comparison, I tale time with my personal projects (music and fanfiction) because rushing to get it done will not prove rewarding results. But there are definitely times when I don't sit down and actually do the few finishing touches and procrastination occurs. That balance of "get it done" and "take your time" is important for things like this
Thank you very very much for the book recommendation. It was amazing how relatable and insightful it was to this period of my life, absolute gem. So many times I was taken aback because the author put into words exactly the thoughts I'd had these past few months. I've read it once now, but now I got to actually internalize these ideas.
I am so so glad I found your platform. I have been addicted to watching and learning from you!! Thank you for being so genuine, so clear and knowledgeable. Girl you are bound to GREAT THINGS! subbie for life here ❤️
You speak right out of my soul! I really hope I, one day, will find a person who also thinks like I do. But I also know that I can't just find new friends while staying at home all day... And my current friends never wanna go out (or they don't have time) + I do not have a real connection to them they're just my friends bc we happen to be in the same school...
Okay, I've procrastinated this step enough. I'm finishing a song cover and posting the first chapter of my fanfic this weekend. I start tomorrow after my jog.
I can really relate to this video. I always wanted to make a UA-cam channel and had this idea that it should be perfect. This search for perfection has stopped me from actually putting in the work. Recently, I realized that the most important thing is not to idolize the end goal but to take some action. I have now uploaded my first two videos and hopefully, I will make many more in the future.
This is what I need, thank you for helping me this mei❤ everything to much going on with me, i just don't like missing out stuff, this part will help me out❤ thank you so much mei, i really count on you🥰😘
This is your second video that I'm watching and I am gonna subscribe right now. It's summer I graduated high school in March and uni hasn't started yet and literally all these thoughts are surrounding me nothing to do anything and I end up in delusions and and fear of future Very helpful How old are you ? You speak like a pro
"the option is good bcz you make it good" - right. it's astonishing how you uploaded js when I badly needed it, tho I didn't know it myself. this vid made me realise a lot of things actually, like i am enthusiast about a LOT of things. I have been making covers, I js started making self-help vids which I wanted to do since long (ur vid played a huge role in starting this btw thanks), this is my final yr on hs and I need to pay attention a lot on my studies too, I have another profession or degrees in my head that I want to do when older, I am also taking steps forward towards freelancing type of thing but sometimes I feel like it's all js in my head and I'm not doing enough of any of it and it is definitely not smth I'm proud of. but I'll have to try my best + broo you're such a wise and nice person. you always sound so original, love it abt u. always keep it up 🫶🏻
"there's no best possible option, the option is good because you make it good" it's so iconic me used to live inside my fantasies where everything good is happening to me, and at the same time I am looking for the very best possible option, as if me is someone perfect deserves to live a perfect life, as if I take time in choosing the best option, my life wouldn't have gone wrong right? nah, I realize I did nothing but wasting my current life living in my head. I realize I just wasted like 19 years of my life? but I am started to life for one month too lol thanks mei qi, can I know how old are you right now? just curious
hello! thank you for this beautiful and insightful video. I really love how you articulate your thoughts. I’ve been having similar thoughts lately, and it is truly a blessing that I found this video. I’m that girl unwilling to let go of the multiple fantasies in her head. I find it really difficult to live in the present moment. I keep thinking that my future is going to be better and only then can I do all the things I want. I realize now that I have been wasting my life hanging on to fantasies that may never come true. I have been in this state of limbo for years and I’m totally done with it now. I strongly agree that things are meaningful because we give them meaning and that we can live a meaningful life by making the necessary decisions and sacrifices. as painful as they may be, losses are not always bad. I believe it’s called collateral beauty-the idea that every loss or sacrifice carries the potential for unexpected beauty or positive change, even if it's not immediately apparent. with this perspective, I hope we all find meaning in our lives. 🤍
I actually relate to this so hard. I'm a writer, and as a kid I had really high expectations for what I wanted to do when I grew up, and those expectation never left me. And whenever I tried to create something, it fell short to what I imagined it to be like in my head, leading me to give up before I even began. Remember y'all, don't get to lost looking ahead in the future. It only demotivates you and takes away from what you can do in the present. Love your videos, underrated af.
When u decide to do the things you were thinking about all days and executing your ideas into actions, after a while you'll find out that you can't be perfect in all of them because being perfect at something requires you to dedicate and spend a huge amount of time on it therefore you realize it's time to choose the most valuable option among all those things and this is another phase of overthinking and it leaves you in a muddy swamp of procrastination. To those who are struggling with this pain, just be honest with yourself and go for the most valuable option and consider all aspect of it.
My favorite thing about reality is that you're in it.
let’s not develop an unhealthy parasocial relationship
you probably won't see this, but thank you so much because your knowledge gives me such a different life perspective, thank you so much
I feel like you are talking directly to me
U r like inspiration for me.... I'm 19 right now nd I really resonate with ur words... Luvv u ❤❤
Yes. Sacrifice. I think people today have a problem with the world freedom. They seem to think that freedom is doing everything you want as long as it doesn't bother other people. To me, freedom is being able to make choices, even if it goes against public opinion, even if it goes against your pulsions. For instance, we are always free to decide wether we want to do something bad, that we know will hurt us, but that "feels good", that brings us pleasure, or not.
I also loved the fact that you talk about sacrifice and relationship. Love (all kinds of love, platonic or not), do require time, and that is already a sacrifice.
I'm here at 17:13 IST, (haven't started with this video yet, but I've watched couple of videos before) with a notebook and a pen, willing to note each and every thing because I trust you with my benefit. I can't convey you my current state being so incomprehensible for me. But this video is more than just a video, more like a ray of hope, something that I can hold on to for long term. I will keep on updating to from time to time regarding what I learnt from you along with real time implementation.
all the best!!!
The timing of this video is acc crazy cuz this is something I’ve been struggling with for so long and what u explained rlly helped me to understand and to become more self aware of what I was doing. Plsss keep making content💕
I've been struggling with a similar problem of being in a limbo of inaction. For me, it came down to an inability to slow down. Whenever I did something, I'd get impatient and rush just to get it done.
However, in doing so, the magic of whatever I was doing got lost.
This made me wonder whether how we do things might be just as crucial as what we do. For me, a lot of fulfillment comes from slowing down and doing things with care, though admittedly my mind still always tells me to just finish.
But doing is more important than having got done because that's when we're being and expressing.
Of course, there's the danger of using care as an excuse for perfectionism. So, I think it's important to strike a balance between getting things done and doing them with due care.
... Anyways sorry for yapping so much 😅
Nah, hit the nail on the head. For a personal comparison, I tale time with my personal projects (music and fanfiction) because rushing to get it done will not prove rewarding results. But there are definitely times when I don't sit down and actually do the few finishing touches and procrastination occurs. That balance of "get it done" and "take your time" is important for things like this
Thank you very very much for the book recommendation. It was amazing how relatable and insightful it was to this period of my life, absolute gem. So many times I was taken aback because the author put into words exactly the thoughts I'd had these past few months. I've read it once now, but now I got to actually internalize these ideas.
I'm trying to become a professional a musician and have had to sacrifice a lot in order to be able to create more. Great video!!
I am so so glad I found your platform. I have been addicted to watching and learning from you!! Thank you for being so genuine, so clear and knowledgeable. Girl you are bound to GREAT THINGS! subbie for life here ❤️
You speak right out of my soul!
I really hope I, one day, will find a person who also thinks like I do.
But I also know that I can't just find new friends while staying at home all day...
And my current friends never wanna go out (or they don't have time) + I do not have a real connection to them they're just my friends bc we happen to be in the same school...
Awesome video as always!!
Okay, I've procrastinated this step enough. I'm finishing a song cover and posting the first chapter of my fanfic this weekend. I start tomorrow after my jog.
This is beautiful! But also kinda sad.
needed this rn, thank you
Well, that's one way to change my outlook on life
God bless you!❤
Thank you for another vid mei 🙏🏻 always so well spoken 💙
This video came up the perfect time, u just describe what i did with my summer break." Living in the future"
This is actually somehow true 🙂
Thank you so much for this wake up call and shift in perspective.
wow, this video came at the perfect time. idk if you’re going to read this but I really simply appreciate this video. Thank you.
I like the way you tink
Everything everywhere all at once...
❤❤❤
I can really relate to this video. I always wanted to make a UA-cam channel and had this idea that it should be perfect. This search for perfection has stopped me from actually putting in the work. Recently, I realized that the most important thing is not to idolize the end goal but to take some action. I have now uploaded my first two videos and hopefully, I will make many more in the future.
U are really a someone I can trust and look up to 💗
U make me want to get up from being on my phone and do the things I'm procrastinating on.❤
fulfillment > happiness. eventually
reality>brush long video>short video>play games
thank you for this
This is what I need, thank you for helping me this mei❤ everything to much going on with me, i just don't like missing out stuff, this part will help me out❤ thank you so much mei, i really count on you🥰😘
Focus on a goal
thank you for this vid
This is your second video that I'm watching and I am gonna subscribe right now.
It's summer I graduated high school in March and uni hasn't started yet and literally all these thoughts are surrounding me nothing to do anything and I end up in delusions and and fear of future
Very helpful
How old are you ? You speak like a pro
❤
You’re right
"the option is good bcz you make it good" - right.
it's astonishing how you uploaded js when I badly needed it, tho I didn't know it myself. this vid made me realise a lot of things actually, like i am enthusiast about a LOT of things. I have been making covers, I js started making self-help vids which I wanted to do since long (ur vid played a huge role in starting this btw thanks), this is my final yr on hs and I need to pay attention a lot on my studies too, I have another profession or degrees in my head that I want to do when older, I am also taking steps forward towards freelancing type of thing but sometimes I feel like it's all js in my head and I'm not doing enough of any of it and it is definitely not smth I'm proud of. but I'll have to try my best + broo you're such a wise and nice person. you always sound so original, love it abt u. always keep it up 🫶🏻
Best video I watched today 😊
Meiqiii!
im shifting realities
🍱
"there's no best possible option, the option is good because you make it good" it's so iconic
me used to live inside my fantasies where everything good is happening to me, and at the same time I am looking for the very best possible option, as if me is someone perfect deserves to live a perfect life, as if I take time in choosing the best option, my life wouldn't have gone wrong right? nah, I realize I did nothing but wasting my current life living in my head. I realize I just wasted like 19 years of my life? but I am started to life for one month too lol
thanks mei qi, can I know how old are you right now? just curious
hello!
thank you for this beautiful and insightful video. I really love how you articulate your thoughts. I’ve been having similar thoughts lately, and it is truly a blessing that I found this video.
I’m that girl unwilling to let go of the multiple fantasies in her head. I find it really difficult to live in the present moment. I keep thinking that my future is going to be better and only then can I do all the things I want. I realize now that I have been wasting my life hanging on to fantasies that may never come true. I have been in this state of limbo for years and I’m totally done with it now.
I strongly agree that things are meaningful because we give them meaning and that we can live a meaningful life by making the necessary decisions and sacrifices. as painful as they may be, losses are not always bad.
I believe it’s called collateral beauty-the idea that every loss or sacrifice carries the potential for unexpected beauty or positive change, even if it's not immediately apparent.
with this perspective, I hope we all find meaning in our lives. 🤍
hey , great video
u look too young to have such a great wise perspective ,
you are doing good .
What is your personality type?
slay
procrastinating
Why do you remind me of female version of Alex Hormozi
sacrafice sacrafice
This is my biggest problem fr 🥲