I used to feel sorry for them. Now I don't. Just because people bully them for being DS, doesn't give them the right to treat other people bad. People feel like LS people deserves to be humbled because, people find us attractive. It's very bizarre.
Yes omg ! I no longer have sympathy for women who wouldn’t have sympathy for me. We can’t all be lying. Also, notice how when WE tell our stories we have actual examples and meanwhile when a lot of other women tell their stories of us bullying them it tends to be just based on assumptions? Like assuming we think we’re better etc ?
They are the ones doing all of the bullying they act like the victims but it is them I don’t believe the stories they tell. They made up a fake story about being fetishised by all groups of men they think people are so attracted and in awe of them that people are fetishising them and obsessing over them but the truth is they are the last and least chosen. Some days they’ll be ranting about being last picked and bottom of the barrel but other days they’ll be telling their fantasy stories that they are fetishised it is a made up story that they want to be true.
@@MrsFefe32 You know the ones who be talking mad ish about LS women. Example: Candace on Real Housewives of Potomac said Giselle is a privileged Whyte looking @$$. Her proximity to whyteness....You know what I'm talking about chile.... 😆
😂 Yet another relatable story time! I do not believe in “being the bigger person” when bullied for that long. If you have the nerve to harass me for that long, then come get this smoke sweetheart! You, yo mama, your face, and your family are ALL fair game. 😈
Back in the day, the grandmothers and older women in the neighborhood would tell pretty girls, “You’re too pretty to be actin’ like that!”, which created a warped idea of what you should tolerate.
Oh yeah that’s very common because a lot of people feel like dangit you’re younger than me and already living better than I was, etc . Some people are jealous of your potential
I nearly chocked on my laughter when you said "Even when my hair looks like a bush." I felt that cuz i've been there before.😂 I remember i spent some time with a friend at her housewe were on the bed doing homework and she was just staring at me and then she said "I wish if i had your skin tone, what if we have the same father lol." I just stared and smiled uncomfortably because i had no idea why she would bring that up because one, we have different parents that's why i look the way i am, it's just weird for her to say what if we both have the same father, it doesn't make any sense and two, she's pretty already. It angers me at times at how much they don't see their own beauty and love it.
Right. Other people get mad when you think you’re cute because THEY think THEYRE ugly. so they get mad when they come across women who don’t have the same inferiority complex
I'm so thankful I made my own phenotype my beauty standard! I look up to women in the media who not only look like me but also embody a certain "aura" that I resonate with! Another fantastic breakdown!
you should make a video on the commentary on the show real housewives of potomac when it comes 2 colorism and a video on the commentary about vanessa williams as pple have begun clowning her for being her age and saying she aging like milk
5:49 I blocked a 300+ “friend”. And would obsess over the tiniest things because she was insecure, but didn’t wanna actually work on what was making her insecure. So she also pointed out all of my flaws. I wear a size small , and I put effort and money into my looks. I don’t freak out over tiny flaws because I feel beautiful and confident
Wow, this is very informative. I am a brown skinned black woman who has a light skin biracial child. I was aware that some people are haters towards lighter skin but I didn't know that it could be in some of the ways that you mentioned. Colorism in all ways is quite pathetic and that's a damn shame that that mess happened to you in" the church"can't say that I'm surprised. Anyway I support your channel, thanks for the information. Stay up 🤎
You know what I find funny is , there is actually no need for jealously. If there is something that a person what to change they are able to.😂 there are some much resources out here to do so ! For me as unambiguous lightskin monoracial black girl . Even though I was bullied by darkskin girls through my teens years for not being the standard lightskin girl like a Beyoncé because I had Afrocentric features which did actually hinder my life for a long period of time. But I still was not jealous or envious of other lightskin black woman or mixed race woman . Because they were getting privileges over me by the same darkskin girls that bully me. I kind of found it pointless to be envy of people that was born the way they are. I just had to change and that’s okay Skin lightening was my last option, so when I did lighten from 390 shade to 355 because I took this as form of self love so I’m able to start privilege stacking. Because I was light just not light enough. I know that my sound weird to people to skin lightening as lightskin person but I never wanted to turned into the person that became bitter because I was denied certain privileges growing because of the way I looked. (Because often times being bullied can cause people to start conflicting pain on to others . And I refuse to become that person. So I turned the negative comments to a positive one and started to elevate my looks because now I have this werid thought that they wanted me to be better than them and elevate because to bully me to that extent was actually so stupid because they will never know that I lighten my skin because of them 😂😂 Not saying people need to skin lightening in order to achieve privilege but in enhancing your looks in your 20’s can help you over health and mental health. So I do everything in my power to become the best version so I can live a full and healthy life. ❤just wanted to add me skin lightening helps me combat featurism in my own way 💕
And it’s your body so I see nothing wrong with that at all. You took ownership over your own life and phenotype . I am getting my boobs done this year (making them smaller because I’m tired of having big boobs even though I’m an hourglass.) instead of being jealous of women with smaller boobs who could wear cute strapless tops I decided to purchase the feature I wanted - and who gon check me? 😜
I just read the rest of your comment. And yup- it’s YOUR skin and body so who cares? People love calling out when something is “fake” but that doesn’t take away the privilege you receive in society overall 😂 for example, me making fun of White girls isn’t going to destroy white privilege. It’s just going to make me look like a hater and make me more insecure. And yes, YOU GET TO DECIDE which privileges are important to you. For some people it is being as bright as possible, for others it’s staying tan, and for me it’s having smaller boobs 😂 I WANT THE PRIVILEGE OF BEING ABLE TO WEAR WHATEVER SHIRT I WANT ! my family members have tried to say things like “you’re beautiful as you are.” Yes… I know, however I ALSO want the privilege of small boobs IN ADDITION to my beauty. And then people always try to say “what if it looks bad or it’s not what you thought?” That’s easy. I just go back to how I was and get a fat transfer, implants etc but I’m sure I won’t have to .
exactly❤️. Taking ownership is how I started to improve my life. And there is thing called small boobs privilege❤️😊. You can definitely get away with wearing more outfits. Just wanted to say thank you for your videos on your Patreon . I’m currently watching all your videos on pateron to help me to improve socially❤️. And expand my friends circles
Girl the stories i have about my exs mom. She was a UA DSW & me being an alsw plus being Dominican brought a different demon out in her. She said her own nieces son was “color struck” at two years old because he would play with me and not her. As if toddlers have any consciousness about colorism. These UA DSBW live with internalized inferiority complex to the max.
I used to feel sorry for them. Now I don't. Just because people bully them for being DS, doesn't give them the right to treat other people bad. People feel like LS people deserves to be humbled because, people find us attractive. It's very bizarre.
Yes omg ! I no longer have sympathy for women who wouldn’t have sympathy for me. We can’t all be lying. Also, notice how when WE tell our stories we have actual examples and meanwhile when a lot of other women tell their stories of us bullying them it tends to be just based on assumptions? Like assuming we think we’re better etc ?
They are the ones doing all of the bullying they act like the victims but it is them I don’t believe the stories they tell. They made up a fake story about being fetishised by all groups of men they think people are so attracted and in awe of them that people are fetishising them and obsessing over them but the truth is they are the last and least chosen. Some days they’ll be ranting about being last picked and bottom of the barrel but other days they’ll be telling their fantasy stories that they are fetishised it is a made up story that they want to be true.
@@MrsFefe32 You know the ones who be talking mad ish about LS women. Example: Candace on Real Housewives of Potomac said Giselle is a privileged Whyte looking @$$. Her proximity to whyteness....You know what I'm talking about chile.... 😆
@@ExoticalsUnited Exactly. Look at the comment below. Why come over here? 😆 🤣 😂
@@MrsFefe32 Remember Candace comments about Giselle on RHOP?
All about the Pookie gaze!
😂😂😂😂
😂 Yet another relatable story time! I do not believe in “being the bigger person” when bullied for that long. If you have the nerve to harass me for that long, then come get this smoke sweetheart! You, yo mama, your face, and your family are ALL fair game. 😈
Yup! I am NO LONGER GOING TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON.
When they go low, take it to the flo'!
No bigger person over here!
Why can't THEY be the bigger person 🙄
Back in the day, the grandmothers and older women in the neighborhood would tell pretty girls, “You’re too pretty to be actin’ like that!”, which created a warped idea of what you should tolerate.
omg so true! you couldnt curse or anything 😂😂
I could never imagine at 17 telling a 12 year old kid that. She’s jealous of a kid? Wtf
Set an example goddamit lol
Oh yeah that’s very common because a lot of people feel like dangit you’re younger than me and already living better than I was, etc . Some people are jealous of your potential
Insecure people readily dish it out, but they can’t take it.🙄🙄🙄
I nearly chocked on my laughter when you said "Even when my hair looks like a bush." I felt that cuz i've been there before.😂 I remember i spent some time with a friend at her housewe were on the bed doing homework and she was just staring at me and then she said "I wish if i had your skin tone, what if we have the same father lol." I just stared and smiled uncomfortably because i had no idea why she would bring that up because one, we have different parents that's why i look the way i am, it's just weird for her to say what if we both have the same father, it doesn't make any sense and two, she's pretty already. It angers me at times at how much they don't see their own beauty and love it.
Right. Other people get mad when you think you’re cute because THEY think THEYRE ugly. so they get mad when they come across women who don’t have the same inferiority complex
I feel this, I'm an empath and am working on letting go of the guilt that I feel about what DS people experience.
I'm so thankful I made my own phenotype my beauty standard! I look up to women in the media who not only look like me but also embody a certain "aura" that I resonate with! Another fantastic breakdown!
you should make a video on the commentary on the show real housewives of potomac when it comes 2 colorism and a video on the commentary about vanessa williams as pple have begun clowning her for being her age and saying she aging like milk
yes i did a real housewives of potomac analysis a few months ago: ua-cam.com/video/FCzoqitTwWg/v-deo.html
5:49 I blocked a 300+ “friend”. And would obsess over the tiniest things because she was insecure, but didn’t wanna actually work on what was making her insecure. So she also pointed out all of my flaws. I wear a size small , and I put effort and money into my looks. I don’t freak out over tiny flaws because I feel beautiful and confident
Exactly
Wow, this is very informative. I am a brown skinned black woman who has a light skin biracial child. I was aware that some people are haters towards lighter skin but I didn't know that it could be in some of the ways that you mentioned. Colorism in all ways is quite pathetic and that's a damn shame that that mess happened to you in" the church"can't say that I'm surprised. Anyway I support your channel, thanks for the information. Stay up 🤎
Thanks !
7:06 is so true. I’ve had to learn how to stand up for myself because people try to take shots at me because they’re jealous
Yes omg !
This channel and discussion is so necessary.
Yes it Is !
There is almost nothing more draining and annoying than dealing with jealous girls/women!
You know what I find funny is , there is actually no need for jealously. If there is something that a person what to change they are able to.😂 there are some much resources out here to do so !
For me as unambiguous lightskin monoracial black girl . Even though I was bullied by darkskin girls through my teens years for not being the standard lightskin girl like a Beyoncé because I had Afrocentric features which did actually hinder my life for a long period of time.
But I still was not jealous or envious of other lightskin black woman or mixed race woman . Because they were getting privileges over me by the same darkskin girls that bully me. I kind of found it pointless to be envy of people that was born the way they are. I just had to change and that’s okay
Skin lightening was my last option, so when I did lighten from 390 shade to 355 because I took this as form of self love so I’m able to start privilege stacking.
Because I was light just not light enough. I know that my sound weird to people to skin lightening as lightskin person but I never wanted to turned into the person that became bitter because I was denied certain privileges growing because of the way I looked. (Because often times being bullied can cause people to start conflicting pain on to others . And I refuse to become that person. So I turned the negative comments to a positive one and started to elevate my looks because now I have this werid thought that they wanted me to be better than them and elevate because to bully me to that extent was actually so stupid because they will never know that I lighten my skin because of them 😂😂
Not saying people need to skin lightening in order to achieve privilege but in enhancing your looks in your 20’s can help you over health and mental health.
So I do everything in my power to become the best version so I can live a full and healthy life. ❤just wanted to add me skin lightening helps me combat featurism in my own way 💕
And it’s your body so I see nothing wrong with that at all. You took ownership over your own life and phenotype . I am getting my boobs done this year (making them smaller because I’m tired of having big boobs even though I’m an hourglass.) instead of being jealous of women with smaller boobs who could wear cute strapless tops I decided to purchase the feature I wanted - and who gon check me? 😜
I just read the rest of your comment. And yup- it’s YOUR skin and body so who cares? People love calling out when something is “fake” but that doesn’t take away the privilege you receive in society overall 😂 for example, me making fun of White girls isn’t going to destroy white privilege. It’s just going to make me look like a hater and make me more insecure. And yes, YOU GET TO DECIDE which privileges are important to you. For some people it is being as bright as possible, for others it’s staying tan, and for me it’s having smaller boobs 😂 I WANT THE PRIVILEGE OF BEING ABLE TO WEAR WHATEVER SHIRT I WANT ! my family members have tried to say things like “you’re beautiful as you are.” Yes… I know, however I ALSO want the privilege of small boobs IN ADDITION to my beauty. And then people always try to say “what if it looks bad or it’s not what you thought?” That’s easy. I just go back to how I was and get a fat transfer, implants etc but I’m sure I won’t have to .
exactly❤️. Taking ownership is how I started to improve my life. And there is thing called small boobs privilege❤️😊. You can definitely get away with wearing more outfits.
Just wanted to say thank you for your videos on your Patreon . I’m currently watching all your videos on pateron to help me to improve socially❤️. And expand my friends circles
I have had unambiguous BW say my hair looks like noodles!
Omg yes! I have audios of UABW UA-camrs calling us ramen noodle head ass b1tches
Appreciate you!!
Narcs love church
Omg yes !
Girl the stories i have about my exs mom. She was a UA DSW & me being an alsw plus being Dominican brought a different demon out in her. She said her own nieces son was “color struck” at two years old because he would play with me and not her. As if toddlers have any consciousness about colorism. These UA DSBW live with internalized inferiority complex to the max.
❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉love the story. This is inspiring
What product did you use to get rid of the pigmentation?
7:52 👏👏👏