How I Left My Abusive (ex) Boyfriend

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  • @mehganlee3618
    @mehganlee3618 4 роки тому +5654

    *"I don't like that section of the mall anymore...."*
    I- God, bless your soul.

    • @acbghost4411
      @acbghost4411 4 роки тому +87

      mehgan lee was she raped or is that just me

    • @abcc7382
      @abcc7382 4 роки тому +173

      ACB Ghost
      I think she was raped

    • @spencervirens
      @spencervirens 4 роки тому +109

      @@abcc7382 I would say raped, but probably sexually harassed. It's a possibility though.

    • @hello_people5283
      @hello_people5283 4 роки тому +110

      @@acbghost4411 Yes, she didn't give consent.

    • @Nicole-id5ey
      @Nicole-id5ey 4 роки тому +73

      500 years in prison for him

  • @sophia.aquino.
    @sophia.aquino. 4 роки тому +2931

    "You better be buffer than Mr. Clean with that attitude."
    -Illyssa, 2018

  • @Emiithekitty
    @Emiithekitty 7 місяців тому +729

    As a victim of sexual assault I know how it feels to go through this. You are so brave to be sharing your story

    • @thatonespinster
      @thatonespinster 6 місяців тому +10

      im so sorry that happened, hoping for only the best for you in the future ❤

    • @moxxzui
      @moxxzui 6 місяців тому +4

      Omg I’m so sorry for you..

    • @slushiixoxo
      @slushiixoxo 5 місяців тому +3

      i hope you and illy r okay :C

    • @user-xg1bw2bd2l
      @user-xg1bw2bd2l 4 місяці тому

      Cap

    • @slushiixoxo
      @slushiixoxo 4 місяці тому

      @@user-xg1bw2bd2l what... literally no proof against this?

  • @sangria-margarita
    @sangria-margarita 5 місяців тому +225

    6:12 "You don't owe anyone anything." Thank you. I want to give you a hug. I just got out of such a terrible uncomfortable relationship like this and needed to hear that. I've just recently began healing from it.

    • @da_real_one
      @da_real_one 2 дні тому

      praying for you ❤ i hope you’re okay now

  • @zachmatthewpogi9639
    @zachmatthewpogi9639 3 роки тому +7824

    “You are not responsible for the joy of others”
    -Jaiden Animation

  • @wizardfrog1572
    @wizardfrog1572 4 роки тому +16670

    Harris: I’m gonna jump off a building
    Me: do a backflip

    • @dez2950
      @dez2950 4 роки тому +121

      At the end of everything Hold on to anything
      Me: Dive head first

    • @gachacutie5959
      @gachacutie5959 4 роки тому +20

      Yeah

    • @Snowfox_Brinson
      @Snowfox_Brinson 4 роки тому +36

      DAMN DAMN DAMN HIT HIM WITH A TABLE

    • @Tralfazzz
      @Tralfazzz 4 роки тому +60

      How about a bellyflop?

    • @coolboymcswag2040
      @coolboymcswag2040 4 роки тому +50

      Everybod do the flop

  • @BananaWallyBart
    @BananaWallyBart 6 місяців тому +217

    Illy, I’ve been in a “grooming” situation like this a couple years ago before. I watched this video and I recognized what the groomer was doing, I blocked him. Now I still come back to visit every once in a while, and remind myself to keep myself safe. I just turned 13, and I sent this video to my friend when she told me about a 22 year old guy asking her for pictures. Thank you for bringing awareness I love you Illy

    • @slushiixoxo
      @slushiixoxo 5 місяців тому +11

      illy saves lives C:

    • @ZeroAguilar
      @ZeroAguilar 5 місяців тому +3

      thank u for commenting this im so sorry for what youve had to bare❤

    • @ZeroAguilar
      @ZeroAguilar 5 місяців тому +2

      @@slushiixoxoyes she does!❤

    • @BananaWallyBart
      @BananaWallyBart 5 місяців тому +1

      Aww yw ❤@@ZeroAguilar

    • @charlottemoo9397
      @charlottemoo9397 Місяць тому +1

      i'm so glad you're safe :)

  • @nerdtalkzofficial
    @nerdtalkzofficial 10 місяців тому +175

    Not a single person deserves to go through this and the people who cause it should be held accountable.
    God speed, Illy
    And to the people, start spreading awareness for things like this. Don’t mention this specific situation, but spread awareness about people who go through this

  • @giggus_arrow509
    @giggus_arrow509 4 роки тому +3683

    “I don’t like that section of the mall anymore.” Holy shit. That hits different.

  • @jeongguks_universe6589
    @jeongguks_universe6589 4 роки тому +1892

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore".
    Damn, that hit me hard.
    Im really sorry for what you had to go through

  • @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor
    @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor 5 місяців тому +69

    Reminder: people who sexually abuse others usally aren't very developed emotionally
    so remember you are a lot more developed then this person is, they probably just spent his teenage years doing nothing to develop his brain
    You are FAR more powerful both physically and mentally

    • @overlord3481
      @overlord3481 Місяць тому

      You're saying that based on nothing. What does "developed" even mean? You saying that smart men can't be creeps lol

    • @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor
      @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor Місяць тому +2

      @@overlord3481 being mentally developed doesnt equal smartness.
      it's just the ability to handle things

    • @overlord3481
      @overlord3481 Місяць тому

      @@PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor define mentally developed

    • @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor
      @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor Місяць тому

      @@overlord3481 being able to handle stuff that a younger/traumatised person cant

    • @iamtheloraxandispeakforthe8496
      @iamtheloraxandispeakforthe8496 Місяць тому +4

      By emotionally underdeveloped, they mean that the person does not understand how their actions affect others (to some extent)
      They don't understand that someone deserves the right to say no, they only act on what THEY want.

  • @amadude8174
    @amadude8174 4 місяці тому +57

    Thanks for making this, I was talking with a 20 year old woman over discord and she always seemed super nice but recently she kept talking about coming to my country for college and I’m only a 16 year old lad, this video helped me realise what she was trying to do and luckily I never shared any personal info

    • @Sam-pd9mp
      @Sam-pd9mp Місяць тому +4

      Dude, please stay away from her, and please be safe

  • @gddiggy3828
    @gddiggy3828 3 роки тому +2634

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore."
    I have never heard a sentence with so many raw emotions put behind it. I CAN NOT imagine being in a situation like this.

    • @asahi7627
      @asahi7627 3 роки тому +91

      @Logan Roof Wtf dude, not funny

    • @saskiamoller8629
      @saskiamoller8629 3 роки тому +61

      @Logan Roof damn u can jump off a roof W Haris and also do a backflip

    • @furiousstudios4438
      @furiousstudios4438 3 роки тому +32

      @Logan Roof
      ......

    • @annareeves2027
      @annareeves2027 3 роки тому +42

      @Logan Roof um wtf that’s not good or nice this HAPPENED to someone and it’s really not funny imagine if it happened to YOU

    • @miki5152
      @miki5152 3 роки тому +29

      @Logan Roof backflip off a roof

  • @evijakoltone7883
    @evijakoltone7883 5 років тому +1036

    "i don't like that section of the mall anymore" hearing you say that made me feel so sick inside.

    • @TheKpopBasement
      @TheKpopBasement 5 років тому +1

      Why?

    • @maja524
      @maja524 5 років тому +96

      Hanin Mony Because it implies that
      she got sexually assaulted in that
      parking garage, and now that’s all she
      can think of in any parking garage.
      It’s heartbreaking.

    • @humancircuitry
      @humancircuitry 5 років тому +8

      same. tears immediately welled up in my eyes.

    • @madeleinebillie2494
      @madeleinebillie2494 5 років тому +17

      It’s not okay that she was put in that position in the first place but the fact that she was put in THAT position at THAT age is honestly so sickening and so disgusting I can’t even comprehend it. What’s even worse is how the POLICE the people who are meant to PROTECT us didn’t do a damn thing about it. That is the most the disappointing part of this video.

    • @daysleeper7209
      @daysleeper7209 5 років тому +1

      Me too

  • @pikachuthebananasplit9061
    @pikachuthebananasplit9061 9 місяців тому +64

    I’m so sorry you had to go through all that.
    Words can not explain how impressed I am that you stood up to Harris and kept your ground.

  • @tgrsparrow
    @tgrsparrow 7 місяців тому +36

    Girl, i watched this series when it first came out four years ago. I didn't know it at the time how similar our situations were.
    Took a global pandemic for me to leave and several months after to go no contact but things are better now. Thank you for making this video series. You helped me open my eyes and realize what was happening.

  • @memelord2136
    @memelord2136 3 роки тому +2511

    "Age is just a number"
    And Hell is just a giant oven

  • @auburnhippie3052
    @auburnhippie3052 5 років тому +8323

    "sweetie, stalking is a big word." That's what the police said to me when I was in a similar situation. Illy, thank you for telling this story. It's good to know we're not alone in the word. All the love, darling.

    • @olliojenarter
      @olliojenarter 5 років тому +262

      I wish I could line up all these good for nothing, dismissive law "enforcement" officers and pepper canon them until they apologize!

    • @totallycrazystudios1801
      @totallycrazystudios1801 4 роки тому +149

      Those cops belittled you like that? Messed up. I'm so sorry anybody has to go through anything like this.

    • @remig0ld_641
      @remig0ld_641 4 роки тому +39

      "Load the cannon!"

    • @gamesandshorts69
      @gamesandshorts69 3 роки тому +90

      Y'know what else is a big word?
      *Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious. Which is not what these types of cops are.*

    • @gamesandshorts69
      @gamesandshorts69 3 роки тому +7

      @Logan Roof wtf

  • @user-mx7tp8oc7r
    @user-mx7tp8oc7r 26 днів тому +8

    People like that man make me loose my faith in humanity.
    Then people like you go and restore it.
    You keep doing what you're doing, Illy.

  • @pr3ttyb0yj4y
    @pr3ttyb0yj4y 6 місяців тому +86

    3:41 makes me giggle so hard , i love how she can still make jokes and stuff during a hard time. its so nice for you to be this honest about things like this.

    • @BabySeal84
      @BabySeal84 5 місяців тому +5

      I was in a situation like this before but much less severe. So I was 11 and I was playing a game on roblox with my friends. Then someone came into the server(wasn't a private server cuz none of us had money) and they told me to join their game. I said "why, who are you" as did my friends. They said it was our other friend on an alternate account. I said ok and told my friend I would be right back. This guy then once we were in his private server pretending to be my friend, asked me a lot of personal stuff as they "forgot." This stuff included my birthday and stuff but they didn't say anything like my name as they knew I would catch on. I did as they wanted because I thought it was my friend. This guy then would go on to ask me for secrets that I "had told him" which were really just him digging for more info he could use against me. when he asked me how my dog was doing because and he said my other friend told him about my dog. I froze because the friend he was pretending to be was the only one I told about my dogs death, and I said that if I got a new dog, he would be the first I'd tell. I didn't confront him about it because I knew that if what was going on was what I thought it was, I could lose important information. I then played along and said a bunch of lies about my life and he believed them. He even told me he wanted a picture of me but I didn't do it as he should know what I looked like. After a little of him believing the lies I fed him, I confronted him slowly, and he didn't thunk to an excuse, he just acted hurt like I played him, as he never did anything wrong. I wasn't dumb enough to play his game though so I continued to expose him. When he knew he couldn't keep his act up much longer, he said how much I hurt him and how he hoped I would die in a car crash. He then left after playing victim a final time. After that I would go into the server where my friends were and I told them that the person who claimed to by our friend was just some random guy desperate for friends as I didn't want to tell them about everything else. I would joke about it now but never to those friends as I still haven't told them.

    • @DaisyLefay
      @DaisyLefay 3 місяці тому

      Me too Illys the best 🫶

  • @Aura097
    @Aura097 5 років тому +2750

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore".
    This just broke me.
    It's so messed up.

    • @_artly_art3622
      @_artly_art3622 5 років тому +4

      Wait. I don't get it. What did they do?

    • @Aura097
      @Aura097 5 років тому +62

      @@_artly_art3622 He r*ped her I think.

    • @mejustme479
      @mejustme479 5 років тому +18

      And that is why I totally believe her story, I can relate. 💔

    • @Aura097
      @Aura097 5 років тому +132

      @@stacymolchanova9832 what?! No she wasn't!! What are you even saying?

    • @xendra333
      @xendra333 5 років тому +76

      @@stacymolchanova9832 Statutory rape exist and even so, she didn't give her consent.

  • @ameIiacox
    @ameIiacox 3 роки тому +1531

    this is why we don’t use the term “toxic” lightly.

    • @yngjng7732
      @yngjng7732 3 роки тому +2

      @Logan Roof wtf

    • @lidiaamorim9342
      @lidiaamorim9342 3 роки тому +12

      @@yngjng7732 Don't mind him. He was being a *d word* back there talking about this video like it was a comedy.
      Breaking news *insert @ of that guy* its not *b word*

    • @heather4805
      @heather4805 3 роки тому +1

      @@lidiaamorim9342 brasil?

    • @blimasolash2551
      @blimasolash2551 3 роки тому +6

      When you live in my world that term is thrown around WAY to much

    • @amymeadows9834
      @amymeadows9834 3 роки тому

      Well we are very Toxic human beings when we're hungry. And I'm very crazy when I'm need fed a nice pound of lead

  • @user-zs4zn7mt3v
    @user-zs4zn7mt3v 8 місяців тому +27

    I was a sexual assault victim back in year 6 by my bully who didn’t get a punishment for it and then I saw this video and I felt so seen, thank you so much illy, you are so brave for speaking out about this and putting your foot down when you couldn’t do it anymore.

  • @TempoTronica
    @TempoTronica 4 місяці тому +13

    That story about the cop just made me mad. Like you said after telling the story, you deserved and needed help. I'm glad you got out of that. And I hope this video has helped other victims.

  • @jellosquid8096
    @jellosquid8096 4 роки тому +2996

    my heart shattered when she said that about the parking garage.

    • @lawlietyagami9857
      @lawlietyagami9857 4 роки тому +177

      Same, it’s so sad when you realize there’s people out there who would prey on younger kids or do these types of horrible things.

    • @camerontraer3136
      @camerontraer3136 4 роки тому +54

      Same. I feel terrible for her. I would NEVER do that to someone who I truly love.

    • @trictok4418
      @trictok4418 4 роки тому +62

      And my heart became a little more whole when you gave us validation. Thank you! I was a harassment victim but everyone dismissed it as just my imagination. I'm grateful that you believe illymation's testimony was real.

    • @aetuts4773
      @aetuts4773 4 роки тому +9

      this is irrelevant but heads up jd i’m a dead gay walking

    • @Kai-zz3no
      @Kai-zz3no 4 роки тому +1

      uwu. And here’s your final bell
      It’s one last dance and then farewell

  • @hathal-wr6yb
    @hathal-wr6yb 3 роки тому +2114

    H-hate him
    A-an evil guy
    R-really disgusting
    I-ILLEGAL DOOD
    S-supposed to be in jail
    I would like justice☺

    • @giggus_arrow509
      @giggus_arrow509 3 роки тому +46

      His name is haris mahjoob. I’ve referenced social media, linked in, everything. He looks like illys drawing of him.

    • @bicuber8399
      @bicuber8399 3 роки тому +4

      Giggus_ Arrow Does he have any other socials?

    • @ObiWanKenobi212
      @ObiWanKenobi212 3 роки тому +1

      Giggus_ Arrow is he on face book?

    • @ObiWanKenobi212
      @ObiWanKenobi212 3 роки тому +1

      Giggus_ Arrow does he look fancy?

    • @rulerofeverything7247
      @rulerofeverything7247 3 роки тому +2

      @@giggus_arrow509 You found him?! What's he doing now?

  • @MinisDunyasi5
    @MinisDunyasi5 2 місяці тому +5

    Illy, thank you for sharing your story and raising awareness. I watched this series when I was 11. I’m 15 now, and by no exaggeration, you have saved me.
    I’ve made many friends online and had multiple encounters where my “new friends” told me never to tell my parents. I immediately blocked and reported them because you taught me to. I didn’t learn this in school. I learned it by watching this series.
    Thank you.

  • @user-hi9pp7lk3d
    @user-hi9pp7lk3d Місяць тому +2

    I'm so glad you feel comfortable sharing this story, I hope you get your justice girl

  • @dove_annarchie6787
    @dove_annarchie6787 3 роки тому +4250

    I'm still so fucking infuriated that Illy never got justice, not even her having a better life, friends and support system in the present can quench that anger. It's so unfair...

    • @alias4795
      @alias4795 2 роки тому +12

      Same.

    • @oreocrumbs4598
      @oreocrumbs4598 2 роки тому +104

      @Rafa Enzo Natividad Dude, there is literally sexual abuse in the video and you're worried about someone swearing in the comments? 😭/nm

    • @krek2031
      @krek2031 2 роки тому +7

      @@oreocrumbs4598 I agree

    • @personwithinternet
      @personwithinternet 2 роки тому +2

      Same

    • @krek2031
      @krek2031 2 роки тому +1

      STILL THIS GUYS SCARED TO FUCKING RESPOND 😂😂😂

  • @Alex-dm8vf
    @Alex-dm8vf 5 років тому +3072

    *She was in UA-cam rewind* I’m so proud

    • @yeetyeet8840
      @yeetyeet8840 5 років тому +42

      Animators were included again thankfully

    • @that_echo1887
      @that_echo1887 5 років тому +2

      Alex Milne yes! I was like illy!!!!!!!!

    • @michaelql3754
      @michaelql3754 5 років тому +17

      Alex Milne everything was still thrash tho

    • @trinavegaga5808
      @trinavegaga5808 5 років тому +6

      But then the rest of the rewind sucked

    • @mintomento8003
      @mintomento8003 5 років тому +5

      I’m more disappointed considering how awful it was

  • @jellymarill3837
    @jellymarill3837 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much for realeasing this series because it is a very educational and made me and a lot of other people more concious of these kinds of situations.
    You are so brave for talking about it especially since videos have come out of people defending Haris and I watched there videos and thankfully found so many comments defending you.
    You deserve to be helped :)

  • @vrx4t
    @vrx4t 6 місяців тому +7

    ive been in a similar situation before (a lot more complicated on the emotions but a shorter time by a lot) and seeing this video still sends chills down my spine. it's still crazy that you have the courage for speaking out

  • @wadew.1869
    @wadew.1869 5 років тому +3465

    “So he drove us to a parking garage.. “
    *I dont like that section of the mall anymore*
    Don’t tell me that didn’t make your heart drop to your stomach. Because it did for me, and Jesus Christ I hate the feeling

    • @mkl3399
      @mkl3399 5 років тому +23

      Same

    • @7beep
      @7beep 5 років тому +15

      What did she mean?

    • @itzme3230
      @itzme3230 5 років тому +21

      Wade W.
      Same :(

    • @lolagw1842
      @lolagw1842 5 років тому +60

      • Milky Tea • Um.. he raped her.

    • @livmartinezfilm
      @livmartinezfilm 5 років тому +7

      Yes

  • @HeavyWingz
    @HeavyWingz 5 років тому +2027

    He don't protecc
    He only attack
    But most improtantly he needs to jail real quick no cap

    • @dooperwooperdmt1900
      @dooperwooperdmt1900 5 років тому +51

      He don't protecc he only atacc if he ever meets me he's losing his fucking cocc

    • @Mmonmon343
      @Mmonmon343 5 років тому +5

      This is why need a REAL batman

    • @henryraptor1545
      @henryraptor1545 5 років тому +1

      If you can get a strong enough case and have evidence, I agree!

    • @smokyking6680
      @smokyking6680 5 років тому

      Protected

    • @QueenSpade8
      @QueenSpade8 5 років тому

      XD

  • @GOOBER_SILLYGOOB
    @GOOBER_SILLYGOOB 7 місяців тому +3

    I am so sorry this happened to you at such a young age.. as someone that has almost been in a situation like this I completely understand how you felt.. this situation is really scary, especially at such a young age.. I’m so so happy you were so brave to tell this story

  • @hina9234
    @hina9234 9 місяців тому +3

    Thanks fo sharing this story Ily! Your so brave for sharing this story! Your helping so many teenagers out there!

  • @perlajurado8953
    @perlajurado8953 5 років тому +712

    "YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MISTER CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE"

  • @zachboss2378
    @zachboss2378 4 роки тому +5682

    I can’t believe I breath the same oxygen of him

  • @SlyInstinct
    @SlyInstinct 7 місяців тому +14

    I dont think i have the words to even express how courageous you are for sharing this story as this turned out to be majority of your teen years. I know you're in a far better place now but im honestly shocked people like Harris exist.
    Keep up the good work with the animations, they motivate me to try them as well even though mine suck 😅

  • @GenerationDefenders
    @GenerationDefenders 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much for your bravery. We stand by you, you make us feel seen and give us hope for justice. Never keep fighting illy, we stand by you.

  • @katecrumrine171
    @katecrumrine171 3 роки тому +836

    “Stick and stones will break your bones, but words won’t hurt you. Right?” Verbal and mental abuse is still abuse. Everyone should remember that. Please.

    • @ignoremelol2576
      @ignoremelol2576 3 роки тому +7

      Yeah

    • @mercurymoon2369
      @mercurymoon2369 3 роки тому +5

      Thank you!

    • @wadabreab
      @wadabreab 3 роки тому +11

      Injuries heal, words dont

    • @mahendrakandpal7514
      @mahendrakandpal7514 3 роки тому +2

      Nope.

    • @katerinasuprunchik9121
      @katerinasuprunchik9121 3 роки тому +9

      My older cousin is putting me through mental abuse calling me “fatass” “ugly” “stupid” “untalented” “worthless” and it’s only me. No. One. Else. His parents don’t do anything at all. I believed him. I keep putting myself down. Calling myself the things that he has said. My sisters probably noticed that something is wrong. I try to get better. But I can’t. I’m scared to eat in front of his family. I always have the feeling that I’m being judged. I spend all my time alone not wanting to talk to anyone. Isolating myself. Whatever you say will effect someone forever.

  • @Drywalleaterr
    @Drywalleaterr 4 роки тому +1342

    "That's toxic as shiiiiiiiiiiiiii-"
    -JaidenAnimations

    • @quackityhasagun4405
      @quackityhasagun4405 4 роки тому +21

      tom gedison, you are now my favorite UA-cam commenter.

    • @Kr4mpus_
      @Kr4mpus_ 3 роки тому +3

      this
      this is really fucking good

    • @nubbskull
      @nubbskull 3 роки тому +1

      Oo another comment from jaidens toxic thingy..????? I think????
      (sorry if I sound sarcastic and stuff)

    • @Dewey_01
      @Dewey_01 3 роки тому

      That actually what i thaught

    • @littleshook5360
      @littleshook5360 3 роки тому

      No😠😠😠😠 it's "UNLOCK THE DOORS FIND THE KEYSSS😭😭" 🤣🤣😂😂😂

  • @marthameza9451
    @marthameza9451 6 місяців тому

    you are so brave for surviving and telling the story! I am so glad you were able to escape, what he did to you was discusting and im glad you were able to get yourself out of thte mindset and being straightforward to him! you deserve to be happy.

  • @pinayblogista
    @pinayblogista 6 місяців тому +2

    You have just made others that may have gone through, be going through a very huge help by posting this. Let there me more of you that speaks out about this.

  • @karah7086
    @karah7086 5 років тому +623

    I got chills when you said "I don't like the part of the mall anymore..."😨

    • @foooofboi
      @foooofboi 5 років тому +6

      What does that mean. Oh wait WHAT

    • @13taylorswiftvideos13
      @13taylorswiftvideos13 5 років тому +5

      Feffinator she was raped in that part of the mall

  • @Allaroundtheworld99
    @Allaroundtheworld99 5 років тому +1692

    “My gut was like.. GURL THIS IS WHACK” 😂😂

  • @StrikeThatChord
    @StrikeThatChord 5 місяців тому

    I'm so, SO sorry you had to go through this. Just remember even though when things happen in the past, they can still affect you, and I know it's hard to forget things like this, but keep your head up. Don't let that control you.
    Your biggest fan,
    Tilly

  • @nyaluvsherbf
    @nyaluvsherbf 14 днів тому +1

    I am late but I am so sorry that happened to you.. no one should have to go through that. And the fact they didn’t even listen to you at the start says it all. This isn’t talked about enough. I hope your doing so much better❤️

  • @Lucid_The_Hellhound
    @Lucid_The_Hellhound 3 роки тому +4497

    Let this be a warning children- in a relationship you are supposed to feel safe, you need to feel like the person really cares about you and they respect you.

    • @Lucid_The_Hellhound
      @Lucid_The_Hellhound 2 роки тому +11

      @Sparer Yahya Yes.

    • @kito1156
      @kito1156 2 роки тому +30

      This should go for any relationship with anyone you know

    • @spamton1996
      @spamton1996 2 роки тому +5

      Too bad I’m a virgin

    • @astroIogi
      @astroIogi 2 роки тому +4

      Ill ask a phone and call 911
      Or be a police myself-

    • @tammiestait5465
      @tammiestait5465 2 роки тому +6

      You shouldn't limit to just children.
      I'm giving you the award of "Thinking 69420% of children are dumb".

  • @jellyquijano4191
    @jellyquijano4191 4 роки тому +1711

    “YOU BETTA BE BUFFER THAN MR CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE”

    • @nethascotx24
      @nethascotx24 4 роки тому +13

      Ngl best line ever

    • @cer7892
      @cer7892 4 роки тому +10

      I love that line lol

    • @annaluuuvv
      @annaluuuvv 4 роки тому +4

      Nice plagiarizing

    • @MuffinDogg
      @MuffinDogg 4 роки тому +2

      Yes

    • @MuffinDogg
      @MuffinDogg 4 роки тому +3

      YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN A... wait he's a noodle

  • @nullvoidandkittens_Ravenull
    @nullvoidandkittens_Ravenull 7 місяців тому +1

    Please keep educating us on this you just saved lives

  • @crazedcyber
    @crazedcyber 7 місяців тому

    I love seeing videos like these especially when it comes to online grooming. I was groomed several times online but got into 'relationships' with two people and it definitely did some damage to me, even to this day. It kinda makes me feel seen that both of our stories took so similar, makes me feel like I can conquer the pain :) thank you for sharing your story!

  • @jennifergrissom5878
    @jennifergrissom5878 3 роки тому +841

    He ruined this girl's freaking life not just childhood he gave her these memories no one should suffer like that

    • @sarahj4091
      @sarahj4091 3 роки тому +7

      @Logan Roof no❤️ noone else reply please this 9 year old "logan" is looking for attention

    • @couchramen5451
      @couchramen5451 3 роки тому +2

      ABSOLUTELY NO ONE SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE THIS

    • @alexandriadiamante4286
      @alexandriadiamante4286 3 роки тому +2

      Yea I feel so sorry for her

  • @keianucharlize
    @keianucharlize 5 років тому +503

    When you said “and he drove to a parking lot...............I don’t like that part of the mall anymore”it made me so sad I could here the pain in your voice

    • @seleenam-ali4762
      @seleenam-ali4762 5 років тому +15

      Yes same dude my heart dropped i feel soo bad

    • @PUNKTACTIXX
      @PUNKTACTIXX 5 років тому +5

      She should of just killed him right there right then

    • @sophieliz5027
      @sophieliz5027 5 років тому +2

      my heart BROKE

    • @theinternetpolice2078
      @theinternetpolice2078 5 років тому +1

      I could hear the utter defeat in that voice.

    • @moony4412
      @moony4412 5 років тому +1

      songs to listen to when I'm bored she couldn’t. She was helpless, and couldn’t stop him.

  • @theoryhunters5382
    @theoryhunters5382 7 місяців тому +6

    People don't know how hard it is for people to do this.... I dealt with someone like this when I was 9 and he was 13.... when I told people... no one believed me either... I am proud to see others who went through similar issues speaking out. Our voices must be heard

  • @zb2363
    @zb2363 3 місяці тому +1

    Kudos to you for your strength. I am so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for educating others :)

  • @gaypepporoni1171
    @gaypepporoni1171 3 роки тому +1879

    Little does harris know there are over 1.75 million people willing to take him out >:)

  • @leofont6026
    @leofont6026 5 років тому +14694

    The 6.6k dislikes are all of Haris' fake accounts...

  • @StockingAnarchy112
    @StockingAnarchy112 3 місяці тому

    I'm so glad you talked about this! we actually have a lot of similarities and so I watched these videos when I was young, which taught me a lot and saved me a buncha times! thank you!

  • @Im_just_a_banana
    @Im_just_a_banana 7 місяців тому

    Im glad you posted this video because it’s important to tell others about these types of things and make sure others know they’re not alone you are an awesome person ily ❤❤❤

  • @itsme_hi13
    @itsme_hi13 2 роки тому +5365

    “It’s okay, you just made a mistake.” That’s what my mom told me after I told her that I had been a victim of abuse and pedophilia.
    Illy, thank you for helping me not feel so alone.

    • @08VL
      @08VL 2 роки тому +44

      @@justaturky2890 same!

    • @falconicole1007
      @falconicole1007 2 роки тому +300

      You didn’t make any mistake. Someone took advantage of you and hurt you when you were vulnerable. I’m sorry your mom wouldn’t see that, and I hope you’re doing well now

    • @galaxytaco2873
      @galaxytaco2873 2 роки тому +54

      The way I went “that’s not normal?” When you said that. Wow. Uh. I am so unbelievably sorry about that for you. :(

    • @Stan-Loona
      @Stan-Loona 2 роки тому +16

      I am so so soooooo sorry that happened that’s heartbreaking 💔

    • @itsme_hi13
      @itsme_hi13 2 роки тому +47

      @@yd_gacha4307 i sobbed when i read this. it’s not funny or welcome at all. do you know how long it’s taken me in therapy just to try to recognize that it wasn’t all my fault? and do you know that i still struggle with that? my own mother told me that it was my fault, and the one friend i trusted told me that i should have seen the signs. and they’re right! i should have! i should have left so much earlier! thanks for reminding me that the moral of my story is that i was dumb enough to listen to a 40-something-year-old man (even though he originally told me he was 17) when i should have just ignored the idea of love. you really need to get off the internet. seriously. what is wrong with you

  • @ailinsno
    @ailinsno 5 років тому +500

    “Better be buffer then mr.clean with that attitude ” love that

  • @g-man7322
    @g-man7322 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry this happened to you.

  • @gymanations
    @gymanations 9 місяців тому +1

    And you are brave to report this to us and this helps a lot of people who are in these relationships

  • @kyliebuddy4652
    @kyliebuddy4652 4 роки тому +560

    When she said she did not like that part of the mall anymore.... I felt my gut contort like a spider in a death curl....

  • @Ashrustic
    @Ashrustic 3 роки тому +1190

    "Age is just a number."
    Execution is just a time limit.

    • @you-jq7xe
      @you-jq7xe 3 роки тому +18

      911 is a number too :)

    • @fnafgirl8874
      @fnafgirl8874 3 роки тому +22

      And the FBI is just a group of friends!

    • @dragon-jz2pv
      @dragon-jz2pv 3 роки тому +4

      @@fnafgirl8874 and co-workers

    • @dragon-jz2pv
      @dragon-jz2pv 3 роки тому +2

      And the time limit is done

    • @imweird4648
      @imweird4648 3 роки тому

      OH HO! THAT GONE FROM ZERO TO A MILLON REAL QUICK!

  • @ratdoodles4370
    @ratdoodles4370 5 місяців тому +12

    i got very lucky.. my cousin sexually assaulted me and my parents found out. i didn’t tell them then his parents found out he got in trouble and thankfully no one else did. here i am, today, suffering through ptsd, haven’t dated a man ever again lol. i met a really nice police officer and he honestly helped much more than anyone has. i thank you for sharing this. and hope that no man ever bothers you like that again. stay strong, we love you

    • @tamimsiddique1420
      @tamimsiddique1420 5 місяців тому +3

      I'm sorry for what your cousin did, you did not deserve that.

  • @victoriahuynh
    @victoriahuynh 5 місяців тому +1

    I don’t know why I am only watching this now. You are so brave and kind and beyond funny!! I am so happy you have the platform you do and sorry you had to go through all of this but how amazing is it that this reached so many people!! Hopefully young people can avoid this experience ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @luv2saturn260
    @luv2saturn260 2 роки тому +2627

    The worst part of this is it happened for so long and ruined her entire middle school and high school experience. This happened since she was 13. Until she was 18 how is that okay. This story hurts me worse every time I watch this

    • @08VL
      @08VL 2 роки тому +16

      @@tacopower3578 fr fr thats sad she cant get that precious time back

    • @SilentCrimsonOx
      @SilentCrimsonOx 2 роки тому +19

      Yea and she can’t just go back in time back to her childhood ig that’s what you can call it :/

    • @ronaldoalberto3510
      @ronaldoalberto3510 2 роки тому +29

      Not to mention the added trauma she may carry with her to the future, all because of him

    • @leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259
      @leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 2 роки тому +6

      yeah thats the worst part

    • @fxdedflxwers907
      @fxdedflxwers907 Рік тому +12

      Coupled with the fact that, in another video, she said that she was being bullied at school

  • @jobyawful1121
    @jobyawful1121 2 роки тому +3074

    Just noticed Haris's hair is drawn to look like devil horns
    Clever

    • @derp9440
      @derp9440 2 роки тому +81

      He deserves to go to down to the under world.

    • @yasminlima2272
      @yasminlima2272 2 роки тому +107

      Not even satan would want him

    • @derp9440
      @derp9440 2 роки тому +23

      @@yasminlima2272 then where the frick we’re gonna put him!

    • @yasminlima2272
      @yasminlima2272 2 роки тому +32

      @@derp9440 Infinity death and suffering lol

    • @wyzran
      @wyzran 2 роки тому +9

      @@yasminlima2272 send him to the PURGATORY

  • @londonhughes5986
    @londonhughes5986 9 місяців тому

    I had to pause these videos multiple times because I had to have therapy for something involved with this topic and yet I wanted to finish the story you are presenting. Thank you for sharing and I’m sorry this happens at all.

  • @frogempire998
    @frogempire998 8 місяців тому +1

    This really helped with past trauma thank you so much you are the best

  • @catharticreverie
    @catharticreverie 5 років тому +756

    I feel like I'm more disappointed and angry at the cop because it was his job to protect you. It was his responsibility to take this seriously, but he didn't. He refused to listen and condescended a very serious issue that could have turned much much worse. When people in power like him don't believe survivors of abuse, they have blood on their hands. He doesn't deserve to be a cop.

    • @corncosplayer7941
      @corncosplayer7941 5 років тому +36

      I'm scared of cops literally because of this reason, something similar happened to me

    • @diligentone-six2688
      @diligentone-six2688 5 років тому +6

      In my Country: Once a Cop, always a Cop. Your Job is to Serve an Protect the Country. Any Lawmen is not Safe in our recent Administration. Commit a Crime, you get Humiliated by the Superintendents. And either they'll take you some place dangerous or they'll arrest you.

    • @SteenatheCatrobat
      @SteenatheCatrobat 5 років тому +13

      I hope he got fired.

    • @gamerharpy205
      @gamerharpy205 Рік тому

      He should be fired

    • @HiSkyHigh
      @HiSkyHigh Рік тому

      I hope the the cop and her ex dies in a hole with no one to remember them

  • @nomadsstuff1770
    @nomadsstuff1770 5 років тому +601

    "back for the chaos" >implying i ever left

    • @illymation
      @illymation  5 років тому +37

      That made me laugh out loud, omg

    • @nomadsstuff1770
      @nomadsstuff1770 5 років тому +6

      illymation glad to be of service

  • @Persnikity-yv3nh
    @Persnikity-yv3nh 7 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been hard to share this

  • @emmabarnett2143
    @emmabarnett2143 10 місяців тому

    Illy I am really sorry you went through all of this. You are so strong and you deserve justice. I hope this never happens to you ever again.

  • @jimmy62989
    @jimmy62989 5 років тому +489

    What's disgusting is that there are people out there at this very moment who are suffering from this exact kind of situation and our world puts so little stock into addressing emotional abuse and what it can do to a person now and even years in the future. The statement about you being one of the lucky ones to escape is such an understatment.

    • @droopless
      @droopless 5 років тому

      Boner

    • @lovetrain188
      @lovetrain188 5 років тому +1

      My head hurts right now I’m in a relationship I’m not abusive but I realized I do a lot of the things this guy does (minus the sexual things and such) but seriously I’m crying right now I’ve been too obsessive I’m exactly like this guy.... I need to apologize to her now I’ve made some shit choices...

  • @SpindleHorse
    @SpindleHorse 5 років тому +25065

    You have no idea how amazing it is to see someone brave enough to put a monster like this on blast! MAD props to you!

  • @grapesforgrapefruits
    @grapesforgrapefruits 4 місяці тому +2

    No matter what your comment section will be here to support you❤

  • @RT_0123
    @RT_0123 7 місяців тому +1

    You're so brave!! So admirable!!

  • @charlielong2129
    @charlielong2129 3 роки тому +975

    Dad: BILLY, WHY DID YOU SHOOT HIM!
    Me: He's Harris
    Dad: Shoot him again Billy

  • @bumblebeeproductions1673
    @bumblebeeproductions1673 3 роки тому +1723

    “You’re not responsible for anyone’s happiness!”
    - Jaiden Animations, 2019

    • @yaaraschor207
      @yaaraschor207 3 роки тому +44

      Some good wisdom by Jaiden to us all

    • @anonymouslymj1064
      @anonymouslymj1064 3 роки тому +34

      But they feel really depressed- NOT PERSONALLY REASONABLE FOR ANYONE’S HAPPINESS!
      But I’m Santa Claus.
      Alright gray area

    • @ReaTheReal
      @ReaTheReal 3 роки тому +2

      Uhm-

    • @joyflameball
      @joyflameball 3 роки тому +5

      Wise words to live by

    • @oliviaobjects
      @oliviaobjects 3 роки тому +3

      Dude, you are talking about the wrong channel.

  • @LauraCruz-qwerty
    @LauraCruz-qwerty 7 місяців тому +6

    so brave telling this story. I feel for you illy

  • @wildbeautyunderneath4735
    @wildbeautyunderneath4735 5 місяців тому +1

    Dude good job trying to stand up for yourself back with those messages. I'm glad you are in a better place now.

  • @Versaucey
    @Versaucey 5 років тому +4138

    As messed up as it sounds, I've been waiting for this sequel.

  • @izzythegamer1434
    @izzythegamer1434 3 роки тому +729

    Favorite part: “YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MISTER CLEAN WITH THAT ATTiTUDE!!”

  • @galaxysgaming3746
    @galaxysgaming3746 9 місяців тому +20

    I feel terrible that someone so young could go through something so horrible

  • @KatzeMelli
    @KatzeMelli Місяць тому +2

    Girl, from one abuse victim to another … here is a big long internet hug. This was a ride and took me right back to the memories of my ex… hope you’re well these days ❤

  • @bananabreab2222
    @bananabreab2222 5 років тому +565

    *yOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MR. CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE*

  • @thepicklechamp
    @thepicklechamp 4 роки тому +1879

    Harris: I’m going to kill myself
    Everyone including illymation: good
    14:48

  • @Aashbard01
    @Aashbard01 5 місяців тому

    I am so,so sorry that this happened to you, I swear to do something if I see this happen right in front of me.
    What you went through is not okay and I’m glad you’re out of this relationship.
    I am so thankful that God protected you and that you’re still here.
    I am so proud of you for being so brave and strong, even though it was terrifying,
    God bless and stay safe

  • @El_Stylinson
    @El_Stylinson 6 місяців тому +1

    Illy I’m so happy you are okay now. I’m just starting to get into that dating phase and I’m scared I will get taken advantage of because I don’t know how to say no. I’m sorry that stuff happened to you. You don’t deserve it thank you for making me feel no alone. You speak to me in a way no one has been able to get through to me so thank you. I love you. -El

  • @kamada2068
    @kamada2068 5 років тому +740

    You better be buffer than Mr.Clean with that attitude lmao love you illy xD

    • @kamada2068
      @kamada2068 4 роки тому +3

      I swear I don't promote drugs kids

    • @kamada2068
      @kamada2068 4 роки тому

      Lemme just update and say thanks for 777 likes lol

  • @KrystalFlip
    @KrystalFlip 3 роки тому +448

    "YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MR. CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE-"
    Illy, 2018

    • @xzing25
      @xzing25 3 роки тому +2

      Her name illysa

    • @spicymilk1016
      @spicymilk1016 3 роки тому +2

      That's on a PERIOD

    • @iiOofNub
      @iiOofNub 3 роки тому +2

      yes but illy is Lilysa short

    • @akuraproductions3550
      @akuraproductions3550 3 роки тому +1

      That, my fellow humans, is my new catchphrase.

    • @mt7680
      @mt7680 3 роки тому +1

      Krystal _Flip i fucking died at that.

  • @Lamp354
    @Lamp354 7 місяців тому +1

    Honestly I’m so glad I found this and have been able to watch it multiple times this has made me more aware and able to catch signs of this forming, i was able to avoid this has happening at one point only because I was able to see the signs, thank you.

  • @selahmeyers2643
    @selahmeyers2643 5 років тому +994

    I’m sorry but- “YOU MUST BE BUFFER THAN MISTA CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE”

    • @briannguy4481
      @briannguy4481 5 років тому +2

      It's not okay to body shame.

    • @agereartist3763
      @agereartist3763 5 років тому +4

      True but lets nuke his house anyway

    • @Sweetestdiva14
      @Sweetestdiva14 5 років тому +2

      I actually died

    • @peeberton
      @peeberton 5 років тому +2

      Omg 😂😂😂

    • @hntr038
      @hntr038 5 років тому +1

      @@agereartist3763 did you know nuking a house is worse than this dude Harris? Just thought I'd let you know.

  • @jaydenxforever7665
    @jaydenxforever7665 3 роки тому +383

    "Touching is just touching"
    And being touched by handcuffs is just touching

    • @icyfoxi2755
      @icyfoxi2755 3 роки тому +6

      Try a flaming hot knife

    • @emmanoel9045
      @emmanoel9045 3 роки тому +2

      @Logan Roof DID YOU JUST SAY FABRICATED!!! DUDE! YOU DO NOT ¨FABRICATE¨ STUFF LIKE THIS!

    • @witchybubbles26pandalover17
      @witchybubbles26pandalover17 3 роки тому +3

      @Logan Roof, dude, literally no one on this planet deserves that.

    • @bomblazetheknight3086
      @bomblazetheknight3086 3 роки тому +2

      @@witchybubbles26pandalover17 this guy literally has a nazi flag behind his pfp

    • @carat_light
      @carat_light 3 роки тому

      @Logan Roof "she deserves it" Sure hun, go back to playing fortnite 🗿🗿

  • @TopPhrog
    @TopPhrog 2 місяці тому

    I watched that tea video in class one day when we were talking about consent. It was really helpful and gave an easy to understand description of it.

  • @Simp4kaycee
    @Simp4kaycee 4 місяці тому

    This reminds me so much of a toxic relationship I was in before, like it matches up so closely. I'm so sorry you've been through this and I'm so glad that you were able to get out. You're so strong girliepop ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ much love

  • @ShinyPrimarina
    @ShinyPrimarina 5 років тому +511

    It's still crazy how people choose to blame the person who suffered rather than the person who committed the crime

    • @mariellenoliveira1913
      @mariellenoliveira1913 5 років тому +2

      Ikr?! How can people be so stupid?

    • @enviisyk
      @enviisyk 5 років тому +12

      Say it louder for the people in the back

    • @harrythehamster72
      @harrythehamster72 5 років тому +1

      but like y is a 13 year old on the internet talking to strangers smh

    • @ShinyPrimarina
      @ShinyPrimarina 5 років тому +26

      @@harrythehamster72 we ain't doing this today, satan

    • @EDMYuki
      @EDMYuki 5 років тому +16

      @@harrythehamster72 And how old were you when you first used social media?