I found it very educational, thanks! I have two questions though: You say this is the second video - but I can't find a first video. Can you perhaps tell me where to look? Also, I'm trying to write a book where the main character has experienced severe trauma. I want to make this as realistic as possible and therefore wanted to ask: when a traumatised person is triggered and the memory of the traumatic event resurface in a flashback, can real-life events influence that flashback? Or is it completely disconnected?
"My world is safe, because i am prepared for what's coming...". Oh, i can relate so much to that. During summer 2018, my volunteer firefighting unit took part in a festival in our neighborhood. Showing our equipment, letting kids ride in the truck and stuff like that. As one can imagine there were lots of kids and happy families, many of them were my neighbors. Close to the end of said festival (after nightfall) we got a call to a vehicle accident pretty close to us. As a 21 year old firefighter (close to 5 years expierience, 9 if you're counting the training in the youth organisation) i felt very confident. Being close to the accident site, my truck arrived way ahead of anyone else. The scene was a nightmare... Two cars had crashed on an intersection at pretty high speed, one got fliped multiple times until it rested on its roof. At this point all the training came into focus, my mind pretty much worked on autopilot. Until the point after i opend the co-driver side door with my rescue tools and suddendly held a nine year old girl in my arms. No visible injuries from the outside, it seemed like she was asleep. Carried her over to an ambulance only to be told after a brief check by a paramedic that she's a fatlity. Force of the crash broke her neck (same thing happend to her mother in the driver seat). This hit me so damn hard, since i wasn't prepared to be that helpless. The fact that i came through this expierience without any permanent damage thanks to psychologists from my department makes me appriciate guys like you Jonathan so much. Thanks for your videos here at Mended Light and over at Cinema Thearpy.
This really helped validate that I was traumatized and I didn't know it. I suspected it for a while but since I wasn't having flashbacks or regular nightmares I thought it wasn't trauma. I started crying while watching this because for the longest time I couldn't put what I felt onto words, I didn't know what was wrong with me, and you did it right here in 20 minutes! Most importantly, there were symptoms that I didn't know were symptoms so I didn't tell my therapist and psychiatrist about them. I spent so much energy trying to show the world that I was okay, when in reality I was one text or email away from breaking down into uncontrollable tears not knowing when I would be able to stop. This also really helped my husband understand what I was going through, and with him recognizing a lot of what I told him described here - further validating my suspicion. I am beyond thankful that I found this channel ❤️
God! This brings me back those memories that I thought I forgot! And You totally described how I feel! Like the sound I heard on the phone when I call someone triggers me, and I know it's rediculous, because we all use phones everyday, but I know I will learn to live with that, and someday I'll get better. So thank you for helping me understand myself better.
I wish I could've sszeen this video about a decade ago. That would've helped me tremendously to sort out my life. Hopefully I started healing and feeling better than ever and I won't go back to the intense feelings I've had that are described in this video. You are angels for this video. It can help so many people to sort their feelings and start healing. Bless you forever for doing this.
Hello, I'm a French student and I really like your videos on Mended Light or on Cinema Therapy. Watching your videos makes me feel I can effectively help my friends, I know tips to be a good friend and a good lover. It helps me to know that I am not an awful person, that I have something to give to others, that I do things right, that I have value. Thank you very much for making your videos.
I just reached out to a therapist to start my journey with healing my trauma. This video really helped me understand that the way my brain works (memory issues, hyper vigilance, anxiety, depression, irritability, ulcers and just generally feeling like I am in survival mode) is a result of traumas I've dealt with.
In my childhood my Mum had "friends" over continuously, drinking and other things I wasn't aware of at that age, I have a few good memories of how close I was to my Mum, but I also know that I've had insomnia since I can remember. My parents would fight and argue, my Dad always seemed like he was just there, almost like he was just the carer and not an active parent mostly. I'd watch all my Mum's favourite films with her; Sister Act, Ghost, Beverly Hills, anything that was Patrick Swayze, Whoopi Goldberg or Eddie Murphy. Now that I'm an adult I see that those films were not suitable for a child at five years old and that explains in my mind now why I had early sexual experiences and I attached to anyone related to my Mum's old friend group, believing with a naïve mindset, that they were safe adults who I could trust because of that connection to her. I've talked in other comments that I identify with the channel because I lost my Mum when I was at the age of 9 and I write as a way to process unresolved trauma and grief. My dad grew up in a time when men didn't talk about emotions and he didn't seek help when he was struggling because he thought he'd be accused of not being manly enough and he blames the NHS a lot instead of acknowledging that he could have gone to the same support groups as single mothers and it would have been ok. I blamed the social workers because where most people were telling me "your Mum dying makes you more mature" and "you're a young carer you need to be more mature" and so I rejected the social workers in their attempts to connect with me as they were treating me like I was 9 years old when I actually felt 29 after the loss of my Mum. (This was a lot of sources, teachers and relatives, but the best example was when I wanted to get rid of her barbies and I was told "You'll need them when you're a Mum" by my Grandma and they have not moved in 20 years, I hate barbies). Now I am actually 29 and my Mum can't magically appear and make the world safe, the trauma I have experienced would not be erased, and she can't tell me "oh your Dad is just an idiot" and tell me what to do. She used to make "jokes" about his intelligence a lot, nag/criticize, which I've come to just acknowledge as something I need to not do in my adult relationships.
I still question if I was traumatised, am I just this way or did the things that happen really twist my behaviour? It's a journey to understand and I'm so grateful for your channel breaking it down kindly for many to start healing... Thank you 💞
we can be doing something that had NOTHING to do with it, but a random moment all these memories come back and makes me sad/ angry. I don't want to feel that way and I'd love to move on. and people tell me I'm playing the victim. I don't want to but I can't just forget. It's so hard. thank you for the video, made me feel it's ok to go thru this.
So I suffer from ptsd pretty bad! Everything y’all are saying is true in my life , I think it might be helpful for people with the ptsd dragon if it were mentioned that the memories of the traumatic experiences and the emotions of the same have not been able to separate in the brain like they normally would or do!!! Thus creating the feeling of being right back there when you’re triggered !!!I could go on and on about my experiences with the condition from the first day, I actually realized what was happening to me and took Current each time I am triggered. If you want a guest on your show that can discuss the condition and the recovery process; Ongoing;
Part 1 is missing, can you re-upload? Appreciate this channel and all you do! Looked at all the playlists to see if it was hiding there but can’t seem to find the whole series.
Thank you for this video. Your channel has been very helpful. I have PTSD from being molested when I was 2. I appreciate how you explained the symptoms. I have most of what you shared and it is reassuring to understand why so that I can hopefully overcome. Your videos help me have hope, thank you again
I can't remember whether this was the video in which you menion hypervigilance, but I would really appreciate an in-depth video about it, especially regarding what it looks like. I developed fairly extreme sensory senisitivity a few years ago fairly soon after I had an emptional breakdown (or at least it go a thousand times worse) to the extent that I could hardly function (thankfully it's a bit better now). I got tested for epilepsy; Doctor decided it was just migraines, but that has never sat quite right with me as it never involves any headaches or auras or anything like that, and the recommended medication helps very little, so I'm starting to wonder whether it might be this instead. Especially since it goes along with constantly scanning my environment for danger, nightmares or fear thereof.
Sorry to hear that you are experiencing all of this. That is a very good idea for a video. Please know that you are always allowed to get 2nd, 3rd, 4th opinions related to your health! If you ever wish to discuss your situation, you are welcome to contact us too.
People with Trauma might have poor judgement because they are always second guessing theirself to avoid further harm. Your choices might have caused some trauma to happen. As such, they always try making the same mistake.
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I found it very educational, thanks! I have two questions though: You say this is the second video - but I can't find a first video. Can you perhaps tell me where to look?
Also, I'm trying to write a book where the main character has experienced severe trauma. I want to make this as realistic as possible and therefore wanted to ask: when a traumatised person is triggered and the memory of the traumatic event resurface in a flashback, can real-life events influence that flashback? Or is it completely disconnected?
"My world is safe, because i am prepared for what's coming...". Oh, i can relate so much to that. During summer 2018, my volunteer firefighting unit took part in a festival in our neighborhood. Showing our equipment, letting kids ride in the truck and stuff like that. As one can imagine there were lots of kids and happy families, many of them were my neighbors. Close to the end of said festival (after nightfall) we got a call to a vehicle accident pretty close to us. As a 21 year old firefighter (close to 5 years expierience, 9 if you're counting the training in the youth organisation) i felt very confident. Being close to the accident site, my truck arrived way ahead of anyone else. The scene was a nightmare... Two cars had crashed on an intersection at pretty high speed, one got fliped multiple times until it rested on its roof. At this point all the training came into focus, my mind pretty much worked on autopilot. Until the point after i opend the co-driver side door with my rescue tools and suddendly held a nine year old girl in my arms. No visible injuries from the outside, it seemed like she was asleep. Carried her over to an ambulance only to be told after a brief check by a paramedic that she's a fatlity. Force of the crash broke her neck (same thing happend to her mother in the driver seat). This hit me so damn hard, since i wasn't prepared to be that helpless. The fact that i came through this expierience without any permanent damage thanks to psychologists from my department makes me appriciate guys like you Jonathan so much. Thanks for your videos here at Mended Light and over at Cinema Thearpy.
You're so welcome! You are amazing. Thank you for sharing this.
This really helped validate that I was traumatized and I didn't know it. I suspected it for a while but since I wasn't having flashbacks or regular nightmares I thought it wasn't trauma. I started crying while watching this because for the longest time I couldn't put what I felt onto words, I didn't know what was wrong with me, and you did it right here in 20 minutes! Most importantly, there were symptoms that I didn't know were symptoms so I didn't tell my therapist and psychiatrist about them. I spent so much energy trying to show the world that I was okay, when in reality I was one text or email away from breaking down into uncontrollable tears not knowing when I would be able to stop. This also really helped my husband understand what I was going through, and with him recognizing a lot of what I told him described here - further validating my suspicion. I am beyond thankful that I found this channel ❤️
You are amazing, Heather! We're beyond thankful you're here.
God! This brings me back those memories that I thought I forgot! And You totally described how I feel! Like the sound I heard on the phone when I call someone triggers me, and I know it's rediculous, because we all use phones everyday, but I know I will learn to live with that, and someday I'll get better. So thank you for helping me understand myself better.
You're very welcome!
I wish I could've sszeen this video about a decade ago. That would've helped me tremendously to sort out my life.
Hopefully I started healing and feeling better than ever and I won't go back to the intense feelings I've had that are described in this video.
You are angels for this video. It can help so many people to sort their feelings and start healing. Bless you forever for doing this.
Hello, I'm a French student and I really like your videos on Mended Light or on Cinema Therapy. Watching your videos makes me feel I can effectively help my friends, I know tips to be a good friend and a good lover. It helps me to know that I am not an awful person, that I have something to give to others, that I do things right, that I have value. Thank you very much for making your videos.
You are so very welcome! Thank you for watching and supporting :)
I just reached out to a therapist to start my journey with healing my trauma. This video really helped me understand that the way my brain works (memory issues, hyper vigilance, anxiety, depression, irritability, ulcers and just generally feeling like I am in survival mode) is a result of traumas I've dealt with.
So glad it helped! So sorry for what you've had to go through.
In my childhood my Mum had "friends" over continuously, drinking and other things I wasn't aware of at that age, I have a few good memories of how close I was to my Mum, but I also know that I've had insomnia since I can remember. My parents would fight and argue, my Dad always seemed like he was just there, almost like he was just the carer and not an active parent mostly.
I'd watch all my Mum's favourite films with her; Sister Act, Ghost, Beverly Hills, anything that was Patrick Swayze, Whoopi Goldberg or Eddie Murphy. Now that I'm an adult I see that those films were not suitable for a child at five years old and that explains in my mind now why I had early sexual experiences and I attached to anyone related to my Mum's old friend group, believing with a naïve mindset, that they were safe adults who I could trust because of that connection to her.
I've talked in other comments that I identify with the channel because I lost my Mum when I was at the age of 9 and I write as a way to process unresolved trauma and grief.
My dad grew up in a time when men didn't talk about emotions and he didn't seek help when he was struggling because he thought he'd be accused of not being manly enough and he blames the NHS a lot instead of acknowledging that he could have gone to the same support groups as single mothers and it would have been ok. I blamed the social workers because where most people were telling me "your Mum dying makes you more mature" and "you're a young carer you need to be more mature" and so I rejected the social workers in their attempts to connect with me as they were treating me like I was 9 years old when I actually felt 29 after the loss of my Mum. (This was a lot of sources, teachers and relatives, but the best example was when I wanted to get rid of her barbies and I was told "You'll need them when you're a Mum" by my Grandma and they have not moved in 20 years, I hate barbies).
Now I am actually 29 and my Mum can't magically appear and make the world safe, the trauma I have experienced would not be erased, and she can't tell me "oh your Dad is just an idiot" and tell me what to do. She used to make "jokes" about his intelligence a lot, nag/criticize, which I've come to just acknowledge as something I need to not do in my adult relationships.
I still question if I was traumatised, am I just this way or did the things that happen really twist my behaviour? It's a journey to understand and I'm so grateful for your channel breaking it down kindly for many to start healing... Thank you 💞
we can be doing something that had NOTHING to do with it, but a random moment all these memories come back and makes me sad/ angry. I don't want to feel that way and I'd love to move on. and people tell me I'm playing the victim. I don't want to but I can't just forget. It's so hard. thank you for the video, made me feel it's ok to go thru this.
Not to self diagnose but yes. All of this, yes.
So I suffer from ptsd pretty bad! Everything y’all are saying is true in my life , I think it might be helpful for people with the ptsd dragon if it were mentioned that the memories of the traumatic experiences and the emotions of the same have not been able to separate in the brain like they normally would or do!!! Thus creating the feeling of being right back there when you’re triggered !!!I could go on and on about my experiences with the condition from the first day, I actually realized what was happening to me and took Current each time I am triggered. If you want a guest on your show that can discuss the condition and the recovery process; Ongoing;
Part 1 is missing, can you re-upload? Appreciate this channel and all you do!
Looked at all the playlists to see if it was hiding there but can’t seem to find the whole series.
Alas, it is lost to the sands of time...
Part one cannot be found
Thanks for sharing this with us Jonathan and Alicia.
Our pleasure!
Nerve damages or physical impingement to the vagus nerves can induce anxiety and hypervigilance too.
Thank you for this video. Your channel has been very helpful. I have PTSD from being molested when I was 2. I appreciate how you explained the symptoms. I have most of what you shared and it is reassuring to understand why so that I can hopefully overcome. Your videos help me have hope, thank you again
You're so welcome!
Damn I did not even realise I went through trauma and possibly have PTSD up until today. Thank you so much.
You're so very welcome.
This is amazing. I get angry when someone confronts me. Something to think about.
I hear you.
I couldn't find/identify part 1. What is the name of that video?
It's missing, strangely. I'll see what I can do.
I can't remember whether this was the video in which you menion hypervigilance, but I would really appreciate an in-depth video about it, especially regarding what it looks like. I developed fairly extreme sensory senisitivity a few years ago fairly soon after I had an emptional breakdown (or at least it go a thousand times worse) to the extent that I could hardly function (thankfully it's a bit better now). I got tested for epilepsy; Doctor decided it was just migraines, but that has never sat quite right with me as it never involves any headaches or auras or anything like that, and the recommended medication helps very little, so I'm starting to wonder whether it might be this instead. Especially since it goes along with constantly scanning my environment for danger, nightmares or fear thereof.
Sorry to hear that you are experiencing all of this. That is a very good idea for a video. Please know that you are always allowed to get 2nd, 3rd, 4th opinions related to your health! If you ever wish to discuss your situation, you are welcome to contact us too.
LOVE your content... Thanks for providing so much value!
Glad you enjoy it!
"Exercise for sanity" further explanation is requested, please.
People with Trauma might have poor judgement because they are always second guessing theirself to avoid further harm. Your choices might have caused some trauma to happen. As such, they always try making the same mistake.
Where's part1 though??
Great video, yet there's still room for improvements. Imo, the background should be removed while you talking. Anw, thanks for your work
Thanks for the tip!
That music is so distracting
I feel like COVID has given the entire global population low-level CPTSD. (Or not so low, for a lot of folks)
Report: I'm in this video and I don't like it
Sorry to hear that :( Still, I hope it helps.