This scene demonstrates what Shirley McLaine referred to as Debra Winger's 'turbulent brilliance'. Debra has no dialogue in this scene, yet she conveys so much with just a look. Her eyes get big, she inhales deeply and she gets a big burst of energy as if she is going to speak, but then she dies instead. Looking at this again after many years, it's almost like you can see her soul leaving her body. Brilliant acting indeed.
Remember the opening scene of the film - Emma is just an infant in her crib and Aurora wakes her because she thinks she's dead. Played for comedy.... but when it actually happens here, it's devastating.
Athena P. I agree that that is so true, unfortunately, I know the pain of losing a child (it was not a relief for me, either) there is nothing compared to that anguish.
Oh wow. That little wave Emma gave to her mother is so saddening. And when her mother told her it's okay to let go, you could see Emma was almost trying to smile, so she can finally be relieved from all the pain. There's so much in this scene. You can tell and it didn't even need words. This is an amazing movie.
I always thought that this scene would be even more powerful with a man that she was with originally,that loved her unconditionally,and a man who loved her but cheated on her and didn't feel as strongly about her as the first man. While being on her death bed and knowing who truly loved her no matter what.
The saddest movie scene I have ever seen. The reaction of Shirley McLaine is one of the most powerful emotional interpretations that an actor has performed it.
Such a heartbreaking scene. It is so hard to lose a love one. No parent should have to bury their child. Three years ago, I almost lost my mother to a brain tumor. It impacted me and my family. But she has made a full recovery, I'm so happy I still have her. And I am sorry to those who have lost their mother.
I love the shot where the camera pans out to show the three people in the room. You can see Emma turn her head to face her mother and her mother is already staring at her. And Flap, flap is sleeping like the selfish unattentive husband he's always been. Then, as Emma looks at her, the mom leans forward, super attentive towards Emma as if to close the gap between the two and cut out Flap as if to say "talk to me, tell me what you need, we're the only people in the room." Its both an subconscious jab towards her son-in-law and a testament to a mothers' singular love for her children - no one else matters.
This was one of my most memorable and horrible movie going experiences. We went with a group and sitting next to me was my friend Yvonne from high school. Yvonne's mom had just been going through chemo for breast cancer. When the doctor is talking to Emma in the film, and feels the lump under her armpit, we all kind of thought, "uh oh" - and we made it through the rest of the movies, crying but still enjoying it. Roll end creditsand our group started leaving the theater - but Yvonne stayed back. On her other side was a man who apparently was crying unconsolably. Yvonne was holding his hand. They sat there for awhile in the now empty theater. He had lost his brother about a week prior to this. I felt like we were all sucker punched.
Steve Carrasco Thanks for sharing that story! Wow. That made me cry even more after watching this clip. I saw this for the first time when I was in 6th grade, on accident, it was playing on HBO or something and I think I only caught like the middle of it to the end. Anyway we had just weeks before found out my mom had breast cancer and I didn't cry at all until (I don't think I grasped how serious it was) I watched this in my parents basement and was like choking/hyperventilating I was crying so hard! 2 years ago we celebrated her 10 year anniversary of getting her diagnosis so she's totally fine and everything is ok. But I still hyperventilate-style cry every time I watch this scene and the scene she's talking to the bratty son! Other than Brooks suicide scene in Shawshank, THIS is thee saddest movie scene of all time. Thanks again for sharing that story
My father died this exact same way but what hurt me so much about this scene was Shirley McLain's reaction to her daughters death...she sort of laughed in pain...when I saw my dad suffering for days I remember thinking "when he finally dies, it will be a relief for him....and for us" but in that moment when he died, the finality hit me like a ton of bricks and I felt like my entire world crumbled. I had no idea what the feeling of him being actually gone was going to feel like and it was unlike anything I could have imagined. I don't know how Shirley came up with this reaction, but I bet she went through something like this in her life. Her reaction so real it was uncanny.
I was 12 when I first saw this in 83, and it still breaks my hearts!! Between that wave, and Shirley Maclaine trying to contain her grief....it breaks my heart still!!!
I love how much this scene says without using words. When she waves goodbye she bites her lip afterword, she looks at her mother for approval. Her mom smiles the whole time to let her daughter leave in peace. The acting is amazing. Great movie
Heartbreaking. Especially seeing Aurora having to cling to Flap as she breaks down. Really sad, touching moment, considering how contentious their relationship had always been.
The Great Shirley MacClaine's uttering" My Sweet Little Darling" and action is simply devastating. It's a shame they didn't tie for Best Actress,because this is the one time I would have been happy with. Debra Winger is triumphant
Ha! Ms. MacLaine and Ms. Winger were acting more than you think they were. They literally despised each other while working together on this film. Shirley alludes to the experience in her Best Actress acceptance speech. It's listed on UA-cam. Watch it again to see her anger start to boil over.
Jan CW I've wondered that too, Jan. I'm a glutton for a tear jerker movie too, but I think I finally figured out why. You never feel more alive than when your emotions erupt, especially extreme sadness to the point of tears. Do you relate to the way I see it?
ME EITHER! So glad I'm not alone, Jan... Thanks for sharing my thoughts...EXACTLY. What a well done, well acted, WELL CASTED movie. A classic...right down to the theme song.
It may be an exploitative move, on the filmmaker's part, but I believe that it's worth appreciating a movie that can make you cry. It's no easy feat. The scene from, "I Ought To Be In Pictures" (if you've seen it, you know what I'm talking about) comes to mind. Films like these allow me to prove, to myself, that I have a caring heart. They allow me acknowledge that maybe (just maybe) being a Human Being isn't so bad after all.
This is probably the best death scene of all time. What Debra Winger does with her eyes, as if she just sees something now, something we who still have life can't understand, it's perfect acting. And then Shirley MacLaine just gives the best reaction, such an acknowledgement, as she turns her face in realization, and then she just hands one of the best lines in movie history.
Yeah but I would think that if they are at that point you would go to the hospital bed and hold them as they are dying. She just sits there in her chair.
@@rememberpratik727 Grow up. It's only in the movie you see scenes of people holding dying family in the hands, it doesn't happen like that in real life, it's always shock, confusion, disbelief... She didn't just sit there, she was looking and smiling at her the whole time, not anyone gets to die under the loving gaze of someone close to them.
One of the most powerful scenes in cinema. This movie is one of the all time greats because its so realistic. it naturally connects with our human spirit, which is why its so emotionally stirring. This scene makes me cry every time.
Dustin Rainwater The little boy crying still gets me too..........when I first saw it the scene moves you and that's the magic of cinema. Brilliant performances.........
and I somehow love the words, "I'm so stupid...I'm so stupid" because I know exactly what she means, its not literal whatsoever, it's a emotion for experiencing death, loss and only KNOWING it when it happens (reality)...
Thirty-five years ago, my sister, a nurse practitioner who died last month, left the room crying when Debra Winger told her children goodbye. She said, “To you, this just a movie, but to me it’s real life.”
This scene always makes me cry as hard as the Steel Magnolias funeral scene. When I first had this movie on VHS, I had my friend (who had never seen it before) watch it with me. At the beginning she asked me, "Is the movie sad? Because you know how easy I cry." I told her yes it is sad, but it's still a good movie. I did not give the ending away at all. So she watched it, and bawled her eyes out along with me. I think she cried harder because she had never seen it before.
Unfortunately, I too have lost a child in a similar way, and how Shirley has depicted in this scene is immeasurably on-point as to how that feels, and it is true: There's nothing harder.
One of the greatest death scenes in movie history, Terms Of Endearment...a little gem. And one of the best movies of all time about life itself and the consequences in a small family. It was a huge winner at the 1984 Oscars, giving MacLaine her first ever award for Best Actress, and it`s a film that goes well above awards, filled with beautiful performances by its entire cast, great moments, solid entertainment and a overwhelming, classic finale filled with tears. Also in my top 25 movies of all time.
this couple went every day to see their son who was dying and a lady asked them how can you witness such a sad sad thing and they said we saw him into this world and we will see him out of it as well
So touching. It is hard for all of us. I can relate when my sister died fighting cancer for over a year. Tumor in her head. But it came back. Last day, she was in the hospital on a respirator and they pulled the plug when I got home from teaching in Italy hoping she will make it. 15 people in the room. I think of my mom. It was the hardest thing for her to see. 5 children and my sister was the closest to her. Kind of mother daughter relationship that every mother daughter wish to have all her life. My sister died at 49. My mom and all of us still think of her. We lost my dad the same month 16 years before from cancer at the age of 70 but my mom said this is so different from that. All over my moms room are pictures of my sister today. My sister left behind 2 older brothers and one older sister and me her younger brother who thought she will always be there all my life. 1000 people went to her wake. Amazing. Her husband fell in love with her first sight at 19. Her daughter who was 16 at the time has pictures everywhere of her. They were close. Her son at 20 too they were close. My niece I suppose is taking it hard still. This movie we loved and remember watching it in the 80s and early 90s often. It was so funny until the end is so hard to see. You can feel the emotions.
My dad had squamous cell cancer, a deadly form of skin cancer. After a 4 year battle, he passed away at home. He had a hospital bed in the living room. My mom was in the room with him. Much like Emma, she said he looked at her and then he was gone.
The nurse in the scene WAS respectful and professional. But I still know what you mean TallGuy. Maybe it's because I'm a hospice nurse. Yes, I'm a professional ....but I'm ALSO personally involved. When it's nearing the end for a patient, they have my personal number, so if they wish it, the family can call me any time day or night and I'll drive out to pronounce their loved one. I go to the funerals too.
I was hospitalized for 1 year and I really know how a golden heart like yours is important in these difficult and endless days. Good bless you. Regards from Brazil.
I watched this movie with my mom when I was a kid, and I struck how sad it made her...now I’m a momma my self and currently bawling my eyes out. Also super appreciative of how much my mom has always done for me
When my father passed away 5 years ago I thought that it would be a relief but in reality it was only a relief for him. Tomorrow he would have been 80 and my mother, my sisters, and I miss him very much. We never get over the passing of a loved one, we just get through it.
I wanted to say you should move on...but once you said "We never get over the passing of a loved one, we just get through it." it was the truest thing I've ever read! Thank you for such a wonderful statement.
This movie is so powerful and I remember being stunned to learn much later that Shirley McClaine and Deborah Winger hated each other. Their characters had a rough relationship, but the love shone through and it's a testament to their acting ability.
Shirley MacLaine was simply resplendent in this film -- and yes, she deserved that Academy Award as Best Actress, as did Debra Winger her nomination. Neither mother nor daughter had to say a word in conveying their love for one another with that one final look. Emma quietly sought her mother's permission to let go, and Aurora granted it with a subtly raised eyebrow and a slight smile, maintaining eye contact with her daughter as she then passes away. It's a heartbreaking and beautiful scene.
We are all going to go through this. Sometimes we are the one who’s is the that bed, other times we are the ones who are standing along side that bed. We most conform with it.
My darling daughter, my firstborn child will undergo a double mastectomy on December 22. We just found out about her cancer 2 weeks ago. I immediately thought about this movie and I'm terrified. She's 47 years old and still my princess. I can't imagine the pain of losing her. I wish I had not revisited this movie trailer.
But he and Aurora,,who had a very contentious relationship, here come together in their shared grief, she clings to him and he to her. The next scene is the post funereal repast and here it catches up to Flap, he becomes grief-stricken finally. Very well done movie, sad without being maudlin.
I just lost my father to cancer. Six months before that I lost my mother to sepsis. I think there’s a misconception among some that death is a very dramatic thing. I’m here to tell you it isn’t always. Thank goodness in many ways it is a very quiet, peaceful transition such as this and they just go. The how doesn’t matter for those of us left behind. Any way you go about to and as grateful for them as we may be, it’s still every bit just as painful for those of us left behind. I love this movie. As horribly sad as it is, it is the most realistic movie of its kind as far as showing what it’s like to be a human being. This scene was beautifully done imo.
My goodness. The pain. This hurts so much. You think ... but you can’t imagine. But then the mom had to be strong for that moment. Omg that’s so painful. She was there... 💔beautiful and horrible
I'll never forget this movie experience. I didn't even want to see this movie and had no clue what it was really about. I went because it was a big honey-do. My girlfriend wanted to see it and insisted I take her. I watched it. I sat there and watched all the twist and turns of the plot. And then she got sick. When she died I found myself quietly weeping tears rolling down my face like a shower running free. Even after it was over I didn't stop. You see I was her youngest son. My mother died When I was his age. I'm old now and I can still feel the pain like it was yesterday. Another quiet weeper was Field of Dreams. A flat out tear jerking baller was "Imitation of Life" wow!! And most recently the great fun right up until the moment they made you start balling... "THE BEST MAN HOLIDAY" Ot It was a really good movie released around Christmas time. (To me that's not the time to release such a movie These films made me feel real pain.
tall32,... First, try to understand that THAT person was playing a part in a movie. Also try to understand the Nurse's position. She WAS respectful! It's not her job to get personally involved, though I'm sure she was hurting herself, about the death of another person, but Nurse's HAVE to remain somewhat professional, even those times too! That scene does not represent the nurse's perceived character flaw. How would YOU want her to respond, so others can learn what NOT to do?
My best friend died last year and this, this right here, is how I imagine her mum reacted when my girl finally found peace. This is why I love Shirley.
my mom loved this movie and so did i... she lost her adoptive dad when this came out , who was my pop-pop well not really but to me he was the best pop pop i ever had.... lost my mom in 2013 she was pretty much the last to go and it was the hardest thing i ever had to go through, still very hard....i know this might sound funny but im glad she met my kitty before she passed, but now i had to give my kitty up this morning, :( now everythings gone!!! my whole family is pretty much gone and my kitty.....nothing left for me.... :( it sux when your young and you lose your whole family, u have to grow up fast and be on your own....I LOVE YOU ALL , WHEREEVER YOU MAY BE!!!! :(
i remember becoming fighting mad when i realized the movie was going unexpected places. i was so caught up in it and no one had let on to me how it goes. this was before VCRs or i would have stopped the tape, but like life, the movie kept on going without a pause and i had to hang on wherever it went. but i was angry!!!
betty bye when this came out, I was in a very troubled marriage. My husband and I went and I thought it was going to be a typical happy ending. I was also shocked and caught off guard and I remembered I was crying so hard because it opened my eyes to the finality of death. I didn’t want to be an Emma. Shortly after, I divorced him.
What many fail to realize about this movie is that it masterfully uses several ways to show the passage of time. It covers a small time pocket of the lives of these characters and they change by the end of the movie. That’s how life is. We’re not perfect and this movie does so well to show that.
Thought it would be ok to watch this scene. I knew what was going to happen and I’ve seen it a million times but when Aurora breaks down I just can’t hold it together.
Yes amazing acting but great directing too. Rather than show the moment of death, he showed the mother reacting to it. Very rare and much more powerful than the standard death scene. I wonder how Debra Winger felt about it, since every actor loves playing a death scene.
Great scene, and thanks for showing it. This is a GREAT movie! Remembering scenes in the movie like this, I wish you would have kept going with the scene a little longer, instead of cutting it so soon! Give the heart felt moment a little longer for people to wipe their eyes and soak up in the moment!
This scene demonstrates what Shirley McLaine referred to as Debra Winger's 'turbulent brilliance'. Debra has no dialogue in this scene, yet she conveys so much with just a look. Her eyes get big, she inhales deeply and she gets a big burst of energy as if she is going to speak, but then she dies instead. Looking at this again after many years, it's almost like you can see her soul leaving her body. Brilliant acting indeed.
pam0626 amazing.
It's the beautiful explanation is why I am still baffled that Debra didn't win an Oscar along with Shirley and Jack.
pam0626 I had to watch it yet again. YOU ARE SO RIGHT. wow
Bluemgwes the reason Debra didn’t win is because she was in the same category as her co Star Shirley Mclaine who won the best actress award that year
Indeed. Debra is an incredibly gifted actress
Remember the opening scene of the film - Emma is just an infant in her crib and Aurora wakes her because she thinks she's dead. Played for comedy.... but when it actually happens here, it's devastating.
"There's nothing harder". So true..
she gone as very scene of this movies
Yes .
I lost mother to cancer this year. Yeah there is nothing harder.
This was one of our favorite movies when i was growing up . 😥
Athena P. I agree that that is so true, unfortunately, I know the pain of losing a child (it was not a relief for me, either) there is nothing compared to that anguish.
Absolutely 💔
Notice how Flap is asleep throughout the scene just as he has been throughout the movie. Great flick! A+
How do you know what he was doing before this scene. Maybe he was in up all night with her. Stop assuming stuff.
Oh wow. That little wave Emma gave to her mother is so saddening. And when her mother told her it's okay to let go, you could see Emma was almost trying to smile, so she can finally be relieved from all the pain. There's so much in this scene. You can tell and it didn't even need words. This is an amazing movie.
I always thought that this scene would be even more powerful with a man that she was with originally,that loved her unconditionally,and a man who loved her but cheated on her and didn't feel as strongly about her as the first man. While being on her death bed and knowing who truly loved her no matter what.
snoozy A113 shirley's response was impeccable too
What always got me is the guy shared between mclaine and Daniels because throughout the entire movie they had been each other's nemesis so to speak.
The saddest movie scene I have ever seen. The reaction of Shirley McLaine is one of the most powerful emotional interpretations that an actor has performed it.
Totally agree!
Oscar worthy, and she did get it for her outstanding performance.
Such a heartbreaking scene. It is so hard to lose a love one. No parent should have to bury their child. Three years ago, I almost lost my mother to a brain tumor. It impacted me and my family. But she has made a full recovery, I'm so happy I still have her. And I am sorry to those who have lost their mother.
I love the shot where the camera pans out to show the three people in the room. You can see Emma turn her head to face her mother and her mother is already staring at her. And Flap, flap is sleeping like the selfish unattentive husband he's always been. Then, as Emma looks at her, the mom leans forward, super attentive towards Emma as if to close the gap between the two and cut out Flap as if to say "talk to me, tell me what you need, we're the only people in the room." Its both an subconscious jab towards her son-in-law and a testament to a mothers' singular love for her children - no one else matters.
I'd hate to be married to you.
This was one of my most memorable and horrible movie going experiences. We went with a group and sitting next to me was my friend Yvonne from high school. Yvonne's mom had just been going through chemo for breast cancer. When the doctor is talking to Emma in the film, and feels the lump under her armpit, we all kind of thought, "uh oh" - and we made it through the rest of the movies, crying but still enjoying it. Roll end creditsand our group started leaving the theater - but Yvonne stayed back. On her other side was a man who apparently was crying unconsolably. Yvonne was holding his hand. They sat there for awhile in the now empty theater. He had lost his brother about a week prior to this. I felt like we were all sucker punched.
Steve Carrasco Thanks for sharing that story! Wow. That made me cry even more after watching this clip. I saw this for the first time when I was in 6th grade, on accident, it was playing on HBO or something and I think I only caught like the middle of it to the end. Anyway we had just weeks before found out my mom had breast cancer and I didn't cry at all until (I don't think I grasped how serious it was) I watched this in my parents basement and was like choking/hyperventilating I was crying so hard! 2 years ago we celebrated her 10 year anniversary of getting her diagnosis so she's totally fine and everything is ok. But I still hyperventilate-style cry every time I watch this scene and the scene she's talking to the bratty son! Other than Brooks suicide scene in Shawshank, THIS is thee saddest movie scene of all time. Thanks again for sharing that story
That's such a tragically beautiful story. It cool that she held his hand.
Touching, honest story. Thank you.
My father died this exact same way but what hurt me so much about this scene was Shirley McLain's reaction to her daughters death...she sort of laughed in pain...when I saw my dad suffering for days I remember thinking "when he finally dies, it will be a relief for him....and for us" but in that moment when he died, the finality hit me like a ton of bricks and I felt like my entire world crumbled. I had no idea what the feeling of him being actually gone was going to feel like and it was unlike anything I could have imagined. I don't know how Shirley came up with this reaction, but I bet she went through something like this in her life. Her reaction so real it was uncanny.
great share steve
I was 12 when I first saw this in 83, and it still breaks my hearts!! Between that wave, and Shirley Maclaine trying to contain her grief....it breaks my heart still!!!
I love how much this scene says without using words. When she waves goodbye she bites her lip afterword, she looks at her mother for approval. Her mom smiles the whole time to let her daughter leave in peace. The acting is amazing. Great movie
You are amazing how simply you put that into words. You said it all right there. Thank you.
Yes! Debra and Shirley were amazing in this movie.
She wasn't looking for approval, she just wanted to say something but instead she died. Real death is not melodrama.
@@BreckWorshamOfficial No, they oversimplified a complex issue. He/she didn't say anything profound just a trite banality.
You must be a very sad person.
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To this day this is the single greatest piece of acting I have ever seen. Shirley MacLaine - spectacular.
Actually, she probably would have gone into shock.
Heartbreaking. Especially seeing Aurora having to cling to Flap as she breaks down. Really sad, touching moment, considering how contentious their relationship had always been.
That was the scene that redeemed Flap in my eyes.
The Great Shirley MacClaine's uttering" My Sweet Little Darling" and action is simply devastating. It's a shame they didn't tie for Best Actress,because this is the one time I would have been happy with. Debra Winger is triumphant
kaejae24 there’s has been a Oscar tie before
Ha! Ms. MacLaine and Ms. Winger were acting more than you think they were. They literally despised each other while working together on this film. Shirley alludes to the experience in her Best Actress acceptance speech. It's listed on UA-cam. Watch it again to see her anger start to boil over.
So powerful and heartbreaking. And from someone who's been there, true to life. Beautifully acted scene.
I think Shirley in this scene is absolutely wonderful. She deserved the Oscar as she said.
Mark Whitman everyone deserved a damn Oscar
Jack and Jim deserved theirs too
yea debra deserved it the most also.....too bad she didnt....
I have no idea why I do this to myself. No... idea.
Jan CW I've wondered that too, Jan. I'm a glutton for a tear jerker movie too, but I think I finally figured out why. You never feel more alive than when your emotions erupt, especially extreme sadness to the point of tears. Do you relate to the way I see it?
ME EITHER! So glad I'm not alone, Jan... Thanks for sharing my thoughts...EXACTLY. What a well done, well acted, WELL CASTED movie. A classic...right down to the theme song.
Every few months...I revisit this.
It may be an exploitative move, on the filmmaker's part, but I believe that it's worth appreciating a movie that can make you cry. It's no easy feat. The scene from, "I Ought To Be In Pictures" (if you've seen it, you know what I'm talking about) comes to mind.
Films like these allow me to prove, to myself, that I have a caring heart. They allow me acknowledge that maybe (just maybe) being a Human Being isn't so bad after all.
Same.
This is probably the best death scene of all time. What Debra Winger does with her eyes, as if she just sees something now, something we who still have life can't understand, it's perfect acting. And then Shirley MacLaine just gives the best reaction, such an acknowledgement, as she turns her face in realization, and then she just hands one of the best lines in movie history.
Yeah but I would think that if they are at that point you would go to the hospital bed and hold them as they are dying. She just sits there in her chair.
@@rememberpratik727 Grow up. It's only in the movie you see scenes of people holding dying family in the hands, it doesn't happen like that in real life, it's always shock, confusion, disbelief... She didn't just sit there, she was looking and smiling at her the whole time, not anyone gets to die under the loving gaze of someone close to them.
Aurora and Flap clearly did not get along but when they hold each other, it melts my heart. They needed each other in that moment.
And how he reaches for her.
Shirly with the heavy breaths in a crescendo. She's fantastic.
I've never seen that before. That's the most incredible death scene I've ever watched. I'm a mess
One of the most powerful scenes in cinema. This movie is one of the all time greats because its so realistic. it naturally connects with our human spirit, which is why its so emotionally stirring. This scene makes me cry every time.
Dustin Rainwater The little boy crying still gets me too..........when I first saw it the scene moves you and that's the magic of cinema. Brilliant performances.........
I cry every time I watch this scene.
"There's nothing harder." Oscar victory for Screenplay and Actress sealed with that line and delivery. If only she and Winger could've tied.
and I somehow love the words, "I'm so stupid...I'm so stupid" because I know exactly what she means, its not literal whatsoever, it's a emotion for experiencing death, loss and only KNOWING it when it happens (reality)...
Plus they hated each other while making this film. It was a very difficult set. Shirley really had it in for Debra
Everytime. EVERY SINGLE TIME. BAWLING!!
Thirty-five years ago, my sister, a nurse practitioner who died last month, left the room crying when Debra Winger told her children goodbye. She said, “To you, this just a movie, but to me it’s real life.”
if i need to cry; this scene does it every time!
It’s the damn beautiful music that gets me.
Carefully placed.
This scene always makes me cry as hard as the Steel Magnolias funeral scene. When I first had this movie on VHS, I had my friend (who had never seen it before) watch it with me. At the beginning she asked me, "Is the movie sad? Because you know how easy I cry." I told her yes it is sad, but it's still a good movie. I did not give the ending away at all. So she watched it, and bawled her eyes out along with me. I think she cried harder because she had never seen it before.
Everything in this movie is brilliant. It never gets old. I lose it every damn time. 😢😢
It was a relief seeing Dad go but not when Mom died in July of 2013 it was so hard i still cry miss her !!
Unfortunately, I too have lost a child in a similar way, and how Shirley has depicted in this scene is immeasurably on-point as to how that feels, and it is true: There's nothing harder.
Any time I want a cry . . .
One of the greatest death scenes in movie history, Terms Of Endearment...a little gem.
And one of the best movies of all time about life itself and the consequences in a small family.
It was a huge winner at the 1984 Oscars, giving MacLaine her first ever award for Best Actress, and it`s a film that goes well above awards, filled with beautiful performances by its entire cast, great moments, solid entertainment and a overwhelming, classic finale filled with tears.
Also in my top 25 movies of all time.
I always cry to this scene
For a mother to witness a beautiful life come in to the world, then to witness it leave is an unbearable feeling that no words can describe.
this couple went every day to see their son who was dying and a lady asked them how can you witness such a sad sad thing and they said we saw him into this world and we will see him out of it as well
I remember watching this as a kid...it broke my heart...
So touching. It is hard for all of us. I can relate when my sister died fighting cancer for over a year. Tumor in her head. But it came back. Last day, she was in the hospital on a respirator and they pulled the plug when I got home from teaching in Italy hoping she will make it. 15 people in the room. I think of my mom. It was the hardest thing for her to see. 5 children and my sister was the closest to her. Kind of mother daughter relationship that every mother daughter wish to have all her life. My sister died at 49. My mom and all of us still think of her. We lost my dad the same month 16 years before from cancer at the age of 70 but my mom said this is so different from that. All over my moms room are pictures of my sister today. My sister left behind 2 older brothers and one older sister and me her younger brother who thought she will always be there all my life. 1000 people went to her wake. Amazing. Her husband fell in love with her first sight at 19. Her daughter who was 16 at the time has pictures everywhere of her. They were close. Her son at 20 too they were close. My niece I suppose is taking it hard still. This movie we loved and remember watching it in the 80s and early 90s often. It was so funny until the end is so hard to see. You can feel the emotions.
My dad had squamous cell cancer, a deadly form of skin cancer. After a 4 year battle, he passed away at home. He had a hospital bed in the living room. My mom was in the room with him. Much like Emma, she said he looked at her and then he was gone.
The most moving death scene I have ever seen in any movie
the only other death scene that moved me this way was dead man walking death scene...
I’ve lost two people to cancer. It’s not this gentle at all. But the scene conveys the emotions that are felt well.
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The nurse in the scene WAS respectful and professional. But I still know what you mean TallGuy.
Maybe it's because I'm a hospice nurse. Yes, I'm a professional ....but I'm ALSO personally involved. When it's nearing the end for a patient, they have my personal number, so if they wish it, the family can call me any time day or night and I'll drive out to pronounce their loved one.
I go to the funerals too.
God bless you, we need more nurses like you
Why thank you Sherzan. I appreciate that.
I was hospitalized for 1 year and I really know how a golden heart like yours is important in these difficult and endless days.
Good bless you. Regards from Brazil.
You're a special lady
Thank you for your service and the care and comfort you give to people going through the most difficult of times
this clip was my tear jerking savior while sitting with my love on his way out. I needed it. i dont know why it possessed me to watch it over n over.
Lived this four years ago. Nothing worse. RIP SLBM. 💫💫💫💫💜💜💜💜
I watched this movie with my mom when I was a kid, and I struck how sad it made her...now I’m a momma my self and currently bawling my eyes out. Also super appreciative of how much my mom has always done for me
Shirley McClaine is a brilliant & SUPER actress in this scene!!!!!
When my father passed away 5 years ago I thought that it would be a relief but in reality it was only a relief for him. Tomorrow he would have been 80 and my mother, my sisters, and I miss him very much. We never get over the passing of a loved one, we just get through it.
I wanted to say you should move on...but once you said "We never get over the passing of a loved one, we just get through it." it was the truest thing I've ever read! Thank you for such a wonderful statement.
I wish I never saw my Dad pass in the hospital. So sad that day. 5 years later I can't get the hospital room out of my mind
CRYING THE MOMENT THIS SCENE STARTS............ NEVER FAILS ME.......
If this scene doesn't make you well up, you don't have a pulse.
The only worse thing than hatred is indifference
This movie is so powerful and I remember being stunned to learn much later that Shirley McClaine and Deborah Winger hated each other. Their characters had a rough relationship, but the love shone through and it's a testament to their acting ability.
+atomcrush More like Debra was a "pill" and hard on Shirley, and was a bit demanding and hard to work with, overall. That's what I heard anyway.
saw them together in debras instagram. debra had the hastag burythehatchet lol
Shirley MacLaine was simply resplendent in this film -- and yes, she deserved that Academy Award as Best Actress, as did Debra Winger her nomination. Neither mother nor daughter had to say a word in conveying their love for one another with that one final look. Emma quietly sought her mother's permission to let go, and Aurora granted it with a subtly raised eyebrow and a slight smile, maintaining eye contact with her daughter as she then passes away. It's a heartbreaking and beautiful scene.
I was very young when watch this I love this movie and cryed like a baby ❤️
I always cry hysterically when I watch this!
A great movie, I cry sooo much when this part comes on. My heart breaks.
If you ever need a good cry…this scene. Every time I watch it’s waterworks.
I cried from watching this 2-minute scene. No one does it like Shirley Maclaine .
The most beautiful death scene I have ever seen.
She portrays this emotion she so well.
We are all going to go through this. Sometimes we are the one who’s is the that bed, other times we are the ones who are standing along side that bed. We most conform with it.
Mothers shouldn't have to outlive, and bury, their daughters.
No one should have to outlive ANY loved one, really.
My darling daughter, my firstborn child will undergo a double mastectomy on December 22. We just found out about her cancer 2 weeks ago. I immediately thought about this movie and I'm terrified. She's 47 years old and still my princess. I can't imagine the pain of losing her. I wish I had not revisited this movie trailer.
Tear jerker, never fails. So well acted. Very realistic death scene and in showing the different reactions people have to death.
This movie is like the flip side of Steele Magnolias and Shirley MacLaine is in that too!!
Poor Flap. But he looks like he’s in shock. When it comes to grief, you can’t generalize.
But he and Aurora,,who had a very contentious relationship, here come together in their shared grief, she clings to him and he to her. The next scene is the post funereal repast and here it catches up to Flap, he becomes grief-stricken finally. Very well done movie, sad without being maudlin.
Flaps is a more realistic scenario. I have been there.
Fantastic movie,I can’t say enough about it.
I just lost my father to cancer. Six months before that I lost my mother to sepsis. I think there’s a misconception among some that death is a very dramatic thing. I’m here to tell you it isn’t always. Thank goodness in many ways it is a very quiet, peaceful transition such as this and they just go. The how doesn’t matter for those of us left behind. Any way you go about to and as grateful for them as we may be, it’s still every bit just as painful for those of us left behind.
I love this movie. As horribly sad as it is, it is the most realistic movie of its kind as far as showing what it’s like to be a human being. This scene was beautifully done imo.
One of the best films
This movie part every time Mom and I saw it Wed bawl our eyes out Mom knew how it felt losing Dad with cancer in 1988
My goodness. The pain. This hurts so much. You think ... but you can’t imagine. But then the mom had to be strong for that moment. Omg that’s so painful. She was there... 💔beautiful and horrible
I know chat its like my grands-parents lost two daughters my aunt And my mom. But they still Have other children
There's nothing harder, you're right😢
And Flap slept through the whole thing as to be expected.
One of the two most moving dying scenes in American cinematic history, the other being Melanie’s death in GWTW (Olivia de Havilland and Vivien Leigh).
I'll never forget this movie experience. I didn't even want to see this movie and had no clue what it was really about. I went because it was a big honey-do. My girlfriend wanted to see it and insisted I take her. I watched it. I sat there and watched all the twist and turns of the plot. And then she got sick. When she died I found myself quietly weeping tears rolling down my face like a shower running free. Even after it was over I didn't stop. You see I was her youngest son. My mother died When I was his age. I'm old now and I can still feel the pain like it was yesterday. Another quiet weeper was Field of Dreams. A flat out tear jerking baller was "Imitation of Life" wow!!
And most recently the great fun right up until the moment they made you start balling...
"THE BEST MAN HOLIDAY"
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It was a really good movie released around Christmas time. (To me that's not the time to release such a movie
These films made me feel real pain.
One of the best movies ever made!
tall32,... First, try to understand that THAT person was playing a part in a movie. Also try to understand the Nurse's position. She WAS respectful! It's not her job to get personally involved, though I'm sure she was hurting herself, about the death of another person, but Nurse's HAVE to remain somewhat professional, even those times too! That scene does not represent the nurse's perceived character flaw. How would YOU want her to respond, so others can learn what NOT to do?
Flap was a cold bastard of a husband to Emma, but at least he did the right thing and comforted his mother in law! Very good movie
My best friend died last year and this, this right here, is how I imagine her mum reacted when my girl finally found peace. This is why I love Shirley.
MagicalMusic34 bless you and your friend
This movie is stunning... And a legend
I just lost 20 pounds of fluid from crying. :(
my mom loved this movie and so did i... she lost her adoptive dad when this came out , who was my pop-pop well not really but to me he was the best pop pop i ever had.... lost my mom in 2013 she was pretty much the last to go and it was the hardest thing i ever had to go through, still very hard....i know this might sound funny but im glad she met my kitty before she passed, but now i had to give my kitty up this morning, :( now everythings gone!!! my whole family is pretty much gone and my kitty.....nothing left for me.... :( it sux when your young and you lose your whole family, u have to grow up fast and be on your own....I LOVE YOU ALL , WHEREEVER YOU MAY BE!!!! :(
I didn’t even notice that flap was sleeping in this scene.
i remember becoming fighting mad when i realized the movie was going unexpected places. i was so caught up in it and no one had let on to me how it goes. this was before VCRs or i would have stopped the tape, but like life, the movie kept on going without a pause and i had to hang on wherever it went. but i was angry!!!
betty bye when this came out, I was in a very troubled marriage. My husband and I went and I thought it was going to be a typical happy ending. I was also shocked and caught off guard and I remembered I was crying so hard because it opened my eyes to the finality of death. I didn’t want to be an Emma. Shortly after, I divorced him.
This movie will bring the strongest man to his knees
The best performances ever
What many fail to realize about this movie is that it masterfully uses several ways to show the passage of time. It covers a small time pocket of the lives of these characters and they change by the end of the movie. That’s how life is. We’re not perfect and this movie does so well to show that.
Powerful and emotional scene to say the least.. I never can get thru this part without crying. I know what its like to loose a mother..
it is one of my evergreen favourite movie and i like this scene very much
Some of the best non-verbal acting on film by Debra and Shirley at the beginning of this scene.
Shirley's best performance after the Apparment
Thought it would be ok to watch this scene. I knew what was going to happen and I’ve seen it a million times but when Aurora breaks down I just can’t hold it together.
And a year later…same result. I just don’t learn my damn lesson.
I think there’s a small piece of judgement in the fact that only she and her mother shared that moment...
I've experienced this with my mom so sad 😞
Yes amazing acting but great directing too. Rather than show the moment of death, he showed the mother reacting to it. Very rare and much more powerful than the standard death scene. I wonder how Debra Winger felt about it, since every actor loves playing a death scene.
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Andre : "does she ever quit crying?"
Jade : "nah, she be dead in minutes"
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Read the room
how lovely ... this is one of the most shocking movies I've ever seen. Applause
This scene kills me everytime! 😢
Flap is so unbelievably useless, he's not even awake when Emma dies.
Harry Dunne!
Her last sight was her mother's eyes.
Great scene, and thanks for showing it. This is a GREAT movie! Remembering scenes in the movie like this, I wish you would have kept going with the scene a little longer, instead of cutting it so soon! Give the heart felt moment a little longer for people to wipe their eyes and soak up in the moment!