Kaylyn, you didn't grieve your parents' death because you grieved their absence of unconditional love when they were alive. This retelling of your loveless youth has been terrible to hear. No child should go through this. You are incredibly strong to go through not only with your parents but also the loss of your baby. Listening to you sob over your baby was so heartbreaking 💔 You are absolutely incredible.
That’s so insightful! Grieving doesn’t always take place when someone dies…. Sometimes it happens when you have to accept a ‘loss’ of a living person. Alzheimer’s is the same way. The person doesn’t necessarily die when they actually die… the grieving process happens when who they once were is gone.
I have never wanted to reach through this screen and hug someone tighter than this woman. Kaylyn’s story resonated so much with me as a child of an alcoholic attending AA with my dad. Drinking black coffee out of my sippy cup because that was the only thing to drink and being a victim of extreme emotional neglect. You are not alone Kaylyn and thank you for the reminder that I am also not alone. Thank you so much.
I also grew up going to AA meetings. My experience was very positive. My Mom has been in recovery for 28 years. She got sober when I was 4 and I’m so proud of her. I feel like this made me very aware of addiction and I’m grateful for that.
I also had a very positive experience going to AA meetings as a child. The regulars were good to us, we got to eat anniversary cake lol, one of the meeting spots was a bingo hall and my sister and I would spend the hour collecting bingo chips in Styrofoam cups lol. I remember telling my parents "I hope when I grow up I get to go to AA too!" They looked at me sadly and said "Oh baby I hope you never have to." I didn't get it. Why didn't they want that sense of community for me? But as I grew up I understood the seriousness of AA and recovery. I still appreciate everything AA gave my dad. It gave him pride and a sense of purpose. It gave him his closest friendships. It made him a better person. He also met my mom in the rooms so if not for AA I wouldn't be here lol.
This is what I was gonna say I was very active in the program when I first got clean and my sponsor brought her son to meetings when she couldn't get a sitter like it's better to stay sober and bring the kid than not. And also it's not a bad environment everyone is super nice to the kids that have to come like this title is very misleading on what it is like when kids have to goto meetings with their parents when they are little
I'm so sorry Kaylyn has experienced so much trauma. I so wish everyone touched by addiction could find recovery. I started going to AA in 2001, stayed very active in it, stayed sober too. I took my young son to AA meetings when necessary too (when I didn't have a sitter, etc.) as I knew he would be much better off having a sober mom. He says it was all positive for him and he learned about addiction - and life - and has always been wise beyond his years. He has chosen for himself not to drink or do drugs. I did not suggest that to him, but he knew the dangers and made that decision for himself. He's now a very well-adjusted, awesome 27 yr old and I'm 23+ years sober. I'm incredibly grateful for the fellowship, and I know he feels the same. I wish only good things for Kaylyn; she's faced enough already in her young life.
I also grew up going to a meetings and if anything it was like scared straight😂😂 definitely got the message across but now as an adult and I know other people in AA, my dad was taking me to the worst meetings in town😂😂
A court ordered therapist told my mother she was preparing her kids to be addicts by taking them to meetings, I realize it's not like that for everyone and I guess it showed me reality and empathy at a young age but if you don't prioritize recovery it's just a bunch coffee drinking 13th stepping alcoholics nothing inherently wrong with that but definitely not a place for children
This story is so inspirational. And the fact that she has just lost a child so recently. For her to be standing is nothing short of a miracle. You deserve nothing but absolute joy and peace. Your daughter is the luckiest girl in the world
In hope that other see this. As an adult that has received therapy for YEARS. Going in 20 years of therapy. Remember. Your childhood trauma happened in you childhood. You are an adult now. You make your own choices and define your future. It’s okay to let go. And move on. If this channel has taught us anything, it’s we are all suffering. You’re not alone. Your suffering isn’t unique. It dosnt mean it’s not valid but it means we can grow and succeed.
Thank you for sharing Kaylyn. You are such a well spoken young woman. I was transfixed as you told your story. I was the adult child of alcoholics too. I also lost a baby in the same manner you did. When you described those moments in the NICU, I was transported back in time. To the memory of being unable to stay awhile and hold my baby after he died in my arms, and the regret, and the grief I felt after. I know how you feel. I didn't think I could bear to carry on, yet here I am today, a 70 yr old grandma. Hang on tight to what you love Kaylyn... your animals, your daughter and husband. You will be ok. I know you will.❤️
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate the encouragement. I know I will be okay too, though some days I have to be intentional in reminding myself that the grief, which ever comes in waves (as you know), will pass too, that the pain will dull will time and distance from my daughter's death. I am sorry for the loss of your child. I know it is a pain that stays deep within a parent's heart always. Especially as a mother. I see you. - Kindly, Kaylyn
When she mentions "Whats eating Gilber Grape" I knew exactly what she was talking about, the scene when the mom dies. Bless her heart she has been through so much and not much time to process things before something else happens.
Her story about losing her second daughter was remarkably moving and actually quite unrelated to the title of the video and the chaos of her early life. Just an “ordinary” person experiencing extraordinary circumstances. My heart goes out to her. She is a very moving story teller and I’m happy she’s found peace and happiness as she’s gotten older.
She just confirmed for me that human beings are extraordinary. Our capacity to love. To forgive. To break cycles for ourselves and our children. I’ve been watching for a long time and this was by far, the most human I’ve ever seen a person. She is the epitome of “bittersweet” which is the best feeling in life. Realizing that things come full circle if you pay attention and allow yourself to heal. What a glorious interview filled with real life.
I'm happy for Kaylyn. She found purpose in life after all the trauma she had to face since childhood. I wish her a happy and fulfilling life with her family ❤
Kaylyn, if you’re reading these comments, I hope you know how beautiful, resilient, and inspiring of a person you are, inside and out. You have been faced with the toughest circumstances and yet you are still so full of love and warmth for your husband and daughter. Thank you for sharing your story. Please keep going, no matter what ❤
I’m seeing this for the first time. My mother also died from a Glioblastoma. Terrible way to go. It changed her personality and she tormented my brother. So please know she didn’t hate you. You had all of this stress as a very young lady and your step dad was wrong to speak with you that way. God bless
Such a great guest Kaylynn is! She’s really got a gift of speaking so well, so riveting, yet so heartbreaking! 💔 I hope and pray she will keep healing with her great husband , and little girl now! Some of us go through trauma basically alone as a child feeling responsible for others well being, worried, and sad, but it’s life unfortunately here on Earth. Your parents would be sad, but so proud of how you’ve rose above all your obstacles, and now just try to live in the moment and have joy, love, and Peace!🌟💯✨🙏♥️
Wow, what a girl.. Lovely inside and out. I'm a big tough English builder and I cried like a baby.. God bless this family,.. Love from England... . James...
I wish people would think twice before picking a life partner and that they would work on their trauma and mental issues before willingly or unknowingly starting a family. It becomes a never ending cycle and isn't fair to the child who grows into adulthood with so much trauma to deal with. Luckily Kaylyn realized this but MANY either don't ever become self aware of their issues or they go into denial mode, which is even more damaging to them and those around.
without old school mentors, there is no hope....sadly. once in awhile. child finds inner skills to parent themselves. break the cycle. it is too rare in society tho. I often wonder how children in third world, horrid conditions with no resources grow and function. are children in the western world expecting too much? have too much time becoming entitled instead of figuring out how to find the next meal for themselves and siblings? comparing isn't apples to oranges, I know... but still...it is a wonder. toss drugs/alcohol into the mix....really...where is the answer? even mentors have the fear of false accusation now. well...this was depressing 😕 😔 😢
For Kailyn to have gone through so much trauma in her life and then end up okay. Hopefully it will give others who have been through similar trauma who are still struggling hope that things can change. I grew up in a dysfunctional family where my dad was alcoholic and my mom did what she needed to do to keep things together. Us kids were traumatized and I feel like I still struggle to this day with issues . Made efforts through the years with ACOA and something called co-counseling. But I feel my trauma pales in relation to what Kaelyn went through . I'm 69 years old now and would like some sort of peace going forward. I recently have read up on psychedelics and DMT. And what I have read that these Therapies have made great changes for many. And Kaelyn made the point that her life took a whole new Direction after Therapies with DMT and psychedelics. I just wish Kaelyn would have expanded and spoke a little more at length on those Therapies. Or it would be great for Mark to have more people on and interviewed they have gone through these Therapies.
the reason why we dont is because we dont have good role models in our lives to begin with raised by wolves we are lost and therefore gravitate to the familiar
Kalyn carried a lot on her shoulders as a child. She should have had some one in her corner to explain the changes in her childhood. She certainly was mature enough to know her family was dysfunctional.
I've watched hundreds of swu interviews and this is the only one where it's actually made me cry. Telling you how strong you are or I'm proud of you doesn't help. Instead I wish you continuous joy in nature.
I can’t even describe how helpful this interview was to me, especially the last 5 or 10 minutes of the video, with regard to grief, the desire and choice to be whole again. I was a NICU nurse for 12 years and I’ve seen many situations of heartbreaking loss of an infant. Thank you for sharing your story, I wish you all the best!
This was one of, or maybe THE most, equally tragic and touching interview I've seen on this channel. Her beliefs at the end about wholeness and finding joy are so profoundly beautiful. I wish her nothing but peace and happiness.
This woman. I cannot express the deep sorrow of condolence I have for her. My love and strength and perseverance pour out of me like tidal waves seeking this woman and her family. Thank you for sharing your incredible story.
First off this is probably top of the best story telling videos I’ve seen. The way Kaylyn told her story made me feel like I was there with her. Such a traumatic childhood and yet she loved so hard. My heart goes out to her. I pray her life going forward is as beautiful as she . GOD bless her always🌸
What an amazing life this woman has been living- what fortitude to keep going, to keep believing in love and loving, and to find the places that heal in a wholesome way. This retelling is eloquently told. Beautiful. Bless this family.
I have certainly gotten emotional while watching these interviews but this is the first time I’ve been in tears. This woman has been through more than I can bare to imagine and she’s still standing.
God bless you Kaylyn. You're a beautiful soul. I love how you said you really just wanted to be a whole person and you have to choose to do that. Truer words were never spoken.
This really got to my heart. I just wanted to reach out and hug Kaylyn. What a beautiful soul. praying for her and her family. So brave of her to be interviewed.
Kaylyn, Thank you for sharing your life experience and for your closing message. I wasn't prepared for hearing about the loss of your baby girl. My little boy died at 5 mo. old after open heart surgery. This was 44 yrs. ago and I was a 20 yr old mother. Even though I picked myself up and moved on, experiences like yours take me back to the heartwrenching pain of loss. I'm glad to have had him, held him and nurtured him with love. It is so true death is a part of life. I wholeheartedly love your message about choosing not to play the role of a victim from all that you've lived through. We stand up and choose our way in life. I wish more people could embrace that. Mark, Thanks for giving us all the chance to hear Kaylyn's inspiring life story.
Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story! I felt every word, and want to say that God has imparted to you healing and such a strong resilency... God bless you always.
Kaylyn, you did a beautiful job sharing your life. I didn’t want to miss a word. I’m so impressed how you’ve chosen happiness in spite of all the trauma you’ve lived through. You’re an inspiration. Keep telling your story and please come back to tell us more. Love to you from Muskegon ❤️❤️❤️
I had a very similar upbringing. I also spent years going to aa and na and alanon meetings as a child. Our parents were the same, alcoholics and drug addicts, rehabs, jails, disability, alcoholic grandparents, just eerily similar. God bless this beautiful woman. I would love to sit down and talk with her sometime.
Great story! Loved how you've turned adversity into triumphant in your spiritual journey... There's no right, or wrong way to experience grief... But something that definitely IS a part of life... God bless you and your sweet family.. Amelia is STILL a part of your family. She just watching over now, and I bet she's proud! Hopefully, your mom and dad too! You were an amazing daughter!
What a great interview...you don't have to choose to be haunted by your own traumatized past. She is living her best life. Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊
Through all of her tragedy over and over again, she demonstrates incredible resiliency, and such a unshakable will to overcome whatever life is thrown at her. I really hope that she is able to enjoy some peace and a life that isn’t so strenuous. sending so much love to her she is a lovely person.
You are so strong and such an inspiration I hope that your daughter will watch this one day and truly be able to use this as the tool it is. Thank you for sharing.
What an exceptionally beautiful woman in every respect possible. Strong, aware, 'here' and eloquent. Very, very, very impressive. Hope you get to tackle all of it even further! Love and a hug!
Umm, terrifying how similar our stories are, also considering my own was taking place directly east of Cape Coral (Hollywood). My sisters and I went through opioid-crisis-hell; feeling something deep listening to this one. None of us deserved that shit. Much love to you, Kaylyn ❤️
Kaylyn, I just want to give you a hug. You are an inspiration to me. I cannot wait for the day that you are reunited with your sweet angel baby. You deserve all of the best things in live. 🩵
This is honestly one of the most beautiful interviews I’ve ever seen. I really commend you, Kaylyn. Life has handing you some incredibly shitty cards but I absolutely admire the fact that you were able to come back from all you’ve faced and your ability to stay positive through it all. You’re a beautiful soul (and person) and I wish you nothing but the best. Continue to shine 💕
You know I only heard Mark ask two questions. You kept your story rolling! God Bless you for picking yourself up and realizing that you DO make choices to appreciate the now and not be weighed down by the past.
Her father is a legend. Im 43 and trying to go back to school, people say yeah you know he just went back to school and got his shit together became an engineer and a 100 thousand a year salary, it is so not that easy and dude was addict on hard drugs, bi polar etc ... Really amazing body of work man, i salute you.
Kaylyn is a beautiful articulate soul. She has experienced so much trauma, too much for one person. But she has managed so well and so wisely. Perhaps she is an old soul. Blessings and hugs to her!
Wow, I have no words. This woman is amazing and has experienced so much pain. I cried when she described losing her baby. She is an inspiration of hope and resilience. I have so much respect for her.
Wow…. Thank you for sharing your story. I realized that it’s okay to move on from traumatic experiences and we have the power to choose to live a happy & healthy life. May God Bless you & your Amazing husband, your daughter is so blessed to have you all as parents. 🙏🏽
Wow.What a childhood!I don't know why she thought she had no purpose in life after having gone through so many life experiences!This is the kind of woman that would be great for any good business! I'm so glad that she's loving life now on her own beautiful farm.All the best for the future❤🙏
You brought me to tears. I can relate to parts of your life journey that are so excruciatingly painful. I admire your strength. Thank you for sharing the life lessons that were hard earned.
@@crazeekids9744 she didn't say that nobody else has been through hell. The " what aboutism" it is such a bizarre expression.. what does it matter it that this person commented unexpressed empathy and sorrow for Kaitlyn, but didn't express it for anybody else? This video isn't about anybody else. The only thing you have to add is, but still have others? Is that helpful or does it add to anything being discussed? Maybe you need some soul, searching to understand the discourse of the individual
@@Lilliesandlilacs my comment wasn’t to take anything away from this woman, but to add empathy to so many others who get hate. We all need more grace for each other.
@gregbrooks2841 I'm the woman in this interview. Please don't pity me. I have a really great life with a wonderful husband, daughter and some amazing friends. I'm definitely fortunate and blessed beyond measure in so many ways. Thanks for listening to my story.
You have been through hell. I have a good understanding of all the pain you have been through. You are a very strong woman. I lost a child and carried full term. It is not easy. I have a friend who went through hell with 3-year-old who got a liver transplant but died anyway. It was so hard for me to go see my friends in the children's hospital in Toronto. Their child was full of tubes and so fragile, it was heartbreaking. My brother's daughter was born with water on her head, she has the scars yet. You are an amazing strong woman. The Lord has blessed you both with one child. You have 1 child, be happy and don't put yourselves through this trauma again. You may be strong, but you have already been through so much. Use your experience and your life to help others like yourselves who have been or going through what you both have been through. Much loved and many blessings sent your way.
I have a friend who takes her 11 year old son, he grew up in the rooms. He is very intelligent, well adjusted and loves it. He's like a rockstar in the room He helps a lot too. Do you think it’s inappropriate?
@@katehudson6490he’s 11. You, nor he, nor his parent, knows what the implications will be on his wellbeing until he’s much older. Childhood trauma often doesn’t rear its head until people are in the late teens-20s. The rooms are a place a healing, but children do not have brains developed enough to process and understand the trauma and subjects that get discussed in the rooms. The kid might be fine. He also might not end up being fine, and one can’t make assumptions based on the way it appears they’re handling it right now.
**HUG** thank you for being so open with all of us. I just know you are being the best mother anyone could have asked for. As a mother to another know that you did the best anyone could have done. You went above and beyond to save your baby.
Hearing about the death of your baby made me cry my eyes out at work I am so sorry 😭 thank you for sharing your story. I love the way you talk about your husband & daughters ❤
Im so sorry about the loss of your child. We who have not suffered that, will never know your pain. Blessing to you and your whole family. Including the goats! 🐐
Wonderful interview and she told her story so thoughtfully. I hope she and her family have many years of happiness. This one really taught me some things.
Wow..! Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. An old timer in a.a. told me this "We are given a life we have. We get to choose what we make of it." Listening to your story just made me think about this saying. And your story is a testimony to that!
What an inspiration to anyone experiencing suffering. Thank you for sharing your story with such a beautiful spirit of hope! Many blessings to you and thank you Mark for sharing stories like Kaylyn's with the world.
“you have to chose to be whole”. I needed to hear that. You have to chose to not be your trauma, chose to forgive. The ultimate goal. Wishing you so much peace and I’m so sorry for your loss
We are pushing for you. You have come so far. Love has found you, and you have found joy, peace and real love. Certainly, it hasn't been all unicorns and balloons, but you gave your baby the best chance at life anyone could give. She's alive, just as everyone is, and you shall see her again. Hang in there, blessings are just waiting for you.❤
What an amazing lady! I really enjoyed listening to her story ❤ I hope she has the best life moving forward and I think its safe to say she can overcome anything. She is so strong ❤ Thanks for sharing Kaylyn x
Thank you so much for speaking about Choice. Choosing to live and choosing to not live as a victim. I often think about that when listening to Marks interviews. So thank for sharing your stories and speaking your truths
I’ve watched countless interviews on this channel. Being an addict myself , in & out of recovery. Being a mom myself , with my first child , my first baby , a boy , being in the NICU for 2 months because he was born a preemie. The doctors got him to 32 weeks & then helped me induce & I gave birth to this frail little baby boy. Now I have a daughter as well. But watching this. & all of the trauma I have been thru & knowing my kids have already endured some of this trauma as well - my WHOLE heart goes out to this mother. This woman. This young little girl. My heart goes out to you. I hope you feel the love that is flooding thru this feed , because it is genuine & it is real. May god bless you & your family. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this story , a story of your life. I wish there was so much more I could say or do. I related to every piece of your story , & It makes me feel so so safe to share my own story one day. Thank you. Just know. The little girl in me is hugging the little girl in you🩷🧘♀️🙏💕🙌🙏✨✨✨✨✨
@hannahgriffin2661 I’m the woman in this interview. I wanted to thank you for your loving words. Truly, your words touched me deeply. Thank you. I wish you and your family all the very best. May you have a lifetime of joy.
One of the best SWU videos I've ever watched. She's so eloquent about the painful and the beautiful moments. Just lovely.
Totally agree! What an incredible woman.
Kaylyn, you didn't grieve your parents' death because you grieved their absence of unconditional love when they were alive. This retelling of your loveless youth has been terrible to hear. No child should go through this. You are incredibly strong to go through not only with your parents but also the loss of your baby. Listening to you sob over your baby was so heartbreaking 💔 You are absolutely incredible.
That’s so insightful! Grieving doesn’t always take place when someone dies…. Sometimes it happens when you have to accept a ‘loss’ of a living person. Alzheimer’s is the same way. The person doesn’t necessarily die when they actually die… the grieving process happens when who they once were is gone.
@@Vanasse1 exactly! I learned of "ambiguous grief" some time ago while watching a different SWU video and someone had commented saying that.
Amen I couldn’t agree more
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theres no such thing as unconditional love though. everyone has a condition
I have never wanted to reach through this screen and hug someone tighter than this woman. Kaylyn’s story resonated so much with me as a child of an alcoholic attending AA with my dad. Drinking black coffee out of my sippy cup because that was the only thing to drink and being a victim of extreme emotional neglect. You are not alone Kaylyn and thank you for the reminder that I am also not alone. Thank you so much.
Thats ... BY FAR... the most emotional story I have heard in my life!! All best to the woman...
I didn't expect to listen to all of this but I am mesmerized and don't want her story to end. Healing is a choice - what a great philosophy.
I thought the same betsy
I also grew up going to AA meetings. My experience was very positive. My Mom has been in recovery for 28 years. She got sober when I was 4 and I’m so proud of her. I feel like this made me very aware of addiction and I’m grateful for that.
I also had a very positive experience going to AA meetings as a child. The regulars were good to us, we got to eat anniversary cake lol, one of the meeting spots was a bingo hall and my sister and I would spend the hour collecting bingo chips in Styrofoam cups lol. I remember telling my parents "I hope when I grow up I get to go to AA too!" They looked at me sadly and said "Oh baby I hope you never have to." I didn't get it. Why didn't they want that sense of community for me? But as I grew up I understood the seriousness of AA and recovery. I still appreciate everything AA gave my dad. It gave him pride and a sense of purpose. It gave him his closest friendships. It made him a better person. He also met my mom in the rooms so if not for AA I wouldn't be here lol.
This is what I was gonna say I was very active in the program when I first got clean and my sponsor brought her son to meetings when she couldn't get a sitter like it's better to stay sober and bring the kid than not. And also it's not a bad environment everyone is super nice to the kids that have to come like this title is very misleading on what it is like when kids have to goto meetings with their parents when they are little
I'm so sorry Kaylyn has experienced so much trauma. I so wish everyone touched by addiction could find recovery.
I started going to AA in 2001, stayed very active in it, stayed sober too. I took my young son to AA meetings when necessary too (when I didn't have a sitter, etc.) as I knew he would be much better off having a sober mom. He says it was all positive for him and he learned about addiction - and life - and has always been wise beyond his years. He has chosen for himself not to drink or do drugs. I did not suggest that to him, but he knew the dangers and made that decision for himself. He's now a very well-adjusted, awesome 27 yr old and I'm 23+ years sober. I'm incredibly grateful for the fellowship, and I know he feels the same.
I wish only good things for Kaylyn; she's faced enough already in her young life.
I also grew up going to a meetings and if anything it was like scared straight😂😂 definitely got the message across but now as an adult and I know other people in AA, my dad was taking me to the worst meetings in town😂😂
A court ordered therapist told my mother she was preparing her kids to be addicts by taking them to meetings, I realize it's not like that for everyone and I guess it showed me reality and empathy at a young age but if you don't prioritize recovery it's just a bunch coffee drinking 13th stepping alcoholics nothing inherently wrong with that but definitely not a place for children
She is incredibly well adjusted and self-aware.❤
This story is so inspirational. And the fact that she has just lost a child so recently. For her to be standing is nothing short of a miracle. You deserve nothing but absolute joy and peace. Your daughter is the luckiest girl in the world
In hope that other see this.
As an adult that has received therapy for YEARS. Going in 20 years of therapy.
Remember. Your childhood trauma happened in you childhood.
You are an adult now. You make your own choices and define your future.
It’s okay to let go. And move on.
If this channel has taught us anything, it’s we are all suffering. You’re not alone. Your suffering isn’t unique. It dosnt mean it’s not valid but it means we can grow and succeed.
I'm 41 and finally getting therapy. You have to find the right therapist, but it's worth it.
The title doesn’t nearly encompass what this interview covers. I wasn’t expecting to be so captivated. Loved this!
Agreed! Captivating is definitely the word for this. Pulled me in!
Thank you for sharing Kaylyn. You are such a well spoken young woman. I was transfixed as you told your story.
I was the adult child of alcoholics too. I also lost a baby in the same manner you did. When you described those moments in the NICU, I was transported back in time.
To the memory of being unable to stay awhile and hold my baby after he died in my arms, and the regret, and the grief I felt after.
I know how you feel.
I didn't think I could bear to carry on, yet here I am today, a 70 yr old grandma.
Hang on tight to what you love Kaylyn... your animals, your daughter and husband. You will be ok. I know you will.❤️
Very cool. God bless you!❤
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate the encouragement. I know I will be okay too, though some days I have to be intentional in reminding myself that the grief, which ever comes in waves (as you know), will pass too, that the pain will dull will time and distance from my daughter's death. I am sorry for the loss of your child. I know it is a pain that stays deep within a parent's heart always. Especially as a mother. I see you. - Kindly, Kaylyn
When she mentions "Whats eating Gilber Grape" I knew exactly what she was talking about, the scene when the mom dies. Bless her heart she has been through so much and not much time to process things before something else happens.
Life can be extremely difficult for some of us
Some of us live enough hardships for a dozen people.
Her story about losing her second daughter was remarkably moving and actually quite unrelated to the title of the video and the chaos of her early life. Just an “ordinary” person experiencing extraordinary circumstances. My heart goes out to her. She is a very moving story teller and I’m happy she’s found peace and happiness as she’s gotten older.
She just confirmed for me that human beings are extraordinary. Our capacity to love. To forgive. To break cycles for ourselves and our children. I’ve been watching for a long time and this was by far, the most human I’ve ever seen a person. She is the epitome of “bittersweet” which is the best feeling in life. Realizing that things come full circle if you pay attention and allow yourself to heal. What a glorious interview filled with real life.
She is very bright, beautiful and articulate. What an incredibly strong young woman❤
Thd opposite of that.
@@nebwachamp You appear to be tolling here. Pathetic!
I'm happy for Kaylyn. She found purpose in life after all the trauma she had to face since childhood. I wish her a happy and fulfilling life with her family ❤
Me too ❤
Kaylyn, if you’re reading these comments, I hope you know how beautiful, resilient, and inspiring of a person you are, inside and out. You have been faced with the toughest circumstances and yet you are still so full of love and warmth for your husband and daughter. Thank you for sharing your story. Please keep going, no matter what ❤
I’m seeing this for the first time. My mother also died from a Glioblastoma. Terrible way to go. It changed her personality and she tormented my brother. So please know she didn’t hate you. You had all of this stress as a very young lady and your step dad was wrong to speak with you that way. God bless
Such a great guest Kaylynn is! She’s really got a gift of speaking so well, so riveting, yet so heartbreaking! 💔 I hope and pray she will keep healing with her great husband , and little girl now! Some of us go through trauma basically alone as a child feeling responsible for others well being, worried, and sad, but it’s life unfortunately here on Earth. Your parents would be sad, but so proud of how you’ve rose above all your obstacles, and now just try to live in the moment and have joy, love, and Peace!🌟💯✨🙏♥️
Wow, what a girl.. Lovely inside and out. I'm a big tough English builder and I cried like a baby.. God bless this family,.. Love from England... . James...
I wish people would think twice before picking a life partner and that they would work on their trauma and mental issues before willingly or unknowingly starting a family. It becomes a never ending cycle and isn't fair to the child who grows into adulthood with so much trauma to deal with. Luckily Kaylyn realized this but MANY either don't ever become self aware of their issues or they go into denial mode, which is even more damaging to them and those around.
without old school mentors, there is no hope....sadly. once in awhile. child finds inner skills to parent themselves. break the cycle. it is too rare in society tho.
I often wonder how children in third world, horrid conditions with no resources grow and function.
are children in the western world expecting too much? have too much time becoming entitled instead of figuring out how to find the next meal for themselves and siblings? comparing isn't apples to oranges, I know...
but still...it is a wonder.
toss drugs/alcohol into the mix....really...where is the answer? even mentors have the fear of false accusation now. well...this was depressing 😕 😔 😢
@@Saer-s9uvery well said. I couldn't agree more. God bless us all.
I hope you have a beautiful day sweetheart
For Kailyn to have gone through so much trauma in her life and then end up okay. Hopefully it will give others who have been through similar trauma who are still struggling hope that things can change. I grew up in a dysfunctional family where my dad was alcoholic and my mom did what she needed to do to keep things together. Us kids were traumatized and I feel like I still struggle to this day with issues . Made efforts through the years with ACOA and something called co-counseling. But I feel my trauma pales in relation to what Kaelyn went through . I'm 69 years old now and would like some sort of peace going forward. I recently have read up on psychedelics and DMT. And what I have read that these Therapies have made great changes for many. And Kaelyn made the point that her life took a whole new Direction after Therapies with DMT and psychedelics. I just wish Kaelyn would have expanded and spoke a little more at length on those Therapies. Or it would be great for Mark to have more people on and interviewed they have gone through these Therapies.
Because you’re perfect?
the reason why we dont is because we dont have good role models in our lives to begin with raised by wolves we are lost and therefore gravitate to the familiar
Kalyn carried a lot on her shoulders as a child. She should have had some one in her corner to explain the changes in her childhood. She certainly was mature enough to know her family was dysfunctional.
Every morning I wake up I feel like I live a rough life within a hour.
I feel like I'm King of the world After Watching this channel.
We all have so much to be thankful for
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I've watched hundreds of swu interviews and this is the only one where it's actually made me cry. Telling you how strong you are or I'm proud of you doesn't help. Instead I wish you continuous joy in nature.
Likewise 😢
Thank you very much for your kind words. I appreciate you. I will continue to find my joy in nature and in my family. - Sincerely, Kaylyn
Thank you for telling your story. I cried so hard at the loss of your child. Bless you and your family.
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I can’t even describe how helpful this interview was to me, especially the last 5 or 10 minutes of the video, with regard to grief, the desire and choice to be whole again. I was a NICU nurse for 12 years and I’ve seen many situations of heartbreaking loss of an infant. Thank you for sharing your story, I wish you all the best!
This was one of, or maybe THE most, equally tragic and touching interview I've seen on this channel. Her beliefs at the end about wholeness and finding joy are so profoundly beautiful. I wish her nothing but peace and happiness.
This woman. I cannot express the deep sorrow of condolence I have for her. My love and strength and perseverance pour out of me like tidal waves seeking this woman and her family. Thank you for sharing your incredible story.
First off this is probably top of the best story telling videos I’ve seen. The way Kaylyn told her story made me feel like I was there with her. Such a traumatic childhood and yet she loved so hard. My heart goes out to her. I pray her life going forward is as beautiful as she . GOD bless her always🌸
What an amazing life this woman has been living- what fortitude to keep going, to keep believing in love and loving, and to find the places that heal in a wholesome way. This retelling is eloquently told. Beautiful. Bless this family.
I have certainly gotten emotional while watching these interviews but this is the first time I’ve been in tears. This woman has been through more than I can bare to imagine and she’s still standing.
Me too!! Lots of tears of compassion for her!!❤😭
Sending you love, beautiful lady. Thank you for sharing your story
God bless you Kaylyn. You're a beautiful soul. I love how you said you really just wanted to be a whole person and you have to choose to do that. Truer words were never spoken.
You deserved so much better. I’m sorry for all you’re suffering, thank you for allowing this woman to tell her story mark.
This really got to my heart. I just wanted to reach out and hug Kaylyn. What a beautiful soul. praying for her and her family. So brave of her to be interviewed.
I passed this up numerous times because of the title but am so happy I finally came back to it!!
You are the definition of perseverance. I’ve been through some shit too. But your story is very inspiring!
So articulate! Take care, I hope you and your family heal.
Kaylyn, Thank you for sharing your life experience and for your closing message. I wasn't prepared for hearing about the loss of your baby girl. My little boy died at 5 mo. old after open heart surgery. This was 44 yrs. ago and I was a 20 yr old mother. Even though I picked myself up and moved on, experiences like yours take me back to the heartwrenching pain of loss. I'm glad to have had him, held him and nurtured him with love. It is so true death is a part of life. I wholeheartedly love your message about choosing not to play the role of a victim from all that you've lived through. We stand up and choose our way in life. I wish more people could embrace that.
Mark, Thanks for giving us all the chance to hear Kaylyn's inspiring life story.
Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story! I felt every word, and want to say that God has imparted to you healing and such a strong resilency... God bless you always.
Kaylyn, you did a beautiful job sharing your life. I didn’t want to miss a word.
I’m so impressed how you’ve chosen happiness in spite of all the trauma you’ve lived through. You’re an inspiration. Keep telling your story and please come back to tell us more.
Love to you from Muskegon ❤️❤️❤️
Bless your sweet family. Such a tragic loss. Thank you for sharing your story. Prayers for peace and healing for a happy life
I had a very similar upbringing. I also spent years going to aa and na and alanon meetings as a child. Our parents were the same, alcoholics and drug addicts, rehabs, jails, disability, alcoholic grandparents, just eerily similar.
God bless this beautiful woman. I would love to sit down and talk with her sometime.
Great story! Loved how you've turned adversity into triumphant in your spiritual journey...
There's no right, or wrong way to experience grief...
But something that definitely IS a part of life...
God bless you and your sweet family..
Amelia is STILL a part of your family. She just watching over now, and I bet she's proud! Hopefully, your mom and dad too! You were an amazing daughter!
What a great interview...you don't have to choose to be haunted by your own traumatized past. She is living her best life. Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊
What a beautiful soul❤Her message is so important.
Through all of her tragedy over and over again, she demonstrates incredible resiliency, and such a unshakable will to overcome whatever life is thrown at her. I really hope that she is able to enjoy some peace and a life that isn’t so strenuous. sending so much love to her she is a lovely person.
You are so strong and such an inspiration I hope that your daughter will watch this one day and truly be able to use this as the tool it is. Thank you for sharing.
What an exceptionally beautiful woman in every respect possible. Strong, aware, 'here' and eloquent. Very, very, very impressive. Hope you get to tackle all of it even further! Love and a hug!
Umm, terrifying how similar our stories are, also considering my own was taking place directly east of Cape Coral (Hollywood). My sisters and I went through opioid-crisis-hell; feeling something deep listening to this one. None of us deserved that shit. Much love to you, Kaylyn ❤️
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I’m sorry Mama. It’s been a whole lot of too much. Sending you prayers and strength.
Kaylyn, I just want to give you a hug. You are an inspiration to me. I cannot wait for the day that you are reunited with your sweet angel baby. You deserve all of the best things in live. 🩵
Dear Kaylyn, I'm so sorry about all that happened to you, especially the loss of your baby. I wish you to be happy from my whole heart
Mark never sleeps
you do know that channels can schedule uploads right? ☝️🤓
@@MS-zs6qwty Einstein
@@MS-zs6qw ty Einstein
@@MS-zs6qwand he has thousands of videos we haven’t seen.
@@carmenroffano need to be sarcastic. She didn't say anything sarcastic so why add your 2 cents? 🤔
She tells her story so well. I really needed to hear the message at the end. Thank you ❤️
Wow-my heart aches for you. The tears shed watching this brought back my very early miscarriage & I hurt for the loss of your beautiful daughter.
I’m so proud of her 🤍 She went through so much, and she is so strong!!
Wow… you are such an amazing & strong woman kaylyn. I wish you and your family the most beautiful life filled with happy moments
This is honestly one of the most beautiful interviews I’ve ever seen. I really commend you, Kaylyn. Life has handing you some incredibly shitty cards but I absolutely admire the fact that you were able to come back from all you’ve faced and your ability to stay positive through it all. You’re a beautiful soul (and person) and I wish you nothing but the best. Continue to shine 💕
You’re incredibly incredibly strong. This is a beautiful story even as hard and dark as it is you shine through. Love you
You know I only heard Mark ask two questions. You kept your story rolling! God Bless you for picking yourself up and realizing that you DO make choices to appreciate the now and not be weighed down by the past.
Her father is a legend. Im 43 and trying to go back to school, people say yeah you know he just went back to school and got his shit together became an engineer and a 100 thousand a year salary, it is so not that easy and dude was addict on hard drugs, bi polar etc ... Really amazing body of work man, i salute you.
Thanks for your story.
Continue with greatness in your life!
Wish you all the best!
Her story broke my heart. 💔
Parents - Be good to your children.
Kaylyn is a beautiful articulate soul. She has experienced so much trauma, too much for one person. But she has managed so well and so wisely. Perhaps she is an old soul. Blessings and hugs to her!
@Tenacious1952 I am in the woman in this interview. Your comment made me smile. My mother always said I was born 40 and got older every year.
Wow, I have no words. This woman is amazing and has experienced so much pain. I cried when she described losing her baby. She is an inspiration of hope and resilience. I have so much respect for her.
Wow…. Thank you for sharing your story. I realized that it’s okay to move on from traumatic experiences and we have the power to choose to live a happy & healthy life. May God Bless you & your Amazing husband, your daughter is so blessed to have you all as parents. 🙏🏽
Wow, what a strong woman. Bless you, thank you for telling your story.
Wow.What a childhood!I don't know why she thought she had no purpose in life after having gone through so many life experiences!This is the kind of woman that would be great for any good business!
I'm so glad that she's loving life now on her own beautiful farm.All the best for the future❤🙏
You brought me to tears. I can relate to parts of your life journey that are so excruciatingly painful. I admire your strength. Thank you for sharing the life lessons that were hard earned.
Wow! This story is absolutely what I needed to hear this morning! Incredible message at the end!!
Hands down the coolest and most inspirational guest in SoftWhiteUnderbelly history❤ she has an amazing resilience that I wish I had!
Hearing this story was amazing. May God bless her with peace and happiness for her family!
This poor girl has been through hell I feel so bad for her.
A lot of the interviewees have. They just don’t express it as well because of repression or their addiction.
@@crazeekids9744 she didn't say that nobody else has been through hell. The " what aboutism" it is such a bizarre expression.. what does it matter it that this person commented unexpressed empathy and sorrow for Kaitlyn, but didn't express it for anybody else? This video isn't about anybody else. The only thing you have to add is, but still have others? Is that helpful or does it add to anything being discussed?
Maybe you need some soul, searching to understand the discourse of the individual
@@Lilliesandlilacs my comment wasn’t to take anything away from this woman, but to add empathy to so many others who get hate. We all need more grace for each other.
@gregbrooks2841
I'm the woman in this interview. Please don't pity me. I have a really great life with a wonderful husband, daughter and some amazing friends. I'm definitely fortunate and blessed beyond measure in so many ways. Thanks for listening to my story.
You have been through hell. I have a good understanding of all the pain you have been through. You are a very strong woman. I lost a child and carried full term. It is not easy. I have a friend who went through hell with 3-year-old who got a liver transplant but died anyway. It was so hard for me to go see my friends in the children's hospital in Toronto. Their child was full of tubes and so fragile, it was heartbreaking.
My brother's daughter was born with water on her head, she has the scars yet.
You are an amazing strong woman. The Lord has blessed you both with one child. You have 1 child, be happy and don't put yourselves through this trauma again. You may be strong, but you have already been through so much.
Use your experience and your life to help others like yourselves who have been or going through what you both have been through. Much loved and many blessings sent your way.
My brother and I grew up in the rooms with our mom on her attempts at getting sober. It's not a place for kids.
I have a friend who takes her 11 year old son, he grew up in the rooms. He is very intelligent, well adjusted and loves it. He's like a rockstar in the room He helps a lot too. Do you think it’s inappropriate?
I took my son as well when he was younger. Why would a place of help not be good for children, as you say??
I’ll be taking my kids if I ever have any
There are lots of variation on the rooms.
@@katehudson6490he’s 11. You, nor he, nor his parent, knows what the implications will be on his wellbeing until he’s much older. Childhood trauma often doesn’t rear its head until people are in the late teens-20s. The rooms are a place a healing, but children do not have brains developed enough to process and understand the trauma and subjects that get discussed in the rooms. The kid might be fine. He also might not end up being fine, and one can’t make assumptions based on the way it appears they’re handling it right now.
Jesus! This woman is the strongest woman out there! It is truly admirable! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
**HUG** thank you for being so open with all of us. I just know you are being the best mother anyone could have asked for. As a mother to another know that you did the best anyone could have done. You went above and beyond to save your baby.
Thank you for sharing your story! You are a strong beautiful women. A big hug to you and your family❤ Great interview,
God bless you on your journey to healing.
Hearing about the death of your baby made me cry my eyes out at work I am so sorry 😭 thank you for sharing your story. I love the way you talk about your husband & daughters ❤
Im so sorry about the loss of your child. We who have not suffered that, will never know your pain. Blessing to you and your whole family. Including the goats! 🐐
God bless you. You are meant to be here on this earth. What an amazing story. Your a strong woman
Wonderful interview and she told her story so thoughtfully. I hope she and her family have many years of happiness. This one really taught me some things.
Wow, what an amazing young lady. Mark, thank you for letting her speak. I wish her peace love and joy 🐐
Kaylin is so strong and wise! I'm sure she is an amazing mother.
The more and more i deal with people the more and more I love my pets
Exactly me ❤
Wow..!
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. An old timer in a.a. told me this "We are given a life we have. We get to choose what we make of it."
Listening to your story just made me think about this saying.
And your story is a testimony to that!
“Healing has to be a choice. If you want to be whole, you have to choose that and you have to do the work to heal.”
What an inspiration to anyone experiencing suffering. Thank you for sharing your story with such a beautiful spirit of hope! Many blessings to you and thank you Mark for sharing stories like Kaylyn's with the world.
“you have to chose to be whole”. I needed to hear that. You have to chose to not be your trauma, chose to forgive. The ultimate goal. Wishing you so much peace and I’m so sorry for your loss
We are pushing for you. You have come so far. Love has found you, and you have found joy, peace and real love. Certainly, it hasn't been all unicorns and balloons, but you gave your baby the best chance at life anyone could give. She's alive, just as everyone is, and you shall see her again. Hang in there, blessings are just waiting for you.❤
What an amazing lady! I really enjoyed listening to her story ❤ I hope she has the best life moving forward and I think its safe to say she can overcome anything. She is so strong ❤ Thanks for sharing Kaylyn x
Kaylyn, honey, you did everything and even beyond that. You did good. Bless you and your family. Sending love
What a remarkable woman, I think you most definitely do deserve your beautiful daughter ❤
What a great woman god bless her and her precious family.
Thank you so much for speaking about Choice. Choosing to live and choosing to not live as a victim.
I often think about that when listening to Marks interviews.
So thank for sharing your stories and speaking your truths
Heart breaking.
Thanks for sharing your story, and so sorry for the loss of your daughter.
I’ve watched countless interviews on this channel. Being an addict myself , in & out of recovery. Being a mom myself , with my first child , my first baby , a boy , being in the NICU for 2 months because he was born a preemie. The doctors got him to 32 weeks & then helped me induce & I gave birth to this frail little baby boy. Now I have a daughter as well. But watching this. & all of the trauma I have been thru & knowing my kids have already endured some of this trauma as well - my WHOLE heart goes out to this mother. This woman. This young little girl. My heart goes out to you. I hope you feel the love that is flooding thru this feed , because it is genuine & it is real. May god bless you & your family. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this story , a story of your life. I wish there was so much more I could say or do. I related to every piece of your story , & It makes me feel so so safe to share my own story one day. Thank you. Just know. The little girl in me is hugging the little girl in you🩷🧘♀️🙏💕🙌🙏✨✨✨✨✨
@hannahgriffin2661
I’m the woman in this interview. I wanted to thank you for your loving words. Truly, your words touched me deeply. Thank you. I wish you and your family all the very best. May you have a lifetime of joy.
Best interview on this channel by far.
A true warrior