7 Signs You’re Not Broken, It’s Your Unhealed Trauma
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- A traumatic experience can refer to any situation that evokes an intense, overwhelming, and long-lasting sense of fear, anxiety, and stress. Emotional and psychological trauma is something unfortunately a lot of people go through, and it’s no less real or no less serious than the trauma that can be inflicted by physical harm. If left unresolved, trauma in any form can manifest in negative cognitive, behavioral, or even physiological ways.
If you're feeling broken, we are here to remind you that you're NOT broken, but may be struggling with some unhealed trauma.
Disclaimer: This is a disclaimer that this article/video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional if you are struggling.
Do you have unhealed trauma? Watch this video to find out: • 9 Signs You Have Unhea...
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Lesly
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
USA.gov. “Teen Dating Violence.” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Accessed April 22, 2014.
Herman, J. L. (1998). Recovery from psychological trauma. Psychiatry and Clinical Neurosciences, 52(S1), S98-S103.
American Psychological Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th Ed). Washington, DC; APA Publishing.
Bower, G. H., & Sivers, H. (1998). Cognitive impact of traumatic events. Development and psychopathology, 10(4), 625-653.
David, M., Ceschi, G., Billieux, J., & Van der Linden, M. (2008). Depressive symptoms after trauma: is self-esteem a mediating factor?. The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, 196(10), 735-742.
Honestly I'm surprised so many of us are able to just live on day to day considering the amount of damage we take.
I also surprise myself, am proud of myself for that. I'm praising God for giving me a chance to live despite the chaos
most people aren't like that lol. You're assuming that. Look at the big picture in life, read some philosophy. Psychology is a fraud subject. Most human behaviour can be derived from biology
"One thing you can't hide, is when you're crippled inside." ~ John Lennon, who was clearly talking about himself with this lyric. Still, life is worth living, even if you're broken, which so many of us are. There is still joy and purpose to be found.
Yes, and sometimes empathy is what we need more in the world.
@@Psych2go less communitarianism and collectivism
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
thank you kind strainger
Thank you
but i cant help it anymore im always being yeld by my step dad
@@shineleen6982 i'm so sorry for you but you need to stand up for your selfdid you try telling anyone about it? try getting somehelp, if that fails don't care don't pay attention to what your grandfather says and stand up for self and if he gets physical show him that you are not someone to mess with.
Thank You ❤️
As a child, I never experienced the sweet fantasising and normal childhood. It was filled with money disputes, my parents fights, my mom cheating etc. All these things made me numb. Now I am 16 years old, and everyday is so hard to live. Not a single passes, where i don't wanna die. Studies are exhausting and I feel hella insecure. But I know one day, I'll be really happy. Let's give our best guys♡
10, 20 years down the road, you'll realize that age 16, while no longer a child, is still not yet a grown-up. And you'll be happy you started dealing with stuff early in life. My dad never did, and his life was harder then it needed to be, and it negatively affected his family, too. You deserve a full, rewarding, bright life which gives you happiness and joy.
@@theabristlebroom4378 Thank you so much for your kind words 🥺
Also waiting and it will not come. You must take action to make some moments of happy in every day. Could be as small as sitting quiet and being thankful for a good meal if you are eating something good focus on the taste instead of toxic environment or the feel of a cozy blanket favorite cloths. Get lost in a hobby. Make sure you are doing thing that will put you on the right track of getting out like good grades planning what career if you want to get in certain college or trade your young if you work invest save what you can to afford a better life.
@@bunnyboo6295 Yes you're right! Thanks for the kind words. I journal, it's my favourite thing to do so far. It makes me feel grateful towards life. I try to give my best in studies, but still taking care of myself. So thanks again;)
i feel ya !
The only kind of "major" trauma I've had in life was the fact I've been a victim of bullying/ridicule from Middle School to the end of High School. Even though I've graduated way back in 2004, certain things about specific events in today's time just...bring back memories of those bad days; which could be an example of the triggers you've mentioned.
Of course, my mother believes that once you've graduated; you should stop thinking about those sort of experiences and just move on
Just hear my story,u will cry
Yeah and tell your mother about the same things in my life I grew up in the system and I was bullied at every school I went to and how I haven't committed suicide I still don't know but I hate my life because of it
Same here man !
@@jimlane2961 Don't get me wrong, I didn't let it all affect me drastically (thank heaven) but certain news stories often make me wonder why things haven't changed that much since I was in school.
Big examples of these stories include all the major Anti-LGBT laws, the racist behavior of the "Anti-Woke" crowd, the extremist behavior of religious groups and the fact that public school teachers (in some areas) treat their kids like trash.
Whenever I see my parents watching the news and hear stuff like this being reported, it makes my blood boil
Similar happened to me. I was bullied in the first year of highschool because I was kind of an unfunny, nice, annoying kid. The pandemic and the lockdown came and this events slowly made me into an introvert, quiet, emotionally sensitive, smart and good studying guy. When we went back to school, the people who bullied me changed and realized the mistakes they did, one of them even apologized for it. Now they want to make friendship with me, and I can tell they don't fake it. But the scars will never disappear.
I had a pretty bad childhood and unfortunately I relate to all 7 of these signs. My parents were terrible and my grandma raised me but recently passed away. I’m working on healing this and going to therapy definitely helps. I pray anyone else who relates finds peace and healing too 💛
@Jaclyn Ann VLOGS!💚💚 Hey , I'm a 17 years old boy and i had a bad childhood. Also literally every girl I met were toxic and bad , and i have been severely hurt by every girl , whom I tried to approach as my sister or bestie. I don't know whether it's my age or not, but I like having contact with girls . But literally everyone are bad. I have one question. Are you girls really bad ? Pls answer me . Also no hate to girls..
@Jaclyn Ann VLOGS!💚💚 Thank you sister . Atleast you are not a toxic feminist. I believe you are an empath, like i do. Love you as a good human being 😀😀❤️. It's very good to know that an unknown girl like you can understand many boys' problems . Kudos to all good women and men. Love you sister ❤️
@@priyasenthilkumar8508 oh my gosh sir, I’m so sorry. But I don’t know though because I’m younger than you and I don’t hang out with 17 year olds 😆 but, just know that out of the 7 billion people in this world, some are gonna go out of their way to make you life miserable. Just surround yourself with the right people. I hope your doing well sir, have a great night/day.
@@Lexi-hm1qo thank you . I feel pretty confident now. 😀 Hope you have a great day ❤️
I wish you all the best💚 It’s terrible to see so many people have been growing up in unloving families :(
(mine are transphobic and much more😤)
That's exactly what my school nurse said! :
"you don't have any personality disorder, you don't suffer from BPD, it's just unhealed trauma, and you need to get help as soon as possible"
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I think that it is important to note that a "toxic relationship" doesn't just mean romantic relationships. This could also be friendships or even family relationships. Which in the end can be harder to identify as toxic, especially if it was someone you grew up with at an early age in life.
Agreed!
Fr, especially as someone who's gone through multiple toxic friendships in my life to the point I might have PTSD, I couldn't agree more
Toxic and narcissistic relationship with my mother, sexual harrassment faced as a child, fight between parents. No best friends, no outlet..Definitely a hell lot of trauma.
Thanks for sharing. We hope you find this video helpful and Hopefully, overcome your struggles 🌱
as someone who went through an extremely toxic relationship, I never knew it even counted as trauma and most of the time I just thought I was weak. Psych2go really changed my perspective of life, and this channel won all the possible respect I was able to give someone or something.
That’s unfortunate. I hope you don’t still think you are weak. Life is a complicated process
@@picklep9812 thank you for concerning, I indeed am fine now
i felt weak too. i explained what happened in an old video. but yeah.. i have many many regrets......
@@medievaltrap7285 I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope that you'll feel better soon!
@@anodaqo that’s good to read. 🌟
I realize that my whole life was traumatic to me, growing up around drugs and violence, losing my brother and some of my best friends to alcohol and drugs, many MANY near death experiences then just ended a ten year toxic relationship. I don't actually know how all of this has affected me but I'm struggling real bad sometimes. I'm 25 years old and life is feeling overwhelming and unsatisfying at the same time. I have a lot to be grateful for tho I still believe in myself just afraid that my psychological issues will get worse if I'm not dealing with them correctly. Whoever reads this better or worse off I wish you good fortune in this short cruel life
Idk if this is a trauma or not. But since I was 13 yrs old, I watched my parents fight over financial problems. I have also grown up seeing how my mom has outbursts of anger and screaming at us (we are two daughters) and after like 2 minutes after the screaming show, she would be a lovely person and talked us sweetly. Now i'm nearly 18 yrs old, and it's been a tough moment coping with my mom's acctitude. She screams to us because of everything, threatens to throw things at us as punishment. She once threatened my younger sister of only 13 years with throwing a hot pot at her for not having washed something that she did not have to wash. It's been hard to live in fear of her hitting us or hurting us. There are days when she gets up bad and gets mad with us for literally anything, she even compare us to other people (smt that i dont really like) she also went back with my dad, after three failed attempts. She doesnt even hear how we feel. I been struggling with anxiety since 14 (I was diagnosed without wanting to know anything about it) and she didn't believe the doctor, constantly telling me that I am mentally weak. It is also forbidden to cry at home. If we cry she usually says that we can't stand anything, and I have that concept in which if you cry, it's because it hurts, so thanks to that, I hate to cry, I can't do it and I endure days of crying so that she doesn't see me and threaten or criticize me. Thanks to her attitude I have lost liking certain things and my anxiety has been getting worse. Now i cant eat properly due to that, i barely sleep and i dont pay attention to class because i use the 40 minutes of class just to overthink everything.
I dont want to think it is a trauma because she is my mom, right? She cant hurt just because she thinks it's a right way to educate her children.
Too much text lol. And sorry if i have a misspell word, english isn't my first language.
That definitely can be traumatising. Please try and get you an your sister out. Speak to anyone.
I've have similar issues where my dad is concerned. My dad is not a calm person when he gets mad; his anger is very loud and almost always explosive. I'm 22 now, and while I like to think I have a thick skin, my anxiety always kicks off if his voice is just a smidge too loud for any reason, or if his footsteps are a tad too rapid and heavy as he moves throughout the house. And if the anger is directed at me, then I don't fight or flight, I freeze; I barely move, I swallow my tongue because I'm scared to say anything - if I have anything to say at all in the moment, and the tears fall whether I want them to or not.
I try to be gentle and remind myself that trauma doesn't just go away, but then I'll also give myself a hard time for not having a stronger backbone at this point in my life
That’s definitely traumatising.
I am so sorry. It is definitely traumatising. Hoping You and your Sister can find the help you both need 💕
Everything u said is happening to me too :(
Your videos always pop up for me out of nowhere and they always happen to pop up whenever I’m questioning myself and they always give me the answers I’m looking for so thank you.
You are absolutely right!
Thank you for watching!
“Don't count the days, make the days count.” ♥️♥️- Muhammad Ali.
Words from the GOAT
thx
Truer words were never spoken.
or the days r gonna count you like a big wad of cash and waste you on bills that need to be paid
I love your vids about trauma, Psych2Go. 10 years ago I was in a 2-year relationship where I talked my ex down from suicide and/or self-harm multiple times a week...I would stay up past 2am, terrified she was going to kill herself and feeling like my entire world was collapsing in on itself. Your videos are making me realize that even now, 10 years later, there's still a lot of unhealed trauma inside me.
Just wanna let future me know that i have some of the signs mentioned starting at 4-7. You got this buddy, i believe in you
YOU GOT THIS INDEED!
You can do it! I believe in you buddy
Me from da future
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H.O.W
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What.
From the past *
My mother died when I was 17 and I was alone for two years. I dropped out of school, lost all my then friends and my father left. I'm now 37 and it still feels raw. I have a husband and a son now, a new family, but I still find the grief overwhelming because I never learned how to move on, never healed in a healthy way.
Contact him........
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Thank you for sharing. Healing takes time and a process. What is important is that you're trying!
The most worst dramatic experience that I had was traumatized when my parents got a divorce and my sister and I were in a middle of it. To be honest with y`all, " I have realized that my parents divorce situation had really effected my mental health extremely, emotionally, and mentally. Besides, I was mentally and emotionally scorned for the long run of all the years. Honestly, When I was child growing up, I feeling left out at Jr. high and high school. Every toxic person in this world don't want to see you as a friend, but see you as their enemy. Nobody does not want to be my friend. They did me so lowdown and wrong and left me hanging. Man, I have learned a important reality check lesson all these years in this world, "If someone who been mean, lowdown, and abandoned you, and don't want to have anything to do with you. If they ready to walk out of your life, let them haters go. Some people are never there for you in the first place. Everyone please take this lesson as wake up call for your mental health and your souls.
Your videos have really helped me a lot with my mental state, and when I watch your videos, you make me feel a lot better and you make me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for the comfort you have given me and many other people. Stay safe♥♥♥♥
Yes!!! This group got me away from gaming, alcohol, sedatives I needed over parents. I see and friend and my toxicity. Meds and therapy do work, do help, are ok, I've been put down for being hurt in certain peer groups but I see I was dsyrelgated and upset all the time. Today I view so much as reparenting motivation confidence sleep I myself. I'm worrying the catscan, pain mgmt, fibro.... Pple said fibro didn't exist they had major depressive episodes too but gaslit me and mom died and jobs kept failing I was in the wrong places im so sad I listen to subliminal reparenting motivation confidence reprogramming toxic shame to self hug self agape love eith good self talk.
Thank you for supporting us!
Yep. From start to finish. Even before coming on UA-cam and seeing this video, I'm dealing with a major headaches, mysterious body aches, nauseous, and like I'm about to explode. I feel tense to the max and I feel like I'm losing my mind. Like a weekend or so ago, and it was for about 30 secs, I cried for the first time in a very long while. I was in so much pain mentally, physically, and emotionally that I just wanted it to stop and I wanted to end it all. I always try to deal with things but it seems like I'm on the losing end of things lately.
Then, all the anger, rage, and hate I used to feel starts bubbling back up to the surface. Memories, thoughts, and feelings I thought I suppressed, got rid of, or came to terms with start replaying in my mind almost non-stop. The things I forgave myself for have been revoked and I'm back to beating myself up and blaming myself for everything. Granted, everyone treated me like I do everything wrong and everything was my fault which caused me to withdraw and cutting them out of my life. I just keep to myself and I try to keep anyone away from my mind. It's a dark and scary place but it's not dark and scary to me. I'm used to how it is.
I don't know what else I wanted to say. Even though my mind let me scramble some things out, it still feels like an incoherent mess.
Thank you for sharing this and letting things out.
I relate to the triggers and the unhealthy chopping mechanism. i was traumatized in the past and did not tell anyone since then i have a chopping mechanism that i spend 7-8hours on a chair/sofa without moving watching tv/internet and not moving one inch. Well this video was informational thx
You know, I do pride myself on my resilience. I am proud that I can get back up and keep moving no mater what is thrown at me. But above that pride, I'm tired. I'm tired of being resilient. And I hope a day comes when I can peacefully put that resilience aside because I can now finally breathe
Resilience is due to challenges. Once these obstacles subside then you are able to truly relax. You've come a long way!
Tick 7 to all of the above, it doesn’t go away. Ignoring it isn’t a long term solution. Therapists are largely shit and too expensive now I’ve lost all my savings in the pandemic lockdowns and now only have unstable work at a quarter of the pay. This on top of everything else that happed in the past 3 years.
To say I have a lot of resentment would be an understatement.
I used to be a hopeful, resilient person.
Nothing is fun anymore. I am very grateful to have my bed I can hide in sometimes.
Yep, tried the "Cheap" therapist can't afford a decent one and yeah big waste of money plus added anxiety and stress sitting with a stuck-up person that don't give a crap about the issue and rather talk on shallow chit chat ex fashion their vacations over getting to the root of a problem. If I wanted to yap I would call a friend. I found random bums on corners if you speck with have more understanding and are free they now what its like to go through hard times. Therapist likely came from a rich family and was able to afford a degree never facing a true hard struggle themselves.
Don't know your personal trauma but I have found some real therapists that do UA-cam channels on my type of trauma is helpful plus the comment sections will be of others facing trauma themselves so you would feel less alone
I get what ur going through. My trauma has left me with no desire. I have no interest in trying anymore and just want to disappear or die off personally.
I miss having that motivation that it's going to be alright someday. Alas reality loves to give a real hard slap to the face to drag u back down to earth.
I won't off myself because that's too ez. Suffering sucks 😞 can't afford a therapist when I already know they won't be able to help me. So why waste money to talk my problems out. Nobody around for me to even vent too.
Oh well just a part of life when you realize the things around you for what it really is then you tend to get bummed out.
@@devintompkins9626 same here :/
It's so sad how true this video is. I experienced sexual abuse when I was in highschool and i still can't look at certain types of boys, even if i think i already healed. I never told that anyone, even after therapy i still have this feeling inside me that this makes me weaker and it was all my fault. Im ashamed to even talk to my therapist about it because it just wasn't that serious of an assault. My problem is no matter how many times my therapist, my friends, tell me that I'm not broken and all my trauma wasn't my fault i just can't quite believe it. It's just, like, i fully believe that other's people trauma wasn't their fault and they're not broken. They are strong for what they come through, and that they are still going. But i can't think that way about myself. Honestly i don't even know why I'm writing all of this here, I'm just tired after all these years in therapy and still can't quite help myself. I guess i just given up to this point that i think that maybe dumping this here will help me in some kind of way.
You must remember that assaults, of any kind, are gravely serious and hurtful; despite what our minds tell us there is no assault that's too small. I understand the shame and not wanting to tell anyone, it took twelve years for me to even remember mine, much less talk about it, but I'm still here to say that it does really get better if you can trust the help you have. Maybe that means finding a different therapist you're more comfortable with, maybe that means trying to approach it with this one, maybe even working up to talking about it to someone close first. Personally I found it easier to indirectly approach it and lead them to asking the question, instead of bringing it up myself.
There is real love in this world, even if some of us have been hurt too badly to want to believe it.
I’ve been there and am still there. I have almost the same experience and can’t be forcefully held by boys or I have a panic on the spot if you need someone to relate to you I can if you need
Relate to every single one except 2, when I was younger ~6 years old, my parents took a divorce, before that they fighted almost every day and my dad was an alchocholic, thanks for helping me notice that I have unhealed trauma, also I REALLY love this artstyle! Great job animators!
I’m sorry for what happened...
I can relate to your situation. I have high functioning autism and when I was in 2nd grade, my mother put me in a behavior program for my reactions to the situation around me. I faced emotional and physical abuse in the curriculum. The program is called Leap and a grade later, I was put out of that program and into a public school where I would be in a Special Ed classroom where I stayed from then on to this day (freshmen). My mother is still a manipulative, guilt tripping monster, but I could never really recover from the pain that I’ve dealt with. And the thing is that I don’t really belong in that classroom because I don’t behave like the kids in that classroom do. And it caused me to get a bad reputation in the classroom that I’m in and now I can’t be friends with anyone. People would occasionally blame me for minor mistakes in gym (even tho I train my body every day and still don’t succeed). One time somebody accused me of assault and rape of someone I don’t even know and I got involved with the police. Obviously they didn’t find anything and got the kid that spreader the rumors, but to know that I was hated made me more depressed then I already was
@@ViperPain141 Damn, I'm so sorry
@@ailynn14 thanks, therapy feels like talking to a brick wall and my sanity hasn’t really improved much, but I highly appreciate your support, it means a lot
Sorry what you went through, hope you are ok.
This video has made me realize that I have some of the signs pointed out on this video. Thank you for your incessant help, everyone appreciates your videos, especially during these trying, dark times.
Glad it was helpful! How many signs did you relate to?
I've had unhealed trauma ever since I was very young, and I never told anyone about it. It's a combination of extreme sadness, anger, fear, insecurities, being made fun of, death, loss and rejection. But, it doesn't matter. The sooner I'm dead, the better for everyone in the world. Including me
Recently, a friend of mine that I haven't seen in almost 10 years came in contact and we started dating. I have some of these past traumas, but she also has them and are very recent. Because of this, she isolated herself and I decided to give the space she needs.
I really love her and wish I could do something else to help, but she needs this time to get over this, although I told her that I'm here if she needs, and I can wait for her no matter what.
So, I decided to start therapy myself, because I have my own unhealed traumas. And I want to be stronger to support her as well. It took me 7 years to fall in love because of my fears and past toxic relationships, but I want to believe that our encounter after all these years has something good for us to look for.
Stay strong, everyone. It's not an easy road, but we can do it. Wish us luck as well, pretty please...
You got this.💙
@@ravenstillwaters5195 thank you. I'll do my best to become a better person
Wishing you the best!
@@Aeroswrld24 thank you. I'll put all my effort in this.
Wishing you all the very best 💕
For all my life so far since age 4, I had been diagnosed with High Functioning Autism along with ADD. As a current 20yo male that I am I struggle with pretty much ALL of what's mentioned in this video, and I can't thank you enough for bringing this vid out on the table, so to speak. I appreciate having this as a POV through the lens of those who don't understand what life of autism feels like.
I hope u have a lovely day 🌻🌻and u r amazing
Thank you for sharing this and empathizing with our points.
Don't get yourself worked up with too many things; enjoy the simple things you love to do.
I have so much trauma childhood stuff it’s hard to talk about ,I’m in therapy it has helped me so much. At times l feel when it comes to relationships I’ll be alone forever sometimes l want to be . l just feel so many emotions im dealing with so much like figuring out my gender identity trying to love myself and focus on graduating and heading to college it’s just hard l stay in a toxic environment healing takes time but l just wish my life was normal
It gets better. Gentle hugs if you want them. 🤗 💗🌈
@@theabristlebroom4378 thank you so much l truly appreciate it 💕💕
i feel you so hard with all of that
I've been there but it does get better trist me. hugs
Have a nice day
I just cried the whole video…I feel so “strong” & like I have moved forward so well. I checked 1-7.
Thank you for videos like this. They're a huge help for identifying issues and coping. Sadly, I find myself struggling with unhealed trauma from my past, and I know I need professional assistance, but I can't afford it at this time due to financial struggles. I hope to one day be able to go back, but admitedly, it's hard to get by some days.
I hope you can find the help you need! Be kind to yourself and maybe try meditating. I’m working on meditating more myself, it’s pretty hard but that’s why I know I need to do it :p
Try to take the best care of yourself and don’t push yourself! And remember, you are never alone❤️
@@KidKamma Thank you for the kind words and advice. I greatly appreciate it. I'm thinking I definitely need to back into meditation, too.
Damn, I just realized how my traumas effect the way I am today.
Since childhood my parents argue and sometimes go violent too, about money, relatives, religion, the past etc they are so focus on it which sometimes leads to neglecting me and my siblings. I'm also experiencing toxic relationship with my family to the fact that my mind went dark and lead to sexual activity. I don't have anyone to open up with, so I just cope with it in unhealthy way. The feeling of always being left out and continuously playing with fire... I never experienced a happy childhood or a happy life because of the environment I lived in. I became a monster to others and to myself. Gosh I still can't believe I'm still able to keep going with this heavy weight of mine.
I don't know if someone will read this but...it was worth the shot...
I experience all these signs and it was painful for me to remember what the Frick happen to me for the passed years of my life. I experience toxic relationships both relationship and family wise. My family doesn't know that I felt broken since my mom, then my grandma, then recently my grandpa all died. But my mom's death effected me the most..
I was 11, and kids and teachers at my old school notice how quiet and dull looking I am. Kids picked on me and even the teachers would yell and scream at me for not paying attention, even tho they knew my mom died at that time, I had some incidents where kids in my class would tell me to self harm myself.
And yes, I did self harm myself when I was a bit older and feeling alot worse then ever, I felt so worthless and broken and just overall in a spiral of depression and darkness around me, my family doesn't know that I self harm myself or even wanna knew if I'm ok or not. One of my family members knew that I have depression but they say that I'm lazy and I'm so called "normal" and I should move on and forget my moms death.
I felt super silent towards my family and I felt like they will never care or even bother to ask me if I'm ok or not, and I felt guilty that I am adding an additional problem in their list cause of me. The only way I cope is my friends and boyfriend.
It was unfair that my cousins suffer some sort of depression and I have this type of problem in me and they think i'm fine? No, I'm not..tbh this is why I wanna move out with my bf..
(Today is my 20th birthday, and I had a bit of a sad start of the day.)
I agreed with the significant loss the most... I lost all my grandparents before I became a teenager, my grandfather died last, 4 days before my 13th birthday... I went to his funeral as I hadn’t gone to my grandma’s in the summer and I felt it was a good way to say goodbye to my grandparents, my other set of grandparents I knew very little, as my first granddad died before I was born and my grandma died when I was 3. It’s been hard for me to move forward after that happens, I still feel a dark sinking in my heart whenever people talk about their grandparents... I also know that I could’ve spent more time with them, much more time... instead of just saying to my parents when they go to see my grandparents “Maybe next time”... I truly wish I could see my grandparents again.
Almost everything from 5 to 7 I've been feeling for so long I couldn't even tell you how long. Thank you guys so much for bringing things to the light
Was feeling bad for awhile and this video helped that I can show my mom about her unhealed trauma in the past with her relationship with my dad. Thanks Phsyc2go ♥️
Best of luck for your mom😘
No worries! Hope this video was truly helpful!
Thank you for supporting
me: has diagnosed bipolar II and anxiety and meds help
also me: relates to literally every point on this list
"mental illness is a very rational response to an inherently cruel and torturous world and searching for internal solutions will never actually change anything but merely dull your senses to the horror that surrounds you on a daily basis"
Thank you for this! 💖
I didn't realize until just recently that I was in a fairly toxic friendship, and there is so much self guilt that came with the trauma. It's like, once I realized that it was toxic, I blamed myself for letting myself be played like that for so long. I cried, screamed, and kicked the air as I bawled my eyes out, regretting every single tear, dollar, second and prayer of protection I ever begged God to give them. I loved them so much, that I kept giving excuses, and it wasn't until I met my current friend, that I realized what a healthy friendship looks like... They're consistent and kind, they easily forgive, they pay attention to you and don't invalidate your feelings and actually talk things out, guiding you to yourself again. I also realized they were breadcrumbing me....
I still struggle to this day trying to understand that they indeed knew what they were doing, and that I shouldn't be mad at myself for loving someone....
Thank you for sharing this. Self-respect is the first step and we know you will heal from this.
Some of us have been through so much. I'm right in the middle of a frightening jam, but I wish you hope and joy as you heal.
Contact him....
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Hold firm Meredith, you’ll see this through too. x
@@someonenew9442 Thank you so much.
When I was 9 I found my aunt after trying to commit suicide, i lost my dad when I was 17, I was sexually assaulted twice, been an alcoholic and now in drug recovery and my previous partner was a bully now I'm stuck with a malignant narcissist with ADHD which makes it worse. I have two disables kids I have a lot of health problems since I hit 20, im 42 now. It really does come with everywhere with you. I'm doing CBT now, I have extreme rage issues and I get scared I could really hurt somebody. It's awful. Where I live there's 1 mental health doctor for over 350,000 people on the NHS or you have to go private or suffer.
I visited many doctors to understand my condition and behavior, and now with a video I find that you shortened 6 months of my life.
The animations are getting better and better each video
Thank you so much, Doomy2 😊 Would you like to see more of this animation?
People think cause I’m from Australia that I wouldn’t have a hard life - so I tell them, just cause we don’t have gun as freely as other doesn’t mean there’s no violence….
Age 16 - was in a brawl where I seen my close friends guts ripped from his insides..
17 - beaten to a pulp from police and throw in the bushes, seen another friend almost seen his head getting cut off - machete hit him from the back and almost cut to his brain
18 - drive by shooting missing me and friend.
So much more trauma in my younger days I don’t want to say but you’ll know..
Sorry you have gone through this. Hope your well now and keep it up!!!
Wtf dude that really happens it's scary
I’ve had a pretty good life, but I think a few small events and my thinking patterns may be playing a small part of something. I am not sure yet, but I will keep searching and speaking out. Thank you for this video!!! It was truly amazing and quite a blessing.
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This video was really good and I needed this
I think everyone goes through something on their own, but eventually we find the right people to heal with. Just remember you’re NEVER alone. Don’t be afraid to reach out! You are loved have a great day/night
@LemurDaniel ❤️❤️
@LemurDaniel ❤❤
True. Everyone is struggling with some issue on their own and doing their best. We need to be more empathetic . 🌹
@@FysSessions yeah you are sure correct
Thank You ❤️
I was emotionally abused by my father growing up. Anytime I did something wrong, even if it was by accident, or he was frustrated with me, he would violently scold me and belittle me. The worst example of this was a time when he backed me into the corner of my room and scolded me simply because I had severe OCD and tics. While my relationship with him has improved, I'm still haunted by those memories and get triggered whenever I see a hostile situation in a movie or hear someone getting mad about something. I want to seek help from a therapist, but I don't currently have one and am not sure how to go about finding one on my own.
I'm not a therapist but do you maybe want to talk a bit with me? Maybe until you find a therapist. I really want to help you somehow
I am so sorry you have had so much trauma from your Dad. Hoping you can find a therapist 💕
@@LucaFox00 I appreciate that. Thank you.
7 signes of unhealed trauma:
1) you were in a toxic relationship 💔
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2) you suffered a significant loss 🪦
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3) you have certain triggers ❗️
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4) you have unexplained symptoms ❔
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5) you struggle with emotional intimacy 🖤
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6) you suffer from feelings of depression 🌧
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7) you have unhealthy coping mechanisms ❤️🩹
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Ty for this!! Yeah I think yes I have some problems
thank you.
2,3,4,5,6, and 7 relates it to myself
@@alli3bear They support the channel.
@@kassimasinia3314 ohhh
i love this channel w my whole heart
Great work!
I got loads of trauma... But I'm fine now and trying to get over it
My trauma has shaped me into the person I've become today, but only because I knew how to use things like depression, as tools, instead of just letting them float by on the slideshow of life
How did u use depression as a tool? I'm curious
@@devintompkins9626 things will either change who we are as a person or become our whole person, the thing is we get to decide which, but only if we're aware of it.
@@vardmardrhrolfskogr9009 oh. No wonder it didn't register 😆 that's just normalcy to me. Everything is a lesson in life wether we like it or not. It's best we as people grow from it. Otherwise stagnation equals death imo.
@@devintompkins9626 absolutely, wonderfully put👍
I think i have it, because i opened my dad's tiktok and the vid i saw is hello kitty m_rder case. That day im started to have fear of hello kitty. I HATE TIKTOK. whenever i saw hello kitty it stuck in my mind 😭😭
This is what I needed to see, thank you
It's always when my parents fight. They fight a lot and I am really scared to go see a therapist because of something that happened in my past, so I don't know what to do :(
just got out of a toxic relationship, noticed to myself that i don't want to go anywhere near Instagram at all because it will remind me of that individual lol
this is so sad im sorry to any and everyone going through this just TRY to stay strong thats all i can ask
Agree
Very informative video, thanks. And loved the Background music ♥
my life is a traumatic exp sadly no matter how hard I try the bad outcome is the one that always finds me even tho I preemptively try to stop it from starting or avoid it.
What if you don’t try to stop or avoid it? What if you go with the flow and make the best of what you get? If you haven’t already, I suggest giving that a try
@@gektoast4968 i tried all of the above lol. life just rolls me snake eyes
@@RuinNationGaming get the same feeling... i feel i have terrible luck but we try our best. Hope it gets better for you too.
What if you’re unable to seek help? I’m still struggling to move on from a toxic relationship, and have been told by my physician that he highly recommends that I see a therapist. I unfortunately have no insurance and currently live in a situation where 95% of my finances go to supporting my family, so I have ignored my own mental health since I can’t do anything about it anyway. Terrible I know, but I move on for the sake of my family.
Help is NOT always there. Help is NOT available to everyone. Keep quiet and continue suffering. Eventually one fine day we'll succumb to the suffering and that'll be the end of this painful journey.
@@cradmax What do you mean, "we'll succumb to the suffering?" Please don't stop fighting. Keep going, if only to show life that it can't make you cave.
i never realized that a toxic relationship could count as trauma; i thought i was just stubborn and wouldn’t move on. all my friends are kinda annoyed because it’s been months now and i still haven’t been able to fully move on from everything, and certain things (or, i guess, triggers) still bother me. i just don’t know how to fix it
Thank you for this. While I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few months this has really help define how I feel and act so thank you for this
Great job for seeking professional help! You got this.
This channel helped me alot thankyou soo muchh❤️❤️
I needed to hear this after just waking up from a horrible nightmare.
I have had trauma from childhood. Maybe like 5 assaults, death I detached from (but I think about it all day), abuse & I have many triggers.
This really hit home. 😭
Hello! I'm your new subscriber, I just want you to know that I love your videos! You have lot of experience, and that's good!
This video brought me to tears...
The very start of my trauma and depression was when I had a fight with my girlfriend in high school. She was my very first girlfriend. I was the one that started it, and now I realise that it was then that my dark side started to take shape and I've never been able to fix it since. My dark side is very complicated and destructive and it is why I hate myself far more than anyone else ever could. Please don't ever tell me to love myself because that is impossible for me to do.
This video was for me the most helpful by far. Thank you for working so hard on your videos. You help so many people. 🖤🖤
Thank you for supporting!
I've had a few traumas so far, one of them I'm not sure if I can bring up on UA-cam, but one I will mention is the past relationship between my mom and dad. My older brother was an accident and my parents never wanted a kid and having my brother caused some issues. Because they also didn't want my brother to be an only child, they had me. But it didn't help their relationship, if anything it made it worse. They argued almost everyday to the point where I found myself saying "I'm used to it" whenever someone argues in front of a friend or guest. I was at school for the moment, but a few years after the event I'll bring up, my brother told me the story of what happened because he was there for it. An argument between my parents for so bad that my dad pulled a gun to my mom's head. And I'm just so relieved that he didn't pull the trigger because my mom is the only reason I'm still going. Unlike my dad, she actually cares about me and my brother, and always stops to listen if something is going on. So if you read this far, it's okay to find the good and bad in people, even in your family. It's okay to think twice about if what somebody may be doing to you is right or wrong. And this is strange coming from a stranger on the internet, but I love you, and don't let anybody hurt you even if you think they're a good person.
My son is struggling with depresión and anxiety, hes seeking help, he was bullied in school and hes an only child, I love him very much.
not me relating to all these things but not knowing what my trauma is! how wonderful!
I'm very glad that this came to my recommendations, for months I felt like there is something wrong with my mental health/myself. But I can't seem to figure it out. I did many quizzes from anxiety to dissociation just to figure out the possibilities I could have em. But none of them just seem right. I badly wanted to seek help from a professional just to figure out what have I been dealing, wether it is serious or not or if I was overreacting. thank you so much for helping me understand better
Great video. Thanks... Keep up the good work...
As sometimes I loss my dad passed away and grandma passed away from 2014 and 2020,I was sad ,crying, and loss. Even my hope and strong. So I made a promise for my dad and grandma I take care for my family, sometimes I was hard for me and my family. So I never give up,
So few can ever understand the pain, loneliness, and confusion of everything about you being at war within yourself.... wanting to constantly jump out of your own self thoughts, behaviors, actions...but like a black, sticky tar prison there is no escape. Your very worst enemy is your own mind, and the intense sadness and anxious longing to be normal or more like others just haunts you 24x7 - even in your dreams. And I think the soul-crushing inability to ever achieve that normalcy hurts the most. You long for the person you were with sadness, hate the one you are with anger and confusion, and dread the one you're becoming with fear and despair.
What a gift it would be to actually live...rather than just exist.
Contact him....
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your voice is therapeutic,it helps me to calm down and relax
Needed this
This video is very important for me to see that I am on Psi's shoes... it is very difficult to deal with trauma... I hope we all here get better
Great video
Thank You 🙏🏾❤️
Also, you really help me with stuff going through in my life!
I have almost all of these. But I've never actually been able to tell anyone. Once my mom found me suddenly crying in my room, I tried to explain how I felt and what's happening, but she just blamed it on devices. What's up with that?! I cried while watching this because it brought back so many memories-
Still feeling traumatic experiences and old feelings that still come up to this day. Maybe I am BROKEN. 😔😡😢
This is so much relatable to me and I am not happy about it!
I had all 7, I am 4 years sober, but still use other unhealthy coping skills & struggle with CPTSD every day😑!
Unfortunately this has been my life for most of my life even before my diagnosis with PTSD 2 years ago and before the trauma that caused PTSD to be really obvious.
I had been doing better, my fear of being nice to girls was fading, I felt safe being encouraging, being happy for people who are experiencing success, and I wasn't having anxiety attacks.
Then the female UA-camr who caused all this positive change blocked me after I objected to her telling some of her followers that "they were not in love with her" which is something she had no right to say, no one can tell anyone else how they feel. That's only for the person who has the feelings to decide, and constantly being told by others how I feel, that made me really ticked off that she would try to tell others how they feel.
After she blocked me I had a 16 hour anxiety attack, had 5 more anxiety attacks in 2-3 days, went back to being terrified of saying anything nice to a female, went back to being terrified of everyone especially females, and went back to being afraid Everytime I leave the house. I had to start taking medication for anxiety attacks.
At least I have never been in a toxic relationship, my fear of being called a creep for even talking to a girl has kept me single for 18 years and I don't even allow harmful addiction causing stuff near me.
I don't know why but the animation of number 5 and 6 almost made me cry . good video by the way
Thank you for sharing, Vahidreza 💜. What do you plan to do next after this realization? 🌱
I still find myself struggling with feelings of betrayal from comments made by friends/family when I was a kid. To make someone feel unaccepted is the worst thing you can do to them mentally especially when they’re supposed to be there for you. Please teach your kids to respect one another.
That’s so true. Not feeling accepted or good enough can leave lots of trauma. It’s really hard not being accepted by family. Luckily we can choose who we spend time with as we get older. Surround yourself with the people that accept you for everything you are!!!!
I love this new art style
I woke up questioning myself this morning and then I scrolled on YT and found this channel.
I love this channel it always helps me relise why I'm do sad all the time and feel weird. I relate to the over eating and the self harm, I also relate to the trigger. Whilst I was on holiday my dad and my sister had a fight and for some reason it made me cry and I kept repeating in my head "stop fighting please, I dont like it" i then relised it happened because they were shouting and it reminded me of my dad and mum fighting and my mum yelling at me and fighting with me. And a 2-3 weeks ago my dad was shouting at me in the car for not getting ready on time and was saying if this keeps happening then I'm going to have to stay with my mum. Th3 shouting reminded me of my mum shouting at my for the same reason and I started crying. I tried to stop but I ended up crying in a lesson and my friend asked if I was okay and I replied "yes" but I couldn't stop myself so I just pretended I was getting something out of my bag and hid under the table. My teacher noticed and let me stay out of class for a bit. I got called to the head of year's office and she asked if I was okay. She asked if it was family problems and if she wanted me to call my mum. I said no and lied that I was just crying because I went to a funeral a day before. I'm not sure if the funeral was also the reason but my friends helped me feel better.-This was the day before Easter break
I feel like you should really talk with your friends about that. They could maybe help you.
I would like to help you as well if you don't mind
Why did this video made me cry? It's 1:33am rn 😢 it feels weird i can't even express.
I was just wondering this. Its kinda scary that I just came to this conclusion yesterday. 😭