I agree with you texturism is much worse. I’m monoracial light skin black fenty shade 370 with 3c 4a hair and girls gaslight me when I try and promote wearing natural hair, my cousins friend was like its easier for you to say cos you don’t have 4c hair. Weird.
I really really appreciate you including us girls with 4C hair in this community! 🩷 y’all can see my picture, I’m caramel colored with freckles and I have natural reddish brown highlights, but 4C hair. I always felt like my hair was too kinky to claim “lightskinned.” I am also one of the lightest ppl in my monoracial family, so I would align myself more with unambiguous women. But now I realize that I have way more in common aesthetically and experientially with exoticals.
It’s actually really crazy because as a monoracial woman with 3c hair people and fairer skin people will argue me down about my blackness but in the same breathe try to box in mixed women if they don’t look a certain way they love to police peoples identity
Im lightskin with 4b - 4c hair. Most people dont wear afros anymore. So, when i wear my hair out, it gets soo much attention that i become uncomfortable. Usually i get the most hate by bald white men or girls in wigs.
I am MLS woman with “European features “ but with 4c hair. I got made fun of so much by UBW growing up. They would say I like white but my hair is “nappy” so I’m for sure black. This is why I wear wigs all the time now but use that to my advantage. Now no one even knows what my race is.
Fenty 335 right here and my hair is fine and it's type 3c/4a here. I had no idea what my hair texture was b/c my mom wanted my aunt (who was full creole, only only half creole) a relaxer b/c she was a hairstylist. When I got older, my aunt said I didn't need a relaxer but my mom insisted. My mother got upset with me when I decided to grow out my relaxer after I graduated high school. When I moved out of the house, I was able to do what I wanted to do💯 After year of growing my hair out and I actually saw my REAL texture (I have alittle 3b going on too) I was upset and very concerned as to why I needed a relaxer at 4 yrs old. I see why my father would constantly get upset w/ my mother when she got out the Revlon jar and I understand why my aunt who originally gave me the relaxer, told me when I got older that I didn't need one but my mom (whose an UADW with 4c hair) insisted. Smh
I’m always curious about this topic because my youngest daughter is light skin with type 4 hair (my children’s dad is an UADSM). My oldest is brown skin (somewhere around the skin tone of Usher or Chilli, a true brown, not particularly light or dark) & I guess her hair is type 4 too or maybe 3C/4A but my youngest is definitely type 4. Maybe 4B? I’m not super familiar with that side of the chart and no one else in my immediate family has that texture of hair so I have nothing but type 2 & 3 textures to compare their hair to. But so far, my kids have gone to schools that have been predominantly white but not ALL white. Maybe like 70/30. But anywho, I think it’s because of this that they haven’t yet encountered anything about skin color or texturism or anything. The white kids don’t know the difference between different black/mixed hair textures unless the texture is super loose. Otherwise, it’s all an “afro” to them. So I always wonder how she’ll get on when she’s older and around more mono racial black people besides her dad’s side of the family. I worry about her more than my brown skin daughter because her light skin makes her a target and they LOVE pointing out black features on light skin people as humbling tactics as you say. They won’t feel the need to “humble” my brown skin daughter the same way they’ll feel the need to do it to my light skin one. Not at first sight anyway. Learning of her mixed background or that her mom is someone like me can change their perception of her but just right off, she’ll be perceived as monoracial and isn’t a walking target like her light skin sister is.
This is so triggering!!! 😂 the first thing they do is look at your hair to see what type of hair you have. And I feel like they only do that to us. And they will sit there and debate with you ns everyone else on what type of hair you have. Theeeen if you stretch it ain’t any way, and it looks like a different texture, they get confused and are like “did you straighten your hair??? Did you blow out your hair” they don’t realize that a lot of time, the hair they can see isn’t all there is… and we have differ textures…. Sometimes the texture at the ends isn’t the same throughout and towards the roots either! So yea… our hair can really shape shift me confuse even those who are monoracial with type 4 hair.
Im not dark skin. But I have noticed that some dark skin women can have an even looser curl pattern than me. I have two mixed parents and 3c hair. I have a dark skin co worker with 2c hair.
Because you are mixed with black. Its a thing of demographics. If you live in a society where most people are non black, they will see you as such even if youre mixed. If you live in an area where people are predominantly black, like africa, people will have no qualms calling you muzungu in passing, unless you claim otherwise or look monoracial. Simple.
@moethemoon Thank you for your answer! It's odd to me because other asians (even her family) and white people think I'm mixed, or not even black. We live in a pretty multiracial/cultural city.🩷
Mixed is mixed. Even if you come out with 3C, 4A, 4B, 4C hair, but have OTHER non-black features - you are mixed-race!!!!!
Exactly ! Why do non mixed people think they can tell the mixed community what we’re supposed to look like?!
So glad I found a mixed race community omg I’ve gotten kicked out of so many others for not being x y and z enough
Your phenotype is beautifully perfect 🤗
I agree with you texturism is much worse. I’m monoracial light skin black fenty shade 370 with 3c 4a hair and girls gaslight me when I try and promote wearing natural hair, my cousins friend was like its easier for you to say cos you don’t have 4c hair. Weird.
I really really appreciate you including us girls with 4C hair in this community! 🩷 y’all can see my picture, I’m caramel colored with freckles and I have natural reddish brown highlights, but 4C hair. I always felt like my hair was too kinky to claim “lightskinned.” I am also one of the lightest ppl in my monoracial family, so I would align myself more with unambiguous women. But now I realize that I have way more in common aesthetically and experientially with exoticals.
Yes people love trying to humble others based on hair texture
It’s actually really crazy because as a monoracial woman with 3c hair people and fairer skin people will argue me down about my blackness but in the same breathe try to box in mixed women if they don’t look a certain way they love to police peoples identity
Im lightskin with 4b - 4c hair. Most people dont wear afros anymore. So, when i wear my hair out, it gets soo much attention that i become uncomfortable.
Usually i get the most hate by bald white men or girls in wigs.
Wow lol
I am MLS woman with “European features “ but with 4c hair. I got made fun of so much by UBW growing up. They would say I like white but my hair is “nappy” so I’m for sure black. This is why I wear wigs all the time now but use that to my advantage. Now no one even knows what my race is.
haha! love it!
@@rainicewaller6210 with wigs no one knows what I am.
Fenty 335 right here and my hair is fine and it's type 3c/4a here. I had no idea what my hair texture was b/c my mom wanted my aunt (who was full creole, only only half creole) a relaxer b/c she was a hairstylist. When I got older, my aunt said I didn't need a relaxer but my mom insisted. My mother got upset with me when I decided to grow out my relaxer after I graduated high school. When I moved out of the house, I was able to do what I wanted to do💯 After year of growing my hair out and I actually saw my REAL texture (I have alittle 3b going on too) I was upset and very concerned as to why I needed a relaxer at 4 yrs old. I see why my father would constantly get upset w/ my mother when she got out the Revlon jar and I understand why my aunt who originally gave me the relaxer, told me when I got older that I didn't need one but my mom (whose an UADW with 4c hair) insisted. Smh
I’m always curious about this topic because my youngest daughter is light skin with type 4 hair (my children’s dad is an UADSM). My oldest is brown skin (somewhere around the skin tone of Usher or Chilli, a true brown, not particularly light or dark) & I guess her hair is type 4 too or maybe 3C/4A but my youngest is definitely type 4. Maybe 4B? I’m not super familiar with that side of the chart and no one else in my immediate family has that texture of hair so I have nothing but type 2 & 3 textures to compare their hair to.
But so far, my kids have gone to schools that have been predominantly white but not ALL white. Maybe like 70/30. But anywho, I think it’s because of this that they haven’t yet encountered anything about skin color or texturism or anything. The white kids don’t know the difference between different black/mixed hair textures unless the texture is super loose. Otherwise, it’s all an “afro” to them. So I always wonder how she’ll get on when she’s older and around more mono racial black people besides her dad’s side of the family. I worry about her more than my brown skin daughter because her light skin makes her a target and they LOVE pointing out black features on light skin people as humbling tactics as you say. They won’t feel the need to “humble” my brown skin daughter the same way they’ll feel the need to do it to my light skin one. Not at first sight anyway. Learning of her mixed background or that her mom is someone like me can change their perception of her but just right off, she’ll be perceived as monoracial and isn’t a walking target like her light skin sister is.
I have 4 different hair texture, Sometimes I don't even know what to do with my hair.
Right! No one has curls that are all the exact same
Size on their whole head
MGM here great topic.i can relate to many conversations i have had about hair texturism.
Yes we have united!
This is so triggering!!! 😂 the first thing they do is look at your hair to see what type of hair you have. And I feel like they only do that to us. And they will sit there and debate with you ns everyone else on what type of hair you have. Theeeen if you stretch it ain’t any way, and it looks like a different texture, they get confused and are like “did you straighten your hair??? Did you blow out your hair” they don’t realize that a lot of time, the hair they can see isn’t all there is… and we have differ textures…. Sometimes the texture at the ends isn’t the same throughout and towards the roots either! So yea… our hair can really shape shift me confuse even those who are monoracial with type 4 hair.
Texturism is a bigger issue (along with featurism) among black women; sad.
Right !
Im not dark skin. But I have noticed that some dark skin women can have an even looser curl pattern than me. I have two mixed parents and 3c hair. I have a dark skin co worker with 2c hair.
Yes my cousin looks like chili with type 2 hair
Literally my whole family. My balck side only has 2b-3b hair, but me and my mixed siblings have 3b-4a hair… Crazy how genetics work😭
This page is always dead on ❤
❤🌻
My mother in law is asian amd keeps referring to me.as black, although I'm mixed. Is there a reason to this?
Because you are mixed with black. Its a thing of demographics. If you live in a society where most people are non black, they will see you as such even if youre mixed. If you live in an area where people are predominantly black, like africa, people will have no qualms calling you muzungu in passing, unless you claim otherwise or look monoracial. Simple.
@moethemoon Thank you for your answer!
It's odd to me because other asians (even her family) and white people think I'm mixed, or not even black. We live in a pretty multiracial/cultural city.🩷