I'm not trying to start an argument. I ask because I wonder. Why did you feel that statement was so deep? I actually felt that was a very easy, understandable statements and I usually struggle to understand things. Is there something I don't understand here? I totally relate, by the way. However I tend to say thst my biggest wish would be to feel free. Free from anxiety, depression, OCD ADD, , and the rest of thevletters in the alphabet.
@leneo1731 That statement is very deep because stability is huge in a child's life and especially what she has gone through. All of this crap about Anxiety, OCD, ADD has really been taught to the younger generation.. they really don't know what abuse is... Im not saying you don't, but I'm so sick of hearing that they have anxiety and everything else. There are humans that really go through serious abuse
@@keeper6458 Totally. My nieces and nephews have friends that talk about their “anxiety” like it is an allergy. Like, when a situation arises that challenges them or takes them out of their comfort zone, they feel like it’s acceptable to simply say “I can’t do that because it makes my anxiety bad.” It’s as if it’s some kind of flare-up from eating a food they’re allergic to. I’m like, no, youngster… you’ll be fine if you just tackle it with tact and diligence. You aren’t going to fall apart, you got this.
@@keeper6458 You don't have to go through serious abuse to suffer from mental health disorders. Do I think that the terms are overused and the disorders often overdiagnosed, absolutely! But, there are children who definitely suffer from these maladies who have never been abused at all. Depression, ADHD, and OCD are not caused by trauma, although they can be exasperated by trauma. I get that some people use these terms as a scapegoat for their behavior, when in fact,, they Don't truly have them. In my experience, those that truly suffer from this will rarely even tell you they have the disorder. Mostly, because of the stigma.
@@keeper6458 And look at how well she is doing. She has been blessed with true grit and a very strong will and terrific insight on her own life. This is unique. Good bless this beautiful woman 👩 ❤😊
the only words that are required is why would anyone bring a child into this sick, sick and twisted realm..?..what a gamble, a lifetime of risks that child/adolescent/adult will be exposed to which parents have zero control over...the world itself is Evil beyond words...
I watched a video of someone talking about how there are situations where the baby has experienced csa from birth. I’ve never felt so sick. These poor innocent babies don’t deserve things like this.
When you are severely abused, or sexually abused as a small child, you can remember those things. I can remember very very early memories and so can my partner as a result of severe abuse we experienced. It’s only moments of memories, not the longer more detailed memories you get as you get older since as a baby you don’t understand what’s happening or what you see. I believe her. It’s cruel to the people saying that they don’t believe her. If this was YOUR life imagine how awful it would be for people to tell you you’re lying about what you experienced.
Someone replied trying to disprove childhood memories with “google research” and then deleted their response so I’m going to reply anyways as I’m sure they’re scouring the comments looking for confirmation bias: As someone who studied psychology & child development, I can tell you as someone who literally experienced memories from being younger than 3 that it is possible but it is as of right now considered an anomaly. It CAN happen. And no, I didn’t say an infant can remember in the way you can remember what you ate yesterday. Infants & toddlers don’t have enough understanding of what’s going on to remember that way, but they are absorbing everything in their environments. Sounds, smells, touch, taste. They’re learning EVERYTHING at those ages. Hence why a lot of children who are sexually abused very young will display signs of it into toddler ages and beyond. Even your body remembers what happened to you. You are thinking “memory” as adult formed memories. Not early development memories. Even if I myself did not experience this, I would not discredit another person because anything is possible and science is ever-changing. I say all of this respectfully to you, but you are wrong.
@@sagewestbrook8873you pretty much said the same thing. So how is it "wrong"? My 1st memory that I've been able to keep my entire life, since 2 years old, was sitting at the bottom of the stairs that led out the back door of our home. I was feeding a billy goat bread. It's only a few seconds that I can remember. I know I was really enjoying it. I had a psychologist tell me that when we have a strong feeling of emotion, it tends to help us hold onto that memory. If having the time of my life can help me remember something merely days after turning 2, then why can't someone going through horrific abuse remember because of the awful way it made them feel? I know the details around my 1st memory, because after at 16, I had my 1st child, I was talking to my mom. I asked her if it was a real memory, or if I dreamed it or something? She couldn't believe I remembered that! She said it was about a week after my 2nd birthday. We lived out in a rural area. One of the farmers close by had a billy goat get loose. I was sitting at the bottom of the stairs eating a peanut butter sandwich. Mom had the back door open, and was watching me while she cleaned up the kitchen. She glanced away for a second, and when she looked back I was feeding this goat my sandwich. It kind of scared her, and she tried making it leave. But I asked if it could stay. So she sat beside me, and let me finish feeding it. I say that you are wrong, for telling her she's wrong.
My goddaughter and her sisters were as severely abused. My goddaughter, the youngest was abused since birth. She has developmental disabilities and will never mature mentally. Everything Regina has covered, my goddaughter experienced. How dare anyone come At Regina!
I doubt anyone will read this. I just want to validate that, although uncommon, some people can remember early childhood. I have memories from 2 and 3 years old. It sounds like people have dismissed this. I believe you
The fact that people have the audacity to comment on this with anything but positive, encouraging words for Regina is disgusting. Her childhood was something out of a horror movie and the fact she is overcoming it and healing is amazing! Shes incredible! I have a 19 month old son and can't fathom why anyone would want to cause someone so full of innocence, any harm at all.
Yes, & the adrenaline that accompanies it makes the world look extra crisp, & the senses go on overload. In other instances, the mind blanks out because it's in survival mode, so can't remember things said or done during a traumatic event. It all just depends on the situation & what capacity the person holds to deal with it in the moment.
Everyone who's going to post something negative about Regina, like questioning her story, criticise her choices and so on, please leave it be. She doesn't need that and it's not helpful at all She needs to be met with understanding and love. The details doesn't matter and whatever her struggles are, they're real. So just be kind and treat her with the respect she deserves, please ❤️
I definitely believe her. Trauma sticks in your mind. I can’t remember what I did yesterday but I can remember being assaulted as a child. She’s a strong woman. God bless her
I love mark’s work. One thing though. I briefly stopped the video. I know you interview everyday all day. Your work is amazing. You need more sleep mark. Many times the guests explain their stories and the questions you ask the guest have already explained these things. Sleep health etc = comprehension all your work cancels this out. But LISTEN PLEASE. Thank you for all your love and dedication. Ryan
You're right, I'm sure he knows it too. ..I've noticed Mark asking questions he's already asked too. I'm sure it's really easy to do that. I know I probably would too.
@@luvyatubers Not to pile on, but I also have noticed. Some folks can't enjoy peace and quiet. Maybe Mark's brain needs a certain amount of chaos. My suggestion would be to go to a concert, or roller derby, or a wild art exhibit, something that still is stimulating, but doesn't relate to the work.
What she is describing about her memories is called “implicit” memory. Those are the memories stored deep in the brain (limbic system). They work differently than explicit memories. Bruce Perry, Peter Levine, and Bessel Van Der Kolk have all written about it extensively.
Other professionals in the field do not agree with those theories about memory, so people should read as much as possible about the subject, there's not 1 truth.
@thematriarchy2075 Most of life's truths are completely unbelievable. Imagine how hard it is to come out and talk about something so traumatic.. on top of that knowing most people won't understand how I remember things and disregard what I am saying as a lie. When I have nothing to gain in lying. It's hard! I can't explain why I "remember" I say remember loosely because it's not the same as how I remember yesterday, or 10, 15, 20 years ago. It's like an encryption inside me. It's a part of who I am and always has been. The mind is a crazy thing! We may never understand is fully.
@@reginamoran1444 Hi Regina, i didn't comment about you, at all, as in not believing you. I am simply saying, that memories at 1 or 2 years old, are not actually memories, which doesn't mean that something didn't happen. I would read the research on 6600 people in England. ( Shazia Akhtar) Fictional First Memories. Fictional not meaning false, btw To add: Did you read it? If so, what do you think?
My daughter remembers everything from age two. She is now 50 and she still remembers it all. And I don’t remember anything. It’s amazing. She was never abused or mistreated. Lived a very normal life. I can’t explain it.
I had an objectively bad childhood. I come here to empathize with those among us who've struggled like me. But, what this poor soul went through is so much worse than anything I've ever heard. I love you ma'am, whatever that's worth.
What a very intelligent, very self-aware, amazingly capable woman. She has it more together than many will ever be in their lives. Very impressive. So glad she has a great family now as she so deserves it.
Im so proud of Regina breaking the cycle and her Bravery for putting a face and voice for those who have been so horribly treated. Bravo beautiful, strong woman. You are a warrior and your rewards will only continue to multiply. When I hear these stories it makes me want to be a foster parent just to correct the horribles ones that are out there and to offer love to the poor innocent souls.
There is no way Regina should have done as well as she has. This one brought tears to my eyes to just see how much she has struggled and overcome. No child should ever live as she described. She was abandoned in more ways than just family. This story reminds me of a young girl, Melisha Gibson, in Cleveland TN in the 70's that didn't turn out as well as Regina's life. I have never forgotten what was discovered with her struggles. Thanks.
It’s so hard to fathom that people can be so cruel. Regina strikes me as a highly intelligent, honest, and extraordinary woman who acted out in normal ways, considering her extremely abusive childhood. Everything she talked about regarding her actions made so much sense in light of her experiences. I will be praying blessings on Regina and her children.
I have watched almost every video Mark has posted and this is the most relatable one to my life story. I had very similar neglect and abuse all throughout my childhood. It’s easy to get lost in the anger and be a victim forever. I’m glad you’ve taken control of your life and your decisions and decided to be a better mother to your children than what was given to you. I think therapy is without question completely necessary if you’ve had any kind of trauma in your childhood. Being mindful and keeping grateful is also number one priority when you’ve had such chaos is your life. I love that being stable is your number one priority. I also feel the same.
Trauma imprints differently on the memory. Everything she said- scent, noises, the colors, feelings, learned behavior, details that in a happy situation eating ice cream wouldn’t imprint in a small memory, I was also abused at 2 I know what the room looked like, I know the scent, the furniture, I know what I saw , I know what the room felt like. I may not remember his face but I know his shape, his actions and more.
" No mud , no lotus " (things cultivated out of a lot of crap often turn out to be the most beautiful, as are you ) Well done for breaking the cycle !I ❤️
Finally someone from where I’m from. Grew up with the same trauma no sexual abuse but man physical abuse and emotional abuse took a toll on me. Grew up in Minnesota foster care myself . I pride you for being a great person after all you’ve been through. My childhood was extremely similar
What a beautiful portrait of resilience and courage . Her inner dialogue post traumas was her holding her own hand and reassuring her future self that there was a compassionate witness. She was singularly that for herself. Her inner soliloquy saved her soul from the dungeon mentality trap that sinks so many. Impressive human being . .
“There are so many beautiful things in life.” And you, Regina, are beautiful. I am finding a great deal of wisdom and courage in and through these past many interviews you are doing, Mark. Such courage in these individuals. Not getting crushed, or completely wiped out by very difficult, and horrible circumstances in their childhoods. But turning these hard and painful things for growth, and then for the benefit of others. Their choices and lives, their sharing, is so inspiring.
i have watched hundreds and hundreds of these videos and i just wanna say this is the first time in a very long time I have felt inspiration from a story. I love the fact that you have been resilient and do not want to be a victim and want better for yourself. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
Your childhood was heartbreaking 💔 you are an exemplary example of how to turn things around. Wishing you & your family only the best as you so deserve it.
I am so glad she mentioned early memories. I remember things since I was two years old. I am glad I am not alone! People never believed me, so I stopped talking about it.
What a great story. They say one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids is to be a happy parent (without drugs), and despite your horrible upbringing, you are so resilient and inspiring.🤗🤗🤗
Thank you, Regina. You are so powerful, beautiful, true. I can see in your face and your mannerisms how difficult this was to recount. Your memories as an infant are absolutely understandable, you don’t owe any explanation to anyone. Your body keeps the score. I can see that you have so much raw emotion, heart, you recalling memories like it was yesterday, yet you also talk about growth and motherhood in such a beautiful and selfless way. You’ve learned from your life like we all should. You are a victim but you don’t play victim. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for such a beautiful comment. I appreciate what you said so much more than you can ever imagine. I want to keep speaking about it to raise awareness of how your body can remember. So many don't realize how real that is! ❤
I also have memories since I was 3 years old. More triggering the trauma responses is, more traumating the event was so the brain remembers it to because is PTSD triggered over and over. She is right. Plus stories told are also keeping memories..
So true . I have positive and negative memories pre 3 years old. They are sensory, visual , tactile. My brother died of SIDS on my way to preschool when I was 3 . I remember the event with perfect recollection . I shared the memory with my Mother as an adult. She confirmed the events. In fact she was so traumatized by the loss my memories helped her revisit the day with multiple perspectives .
1) Trauma is stored in the body, not just in memories 2) Traumatic memories often make a bigger impact than regular memories, for survival reasons I don't like how Mark was expressing such disbelief at her saying she has memories of her early early trauma :/
That's one thing I still have trouble explaining. It's not typical memories. It's an encryption inside me that haunted me a lot when I was younger. It lived in me, and I have since learned to cope with it, but it's always there. When it comes out, it is the physical feelings of a man touching me and mumbling some vile things. The whole time, I feel helpless and stiff, like a child!
@@reginamoran1444 Oh hi! Thanks for responding. I wanna let you know that you telling your story impacted me significantly. You're really very special and impressive for your capacity for forgiveness and survival. The strength of will and goodness you possess is such a beautiful testament to your character, and to the potential for humanity in general to choose life and love despite the odds. Thank you for being who you are, and for being so brave in sharing your story. I felt such a sense of happiness and somehow pride when you were talking about how you have created this normal and stable life. I guess as a woman, it always makes me happy to see other women win.
But yeah, trauma is intense. "The Body Keeps the Score" is a great book on that. I hope that you are in therapy, though that's not my business. I also hope that you accept and revel in every single expression of love and comfort and support that you get from the people in your life who love you.
@@reginamoran1444 I've noticed that sometimes people have a hard time believing or understanding when I tell parts of my story. Usually it's because my reality is so far away from anything they've experienced, they can't comprehend the dysfunction. I usually just think to myself that I'm sorta glad that they don't/can't understand, cuz it means they haven't been traumatized in the way that I have, and just don't talk to them about it anymore cuz they don't get it. You shouldn't have had to justify your reality so much in this video, but I think that you explained it well. Some ppl just won't get it I guess.
I’m like her, I present well and people think I’m completely fine but I’m dealing with a lot from my childhood and young adult. I’m happy she’s going to therapy. It’s been so helpful for me.
I know a lot of people are giving her a hard time about remembering. I have wanted to be interviewed by Mark because i have a very long memory that goes back to around 2. I just feel like when youve gone through a lot of trauma the memories are either surpressed or like with me i can play it back like a video. A therapist said this is very normal. I can recall a lot of things. No matter what you think of her story, just know we dont know what its like for someone else unless youve lived there life. I hope she continues to live life she wants ❤
I remember a ton from my early years, being in a big blue bassinet stroller my mum had out front of our building , my parents painting and wall papering my room as a baby , being in my crib with my dresser next to it where I could reach my bottle.. that entire apartment my parents had and the fact my dad had porn magazines everywhere, which exposed me to sex as a very small child , babysitters I had so many memories, more than other periods of life ,like I don't remember much from 7-10
Huge applause to her! She really had a guardian angel with her through everything she has been through! She is very wise and smart. I am curious to know more about her brothers & sister! I hope they are well and they all have a relationship with each other!!!
Girl so proud of you. You deserve stability and happiness. You like the feeling hungry because it was something you could control in your childhood. So sorry for this abuse. My cousin had similar experiences and also made it to adulthood happy
I just wish I could give you the biggest hug ever. I am So impressed by your survival strategies - Love and best wishes for you and your childrens future, from Copenhagen, Denmark
My adopted daughter was removed from her biological family at 4 years old. She has vivid memories of her biological family, even things like, "I don't eat grilled hot dogs, I only eat boiled hotdogs." But in the last ten years she has lived with me, I have never boiled a hot dog. Many things randomly taking her right back to living with them.
I can't find the words to express my soo deep feelings,, reaction. My mom was a social worker when I was a kid. I didn't realize how important her job was, and cps just, broke her heart, but she continued. This lady is one incredible person. Thank you for your video.
I am sorry for all you have endured. When you mentioned the lice and the shame you carry, it breaks my heart. Your mom could have helped you but she didn't. She wouldn't hug you, so heartbreaking. It hurts so badly to be neglected. You are right about how other people take advantage of those that are injured. You are wise and you will continue to heal.
To begin, thankyou Mark for offering this platform for people to feel safe to,share this narrative . Regina is heroic. To,have survived her upbringing and experiences is beyond real understanding. I csn hear her reticence in her voice. I believe every recollection she shared. I want to somehow honour her courage. How can we do that?
This is one of the most inspirational stories I’ve heard on this channel. She is amazing and I deeply admire her for breaking the cycle she was raised in and continuously working on healing from her past. That is not an easy thing to do. So much respect for her.
Im 35 too and im not sure where id be if i were in your place.. u are so special and so unique in every way just looking at your hands and the way u are moving them means something. U are gorgeous my friend god bless u ❤️
Wow I love that “I look forward to even the small things like tomorrow I get to drink a Diet Coke.”… amazing coping skills God bless you girl, you are amazingly strong I’m so proud of how you came out on the other side.. just blown away !! 👏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻🌹🌹
Regina is awesome! What a powerful human being. She made things better for herself all on her own, a great example for those who feel like they’ve lost control in life
Regina, you are an amazing woman. Out of the ashes, you have become a phoenix. I hope you are proud of yourself of all you have done for yourself and your family. They are lucky to have you. Thank you for sharing your story and I pray the rest of your life is blessed.
Regina , I pray for healing from all that you have been through. You are amazing to have survived those moments. Thank-you for sharing your testimony ❤❤❤
God bless you with healing and peace! memory is so weird. Some trauma survivors don’t remember anything and others have laser focused memories because of traumatic events. I have siblings that can remember back to two years old - some friends remember being in a crib - the heart has memory cells. Whether the memory is exact or not the result from the trauma is embedded in the memory
What you said, that when you have kids your life isn’t as important as theirs, that’s what matters most. That is the secret to enjoying your life as you age, if you sacrifice your life to ensure you raise a solid balanced child, and I don’t mean you stop enjoying your own life as well. But the greatest rewards in life come from the sacrifices we make for our offspring.
I'm still thinking about your story two weeks after seeing and hearing this. May you receive All the love and care in the universe for you and your siblings.
@@reginamoran1444 I know yours is a difficult story to tell, and Mark was having an off day but just know that many of us were following everything you said and lived that moment with you.
Thank you for your video. I have gross young child memories in my head that I haven't yet resolved as right from wrong but - whatever. As well as young adult. As I grow older, the effects of them become more drastic. I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. I'm sorry about what you were put through. You're very open, honest, composed, accomplished and I'm glad that you made it through all of this.
I remember before I turned 3 when I was in foster care. I remember playing on a seesaw and how the foster mom was so mean she would always call me fat (I wasn’t) and she’d give the other kids food but not me. I remember when my mom would visit me and she’d bring me balloons with strings attached to play with and bounce around during our visits together. I remember my third birthday. I think it’s actually more common than people realize especially for those who have been through trauma
Your a warrior, the strongest among us. Thank You for telling your story. What a beautiful soul. God sees you and your beautiful light. He will hold you and your family close, always.
Her story takes me back to my own childhood .. I have some similar memories too. I remember many times as a kid thinking " I'm never going to raise my kids this way".
I read the comments and I'm not ready to watch this video. Not yet. I hope you find your grounding, Regina, and the stability you so crave. I just kind of numbed my way through life so far and I've done well enough, but much like you, I also made a conscious decision: to keep lifting my stone, and put it in every effort possible to not hand it over to my children. Wish you all the best.
Thank you for sharing your story. You have been through so much horrible abuse in your life and came out on top and that is something to be proud of yourself for. You have stopped the cycles of abuse you went through for your kids and worked on you as well as you go through life. What an amazing accomplishment. Your so strong and inspiring to others. Keep shining. Much love Megan
I wish you find peace. And remember never quit seeing a professional like trauma therapist. Stay away any kind of stress and tension. Do sports. Get depression drug like ssri's for your anxiety which is extremely important for you. Because if you dont get over anxiety, then you will lose your mental health without knowing it which is horrible. You are a warrior i admire you and i feel you. And also you are very much smart.
Regina, sending care and hugs, sister. I know how you feel. God bless you. Never stop loving you. It's so important for those of us to love the child inside of us that was neglected, abused and unloved. You take care sweetheart. Hugs from Nanabear in Texas.❤
As an abuse survivor, I can assure you depending on the type and severity of abuse you can carry abuse memories in utero. Scientifically and psychologically this is factual and she explained this beautifully. I am glad she stood strong on this fact and glad to see her moving forward.
What an admirable woman and person! To get sane and mentally and physically well after everything she's been through...you have to have a strength and intelligence above average.
Wow, what a remarkable life, Regina. I love your takeaway - despite the ugly, it is still a beautiful world. Thank you for seeking it and thank you for sharing your story. ♥️
Poor girl, I'm crying by listening to her story. I'm so proud of u, u are amazing. God please dont get pregnant if u are using alcohol or drugs... These little kids are paying a huge price for it, so much pain in their hearts.
Thats my mom!!
Love you mama!!! ❤
I love you!! ❤️ ❤️
Awww, give your momma lots of big hugs always 💜
@@reginamoran1444and now we love your momma too! Do you know what to search for to find her on other socials?
You should feel so proud of your mama. She’s a survivor!
A great mom! I rarely use that word, but here it fits 100%: She's a hero! All the best from 🇩🇪!
People like this teach us that someone who “looks normal” might have survived some horrific experiences. You just never know.
I survived sex and labor trafficking. Sometimes I cry out of no where. I feel so crushed and confused.
I survived end of story Ase’
“I want to feel stable”. That statement is the deepest and most relatable thing I’ve ever heard. It broke my heart
I'm not trying to start an argument.
I ask because I wonder.
Why did you feel that statement was so deep?
I actually felt that was a very easy, understandable statements and I usually struggle to understand things.
Is there something I don't understand here?
I totally relate, by the way.
However I tend to say thst my biggest wish would be to feel free.
Free from anxiety, depression, OCD ADD, , and the rest of thevletters in the alphabet.
@leneo1731 That statement is very deep because stability is huge in a child's life and especially what she has gone through. All of this crap about Anxiety, OCD, ADD has really been taught to the younger generation.. they really don't know what abuse is... Im not saying you don't, but I'm so sick of hearing that they have anxiety and everything else. There are humans that really go through serious abuse
@@keeper6458 Totally. My nieces and nephews have friends that talk about their “anxiety” like it is an allergy. Like, when a situation arises that challenges them or takes them out of their comfort zone, they feel like it’s acceptable to simply say “I can’t do that because it makes my anxiety bad.” It’s as if it’s some kind of flare-up from eating a food they’re allergic to. I’m like, no, youngster… you’ll be fine if you just tackle it with tact and diligence. You aren’t going to fall apart, you got this.
@@keeper6458 You don't have to go through serious abuse to suffer from mental health disorders. Do I think that the terms are overused and the disorders often overdiagnosed, absolutely! But, there are children who definitely suffer from these maladies who have never been abused at all. Depression, ADHD, and OCD are not caused by trauma, although they can be exasperated by trauma. I get that some people use these terms as a scapegoat for their behavior, when in fact,, they Don't truly have them. In my experience, those that truly suffer from this will rarely even tell you they have the disorder. Mostly, because of the stigma.
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And look at how well she is doing. She has been blessed with true grit and a very strong will and terrific insight on her own life. This is unique. Good bless this beautiful woman 👩 ❤😊
Being abused like that at 1 year of age and younger?!
That’s a literal baby. I have no words.
the only words that are required is why would anyone bring a child into this sick, sick and twisted realm..?..what a gamble, a lifetime of risks that child/adolescent/adult will be exposed to which parents have zero control over...the world itself is Evil beyond words...
It happens every day! More than anyone can fathom!🥵
I watched a video of someone talking about how there are situations where the baby has experienced csa from birth. I’ve never felt so sick. These poor innocent babies don’t deserve things like this.
When you are severely abused, or sexually abused as a small child, you can remember those things. I can remember very very early memories and so can my partner as a result of severe abuse we experienced. It’s only moments of memories, not the longer more detailed memories you get as you get older since as a baby you don’t understand what’s happening or what you see.
I believe her. It’s cruel to the people saying that they don’t believe her. If this was YOUR life imagine how awful it would be for people to tell you you’re lying about what you experienced.
Someone replied trying to disprove childhood memories with “google research” and then deleted their response so I’m going to reply anyways as I’m sure they’re scouring the comments looking for confirmation bias:
As someone who studied psychology & child development, I can tell you as someone who literally experienced memories from being younger than 3 that it is possible but it is as of right now considered an anomaly. It CAN happen. And no, I didn’t say an infant can remember in the way you can remember what you ate yesterday. Infants & toddlers don’t have enough understanding of what’s going on to remember that way, but they are absorbing everything in their environments. Sounds, smells, touch, taste. They’re learning EVERYTHING at those ages.
Hence why a lot of children who are sexually abused very young will display signs of it into toddler ages and beyond. Even your body remembers what happened to you.
You are thinking “memory” as adult formed memories. Not early development memories.
Even if I myself did not experience this, I would not discredit another person because anything is possible and science is ever-changing.
I say all of this respectfully to you, but you are wrong.
@@sagewestbrook8873you pretty much said the same thing. So how is it "wrong"? My 1st memory that I've been able to keep my entire life, since 2 years old, was sitting at the bottom of the stairs that led out the back door of our home. I was feeding a billy goat bread. It's only a few seconds that I can remember. I know I was really enjoying it. I had a psychologist tell me that when we have a strong feeling of emotion, it tends to help us hold onto that memory. If having the time of my life can help me remember something merely days after turning 2, then why can't someone going through horrific abuse remember because of the awful way it made them feel?
I know the details around my 1st memory, because after at 16, I had my 1st child, I was talking to my mom. I asked her if it was a real memory, or if I dreamed it or something? She couldn't believe I remembered that! She said it was about a week after my 2nd birthday. We lived out in a rural area. One of the farmers close by had a billy goat get loose. I was sitting at the bottom of the stairs eating a peanut butter sandwich. Mom had the back door open, and was watching me while she cleaned up the kitchen. She glanced away for a second, and when she looked back I was feeding this goat my sandwich. It kind of scared her, and she tried making it leave. But I asked if it could stay. So she sat beside me, and let me finish feeding it. I say that you are wrong, for telling her she's wrong.
He kept invalidating her and her experience!!! Even when she mentioned reading the reports. So frustrating.
My goddaughter and her sisters were as severely abused. My goddaughter, the youngest was abused since birth. She has developmental disabilities and will never mature mentally. Everything Regina has covered, my goddaughter experienced.
How dare anyone come At Regina!
@@Muva123 I know! I love Mark's content, but he wasn't getting the picture early on in this one!
No advice just admiration for her strength & resolve
Your body keeps score. All of you saying anything negative about her trauma, needs to go read that book.
Well, opinions on his theory, by other people in the field are not all agreeing, so people should just read as much as possible, not just 1 book.
Who wouldn’t have a negative mindset towards trauma?
yes, great book!
@@thematriarchy2075did you have some other book suggestions or did you just want to argue with her book suggestion? 🤔
I came here to say this
I doubt anyone will read this. I just want to validate that, although uncommon, some people can remember early childhood. I have memories from 2 and 3 years old. It sounds like people have dismissed this. I believe you
I believe her as well
I believe her as well and it’s true , I remember memories from when I was 3 years old
I have memories from 2 years old.
I read your comment and you are right! I remembered something from when I was 2 and my mom confirmed my memory one day!
The fact that people have the audacity to comment on this with anything but positive, encouraging words for Regina is disgusting. Her childhood was something out of a horror movie and the fact she is overcoming it and healing is amazing! Shes incredible! I have a 19 month old son and can't fathom why anyone would want to cause someone so full of innocence, any harm at all.
Trauma makes things memorable. NO need to justify her experience.
Yes, & the adrenaline that accompanies it makes the world look extra crisp, & the senses go on overload. In other instances, the mind blanks out because it's in survival mode, so can't remember things said or done during a traumatic event. It all just depends on the situation & what capacity the person holds to deal with it in the moment.
Everyone who's going to post something negative about Regina, like questioning her story, criticise her choices and so on, please leave it be.
She doesn't need that and it's not helpful at all
She needs to be met with understanding and love.
The details doesn't matter and whatever her struggles are, they're real.
So just be kind and treat her with the respect she deserves, please ❤️
Use me as a dislike button
Absolutely agree
AND I feel he's doubting her with his questions!
😂 thanks for letting everyone know what they can, and cannot say or express…😂
I definitely believe her. Trauma sticks in your mind. I can’t remember what I did yesterday but I can remember being assaulted as a child. She’s a strong woman. God bless her
This lady is so inspirational and intelligent and self aware ,she would be a great therapist
That's what my husband says! ❤️
I love mark’s work. One thing though. I briefly stopped the video. I know you interview everyday all day. Your work is amazing. You need more sleep mark. Many times the guests explain their stories and the questions you ask the guest have already explained these things. Sleep health etc = comprehension all your work cancels this out. But LISTEN PLEASE. Thank you for all your love and dedication. Ryan
You're right, I'm sure he knows it too.
..I've noticed Mark asking questions he's already asked too. I'm sure it's really easy to do that. I know I probably would too.
I noticed two or three x. Take a vacation Mark and no interviews. Just enjoy peace and quiet
@@luvyatubers Not to pile on, but I also have noticed. Some folks can't enjoy peace and quiet. Maybe Mark's brain needs a certain amount of chaos. My suggestion would be to go to a concert, or roller derby, or a wild art exhibit, something that still is stimulating, but doesn't relate to the work.
@@jodyjohnson2339 Sebastian Bach is back 80's hair band fans!
@@thematriarchy2075he should interview you 😂
What she is describing about her memories is called “implicit” memory. Those are the memories stored deep in the brain (limbic system). They work differently than explicit memories. Bruce Perry, Peter Levine, and Bessel Van Der Kolk have all written about it extensively.
Thank you for explaining this. I’m interested to learn more, grateful for the resources you’ve shared.
Other professionals in the field do not agree with those theories about memory, so people should read as much as possible about the subject, there's not 1 truth.
@thematriarchy2075
Most of life's truths are completely unbelievable. Imagine how hard it is to come out and talk about something so traumatic.. on top of that knowing most people won't understand how I remember things and disregard what I am saying as a lie. When I have nothing to gain in lying. It's hard!
I can't explain why I "remember" I say remember loosely because it's not the same as how I remember yesterday, or 10, 15, 20 years ago. It's like an encryption inside me. It's a part of who I am and always has been. The mind is a crazy thing! We may never understand is fully.
@@reginamoran1444 Hi Regina, i didn't comment about you, at all, as in not believing you. I am simply saying, that memories at 1 or 2 years old, are not actually memories, which doesn't mean that something didn't happen. I would read the research on 6600 people in England. ( Shazia Akhtar) Fictional First Memories. Fictional not meaning false, btw
To add: Did you read it? If so, what do you think?
@@reginamoran1444encryption. Yes. That word definitely resonates with me
My daughter remembers everything from age two. She is now 50 and she still remembers it all. And I don’t remember anything. It’s amazing. She was never abused or mistreated. Lived a very normal life. I can’t explain it.
I had an objectively bad childhood. I come here to empathize with those among us who've struggled like me. But, what this poor soul went through is so much worse than anything I've ever heard. I love you ma'am, whatever that's worth.
Her coping mechanism is phenomenal. She is so strong!
What a very intelligent, very self-aware, amazingly capable woman. She has it more together than many will ever be in their lives. Very impressive. So glad she has a great family now as she so deserves it.
Im so proud of Regina breaking the cycle and her Bravery for putting a face and voice for those who have been so horribly treated. Bravo beautiful, strong woman. You are a warrior and your rewards will only continue to multiply. When I hear these stories it makes me want to be a foster parent just to correct the horribles ones that are out there and to offer love to the poor innocent souls.
Amazing woman in more ways than one!!!👏👏👏 And she FORGAVE her Mom!!!🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
I agree. She is so brave. No child should endure these things. Her story will help others. It breaks my heart she had no one to reach out too.
Just bc you didn't go through something like this, you should not call her a liar.
There is no way Regina should have done as well as she has. This one brought tears to my eyes to just see how much she has struggled and overcome. No child should ever live as she described. She was abandoned in more ways than just family. This story reminds me of a young girl, Melisha Gibson, in Cleveland TN in the 70's that didn't turn out as well as Regina's life. I have never forgotten what was discovered with her struggles. Thanks.
Im sorry you had to experience this Regina.. sending a heartfelt hug. God bless❤
She became a diamond amongst all the stress and trauma. What an insightful beautiful woman ❤
It’s so hard to fathom that people can be so cruel. Regina strikes me as a highly intelligent, honest, and extraordinary woman who acted out in normal ways, considering her extremely abusive childhood. Everything she talked about regarding her actions made so much sense in light of her experiences. I will be praying blessings on Regina and her children.
I have watched almost every video Mark has posted and this is the most relatable one to my life story. I had very similar neglect and abuse all throughout my childhood. It’s easy to get lost in the anger and be a victim forever. I’m glad you’ve taken control of your life and your decisions and decided to be a better mother to your children than what was given to you. I think therapy is without question completely necessary if you’ve had any kind of trauma in your childhood. Being mindful and keeping grateful is also number one priority when you’ve had such chaos is your life. I love that being stable is your number one priority. I also feel the same.
Agreed. Very well said...
Trauma imprints differently on the memory. Everything she said- scent, noises, the colors, feelings, learned behavior, details that in a happy situation eating ice cream wouldn’t imprint in a small memory, I was also abused at 2 I know what the room looked like, I know the scent, the furniture, I know what I saw , I know what the room felt like. I may not remember his face but I know his shape, his actions and more.
I think ladies like you and Regina are extraordinary. You've come through the fire. You are both like the Phoenix. Peace to both
Same. I'm from Minneapolis so for some reason this hit me in the gut. I was abused, too. You're a strong woman! 💜
" No mud , no lotus " (things cultivated out of a lot of crap often turn out to be the most beautiful, as are you ) Well done for breaking the cycle !I ❤️
Finally someone from where I’m from. Grew up with the same trauma no sexual abuse but man physical abuse and emotional abuse took a toll on me. Grew up in Minnesota foster care myself . I pride you for being a great person after all you’ve been through. My childhood was extremely similar
I really think you are actually doing well, Regina. You are truly special, and your children will make you proud!
What an absolute angel on earth. So strong minded and intelligent even as a child. Breaking these generational trends. Just wow
What a beautiful portrait of resilience and courage .
Her inner dialogue post traumas was her holding her own hand and reassuring her future self that there was a compassionate witness.
She was singularly that for herself.
Her inner soliloquy saved her soul from the dungeon mentality trap that sinks so many.
Impressive human being . .
“There are so many beautiful things in life.” And you, Regina, are beautiful.
I am finding a great deal of wisdom and courage in and through these past many interviews you are doing, Mark. Such courage in these individuals. Not getting crushed, or completely wiped out by very difficult, and horrible circumstances in their childhoods. But turning these hard and painful things for growth, and then for the benefit of others. Their choices and lives, their sharing, is so inspiring.
You have a beautiful soul Regina, I wish you and your family the best, thank your for sharing your story.
i have watched hundreds and hundreds of these videos and i just wanna say this is the first time in a very long time I have felt inspiration from a story. I love the fact that you have been resilient and do not want to be a victim and want better for yourself. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
Your childhood was heartbreaking 💔 you are an exemplary example of how to turn things around. Wishing you & your family only the best as you so deserve it.
I am so glad she mentioned early memories. I remember things since I was two years old. I am glad I am not alone! People never believed me, so I stopped talking about it.
What a great story. They say one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids is to be a happy parent (without drugs), and despite your horrible upbringing, you are so resilient and inspiring.🤗🤗🤗
Thank you, Regina. You are so powerful, beautiful, true. I can see in your face and your mannerisms how difficult this was to recount. Your memories as an infant are absolutely understandable, you don’t owe any explanation to anyone. Your body keeps the score. I can see that you have so much raw emotion, heart, you recalling memories like it was yesterday, yet you also talk about growth and motherhood in such a beautiful and selfless way. You’ve learned from your life like we all should. You are a victim but you don’t play victim. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for such a beautiful comment.
I appreciate what you said so much more than you can ever imagine.
I want to keep speaking about it to raise awareness of how your body can remember. So many don't realize how real that is! ❤
I also have memories since I was 3 years old. More triggering the trauma responses is, more traumating the event was so the brain remembers it to because is PTSD triggered over and over. She is right. Plus stories told are also keeping memories..
So true .
I have positive and negative memories pre 3 years old. They are sensory, visual , tactile. My brother died of SIDS on my way to preschool when I was 3 . I remember the event with perfect recollection . I shared the memory with my Mother as an adult. She confirmed the events. In fact she was so traumatized by the loss my memories helped her revisit the day with multiple perspectives .
1) Trauma is stored in the body, not just in memories
2) Traumatic memories often make a bigger impact than regular memories, for survival reasons
I don't like how Mark was expressing such disbelief at her saying she has memories of her early early trauma :/
That's one thing I still have trouble explaining. It's not typical memories. It's an encryption inside me that haunted me a lot when I was younger. It lived in me, and I have since learned to cope with it, but it's always there. When it comes out, it is the physical feelings of a man touching me and mumbling some vile things. The whole time, I feel helpless and stiff, like a child!
Thank you for your comment by the way!
@@reginamoran1444 Oh hi! Thanks for responding. I wanna let you know that you telling your story impacted me significantly. You're really very special and impressive for your capacity for forgiveness and survival. The strength of will and goodness you possess is such a beautiful testament to your character, and to the potential for humanity in general to choose life and love despite the odds. Thank you for being who you are, and for being so brave in sharing your story. I felt such a sense of happiness and somehow pride when you were talking about how you have created this normal and stable life. I guess as a woman, it always makes me happy to see other women win.
But yeah, trauma is intense. "The Body Keeps the Score" is a great book on that. I hope that you are in therapy, though that's not my business.
I also hope that you accept and revel in every single expression of love and comfort and support that you get from the people in your life who love you.
@@reginamoran1444 I've noticed that sometimes people have a hard time believing or understanding when I tell parts of my story. Usually it's because my reality is so far away from anything they've experienced, they can't comprehend the dysfunction. I usually just think to myself that I'm sorta glad that they don't/can't understand, cuz it means they haven't been traumatized in the way that I have, and just don't talk to them about it anymore cuz they don't get it.
You shouldn't have had to justify your reality so much in this video, but I think that you explained it well. Some ppl just won't get it I guess.
Goodness she’s one of the most self-perceptive and wise women. Amazing to watch. Truly miraculous.
Regina, I have so much respect for you and your strength. I can't imagine what you've endured. Happy that you're living the life *you* *deserve*
Regina, You are amazing. Please do not feel guilt over things you couldn't change. You are incredible and strong, and you broke the cycle of abuse.
Some people do have memories from a very young age. It’s pretty incredible.
I’m like her, I present well and people think I’m completely fine but I’m dealing with a lot from my childhood and young adult. I’m happy she’s going to therapy. It’s been so helpful for me.
I know a lot of people are giving her a hard time about remembering. I have wanted to be interviewed by Mark because i have a very long memory that goes back to around 2. I just feel like when youve gone through a lot of trauma the memories are either surpressed or like with me i can play it back like a video. A therapist said this is very normal. I can recall a lot of things. No matter what you think of her story, just know we dont know what its like for someone else unless youve lived there life. I hope she continues to live life she wants ❤
I remember a ton from my early years, being in a big blue bassinet stroller my mum had out front of our building , my parents painting and wall papering my room as a baby , being in my crib with my dresser next to it where I could reach my bottle.. that entire apartment my parents had and the fact my dad had porn magazines everywhere, which exposed me to sex as a very small child , babysitters I had so many memories, more than other periods of life ,like I don't remember much from 7-10
Well said...
@@izzydeadyet7336I believe you...
Such a tough upbringing, but a beautiful young woman. Hope the scars dissolve over time.
The last minute of this interview is full of a lifetime of inspiration for living every second to the fullest. What an amazing lady!
You’re an incredible person. Your children are lucky to have you as their mother.
Huge applause to her! She really had a guardian angel with her through everything she has been through! She is very wise and smart. I am curious to know more about her brothers & sister! I hope they are well and they all have a relationship with each other!!!
Girl so proud of you. You deserve stability and happiness. You like the feeling hungry because it was something you could control in your childhood. So sorry for this abuse. My cousin had similar experiences and also made it to adulthood happy
That was really great. Minnesota native here too! I’m glad you have such a positive attitude but I am sorry you had such a terrible childhood. ❤️🩹
I just wish I could give you the biggest hug ever. I am So impressed by your survival strategies - Love and best wishes for you and your childrens future, from Copenhagen, Denmark
Oh Regina ❤️ Your life is uniquely your own but I just want to let you know that I went through similar circumstances and you're not alone.
CPTSD
CHILDHOOD PDST
IS A Real THING.
I AM LEARINF ABOUT IT NOW.
Bless your soul.....thank you Mark ❣️
My adopted daughter was removed from her biological family at 4 years old. She has vivid memories of her biological family, even things like, "I don't eat grilled hot dogs, I only eat boiled hotdogs." But in the last ten years she has lived with me, I have never boiled a hot dog. Many things randomly taking her right back to living with them.
I can't find the words to express my soo deep feelings,, reaction.
My mom was a social worker when I was a kid. I didn't realize how important her job was, and cps just, broke her heart, but she continued.
This lady is one incredible person.
Thank you for your video.
I am sorry for all you have endured. When you mentioned the lice and the shame you carry, it breaks my heart. Your mom could have helped you but she didn't. She wouldn't hug you, so heartbreaking. It hurts so badly to be neglected. You are right about how other people take advantage of those that are injured. You are wise and you will continue to heal.
To begin, thankyou Mark for offering this platform for people to feel safe to,share this narrative . Regina is heroic. To,have survived her upbringing and experiences is beyond real understanding. I csn hear her reticence in her voice. I believe every recollection she shared. I want to somehow honour her courage. How can we do that?
No advice just admiration for her strength and determination to be a better woman
This is one of the most inspirational stories I’ve heard on this channel. She is amazing and I deeply admire her for breaking the cycle she was raised in and continuously working on healing from her past. That is not an easy thing to do. So much respect for her.
Self parenting is relatable. Very self aware individual.
Sad not every one has it, wishing we all could break the cycle
Im 35 too and im not sure where id be if i were in your place.. u are so special and so unique in every way just looking at your hands and the way u are moving them means something.
U are gorgeous my friend god bless u ❤️
Wow I love that “I look forward to even the small things like tomorrow I get to drink a Diet Coke.”… amazing coping skills God bless you girl, you are amazingly strong I’m so proud of how you came out on the other side.. just blown away !! 👏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻🌹🌹
You do remember abuse as an infant. I certainly do. I keep thinking about mine, and I'm 59.
Same with my mom
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Regina is awesome! What a powerful human being. She made things better for herself all on her own, a great example for those who feel like they’ve lost control in life
She is a true wonder to have overcome all of this. What a lovely woman. She should be so proud of herself.
I’m definitely very proud of her! She’s a very good friend of mine 😊
@@jessicachambers2168RB! I love you! ❤️
Such a strong woman despite all she passed trough. She was born with this special emotional intelligence
Regina, you are an amazing woman. Out of the ashes, you have become a phoenix. I hope you are proud of yourself of all you have done for yourself and your family. They are lucky to have you. Thank you for sharing your story and I pray the rest of your life is blessed.
Regina , I pray for healing from all that you have been through. You are amazing to have survived those moments. Thank-you for sharing your testimony ❤❤❤
God bless you with healing and peace! memory is so weird. Some trauma survivors don’t remember anything and others have laser focused memories because of traumatic events. I have siblings that can remember back to two years old - some friends remember being in a crib - the heart has memory cells. Whether the memory is exact or not the result from the trauma is embedded in the memory
Crib for me! The human brain is wild, isn't it.
Your gods a superstition!
What you said, that when you have kids your life isn’t as important as theirs, that’s what matters most. That is the secret to enjoying your life as you age, if you sacrifice your life to ensure you raise a solid balanced child, and I don’t mean you stop enjoying your own life as well. But the greatest rewards in life come from the sacrifices we make for our offspring.
You can absolutely can remember things from 2 3 years old depending on child
I'm still thinking about your story two weeks after seeing and hearing this. May you receive All the love and care in the universe for you and your siblings.
Thank you so much. That means a lot! ❤❤
@@reginamoran1444 I know yours is a difficult story to tell, and Mark was having an off day but just know that many of us were following everything you said and lived that moment with you.
incredible composure for someone thats been to hell and back.
Thank you for your video. I have gross young child memories in my head that I haven't yet resolved as right from wrong but - whatever. As well as young adult. As I grow older, the effects of them become more drastic. I always feel like I'm doing something wrong.
I'm sorry about what you were put through. You're very open, honest, composed, accomplished and I'm glad that you made it through all of this.
I have very clear memories of early childhood trauma it’s something you can’t forget no matter how young
I remember before I turned 3 when I was in foster care. I remember playing on a seesaw and how the foster mom was so mean she would always call me fat (I wasn’t) and she’d give the other kids food but not me. I remember when my mom would visit me and she’d bring me balloons with strings attached to play with and bounce around during our visits together. I remember my third birthday. I think it’s actually more common than people realize especially for those who have been through trauma
She is that most intelligent & inspirational Woman,, she went
Hell and changed her life ,
God bless you Regina
Your a warrior, the strongest among us. Thank You for telling your story. What a beautiful soul. God sees you and your beautiful light. He will hold you and your family close, always.
Her story takes me back to my own childhood .. I have some similar memories too. I remember many times as a kid thinking " I'm never going to raise my kids this way".
She's a very brave and very strong lady thank you for your truth it helped me feel less alone ❤
Awesome and courageous testimony. Really enjoying the new variety of videos. Thank you Mark. Peace for you Regina❤
I read the comments and I'm not ready to watch this video. Not yet. I hope you find your grounding, Regina, and the stability you so crave. I just kind of numbed my way through life so far and I've done well enough, but much like you, I also made a conscious decision: to keep lifting my stone, and put it in every effort possible to not hand it over to my children. Wish you all the best.
The Audacity of a Family member to be a Cycle Breaker. Kudos to you!!!!
Thank you for sharing your story. You have been through so much horrible abuse in your life and came out on top and that is something to be proud of yourself for. You have stopped the cycles of abuse you went through for your kids and worked on you as well as you go through life. What an amazing accomplishment. Your so strong and inspiring to others. Keep shining. Much love
Megan
So much resilience and strength❤ im so grateful you have a happy life and made it thru all that happened to you
I can't imagine what some children go through.
I wish you find peace. And remember never quit seeing a professional like trauma therapist. Stay away any kind of stress and tension. Do sports. Get depression drug like ssri's for your anxiety which is extremely important for you. Because if you dont get over anxiety, then you will lose your mental health without knowing it which is horrible. You are a warrior i admire you and i feel you. And also you are very much smart.
Regina, sending care and hugs, sister. I know how you feel. God bless you. Never stop loving you. It's so important for those of us to love the child inside of us that was neglected, abused and unloved. You take care sweetheart. Hugs from Nanabear in Texas.❤
wow, chills the entire video. I'm so sorry what you and your siblings went through, my gosh. :(
As an abuse survivor, I can assure you depending on the type and severity of abuse you can carry abuse memories in utero. Scientifically and psychologically this is factual and she explained this beautifully. I am glad she stood strong on this fact and glad to see her moving forward.
I believe every word she said. Some things, some psychological coping mechanisms she talked about, you can't make them up. I know they're real
Agreed
I am so sorry this is the way you were brought into the word. Sending you so much love and light and positivity and healing energy
What an admirable woman and person! To get sane and mentally and physically well after everything she's been through...you have to have a strength and intelligence above average.
Saw Reginas photography. Absolutely majestic. Her photos tell a story, and captures time. Theres a calmness one is left with her work.
Thank you for taking the time to check it out. I appreciate it. I really try because art has always helped me.
Wow, what a remarkable life, Regina. I love your takeaway - despite the ugly, it is still a beautiful world. Thank you for seeking it and thank you for sharing your story. ♥️
You brought so much to light for me for things I would act out as a child.
one of the most beautiful interviews. what a magnificent human
Thank you so much! ❤️
Poor girl, I'm crying by listening to her story.
I'm so proud of u, u are amazing.
God please dont get pregnant if u are using alcohol or drugs...
These little kids are paying a huge price for it, so much pain in their hearts.