Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Going through it right now... just happened a couple of hours ago. I ve been with him since I was 14 I am now 27 and this feels like the biggest rip out of my chest because he's my best friend and I don't know how to heal from this I am stuck..
I promise you, this too shall passed. I met my husband two weeks after my break. He was my first boyfriend, I was 21 years old and it felt like I was literally dying internally. I’ll be 41 in November and it was best for me. The moment I finally let go, here comes hubby.
Praying for you to get through 🙏🏽 I’m going through a breakup after 14 years and 3 kids and my 4th on the way with him. But he moved on and got someone else pregnant and doesn’t care at all about how he has hurt me. It sucks bc we have kids ugh I wish I could just not see him ever again and maybe that would make it easier 😢 but God is good and he will always make a way🙏🏽💪🏽
exactly, distracting yourself and pretending you don't feel is just going to make it worse. at least for me it did make it worse. so I chose to be mature and let my emotions go free. I acknowledged the heart break, and I honestly healed pretty fast after that. trying unhealthy ways to cope, especially pretending something never happened made the situation worse for me.
@@fairy4196I know it really hurts and what you are going through must be painful. Trust me, i’m going through same right now but we will be fine and you won’t die
im distracting myself from the breakup with anime/phone and really hate feeling pathetic and lonely which i am very much and im also mentally exhausted and numb! idk what to do pls help
@@dabilover444u are still worth so much as a human and you don’t need them to express that validation towards u. u are more than enough to be loved n u are capable of being happy no matter how hard it is. sending u hope n comfort rn ❤️🧸
I totally agree, do not pretend to be okay when your not okay, allow yourself to feel everything and I mean everything, the pain, the crying, the anxiety , the wish you could go back and everything and ever yday it gets easier and it starts to fade
15 months. Still think about him everyday knowing he doesn't give a damn! Miss his family too. I feel like I'll never be vulnerable again. Regret it so much
@@Big-timeup I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It will take the amount of time you give it. Everyone comes into our life for a season. Not all are meant to be forever. Let go and you will be open to positive things coming your way. I don’t mean to sound simple but it’s your time to take care of you and delve into you. You are blessed bc you had this love. Do something for someone who needs your help and you will be lifted
There's nothing worse than being with the wrong man. I got counseling after my breakup, and he triggered abandonment issues. Counseling helped me see it really wasn't him I was hurting behind. He sold me a dream. It was over two years ago and he was my next-door neighbor. He got evicted five months ago and had to move, thankfully. Don't settle for any man who doesn't bring peace and joy into your life. ❤🙏
Got cheated multiple times. Had a child with him. I keep forgiving him without him asking for forgiveness. Verbally abused me, my family, and my relatives. Still, I stayed with him. I was bonded to this guy. I couldn't think right. I told myself I would never find any man like him. Finally, I had to call off two days ago. I am currently hurting. I don't know what to do. I have been calling God to take the pain out.
And going to God about it also helped me. God loves you and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties onto God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
I'm really really happy you brought up cutting ties. SO many women I know will continue to contact them and will either get back together with them and start a vicious cycle, or hold on to feelings for them way too long. This is especially important if you were in a relationship where your partner was manipulative. The best thing for you AND them is to leave and have no contact. I know it's easier said than done though. I've been there.
Thank you. I was the one wrong in the relationship causing her to break up and completely distance. It is hard waking up everyday. Existing breathing thinking without my bestfriend. I have some codependency and trauma, addictions that damaged her and I’m learning to heal and let her go. I wish I had treated her better and I pray for forgiveness from her and god. I wish her the best and I regret it everyday that I wake up. Her father passed recently and I just wish I knew she’s okay. And to talk to her again. The feeling felt almost unbearable just getting sober today and not drinking the pain away. I wish all of you Love, peace and happiness 💛
I'm struggling 3 weeks later I can't let go no matter how much I pray. I drink again and I don't know what to do without her. I don't feel like existing. I wish I had a friend like me. But I have none.
@@suavemente7281trust the process you will heal it takes time. Don’t fall into temptation stay strong. Keep talking to god and praying. I wish you the best.
This helps so much thank you I had a boyfriend that was dating for 5 months and today you broke up with me and on the 28th of this month it was in our six-month anniversary today is the the 11th of August 2023 I poured my heart and soul into that relationship and he ripped my heart part and stomped on it like it didn't matter so this helps very much thank you
I understand your pain. I broke up with someone on our so called 1 year anniversary. I had a feeling it was coming but the pain is still real. I know I needed to let go because he was toxic and verbally abusive. I’ll miss the good times but I have to move on😢
The heart always gets us in trouble... definitely listen to the brain (logic) more. It 🧠 helps us perceive reality vs ♥️ what we wished the relationship was but isn't.
I'm in the middle of one too. It's complicated and nasty, because he literally can't wrap his mind around the idea that I'm actually leaving. We had been together for almost 6 years now. And I feel so lost rn, almost like someone ripped out a huge part of me, and now It's just void and loneliness. To make things worse, I have no friends and my only source of support is my lil sis. I wish all of us in the comment section could come together and be each other's support systems because I would really appreciate having one in my life especially now
Mannn I just got out of a 4 year relationship yesterday. It's crazy😅and wild but I do have a plan to get through this. I have my family and friends and whenever I'm feeling down about it, I accept the pain bc I know eventually it'll blow over, I'll be okay though.
Hwy guys I hope y'all doing good! Please reply here whenever you guys wanna talk! Really I'll be here for y'all Stay safe and healthy and good luck!!!!❤
yes. visualize you cutting off dead branches weed someone’s garden and you will get it out. Love is not easy when it ends. I couldn’t get out of the shower in the morning for work. I was 21? It was my first real love but he didn’t want children. It’s always harder when you’re left. Talk positive thoughts to yourself. Spend time each day in the grief. Then get up and do creative stuff. Don’t talk to everyone about it. Also don’t allow thoughts into your head while working. Discipline yourself to off work hours to go over it. Our mind is a tool but we choose which tool is used to resolve the situation I wish you healing but most of all, growth to love again. I did for 40 years
Saving this as I’m currently going through a breakup as a uni student. Even though we were together for nearly 2 years we drifted apart when I started university. At first I didn’t know if I made the right choice to break it off and I did it in person which looking back at it was the right choice and both my side and his family’s side respected it. Seeing him cry broke my heart but I know now it was the right choice. I’m saving this video in case I feel low or doubt myself throughout this time. Thank you for the massive big sister advice!! 💜💜💜
If it's any consolation, my six year relationship (then three year relationship) almost ended right around the same time frame as yours. Six years, living together for four, two cats together, saw the world together- and he won't marry me. I wish it ended then. I wish we ended it then and I could've lived my life. I'm working towards letting go of him with love in my heart (because that's what they say you need to do to really let go.) But for now I'm angry. God, give me strength to end it now.
It’s #1 for me I’m 26 and I feel like I won’t find anyone else I already have self doubt and confidence issues and that’s what hurts the most I feel like I won’t have the family I’ve always wanted or someone that will love me for me and fight for the relationship 😩😩
@@chriswhite3198said mythical being is the reason you are breathing and why you were even born in the first place so watch how you talk about other people's religion and about God
Maybe this is just me I had 6 relationships in my whole 32 years on this earth and every time I break it off it become easier and easier. It goes from 1yr of heart break, 6m, 1m, 2wks, 5days. The older I get the more I know my worth and what I tell myself is y am I crying for someone who didn't deserve me.?And I tell my husband u are lucky number 7 I love u deeply but u betray me just walk away I'll b fine it'll take a day to get over u because I will not cry for someone who didn't value me enough to not disrespect me.. he don't believe me but trust me I mean every word. I love hard but when I'm done I'm done forever, u don't exist in my world, maybe it's the Taurus in me but I do not play games when it's my heart and life involved.
I've been distracting myself by getting back into the things I used to enjoy doing.. making myself a routine and sometimes adding new things when I'm ready
I am about to divorce my husband. he gaslights me and is an emotional rollercoaster. I am so scared I'll regret it after, feel alone or don't find a new partner.
@@saritamoorebansa4485 who knows, the end of this chapter might just lead to you finding your true soul mate. I think it’s better to make a leap of faith and find out what happens than to never know
He doesn’t care about you he’s manipulating you. I promise you will find someone else. My mum went through it and she’s in her fifties now dating a very sweet man. You are worthy. You are loved.
You need to here these: Those powerful words that helped me a lot.." time shall heal you my child". Till then focus on yourself. Afterall dignity is your future brahmastra. Experience is your weapon. And always remind yourself to move on and make progress, no matter how hard the pain it is showering , shower your progress and success into the pain , which will eventually nullify it.
#3. It’s only hard because we go to church together and his dad is the pastor. I am keeping my distance as much as I can because I only see those people on the weekend.
I cut off all contacts and within 2 months, I was stable, not healed but stable! It is now 6 months I can go through busy days without thinking about him once!
I agree with the video and a few comments saying to block them, I also agree. However, these things can get a little tricky when it’s kids involved. There’s still constant communication, interaction with his family(because of the kids), you still have to see this person because of co-parenting because you don’t want the kids to see it’s a weird vibe between the parents. It’s all about setting boundaries for myself and knowing what works for my mental health. I’m also going to add to the list: cutting off sex, this should be #1 IMO..
you can do so much for a persons and they still leave you in the end 💔💔💔😢 it makes me not wanna help anyone ever again my girl is trying to leave me at this very moment It’s 5 am and I have work at 3 I wrote a long paragraph and still haven’t heard anything back what is life ??
The mutal friends getting the axe 😂 so true though. I do know a women that stayed in contact with his mother. He got married no kids then they broke up and then he got back with the women, as she was still in contact with the mother. 😂 but I don't want to give hope to clingers on.
Thank you. My heart already feel like its about to stop & he thinks we can still communicate and transition to two people that seemed totally in love to simply friends. It was my choice to end it but, I don't want to be friends while I heal. I need total solitude away to mourn the loss.
Thank you so much!!!!! I had my first relationship some months ago and it was going pretty great, I wasn't naive or anything. I just wasn't giving any guy the chance simply because I just had my reasons plus standards. Everything was going on well till I realized he wasn't giving me the attention I needed. He would ghost me for days and come back and pretend it wasn't a big deal and always told me to understand him because he was going through a lot. I soon realized where this was going so I called it quits and funny enough, I was the one struggling to move on. One time he texted and I was really happy. He told me how much he missed me and how much I looked good and all that. He then went ahead to ask me the shocking thing ever. He wanted sexy pictures of me and by that I mean nudes I was so mad I just kept on questioning if he always saw me as a sexual relief. Yo make matters worse, he posted on his status celebrating a two freaking year anniversary and we had been together for barely 5months. I've never felt so appreciative to see your video because tbh, this is really what I needed. I've deleted everything about him and now, im just willing to love myself more
I wish I could go back and tell myself this in college… or just told myself to not date in college. My college bf broke up with me 7times because I kept in contact with him between the breakups, I was following “my heart” and I couldn’t deal with the emotional distress of a relationship. I would always find myself back with him and unhappy. I wasted my college years fr 😩
Thank you.... I'm trying to learn good and healthy ways to continue moving on, I just went through my first break up and we didn't even last long :( Thank you for sharing these tips
before the break up occurs im already gone mentally i tend to leave on a silent note. therefore i dont really have to heal and take time away from meeting other great men
I just needed to hear this. The breakup was horrible for us both, yet he got into another relationship a month after. It’s been 2 years. I’m just now at a happy place in my life. No dating, no side person, just pure growth. Today I can finally say I’m proud of myself!
Just experienced the worst breakup ever, man it hurts so bad, it’s like my internal organs are burning 😢 but one step at a time, I’m not gonna lie I’m in serious pain.
Breakup hack: If you fall out of love make the other person fall out of love and initate the break up that way the hurting would be less, do not CHEAT it's not gonna be easy but take this route, you can't leave someone still Loving you it would kill them. I prefer to be hurt than hurt someone i think i can handle myself better.
Totally!!! Focus on the logic behind the breakup. Cutting off all ties though is not always possible. Some people gave kids or are directly or indirectly in touch because of work... It can be a setback but it is doable when you focus on the reasons you break up without idealizing the situation...
bro i was talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. has a lot in common. we were both God fearing. i made a deep connection with her in those 3 weeks. we hungout once and i gave her my energy. long story short her ex was still in the picture. she wasn’t fully healed yet over him. and he was very obsessive. she didn’t tell me. but she also had a kid. i felt like i was lead on bro. like i was catching feelings for someone who wasn’t meant for me in the first place. but everything felt so real talking otp and about deep topics. i think that’s why it stings so bad. i ended things with her yesterday. she asked to be friends still i replied “idk” she seemed a little upset by it. but i can’t have that in my life. someone who isn’t fully over their ex. i feel very safe and vulnerable here and it’s like a family on this channel it’s all love. if anyone could give me some feedback i would appreciate that ❤️
Sometimes the hurt is the first thing you wake up to. It’s awful trying to get the day started if you have to go to work. For me it hurts worse at night 😢
“Boys are supposed to ruin your lipstick not your mascara”- Marilyn Monroe
😂 I'll keep that in mind if I ever get into a relationship with someone next time
What does that mean?
@@cherbears_club It means they’re supposed to kiss you not make you cry
@@Your_fav_blondie ohhhh
And still Kennedy messed her up lol
I agree. You have to go through the pain in order to heal. It hurts like crazy at first but you will get through it
I wish it ends quickly I can’t take it anymore
@@lilyflower9218true.
@@lilyflower9218for real
@@lilyflower9218neither can I
@@lilyflower9218 exactly 🥺🥺
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
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Going through it right now... just happened a couple of hours ago. I ve been with him since I was 14 I am now 27 and this feels like the biggest rip out of my chest because he's my best friend and I don't know how to heal from this I am stuck..
Keep busy..do different things..take classes, go on trips with good friends..
List the reasons you broke up. Remember that everyday. Remember all the bad days. The heavy gut feeling and misery. I promise you, it shall be well.
I promise you, this too shall passed. I met my husband two weeks after my break. He was my first boyfriend, I was 21 years old and it felt like I was literally dying internally. I’ll be 41 in November and it was best for me. The moment I finally let go, here comes hubby.
@swilson5346 thanks for the advice I apperciate it 💞
Praying for you to get through 🙏🏽 I’m going through a breakup after 14 years and 3 kids and my 4th on the way with him. But he moved on and got someone else pregnant and doesn’t care at all about how he has hurt me. It sucks bc we have kids ugh I wish I could just not see him ever again and maybe that would make it easier 😢 but God is good and he will always make a way🙏🏽💪🏽
Heavy on the cutting ALL mutual
ties!
My best friend is her brother, I’ve known him since we were in elementary school and didn’t really know her much till years and years later
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This one is sooo hard bc I literally bought my car through him so I gotta go back. It's a lease 👀
exactly, distracting yourself and pretending you don't feel is just going to make it worse. at least for me it did make it worse. so I chose to be mature and let my emotions go free. I acknowledged the heart break, and I honestly healed pretty fast after that. trying unhealthy ways to cope, especially pretending something never happened made the situation worse for me.
Hey could help me right now I'm going through a lot i just wnnna die 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@fairy4196I know it really hurts and what you are going through must be painful. Trust me, i’m going through same right now but we will be fine and you won’t die
im distracting myself from the breakup with anime/phone and really hate feeling pathetic and lonely which i am very much and im also mentally exhausted and numb! idk what to do pls help
@@dabilover444u are still worth so much as a human and you don’t need them to express that validation towards u. u are more than enough to be loved n u are capable of being happy no matter how hard it is. sending u hope n comfort rn ❤️🧸
@@vhopseok thankyou ily 💕💕 have a good day
I totally agree, do not pretend to be okay when your not okay, allow yourself to feel everything and I mean everything, the pain, the crying, the anxiety , the wish you could go back and everything and ever yday it gets easier and it starts to fade
Please promise me 💔
@@mariyaxmx5427 i hope you're okay I'm also going through this🥺
15 months. Still think about him everyday knowing he doesn't give a damn! Miss his family too. I feel like I'll never be vulnerable again. Regret it so much
How are you doing now? I broke up a week ago and his parents were very kind. I miss them
@@Big-timeup
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It will take the amount of time you give it. Everyone comes into our life for a season. Not all are meant to be forever. Let go and you will be open to positive things coming your way. I don’t mean to sound simple but it’s your time to take care of you and delve into you. You are blessed bc you had this love. Do something for someone who needs your help and you will be lifted
And know that this too shall pass and you’ll be a better stronger person because of it
There's nothing worse than being with the wrong man. I got counseling after my breakup, and he triggered abandonment issues. Counseling helped me see it really wasn't him I was hurting behind. He sold me a dream. It was over two years ago and he was my next-door neighbor. He got evicted five months ago and had to move, thankfully. Don't settle for any man who doesn't bring peace and joy into your life. ❤🙏
she’s like the big sister i never had 🥹❤️
I always think this when I watch her vids 😢❤️❤️ love you Nicole!
Same lol
Got cheated multiple times. Had a child with him. I keep forgiving him without him asking for forgiveness. Verbally abused me, my family, and my relatives. Still, I stayed with him. I was bonded to this guy. I couldn't think right. I told myself I would never find any man like him. Finally, I had to call off two days ago. I am currently hurting. I don't know what to do. I have been calling God to take the pain out.
How are you doing now?
pray to God so that he can break the soul ties!! they’re so real trust fans they keep u attached to those who aren’t right for us💔
What about now
And going to God about it also helped me. God loves you and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties onto God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
I'm really really happy you brought up cutting ties. SO many women I know will continue to contact them and will either get back together with them and start a vicious cycle, or hold on to feelings for them way too long.
This is especially important if you were in a relationship where your partner was manipulative. The best thing for you AND them is to leave and have no contact.
I know it's easier said than done though. I've been there.
Thank you. I was the one wrong in the relationship causing her to break up and completely distance. It is hard waking up everyday. Existing breathing thinking without my bestfriend. I have some codependency and trauma, addictions that damaged her and I’m learning to heal and let her go. I wish I had treated her better and I pray for forgiveness from her and god. I wish her the best and I regret it everyday that I wake up. Her father passed recently and I just wish I knew she’s okay. And to talk to her again. The feeling felt almost unbearable just getting sober today and not drinking the pain away. I wish all of you Love, peace and happiness 💛
I'm struggling 3 weeks later I can't let go no matter how much I pray. I drink again and I don't know what to do without her. I don't feel like existing. I wish I had a friend like me. But I have none.
@@suavemente7281trust the process you will heal it takes time. Don’t fall into temptation stay strong. Keep talking to god and praying. I wish you the best.
I hope you're doing okay now, also you are a really brave person to admit your mistakes but just remember that it takes two to tango
This helps so much thank you I had a boyfriend that was dating for 5 months and today you broke up with me and on the 28th of this month it was in our six-month anniversary today is the the 11th of August 2023 I poured my heart and soul into that relationship and he ripped my heart part and stomped on it like it didn't matter so this helps very much thank you
I understand your pain. I broke up with someone on our so called 1 year anniversary. I had a feeling it was coming but the pain is still real. I know I needed to let go because he was toxic and verbally abusive. I’ll miss the good times but I have to move on😢
The heart always gets us in trouble... definitely listen to the brain (logic) more. It 🧠 helps us perceive reality vs ♥️ what we wished the relationship was but isn't.
I'm in the middle of one too. It's complicated and nasty, because he literally can't wrap his mind around the idea that I'm actually leaving. We had been together for almost 6 years now. And I feel so lost rn, almost like someone ripped out a huge part of me, and now It's just void and loneliness. To make things worse, I have no friends and my only source of support is my lil sis. I wish all of us in the comment section could come together and be each other's support systems because I would really appreciate having one in my life especially now
Me too! No friends and only told my lil sister about it until I told my parents
Mannn I just got out of a 4 year relationship yesterday. It's crazy😅and wild but I do have a plan to get through this. I have my family and friends and whenever I'm feeling down about it, I accept the pain bc I know eventually it'll blow over, I'll be okay though.
Hwy guys
I hope y'all doing good!
Please reply here whenever you guys wanna talk! Really I'll be here for y'all
Stay safe and healthy and good luck!!!!❤
3. Is what I’m here for. Cutting off all ties to that person is hard. But it has to be done.
yes. visualize you cutting off dead branches weed someone’s garden and you will get it out. Love is not easy when it ends. I couldn’t get out of the shower in the morning for work. I was 21? It was my first real love but he didn’t want children. It’s always harder when you’re left. Talk positive thoughts to yourself. Spend time each day in the grief. Then get up and do creative stuff. Don’t talk to everyone about it. Also don’t allow thoughts into your head while working. Discipline yourself to off work hours to go over it. Our mind is a tool but we choose which tool is used to resolve the situation I wish you healing but most of all, growth to love again. I did for 40 years
Saving this as I’m currently going through a breakup as a uni student. Even though we were together for nearly 2 years we drifted apart when I started university. At first I didn’t know if I made the right choice to break it off and I did it in person which looking back at it was the right choice and both my side and his family’s side respected it. Seeing him cry broke my heart but I know now it was the right choice. I’m saving this video in case I feel low or doubt myself throughout this time. Thank you for the massive big sister advice!! 💜💜💜
How are you doing now?
How are you doing today?
If it's any consolation, my six year relationship (then three year relationship) almost ended right around the same time frame as yours. Six years, living together for four, two cats together, saw the world together- and he won't marry me.
I wish it ended then. I wish we ended it then and I could've lived my life. I'm working towards letting go of him with love in my heart (because that's what they say you need to do to really let go.) But for now I'm angry. God, give me strength to end it now.
It’s #1 for me I’m 26 and I feel like I won’t find anyone else I already have self doubt and confidence issues and that’s what hurts the most I feel like I won’t have the family I’ve always wanted or someone that will love me for me and fight for the relationship 😩😩
This, too, shall pass.
My situation but it'll pass
Me too😢
Just broke up with him a few hours ago , I can't even sleep , it hurts like hell, I don't think I'll ever be myself again 😪 😔
Best advice I heard, especially when you said the logic behind the breakup. Thank you!
Excellent advice and a humble reminder that time does heal and that it always gets better ❤
That last one people can sometimes have trouble with. I deleted his whole family and him off of socials asap even grandma🗣️
Savage don't blame you , I'm going to follow suit too.
God come first all time
a mythical being is not how you heal or healed!
@@chriswhite3198said mythical being is the reason you are breathing and why you were even born in the first place so watch how you talk about other people's religion and about God
Maybe this is just me I had 6 relationships in my whole 32 years on this earth and every time I break it off it become easier and easier. It goes from 1yr of heart break, 6m, 1m, 2wks, 5days. The older I get the more I know my worth and what I tell myself is y am I crying for someone who didn't deserve me.?And I tell my husband u are lucky number 7 I love u deeply but u betray me just walk away I'll b fine it'll take a day to get over u because I will not cry for someone who didn't value me enough to not disrespect me.. he don't believe me but trust me I mean every word. I love hard but when I'm done I'm done forever, u don't exist in my world, maybe it's the Taurus in me but I do not play games when it's my heart and life involved.
I'm glad you grew. this one is my first heartbreak and I'm on 4 months. wish me luch please :')
I've been distracting myself by getting back into the things I used to enjoy doing.. making myself a routine and sometimes adding new things when I'm ready
I am about to divorce my husband. he gaslights me and is an emotional rollercoaster. I am so scared I'll regret it after, feel alone or don't find a new partner.
Going through the same thing…. Scared I will end up old and alone too.
@@saritamoorebansa4485 We can do this!
@@saritamoorebansa4485 who knows, the end of this chapter might just lead to you finding your true soul mate. I think it’s better to make a leap of faith and find out what happens than to never know
But you will die early and your husband will celebrate and he will find a new girl. She will be in your funeral too.
He doesn’t care about you he’s manipulating you. I promise you will find someone else. My mum went through it and she’s in her fifties now dating a very sweet man. You are worthy. You are loved.
No one talks about the hair loss that comes from a breakup that really hurt you. I lost allot of hair
I hadn't realised this is a thing until now 😭😂
Your hair also gets dry and sheds lot
@@Bentleyyyyyyy yeah it’s a real thing, it’s stops shedding once you’ve healed and not stressing
Thank you. I’m trying to go around the pain but maybe I need to go through it.
You need to here these: Those powerful words that helped me a lot.." time shall heal you my child". Till then focus on yourself. Afterall dignity is your future brahmastra. Experience is your weapon. And always remind yourself to move on and make progress, no matter how hard the pain it is showering , shower your progress and success into the pain , which will eventually nullify it.
Thank you!!! People please cut ties!!!!
#3. It’s only hard because we go to church together and his dad is the pastor. I am keeping my distance as much as I can because I only see those people on the weekend.
Same. His sisters are actually in choir with me which l can’t really avoid for rehearsals and all
Thank you so much!❤❤ so sorry for your tragic break up! Glad you got better!
I knew a family who refused to let go. You just have to seek healing regardless
I cut off all contacts and within 2 months, I was stable, not healed but stable! It is now 6 months I can go through busy days without thinking about him once!
I agree with the video and a few comments saying to block them, I also agree. However, these things can get a little tricky when it’s kids involved. There’s still constant communication, interaction with his family(because of the kids), you still have to see this person because of co-parenting because you don’t want the kids to see it’s a weird vibe between the parents. It’s all about setting boundaries for myself and knowing what works for my mental health. I’m also going to add to the list: cutting off sex, this should be #1 IMO..
This is def hard because of that
how u so wise, girl. but fr we should all strive to be like that
These were really helpful !! Thank you so much for the tips .
I needed this, my heart needs to catch up 😔 thank you
you can do so much for a persons and they still leave you in the end 💔💔💔😢 it makes me not wanna help anyone ever again my girl is trying to leave me at this very moment It’s 5 am and I have work at 3 I wrote a long paragraph and still haven’t heard anything back what is life ??
I hear you. The same thing just happened to me. I hope you are doing better now.
“If love keeps giving me lemons, I’ll just mix them in my drink” -Miranda Lambert
I needed this right now. Thank you!
The mutal friends getting the axe 😂 so true though. I do know a women that stayed in contact with his mother. He got married no kids then they broke up and then he got back with the women, as she was still in contact with the mother. 😂 but I don't want to give hope to clingers on.
Number 3 is what did it fa me! 💯
Can u plz repeat it i didn’t understand number 3😢
Glad my story of break up was me finding my self , healing , being with my family and friends and happy .
Thank you some much I’m going through a bad break up at the moment and this really helped thank you so much ❤
I really needed this rn ty..
I remember watching this video a year ago thinking I don’t think I’ll ever need this advice😂😂well well well here I am, in need of it
I’m old enough to be her Mammy’s older sister, but Nicole is the Big Sister we all need! ❤️
This was gold!!! I’ve definitely been going through the motions. But I know it’s best for me 😢😔
I’m glad you said cut off until you heal from the situation
Thank you. My heart already feel like its about to stop & he thinks we can still communicate and transition to two people that seemed totally in love to simply friends. It was my choice to end it but, I don't want to be friends while I heal. I need total solitude away to mourn the loss.
I absolutely agree with you 💜 need to heal 💔
Great advice doll. You’re so right. Pretty gal. I love your way of doing your make up too. Very simple. Stunning.
Thank you for letting us share your pearls of wisdom ❤
I love this. Thank you girl! So glad you made it through that. I know how you felt
I like how you said 'Your Head and Heart Are Having a Disagreement'...
Girl i needed this so so so bad.
Thanks. God bless you ❤
Thank you so much!!!!! I had my first relationship some months ago and it was going pretty great, I wasn't naive or anything. I just wasn't giving any guy the chance simply because I just had my reasons plus standards. Everything was going on well till I realized he wasn't giving me the attention I needed. He would ghost me for days and come back and pretend it wasn't a big deal and always told me to understand him because he was going through a lot. I soon realized where this was going so I called it quits and funny enough, I was the one struggling to move on. One time he texted and I was really happy. He told me how much he missed me and how much I looked good and all that. He then went ahead to ask me the shocking thing ever. He wanted sexy pictures of me and by that I mean nudes
I was so mad I just kept on questioning if he always saw me as a sexual relief. Yo make matters worse, he posted on his status celebrating a two freaking year anniversary and we had been together for barely 5months. I've never felt so appreciative to see your video because tbh, this is really what I needed. I've deleted everything about him and now, im just willing to love myself more
I wish I could go back and tell myself this in college… or just told myself to not date in college. My college bf broke up with me 7times because I kept in contact with him between the breakups, I was following “my heart” and I couldn’t deal with the emotional distress of a relationship. I would always find myself back with him and unhappy. I wasted my college years fr 😩
7 times?! That’s gotta b a Guinness world record I hope u r doing better now
Good advice & I agree you have to sever all ties🤗🤗🤗
Thank you for being honest
Can’t cut ties when you have a child together
Thank you.... I'm trying to learn good and healthy ways to continue moving on, I just went through my first break up and we didn't even last long :( Thank you for sharing these tips
When you have a child with that person, it even harder 🤦🏾♀️.
before the break up occurs im already gone mentally i tend to leave on a silent note. therefore i dont really have to heal and take time away from meeting other great men
We have the same lip gloss! But I don’t think my lips look as pink as yours do, so beautiful!!!
Great advice.
Thank you girl 🙏🏽💚✨
I just needed to hear this. The breakup was horrible for us both, yet he got into another relationship a month after. It’s been 2 years. I’m just now at a happy place in my life. No dating, no side person, just pure growth. Today I can finally say I’m proud of myself!
Just experienced the worst breakup ever, man it hurts so bad, it’s like my internal organs are burning 😢 but one step at a time, I’m not gonna lie I’m in serious pain.
how are you doing right now? I'm on my month 4
It would be so beneficial if I spoke with you right now about my breakup cause honey listen…
You should stay busy! Pain??Go out with your friends.
Spot on...break ties. It's for the best
Listen to her young ladies 💪🙏🌍❤️
Breakup hack: If you fall out of love make the other person fall out of love and initate the break up that way the hurting would be less, do not CHEAT it's not gonna be easy but take this route, you can't leave someone still Loving you it would kill them.
I prefer to be hurt than hurt someone i think i can handle myself better.
Big facts. Thank you!!!
I’m going through it. 😢 but agree on going through the pain to heal.
I love this!!! Great tips.
Ma'am I love your skin tone.Also drop the skincare routine! !!!
really appreciate this
Totally!!! Focus on the logic behind the breakup. Cutting off all ties though is not always possible. Some people gave kids or are directly or indirectly in touch because of work... It can be a setback but it is doable when you focus on the reasons you break up without idealizing the situation...
You are really pretty even without makeup ❤ God bless
Thank you it helped me a lot
Thank you. ❤
bro i was talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. has a lot in common. we were both God fearing. i made a deep connection with her in those 3 weeks. we hungout once and i gave her my energy. long story short her ex was still in the picture. she wasn’t fully healed yet over him. and he was very obsessive. she didn’t tell me. but she also had a kid. i felt like i was lead on bro. like i was catching feelings for someone who wasn’t meant for me in the first place. but everything felt so real talking otp and about deep topics. i think that’s why it stings so bad. i ended things with her yesterday. she asked to be friends still i replied “idk” she seemed a little upset by it. but i can’t have that in my life. someone who isn’t fully over their ex. i feel very safe and vulnerable here and it’s like a family on this channel it’s all love. if anyone could give me some feedback i would appreciate that ❤️
Needed to hear this. Thnx sis
I wish I could cut all ties with him but our parents are best friends so I see him every weekend😭
Thank you !
Unless you get the best chosen family from the break up. Well chosen love is thicker than blood. Truth.
Really great advice thank you
Sometimes the hurt is the first thing you wake up to. It’s awful trying to get the day started if you have to go to work. For me it hurts worse at night 😢
Can we just really fast appreciate that your so pretty
What lip product is this? You are so pretty. I love your videos, and the advice you give.
This was good. The comments even better.
So true!
yes, you are right. 100 percents Right
You are so right!