This therapist is absolutely amazing, this is what happens when you find the right therapist. You just can tell them anything, and open up to them about your deepest darkest secrets and feelings, with no judgment. It took me so long to find the right therapist for me, but I knew I found the right one when I truly opened up to her and allowed myself to feel emotion. For years I remember holding so much emotion in that I wouldn't allow anyone else to see it, but I finally released it with my therapist. I never allow anyone else to see me cry, ever, because I always had this fear of being judged and looked at like I was this *nut* but when I finally realeased it, I felt so much better. Amazing scene from Ordinary People.
What he was holding back was anger, which he couldn't admit and couldn't allow himself to feel. Angry that his brother was gone, angry that his brother didn't try harder to survive, angry that he was alive while his brother was dead.
I didn't quite see it like that. I felt that Buck protected him. He could feel safe in Buck's shadow. Now Buck was gone and everyone focused on him, spotlight on him all the time. Everything was suddenly on his shoulders and he wasn't ready. He felt anger because of that. Just my thoughts :o)
Those two had a problem with expressing their feelings just like they did in a scene with his mother laying on a lawn chair lounger wearing a tennis skirt. Both her and Conrad listening to his brother Buck whom has both of their undivided attention laughing and smiling as his stories and jokes. They are both at ease in the presence of his brother that's similar to what the role his father had been playing. But now his brother is dead, everybody is affected including their father. Mother doesn't know who to turn to and son doesn't know who to turn to.You are right the mom does love her son but now she's fearful she is now going to be criticized by everything she does with him by him. She makes little attempts to show love to him and try to talk to him but it's not easy to communicate between those two because of the way they have been thru the past with each other holding in their e emotions. In another scene in the movie after Bucky has been dead for some months she goes to the backyard outside to talk to Conrad sitting by himself on a cold day and she brought a sweater outside trying to use that moment to connect with Conrad and hopefully she could get to a place that Buck them both. But Conrad became angry when he brought up a memory of why didn't she let Bucky get the small dog that he was begging her for and she immediately seized up and start trying to explain herself, that she was fearful of the dog and Conrad wasn't hearing it he suddenly becomes angry because he felt that she should have let Bucky have that dog. She's not dealing with a little boy anymore she's now dealing with a young man who has been traumatized by the death of a older brother that he relied on and now he's gone and he didn't like that his mother was still having communication problems with him who is now a young man who is demanding answers that she cannot give.😢 He started barking at her to drown out her explanation of having a fear of the small dog. So she stood up and told him it's getting colder he better put that sweater on if he's going to stay out there and she went back inside the house. That is one of the best scenes in that movie that shows that she loved her son.
Everyone in it deserves an Oscar. I was 14 when I saw this movie and didn’t understand what is the issue with Conrad bec I never heard of depression until 35 years after when I suffered depression and anxiety until this day and taking meds for it. I suddenly remembered this movie and watched it again and realized how someone who never suffered from it can act it out so naturally. Tim really deserves the Oscar. It’s not easy to understand mental health issues for those who don’t have it. I actually learn something from this movie.
That John Boy story was interesting. I think it might be another example of how Conrad, based on what he’s been through, just can’t take these empty displays of connection, these hollow heart-to-hearts that seem to be the only way the vapid adults in his life know how to reach out. What could someone as “uptight” as John Boy’s father possibly stay to Conrad about what happened to Buck? Turns out he didn’t seem to say anything, lol. But Conrad blames himself for not feeling something anyway. It’s not his fault, though. Sometimes grief leaves us feeling empty, just nothing. But he’s not giving himself the acceptance of being okay with what he was feeling in the moment.
0:55 he delivers those lines so naturally! Amazing acting by Timothy Hutton, Oscar well deserved!!!
This therapist is absolutely amazing, this is what happens when you find the right therapist. You just can tell them anything, and open up to them about your deepest darkest secrets and feelings, with no judgment. It took me so long to find the right therapist for me, but I knew I found the right one when I truly opened up to her and allowed myself to feel emotion. For years I remember holding so much emotion in that I wouldn't allow anyone else to see it, but I finally released it with my therapist. I never allow anyone else to see me cry, ever, because I always had this fear of being judged and looked at like I was this *nut* but when I finally realeased it, I felt so much better. Amazing scene from Ordinary People.
Therapy is for the self indulgent. Catering to the weak who have deep pockets
What he was holding back was anger, which he couldn't admit and couldn't allow himself to feel. Angry that his brother was gone, angry that his brother didn't try harder to survive, angry that he was alive while his brother was dead.
How about the anger of realizing that his mother loved Buck more than him.
@@carlosturner8200 True, that too.
I didn't quite see it like that. I felt that Buck protected him. He could feel safe in Buck's shadow. Now Buck was gone and everyone focused on him, spotlight on him all the time. Everything was suddenly on his shoulders and he wasn't ready. He felt anger because of that. Just my thoughts :o)
I'm not sure it was anger toward Buck more than it was guilt that he survived and Buck didn't.
Those two had a problem with expressing their feelings just like they did in a scene with his mother laying on a lawn chair lounger wearing a tennis skirt. Both her and Conrad listening to his brother Buck whom has both of their undivided attention laughing and smiling as his stories and jokes. They are both at ease in the presence of his brother that's similar to what the role his father had been playing. But now his brother is dead, everybody is affected including their father. Mother doesn't know who to turn to and son doesn't know who to turn to.You are right the mom does love her son but now she's fearful she is now going to be criticized by everything she does with him by him. She makes little attempts to show love to him and try to talk to him but it's not easy to communicate between those two because of the way they have been thru the past with each other holding in their e emotions. In another scene in the movie after Bucky has been dead for some months she goes to the backyard outside to talk to Conrad sitting by himself on a cold day and she brought a sweater outside trying to use that moment to connect with Conrad and hopefully she could get to a place that Buck them both. But Conrad became angry when he brought up a memory of why didn't she let Bucky get the small dog that he was begging her for and she immediately seized up and start trying to explain herself, that she was fearful of the dog and Conrad wasn't hearing it he suddenly becomes angry because he felt that she should have let Bucky have that dog. She's not dealing with a little boy anymore she's now dealing with a young man who has been traumatized by the death of a older brother that he relied on and now he's gone and he didn't like that his mother was still having communication problems with him who is now a young man who is demanding answers that she cannot give.😢 He started barking at her to drown out her explanation of having a fear of the small dog. So she stood up and told him it's getting colder he better put that sweater on if he's going to stay out there and she went back inside the house. That is one of the best scenes in that movie that shows that she loved her son.
Both actors are great in this great movie
all 4 main characters. MTM playing a hateful mother what an actress.... Donald S. amazing, Judd the man.
Everyone in it deserves an Oscar. I was 14 when I saw this movie and didn’t understand what is the issue with Conrad bec I never heard of depression until 35 years after when I suffered depression and anxiety until this day and taking meds for it. I suddenly remembered this movie and watched it again and realized how someone who never suffered from it can act it out so naturally. Tim really deserves the Oscar. It’s not easy to understand mental health issues for those who don’t have it. I actually learn something from this movie.
Brilliant piece of movie making, The acting in this scene is exceptional.
great movie.
That John Boy story was interesting. I think it might be another example of how Conrad, based on what he’s been through, just can’t take these empty displays of connection, these hollow heart-to-hearts that seem to be the only way the vapid adults in his life know how to reach out. What could someone as “uptight” as John Boy’s father possibly stay to Conrad about what happened to Buck? Turns out he didn’t seem to say anything, lol. But Conrad blames himself for not feeling something anyway. It’s not his fault, though. Sometimes grief leaves us feeling empty, just nothing. But he’s not giving himself the acceptance of being okay with what he was feeling in the moment.
this movie is perfection into the wasp world no mess
I am from that WASP world and I grew up in Lake Forest which despite its great beauty, could be a messy place.