7 Signs Someone is Secretly Narcissistic
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- Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
- When people often talk about narcissism (NPD), the tendency is to imagine it in it’s most extreme and most easily recognizable form. But psychology actually says that there are two “faces” to narcissism: one grandiose and exhibitionist (called “overt narcissism”) and another vulnerable and sensitive (known as covert narcissism”).
At first glance, you probably wouldn’t even realize someone is a covert narcissist because of how much more reserved in nature they seem to be than their overt counterparts. But make no mistake, a covert narcissist is still a narcissist, and they can be every bit as manipulative, exploitative, ruthless, and inconsiderate. Here are a few signs.
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DISCLAIMER: This video is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used to diagnose anyone. If you have been affected or been the victim of narcissistic behavior or abuse, please speak to somebody you trust or seek professional support.
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References:
Atlas, G. D., & Them, M. A. (2008). Narcissism and sensitivity to criticism: A preliminary investigation. Current psychology, 27(1), 62.
Luchner, A. F., Houston, J. M., Walker, C., & Houston, M. A. (2011). Exploring the relationship between two forms of narcissism and competitiveness. Personality and Individual Differences, 51(6), 779-782.
Rohmann, E., Neumann, E., Herner, M. J., & Bierhoff, H. W. (2012). Grandiose and vulnerable narcissism: Self-construal, attachment, and love in romantic relationships. European Psychologist, 17(4), 279.
Smolewska, K., & Dion, K. (2005). Narcissism and adult attachment: A multivariate approach. Self and Identity, 4(1), 59-68.
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*7 signs someone is secretly narcissistic*
0:58 - They often act passive-aggressive
1:33 - They are easily envious of others
2:15 - They hold a lot of grudges
2:43 - They are highly sensitive to criticism
3:23 - They have false modesty
3:43 - They have self-serving empathy
4:16 - They think no one understands them
Big hug to anyone reading ❤️🚀🌙
Ty
I'm a narcissist
Thank you! 🙏🏽💜
Ty💙
@@Sky_Dragon_OwOSame bro. Same.
Just a reminder, if you feel related to one or few of these things mentioned in the video it doesn't mean you're automatically narcissistic. Everyone has narcissistic traits and it's completely normal If you feel like you sometimes act like ways mentioned in this video
@Maya Thank you! This really helps! 🤗
@@_dilien_399 glad to hear that!❤️
Thank you so much. I was about to freak out when I realized I relate to two of these signs
Thank u
@@hellolife3796 no problem! And as I said, everyone has narcissistic traits and it's 100% normal :)
Watching this to know if I'm narcissistic lol
same
Me too
I think I may be a narcissist
Literally 😭
@Connor Livesay then maybe I am not a narcissist
Raised by a covert narcissist mother. All these are spot on, particularly the performative empathy. Everyone else in her life thinks she's a saint. My brother and I know the truth. For my own peace, I forgave her long ago and keep my distance as much as possible.
Hey, this might sound like a weird question, but how do you know for certain?
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Same, didn't think I'll ever see DIO here lol That's quite *bizarre*
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1. they often act passive aggressive.
2. they,re really envious of others.
3. they hold a lot of grudges
4. they are highly sensitive to criticisms.
5. they have false modesty
6. they have self serving empathy.
7. they think no one understands them.
I honestly don't see how labeling someone who already feels misunderstood is going to help
I'm diagnosed with covert narcissism 2 years ago. It took me 2 years to finally accept that this is true and I have a problem and not 'they'. Just by looking back what I had done and said in the past 2 years made it very clear and especially when I started to look back further in history as a child. My behaviour, the results it had on my private life and many, many other concequences. I strongly believe that narcissists are in fact not fully grown adults. Due to circumstances at home they had to cope with the situation and didn't get the normal safe guidance and possibility to experience life to become a full grown up. Feeling no empathy is realy very hard, since it goes hand in hand with love and hapiness. When you can't feel these emotions, you miss the joy of life. This is why I truly believe that all narcissists are very depressed even if they look happy.
Children & teens usually have narc tendencies that's why when you looked at your childhood you found evidences!!
We got our true colors when we practice life fully, so if someone see himself as worthy, just going to adult life he will find out that he is like everyone else.
So, I agree that narc is ungrown children, that's why I found (reparenting) is key to avoid being narc.
Also I think that we mostly have this narc child in our bodies, that's why we need to self reflect and search for what made us feel the way we feel.
If you 're narc and have now the capacity to look and find out when you acted like one, then you now grown up narcissism, so give yourself some credit.
whenever researching narcissism, you always see tons of people talking about how horrible narcissists are and their awful experiences with them. I'm surprised by the lack of actual narcissists here. I believe I am one and there's nothing I can do about that; I don't think my behavior is particularly bad but I do have pretty much all of these traits and I don't understand empathy.
i guess this also plays into my deeply-held belief that the individual is unimportant, and you must repay others for what they have given you to keep you alive by doing the same for them, otherwise you are a leech on the system. how does one person suffering affect anything significantly if that person isn't important? i understand that this is a belief that comes without a shred of empathy, i just don't really get why that's so bad. it's just chemicals in the brain- they have no real, tangible results. if nobody knew about some dude dying in the middle of nowhere, why would that matter? i understand intellectually that i sound like a monster, and believe me, i would never share this with friends and family.
@@DavidNikkiZane empathy is also about looking at how you would feel about going through the same experience, and how that would affect yourself. If you would want someone to help you out if you were in pain, then you should also help others in pain because they are of course, in a very uncomfortable situation and it is weird to want to leave the person suffering. Your actions don't always have to benefit you. If you look at it logically, helping the person in pain wouldn't affect you negatively anyway because you might feel better about helping someone out and making them feel better. If helping people doesn't contribute to your happiness, maybe think about how you would feel if someone helped you and apply that to the situation. Hope this made you understand it better.
you don't understand empathy, you feel it.
@@jimzucker You can do both! they're called cognitive empathy and affective empathy.
Not all narcs are manipulative evil bastards, many can be ''normal people''
Really happy you included the point at the start that you're not trying to demonise people, there's a lot of stigma around personality disorders which can make it harder for people who would benefit from a diagnosis to get it. I hope this video helps people on the path to understanding themselves!
I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,
You thought it was positive mental health, but it was I DIO!
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"you though I was a normal person,but it was me,Dio"
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some maaajor things left out of #6 self serving empathy... the reason they do it isn't just to be viewed positively by other people... they do it to gain your trust, to manipulate you into feeling dependent on them, to gain power and control over you, etc!!!
I feel the narcissist are the biggest blessings in disguise. They force me to have self-love to be able to survive. They taught me things, that made my life so enjoyable after the fire I've been through. Even if it might feel like hell at the moment dealing with your narcs, they are shaping you to stand in your own light. Do not be afraid of your light, you are beautiful and always have been. Much love on your journey xo
Thank you ! I needed this encouragement today.
@@sandyr9081 ❤❤❤
How beautiful! What a wonderful of putting it. I was thinking the same after reading a few comments. We learn through these people all the things we missed out on learning in our developmental years. It truly is a blessing in disguise! We simply did not any better. And we will repeat the same hurt and the same patterns until we wise up and say yes to what we want and need, and be firm in saying no to anything that we do not need (or at least learn to compromise and stick to that agreement). We can do this!!
@@guesswho5790 Amen, on this journey to learn and expand. Yes, you can do anything you put your mind toward! xo
I really needed to hear this.. Thank you kind stranger
I was really worried watching this cause too many of these resonated with me. Knowing that these things may or may not be indicative of a larger problem has me shook right now. 😬
If it doesn't affect your life or the ones around you negatively, making your life and/or theirs practically unbearable and like a constant battle, if you are not always tense or angry, you're probably okay.
You're not a narcissist
The fact that u can admit u have some of these qualities means you’re not a narcissist!
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I would definitely be interested in that but I don't have Instagram if they have an email then I'll definitely reach out that way. Also I'm in TN does that matter?
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Well that's to bad then. 😕
You tought it was a narcisist, but it was me, DIO!
Finally someone did it
“I see cute DIO Drawing on the thumbnail, *I click immedietely….”💛💚💛*
I did the exact same thing i'm so glad to see a jojo reference,and them being dio😆💙
7 signs someone is secretly DIO
I just reviewed this in school. The animations make remembering the signs of narcissism so much easier so thank you 😊🙏🏽
ANYONE HERE WHO IS A NARCISSIST IM PROUD OF YOU FOR TAKING STEPS TO CORRECT YOUR BEHAVIORS ❤❤❤SENDING YOU MY BEST WISHES
I like how we gloss over jealousy, envy and greed as if these weren't narcissistic traits. We are looking for outliers but not addressing the norm which is shot through with narcissism. "Just because all of society suffers from the same delusion does not make the society sane." - The Sane Society, Erich Fromm
You thought I was a cute Psych2Go chibi, BUT IT WAS I DIO!
You thought it was a normal video, but it was I, DIO!
LOL ur Joke makes my day✨✨
my ex is covert narcissist. and i was a victim of narcissistic abuse by him. its scarry because by the time we were 3 years in he had worn down my self esteem and my mental state to the point where i couldn't tell what was going on. 6 years in and the mask was starting to fall away and i was in bad shape. verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and by the end we started seeing physical abuse. 10 years i was with him i've been free from him 3 years in october. and i'm now rebuilding my life. it's hard to trust after that
You can trust any on who was/still a narc I was a victim of your case but
👆👆 thanks to name pointed with the finger he help me spied on his phone and found out that my husband was still cheating on me. Now I have full prove to file a divorce. I just have to so I can be free once and for all
How could we punish this people? Karma is coming to them. 10x fold.
I unfortunately resonate with some of these. I do genuinely care about people, the issue is that I'm incredibly selfish with my selflessness. I help people because it makes me feel better about myself. If someone is sad, I start to feel sad and I hate that feeling. When people are happy, I can feel at least a little bit what that's like, and that feeling is great.
The most frustrating part was when someone tried to tell me I wasn't selfish, when I told them I was. They assumed I was a pure person just because I help people.
this is exactly what I feel...🤯🤯
You are not a narcissist.
Narcissists don't help folks.
Narcissist lack empathy.
Helping people is empowering.
Hope that has cleared some things up like doubts and fears.
All the best
The fact that other people being sad makes you sad too, shows only that you're a kind, empathetic person. Ability to share someone else's happiness shows that success of other people doesn't influence your self-image.
While a Narcissist is happy when someone else is sad ("I'll pretend being sad, just so other people see what a good person I am. But deep inside I'm celebrating your misery, as it proves that I do better in my life");
and they are sad, when someone else is happy ("I deserve this more, than you, so I'll do my best to make you feel that what you've got is unimportant and you're unworthy, and your success is just an accident").
Their motivation is different.
You thought that it was a narcissist, but it was I, Dio!
I just commented on another video about that. You are describing a friend of mine perfectly. He is not diagnosed Covert Narcissist, but he shows great signs. I am so glad that he is seeing a therapist, but he also has to learn that his friends are not therapists. Especially when he's gonna badmouth them later. He also says that we are pushing him away when in reality, he is the one pushing us away. He doesn't understand that, and he refuses to take any kind of advice that can help him.
Thankfully your videos really help us understand more
Remember, this comes from trauma, so give them help, not abandonment.
I dealt with a convert narcissist for a good part of half a decade, and it took a lot out of me because I was trying my best to understand them, and get them to understand empathy, and it was like the hardest thing to try to teach, and I couldn't tell if they didn't understand empathy, or they didn't want to understand empathy, to the point where they started destroying all their other relationships, and wanted to isolate me from my friends. Things just got complicated from there. To be clear I at first felt like they had narcissistic tendencies, and I'm like okay that's fine everyone does to some extent, but this person was checking off every single Mark and every single research and book I can think of, and because they've been my friend for a good half of a decade plus, I wanted to deny it mostly because they change from when I first met them, they started acting resentful towards me, and at first I didn't understand why until I found out from his friends and other people he brung around me was gravitating towards me, and he wanted that for himself, which I didn't understand because he always claimed that he didn't like any of the people around him, but he wanted to understand empathy so it was highly confusing. Okay I'm an infj and usually understanding other people generally came easy to me and I felt like I could help him with this, but eventually it felt like he would only take my advice and constructive criticism to try to twist a prospective into his own in which he would feel like I'm attacking him, which I don't mind people trying to understand in their own way, but sometimes it was complicated to say the least. I have to break off the relationship and now I feel like I'm a narcissist in a way because I left him in the dust. P.S. sorry for the long rant in the comment section I'm sure no one would really read this far if you have hi.
as someone who I believe is a covert narcissist, while this condition massively increases the chances of this behaviour, they still had a choice to act differently. i made a choice not to be an awful person even with a lack of empathy. don't blame yourself- they made their choice and got what was coming to them.
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@tel Thank you for your kind words, I logically understand I'm setting a boundary, but can't help but to feel a little guilty.
@@DavidNikkiZane wow you seem very honest and aware for a covert narcissist it's not something that I'm used to, but I will say thank you for trying to reassure my decision making, your being thoughtful and empathetic in your own way, it's just weird because in some ways because I see that he has a condition that if I leave I feel like I'm abandoning him. Though I'm logically aware that I'm not, it just feels that way.
Yeah, INFJs, autistic spectrum people, tend to attract NPD people, because we're the quiet ones. It was really physically painful to read what you went through 😢. I'm sorry you went through that. I pray you find your peace again.
I can relate, too. Me it was a parent. My aunties told me she was broken (paraphrasing one) early on. The abuse some of them got didn't help obviously.
Big hugs to everyone who needs one right now. May we all find our own ways to healing our minds and spirits and be able to shine in our own unique and beautiful ways 🥰☺️😢🌈🙏🏽👐🏽💯
"You expected me to be Psi, but it was me: Dio!"
Just got out of a relationship/ friendship with a narcissist. She made me feel self conscious, griped about the way I talked to her, cut off physical contact after a month, made me feel like everything I said or did was wrong or malicious, and lied or didn't tell all the truth because the benefits for her were validation and empathy to her situation, couldn't take constructive criticism, would get mad about almost everything. One day I sent her a meme and she lost it. I couldn't take it anymore and cut her off, and she continued to harass me and text me. I changed my number and have been radio silent ever since. I'm still struggling with the feeling of self inadequacy and am quite depressed, but I'm doing my best to get better. These videos have helped me to find some peace.
I feel your pain. As someone who was surrounded by narcissists (and currently dealing with narcissistic relatives at home) going no contact is the best thing you could do. If you can seek help from a therapist, preferrably one that knows about narcissistic abuse. Focus on yourself and your healing. Find a friend or someone to trust, that helped me a lot to heal from the abuse I went through.
I’ve been extra vigilant lately in keeping up with self-awareness and mindfulness, in case any potential signs of narcissism happen to pop up so they can be nipped in the bud rather than left to overrun my mind.
As a recovering adult survivor of covert narcissistic family abuse, it’s imperative these patterns don’t take root, especially since I don’t want to become the inverse of my former self-perceptions; for years I was always eager to please and support others’ needs and lifestyles at the cost of my own wellbeing, dreams, and the prime developmental years of adolescence and early adulthood.
This unhealthy inferiority complex was driven by feelings of unworthiness and “someone’s gotta be the nice guy,” with bullies, classmates, and even teachers during the latter half of primary school not making things easy in regard to rebuilding those early signs of potential, leading to the worst decision I’ve ever made: suppressing my latent potential and bizarre quirks in order to “fit in,” both out of a subconscious desperation to not be mocked and ridiculed for being myself and as a result of wanting to be “the good child” after years of grown-ups punishing me for the tiniest of errors and misunderstandings (I’m also a bit neurodivergent, which makes fitting in all the more challenging).
Being the designated nice guy has become an ever-increasing burden, as I’m highly sensitive to the thoughts and emotions of others, and feel nothing short of guilt if someone nearby is even a tiny bit upset, even if I’m not the one who triggered it, and especially if they vent their feelings to me with an accusatory tone.
I may not be a narcissist, but it’s always at the back of my mind that I could be, which isn’t what I want. After decades of feeling beneath others, and wondering why we can’t be on the same level, the one thing I strive to be is equal to them, and vice versa, for those I meet to see me as just as important as them, as I hope they see themselves as no more or less important than me.
That last point is the one thing that used to frighten me about fame and celebrity status: not so much the risk of negative press and “haters gonna hate,” but that so-called “ordinary” people would place me above them on some sky-high pedestal, as though worshipping me like an idol deity or paying reverence to a sovereign king. I don’t want to be seen as “greater than” any more than I want to revert to feeling “less than”… I just want to be on the same level as everyone else, without sacrificing my identity for the sake of anyone, and to the detriment of no-one, period.
As I’ve asked myself silently since childhood, “Aren’t we all the same deep down? So why can’t we all just be friends? Makes sense, right?”
Can we just take a moment to appreciate all the subtle jojo references throughout your videos? Thanks
Whoever relates, just know you are not a bad person. Please get the help you need and be gentle with yourself ♥️
As soon as I saw the first point, a certain someone in my life came to mind ... a big thanks to Psych2Go for bringing awareness to topics like these! I've learnt so many things from this channel, and am so glad you guys bring so much awareness to the big topic of mental health. Your videos are the highlight of my day!
The last reason sticks out to me. I don’t believe it’s because I’m a covert narcissist, but rather because these two most recent generations are maturing at a much slower rate than I am. I’ve had to leave a trusted friend group for my own mental health because they basically ignored my existence until I did something.
They never actively showed me anything. They never tried to converse with me. They were too filled in with their prideful fantasies. By pride, I mean both the community and the true definition. I even talked with my teachers and he said there was a toxic head of the friend group, who wasn’t me. I always had to pick up their slack (and still do) because they cared so little about anything but their fantasies.
It makes me sad that I have to leave the people I trusted deeply. To know that I had a toxic dynamic followed by multiple toxic friendships. There’s still one straggler who thinks they’re my friend. But because they act worse than the rest of that friend group, I have to decline the friendship. Worse is a strong word to describe someone, but there’s no better substitute. Period.
This video described me other than the grudge, false modesty, self serving empathy, and the last part 0-0
@Connor Livesay I never said I lacked empathy, I'm actually full of it :) I don't do it for compliments and attention though (Which is self-serving empathy)
this video described me except for the grudge o_O
I was worried that I would be like my mom. Thinking I was different and great. Staying in a world I made and rejecting any other. What this video showed me is that I am like her. I'm self entitled. Wanting continues praise (for no actual accomplishments), and thinking I'm deserving of being lazy (couldn't think of the other word). Even after watching this and posting a comment about my "discorvery" will change me. I have to be the one to change me. A part of me is scared that I won't. Another wants to embrace it and do good things to help people. I have to do better. Not for only for myself. But for the family I have that allowed me to be this way.
We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.
Marshall B. Rosenberg.
Definitely my ex. Once I stopped stroking his ego and started holding a mirror up to him he couldn’t take it. Replaced me with a much younger girl who doesn’t know the real him, all in the name of a “fresh start” I used to be that “fresh start” … 🤢🤮
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So this is the same type as Star Platinum...
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One way to know that you're dealing with a narcissist is when they take, and take, leaving you feeling depleted. Whereas, you'll receive less, and less or nothing in return.
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I was the only one who saw DIO in the thumbnail?
Or in other words, there are selfish people and then there is Dio
This channel is exceptional and always has been. When I was trying to understand what I had experienced after being in a relationship for years with someone who did not care about me at all, I found comfort and education here. Especially comfort. Even the harshest realities are talked about with such sweetness and gentleness. Thank you, Psych2Go.
Definitely reminds me of a particular Ex who I'm doing my best to break a soul tie with. Especially with the highly sensitive and feeling like walking on eggshells when communicating with her. I wish her the best however I humbly embrace the best for myself at this point...
All the best to everyone seeing this video and reading these comments 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Been there, being high sesitive with empathtic nature is tough when being a realitionship, especially ehen ypu give so much from yourself and their true nature come into place, i had a best friend and when the red signs started to show , cutting ties with her when she is on my class is like a paresite , but know that you deserve so much , trust and keep your head up, dont lwt them get to you, just simply understand that you can npt help and change them and it is theirs , their pain and insecurities in not yours , hope you the best!! Proud that you got her out of your life it is not easy but worth to feel a loving realtionship.
If you think you're a narcissist, then you already took the first step to being a better you. Though, it all goes to waste, if you knew you were narcassitic, yet don't try to change for the better whatsoever. ❤❤❤
You thought this was a video about how to know if someone is a narcissist, but it was me, DIO!
Self serving empathy - literally drove me to the hospital for seroma aspiration and got irritated on the way back home because I didn’t want to go sit with her and her friend over a coffee, after bringing it up only after we left the hospital.
Had numerous visits to the hospital after that but she never drove me again or even offered.
I was literally going to be used as “I just took her to the hospital” gear.
I luv how you used Dio in your thumbnail
That’s not dio.. that’s inosuke
Also DIO as the colleague.
Never ever have i expected for DIO to be in a psych2go video
And this reminds me why should be on alert and not actually trust anyone, even our own friends and relatives because everyone can have ulterior motives.
A reminder to everyone, narcissists aren’t this way because they are inherently bad or evil, they are this way due to a variety of traumatic factors. Narcissism is rooted in the general feeling of complete inadequacy, and is displayed as conceited because it’s an escape from those feelings. It has to be about them, because if they’re not getting validation then they’re stuck with those thoughts. It’s important not to profile someone because they have NPD or take their behaviors at face value.
Recently started seeing the red flags of covert narcissism in someone I was seeing and I got out of that as quickly as possible.
Yeah let's abandon the misunderstood and leave them there to cry alone. That's definitely what an empath would do.
I was looking and haven’t seen any comment about this. At 3:05, I loved the drawings of Zenitsu from Demon Slayer and Eeyore from Winnie The Poo! They are both characters who seem to have low self-esteem and struggle emotionally.
Please keep doing stuff like that! Zenitsu is disliked by other characters sometimes because he’s just “too much”. I feel bad for him. I think this comes from the fact that he is just so incredibly emotional that he acts a bit wild. Sometimes this is comical but I feel that it also stems from the various inner conflicts he has such as his low self-esteem, fear and probably unresolved trauma. If anything his behavior makes the most sense, I would be absolutely terrified if I had to actually hunt demons face to face lol. While also at the same time, facing his inner demons 😢
Please keep incorporating stuff like that! Stories and characters have unimaginable power as they reflect the lives we live internally. This channel has truly been a godsend for me, thank you ❤️
The 6th one hits way too close to home. That's exactly how my ex-best friend was. She was always nice and kind to me and everyone else just because others were around, yet treated her friends poorly in dms. But, she'd also sprinkle a mix of niceness/kindness in dms so we think good of her despite her behaviour. I think that was because she knew we wouldn't talk about her bad behaviour to others. Especially me, I'd always think "she's being an ass but she's such a good friend. She has issues she can't help, so it's not her fault"
My ex-bf exhibited ALL of these. I broke up with him bc I constantly felt like I was expected to “serve” him and he was constantly fishing for compliments and special attention. I ultimately broke up with him bc he said a racial slur in a derogatory way. And when I called him out he went off tangent about realizing that I treat him so well n stuff. I told my friend about his behavior and she was like “that’s so narcissistic”…
SIGNS I NOTICED:
-he commented on my pimples JUST when I had started a new skin care regimen and tried to justify doing so when I got upset
-constantly listing out and broadcasting his accomplishments for compliments and praise
-backhanded compliments
-acting all respectful and understanding when you call them out
-never opening up emotionally
You will know bc they will value their ego above all else.
I came here for Dio Brando
I think I can safely say this now that I have a little more proof: I was in a friendship for a few years with somebody who demonstrates signs of a covert narcissist. They eventually cut me off and pretended like I don’t exist after telling me how they felt, even though I apologized and tried my best to make up for something that wasn’t my fault.
I love watching your videos💓 They help me a lot with daily life, so thank you so much for everything you do.
Most of these descriptions are aligned with me. Now this made me want to go back to therapy (well I've always been on therapy but it was cut because of lockdown).
This video is actually answers what I always ask myself: am I a narcissist like my late grandma? 🤧 God, I need to go to therapy again after I watch this 🤧
A true narcissist will not be able to reflect upon one's own weaknesses, not to say, own up to them. To be able to ask the question, "Am I a narcissist" already means you are not.
Based on the thumbnail I'm going to assume the tell tale sign is you go around shouting at everyone "Kono Dio Da!"
Loved the Dio reference in the thumbnail.
I know there are narcissists in every part of the World. But is it weird that I notice there is one particular country (not naming it) that has a WHOLE LOT of them? The sense of pride, the elevating of themselves over others, degrading other people, etc... is intense from this particular crowd. Yet, they appear all so sweet and nice and many people can't believe that they could be like that - another classic trait of a narcissist.
I am most definitely a narcissist and I want to be better but I'm not sure how to. Because I just feel jealous or angry quickly and I can pretend not to have those feelings, but they're still gonna be there.. Idk
Ur the same as everyone else, just try to learn that ig
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Everyone's a narcissist? That's kind of presumptuous isn't it
We have to understand why our emotions make us feel the way they do, in that understanding we can manipulate them by changing our thoughts about them little by little.
(super simple)Example: You see someone getting ice cream and feel jealous. Be conscious enough to understand that you're feeling jealous because someone is getting something you currently want, ice cream. Then, try to refocus your thoughts on looking forward to getting your own ice cream later instead of being jealous of them having it. After enough training, you will start to feel excited when seeing someone with ice cream instead of jealous.
Applying that on a more complex scale with narcissistic thoughts and emotions could help curve them. If you need a guide for healthy ways to treat people and morals and ethics, I'd suggest the Bible. Good luck!
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Thank you for that explanation I'll try that!
@@zulanova1209 Omg no lmao, I'm pretty sure you knew what I ment but just incase I ment you aren't different so your not better off you an still be a lovely person and stuff but ig that could help?
A JoJo reference... Finally inner peace.
Yo dio in the thumbnail
I wonder how many people look at videos like these and think "but, I do that" because those trait descriptions are just vague enough to apply to anyone. I think these descriptions should come with caveats like "everyone has held a grudge a some point,so not everyone who holds a grudge is a vulnerable/covert narcissist" or "we've all been passive aggressive at some point..." or "criticism can almost always sting..."
There's a friend of mine who I feel really displays a lot of these traits, but doesn't necessarily match the intentions described in the video, e.g. they can show empathy, but it's not only "for the looks", but might be self-serving in the sense that it's for their own benefits. So I wonder how much of these traits can overlap with other personality traits? Otherwise I'm really going to believe my friend is a covert narcissist lol
Everyone shows narcissistic traits time to time, it's normal, it's human nature.
The real problem is when they act like this demonstration character ALL OF THE TIME, manipulating your f*cking mental health so BADLY that some time after you end up in a psychologist/psychiatrist/therapist.
(Like in my case)
@@NOT_a_YT_Channel yeah, the thing about us humans is that we are the least egotistical being on the planet yet even then we are all pretty egotistical. However for me atleast theres a diffrance between egoisim and narcisisim. I wont get into why, but yeah
The mother of my ex girlfriend is actually diagnosed with narcissism. This whole video is soooo on point
Basically her mother did everything to ruin the relationship, it was exhausting.. i always tried to be understanding because of the diagnosis. So i was forced to just accept her behavior, but no matter what, i had to put boundaries. I was always very empathetic with her mother, because she always seemed to suffer a lot. She had no social life at all, so her daughter was her whole reason to live. And with the time she saw me as a intruder and tried to offend me any way possible with words, and a few times threated me and tried to attack me to hurt me (my ex always had to hold her back). My ex repeated a lot of this narcissistic behaviours of her mother, and it bothered me a lot. I newer take anything personal because i really felt bad for her, but then there came a time where i was exhausted and my ex treated me very bad blaming me for the actions of her mother and blaming my family as well , and i had to break up. But i wish both the best tho. But what i have learned from this is, i dont care what diagnosis someone have, if i feel treated like shit, i am out
You thought it was Psy, but it's me, Dio!
Yes so true! A hollow shell that can not regulate who try looks to others for validation.!
lol why do I see dio in the thumbnail
They say that you are not necessarily narcissistic if something applies to you. But my mother is acting like this every day. With my brothers, my father and me. For others she is always so different. She's been scaring me lately. I also watched your videos on depression and self-hatred/harm. For me, this has all been true for a very long time.
Psych2Go’s voice is so calming :)
Came here to see if I was one and it turns out, I’m just surrounded by them. It makes me feel better but sad too. Hard to get out of my surroundings when I work or live there. I know this is a test from God and I thank him but it’s also very difficult trying to maintain yourself and keep your spirit intact
I found out too late that my ex girlfriend was a narcissist. I was blind to it because I genuinely cared about her. But she never actually cared about me. After watching videos like these I know the signs to look out for next time. Thank you.
I have the exact same situation with my ex girlfriend. Cared about her deeply, but she was only out for herself and never cared for me.
You thought the thumbnail would have Psych2Go on it, but it was ME, DIO!
My dad is a narcissistic, my mother has known more longer before me.
I had a friend long ago whose gf broke up with him. He said "She couldn't handle having the perfect boyfriend."
Of course he said this when no one was around.
I was asleep in the living room and he and his "friends" walk past me and he says out loud after I was half woken up and tells them "I'm gonna fing break Clark's nose." Then when I confronted him the next day about it he gas lit me and said "What are you talking about? I never said that."
the fact i only clicked on this because i saw dio😣😣😋
Some of this stuff can be found in insecure people… what about the suicidal person who just wants to be loved ??
You thought it was psych2go but it was me! DIO!
Im highly sensitive,i was always called names when i lived with family,always picked on ,got called when i was home alone by someone telling me when they seen me walking down the street they was gonna tie me to a tree and kill me,i can't prove who it was ,but i feel like i do.Nobody took it seriously.Do i have issues,i don't think highly of myself.I really don't know why i was even born.You see,i try to be happy and don't wear all that makeup and crap.I don't wanna impree nobody.I just want to be left alone .I always wanted a friend,but now i Don't care to
Sounds like some evil anime antagonist
I know this video is sooooo informative and knowledgeable...... and thank you so much for that! But I'm not the only one who noticed the thumbnail right?! 💀🤣 It's Perfect!!! 😂😂😂
I've been greatly damaged by having a relationship with a cover narc. I was coming from a previous relationship with an over narc and, as i talked about - how stupid i was ! - i got targeted by her and eventually lured in.
At the time even i know that people obsessed with their looks were narcs, i didn't know it was a personality disorder. I had poor boundaries, low self esteem, hearth broken and very alone in a new town. She used me. manipulated me, gaslighted me, triangulated me, put me down and mocked me at my insecurities in between lines for years.
We ended up in a situationship with no love, no sex. I've lost myself and i was super numb.
Every time i tried to break up she made me feel bad and guilt trip me cause i was willing to leave.
I ended up loosing 7 years of my life, being on the verge of suicide, i rarely get a boner anymore, 20 kg overweight, no friends, i have very strong anxieties and cptsd which torments me since some years now.
Saying i'm the shell of who i was is an overstatement.
She pretended with everyone i'm the bad one. When i started calling her out she gaslighted me even more and turning people against me playing the nice person while she's actually a "fake self". She knows what she does and partially involuntarily admitted it. She doesn't have any empathy and lies to herself to covert to herself how actually evil she is.
They wrecks lives. They're very hard to spot without paying a price.
The only advice i can give is FOLLOW YOUR GUT FEELING.
That would have been the only thing that could have save me before she , of course, chipped that away by invalidating it all the times about everything.
A little postcard from Hell mine, hope could help out someone.
Genuinely wish you're okay now
OMG, I'm sorry for you. Wish you well & may God help you heal from that. I have been a victim of a covert narc friend, in the end I learned to keep boundries. I understand how hard it's to walk away when the other one is villianising you for that, we all want to be good & kind to others but we end up traumatizing ourselves.
Thank you for your postcard Jim! I hope things are becoming more brighter for you every day. Your sense of self, your energy, your boundries, the trust in yourself, your happiness and joy.
Know that your empathy, positive energy and love are so bright and beautiful. You are incredibly strong, determined and resilient.
Stay strong! Give all your empathy and love to yourself! Know you are an incredible human being by just being you.
I'm sorry to hear what happened.
While we now classify narcissism as a disorder, it's NEVER a good justification to abuse people, nor should it be tolerated.
you are strong and never let yourself think otherwise
It honestly doesnt matter if you're a narcissist, especially if people like your parents made you feel like you HAD to fight for everything, i know what its like to feel pride yet i know what its like to feel like at rock bottom, i hate being alone, so i just cling to people who give me the slightest amount of care
It's so hard to get away from a narcissist. They won't stop finding ways to contact us, so they can project, insult, demean, devalue, shame and blame us. It feels like they'll never go away and leave us alone, even when we beg and them. But then, I guess that's part of their lack of empathy. It's maddening 😢
My struggle to know my own narcissism is real.
Like........I am generally nice to everyone, i dont lie or steal or hurt people on purpose, so by that standard i feel as if i AM better than most people who are jut mean assholes.
But the road to humility is always about keeping your selfish entitled feelings in check because there is a difference between narcissism and healthy self esteem. Thats the balance i stuggle to find everyday.
What if you don't like being in control of things and you keep being put in charge. Also just wanting to be not involved in these things. And you just like where your at, because enjoying where I'm at is where I feel safe. Also not wanting to be seen as complaining and just wanting to live peacefully.
did i click on this bc it had dio in the thumbnail? yes. maybe. probably. extremely likely.
Love the animation!
Love the video.
That one will be the next video on the German Psych2Go channel!
I hope you all gonna have a fantastic day!
THANK YOUU 🌷🌷🌷🌷 YOU TOO!!!
Empathy is putting yourself in the other persons shoes and then feeling THEIR feelings (as far as you can) then LISTENING to them with the focus on THEM not YOURSELF!
I'm going to shower you with attention and my awareness. I'm going to give you a lot of my time. I'm going to be in physical proximity to you. I'm going to touch you, hold you, cuddle you. I'm going to try to connect with you physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. I'm going to take good care of you. I'm going to care about your needs. I'm going to help you to meet your needs. I'm going to help you to survive. I'm going to shelter you from excessive suffering, fear and trauma. I'm going to have your back. I'm going to defend you and be loyal to you. I'm going to take on your agenda as my own. I'm going to make you an extension of me. I'm going to treat you as well as i would treat myself. I'm going to be happy for you when you succeed. I'm going to want for you what you most want for yourself. I'm going to sacrifice for you and work on your behalf. I'm going to support you nurture you and encourage you. I'm going to cheerlead you. I'm going to encourage your self-exploration, self-expression and self-actualization. I'm going to respect your sovereignty as a consciousness. I'm not going to try to manipulate you, control you, dominate you or exploit you. I'm going to totally accept you and never judge you. I'm going to value you for your sake and appreciate you and see your intrinsic beauty. I'm not going to need anything from you and I'm not going to make you a tool to satisfy my own needs. I'm going to respect your point of view, wanting to understand your point of view, wanting to understand you, your uniqueness, taking the time to deeply get to know you. I'm not going to force my agenda or point of view on you. I'm going to listen to you and care about your interests and share similar interests with you. I'm going to develop togetherness with you and collaborate with you. I'm going to be there for you when you're down and hopeless. I'm going to be there for you when you're lonely. I'm going to validate your feelings, sharing your emotions with you, empathizing with you. Your pain is going to be my pain. I'm going to meet you where you're at, at your developmental level. I'm going to forgive you for your mistakes.
I'm going to be patient with you. I'm going to see the good in you even when you don't see the good in yourself. I'm going to be generous and kind. I'm going to give you verbal approval and praise. I'm going to compliment you on your uniqueness. I'm going to keep my promises to you. I'm going to keep my peace with you, avoid conflict with you. I'm going to tell the truth to you. You're going to be able to fully trust me and I'm never going to cash in on that trust. I'm going to see your realness, warts and shadow and all as you truly are. I'm going to deeply appreciate the finite portion of consciousness that you are and I'm going to accept your selfishness whenever you have the urge to be selfish. Now ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how loved do you feel? Open Your Eyes. 😂🦘🦘🧨
Love the anime references~! Its so beautiful~! Shout out to Aayachhi~! Great artwork as always~! Thanks to this video, its confirmed that I was never crazy nor wrong about a certain people, thank you so much for making this, its good to learn something new that's rarely talked about on media.