I was wondering about this. My spouse and I got married in a planetarium in a the natural history museum of our State’s University in 2022 and was low-key panicking if this was true 😅
We love a kind redirect in the comments, I had no idea this was the case! Here’s to ditching what we knew for when we know more. Sorry about that, y’all! I could have sworn this was true.
If you are receiving a service and paying a reasonable rate for that service, it is not a tax deduction. However, if you wish to pay an additional sum to the non-profit, above the fee owed for service, you can always do that, and that portion will be a tax deduction. @@JamieWolfer
As a fellow event professional (10 years in Canada and the UK), I actually kinda disagree with contracting a higher guest count and expecting the venue to allow you to decrease. It really depends on the venue. In my experience, a lot of venues will hold the number you originally give them as the minimum and are happy to increase (up to a certain date) but they will not allow you to decrease. I would recommend that everyone just has this conversation with their venue before signing a contract and make sure what has been discussed is included in the contract so there are no surprises.
It helps if you have an idea of what you want your wedding to be, then, in planning, prioritise the intimacy of your big day. So essentially, ask yourself who you're making each decision for and what decision you would make if it was only for you. Also, Pinterest does less videos and more suggestions and blogs and has a lot of great budget ideas. You are doing enough and your wedding will be beautiful. May God bless your union!
Watch out for the airbnb idea. My friend tried, booked 2 lovely places, and had both cancel. And by then time was becoming an issue, so she went for a hotel with a great property because they wouldn't back out!
For the "wedding scent" - we did not do this on purpose but I think ours was honey because we got beeswax candles to avoid the chemicals in scented candles and typical tea lights because we knew some guests would be sensitive to that.
You can’t write it off because you are receiving something too. (Ex. If you donate at a banquet charity fundraiser you can’t deduct the amount that’s attributable to how much you ate… Ie it get’s taken away from your charitable contribution amount). Also, even if you could deduct it, charitable contributions are part of the itemized deduction. Itemized deductions only benefit you on a federal level if you can get above the standard deduction amount (Married filing jointly is like 27,700 off the top of my head). Also! Charitable contributions deductibility is subject to limitations (typically up to 60% of your adjusted gross income). It might benefit (again if you could deduct) depending on your individual state on your state return. In essence, it’s not as simple as “oh you can write it off”
Most Tik tok tax advice is bull. Or just not nearly nuanced enough. This coming from someone who spends way more time than the average person attempting to legally avoid paying taxes. You're right on the money with that advice being sort of correct but, technically wrong. You'd probably get away with it unless you got audited.
Omg I hate the candle idea… Jamie makes great points. I’ll add you never know who is asthmatic! Cute idea but seems very inconsiderate of others with allergies/ asthma you might not be aware of. Also… what if someone hates your smell? They’re going to remember your wedding smelling like 💩 LOL
Agreed: no scented candles or scented anythings! But bring on all the natural beeswax candles... they smell faintly of honey and won't bother anyone with allergies. YAY!
It’s still bad for guests who are sensitive to smells for reasons other than allergies. Like those who get headaches, overstimulated, or are autistic. Not saying this to say a wedding can never have scents, but that natural scents don’t solve all potential problems.
That's what we did because some of our guests were sensitive to parabens and because that soft yellow color is pretty. They were also one of our favors.
@thecolorjune it's hard to avoid with flowers and food and perfume/cologne everywhere. I think for candles electric tea lights and electric fairy lights are one scent-free solution.
At my brother's wedding, they had eucalyptus (which has quite a strong scent) in the bouquets and floral arrangements, so you could smell it faintly, which I loved!!☺️
Regarding the last point (the woman saying to lower your guest count when signing the contract and add to the final number later), this was my experience when talking to multiple caterers for my wedding in Peru. They locked you in for a number you felt confident about, and then you could always add on people until a week or two before the wedding.
THANK YOU for mentioning allergies! I am allergic to lavender and since mine is mild it takes a bit for the headache to set in, but (common for folks with floral allergies) it also just smells like dust. like grandma's attic dust. My mom loves lavender and I didn't know i was allergic as a kid, so I was just constantly weirded out that my mom wanted everyting to smell like no one has cleaned in 80 years
I saw someone suggest buying 2 huge diffusers to hide in corners/behind stuff. I hate that idea since we are doing inside ceremony and reception and my mom has asthma
So we are using an all inclusive venue, for us it was cheaper because it saved my sanity lol. Our venue asked how many we told them 120. They have a minimum of 110 and have to give final numbers 3 weeks prior. We were fine with 110 especially since our invite listed ended at 138 prior to RSVPs.
I had to write my wedding ceremony script the night before our wedding because our officiant didn’t do it so he had nothing ready for our rehearsal. Had a glass of wine and got to work
When we were looking at Venues for our wedding, there were some of them that wouldn't let you decrease the amount of guests you first said, but would let you up the numbers. You did need to give the final count about a month before though
a random recommendation I would give to people is to ask about lighting, especially if you are hiring a dj. I have chronic migraines and a lot of lowlighting used in restuarants/wedding venues can be very triggering. I was also at a wedding recently where the dj used strobe lights and my first thought was "wow if this was my wedding, [best friend who has epilepsy] could have a seizure!" Just something to keep in mind. Even thought it's "you're" day, there's a different between doing something that may not be to all the guests taste and something that can straight up ruin the night for them!
Loving these Jamie videos! I'm getting married in 5 months and it would be great if there was a fee-based service that ordered these chronologically by time. "Got engaged-now what?" might be followed by budget setting, ending on what to do after wedding. I would definitely pay a reasonable fee; I'm just jumping around now.
Michel Janse wedding cake didn’t not go as plan!!! They got her date wrong , didn’t deliver in time so her awesome mother in law made he a cake and it was gorgeous!
scented candles (or anything else with a strong scent) in an area where all the guest are going to be is a BIG no-no ! It could be a bad choice for so many reasons, guests could have allergies, asthma, sensory issues, big migraines, or even simply highly disliking the smell of theses candles
The scented candles seem like a great idea, but as a migraine sufferer, I literally could not sit through this :(. And that would make me incredibly sad if I had to leave the wedding of someone I love because I was becoming violently ill due to candles. Please, consider not doing this. Save it for your honeymoon to make it more special with your hubby 🥰🥰.
In Scotland we have a last dance song that everyone does which is Loch Lomond, highly recommend you look up a video of people doing Loch Lomond at the end of their wedding it’s so much fun. Not only do we go in a circle around the couple but we are linked arm in and and then rush them at certain parts of the song it’s so much fun probably my favourite Scottish tradition!
I was wondering if you had any suggestions for a self-officiated wedding? I live in a state where you can have a self-united marriage (aka no officiant) and i really like that idea but was wondering if you had any advice on making it run smoothly. Thanks!
DJs the DJ thing omg soooooo true we’re getting married in March and I just fully booked the DJ my sister had 5 years ago because even to this day they were 100% the BEST wedding DJs I’ve ever experienced! Didn’t even entertain other options because been to enough weddings with what feels like all the SAME DJ was enough for me to say we’re using the company my sister used! Before her been like 12 weddings after her wedding been to at least 15 and her DJs were still far and above THE BEST DJ ever and they KILLED IT!!! They cost $4,000+ but omg are they worth it!!!!
Uplight and pen spots are both things that work directly against that black light based gloomy dungeness flavor. All the one notes that you do need to be really emphatic about how thoroughly the no? White rule is if you want it to come across as gloomy. And not psychedelic. You can mix black light with the red safety lights also
If you want to write your own wedding ceremony then what's the point of an officiant? Have somebody just read the script because it won't matter who it is.
I made my own gluten-free wedding cake. Unfortunately, since I was still in school and working full-time, I made it the morning of the wedding. It was good, but I didn't need the stress.
My venue’s reception area has an odd wood smell to it that I’ve been trying to brainstorm ways of getting rid of and I think I might just have to go with scented tea light candles 😅
I disagree on the uplighting on brick. It makes a marvellous effect simply because it enhances the natural stonework as such. No other fancy stuff needed on these walls. The stone, the uplights, all set and ready.
Please let me know if you figure this out 😅 as of now we're not doing first dances, garter/bouquet toss or cake cutting. We're doing donuts so people can just pick what they want. Basically leaning towards a huge get together with fancy food and amazing music lol
@@tygs8518 honestly that sounds amazing. I kinda want to get married with the minimum legal witnesses (eloping isn’t really accepted here) and then throw a party for everyone else without me and the groom there. Though my mother would murder me if I didn’t let my father walk me down the aisle.
@@ezzie_is I say bite the bullet and figure out a party and a reason that won't make you the main focus for the whole night. Because whatever party/gathering you have after your wedding that's your first is going to be the wedding party. Maybe get married at a holiday and then have the party be wedding/holiday party. If it's Halloween time you could encourage costumes and do a costume contest. For xmas, maybe do a Secret Santa gift exchange after the minimum wedding stuff.
OH MY... I know I am getting old because I'm almost annoyed by the "advice" ... have they done any wedding research or been to any Weddings before lol 🤦🏾♀️ ... I might have to stick to AITA 😂😂 I can't handle TikToks lolol
I really don’t care for “the signs” It’s just the bridal version of word art. Most of the info isn’t necessary for guests - we know how weddings work and could care less about who is reading Corinthians. Let me know where I sit and that’s it.
I'm severely asthmatic, the fragranced candles would mean I would have to leave that room the second I walked in. My sister's wedding cost less than £2,500. They got married at the town hall, we had the reception in my mum's best friend's garden, they have fields so plenty of space, borrowed a marquee from a friend (who was a guest) and was the head of a local scout group so also borrow tables a bench, less than 30 guests (including the couple) another friend made the cake, we bought supermarket flowers day-off and made small bouquets. It was an afternoon tea theme so my mum and two of her friends spend about three hours that morning making sandwiches, scones, mini quiches, it was great. It was chaos, but chaos you can only have with really good friends. But also when they got married, outside the town hall their was a pride event we had no idea about, so my sister and her new wife walked out in their wedding dresses into the middle of this event. It was so fun and couldn't have been planned better.
You can't write off the wedding venue even if the venue itself is a non-profit because you are exchanging money for a service. It's not a donation.
Lawyer here-came here for this
I was wondering about this. My spouse and I got married in a planetarium in a the natural history museum of our State’s University in 2022 and was low-key panicking if this was true 😅
@@rachel_sjI came to say something similar- after a frantic google search lol
We love a kind redirect in the comments, I had no idea this was the case! Here’s to ditching what we knew for when we know more. Sorry about that, y’all! I could have sworn this was true.
If you are receiving a service and paying a reasonable rate for that service, it is not a tax deduction. However, if you wish to pay an additional sum to the non-profit, above the fee owed for service, you can always do that, and that portion will be a tax deduction. @@JamieWolfer
As a fellow event professional (10 years in Canada and the UK), I actually kinda disagree with contracting a higher guest count and expecting the venue to allow you to decrease. It really depends on the venue. In my experience, a lot of venues will hold the number you originally give them as the minimum and are happy to increase (up to a certain date) but they will not allow you to decrease. I would recommend that everyone just has this conversation with their venue before signing a contract and make sure what has been discussed is included in the contract so there are no surprises.
Watching influencers talk about their weddings haven’t been helpful to me, it just makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.
You’re doing more than enough and your wedding is gonna be the Best Wedding Ever (tm)!!
It helps if you have an idea of what you want your wedding to be, then, in planning, prioritise the intimacy of your big day. So essentially, ask yourself who you're making each decision for and what decision you would make if it was only for you. Also, Pinterest does less videos and more suggestions and blogs and has a lot of great budget ideas. You are doing enough and your wedding will be beautiful. May God bless your union!
do what you want and will enjoy and dont worry about not doing enough. your wedding is about you and your partner and it should be how yall want!
Remeber that their wedding is also their job
@@rachel_sj
Watch out for the airbnb idea. My friend tried, booked 2 lovely places, and had both cancel. And by then time was becoming an issue, so she went for a hotel with a great property because they wouldn't back out!
For the "wedding scent" - we did not do this on purpose but I think ours was honey because we got beeswax candles to avoid the chemicals in scented candles and typical tea lights because we knew some guests would be sensitive to that.
You can’t write it off because you are receiving something too. (Ex. If you donate at a banquet charity fundraiser you can’t deduct the amount that’s attributable to how much you ate… Ie it get’s taken away from your charitable contribution amount).
Also, even if you could deduct it, charitable contributions are part of the itemized deduction. Itemized deductions only benefit you on a federal level if you can get above the standard deduction amount (Married filing jointly is like 27,700 off the top of my head). Also! Charitable contributions deductibility is subject to limitations (typically up to 60% of your adjusted gross income).
It might benefit (again if you could deduct) depending on your individual state on your state return.
In essence, it’s not as simple as “oh you can write it off”
it’s good to support non-profits 😊
Most Tik tok tax advice is bull. Or just not nearly nuanced enough. This coming from someone who spends way more time than the average person attempting to legally avoid paying taxes. You're right on the money with that advice being sort of correct but, technically wrong. You'd probably get away with it unless you got audited.
Omg I hate the candle idea… Jamie makes great points. I’ll add you never know who is asthmatic! Cute idea but seems very inconsiderate of others with allergies/ asthma you might not be aware of.
Also… what if someone hates your smell? They’re going to remember your wedding smelling like 💩 LOL
Yeah I’m not allergic, but scented candles do trigger migraines for me, so when she said that I just thought nooooo
On the candle thing: many venues don't allow open flames, so battery operated candles would be better
Better for allergies and asthma, too! ♥
Agreed: no scented candles or scented anythings! But bring on all the natural beeswax candles... they smell faintly of honey and won't bother anyone with allergies. YAY!
Scents are the worst😅
People can have allergies to beeswax 🤷♀️
It’s still bad for guests who are sensitive to smells for reasons other than allergies. Like those who get headaches, overstimulated, or are autistic. Not saying this to say a wedding can never have scents, but that natural scents don’t solve all potential problems.
That's what we did because some of our guests were sensitive to parabens and because that soft yellow color is pretty. They were also one of our favors.
@thecolorjune it's hard to avoid with flowers and food and perfume/cologne everywhere. I think for candles electric tea lights and electric fairy lights are one scent-free solution.
At my brother's wedding, they had eucalyptus (which has quite a strong scent) in the bouquets and floral arrangements, so you could smell it faintly, which I loved!!☺️
Regarding the last point (the woman saying to lower your guest count when signing the contract and add to the final number later), this was my experience when talking to multiple caterers for my wedding in Peru. They locked you in for a number you felt confident about, and then you could always add on people until a week or two before the wedding.
Omg girl i had my playback speed at .5. I thought you were drunk as hell for a second. Glad you’re ok, sis.
Nah fam, I just talk a mile a minute.
@@JamieWolfer😮
This cured my Sunday scaries 😂
If you want to burn scented candles maybe do that in the getting ready space, provided it works for everyone getting ready
Great compromise
Are you the Brad Mondo of weddings now ??? I’m here for it!!!! Lolol
My poor tired braid read that as Marlin Brando and was so confused for a second. 🤣
THANK YOU for mentioning allergies! I am allergic to lavender and since mine is mild it takes a bit for the headache to set in, but (common for folks with floral allergies) it also just smells like dust. like grandma's attic dust. My mom loves lavender and I didn't know i was allergic as a kid, so I was just constantly weirded out that my mom wanted everyting to smell like no one has cleaned in 80 years
I saw someone suggest buying 2 huge diffusers to hide in corners/behind stuff. I hate that idea since we are doing inside ceremony and reception and my mom has asthma
Ugh yes! My church has scent diffusers going by the kids to "stop sickness." I cannot go around that area, I sneeze my head off. 😷
So we are using an all inclusive venue, for us it was cheaper because it saved my sanity lol. Our venue asked how many we told them 120. They have a minimum of 110 and have to give final numbers 3 weeks prior. We were fine with 110 especially since our invite listed ended at 138 prior to RSVPs.
I went to a wedding 13 yrs ago and the had scented candles on every table. I had such a headache all night
“Not so fast George Banks!” Is making me cackle I love that reference lol
I love that you made a Father of the Bride reference as a wedding planner. 💯
Annie’s wedding was a formative part of my youth and I’ve come full circle.
Wow. I dream of owning a wedding venue, I am now connecting the dots to this film. 🥰
I had to write my wedding ceremony script the night before our wedding because our officiant didn’t do it so he had nothing ready for our rehearsal. Had a glass of wine and got to work
Jamie! I need a video on ideas for decorations at the end of the aisle! Arches, flower bundles, dangly things! This bride needs help!
If you've never heard of panic eating, try serving wings. Also, I plan on doing the dried flower cake with a two or three tier cake from Walmart
My friend is very allergic to lavender, she would just have to immediately leave
When we were looking at Venues for our wedding, there were some of them that wouldn't let you decrease the amount of guests you first said, but would let you up the numbers. You did need to give the final count about a month before though
At my son and daughter’s wedding we had lots of DIY flowers so that was our scent (including roses). No need for expensive scented candles.
a random recommendation I would give to people is to ask about lighting, especially if you are hiring a dj. I have chronic migraines and a lot of lowlighting used in restuarants/wedding venues can be very triggering. I was also at a wedding recently where the dj used strobe lights and my first thought was "wow if this was my wedding, [best friend who has epilepsy] could have a seizure!" Just something to keep in mind. Even thought it's "you're" day, there's a different between doing something that may not be to all the guests taste and something that can straight up ruin the night for them!
I planned my own wedding, which went off decently, no such thing as a perfect day, and your videos were helpful.
I remember when you got the venue... I need a storytime
Loving these Jamie videos! I'm getting married in 5 months and it would be great if there was a fee-based service that ordered these chronologically by time. "Got engaged-now what?" might be followed by budget setting, ending on what to do after wedding. I would definitely pay a reasonable fee; I'm just jumping around now.
You should definitely check out themasterplanwed.com 🫡
Getting married next year and I wrote our whole ceremony script, but allowing our officiant and celebrant to add a paragraph or two
Michel Janse wedding cake didn’t not go as plan!!! They got her date wrong , didn’t deliver in time so her awesome mother in law made he a cake and it was gorgeous!
scented candles (or anything else with a strong scent) in an area where all the guest are going to be is a BIG no-no !
It could be a bad choice for so many reasons, guests could have allergies, asthma, sensory issues, big migraines, or even simply highly disliking the smell of theses candles
Aaaah I’m so happy that you and Michel know each other! I follow her too and love watching her videos! 💜
Jamie this look on you…So pretty!!!🥰🤍🤍🤍
Immediately clicked on this video just because it has Michel in it too! Love you both!! ❤
The scented candles seem like a great idea, but as a migraine sufferer, I literally could not sit through this :(. And that would make me incredibly sad if I had to leave the wedding of someone I love because I was becoming violently ill due to candles.
Please, consider not doing this. Save it for your honeymoon to make it more special with your hubby 🥰🥰.
In Scotland we have a last dance song that everyone does which is Loch Lomond, highly recommend you look up a video of people doing Loch Lomond at the end of their wedding it’s so much fun. Not only do we go in a circle around the couple but we are linked arm in and and then rush them at certain parts of the song it’s so much fun probably my favourite Scottish tradition!
I was wondering if you had any suggestions for a self-officiated wedding? I live in a state where you can have a self-united marriage (aka no officiant) and i really like that idea but was wondering if you had any advice on making it run smoothly. Thanks!
Do you have any tips on planning an elopement? We are leaning more towards that or a super micro wedding vs a traditional one.
I also wrote my own ceremony, it wasnt as hard as it seems aftr looking at samples.
DJs the DJ thing omg soooooo true we’re getting married in March and I just fully booked the DJ my sister had 5 years ago because even to this day they were 100% the BEST wedding DJs I’ve ever experienced! Didn’t even entertain other options because been to enough weddings with what feels like all the SAME DJ was enough for me to say we’re using the company my sister used! Before her been like 12 weddings after her wedding been to at least 15 and her DJs were still far and above THE BEST DJ ever and they KILLED IT!!! They cost $4,000+ but omg are they worth it!!!!
This is totally random, but your voice and cadence kind of sounds like Shego from Kim Possible
Uplight and pen spots are both things that work directly against that black light based gloomy dungeness flavor. All the one notes that you do need to be really emphatic about how thoroughly the no? White rule is if you want it to come across as gloomy. And not psychedelic. You can mix black light with the red safety lights also
If you want to write your own wedding ceremony then what's the point of an officiant? Have somebody just read the script because it won't matter who it is.
What happened to the venue Jamie owned?
I love this random trans-Atlantic accent and 40s look
I made my own gluten-free wedding cake. Unfortunately, since I was still in school and working full-time, I made it the morning of the wedding. It was good, but I didn't need the stress.
Wow, it looks like you love her as much as I love her… She’s my favorite influencer!! “ hi Angel baby nugget” 😂 love it!
Can you negotiate down a food and beverage minimum if you don’t want to add on more food and services?
Off topic.. is it possible to get more of the behind the scenes videos at actual weddings?! 😊
My venue’s reception area has an odd wood smell to it that I’ve been trying to brainstorm ways of getting rid of and I think I might just have to go with scented tea light candles 😅
Wait someone needs to explain how having my wedding at the local state park is tax deductible. Because I am - and I need to know how.
The pin spot and under lighting did not make sense to me
I disagree on the uplighting on brick. It makes a marvellous effect simply because it enhances the natural stonework as such. No other fancy stuff needed on these walls. The stone, the uplights, all set and ready.
"That song hits different in Michigan" 😭 I'm in Detroit right now. Not with her on everything, but I'm with her there. ☺
There are non-toxic scented candles ya know
The tax deduction be really careful because it needs to be with nothing in return, not venue hire especially in America
I’m still trying to find a way to get married with friends and family present, without being the centre of attention 😂
I had my ceremony at city hall, only 5 peeps there. Then had a backyard cookout at my best man's place. Then had an all night d&d session. It was fun.
Please let me know if you figure this out 😅 as of now we're not doing first dances, garter/bouquet toss or cake cutting. We're doing donuts so people can just pick what they want. Basically leaning towards a huge get together with fancy food and amazing music lol
@@tygs8518 honestly that sounds amazing. I kinda want to get married with the minimum legal witnesses (eloping isn’t really accepted here) and then throw a party for everyone else without me and the groom there. Though my mother would murder me if I didn’t let my father walk me down the aisle.
@@ezzie_is I say bite the bullet and figure out a party and a reason that won't make you the main focus for the whole night. Because whatever party/gathering you have after your wedding that's your first is going to be the wedding party. Maybe get married at a holiday and then have the party be wedding/holiday party. If it's Halloween time you could encourage costumes and do a costume contest. For xmas, maybe do a Secret Santa gift exchange after the minimum wedding stuff.
OH MY... I know I am getting old because I'm almost annoyed by the "advice" ... have they done any wedding research or been to any Weddings before lol 🤦🏾♀️ ... I might have to stick to AITA 😂😂 I can't handle TikToks lolol
The wedding day has got nothing to do with the groom. Let that sink in groom.
I really don’t care for “the signs” It’s just the bridal version of word art. Most of the info isn’t necessary for guests - we know how weddings work and could care less about who is reading Corinthians. Let me know where I sit and that’s it.
Maybe not signs but I love a pretty program with all the names.
Please don't do scented candles! Sincerely, highly sensitive person!
I'm severely asthmatic, the fragranced candles would mean I would have to leave that room the second I walked in.
My sister's wedding cost less than £2,500. They got married at the town hall, we had the reception in my mum's best friend's garden, they have fields so plenty of space, borrowed a marquee from a friend (who was a guest) and was the head of a local scout group so also borrow tables a bench, less than 30 guests (including the couple) another friend made the cake, we bought supermarket flowers day-off and made small bouquets. It was an afternoon tea theme so my mum and two of her friends spend about three hours that morning making sandwiches, scones, mini quiches, it was great. It was chaos, but chaos you can only have with really good friends. But also when they got married, outside the town hall their was a pride event we had no idea about, so my sister and her new wife walked out in their wedding dresses into the middle of this event. It was so fun and couldn't have been planned better.