1. You resist positive change 2. You need to plan for everything 3. You have a strong fear of failure 4. You have a strong fear of success 5. You have difficulty concentrating 6. You have trouble asking for help 7. You often hurt yourself or others 8. You struggle with low self esteem 9. You you have unexplained psychological symptoms
Wow now it's really obvious why my friend took me to therapy. She was the first to figure out I had a lot of trauma and got me to open up about it. Her exact words were "I'm not giving up on you, I'm your family now, not those people who hurt you, me! and I'll be there through every step with you." She has kept that promise for over 5 years now.
Time stamps :3 1. You resist positive change 0:41 2. You need to plan for everything 1:09 3. You have a strong fear of failure 1:36 4. You have a strong fear of success 2:06 5. You have difficulty concentrating 2:36 6. You have trouble asking for help 2:58 7. You often hurt yourself or others 3:19 8. You struggle with low self-esteem 3:49 9. You have unexplained psychological symptoms 4:15 Always remember you are braver than you believe smarter than seem and stronger than you think. And I learned that from a childhood therapist Winnie the Pooh so keep your head up Love, you got this ;) Edit: Have an amazing day 💕
I can't be the only one that has a gut feeling that something is mentally wrong with me. My dad was an alcoholic during the majority of my childhood. So I'm a big perfectionist and I have a hard time accepting success. It's complicated, I want success but whenever I do accomplish something, I feel like it's never good enough. So I overwhelm myself and become unmotivated in the end to do anything, unfortunately.
Yes same here girl or dude, both my parents were drug addicts and as a child especially once I become a preteen I really wanted love from my parents and it never happened. It crushed me as a kid and definitely left a permanent scar 💔 in my heart. The best thing that I did to flip this negative into a positive in my life is I learned that if I had kids of my own that I would give my child what I didn't have. And if your trauma starts to affect you can always try the 3 for 3 rule, which is where you move your arm, ankle, and fingers and this is supposed to center your brains focus when you get that overwhelming feeling. I know it may sound weird but fiddling with your fingers can help. But hope you are doing well and staying strong! 🤗🥰😇
Right there with you. I'm 65 and have much of the same things you are going through most of my life. Try and give yourself grace in this crazy world we live in. Take care. Cheers
@@alexismartinez2549 I'm a 15 year old girl :) But yes thats exactly one of the goals I have in the future, if I have kids. I want to give them what I didn't have. But not spoil them though. But I appreciate the support, I'm going to try my best and stay strong. Thank youu
They THINK they do and they may have good intentions but they get sick of us being depressed and are upset that we do not at least "try" to "put it behind you/look forward." It's like, screw you; you have no idea what it is like to live with depression and anxiety every day.
I totally get it. It's like as if asking for help is the wrong thing to do. It's not. But there must be someone that cares. And the amount of people that care about you doesn't change the fact that you are amazing. You are worth the time it will take to help you get out of this feeling. If you truly feel that there's no one that cares, go see a therapist. The won't make fun of you or disregard your feelings like others might. And stay strong. You can get through this.♥️
Yeah I had a very strong feeling I had some un healed trauma, I can relate to all 9. I was abused when I was a child, I had cancer (beat it), lost a cousin (passed away), and not even a year ago I had one of the worst nights of my life when my father (bipolar II disorder) spiraled out of control and beat up his roommate in front of me, my brother, and my cousin. The day had already been a nightmare and that night just topped it off. I still have flashbacks of that night. I need help.
CW: false accusations, mention of sexual assault. I was an engineering major and wanted to add theatre while I had the opportunity. I always wanted to do set design, lighting, controls, and always thought I would get hooked on acting the moment I start. One of the girls there was a friend of mine who I had a bit of a crush on. So when volunteering to set up for a play, I finally got the courage to ask her out. The girls apparently didn't want me there. Supposedly they are hostile to outsiders but I didn't know this at the time. So I started hearing of reports saying I had sexually assaulted some of them, and "broke into their apartment and sucked their toes". I received several death threats and a guy slammed me against a wall and said he would kill me if he saw me again. I've felt ashamed of my sexuality since I first started feeling it. Years of classes had taught me it was something disrespectful to women, so I made sure never to show it. But it was all still hypothetical until that happened. That gave it physical form. I couldn't even ask a friend out without being accused and threatened. After that, I basically never flirted. One girl I dated complained that I never even touched her. Another girl said she wanted to slow things down, and I immediately took that as me infringing on a boundary so I broke up right away. I ended up going hard into what we might now refer to as "Incel" or "RedPill". I thought it would help talking to guys who had a similar experience to me, but the narratives did more to indulge the fears than to recover from them. Oddly enough, books about human sexuality and the female libido actually helped pull myself out of that toxic environment. I try to help other guys out of that pit of muck, but I don't think other guys were so lucky as to have it "click" and snap them out of it like it did for me. So yeah, last year (a decade after the indecent) I finally decided to see a therapist about it, and the word "trauma" came up right away. I thought I had gotten over it, but I realised there was a lot of healing I still need to do. And I must say, while friends have been supportive, the general population not so much. They don't tend to see me as falsely accused, they see me as someone who was "caught" and "got away with it." or try to shut down the conversation as a non-issue or something I deserved on behalf of other men.
There are a lot more signs of trauma besides these nine. Instead of listing them, they come in three areas - thoughts, feelings and body sensations. They all have a couple things in common: protection & to make sure your Trauma is never repeated.
I related to every single one of them . This was definitely my past self … I started my healing journey 2 years ago ☺️and I’m beyond proud of how far I’ve come …. I’m the happiest person but I do be having my downs but I make sure it doesn’t last more than a few minutes .. it was very hard but I made it …Just don’t give up anything is possible if you put the effort♥️
Feels like these videos are coming out at just the right time for me. In watching 8 Signs of Childhood Neglect, I've finally learned to face this Trauma I've been avoiding for so many years now. Then this one drops along today, and I found it quite hopeful. Especially with that message at the end. Keep up the good work, I am a feeling I'm not the only benefitting from these videos.
Great. All makes sense now. I honestly hope to hear from a professional soon. I've been referred but I'm sat here waiting weeks on weeks and trying not to un alive myself but I'm barely holding on. I've already been to hospital for doing just that recently 😕
You got this keep your head up! 💪 You won't know what's on the other side of that wall unless you look right? I hope they get in touch with you and I hope you find an amazing therapist or professional that guides you onto your path to mental freedom! 🙏 🌈🌟🌙☮️
I know that when you're in that space, you feel alone, it f**ks with your perception of things, and often no amount of "think about all those who love you," or "keep fighting because there are others struggling with you," changes that in the long-term, but please, if it makes any difference at all, I want you to know that I care enough about you as a fellow human that I want you to fight on. It feels bold to suggest such a thing when I don't know the first thing about your situation, or even you, but it's all I've got. If you can, try to get at least moderate exercise- jogging in place for ten minutes, literally anything- and meditation techniques like deep breathing, third eye, or ice-diving if you need something stronger to ground yourself. I hope you get the help you need soon. I'm supporting you in spirit, for what it's worth!
@@ycleptprof.5249 thank you. I'm waiting on so much therapy and atm I'm trying yo stabilise a basic routine or eating at specific times a day and slowing adding to it. Next up is exercise and university work. And currently trying to simple self care like looking after my skin as I have a skin picking problem atm. Not sure what it's linked to yet but I'm still waiting for so many mental health appointments and such.
@@alexismartinez2549 thank you I've had so many already and a need soemthing long term but it's hard to get assigned to such professionals that are there to guide you long term especially on the NHS. If I manage to get strong enough to gain a permanent job or any job. Hopefully I can save up for private. But nhs is all I've got for now.
I lost a loved one back in May, which sent me over the edge and I needed professional help, so I checked myself into a rehabilitation hospital for my depression. While I was there, I had a panic attack because I was having asthma problems and I had to wait in line at the pharmacy to get my inhaler. During the panic attack, the same nurse who denied me my inhaler, gave my inhaler to me in the middle of yelling at me for faking it. When I was feeling better and in a room to sleep, my roommate tried to get in my bed with me(for sexual reasons) and tried multiple times to get with me. I went into the hospital with PTSD, but that hospital made it worse.
I have all 9, I was wondering if the fear of success is a sign of unhealed trauma, and it is. I was bullied a lot in school by my fellow classmates and some teachers in my early years then just my fellow classmates when my family moved to a much different area. They really didn’t believe that the bullying was that bad or some of my teachers did it. I have a lot of things I can’t remember, so I don’t know how to resolve the trauma if I don’t remember what caused it. I only remember small parts.
I had a very similar experience. I was outcasted by my class all of elementary school and never understood why. Whenever I would ask for help, teachers would either think I did something to provoke other students or single me out and make things worse. The worst part is, I've spent most of my life believing I deserved to be treated that way. I don't remember specific details of what classmates did but I do remember feeling like I had to watch my back every single day(I felt like I couldn't trust people). In terms of resolving trauma, deconstructing those false/negative beliefs I had of my self because of the bullying is how I started. It's taken a couple years, but I'm finally seeing myself more accurately. Also, finding people that genuinely want what's best for you helps as well. I hope that you are able to heal. Be kind to yourself.
I believe psychologists know how to dive into your inner workings and can help you remember. Because the only way to heal from trauma is to face it? Sounds tough!
I checked 8.5/9 because I never had the resources to deal with my trauma. Here's a trauma dump: My whole childhood from 4 years old up until now comprised of abuse and neglect by several adults and authorities in my life. One teacher of mine actually whipped me with a cane several times for more than half an hour when I was seven, with my mother's permission. My father used to have occasional outbursts of rage where he would beat me with a belt or slap me so hard I fell and peed on myself or nosebled, usually because one of my siblings had thrown me under the bus for some trivial matter such as peeling tattered wallpaper or forgetting to water the flowers. He was perfectly sane and made conscious choices to hurt me. There is no mental illness that could be blamed for it. I had a racist teacher in pre-grade 1. She used to verbally abuse me and ignore me when I asked for help. Sometimes she would drag me outside the classroom and lock me outside. My sister has been physically abusing me since I was five. She's nearly four years older. Amongst many of the injuries she caused me were burns, nail indentation scars, bruised lips, and damaged nails. She also ripped my ear to the point where it was detached from the rear, but it didn't come off. She yanked a few hundred strands of my hair out after I had just recently gotten braids. (I estimate it was more than a hundred, but I'm not sure.) I have now virtually disassociated myself with her and my mom keeps on trying to make me fall victim to her again. My father passed away 6 years ago. I am now a sophomore, and I don't have a single teacher in my life, because I am homeschooled by irresponsible and incompetent individuals. I am still being abused by my elders till this day. My aunt snatches 18,000 in food from my family and costs us 40,000 in black tax annually. In two years, the money she swindles from our household could provide essentials and buy a house for a family of four, while financing the high school tuition of two students and buying a car. She has been taxing our family for twenty decades now. She once took the last three onions in the house when we were broke. She is 40 and has had seven children by seven different men, only two of which are alive today, and none of which she married. Another baby is on the way, allegedly. She's financially abusing my family and I can't do anything about it. There was a time that I wasn't going to school for five months while her daughter's fees were being paid by my mom. Yes, you read that right: my own mother has chosen to support and favor her sister's child over her own. I'm planning how I'm going to make it out of this, and counting down the days until I can legally leave. There is a high possibility that I will never return here once I leave for college. Where I'm at is not my home; it's my prison.
when someone yells near me (even if it's not with me), I lose the movement of my hands suddenly I also have reflexes when someone is going to hit me (or not) in self-defense, but i almost never got hit even by my parents when i did something wrong
I have recently been diagnosed with PTSD after 5 decades of trying to deny and hide trauma from a lot of abuse I have been subject to, however, I don't feel many of the things mentioned in this video. I have learned that even though there my be some common charateristics in trauma abuse victims, I also recognize that it is also a very personal experience that can completely different from anyone else.
Not everyone is one thing. No one is purely bad. So imagine all the good parts about yourself, no matter how small they are, and think of that as a friend beside you. A friend with good traits who cares for you, someone you envy to be. And now remember that that imaginary friend you made is YOU. You are good, you just need to look from a different angle.
Your channel is amazing. You helped me realise that I am depressed, and that those feeling aren't normal for everyone, and I am finally getting help for that. So thanks
Shout out to the hundreds of people who were brave enough to share their stories. You are all amazing 💖 and that also includes the people that are suffering the same but didn't want to share. You guys are absolute superstars
I know I have untreated trauma because I have zero confidence in myself. I love to write and despite several comments saying I should publish it I can't bring myself to, years of belittling comments have made me doubt anything I write. Coupled with abuse that I blocked out, yeah definitely untreated trauma but I'm hesitant to go to a therapist because there's a reason my head blocked what it did, I'm not keen on reopening old wounds.
Go for it,I have had thoughts of being a comedian, doing videos etc,self doubt coupled with peoples negative nonsense they say are bad combination. People is why I quit school at 15 ,and only my parents were there for me and didn't know what to do, this was early 90s. I have spent alot of time alone and got lost in life!! I always try to be there and be the funny guy,but I have needed that support myself and now will only except those who appreciate me.
I can relate with the low self-esteem issue. I too, always loved writing, but I never haver the courage to do it. I'm terrified that I might just be shit at it, to the point I never share the pieces I right with anyone. And I can't think of why that might be, I never has someone telling me I wasn't good enough, to the contrary when in school I was praises by my teachers. I'm sorry to hear that you suffered from abuse. Therapy can seem scary and can be hard, but I feel like it is going the best for you in the long run. So if you have the financial means, definitely go for it :).
I've been through so much trauma in my life its unreal. And currently trying to survive high school with it seems to be with no help IRL and just music. Literally everything in this video describes me, Everything, This makes me upset.
I feel ya, I'm in the same boat, and growing up, music was my outlet to escape the real world and enjoy an imaginary world for myself where I could do anything and be anything I want. It helped me out a lot so hopefully, it'll help you. If not, I hope you find something healthy to express your emotions and find inner peace. Stay strong, friend!
But Luke, what sets you apart now is that you are aware of the foundational cause- some type of trauma, which must be addressed in order to heal. So many people feel awful every day, but they do not take a moment to question why. You are now one step closer to healing, because this information empowers you to be conscious of your behavior and ultimately, your reactions to stimuli. HS is a rough period in everyone’s life, but fortunately there are counselors there, waiting to hear from students who need help. Asking for help is definitely a move in the right direction. It can change your life completely.
just realized a few days ago that i have experienced trauma in the past, and this confirmed it. i'm still in the process of working thru it, as it's built up over years, but i'll get there :)
One of the hardest things about relationships is to understand that true connection means complete emotional vulnerability. Past trauma makes that even harder to achieve. But the real challenge is having people around you who understand that, and a lot of people just don't. If after everything you've been through with them, they still don't get it, then it's them who truly don't have the empathy. But there's a fine line here. They also need to have the resources available to them to make those connections. If they don't, then they will never understand. The trick for you is to make baby steps. Allow others the resources to understand what's going on, without having to dive in headfirst with detail. The nice thing about that though, is that every human on the planet is born with the capacity to do it. It's just very hard. I may be a nobody, but I believe in you. You've got this.
@@ILoveReigenArat4ka a user named YAMI was advertising the same inappropriate website. I reported them, I think this is the same person. I blocked them . YAMI was commenting under a video that was literally about stopping women being sexualised. It’s a disgusting website.
Here are timestamps for anyone who is low on time :> •☆ 00:41 - You resist positive change ☆• •☆ 01:09 - You need to plan for everything ☆• •☆ 01:38 - You have a strong fear of failure ☆• •☆ 02:07 - You have a strong fear of success ☆• •☆ 02:36 - You have difficulty concentrating ☆• •☆ 02:58 - You have trouble asking for help ☆• •☆ 03:19 - You often hurt yourself or others ☆• •☆ 03:50 - You struggle with low self-esteem ☆• •☆ 04:17 - You have unexplained psychological symptoms ☆• Other people have done this too- but I hope this can help 😅
That animated sequence starting at 2:30 made me feel instantly sad and compassionate toward the person trying to show/receive love, and being ignored. 😢I actually said "aww" outloud. I wonder if it says something about me and some similar trauma _I've_ experienced. The gesture of sharing was pure, innocent and kind, and the giver seemed to trust that it would be well-received, making the disappointment so heartfelt. Kudos to Evelvaii's animation for bringing that out of me.
I have a friend who had rarely, almost no deep social connections to others kids until high school. Today he is completely fine with being alone and even wishes it from time to time. Can being an outsider lead to a traumatic experience?
Yes and no. Social exclusion can lead to isolation, which is a symptom of PTSD. Being an outsider is traumatising and devastating, and I speak from first hand experience. But I wouldn't say that being a social castaway has lead me to traumatic experiences. It has had a toll on my social life, and I have no friends. I used to not be able to articulate myself and I still cannot communicate like a normal person, even though I'm an ambivert. But this is the result of years of unresolved trauma that occurred prior to rejection. For me, being a social outcast has often times been hurtful. It has wreaked havoc on my self esteem and communication skills. I've become slightly more anti-social because of it, and it may come across as self isolation when I don't join a chat with strangers or actively engage in conversation with them. I'm used to not having to ask for places because I anticipate that I'll be rejected. I've lost quite some reasons to seek a social life of my own. The only reason I still desire a social life is because it's expected of me (by myself, as well as my personal development and mental health). Other than that, I honestly want to network instead of socialising without purpose. Having just one person with whom I connect on a deep level would suffice for me. Anything else that is purposeless and superficial... I don't want anything to do with it.
Yeh, I have not only one but few of traumas from my childhood. After a year of therapy it's still a lot work to do. I was originally diagnosed with PTSD but after some time my therapist did diagnose BPD (borderline personality disorder) which is the exact diagnose. Now I feel way better than before but when I think what could've be if I didn't start therapy year ago... Uhhh 🤕
I deal with all 9 of these. However, I don't have the means, time, or finances to deal with them properly. I still have to go to work every day just to barely pay the bills, take care of my wife and kids, and try to keep making sure there's a roof over our heads. My only option is to build as many, and as strong, walls as I can in my mind and keep pressing forward. A lot of people can get the help they need, overcome the things that hurt them, and lead happy, successful lives; I am not one of those lucky few however. I really enjoy the content though. The way you present it, the calming tone and animations, all of it, are great for watching/listening to while working. Keep up the great videos 😊.
I related to all of it. Humiliation in front of many people and family is what leads me to overthink and plan everything out. Suffer on low self-esteem and fear of failure.
I work with children with emotional needs (before that even at several children’s homes) and I definitely see those signs in my every day work life! Thank you for putting out this video to help people who are affected or who have loved ones in their environment 😊
all i need is some goddamn entertainment after a long day of voice acting, & archeology studies for school. this video definitely cured me. thank you for taking the time to make this video. the funniest thing about me watching your videos is that I always have sushi with me. i look forward to watching your videos everyday! i love you!
i have had faced bullying for 6 yrs and it has mentally scarred me . i had to change my highschool because the teachers weren't helping me and bullying was getting worse day by day . although it was 6yrs ago , 1. i now have low self esteem , 2. i have anger issues 3. i don't believe it when something good happens to me . 4. i struggle in making friends . 5. i struggle to talk to girls . thanks for making this video .
I want to share my experience, so anyone who had something similar know that your not alone. few months ago, a girl chose another girl over me, was my best friend and I knew her for years. Then she was just acting rude even going as far as it saying I have no empathy, maybe I don’t have empathy 😔 It wasn’t dating wise but she ditched me for another girl, I went to some other people and they just ignored me, and made me cry last night. I have major trust issues now (not a medical condition just in general) I have a friend who always treats me nicely and another who I’ve known for a long time and is so nice. I want to go with them but I am in holidays and they are rarely online. I don’t know what to do. Anyways, if you have a similar situation comment under this comment ⬇️ Thank you everyone! Have a good day
I don't have any advice, other then try and focus on what you can control. You can't control other people's feelings or actions, so just make sure you're doing good and improving yourself (in whatever meaningful way that would mean to you). Ultimately, make yourself your own center of gravity. Putting energy into exterior actors won't bring you anything but pain. You can be both available/open to others, and not invested in their decisions. Hang in there :) if you put good out there from the right reasons, it'll come back to you and sort itself out :)💗😊💪
I have all of these signs. I tried to do online therapy but I didn’t feel comfortable enough to speak about it. Sometimes I feel like what I’m dealing with is all in my head and other people have it worse and I start feeling guilty 😔
So obviously most, if not all people, who watch this have trauma. You are worth the effort to fix these things, and you’re the only one who can do it. You are not a victim anymore unless you keep that mindset. I know we can all heal and overcome our past pain! ❤️
I already know I'm suffering from unhealed trauma I'm just watching to marinate in it and I love your videos... Watching your videos has become more like listening to sad songs when I'm sad.
I'm so scared everyday, I feel like I'm never going to be okay. I can't enjoy something good as I have anxiety that something bad is waiting to happen. I have no friends and nobody wants to get to know me. Only my dad has my back. The day he dies I'll be beyond a wreck, I'm begging on my knees that I can be helped one day. I want friends, a good job and I want people to like me.
I went through some heavy things at 14. I’m in my 20s now, & the trauma is like a shadow that follows me. It won’t go away. Some days are good, but when they’re bad…
I've got all nine of these and I gave up trying to feel better not for the lack of trying. In itself, it's a form of relief because deep down I know it's only in my head.
I didn't think I would have trauma in my life, guess I was in denial. It led me to hurting myself, losing appetite, feeling numb, lashing out on others, and a few days ago I had a suicide attempt... Everything in this video was relatable...
I check out for all of these. Before I watched this I already knew that what happened to me as a child wasnt normal, but I also never acknowledged it until a year ago. Even now I dont feel comfortable about it and rarely talk about it, but I can acknowledge it a little bit more than what I used to.
I'm not gonna lie, this made me cry because all those signs are what I experienced and still do to this day and I try to ignore them thinking that nothing's wrong. It really does hurt.. I really do hope no one else is experiencing unhealed trauma, it's hell, but if you are don't worry you will be healed and the ones who love you will always be there to help you.
If you still experience these signs you probably shouldn't be ignoring them. That's how you end up depressed and stuck. thank you for trying to help people with your words. It's a beautiful thing to do. Stay strong💖
I have 8 out of 9 of these symptoms (excluding planning for everything.) I'm pretty sure I was able to pinpoint my trauma a few days ago and I'm trying my best to take the steps needed to heal, but seeing all of these listed out was a big eye opener!
Your art style is so amazing yet simple, and that combined with your voice is what makes your videos so soothing, I've been in therapy and I've been a therapist before, and your topics are explained in great detail, keep up the great work!!
Trauma seeds self-fear and denial. There were also studies with trauma correlated with neuroticism (assertiveness vs turbulence in the popular 16 personalities test). Anyone with very high levels of that likely indicate their underlying scars. Family trauma is the hardest to fix. Especially when growing up under abusive relations. Still struggled to remember past happy experiences. I had redeemed parts of my own, but there's still plenty to go. Identifying and accepting them is the first step to self-redemption.
I can relate because lately I just haven't been me, and been so depressed that I cut myself, I really love this channel because I get to learn new things everyday so thank you for making these videos❤
This channel is really nice. It feels really validating to hear all of this coming from someone else, especially when it’s already difficult to allow others in.
I am getting "help" by my therapist. He gives me these tasks that doesn't even makes sense to do because they don't even resemble (my) panic attacks/ anxiety attacks.
I have really bad trauma from losing my loved one, my pet and being harassed and seeing women harassed in public at a young age- Men purposely try to touch me and I'm literally a minor. I can't even go to the grocery store and the fact that whenever I see a man walking past, all those traumatic events cross my mind
In 3rd grade I took an IQ test. I knew that if I scored high enough I would qualify to go to a private school in New York, and I deliberately answered some questions in ways I knew I should not because I didn't want my family to send me away. I scored 2 points short of MENSA level, and got to stay in New Mexico. At that age I had little or no unresolved trauma so my fear of success was on a different level; in retrospect, I'm grateful that life turned out as it did.
Even to this day my parents constantly talk about how i was such a bad kid. but it doesn't make any sense. i let them take their anger out on me and i just absorbed it. i hate myself a lot and i never really knew why. they would often neglect me to the door all night and then go to bed like i didn't exist. i would ask for a hug when i was in trouble and i always got turned down. i needed that hug to confirm they didn't hate me since their words were hollow. we recently went through old family photos and videos. One thing was constant, i was in trouble in some way in every single one. there is no possible conceptual way i was bad every single day my entire life up til 5 years ago. my skin is so tough from all the corporal punishment its hard to feel pain. which you'd think is a good thing. but it resulted in me being completely numb to all feelings. We as humans need to feel.
I am doing this now and it started way back when I was a little girl...thought it was normal until a narcissist came into my life and I almost lost myself.....he abused me and I found resources via the police to help me deal with this narcissist ....my self esteem hit an all time low
I think I have post traumatic stress disorder, having my dad leave me at age 4, being lonely constantly under a horrible dads watch. Being bullied and mentally abused throughout my life, having friendship issues and problems with toxicity throughout my life…and a ton of abandonment. All these things listed in the video, i cant help but do.
Thats a horrible thing to go through. Those people are just blind to your awesomeness. There's a happy, strong, and cool person that doesn't care about what people think deep in your heart. You just gotta find them and let them shine. You didn't deserve even the tiniest bit of what you went through, and you are amazing as is. Keep working to heal yourself, and eventually you'll get there. I believe in you.💖
I've had a traumatic experience before! Over the summer right when I got home from ✨summer camp✨ (🤢🤮) it was like 11:30 and my dad chugged down half a mini bottle of ginger ale really quickly and then groaned and pressed his hands against the kitchen counter. My mama asked if he was ok and his response was "I will be in a second" then he passed out fell over the kitchen counter knocked dishes off the counter and then fell to the ground and busted his head open. Me and my mom saw the entire thing and both of us were screaming. She yelled at my to call 911 and that was 3rd time I had a panic attack. I mistyped 911 multiple times and then I finally got it right. By the time I called them my sister came in and took over for me. he had only been passed out for a few seconds and then became conscious again. It was awful. My dad was put in an ambulance that night and I couldn't fall asleep till 3 a.m. and that's just because I was exhausted after a week of summer camp. My sister's didn't go to bed until around 6 a.m. I can still remember it. All of it
I was with someone for 12+ years and the abuse was real. She would hurt me and sting me in ways I don’t know if I could ever recover. The gaslight, the manipulation, the belittling, the insults, the violence and threats-all have affected me so harshly. I realize that I can’t be happy because I try to self sabotage that moment any chance I get. I cannot find the joy in success without that immediate imposter syndrome. My low self esteem is so immense that I don’t know why anybody would love me and I’m surprised I’m not alone. I drown and drown, and stay awake at night thinking: god I miss her, maybe if I speak to her things will be okay, what if it was me who was toxic, does she miss me or has she moved on. I know if I go back, the pain will return. But I loved her so much, so very much, that cutting ties from her felt so painful. I knew it was the right thing to do because I was able to breath for those moments the minute I cut ties. However, the pain, bruising, and emotional damage is all there. I don’t know how much longer it’ll take til I finally heal and move on.
It's nice to know I'm not alone but this is a hard reality to face each day. Thank you for posting this because I really feel I'm fighting a neverending battle 😓
Thank you for posting this video… Some of these traumatic items I’ve seen in myself and it’s helped me to have a better structured conversation with my therapist. *it’s even more sadden to see them in someone you love…
i have a trauma of my dog passing away from being hit by a car 8 years ago because i feel like it’s my fault and nothing can convince me otherwise, but i’m not gonna treat it, because he’s the reason why i save people from committing suicide and the reason why i always fight for what i think is right, and saving lives and fighting for what’s right is what’s keeping me from killing myself, so to make it short i won’t treat that trauma because it’s the reason why i live, the reason i wake up in the morning and go to sleep at night
I want to plan for everything that comes In my direction, and always have a plan for anything to protect those around me. And to be prepared . I suck at asking for help. And often when I'm hurt because if growing pain or headaches, and someone is on the phone but I need to tell them about it, I'll wait the 15 minutes to ask them for help . And I hurt myself, I'm hard on myself and tell myself I'm not good enough, and I struggle with low self esteem..
I can relate with number 7 But literally it was because of the people I was around that treated me like crap and making me feel like I never had a say in my feelings.since the age of 5 year old. I was treated like a flipping doormat Have gotten my dairy read behind my back by my mother side of the family in Jamaica Since they make me feel like I am a outcast. I have Jamaica family I was born in the USA. I can’t trust people anymore I had gotten a therapist ones but all they trying to do is change me into a different person I am not. And just laugh in my face with the things I like in my life. I just get stabbed in the back. When it comes to getting help. I just give up and stay to myself with my trauma.
Currently hating the fact that I relate with most of them, hope all of us here can heal and become better individuals and be happier over all, Sending love
I’ve been fighting for my life everyday for 20 years, it’s so exhausting and traumatizing in it’s self. I’m so tired, I wish I could have a break sometimes.
Wow. People need to learn Detachment. There is no pain once you can detach from life. 1) I hate change. Who doesn't?? 2) I love to plan and be in control of my life, 3 & 4) I don't fear failure because it is all up to me to succeed. 5) I can concentrate on things that interest me. 6) I don't need help from anyone. 7) I don't hurt myself, I enjoy my own company and don't need to mix with others. 8) I have self respect but not low self esteem. 9) I understand why I am like this....nothing unexplained about it I have chosen to be detached so the world can't hurt me........everybody should try it. It is the perfect way to live a happy life.
When I was a toddler, I got in trouble for breaking a new pair of sunglasses. My cousin yelled at me, my mom yelled at her, they yelled at each other. I still remember running to my room and hiding under my blanket. When things calmed down, I hid behind the doorway as I saw two police officers in the living room. To this day, I have a fear of being yelled at.
I scored a 9 on 9. I really don't know how to feel about that. It just makes it clear that I'm fucked up and need to work on myself but I can't even find a reason good enough to do so. What's the point? I am like this not because of anybody else but because of the choices I've made... So what gives me the right to not be a reflection of my choices and be a portrait of somebody who is perfect and somebody who im definitely not.... Its not like I don't wanna be happy... I do laugh sometimes but the constant fear of abandonment and the fear of losing more than I get is gonna help me create a lifestyle that secures me from all those problems..... Consider the fact that I don't take help from people.. It's not the lack of initiative that makes me do that... I don't want to affect other people... My problems are mine to deal with...if I talk about those things then I know for a fact that I'm negativity affecting the other person....I'm really fuckin sad and I'm tryna figure out a way to not be sad... On my own... And it's been like that for over 2 years now and I've reached nowhere.... Instead things are worse than when I started off... :)
Are there any follow up topics that you would like us to cover?
Yeah
Yeas pls
Can you do narcissistic mom?
What is False courage?
Yes, please!
1. You resist positive change
2. You need to plan for everything
3. You have a strong fear of failure
4. You have a strong fear of success
5. You have difficulty concentrating
6. You have trouble asking for help
7. You often hurt yourself or others
8. You struggle with low self esteem
9. You you have unexplained psychological symptoms
LIFESAVER
Thank u
1,5,7, and 8 i relate to.
(ik i sound emo)
All 9
i struggle with 3, 5, 8 and 9.
Wow now it's really obvious why my friend took me to therapy. She was the first to figure out I had a lot of trauma and got me to open up about it. Her exact words were "I'm not giving up on you, I'm your family now, not those people who hurt you, me! and I'll be there through every step with you." She has kept that promise for over 5 years now.
She is more than a friend 🙂
Wow you have got a gem❤
U r lucky...not everyone can get such friends
Thank you all. We've become more like siblings than anything.
@@d_nb5925 fr... I wish I had such a strong connection with someone who would said that :(
but I’m happy for you ^^
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
― Laurell K. Hamilton
This is an amazing quote! Thank you for sharing!
Invisible scar
-aKat-
Learn to detach from life, feelings, emotions. Be free of that crap and find your own happiness.
@@heidicross6878 they don’t understand it yet, they need Eckhart Tolle
One of my favorite authors!!
Time stamps :3
1. You resist positive change 0:41
2. You need to plan for everything 1:09
3. You have a strong fear of failure 1:36
4. You have a strong fear of success 2:06
5. You have difficulty concentrating 2:36
6. You have trouble asking for help 2:58
7. You often hurt yourself or others 3:19
8. You struggle with low self-esteem 3:49
9. You have unexplained psychological symptoms 4:15
Always remember you are braver than you believe smarter than seem and stronger than you think. And I learned that from a childhood therapist Winnie the Pooh so keep your head up Love, you got this ;)
Edit: Have an amazing day 💕
Yesss
Oh nice. I have many of that. Nice.😐
I can't be the only one that has a gut feeling that something is mentally wrong with me. My dad was an alcoholic during the majority of my childhood. So I'm a big perfectionist and I have a hard time accepting success. It's complicated, I want success but whenever I do accomplish something, I feel like it's never good enough. So I overwhelm myself and become unmotivated in the end to do anything, unfortunately.
Yes same here girl or dude, both my parents were drug addicts and as a child especially once I become a preteen I really wanted love from my parents and it never happened. It crushed me as a kid and definitely left a permanent scar 💔 in my heart. The best thing that I did to flip this negative into a positive in my life is I learned that if I had kids of my own that I would give my child what I didn't have. And if your trauma starts to affect you can always try the 3 for 3 rule, which is where you move your arm, ankle, and fingers and this is supposed to center your brains focus when you get that overwhelming feeling. I know it may sound weird but fiddling with your fingers can help. But hope you are doing well and staying strong! 🤗🥰😇
I completely feel you..
Right there with you. I'm 65 and have much of the same things you are going through most of my life. Try and give yourself grace in this crazy world we live in. Take care. Cheers
@@alexismartinez2549 I'm a 15 year old girl :) But yes thats exactly one of the goals I have in the future, if I have kids. I want to give them what I didn't have. But not spoil them though. But I appreciate the support, I'm going to try my best and stay strong. Thank youu
@@rickh8380 Thank you for your kind words and wisdom. I'm sorry you had to go through those things as well. Take care as well :)
Honestly I struggle a lot with asking for help and it’s my biggest problem because deep down I know that nobody really cares
They THINK they do and they may have good intentions but they get sick of us being depressed and are upset that we do not at least "try" to "put it behind you/look forward." It's like, screw you; you have no idea what it is like to live with depression and anxiety every day.
I totally get it. It's like as if asking for help is the wrong thing to do. It's not. But there must be someone that cares. And the amount of people that care about you doesn't change the fact that you are amazing. You are worth the time it will take to help you get out of this feeling. If you truly feel that there's no one that cares, go see a therapist. The won't make fun of you or disregard your feelings like others might. And stay strong. You can get through this.♥️
I struggle with a few of these, I can relate them. Thank you for helping me realize these, it really helps! Thank you so much
@caren louis ua-cam.com/video/kgvgodgfU_o/v-deo.html
I do too
Yeah I had a very strong feeling I had some un healed trauma, I can relate to all 9. I was abused when I was a child, I had cancer (beat it), lost a cousin (passed away), and not even a year ago I had one of the worst nights of my life when my father (bipolar II disorder) spiraled out of control and beat up his roommate in front of me, my brother, and my cousin. The day had already been a nightmare and that night just topped it off. I still have flashbacks of that night. I need help.
That's a bit similar to my story
Im sorry to hear that, please do seek help. Wish u all the best!
@@SC20_ Thank you! You too!
@@izy2302 Yeah, we’re all in this together.. wishing you the best!
@@gannondumontier49 ty! Ty all
Shout to you guys for making people feel less alone or like they're a freak because they don't know they have trauma 🖤
This video made me nearly cry. Because I know I have untreated trauma.
I’m still crying ….
@@rabicoroxo8727 don't cry. Hug it out. I'm here
Ouch. Stay strong alright? Itll get better one day. You are amazing ❤️
@@CRONKYPIGEON thanks
Thank you for making videos these really help me with my anxiety
glad they help you :)
@caren louis i may be reading this wrong but one word for your first sentence
DISGUSTING
@@xenaturner1244 i think its a bot lmao
CW: false accusations, mention of sexual assault.
I was an engineering major and wanted to add theatre while I had the opportunity. I always wanted to do set design, lighting, controls, and always thought I would get hooked on acting the moment I start. One of the girls there was a friend of mine who I had a bit of a crush on. So when volunteering to set up for a play, I finally got the courage to ask her out.
The girls apparently didn't want me there. Supposedly they are hostile to outsiders but I didn't know this at the time. So I started hearing of reports saying I had sexually assaulted some of them, and "broke into their apartment and sucked their toes". I received several death threats and a guy slammed me against a wall and said he would kill me if he saw me again.
I've felt ashamed of my sexuality since I first started feeling it. Years of classes had taught me it was something disrespectful to women, so I made sure never to show it. But it was all still hypothetical until that happened. That gave it physical form. I couldn't even ask a friend out without being accused and threatened.
After that, I basically never flirted. One girl I dated complained that I never even touched her. Another girl said she wanted to slow things down, and I immediately took that as me infringing on a boundary so I broke up right away.
I ended up going hard into what we might now refer to as "Incel" or "RedPill". I thought it would help talking to guys who had a similar experience to me, but the narratives did more to indulge the fears than to recover from them. Oddly enough, books about human sexuality and the female libido actually helped pull myself out of that toxic environment. I try to help other guys out of that pit of muck, but I don't think other guys were so lucky as to have it "click" and snap them out of it like it did for me.
So yeah, last year (a decade after the indecent) I finally decided to see a therapist about it, and the word "trauma" came up right away. I thought I had gotten over it, but I realised there was a lot of healing I still need to do. And I must say, while friends have been supportive, the general population not so much. They don't tend to see me as falsely accused, they see me as someone who was "caught" and "got away with it." or try to shut down the conversation as a non-issue or something I deserved on behalf of other men.
There are a lot more signs of trauma besides these nine. Instead of listing them, they come in three areas - thoughts, feelings and body sensations. They all have a couple things in common: protection & to make sure your Trauma is never repeated.
I related to every single one of them . This was definitely my past self … I started my healing journey 2 years ago ☺️and I’m beyond proud of how far I’ve come …. I’m the happiest person but I do be having my downs but I make sure it doesn’t last more than a few minutes .. it was very hard but I made it …Just don’t give up anything is possible if you put the effort♥️
How did you heal yourself? Can you please share your healing journey?
Feels like these videos are coming out at just the right time for me. In watching 8 Signs of Childhood Neglect, I've finally learned to face this Trauma I've been avoiding for so many years now. Then this one drops along today, and I found it quite hopeful. Especially with that message at the end. Keep up the good work, I am a feeling I'm not the only benefitting from these videos.
you are not alone, take small steps.
Great. All makes sense now. I honestly hope to hear from a professional soon. I've been referred but I'm sat here waiting weeks on weeks and trying not to un alive myself but I'm barely holding on. I've already been to hospital for doing just that recently 😕
You got this keep your head up! 💪 You won't know what's on the other side of that wall unless you look right? I hope they get in touch with you and I hope you find an amazing therapist or professional that guides you onto your path to mental freedom! 🙏 🌈🌟🌙☮️
I know that when you're in that space, you feel alone, it f**ks with your perception of things, and often no amount of "think about all those who love you," or "keep fighting because there are others struggling with you," changes that in the long-term, but please, if it makes any difference at all, I want you to know that I care enough about you as a fellow human that I want you to fight on.
It feels bold to suggest such a thing when I don't know the first thing about your situation, or even you, but it's all I've got. If you can, try to get at least moderate exercise- jogging in place for ten minutes, literally anything- and meditation techniques like deep breathing, third eye, or ice-diving if you need something stronger to ground yourself. I hope you get the help you need soon. I'm supporting you in spirit, for what it's worth!
@@ycleptprof.5249 thank you. I'm waiting on so much therapy and atm I'm trying yo stabilise a basic routine or eating at specific times a day and slowing adding to it. Next up is exercise and university work. And currently trying to simple self care like looking after my skin as I have a skin picking problem atm. Not sure what it's linked to yet but I'm still waiting for so many mental health appointments and such.
@@alexismartinez2549 thank you I've had so many already and a need soemthing long term but it's hard to get assigned to such professionals that are there to guide you long term especially on the NHS. If I manage to get strong enough to gain a permanent job or any job. Hopefully I can save up for private. But nhs is all I've got for now.
They said they'd get me a therapist months ago. I've decided it may be time to let go soon
I lost a loved one back in May, which sent me over the edge and I needed professional help, so I checked myself into a rehabilitation hospital for my depression. While I was there, I had a panic attack because I was having asthma problems and I had to wait in line at the pharmacy to get my inhaler. During the panic attack, the same nurse who denied me my inhaler, gave my inhaler to me in the middle of yelling at me for faking it. When I was feeling better and in a room to sleep, my roommate tried to get in my bed with me(for sexual reasons) and tried multiple times to get with me. I went into the hospital with PTSD, but that hospital made it worse.
I have all 9, I was wondering if the fear of success is a sign of unhealed trauma, and it is. I was bullied a lot in school by my fellow classmates and some teachers in my early years then just my fellow classmates when my family moved to a much different area. They really didn’t believe that the bullying was that bad or some of my teachers did it. I have a lot of things I can’t remember, so I don’t know how to resolve the trauma if I don’t remember what caused it. I only remember small parts.
I had a very similar experience. I was outcasted by my class all of elementary school and never understood why. Whenever I would ask for help, teachers would either think I did something to provoke other students or single me out and make things worse. The worst part is, I've spent most of my life believing I deserved to be treated that way. I don't remember specific details of what classmates did but I do remember feeling like I had to watch my back every single day(I felt like I couldn't trust people). In terms of resolving trauma, deconstructing those false/negative beliefs I had of my self because of the bullying is how I started. It's taken a couple years, but I'm finally seeing myself more accurately. Also, finding people that genuinely want what's best for you helps as well. I hope that you are able to heal. Be kind to yourself.
I believe psychologists know how to dive into your inner workings and can help you remember. Because the only way to heal from trauma is to face it? Sounds tough!
@@marianarodriguez4225 so im not the only one that was in a toxic elementary school:')
Try do some hypnotherapy, especially one that can do past lives and in between lives
I checked 8.5/9 because I never had the resources to deal with my trauma.
Here's a trauma dump:
My whole childhood from 4 years old up until now comprised of abuse and neglect by several adults and authorities in my life. One teacher of mine actually whipped me with a cane several times for more than half an hour when I was seven, with my mother's permission. My father used to have occasional outbursts of rage where he would beat me with a belt or slap me so hard I fell and peed on myself or nosebled, usually because one of my siblings had thrown me under the bus for some trivial matter such as peeling tattered wallpaper or forgetting to water the flowers. He was perfectly sane and made conscious choices to hurt me. There is no mental illness that could be blamed for it. I had a racist teacher in pre-grade 1. She used to verbally abuse me and ignore me when I asked for help. Sometimes she would drag me outside the classroom and lock me outside. My sister has been physically abusing me since I was five. She's nearly four years older. Amongst many of the injuries she caused me were burns, nail indentation scars, bruised lips, and damaged nails. She also ripped my ear to the point where it was detached from the rear, but it didn't come off. She yanked a few hundred strands of my hair out after I had just recently gotten braids. (I estimate it was more than a hundred, but I'm not sure.) I have now virtually disassociated myself with her and my mom keeps on trying to make me fall victim to her again. My father passed away 6 years ago. I am now a sophomore, and I don't have a single teacher in my life, because I am homeschooled by irresponsible and incompetent individuals. I am still being abused by my elders till this day. My aunt snatches 18,000 in food from my family and costs us 40,000 in black tax annually. In two years, the money she swindles from our household could provide essentials and buy a house for a family of four, while financing the high school tuition of two students and buying a car. She has been taxing our family for twenty decades now. She once took the last three onions in the house when we were broke. She is 40 and has had seven children by seven different men, only two of which are alive today, and none of which she married. Another baby is on the way, allegedly. She's financially abusing my family and I can't do anything about it. There was a time that I wasn't going to school for five months while her daughter's fees were being paid by my mom. Yes, you read that right: my own mother has chosen to support and favor her sister's child over her own. I'm planning how I'm going to make it out of this, and counting down the days until I can legally leave. There is a high possibility that I will never return here once I leave for college. Where I'm at is not my home; it's my prison.
when someone yells near me (even if it's not with me), I lose the movement of my hands suddenly
I also have reflexes when someone is going to hit me (or not) in self-defense, but i almost never got hit even by my parents when i did something wrong
I think it’s another person like teachers? But I hope you are ok tho
@caren louis WHAT IS THIS SKFJKDKWKW
@@bakedpotato5037 yeah, i am okay! ty!
I have recently been diagnosed with PTSD after 5 decades of trying to deny and hide trauma from a lot of abuse I have been subject to, however, I don't feel many of the things mentioned in this video. I have learned that even though there my be some common charateristics in trauma abuse victims, I also recognize that it is also a very personal experience that can completely different from anyone else.
Not everyone is one thing. No one is purely bad. So imagine all the good parts about yourself, no matter how small they are, and think of that as a friend beside you. A friend with good traits who cares for you, someone you envy to be. And now remember that that imaginary friend you made is YOU. You are good, you just need to look from a different angle.
Your channel is amazing. You helped me realise that I am depressed, and that those feeling aren't normal for everyone, and I am finally getting help for that.
So thanks
I think it's great that you are taking care of yourself!😄👍🤗🙃
The feelings of depression for me are normal because I'm used to it my lifes nothing
Shout out to the hundreds of people who were brave enough to share their stories. You are all amazing 💖 and that also includes the people that are suffering the same but didn't want to share. You guys are absolute superstars
I know I have untreated trauma because I have zero confidence in myself. I love to write and despite several comments saying I should publish it I can't bring myself to, years of belittling comments have made me doubt anything I write. Coupled with abuse that I blocked out, yeah definitely untreated trauma but I'm hesitant to go to a therapist because there's a reason my head blocked what it did, I'm not keen on reopening old wounds.
Go for it,I have had thoughts of being a comedian, doing videos etc,self doubt coupled with peoples negative nonsense they say are bad combination.
People is why I quit school at 15 ,and only my parents were there for me and didn't know what to do, this was early 90s.
I have spent alot of time alone and got lost in life!!
I always try to be there and be the funny guy,but I have needed that support myself and now will only except those who appreciate me.
I can relate with the low self-esteem issue. I too, always loved writing, but I never haver the courage to do it. I'm terrified that I might just be shit at it, to the point I never share the pieces I right with anyone. And I can't think of why that might be, I never has someone telling me I wasn't good enough, to the contrary when in school I was praises by my teachers. I'm sorry to hear that you suffered from abuse. Therapy can seem scary and can be hard, but I feel like it is going the best for you in the long run. So if you have the financial means, definitely go for it :).
I've been through so much trauma in my life its unreal. And currently trying to survive high school with it seems to be with no help IRL and just music.
Literally everything in this video describes me, Everything, This makes me upset.
I hope hope ya find help soon,also feel ya,music can compfort lots sometimes:3
I feel ya, I'm in the same boat, and growing up, music was my outlet to escape the real world and enjoy an imaginary world for myself where I could do anything and be anything I want. It helped me out a lot so hopefully, it'll help you. If not, I hope you find something healthy to express your emotions and find inner peace. Stay strong, friend!
But Luke, what sets you apart now is that you are aware of the foundational cause- some type of trauma, which must be addressed in order to heal.
So many people feel awful every day, but they do not take a moment to question why. You are now one step closer to healing, because this information empowers you to be conscious of your behavior and ultimately, your reactions to stimuli.
HS is a rough period in everyone’s life, but fortunately there are counselors there, waiting to hear from students who need help. Asking for help is definitely a move in the right direction. It can change your life completely.
To anyone struggling with trauma, stay strong and keep on hoping for the better. 💜
Deep seated distrust, stifling my success, deep distrust with others and myself...this hits home
happy to say...i've overcome so many traumas... too many to list...♡
just realized a few days ago that i have experienced trauma in the past, and this confirmed it. i'm still in the process of working thru it, as it's built up over years, but i'll get there :)
These vids help loads of people like me, thank you psych.
I think most of my sadness comes from people around me. One of my friends said I don’t have empathy 😢
@caren louis disgusting! Please stop!
Hey sparkle, I reported that person. They were on my comment aswell!
One of the hardest things about relationships is to understand that true connection means complete emotional vulnerability. Past trauma makes that even harder to achieve. But the real challenge is having people around you who understand that, and a lot of people just don't. If after everything you've been through with them, they still don't get it, then it's them who truly don't have the empathy. But there's a fine line here. They also need to have the resources available to them to make those connections. If they don't, then they will never understand.
The trick for you is to make baby steps. Allow others the resources to understand what's going on, without having to dive in headfirst with detail. The nice thing about that though, is that every human on the planet is born with the capacity to do it. It's just very hard.
I may be a nobody, but I believe in you. You've got this.
@@prestonhall5171 thank you so much that really helps 🤍🤍🤍🤍
@@ILoveReigenArat4ka a user named YAMI was advertising the same inappropriate website. I reported them, I think this is the same person. I blocked them . YAMI was commenting under a video that was literally about stopping women being sexualised. It’s a disgusting website.
Here are timestamps for anyone who is low on time :>
•☆ 00:41 - You resist positive change ☆•
•☆ 01:09 - You need to plan for everything ☆•
•☆ 01:38 - You have a strong fear of failure ☆•
•☆ 02:07 - You have a strong fear of success ☆•
•☆ 02:36 - You have difficulty concentrating ☆•
•☆ 02:58 - You have trouble asking for help ☆•
•☆ 03:19 - You often hurt yourself or others ☆•
•☆ 03:50 - You struggle with low self-esteem ☆•
•☆ 04:17 - You have unexplained psychological symptoms ☆•
Other people have done this too- but I hope this can help 😅
I love time stamps thank you
Your videos may not be perfect, but they can seriously make me feel a lot better and reflect on my life.
Thank you. This helps so many people
That animated sequence starting at 2:30 made me feel instantly sad and compassionate toward the person trying to show/receive love, and being ignored. 😢I actually said "aww" outloud. I wonder if it says something about me and some similar trauma _I've_ experienced. The gesture of sharing was pure, innocent and kind, and the giver seemed to trust that it would be well-received, making the disappointment so heartfelt. Kudos to Evelvaii's animation for bringing that out of me.
"Hey, Mom! Look at the 15-page short story I wrote!! 😊😊"
Mom: 🙄
I have a friend who had rarely, almost no deep social connections to others kids until high school. Today he is completely fine with being alone and even wishes it from time to time. Can being an outsider lead to a traumatic experience?
More like can a traumatic experience lead to one becoming an outsider?...
Yes and no. Social exclusion can lead to isolation, which is a symptom of PTSD. Being an outsider is traumatising and devastating, and I speak from first hand experience. But I wouldn't say that being a social castaway has lead me to traumatic experiences. It has had a toll on my social life, and I have no friends. I used to not be able to articulate myself and I still cannot communicate like a normal person, even though I'm an ambivert. But this is the result of years of unresolved trauma that occurred prior to rejection. For me, being a social outcast has often times been hurtful. It has wreaked havoc on my self esteem and communication skills. I've become slightly more anti-social because of it, and it may come across as self isolation when I don't join a chat with strangers or actively engage in conversation with them. I'm used to not having to ask for places because I anticipate that I'll be rejected. I've lost quite some reasons to seek a social life of my own. The only reason I still desire a social life is because it's expected of me (by myself, as well as my personal development and mental health). Other than that, I honestly want to network instead of socialising without purpose. Having just one person with whom I connect on a deep level would suffice for me. Anything else that is purposeless and superficial... I don't want anything to do with it.
This could (emphasis on could) also be a sign of autism which can lead to traumatic experiences as well.
Another person commented about Autism...in my experience people on the spectrum are the only ones who TRULY benefit from being alone for long periods
Number seven is definitely me, I always don't ask for help because I don't want to come out as annoying to others.
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Yeh, I have not only one but few of traumas from my childhood. After a year of therapy it's still a lot work to do. I was originally diagnosed with PTSD but after some time my therapist did diagnose BPD (borderline personality disorder) which is the exact diagnose. Now I feel way better than before but when I think what could've be if I didn't start therapy year ago... Uhhh 🤕
I deal with all 9 of these. However, I don't have the means, time, or finances to deal with them properly. I still have to go to work every day just to barely pay the bills, take care of my wife and kids, and try to keep making sure there's a roof over our heads. My only option is to build as many, and as strong, walls as I can in my mind and keep pressing forward. A lot of people can get the help they need, overcome the things that hurt them, and lead happy, successful lives; I am not one of those lucky few however. I really enjoy the content though. The way you present it, the calming tone and animations, all of it, are great for watching/listening to while working. Keep up the great videos 😊.
I related to all of it. Humiliation in front of many people and family is what leads me to overthink and plan everything out. Suffer on low self-esteem and fear of failure.
This channel helps me when I feel like I'm overreacting and don't need to leave this situation I'm stuck in.
i always love your videos and the voice always makes me feel comfortable and at a safe space! Please keep making videos like this
I work with children with emotional needs (before that even at several children’s homes) and I definitely see those signs in my every day work life! Thank you for putting out this video to help people who are affected or who have loved ones in their environment 😊
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all i need is some goddamn entertainment after a long day of voice acting, & archeology studies for school. this video definitely cured me. thank you for taking the time to make this video. the funniest thing about me watching your videos is that I always have sushi with me. i look forward to watching your videos everyday! i love you!
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i have had faced bullying for 6 yrs and it has mentally scarred me .
i had to change my highschool because the teachers weren't helping me
and bullying was getting worse day by day . although it was 6yrs ago ,
1. i now have low self esteem ,
2. i have anger issues
3. i don't believe it when something good happens to me .
4. i struggle in making friends .
5. i struggle to talk to girls .
thanks for making this video .
I want to share my experience, so anyone who had something similar know that your not alone. few months ago, a girl chose another girl over me, was my best friend and I knew her for years. Then she was just acting rude even going as far as it saying I have no empathy, maybe I don’t have empathy 😔 It wasn’t dating wise but she ditched me for another girl, I went to some other people and they just ignored me, and made me cry last night. I have major trust issues now (not a medical condition just in general) I have a friend who always treats me nicely and another who I’ve known for a long time and is so nice. I want to go with them but I am in holidays and they are rarely online. I don’t know what to do. Anyways, if you have a similar situation comment under this comment ⬇️ Thank you everyone! Have a good day
I don't have any advice, other then try and focus on what you can control. You can't control other people's feelings or actions, so just make sure you're doing good and improving yourself (in whatever meaningful way that would mean to you).
Ultimately, make yourself your own center of gravity. Putting energy into exterior actors won't bring you anything but pain. You can be both available/open to others, and not invested in their decisions.
Hang in there :) if you put good out there from the right reasons, it'll come back to you and sort itself out :)💗😊💪
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I have all of these signs. I tried to do online therapy but I didn’t feel comfortable enough to speak about it. Sometimes I feel like what I’m dealing with is all in my head and other people have it worse and I start feeling guilty 😔
This video really helped me, thank you for sharing! Keep up the good work and much love!
one of my best friends abandoned me while i was having a suicidal crisis, thanks for this video
hey i hope you’re doing alright! i love you and hope you stay with us
Now I know I have ALL of it. Nice 👌
So obviously most, if not all people, who watch this have trauma. You are worth the effort to fix these things, and you’re the only one who can do it. You are not a victim anymore unless you keep that mindset. I know we can all heal and overcome our past pain! ❤️
Can you please do 5 signs of dissociation btw I love you videos!
There is a concerning amount of steps that were relatable, I’ve asked my parents for help but it’s yet to come
By watching this video, I realise that I show some of those signs. Your video is really going to help me understanding those signs now.
I already know I'm suffering from unhealed trauma I'm just watching to marinate in it and I love your videos... Watching your videos has become more like listening to sad songs when I'm sad.
Thank you for the helpful videos! I love this channel!
Glad you like them! How many signs did you resonate with?
@@Psych2go I don't resonate with any of these signs now.
It’s scary how much I thought about how to try to solve ALL of these problems before watching this video. I feel like you’re talking directly to me
I always felt I had untreated trauma
I'm so scared everyday, I feel like I'm never going to be okay. I can't enjoy something good as I have anxiety that something bad is waiting to happen. I have no friends and nobody wants to get to know me. Only my dad has my back. The day he dies I'll be beyond a wreck, I'm begging on my knees that I can be helped one day. I want friends, a good job and I want people to like me.
I'm glad I don't have this
I went through some heavy things at 14. I’m in my 20s now, & the trauma is like a shadow that follows me. It won’t go away.
Some days are good, but when they’re bad…
… they’re bad. 😕
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I've got all nine of these and I gave up trying to feel better not for the lack of trying. In itself, it's a form of relief because deep down I know it's only in my head.
The way the cartoon body shakes is the way mine does at times. Very, very accurate for someone with anxiety.
Resisting it because I feel like I haven’t earned it. And even when I’m assured, I do things to sabotage it.
I didn't think I would have trauma in my life, guess I was in denial. It led me to hurting myself, losing appetite, feeling numb, lashing out on others, and a few days ago I had a suicide attempt...
Everything in this video was relatable...
Indeed, it took time. Now I finally can accept the wound and make sure people around me won’t experience the same
I check out for all of these. Before I watched this I already knew that what happened to me as a child wasnt normal, but I also never acknowledged it until a year ago. Even now I dont feel comfortable about it and rarely talk about it, but I can acknowledge it a little bit more than what I used to.
I'm not gonna lie, this made me cry because all those signs are what I experienced and still do to this day and I try to ignore them thinking that nothing's wrong. It really does hurt.. I really do hope no one else is experiencing unhealed trauma, it's hell, but if you are don't worry you will be healed and the ones who love you will always be there to help you.
If you still experience these signs you probably shouldn't be ignoring them. That's how you end up depressed and stuck. thank you for trying to help people with your words. It's a beautiful thing to do. Stay strong💖
I have 8 out of 9 of these symptoms (excluding planning for everything.) I'm pretty sure I was able to pinpoint my trauma a few days ago and I'm trying my best to take the steps needed to heal, but seeing all of these listed out was a big eye opener!
Your art style is so amazing yet simple, and that combined with your voice is what makes your videos so soothing, I've been in therapy and I've been a therapist before, and your topics are explained in great detail, keep up the great work!!
I honestly didn't have to watch this to know, I'm just avoiding dealing with things because I am exhausted and need some good days. We'll get there.
Trauma seeds self-fear and denial. There were also studies with trauma correlated with neuroticism (assertiveness vs turbulence in the popular 16 personalities test). Anyone with very high levels of that likely indicate their underlying scars.
Family trauma is the hardest to fix. Especially when growing up under abusive relations. Still struggled to remember past happy experiences. I had redeemed parts of my own, but there's still plenty to go. Identifying and accepting them is the first step to self-redemption.
Thanks you Psych2Go. I watch all our your videos and they help me to no extent.
I can relate because lately I just haven't been me, and been so depressed that I cut myself, I really love this channel because I get to learn new things everyday so thank you for making these videos❤
This channel is really nice. It feels really validating to hear all of this coming from someone else, especially when it’s already difficult to allow others in.
I am getting "help" by my therapist. He gives me these tasks that doesn't even makes sense to do because they don't even resemble (my) panic attacks/ anxiety attacks.
I have really bad trauma from losing my loved one, my pet and being harassed and seeing women harassed in public at a young age- Men purposely try to touch me and I'm literally a minor. I can't even go to the grocery store and the fact that whenever I see a man walking past, all those traumatic events cross my mind
In 3rd grade I took an IQ test. I knew that if I scored high enough I would qualify to go to a private school in New York, and I deliberately answered some questions in ways I knew I should not because I didn't want my family to send me away. I scored 2 points short of MENSA level, and got to stay in New Mexico. At that age I had little or no unresolved trauma so my fear of success was on a different level; in retrospect, I'm grateful that life turned out as it did.
Even to this day my parents constantly talk about how i was such a bad kid. but it doesn't make any sense. i let them take their anger out on me and i just absorbed it. i hate myself a lot and i never really knew why. they would often neglect me to the door all night and then go to bed like i didn't exist. i would ask for a hug when i was in trouble and i always got turned down. i needed that hug to confirm they didn't hate me since their words were hollow. we recently went through old family photos and videos. One thing was constant, i was in trouble in some way in every single one. there is no possible conceptual way i was bad every single day my entire life up til 5 years ago. my skin is so tough from all the corporal punishment its hard to feel pain. which you'd think is a good thing. but it resulted in me being completely numb to all feelings. We as humans need to feel.
I am doing this now and it started way back when I was a little girl...thought it was normal until a narcissist came into my life and I almost lost myself.....he abused me and I found resources via the police to help me deal with this narcissist ....my self esteem hit an all time low
I think I have post traumatic stress disorder, having my dad leave me at age 4, being lonely constantly under a horrible dads watch.
Being bullied and mentally abused throughout my life, having friendship issues and problems with toxicity throughout my life…and a ton of abandonment.
All these things listed in the video, i cant help but do.
Thats a horrible thing to go through. Those people are just blind to your awesomeness. There's a happy, strong, and cool person that doesn't care about what people think deep in your heart. You just gotta find them and let them shine. You didn't deserve even the tiniest bit of what you went through, and you are amazing as is. Keep working to heal yourself, and eventually you'll get there. I believe in you.💖
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I've had a traumatic experience before! Over the summer right when I got home from ✨summer camp✨ (🤢🤮) it was like 11:30 and my dad chugged down half a mini bottle of ginger ale really quickly and then groaned and pressed his hands against the kitchen counter. My mama asked if he was ok and his response was "I will be in a second" then he passed out fell over the kitchen counter knocked dishes off the counter and then fell to the ground and busted his head open. Me and my mom saw the entire thing and both of us were screaming. She yelled at my to call 911 and that was 3rd time I had a panic attack. I mistyped 911 multiple times and then I finally got it right. By the time I called them my sister came in and took over for me. he had only been passed out for a few seconds and then became conscious again. It was awful. My dad was put in an ambulance that night and I couldn't fall asleep till 3 a.m. and that's just because I was exhausted after a week of summer camp. My sister's didn't go to bed until around 6 a.m. I can still remember it. All of it
I was with someone for 12+ years and the abuse was real. She would hurt me and sting me in ways I don’t know if I could ever recover. The gaslight, the manipulation, the belittling, the insults, the violence and threats-all have affected me so harshly. I realize that I can’t be happy because I try to self sabotage that moment any chance I get. I cannot find the joy in success without that immediate imposter syndrome. My low self esteem is so immense that I don’t know why anybody would love me and I’m surprised I’m not alone. I drown and drown, and stay awake at night thinking: god I miss her, maybe if I speak to her things will be okay, what if it was me who was toxic, does she miss me or has she moved on. I know if I go back, the pain will return. But I loved her so much, so very much, that cutting ties from her felt so painful. I knew it was the right thing to do because I was able to breath for those moments the minute I cut ties. However, the pain, bruising, and emotional damage is all there. I don’t know how much longer it’ll take til I finally heal and move on.
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It's nice to know I'm not alone but this is a hard reality to face each day. Thank you for posting this because I really feel I'm fighting a neverending battle 😓
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Some of these traumatic items I’ve seen in myself and it’s helped me to have a better structured conversation with my therapist.
*it’s even more sadden to see them in someone you love…
i have a trauma of my dog passing away from being hit by a car 8 years ago because i feel like it’s my fault and nothing can convince me otherwise, but i’m not gonna treat it, because he’s the reason why i save people from committing suicide and the reason why i always fight for what i think is right, and saving lives and fighting for what’s right is what’s keeping me from killing myself, so to make it short i won’t treat that trauma because it’s the reason why i live, the reason i wake up in the morning and go to sleep at night
I want to plan for everything that comes In my direction, and always have a plan for anything to protect those around me. And to be prepared
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I suck at asking for help. And often when I'm hurt because if growing pain or headaches, and someone is on the phone but I need to tell them about it, I'll wait the 15 minutes to ask them for help
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And I hurt myself, I'm hard on myself and tell myself I'm not good enough, and I struggle with low self esteem..
The most calming and beautiful voices on YT. Thanks!
I can relate with number 7
But literally it was because of the people I was around that treated me like crap and making me feel like I never had a say in my feelings.since the age of 5 year old.
I was treated like a flipping doormat
Have gotten my dairy read behind my back by my mother side of the family in Jamaica
Since they make me feel like I am a outcast.
I have Jamaica family I was born in the USA.
I can’t trust people anymore
I had gotten a therapist ones but all they trying to do is change me into a different person I am not. And just laugh in my face with the things I like in my life. I just get stabbed in the back. When it comes to getting help. I just give up and stay to myself with my trauma.
Currently hating the fact that I relate with most of them, hope all of us here can heal and become better individuals and be happier over all,
Sending love
I’ve been fighting for my life everyday for 20 years, it’s so exhausting and traumatizing in it’s self. I’m so tired, I wish I could have a break sometimes.
Wow. People need to learn Detachment. There is no pain once you can detach from life.
1) I hate change. Who doesn't??
2) I love to plan and be in control of my life,
3 & 4) I don't fear failure because it is all up to me to succeed.
5) I can concentrate on things that interest me.
6) I don't need help from anyone.
7) I don't hurt myself, I enjoy my own company and don't need to mix with others.
8) I have self respect but not low self esteem.
9) I understand why I am like this....nothing unexplained about it
I have chosen to be detached so the world can't hurt me........everybody should try it. It is the perfect way to live a happy life.
When I was a toddler, I got in trouble for breaking a new pair of sunglasses. My cousin yelled at me, my mom yelled at her, they yelled at each other. I still remember running to my room and hiding under my blanket. When things calmed down, I hid behind the doorway as I saw two police officers in the living room. To this day, I have a fear of being yelled at.
I scored a 9 on 9. I really don't know how to feel about that. It just makes it clear that I'm fucked up and need to work on myself but I can't even find a reason good enough to do so. What's the point? I am like this not because of anybody else but because of the choices I've made... So what gives me the right to not be a reflection of my choices and be a portrait of somebody who is perfect and somebody who im definitely not.... Its not like I don't wanna be happy... I do laugh sometimes but the constant fear of abandonment and the fear of losing more than I get is gonna help me create a lifestyle that secures me from all those problems..... Consider the fact that I don't take help from people.. It's not the lack of initiative that makes me do that... I don't want to affect other people... My problems are mine to deal with...if I talk about those things then I know for a fact that I'm negativity affecting the other person....I'm really fuckin sad and I'm tryna figure out a way to not be sad... On my own... And it's been like that for over 2 years now and I've reached nowhere.... Instead things are worse than when I started off... :)
This were signs I showed 2 years ago and I'm happy to know that I have gone past that phase in my life
I used to have all of these symptoms, but the good thing right now is that I'm slowly healing from my trauma.