Confidence is not about not having fear. It's about having fear, accepting it, and do whatever you have to do anyways. In sort, learn how to observe your own thoughts and emotions without demonizing, avoiding or resisting them. That way you control them instead of them controlling you. Learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Thats all you have to do really. It's not about getting a perfect job, body, skills or whatever.
man i wish i had friends to talk about stuff like this. a lot of people my age (18-20) are too afraid or dont talk about these topics as much as they should.
It's less about the age but more about the people you surround yourself with, I guess I got lucky since all my siblings, friends and even my love interest loves talking about topics like this. We have similar interests and values, 19-24 age range You have to put yourself and your interest out there to attract people with similar mindset and views
This is one of the problems I struggle the most with. I cannot express my opinions freely unless I am 100% sure I am correct or I cannot fight for something when I think I don't deserve it enough. Somethimes we should just try doing or saying something without thinking about the consequences or if it is right or wrong (unless if it is definitely going to hurt someone). Because living life should be just trying to make yourself happy and have a good time while we are still around. It isn't a bad thing to make mistakes and in the majority of the time the mistakes can be fixed. I should remember this more.
I think you can still give an opinion if you're not 100% sure as long as you express that. I'm the type of person to always think of caveats to an opinion (if there is a justifiable one) and if I am not 100% certain (to which I always have at least 1% doubt or confidence in anything) I will express that in my opinion (if that makes sense).
You're right about competence. I felt the worst when I was in my room all day eating junkfood and smoking weed and only pursuing short term pleasure activities. These things really made me insecure because i compared myself to other people and I thought to myself "damn I'm really a failure". As of right now I'm cutting all these things in my life. I even deleted instagram and all other kinds of way too stimulating platforms and behaviours and I notice I'm more in tuned with my mind. I'm no longer distracted with useless things and I actually think about important stuff I don't compare myself to other people and feel bad about myself. I compare myself to other people and think I can do better. I'm ready to live life. Social anxiety and people pleasing and dopamine pursue really ruined me. But nobody cares except me. Nobody will help except me. It's on my own hands to better my life and I'm gonna go it
i usually hate these 'advice' and 'become self-confident' videos because the advice is usually so unrealistic and they give me temporary motivation but this was actually really useful! thank you 💜
you spoke with so much passion and i could feel it that you did a lot of inner work and reflection of your past experiences;; this was very motivational and inspiring because you strive to provide points from a non-biased stand point (especially where you talk about societal hierarchy) ;; THANK YOU !!
When i got back in shape, I started slow. 10 minutes first day. then 1 minute extra per day. After a month I am out for a 45 minute walk building up to jogging
Hi Mei, this video really help me to look at myself and change. I have been a people pleaser for so long becuase im too insecure about myself, it has become a loop that I just cant stop pleasing others. Never thought a video on youtube could be this relatable and helpful. Thanks again!!^^
i can relate to you so much, i do overthink a lot situation where i shouldn't be, i don't like to waste my mental energy by thinking again and again about things that doesn't even matter that much, fear of being judged, people pleaser ,etc. thank you so much, this video helped me a lot to change my thoughts and be more confident in my self
9:43, ngl, felt like I'm one of the people this is directed to xd. But no, seriously, finding that balance of not letting other people's opinions and judgements affect me while also using said opinions or criticism to re-evaluate/re-analyze myself (e.g. to check for any hypocriticism I may subconsciously have and re-adjust my opinion) is something I'm still trying to improve on. 12:25 -best moment of the video for me
Honestly, since I was young, people have been praising me (beauty and intelligence), but I did not find anyone who appreciated me as I grew up. My father is so stingy that I do not have my basic needs even when he is a millionaire, and I do not even have anyone in my family who loves me, even though I am careful about my behavior, but they exclude me from many things. Dialogues and other things and they say hurtful and mean things to me
I am currently going through a difficult time. I feel lost and unsure of my appearance. I wear glasses and I feel very uncomfortable with them. My father always tells me, “Don’t talk to me while wearing them.” Like Bro, I hate wearing them too. I feel like I am losing my beauty, as my father said, and I am losing. My health, my self-confidence, and my time as well
Hi, I hope that you’re doing well 💜 what helps me with this is realizing that these kinds of behaviors aren’t as personal as they seem. A lot of our parents learned to love from their own parents and so on. Ppl will say mean things because they are hurting, or they are careless. What matters is that you don’t take it personally or place your worth on their flippant words. Honestly, they probably don’t even know what they’re saying. It is normal to feel unsure about your appearance. But always try to act for your own well-being and not for the convenience of others. If you can’t directly address the problem, place your focus on other things that fulfill you. You’re much more than how you look. You can experience so much just by being here 💜best of luck!
Confidence or its all about money and looks i am sure everyone will love you if you have these but will people especially women love you as a men if you are poor and ugly but have confidence who cares really no one cares about this and no one cares about your good heart at the end its all about money and looks that brings confidence, i am 21 most young people are as you say lack confidence because they are poor or ugly. If they had the money and looks mostly men i am sure everyone will love you, respect and you will have all the confidence in the world.
When she said "...do not starve yourself" I laughed cause my mom's always saying that I should eat more (for context, I tend to skip breakfast on my days off work or will skip lunch/dinner [they're kinda the same to me] on my work days if things got busy/hectic)
I think I'll have to watch this video over and over again as i deeply resonate with everything you said. And I genuinely want to take all the advice in. Thank you so much! 🦦🤍
Hey, I love your accent❤. You look more of Asian if I am not mistaken, which part of Asia are you from? Don't take it negative for any reason, I am just curious because I stayed with Asians.
"Give yourself reasons to be proud of yourself."
-someone
Confidence is not about not having fear.
It's about having fear, accepting it, and do whatever you have to do anyways.
In sort, learn how to observe your own thoughts and emotions without demonizing, avoiding or resisting them. That way you control them instead of them controlling you. Learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
Thats all you have to do really.
It's not about getting a perfect job, body, skills or whatever.
THIS - "Learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable."
bida bida
man i wish i had friends to talk about stuff like this. a lot of people my age (18-20) are too afraid or dont talk about these topics as much as they should.
Im probably exactly your age thinking exactly this same thing so maybe there's more of us than you think.
Do you have ig? We can be friends
@@marycaliari yea mine is d1_rei
I'm slightly older than u but I don't have people to talk about this.
It's less about the age but more about the people you surround yourself with, I guess I got lucky since all my siblings, friends and even my love interest loves talking about topics like this. We have similar interests and values, 19-24 age range
You have to put yourself and your interest out there to attract people with similar mindset and views
she's actually so realistic i love her ngl
This is one of the problems I struggle the most with. I cannot express my opinions freely unless I am 100% sure I am correct or I cannot fight for something when I think I don't deserve it enough. Somethimes we should just try doing or saying something without thinking about the consequences or if it is right or wrong (unless if it is definitely going to hurt someone). Because living life should be just trying to make yourself happy and have a good time while we are still around. It isn't a bad thing to make mistakes and in the majority of the time the mistakes can be fixed. I should remember this more.
I think you can still give an opinion if you're not 100% sure as long as you express that. I'm the type of person to always think of caveats to an opinion (if there is a justifiable one) and if I am not 100% certain (to which I always have at least 1% doubt or confidence in anything) I will express that in my opinion (if that makes sense).
The whole history of human beings compared to my 80 years in this planet should be a luck not a torture T-T
Watched this to believe in myself more, ended up believing in you more. You have such a beautiful soul.
You're right about competence. I felt the worst when I was in my room all day eating junkfood and smoking weed and only pursuing short term pleasure activities. These things really made me insecure because i compared myself to other people and I thought to myself "damn I'm really a failure". As of right now I'm cutting all these things in my life. I even deleted instagram and all other kinds of way too stimulating platforms and behaviours and I notice I'm more in tuned with my mind. I'm no longer distracted with useless things and I actually think about important stuff
I don't compare myself to other people and feel bad about myself. I compare myself to other people and think I can do better. I'm ready to live life. Social anxiety and people pleasing and dopamine pursue really ruined me. But nobody cares except me. Nobody will help except me. It's on my own hands to better my life and I'm gonna go it
i usually hate these 'advice' and 'become self-confident' videos because the advice is usually so unrealistic and they give me temporary motivation but this was actually really useful! thank you 💜
babe wake up, meiqiii just uploaded
I really want to be selfish 😅. I know it sounds so strange. But i hate being a people pleaser and i should practice to say 'No' more
I love being perfect. I don't see stars. I'm too perfect for that.
Thanks for sharing.
Have an amazing wonderful day. ❤❤
I love the fact that you talk about things in such a realistic way. Like its so genuine and true... thank you so much
you spoke with so much passion and i could feel it that you did a lot of inner work and reflection of your past experiences;; this was very motivational and inspiring because you strive to provide points from a non-biased stand point (especially where you talk about societal hierarchy) ;; THANK YOU !!
This video is so real. I’m gonna watch it again
It's great having someone your age who has gone through same phases and is now doing better. I am glad to be moving along with your journey ❤
Meiqii looking confidence with the dress.
Never subscribed so fast before.
Now this sounds achievable and realistic❤
When i got back in shape, I started slow. 10 minutes first day. then 1 minute extra per day. After a month I am out for a 45 minute walk building up to jogging
Hi Mei, this video really help me to look at myself and change. I have been a people pleaser for so long becuase im too insecure about myself, it has become a loop that I just cant stop pleasing others. Never thought a video on youtube could be this relatable and helpful. Thanks again!!^^
You're so real. I really relate to your experience so hearing it feels so right. Thank you for this videoo
6:45 !! making more decisions, moving along
9:22 great line. 🙏 something to really reflect on
thank youu love ur mindsettttt
She wise.
She is so pretty ❤
i can relate to you so much, i do overthink a lot situation where i shouldn't be, i don't like to waste my mental energy by thinking again and again about things that doesn't even matter that much, fear of being judged, people pleaser ,etc. thank you so much, this video helped me a lot to change my thoughts and be more confident in my self
Thank you for putting this to words genuinely felt like you vocalized all thoughts ive been having lately!! Saving this
love your videos🥰
girl tysmmm 💖
I'm in class, watching this yap session over my teacher's.
unironically saying yap session is something else haha
I like your sharing, nice to see people with a grown mindset ❤
Your video has helped me a lot, thank you
9:43, ngl, felt like I'm one of the people this is directed to xd. But no, seriously, finding that balance of not letting other people's opinions and judgements affect me while also using said opinions or criticism to re-evaluate/re-analyze myself (e.g. to check for any hypocriticism I may subconsciously have and re-adjust my opinion) is something I'm still trying to improve on.
12:25 -best moment of the video for me
Thank you so much🤍🤍🤍
thanks A lott gurl , i used to be like that who was too open to constructive critisism and always let people judge me lol
she posted again 💗
i love you!!!!
Honestly, since I was young, people have been praising me (beauty and intelligence), but I did not find anyone who appreciated me as I grew up. My father is so stingy that I do not have my basic needs even when he is a millionaire, and I do not even have anyone in my family who loves me, even though I am careful about my behavior, but they exclude me from many things. Dialogues and other things and they say hurtful and mean things to me
I am currently going through a difficult time. I feel lost and unsure of my appearance. I wear glasses and I feel very uncomfortable with them. My father always tells me, “Don’t talk to me while wearing them.” Like Bro, I hate wearing them too. I feel like I am losing my beauty, as my father said, and I am losing. My health, my self-confidence, and my time as well
Hi, I hope that you’re doing well 💜 what helps me with this is realizing that these kinds of behaviors aren’t as personal as they seem. A lot of our parents learned to love from their own parents and so on. Ppl will say mean things because they are hurting, or they are careless. What matters is that you don’t take it personally or place your worth on their flippant words. Honestly, they probably don’t even know what they’re saying. It is normal to feel unsure about your appearance. But always try to act for your own well-being and not for the convenience of others. If you can’t directly address the problem, place your focus on other things that fulfill you. You’re much more than how you look. You can experience so much just by being here 💜best of luck!
@@meiqiii I really needed to hear that
thank you so much !!!
1:21 I feel attacked😭
Thank you ❤
thank you
First comment ❤
Very helpful 🙂
my jaw dropped when u said u were 20.. i thought u were 13-14😰😰
Confidence or its all about money and looks i am sure everyone will love you if you have these but will people especially women love you as a men if you are poor and ugly but have confidence who cares really no one cares about this and no one cares about your good heart at the end its all about money and looks that brings confidence, i am 21 most young people are as you say lack confidence because they are poor or ugly. If they had the money and looks mostly men i am sure everyone will love you, respect and you will have all the confidence in the world.
I love you ❤
I like her
nice video meiqiii loved it sis! Btw how old are you? thanks..
I think She's 20
You are pretty ❤
You got to just try forget confidence
She's like lia from itzy
12:05 !!
This video feels like your older sister scolding you for not treating yourself right. 😂
When she said "...do not starve yourself" I laughed cause my mom's always saying that I should eat more (for context, I tend to skip breakfast on my days off work or will skip lunch/dinner [they're kinda the same to me] on my work days if things got busy/hectic)
For a second i thought you were yeji from itzy😭
I think I'll have to watch this video over and over again as i deeply resonate with everything you said. And I genuinely want to take all the advice in. Thank you so much! 🦦🤍
Hey, I love your accent❤. You look more of Asian if I am not mistaken, which part of Asia are you from? Don't take it negative for any reason, I am just curious because I stayed with Asians.
I know this is off-topic, but you look similar to itzy Lia 🌷 Is it just me??😅😆
Wow.. you are so cute.. really nice video❤❤
Cute ❤
Build inner confidence?
Get out of your room and start talking to people
You are cute 👁️👄👁️
You're cute.
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