Betty's passing: I was an Aged Care Nurse and had the great honour to be with hundreds of elderly people as they took their last breath. Some Nurses love Paediatrics and the beginning of this Life, but I always loved Geriatrics and the beginning of a 'different' life that I couldn't see. A great many of my beautiful patients came to see me after their passing, and that made it all worth while 💗💓
I ended my 52 1/2 year nursing career as a Hospice and Home Health nurse. My career started in geriatrics, added med-surg-peds, then on to Oncology, and a lengthy stint as Admissions and Discharge nurse at a LTC/rehab facility. So, aging and death were something I was comfortable dealing with. I thank all those nurses who did OB/Gyn, Psych, ER. Not for me, and those nurses felt the same way about my preferences!
I was only in it for just over 2 decades, but being able to sit and hold someone's hand as they passed and being able to comfort them was truly an honour.
My hubby worked for railway for decades and one guy got hit by a train and unfortunately cut in half , it was a traumatic thing to see and to witness , I will never forget the look on his face when he came home
You should see over India, they ride the trains like they think it’s a toy. They get cut in half everyday, yet still don’t figure it out, that it might not be a good idea. Serious Darwinism over there…
Wow my Dad did not permit “bribing a kid or negotiating”. He told u what was going on, admitted it might hurt a bit but he didn’t want a scene. He was harder on himself. All 5 kids understood. Saved a lot of stress for everybody. No lies, no surprises.
I remember when I got the end of a finger removed(believe it or not, kicked off by a pony while in a cart. Put my hand on the willow bar). Obviously rushed to the doctor with finger tip. Dad literally simply held me down during freezing and stitching. No promises of anything, simply get it done.
I’m not an expert on children, ears, Lego, white beads, or big pieces of cake. I can’t help but wonder, though, that if a kid's reward for putting a bead in his ear and then letting them pluck it back out is a trip to the toy store to get the largest box of Lego that they have and then they'd head off to get a big piece of cake, wouldn’t the kid think that it might be worth doing that, or maybe something even more extreme, again when he wants another trip to the toy store and/or another big piece of cake?
The optics of the boy's situation weren't good to be sure. From the addiction to video games to the absurd bribery to the ultimate reward for him manipulating the situation was hard to watch. Yes, easy to be a critic from a million miles away and we don't see the full picture but I still agree with your general assessment.
I stuck a jelly bean in my ear when I was 3 or 4. My mom said when she looked at me I would turn away. My great grandma lived with us. My mom said I keep turning away when she looked at me. We went to the doctor and said the same thing. The doctor noticed that one of my ears was very swollen. He looked in my ear and said there’s a jelly bean in there and my ear was infected. The doctor got so mad because I kept lying to my mom that there was nothing wrong. I got a big lecture from him. I was crying my eyes out. Then when he tried to get it out I cried even more 😹😹😹😹
I raised 3 boys alone. I was a different kind of mom. No way that kid would have been begged for his permission. I would have told them to hold him down and take it out. Period. End of adventure. No reward for dumb behavior.
Agreed. Unfortuantely what it does teach children is that relationships and situations are transactional, which lacks humanity. Doesn't foster character. It creates too much extrinsic motivation which lacks true compassion.
In some situations it can be useful, like for example giving a child a small toy when getting a vaccine. But promising a child to go to the toy store and let him get basically whatever he wants is definitely going too far. The child should learn that he will not get rewarded for every little thing.
You do realise that some nuts ask a baby permission to change the diaper , right ? I have no idea why they do that ...their idea being " never touch anyone without permission " . How they think the baby agrees is a mystery.
Why are you letting a 4yr old tell you what to do? And why are you taking him to get ice cream and a toy? He’s going to keep doing it because of all the stuff he’s going to get. The mother needs to hold him down so the doctor can do his job. Now if he fell and hurt his ear that’s totally different. Get him ice cream or a toy. If this kid was in martial arts you could delete this entire part because kids in martial arts are more mature than other sports. Yes they are in pain but they wouldn’t have had a tantrum like that little brat.
Thank you for not blurring out everything... please keep this channel the way it is! There are very few left that are true to the title of the videos.. 👍🙌👏💕
The level of care and compassion in the Uk makes me want to move there asap. Will is an amazing healer, yes a healer. The oath he took is something he really seem to take to heart. Mend Ease Comfort.
I’m old school. Don’t bribe kids. Teach them. My daughter broke her arm. I told her you WILL let the Doctors help you. Yes it will hurt. She asked why would i want her hurt more. Told her because I love you & I don’t want you to loose your arm so you will let them take care of you. Asked do you understand? She agreed she didn’t want her arm cut off.
My condolences to Betty, and her family. That was a horrible accident that Alan had. I hope he regains the use of his arm. Have a great day my friend ❤️🙂⚘️🏥.
My daughter moved to London from Australia in 2023. I am comforted that she is in a healthcare system as good as in Australia. Just as well, as she has had two experiences of St Georges A&E.
I’m praying for the gentleman with the SEVERE arm injury. My left shoulder has been replaced three times . There’s not enough bone left to a fourth replacement. I have a GENETIC DISEASE that affects my joints , and my internal organs. It’s even affected my brain yet alone everything else.
The way she's bribing the kid and still getting no where, can't believe she's made him the boss, any other parent would be holding him down while he screaming blue murder, keeping his head still
Absolutely! I remember as a small kid having to have not one but TWO injections in my hips at one time because I was extremely low in iron. The start of a whole series of iron shots. The second shot was some other medication I needed to have. I fought the nurse, doctor and my mother like a little wild thing, but there was no mollycoddling whatsoever. They held me down and gave me the shots. No questions asked. I think I was about 4 or so. It got me over my fear of needles. LOL!
@littleogeechee223 iron injections are so painful I've had a few in my time, parents were tougher then too 😊,,no mollycoddling just get it done I got held down for stitches too 😀
The compassion from hospital staff here is amazing. I recently worked at a hospital in the US (in the trauma room) and a poor man was in cardiac arrest and continued to hang on the brink as we worked him for two hours. At the end, the staff had cleared out except for two nurses, and one of the nurses who was surprised he still had a thready pulse, said “d!e f*$cker! Go to the light!” And I couldn’t believe it, that was considered acceptable behavior. I quit shortly thereafter and work on an emergency ambulance now.
That's what happens in a country where health "care" is run by profit-making corporations and citizens are brainwashed to vote against their own interests. Appalling.
Very surprised that the guy who had a fall wasn't put in a neck brace on the scene. Even when the doctor saw the results of the scan and that he had an unstable neck injury, still no neck brace.
God Bless you all in Betty's family sorry for your loss. It takes sometimes a tragic accident to pull families together I'm glad to see your father getting use of his arm again. Everyone else done for the better.💕
Hahahahahahaha. Oh dear, that adorable mom. Mom? Don't bargain with him. He's NOT your boss. You are HIS boss and he'd better do what mommy says or else. Now I don't believe in smacking children, that's abuse. BUT take away their Switch for a few days, stuff along those lines, he'll start listening, and quick. He'll put up a fight - do not back down. You got this mom. He's a good little guy anyway, he's just scared.
I don’t remember being given options or much leniency as a child. Old school wasn’t always nice but we also didn’t spend much time in hospital getting simple things done either. In, see it, do it, get out.
That kid should never have been able to dictate whether or not to have it removed. Bribing the kid for bad behavior is just the icing on the awful cake.
True, but he's very young and therefore irrational. You might as well try to convince a cat. The mother is just trying to get him to cooperate by any means possible. Anaesthetizing him or holding him down in a headlock probably aren't options. If he's still behaving like this in a couple of years, yes, that would be a problem.
I'm a phlebotomist with just over 10 years experience. Kids who are told they can say no, always say no, then they start to cry, then they get genuinely scared, and then they become utterly hysterical. Kids who are told they have to get it done, they are far calmer. If they are under the age of 10, I will have them sit on their guardians lap, with one arm wrapping over their chest in a hug and the other arm holding their arm comfortably, not holding them down and restraining them, just a secue, comfortable hold. It doesn't make the kid feel trapped, but if they flinch, I can still put the needle in. Most kids will calm down once the needle is in, as it doesn't hurt as much mid-procedure and we can say "that is the worst part, it will be over soon." Some kids won't even cry, I had a wonderfully weird 4 yer old just giggle and say it tickled last week. In my years of experience, now seeing the impact being told "you can say no" is to childrens experience having their blood taken, I actually think it is cruel to the child. They aren't capable of making that decision, and they will just feel betrayed and scared when they realised "you can say no" was a lie. Because it is a lie when its an essential medical procedure. I guarantee, next time they try to get the bead out of that kids ear, he will be more frightened, and more distressed than he was here, and I would put money on him becoming utterly hysterical with terror. Eventually, he will have to endure to trauma of being restrained by multiple people in order for it to be done, and that can have life-long consequences and may leave him with a life-long phobia of medical spaces.
We have a lot of male nurses in the US. No one thinks anything different of them. I like them better to be honest. They often seem to have more patience and compassion.
Ich würde überhaupt nicht diskutieren oder mein Kind mit der größten Box von Lego belohnen dafür das er sich etwas ins Ohr gesteckt hat!!! Was raus muss, muss raus!!!!
These kids are so bad. My mother would have held us down for that nurse to get that bead out. We would NEVER have been so rude as to argue with her. It never works to try to bargain with a kid for heaven sakes.
I have kids and I know tons of them through my friends that have them and if you ask them to do something they don't want to do they're going to say no so you basically say this has to happen or.....
I see myself in that mother of the young boy. I would have bribed my son also. But now that I'm a grandma no more bribing. This is what your going to do. If I have to hold you down with other people. Kids know how to work ya
When it comes to kids. They get bodily autonomy until it becomes a medical hazard. Then it’s not “will you” it’s “you will”. If she doesn’t do it conscious he’ll have to do it sedated which is far more risk for him. You hold him still then reward the bravery. If you start bartering with health the kid will walk all over you non stop. ETA with Betty. This is why I always fight to see my relative before they go for testing “well she’ll just be a second” I don’t care. Nothing in that room could scare me or upset me more than NOT seeing my relative. She died thinking her son had to stop to get a snack before seeing her. Even though he wanted in to see her. And she was obviously looking for him. Frustrating. I know time is tissue but she’s had chest pain for 3 days and chose not to act on it. Nothing is going to change that hasn’t been permanent damage in 3 days of chest pain.
Wow that child was spoiled way to much by his parents. 5 is a bit old to be putting something in his ear. His mother should of taken away the iPad he was on when being taken care of by the doctor. Rewarding the child with a toy when it comes out not the right thing to do, he's spoiled enough. I never raised my children like that and we had the money for it, we didn't spoiled them. 5 yrs all ready knows how to play his mother. I truly wish the best to your family.
Lord thats one spoiled kid. I understand wanting and needing your kids to do something but bribing isn’t the way. If my son fought me like that, Id straight up say I know it’s uncomfortable but you need to let me do it. He isn’t in charge.
For the man who fell down the stairs: if you really want to find your next wife, shave off that beard! Even covered with blood and with that gigantic shiner, you look so much cuter beardless!
It's always exasperating to see junk food vending machines in hospitals. Bad diet, smoking, alcohol, and drugs are the main causes of the chronic diseases that are overwhelming the NHS and other countries' health care systems.
Betty What a trooper!! Feel like they mismanaged her for a bit though. Clearly a patient that had infarcted and was in acute decompensated heart failure with all the signs of cardiogenic shock and multi organ dysfunction. Should have been commenced on pressors and had better ventilation. Poor lady, seemed like it was her time! bless her
Everyone is so judgy. Yes, this little boy seems especially spoiled, but I dare you to find a parent who hasn't bribed their child. Don't ask, be in control and take it out.
To everyone saying you shouldn't bribe or bargain with kids during medical procedures, I'm just going to describe what me getting my vaccines at the age of 6 was like for context. I completely flipped out, and it took five people to hold me still enough to get them. Adrenaline made me incredibly strong, and I think if bribery gets my kid to sit still enough that they don't inadvertently kick a nurse in the face I think that's a price I'm willing to pay.
My Dad was a Train Master and Officer in the RR. He tells me about the accidents and in America, with that kind of an accident he would never have to work again.
If I was that little boy and in A&E performing like that, holy crap I wouldn't have sat for a week. How on earth are the parents so careless? Zero discipline whatsoever. That being said, by his age (I assume 5 or perhaps 6 by his uniform) I had already had something like 10 invasive surgeries and spent a lot of time in paediatrics. I never met a kid who wouldn't cooperate back in my time (late 90's early 00's). I guess now with the idea of child-centred bloody everything, if the kid says no they just don't do anything. Bizarre. Also I guess it should have been obvious filling his face with a tablet device the entire time.
That little boy was quite spoiled, and I would guess that he’s an only child. The mother isn’t teaching him anything by promising him that if he let the Doctor get the the bead out, then he would get a big piece of cake or go to the Lego store and get the biggest box that they had. You have to teach them that if they do silly things like that that there’s consequences and the consequences are is that you have to get a doctor to go in with those little pinchers and grab the bead out so next time you won’t do it again or do anything foolish like that again. But when a child is an only child well, they’re treated like a prince. I only had to tell my sons once what would happen if they put things in their ears or their nose or accidentally swallow something that it would mean a trip to the hospital and perhaps an operation if they couldn’t get it out. Just warning them was enough to make them not do it. Were my son‘s perfect absolutely not, but they didn’t like going to the doctor and that was the whole point of telling them what would happen to them if they did what this little boy did. Me being a type one diabetic I have medical stuff around the house and they were used to seeing me give needles and they didn’t want any part of it so I guess it was easier for me to convince my sons to not do anything like this.🥰 I felt sorry for Betty. She probably woke up knowing that soon she’d pass away. To have the love and admiration that she had from her son was very special and very rewarding. As far as being a mom is concerned and as far as being a single parent is concerned. My heart goes out to the family at their loss of Betty, a woman to be loved and a woman that was an example of how not to let life get you down, no matter what happens. I admire her very much as I was in the same boat being a single mom of a little boy and having to work one full-time job and two part-time jobs at the same 24 hour period. He and I had a great time together for the first six years of his life and then I met my second husband and he turned out to be the best stepdad and mom could want for her child and then we had a little boy. So we raised two little boys together. Now I’m a widow of three years five months and I miss that guy so much. I’m happy Alan didn’t lose his right arm. To be hit by a train going 90 miles an hour that is something else. That he’s even here to tell the story of himself is amazing!! I wish him all the best!!☺️ The other gentleman who hit his head, I think he should start wearing a helmet because he’s going to give himself a serious head injury if he keeps hitting his head.
Betty's passing: I was an Aged Care Nurse and had the great honour to be with hundreds of elderly people as they took their last breath. Some Nurses love Paediatrics and the beginning of this Life, but I always loved Geriatrics and the beginning of a 'different' life that I couldn't see. A great many of my beautiful patients came to see me after their passing, and that made it all worth while 💗💓
I ended my 52 1/2 year nursing career as a Hospice and Home Health nurse. My career started in geriatrics, added med-surg-peds, then on to Oncology, and a lengthy stint as Admissions and Discharge nurse at a LTC/rehab facility. So, aging and death were something I was comfortable dealing with. I thank all those nurses who did OB/Gyn, Psych, ER. Not for me, and those nurses felt the same way about my preferences!
I was only in it for just over 2 decades, but being able to sit and hold someone's hand as they passed and being able to comfort them was truly an honour.
@@sinneadfert Blessings to you.
My hubby worked for railway for decades and one guy got hit by a train and unfortunately cut in half , it was a traumatic thing to see and to witness , I will never forget the look on his face when he came home
My Dad worked on the railway and he said you never argue with a train. They win every time.
You should see over India, they ride the trains like they think it’s a toy. They get cut in half everyday, yet still don’t figure it out, that it might not be a good idea. Serious Darwinism over there…
Wow my Dad did not permit “bribing a kid or negotiating”. He told u what was going on, admitted it might hurt a bit but he didn’t want a scene. He was harder on himself. All 5 kids understood. Saved a lot of stress for everybody. No lies, no surprises.
You betcha.
Makes better kids, teenagers, and adults too.
No way would l let my kid dictate to me about treatment needed. Love him and help him to be brave, not bribehim!
I remember when I got the end of a finger removed(believe it or not, kicked off by a pony while in a cart. Put my hand on the willow bar). Obviously rushed to the doctor with finger tip. Dad literally simply held me down during freezing and stitching. No promises of anything, simply get it done.
I’m not an expert on children, ears, Lego, white beads, or big pieces of cake. I can’t help but wonder, though, that if a kid's reward for putting a bead in his ear and then letting them pluck it back out is a trip to the toy store to get the largest box of Lego that they have and then they'd head off to get a big piece of cake, wouldn’t the kid think that it might be worth doing that, or maybe something even more extreme, again when he wants another trip to the toy store and/or another big piece of cake?
The optics of the boy's situation weren't good to be sure. From the addiction to video games to the absurd bribery to the ultimate reward for him manipulating the situation was hard to watch. Yes, easy to be a critic from a million miles away and we don't see the full picture but I still agree with your general assessment.
Don’t ask the spoilt little child. Tell him.
I read your comments and thought wow harsh then watched the rest of he show oh wow he’s a problem
I stuck a jelly bean in my ear when I was 3 or 4. My mom said when she looked at me I would turn away. My great grandma lived with us. My mom said I keep turning away when she looked at me. We went to the doctor and said the same thing. The doctor noticed that one of my ears was very swollen. He looked in my ear and said there’s a jelly bean in there and my ear was infected. The doctor got so mad because I kept lying to my mom that there was nothing wrong. I got a big lecture from him. I was crying my eyes out. Then when he tried to get it out I cried even more 😹😹😹😹
I raised 3 boys alone. I was a different kind of mom. No way that kid would have been begged for his permission. I would have told them to hold him down and take it out. Period. End of adventure. No reward for dumb behavior.
Don't bribe kids! Sometimes things just have to be done! Imagine what he will be like as a teen!
I'll give you a sports car if you promise not to drive drunk. Please? Shake on it?
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That scenario had me wanting to step in and take over...uff da.
Agreed. Unfortuantely what it does teach children is that relationships and situations are transactional, which lacks humanity. Doesn't foster character. It creates too much extrinsic motivation which lacks true compassion.
In some situations it can be useful, like for example giving a child a small toy when getting a vaccine. But promising a child to go to the toy store and let him get basically whatever he wants is definitely going too far. The child should learn that he will not get rewarded for every little thing.
Why do they even ask a child if they can do something? They end up doing the procedure anyway. They can nicely but firmly tell them what they will do.
That's what I'd do. No mucking around.
Right? They will do it whether the child allows them to or not.
Today's world. Pre 2000 they wouldn't say a word and they'd have a go until it was out.
You do realise that some nuts ask a baby permission to change the diaper , right ? I have no idea why they do that ...their idea being " never touch anyone without permission " . How they think the baby agrees is a mystery.
Why are you letting a 4yr old tell you what to do? And why are you taking him to get ice cream and a toy? He’s going to keep doing it because of all the stuff he’s going to get. The mother needs to hold him down so the doctor can do his job. Now if he fell and hurt his ear that’s totally different. Get him ice cream or a toy. If this kid was in martial arts you could delete this entire part because kids in martial arts are more mature than other sports. Yes they are in pain but they wouldn’t have had a tantrum like that little brat.
Five more years and I'll be there working, hopefully. Thanks for the work chaps!
Blessings on you!
Thank you for not blurring out everything... please keep this channel the way it is!
There are very few left that are true to the title of the videos..
👍🙌👏💕
When I get old and have a medical event, when I get in the hospital I will now demand the doctor says "You had a funny turn"
The level of care and compassion in the Uk makes me want to move there asap.
Will is an amazing healer, yes a healer.
The oath he took is something he really seem to take to heart.
Mend
Ease
Comfort.
It is true.
I have seen health care in numerous countries, and though the NHS is stretched, it is still the premier health care deliverer on the world
It's also known they're being filmed. US and everywhere else would be the same exact way if you had cameras on them.
@@pmccoy8924 Im glad to have a different outlook than you. The world is full of shit as is and no need to paint everything like that.
@@mjaricacat You're an optimist, I am a realist. Be well.
@@pmccoy8924 Not sure what you are tbh but it aint good😹😹😹
I’m old school. Don’t bribe kids. Teach them. My daughter broke her arm. I told her you WILL let the Doctors help you. Yes it will hurt. She asked why would i want her hurt more. Told her because I love you & I don’t want you to loose your arm so you will let them take care of you. Asked do you understand? She agreed she didn’t want her arm cut off.
The gentleman that got hit by the train he is fighting the good fight I hope he survived he also has a lot of angels around him him
Alan had lots of metal pieces in his arm… it will take months to get better but it looks like it will get better.
My condolences to Betty, and her family. That was a horrible accident that Alan had. I hope he regains the use of his arm. Have a great day my friend ❤️🙂⚘️🏥.
My daughter moved to London from Australia in 2023. I am comforted that she is in a healthcare system as good as in Australia. Just as well, as she has had two experiences of St Georges A&E.
I’m praying for the gentleman with the SEVERE arm injury. My left shoulder has been replaced three times . There’s not enough bone left to a fourth replacement. I have a GENETIC DISEASE that affects my joints , and my internal organs. It’s even affected my brain yet alone everything else.
That is one little spoilt brat. Good luck with that one.
He didn't spoil himself!
Daryl, my Dad trained as a RN in 1974 and was told he could only be an orderly in rural Australia in 1979...keep doing a great job!
The way she's bribing the kid and still getting no where, can't believe she's made him the boss, any other parent would be holding him down while he screaming blue murder, keeping his head still
Yep.
Absolutely! I remember as a small kid having to have not one but TWO injections in my hips at one time because I was extremely low in iron. The start of a whole series of iron shots. The second shot was some other medication I needed to have. I fought the nurse, doctor and my mother like a little wild thing, but there was no mollycoddling whatsoever. They held me down and gave me the shots. No questions asked.
I think I was about 4 or so. It got me over my fear of needles. LOL!
And I'll bet those shots of 'imferon' gave you a black hip.
@littleogeechee223 iron injections are so painful I've had a few in my time, parents were tougher then too 😊,,no mollycoddling just get it done I got held down for stitches too 😀
I think it's a generational thing about male nurse. Those who I have worked with are phenomenal people and absolutely fabulous practitioners.
It was interesting to listen to him. I always wore my lab coat, with and without my uniform and nursing hat. Many folks would call me 'doctor'!
What a compassionate hospital I’m blown away of the care god bless 😊
Daryl the incredible nurse, I have to say has the most beautiful eyes. Thank you for the upload. Excellent program.
I think those eyes are colored contact lenses.
Such an amazing show! Much to be learned from each and every episode
I knew that was coming that William would still ask for the new toy even though he didn't let them get the bead out lol 😅
The compassion from hospital staff here is amazing. I recently worked at a hospital in the US (in the trauma room) and a poor man was in cardiac arrest and continued to hang on the brink as we worked him for two hours. At the end, the staff had cleared out except for two nurses, and one of the nurses who was surprised he still had a thready pulse, said “d!e f*$cker! Go to the light!” And I couldn’t believe it, that was considered acceptable behavior. I quit shortly thereafter and work on an emergency ambulance now.
That's what happens in a country where health "care" is run by profit-making corporations and citizens are brainwashed to vote against their own interests. Appalling.
That’s horrible!
Jesus Christ almighty! I thought I'd had some bad experiences as a chronic illness patient but fucking hell!
All of you at St George are wonderful. Family of Betty condolences. Allen prayers your arm heals in working.
Will, I love you, you are an angel. a true empathetic blessing to the A&E department, I wish we had staff like you here in Germany.
Bribing a child, to let the dr do her work. No, I don’t think so. Wait till he’s a teenager; watch what he wants then.
@@disneyfanatic9658 I completely agree with you, but what does my comment have to do with yours?
bribbing your kids. no. Let them find their way into the situation with love and comfort.
Very surprised that the guy who had a fall wasn't put in a neck brace on the scene. Even when the doctor saw the results of the scan and that he had an unstable neck injury, still no neck brace.
My moms name was also Betty. They both have a name in common and they both passed the same way. Just one more breath 💞
The woman is going to have problems with that spoiled with that boy (crybaby) for God’s sake take away the computer game!!
Totally agree.
Calling a child of that age a 'crybaby' really, really says a lot about you. I mean for fuck's sake, he really is not much more than a baby.
I completely agree. Parenting really has changed…
God Bless you all in Betty's family sorry for your loss. It takes sometimes a tragic accident to pull families together I'm glad to see your father getting use of his arm again. Everyone else done for the better.💕
Hahahahahahaha. Oh dear, that adorable mom. Mom? Don't bargain with him. He's NOT your boss. You are HIS boss and he'd better do what mommy says or else. Now I don't believe in smacking children, that's abuse. BUT take away their Switch for a few days, stuff along those lines, he'll start listening, and quick. He'll put up a fight - do not back down. You got this mom. He's a good little guy anyway, he's just scared.
19:43 I feel this mums urgency. Sometimes you have to try anything to get the job done.
God bless Betty's family🙏🙏
This is such a well done documentary... and the music fits so well!
Great video
I don’t remember being given options or much leniency as a child. Old school wasn’t always nice but we also didn’t spend much time in hospital getting simple things done either. In, see it, do it, get out.
That kid should never have been able to dictate whether or not to have it removed. Bribing the kid for bad behavior is just the icing on the awful cake.
True, but he's very young and therefore irrational. You might as well try to convince a cat. The mother is just trying to get him to cooperate by any means possible. Anaesthetizing him or holding him down in a headlock probably aren't options. If he's still behaving like this in a couple of years, yes, that would be a problem.
I'm a phlebotomist with just over 10 years experience. Kids who are told they can say no, always say no, then they start to cry, then they get genuinely scared, and then they become utterly hysterical. Kids who are told they have to get it done, they are far calmer. If they are under the age of 10, I will have them sit on their guardians lap, with one arm wrapping over their chest in a hug and the other arm holding their arm comfortably, not holding them down and restraining them, just a secue, comfortable hold. It doesn't make the kid feel trapped, but if they flinch, I can still put the needle in. Most kids will calm down once the needle is in, as it doesn't hurt as much mid-procedure and we can say "that is the worst part, it will be over soon." Some kids won't even cry, I had a wonderfully weird 4 yer old just giggle and say it tickled last week.
In my years of experience, now seeing the impact being told "you can say no" is to childrens experience having their blood taken, I actually think it is cruel to the child. They aren't capable of making that decision, and they will just feel betrayed and scared when they realised "you can say no" was a lie. Because it is a lie when its an essential medical procedure.
I guarantee, next time they try to get the bead out of that kids ear, he will be more frightened, and more distressed than he was here, and I would put money on him becoming utterly hysterical with terror. Eventually, he will have to endure to trauma of being restrained by multiple people in order for it to be done, and that can have life-long consequences and may leave him with a life-long phobia of medical spaces.
We have a lot of male nurses in the US. No one thinks anything different of them. I like them better to be honest. They often seem to have more patience and compassion.
Why is the mom begging the toddler to let the doctor do the bead? Spoiling
Ich würde überhaupt nicht diskutieren oder mein Kind mit der größten Box von Lego belohnen dafür das er sich etwas ins Ohr gesteckt hat!!! Was raus muss, muss raus!!!!
These kids are so bad. My mother would have held us down for that nurse to get that bead out. We would NEVER have been so rude as to argue with her. It never works to try to bargain with a kid for heaven sakes.
I have kids and I know tons of them through my friends that have them and if you ask them to do something they don't want to do they're going to say no so you basically say this has to happen or.....
I got the same reaction when I showed up as a female cop in 1975; “where’s your partner? But you’re so small…..”
RIP Betty
I see myself in that mother of the young boy. I would have bribed my son also. But now that I'm a grandma no more bribing. This is what your going to do. If I have to hold you down with other people. Kids know how to work ya
Ya, nope. No bribing my kids with anything. If it has to get done.. it has to get done.
When it comes to kids. They get bodily autonomy until it becomes a medical hazard. Then it’s not “will you” it’s “you will”. If she doesn’t do it conscious he’ll have to do it sedated which is far more risk for him. You hold him still then reward the bravery.
If you start bartering with health the kid will walk all over you non stop.
ETA with Betty. This is why I always fight to see my relative before they go for testing “well she’ll just be a second” I don’t care. Nothing in that room could scare me or upset me more than NOT seeing my relative. She died thinking her son had to stop to get a snack before seeing her. Even though he wanted in to see her. And she was obviously looking for him. Frustrating. I know time is tissue but she’s had chest pain for 3 days and chose not to act on it. Nothing is going to change that hasn’t been permanent damage in 3 days of chest pain.
God bless Betty.
I knew what was going to happen the moment he said "rallied"
That boy is going to be a spoilt mess when he gets older. She'll have so much trouble with him. Never bribe a child to get them to do something. Imo.
39:17 he's got the right of it, that's for sure. Getting old sucks.
R.I.P. Betty
Male nurses rock
RIP 🪦 Betty 😢
Wow that child was spoiled way to much by his parents. 5 is a bit old to be putting something in his ear. His mother should of taken away the iPad he was on when being taken care of by the doctor. Rewarding the child with a toy when it comes out not the right thing to do, he's spoiled enough. I never raised my children like that and we had the money for it, we didn't spoiled them. 5 yrs all ready knows how to play his mother. I truly wish the best to your family.
Lord thats one spoiled kid. I understand wanting and needing your kids to do something but bribing isn’t the way. If my son fought me like that, Id straight up say I know it’s uncomfortable but you need to let me do it. He isn’t in charge.
Tell that kid he can refuse to let the doctor take it out, but he will remain at the hospital by myself. Ta-ra.
Sure……. Reward that brat. Who’s the parent and who’s the kid?
Surely there's a warning system in place for oncoming trains for the railway workers????????
Here in Japan, there would be a signal man watching the tracks…for trains.
100%
I don’t understand this. It’s wrong!
For the man who fell down the stairs: if you really want to find your next wife, shave off that beard! Even covered with blood and with that gigantic shiner, you look so much cuter beardless!
It's really handsome , jijijiiiii
William, the young boy:
I don’t understand kids on a hospital bed with their shows on…
Not nice nor clean…
I hope the little boy will not put the Lego parts into his ears to get an even bigger box of these...
It's always exasperating to see junk food vending machines in hospitals. Bad diet, smoking, alcohol, and drugs are the main causes of the chronic diseases that are overwhelming the NHS and other countries' health care systems.
Unfortunately, easy to grab with no special temp restrictions and cheap = junk
Betty What a trooper!! Feel like they mismanaged her for a bit though. Clearly a patient that had infarcted and was in acute decompensated heart failure with all the signs of cardiogenic shock and multi organ dysfunction. Should have been commenced on pressors and had better ventilation. Poor lady, seemed like it was her time! bless her
and and echo
And what would that have achieved?
A few more hours/days/weeks on a ventilator?
As you said “it was her time”
Would you have wanted that on your 96 year old mother?
My mum always said that if she had a heart attack, she didn't want to be revived. She never wanted to be an invalid. She died in her sleep at 88.
@@pattyk734 absolutely not, make them comfortable. Just commenting from a learning perspective
I wonder if there are more than one child in the house!
Everyone is so judgy. Yes, this little boy seems especially spoiled, but I dare you to find a parent who hasn't bribed their child. Don't ask, be in control and take it out.
Why didn't they take the IPad away?
Didn’t take mom long to bribe kiddo. But sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. But that was one stubborn kid. Still wouldn’t cooperate.
What a spoilt brat!!
To everyone saying you shouldn't bribe or bargain with kids during medical procedures, I'm just going to describe what me getting my vaccines at the age of 6 was like for context. I completely flipped out, and it took five people to hold me still enough to get them. Adrenaline made me incredibly strong, and I think if bribery gets my kid to sit still enough that they don't inadvertently kick a nurse in the face I think that's a price I'm willing to pay.
My Dad was a Train Master and Officer in the RR. He tells me about the accidents and in America, with that kind of an accident he would never have to work again.
If I was that little boy and in A&E performing like that, holy crap I wouldn't have sat for a week. How on earth are the parents so careless? Zero discipline whatsoever. That being said, by his age (I assume 5 or perhaps 6 by his uniform) I had already had something like 10 invasive surgeries and spent a lot of time in paediatrics. I never met a kid who wouldn't cooperate back in my time (late 90's early 00's). I guess now with the idea of child-centred bloody everything, if the kid says no they just don't do anything. Bizarre. Also I guess it should have been obvious filling his face with a tablet device the entire time.
Horrible child.. Reminds me i am happy i never had or will have any
That little boy is already a spoiled brat. Just wait until he’s a teen. She won’t have any control over him at that point.
That little boy was quite spoiled, and I would guess that he’s an only child. The mother isn’t teaching him anything by promising him that if he let the Doctor get the the bead out, then he would get a big piece of cake or go to the Lego store and get the biggest box that they had. You have to teach them that if they do silly things like that that there’s consequences and the consequences are is that you have to get a doctor to go in with those little pinchers and grab the bead out so next time you won’t do it again or do anything foolish like that again. But when a child is an only child well, they’re treated like a prince.
I only had to tell my sons once what would happen if they put things in their ears or their nose or accidentally swallow something that it would mean a trip to the hospital and perhaps an operation if they couldn’t get it out. Just warning them was enough to make them not do it.
Were my son‘s perfect absolutely not, but they didn’t like going to the doctor and that was the whole point of telling them what would happen to them if they did what this little boy did. Me being a type one diabetic I have medical stuff around the house and they were used to seeing me give needles and they didn’t want any part of it so I guess it was easier for me to convince my sons to not do anything like this.🥰
I felt sorry for Betty. She probably woke up knowing that soon she’d pass away. To have the love and admiration that she had from her son was very special and very rewarding. As far as being a mom is concerned and as far as being a single parent is concerned. My heart goes out to the family at their loss of Betty, a woman to be loved and a woman that was an example of how not to let life get you down, no matter what happens. I admire her very much as I was in the same boat being a single mom of a little boy and having to work one full-time job and two part-time jobs at the same 24 hour period. He and I had a great time together for the first six years of his life and then I met my second husband and he turned out to be the best stepdad and mom could want for her child and then we had a little boy. So we raised two little boys together. Now I’m a widow of three years five months and I miss that guy so much.
I’m happy Alan didn’t lose his right arm. To be hit by a train going 90 miles an hour that is something else. That he’s even here to tell the story of himself is amazing!! I wish him all the best!!☺️
The other gentleman who hit his head, I think he should start wearing a helmet because he’s going to give himself a serious head injury if he keeps hitting his head.
16:41 ooo look how rich my family was, nobody cares bud, you’re dying. Get with the program.
I don’t trust people who keep their eyes closed when they talk. Betty’s son was hinky.
The LORD is always in control.
Being covered in bubble wrap is not a consolation to me.
I'm so happy that the doctors and nurses are so kind, they probably made Betty feel comfortable enough to pass on 🩷