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For sober couples! My aunt and uncle both stopped drinking before they got married, so instead of a champagne toast all the guests were given a little bubble wand to make "bubblies" instead. It was super cute and made for some adorable photos
Cute idea, i was 6 months pregnant during my wedding and my husband had gone sober for my pregnancy aswell so our sweetheart table was sober while guest could drink if they wanted. We had non alcoholic champagne (children's champagne; like a bubbly lemonade type drink, we used raspberry flavour so in my wedding pictures you can see a champagne bottle with a cartoon character on the sweetheart table as we toasted)
We are hoping to have a good mocktail available for our non-drinking guests - everything where we live is so expensive, and its one of the reasons we havent gotten married yet
That’s cute
Sparkling cider and sparkling grape juice exist, too! We toasted with sparkling cider at my cousin's wedding because her best man was Mormon (not sure if he still is) and drinking alcohol is against his faith.
I took my bouquet and dried the petals, and saved the ribbon. When my daughter gets married next year, her flower girl is dropping those petals, and she will have a piece of the ribbon in her bouquet 😊
That’s adorable ❤❤❤
That’s so cute
I caught the bouquet at one of my best friend’s weddings. I dried the flowers and arranged them in a shadow box. It makes such a lovely piece of decor.
I aspire to this level of both organization and sentimentality when I grow up. 🥰
Sweet idea in general, but...
... _if_ your daughter ever gets married.
... _if_ she wants to do like you want her to.
Messing up your personal algorithm instead of just making a burner account is so funny to me
Why did 44 people like this comment? I don't even know what it means.
@@blossombolton9829 what they mean is, if you're looking up videos for a project you're doing (like a research paper, or a video essay like this ect) you're probably gonna be watching videos you're not normally interested in and won't be interested in when you're done with your project. But if you do this on your normal account tik toks algorithm can't tell why you're watching it so they'll assume you like the videos. Therefore the algorithm of your regular account will be "messed up" for a while while you retrain your algorithm to your tastes.
To avoid this happening you can make a burner account for your research. Just a separate account that you can discard once you've done all your research and keep your main account algorithm accurate as possible to your preference.
@blossombolton9829 "I didn't get this comment and I'm to lazy to try, so no one should have given it a like!" 😡
That's what you sound like sis.
@@blossombolton9829 I tired to explain what it ment and my comment got deleted... sorry I'll try again. Maybe shorter but ask for clarification if you like. Certain platforms use algorithms to show you new content. If you go looking for content for research that you wouldn't normal watch then the algorithm won't be as suited to your tastes anymore. So people use alt accounts to prevent this called "burners".
To be honest I don't know what I said originally that got filtered... I was not being rude and didn't say anything inflammatory. Maybe UA-cam doesn't like some social media exploits?
I think that in general, it is hugely overestimated how much of the emotions walking down the aisle come from seeing the dress the first time. It's the moment, not the dress - my husband and I got ready together and drove to church together (45 minutes). Then we waited outside the church and greeted the guests, then walked down the aisle together. He still cried (and he _never_ cries).
I giggled when Jamie said “if your budget is 50k or lower you aren’t doing that” I’m like mine is 10k😂😂
Fr, I wouldn't even want a wedding that expensive😅
Kinda wish Pinterest had little price tags on the amazing installation flowers. I fall in love with them every time and my florist is like "Ok but that's £10k worth of flowers"
Mine was 1k and it was perfectly lovely
@@Sky-Childspent 700 on fake flowers and made all kinds of decorations with them, some I gave away after for others to use the rest I sold and made the money back with profit, real flowers die and wilt so quickly 🥲
@@DaviniaBruggeman Omg, could you give some details please?
I remember when the venue asked me about the "grand entrance" for the reception..... I was like "I'm the centre of attention the whole day - can't I just sneak in?!". It didn't even occur to me that this was supposed to like "set the tone" or whatever for the reception lol. Anyway, my wedding was phenomenal - sneaking in meant that i had more time to talk to all my guests instead of waiting to make a grand entrance - don't regret a thing
I spent between $3000-5000 on my entire wedding about 10 years ago. Her idea of affordable and mine are soooo different. Also I had 0 wedding regrets.
As for the cake… make a smaller beautiful wedding cake and then yummy sheet cakes for serving. Looks great, tastes better, and serving is easier. We did cupcakes because we had a lot of families with children and cupcakes were easier to serve and eat.
Weddings are WAY more expensive now. My best friend is a wedding florist and can tell you that prices have skyrocketed in the past few years. Good luck finding a decent DJ, photographer, florist, or coordinator for less than $3000 each. 😅 of course you can diy lots of it and save money, but anything under $10k is going to call for LOTS of diy and money saving decisions unless it's a microwedding/elopement.
@ were I live weddings tend to be more affordable. For example just in my country there are so many places to get married that the venues are all in competition and rarely cost over $1000 (this includes tables, chairs, linens, stereo equipment, and set up and clean up). I have a family member who is a photographer who doubles her prices when she leaves our State. Basically, it’s way less expensive to get married here.
Venue owner here. I can not count the amount of times we looked around and said “who is cutting the cake?” The first few years. Now it’s a point on the final meeting convo because your girl is not cutting it. 😂
I'm not going to lie, I think the cake cutting fees are so stupid, where I live anyway, it can be over a hundred dollars. It's good you have thar conversation, because it's something a lot of people wouldnt know about
@@jocelynsmyth6604 I'd bet that part of the reason the fees run so high is because weddings often have SO many guests, and that means a really big cake, or multiple cakes. It's a skilled task, since no one wants their fancy expensive wedding cake falling apart and looking messy like that one girl complained about, and whoever does it will need a food handling license and stuff like that.
@jasminecollins897 I can understand what you're saying, and in general, I 100% believe in paying people for their time and skill... but let's just pretend cutting a cake for 100 people took an hour - to me, that isn't worth over $100-$200. Would I pay it if I have to? Sure. But part of the reason my partner and I haven't gotten married is everything is so expensive where we live. When everything is in the hundreds, you sort of get to the point where you don't want to participate - I'd rather put that money somewhere else
They might charge that much because they didn't actually want to do it 😅 get an aunt to do it or something. But either way planning ahead of time is the key
We accidentally did a receiving line after our ceremony and I actually really liked it - it made sure we said hi to and got quick candid pictures with everyone.
I like them if the wedding is small. But we had about 200 guests so a line would have taken up all of our time.
My husband & I were married almost 11 years ago now. We spent the week before making apple cider for the drink table & caramel apples that people could eat while there or take home as the "thank you gift". It worked out so well. There were none left & his best man mentioned loving them a week later. My mom & his grandmother made cookies that we placed in those giant glass jars from Walmart. My parents found salted caramel mini-cupcakes at Sams about a month before & found out from the bakery that you can freeze them for quite some time in advance. We also had cakepops made from a local bakery & they set aside some of the batter for 2 small cupcakes just for us for our "cutting of the cake" moment. My dad & brother made the arch & my sister made all the jewelry & my veil piece. It was all really sweet & we have such good memories of the day mostly because of the hands on support we had with family during that time.
This is so beautiful!!
That's so special, so many people dont have that ❤
Yes to the DIY bouquet preservation video!! ✨
second this!!!!
Third!
I kinda think skip the drinks for the ceremony. It makes cocktail hour that much more fun and honestly I think there is enough drinking at weddings that you don’t need to over think it, especially if you have a shorter ceremony. And as far as the personalized map, I like that idea a lot, but if you use a wedding website, there is a place you can add all that and make it really personal, and this way it’s easier for guests to pull up on their phone, so I kinda think you could skip that as well.
100% on planning on what you’re doing ahead of time with the bouquet, even if it’s one of those preserving frames. I wanted to do that but didn’t realize until it was too late.
If you are looking to save money here are some of my tips: candles are cheaper than flowers when it comes to decor, so candles and table numbers are what was on our tables (with a little of fake pampas). I didn’t do a videographer but we did have a friend tape our ceremony. This is because videographers are not the cheapest (even though I like what they do) but also wanted to have raw footage of the event. We did a playlist instead of a dj and that worked great. Check with your vendor, sometimes they have items you can use, like for cards or decor that saves you money. Note our wedding was about 50 people.
I think that version of a first look with the brother and the father is an adorable idea. My family had already seen me in the dress, but my dad and brother also got a first look when my hair was done.
However, I also agree with Jamie: in Polish tradition, the dress is not a secret and the couple walks down the aisle together. Brides and grooms still have emotional reactions. My husband didn't want to see me, so I think both are fine ways to do it 😊
I always love hearing about other's traditions - something I'm struggling with is not wanting a lot of photography - I just want to hug my dad before I go down the aisle, and I dont want to do the first look thing. My beau and I met when we were older (30) and we've lived together for years - things are so expensive here, and I cant really plan a simple wedding due to a million restrictions, so we've put a pin in anything serious for now
The cake cutting advice is great. My parents had their whole wedding cake cut so it was something we were very specific about with our venue and our caterers. We brought 10 flat packed cake boxes on amazon and included it with our cake knife so we could take the spare cake home. We asked for half the cake to be sliced as we had different flavours for each tier (his choice, her choice, our joint favourite). This worked well as our cake was massive (mum requested one that was way more than we needed) and we still took loads home.
Side note:
Your outfit and makeup SLAPS today. ❤️❤️❤️
My maid of honor did a beautiful art piece with pressed flowers from my bouquet and our invitation. It has had a place of honor in every place we've lived. I'd never have gotten it done on my own, so i am so grateful she took the initiative!
My aunt made my parents an ornament for the Christmas tree out of thier invitation so cool and personal.
When I got married, my husband and I took photos with all of my guests throughout the night, every single one. But I had one favourite great aunt who I just have a special relationship with and asked for a solo picture with just her, no uncle. She died suddenly last year after a fall down the stairs and I now cherish that photo of us with her.
We had our photographers set up a photo area during our reception. Was the perfect place for everyone to head over to after finishing dinner. We met guest over there and ended up getting quick photos with every party but also everyone also got to get photos of themselves and their family/friends. These then were perfect photos to included in everyone's thankyou cards! They only had it set up for maybe an hour between dinner and true reception time. So love so many of these ideas!
@@TheVideoSpaz love the idea of personal photos in the thank yous!
Hi Jamie, I’ve been watching your videos for years. I’m not getting married, but I just love your speaking style. Keep it up!
It’s not as fun as the champagne welcome cocktails at the ceremony, but we did bottled water and soft pretzels when guest arrived. It gave people something to snack on and we went with bottled water (so people could reseal it, and nobody got a spill on themselves before photos, since you were not at a table) however, I could also see doing a fun punch or Mocktail here and most venues would let you get away with that. Also, I don’t know your crowd, but I know that my friends would be hard to get quiet after drinking so maybe stick with nonalcoholic welcome drinks and then pour the drinks at the cocktail hour when everybody’s good to let loose.
As someone who’s already married, this video was randomly recommended to me and I still watched the whole thing 😂 I’m super close to Waco and my sister in law does wedding hair and makeup so if you’re ever looking for more artists let me know! Her team does beautiful work!
DYINGGGGG! I’m a wedding planner too and the amount of time I reacted and said, “well that’s a timeline issue” 🤣🤪💀
Just want to say that we have a 100k budget for 100-125 people in a major city and none of this first tiktoker’s advice fit into that budget. LOL
Did you have family help with the buget or just you and your partner?
@@ruthosornio7779 We are paying on our own BUT we are late thirties and early fourties at this point, and have been dating for five years. We are also huge savers: haven’t done trips, live in a modest apartment, don’t go out to dinner very often, no pets. Just wanted to provide that context, because I would never want to suggest that this is normal, achievable, or even something that would be desirable for most couples.
My biggest disappointment was that I let down my husbands sisters and mom because they really wanted a picture with me all done up in my wedding dress and we may have gotten like 1 cellphone pic at the end of the night. So I second asking the photographer to come to the table meet and greets
Yes to the solo shots!! I did this in my wedding. Also we did group shots with each table to make sure we got a picture with everyone there.
My biggest regret is that neither my grandparents or my husbands grandparents were able to attend. It wasn’t avoidable cause we got married May 2020 and then pushed the reception to October 2020. So with COVID our wedding was smaller than anticipated and some family didn’t feel comfortable attending even though we had it outside. C’est la vie.
Throw a grandparents and parents only dinner party. Put dress up on the invites. Bust out your dress, rent a tux, and have a photo do over night. Simple and sweet. But grands are only around for so long. You had a covid wedding, so a picture retake is not a super crazy bridezilla thing. Everyone can know it is a redo, but at least you will have pictures years later. Special date could be on a wedding anniversary, or even a half anniversary. Or just a Tuesday that works with everyone's schedule.
I love the idea of having the city map on your wedding website :)
My "wedding" cost ~$300, the cost of dinner for both families at the nice buffet we went to. A few weeks later we had a "reception"/"congrats on your PhD"/moving away party. The room was free from my in laws' community center, we did a pot luck kind of thing with us providing most of the food. We had games and activities and chatting. Second cheapest wedding I've seen lol My partner's cousin had a reception at a park pavilion. Partner and I were too low maintenance for a whole to-do . Our besties did a Halloween interfaith costume wedding catered by a taco truck.
Recently had the "were going to start our future planning now" conversation with my bf of 5 years ! Just been watching all these videos so i can feel somehwat prepared when he pops the question 😂 i loved the picture with the tables idea. Going around saying hello to everyone seems VERY overwhelming to me on a already crazy day
As a wedding photographer I always have a timeline to send to the bride few weeks before the wedding day. Also I love taking individual shots of the bridesmaids and groomsmen.
For ceremony drinks - at Catholic weddings, that's impossible because you're not supposed to eat or drink anything except water and medication (dextrose and glucagon are of course acceptable too for people with low blood sugar and young children are exempt) one hour before communion/eucharist.
Lol, I was thinking this. I'm getting married in a Catholic church in a few weeks and just the thought had me cringing.
Well, whoever gets communion can't drink.
Doesn't mean no one can.
@NiveaCow it's not just alcohol: it includes juices, coffees and teas. It's also inappropriate to bring drinks (asides from waterbottles and baby bottles) into the Catholic church during service. It would have to be served and consumed outside or in the parish hall if the church has one. Moreover, people's reasons for not taking Communion are often very personal (ranging from being in a state of mortal sin to disbelieving in it to being tired/inattentive to having already taken Communion that day to being non-Catholic or not having recieved First Communion) it would be wrong for the bride and groom to force their guests to out themselves and spark gossip about them.
@@aleksandragieralt7370 Yes, I was brought up catholic, I know the rules.
If you don't plan on taking communion, you can drink whatever you want. And from my personal experience with catholic weddings in a 99% catholic country - only 10% of attendees take communion. So it doesn't really matter that much.
EDIT. If it's inside the church - yeah, I get it.
EDIT 2. Everybidy sees who takes communion, the Catholic Church made it in that way specifically so you are publicly shamed whenever you don't go to the front to recieve it. ;)
@NiveaCow the second bit isn't true. In the past, hardly anyone went, not because they were in a state of mortal sin, but because they didn't get it, didn't feel like it and the spiritually inclined felt unworthy despite being in a state of grace or didn't feel the need to do it because they could do spiritual Communion without the physical component. The church has been trying to encourage frequent Communion and "active participation" for years, Vatican 2 may even have overcorrected. It's true a lot of priest and catechists used and continue to use shame to manipulate people, but that was morally wrong and against the faith and Jesus.
In any case, I think we agree that it shouldn't be inside but can be done outside. Actually, on that note, in some venues, even courthouses, it may not be a good idea to have sticky drinks near historical parts of the building or furniture that is difficult to clean. The bride and groom may have to hire cleaners or have guests and family clean, neither of which is ideal. I think this sort of thing is better done outside or in a lobby pre-ceremony as opposed to during the ceremony in an indoor venue, but might work outdoors
More of this!! There is some truly WILD and tone deaf wedding advice out there.
So true. Maybe the friends were "boujee," maybe they're now in massive debt. For gift bags 😬
We wrapped up kettle corn in cello bags and put chalk board style stickers on that said, "Your presence made our day POP ❤J+J" Our good friend, a volunteer firefighter in fact, made it himself and EVERYONE LOVED IT
Not getting married, but your energy is just so damn infectious I'm hooked.
Confession. I really only did the wedding reception for the presents. 😂
WITH THAT SAID.... I didn't want to spend a lot of money so my husband and I DIY most of our decorations and it was SO FUN, it was a great way to bond and our guests told us we did an amazing job.
I was a florist so I made my own bouquet (and one to throw) both I used silk flowers for so I let the gal who caught the one I threw keep or do whatever she wanted with it. As for mine its a decoration in my home ❤
Another way to preserve your wedding flowers is by having an artist create a painting of them! That’s what I did with mine it’s about the same price as preservation and it’s so stunning and will definitely become an heirloom is my family. (My avatar is the painting) check out Art by Emma Lian she specializes in it!! 😊
You can have a beautiful wedding on a small budget. My most expensive things were: the venue (they also help decorate and break things down and coordinate the day of), the catering (including a bar tender), the photographer, and my dress/vail.
A lot of it was DIY decor done by me. The cake was made by my husbands aunt who does professional cakes (free), the DJ was a family friend (free), the pastor was a family friend (we gave them a small fee to do it)
I have been with my husband for 16 years. We have 4 kids and we aren’t married. Just wasn’t my thing
But listening to you makes me excited for other brides! What a fun party!
My wedding is this Saturday and I'm ao blessed to have had you and all of your videos! 😂❤ You are Amazing!
Congratulations on your wedding and marriage!
@kim-7457 awww thank you 😊
I hope your wedding was awesome ❤❤❤
12:34 I have never seen a grand entrance at any wedding and I have been to many. Bride and grooms just sort of slide into reception when they are done with whatever
I was already planning on having all my bridesmaids get their own portraits. I love that idea!
A “regret” I had was not making sure everyone was on time 😂joking!
But in all seriousness, I feel bad for my husband as all his side of friends and family were late to the reception so the photographer was able to get table photos of my friends and family but we have few/close to no photos of his friends or family as they arrived right before we made our entrance 🤦🏼♀️
I watched your videos a lot when planning my wedding and only regret I have about the day is forgetting to do a newly wed game during the break between music (we had 2 musical sets, a more 'traditional' (at least in my country) wedding pianist that played wedding related songs that my husband's side of the family enjoyed; during that performance my side kept bugging me 'i thought you said you were doing a rock band, when is the band you promised performing'; and a rock band of highschoolers which my side enjoyed more but everyone was so hyped up for them and thanked us for basically organising concert for them to enjoy.
We had a themed wedding, which is unusual for my country, the theme was timetravel so we encouraged our guests to come dressed throughout the decades and if they couldn't it was acceptable to dress in modern fashion (since present is also a time period) one guest even dressed as the doctor who which i and my husband approved.
We had fortune cookies as wedding favoirs thanking our guests for coming.
My husband and I had a room set aside for us at the venue instead of going straight home so all the stuff we could move tomorrow morning (all in agreement with the venue) and my family could stay at our home, while the money and gifts stayed with us
The only thing I nor my husband planned for was cake cutting song, so we had to think of a song on the spot, we were satisfied with our pick of bella ciao
Only regrets (that were in my control) is I completely forgot to play newly wed game during the change of the bands, but tbh we were ambushed by cake cutting song at the time
14:10 idk if it’s just a Miami wedding thing but there’s this part of the wedding called las hora loca which translates to the crazy hour and usually they bring out baskets with glow sticks and bubbles and rave stuff and some people go all out and hire Brazilian carnival dancers
It's a Hispanic thing - standard practice in weddings of Latin Americans :) not surprised to see it happening in Miami then! It's a wonderful tradition, hope it expands worldwide 😂
@@Gpchv25 ooh that makes sense then! I was born and raised in Miami and am Hispanic so all the weddings I’ve been to have been Hispanic ones. Makes sense to bring traditions from the home countries’
If you can afford it, ask the baker for an extra layer. And have them box it up for you our Baker did this automatically we got an extra little box of mini cake that was made from our wedding cake that went straight into our freezer no problem and then we did still take our top layer home just because we happen to have a cake, but it was nice having that back up and had the cake gotten eaten we would’ve had some of our wedding cake for our anniversary. It also held up surprisingly well, just make sure it’s airtight in the freezer. That’s a Ziploc bag or a lot of.
Our baker had option to put a plate under the top teir for preservation of the cake.
Also one thing we did that I would do again is have the first song for everyone to dance to is the hokey pokey. We did that so no one would have an excuse of "I can't dance."
your note about the bouquet reminds me of my sister's bouquet. her wedding was in bali (we're indonesians and she worked there, i promise i'm not flaunting the wealth i do not have) and she had bouquet made from spices. there were garlic bulbs, cloves, cardamoms, star anise, etc etc. most of it was already dried, so it would be really easy if she wants to preserve it, but knowing her it's more likely she'll end up using it for cooking and it was honestly really unique.
it's also customary in weddings here to send guests home with gifts like mugs, fans, etc. one person did a small jar of honey, once. my sister didn't really do that, but the tables are decorated with various local produce. literal raw veggies all over the tables. she had paper bags ready and the guests can take whatever produce they want as their souvenirs. it was brilliant, especially since produce is dirt cheap in bali. lots of aunties went home with green beans trailing behind them that night.
Another option too for couples that want a first look type moment without actually seeing their partner is a “first touch”, my husband and I reached around the corner and it was a sweet and intimate moment right before the ceremony; we also had everyone walk out for the ceremony ahead of me and when it was my and my dad waking down, our officiant had my husband turn around right before I started to get there to start my walk down the aisle and then turn around so it was almost like a first look moment but also an aisle moment
GIRL you are HILARIOUS and i love your commentary style!! SO FUNNY!!
I had fake flowers for myself and my bridesmaids. My sister (my MOH) and I went to Joann’s and picked them all out, bridesmaids each had different red flowers. My crafty sister put all the bouquets together, mine with lace and beadwork also. They got to take their bouquets home and do whatever with them, mine is displayed on a shelf. My sister even made a special bouquet just for me to toss (and the girl who caught it is going to be my sister in law soon).
I do like the idea of just drying a bouquet though. I already have many dried bouquets from my husband, including the one he brought on our very first date.
I recently got married, and I used a lot of your videos to help me do it well! I really appreciate all the advice.
One thing I did with my wedding, is that I did the reception the night before, then I did the wedding the next day and we were done with everything around 2:00 p.m. I definitely did this in a different cultural environment (Utah), but that really helped us with getting everything done and letting just the wedding day be More stress-free
I’m getting married in 26 days and I definitely gonna ask my wedding planner about adding time to say hi to everybody but she’s doing the timeline right now
Perfect time to talk to her about it!
@@wiseforcommonsense i totally agree with you and im going see about the individual photos of bridal party since our party is very small
Good idea! It's easy to forget that just welcoming people takes time if there are a lot of people. If you have hundred guests and say hello to everyone for only 10 seconds per person, that adds up to more than 15 minutes. Longer if they want to say a lot or give you a gift in person.
Love what you said about your husband and your first look pictures. My husband and I did first look pictures. Then I had to calm him down when some of our wedding party was late-ish.
I walk down the aisle and he has the biggest grin I have ever seen on his face.
And I totally agree with you on Starbucks. My maid of honor and I went and got Starbucks while waiting for the other bridesmaids to come and get their hair and makeup done. We planned on them being late so we had time.
50k girl what ?! How expensive are weddings in the US ?
My biggest regret is not getting a wedding video. All the lists say "hire a videographer" and I was like "absolutely not, that is so expensive" but I didnt think to just have a friend take a video on their phone! That wasnt something that I saw anywhere and im bummed I didnt think about it. I would have loved to be able to listen to the ceremony and the bridal party speeches again
We got custom M&Ms with our faces on them in our wedding colors and put them in little jars. We had some left over and I put the rest in a bigger jar at home. But they were so cute and a lot of guests thought it was so funny.
I have to say the perfect wedding timeline SAVED me!!!!! I recommend it every chance I get! I had so many compliments on how well the timeline was ❤ Thank you Jamie you saved me through my entire wedding planning process!!
Love your channel. You have such a great personality especially how you offered your subscription to plan timeline but didn’t try to “sell it”!
My sister recently got married and did almost exactly the opposite of all your advice, but it worked out great for them because they were both really casual and relaxed about it. Despite it raining, and me having to walk across a field with the wedding cake, bridesmaids changing their dresses to something completely different from the theme, no flowers matching her color scheme being in season, and the celebrant being a touch late, it turned out perfect for them because in the end none of it really mattered compared to them celebrating their love for each other.
I think the biggest advice to anyone getting married is to not over complicate things. Keep it simple, roll with the punches, have fun.
(Seriously though half the things you mentioned in this video is stuff I have never heard of in my life. What the hell is a walk out?? Are you sure this is how weddings are???? This isn't a troll right? Or aliens?? hahaha)
My welcome bags for a 75 person wedding were about $150 total, no personalization just some water bottles advil, snacks, bandaids, and tums- bc I needed those things from a previous welcome bag I received!
As someone who doesn't come from a big wedding family (my parents just went to the registry office with direct family and lunch/dinner, then had a party at a rugby club the same night for extended friends/family) I find these videos fascinating. Even if my plan might be to one day elope with some friends on holiday (book a villa/one of those airbnb chateaus) and just do the legal paperwork after.
My wedding planner was so bad in the end, that I had to communicate with her through my husband. She made the whole thing even more stressful, than I wanted to. Jamie, watching you being so amazing I wish I lived in a different state so you were there to help me! Just want to give you a hug!
I hope you make more videos in this style (in addition to your usuals, of course).They're a little less dramatic than the AITA videos (which I also like), but they provide insight in the specific context of how real people have done unique things or ran into specific problems.
At one wedding I was a part of the staff massively complained about the cake cutting. Apparently it so so moist (in a good way) that each piece fell apart. They kept apologizing to the bride for the ugly cutting, to which she responded, "if I wanted pretty but stale cake I would've used your [venue's] recommendation. I want my guest to actually ENJOY the cake we spent money on."...The guests enjoyed it so much I had to run and scoop up some for the couple to take back home for their anniversary tradition, which was only 2 meager pieces. This was a large 4 tier cake, and their were about 150 guests. There should've been plenty left over, but the ugly cut cake was a hit! (The cake was gorgeous before cutting, FYI.)
If you can’t get through a wedding ceremony without an alcoholic drink.. you are an alcoholic.
Could do sparkling cider for the ceremony to give you that bubbly feeling
My best choice was definitly buying my dress together with my husband. It took sooo much stress of of me and I was sure, that he liked it too!
Also: We just skipped the whole cake thing and I guess nobody missed it.
Just found you but as a fellow wedding planner, I love all of your advice 😍
In my country it is not tradition for the wedding guests to get some of the wedding cake, that is reserved fro the bride and groom and whoever close family and friends they decide to give it to after the wedding (usually the week after). The guests usually just get a small bite size pice of black cake in a cute box to go home with and maybe something cute from the bride and groom, when my aunt got married last year, they gave the ladies some cute scarves and the men got towels embroidered with the wedding date
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married after I graduate University and seeing how much weddings have become is so overwhelming. 🤯
It's a choice how expensive you want your wedding reception and ceremony to be. It's so ridiculous.
We had no alcohol, no cake, no big party with a DJ and bar and it was wonderful! We prepared bubble tea & soft drinks for the waiting times, had catering with a nice hearty meal and played board games with family and our best friends in the evening. Don't feel pressured to do things just because others are doing it & make it yours ❤
My cousin had her whole wedding at her parents house it made everything significantly cheaper, they needed an officiant obviously but everything else was purchased directly so good was catered through a restaurant that sent large self serve trays, they got a small cake that they cut themselves alcohol and beverages and snacks where provided by them and attendees hair and makeup was done by one of her friends who was also a wedding guest photography was split between one of the uncles and one of her friends(uncle did family photography to send to family who couldn't make it friend did keepsake polaroids for people) decor was done again largely by attendees before the wedding started
dear friend from med school had her wedding at.a lovely venue that also had a bar open to the public. We were able to get drinks prior to the ceremony and were actually able to take a beer to where the ceremony would be! We had to pay ourselves, but it was a really nice thing to have for those of us who came early and wanted to catch up with friends from school!
Our favors were bags of coffee. We got whole beans from a roaster we like, then bagged it up in little ziplocs and then put them in cute bags that we stamped with a monogram our friend made for us. It was amazing, most of them were taken and we weren't sad at all to have leftovers 😁☕️
We are going to have a mostly fake cake only top is going to be edible gluten free vegan for me (bride). Our cake lady is going to make layer cakes already precut and packed in little cute boxes. No cutting cake no mess no waste.
That’s so smart!
Look into insurance so guests serve themselves. I got this for my venue online, and it took 10 minutes for 75 guests. The insurance was less than 100 dollars for the day. I'm not sure if the venue yall have works with that insurance. But good luck, happy planning
15:03 To add to the bubbles.
There are bubble solutions that leave really nasty stains on satin and other dress fabrics that are hard to get out. So please test the solution before the wedding.
Just found you and wow!!! Amazing info and am doing a deep dive now 😂🎉❤
I was the maid of honor at my best friend's small wedding. She tasked me with getting her bouquet so it could be a surprise for her the day of. I went to a florist and they had really beautiful and life-like fake flowers. I decided to get her those instead of real flowers. It was much easier to travel with (destination wedding) and it was super easy to preserve after the wedding. She still keeps them as the centerpiece on her dining room table. If you can find a florist who does them, fake flowers are WAY cheaper and you can keep them forever!
Frankly if your photographer isn't trying to get great individuals shots of the bridesmaids they're bad at their job (since that's how you lock in their weddings if they aren't married already).
What are your thoughts on candles as a wedding favor? My fiance and I have a candle shop near us with a scent we LOVE (smells like grandma's kitchen in the fall lol) and we were considering going that route. Do you think people would actually take them, or do you think we would be wasting our money on them? I'm torn.
I would use it
Oh I would totally appreciate one of those as a guest.
Synthetic fragrances like those used in candles trigger my MEGA migraines. They don't even need to be burning, just in the room. So... I'm a definite no for this one. 😂
Asked and answered (from the video). Personally, I wouldn't take it because scents are personal and I may not like it.
Love your videos, thank you for always sharing good wedding advice. ❤
I love this!! Getting so many ideas, thank you!!
We need moreee of these videos Jamie!💕💕
lol 15 yrs ago my husband and I married in the courthouse. Didn’t have money for a hairdresser, big ring, did my own make up, no wedding dress and we didn’t have money for a party. The little bit of money we had, had to go to my green card application. This was 15 yrs ago and we’re still going strong and even have 4 kids :) I don’t feel like I missed out as I’m not close to family and don’t have friends. I’m sure my cats wouldn’t have cared for a big party haha! 🤣
Legit my brother broke his hip most likely because of a bubble gun at a wedding he was a groomsmen in. He was out on the dance floor and slipped, slid,and collided with a standing speaker. He immediately knew something was wrong, but did not consider his hi was broken because he was only 25 and only had 2 beers in him. The wedding reception was at a historical landmark and did not have Elevators. The morning after he was in so much pain he had to slide himself down two flights of stairs and ask his friend to drop him off at the nearest hospital.
I'm gonna need ten thousand more of these, thank you very much! I'm getting married in a month, and this was definitely helpful! 😅
Have a great wedding and don’t forget people are there to see you get two married ❤️ don’t stress about the fluff!
Loved this! I'm not getting married lol but I love your thoughts and feedback!
I want a part 2 of these!
"That is like a friggin' horse fly"...🤣🤣🤣
My budget was $7000. It was gorgeous, we got married at a antebellum mansion, ceremony outside, reception inside. I bought my dress off the rack, and i paid for all my bridesmaids dresses. Biggest expense was my photographer, almost half my budget. I saved so much on the venue by getting married on a friday night. We had the ceremony, and fed our guests a full dinner that my mom and aunts worked so hard on.
im too young and single to ever think about marriage and not sure its really for me either, but i would totally watch a part two
I would LOVE to see DIY bouquet preservation videos!
So unbelievably hype for this!
I preserved my bouquet myself like almost a week after my wedding lol. I put my bouquet in flowers cause i hasn't thought of preserving them yet. When i did I went on Amazon and got silica gel crystals and just watched a UA-cam tutorial on how to use them to dry out my flowers. After 2 days they were all dry and i hot glued them in a shadow box with other things from my wedding (save the date, invitation, a piece of fabric from my dress).
Lol the apparently kid thing had me in hysterics
I would love some tips for destination weddings, around preserving things like cake and flowers, what to do with you wedding dress, etc! Getting married in Aruba next year and have zero logistics like that figured out😅
So you may have to declare your flowers in customs, which make sure you do so they don’t get seized. You can’t have them in a vase so have some type of damp paper towel. Check with the florist ahead of time too so that the flowers they are using is approved to bring through the border. Review the laws for entering US (assuming you from the US). Prepare yourself mentally however, because even if you think you followed the rules, they may still not let you take your flowers because of xyz. I just want to say that ahead of time so you aren’t totally blindsided in the airport. This happened to my sister. We didn’t look into other options of shipping them home or anything but that might be an option for you.
@@vanessahobbes3072 oh my goodness I didn’t even think of this!! Thank you so much for the insight!
For the ceremony drinks you could do sparkling drinks like white grape juice so there's no worry about liquor licenses and people being drunk. But like she said, money. Depending on number of guests the drinks and cups alone can run you hundreds to thousands of dollars.
Go get some water before the ceremony. You'll be fine lol.
Hubs and I did gift bags for our wedding party - only three bridesmaids and groomsmen - and we got little things from Amazon and around town for them, and my hubs got stuff from a groomsmen shop online. Was still kinda expensive at probably $500 for everything. The only personalized item was a note for each of my bridesmaids.
For the second girl it sounds like her photographer didn't even do a photography timeline. They should have.
Also had cookie favors. Can confirm everyone loved them.
My biggest regret is also not being able to visit to each table! Although we had planned to visit everyone during cocktail hour, there was a medical issue with my grandfather so we missed being able to mingle during that time. I wish I had told our coordinator in the moment that I wanted to do table visits since we missed cocktail hour. But it can be hard to think straight with so much going on the day of.
I just found your channel and am about dig through your videos, but in case you haven't done this (you've probably already done this)- tips for destination elopements would be AMAZING! My not-yet-fiancé (we have a ring being made and I like to be ahead of the game 😂) and I are planning on doing this and I am INTIMIDATED!
Idk what the budget was for my brother's wedding but it was fun and simple as hell. They didn't get married at a church, they got married outside where the venue was for the reception. There were simple decorations and a cute arch. I think someone in my sister in laws family was the officiant so I don't think that cost them anything. After the ceremony, people went inside or hung out on the outdoor patio for cocktail hour. It was a time for simple drinks that were being served, people were chatting and mingling then we heading into the dining area. There was a small dance floor with a bar in one corner and simple centerpieces on the tables I think provided by the venue. In the corner of the room was a backdrop and a table with a Polaroid camera for people to take pictures and put in their guest book and write sweet notes on it. I thought it was soo cute and a great idea for a guest book. For dinner, it was simple. I think the food was chicken with a pasta salad and some other small food. The dessert were these small cookies on a tiered tray in another corner of the room. The food was alright I'd say. Overall I thought it was an amazing wedding and I definitely would want to do the same thing they did where they had the ceremony and reception at the same place along with doing the Polaroid pictures for the guest book. It just feels like an inconvenience for the ceremony to be in one place and then everyone to pile up into their cars just to get to the reception. Overall it was an amazing time and it's nice it wasn't extravagant
In my culture, the bride and groom walk in together, which I find very sweet.
There is so much in this video I only seen in movies, or never even heard of before. 🤭
Also, of you have a church wedding, or other religious ceremony, serving drinks on joly ground seems very disrespectful. 😮
Random thought: LOVE your phone strap! Super hard to find, especially when you upgrade to a new phone.