Absolutely! I found a wonderful therapist who uses Rapid Resolution Therapy. It's amazing how, while I can clearly remember what happened and how intensely I felt at the time, I'm no longer zapped back to that moment and reliving it! I'm simply recalling it, like any other memory. Instead of being overwhelmed by it, I'm viewing it from the present, with my current resources and understanding. I may even give myself a pat on the back, "look where you are now--safe, smart, an advocate for others. You are a total badass!" 😀
You already had a lizard brain, we all have one, it's just that trauma inhibits other parts of the brain from developing properly, especially in childhood which is the main window of time for frontal cortex development. Through exercise you can rewire your brain and help other parts take the centre stage. Mindfulness practice, for instance, has been shown to reduce the size of amygdala, rendering the brain less reactive and more reponsive.
This was very comforting to hear. I've struggled with various traumas of medical issues and domestic violence and even when those threats are gone, I still struggle with them. Recently I've had a few triggers in school that have created a stressful response that I felt ashamed of having once I was aware that it was happening. I'm relieved to know that my struggle is real and I'm not overreacting. Thank you for making this video, your channel always calms me down.
this resonated with me so much, I felt like finally understanding what´s going on inside my head. I have anxiety and there are so many things and situations that make me irrationally nervous and scared that sometimes I even get frustrated with myself for not being able to "get over it." I swear I cried a little when you explained the pathways that trauma forms in our brains because I've felt like there's no hope of changing my reactions to certain things, I've felt like maybe I'll be stuck here forever. But this helped me understand why changing is so hard and why is going to take some time and gave me hope that even if is hard, it is possible
Thank you for breaking this down and shedding light on a very real thing that doesn't get talked about enough. It's helping me and I'm grateful for your time and energy. Much love!
When I did progressive muscle relaxation for the very first time, I was so relaxed, I felt like I smoked weed. I can deeeeeply suggest that to anyone living with constant tension or anxiety.
That empath "pang" upon spotting the loss picture. They all seem to be personal pictures from the team rom what I can tell. So whoever is or was processing that loss, or any loss, you have my very literally heartfelt compassion for the struggles of that process. Thank you for this video. I knew of this but it was helpful to see visuals and a bit more insight on how it's a core wiring damage and translates into the body.
I am so sorry to hear about your father. Sometimes it's helpful to know we aren't crazy and we are designed to respond a certain way. Praying you are feeling comfort in the midst of your father's passing.
I have a question. What do I do when I've been deeply, personally traumatized by a mass shooting at my church and at the same time am dealing with being in the early stages of being in love. I have absolutely no idea how to cope with two wildly different stresses pulling me in different ways. How do I get through the guilt of still feeling that "in love" high. And also deal with swinging right down into the pain of losing someone I've known all my life in such a horrible way.
I have a hard time connecting to the content because I can see you are reading from a prompter. If you are going to to something face-to-camera I would practice it a little more. However- I enjoy your voice and cadence. Just more comfortability in front of the camera to be sincere is needed. ❤️ you’re both so helpful. Thank you.
Now I do get some of the physical things, but I am not sure it helped. I definitely hope the next ones will help me learn how to love myself more and accept myself.
I used to get bullied in school, got beaten by best friend when we were drunk, then another best friend in college started bitching about me(regards that beating incident because he was present there), Beaten by best friend and betryal by another best friend are recent things happened with me, i have broken friendships with everyone, who is related to the incident and its feels so traumatic but those bully thing get me to remind and really hurts my brain while sleeping, please help me, its been 3 - 4 month I am disconnected from every friend, I only have 1, 2 friends and my sister to share my feelings, I take care of my self and concentrate on my work but let's see what happen in future, before 10 days I was all ok sleeping well then suddenly a friend appear to my house and it reminds me of those old memories then again I was unable to sleep, what kind of feeling is this can you please explain me ??????????? but I don't feel like I don't trust anyone or anything just my brain hurts at night time while sleeping
I hope you're not a woman, becouse it's always us women that go through abusive relationships and abuseve sex, that leave us with scars in the body and in our souls.
@grazielaalmeida8438 While a higher percentage of females experience DV and s3xual violence, these things can and do happen to people of all ages and genders. Very sad but true. Anyone who experiences that trauma needs to have compassion and support to help make it through to healing, restoring equilibrium and dignity. I think there are even more males out there than have been reported and included in research due to assumptions about gender and who is vulnerable to abuse.
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Absolutely! I found a wonderful therapist who uses Rapid Resolution Therapy. It's amazing how, while I can clearly remember what happened and how intensely I felt at the time, I'm no longer zapped back to that moment and reliving it! I'm simply recalling it, like any other memory. Instead of being overwhelmed by it, I'm viewing it from the present, with my current resources and understanding. I may even give myself a pat on the back, "look where you are now--safe, smart, an advocate for others. You are a total badass!" 😀
Okay, but as serious as this is, I do find it at least a little bit funny that my childhood trauma gave me a lizard brain 🤣
You already had a lizard brain, we all have one, it's just that trauma inhibits other parts of the brain from developing properly, especially in childhood which is the main window of time for frontal cortex development. Through exercise you can rewire your brain and help other parts take the centre stage. Mindfulness practice, for instance, has been shown to reduce the size of amygdala, rendering the brain less reactive and more reponsive.
Humor is key! ❤️
This was very comforting to hear. I've struggled with various traumas of medical issues and domestic violence and even when those threats are gone, I still struggle with them. Recently I've had a few triggers in school that have created a stressful response that I felt ashamed of having once I was aware that it was happening. I'm relieved to know that my struggle is real and I'm not overreacting. Thank you for making this video, your channel always calms me down.
You're struggles are real And valid!!! I'm sorry you're going through so much. Much love to you 💛💛
Literally just made me cry a bit as my mind went "oh THAT'S why."
this resonated with me so much, I felt like finally understanding what´s going on inside my head. I have anxiety and there are so many things and situations that make me irrationally nervous and scared that sometimes I even get frustrated with myself for not being able to "get over it." I swear I cried a little when you explained the pathways that trauma forms in our brains because I've felt like there's no hope of changing my reactions to certain things, I've felt like maybe I'll be stuck here forever. But this helped me understand why changing is so hard and why is going to take some time and gave me hope that even if is hard, it is possible
Thank you so much for making this video! I've been feeling so stuck like I'm not going anywhere with my life, I understand now why that's happening
You're so welcome! I'm so glad.
Thank you for breaking this down and shedding light on a very real thing that doesn't get talked about enough. It's helping me and I'm grateful for your time and energy. Much love!
You are so welcome!
When I did progressive muscle relaxation for the very first time, I was so relaxed, I felt like I smoked weed.
I can deeeeeply suggest that to anyone living with constant tension or anxiety.
Thank you for that wonderful suggestion Lisa!
Sometimes I wonder if what I experienced is actually or if I am overreacting. But certain parts of this video very much speak to my experience.
That empath "pang" upon spotting the loss picture. They all seem to be personal pictures from the team rom what I can tell. So whoever is or was processing that loss, or any loss, you have my very literally heartfelt compassion for the struggles of that process.
Thank you for this video. I knew of this but it was helpful to see visuals and a bit more insight on how it's a core wiring damage and translates into the body.
Thanks for writing Kat, and thank you for your compassion. I am glad the video helped you!
I saw this when my father passed away. The science behind it is very helpful to know!
I am so sorry to hear about your father. Sometimes it's helpful to know we aren't crazy and we are designed to respond a certain way. Praying you are feeling comfort in the midst of your father's passing.
I have a question. What do I do when I've been deeply, personally traumatized by a mass shooting at my church and at the same time am dealing with being in the early stages of being in love. I have absolutely no idea how to cope with two wildly different stresses pulling me in different ways. How do I get through the guilt of still feeling that "in love" high. And also deal with swinging right down into the pain of losing someone I've known all my life in such a horrible way.
How you doing dude?
I have a hard time connecting to the content because I can see you are reading from a prompter. If you are going to to something face-to-camera I would practice it a little more. However- I enjoy your voice and cadence. Just more comfortability in front of the camera to be sincere is needed. ❤️ you’re both so helpful. Thank you.
thank you
You guys should really consider starting a podcast! Great content, I would certainly subscribe
We'll talk it over, for sure!
Oh, my - I have chest pains just listening to this!
Thank you, Mrs Decker, you helped me understanding things, and that helps me a lot through my problems. So thank you!
That last part got me. Beautifully said.
This is so fascinating. Thanks for giving me more insight.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Now I do get some of the physical things, but I am not sure it helped. I definitely hope the next ones will help me learn how to love myself more and accept myself.
The very last part ❤️
This is really helpful.
So glad it helps!
i feel like the peoplewho i love wont love me unless im healed. and that is a trauma memory
Thank you for this. It’s so true. x
You are so welcome
I used to get bullied in school, got beaten by best friend when we were drunk, then another best friend in college started bitching about me(regards that beating incident because he was present there),
Beaten by best friend and betryal by another best friend are recent things happened with me, i have broken friendships with everyone, who is related to the incident and its feels so traumatic but those bully thing get me to remind and really hurts my brain while sleeping, please help me, its been 3 - 4 month I am disconnected from every friend, I only have 1, 2 friends and my sister to share my feelings, I take care of my self and concentrate on my work but let's see what happen in future, before 10 days I was all ok sleeping well then suddenly a friend appear to my house and it reminds me of those old memories then again I was unable to sleep, what kind of feeling is this can you please explain me ???????????
but I don't feel like I don't trust anyone or anything just my brain hurts at night time while sleeping
Well, that explains why I stopped being able to focus on reading a book after my abusive relationship. Sigh.
I hope you're not a woman, becouse it's always us women that go through abusive relationships and abuseve sex, that leave us with scars in the body and in our souls.
@grazielaalmeida8438 While a higher percentage of females experience DV and s3xual violence, these things can and do happen to people of all ages and genders. Very sad but true. Anyone who experiences that trauma needs to have compassion and support to help make it through to healing, restoring equilibrium and dignity. I think there are even more males out there than have been reported and included in research due to assumptions about gender and who is vulnerable to abuse.
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I feel like the people i care about hate and are abusing me