Fact about this scene., I was a nurse in Louisiana years ago. Back in 2000, I became friends & worked with a nurse. As I got to know her & our friendship grew. She revealed to me that she was IN FACT the nurse in this clip. I was stunned. My friend was the the nurse in this heartbreaking scene. Her name is Sandra O'Conn. ...she is a real nurse & took care of Susan Harling Robinson before she died. In this movie they used actual nurses and doctors that cared for Susan Robinson. Whom this movie was written about ..by her brother Robert Harding . I write this to remind people that Steel Magnolias is a true story. In memory of Susan Robinson.
Thanks so much for saying this I didn't know it was based on a true story the actual Dr and nurse were in the movie I'm sure it's a honor for you to know the nurse. RIP MS. ROBINSON
@@Skimmylou it was always sad when I was a teen, but it hurt on a whole other level after I witnessed the death of both my grandparents and the birth of my nephew.
Interesting bits of trivia The doctors and nurses in this scene are not actors. They are the actual people who cared for the real "Shelby". The nurse who turns off the machine is the one who really turned off the machines And the real mom was on set that day watching the scene because, as she put it, "I wanted to see her get up and walk away"
I remember actually getting teary-eyed when she first picked up her son on the front porch and collapsed, because I just knew it would go all downhill from there. I hope I will never be put in a situation like this in my lifetime, I don't think I would have the strength to tell the doctors to turn off the machines.
That's something that haunted me in my nightmare regarding my paternal grandmother dying in 2000, which is why I suffer from nosocomephobia (meaning I have a fear of hospitals...REALLY MAJOR FEAR), and can't watch medical shows like ER, House, or Grey's Anatomy. You'd be surprised some people would probably see me playing the Trauma Center video games that Atlus put out for the Nintendo DS and Wii...and somehow those games have helped me cope with my nosocomephobia, especially when I had to undergo outpatient surgery nearly ten years ago to get a skin tag removed. I'm still alive, but sometimes I fear I could have some sort of life threatening condition and make like Richard Nixon who refused to go to the hospital for treatment for a blood clot he had saying that if he was to go to the hospital, he wouldn't get out of there alive...
My mom died at the hospital too and we had to pull her off of life support as well i had to say goodbye to her as she was in a not fully their and basically asleep but her brain was still on so she could hear me still but that was it, it was one of the most gut wrenching, weird, horrific things I had ever been through and painful things i went through
This was such a great movie for so many reasons, and in so many different ways. This scene for example - the way it was shot. Every angle, every closeup on each characters face - the slowly fading beep of the machines. Every detail about this scene is both poignant and striking. Julia Roberts was nominated for an oscar... but aside from that, no other nominations were given for this film. It wasn't even nominated for Best Picture that year which just seems absurd. But it has stood the test of time... its a classic. Sally Field should have won an Oscar for this performance.
Sally Field may have had the big monologue at the funeral--but Tom Skerritt in this scene said it all just with a look, that nobody should have to watch their child die.
I was just thinking the same thing. His listless blank look and stare into oblivion in total denial about what was actually happening at that moment. He absolutely nailed it.
I agree. The look on his face is so real. He isn't crying, he isn't sad. It's like his character was going through disassociation to protect himself from losing his mind.
I never cry at this part...it's what happens immediately after that has me sobbing. M'Lynn drives to pick up Shelby's little boy. She drives alone, mourning the loss of her daughter, then smiles at the happy face of her grandson...who doesn't even know his mother is gone. *UGGGGGGHHHH*
"When a parent dies, a child feels his own mortality. But when a child dies, it's immortality that a parent loses." -Jessica Lange, American Horror Story
I just feel this scene to my bones.. I saw my mom on her last breath as the doctors turn off the machines.. It's just all quiet, she looked peaceful but I'm shattered. And I never see myself writing this and be on the receiving end of Condolences.
As a mom, I can tell you that a mother's love for her child is infinite. It is endless. Your mom may not be here, but she will never leave you. Her love is too powerful. Death itself can't separate a mother from her child. She will always be with you.
This scene played in my mind as I was on the plane heading back home to take care of my mother's funeral arrangements. Along with the car ride when M'Lynn was driving to see her grandson and the look on her face was exactly what as going on in my heart.
@@annaleigh1533 I’m glad I wasn’t driving my aunt came and picked me up from the airport I couldn’t have made that drive like you said it would’ve been trippy
@@Deborahtunes it is a true story :) the writer who wrote the play lost his wife Susan to complications due to diabetes so in the play Susan became Shelby.
That he hesitated before signing the papers hit me hard as he clearly wanted her to be at peace but also struggled with holding onto her until the very last minute.
@@AnnaManion-d8z I’m sorry that you even had to experience that. After I was in a car accident where I was immobile due a spinal cord injury I had time to think about what I would want. Luckily it wasn’t a total severance and when the swelling went down and I could move again but I didn’t want my family to be in that position of having to make a decision about whether I should remain on life support or not and signed a DNR when I was able to. I didn’t want them to have to figure out how to come up with the money to keep me alive in such a state. Not when they already struggled to pay their own bills. I’m sure they would have figured something out if they had to but I didn’t want them to have to.
It's true about men leaving. I have had the honor of being at the bedside of both my parents and my grandma when they passed. In every case, the men said their goodbyes and left. It was us women who remained to hold their hand as they slipped away.
I went through this process with my mother, it was horrifying, and heartbreaking. You stand there, and you watch them turn off the switches knowing that she is gone from you in this lifetime.
I've been there. We did it with my mom. My brother and I stood there watching. I sobbed like never before. I felt like we were killing her. And she didn't pass right away. It took 2 days sitting in a hospice watching and waiting. The most gut wrenching experience I have ever been thur.
Years after I first saw this movie, I read the story of the real Shelby. Her name was Susan Harling Robinson. Very bittersweet story told by her brother.
I remember this movie and it was a great movie and I can't blame the mother being upset she lost her daughter! Julia Roberts won a golden globe for this movie! She later won an oscar for her role in Erin Brockovich! I hope she wins another oscar one day and Julia Roberts has a pretty smile and I loved her hair being red and wavy! Great cast! Good movie!
I accidentally watched this movie the day my Dad chose to end life support for himself. Ironically, a year and a half later to the day this pops up on my feed. I had seen the movie before but definitely had not remembered the outcome or this scene. There is a heartbreak that never goes away but also a relief to not have to see your loved one trapped by a machine and meds keeping them alive.
As a daddy I couldn’t imagine watching my baby girl slowly pass As a husband I couldn’t imagine signing the paperwork for the staff to turn off the life support.
“What if she wakes up for 2 minutes and I’m not here…” omg I could relate to this when my daughter was a baby and had a serious infection… I remember the hospital room she was in had a recliner seat and a couch for visitors. My spouse would sleep on the couch while I would stay next to her on the recliner all night. I remember the only movies to watch were “daddy’s home” and “up” and “inside out” since it was a children’s pediatric hospital. I remember watching those movies over and over while waiting for her to wake up.
The scene that got me was when Mylynne went to get Baby Jack at at Fern's and he ran towards Grandma smiling not knowing that Momma was dead. He had no real memory of her and that's kind of sad. Then The Funeral Scene where Jack is walking with His Parents also got to me. I had no idea until much later that Olympia Dukakis was on The Soap Opera Search For Tomorrow and that Julia Roberts got "Rejected" for All My Children and they both won Oscars.
You know, that scene at the funeral with Jackson walking with his parents made me cry too. It broke my heart to see him walking and his parents, one on each side of him, holding onto his arms. I can't explain why it hurts me to see that.
Wow. My family had to do this. I didn't expect for this small clip to effect me so much. As soon as they took Shelby's tube out I was transported back to they day they did it to my brother. I just felt my heart break all over again. And it'll never ever completely heal.
this scene makes me Bawl like a baby every time. and I'm a Dude! because it brings me right back to a Very bad time in my life when a loved one was in the hospital and had serious pneumonia and a weakened kidney function, and also was on a respirator. I was so sure there was no hope. but they pulled through. < Sigh > so sorry to any families that weren't so lucky. my heart sincerely goes out to you :(
I feel you there...when I read your comment about a loved one of yours having pneumonia, it reminded me of when my father had pneumonia while he was somewhere in Chicago (I think...) for work in early 2001...I had gotten home from school one afternoon, and once I got home, my mom had told me that my father was in the hospital. When I asked why, she had told me he had pneumonia. Fortunately, my dad was pretty lucky and managed to fight off his dreaded pneumonia, but he had to come home (fly home, no less), and was out of work for a while and was also forbidden to do any woodwork (he does some wood working projects like making benches, chairs, boxes, etc.) due to the fact that power saws do cause sawdust. It seems my father has been through every malady like a trooper. In March 2010, he fell off the roof of the house while putting in a solar tube in the bathroom that is in the master bedroom and broke his back, but fortunately, he didn't suffer any worse injuries that could've required surgery or rendered him paraplegic or quadraplegic (the latter meaning you can't move your arms or legs), but just like when he had pneumonia in 2001, he was out of work for a while. Then in 2019 he was rushed to the hospital with chest pain, and it began to concern me because chest pain can be a sign of a heart attack. My dad underwent many tests (including a non-invasive angiogram), and it was revealed on the day of my 34th birthday my father had gall stones/gall bladder attack, and needed his gall bladder taken out. I'm still lucky to have my father throughout the medical issues that can often plague him.
This is a heartbreaking scene but for some reason the scene where sally field is driving home and the sun is setting in the background is always so hard to watch You can feel her deep pain
A scene that can unite anyone with one another. We’ve all been there or we all get there. It’s raw it’s real it’s brutal. That’s life, in the the end we only got each other before cross over. I miss those who gone on, I miss em everyday. Life is precious and cheap at the same time. I’m going to go love on the kids and wife now.
Watching the life support turned off someone you love is heartbreaking….. I remember feeling so helpless like i was killing my mommy, i saw it in my dreams every night for months over and over again 💔
It’s always been the women who take care of bringing life into the world, and who wash and prepare the body for burial rituals. Always. It’s been this way for centuries.
This was difficult to watch...when I was 15 years old, my paternal grandmother (my dad's mom) had a heart attack that was brought on by her Type 1 diabetes. They attempted to do a bypass, but there wasn't much they could do. Seeing my grandmother in the ICU was very tough for me, and hearing the sounds was creepy as well (I have autism, and certain sounds scare me - I also suffer from nosocomephobia, a fear of hospitals). I had prayed and hoped that my grandmother would pull through this ordeal...she didn't. She was only 63 years old. Even as I write this comment, I'm on the verge of tears. I now only have one grandparent left on this planet, and that is my maternal grandmother. In 2021, a tornado tore through Western Kentucky and killed my grandpa.
I loved this movie since I was 5yrs old. Watched it all the time with my gmaw and always thought that Shelby really died in real life, but hey I was 5. I cry everytime I watch this movie and it has always been in my top 5 fav movies of all time right next to Terms of Endearment, Gone with the Wind, Scarface, and horror classic Halloween. I felt so offended when they tried to remake this movie. Why do people do that? You can't remake classic films u just can't. At least not films like this. People will say al Pacino scarface was a remake but it was a very different movie and didn't echo everything the exact way the black&white film did. Sometimes it can be done but its very rare
Nothing in the world is worse than seeing your loved one just lie there, in complete silence. Even worse than that is being put in the position to have to make the decision whether they live or die.
The two most heartbreaking scenes ever. This scene and deborah winger's death in terms of endearment. You had a total of four scenes, the two actual death then the funeral scene/ wake scene. Shirley and Sally played the scenes polar opposite. Shirley, The always poised never a hair out of place leading up to it and then going batshit crazy at the moment of death. Sally Not afraid to show emotion every moment her daughter was laying there but then completely drained And probably in shock When it was final. Then in the funeral/wake. Sally loses it Despite being surrounded by her friends and having the time to gain her composure While shirley used those couple of days to put back on the face she wanted the world to see.Neither one the portrayals was wrong and fit their character perfectly. 2 all time, great actresses showing 2 very real and different reactions to the death of a Daughter.
It's funny how your perspective changes as you get older. The first time I saw this movie, I'm wiping away tears whimpering "Shelby. Shelby". I watched this exact same movie a few years later with my arm folded, shaking my head thinking "That was really selfish of her to have a baby, KNOWING she might not live to see this kid grow up.
This scene hurt badly when I watched the movie in the movie theater when it first come out, but now it hurts so much more because I watched my mom on Good Friday in 2019 as she took her last breath in a vegetative state, she never knew I was even there as she passed away, & now this scene completely kills me.. 💔
I know how this feels. Best friend in the world got cardiac arrest from sleep apnea, brain deprived of oxygen, 2 days later his family made the decision to end his life. Kissed him on the forehead, amazing thing is he looked perfectly fine. Another friend had me take a picture of her holding his hand. To this day I cannot believe his death is a part of my life.
My Mama was the same. She still is and I have to thank her for keepin' me goin'. It's not an easy illness and it's not easy on others. Love you ALWAYS, MA.
Losing my infant nephew was so hard May 21st he would be 15 years old it's also my sister's Birthday it was hard because she had an infection it was hard for everyone No one could comprehend it I miss him every day but he still with me
Here's what I imagine that Shelby's last words to her son were when she died; Shelby: Jack, sweetheart, this is for you and I hope that you never have to see this but just in case, I want you to have something from me other than the life that I gave you and I want you to know that Daddy and I wanted you so much and you were more than we ever could have hoped for. Our precious little boy. You were everything we could have ever dreamed and I am leaving you with a lot of wonderful people to love. We have been together from the moment you were conceived and we will always be together. So, love Daddy, Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle Tommy and Uncle Jonathan as they love you and respect them and make them proud of you. I leave your future happiness in their hands and forgive me, my son if I have to leave you but know that no matter where you are, I will always be with you and love you forever and ever and ever.
So sad. I was bedside with my Grandma. I read to her and sang to her. I didn't know the Lord at that time. It was so hopeless. Sally Field's reading from magazines reminded me how useless our words are. How useless my words were at the time and how mundane . The Lord's words are the only ones that have any real meaning for this life and the life to come. The only ones with life, love and true power to do anything of any meaning.
I am blessed with a son, I carried him in my body, I fed him, sheltered and clothed him and love him with an intensity that nothing can compare. If something happens to him and he should die, I want to die on that same day. There is nothing on this earth worth losing my child, though he is grown, almost 23, now. I love him more and more each day. I don't know another person who is so kind, so patient, so generous and compassionate. He is the best gift I have ever received, bar none. Lord protect my son in all ways, and guide him as you have all the previous days of his life. In Jesus name I pray. A mother's love knows no bounds.
I am so lucky because my mom was on life support and she came off of it and is still alive but it's scary to think about what would I have done if she would have died .
God in heaven its so hard to sign thise papers. It will almost makeyour heart stop but know youre doing them a favor being a vegetable they dont desreve that.
Quando Ivan Morelli nel tuo cassetto in camera tua mi avevi fatto vedere delle VHS da vedere insieme e quando ho visto che avevi questo film mi avevi fatto contento
Poor Shelby I just watched steel Mongolia’s so sad Shelly died never got I wanted her stay alive she be her son see him growing up very sad seeing your draughter die poor girl
I bet after Shelby's death, her husband, Jackson would get up at 6:30 pm and get Jack Jr. to M'Lynn's at 8:30 pm and go to work and pick him up and put him down by 8 PM and can't fall asleep before 2AM or 3AM, huh?
During the funeral scene, I thought they hired the person who played Jackson's mother at the funeral were his parents in real life. Especially, the mother. The person who was picked to play Jackson's mother, looks exactly like Jackson in real life. Then after reading the casting credits the mother and Jackson were not related in real life.
When my husband died and my mother too I just couldn't be there...it would had made it too real for me so yes I guess I ran Some people have a steel spine and can do it I'm one of those who.cant
Fact about this scene., I was a nurse in Louisiana years ago. Back in 2000, I became friends & worked with a nurse. As I got to know her & our friendship grew. She revealed to me that she was IN FACT the nurse in this clip. I was stunned. My friend was the the nurse in this heartbreaking scene. Her name is Sandra O'Conn. ...she is a real nurse & took care of Susan Harling Robinson before she died. In this movie they used actual nurses and doctors that cared for Susan Robinson. Whom this movie was written about ..by her brother Robert Harding . I write this to remind people that Steel Magnolias is a true story. In memory of Susan Robinson.
Thanks so much for saying this I didn't know it was based on a true story the actual Dr and nurse were in the movie I'm sure it's a honor for you to know the nurse. RIP MS. ROBINSON
After all these years I never knew that!!
Elaine, how do you not know that his surname is "Harlin? "
@@sarcasticallyrearranged She cared for his sister, not him. No need to split hairs...
@@sarcasticallyrearranged It's not
“I was there when that wonderful creature drifted into my life and I was there when she drifted out.” The older I get, the more this moment hurts 💔
Same. It hurts deep in my soul to hear her say that. 😢
@@Skimmylou it was always sad when I was a teen, but it hurt on a whole other level after I witnessed the death of both my grandparents and the birth of my nephew.
Yeap, it hits on a whole new level.
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Yes!
Interesting bits of trivia
The doctors and nurses in this scene are not actors. They are the actual people who cared for the real "Shelby". The nurse who turns off the machine is the one who really turned off the machines
And the real mom was on set that day watching the scene because, as she put it,
"I wanted to see her get up and walk away"
I just leaned about this. So sad but it must have been cathartic for his mother.
I didn't know that and this is my favorite movie.
Healthy and Loving Life
Patrick E when he signs the papers.....
It was Julia Roberts mom who was on set and wanted to watch her daughter walk away from death tho.
I remember actually getting teary-eyed when she first picked up her son on the front porch and collapsed, because I just knew it would go all downhill from there. I hope I will never be put in a situation like this in my lifetime, I don't think I would have the strength to tell the doctors to turn off the machines.
Just watching those blips on the heart monitor slowly fading out... heartbreaking :(
For me, watching the husband sign the papers was sad 😢
That's something that haunted me in my nightmare regarding my paternal grandmother dying in 2000, which is why I suffer from nosocomephobia (meaning I have a fear of hospitals...REALLY MAJOR FEAR), and can't watch medical shows like ER, House, or Grey's Anatomy. You'd be surprised some people would probably see me playing the Trauma Center video games that Atlus put out for the Nintendo DS and Wii...and somehow those games have helped me cope with my nosocomephobia, especially when I had to undergo outpatient surgery nearly ten years ago to get a skin tag removed. I'm still alive, but sometimes I fear I could have some sort of life threatening condition and make like Richard Nixon who refused to go to the hospital for treatment for a blood clot he had saying that if he was to go to the hospital, he wouldn't get out of there alive...
Yes it is heart renching
My mom died at the hospital too and we had to pull her off of life support as well i had to say goodbye to her as she was in a not fully their and basically asleep but her brain was still on so she could hear me still but that was it, it was one of the most gut wrenching, weird, horrific things I had ever been through and painful things i went through
This was such a great movie for so many reasons, and in so many different ways. This scene for example - the way it was shot. Every angle, every closeup on each characters face - the slowly fading beep of the machines. Every detail about this scene is both poignant and striking. Julia Roberts was nominated for an oscar... but aside from that, no other nominations were given for this film. It wasn't even nominated for Best Picture that year which just seems absurd. But it has stood the test of time... its a classic. Sally Field should have won an Oscar for this performance.
Tom Skerrit nailed this scene without saying a word.
Truth! It's like his character went through disassociation with the blank stare. It was so believable.
Sally Field may have had the big monologue at the funeral--but Tom Skerritt in this scene said it all just with a look, that nobody should have to watch their child die.
I was just thinking the same thing. His listless blank look and stare into oblivion in total denial about what was actually happening at that moment. He absolutely nailed it.
I agree. The look on his face is so real. He isn't crying, he isn't sad. It's like his character was going through disassociation to protect himself from losing his mind.
I never cry at this part...it's what happens immediately after that has me sobbing. M'Lynn drives to pick up Shelby's little boy. She drives alone, mourning the loss of her daughter, then smiles at the happy face of her grandson...who doesn't even know his mother is gone. *UGGGGGGHHHH*
Been there, had to tell two little grandaughters, 5 and 3 that Daddy wasn't coming home. 2nd worse moment of my life. 😢 just awful
"When a parent dies, a child feels his own mortality. But when a child dies, it's immortality that a parent loses."
-Jessica Lange, American Horror Story
Interesting how a line from a horror story can describe a drama scene like this so well.
I just went thru this with my Dad. The scene is very very accurate. Very quiet , very peaceful and painful to sit thru.
The silence is something that can't be explained. RIP MOM😢
I just feel this scene to my bones.. I saw my mom on her last breath as the doctors turn off the machines.. It's just all quiet, she looked peaceful but I'm shattered.
And I never see myself writing this and be on the receiving end of Condolences.
As a mom, I can tell you that a mother's love for her child is infinite. It is endless. Your mom may not be here, but she will never leave you. Her love is too powerful. Death itself can't separate a mother from her child. She will always be with you.
I am so sorry for your loss. I watched my sister be taken off life support last year, I know how devastating it is to watch.
This scene played in my mind as I was on the plane heading back home to take care of my mother's funeral arrangements. Along with the car ride when M'Lynn was driving to see her grandson and the look on her face was exactly what as going on in my heart.
When the grandson walks out to her smiling I always lose it, getting teary eyed while writing this comment. 😢
Driving in a car right after someone you love has died is a whole other feeling. Like, you don't even know what you're doing... its trippy
@@annaleigh1533 I’m glad I wasn’t driving my aunt came and picked me up from the airport I couldn’t have made that drive like you said it would’ve been trippy
This is so heartbreaking.. I am crying now. I haven't seen this movie. I will download today.
This scene is a real tear-jerker.
Very good movie
This scene had me and my best friends in tears
Very good movie, I hope you enjoyed it. And supposedly it was based on a true story...
@@Deborahtunes it is a true story :) the writer who wrote the play lost his wife Susan to complications due to diabetes so in the play Susan became Shelby.
This movie always makes me cry. All great actors
Every time I watch this movie I really do need days to get out of the sadness. That shows how amazing the acting was.
That he hesitated before signing the papers hit me hard as he clearly wanted her to be at peace but also struggled with holding onto her until the very last minute.
❤ My sister and I were the only 2 left to sign that paper for my Dad. There are no words to describe the feeling , it’s just absolutely horrendous
@@AnnaManion-d8z I’m sorry that you even had to experience that.
After I was in a car accident where I was immobile due a spinal cord injury I had time to think about what I would want.
Luckily it wasn’t a total severance and when the swelling went down and I could move again but I didn’t want my family to be in that position of having to make a decision about whether I should remain on life support or not and signed a DNR when I was able to.
I didn’t want them to have to figure out how to come up with the money to keep me alive in such a state.
Not when they already struggled to pay their own bills.
I’m sure they would have figured something out if they had to but I didn’t want them to have to.
It's true about men leaving. I have had the honor of being at the bedside of both my parents and my grandma when they passed. In every case, the men said their goodbyes and left. It was us women who remained to hold their hand as they slipped away.
Agree
Yep. Not all have the strength for the strife..
True.
Women are there at the beginnings and the ends. It's our lot.
I would say that men don’t know what to do with the pain.
I went through this process with my mother, it was horrifying, and heartbreaking. You stand there, and you watch them turn off the switches knowing that she is gone from you in this lifetime.
I've been there. We did it with my mom. My brother and I stood there watching. I sobbed like never before. I felt like we were killing her. And she didn't pass right away. It took 2 days sitting in a hospice watching and waiting. The most gut wrenching experience I have ever been thur.
Years after I first saw this movie, I read the story of the real Shelby. Her name was Susan Harling Robinson. Very bittersweet story told by her brother.
Isn't it amazing that the ultimate chick flick was written by a man???
@@erinfraise6154 Nicholas Sparks wrote a bunch.
This is one of the most heartbreaking movies, but its beautiful also.
I went threw the same thing but luckily I pulled threw, I hope I never go threw it again, I'm grateful my mother and grandmother didn't give up.
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I'm type 1 diabetic so this is even sadder. but I love this movie!
Been one for 48 years now. Came out of the theater cursing this storyline.
I hope your well 🥺 and get I hope you got better since it’s been 3 years since you commented.
Same
I remember this movie and it was a great movie and I can't blame the mother being upset she lost her daughter! Julia Roberts won a golden globe for this movie! She later won an oscar for her role in Erin Brockovich! I hope she wins another oscar one day and Julia Roberts has a pretty smile and I loved her hair being red and wavy! Great cast! Good movie!
I accidentally watched this movie the day my Dad chose to end life support for himself. Ironically, a year and a half later to the day this pops up on my feed. I had seen the movie before but definitely had not remembered the outcome or this scene. There is a heartbreak that never goes away but also a relief to not have to see your loved one trapped by a machine and meds keeping them alive.
As a daddy I couldn’t imagine watching my baby girl slowly pass
As a husband I couldn’t imagine signing the paperwork for the staff to turn off the life support.
I couldn’t imagine it either. Id go temporarily insane
“What if she wakes up for 2 minutes and I’m not here…” omg I could relate to this when my daughter was a baby and had a serious infection… I remember the hospital room she was in had a recliner seat and a couch for visitors. My spouse would sleep on the couch while I would stay next to her on the recliner all night. I remember the only movies to watch were “daddy’s home” and “up” and “inside out” since it was a children’s pediatric hospital. I remember watching those movies over and over while waiting for her to wake up.
The scene that got me was when Mylynne went to get Baby Jack at at Fern's and he ran towards Grandma smiling not knowing that Momma was dead. He had no real memory of her and that's kind of sad. Then The Funeral Scene where Jack is walking with His Parents also got to me. I had no idea until much later that Olympia Dukakis was on The Soap Opera Search For Tomorrow and that Julia Roberts got "Rejected" for All My Children and they both won Oscars.
Omg I just replied to someone that same thing. It gets me every time no matter how many times I've watched it. 😢
I know it was kind of sad because after Shelby died, Jackson and Jack Jr. were gonna need M'Lynn.
You know, that scene at the funeral with Jackson walking with his parents made me cry too. It broke my heart to see him walking and his parents, one on each side of him, holding onto his arms. I can't explain why it hurts me to see that.
this scene broke my heart the first time I watched this I was hoping she survived I totally cried like a baby with this movie
Wow. My family had to do this. I didn't expect for this small clip to effect me so much. As soon as they took Shelby's tube out I was transported back to they day they did it to my brother. I just felt my heart break all over again. And it'll never ever completely heal.
this scene makes me Bawl like a baby every time. and I'm a Dude!
because it brings me right back to a Very bad time in my life when a loved one was in the hospital and had serious pneumonia and a weakened kidney function, and also was on a respirator. I was so sure there was no hope. but they pulled through. < Sigh > so sorry to any families that weren't so lucky. my heart sincerely goes out to you :(
I feel you there...when I read your comment about a loved one of yours having pneumonia, it reminded me of when my father had pneumonia while he was somewhere in Chicago (I think...) for work in early 2001...I had gotten home from school one afternoon, and once I got home, my mom had told me that my father was in the hospital. When I asked why, she had told me he had pneumonia. Fortunately, my dad was pretty lucky and managed to fight off his dreaded pneumonia, but he had to come home (fly home, no less), and was out of work for a while and was also forbidden to do any woodwork (he does some wood working projects like making benches, chairs, boxes, etc.) due to the fact that power saws do cause sawdust. It seems my father has been through every malady like a trooper. In March 2010, he fell off the roof of the house while putting in a solar tube in the bathroom that is in the master bedroom and broke his back, but fortunately, he didn't suffer any worse injuries that could've required surgery or rendered him paraplegic or quadraplegic (the latter meaning you can't move your arms or legs), but just like when he had pneumonia in 2001, he was out of work for a while. Then in 2019 he was rushed to the hospital with chest pain, and it began to concern me because chest pain can be a sign of a heart attack. My dad underwent many tests (including a non-invasive angiogram), and it was revealed on the day of my 34th birthday my father had gall stones/gall bladder attack, and needed his gall bladder taken out. I'm still lucky to have my father throughout the medical issues that can often plague him.
There are many points in life where it just sucks.
You could say that again
I’ve seen this movie so many times, but this is the first time since my own 25-year-old daughter passed away 7 months ago. It’s the worst pain.
I'm so sorry ❤
Anime
Mine also passed at 25.
Sorry to hear this. ❤
That is one GREAT father.I cried for him.
This is a heartbreaking scene but for some reason the scene where sally field is driving home and the sun is setting in the background is always so hard to watch
You can feel her deep pain
because realization of what has happened is always harder than to watch actual death/hear the news when you are still in denial, at least partially.
A scene that can unite anyone with one another. We’ve all been there or we all get there. It’s raw it’s real it’s brutal. That’s life, in the the end we only got each other before cross over. I miss those who gone on, I miss em everyday. Life is precious and cheap at the same time. I’m going to go love on the kids and wife now.
1:54-1:59, Shelby? Don't go, Shelby. Don't go, Shelby. Please don't go.
I was on life support for almost two months in 2009 because I got sick with Acute Flaccid Myelitic and stopped breathing on my own.
Watching the life support turned off someone you love is heartbreaking….. I remember feeling so helpless like i was killing my mommy, i saw it in my dreams every night for months over and over again 💔
I just held my children until they turned cold, then cleaned them up. 😢
It’s always been the women who take care of bringing life into the world, and who wash and prepare the body for burial rituals. Always. It’s been this way for centuries.
This is honestly my fav movie
This was difficult to watch...when I was 15 years old, my paternal grandmother (my dad's mom) had a heart attack that was brought on by her Type 1 diabetes. They attempted to do a bypass, but there wasn't much they could do. Seeing my grandmother in the ICU was very tough for me, and hearing the sounds was creepy as well (I have autism, and certain sounds scare me - I also suffer from nosocomephobia, a fear of hospitals). I had prayed and hoped that my grandmother would pull through this ordeal...she didn't. She was only 63 years old. Even as I write this comment, I'm on the verge of tears. I now only have one grandparent left on this planet, and that is my maternal grandmother. In 2021, a tornado tore through Western Kentucky and killed my grandpa.
This movie was 1 of Sally's very best!!!
I loved this movie since I was 5yrs old. Watched it all the time with my gmaw and always thought that Shelby really died in real life, but hey I was 5. I cry everytime I watch this movie and it has always been in my top 5 fav movies of all time right next to Terms of Endearment, Gone with the Wind, Scarface, and horror classic Halloween. I felt so offended when they tried to remake this movie. Why do people do that? You can't remake classic films u just can't. At least not films like this. People will say al Pacino scarface was a remake but it was a very different movie and didn't echo everything the exact way the black&white film did. Sometimes it can be done but its very rare
Nothing in the world is worse than seeing your loved one just lie there, in complete silence. Even worse than that is being put in the position to have to make the decision whether they live or die.
My aunt was in a coma like this before my dad figured out that she was over sedated. Watching this scene is just so heartbreaking.
Holy Crap! What happened? Is she ok?
The two most heartbreaking scenes ever. This scene and deborah winger's death in terms of endearment. You had a total of four scenes, the two actual death then the funeral scene/ wake scene. Shirley and Sally played the scenes polar opposite. Shirley, The always poised never a hair out of place leading up to it and then going batshit crazy at the moment of death. Sally Not afraid to show emotion every moment her daughter was laying there but then completely drained And probably in shock When it was final. Then in the funeral/wake. Sally loses it Despite being surrounded by her friends and having the time to gain her composure While shirley used those couple of days to put back on the face she wanted the world to see.Neither one the portrayals was wrong and fit their character perfectly. 2 all time, great actresses showing 2 very real and different reactions to the death of a Daughter.
Her story was so heartbreaking. Im glad she got two years of bliss with her family.
Her husband was fantastic. Women with a good, loving man, never forget how lucky you are. A lot of women (like me) don't even know what that's like.
Love the screen name
I don’t know how fantastic he was. I feel like he might have forced her to have that baby a bit
One of the best movies ever
It's so heartbreaking I cried love the movie 😭😭😭
It's funny how your perspective changes as you get older. The first time I saw this movie, I'm wiping away tears whimpering "Shelby. Shelby". I watched this exact same movie a few years later with my arm folded, shaking my head thinking "That was really selfish of her to have a baby, KNOWING she might not live to see this kid grow up.
One of the things Shelby said in one scene was "I'd rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special."
Exactly.
What a great acting
I lived in Natchitoches Louisiana for a bit and the steel magnolias house is still standing. Beautiful place ☺️
The sound of her husband’s sweet kiss in between the final beeps. I didn’t cry until I heard that. 😭
The tears man I couldn’t stop crying
I cry every time I watch this scene
This happened to me, my beloved mom died and 2 days after my uncle who I love dearly. The most tragic and painful thing I ever experienced.
This film really resonated with me, I don't know why but I've loved it since I first saw it a thousand years ago.
Tear jerker!
This scene hurt badly when I watched the movie in the movie theater when it first come out, but now it hurts so much more because I watched my mom on Good Friday in 2019 as she took her last breath in a vegetative state, she never knew I was even there as she passed away, & now this scene completely kills me.. 💔
This movie is so sad... I cried at the end
Why the hell did they remake this movie? Pointless.
They remade it?! Is this the remake? I know so little!
@@HarryBalzak same movie with an all black cast. apparently original ideas aren't easy for some people.
I know how this feels. Best friend in the world got cardiac arrest from sleep apnea, brain deprived of oxygen, 2 days later his family made the decision to end his life. Kissed him on the forehead, amazing thing is he looked perfectly fine. Another friend had me take a picture of her holding his hand. To this day I cannot believe his death is a part of my life.
If you ever sat at a deathbed this will wrench your guts out. It all comes flooding back.
The beeping of the heart monitor.. my God 💔
This always tears me up 😥💔
SUCH A TUG AT OUR SOULS TO LET GO WHEN IT'S TIME WHEN IT'S ALL THAT'S LEFT..................🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺
This was my mom's favorite movie. She died in a car accident 3 years after this movie came out. Great flick!!
Sobering reality
A mother saying goodbye to her daughter a heartbroken scene 😔 💔
One of my top 10 favourite films. A very sad movie but it's also very funny too.
My Mama was the same. She still is and I have to thank her for keepin' me goin'. It's not an easy illness and it's not easy on others. Love you ALWAYS, MA.
Sally Field was tremendous on this film
Losing my infant nephew was so hard May 21st he would be 15 years old it's also my sister's Birthday it was hard because she had an infection it was hard for everyone No one could comprehend it I miss him every day but he still with me
Here's what I imagine that Shelby's last words to her son were when she died;
Shelby: Jack, sweetheart, this is for you and I hope that you never have to see this but just in case, I want you to have something from me other than the life that I gave you and I want you to know that Daddy and I wanted you so much and you were more than we ever could have hoped for. Our precious little boy. You were everything we could have ever dreamed and I am leaving you with a lot of wonderful people to love. We have been together from the moment you were conceived and we will always be together. So, love Daddy, Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle Tommy and Uncle Jonathan as they love you and respect them and make them proud of you. I leave your future happiness in their hands and forgive me, my son if I have to leave you but know that no matter where you are, I will always be with you and love you forever and ever and ever.
My parents had to take my sister off life support. There is no way on this earth I could imagine how they felt.
This is an all time great movie!
A mother losing a child...Probably the hardest thing she will ever face in her life...
I always cry
All because she insisted she HAD to HAVE a BAYBAY!
I remember I watch this movie when I was little.
So sad. I was bedside with my Grandma. I read to her and sang to her. I didn't know the Lord at that time. It was so hopeless. Sally Field's reading from magazines reminded me how useless our words are. How useless my words were at the time and how mundane . The Lord's words are the only ones that have any real meaning for this life and the life to come. The only ones with life, love and true power to do anything of any meaning.
Il marito di Julia Roberts Ivan Morelli è bellissimo
I am blessed with a son, I carried him in my body, I fed him, sheltered and clothed him and love him with an intensity that nothing can compare. If something happens to him and he should die, I want to die on that same day. There is nothing on this earth worth losing my child, though he is grown, almost 23, now. I love him more and more each day. I don't know another person who is so kind, so patient, so generous and compassionate. He is the best gift I have ever received, bar none. Lord protect my son in all ways, and guide him as you have all the previous days of his life. In Jesus name I pray. A mother's love knows no bounds.
I am so lucky because my mom was on life support and she came off of it and is still alive but it's scary to think about what would I have done if she would have died .
God in heaven its so hard to sign thise papers. It will almost makeyour heart stop but know youre doing them a favor being a vegetable they dont desreve that.
Quando Ivan Morelli nel tuo cassetto in camera tua mi avevi fatto vedere delle VHS da vedere insieme e quando ho visto che avevi questo film mi avevi fatto contento
I had a knot in my throat
in this scene that I couldn't burst into tears....
Fields get an oscar for amazing performance.?
This has such a different feel and meaning when ur in a relationship dang
Poor Shelby I just watched steel Mongolia’s so sad Shelly died never got I wanted her stay alive she be her son see him growing up very sad seeing your draughter die poor girl
I bet after Shelby's death, her husband, Jackson would get up at 6:30 pm and get Jack Jr. to M'Lynn's at 8:30 pm and go to work and pick him up and put him down by 8 PM and can't fall asleep before 2AM or 3AM, huh?
Very sad!!
During the funeral scene, I thought they hired the person who played Jackson's mother at the funeral were his parents in real life. Especially, the mother. The person who was picked to play Jackson's mother, looks exactly like Jackson in real life. Then after reading the casting credits the mother and Jackson were not related in real life.
Jason Gibson “What a story, Mark!”
Having a baby didn't help
I think everybody's mom loves this movie.
I hoped you watched this movie very touching
I can understand why some people run away from situations like this. Its like its not happening
When my husband died and my mother too I just couldn't be there...it would had made it too real for me so yes I guess I ran
Some people have a steel spine and can do it I'm one of those who.cant