I am very surprised that so many people have seen this video. Thank you. I will answer the questions and those who care about me, which were many of the comments I received.☺️ The pandemic began before I started college and all my initial classes were online. Unfortunately, I also suffered from chronic illness for the next two years. With limited time and energy, I prioritized my studies and had little time to make friends during my college years. It is true that I was introverted and didn't fit in very well in high school and thought too much about my not extrovert personality, but I also made some good lifelong friends there. This video means that I have no friends in college. I apologize for any misunderstanding or concern my lack of English may have caused. But I literally have only a few friends lol. But now I believe that friendship is not a number, but a quality. I should love those who love me and now I am very happy. And I am very happy to have met you kind-hearted friends through this video. Thanks for reading to the end☺️
Friendship is something that can only truly exist if it founded in Truth.There is only one which is The Path ,The Truth and The Life: Christ. I let you an strong recommendation : Spent some time studying Scott Hahns books ''' Rome Sweet Rome'' and '' Reasons to Believe'' ,as well search for his lectures online. Again,loneliness is really good and beautifull if it's part of a true and meaning path,and this path can only be Christ .
@@FAC321 When youre old you will have already made plenty of friends, for some people making friends is a matter of time, some get it when their old and some when their young. The point is that friends often dont last until you become old which is why the journey of making friends is more important than the friends themselves.
Hi Haru. I'm a Finnish person from southern Finland. I'm 44 years old and I also don't have any friends. I don't know how old are you but you probably think it's ridiculous for this old person follow someone your age. But the title of this vlog got my attetion "I don't have any friends but have a peaceful life". I live in a small countryside village here in Finland and my only friend is my cat. I have "friends" online whome I have never met, so they're not my real life friends. I work among mentally handicapped people and my commute is only about 15 minutes, depends on the weather. During the winter, it can be snowy or so slippery that I have to slow down. Then it takes more time. Well, I end here now, not to get you bored. I liked this vlog and I'm going to watch them all, when I can. Bye.
Yeah but it can be hard when theres so much distractions in your way. I love watching "Day in the life as a loner" type of vids because i relate to them a lot!
One thing I've noticed about these Japanese videos is they're calming, slow paced, no obnoxious loud people or raucous music, and they eat good food. Total opposite in USA. Greetings from southeastern USA 👋
There are still loud people and bad eaters in Japanese, as in other countries. i hate the stereotype about japan being this perfect calm heavenly place, because it isn't. That is the mans video style, not the whole country is like this.
Hello, I'm 56 and live in the UK. I don't have any friends because I lived in London for 10 years in my 20s, when I came home at 31, I had a baby and have been alone ever since. My daughter is 19, she is all I have, she will move out next year and I am a little afraid of being completely alone then. But you make it look calm and peaceful and not all bad. Thank you. I hope you are happy, I will watch more of your video's.
Nothing to worry about, do what you love and like as long as it´s legal and nobody got hurt. If you try to find friends or just people that have the same interest where you can talk to 1-2 times a wekk, maybe join a book club, a sports team or what ever you are interested in. Don´t force anything, and i bet you will make a friend along the way or maybe more ;)
Ich kann dich sehr gut verstehen. Ich bin 58 und lebe in Deutschland. Mein Sohn hatte 1 Jahr lang eine Wohnung, jetzt lebt er wieder bei mir, weil seine Beziehung zerbrochen ist. Das hat mir für ihn sehr leid getan, aber für mich ist es schön, ihn wieder bei mir zu haben. Es kommt immer anders als man denkt und vielleicht zieht deine Tochter doch nicht aus, oder kommt wieder zurück. Freue dich über die Zeit mit deinem Kind und hab keine Angst. Und selbst wenn sie auszieht, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere auf. Du bist nicht allein, vielen Menschen geht es wie dir.
Im 15 with no friends and homeschooled and I chose this way because I learnt friends aren't for me. I got a cat and 2 budgies and I talk to my mom everyday :) peaceful life, I dont need the stress of drama, hate or envy, and before I made this decision I had some friends but Im not a very open person maybe thats why I decided friends aren't for me. Thank you haru, maybe it was good to know that im not alone
17 with no friends... trying to make friends but it has proven to be difficult bc of online school and being introverted/social anxiety. I am pretty insecure and embarrassed by it and I feel like I'm missing out but I have to remind myself I'll make friends, just like I have before. Hopefully even better friends, friends that'll keep. Also I really have a great life and family/pets that are basically friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts... makes me feel a little better.
I'm 15 too with no friends and I also feel like having friends is just not my thing. For me making friends and maintaining friendships is a dificult task. Bc of my nature that I easily get bored with people and can't enjoy. But when I am alone I have noticed this thing that I am able to enjoy myself much more and live peacefully. Having friends is not worth it all because the amount of time you put into being with them doesn't guarantee you that they will stay with you forever and there are chances that they can backstab you too. That's why being alone is the best ❤🙂
hello to everyone in this thread. you all sound like great human beings. modern life seems to make friendships transactional. you sound like wise people who don't wish to be bothered by the falseness that is valued by today's society. I hope you are all happy and that even though you are choosing a solitary life, that you don't feel alone. I personally feel like God is always with us.
There is no such thing as ''heaven'' for introverts if you are talking about a society so materialistic and with so much lack of purpose that people literally die and rot alone in their houses to them be found and cleaned like trash. Living alone is good,as long as it's part of a truth and meaning path.The materialistic and ''dead'' way current japanese people sees things is tottaly insane and ugly.If you are alone,and more important,rational and conscient ,you have plenty of time in silence to spend rightly: I recommend for you to separate some time every day and study the origins of Christianity with Scott Hahn' s books ' Rome Sweet Home ' and 'Reasons to Believe'.
@@Blspeek-ag just get your funding done, japan's currency exchange rate isnt bad at all, its actually quite good for 2nd world or 1st world countries/ major foreigners
I'm a 27 year old Danish software engineer that moved to Japan for work earlier this year. My life in Tokyo started out a bit rough, having caught an illness that lasted 2 months and getting surgery all within two months of living in Japan. Dealing with that situation while being all on my own, integrating myself into a vastly different society and keeping up with a new job has been one of the biggest challenges I've ever faced. Yet having gone through it all, I now feel incredibly blessed to live in this magical country, and I see myself as a much stronger person after all. Anyhow, your video resonated with me, as my circumstance made it hard for me to connect with people the first few months of living in Japan, so I've found myself spending most time outside of work on my own :)
Thank you for sharing your story. May the happiness always be with you. I’m a last year Computer Science student and considering to work abroad. If you don’t mind sharing a bit more, what is the level of Japanese language needed for Software Engineer position in Tokyo? Did you use any agency service to handle the recruitment process? If you applied for the job directly (from your native country), where did you hear the requirements and how long did it take till you got accepted in the current company? I’m sorry for the long text. Hoping a good response. Thanks.
The title of the video caught my attention and was the reason I started watching: "I Have No Friends, But I Have a Peaceful Life." I'm 22 years old and from Turkey, in my last year of university. I've never had friends, mainly because I can’t tolerate mistakes that most people consider normal-or rather, because I try to live a life of integrity. But I’m starting to think that my life will continue this way. I feel excluded at school; nobody wants me around. I didn’t worry much about it in the past, but as I get older, I’ve begun to wonder if the fault lies with me. I think all I want is to be understood. I've been taking medication for the past two years because I've been so fixated on this issue, but to be honest, it hasn’t helped much. When I watched your video, I felt at peace. Seeing the life you live and the calm you have made me smile. The small details-even just an image of the sky-made me so happy. I think I’d forgotten how to notice those little things like I used to. Please keep making videos like this; I hope I can learn to love myself this way too. Thank you.
Even I had no friends in school mate literally I used to sit at the back of the rows . Nobody used to talk to me , I felt totally isolated from others This somehow affected me alot initially and I used to feel sad that why does no one talks to me ... but gradually everything became normal and I found out how to be fulfilled within ourselves.. mate their is no one in the world who will on ur side forever its you and only u (lots of love and power to you ❤) . *sorry for my faulty English *
The most beautiful thing in this life is being your own friend no one deserve your hard try, just estimate, love and know youself, don't forget that you are a precious soul. No need to take any medecine, just connect with your highr self my awesome friend, you are not alone much love, light and peace 💫💚
My son is my best friend. For years I was lonely, but then I found my wife, and we have a beautiful life. I hope you find whatever it is that makes you happy.
Thanks for reminding me, that this happened to my husband. My kid still at home and I are friends. I hope if they go to college they will adapt well like this young man in the video.
my School life was lonely, but now I've got amazing friends in college. Still, I've realized that true happiness is about loving yourself and being your own best friend, the one person who will always have your back." 😊
Thank you for showing us your day. Although life can be hard and stressful, there is still the small things that can make us smile and feel happy. It seems like our lives, even if we live in different countries are so similar. Great video❤
I mean what did you think? People living in canada don't sweat? Japanese people are neveer unkind? South koreans don't poop? Italians don't breathe? Obviously life is the same for every country.
I'm an American from Texas who moved to Tokyo almost 1 year ago. When I first came here it was a culture shock and the language barrier caused me to have a hard time connecting with people. Coming to Japan has been one of the most amazing experiences but also one of the most challenging. I moved by myself and I was alone for the first few months. And even though I have made some friends I still do a lot of things alone. I have realized that its empowering when you get comfortable doing things alone. Thank you for sharing your day with us. It was fun and inspired!
From Texas, god that English sounds soooo good, I love it (It's the Cowboy-English), but respect moving to Japan is an extraordinary big challenge!!! I wish you all the best there!!!
Lately I've been starting to lose my friendships and going through a deppressive episode. Thankfuly your video and the comments give me some relief and comforting since I'm nearly starting college next year! I'll probably won't have friends by then so I'm trynna prepare myself for the upcoming loneliness!
I've been living a lonely life lately, then I started finding these videos and now it's my company. I'm doing my last exams for this year and it's been really hard. Thank you for this refreshing content, take good care of yourself 🤍
this is me, i live in Turkey 🇹🇷 and have no friends, i prepare food for work and eat it alone at my lunch break, i'm peaceful and happy, i don't like people gossiping or so, i'm happy with my family life and living quietly
Im from the US and i have also always struggled to make friends, but this video reminded me of how good it is to also be friends with yourself :) the best moments in life are the little moments that most people take for granted, such as a walk after a good dinner, or a beautiful view while studying. With this video you reminded me to pay attention to those little moments and how beautiful and peaceful life can be if you look close enough :)
I’m Spanish with no friends. I’ve always had some adaptation issues and I still have them. I live in a country in which there is a lot of social pressure. There is a constant need to socialize and having friends so my point of view about relationships is continuosly questionized. I think that if life is a balance, I have always put first my values and my sense of justice before adaptation to groups or people. I spend my time with my mother and my cats, and when I’m with them I don’t need anybody. Life is dinamic, people enters and exits in this path which is the life,the important part is to be surrounded by love and it can be given by people, animals or even just yourself. Great video!
I think almost the same way but this year life taught to be alone I life made me introvert because of bullying and I never had the opportunity to be myself with someone util last year that I found a best friend but as you said social pressure and they changed him and now he's trying his best but I don't feel the same energy he went to a family trip and for the first time I didnt' want to look for other friend to have fun just him but I know im in pain and tired of ppl idk maybe that's why I want to be alone like I always said Idk why life is keeping me alone but I felt what you said in a way
im spanish too and thats completely true. tbh i really enjoy being alone but sometimes i wish i had friends to go out and make plans. most of the time i feel like im the problem, but the truth is that im just really shy and introvert. that only changes when i feel really comfortable with someone and thats almost impossible. it hurts so much to see everyone having a lot of friends while in here alone lmao. i also live really far away from my family so it makes it even harder
I don’t comment on videos at all. But this video really struck a core with me. I’m a 23 year old introverted autistic American in the US who just finished university this past May, and trying to set up the next stage of life. I’ve been feeling pretty lonely since I graduated. Many of the people I know that I was attending my four-year university went back home, and a few people that I do live close to are always busy so we rarely get to see each other. And the people I rarely get to see I’ve known them even longer, as far back as when I was getting my two year degree or even high school. even though my social battery drains easily and I don’t like going out often. It still hurts not being able to see the people close with for a long period of time. I think that’s just part of life. At least that’s what I like to think. This video helped remind me that I can appreciate the small things in my day-to-day life. Doing something as simple as eating a restaurant, or going out on a stroll, can make that feeling of loneliness and turn it into small bits of happiness. Admittedly, I do have a hard time understanding people sometimes so I like my solitude. But sometimes, It can be a little much. But as long as I have my little sparks of happiness every now and again, Then I can be comfortable with being alone. Thanks for sharing this with us!❤ (Also sorry if this doesn’t make sense to anyone, I’m not exactly the greatest at putting my emotions to words. Which is Ironic considering the profession I’m trying to get into).
I've just found your channel and this is your first video for me. I'm glad you're finding joy where you can. I'm from the US and older but like you have no friends so I understand how you feel. I hope things go well for you and happiness surrounds you
As an introvert in Singapore, working in a job that requires me to be an extrovert all day, I totally relate with the need to just unwind alone and be in my own thoughts and happiness. Being in solitary, as a choice, is beautiful. ❤
@@travelworklife717 That's Right... Being in solitary, a a choice.. IS SUPER COOL... I just was so popular in college... Then i just got my life in solitary when i start to work... i have 6 years without a couple... I just want to enjoy my solitary life and let some girl join to me and make a family... But its really cool to have no friends... Just enjoy yourself... Also i'm not an introvert... LIFE MUST GO ON
Brother I don't usually comment but the quality of your video is something I would pay to see it's so soothing and calm. I can totally understand the feeling of having no friends one side of your heart dieing to have friends but other side scares of risking the calmness of your life
“If you have a problem you can’t tell anyone in real life, leave it in the comments” this actually touched me 💜 I hope your days are fulfilling, even you’re mainly by yourself
I started living in Japan last month to study. It feels lonely from time to time but I’m still enjoying my time here. Seeing familiar places and the food I also eat everyday in your videos made me feel less lonely. thank you so much and 頑張ってください☺
Nice to meet you, Haru. I'm Anya from Russia. This is the first video of yours that I watch, and I really love it❤ I have 2 friends, and I also have peaceful life that I enjoy. You know, Japan, anime and such vlogs help me to remain peaceful when I come across obstacles. So I really wanna thank you for your work. Btw, I'm a 10th grade student and my commute to school takes give or take 30 minutes. I go by metro. I also attend volleyball classes in a sport centre thrice a week and the way to there takes at around 45 minutes. Wish you be happy, all the best💕
四年前ぐらいから日本のことを興味があるアメリカ人で、偶然はるさんのビデオを見た良かった！I like the simplicity of your videos, and the way you describe your feelings and day to day activities in English subtitles. I'm sad to hear that it's difficult to make friends in college if you're often out, but if you believe in yourself and find things every day to make you happy, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm looking forward to watching all of your other videos as well.
8:26 I was reading all the subtitles suddenly I was surprised to see an interaction so personal & direct! I have a restaurant job that keeps me busy six days a week. It’s too difficult to have friendships with so much work that needs to get done however it’s nice to watch a Vlog so educational touching on ideas where responsibility is more important than free time. It helps me relax knowing other people are working hard doing good things for their life’s as well.
Hi, Haru! Do not worry too much about not having friends in college, I get it. Sometimes you just dont have too much time to socialize (or the energy lol) , so you focus on the studies. I have always had difficulty when i was younger making friends, too many bad people around me, who never understood my hobbies or the things i enjoyed, so i prefer to be alone and so the things i like, more than to please those people who judge me for what i enjoyed. Now that im in my 40's , i have good friends, few, but very good people. They came from all over, but they are precious to me, and i to them. I would not change a thing, being lonely in my youth, was totally worth it lol. And i used to use to bus to go to study, but in Lima, Perú, it is chaotic haha. And a lot of buses are old and very ugly, the traffic was just a pain... but oh well, I love my country non the less. I have a question, that defrosted meal you had, you didnt heat it in the microwave before eating it? it was just cold? It looked yummy, but i was confused, never saw a thing lke that haha. But you said it was safe, so it must be !
Thank you for watching🥰 Frozen foods for bento in Japan can basically be eaten as is! It is really great to be able to say like you do that you love your life and your country. I admire you from a far away country!
En los paises de por acá los buses no son para nada como los del video, ni los paisajes, y el trafico, es tremendo jajajaj Pero fuera de eso tenemos cosas bonitas igualmente 😼
It's been years since I had any friends, and honestly I love it. Hanging out with my family with no drama and just being with myself and thousands of plants I have at home, I love it, honestly.
I'm from Spain, and right now I don't have any friends either. I can't study right now and I'm working. Usually my friends are temporary, somehow they always end up Ghosting me. I have learned to see myself as a person who is in the lives of others for a short time, helps them and listens and when they are better they leave. I have learned to see the beauty in being someone like that. My only friend is my partner and sometimes I also feel envious of how he plays with his friends. I felt super intrigued by the title, seeing more people like that!! Hope u are doing good Haru!
hola ! your comment holds such a lovely perspective , it managed to make me smile. i struggle with this quite a lot. just wanted to send some support from italy !! thank you!!! i probably will think of this again
Di que sí Sabrina, yo también soy de España y yo también valoro mucho el tiempo libre que tengo para mí, tiempo libre para mí pareja, viajar, y mis mascotas. No todo en la vida es fiestas, socializar y hablar como nos inculcan en nuestro país.
I agree. It’s very clean too, it’s the same in Switzerland, if only North America could adapt to their norms….it’s just so messy over here. Don’t you agree?
Hi Haru, im from Germany :] I like your video, it's so relaxing to watch and it's nice to see Japan again. I was there on vacation last year with my husband, who is now my ex-husband, and now last year's vacation to Japan somehow feels like a lie. I definitely have to travel to Japan again to make better memories. Let me tell you one thing: There are times when it is good to be alone. And you can also be very happy alone. And basically, thanks to UA-cam and the like, you are not alone. I feel for and with you. And we are all here :] Thank you for your touching video
Hi Haru, I'm a British university student and I live in London. My life is similar these days since I am sick often. Thank you for showing everyone how peaceful life can be this way.
Fellow Programmer here! I'm a recent university graduate from Clemson University in the US, its really cool to see how similar a day at University is for you to how mine was when I was in school. We even had to write code on paper too, and it made no sense to us also. Being alone in a strange University can be daunting, but don't hesitate to participate in clubs and activities! I got into playing Volleyball in college and met most of my friends through that! Find something you love, and there will be others that love it too!
Good Advice, clubs and activities are where it is at. I play tennis (badly) but make many friends that way. You need something to do with someone not just drink and eat.
Hi Haru, I'm an Indian and have no friends. I'm glad to see people who are like me in the comment section. Only an introvert can understand how hard it is to make friends with new people. I'm going to give my entrance exams next year and kinda stressed about that. Sometimes I feel very lonely when I see people my age posting with their friends. But I could say that I have a peaceful life because I've got my comfort zones straight like reading, listening kpop, writing etc. However I do look forward to my college life and I do want to make good friends. I hope someday you'll also get good friends. I liked the vlog because it's just so peaceful and we introverts could only understand how much beautiful peace is. Anyways, I wish you the best for your future. 🤍
Hola Haru, tengo 25 años y soy de España 🇪🇸, agradezco mucho tu tranquilidad ya que muchas veces me siento muy solo, es reconfortante esta forma de ver la vida, no sé nada de japonés y mi inglés es muy malo, pero gracias a tus vídeos creo que voy a poder mejorar, así que muchas gracias por ayudarme con ello.
Thank you for sharing this video. I'm 24 years old, living in France, just graduated masters, I have only 2 friends (1 closer than the other) and they found work and joined other universities outside the city I live. Now I'm alone trying to figure how to spend my days. Your video gave me motivation to continue working on the things I like, thank you!
My first year in university, I spent all on my own, so I was all the time by myself as well. This new year, I made some friends, and even though it is fine to be with them, I sometimes feel like I don't belong with them and end up missing just being by myself.
When we learn to become our own best friend, we seldom ever feel lonely. Besides, attachment always leads to suffering, so better to be peacefully alone. Thank you for this lovely video, I wish you well my friend 🙏
I’m 19. I’m from a small town, I never had friends growing up or through my school years. I moved to the city once I turned 18 in hope of finding my people. It’s been a year and I’m still alone. It hurts most days but I’m relearning to enjoy myself and my own company. Thank you for showing me that I’m not alone, and that I can have a perfect life by myself.
I hope that you find the right kind of people to be friends with. I don't believe we were meant to be alone. However we can enjoy life at times alone. Continue to be yourself. Don't conform for others. The right kind of friend or associate will enjoy you for you. Whatever creative talents you have really cultivate them! Enjoy you!
I agree with you i too am a uni student and have no freinds at all At times its frustrating that the environment and the people around dont provide you with enough space to open up or simply just dont seem to understand you ,but its alright to have some roads crossed alone it gives us the insight to understand better who we are and that not every one has to fit in ❤you definitely got a great content and its very relaxing to watch your vedios.
You can wait for it to happen or make it happen, you need either some really harsh experiences (heartbreak, embarassment, or motivation) in order to help break the shell. My tip, start yesterday, tomorrow isn't promised.
You can‘t just wait for people to approach you. Maybe next term, when you have a new class with new people you can ask some if anyone‘s up to grab a cup of coffee/tea. Or if anyone has plans for lunch yet and suggest to meet up/eat together. When you sit together, ask people about their interests maybe you can do some sports together, check out a new restaurant, ask if there‘s any new movies they are interested in seeing in the cinema. If you‘re in a bigger town there might be some events. Unfortunately a lot of these activities can cost money and not everyone has money to spend so you could also suggest hanging out at a park (for a picknick, going swimming at a lake, playing games- if you already have games someone could bring), some events and festivals are also free to attend. Or there might be sight-seeing spots to check out…
Very happy to see so many people have watched this video! Also glad UA-cam recommended it to me. You seem like a genuine and nice person Haru. Hope you have a great day!
such a sweet video, I'm shocked. it's almost exactly what i feel during studies in uni. i had gone to another country because of the war in mine, and i haven't even finished school. it took a lot to understand where i am and of course they're no ways i could think about my own future. last year i went to the university without knowing the language and without friends, and only because my mother told me to do that. I didn't understand anything of the lections, i didn't communicate with anyone and I just didn't want to. that's not fair, life is not fair i thought. later i became more and more anxious and ended with come back to the depression i had since fourteen. i have started to skip all of the classes and having no reasons to continue and to live. also my personal life had an impact on it so i couldn't escape from it. now I'm on the second year of uni and on the third in another uni online that in my country, i have got a cat i was dreamed of about a year, i went to the concert of my favorite group I have been listening to for 6 years, i know that I'm not a bad person and i know that all that happened to me is not an experience but a serious problem I have been struggling with. i deserve to feel sad or happy sometimes and i shouldn't think that I'm not enough. of course all of this is still on my mind but i realized that good days also could be, not only bad ones i wish for everyone relief in their lifes, you deserve everything you want, you're the biggest hero in your own life and only you can save yourself
I could feel that you have struggled in difficult circumstances that I cannot imagine. At times like this, instead of feeling sorry for you, I want to be there for you wholeheartedly. I have no power to stop the war, but I will be happy if I can make your heart, which is actually there, a little happier with my video and message. If you are truly distressed, please contact me by any means.
Hello there! I can't even imagine what you had to go through, but I'm happy to see that you dont' give up and keeping trying to feel good and positive, chasing the best life you deserve. I hope God help you to continue and you never stop to fight. Wish you all the best from Brazil 😊
I stumbled upon this video at such a perfect time. Also leading a slow paced and quiet life I tend to overlook the small wonders surrounding me by getting caught up in the mundanity of everyday life, but you've reminded me just how important it is to stay present in the moment you're living. Please keep up the good work, Haru :> you seem like a lovely person. And greetings all the way from Romania!~
"I have a hard time walking because I ate too much, but that is also a happy thing." 15:47 That sentence made me remember all the times I got too full and complained. You're right being too full from eating good food is a good thing :)
Im a teenager from India who is also quite in your boat, I have many “friends” but a very few showed their friendship towards me. When you realise that very few people want you for you and not use something out of you it hurts but the sooner you realise it the better it is. Im thankful I realised this early on in life. 😊❤
(Watching this video while doing homework LMAO) You are right, it helps a lot to slow down and focus more on the surroundings. There is so much beauty in everything that we tend to overlook in our daily life. In Germany i always take long walks to calm down my mind when I'm having a hard time :)
Hi there~ Thank you for the calming video. When I went away to study in upstate New York, I also didn't make any friends there. So, much like you, I was alone a lot of the time. I learned to appreciate nature and went on many walks, took a lot of pictures. Sometimes it was lonely, but when I think back, I realized I had a lot of nice memories. I do miss being in college and living on my own, actually lol so I like to enjoy your videos in a nostalgic kind of way. Right now, I live on Long Island in New York, so we need cars to get everywhere. I wish I lived in the city or a place like you because I really hate driving ;~; Maybe one day~ Also, that beef bowl with the cheese looked amazing!!
I came across your video and wanted to say how calming it was. Do not worry too much about not having friends in college; I get it. I have always had difficulty making friends when I was younger, but now I keep my friend circle small, and it's nice. I wish you all the best in your studies.
That was so peaceful and beautiful, i really needed this. I'm also introvert but I have to communicate with people due to my work which takes a toll on me every time. It's a hassle and overwhelming each time. It's a blessing to have such quality alone time with such beautiful scenery, enjoy while you can. I understand that you're feeling left out (I didn't have friends in highschool, so I understand it). But my advice: appreciate the solitude and peacefulness you have right now and focus on your hobbies and studies (hobbies are really important, they are important for our happiness) because, later on, you will have rarely time or luxury for such peaceful alone times. Besides, during the course of your life journey while focusing on your dreams you will definitely make really good friends ( I made my friends during my working life after college whom i adore).
I found it comforting to see Haru living and enjoying his life to the fullest. Ever since I went to college, I slowly drifted from my friends because many of them were living their own life or attending other colleges. I felt like the spark and connection we originally had as friends fizzled out. And over the course of three years of attending college, I only made like two close friends. Though I haven't been able to meet with them much due to different classes and one transferring to another college. For the past few months, I spent some time being alone (going to school and enjoying my hobbies). Through this time, I realized that I feel content being alone. But I always felt that societal pressure, especially from my parents, that I need to make new friends or else you're labeled as "abnormal" (a loner or outcast). However watching this video and scrolling through the comments, I find it reassuring to see that not everyone needs a friend, or friends. It's ok living your life, being yourself. Thanks for sharing this wonderful video, Haru! It truly made me smile. I hope you're happy and I hope the people watching this video are happy! And I especially hope that I continue to be happy...best wishes to everyone!
Both times I’ve gone to Japan I always bought 2 sets of clothes at Uniqlo. Can confirm it’s very cheap and stylish and comfortable. Just got back from my 2nd Japan trip and this time went to 2nd hand clothing store as well.
Such a calming vibe in your life and vlog! It’s inspiring to see you finding peace and joy in your own company. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
I didn’t make any friends these past four years at university either. I only have one really good friend from school so I’m content with that… honestly the people at university stress me out when it comes to assignments. I have such a hard time collaborating with them. I commute to university by bus too! I just discovered your channel, ganbatte with university and UA-cam Haru!
I subscribed mid-way and watched the whole video. Please keep making these vlogs. Being alone is great, but its also fine to want that close group of friends. I hope your peaceful life continues.
Very calming video to watch while eating dinner alone at home after a rough day Things have been very difficult here in Texas but this video reminded me to be thankful for the nice things I do have I appreciate your effort and thank you for your thoughtfulness and ability to share your life to the world!
Thank you for sharing your life with us. Your videos are very relaxing and interesting. You have a very gentle soul 😊 Wishing you best wishes from England.
5:51 you seem very nice and kind Haru . Don’t give up and keep growing as a person . And as of you not having friends . I’m your friend from America now 😊. Take care ❤
Hello! I'm from Spain, I'm 25 and I don't have any friends either. I wasn't very lucky with my previous friendships and I ended up alone. Sometimes I'm fine, but when I think about it so much sometimes I feel a little sad for not being able to share moments with a friend. Watching your video has made me see that you can be happy with yourself, I have to learn from that.
Nuestro país nos obliga a ser personas muy sociales y hay mucho extrovertido alrededor nuestra por metro cuadrado y quizás a algunos como nosotros, nos abruma. No te sientas sola y si algún día quieres hablar, aquí estoy. Saludos.
I'm from Brazil, really far away, and sometimes I find myself looking at the horizon, imagining what other people's lives and routines are like. I wonder if they suffer from the same reasons as I do, or if the cultural barrier divides us too much. But I ended this video smiling. Thanks fella, it's really pleasant to learn someone else's story.
thanks for the insight into a day in japan. I will be a little harsh here, but I hope that you end up spending only a little time on UA-cam and that you instead find people around you that you can interact with. Finding online friends is great. Finding friends you can absolutely rely on in your neighbourhood is better. You seem like a normal person so that also means there's no reason people wouldn't appreciate you. Maybe it all starts by just saying 'hello, nice to meet you'. I am also introverted, but I know for certain that my life is better because I have friends. They are why I choose to leave the home and I am better for it.
@@NOVAZKOV This youtuber is not you. He is a normal dude. And even if it IS hard. That does not remove the value of pursuing actual relations so you're making a moot point. There's plenty of other people online, even famous ones like Iron mouse, who do their damnest to get the social interaction they need. Too many people make the mistake of thinking that they don't like social interaction because they don't miss it. But that's because more often than not, they don't miss what they haven't experienced. They quite literally don't know what they are missing. I don't mind, or frankly, care, for everyone's personal situation. But what I do know is that the vast vast majority of people who lack social interaction would benefit from it. It sucks if you aren't able to easily have it, but I hope for you and anyone else that you still manage to get it in spite of your condition. Not necessarily many friends, rather, just some people you can truly rely on. Authentic relations.
9:16-9:18 when you took a second to "catch your breath" I asked aloud, "Oh! Is it lunch time?!" and.. it was :). I wonder how many of us know this feeling or gesture universally.
This is a very beautifully filmed vlog. I love getting a glimpse into other people's lives. It's comforting to know that people from far away countries experience the same feelings as me.
I'm 17, and a Malaysian. I aspire to study in Japan after finishing my secondary education. However, I've been facing a drought in motivation. Not only that, I also started to doubt my aspirations to go to Japan or overseas in general to further my education, mainly the concern of being alone throughout my stay. I've heard many stories about foreigners being excluded from Japanese society, due to being a very homogenous society. However, seeing your video made me realise that I do not need to be a social butterfly to be happy. It also reminded me on the things I loved about Japan. The scenery, the 4 seasons, the efficient and top-tier public transport, the cheap yet delicious food... (Especially the bentos!) Now I'm all the more roared up to continue studying for my finals! Thanks Haru!
Watching this made me feel less lonely, and realizing that it's okay for not having so much interaction or friends in your life..actually im an introvert so whenever im socializing my social battery tends to always drain hahaha so it's really hard for me to keep up with my new friends especially if they are an extrovert. However, im glad that im not the only one that have only few friends in my life. ❤
Aww…you bring joy to the lives of others by sharing part of your day. That helps make your life worthwhile-what you give to others. Hope you have a good week! Thanks for sharing.💛
7:05 I live and rent at a boardinghouse I chose, specifically because of how near it is. I study at a Maritime college and I get there on foot about 5-6 minutes I usually just walk or jog to get there. Getting lunch in here usually depends on the person. Usually it's the school canteen, some small restaurant outside, or if you've got a fair amount of money for your budget fast food restaurant. I usually just eat lunch in the canteen. I rarely see people bring their own lunch boxes here, probably cause it's a hassle to prepare for some of us here. Especially when there's a lot of assignments to do. Usually, some do it early in the morning.
Hey there Haru, as a 28 year old American and a introvert I hope you have a wonderful rest of the year. Solidarity can truly be comforting but creating memories can be an everlasting happiness.
I remember when I first moved to Korea in junior high having no friends. I have an accent when I speak Korean and I couldn't pick up on some of the cultural ettiquette. I did feel alone quite often. Your video reminds me that sometimes there is a calmness about being alone and we become stronger as individuals. I just found your channel today and I'll watch your other videos ;)
I never considered myself an introvert and always made friends very quickly but I think the last few years it‘s changed quite a lot. I have many friends and close ones at that but they are all from high school. I love them dearly but in the last few years I‘ve grown to like the silence around me when there is no one around and I feel calmest in my own company. I feel like I don‘t need social interactions to feel good even though I‘m still always very happy to see my friends. I started University with exactly those feelings: I already had my friends and at Uni wasn‘t making any effort to meet new people. I did speak with people I sat next to without feeling anxious like many introverts do but I was content with sitting by myself too. The thing is I don’t have any problems with speaking to strangers and I don’t care at all how it looks when I sit by myself either. This complete contentment with my own company has led me to not make any new friends at all. And in some ways I don’t mind it. As I said I mostly prefer my own company or that of my high school friends. The problem is that sometimes I do mind. For example I don’t have anyone to help me study and in general no social life at all. People always talk about how university is the best time of your life but I feel like it’s just passing by me and I’m missing out on it. All my friends are spreading out over the world and most study in a different city, so while they all build a new part of their lives there it feels like I’m stuck. I know I won’t loose them but it feels weird when they tell me stories of people I don’t know and I realize that I’m almost completely uninvolved in their day-to-day lives now. I still think that I will meet some people at some point and grow to actually love my time at the university but I don’t see my attitude/stance changing in the near future. For clarification I have met some people at Uni and for the most part kept in very loose contact with them (like lunch once every few months) and I don’t have any difficulties at all to do so but they never grow closer because I simply don’t want to put in the effort. Whenever I have the choice of spending time with someone or by myself I always choose the latter because I simply like it better and I think that’s the real problem. I still don’t even know if I should see it as a problem at all. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I fear I will always feel and act that way: complacent and going with the flow instead of actively trying to shape my life. And I’m scared that at some point in my life I will realize that this flow has taken me to a dead end and that my life will be empty and unfulfilling because I simply never bothered or dared to take a chance.
15:15 Same here in Indonesia! Our culture also emphasizes us to eat every grain of rice. When we were a little kid, our parents or older family member will usually tell us if we didn't finish the rice, the rice will cry😂 Or we will get a bearded guy (for girls). In here, bearded guys are considered as "unclean" or "not neat" because they are lazy to cut it off. But it was back then though, although sometimes that perspective are still exist, it's not that much compared now. Nowadays, somehow people are more open minded which is kinda nice.
I live in South America, and here you are expected to be very social (you either make friends or fail in life, and people remind me of that all the time since I'm a science student)... But I recently stafted my second semester at uni and it's very hard for me to make friends, since I'm very shy and socially awkward, to the point that even professors noticed it... That has made me feel very anxious and lonely. Seeing how you find happiness in small things, like food or the scenery even if you are alone, made me a little jealous (but in a good way). I guess I have forgotten to find that kind of small happiness in my life too, since I have been so worried... Thank you so much, this video made me feel very calm. Hopefully I'll earn to live happily and peacefully as well.
Hi Haru! Thank you for this beautiful vlog. There was a time when I used to be the quite kid in school and was easily bullied. But after the pandemic got over, I transformed into somebody else, I grew up. The bullying stopped, but I was still unable to make friends. But times changed for me ( Miracles do happen) and now I've a huge friend circle and a beautiful girlfriend. I wish that you've a similar turn of events in your life, which will propel you towards happiness and prosperity. P.S. It's my dream to join the Kyoto University one day. Wish me luck 🥰
You're living every introvert's dream life ❤ I think Japan is the best country for introverted people. I'm also studying Japanese to work there😊 because i want a life like you. ❤ good video. Keep it Up はるさん、がんばってね。
Hello Haru i have subscribed to your channel after watching all your video's but this one bought tears to my eyes, you are such a beautiful young man only 21, you can cook so well, and so at peace with yoir self, i too never had friends i was always a loner and now at 68 years of age i still am a loner, i have my children and they are my world 😊 so from this 68 year old lady to you a young 21 year old live your life how you want to and all that matters are the family that love and care for you, you are amazing and your English is very good, also can you put the subtitles against a black background as where the words are white its hard to read them in the daylight and background of where you live. I hope you get many more subscriber's as you truly deserve it, take care and love and luck to you in all that you do from Elaine in England 😊
I cried in joy and happiness cause this guy is sooo wholesome and I’m 13 and I have no friends in the 8th grade and I’m bullied so this is awsome i❤u ty for making me not feel alone
Hi. Dont even think about the nonsense your bullies are telling you. They dont really know better. Thats not an excuse but its how things are around the world. I have been through alot of emotional suffering and also alot of physical pain too. Unfortunately, real friendships and honest relationships în general, are rare. Focus on those who do love you and never get upset because of the nonsense others will tell you. Listen to good music, watch old comedy movies and shows and funny clips, watch beautiful photography works, do the stuff you like and enjoy every moment you have. And help others any time you can because thats the only thing that matters în this world. Everything goes away but the help you extend to others makes this living worthwhile. Even if they seem like they dont deserve it, help them. We all suffer în many ways on this planet. You are not alone, especially if your parents take good care of you, if maybe you have grandparents. Focus on that. I hope this might help you în some way. Enjoy every little thing you see and have în your life. Take good care of yourself and others as much as you can according to your strenght.
Hi! Im 16 attending high school and live in southern California. I don't have any friends that I hang out with at school because it's really hard for me for many reasons: I'm autistic and have a hard time acclimating to new environments, I have a strong sense of who I want or don't want to spend my time with and the people around me at school don't align with my morals and values, I miss what others are saying bc of audio processing issues, I feel like talking to others unprompted is a bother to them, I feel anxious whilst talking to most people, I take longer to form sentences which makes group conversations hard when its fast moving, I've moved 6 times each to different states or countries (bc of U.S military) making me always the new kid whilst everyone knows each other and grew up in that area, and I envy others seemingly enjoying themselves at school with their friends and compare myself even though I know all of these things about myself that make it hard. Im really lonely. I also feel awkward when I am in a good mood and am friendly with people because it seems they would rather be talking with their friends or be on their phone. It takes a lot of energy to talk at all right now..Im outgoing, but only with certain close people most of the time. I can be outgoing with anyone I'm comfortable with really but only to an extent. This is the first video I've watched of you but here I am opening up lol. I find the peaceful life you're living is beautiful and I also live a pretty peaceful life with my cats and lovely family I talk to all the time and some close friends I occasionally talk to over text. I wish to live a life that suits me. :) There is so much pressure to be extroverted but being alone is so much easier and calmer. I was born in Japan (I'm american but born there bc of the military) and have always been closely connected with the culture and many social aspects. Some people have thought I was Japanese sometimes lol. I wish to visit again in the future!
Hii haru, im 15 and i live in a small city in Serbia. I have no friends😅 but your content makes me less sad abt it. Your videos are awsome and definitely ill continue to watch them😁😁😁. Bye byee!!
Thank you for sharing a slice of your life with us. I am from Southeast Asia and am currently in the UK for exchange. I eat and go to all my classes alone too. It brings a quiet kind of happiness that I could not feel back in my own country. However recently my phone was snatched from my hands when I was walking back alone; the thief had lots of friends and they laughed at me when I screamed in panic. The experience was traumatic and I haven't stepped out of the house since. I feel calm and peaceful after watching your video and it has given me the slightest courage to step out again.
I know it takes you wayyy longer to get ready for the day when you have to move the camera constantly in every angle and put in every room before you appear to walk in, etc. Content creating is NOT easy. Editing isn’t easy either. It’s a lot of work. You have a lot of patience and dedication to post videos like these.
I'm from Cameroon. I really like the calming music atmosphere and no talk in this video. Just watching silently a simple and ordinary life of a common young man going on, i fing it more connecting than anything else. Thank you for this moment.
As long as you are enjoying your current life of being peaceful, having no friends is ok. I am a solo person as well back when I am in university and prefer not to mingle with people and my journey in life has been good which is also a blessing. The internet and library books are my best friends. Keep yourself busy and 頑張って. I hope you will achieve success both in life and studies.
Попала на этот канал случайно и не смогла оторваться, пока не досмотрела до конца. Мне очень понравилось, как ты мыслишь, усердно учишься и стремишься к своей профессии. Ты чудесный молодой человек! 💖
A lot of people complain and just stop at "I have no friends" but you added a positive note "But I have a peaceful life" I love that. Sometimes it's hard but sometimes we have to remember to be grateful
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I am very surprised that so many people have seen this video. Thank you.
I will answer the questions and those who care about me, which were many of the comments I received.☺️
The pandemic began before I started college and all my initial classes were online. Unfortunately, I also suffered from chronic illness for the next two years. With limited time and energy, I prioritized my studies and had little time to make friends during my college years.
It is true that I was introverted and didn't fit in very well in high school and thought too much about my not extrovert personality, but I also made some good lifelong friends there.
This video means that I have no friends in college.
I apologize for any misunderstanding or concern my lack of English may have caused. But I literally have only a few friends lol.
But now I believe that friendship is not a number, but a quality. I should love those who love me and now I am very happy.
And I am very happy to have met you kind-hearted friends through this video.
Thanks for reading to the end☺️
Friendship is something that can only truly exist if it founded in Truth.There is only one which is The Path ,The Truth and The Life: Christ. I let you an strong recommendation : Spent some time studying Scott Hahns books ''' Rome Sweet Rome'' and '' Reasons to Believe'' ,as well search for his lectures online. Again,loneliness is really good and beautifull if it's part of a true and meaning path,and this path can only be Christ .
Exactly! Friendship is about quality not quantity. I realized this after graduating from high school. Enjoy your uni days!
Haru-san, do you have to do any group projects at college? like presentation with colleagues? can you take class without doing group projects?
I would love to be your friend. I value quality over quantity also so I choose who I open up to very carefully.. thank you for opening up to us all
You have very good engagement under this vid, and this is apparently huge thing here at this platform. 🤩
Sometimes the best friend you can have is yourself
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yeah face it , when your old and lonely you will speaking to yourself - but least its your best friend !
@@FAC321 When youre old you will have already made plenty of friends, for some people making friends is a matter of time, some get it when their old and some when their young. The point is that friends often dont last until you become old which is why the journey of making friends is more important than the friends themselves.
Not sometime : ALWAYS
It should always be! The longest relationship you have is with yourself
Hi Haru. I'm a Finnish person from southern Finland. I'm 44 years old and I also don't have any friends. I don't know how old are you but you probably think it's ridiculous for this old person follow someone your age. But the title of this vlog got my attetion "I don't have any friends but have a peaceful life". I live in a small countryside village here in Finland and my only friend is my cat. I have "friends" online whome I have never met, so they're not my real life friends. I work among mentally handicapped people and my commute is only about 15 minutes, depends on the weather. During the winter, it can be snowy or so slippery that I have to slow down. Then it takes more time. Well, I end here now, not to get you bored. I liked this vlog and I'm going to watch them all, when I can. Bye.
Finland looks so beautiful in winter I wish you good health 💖💕
Wow so genuine thoughts.
I wish you the best.
enjoy your life and take care .❤
I’m 45 yo from USA and I also don’t have any friends. I would love to meet you guys in person or through FaceTime.
You do have a friend he name is Jesus Christ
what did you just said looks like a beautiful opening for a beautiful book haven't you thought about writing a book
I love simple lives, no drama, just being happy with ourselves and what we have .
But that’s not possible 😢
Me too
Yeah but it can be hard when theres so much distractions in your way. I love watching "Day in the life as a loner" type of vids because i relate to them a lot!
Me too. ❤
"love being selfish"
UA-cam was recommending me this video so many times and I keep ignoring it but now when I finally watched this, I realized it's so good
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Agreed it quenches the spirit.
Hello, from North Carolina, USA
One thing I've noticed about these Japanese videos is they're calming, slow paced, no obnoxious loud people or raucous music, and they eat good food. Total opposite in USA. Greetings from southeastern USA 👋
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thats not true lmao
what is it like in USA i am from europe and cant decide from USA and Japan
There are still loud people and bad eaters in Japanese, as in other countries. i hate the stereotype about japan being this perfect calm heavenly place, because it isn't. That is the mans video style, not the whole country is like this.
@P1nkuPeach There're no absolutes, of course. It's a generalization. Nobody said anything about heaven.
Hello, I'm 56 and live in the UK. I don't have any friends because I lived in London for 10 years in my 20s, when I came home at 31, I had a baby and have been alone ever since. My daughter is 19, she is all I have, she will move out next year and I am a little afraid of being completely alone then. But you make it look calm and peaceful and not all bad. Thank you. I hope you are happy, I will watch more of your video's.
Nothing to worry about, do what you love and like as long as it´s legal and nobody got hurt. If you try to find friends or just people that have the same interest where you can talk to 1-2 times a wekk, maybe join a book club, a sports team or what ever you are interested in. Don´t force anything, and i bet you will make a friend along the way or maybe more ;)
Whereabouts in the UK are you? 😊
Hello. I'm school child yet. I had not friends in childhood. Friends are rejected me. But now I have some friends.
Ich kann dich sehr gut verstehen. Ich bin 58 und lebe in Deutschland. Mein Sohn hatte 1 Jahr lang eine Wohnung, jetzt lebt er wieder bei mir, weil seine Beziehung zerbrochen ist. Das hat mir für ihn sehr leid getan, aber für mich ist es schön, ihn wieder bei mir zu haben. Es kommt immer anders als man denkt und vielleicht zieht deine Tochter doch nicht aus, oder kommt wieder zurück. Freue dich über die Zeit mit deinem Kind und hab keine Angst. Und selbst wenn sie auszieht, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere auf. Du bist nicht allein, vielen Menschen geht es wie dir.
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Im 15 with no friends and homeschooled and I chose this way because I learnt friends aren't for me. I got a cat and 2 budgies and I talk to my mom everyday :) peaceful life, I dont need the stress of drama, hate or envy, and before I made this decision I had some friends but Im not a very open person maybe thats why I decided friends aren't for me. Thank you haru, maybe it was good to know that im not alone
17 with no friends... trying to make friends but it has proven to be difficult bc of online school and being introverted/social anxiety. I am pretty insecure and embarrassed by it and I feel like I'm missing out but I have to remind myself I'll make friends, just like I have before. Hopefully even better friends, friends that'll keep. Also I really have a great life and family/pets that are basically friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts... makes me feel a little better.
@@tuliptown9058 yeah it does feel like im missing out alot as well and dw! maybe if you go to college u can make awesome friends!!
I'm 15 too with no friends and I also feel like having friends is just not my thing. For me making friends and maintaining friendships is a dificult task. Bc of my nature that I easily get bored with people and can't enjoy. But when I am alone I have noticed this thing that I am able to enjoy myself much more and live peacefully. Having friends is not worth it all because the amount of time you put into being with them doesn't guarantee you that they will stay with you forever and there are chances that they can backstab you too. That's why being alone is the best ❤🙂
@@RIYAKITAGAWA-eo5qj yes and its so hard to keep up with so many people and u have to please them all the time
hello to everyone in this thread. you all sound like great human beings. modern life seems to make friendships transactional. you sound like wise people who don't wish to be bothered by the falseness that is valued by today's society. I hope you are all happy and that even though you are choosing a solitary life, that you don't feel alone. I personally feel like God is always with us.
Japan is heaven for introverts. If you're a strong introvert, its the best place in my opinion, havent watched the video but just leaving the comment.
There is no such thing as ''heaven'' for introverts if you are talking about a society so materialistic and with so much lack of purpose that people literally die and rot alone in their houses to them be found and cleaned like trash. Living alone is good,as long as it's part of a truth and meaning path.The materialistic and ''dead'' way current japanese people sees things is tottaly insane and ugly.If you are alone,and more important,rational and conscient ,you have plenty of time in silence to spend rightly: I recommend for you to separate some time every day and study the origins of Christianity with Scott Hahn' s books ' Rome Sweet Home ' and 'Reasons to Believe'.
You also need money to have a decent life style😅
@@Blspeek-ag just get your funding done, japan's currency exchange rate isnt bad at all, its actually quite good for 2nd world or 1st world countries/ major foreigners
@@hike8932 i am from india
@@Blspeek-ag 💀💀💀
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This actually healed my soul a little. Thank you for sharing your life.
I'm a 27 year old Danish software engineer that moved to Japan for work earlier this year. My life in Tokyo started out a bit rough, having caught an illness that lasted 2 months and getting surgery all within two months of living in Japan. Dealing with that situation while being all on my own, integrating myself into a vastly different society and keeping up with a new job has been one of the biggest challenges I've ever faced. Yet having gone through it all, I now feel incredibly blessed to live in this magical country, and I see myself as a much stronger person after all. Anyhow, your video resonated with me, as my circumstance made it hard for me to connect with people the first few months of living in Japan, so I've found myself spending most time outside of work on my own :)
I’m concerned, are you fully recovered now?
Life gets better don't worry.
How are you now ? :) hope you are enjoying your life anddd I wish good luck for you friend~^^
Thank you for sharing your story. May the happiness always be with you. I’m a last year Computer Science student and considering to work abroad. If you don’t mind sharing a bit more, what is the level of Japanese language needed for Software Engineer position in Tokyo? Did you use any agency service to handle the recruitment process? If you applied for the job directly (from your native country), where did you hear the requirements and how long did it take till you got accepted in the current company? I’m sorry for the long text. Hoping a good response. Thanks.
The title of the video caught my attention and was the reason I started watching: "I Have No Friends, But I Have a Peaceful Life." I'm 22 years old and from Turkey, in my last year of university. I've never had friends, mainly because I can’t tolerate mistakes that most people consider normal-or rather, because I try to live a life of integrity. But I’m starting to think that my life will continue this way. I feel excluded at school; nobody wants me around. I didn’t worry much about it in the past, but as I get older, I’ve begun to wonder if the fault lies with me. I think all I want is to be understood. I've been taking medication for the past two years because I've been so fixated on this issue, but to be honest, it hasn’t helped much. When I watched your video, I felt at peace. Seeing the life you live and the calm you have made me smile. The small details-even just an image of the sky-made me so happy. I think I’d forgotten how to notice those little things like I used to. Please keep making videos like this; I hope I can learn to love myself this way too. Thank you.
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Even I had no friends in school mate literally I used to sit at the back of the rows . Nobody used to talk to me , I felt totally isolated from others
This somehow affected me alot initially and I used to feel sad that why does no one talks to me ... but gradually everything became normal and I found out how to be fulfilled within ourselves.. mate their is no one in the world who will on ur side forever its you and only u (lots of love and power to you ❤) . *sorry for my faulty English *
The most beautiful thing in this life is being your own friend no one deserve your hard try, just estimate, love and know youself, don't forget that you are a precious soul. No need to take any medecine, just connect with your highr self my awesome friend, you are not alone much love, light and peace 💫💚
hey, istersen arkadaş olabiliriz
@zenk0tsu telegramın var mıydı? amacım sadece daha kolay iletişim kurabileceğimiz bir platforma geçmek
My son is my best friend. For years I was lonely, but then I found my wife, and we have a beautiful life. I hope you find whatever it is that makes you happy.
Thanks for reminding me, that this happened to my husband. My kid still at home and I are friends. I hope if they go to college they will adapt well like this young man in the video.
Jesus!
my School life was lonely, but now I've got amazing friends in college. Still, I've realized that true happiness is about loving yourself and being your own best friend, the one person who will always have your back." 😊
Thank you for showing us your day. Although life can be hard and stressful, there is still the small things that can make us smile and feel happy. It seems like our lives, even if we live in different countries are so similar. Great video❤
Indeed. 🇲🇾🍻
Thank you for Heartwarming comment🥰
I mean what did you think? People living in canada don't sweat? Japanese people are neveer unkind? South koreans don't poop? Italians don't breathe? Obviously life is the same for every country.
I'm an American from Texas who moved to Tokyo almost 1 year ago. When I first came here it was a culture shock and the language barrier caused me to have a hard time connecting with people. Coming to Japan has been one of the most amazing experiences but also one of the most challenging. I moved by myself and I was alone for the first few months. And even though I have made some friends I still do a lot of things alone. I have realized that its empowering when you get comfortable doing things alone. Thank you for sharing your day with us. It was fun and inspired!
Us too! San Antonio to Kanagawa!
From Texas, god that English sounds soooo good, I love it (It's the Cowboy-English), but respect moving to Japan is an extraordinary big challenge!!! I wish you all the best there!!!
yuh
And how was your japanese when you moved to japan?
@@SebasLink9982 I knew zero Japanese. I still barely speak any. I rely on my coworkers or Google translate most of the time haha.
Lately I've been starting to lose my friendships and going through a deppressive episode. Thankfuly your video and the comments give me some relief and comforting since I'm nearly starting college next year! I'll probably won't have friends by then so I'm trynna prepare myself for the upcoming loneliness!
I hope you’re able to find peace being with yourself and that it continues as good friends come along❤❤
Hello, I’m in the same situation. I understand, and you have all my support. I believe in you !
Here for you❤
Who are you@@hbennett5640
@@evachan8821 yo
I've been living a lonely life lately, then I started finding these videos and now it's my company. I'm doing my last exams for this year and it's been really hard. Thank you for this refreshing content, take good care of yourself 🤍
Good luck with your exams, you can do it!!!
this is me, i live in Turkey 🇹🇷 and have no friends, i prepare food for work and eat it alone at my lunch break, i'm peaceful and happy, i don't like people gossiping or so, i'm happy with my family life and living quietly
Yea especially coworkers are gossiping so much in turkey, I see
Aynı ben
@@Nessies_0:D
selam, ben de yalnız olmaktan fazlasıyla mutluyum :)
Being alone is kind of a bless
Im from the US and i have also always struggled to make friends, but this video reminded me of how good it is to also be friends with yourself :) the best moments in life are the little moments that most people take for granted, such as a walk after a good dinner, or a beautiful view while studying. With this video you reminded me to pay attention to those little moments and how beautiful and peaceful life can be if you look close enough :)
I’m Spanish with no friends. I’ve always had some adaptation issues and I still have them. I live in a country in which there is a lot of social pressure. There is a constant need to socialize and having friends so my point of view about relationships is continuosly questionized. I think that if life is a balance, I have always put first my values and my sense of justice before adaptation to groups or people. I spend my time with my mother and my cats, and when I’m with them I don’t need anybody. Life is dinamic, people enters and exits in this path which is the life,the important part is to be surrounded by love and it can be given by people, animals or even just yourself. Great video!
I think almost the same way but this year life taught to be alone I life made me introvert because of bullying and I never had the opportunity to be myself with someone util last year that I found a best friend but as you said social pressure and they changed him and now he's trying his best but I don't feel the same energy he went to a family trip and for the first time I didnt' want to look for other friend to have fun just him but I know im in pain and tired of ppl idk maybe that's why I want to be alone like I always said Idk why life is keeping me alone but I felt what you said in a way
im spanish too and thats completely true. tbh i really enjoy being alone but sometimes i wish i had friends to go out and make plans. most of the time i feel like im the problem, but the truth is that im just really shy and introvert. that only changes when i feel really comfortable with someone and thats almost impossible. it hurts so much to see everyone having a lot of friends while in here alone lmao. i also live really far away from my family so it makes it even harder
I'm waiting for all the (introverted) Spaniards to assemble here 👀 🇪🇸
@@rafavizuetecastro here we are xD
Me too! All of that! I'm American but I feel the same
I don’t comment on videos at all. But this video really struck a core with me. I’m a 23 year old introverted autistic American in the US who just finished university this past May, and trying to set up the next stage of life.
I’ve been feeling pretty lonely since I graduated. Many of the people I know that I was attending my four-year university went back home, and a few people that I do live close to are always busy so we rarely get to see each other. And the people I rarely get to see I’ve known them even longer, as far back as when I was getting my two year degree or even high school. even though my social battery drains easily and I don’t like going out often. It still hurts not being able to see the people close with for a long period of time. I think that’s just part of life. At least that’s what I like to think.
This video helped remind me that I can appreciate the small things in my day-to-day life. Doing something as simple as eating a restaurant, or going out on a stroll, can make that feeling of loneliness and turn it into small bits of happiness. Admittedly, I do have a hard time understanding people sometimes so I like my solitude. But sometimes, It can be a little much.
But as long as I have my little sparks of happiness every now and again, Then I can be comfortable with being alone.
Thanks for sharing this with us!❤
(Also sorry if this doesn’t make sense to anyone, I’m not exactly the greatest at putting my emotions to words. Which is Ironic considering the profession I’m trying to get into).
You got this🎉❤
I've just found your channel and this is your first video for me. I'm glad you're finding joy where you can. I'm from the US and older but like you have no friends so I understand how you feel. I hope things go well for you and happiness surrounds you
Thank you and Please be happy always🥰
As an introvert in Singapore, working in a job that requires me to be an extrovert all day, I totally relate with the need to just unwind alone and be in my own thoughts and happiness. Being in solitary, as a choice, is beautiful. ❤
same here, have to put a face on at work as an extrovert, i found it quite nice to be alone and relax.
@@travelworklife717 That's Right... Being in solitary, a a choice.. IS SUPER COOL... I just was so popular in college... Then i just got my life in solitary when i start to work... i have 6 years without a couple... I just want to enjoy my solitary life and let some girl join to me and make a family...
But its really cool to have no friends... Just enjoy yourself... Also i'm not an introvert... LIFE MUST GO ON
Brother I don't usually comment but the quality of your video is something I would pay to see it's so soothing and calm. I can totally understand the feeling of having no friends one side of your heart dieing to have friends but other side scares of risking the calmness of your life
“If you have a problem you can’t tell anyone in real life, leave it in the comments” this actually touched me 💜 I hope your days are fulfilling, even you’re mainly by yourself
I started living in Japan last month to study. It feels lonely from time to time but I’m still enjoying my time here. Seeing familiar places and the food I also eat everyday in your videos made me feel less lonely. thank you so much and 頑張ってください☺
What are you studying in Japan ?
Nice to meet you, Haru. I'm Anya from Russia. This is the first video of yours that I watch, and I really love it❤ I have 2 friends, and I also have peaceful life that I enjoy. You know, Japan, anime and such vlogs help me to remain peaceful when I come across obstacles. So I really wanna thank you for your work. Btw, I'm a 10th grade student and my commute to school takes give or take 30 minutes. I go by metro. I also attend volleyball classes in a sport centre thrice a week and the way to there takes at around 45 minutes.
Wish you be happy, all the best💕
русские тут!
я знааал! :D
this is the happiness only introverts understand
and it is a happy life indeed
keep being you and stay happy
I'm an extroverted but i strave for days like this.. alone in peace but my life won't spare me lol
四年前ぐらいから日本のことを興味があるアメリカ人で、偶然はるさんのビデオを見た良かった！I like the simplicity of your videos, and the way you describe your feelings and day to day activities in English subtitles. I'm sad to hear that it's difficult to make friends in college if you're often out, but if you believe in yourself and find things every day to make you happy, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm looking forward to watching all of your other videos as well.
8:26 I was reading all the subtitles suddenly I was surprised to see an interaction so personal & direct! I have a restaurant job that keeps me busy six days a week. It’s too difficult to have friendships with so much work that needs to get done however it’s nice to watch a Vlog so educational touching on ideas where responsibility is more important than free time. It helps me relax knowing other people are working hard doing good things for their life’s as well.
Hey Haru, I don’t have any friends at school either, but you made me realize that I can still be happy with life. Thank you so much ❤
Hi, Haru! Do not worry too much about not having friends in college, I get it. Sometimes you just dont have too much time to socialize (or the energy lol) , so you focus on the studies. I have always had difficulty when i was younger making friends, too many bad people around me, who never understood my hobbies or the things i enjoyed, so i prefer to be alone and so the things i like, more than to please those people who judge me for what i enjoyed. Now that im in my 40's , i have good friends, few, but very good people. They came from all over, but they are precious to me, and i to them. I would not change a thing, being lonely in my youth, was totally worth it lol.
And i used to use to bus to go to study, but in Lima, Perú, it is chaotic haha. And a lot of buses are old and very ugly, the traffic was just a pain... but oh well, I love my country non the less.
I have a question, that defrosted meal you had, you didnt heat it in the microwave before eating it? it was just cold? It looked yummy, but i was confused, never saw a thing lke that haha. But you said it was safe, so it must be !
Thank you for watching🥰
Frozen foods for bento in Japan can basically be eaten as is!
It is really great to be able to say like you do that you love your life and your country. I admire you from a far away country!
Well, if 18 people from 18 different countries can be friends, why can't we. I'd be happy to be your friend. - VIN 🇵🇭
Yeah, I am having same situation in my student life and after student alife as well
But , I also have peaceful life❤😊I am happy 😊
En los paises de por acá los buses no son para nada como los del video, ni los paisajes, y el trafico, es tremendo jajajaj
Pero fuera de eso tenemos cosas bonitas igualmente 😼
It's been years since I had any friends, and honestly I love it. Hanging out with my family with no drama and just being with myself and thousands of plants I have at home, I love it, honestly.
I'm from Spain, and right now I don't have any friends either. I can't study right now and I'm working. Usually my friends are temporary, somehow they always end up Ghosting me. I have learned to see myself as a person who is in the lives of others for a short time, helps them and listens and when they are better they leave. I have learned to see the beauty in being someone like that. My only friend is my partner and sometimes I also feel envious of how he plays with his friends. I felt super intrigued by the title, seeing more people like that!! Hope u are doing good Haru!
hola ! your comment holds such a lovely perspective , it managed to make me smile. i struggle with this quite a lot. just wanted to send some support from italy !! thank you!!! i probably will think of this again
Di que sí Sabrina, yo también soy de España y yo también valoro mucho el tiempo libre que tengo para mí, tiempo libre para mí pareja, viajar, y mis mascotas. No todo en la vida es fiestas, socializar y hablar como nos inculcan en nuestro país.
Japanese culture and citizens are so polite and respectful. I wish we were like that in the US. It is so refreshing to see. Thank you for sharing ❤
I agree. It’s very clean too, it’s the same in Switzerland, if only North America could adapt to their norms….it’s just so messy over here. Don’t you agree?
@@snowecaddel9454 At least you have a good economy, in south america you got ugliness, messy and the economy is bad
Hi Haru, im from Germany :] I like your video, it's so relaxing to watch and it's nice to see Japan again. I was there on vacation last year with my husband, who is now my ex-husband, and now last year's vacation to Japan somehow feels like a lie. I definitely have to travel to Japan again to make better memories. Let me tell you one thing: There are times when it is good to be alone. And you can also be very happy alone. And basically, thanks to UA-cam and the like, you are not alone. I feel for and with you. And we are all here :] Thank you for your touching video
Hi Haru, I'm a British university student and I live in London. My life is similar these days since I am sick often. Thank you for showing everyone how peaceful life can be this way.
Fellow Programmer here! I'm a recent university graduate from Clemson University in the US, its really cool to see how similar a day at University is for you to how mine was when I was in school. We even had to write code on paper too, and it made no sense to us also.
Being alone in a strange University can be daunting, but don't hesitate to participate in clubs and activities! I got into playing Volleyball in college and met most of my friends through that! Find something you love, and there will be others that love it too!
Thank you for good advice!🥹
Good Advice, clubs and activities are where it is at. I play tennis (badly) but make many friends that way. You need something to do with someone not just drink and eat.
Then what would be his UA-cam hook?
Hi Haru, I'm an Indian and have no friends. I'm glad to see people who are like me in the comment section. Only an introvert can understand how hard it is to make friends with new people.
I'm going to give my entrance exams next year and kinda stressed about that. Sometimes I feel very lonely when I see people my age posting with their friends. But I could say that I have a peaceful life because I've got my comfort zones straight like reading, listening kpop, writing etc. However I do look forward to my college life and I do want to make good friends. I hope someday you'll also get good friends.
I liked the vlog because it's just so peaceful and we introverts could only understand how much beautiful peace is.
Anyways, I wish you the best for your future. 🤍
To all us introverts in the world that says be a clone! I say no 😊be you.🫂🤗🇨🇦🙋🏻♀️💋🥂👌🏻
im not an introvert but i maybe have some childhood disability that makes it hard for me to make friends so i understand too
jee or cet ?
maybe NEET
@@mayursyoutube ya i forgot to mention that cauz i'm going to give jee and cet next year
Hola Haru, tengo 25 años y soy de España 🇪🇸, agradezco mucho tu tranquilidad ya que muchas veces me siento muy solo, es reconfortante esta forma de ver la vida, no sé nada de japonés y mi inglés es muy malo, pero gracias a tus vídeos creo que voy a poder mejorar, así que muchas gracias por ayudarme con ello.
Thank you for sharing this video. I'm 24 years old, living in France, just graduated masters, I have only 2 friends (1 closer than the other) and they found work and joined other universities outside the city I live. Now I'm alone trying to figure how to spend my days. Your video gave me motivation to continue working on the things I like, thank you!
Thank you Haru!!! Greetings from🇲🇽. You videos are humbling and show us how strong your character is. Friends will come along.
Thank you for delightful commenting🥰
はるくん、僕は インドネシアか から来た。 挨拶するよ。 はるは 毎日 一人で 住んでいる？ 一人で すんでいたら, きみの健康に 注意！！ 自分で お大事に！！！ 気をつけなさい！
My first year in university, I spent all on my own, so I was all the time by myself as well. This new year, I made some friends, and even though it is fine to be with them, I sometimes feel like I don't belong with them and end up missing just being by myself.
When we learn to become our own best friend, we seldom ever feel lonely. Besides, attachment always leads to suffering, so better to be peacefully alone. Thank you for this lovely video, I wish you well my friend 🙏
I’m 19. I’m from a small town, I never had friends growing up or through my school years. I moved to the city once I turned 18 in hope of finding my people. It’s been a year and I’m still alone. It hurts most days but I’m relearning to enjoy myself and my own company. Thank you for showing me that I’m not alone, and that I can have a perfect life by myself.
I hope that you find the right kind of people to be friends with. I
don't believe we were meant to be alone. However we can enjoy life at times alone. Continue to be yourself. Don't conform for others. The right kind of friend or associate will enjoy you for you. Whatever creative talents you have really cultivate them! Enjoy you!
I agree with you i too am a uni student and have no freinds at all
At times its frustrating that the environment and the people around dont provide you with enough space to open up or simply just dont seem to understand you ,but its alright to have some roads crossed alone it gives us the insight to understand better who we are and that not every one has to fit in
❤you definitely got a great content and its very relaxing to watch your vedios.
You can wait for it to happen or make it happen, you need either some really harsh experiences (heartbreak, embarassment, or motivation) in order to help break the shell. My tip, start yesterday, tomorrow isn't promised.
You can‘t just wait for people to approach you. Maybe next term, when you have a new class with new people you can ask some if anyone‘s up to grab a cup of coffee/tea. Or if anyone has plans for lunch yet and suggest to meet up/eat together. When you sit together, ask people about their interests maybe you can do some sports together, check out a new restaurant, ask if there‘s any new movies they are interested in seeing in the cinema. If you‘re in a bigger town there might be some events. Unfortunately a lot of these activities can cost money and not everyone has money to spend so you could also suggest hanging out at a park (for a picknick, going swimming at a lake, playing games- if you already have games someone could bring), some events and festivals are also free to attend. Or there might be sight-seeing spots to check out…
Very happy to see so many people have watched this video! Also glad UA-cam recommended it to me. You seem like a genuine and nice person Haru. Hope you have a great day!
such a sweet video, I'm shocked. it's almost exactly what i feel during studies in uni. i had gone to another country because of the war in mine, and i haven't even finished school. it took a lot to understand where i am and of course they're no ways i could think about my own future. last year i went to the university without knowing the language and without friends, and only because my mother told me to do that. I didn't understand anything of the lections, i didn't communicate with anyone and I just didn't want to. that's not fair, life is not fair i thought. later i became more and more anxious and ended with come back to the depression i had since fourteen. i have started to skip all of the classes and having no reasons to continue and to live. also my personal life had an impact on it so i couldn't escape from it. now I'm on the second year of uni and on the third in another uni online that in my country, i have got a cat i was dreamed of about a year, i went to the concert of my favorite group I have been listening to for 6 years, i know that I'm not a bad person and i know that all that happened to me is not an experience but a serious problem I have been struggling with. i deserve to feel sad or happy sometimes and i shouldn't think that I'm not enough. of course all of this is still on my mind but i realized that good days also could be, not only bad ones
i wish for everyone relief in their lifes, you deserve everything you want, you're the biggest hero in your own life and only you can save yourself
I could feel that you have struggled in difficult circumstances that I cannot imagine.
At times like this, instead of feeling sorry for you, I want to be there for you wholeheartedly.
I have no power to stop the war, but I will be happy if I can make your heart, which is actually there, a little happier with my video and message.
If you are truly distressed, please contact me by any means.
@@Haru_is_japanese thank you so much ❤️
Umarım dinden çıkmışsındır ülkeni tahmin edebiliyorum
Hello there! I can't even imagine what you had to go through, but I'm happy to see that you dont' give up and keeping trying to feel good and positive, chasing the best life you deserve. I hope God help you to continue and you never stop to fight. Wish you all the best from Brazil 😊
I feel good to read this.. It's so relatable to me! And I'm someone who try to see it in similar perspective.
Wish you the best,hero😊!✨
I stumbled upon this video at such a perfect time. Also leading a slow paced and quiet life I tend to overlook the small wonders surrounding me by getting caught up in the mundanity of everyday life, but you've reminded me just how important it is to stay present in the moment you're living. Please keep up the good work, Haru :> you seem like a lovely person. And greetings all the way from Romania!~
"I have a hard time walking because I ate too much, but that is also a happy thing." 15:47
That sentence made me remember all the times I got too full and complained. You're right being too full from eating good food is a good thing :)
Im a teenager from India who is also quite in your boat, I have many “friends” but a very few showed their friendship towards me. When you realise that very few people want you for you and not use something out of you it hurts but the sooner you realise it the better it is. Im thankful I realised this early on in life. 😊❤
(Watching this video while doing homework LMAO)
You are right, it helps a lot to slow down and focus more on the surroundings. There is so much beauty in everything that we tend to overlook in our daily life.
In Germany i always take long walks to calm down my mind when I'm having a hard time :)
Same! I guess your country has a lot of nice view...
I was just noticing you said in Germany, however your comment was English can you speak German as well?
@@jessecuaresma4379 Yes! I'm actually German :)
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm from Germany too and yes, it is often very beautiful if you take a close look.
Hi there~ Thank you for the calming video. When I went away to study in upstate New York, I also didn't make any friends there. So, much like you, I was alone a lot of the time. I learned to appreciate nature and went on many walks, took a lot of pictures. Sometimes it was lonely, but when I think back, I realized I had a lot of nice memories. I do miss being in college and living on my own, actually lol so I like to enjoy your videos in a nostalgic kind of way. Right now, I live on Long Island in New York, so we need cars to get everywhere. I wish I lived in the city or a place like you because I really hate driving ;~; Maybe one day~
Also, that beef bowl with the cheese looked amazing!!
I came across your video and wanted to say how calming it was. Do not worry too much about not having friends in college; I get it. I have always had difficulty making friends when I was younger, but now I keep my friend circle small, and it's nice. I wish you all the best in your studies.
That was so peaceful and beautiful, i really needed this. I'm also introvert but I have to communicate with people due to my work which takes a toll on me every time. It's a hassle and overwhelming each time. It's a blessing to have such quality alone time with such beautiful scenery, enjoy while you can. I understand that you're feeling left out (I didn't have friends in highschool, so I understand it). But my advice: appreciate the solitude and peacefulness you have right now and focus on your hobbies and studies (hobbies are really important, they are important for our happiness) because, later on, you will have rarely time or luxury for such peaceful alone times. Besides, during the course of your life journey while focusing on your dreams you will definitely make really good friends ( I made my friends during my working life after college whom i adore).
you're never alone and you will never anymore as long people support and there for you dear Haru-san , we got you
I found it comforting to see Haru living and enjoying his life to the fullest. Ever since I went to college, I slowly drifted from my friends because many of them were living their own life or attending other colleges. I felt like the spark and connection we originally had as friends fizzled out. And over the course of three years of attending college, I only made like two close friends. Though I haven't been able to meet with them much due to different classes and one transferring to another college. For the past few months, I spent some time being alone (going to school and enjoying my hobbies). Through this time, I realized that I feel content being alone. But I always felt that societal pressure, especially from my parents, that I need to make new friends or else you're labeled as "abnormal" (a loner or outcast). However watching this video and scrolling through the comments, I find it reassuring to see that not everyone needs a friend, or friends. It's ok living your life, being yourself. Thanks for sharing this wonderful video, Haru! It truly made me smile. I hope you're happy and I hope the people watching this video are happy! And I especially hope that I continue to be happy...best wishes to everyone!
Both times I’ve gone to Japan I always bought 2 sets of clothes at Uniqlo. Can confirm it’s very cheap and stylish and comfortable. Just got back from my 2nd Japan trip and this time went to 2nd hand clothing store as well.
Such a calming vibe in your life and vlog! It’s inspiring to see you finding peace and joy in your own company. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
You just made my day a little bit better! These type of videos brings joy and calmness to me, ありがとう for that my friend! Greetings from Serbia. 🙇🏻♂️😊
Thank you friend🥰
life is peaceful when alone! my favorite part is going home with myself only and watching sunsets
I didn’t make any friends these past four years at university either. I only have one really good friend from school so I’m content with that… honestly the people at university stress me out when it comes to assignments. I have such a hard time collaborating with them.
I commute to university by bus too!
I just discovered your channel, ganbatte with university and UA-cam Haru!
If you can make just one friend on your side out of a hundred, the world is a brighter place🥰
I subscribed mid-way and watched the whole video. Please keep making these vlogs. Being alone is great, but its also fine to want that close group of friends. I hope your peaceful life continues.
Very calming video to watch while eating dinner alone at home after a rough day
Things have been very difficult here in Texas but this video reminded me to be thankful for the nice things I do have
I appreciate your effort and thank you for your thoughtfulness and ability to share your life to the world!
I’m loving how this vlog goes. It just says much its okay to living alone and have a space for yourself.
Thank you for sharing your life with us. Your videos are very relaxing and interesting. You have a very gentle soul 😊 Wishing you best wishes from England.
Thank you friend in England🥰🥰
5:51 you seem very nice and kind Haru . Don’t give up and keep growing as a person . And as of you not having friends . I’m your friend from America now 😊. Take care ❤
eating b4 brushing was 🤢 disgusting ngl lol
Hello! I'm from Spain, I'm 25 and I don't have any friends either. I wasn't very lucky with my previous friendships and I ended up alone. Sometimes I'm fine, but when I think about it so much sometimes I feel a little sad for not being able to share moments with a friend. Watching your video has made me see that you can be happy with yourself, I have to learn from that.
@ximenaechevarriacontreras exacto, debería aprender y espero que algún día lo consiga! Me encantaría hablar contigo 😊
@natalia2_99 Si es un proceso largo pero se que se puede. Si tu quieres me das tu instagram u otra red social para hablar :)
@@natalia2_99 Si es un proceso largo. Si tu deseas me das alguna red social donde podamos hablar :)
Nuestro país nos obliga a ser personas muy sociales y hay mucho extrovertido alrededor nuestra por metro cuadrado y quizás a algunos como nosotros, nos abruma. No te sientas sola y si algún día quieres hablar, aquí estoy. Saludos.
@@imperialx4781 cierto, y si te ven solo te miran mal o se ríen de ti, ojalá fuese como en Japón 😅 me encantaría!
I'm from Brazil, really far away, and sometimes I find myself looking at the horizon, imagining what other people's lives and routines are like. I wonder if they suffer from the same reasons as I do, or if the cultural barrier divides us too much. But I ended this video smiling. Thanks fella, it's really pleasant to learn someone else's story.
thanks for the insight into a day in japan. I will be a little harsh here, but I hope that you end up spending only a little time on UA-cam and that you instead find people around you that you can interact with. Finding online friends is great. Finding friends you can absolutely rely on in your neighbourhood is better. You seem like a normal person so that also means there's no reason people wouldn't appreciate you. Maybe it all starts by just saying 'hello, nice to meet you'. I am also introverted, but I know for certain that my life is better because I have friends. They are why I choose to leave the home and I am better for it.
You are absolutely right, and that is fantastic advice. I was about to say the same thing :)
Its harder than you think, People like me with a medical psychological condition just cant do it
@@NOVAZKOV This youtuber is not you. He is a normal dude. And even if it IS hard. That does not remove the value of pursuing actual relations so you're making a moot point. There's plenty of other people online, even famous ones like Iron mouse, who do their damnest to get the social interaction they need.
Too many people make the mistake of thinking that they don't like social interaction because they don't miss it. But that's because more often than not, they don't miss what they haven't experienced. They quite literally don't know what they are missing.
I don't mind, or frankly, care, for everyone's personal situation. But what I do know is that the vast vast majority of people who lack social interaction would benefit from it.
It sucks if you aren't able to easily have it, but I hope for you and anyone else that you still manage to get it in spite of your condition. Not necessarily many friends, rather, just some people you can truly rely on. Authentic relations.
9:16-9:18 when you took a second to "catch your breath" I asked aloud, "Oh! Is it lunch time?!" and.. it was :). I wonder how many of us know this feeling or gesture universally.
This is a very beautifully filmed vlog. I love getting a glimpse into other people's lives. It's comforting to know that people from far away countries experience the same feelings as me.
I'm 17, and a Malaysian. I aspire to study in Japan after finishing my secondary education. However, I've been facing a drought in motivation. Not only that, I also started to doubt my aspirations to go to Japan or overseas in general to further my education, mainly the concern of being alone throughout my stay. I've heard many stories about foreigners being excluded from Japanese society, due to being a very homogenous society.
However, seeing your video made me realise that I do not need to be a social butterfly to be happy. It also reminded me on the things I loved about Japan. The scenery, the 4 seasons, the efficient and top-tier public transport, the cheap yet delicious food... (Especially the bentos!)
Now I'm all the more roared up to continue studying for my finals! Thanks Haru!
Watching this made me feel less lonely, and realizing that it's okay for not having so much interaction or friends in your life..actually im an introvert so whenever im socializing my social battery tends to always drain hahaha so it's really hard for me to keep up with my new friends especially if they are an extrovert. However, im glad that im not the only one that have only few friends in my life. ❤
I would be your friend. I started losing friends when I was 25
Aww…you bring joy to the lives of others by sharing part of your day. That helps make your life worthwhile-what you give to others. Hope you have a good week! Thanks for sharing.💛
7:05 I live and rent at a boardinghouse I chose, specifically because of how near it is. I study at a Maritime college and I get there on foot about 5-6 minutes I usually just walk or jog to get there. Getting lunch in here usually depends on the person. Usually it's the school canteen, some small restaurant outside, or if you've got a fair amount of money for your budget fast food restaurant. I usually just eat lunch in the canteen. I rarely see people bring their own lunch boxes here, probably cause it's a hassle to prepare for some of us here. Especially when there's a lot of assignments to do. Usually, some do it early in the morning.
I also buy food from the cafeteria or convenience stores when it is too much trouble. However, it is a little expensive to buy food here every day🥲
Hey there Haru, as a 28 year old American and a introvert I hope you have a wonderful rest of the year. Solidarity can truly be comforting but creating memories can be an everlasting happiness.
I remember when I first moved to Korea in junior high having no friends. I have an accent when I speak Korean and I couldn't pick up on some of the cultural ettiquette. I did feel alone quite often. Your video reminds me that sometimes there is a calmness about being alone and we become stronger as individuals. I just found your channel today and I'll watch your other videos ;)
I never considered myself an introvert and always made friends very quickly but I think the last few years it‘s changed quite a lot. I have many friends and close ones at that but they are all from high school. I love them dearly but in the last few years I‘ve grown to like the silence around me when there is no one around and I feel calmest in my own company. I feel like I don‘t need social interactions to feel good even though I‘m still always very happy to see my friends. I started University with exactly those feelings: I already had my friends and at Uni wasn‘t making any effort to meet new people. I did speak with people I sat next to without feeling anxious like many introverts do but I was content with sitting by myself too. The thing is I don’t have any problems with speaking to strangers and I don’t care at all how it looks when I sit by myself either. This complete contentment with my own company has led me to not make any new friends at all. And in some ways I don’t mind it. As I said I mostly prefer my own company or that of my high school friends. The problem is that sometimes I do mind. For example I don’t have anyone to help me study and in general no social life at all. People always talk about how university is the best time of your life but I feel like it’s just passing by me and I’m missing out on it. All my friends are spreading out over the world and most study in a different city, so while they all build a new part of their lives there it feels like I’m stuck. I know I won’t loose them but it feels weird when they tell me stories of people I don’t know and I realize that I’m almost completely uninvolved in their day-to-day lives now. I still think that I will meet some people at some point and grow to actually love my time at the university but I don’t see my attitude/stance changing in the near future. For clarification I have met some people at Uni and for the most part kept in very loose contact with them (like lunch once every few months) and I don’t have any difficulties at all to do so but they never grow closer because I simply don’t want to put in the effort. Whenever I have the choice of spending time with someone or by myself I always choose the latter because I simply like it better and I think that’s the real problem. I still don’t even know if I should see it as a problem at all. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I fear I will always feel and act that way: complacent and going with the flow instead of actively trying to shape my life. And I’m scared that at some point in my life I will realize that this flow has taken me to a dead end and that my life will be empty and unfulfilling because I simply never bothered or dared to take a chance.
15:15 Same here in Indonesia! Our culture also emphasizes us to eat every grain of rice. When we were a little kid, our parents or older family member will usually tell us if we didn't finish the rice, the rice will cry😂 Or we will get a bearded guy (for girls). In here, bearded guys are considered as "unclean" or "not neat" because they are lazy to cut it off. But it was back then though, although sometimes that perspective are still exist, it's not that much compared now. Nowadays, somehow people are more open minded which is kinda nice.
I live in South America, and here you are expected to be very social (you either make friends or fail in life, and people remind me of that all the time since I'm a science student)... But I recently stafted my second semester at uni and it's very hard for me to make friends, since I'm very shy and socially awkward, to the point that even professors noticed it... That has made me feel very anxious and lonely.
Seeing how you find happiness in small things, like food or the scenery even if you are alone, made me a little jealous (but in a good way). I guess I have forgotten to find that kind of small happiness in my life too, since I have been so worried...
Thank you so much, this video made me feel very calm. Hopefully I'll earn to live happily and peacefully as well.
Hi Haru! Thank you for this beautiful vlog. There was a time when I used to be the quite kid in school and was easily bullied. But after the pandemic got over, I transformed into somebody else, I grew up. The bullying stopped, but I was still unable to make friends. But times changed for me ( Miracles do happen) and now I've a huge friend circle and a beautiful girlfriend. I wish that you've a similar turn of events in your life, which will propel you towards happiness and prosperity.
P.S. It's my dream to join the Kyoto University one day. Wish me luck 🥰
When you success to join in Kyoto uni, please message me again🥰
You're living every introvert's dream life ❤
I think Japan is the best country for introverted people. I'm also studying Japanese to work there😊 because i want a life like you. ❤ good video. Keep it Up はるさん、がんばってね。
Hello Haru i have subscribed to your channel after watching all your video's but this one bought tears to my eyes, you are such a beautiful young man only 21, you can cook so well, and so at peace with yoir self, i too never had friends i was always a loner and now at 68 years of age i still am a loner, i have my children and they are my world 😊 so from this 68 year old lady to you a young 21 year old live your life how you want to and all that matters are the family that love and care for you, you are amazing and your English is very good, also can you put the subtitles against a black background as where the words are white its hard to read them in the daylight and background of where you live. I hope you get many more subscriber's as you truly deserve it, take care and love and luck to you in all that you do from Elaine in England 😊
I cried in joy and happiness cause this guy is sooo wholesome and I’m 13 and I have no friends in the 8th grade and I’m bullied so this is awsome i❤u ty for making me not feel alone
Hi. Dont even think about the nonsense your bullies are telling you. They dont really know better. Thats not an excuse but its how things are around the world. I have been through alot of emotional suffering and also alot of physical pain too. Unfortunately, real friendships and honest relationships în general, are rare. Focus on those who do love you and never get upset because of the nonsense others will tell you. Listen to good music, watch old comedy movies and shows and funny clips, watch beautiful photography works, do the stuff you like and enjoy every moment you have. And help others any time you can because thats the only thing that matters în this world. Everything goes away but the help you extend to others makes this living worthwhile. Even if they seem like they dont deserve it, help them. We all suffer în many ways on this planet. You are not alone, especially if your parents take good care of you, if maybe you have grandparents. Focus on that. I hope this might help you în some way. Enjoy every little thing you see and have în your life. Take good care of yourself and others as much as you can according to your strenght.
Hi! Im 16 attending high school and live in southern California. I don't have any friends that I hang out with at school because it's really hard for me for many reasons: I'm autistic and have a hard time acclimating to new environments, I have a strong sense of who I want or don't want to spend my time with and the people around me at school don't align with my morals and values, I miss what others are saying bc of audio processing issues, I feel like talking to others unprompted is a bother to them, I feel anxious whilst talking to most people, I take longer to form sentences which makes group conversations hard when its fast moving, I've moved 6 times each to different states or countries (bc of U.S military) making me always the new kid whilst everyone knows each other and grew up in that area, and I envy others seemingly enjoying themselves at school with their friends and compare myself even though I know all of these things about myself that make it hard. Im really lonely. I also feel awkward when I am in a good mood and am friendly with people because it seems they would rather be talking with their friends or be on their phone. It takes a lot of energy to talk at all right now..Im outgoing, but only with certain close people most of the time. I can be outgoing with anyone I'm comfortable with really but only to an extent. This is the first video I've watched of you but here I am opening up lol. I find the peaceful life you're living is beautiful and I also live a pretty peaceful life with my cats and lovely family I talk to all the time and some close friends I occasionally talk to over text. I wish to live a life that suits me. :) There is so much pressure to be extroverted but being alone is so much easier and calmer. I was born in Japan (I'm american but born there bc of the military) and have always been closely connected with the culture and many social aspects. Some people have thought I was Japanese sometimes lol. I wish to visit again in the future!
sometimes a nice peaceful life is just perfect no need for stress
Hii haru, im 15 and i live in a small city in Serbia. I have no friends😅 but your content makes me less sad abt it. Your videos are awsome and definitely ill continue to watch them😁😁😁. Bye byee!!
Hello there. I hope you find as some real friends that make good memories with you. Jesus bless you :)
Thank you for sharing a slice of your life with us. I am from Southeast Asia and am currently in the UK for exchange. I eat and go to all my classes alone too. It brings a quiet kind of happiness that I could not feel back in my own country. However recently my phone was snatched from my hands when I was walking back alone; the thief had lots of friends and they laughed at me when I screamed in panic. The experience was traumatic and I haven't stepped out of the house since. I feel calm and peaceful after watching your video and it has given me the slightest courage to step out again.
I know it takes you wayyy longer to get ready for the day when you have to move the camera constantly in every angle and put in every room before you appear to walk in, etc. Content creating is NOT easy. Editing isn’t easy either. It’s a lot of work. You have a lot of patience and dedication to post videos like these.
Guys I start played this video Tuesday 10 o'clock in the morning 0:21 !!!! Amazing 👏
Started this at 6:05 AM
This just shows that you don’t need friends and popularity to be happy but instead to enjoy what god has given us 🙏🏻❤️🌹
I'm from Cameroon. I really like the calming music atmosphere and no talk in this video. Just watching silently a simple and ordinary life of a common young man going on, i fing it more connecting than anything else. Thank you for this moment.
Friends doesn't really matter in life
But peace is really needed
U are living your best life 🙌🏻💗😭
As long as you are enjoying your current life of being peaceful, having no friends is ok. I am a solo person as well back when I am in university and prefer not to mingle with people and my journey in life has been good which is also a blessing. The internet and library books are my best friends. Keep yourself busy and 頑張って. I hope you will achieve success both in life and studies.
Попала на этот канал случайно и не смогла оторваться, пока не досмотрела до конца. Мне очень понравилось, как ты мыслишь, усердно учишься и стремишься к своей профессии. Ты чудесный молодой человек! 💖
Thank you for delightful commenting🥰
A lot of people complain and just stop at "I have no friends" but you added a positive note "But I have a peaceful life" I love that. Sometimes it's hard but sometimes we have to remember to be grateful