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As an ace and an artist, i relate to the aesthetic attraction. Some people think i’m weird when I say i like admiring bodies, but I just see them in an artistic way, I just see them as if they were renaissance paintings, and I think there’s nothing wrong with that.
I think of it like this: I really really hate high heels, but can I tell if a pair of high heels looks good or not? Yes, I can. I use this a lot when explaining aesthetic attraction as it is easy for people to understand. You can still admire someone with feeling the need to be with them :)
Friend : have you seen that @ss ?? :D Me : sorry, I'm not interested _take a look_ Nice body shape, maybe a bit to triangualar ? But have you seen those mountains ?? The shape, the color, the sunlight and the clouds, everything's perfect !! Friend : what ?
I like admiring bodies too, they're just amazing, and really interesting to draw. Since I started drawing, I see everything in an amazing artistic way, and I love it !
im a straight person who is trying to understand asexuality because my best friend told me she was asexual yesterday, im so proud of her for trusting me!
@@Madmonkeman no, unfortunately most people aren't like this. I often hear comments like "you will grow out of it" or "you haven't met the right person yet" or people just straight up laughing at my face
I am Asexual. I hate when people say things like “You just haven’t found the right person!” That happens to me all the time. No this isn’t a phase, its not that i haven’t found the right person. I just do not feel that kind of attraction.
HOLY F*CK YES!!! SAME!!!! My God XD I just realized that I was asexual a few days ago and my mom said "but didn't you have a crush on a girl before? You haven't found the right person I guess." And yes I did but that was years ago and I realized I wasn't really in love. I just wanted to be with someone. But yeah I get what you're saying! Finally someone who relates!
😂Hahaha lol my friends tells me that too hahaha shit am just not into sex I just want to love and be loved but I still didn't really like anyone for 3 years lol😂
also, normalize men being asexual‼️ men can be ace as not all men are sex crazy; ive been told so many times that it’s hard or unlikely i’m just bc i’m a guy.
Oh my god, I can't believe how alone I felt when I found out every man in my school just wants to have sex, and not wanting sex is more of a feminine thing, it's really isolating
Andrey P I’m an ace girl, and even then I found out very stressful that I was the only one in my class who seemingly didn’t want to be touched by anyone, I can’t imagine how hard it must be for guys. I hope things are better now and you’re finding more validation!
I'm a guy who has: - 0 interest in sex, in fact I dread the idea of having sex - No physical/emotional attraction to girls or guys at all - Never had a single crush on someone in my entire life (20 YEARS OLD I SHOULD ADD) ...Yet my friend still tells me "You just need to find the right person"ಠ_ಠ
That's rough buddy... Actually I'm aro ace, also 19 years old and everything you said goes for me too, unfortunately including the friend that tells me "maybe you'll eventually change your mind" so yeah, I get it xd
It feels incredibly liberating knowing there's a label out there for people just like me. Not wanting to have sex doesn't make you evil or heartless, we are very much loveable and a sexual relationship isn't necessary to feel fulfilled in life.
@@MegaDudeman21Best thing" is subjective. It may be the best thing for you but that's not the case for everyone. You will look back on your comment with deep embarrassment when asexuality becomes a mainstream identity.
@@evva3_ Fr. Like one time my sister showed me a few pics of guys and she asked me what I thought I was like: They’re cool. I didn’t want to say whether or not they were beautiful, or handsome or whatever because people seem to think you like like them. Unless they’re the same gender as you.
I’m a 55 year old asexual female. I have lots of friends. I’ve always lived alone. I don’t feel lonely, and I don’t want a relationship. I went through a period of extreme anger as a teenager and 20-something because I did not understand why people were sexual. I did not even know there was a word for what I am. I just thought everyone was crossing the line to the “bad” side. It wasn’t until I was in my early 30s that I heard the word asexual. I still find it hard to believe there really ARE other asexuals. Any virgin asexuals like me? I wonder. :)
Yes. I am right here. The weird thing is being an asexual, I only like romantic movies, can't stand action, drug , serial killer stuff. But again in the romantic genre , I love the ones without any intimate or kiss scenes. I absolutely hate such scenes.
Well what is an asexual? Because I got confused. Like am I one and just didn't know?🤷 I want to have children some day so I just thought I was stray and I find women sexually attractive. But I mean I would be super unhappy if I had sex out side the context of a committed Marge because I'm really sorry I would get bonded to a woman if I had sex with her so I would be extremely upset if she left me. So does that make me demy sexual or something? Oh and for some reason people keep speculating or calling me gay because I don't have a girlfriend and am a virgin. But I know I'm not gay because I wouldn't like men romantically I only see them platonically.
@@cedricburkhart3738 You very well could be Demi...hm, people who are Ace/Demi can want children still (I don't) but that isn't rare or impossible. The only thing you can really do is just keep learning about the different sexualities and expressing yourself. Eventually you'll figure it out
@@istan9682 im asexual too and my mom doesnt really get it but i gave up trying to explain because ive seen other people disagree that it's real some people seem to think that having sexual attraction is a natural part of life and thus a lot of asexuals think theyre broken but its perfectly normal to not have or have very little sexual attraction so regardless of whether or not people understand, you do you, yknow? :)
Nobody’s going to see this because the video came out 2 years ago, but if anyone does, I saw this video about a year ago and it gave me a lightbulb moment where I realised I was ace. I had never even considered it before but now, about a year later, I’ve accepted myself and and so happy I’ve gotten to this place. I just want to thank Psych2Go for giving me the chance to understand myself.
After discovering the Ace&Aro spectrums I bring it up online regularly because it was an absolute 'light bulb moment' for both me and my partner. My partner is a more stereotypical Ace&Aro, whereas I land on multiple spots in both because how I feel toward presentation and gender varies, which is also why I lable as bi. Oh, and it's the internet, age is relative for things like posts and vids, you never know how much something 'old' might mean to someone, or how likely it really is to be seen.
Well I’m an older generation and back in my days of youth they used to call asexual a tease and look down at them. I’m glad to see things are changing and people are actually recognizing that it’s not all just about sex. 😊
This video feels like a warm hug for me. I feel like society puts so much pressure into sex when starting a relationship, when there's plenty of other things to look into when having a partner. To know that I'm not alone in this is so comforting. I fall into the side of the spectrum that can enjoy kisses and cuddles but not the sex part. I feel like us ace people get infantilization as well, I'm always told I should get used to sex because that's the world we live in, it's human nature and the typical "ugh, just grow up already!". It makes me want to cry because it breaks me how messed up this world is, but thank you, just thank you for making me feel seen. 💜
as an asexual too, to be honest i feel like sex is just weird and ruins true meaningful relationships - like its probably the same for everyone, it doesnt go anywhere except apparently give people momentary enjoyment, so whats the point? if i did that with someone i wouldnt be able to look at them again, its just unnecessary. i think anyone who is asexual is most likely much more intelligent/cares about things in a deeper way because sexual attraction just seems like a halt. i think that the annoying way most peoples eyes light up when someone mentions sexual attraction is much, much more childish than thinking its unnecessary. sorry idk this reply is so random lol
@@AllytheGumby haha, no problem! It feels good to know I'm not the only one, thank you so much for your "so random reply" lol. You are full of sunshine💜
typical female nature. stop getting into relationship. normal people need sex thats just how it is. whats messed up is u getting full benefit of relationship while not offering the full course. asexual woman should not be in relationship.
My best description of aesthetic attraction is like this: how do you feel when you see a nice painting? Probably like “oh wow that’s a nice painting”. That’s how aesthetic attraction feels, except towards people.
I can kinda relate to this, i personally dont call people "ugly" or "beautiful", i look at their whole body (especially face cuz thats the part u see the most) and judge by the amount of unique traits they have, symmetry etc. Altho in discussions with normies i usually add "but society would probably call this person xyz"
I think of it like this: I really really hate high heels, but can I tell if a pair of high heels looks good or not? Yes, I can. I use this a lot when explaining aesthetic attraction as it is easy for people to understand. You can still admire someone with feeling the need to be with them.
o m g thanks for saying that :D I do see people like that- I mean I never call people ugly or beautiful (other than myself, I'm kinda ugly but it's because I'm trans :/) so yeah I don't think woah that person be lookin' good tho, I'm just like :0 cool clothing and soft hair and yeah I like personalities :D
I'm 23 and never had an affair in my life. My friends says I'm missing out the good part. They laugh when I say I don't want to have sex ever in my life. I'm happy that there's some positive content about people like me.
Isn't it safe to not have sex? I don't understand why they're so proud of having sex especially having it before marriage. When they got pregnant, some of the partner don't want to be responsible for it..
I never felt sexually attracted to any of my crushes. I just want to hang out with them, go to the cinema, walk hand in hand, play some games, and have a deep friendship. By this video I think I like platonic and romantic relationships more than a relationship based on sex alone.
@@alexaislas961 same xD i dont get why so many see sex as a must have or at least why they dont understand that you very well can have a relationship without it and be happy, i myself a romantic typ of guy with some platonic mixed in, if that makes any sens, i would like just to hang out chil together ya know walking hand in hand some cuddeling and kissing and thats it but yeah we always are the weird ppl
I had sexual attraction to every crush I had, beside romantic feelings and wanting to hang out, but I never tried to pursue a relationship cause I felt like they are waaay above me and I'm not worthy of their attention, and so I always thought that if I pursue them they will just laugh in my face. What does that mean? Am I depressed?
I remember the first time I slept with my ex girlfriend I was always confused beforehand why i didn't want it and assumed id like it. Once the time actually came, I remember laying in bed with her thinking my brain was broken. After this happening a couple of different times with different girls I thought "maybe im homosexual, I've never felt attracted to guys but something isn't clicking" After pondering that i realised ive never felt attracted to guys unlike girls so definitely not that. I've always wanted someone to love and be with on my path of life, but i could never tell someone I'm with that i don't want sex in the relationship. Learning about the ace community has really opened my eyes and I feel less like my mind is broken. Its been such a good change in life being able to seek out others that feel the same way, and I'm glad youre spreading that awareness so others can find out that they're not broken and its completely normal. Thank you 💖
@@Logger1010 No, we're asking people to acknowledge that not everyone has that biological urge, and that said biological urge isn't required for a healthy relationship. Like, people basically refusing it exists, and telling the person they're in denial or just haven't found "the one" yet. Telling someone it doesn't exist doesn't make it go away.
@@Silentgrace11 as an asexual most people at first are confused but are understanding eventually but if this is a big issue among the community then I support what you're saying. I interpreted the original comment as saying that a non asexual person should be okay with being in a non sexual relationship.
@@Logger1010 We're not asking anyone to ignore biological urge. It's absolutely up to them. What we're trying to say is for people to respect and accept people who don't want to be involved in a sexual relationship :)))
Why do so many people assume that romantic relationships are about sex? There are so many things that are more important; relationships thrive when you establish trust and understand and care for each other. I'm only 24 but I know that more people should consider not carelessly give themselves away. Sex is more meaningful when you wait for the one you'll try to be with for life, and even then it's not everything. Ugh this world, man.
That's a lovely personal belief, but in no way a truth. Sometimes you can meet a person, have sex relatively quickly and continue on to have a beautiful, loving relationship. Sometimes you meet a person, wait for a long time to have sex and the relationship ends immediately after. Absolutely nothing is guaranteed in any relationship. Those experiences set a more realistic view of relationships, and not an opportunistic one.
I agree somewhat and somewhat not. I am asexual and even thought i think many other things are much more important than sex, sex can give you a different level of intimicy with your special someone.
a lil' summary- i guess- 1:05 - the lack of sexual attraction 1:40 - asexuals could crave relationships without the sexual element 2:15 - they get over crushes easily 2:40 - not having any celebrity crushes 3:10 - some asexuals may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances 3:40 - sex depends have a good day, and be proud to be who u are !!
I’m currently questioning whether I’m asexual or if it’s simply a trauma response. (tw // sa) I was recently sexually assaulted by someone who I didn’t have any romantic feelings towards, but the entire situation only confused me even more because it was my first time. I’ve never been fully sexually active until then, and each time (even when our acts were still consensual), I really didn’t feel anything. it was more of a “this is what sex is all about it?” and that only reason I kept engaging in it was because I wanted the experience. once the sexual assault took place though, I only become more disgusted by sexual relations and even certain gestures such as kissing. its tough because so many factors come into play; I was inexperienced, I didn’t enjoy the consensual acts (but I didn’t have romantic feelings either), and it all ended with assault. it’s hard not knowing, but hopefully as a heal I’ll begin to learn the truth about myself.
Yes, you would be asexual by definition and also sounds like you would be aromatic too ❤️ and im sorry about what happened to you ☹️ I hope your doing okay now
Yes, you would be asexual by definition and also sounds like you would be aromatic too ❤️ and im sorry about what happened to you ☹️ I hope your doing okay now
take your time, sexuality is a journey for everyone and if you feel that in this moment that the "asexuality" label fits for you in this moment, use it. If later on it changes, that's fine too. Sexuality is fluid. And you are valid in every which way.
Me, who is currently thinking that I might be asexual: I have finally found the holy grail! Edit: I woke up to all this love and support, tysm! You are all lovely
same when i was in middle school, I'm honestly confused about my sexuality so i often labeled myself that time as asexual because I'm not that girly or boyish and not into some intimate romantic stuffs just like that, but now i knew to myself that I'm actually straight lol
Finally, a video about my sexual orientation. I used to think that I was a straight girl who just didn't find the right guy, but I knew for a fact that I was disgusted by sex. The very idea of being naked and exchanging body fluids with someone grosses me out, not to mention it puts me at risk of STDs and pregnancy. There are people I find good-looking, but never have I wanted to have sex with anyone. I used to have a crush on someone in high school, but it never progressed to anything more. And honestly, I'm way over it now. I want people in my life, but even if I were to get into a romantic relationship with a guy, I don't want any sex. Sex is hugely overrated, and I feel like society is too sexualized.
I feel the same way. But I admit my body sometimes feels urges, and I feel like I see someone attractive - male or female - and I want to go up and hug and kiss them. I don't know if that boots me out of the "Ace" category, but I know I wouldn't really want to have sex. I'm frankly disgusted by sex too.
Never had this happen when offered sex ( I'm saying that like I actually have ) but have got called Gay alot for not wanting a Romantic Relationship. The Sexual Attraction part is my choice but the Romantic Relationship bit was just something I am scared to take part in from past experiences ( Not including actual relationship experiences just experiences with people who have had relationships)
@@YouHaveAnApeHead what about friendship? Sometimes friendship is the best form of relationship...for some people that is. I never have gotten called gay for not wanting a romantic relationship before but that is both quite interesting and disheartening that people try to sum up such complex feelings in a rather insensitive way
My friends and I were talking about hot celebrities yesterday and our conversation went something like this. Friend 1: Ariana Grande is super hot. Friend 2: Adam Driver though. (Everyone looks at me) (Me: quick! Think of something!) Me, an asexual: You know what else is hot? Tomato sauce. (Me: Mentally facepalms) My friend who knows: (high fives me) Everyone else: wtf?
This just made me realise why I've never had sexual attraction to someone I think I'm asexual thanks 😄 Edit:I didn't know so many people where like me it's reassuring to me that I'm not the only person like us
As an asexual who doesn't personally know any other ace people, seeing any sort of representation or explanations like this around online media is always so heartwarming to me! Thank you for such a great video Psych2Go! 🖤🤍💜
When I was younger, I had crushes. However, looking back at it, it might be more of a admiration. Ever since I graduated high school (( I'm 22. graduated 4 years ago)) I never had a crush since. However, even when I had a crush, I still felt extremely uncomfortable. When a guy texted me implying a sex joke towards me, I didn't like it. I was so uncomfortable Ever since than, I been meh about sex. I honestly don't care about it. I don't have a sex drive. I consider myself asexual and Biromantic
Ooh I’m also asexual but I’m wondering if I might be biromantic. It feels so much more difficult to figure out if I’m biromantic since it often times seems to translate to bisexual… except I’m asexual. How did you know? Any tips for someone trying to figure it out?
“More of an admiration” is the best thing ive heard all day. Thank you for saying this, its like a lightbulb moment for me. I have a crush but i constantly find myself “glazing” this person, like talking about al the cool things they do and calling them the “g.o.a.t.” in my head. Every time i see this person i imaging them having a fan base and imagine like hundreds of people glazing them. So it’s like i like them because i admire them. I like this person in the same way i like my favorite artist. Anyways thanks again for writing this it really resonated with me.
Just a reminder you don't have to decide on a sexuality right away. I feel like people are being told to define themselves too early, but you can wait. Now, I spent a good chunk of my life waiting for sexual attraction to kick in, thinking that I just wasn't done with puberty yet, but after awhile, I figured I might just not get it. I know a lot of other Asexuals don't like being told that they'll change their minds, but if I get into a relationship and turn out to be Demi, I'd be fine with that
Honestly, I've been trying to figure out my sexuality and, It's really confusing🤦🏻♀️ I kind of identify as bisexual but I'm not even sure if I'm bisexual or not, and I don't know how to know. I don't know I can think a girl is pretty just like I can think a boy is pretty, but everyone can think someone is pretty, regardless of their gender or sexuality, so it doesn't define my sexuality, and if I'm demisexual or asexual I will not, or barely have any sexual attraction so it'll be even harder to find out my sexuality, aaaargh idk if you watch anime/read mangas, or My Hero Academia in particular, but I feel like Izuku, he's always thinking too much and that's what I'm doing. I just need to relax and don't care, I'll probably find out one day so it doesn't matter right now, but I wanna know sooo bad. Sorry for writing all of that-
@@denkikaminari1268 Oh God, that's too stressful. You know what, just a friendly advice. Life is too short to be thinking about what's your sexuality. Live your life to the fullest. Identifying one's sexuality for me is the least concern in living my life. I'll cross the bridge when I get there.
@@josephine1465 Yeah, you're right I really should just like wait and see, or never know but just be with who I want to be without stressing😅 one life after all, so I shouldn't worry😌
I wish we could live in a world, where people don't have to stress about who they are, and how they define themselves. You know what I mean? If you meet some people along your way and suddenly you feel something for them, you shouldn't worry about "oh, so now I'm attracted to this one, when three months ago I was with that one. Am I suddenly bi?". I know that's an utopian idea, but people should be with people who make them feel good, without having to explain themselves to others.
@@suonatar1 Yes, labels are annoying yet I still want labels. Our society is too annoying, there are too much unnecessary rules we need to follow, I just feel trapped. Labels are part of what makes society so stressfull, but I can't say I don't want a label. I tried not to care but I can't help myself, I want to define who I am even if because of that I don't feel free. It's just...ughhhhhh I don't want to care anymore. I don't need labels to be happy.
Sum: 1. Lack of sexual attraction 1:04 2. Asexuals could crave relationships just without the sexual element 1:41 3. Get over crushes easily 2:16 4. Not having celebrity crushes 2:38 5. Some asexuals may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances 3:06 6. Sex depends 3:38 Done
Same and I'm not asexual, if anything I'm the opposite. I've always thought it's both stupid and illogical to have feelings for someone you've never met and will likely never meet, let alone enter a relationship with especially with the heavy competition. The rational part of my brain would never allow it
I feel like I'm either asexual or demisexual. I never understood why people feel like sexual desire is a must-do thing in any relationship. I still would want to have children, but only with someone I can trust and feel comfortable with. I always thought that when 2 people date (regardless of their gender) they only experience do romantic things as a younger person.
wait people feel sexual attractions towards people? i only feel like aesthetic attractions, platonic, or sensual like hugging and stuff iv never felt anything sexual lol.
any form of sexual relationship or act makes me feel so uncomfortable and sick. I dont even know why. it just makes me feel gross all over and it is the worst feeling ever, its worse seeing that all my friends talk about is sex. i just sit there all awkward and they call me weird for not liking it, or "uptight"
I’m 23 and my extreme religious parents always tell me, an asexual/aromantic, “Oh I KNOW you’ll find a nice husband someday. Don’t waste your 20s” and it makes me want to scream. Edit: 25 and still feel the same exact way 🙃
@Shōto I feel that. I’m asexual/aromantic but I’m more gay than not. My whole family calls homosexuality shameful. I’m almost glad I’m aromantic so I don’t have to get into all the mess 🙄 but I’m trying to stand up for our rights though, absolutely.
It's a really hard thing to try to navigate, but it's best to be open and honest with potential partners about your limits. Some ace people can have, and seek out sex, and some don't ever want to do it. If you're online dating mention it in your profile. There are a lot of people you'll meet that aren't ace but have a very low libido, so you'll definitely find someone to share your life with. It might be a little harder to seek out those relationships but it's absolutely not impossible
Me too, it’s the main reason I chose to be single for a long time. But, there will always be people that would understand if we openly communicate about these things. 😊💜🖤
I am 25 and I have had sex in my prior relationships, however, ive only recently spoke to a close friend about how I always thought that sexuality was something that my partners expected of me and felt like if i did not serve them what they find so important, theyd become upset or angry or judging with me and leave me, so I kind of forced myself into all kinds of things that at best, meant nothing to me and made me feel nothing and at worst, felt awful and/or painful just so that the other person was satisfied with me because I had built my self worth and value purely on doing what the person i feel emotionally close to wants me to, or enduring what they want even if i do not. Most of this is connected to my psychological way of how i treat others and let myself be treated and the whole system of 'If i dont want it but you do, its real, worthy and important and if i want it but you dont, its not and should be forgotten about' or rather sacrifice and submission to an unfair and inbalanced extreme of letting my emotions, thoughts, sensations, vulnerabilities and borders be overstepped, neglected and hurt in the process is something that has nothing to do with my gender identity or sexuality, but affected those in a way where I completely ignored what i felt and wanted, in these sections of myself, too. So I just recently came to the realisation of how my experiences about sexual and romantic attraction, desires and satisfaction are so absolutely different from most people that i know nowadays, in my altered state of mind, where my own experiences matter and i ve started building a connection to my feelings. Very suddenly, i came to the personal conclusion that, not only do i find a different type of gender romantically interesting than those that i had been with thoughout my life, but also that i have no interest in sharing sexuality with anyone, not even my closest romantic partners. Its not that I absolutely dislike the idea and practisation of it, which was the main reason for why i thought that i 'am' far from asexuality. (I had very open and diverse friendships across all the years but never actually second guessed myself about the topics i knew and accepted from close ones). Then recently i heard for the first time that if I do not like and do not want to share anything sexual with someone and that it gets me upset when they do, that that is something that important and worthy to think about, and that, even when I 'can be okay with it for the sake of harmony' its 'counting' as difference between the wants of me and the partners i had, which would continue to have me force myself to something i feel uncomfortable with, unless i start respecting what i feel like. I have this one really great friend, who keeps empowering me to atleast try myself out with other types of gender than what i am used to, but to also start geetting friends with the thought that itll feel the same-ish way of 'i guess ill hold still until youre done and happy' and that in that case, i should NOT continue like that but search someone who can understand me. Ive always been inclusive and acceptant of my surroundings individualities, and i am thriving and happy that finally, i am starting to treat myself the same way. It felt like quite a shock when this friend of mine answered to me explaining how physical intimacy on a sexual level makes me feel with 'Its not supposed to be that way. Theres something off about what you feel and what you do, theres a dissonance inbetween which not natural and not healthy, please start thinking about this whole topic, for the love of yourself.' And I am trying my best to get to know myself. So yeah, thank you kind stranger, for reading through this, I just had to get this off my chest because there are very few people that I can talk to and even less that i actually do, and have a nice day wherever you are. And remember to be gentle, compassionate, and caring with yourself.
Thank you for this….. I really appreciate you sharing. :) Good luck working through this……but know you have friends here. This really spoke to me and I felt, truthfully, seen and appreciated. I’m not trying to take away your experience, I am only grateful to you that you put this into words. So thank you, kind stranger. Have a wonderful day! :)
PWell, can you'll asexuals help me in this situation : I love my girlfriend a lot, she's asexual, but it I like sex a lot 😅 i mean a lot..... I don't want to breakup with her because it'll crush her heart, she'll cry alot & I don't want to give her this lvl of pain nor do I have the courage to this 🥺....... I am really really confused please help me
I always thought I was just weird for not wanting to wear revealing clothing and for being 22 and never dated before. I've always wanted a romantic relationship, but it always seems like every relationship has to lead to sex and that makes me nervous.
You are not weird for that. I'm the same way with the clothing. Not all relationships lead to sex and they can never lead there if you are honest and forthcoming in the beginning. If they can't accept that, they are not worth it. If they are, great.
i know. its interesting how a relationship starts out as strangers and then the romantic stuff and then when it stays romantic and nothing more people suddenly can’t be in it anymore
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This is to ALL non ace people: Yes, there are cases where someone assumed they are ace, tho then meet someone and figure out they’re actually demi, but it is NOT the main case. Saying “you haven’t met the right one yet” is very rude and invalidating. Do not say it to anyone referring themselves to be ace, not every ace person will get into a relationship. -coming from the girlfriend of an ace/demi person :)
I’ve met some people who’ve said “Maybe you’ll find someone who makes you feel different or maybe not, doesn’t matter as long as you’re happy” and I think that’s one of the better ways to comment on asexuality.
Can’t agree anymore ! I’ve heard many times “ maybe you haven’t met the right one yet “ , that made me feel “ do you mean I’m robot that had no romantic feelings ?” Even few more rude to just judge me “ you need to give it a try ( means have sex ) otherwise you would not know fit or not “ they way that they don’t believe ace’ exist were very disrespectful
@Julia-py9mk I agree One of my best friends wants me to get in a relationship and get a girl but understands asexuality and respects it He will ask me questions if there is something about ace that he doesn't understand
Yes! So many people think that it means to have to attraction towards anyone. It’s really frustrating when those people try and argue with someone who’s ace about asexuality.
@@madagascarpenguin I hate it when people assume my sexuality even after I tell them and explain it to them and evening as far as tell them that I’m not interested in a sexual relationship with women or anyone for that matter.
@@exxiyya4855 It’s ok to be confused about your sexuality for a long time, it took me a long time before I figured out that I was asexual myself you don’t need to figure it out right away. You should be proud of your sexuality and don’t let anyone tell you that it’s not valid because they’re wrong.
Thanks for this. There's this girl that I feel strongly for, and she is asexual. For the longest time I've felt that I needed sexual intimacy with a partner, but not so with her. I'm trying the hardest I ever have with a girl to understand her, and I hope we can make something work. Thanks for the video!
As an Asexual individual, I do my understand how somebody else can look at somebody and go, “ Theyre so hot/pretty I want to date him/her/them” Whilst I am in the corner having crushes on people who I trust and who are nice to me. ;w;
【 Mochie Birb】 I might be guessing, but grats on being Demiromantic Asexual, they’re lucky to have you crushing on them; being A-spec goes to show that you aren’t going for them because of their body
As a heterosexual individual i can, but i do not really like it either. I just accepted the fact, that people are and will always be imperfect and ugly in a way. And going for some people only based on their looks is not the way. Thats just my opinion tho. At least its not a good way for a stable and long prospering relationship.
I'm gay, but I actually see myself in few parts of this (getting over crushes fast, not really needing sex and I lean on more on the romantic side of relationship) but it might be bcs of my last relationship that kinda drained me, bcs before it I was more sexual and looked at men more, now I don't really do. I might swing a bit demisexual but I dunno, I don't really feel the need to be in a relationship really (I'm more into career) but I still look at anime men at least I guess Anyways, asexuals are valid, wish yall great day if you've read my rambling here lol
There's also this thing where when you're young you are very sexually active or at least sexually atracted, but as life goes there comes a period of life when you calm down, those feelings die down a bit and you focus on more important things.
Even though I’m not ace, I’m rather mad at the fact that people are basically saying that being ace is being uninterested in relationships in general. They’re basically saying that asexuals are both asexual and aromantic. Just because someone is asexual, doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be in a relationship!
i think there is a big conflikt with it. if you have a Ace + not Ace relationship the not asexual partner will suffer from hormones. depends on how much libido he has its faster or slower. My ex girlfriend lost her Libido to medical condictions and i try to be a good partner, but it goes so worse that i get migrane over the urges to make love with her, becurse it stressed me so much. She loved to kuddle but after like 10 min my hormones overhelmd me and i have to stop or i endet that it switched from happy to actual harm...
@@Barlmoro As I understand it, in an ace + not ace relationship, just like *any* relationship, the key is communication. Partners should talk to one another about what they need, and what they're comfortable with. Having a lower libido due to medication is not the same as being asexual- so I'm going to say, you should talk with your partner about if they'd be comfortable going to the shop and buying some sexual aids. I absolutely loathe that ace people are always expected to be the ones "compromising" here, for the "health" of their partners however.
@@Nothingtea i talked with my ex about it and all was blocked from her side. she even refuse to talk to her doctor about the problem. i think in her world it was not a problem and dosn´t understand my suffer.
Crying over here… I was unsure if I might be asexual or not - watching this and reading some of the comments and OMG I have never felt so validated in all my life, not a doubt in my mind now that I I know I’m asexual (possibly demisexual) have had so many men try to “fix” me over the years, now I know I’m not broken, I just have an orientation 🥰
I'm assuming your gender here,if I'm wrong and this doesn't apply to you, I sincerely apologize. As a female asexual, I really think it can be much more difficult for females to figure out that we're asexual because society assigns so many more complex purposes and meanings to the female sexual experience. For men, its just "I wanna get off." For women, you're supposed to put out to please others, because you owe it to your man, if you don't he will get it somewhere else..... sometimes even just a man being sexually intetested in you can feel like an obligation. It's really hard to dig through all that to unearth your own libido, and even more confusing to discover that your libido isn't necessarily triggered by others.
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Don't worry, I don't really understand it either! x'D It seems really weird to me that people look at each other and go "wow they are physically attractive so i want our genitals to touch" or at least that's what it seems like to me, lmao. But there are tons of things that some people like, that others don't! Some people honestly don't like chocolate, and I can never understand that either. But, a lot of people really like coffee and don't understand how I can hate it! So, I think it's perfectly human to not understand things that you don't experience! =)
I've never enjoyed sex. I've never wanted sex. But it always seems the world forces it into my lap (no pun intended) and I always feel really uncomfortable. I want a romantic relationship, I want to feel close to someone, I want to love, but I don't want sex. I've never found a partner who understands this and I always have to have "the sex" to keep the relationship going. I've tried being single and I find it desperately lonely. So I seek a female companion, then she wants sex, I get uncomfortable and we break up. It's a recurring cycle that I don't think I'll soon break.
Someone recently asked me why I'm so awkward in talks about sex and i just replied with "i dont see the desire for it" and after that my best friend asked if ive ever heard of asexulality and that lead me here and i swear every point you made relates to me and i now beleve im demi asexual
Omg I told my mom I wont date anyone bc im aro ace and she started yelling at me abt how being lgbt makes you sick in the mind Plot twist Lgbt doesn’t make you sick in the mind
Or this: Parents: Dont have Sex Me: thats okay, i dont like such Kind of things Dad: Didnt say anything, because he loves me. For him, it doesnt make a difference, who i love and how. The main thing is that I'm fine. Mom: the time will come. Me: Im 22. i had experiences. I KNOW WHAT I WANT
One of the most awkward situation is when friends who don't know I'm asexual send me memes with sexual context and i need to : "haha that's funny" ,(internal screaming and confusion)
Omfg, I’ve been so confused for so long. I think I’m asexual. I never felt straight or gay, or even bi. But this makes sense!!! I haven’t been this happy in so long.
@@imagi-nation8013 while asexuals dont feel sexual attraction, aros dont feel romantic. aro ace would be someone who doesnt experience either of these. Again, theres a spectrum, thats just the short description.
@@PhoenixRedtail thank you have misunderstood it all this while,I thought aro-ace meant ace people who feel romantic attraction to people of the same sex
Imagi- nation all good! At least you’re not like most people who think all aces are aro too and vice versa. Some are one of these, some are both, they are all valid! :)
I’ve been out as asexual for a while now, but seeing more and more people talk about it and explain it is really freaking awesome... I’m constantly having to explain what it means :) so something like this is really amazing
I've had people ask me if I've talked to a therapist and it might help 😑 Like its some type psychological disorder 🙄 Haha I just keep on living my best life and doing well thanks!
to this day,i still dont understand how ppl can get attracted to someone without getting to know them first. i never understood their memes and jokes and i feel like an outcast. then i get made fun of for having a different opinion from them
It's called instinct Don't let those ppl bother you. Someday you'll find people who will accept and love the way you are. The key is to keep being open for others, even if most of them won't understand or will make fun of you. Thats the only way you can find those real friends. Sry for my english if i fked up somewhere, its my second language.
Hey, you might wanna look that up, it's called demisexuality. I expirience the same, it CAN NOT for the life of me be attracted to anyone before getting to know them and forming a connection. It's an ace spec sexuality.
Well if you get made fun of then screw them because EVERYONE on this planet is different from one another. You do not have to understand that and they don't have to understand you. But it isn't your job to make them understand and vice versa. We are all unique and different individuals with all different types of opinions and outlooks. This is perfectly normal and okay. All of us are valid in our own ways. Just because someone doesn't understand someone else regardless of who it is, doesn't make the person any less valid. Just difference of opinion is all. I love how unique people can be when it comes to individual expression. It makes the world beautiful. Sadly some people haven't figured out how to make peace with difference of opinion and construct or overall structure. Some peoppe have a mindset that if you don't agree with them then that means you must hate them or that you're less valid them then or "wrong" because peoppe are generally attracted to "norms" and if anything in their own world falls outside of that order they've set up for themselves mentally, it disturbs their world. But more people need to learn how to let go of that and let change be change and let difference of opinion, be what it is.
it will sound weird, but i have never felt more identified with a sexual orientation as in this. i genuinely thought i was just weird. i would have never known it, it never crossed my mind. and it makes me feel worried about the information not being spread enough, because i would really love to see those people who are struggling to feel good in their own skin know that they’re valid, and not alone. just that.
Not weird, I would have found it weirder if no one went through a “What am I?” Stage, though not being concern about yourself in those areas is also natural. Many sexualities and romance interests have fallen under A-spec, so I’m glad that having more access to this information has given you enough confidence to consider yourself Valid (you are!). The more I read about these sorts of comments the more I feel bad for those who are experiencing what you two have, but then I realized I don’t have to since they’ll eventually discover how much of an Ace they are and reevaluate themselves appropriately
really helpful actually ngl. friends told me to do my own research and wel now that i see this it's really assuring and helpful for growing up as a teen and trying to figure out where the heck i stand on orientation sexually and romanticly. i think i know where i am now and who i am now. thx so much!
I don't usually comment because I never find the right words to thank the whole Psycho2Go team for all their work but this time I really want to thank you. I am a demisexual and asexual girl and I am in a relationship with a guy who accepts me and with whom I always watch your videos, as we both find them really relaxing and useful. And well, now many people will have a clearer idea of who we are and I would really like to say thank you for everything. Keep it up! We always love you!
seeing all these fellow ace people in the comments talking about having nice boyfriends gives me hope lol because I was worried about never being able to find a dude who accepts that (since I'm a female heteromantic asexual)
Don't worry! There's always a chance for us asexuals too: just not having an interest in "that" doesn't mean nobody will ever want us as their partner. I am sure that one day you will meet a good person who will know how to accept you and with whom you can be fully yourself. Good luck! ✨
A few years ago when I'd look up "asexuality" on UA-cam I wouldn't find any videos at all. But lately I've been seeing a lot of different people talking about it and shedding light on this rare sexuality. Thank you so much for making this video because it makes us feel valid
I've been thinking hard about my own identity for a while. At first I thought I was bisexual, but now I'm starting to think I may be ace. Your voice is very soothing, and this video has given me some clarity on things. Thanks for making this, truly.
As an asexual biromantic, I appreciate this so much. Unfortunately, some people don’t really understand what it means to be ace, and this does a great job of explaining it
@@hungrycharmy3876 That’s okay! It’s totally valid to be confused, you don’t have to figure things out yet! Just take your time and enjoy exploring yourself 💕
Well,I also don't understand how it works.But I know it works for other people somehow..I'm actually a fan of some celebrities and I'm never attracted to them in a sexual way,but I've seen their other fans thirsting over them and finding them sexually appealing when they show their abs and them sweating after their performance or practice is filmed.The fans says they look sexy that way and honestly I don't really know what sexyness is,so yeah! I definitely can't relate to that and it confuses the hell out of me
For me, learning there was a difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction is what helped me to realize I was a flavor of asexual... well into my 30s. Also, fun fact, swingers are apparently super respectful to asexuals as well and it has to do with the black ring. Apparently swingers will wear a black ring on one of their fingers on their right hand to show they're into the lifestyle, and asexuals will often wear a black ring on their right middle finger. I guess it led to some confusion when swingers would approach an ace, so swingers are like "Try not to wear a black ring on your middle finger, that's for the asexuals." Really cool of them.
I knew a few people that I told that I was Asexual, that said “Then why are you dating _______???” To be CLEAR, idk why people think relationships must have sexual attractions, he’s uncomfortable with talking about that general topic, so it’s difficult to question about his sexuality. People keep asking “Have you guys done stuff like that?” Or “Have you guys sent nudes?” Like, why would you AUTOMATICALLY assume that, besides we’re still young and about to graduate middle school, people do and talk about that stuff too early. Can’t I focus on an innocent and affectionate relationship without having to think about that? I want to know if my first lover is the one for me, I’ve never been so close to anyone before and I’m not ruining it because of other people. Of course if he wanted to, in the future I wouldn’t mind a family, but why think about that now while we’re young? I say this a lot when commenting on their videos but, if you read this all, thanks for listening to my rambling, I get a little too personal sometimes, but it’s nice to vent where people will understand :)
I would probably throw the reply back "Why are you dating if you already got laid? Didn't it serve it's purpose". Then when they give the whole "but I like so and so" just be like, "there's the answer."
So let me get this straight. Our society has become so sex-obsessed, that anyone who has more emotional/romantical/other expectations from a relationship is considered asexual? That just confirms, that I've been asexual my whole life.
Me: *asexual* My friend: hey.. i think i'm asexual- Me: OMG YAY CONGRATS ON COMING OUTTTT SISSS my friend: - and aromantic- Me: oH okayyy thats fineee sisssss ♡♡ She was soo scared of coming outtt but she will 4ever be my frienddddd
@@a-disaster5285 yeah we’re all graduating from my school this year so we probably won’t see each other again. i’m also fairly sure that if my mom finds out that any of my friends invalidate me shell skin them alive
Watching this when questioning, ace-questioning, and finally ace has been very interesting. I really like coming back to Psych2Go videos from early in questioning and seeing how much more I understand now! To anyone who is ace-questioning, or questioning in general, I hope you figure yourself out and are surrounded by supportive people. I'm going to be cliche just this once, but take your time, you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Same. And it might be because I’m young, but I’ve never really felt the need for sex. Honestly being in a cute relationship instead of a lustful relationship sounds better if I had to pick one.
A friend from middle school suffered for so many years because she didn’t understand herself, she finally learned in college from a professor who mentored her. I’m so glad she’s happy and content now, great video to explain more. I’d never connected the dots of my sexual attraction only with someone I’ve closely bonded with on a spiritual and emotional level, interesting!
I’ve been through a lot of trauma and it made me view sex as something that was vile, disgusting and evil, but I realized years later that’s not always the case. I slowly started correcting my way of thinking everytime I cringed at anything that could be considered sexual, instead telling myself that the majority of people don’t think and feel the way I do, and that there are still good people out there who can have good experiences with someone they love. I started writing short romance stories with sex scenes that always involve consent, communication and love between the couples. My bestfriends read them and always tell me how much they enjoy the aftercare and the love shown between the characters. It’s helped me immensely with becoming more comfortable with the thought of sex. While I still can’t picture myself with anyone, now I can at least say I view it as something that’s natural and human. 💜
Well, can you'll asexuals help me in this situation : I love my girlfriend a lot, she's asexual, but it I like sex a lot 😅 i mean a lot..... I don't want to breakup with her because it'll crush her heart, she'll cry alot & I don't want to give her this lvl of pain nor do I have the courage to this 🥺....... I am really really confused please help me BTW from where I can read your stories ?????
@@manishkumarpandey9702 That is really difficult... A relationship is about making sacrifices, but people also have boundaries. Not every Ace dislikes Sex and can find enjoyment in it, others might feel repulsed of the thought. So first of all, talk about your feelings and desires and ask her about her boundaries. You shouldn't convince her to "try it" or something like that... If she doesn't want to have intercourse, there is no changing her mind. If this is something you can't accept, because it is also valid how you feel, you probably won't be able to find common ground... So think about if this is the kind of relationship you want. Important is talking about everything and respecting each others wishes. I hope that helped a little bit, and good luck :)
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yes i will do! ^w^
thank uuu
Wow, that's cool, I'll definitely check it out!
Also I think your talking more about aromatic at some points
I feel like I'm lesbian but I don't know, so can you do a lesbian version?
As an ace and an artist, i relate to the aesthetic attraction. Some people think i’m weird when I say i like admiring bodies, but I just see them in an artistic way, I just see them as if they were renaissance paintings, and I think there’s nothing wrong with that.
I think of it like this: I really really hate high heels, but can I tell if a pair of high heels looks good or not? Yes, I can. I use this a lot when explaining aesthetic attraction as it is easy for people to understand. You can still admire someone with feeling the need to be with them :)
For me it’s like, this person looks good maybe I could get to know them better so that we can be friends :D
Friend : have you seen that @ss ?? :D
Me : sorry, I'm not interested
_take a look_
Nice body shape, maybe a bit to triangualar ?
But have you seen those mountains ??
The shape, the color, the sunlight and the clouds, everything's perfect !!
Friend : what ?
I like admiring bodies too, they're just amazing, and really interesting to draw. Since I started drawing, I see everything in an amazing artistic way, and I love it !
@@Nokyyyyy This is me😂😂
im a straight person who is trying to understand asexuality because my best friend told me she was asexual yesterday, im so proud of her for trusting me!
It warms my heart seeing comments like yours
So most people aren't like this?
@@Madmonkeman im not sure, she said when she told her cousins they hated her. all im saying is i support her.
@@Madmonkeman no, unfortunately most people aren't like this. I often hear comments like "you will grow out of it" or "you haven't met the right person yet" or people just straight up laughing at my face
as an asexual myself, I can imagine that this means the world to her
I hate it when I say "This celebrity is so handsome!" and people immediately go "How can you be asexual then?" like 😭 I'm asexual, not blind
Right, they fr think that we’re blind. They act like we don’t know when someone looks pretty😭
@@nkko9822 true
fr tho it be annoying
Aesthetic attraction: AM I A JOKE TO YOU
Ik this question might be dumb or weird but, do you like body parts?
I am an asexual, and the amount of times I’ve considered going to law school just so I could call myself the Ace Attorney is astronomical.
Best thing i have read all week. Thank you.
Do it
Omg genius
What are you waiting for ?
that’s it I’m gonna be a lawyer.
I am Asexual. I hate when people say things like “You just haven’t found the right person!” That happens to me all the time. No this isn’t a phase, its not that i haven’t found the right person. I just do not feel that kind of attraction.
HOLY F*CK YES!!! SAME!!!! My God XD I just realized that I was asexual a few days ago and my mom said "but didn't you have a crush on a girl before? You haven't found the right person I guess." And yes I did but that was years ago and I realized I wasn't really in love. I just wanted to be with someone. But yeah I get what you're saying! Finally someone who relates!
😂Hahaha lol my friends tells me that too hahaha shit am just not into sex I just want to love and be loved but I still didn't really like anyone for 3 years lol😂
i would say “would you fuck this cow?? no???? you just havent found thr right cow yet!
@@ooblecklover that is the best response i have ever heard in my life.
Tell me about it 🤦♀️ definitely annoying
also, normalize men being asexual‼️ men can be ace as not all men are sex crazy; ive been told so many times that it’s hard or unlikely i’m just bc i’m a guy.
@@ThornyRoseV It is normal. A lot of animals have sex just to produce an offspring, not for pleasure.
you my dude, are valid as hell. enjoy your day! ace men are valid!
@@ThornyRoseV it is, many eucariotic beings have those kinds of sexualities.
Oh my god, I can't believe how alone I felt when I found out every man in my school just wants to have sex, and not wanting sex is more of a feminine thing, it's really isolating
Andrey P I’m an ace girl, and even then I found out very stressful that I was the only one in my class who seemingly didn’t want to be touched by anyone, I can’t imagine how hard it must be for guys. I hope things are better now and you’re finding more validation!
Me, who already knows I'm asexual but just wants to see my sexuality being talked about: **clickity clickity**
Haha same
Yessss
SAME
SAMEEE
Me too lol
I'm a guy who has:
- 0 interest in sex, in fact I dread the idea of having sex
- No physical/emotional attraction to girls or guys at all
- Never had a single crush on someone in my entire life (20 YEARS OLD I SHOULD ADD)
...Yet my friend still tells me "You just need to find the right person"ಠ_ಠ
That's rough buddy...
Actually I'm aro ace, also 19 years old and everything you said goes for me too, unfortunately including the friend that tells me "maybe you'll eventually change your mind" so yeah, I get it xd
Same My Friends Always be Like 'Ew Don't waste Your Life in These weird Phases'¯\_ಠ_ಠ_/¯But I am Happy That My Family Understands and Supports me :)
Same here
Bro!!! You're aroace??? :D
@@Sarah.R.Rabbit maybe I guess
i HATE this oversexualized world who everyone think sex is love and sex is the only thing important to life and relationships...
If sex without love is possible, why not love without sex can be possible, right? 😉
@@JackdawLT yess
@@JackdawLT of course but horny peeps will never understand it...
Yeeeeaaaah
@@JackdawLT haha you are right xD
As an asexual I laughed when I saw the “no celebrity crushes” bc the only people I have ever had a real crush on are fictional characters.
Thanks for sharing! Which fictional characters? :)
lol same
Me too lol (not fictional characters, but celebrities)
I used to have a crush on Zuko from avatar the last Airbender lol
But yeah I also never had a celebrity crush, I had a select few who I thought were generally attractive but thats it
😳 People are attracted to celebrities...sexually? I thought they just liked their mannerisms or just how they looked
I didn't know that either
Same...
Same! That’s kind of weird if you ask me.
Same here, didn't know that.
Same
It feels incredibly liberating knowing there's a label out there for people just like me. Not wanting to have sex doesn't make you evil or heartless, we are very much loveable and a sexual relationship isn't necessary to feel fulfilled in life.
This
I couldn't imagine being asexual. It sounds so depressing. No offense
@@MegaDudeman21 I couldn't imagine having sex 🤢🤮
@@darkfyre1618 it’s like the best thing though. I feel bad for you
@@MegaDudeman21Best thing" is subjective. It may be the best thing for you but that's not the case for everyone.
You will look back on your comment with deep embarrassment when asexuality becomes a mainstream identity.
As an ace I still can't believe some crushes are because of sexual attraction, not romantic. How???
Yeah I also never really understood that. Also with celebrity crushes like wtf
Same. I'm so confused lol.
@@evva3_
Fr. Like one time my sister showed me a few pics of guys and she asked me what I thought I was like: They’re cool. I didn’t want to say whether or not they were beautiful, or handsome or whatever because people seem to think you like like them. Unless they’re the same gender as you.
Same
You can not choose who you're attracted to and what kind of attraction that is!! we didn't choose to be asexual, they don't choose that either.
My boyfriend is asexual, so, this helped me to understand their way of seeing/feeling things, thanks you so much!
that so niceee uwu
@@dudsblue3052 asexual is sexual attraction, aromantic is romantic attraction. i think your mixed up :)
@@dudsblue3052
Asexuals can still experience romantic and aesthetic attraction, so it's entirely possible for them to have an ace boyfriend.
DUDS Blue asexual normally just means they don’t like sexual relationships and usually have romantic relationships instead ^w^
@@dudsblue3052 did you not watch the video?
My friends: talking about how hot their crushes are
Me: ah yes... *cake*
*C a k e*
G a r l i c B r e a d
The only thing I find hot is hot pepper 🥵
Cookie cake, King cake, rainbow cake, and chocolate cake 🤤
Ice cream cake😯
I’m a 55 year old asexual female. I have lots of friends. I’ve always lived alone. I don’t feel lonely, and I don’t want a relationship. I went through a period of extreme anger as a teenager and 20-something because I did not understand why people were sexual. I did not even know there was a word for what I am. I just thought everyone was crossing the line to the “bad” side. It wasn’t until I was in my early 30s that I heard the word asexual. I still find it hard to believe there really ARE other asexuals. Any virgin asexuals like me? I wonder. :)
since you don't want a relationship, you might be aromantic as well(AKA no romantic attraction)
Yes. I am right here. The weird thing is being an asexual, I only like romantic movies, can't stand action, drug , serial killer stuff. But again in the romantic genre , I love the ones without any intimate or kiss scenes. I absolutely hate such scenes.
I'm a 22 Year old FTM Vigrin Ace! hello! :D
Well what is an asexual? Because I got confused. Like am I one and just didn't know?🤷 I want to have children some day so I just thought I was stray and I find women sexually attractive. But I mean I would be super unhappy if I had sex out side the context of a committed Marge because I'm really sorry I would get bonded to a woman if I had sex with her so I would be extremely upset if she left me. So does that make me demy sexual or something? Oh and for some reason people keep speculating or calling me gay because I don't have a girlfriend and am a virgin. But I know I'm not gay because I wouldn't like men romantically I only see them platonically.
@@cedricburkhart3738 You very well could be Demi...hm, people who are Ace/Demi can want children still (I don't) but that isn't rare or impossible. The only thing you can really do is just keep learning about the different sexualities and expressing yourself. Eventually you'll figure it out
Friends: talking about sexual encounters
Me: trying not to make a blank face
Us inside: :'|
Never thought I’d be this way but when it happened it reminded me of why I think I’m asexual.
How about ppl not understanding, because you are an "attractive" person 🙄
Or "you just haven't found THAT person yet" 😑
In drinking games I am always sober while everyone else it’s drowning on shots 😬😬
It’s ironic that your pfp is a blank face lol
*The worse thing is when you're parents don't understand this and thinks this is not normal. My parents will never understand :(*
I don't understand how they don't see it as normal. You lack sexual attraction; so what? It doesn't make you weird or anything
"You just haven't met a right person yet" and all this stuff, right? Be strong acebro(or acesis/acesib)💜
@@istan9682 im asexual too and my mom doesnt really get it but i gave up trying to explain because ive seen other people disagree that it's real
some people seem to think that having sexual attraction is a natural part of life and thus a lot of asexuals think theyre broken
but its perfectly normal to not have or have very little sexual attraction so regardless of whether or not people understand, you do you, yknow? :)
Not many parents do
@@whodis7372 my brothers asexual and says he's never going to marry anyone. I honestly wonder how my parents will react
i’m bi and ace and honestly all my celebrity “crushes” are just me being jealous of their style
High five
For me it's "imagine being friends with this person??"
Dude- 🤭
I used to be so jealous of Chase Atlantic xD
or just like “his/her/their mannerisms are fucking adorable” or just an aesthetic attraction🥺🥺🥺
Samee
Nobody’s going to see this because the video came out 2 years ago, but if anyone does, I saw this video about a year ago and it gave me a lightbulb moment where I realised I was ace. I had never even considered it before but now, about a year later, I’ve accepted myself and and so happy I’ve gotten to this place. I just want to thank Psych2Go for giving me the chance to understand myself.
After discovering the Ace&Aro spectrums I bring it up online regularly because it was an absolute 'light bulb moment' for both me and my partner. My partner is a more stereotypical Ace&Aro, whereas I land on multiple spots in both because how I feel toward presentation and gender varies, which is also why I lable as bi.
Oh, and it's the internet, age is relative for things like posts and vids, you never know how much something 'old' might mean to someone, or how likely it really is to be seen.
thats so awesome for you! :D
So cool \:D
I’m starting to question if I am ace
My whole family is a little, and my mum obsesses over it lol
Awesome
It's Julio 19th 2024 at 9:45 am. I got your comment and very happy for you that hun.❤
Me: Maybe I'm not ace. Maybe im overthinking myself.
First sign: lack of sexual attraction
Me: Nevermind.
Yep you might be asexual if you have low sexual attraction or none at all like me
LMAO I RELATE TO THIS SO HARD LMAOOOOO YES
Can you help me? I wonder if in asexual or just too young
I can relate this if any don't what the first sigh it January
And yes I never get crushes I am still my sexuality
@@jumpinthecadilac8388 I can help! I am a pre teen and I still know I’m ace. What do you need to ask?
Well I’m an older generation and back in my days of youth they used to call asexual a tease and look down at them. I’m glad to see things are changing and people are actually recognizing that it’s not all just about sex. 😊
In progress...
I love this wholesome comment!
Change is always there, even when it’s not as apparent as we’d like. Glad to see that there are somethings we’ve gotten right
A tease was a woman who dressed provocatively and flirted.
Me: [Googles asexuality]
Psych2Go, a few hours later:
What timing! lol
Omg me toooooo lol!
Bro same with me, I was searching about asexuality and then a few minutes later psych2go uploaded this video
🖤🤍💛💜- non-binary, asexual-
Google really got you
This video feels like a warm hug for me.
I feel like society puts so much pressure into sex when starting a relationship, when there's plenty of other things to look into when having a partner.
To know that I'm not alone in this is so comforting. I fall into the side of the spectrum that can enjoy kisses and cuddles but not the sex part.
I feel like us ace people get infantilization as well, I'm always told I should get used to sex because that's the world we live in, it's human nature and the typical "ugh, just grow up already!".
It makes me want to cry because it breaks me how messed up this world is, but thank you, just thank you for making me feel seen.
💜
as an asexual too, to be honest i feel like sex is just weird and ruins true meaningful relationships - like its probably the same for everyone, it doesnt go anywhere except apparently give people momentary enjoyment, so whats the point? if i did that with someone i wouldnt be able to look at them again, its just unnecessary. i think anyone who is asexual is most likely much more intelligent/cares about things in a deeper way because sexual attraction just seems like a halt. i think that the annoying way most peoples eyes light up when someone mentions sexual attraction is much, much more childish than thinking its unnecessary. sorry idk this reply is so random lol
@@AllytheGumby haha, no problem! It feels good to know I'm not the only one, thank you so much for your "so random reply" lol. You are full of sunshine💜
I have never related to someone more in my life
@@JahanaraBegum-gl1sf good to know that I have a community and i'm not a weirdo anymore! you guys are the sweetest!
typical female nature. stop getting into relationship. normal people need sex thats just how it is.
whats messed up is u getting full benefit of relationship while not offering the full course. asexual woman should not be in relationship.
My best description of aesthetic attraction is like this: how do you feel when you see a nice painting? Probably like “oh wow that’s a nice painting”. That’s how aesthetic attraction feels, except towards people.
I can kinda relate to this, i personally dont call people "ugly" or "beautiful", i look at their whole body (especially face cuz thats the part u see the most) and judge by the amount of unique traits they have, symmetry etc. Altho in discussions with normies i usually add "but society would probably call this person xyz"
I think of it like this: I really really hate high heels, but can I tell if a pair of high heels looks good or not? Yes, I can. I use this a lot when explaining aesthetic attraction as it is easy for people to understand. You can still admire someone with feeling the need to be with them.
o m g thanks for saying that :D
I do see people like that-
I mean I never call people ugly or beautiful (other than myself, I'm kinda ugly but it's because I'm trans :/)
so yeah I don't think woah that person be lookin' good tho, I'm just like :0 cool clothing and soft hair and yeah I like personalities :D
It’s kinda like that for me....
@@huesofkai That’s a really good analogy
I'm 23 and never had an affair in my life. My friends says I'm missing out the good part. They laugh when I say I don't want to have sex ever in my life. I'm happy that there's some positive content about people like me.
Just to let you know, "affair" doesn't mean sex in general, it specifically means sex with someone who's married to someone else
Yeah I understand
Right there with you!
Isn't it safe to not have sex? I don't understand why they're so proud of having sex especially having it before marriage. When they got pregnant, some of the partner don't want to be responsible for it..
@@hoseokhakyeon ikr !
I never felt sexually attracted to any of my crushes. I just want to hang out with them, go to the cinema, walk hand in hand, play some games, and have a deep friendship. By this video I think I like platonic and romantic relationships more than a relationship based on sex alone.
Exactlyyy
Yes same here
So do I, but that´s the reason why all of them broke up with me :´3
@@alexaislas961 same xD i dont get why so many see sex as a must have or at least why they dont understand that you very well can have a relationship without it and be happy, i myself a romantic typ of guy with some platonic mixed in, if that makes any sens, i would like just to hang out chil together ya know walking hand in hand some cuddeling and kissing and thats it but yeah we always are the weird ppl
I had sexual attraction to every crush I had, beside romantic feelings and wanting to hang out, but I never tried to pursue a relationship cause I felt like they are waaay above me and I'm not worthy of their attention, and so I always thought that if I pursue them they will just laugh in my face. What does that mean? Am I depressed?
I remember the first time I slept with my ex girlfriend I was always confused beforehand why i didn't want it and assumed id like it.
Once the time actually came, I remember laying in bed with her thinking my brain was broken.
After this happening a couple of different times with different girls I thought "maybe im homosexual, I've never felt attracted to guys but something isn't clicking"
After pondering that i realised ive never felt attracted to guys unlike girls so definitely not that.
I've always wanted someone to love and be with on my path of life, but i could never tell someone I'm with that i don't want sex in the relationship.
Learning about the ace community has really opened my eyes and I feel less like my mind is broken. Its been such a good change in life being able to seek out others that feel the same way, and I'm glad youre spreading that awareness so others can find out that they're not broken and its completely normal.
Thank you 💖
I think you are a romantic ace.
Me too. High five on that 🖐️
Do you like anime?
The world should normalize love without sex is perfectly normal. Sex isn't about everything.
Thnx for the likes! Please stream #PsychoSOTY :>
You're asking people to ignore our strongest biological urge
@@Logger1010 No, we're asking people to acknowledge that not everyone has that biological urge, and that said biological urge isn't required for a healthy relationship. Like, people basically refusing it exists, and telling the person they're in denial or just haven't found "the one" yet. Telling someone it doesn't exist doesn't make it go away.
@@Silentgrace11 as an asexual most people at first are confused but are understanding eventually but if this is a big issue among the community then I support what you're saying. I interpreted the original comment as saying that a non asexual person should be okay with being in a non sexual relationship.
@@Logger1010 We're not asking anyone to ignore biological urge. It's absolutely up to them. What we're trying to say is for people to respect and accept people who don't want to be involved in a sexual relationship :)))
I feel this is the real issue at hand than anything else really in these sorts of things.
Why do so many people assume that romantic relationships are about sex? There are so many things that are more important; relationships thrive when you establish trust and understand and care for each other. I'm only 24 but I know that more people should consider not carelessly give themselves away. Sex is more meaningful when you wait for the one you'll try to be with for life, and even then it's not everything. Ugh this world, man.
That's a lovely personal belief, but in no way a truth. Sometimes you can meet a person, have sex relatively quickly and continue on to have a beautiful, loving relationship. Sometimes you meet a person, wait for a long time to have sex and the relationship ends immediately after. Absolutely nothing is guaranteed in any relationship. Those experiences set a more realistic view of relationships, and not an opportunistic one.
I agree somewhat and somewhat not. I am asexual and even thought i think many other things are much more important than sex, sex can give you a different level of intimicy with your special someone.
Jesus u wrote an intier paragraph. But yes I 100% agree with you
Wait, if i share the same beliefs as you, does it make me asexual? Im vv confused rn
@@fauziaaulia4271 this video is a general representation on asexuality but i do think so
a lil' summary- i guess-
1:05 - the lack of sexual attraction
1:40 - asexuals could crave relationships without the sexual element
2:15 - they get over crushes easily
2:40 - not having any celebrity crushes
3:10 - some asexuals may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances
3:40 - sex depends
have a good day, and be proud to be who u are !!
thank you! :D
Thanks
Thank you🙇🏽♀️
Thank you!!
I’m currently questioning whether I’m asexual or if it’s simply a trauma response. (tw // sa) I was recently sexually assaulted by someone who I didn’t have any romantic feelings towards, but the entire situation only confused me even more because it was my first time. I’ve never been fully sexually active until then, and each time (even when our acts were still consensual), I really didn’t feel anything. it was more of a “this is what sex is all about it?” and that only reason I kept engaging in it was because I wanted the experience. once the sexual assault took place though, I only become more disgusted by sexual relations and even certain gestures such as kissing. its tough because so many factors come into play; I was inexperienced, I didn’t enjoy the consensual acts (but I didn’t have romantic feelings either), and it all ended with assault. it’s hard not knowing, but hopefully as a heal I’ll begin to learn the truth about myself.
Yes, you would be asexual by definition and also sounds like you would be aromatic too ❤️ and im sorry about what happened to you ☹️ I hope your doing okay now
Yes, you would be asexual by definition and also sounds like you would be aromatic too ❤️ and im sorry about what happened to you ☹️ I hope your doing okay now
If you feel your aceness comes from trauma, the microlabel for that is _caedesxual_
But I really hope you're okay
take your time, sexuality is a journey for everyone and if you feel that in this moment that the "asexuality" label fits for you in this moment, use it. If later on it changes, that's fine too. Sexuality is fluid. And you are valid in every which way.
It's not sa if you'd let it happen
Me, who is currently thinking that I might be asexual:
I have finally found the holy grail!
Edit: I woke up to all this love and support, tysm! You are all lovely
I’m asexual and I’ve know this for a while, it makes me so happy to see other people discovering their sexualities :)
Samee, i've been waiting so long for them to cover this subject! 😭❤
Omg i liked your comment (I was 199th) then pressed on it and it was 212
same when i was in middle school, I'm honestly confused about my sexuality so i often labeled myself that time as asexual because I'm not that girly or boyish and not into some intimate romantic stuffs just like that, but now i knew to myself that I'm actually straight lol
Aye same!
Finally, a video about my sexual orientation. I used to think that I was a straight girl who just didn't find the right guy, but I knew for a fact that I was disgusted by sex. The very idea of being naked and exchanging body fluids with someone grosses me out, not to mention it puts me at risk of STDs and pregnancy. There are people I find good-looking, but never have I wanted to have sex with anyone. I used to have a crush on someone in high school, but it never progressed to anything more. And honestly, I'm way over it now. I want people in my life, but even if I were to get into a romantic relationship with a guy, I don't want any sex. Sex is hugely overrated, and I feel like society is too sexualized.
you just kinda summarized the story of my life. i didn't know how to put it in words so thank you
i'm sorry if i ask, but how did you figure out you were disgusted by it? i'm currently questioning myself so that's why i'm asking!!
@@yoopstia You’re welcome.
Yes! This basically described my life.
I feel the same way. But I admit my body sometimes feels urges, and I feel like I see someone attractive - male or female - and I want to go up and hug and kiss them. I don't know if that boots me out of the "Ace" category, but I know I wouldn't really want to have sex. I'm frankly disgusted by sex too.
It's irritating not wanting to do something with somebody and almost everyone asks you "what are you, gay?"
Never had this happen when offered sex ( I'm saying that like I actually have ) but have got called Gay alot for not wanting a Romantic Relationship. The Sexual Attraction part is my choice but the Romantic Relationship bit was just something I am scared to take part in from past experiences ( Not including actual relationship experiences just experiences with people who have had relationships)
@@YouHaveAnApeHead what about friendship? Sometimes friendship is the best form of relationship...for some people that is. I never have gotten called gay for not wanting a romantic relationship before but that is both quite interesting and disheartening that people try to sum up such complex feelings in a rather insensitive way
@@jarodnole4618 I have had friends. I just don't know how to get newer friends after my past friendships.
@@YouHaveAnApeHead honestly I just blunder into mine, urm, have you tried going to your local game shop?
@@jarodnole4618 I'm self isolating right now. Thanks Covid.
My friends and I were talking about hot celebrities yesterday and our conversation went something like this.
Friend 1: Ariana Grande is super hot.
Friend 2: Adam Driver though.
(Everyone looks at me)
(Me: quick! Think of something!)
Me, an asexual: You know what else is hot? Tomato sauce.
(Me: Mentally facepalms)
My friend who knows: (high fives me)
Everyone else: wtf?
XD
I love you 🤣 this is something I’d say
😭😭😭😭😭
Wow I have never tasted hot tomato sauce, must try!
@Xion Cinnamon Roll Princess I meant hot as in spicy
Me, an asexual: *sees video about asexuality*
Me: *IMMEDIATLY CLICKS*
SAME
Yay my fellow aces
Why is this me in every possible way? 😂
Yes-
Same here XD
This just made me realise why I've never had sexual attraction to someone I think I'm asexual thanks 😄
Edit:I didn't know so many people where like me it's reassuring to me that I'm not the only person like us
yeah same
Same
same
I've always thought it was weird why people feel that sort of stuff like I get so confused-
Me too but my crushes don’t go away easily
For more asexual info u should check our AVEN its a website all about asexuality
As an asexual who doesn't personally know any other ace people, seeing any sort of representation or explanations like this around online media is always so heartwarming to me! Thank you for such a great video Psych2Go! 🖤🤍💜
You should check out the TAAAP Pride Chats near the end of this month! I think you might enjoy the community there 💜💚 Google it to find the website.
Yeah, it's great to see support for your sexuality and also to meet other people who can understand it☺️
Only if they're accurate and well sourced. Or else, i'd just "Ugghhh not again"
When I was younger, I had crushes. However, looking back at it, it might be more of a admiration. Ever since I graduated high school (( I'm 22. graduated 4 years ago)) I never had a crush since. However, even when I had a crush, I still felt extremely uncomfortable. When a guy texted me implying a sex joke towards me, I didn't like it. I was so uncomfortable
Ever since than, I been meh about sex. I honestly don't care about it. I don't have a sex drive. I consider myself asexual and Biromantic
Totally understand! Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Ooh I’m also asexual but I’m wondering if I might be biromantic. It feels so much more difficult to figure out if I’m biromantic since it often times seems to translate to bisexual… except I’m asexual. How did you know? Any tips for someone trying to figure it out?
“More of an admiration” is the best thing ive heard all day. Thank you for saying this, its like a lightbulb moment for me. I have a crush but i constantly find myself “glazing” this person, like talking about al the cool things they do and calling them the “g.o.a.t.” in my head. Every time i see this person i imaging them having a fan base and imagine like hundreds of people glazing them. So it’s like i like them because i admire them. I like this person in the same way i like my favorite artist. Anyways thanks again for writing this it really resonated with me.
Just a reminder you don't have to decide on a sexuality right away. I feel like people are being told to define themselves too early, but you can wait. Now, I spent a good chunk of my life waiting for sexual attraction to kick in, thinking that I just wasn't done with puberty yet, but after awhile, I figured I might just not get it. I know a lot of other Asexuals don't like being told that they'll change their minds, but if I get into a relationship and turn out to be Demi, I'd be fine with that
Honestly, I've been trying to figure out my sexuality and, It's really confusing🤦🏻♀️ I kind of identify as bisexual but I'm not even sure if I'm bisexual or not, and I don't know how to know. I don't know I can think a girl is pretty just like I can think a boy is pretty, but everyone can think someone is pretty, regardless of their gender or sexuality, so it doesn't define my sexuality, and if I'm demisexual or asexual I will not, or barely have any sexual attraction so it'll be even harder to find out my sexuality, aaaargh idk if you watch anime/read mangas, or My Hero Academia in particular, but I feel like Izuku, he's always thinking too much and that's what I'm doing. I just need to relax and don't care, I'll probably find out one day so it doesn't matter right now, but I wanna know sooo bad.
Sorry for writing all of that-
@@denkikaminari1268 Oh God, that's too stressful. You know what, just a friendly advice. Life is too short to be thinking about what's your sexuality. Live your life to the fullest. Identifying one's sexuality for me is the least concern in living my life. I'll cross the bridge when I get there.
@@josephine1465 Yeah, you're right I really should just like wait and see, or never know but just be with who I want to be without stressing😅 one life after all, so I shouldn't worry😌
I wish we could live in a world, where people don't have to stress about who they are, and how they define themselves. You know what I mean?
If you meet some people along your way and suddenly you feel something for them, you shouldn't worry about "oh, so now I'm attracted to this one, when three months ago I was with that one. Am I suddenly bi?".
I know that's an utopian idea, but people should be with people who make them feel good, without having to explain themselves to others.
@@suonatar1 Yes, labels are annoying yet I still want labels. Our society is too annoying, there are too much unnecessary rules we need to follow, I just feel trapped. Labels are part of what makes society so stressfull, but I can't say I don't want a label. I tried not to care but I can't help myself, I want to define who I am even if because of that I don't feel free. It's just...ughhhhhh
I don't want to care anymore. I don't need labels to be happy.
Sum:
1. Lack of sexual attraction 1:04
2. Asexuals could crave relationships just without the sexual element 1:41
3. Get over crushes easily 2:16
4. Not having celebrity crushes 2:38
5. Some asexuals may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances 3:06
6. Sex depends 3:38
Done
been
Damn that was quick
Thanks!
Good job
I fail all those questions. I enjoy healthy sex.
End of story.
I have always been confused on how people can have a crush on a celebrity
Edit: thanks for the likes
Ikr... like, they look nice, but have a crush on them??? ',:/
Yes!! I never understood that and always found that relationships looked tiring and not worth it.
I still dont understand why they do that lol
Same and I'm not asexual, if anything I'm the opposite. I've always thought it's both stupid and illogical to have feelings for someone you've never met and will likely never meet, let alone enter a relationship with especially with the heavy competition. The rational part of my brain would never allow it
Im asexual but HAVE YOU SEEN CHRIS HEMSWORTH????
I feel like I'm either asexual or demisexual. I never understood why people feel like sexual desire is a must-do thing in any relationship. I still would want to have children, but only with someone I can trust and feel comfortable with. I always thought that when 2 people date (regardless of their gender) they only experience do romantic things as a younger person.
Ok but lets just talk about HOW PRETTY THIS FLAG IS. I LOVE THIS COLOR PALETE
Ikr??
same I just love how calming it looks
Yesssss I love it
I LOVE IT AS WELL 😩
It has my favorite colors on it.
wait people feel sexual attractions towards people? i only feel like aesthetic attractions, platonic, or sensual like hugging and stuff iv never felt anything sexual lol.
Sounds like someone is blessed!
I never felt sexual attractions either lol
Idk if i should call you lucky or unlucky.
Actually same!
I do not like intercourse why can’t we just eat red velvet cake pops instead :D
Me neither
any form of sexual relationship or act makes me feel so uncomfortable and sick. I dont even know why. it just makes me feel gross all over and it is the worst feeling ever, its worse seeing that all my friends talk about is sex. i just sit there all awkward and they call me weird for not liking it, or "uptight"
Come join the club we have jackets
Yeah, it's actually pretty normal for people to not like/have sexual attraction.... Wish more people knew that.
Same
same
Same
my friend's a straight person and I came out to her last month. she said she accepts me and gets me being asexual. I'm glad I have friend like her.
@@helmetmcbaron me, an aroace, think that sometimes coming out for ppl that we like is kinda important
I’m 23 and my extreme religious parents always tell me, an asexual/aromantic, “Oh I KNOW you’ll find a nice husband someday. Don’t waste your 20s” and it makes me want to scream.
Edit: 25 and still feel the same exact way 🙃
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! it actually feels really frustrating
Same
Tell them that is sounds kinda rpy
HAHAHA lmaooo same 🙄
@Shōto I feel that. I’m asexual/aromantic but I’m more gay than not. My whole family calls homosexuality shameful. I’m almost glad I’m aromantic so I don’t have to get into all the mess 🙄 but I’m trying to stand up for our rights though, absolutely.
Me: is ace aro
Also me: clicks anyways because the person who does the voicovers has an amazingly soothing voice
AHHHH IM ACE ARO TOO!
Yep same here!
Ayeee ace aro gang
Sameeee
aro ace too〜
Who else here is asexual and very anxious knowing full well that we can't easily be happy because in most relationships, sex is very vital :(((
😔 me
@@TheCousinTrio it feels like utter shit right :(((
It's a really hard thing to try to navigate, but it's best to be open and honest with potential partners about your limits. Some ace people can have, and seek out sex, and some don't ever want to do it. If you're online dating mention it in your profile. There are a lot of people you'll meet that aren't ace but have a very low libido, so you'll definitely find someone to share your life with. It might be a little harder to seek out those relationships but it's absolutely not impossible
@@hannahvictoria4563 yes :(( i hope people like us will find those kind of people :>
Me too, it’s the main reason I chose to be single for a long time. But, there will always be people that would understand if we openly communicate about these things. 😊💜🖤
I am 25 and I have had sex in my prior relationships, however, ive only recently spoke to a close friend about how I always thought that sexuality was something that my partners expected of me and felt like if i did not serve them what they find so important, theyd become upset or angry or judging with me and leave me, so I kind of forced myself into all kinds of things that at best, meant nothing to me and made me feel nothing and at worst, felt awful and/or painful just so that the other person was satisfied with me because I had built my self worth and value purely on doing what the person i feel emotionally close to wants me to, or enduring what they want even if i do not. Most of this is connected to my psychological way of how i treat others and let myself be treated and the whole system of 'If i dont want it but you do, its real, worthy and important and if i want it but you dont, its not and should be forgotten about' or rather sacrifice and submission to an unfair and inbalanced extreme of letting my emotions, thoughts, sensations, vulnerabilities and borders be overstepped, neglected and hurt in the process is something that has nothing to do with my gender identity or sexuality, but affected those in a way where I completely ignored what i felt and wanted, in these sections of myself, too. So I just recently came to the realisation of how my experiences about sexual and romantic attraction, desires and satisfaction are so absolutely different from most people that i know nowadays, in my altered state of mind, where my own experiences matter and i ve started building a connection to my feelings. Very suddenly, i came to the personal conclusion that, not only do i find a different type of gender romantically interesting than those that i had been with thoughout my life, but also that i have no interest in sharing sexuality with anyone, not even my closest romantic partners. Its not that I absolutely dislike the idea and practisation of it, which was the main reason for why i thought that i 'am' far from asexuality. (I had very open and diverse friendships across all the years but never actually second guessed myself about the topics i knew and accepted from close ones). Then recently i heard for the first time that if I do not like and do not want to share anything sexual with someone and that it gets me upset when they do, that that is something that important and worthy to think about, and that, even when I 'can be okay with it for the sake of harmony' its 'counting' as difference between the wants of me and the partners i had, which would continue to have me force myself to something i feel uncomfortable with, unless i start respecting what i feel like. I have this one really great friend, who keeps empowering me to atleast try myself out with other types of gender than what i am used to, but to also start geetting friends with the thought that itll feel the same-ish way of 'i guess ill hold still until youre done and happy' and that in that case, i should NOT continue like that but search someone who can understand me. Ive always been inclusive and acceptant of my surroundings individualities, and i am thriving and happy that finally, i am starting to treat myself the same way. It felt like quite a shock when this friend of mine answered to me explaining how physical intimacy on a sexual level makes me feel with 'Its not supposed to be that way. Theres something off about what you feel and what you do, theres a dissonance inbetween which not natural and not healthy, please start thinking about this whole topic, for the love of yourself.' And I am trying my best to get to know myself. So yeah, thank you kind stranger, for reading through this, I just had to get this off my chest because there are very few people that I can talk to and even less that i actually do, and have a nice day wherever you are. And remember to be gentle, compassionate, and caring with yourself.
Thank you for this…..
I really appreciate you sharing. :)
Good luck working through this……but know you have friends here. This really spoke to me and I felt, truthfully, seen and appreciated. I’m not trying to take away your experience, I am only grateful to you that you put this into words. So thank you, kind stranger. Have a wonderful day! :)
PWell, can you'll asexuals help me in this situation : I love my girlfriend a lot, she's asexual, but it I like sex a lot 😅 i mean a lot..... I don't want to breakup with her because it'll crush her heart, she'll cry alot & I don't want to give her this lvl of pain nor do I have the courage to this 🥺.......
I am really really confused please help me
@@manishkumarpandey9702 hey buddy may I know how's relationship going on if u don't mind
I can relate well to your story. We are out here too!
I wish I had the courage to pour my heart out in a UA-cam comment. Hope everything turns out well for you 🖤💜🤍
"Are your crushes short lived"
Me who never had a crush: *confused screaming*
You could be aromantic (not experiencing romantic attraction) but maybe not and that’s ok too
Sameeeee
Yeah I've never had a crush in my life
@@starryskies777 ohhh I have heard this word come and go but I never knew exactly what it meant thanks
@@anonymous_ea that sounds 100% like aromantic and maybe asexual
I always thought I was just weird for not wanting to wear revealing clothing and for being 22 and never dated before. I've always wanted a romantic relationship, but it always seems like every relationship has to lead to sex and that makes me nervous.
You are not weird for that. I'm the same way with the clothing. Not all relationships lead to sex and they can never lead there if you are honest and forthcoming in the beginning. If they can't accept that, they are not worth it. If they are, great.
i know. its interesting how a relationship starts out as strangers and then the romantic stuff and then when it stays romantic and nothing more people suddenly can’t be in it anymore
You're a romantic asexual. Like Todd Sanchez in Bojack Horseman.
SAME!!!! I’m so glad I’m not the only one who feels like this-17 btw here
Sameee
hi asexuals, i'm not ace myself but you're all completely valid and ily have a great day
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@@iamproudofyouiloveyou why thank you, fischl
Thank you for saying this
THE COLOR PALLETTE!! i loved this, thank you!!
This is to ALL non ace people:
Yes, there are cases where someone assumed they are ace, tho then meet someone and figure out they’re actually demi, but it is NOT the main case. Saying “you haven’t met the right one yet” is very rude and invalidating. Do not say it to anyone referring themselves to be ace, not every ace person will get into a relationship.
-coming from the girlfriend of an ace/demi person :)
I’ve met some people who’ve said “Maybe you’ll find someone who makes you feel different or maybe not, doesn’t matter as long as you’re happy” and I think that’s one of the better ways to comment on asexuality.
Yeah, whoever is whatever. Doesn't matter, it's always important to respect them as they are and to respect a person's journey.
Can’t agree anymore ! I’ve heard many times “ maybe you haven’t met the right one yet “ , that made me feel “ do you mean I’m robot that had no romantic feelings ?” Even few more rude to just judge me “ you need to give it a try ( means have sex ) otherwise you would not know fit or not “ they way that they don’t believe ace’ exist were very disrespectful
@Julia-py9mk I agree
One of my best friends wants me to get in a relationship and get a girl but understands asexuality and respects it
He will ask me questions if there is something about ace that he doesn't understand
As an Asexual myself, this is very helpful for those who don’t know what asexually is and those who want to know what it means.
Agreed!🙏
Yes! So many people think that it means to have to attraction towards anyone. It’s really frustrating when those people try and argue with someone who’s ace about asexuality.
@@madagascarpenguin I hate it when people assume my sexuality even after I tell them and explain it to them and evening as far as tell them that I’m not interested in a sexual relationship with women or anyone for that matter.
So this is accurate? (Sorry for asking) Bc I've been thinking about it a long time now and I think I might be Asexual.
@@exxiyya4855 It’s ok to be confused about your sexuality for a long time, it took me a long time before I figured out that I was asexual myself you don’t need to figure it out right away. You should be proud of your sexuality and don’t let anyone tell you that it’s not valid because they’re wrong.
Me an asexual: *beeming about seeing postive context about me*
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Thanks for this. There's this girl that I feel strongly for, and she is asexual. For the longest time I've felt that I needed sexual intimacy with a partner, but not so with her. I'm trying the hardest I ever have with a girl to understand her, and I hope we can make something work. Thanks for the video!
As an Asexual individual, I do my understand how somebody else can look at somebody and go, “ Theyre so hot/pretty I want to date him/her/them”
Whilst I am in the corner having crushes on people who I trust and who are nice to me. ;w;
【 Mochie Birb】 I might be guessing, but grats on being Demiromantic Asexual, they’re lucky to have you crushing on them; being A-spec goes to show that you aren’t going for them because of their body
@@a-disaster5285 thanks! ✨
Omggg sameeee
I crush on fictional characters 😭
As a heterosexual individual i can, but i do not really like it either.
I just accepted the fact, that people are and will always be imperfect and ugly in a way. And going for some people only based on their looks is not the way. Thats just my opinion tho.
At least its not a good way for a stable and long prospering relationship.
I'm gay, but I actually see myself in few parts of this (getting over crushes fast, not really needing sex and I lean on more on the romantic side of relationship) but it might be bcs of my last relationship that kinda drained me, bcs before it I was more sexual and looked at men more, now I don't really do. I might swing a bit demisexual but I dunno, I don't really feel the need to be in a relationship really (I'm more into career) but I still look at anime men at least I guess
Anyways, asexuals are valid, wish yall great day if you've read my rambling here lol
Oh have a great day to you as well
There's also this thing where when you're young you are very sexually active or at least sexually atracted, but as life goes there comes a period of life when you calm down, those feelings die down a bit and you focus on more important things.
@Security Cam Sam they...didnt do anything...
@Security Cam Sam wtf does that even mean bro
@Security Cam Sam why are u here again!?
Even though I’m not ace, I’m rather mad at the fact that people are basically saying that being ace is being uninterested in relationships in general. They’re basically saying that asexuals are both asexual and aromantic. Just because someone is asexual, doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be in a relationship!
i think there is a big conflikt with it. if you have a Ace + not Ace relationship the not asexual partner will suffer from hormones. depends on how much libido he has its faster or slower. My ex girlfriend lost her Libido to medical condictions and i try to be a good partner, but it goes so worse that i get migrane over the urges to make love with her, becurse it stressed me so much. She loved to kuddle but after like 10 min my hormones overhelmd me and i have to stop or i endet that it switched from happy to actual harm...
@@Barlmoro As I understand it, in an ace + not ace relationship, just like *any* relationship, the key is communication. Partners should talk to one another about what they need, and what they're comfortable with.
Having a lower libido due to medication is not the same as being asexual- so I'm going to say, you should talk with your partner about if they'd be comfortable going to the shop and buying some sexual aids.
I absolutely loathe that ace people are always expected to be the ones "compromising" here, for the "health" of their partners however.
@@Nothingtea i talked with my ex about it and all was blocked from her side. she even refuse to talk to her doctor about the problem. i think in her world it was not a problem and dosn´t understand my suffer.
I think they should do a video on aros tho too
@@Barlmoro what do you mean?
Crying over here… I was unsure if I might be asexual or not - watching this and reading some of the comments and OMG I have never felt so validated in all my life, not a doubt in my mind now that I I know I’m asexual (possibly demisexual) have had so many men try to “fix” me over the years, now I know I’m not broken, I just have an orientation 🥰
I'm assuming your gender here,if I'm wrong and this doesn't apply to you, I sincerely apologize.
As a female asexual, I really think it can be much more difficult for females to figure out that we're asexual because society assigns so many more complex purposes and meanings to the female sexual experience. For men, its just "I wanna get off." For women, you're supposed to put out to please others, because you owe it to your man, if you don't he will get it somewhere else..... sometimes even just a man being sexually intetested in you can feel like an obligation. It's really hard to dig through all that to unearth your own libido, and even more confusing to discover that your libido isn't necessarily triggered by others.
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Yes, Life Noggin also
Yesss life noggin too
@@blobfish2045 Both channels are very good when it comes to teaching people.
@@Psych2go You're welcome.
I hope you all stay safe and have a great day or night
As an asexual myself, I still don’t understand sexual attraction and it makes me feel inhuman sometimes.
Edit: I made a typo lol 🥶
Thanks for sharing! How do you feel after watching this video?
@@Psych2go It helped some things click in place for me :))
same
I feel the same way I’m confused about sexual attraction I still don’t what it is sexual attraction I’m lost honestly
Don't worry, I don't really understand it either! x'D It seems really weird to me that people look at each other and go "wow they are physically attractive so i want our genitals to touch" or at least that's what it seems like to me, lmao. But there are tons of things that some people like, that others don't! Some people honestly don't like chocolate, and I can never understand that either. But, a lot of people really like coffee and don't understand how I can hate it! So, I think it's perfectly human to not understand things that you don't experience! =)
I've never enjoyed sex. I've never wanted sex. But it always seems the world forces it into my lap (no pun intended) and I always feel really uncomfortable. I want a romantic relationship, I want to feel close to someone, I want to love, but I don't want sex. I've never found a partner who understands this and I always have to have "the sex" to keep the relationship going. I've tried being single and I find it desperately lonely. So I seek a female companion, then she wants sex, I get uncomfortable and we break up. It's a recurring cycle that I don't think I'll soon break.
I’m sorry😩
I'm sorry to hear that, you'll find the right one, hopefully, eventually
Sorry to hear but there’s always a possibility you’ll find someone!
Sorry man :( hopefully you can find the person who understands you❤️
I never want that either, and I never will. This is the only time I’ve found someone who feels the same.
Someone recently asked me why I'm so awkward in talks about sex and i just replied with "i dont see the desire for it" and after that my best friend asked if ive ever heard of asexulality and that lead me here and i swear every point you made relates to me and i now beleve im demi asexual
my mom: don’t have sex
me: well that’s good i’m asexual anyway
also mom: NO YOU ARE NOT YOU ARE STRAIGHT YOUNG LADY-
Yes,I'm asexual too :) but it's inside in of community:)
Omg I told my mom I wont date anyone bc im aro ace and she started yelling at me abt how being lgbt makes you sick in the mind
Plot twist
Lgbt doesn’t make you sick in the mind
LITERALLY ME BUT W/ MY GRANDMA LMAOOO
Or this:
Parents: Dont have Sex
Me: thats okay, i dont like such Kind of things
Dad: Didnt say anything, because he loves me. For him, it doesnt make a difference, who i love and how.
The main thing is that I'm fine.
Mom: the time will come.
Me: Im 22. i had experiences. I KNOW WHAT I WANT
Same
One of the most awkward situation is when friends who don't know I'm asexual send me memes with sexual context and i need to : "haha that's funny" ,(internal screaming and confusion)
People think I'm innocent
A lot of asexuals have sexual humour though maybe you’re just not one of them. We can talk dirty all day...we just don’t want to do dirty xD
@@Yoongiluvbot Saaaaammmmmeee!
Im not asexual but I really don't get what is funny about sex so I just "haha that's funny" so im not left out x,D
Its ironic, im the least innocent out od my friend group yet im Asexual haha
relatable
i eat bread
@@theguywithticon5360 i eat rats
Cool seeing you here
Good on you and also love your videos :)
I like your videos!!
Omfg, I’ve been so confused for so long. I think I’m asexual. I never felt straight or gay, or even bi. But this makes sense!!! I haven’t been this happy in so long.
But you felt stupid
@@songbyrdscrusade2052 wdym
Great for you!! :D
"They get over crushes easily"
Me, an asexual who has never had a crush (not aro btw): Mhm mhm interesting
Same, not one at all lmao.
can you explain about aro ace more pls
@@imagi-nation8013 while asexuals dont feel sexual attraction, aros dont feel romantic. aro ace would be someone who doesnt experience either of these. Again, theres a spectrum, thats just the short description.
@@PhoenixRedtail thank you have misunderstood it all this while,I thought aro-ace meant ace people who feel romantic attraction to people of the same sex
Imagi- nation all good! At least you’re not like most people who think all aces are aro too and vice versa. Some are one of these, some are both, they are all valid! :)
I’ve been out as asexual for a while now, but seeing more and more people talk about it and explain it is really freaking awesome... I’m constantly having to explain what it means :) so something like this is really amazing
I've had people ask me if I've talked to a therapist and it might help 😑
Like its some type psychological disorder 🙄
Haha I just keep on living my best life and doing well thanks!
to this day,i still dont understand how ppl can get attracted to someone without getting to know them first. i never understood their memes and jokes and i feel like an outcast. then i get made fun of for having a different opinion from them
It's called instinct
Don't let those ppl bother you. Someday you'll find people who will accept and love the way you are. The key is to keep being open for others, even if most of them won't understand or will make fun of you. Thats the only way you can find those real friends.
Sry for my english if i fked up somewhere, its my second language.
Hey, you might wanna look that up, it's called demisexuality. I expirience the same, it CAN NOT for the life of me be attracted to anyone before getting to know them and forming a connection. It's an ace spec sexuality.
bruh ify
Yeah, I feel the same, like… how?
Well if you get made fun of then screw them because EVERYONE on this planet is different from one another. You do not have to understand that and they don't have to understand you. But it isn't your job to make them understand and vice versa. We are all unique and different individuals with all different types of opinions and outlooks. This is perfectly normal and okay. All of us are valid in our own ways. Just because someone doesn't understand someone else regardless of who it is, doesn't make the person any less valid. Just difference of opinion is all. I love how unique people can be when it comes to individual expression. It makes the world beautiful. Sadly some people haven't figured out how to make peace with difference of opinion and construct or overall structure. Some peoppe have a mindset that if you don't agree with them then that means you must hate them or that you're less valid them then or "wrong" because peoppe are generally attracted to "norms" and if anything in their own world falls outside of that order they've set up for themselves mentally, it disturbs their world. But more people need to learn how to let go of that and let change be change and let difference of opinion, be what it is.
I hate my mom for not understanding that just because I don't like guys, that doesn't mean I feel attracted to girls.
Uuuuuuuh bo y , she hasn't arrived in the 20s
Soon, genders won't even be a thing anymore
it will sound weird, but i have never felt more identified with a sexual orientation as in this. i genuinely thought i was just weird. i would have never known it, it never crossed my mind. and it makes me feel worried about the information not being spread enough, because i would really love to see those people who are struggling to feel good in their own skin know that they’re valid, and not alone. just that.
I didn't find out until last year, but it's seems to be becoming a bigger topic now and I hope many people can finally find out they are not alone
Not weird, I would have found it weirder if no one went through a “What am I?” Stage, though not being concern about yourself in those areas is also natural. Many sexualities and romance interests have fallen under A-spec, so I’m glad that having more access to this information has given you enough confidence to consider yourself Valid (you are!). The more I read about these sorts of comments the more I feel bad for those who are experiencing what you two have, but then I realized I don’t have to since they’ll eventually discover how much of an Ace they are and reevaluate themselves appropriately
i honestly dont care if you’re anything, as long as you’re -human- anything, im chill
Same
Even if you aren't human, I'm chill
No I'm a burrito. 🌯
What if you’re an alien?
I relate to this in a spiritual level
When I saw the title of the video I grinned because I’m asexual
i'm asexual and aromantic :D
same here
I’m not aromantic though
Me toooo :D
Did you find the points accurate?
really helpful actually ngl. friends told me to do my own research and wel now that i see this it's really assuring and helpful for growing up as a teen and trying to figure out where the heck i stand on orientation sexually and romanticly. i think i know where i am now and who i am now. thx so much!
I don't usually comment because I never find the right words to thank the whole Psycho2Go team for all their work but this time I really want to thank you.
I am a demisexual and asexual girl and I am in a relationship with a guy who accepts me and with whom I always watch your videos, as we both find them really relaxing and useful.
And well, now many people will have a clearer idea of who we are and I would really like to say thank you for everything.
Keep it up! We always love you!
seeing all these fellow ace people in the comments talking about having nice boyfriends gives me hope lol because I was worried about never being able to find a dude who accepts that (since I'm a female heteromantic asexual)
Don't worry! There's always a chance for us asexuals too: just not having an interest in "that" doesn't mean nobody will ever want us as their partner.
I am sure that one day you will meet a good person who will know how to accept you and with whom you can be fully yourself.
Good luck! ✨
@@asimpleuser8570 Thanksss it helps to know that
@@v01dst3rr3m1x You're welcome 🎈
I would love to be in a homoromantic relationship with boy who loves me for me( despite my autism and ADHD).
My friends: *talking about how hot their crushes are*
me:"ah yes, really um, aesthetically pleasing yes"
Sameeee
@Security Cam Sam why?
@Security Cam Sam do you know what aesthetically pleasing means?
Arke that person keeps invalidating asexuals, so I’m guessing they were just being a jerk. Also I 100% can relate
@Security Cam Sam why u here ??
A few years ago when I'd look up "asexuality" on UA-cam I wouldn't find any videos at all. But lately I've been seeing a lot of different people talking about it and shedding light on this rare sexuality. Thank you so much for making this video because it makes us feel valid
It’s not rare
Same, im just surprised how many videos there are now
@@humanperson2314 1% of all of humanity. try again
I've been thinking hard about my own identity for a while. At first I thought I was bisexual, but now I'm starting to think I may be ace.
Your voice is very soothing, and this video has given me some clarity on things.
Thanks for making this, truly.
“The GREATEST pleasure in LIFE is doing what people say YOU cannot do.”‼️
Yes
Float....
Dorime... 🙏
Peaple in quarantine be like:
what the hell
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I was bullied for being Asexual.
They’ve called me things really bad
*Hugs* being asexual ain’t anything wrong🥺
They called you an Ace, they were trying to make you feel invalid even when you had enough qualifications to be better than them
... My friends even saying that that's a *phase* but umm... no....
awww that sucks 🥺💜 you need a hug
Don't listen to them, your definitely Valid and I support you 💝
As an asexual biromantic, I appreciate this so much. Unfortunately, some people don’t really understand what it means to be ace, and this does a great job of explaining it
What does biromantic mean?
Danielle Wallace It means they're romantically attracted to two or more genders
biro ace gang!
@@PhoenixRedtail Heck yeah!
I love this channel so much. The topics are useful, their voice is so calming and the art is so cute!
All us Asexuals be flocking to this video
yep!
Lol... Yes
LMAO YES. Probably cuz of our representation hungry nature.
ASEXUAL COALITION
Eh
I’m Demi-sexual, and it’s really hard to find content about Demi-sexuals in particular. So thank you so much for including us in the video. ❤️❤️
You're very valid, have a nice dayyy :)
I'm not sure if I'm Demi sexual or not it's confusing 😭
@@sugar-and-stardust thank you! You too ^^
@@hungrycharmy3876 That’s okay! It’s totally valid to be confused, you don’t have to figure things out yet! Just take your time and enjoy exploring yourself 💕
@@Tori409 :)
I can't comprehend how you can be sexually attracted to a celebrity or person it honestly confuses me 🧍♀️
Especially when you don’t know A THING about them
@@Jacson_23 right I've never been sexually attractive to a celebrity
@@Jacson_23 I don't see how people do it
It’s kinda weird in my opinion
Well,I also don't understand how it works.But I know it works for other people somehow..I'm actually a fan of some celebrities and I'm never attracted to them in a sexual way,but I've seen their other fans thirsting over them and finding them sexually appealing when they show their abs and them sweating after their performance or practice is filmed.The fans says they look sexy that way and honestly I don't really know what sexyness is,so yeah! I definitely can't relate to that and it confuses the hell out of me
For me, learning there was a difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction is what helped me to realize I was a flavor of asexual... well into my 30s.
Also, fun fact, swingers are apparently super respectful to asexuals as well and it has to do with the black ring. Apparently swingers will wear a black ring on one of their fingers on their right hand to show they're into the lifestyle, and asexuals will often wear a black ring on their right middle finger. I guess it led to some confusion when swingers would approach an ace, so swingers are like "Try not to wear a black ring on your middle finger, that's for the asexuals." Really cool of them.
I knew a few people that I told that I was Asexual, that said “Then why are you dating _______???” To be CLEAR, idk why people think relationships must have sexual attractions, he’s uncomfortable with talking about that general topic, so it’s difficult to question about his sexuality. People keep asking “Have you guys done stuff like that?” Or “Have you guys sent nudes?” Like, why would you AUTOMATICALLY assume that, besides we’re still young and about to graduate middle school, people do and talk about that stuff too early. Can’t I focus on an innocent and affectionate relationship without having to think about that? I want to know if my first lover is the one for me, I’ve never been so close to anyone before and I’m not ruining it because of other people. Of course if he wanted to, in the future I wouldn’t mind a family, but why think about that now while we’re young? I say this a lot when commenting on their videos but, if you read this all, thanks for listening to my rambling, I get a little too personal sometimes, but it’s nice to vent where people will understand :)
I would probably throw the reply back "Why are you dating if you already got laid? Didn't it serve it's purpose". Then when they give the whole "but I like so and so" just be like, "there's the answer."
So let me get this straight.
Our society has become so sex-obsessed, that anyone who has more emotional/romantical/other expectations from a relationship is considered asexual?
That just confirms, that I've been asexual my whole life.
@@suonatar1 it's more like if you dont feel sexual attraction you are. Either way, glad you feel at home and found yourself here.
If ya need to talk about it ya got a friend over here
I find it more weird that you wondering if you possibly found the “one” in middle school.
Reminder: asexual and aromatic is different
Can we just make to groups for people
Normal - Weird
Much simpler
Honestly before I found out about aromantic, I thought it was lol
@@Azadgoli elaborate on *weird*
@@Azadgoli okay sure. aphobes like you are considered as weird, while people who understand the concepts of lgbt and accepts them are normal
@@Azadgoli 😕
Me: *asexual*
My friend: hey.. i think i'm asexual-
Me: OMG YAY CONGRATS ON COMING OUTTTT SISSS
my friend: - and aromantic-
Me: oH okayyy thats fineee sisssss ♡♡
She was soo scared of coming outtt but she will 4ever be my frienddddd
wow half of my friend group just invalidated me 🤠
edit: lmao i took shit the wrong way actually- no invalidation, they were confused
Alex W. My condolences, at least you know who aren’t your friends
Edit: Enjoy knowing you’re not alone in this :)
@@a-disaster5285 yeah we’re all graduating from my school this year so we probably won’t see each other again. i’m also fairly sure that if my mom finds out that any of my friends invalidate me shell skin them alive
Alex W. Do film it if they ever have to confront her
@@a-disaster5285 lmao sure
Watching this when questioning, ace-questioning, and finally ace has been very interesting. I really like coming back to Psych2Go videos from early in questioning and seeing how much more I understand now!
To anyone who is ace-questioning, or questioning in general, I hope you figure yourself out and are surrounded by supportive people. I'm going to be cliche just this once, but take your time, you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Idk I feel like I want to have a relationship and do cute things like holding hands or bonding. But I dont really want sex.
me too
same!
Same
I like your pfp
Same. And it might be because I’m young, but I’ve never really felt the need for sex.
Honestly being in a cute relationship instead of a lustful relationship sounds better if I had to pick one.
A friend from middle school suffered for so many years because she didn’t understand herself, she finally learned in college from a professor who mentored her. I’m so glad she’s happy and content now, great video to explain more. I’d never connected the dots of my sexual attraction only with someone I’ve closely bonded with on a spiritual and emotional level, interesting!
I’ve been through a lot of trauma and it made me view sex as something that was vile, disgusting and evil, but I realized years later that’s not always the case. I slowly started correcting my way of thinking everytime I cringed at anything that could be considered sexual, instead telling myself that the majority of people don’t think and feel the way I do, and that there are still good people out there who can have good experiences with someone they love.
I started writing short romance stories with sex scenes that always involve consent, communication and love between the couples. My bestfriends read them and always tell me how much they enjoy the aftercare and the love shown between the characters. It’s helped me immensely with becoming more comfortable with the thought of sex.
While I still can’t picture myself with anyone, now I can at least say I view it as something that’s natural and human. 💜
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Well, can you'll asexuals help me in this situation : I love my girlfriend a lot, she's asexual, but it I like sex a lot 😅 i mean a lot..... I don't want to breakup with her because it'll crush her heart, she'll cry alot & I don't want to give her this lvl of pain nor do I have the courage to this 🥺.......
I am really really confused please help me
BTW from where I can read your stories ?????
@@manishkumarpandey9702 That is really difficult... A relationship is about making sacrifices, but people also have boundaries. Not every Ace dislikes Sex and can find enjoyment in it, others might feel repulsed of the thought. So first of all, talk about your feelings and desires and ask her about her boundaries. You shouldn't convince her to "try it" or something like that... If she doesn't want to have intercourse, there is no changing her mind. If this is something you can't accept, because it is also valid how you feel, you probably won't be able to find common ground... So think about if this is the kind of relationship you want.
Important is talking about everything and respecting each others wishes.
I hope that helped a little bit, and good luck :)