The part where you said that we should stop comparing our issues hit me hard. Because when I used to self harm I would want to go further and further to feel like my problems were important. I think we should start to be kind to each other much more. I love your vibe Ana ❤️🌻
Thanks for the video. I needed to hear this right now. I never thought of my drug habit as self-harming but it's true. I was just trying to numb and damage myself.
This may be your best video ever !! SO PROFESSIONAL, SO MATURE, SO GENUINE AND REAL. I especially like the part about not counting the days. You taught me something today.
I started cutting my self two days ago again after one year of being clean and i felt so stupid and bad and I basically hated myself and didn't understand why I would be so stupid to start again but this video kinda explaining with why I started again thanks fot making the video
i’ll be a year clean in two days and im probably going to relapse because i won’t have anything holding me back. i never realized how hard it is to battle addiction to anything until now. but we’ll get through this, it just takes time. remember that you have the strength to control your life and your actions but know that it’s okay to mess up as long as you learn from it ❤️❤️
I believe in yu and if yu need some to talk yu even tho yu dont know me I do care because I know how hard self harm is I'm almost clean so i can relate i was clean 2 years when I relapsed so if u need someone to talk to follow my Instagram @depressed_princess_05 n yu can dm me ❤❤❤have more self love dont be to hard on yr self
Don't worry friend. Relapse is part of recovery. It happens and it's okay, as long as you pick yourself backup. Don't give up and don't try to do this healing alone! If aren't already reach out and tall to somebody about this. You're worth the help you need!
That's a bump in the road, doesn't mean you should give up. Keep doing your best. It took me a while to learn this but self harm has nothing to do with intelect ❤
Hey ana! I just want to say about two years ago you helped me see brighter days and inspired me to get clean. I owe you so much, you honestly changed my life and i do not say that lightly.
Self harm often comes back in lots of different, less obvious forms such as; self isolating, falling into unhealthy relationships, being attracted to toxic people, not giving yourself credit for the things you achieve or stopping yourself from achieving those things (for example, spending years to get into the university you wanted and once you're in having no motivation to reach further goals). Caring for yourself often can turn into running into anything that makes you feel good to distract yourself. I have a huge history of mental illnesses and about a year ago I decided to really start to care for myself and take responsibility for my own life and what I wanted to make out of it. It has given me lots of things; I now go to uni, I have a stable income and a nice home and have a fairly healthy lifestyle. It was going really well for some time but I see myself slipping back into old habits that just show themselves in a different way which can go unnoticed for a long time. I feel more grounded nowadays and I'm very grateful for the stability I found, but it is hard to keep making progress and sometimes I just fall back. Any tips on how to stop that? I still wonder how I can turn back the root cause of my problems. Just caring for myself does not take away the deep beliefs that were imprented in me as a child. I know many of my problems are a result of that. I don't want to be a victim, or use my history as an excuse not to change myself. I just don't know how to. Years of therapy and still going.
i’m so happy that i’m 6 years clean of hurting myself at times i want to go back but i know that if i do i won’t stop cause it felt so good and made me feel nothing after my mom passed away i wanted to isolate myself and just do nothing i didn’t eat a lot but my boyfriend & bsf helped me get through it ❤️
Buggy oh seriously, people always instantly dismiss it because you don’t chemically get addicted, but anyone can become emotionally addicted to anything, especially things that make you calm or euphoric. I’ve had anxiety and depression on and off throughout my life, but for years I’ve been clean from any self-harm. Now with quarantining I’m starting to want to smoke more often due to boredom, but I’m hesitant to smoke too much because I know I might start using it when im having a bad mental health day/week/month etc.
not gonna lie i haven’t watched a video in awhile. this just made me so sentimental because i watched you HEAVILY when you were going through everything because i was going through similar stuff. i was still doing bad when you started to get better and i used to be like “how the fuck is she so happy now?” because i just didn’t get it. i’m still working on my mental health but i’ve come out of a lot of the issues that i used to have and i finally get it now. you just have to take it a day at a time. tysm i wouldn’t have done it without you ❤️❤️ i’m also so happy that you’re happy
i fucking loved that she mentioned how much it is an uphill battle. is hard to completely get over this mindset. i feel like I've grown up with her into a more positive outlook. its been a wonderful journey and its all looking up. I wish you the best in your mental health journey!
Frog09 yes it really is, and i totally feel like we grew up with her too which is why i get so sentimental😢 thank you so much & good luck to you too :)
My mom absolutely hates my wrist ones 😩 they say the first cut is the deepest . Well last year I went deeper than I’ve ever gone and you think I would stop but nope. Turned my wrist into ribbons and ended up in a mental hospital . I’ve gotten so used to them I don’t mind but my mom will never let me forget how stupid that was
It's not stupid to seek relief. I'm sorry but the stupid one is your mum if she hates your scars. She shouldn't hate them, they are the consequence, not the cause. I hope you find better ways to cope, you don't deserve this pain. Like Ana says in this video: 'if I believe in you, you can believe in yourself'. You can do it. Be gentle to yourself 💚
I ve been thinking of this topic for months... Self harm are not only visible sings... The are several forms of it. Thanks for this! PD: love that vision of animals
Almost a year clean and the only reason why I know I have the last time I did it marked down because people in my life want to know. I don’t even look at the app I marked it down in unless someone who knows I’ve done it ask how long it’s been. I wish nothing but the best for everyone who has self harmed or are still doing it. We will all be 1 year 5 years 10 years clean eventually. We got this.
I really like this kind of videos you make. Not only are you trying to help people, you also make people think which is a wonderful thing. Thinking for oneself is a huge advantage to have and a important too.
There are many self harm help, addiction help videos but ur videos are Better then moust other videos that gategory, ur spirit is so positive that it makes more helpfull
Ana I was a self harmed to 2 years and until I started watching yu and yu helped me see brighter days and I'm almost a year clean, I love yu and yu inspire me to be a better me and a happy me
I remember watching you years ago when I went through the same stuff as you and the growth I’ve seen since then in you is so beautiful and inspiring. You are now educating, and talking about topics that people refuse to talk about and won’t use their own platform for. I love u
Love what you have become , I have been watching your videos since like the time you were still in schooling and even the morning glory trip video and I have been riding for you cause I relate so much thanks for the hope.
hi ana, i found your channel in about 2015 when i was so young , maybe 12 years old and i remember feeling so shit about everything and hurting myself and your channel helped me at first to just have an escape but you contributed so much to my healing even if it took a long time, what you said about needing someone to believe in you, you did that for me. i lost touch with your channel for about a year but this video came up on my recommended and i remembered how crucial you were to my recovery and im so so so grateful for it. when i look back i can see how far ive come it makes me happy to see that you are still helping so many people :) i just wanted to say thank you ( i still have the howsenselessdeath howpreciouslife merch bracelets you sold for a bit in like 2016/17 or something haha )
I think it is always good to promote a compassionate mindset and encourage supporting one another through our different struggles. In my experience, an important part of getting out of depression is realizing that only you have the ultimate power to make changes and renovate your pattern of thinking. This is particularly important to depression because, at least in my experience, a major component of a depression mindset is wishing that someone will come along and magically fix things in life to compensate for the feeling of being incapable or powerless. But when opportunities would appear in my life, I rarely was healthy enough to take them and I would still just write them off because of my sense of despair. We can support each other to encourage healthy changes but a healthy life will really require individually making a resolution to change. This is part of what is so challenging about depression but I think all people who overcome it look back on their past and realize that they were really suffering from the wrong attitude. I'm so glad that you push a message of personal power and responsibility and I hope that it will help many others. Great video and stay healthy!
I wouldn't call it a "wrong attitude", I would call it depression if it is diagnosed that way. Depression is indeed also an perspective issue but I wouldn't say that this is 100% the only issue at hand. It is an complex issue with a lot of factors which may have contributed to it. Just saying it was an "attitude issue", is heavily simplifying depression which is a shame.
@@stefanmilicevic5322 I agree. Depression is labeled as a disease and people can't control whether or not they are depressed. But, when you go into treatment and therapy, you will always find that what they tell you is that you have to recognize your unhealthy beliefs and behaviors, and make a resolution to change them for the better. That's why the most common way mental health services refer to the counseling process is "work." They expect you to believe that you can make meaningful changes and to put effort into doing that. And if you resist trying to consciously change your attitude, your therapists will get frustrated with you. They want you to understand that trying to change your beliefs and behaviors is a non-optional part of therapy
@@connorbecz3036 They will also give you medications, if the depression is severe enough. See, medications alter the neurochemical imbalance in your brain to make you not feel so shitty anymore. Like I said, depression is not 100% attitude...it is a complex issue. Thanks for this little debate, I find it amusing to have a little friendly debate with someone over the internet. Usually debates on the internet will turn sour really quickly.
Ana, thank you for making this video❤️ but i’m sorry to say that i couldn’t even get past the first 5 minutes without crying. I’ve watched your videos for the longest time and they’ve always been helpful, so i hope you don’t mind if i come and support this video in a while❤️ i love you and i’m glad to see you doing well honey 💕
I actually met your youtube channel, about a year ago...I was suicidal, and I looked up, I want to die on Google and went to videos to see if I had issues or if I was alone. And your video came up and ever since then I have loved how relatable you make these issues seem.
I think you’re so brave for posting this. I love your attitude towards life and towards people and the care you show towards others. You’re so inspiring and I’m so proud of you. xx
Thank you so much for this video Ana 💛 It helps me to feel not alone. I hope you're doing good and taking care of yourself during these tough times. I love the content you put out into this world and I really appreciate all you do for your little sunflowers 🌻😊
I've been watching you for years when I was feeling like I was probably in my most difficult times with my mental health and self harm issues. I feel like I'm finally in a more stable stage in my life. I'm 18 now and I feel like I'm on a ladder that's on its way up. There's probably gonna be struggles along the way but I'm finally okay enough to accept it and face it head on. Its nice to have gone through this mental health journey with someone I felt i was growing. You're obviously in a much better state in your life and its great to see you glowing and practicing self love. I feel like I'm on that side of my life too and I'm excited for the future.😊
girl i found you through your self harm videos yeaaaars ago, and since then i've found my own healing. I haven't harmed myself in years. It's such a journey learning to love yourself and undo the programming as you talked about. i got all spiritual and realized it really does come down to belief systems
I’ve never watched your videos much before but I loved this I was a heroine addict for 6 years and it was rough. Your spot on with your environment I’ve worked hard to provide a good environment so I don’t use.california the herion problem is huge.
I used to watch your videos a few years back when i was so lost, found you again through sara and here u r u doing so well ❤️😭 feel like i am back doing okay too so glad i found u again keep shining b
Thank you so much for this video, it's so positive and really brings up amazing points. Your videos have helped me for a long time and show me how to better help others that need it
I become so happy whenever you post a new video. Thank you for spreading so much awareness about such important topics. I can't thank you enough for how many times your videos have helped me in life. I love you so much 💕
My self harm is physical but mental, having covid force my gym and my fav job as a House Maid and forcing to NOT make new friends has forced to take up remote Graphic Design work..... REMOTE!! I am a people person, I love interacting with people in person, or my mind remembers people I've hurt and issues I've left unresolved and then my anxieties come and now it just get's me into a panic attack. I hate covid!!
I'm not gonna lie. When I first found your channel I was in a rough place. I remember watching your first diary video and you said that you must have self harmed because there was blood on the pages. I wish i had someone like you who I could talk to whenever I get urges . Its very difficult.
I remember watching your videos a few years back during a rough time of my life but I’ve changed for the best hence then!! tysm for being here❣️ love u and ur beautiful soul x
Thank you so much Ana! Your videos are always so helpful♡ when I started watching them, you made me feel less alone I still haven't found the courage to reach out for help, but it's always great to see you so positive
Replacing habits is my biggest issue. For years I struggled with p*rn addiction and the guilt was destroying me. When I discovered sh, I naturally shifted into that and I even struggled with food. I never developed a *proper* addiction to p*rn or sh or had an ED, but I have to stop shifting from one to the other. I hope everyone else is okay though...
Very helpful Video, thanks for being a advocate of these things, ypu really helpso many struggeling people. 🌻 On a different note: where did you get the top you are wearing it's so beautiful 😩
I'm here because I know I self harms in ways that I didn't even realize was self harm. Scratching at my legs until i bleed, picking off the scabes, hair pulling and other things
I did the digging my nails into my skin when I was a kid; I've never really heard of anyone else doing that. It took a while after I had started cutting for me to realize "oh fuck, I've been technically self harming since I was like ten. That's lovely."
I agree that most people aren’t s3lf harming for attention, but a while ago my sisters showed me her “scares” (they were scratches so not really scares). I s3lf harm since I was 10 (maybe longer but c*tting since then) and I’m addicted, I also know a lot about it. My sister always does things for attention so the first thing I toughed about when she showed them to me was that it is for attention. I saw them a week before I was moving so all I could do was tell my mom, but still it hurts me so much that she only does it for attention while I have no other choice
Kyra if you self harm for attention, it isnt any less serious. you have to be pretty sad and messed up to feel that the only way you can get people to care and give attention is to hurt yourself. its still a problem and she obviously needs the attention
pink x I don’t belittle them believe me. She causes them herself😅 she abused me for 10 years and even tried to kill me multiple times. She steals things what makes her lose her jobs. She stalked people because she didn’t get what she wanted.
I never really thought of this but I think I actually exchanged cutting myself with scratching my skin really bad until I get big ass scratches and it stings so bad, but because I hadn’t cut my skin for like a few years I had the idea that I’d gotten better but I think that I actually haven’t gotten better at all I just found another way of hurting myself.. I really need to work on this.. I just have no motivation whatsoever
I told God to help me and he did. Don't listen to people that say he's not real. Just reach out to him, he's waiting to help you. You have to make the first move though. Please. I struggled with self harm since like 2015 but one prayer to God and he helped me. He changed my heart, he can give you peace and take away all the pain. Please trust me, I would not lie about this.
I remember when a girl got upset so she ripped out a huge chunk of her hair from the back of her head and everyone stared at her but no one really thought of it as self harm.
i cut for about four years and two years ago i was hospitalized. after i had all my blades taken i turned to drugs instead. it was an easier was of coping for me and it didn’t leave scars. the night my mom found out i was still cutting she cried, she took me to the hospital because she knew i needed help. the night she found out i was using she yelled at me. she went off about how we’d lose the house if she had to pay for rehab. she made me feel so stupid and guilty. which just made me want to get really fucking high. i don’t think she’ll ever understand that it was a form of self harm. i wish more people understood instead of just assumed that you’re just some dumb teenager that makes bad decisions. like yeah i was a dumb teenager but one who really really needed help. 😂
Just wondering...You referred to a Rapper earlier in the video, a Rapper that I had never heard of. Do you know if that Rapper did get help? I sure hope he did. And if you see that one of your friends is self-harming, do you try to help them? If so, can you give an example? My best wishes to you.
A couple weeks ago I was having a urge To harm myself ( I didn’t tho thank god) and I told my friend cuz I didn’t know what to do and she helped me and talked me out of it and telling me that I’ve already made so much great progress 🥺, February was when I was FINALLY a FULL YEAR clean and I’m glad I haven’t relapsed & I hope I stay clean forever 😣🙂 But it sucks when u were once addicted to doing something and stopped but then relapse, I relapsed a few times times, cuz I started self harm in 5th grade but then stopped cuz eventually I got caught , then relapsed during the summer before 6th, stopped, relapsed again in 6th but then stopped , THEN relapsed again in 7th🤦♀️ but stopped myself and haven’t done any form of harm since. But when i was thinkin about doing it again I just went into tears cuz it GENUALLY hurts and it’s hard to talk to other ppl about it because some just don’t understand and it’s hard to ask for therapy cuz I considered doing it again especially from memories that I still have from when I would hear my parents argue u when I was younger but I feel like if I ask my mom to go back she’ll ask why & I don’t know if therapy will rlly help :/ it did in the moment when I first did it but then eventually it was just useless once I stopped , now I just have to rlly help myself & keep myself together.
when i was a kid i suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts and lived in oregon and whenever i was feeling depressed or suicidal i would go in the freezing cold and think " fuck it i don't deserve to live just let me freeze to death because nobody gives a crap about me"
Everytime i self harm i want to go deeper, and when i get a deeper cut i feel more satisfaction bc i feel like then im worthy ig? When my friends found out my cuts weren't that deep so my scars are barely visible, and they think im doing fine now, but i just got better at hiding it. I thought about telling my school counselor but since my dad is a teacher he's a collegue of my dad, and i dont want my parents to know. I don't want to bother anyone with my problems lol so please dont feel bad for me, i just had to get this of my chest. I don't really have a reason to be sad or unhappy.
The part where you said that we should stop comparing our issues hit me hard. Because when I used to self harm I would want to go further and further to feel like my problems were important. I think we should start to be kind to each other much more. I love your vibe Ana ❤️🌻
Same here!
I’m glad you’re so open about difficult topics like this, I hope you’re doing well ❤️
Thanks for the video. I needed to hear this right now. I never thought of my drug habit as self-harming but it's true. I was just trying to numb and damage myself.
This may be your best video ever !! SO PROFESSIONAL, SO MATURE, SO GENUINE AND REAL. I especially like the part about not counting the days. You taught me something today.
PAUL THANK YOU!!! ^___^ Thanks for always being the best!!
This is an amazing video. Self harm is not just cutting yourself. I love how you touched on all these topics. You are amazing!! 🖤
I started cutting my self two days ago again after one year of being clean and i felt so stupid and bad and I basically hated myself and didn't understand why I would be so stupid to start again but this video kinda explaining with why I started again thanks fot making the video
i’ll be a year clean in two days and im probably going to relapse because i won’t have anything holding me back. i never realized how hard it is to battle addiction to anything until now. but we’ll get through this, it just takes time. remember that you have the strength to control your life and your actions but know that it’s okay to mess up as long as you learn from it ❤️❤️
I believe in yu and if yu need some to talk yu even tho yu dont know me I do care because I know how hard self harm is I'm almost clean so i can relate i was clean 2 years when I relapsed so if u need someone to talk to follow my Instagram @depressed_princess_05 n yu can dm me ❤❤❤have more self love dont be to hard on yr self
Don't worry friend. Relapse is part of recovery. It happens and it's okay, as long as you pick yourself backup. Don't give up and don't try to do this healing alone! If aren't already reach out and tall to somebody about this. You're worth the help you need!
That's a bump in the road, doesn't mean you should give up. Keep doing your best.
It took me a while to learn this but self harm has nothing to do with intelect ❤
thank you for being born seriously
I second that.
Hey ana! I just want to say about two years ago you helped me see brighter days and inspired me to get clean. I owe you so much, you honestly changed my life and i do not say that lightly.
Oriana Viola SO PROUD OF YOU!!!
@@BabvBlues thank you so much you don't even understand
Good points. In times of Corona I feel so sad for people we can't take out right now and make them feel better :(
Self harm often comes back in lots of different, less obvious forms such as; self isolating, falling into unhealthy relationships, being attracted to toxic people, not giving yourself credit for the things you achieve or stopping yourself from achieving those things (for example, spending years to get into the university you wanted and once you're in having no motivation to reach further goals). Caring for yourself often can turn into running into anything that makes you feel good to distract yourself.
I have a huge history of mental illnesses and about a year ago I decided to really start to care for myself and take responsibility for my own life and what I wanted to make out of it. It has given me lots of things; I now go to uni, I have a stable income and a nice home and have a fairly healthy lifestyle. It was going really well for some time but I see myself slipping back into old habits that just show themselves in a different way which can go unnoticed for a long time. I feel more grounded nowadays and I'm very grateful for the stability I found, but it is hard to keep making progress and sometimes I just fall back. Any tips on how to stop that?
I still wonder how I can turn back the root cause of my problems. Just caring for myself does not take away the deep beliefs that were imprented in me as a child. I know many of my problems are a result of that. I don't want to be a victim, or use my history as an excuse not to change myself. I just don't know how to. Years of therapy and still going.
i’m so happy that i’m 6 years clean of hurting myself at times i want to go back but i know that if i do i won’t stop cause it felt so good and made me feel nothing after my mom passed away i wanted to isolate myself and just do nothing i didn’t eat a lot but my boyfriend & bsf helped me get through it ❤️
6 years??? WOWOWOWOOW!! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!! Damn give yourself some credit! That is amazing!!!
Universal Hobo omg i love you 😭🥰
Omg Ana I love youuuuuuuuuuuu
you are so wise. we all need to give this channel so much more attention
I needed this video, thank you
this is something I think parents need to see so they could understand their kids better
I’m glad u actually talked about w33d addiction🥺cuz ppl can actually deal with that and it can b a problem for themmmm💕
Buggy oh seriously, people always instantly dismiss it because you don’t chemically get addicted, but anyone can become emotionally addicted to anything, especially things that make you calm or euphoric. I’ve had anxiety and depression on and off throughout my life, but for years I’ve been clean from any self-harm. Now with quarantining I’m starting to want to smoke more often due to boredom, but I’m hesitant to smoke too much because I know I might start using it when im having a bad mental health day/week/month etc.
Your channel has had such a positive impact on my life, I just wanna thank you for reminding me i'm not alone :)
Thank you for uploading stuff like this in times of need and crisis
not gonna lie i haven’t watched a video in awhile. this just made me so sentimental because i watched you HEAVILY when you were going through everything because i was going through similar stuff. i was still doing bad when you started to get better and i used to be like “how the fuck is she so happy now?” because i just didn’t get it. i’m still working on my mental health but i’ve come out of a lot of the issues that i used to have and i finally get it now. you just have to take it a day at a time. tysm i wouldn’t have done it without you ❤️❤️ i’m also so happy that you’re happy
i fucking loved that she mentioned how much it is an uphill battle. is hard to completely get over this mindset. i feel like I've grown up with her into a more positive outlook. its been a wonderful journey and its all looking up. I wish you the best in your mental health journey!
Frog09 yes it really is, and i totally feel like we grew up with her too which is why i get so sentimental😢 thank you so much & good luck to you too :)
@@gabrieleelizabeth6521 in a way we all grew up with a each other :)
Heya can you do a tattoo vid about all your tattoos please you tattoos look so bomb i love the rose one ❤️
Sweet, two Anna videos this week❤️keep up the good work Anna! We love you
My mom absolutely hates my wrist ones 😩 they say the first cut is the deepest . Well last year I went deeper than I’ve ever gone and you think I would stop but nope. Turned my wrist into ribbons and ended up in a mental hospital . I’ve gotten so used to them I don’t mind but my mom will never let me forget how stupid that was
It's not stupid to seek relief. I'm sorry but the stupid one is your mum if she hates your scars. She shouldn't hate them, they are the consequence, not the cause. I hope you find better ways to cope, you don't deserve this pain. Like Ana says in this video: 'if I believe in you, you can believe in yourself'. You can do it. Be gentle to yourself 💚
Josipa Tojčić thanks 🙏🏾 she just doesn’t understand why anyone would want to hurt themselves .
I ve been thinking of this topic for months... Self harm are not only visible sings... The are several forms of it. Thanks for this! PD: love that vision of animals
Has anyone told you you’re GORGEOUS 💞💕✨
Almost a year clean and the only reason why I know I have the last time I did it marked down because people in my life want to know. I don’t even look at the app I marked it down in unless someone who knows I’ve done it ask how long it’s been. I wish nothing but the best for everyone who has self harmed or are still doing it. We will all be 1 year 5 years 10 years clean eventually. We got this.
Sarah H. Same dude
👏👏👏 *hug*
omg i missed the “its 3 o clock” ❤️ love you anna
I really like this kind of videos you make. Not only are you trying to help people, you also make people think which is a wonderful thing. Thinking for oneself is a huge advantage to have and a important too.
There are many self harm help, addiction help videos but ur videos are Better then moust other videos that gategory, ur spirit is so positive that it makes more helpfull
You are a wise woman. You give me comfort for the future!
Ana I was a self harmed to 2 years and until I started watching yu and yu helped me see brighter days and I'm almost a year clean, I love yu and yu inspire me to be a better me and a happy me
I remember watching you years ago when I went through the same stuff as you and the growth I’ve seen since then in you is so beautiful and inspiring. You are now educating, and talking about topics that people refuse to talk about and won’t use their own platform for. I love u
Love what you have become , I have been watching your videos since like the time you were still in schooling and even the morning glory trip video and I have been riding for you cause I relate so much thanks for the hope.
hi ana, i found your channel in about 2015 when i was so young , maybe 12 years old and i remember feeling so shit about everything and hurting myself and your channel helped me at first to just have an escape but you contributed so much to my healing even if it took a long time, what you said about needing someone to believe in you, you did that for me. i lost touch with your channel for about a year but this video came up on my recommended and i remembered how crucial you were to my recovery and im so so so grateful for it. when i look back i can see how far ive come it makes me happy to see that you are still helping so many people :) i just wanted to say thank you ( i still have the howsenselessdeath howpreciouslife merch bracelets you sold for a bit in like 2016/17 or something haha )
I think it is always good to promote a compassionate mindset and encourage supporting one another through our different struggles. In my experience, an important part of getting out of depression is realizing that only you have the ultimate power to make changes and renovate your pattern of thinking. This is particularly important to depression because, at least in my experience, a major component of a depression mindset is wishing that someone will come along and magically fix things in life to compensate for the feeling of being incapable or powerless. But when opportunities would appear in my life, I rarely was healthy enough to take them and I would still just write them off because of my sense of despair. We can support each other to encourage healthy changes but a healthy life will really require individually making a resolution to change. This is part of what is so challenging about depression but I think all people who overcome it look back on their past and realize that they were really suffering from the wrong attitude. I'm so glad that you push a message of personal power and responsibility and I hope that it will help many others. Great video and stay healthy!
I wouldn't call it a "wrong attitude", I would call it depression if it is diagnosed that way. Depression is indeed also an perspective issue but I wouldn't say that this is 100% the only issue at hand. It is an complex issue with a lot of factors which may have contributed to it. Just saying it was an "attitude issue", is heavily simplifying depression which is a shame.
@@stefanmilicevic5322 I agree. Depression is labeled as a disease and people can't control whether or not they are depressed. But, when you go into treatment and therapy, you will always find that what they tell you is that you have to recognize your unhealthy beliefs and behaviors, and make a resolution to change them for the better. That's why the most common way mental health services refer to the counseling process is "work." They expect you to believe that you can make meaningful changes and to put effort into doing that. And if you resist trying to consciously change your attitude, your therapists will get frustrated with you. They want you to understand that trying to change your beliefs and behaviors is a non-optional part of therapy
@@connorbecz3036 They will also give you medications, if the depression is severe enough. See, medications alter the neurochemical imbalance in your brain to make you not feel so shitty anymore. Like I said, depression is not 100% attitude...it is a complex issue. Thanks for this little debate, I find it amusing to have a little friendly debate with someone over the internet. Usually debates on the internet will turn sour really quickly.
Your hair is so shiny and amazing! This video really put some things in perspective for me, thank you. Xx
Thank you so much Ana, I really needed this video. Also your hair looks sooooo good ❤✌
Hope you are staying safe lovely!!
Ana, thank you for making this video❤️ but i’m sorry to say that i couldn’t even get past the first 5 minutes without crying. I’ve watched your videos for the longest time and they’ve always been helpful, so i hope you don’t mind if i come and support this video in a while❤️ i love you and i’m glad to see you doing well honey 💕
take all the time u need! Hope u are oki
I actually met your youtube channel, about a year ago...I was suicidal, and I looked up, I want to die on Google and went to videos to see if I had issues or if I was alone. And your video came up and ever since then I have loved how relatable you make these issues seem.
0:37 this!! (but like also the whole video is well said!)
I think you’re so brave for posting this. I love your attitude towards life and towards people and the care you show towards others. You’re so inspiring and I’m so proud of you. xx
aww thank you so much!!
Awwww. Thanks for the advice and the video. Much love. 💞
Your videos are my self-care. thank you💞💗
Thank you so much for this video Ana 💛 It helps me to feel not alone. I hope you're doing good and taking care of yourself during these tough times. I love the content you put out into this world and I really appreciate all you do for your little sunflowers 🌻😊
I've been watching you for years when I was feeling like I was probably in my most difficult times with my mental health and self harm issues. I feel like I'm finally in a more stable stage in my life. I'm 18 now and I feel like I'm on a ladder that's on its way up. There's probably gonna be struggles along the way but I'm finally okay enough to accept it and face it head on. Its nice to have gone through this mental health journey with someone I felt i was growing. You're obviously in a much better state in your life and its great to see you glowing and practicing self love. I feel like I'm on that side of my life too and I'm excited for the future.😊
a great video, love you, be safe.
girl i found you through your self harm videos yeaaaars ago, and since then i've found my own healing. I haven't harmed myself in years. It's such a journey learning to love yourself and undo the programming as you talked about. i got all spiritual and realized it really does come down to belief systems
Hi am from Scotland am 36 and self harm and being doing for years and wish I can stop it, am going to stop speaking keep up the good work x
I believe in you
I’ve never watched your videos much before but I loved this I was a heroine addict for 6 years and it was rough. Your spot on with your environment I’ve worked hard to provide a good environment so I don’t use.california the herion problem is huge.
Hi Johanna. Thanks for the video. Much love ❤️
thank you for taking time to make this
Thank you for commenting :D
This video hit my heart 💜
I used to watch your videos a few years back when i was so lost, found you again through sara and here u r u doing so well ❤️😭 feel like i am back doing okay too so glad i found u again keep shining b
Ily 🖤
Hi! I love you and your videos! You are my idol!! Stay positive :) Much love from Ash, UK xxx
Thank you so much and you are really pretty :)
Thank you so much for this video, it's so positive and really brings up amazing points. Your videos have helped me for a long time and show me how to better help others that need it
I become so happy whenever you post a new video. Thank you for spreading so much awareness about such important topics. I can't thank you enough for how many times your videos have helped me in life. I love you so much 💕
been here since 2015, love you beautiful🧡 stay strong everybody, you got this!
So glad you're making this video in a time like this xx love u
thankyou so much for sharing this. ✨
thank you this really helped me
My self harm is physical but mental, having covid force my gym and my fav job as a House Maid and forcing to NOT make new friends has forced to take up remote Graphic Design work..... REMOTE!! I am a people person, I love interacting with people in person, or my mind remembers people I've hurt and issues I've left unresolved and then my anxieties come and now it just get's me into a panic attack. I hate covid!!
Thank you for this video so vary much
I'm not gonna lie. When I first found your channel I was in a rough place. I remember watching your first diary video and you said that you must have self harmed because there was blood on the pages. I wish i had someone like you who I could talk to whenever I get urges . Its very difficult.
I remember watching your videos a few years back during a rough time of my life but I’ve changed for the best hence then!! tysm for being here❣️
love u and ur beautiful soul x
Thank you so so much! This made my day, your words really touched me 🌞🌻🌱
You can stop anything you want if you change your settings is so real.
Love you so much beautiful! Stay strong!
Your such a beautiful human!💞🥰
Thank you for making this 🥺🖤
This was a great video!! You look absolutely incredible, the ash blonde really suits you and your makeup is popping 💖
Thank you so much Ana! Your videos are always so helpful♡ when I started watching them, you made me feel less alone
I still haven't found the courage to reach out for help, but it's always great to see you so positive
I'm so proud of how far you've come Ana!🙂🥰🌻❤
Can't wait to watch the video. They're always so helpful :)
Replacing habits is my biggest issue. For years I struggled with p*rn addiction and the guilt was destroying me. When I discovered sh, I naturally shifted into that and I even struggled with food. I never developed a *proper* addiction to p*rn or sh or had an ED, but I have to stop shifting from one to the other. I hope everyone else is okay though...
You hair is really cool
You seem so happy! Thank you for talking about this sensitive topic!
I’ve watched you and been subscribed for so long, I love how passionate you are about these issues and it’s helped me stop self harming 💙
Girl, all your tats are a damn aesthetic 😍 hope you're staying safe.
Sending love ❤️
this is a lot of what i'm working on right now. thank you for the thoughts :))
One has just to love you, there is no way around 😘🤗
I started cutting at 17 and have continued to struggle with it to this day.
Very helpful Video, thanks for being a advocate of these things, ypu really helpso many struggeling people. 🌻
On a different note: where did you get the top you are wearing it's so beautiful 😩
I loved your hair , kisses
I'm here because I know I self harms in ways that I didn't even realize was self harm. Scratching at my legs until i bleed, picking off the scabes, hair pulling and other things
I did the digging my nails into my skin when I was a kid; I've never really heard of anyone else doing that. It took a while after I had started cutting for me to realize "oh fuck, I've been technically self harming since I was like ten. That's lovely."
I agree that most people aren’t s3lf harming for attention, but a while ago my sisters showed me her “scares” (they were scratches so not really scares). I s3lf harm since I was 10 (maybe longer but c*tting since then) and I’m addicted, I also know a lot about it. My sister always does things for attention so the first thing I toughed about when she showed them to me was that it is for attention. I saw them a week before I was moving so all I could do was tell my mom, but still it hurts me so much that she only does it for attention while I have no other choice
Even if she does it for attention, doesn't mean that it's any less problematic. She might feel as though it is her only option
Kyra if you self harm for attention, it isnt any less serious. you have to be pretty sad and messed up to feel that the only way you can get people to care and give attention is to hurt yourself. its still a problem and she obviously needs the attention
Maybe don’t belittle your own sisters struggles?
pink x I don’t belittle them believe me. She causes them herself😅 she abused me for 10 years and even tried to kill me multiple times. She steals things what makes her lose her jobs. She stalked people because she didn’t get what she wanted.
The video is literally about this kind of behaviour.
First here too 😭😭❤❤❤, I love you!!!!!!! Like marry me 😭
I never really thought of this but I think I actually exchanged cutting myself with scratching my skin really bad until I get big ass scratches and it stings so bad, but because I hadn’t cut my skin for like a few years I had the idea that I’d gotten better but I think that I actually haven’t gotten better at all I just found another way of hurting myself.. I really need to work on this.. I just have no motivation whatsoever
God i love you so much
I told God to help me and he did. Don't listen to people that say he's not real. Just reach out to him, he's waiting to help you. You have to make the first move though. Please. I struggled with self harm since like 2015 but one prayer to God and he helped me. He changed my heart, he can give you peace and take away all the pain. Please trust me, I would not lie about this.
I remember when a girl got upset so she ripped out a huge chunk of her hair from the back of her head and everyone stared at her but no one really thought of it as self harm.
I used to choke my self when I was 8 when I couldn’t handle the pain
i cut for about four years and two years ago i was hospitalized. after i had all my blades taken i turned to drugs instead. it was an easier was of coping for me and it didn’t leave scars. the night my mom found out i was still cutting she cried, she took me to the hospital because she knew i needed help. the night she found out i was using she yelled at me. she went off about how we’d lose the house if she had to pay for rehab. she made me feel so stupid and guilty. which just made me want to get really fucking high. i don’t think she’ll ever understand that it was a form of self harm. i wish more people understood instead of just assumed that you’re just some dumb teenager that makes bad decisions. like yeah i was a dumb teenager but one who really really needed help. 😂
Just wondering...You referred to a Rapper earlier in the video, a Rapper that I had never heard of. Do you know if that Rapper did get help? I sure hope he did. And if you see that one of your friends is self-harming, do you try to help them? If so, can you give an example? My best wishes to you.
A couple weeks ago I was having a urge
To harm myself ( I didn’t tho thank god) and I told my friend cuz I didn’t know what to do and she helped me and talked me out of it and telling me that I’ve already made so much great progress 🥺, February was when I was FINALLY a FULL YEAR clean and I’m glad I haven’t relapsed & I hope I stay clean forever 😣🙂
But it sucks when u were once addicted to doing something and stopped but then relapse, I relapsed a few times times, cuz I started self harm in 5th grade but then stopped cuz eventually I got caught , then relapsed during the summer before 6th, stopped, relapsed again in 6th but then stopped , THEN relapsed again in 7th🤦♀️ but stopped myself and haven’t done any form of harm since. But when i was thinkin about doing it again I just went into tears cuz it GENUALLY hurts and it’s hard to talk to other ppl about it because some just don’t understand and it’s hard to ask for therapy cuz I considered doing it again especially from memories that I still have from when I would hear my parents argue u when I was younger but I feel like if I ask my mom to go back she’ll ask why & I don’t know if therapy will rlly help :/ it did in the moment when I first did it but then eventually it was just useless once I stopped , now I just have to rlly help myself & keep myself together.
Im so proud of you! When you had the urge, you decided to reach out to a friend and talked it out! Really, really proud of you!
when i was a kid i suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts and lived in oregon and whenever i was feeling depressed or suicidal i would go in the freezing cold and think " fuck it i don't deserve to live just let me freeze to death because nobody gives a crap about me"
I self harm by putting out cigarettes on myself. It's one addiction layered on another. I'm such a fool ... and you are so wise.
Hey Ana I was wondering have you ever received a formal diagnosis?
Valium is also a legit medication and if u suffer from an Anxiety disorder it’s a medication that can REALLY help
Everytime i self harm i want to go deeper, and when i get a deeper cut i feel more satisfaction bc i feel like then im worthy ig? When my friends found out my cuts weren't that deep so my scars are barely visible, and they think im doing fine now, but i just got better at hiding it. I thought about telling my school counselor but since my dad is a teacher he's a collegue of my dad, and i dont want my parents to know. I don't want to bother anyone with my problems lol so please dont feel bad for me, i just had to get this of my chest. I don't really have a reason to be sad or unhappy.