Let’s be honest. Anyone willing to date a cheater and who actively participated in your heartbreak actually deserves the Narc they end up with. The new supply is not innocent. Many cases, the Narc is actually leaving you for another Narc that absolutely knows and is trying to take what you have. Remember, these people attract losers, scum and weirdos into their lives constantly. If you are discarded by the Narc, it means that you are classier and stronger and better than the dumpster-fires they are used to. Take it as a compliment, because water always seeks its own level and you, you are not on that low level ish.
This is exactly what happened to me !! Two weeks ago !!! To the t she knew about me didn’t care laughing at my pain calling me phyco and pulling him in begging for him it’s crazy and when I busted it he left for her and she opened doors wide for him smfh
Yep the person knows and she was violent with someone else another guy still actively with that guy then I feel used mine or whatever they did and didn’t work. Said she was some type of distraction to stay away from me .. I’m fit and work out and know my stuff he said instantly I’m sexy and fit and missed his bestfriend while saying the other girl nothing happened but just distraction trying to stay away from me didn’t think I would stay no contact like yeah that’s the point of a break up.. it kind of hurts but she isn’t me and no one can take me from me.. I helped the family and did so much and accepted situations I shouldn’t of and loving and great personality and got along with everyone 🥺 He cried maybe once or twice and then acted hard again.. like he was tough and didn’t need me again.. it’s insane
This comment made me feel better really did and that “girl” for now whatever knows if that’s the case and she even said he wasn’t her type like okay and made fun of his grammar and stuff like okay she sounds kind of crazy not going to lie .. but it’s fine I guess not fine but hey I took the L and did what I could I’m beautiful and deserve Love and I’m special so oh well 🥺🤍
I also was lied to about a marriage but “divorce” I was kind of Innocent but his wife or whatever was kind of lying too he told me he used her for things but kind of loved her but attraction not really sure long story he said it was messed up kind of anyway then met me lied about the actual marriage and talking to her then promised me a divorce didn’t happen then the next I guess is like a comparison to me but not really me cause I handled and deal with more stuff I feel like but idk.. seeing him again same childish like behavior acting like it was me mannerisms are werid still question his sexuality and idk.. but yeah strange .. acts like a girl guy the next girl said the trauma was bad for him but yeah she doesn’t know really either it’s odd but idk seems like the used eachother she told me maybe a distraction not sure either but cool for them 🥺
❤❤❤❤ me as well! She was actually a blessing in disguise for me...from God as she made it so easy for me to leave the Ex Covert Narcissist husband of 17 yrs. It wouldn't have been easy for me to exit....if it wasn't for Her as a Newly Source of Supply for him!
I can't wait to get to this point of my life. Because I still compare myself to her. She's so much better than me, and that makes me feel so shitty. I'm making myself feel so shitty.
They will give gifts and tell them all they want to hear. Take them places. Diamond necklaces. Pearls and fancy hotels. The new supply will think they are special just as you did. The new supply is actually your gift because they take the focus off you so you can get away.
@@symone5746 yesss, she tried to talk to me about my children. I said no no we not here for a conversation Shutup and listen. I was so proud of myself. I did also say that if he ever blames you for losing his children just remember WE don’t blame you. Her husband was our friend too and I felt awful for him not her. I ran into her now ex husband a year later and he said he hadn’t realised how demanding and high maintenance she was till she was gone., Now that made me smile. Hehe I reckon she is doing his head in
@@CandyQuackenbush911 We can’t Verbally help the New Supply. Most times Narcissists tell them lies about U so they feel that U R Lying 🤥 To Get the Narcissist Back. I did NOT mean that comment in any harmful way at all. I wish the new Supply could be warned as that would save them a whole lot of grief. Most experts explain this & advice to not warn the new Supply due to this reason. They R Being love bombed. We just all have to Pray For each other in this world 🌎. Perhaps we need to pray for the new Supply. Additionally: when we learn the lesson from dealing with One Narcissist, we usually research it & learn that they like to work fast. Take time to learn People & Not communicate with them regularly at first. I met Narcissist back to back & SO Very Thankful I learned that lesson. Thank You 🙏
If the new supply knew about the marriage, they suit each other , they're both cheaters. Let the new supply taste the medicine 💊 so that they don't go about being involved with married people in future. 😃 😃 😄
When you finally get to the point where you have had enough, you will not care if they are treating the new person better. You will just be happy they are focusing on someone else and leaving you alone!
Exactly, I keep encouraging him to move on. Telling him I'm just supply, you don't actually love me. I'm just a pattern of behaviour to him. He insists I'm the love of his life. I tell him how can I be the love of your life when you treat me the same way you treated every woman before me! He prides himself on being intelligent, which is what first attracted me to him, however he's not, only an exceptional manipulator. He cognitively gaps on anything I try to connect for him on his narcness and instead has convinced himself he's autistic bc this way he can believe he's a genius and not evil. It's been the worst experience dealing with a vulnerable narc but facinating to witness.
@@CB-ln2ebmy narc was so dumb I gave him autistic as an out and he got offended lmao. Okay then, youre not socially challenged hunny youre evil?? Tf? (I mean no offense to autists, at the tinm I genuinely thought thats what was going on!)
Yep or more boring with the next it dies out because they tried so hard with you and standards and hoops it gets boring or the new supply doesn’t have what you did. Looks, working out, meal prep, knowing stuff, etc.. maybe personality also in some ways the almost compare .. been alone so I wouldn’t know 🥺🤍
Laura A, you said the realest thing. I think my ex narc gave his new supply my shoes n jacket. Like you said, the nicer they are at the beginning the harder the new supply will FALL🥀🎭💣
Just take it a day at a time and don't do like i did at first... block, unblock.. you have to stay consistent with the NC that gives them more supply, more weapon to hurt you. If narc comes to your mind quickly dismiss it; don't hold on to old memories. You can train yourself to do that. Dismiss ANY thoughts.
When I heard my ex narc husband got remarried, I felt bad for her and thought that she has no idea what she just got herself into. I would never contact her tho cause I know he bad mouthed me like crazy and she would never belive me anyways.
As I always say, " Time will tell". With a Narcissist it's the way they are wired it's the way they're built it's their make. The deeper they draw you in the harder it is for you to get out of it. Now imagine that🤔
Im glad I never approached the new supply. I was fortunate I had a friend who advised me not to do it. I'm glad I never did or I'd just look like the bad guy. They deserve each other, he's a narc and she's desperate.
@@TheRebelCoach yes I think she is. My narc ex told me her last relationship was with an addict whom she stayed with for many years. So she cheated on him with my ex, my ex cheated on me with her. My ex has gambling problems and a people addiction like a typical narc, so she basically just exchanged one addict for another. They're a couple of dysfunctional people and I'm glad he's out of my life.
@@doonyfam8431 gods for you to be out. Because that woman will repeat the same thing she had from her last man, when people at her level of no self respect, no self love, she is on her way to her cursed destiny.
@@KimberlyLBrown nope, she's not innocent. She actively helped my narc ex to hide their relationship from under my nose- I was the wife! And when we split up she was calling my lawyer to try to get shit out of my lawyer! That is not what an innocent does. Anyway he's out of my life and I'm not in his orbit any more so they're welcome to each other. A couple of dysfunctional people
This is so true. Social media is used to put on a facade like they are so happy. When I put pictures up I was not in a good place mentally but trying to prove a point. Lee is right the new supply will find out soon enough
This why blocking them on everything, staying away from places you used to go and being very guarded around mutual friends you have is as vital to healing as getting therapy to heal from the relationship/s, the CPTS you may well have developed and learning to find and love yourself again. Trust me it works!
@@deehyatt5173 There is hope mate. I am living proof and have people in my network who healed their traumas and have helped me get to the point I'm at, best I've been in 24 years. It's a magical place to be 🙏
I went no contact and deactivated all my social media. I won't reactivate until I'm fully healed. I will not let him get to me lol. Ignorance is bliss 🎉
They're being set up for disaster, just like we were! Kudos to you Lee for getting help and becoming a better person. And thank you for helping others!
Ouch…this hit home! He got me, I thought the women in his life treated him horribly, and I was loyal and dedicated and subsequently discarded in the worse way. Now I’m trying to recover.
What I finally realized is they've been with the "new supply" all along because she has money. He believes he can have anyone he wants, but he lies to so many.
When you said about the trip to Puerto Rico.... omg. I had told my ex bf maybe we could go to Vegas together one day... you know he took the new supply 🙄 . Was about 2 years later. He hadn't even met her yet, but he took her within a few months of knowing her, and yes, he put about 5 pics on Facebook. You are right on the money Lee... Damn.
Let's all step back a moment to think about how convoluted and messed up this is for someone to put this much effort into effing with people. lol. I don't even know if I should feel sorry or laugh at this situation. Just wow. Don't people normally have hobbies like arts and crafts..and...stuff? lol.
Laughing my butt of because Thts what I’m doing during this video 🤣🤣🤣. I hear you. Stuff is too funny. Omg why even put yourself thru this. Speaking to the narc 🤣
My Ex Narc is weirdly reaching out and her friends are watching my stories on social media. As far as the new supply I am not jealous nor upset for taking my problems from me .
I prayed earnestly for the new woman in his life to be able to handle what he was about to give her and that she would not become a victim like me. I prayed that God would protect her children and provide a way out for her without her being physically hurt like I was.
This is me now, I am praying she will be able to get out without the hurt pain and not lose everything and just be able to walk away without any attachments or people.
This is so true smh. Speaking from personal experience you have to block them and act like they don’t exist. My ex narc came back after a few years and apologized. He saw me out because he was blocked on all platforms and his number. I accepted and let it be that. He tried to come over my house and everything and he’s married with a child now and everything. I told him no. But he did that because I always gave him access to me no matter what but after he ghosted me and moved on with someone else as if we were not dealing with each other, that was it. They always think they can come back no matter what they have going in they life or your life. He moved on so quickly and the next thing you know he was married with a child in less than a year smh. I can tell he’s miserable and unhappy. Karma served quietly. I still see him out and am nice and everything but he no longer has access to me period. He wanted to take me out to dinner and everything and I said no. Protect your peace ☮️
My ex proposed to the new supply in 4 months, he's never been married. I expected all of what you said but never marriage. I know logically that it has nothing to do with me - but boy seems like the ultimate kill shot.
That relationship is destined for failure. They’ll “love” you hard and fast in the beginning. He’s making sure you’re watching and if the girl knows you, she’ll try to make things seem like cupcakes and sprinkles. Block, block and block until you can’t anymore.
Mine took his next suppy three months after the breakup to a hotel that I used to work. These guys have a script of how to be trash. Don't sven take it personaly they will not last and even if they stay long term it won't be a good relationship but he won't allow anyone to know it.
Same. Except it was 2 months. And he made sure to try and marry her on my birthday but the courthouse was closed on that day so he did it the day before. Totally calculated.
This video. This one, single video. Has given me the greatest sense of validation and relief of my experience than anything else. It was like he took my suspicions and insecurities out of my head to write for his script. Thank you for what you do.
I don't care what supplied narcissist gets they treat everyone the same and that's why a narcissist can never be happy or in love love hurts for a narcissist
Thank you, not only for the info, but for your sense of humor. The whole “ride or die” analogy had me on the floor laughing, and it was your specific delivery that allowed this to finally penetrate my psyche.
I ❤️ your ride or die analogy 🤣 in time dear, in time. She wanted to take what I had so bad,& so proud of herself 🤦🏼♀️ I’m thinking they might be getting a taste of their own medicine. The ex was dead & I got stuck saving 2 kids, put in positions not many people do. So I know I wasn’t the “new supply”, but she definitely Is & he’s giving her everything I wanted. It’s still all about him, but she thinks it’s bc she’s so special🤦🏼♀️ in time
My ex Narc has been through a few supplies since we broke up and I can say to everyone out there it is always just a matter a time before they are doing the old same things to new person. Now he didn't physically abuse the new ones like he did to me but he did other things. You can't get in this realm where you compare yourself to the new one. I did that, I would beat myself up wondering why he didn't put any pictures us us on social media but did with the new ones. You will drive yourself crazy trying to understand the game they play with different people. The fact is that they adapt to each situation and do what needs to be done in that situation to get what they want from that particular person or they do it to be vindictive because that is how they roll. I also do not suggest trying to tell the new supply because I found it to be not only unproductive but they almost always just think you are being vindictive and jealous and don't receive it well. They need to learn for themselves.
Yeah or use the next person to try and get over you and it backfires .. and hurts you also because they literally they were a distraction but yeah .. I guess .. or thinking about coming back for me the whole time ..
You dont know how much I needed to read this comment today especially the ruminating part about why they never posted photos of us on social media. He just started doing that with his new supply today and never of us before,but now I understand it's all just mental games.
If you’re healing from narcissistic abuse, patience is a must because they will definitely reap what they’ve sown and all the truth will eventually surface and they will get all they deserve!
The narcissist I left used to reach for my hand in the car and say "ride or die baby"...lmfao. I know ur looking for the compliment, but u earned it. Your videos were my closure, the other women and becoming friends and lifting one another up, that was my closure, and l thought I would miss him...I MISSED ME MORE! Getting ME back...my closure. This man knows his shit, listen to him, it becomes hilarious how BANG ON he is. Be strong, love yourself, and know that you are soooooo worth all the best.
“I’m going to target you with my happiness and smiles”🤣🤣🤣 Y’all it’s not a laughing matter but that was funny because that’s actually what Narcs do🤷🏽♀️
I've been listening to your content for a few days now and you do a such a great job. thank you for advocating in the eyes OF the narcissist, its nice to see it from that perspective because us of those who have been hurt by one ,.. its nice to have a voice from that end. thank you for what you do.
Thank you for making me laugh in this video. So nice to find humor in the midst of dealing with leaving my narcissist. Appreciate your content so much ! It’s literally life saving.
The new supply gained access to our home, life, and privacy. She used to call me and ask me to go have pedicures, go shopping or ask advice. She was, after all , the age of our children. Tried to date them and even slept with one prior to their father. 🤮 She will tolerate a lot because she has no dignity, boundaries or conscience. She targeted our family in a big way. If he thinks THAT is love, he is in for a shock. He has NEVER dealt with a person as cold and calculating as the supply and his sons tried to warn him. Good luck with that.
Mine brought the new supply around because I knew her already. They are co-workers. Tried to cover it up as them being just friends, but he would tell me about how the new supply's ex husband would behave, and how he would be working overtime to help her. Then started bringing the new supply around for our family functions, paying more attention to her than he ever did to me. I moved out. Only contact is in regards to our children.
My neighbor was a narcissist, he recently passed away. He had a beautiful and sweet wife years ago. He treated her sooo badly. He had multiple kids with other women while they were married and physically and mentally abused her. He refused to take care of any of the nine children he has which only 2 of them were hers. He I guess some time before he died he married a woman from Dallas. He gave all of his rights to her before he died. His mom nor children got anything, he was into stocks so he was loaded. The woman had money as well. When he died in the hospital, the woman had his mother and daughter kicked out. His daughter still decided to have a memorial for him. Only two people showed up. Not only will this man suffer in hell but he didn’t get the funeral he dreamed of. I will always tell this story.🤦🏽♀️
I will not warn no new supply bcus that was my back burner she knew he was married n who cares she did me a big favor she will get worse than me ….this is my experience…… I’ve gain so much strength Lee thanks again to all your videos …… NO CONTACT is the best thing for us VICTIMS….❤️❤️
Mines married in another country too I got promised a life and divorce we’ll see if the next sticks but she doesn’t sound nice at all and someone that violent before she told me she’s fist fought her ex which currently still dealing with .. He’s still married and doing whatever I handled him for three years here did what I could but turns it around like I need my feelings validated from him and relie on him. Like no sir you got it backwards he’s very insecure and I feel kind of clingy I am co dependent to him I’ve expressed that because I obviously love him but he acts all tough then back to crying and love you but it’s an act it’s scary and crazy and like insane .. but I figured if it’s her she knows .. and even he said she was some distraction to stay away from me everything reminded him of me and salem and go somewhere else without me or didn’t reply now I did now same set up to him even though he created it .. so insane
Lee, you are a Godsend. I was discarded in June and I felt like my world was gonna end.i just couldn't understand what was happening. This was the third time she had done this. We had been together like for 3 1/2 years. I felt like she may have been narcissistic but I would always just second guess my self. Then I found your videos and the other great youtubers who dedicate themselves to helping us survivors of this type of abuse. I had already decided to block her because third times the charm. But I needed yall videos to give me strength to keep it up. God bless you and your family sir. Thank you! 🙏🏾 💯❤
Right on time .. I ran into my ex narc and his new supply at Walmart on Saturday . We have kids together and it kinda hurt to see him with her ..I left him first but he moved on to her super fast … I’m just like wow
@@TheRebelCoach most of the time I’d say, either lingering in the background as a flirtatious co worker or whatever. Most people would be broken to pieces if they went through there partners phones lol.
Right mine did the same, with a girl I knew something was up with.. After our divorce of being married for 14 years, my Ex went on Craigslist, POF, ect.. He found him 3 - 4 replacements (After we had only been separated & divorced for 2 years or less) that alll got pregnant with in days of each other 😂😭 All with my name & face tattooed on him🥴 It broke me down the way he basically bragged by asking our 14 year old "If I know any cheap or free abortion clinics"😒😡😤 I couldn't let his punk 🤬 know tho, I was healing & doing me. But here we are a few years later, he now has 3 - 4 children. ✌🏼🤣 Sets of ghetto twins, all born a few weeks to month later. One child looks like his 2homeboys that are brothers💀 He looks old burnt out, stressed out, stuck, stiiiiiiiiiiiiilllllll the same in every single way on hard drugs & dipping that baby bumpy 🥒 into anything that will pay him attention. Keep doing you Boo, heal yourself for your & the babies..
No worries about tht clown although I get where you’re coming from. It hurts esp when there are kids involved. Trust hun. Keep doing the work to push forward because you will be fine. This experience is gonna make you so much stronger, wiser. No one would screw you over easily if you do the work to grow. On the other hand, shut the bk door because I also ran into mines at Walmart with his supply. I can’t say new because they seem too comfortable like they’d been a couple for years. For all I know, I could have been the new supply. Walmart must be their luxury shopping outing 🤣🤣🤣
My ex had new supply during the last 2-3 years of our relationship. It was a twisted time - not like all 7 years weren’t - but what he got me to agree to with her - who I feel like her insecurities ran MUCH deeper than mine - was INSANE! He then left the state with her without telling anyone. She went hard for him, especially when it came to trashing on me & our son, who is barely a year old at the time! Like who is so insecure that they’re going to shit on an innocent child?! … & he would say NOTHING about it. I’m actually grateful for her now looking back, because she took someone out of my life who was bringing me down. My exes’ oldest daughter & I are still very close & she had actually told me at one point that this girl started making comments not long into their relationship like, “you’re treating me how you treated Celisse!”… apparently they’re still together from what I know & he has been disowned & cut off not only by his oldest kids, but also by his mother, who he betrayed & being a woman of stature, that really hit her ego hard, because she practically put him on a pedestal due to a lot of the notoriety & success he had created in his business.
12 days free from my narc neighbour! He immediately moved onto another female neighbour. I feel like I've gotten a huge nasty parasite off my back....sucking the postivness out of me daily!😌♥️🇨🇦
I don’t care how hurt the new supply gets, as a matter of fact, I sit and smile and love every bit of pain she will get, I hope he destroys her, could not happen to a more deserving person.
He lives 2 doors down and he's flaunting everything with the new supply in my face. I feel like I have to hide in my house to avoid being constantly triggered. I am working on moving, but that doesn't happen quickly. This is miserable.
@@egahovac oh I am so sorry. Truly. Deeply sorry. Because I know exactly what you're going through, I hate it for you. It makes it nearly impossible to move on.
It's interesting to watch the narcissist ex on social media. She will triangulate her supply with strangers- hollywood actors, singers, famous people. During idealization, she used a photo of us as her background on the phone and tablet, during devaluation she'll replace the photo with Jason Mamoa, etc. She is doing that right now posting videos of her pretending to sing a duet with hunky tiktok content providers. I know EXACTLY what the new supply is going through, because she did the exact same thing to me. When I was in the relationship, I certainly knew it was a disrespectful behavior, but I didn't know it was abusive... I didn't understand it was deliberate to knock me down a peg to keep me bonded to her. The new supply gets a short idealization until they're hooked, then it's the same thing she did to me. She's 50 years old and cannot understand why some Prince Charming has never asked for her hand in marriage.. I almost married her until I began to notice this behavior, and it shattered the trust. She'll always be someone's mistress and has nobody but herself to blame.
Two ways: They’ll either end up severely hurting themselves or each other (mentally, physically). Or they will be perfect for each other and be miserable together (cheating on each other, unnecessary drama, trying to play perfect together). It just depends on how jealous or threatened the new supply is of you.
Mine was messing with someone at work, discarded me and the kids, and moved her right in... So forget that chic she on her own, she wanted him she got him...
Thank you for this video. I’m now piecing together what happened after my ex ghosted me with no closure during the pandemic. Then to find out he was at a wedding with someone else he claimed to be a friend just two months later. He didn’t take me on a formal date blaming the pandemic but was at a wedding with her then posted a video of them on a date together. They have broken up several times and gotten back together. He’s reached out to me while with her just to ghost me again.
His new supply after I filed was a female narcissist who used him, made him believe the love bombing which encouraged him to sign the separation agreement quickly, brought him 40,000 in debt, filed domestic assault charges against him (5th charge) and was so toxic he actually broke up with her after a few months. He making an ass of himself on social media with the facade.
I left him. He could not let go. She moved in after a couple of months and now they are getting married. My kids are being forced into a "bonus family". I'm fighting for my kids and I will not let him destroy them.
Maaannnn!!! This is what the narcissist did with the new supply. He told her things I wasn't doing (not what he was/wasn't doing to cause me not to do them). He would post her on social media and commented "This is my ride or die!"💀😂 One thing he would always tell me that he hated was that I never smiled. 😐🙄😒 But the pictures others have shown me that he's posted of the new supply, she's not smiling on any of them. 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️😂 But, he probably told her that he wasn't like he was back in high school (they graduated together). He told me he wasn't the angry little boy that he used to be growing up (he and I grew p across the street from one another). However, he soon showed that none of the anger he expressed as a child was gone. It was worse! 🤦🏾♀️😫
@@yahya4370 Right! His entire family cannot deal with him. I've told him to his face that he's a narcissist. His response was, "I probably am." 😐 However, I'm sure he didn't know what I meant by the term and he never asked me to elaborate on it. In all honesty, he really didn't care. So I'm just like his new supply will find out how he is when he moves in with her and/or decides he wants to marry her. He's been married twice! The first time was for like 2-3 weeks and the second time was for 4 months. Both times the ex-wives had to file restraining orders against him. He made the mistake of showing me the restraining order and the divorce papers filed by his second wife. I made a mental note of everything in that order and the divorce papers because he kept saying she was lying about everything. She was telling the truth because he blew up in the court room during the divorce proceedings. 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Just found out my ex was cheating on me with a friend I knew. They worked to the street from me. When I confronted both of them. I told her he’s abusive and a cheater. He chose her. He didn’t apologize to me, he changed his number. I see her posting their dates together. This is the most betrayal I’ve ever felt and it’s difficult to move on.
Yes listen to this man ! He is on point . You can say hey well you said you loved me? And the Narcissist will say "Well NOW I love her!!!! !". And he hopes you don't like it ! Thanks for your videos I wa!tch them to remind me of why I cant have ANY expectations . Lesson I learned ? Don't try and outsmart him , it won't happen . Know that the job is dangerous ! And admit your willing to accept it. Or Not !
My narcs new supply is someone who knows all the abuse that happened to me and had the nerve to say.. "It won't ever happen to me. You just brought out the worst in him" worst off she's my babysitter so I have to see her everyday. Yikes.
It may seem like they treat others better and if course in the beginning you feel bad for them thinking they got a bad deal from a ex but very quickly their house if lies is exposed. Reality is they treat us all like crap. The antics they pull may be different for example if one is not tech savvy they have a field day messing online etc , where on another one they threaten to sue family etc., If they speak with that person etc., They got a whole bag of tricks they pull with everyone.
I just want to say thank you for your courage and honesty. I have been married to someone that I believe to be narcisstic. I am sad for him, but because of your you tube I feel very confident is saying that I was a target for his abuse. I struggle sometimes because he made me feel so sexuall inadequate and inferior. This was due to the fact that I would not allow him to dominate me through bdsm. I had to draw a line to giving him that kind of power because it is what he did to the supply before me. Keep up the great work, I know it must be a struggle sometimes.
Walked into a local nightspot to meet some male friends they were chatting with my ex Narc ( weren’t aware it was him with his new supply) I just started laughing when one of my friends came over and threw his arms around me to greet me. My ex narcs jaw hit the floor. I looked like a million bucks, his new supply is a really nice girl we both knew from school. She was actually old supply from years ago that he recycled. Rumored that she has a drinking problem. I was discreet and explained the situation to my friends and told them to meet me on the other side of the bar as I didn’t want to crash his date and make her feel uncomfortable. He and his date left shortly after. My male friends told me he was visibly shaken. He loathes one of the guys I was meeting because he’s extremely successful, and my ex always thought this guy had a thing for me, but we’ve never been more than friends. Not caring is so liberating. I know I dodged a bullet and deserve a better man.
The new Supply is my godsister! I was married to my narc for 30 years. She was like our little sister during our relationship🤮 jokes on them he's a narcissist and she's a sociopath. She wants money and he is completely broke and refuses to work. He wants love and adoration and she can't love. They are going to emotionally starve each other to death. When the Smoke Clears from the love-bombing and manipulating they are both going to come up empty-handed.
You explained my child’s father to the T…he moved in his new supply that he found in another state…and he’s been from the first day she got here, persistent on pushing her onto our daughter to the point that he wanted our child sharing a room/bed with them. It’s so unfortunate that I simply look forward to my daughter growing up so I can finally go no contact with him. 😩
That’s exaaaactly what she made it seem like the others and I showed up ⬆️ waaay better but guess what it was false and then she met one that’s gonna do her “better than me” have fun with that. I’m healing and attracting healthier love!
And for this reason you should always know a person really really well over a long period of time..its good to see people in action under stress,what happens when they don't get their way,if they throw tantrums,how the react to things that are outta their control,get to know a person before you sleep or have a relationship with anybody,get to know them first,period and then watch their behavior before ever jumping into a relationship 😉 thank you for your content just now getting out of a horrible relationship with my narcissist mother its been absolute hell and im 55 years old and was recently suicidal over it,I got out and got help so please please be careful who you mix your energy with
Lee, what to expect from narcisist when he was discarded with the help from the police and court following injunction and ongoing criminal investigations? How dangerous is the situation for the survivor? Will it help to keep a narcisist away forever? Thank you.
His new supply literally pushed me out of his life and he let her, but now says that didn’t happen and it’s all in my head. Why can’t he admit that this happened and let it go, focus on her and stay away from me? I tell him he made his bed and he tells me, I made this bed for him, by leaving him and getting a divorce. I know he’s never going to forgive me for leaving, but I’m not letting a man mistreat my grandchildren and stay with him. I’m not warning anyone, let them find out on their own, I’ve blocked everyone he knows from my Facebook. I don’t want to know what he’s doing and don’t care!! I’m better than that!!
@@divinee.155 can I ask why you say that? I don’t have a low self esteem, I think higher of myself than most do, I know my worth and that’s why I let him go. There’s more to the story than just this little bit. If anyone has low self esteem it would be him, always wanting to hear how good looking and what a wonderful person he is. I know in 4 years he’s been with every woman who shows him attention, believe me there’s been at least 20, that I know of. I don’t seek attention like that, sorry, I’m a better person.
@@darlenesmith5524 because thats the only way a narc can manipulate u once u notice ur being treated badly bounce if u look back u have low confidence and self esteem. Igt rid of mine in a month a soon as i noticed the manipulation i played along for a bit cause i like the finger but no supply was given he went nuts then i dumped him
@@divinee.155 He says I turned him into a narcissist, but he was before I left him. Didn’t show it until after his ex wife pasted away, then he turned on his boys, my kids, my grandchildren and me.. Not long after I left him.
We had planned to go to Japan together. Now he's thinking/planning on going there with his new one. I can't even 😅😭...it's funny and heartbreaking at the same time.
Thank GOD I'm the opposite of the examples here in vid 🤣 holy shit, I feel badly for ppl who stick it out MORE after hearing what happened to the old supply!!! I knew/ found out, & as soon as similar things started happening to me by narc- I put my antenna up, I got more guarded, my tolerance for bs almost became nonexistent, that lasted 3 months then BOOM I cut it, still had to deal with the aftermath (mikd stalking, showing up at my apt to talk, blah blah blah) so i'm cold, i'm brief, i'm too the point, i try not to give in & if i mess up cuz unfortunately they're homless i DON'T beat myself up, & im so glad i set these big boundaries. It took me 4 months to hit that wall, then 3 months to make it stick/ or at least more permanent & safe for me 🙄 coulda done it better i know, BUT im proud I didn't stick through it for 7 years like the old supply!!! I learned from what happened to her & just... idk said FUCK THAT 🙄 I want this person to get help, just far farrr away from me! I may make the bad decision of continuing light contact bc I wanna get paid back the almost $2k the narc owe me!!! But if light contact blows up in my face bad then I guess I cut my losses cuz losing my health & my life & myself was not/ & is not/ worth anything 😮💨 so exhausting these people though! Thank You Lee for speaking on this &&& for getting help while supporting others. Proud of you man!!!
I have a lot of respect for his old supply too. I didn't even know her before I met him, & she had moments of bein rude to me before she met me cuz she prolly thought I was some shady mrfkr like HIM. But I could see all that, I could see her pain!!! I could feel her anger & frustration, I respected that she was standing up for herself despite how she was treating me 😅 I would just fuckin level with her! I was honest & I would explain my situation and in the last 3 months of relationship I was tellin HER like bitchhh im tryna get OUT of this abuse too, but I said I had to be smart about it or im putting myself in more trouble :/ I told her I was sorry that she was still dealing with it, she told me she felt bad that I was dealing with it 😅 we kinda bonded a little & I told her we should stay in touch! I'm not always the best keeping in contact with people (makin it easier for me to ghost the toxic dude 😂), but yeah me & her still talk sometimes & I really respect her! I have some love for that girl 😁 I wish more people weren't so nasty in their hearts to stay blind to what's real for so long 🙄 or bcuz society tells us to NEVER trust the ex, sometimes yes! But sometimes you gotta open ur ears && follow your heart, my heart said trust her, I also met sum ppl who knew her & opinions seemed consistent with the vibe I got off her so... yeah 👍 & I def hope the narc seeks help.
My ex who I work with started seeing another co-worker two days after we split. This new supply was abusive towards his exes, had a kid in another state, talked shit about his baby-moms, refused to pay child support and was an asshole towards customers and workers. He ended up getting fired. After that, now my ex got another new supply at work. So I’m dealing with a narcissist who’s dating my co-workers at this point and I got a feeling if this one doesn’t work out, she’ll jump to the next co-worker. I blocked her immediately after she started seeing her first supply and haven’t talked to her since, but I can still tell she’s angry and bitter towards me.
My ex told me so many things about the bad ex, so I tried harder. At the end I talked to the ex, and she was so great, she helped the narc in so many different ways and did so many for him… It’s a karosel you hop on and it will drop you every time!
Thank you once more. The clarity you bring is so healing! I often read that they get worse while aging. Somehow I hope it is true, so I can be even more grateful for how things went. But I wonder if it is true?
I know the new supply and right before the truth came out about them, she tried so hard to copy me with my looks. Couldn’t come close to the original but took my compliments from others literally directed to me, and included herself as though we were both getting the same compliment 😂 He may have discarded me but downgraded while I upgraded by loving myself again and regaining the confidence he broke down
Let’s be honest. Anyone willing to date a cheater and who actively participated in your heartbreak actually deserves the Narc they end up with. The new supply is not innocent. Many cases, the Narc is actually leaving you for another Narc that absolutely knows and is trying to take what you have. Remember, these people attract losers, scum and weirdos into their lives constantly. If you are discarded by the Narc, it means that you are classier and stronger and better than the dumpster-fires they are used to. Take it as a compliment, because water always seeks its own level and you, you are not on that low level ish.
This is exactly what happened to me !! Two weeks ago !!! To the t she knew about me didn’t care laughing at my pain calling me phyco and pulling him in begging for him it’s crazy and when I busted it he left for her and she opened doors wide for him smfh
Yep the person knows and she was violent with someone else another guy still actively with that guy then I feel used mine or whatever they did and didn’t work. Said she was some type of distraction to stay away from me .. I’m fit and work out and know my stuff he said instantly I’m sexy and fit and missed his bestfriend while saying the other girl nothing happened but just distraction trying to stay away from me didn’t think I would stay no contact like yeah that’s the point of a break up.. it kind of hurts but she isn’t me and no one can take me from me.. I helped the family and did so much and accepted situations I shouldn’t of and loving and great personality and got along with everyone 🥺
He cried maybe once or twice and then acted hard again.. like he was tough and didn’t need me again.. it’s insane
This comment made me feel better really did and that “girl” for now whatever knows if that’s the case and she even said he wasn’t her type like okay and made fun of his grammar and stuff like okay she sounds kind of crazy not going to lie .. but it’s fine I guess not fine but hey I took the L and did what I could I’m beautiful and deserve Love and I’m special so oh well 🥺🤍
I also was lied to about a marriage but “divorce” I was kind of Innocent but his wife or whatever was kind of lying too he told me he used her for things but kind of loved her but attraction not really sure long story he said it was messed up kind of anyway then met me lied about the actual marriage and talking to her then promised me a divorce didn’t happen then the next I guess is like a comparison to me but not really me cause I handled and deal with more stuff I feel like but idk.. seeing him again same childish like behavior acting like it was me mannerisms are werid still question his sexuality and idk.. but yeah strange .. acts like a girl guy the next girl said the trauma was bad for him but yeah she doesn’t know really either it’s odd but idk seems like the used eachother she told me maybe a distraction not sure either but cool for them 🥺
Miss Minty thank you for your post ! Every sentence you printed was ABSOLUTELY CORRECT !!!!!!!!!!!
The new supply was a gift from God to me. I was meant for a better man
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Trust me❤. Wait8ng.
New supply will eventually know. Doomed.
❤❤❤❤ me as well! She was actually a blessing in disguise for me...from God as she made it so easy for me to leave the Ex Covert Narcissist husband of 17 yrs.
It wouldn't have been easy for me to exit....if it wasn't for Her as a Newly Source of Supply for him!
I can't wait to get to this point of my life. Because I still compare myself to her. She's so much better than me, and that makes me feel so shitty. I'm making myself feel so shitty.
They will give gifts and tell them all they want to hear. Take them places. Diamond necklaces. Pearls and fancy hotels. The new supply will think they are special just as you did. The new supply is actually your gift because they take the focus off you so you can get away.
Yeah slip out the back Jack... Get a new plan Stan ‼️🤗
Hehehe his new supply was my friend and colleague so the day I left my job, I thanked her and told her to make sure he never wants to come back!
"hop on the bus, Gus. You don't need to discuss much." Said Paul Simon: 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. Thanks "tootie" for the reminder of that song!
@@Roxannezauk Yess!! Classy yet letting her know you don’t care to prevent future problems!
@@symone5746 yesss, she tried to talk to me about my children. I said no no we not here for a conversation Shutup and listen. I was so proud of myself. I did also say that if he ever blames you for losing his children just remember WE don’t blame you. Her husband was our friend too and I felt awful for him not her. I ran into her now ex husband a year later and he said he hadn’t realised how demanding and high maintenance she was till she was gone., Now that made me smile. Hehe I reckon she is doing his head in
Allow the New Supply to find out first hand
Let them learn the lesson 😂
That’s not very nice
@@CandyQuackenbush911 No, it’s not but you have to protect yourself. If the New Supply is brainwashed it will make future problems.
@@CandyQuackenbush911 We can’t Verbally help the New Supply. Most times Narcissists tell them lies about U so they feel that U R Lying 🤥 To Get the Narcissist Back. I did NOT mean that comment in any harmful way at all. I wish the new Supply could be warned as that would save them a whole lot of grief. Most experts explain this & advice to not warn the new Supply due to this reason. They R Being love bombed. We just all have to Pray For each other in this world 🌎. Perhaps we need to pray for the new Supply. Additionally: when we learn the lesson from dealing with One Narcissist, we usually research it & learn that they like to work fast. Take time to learn People & Not communicate with them regularly at first. I met Narcissist back to back & SO Very Thankful I learned that lesson. Thank You 🙏
If the new supply knew about the marriage, they suit each other , they're both cheaters. Let the new supply taste the medicine 💊 so that they don't go about being involved with married people in future. 😃 😃 😄
Indeed, that new supply is so happy and she thinks she won a big prize
New supply is just the old you being prepared for the trash heap‼️
100%. It has nothing to do with who was treated better. He/she is simply doing whatever it takes to rope in the new person. Whatever. It. Takes.
When you finally get to the point where you have had enough, you will not care if they are treating the new person better. You will just be happy they are focusing on someone else and leaving you alone!
Exactly, I keep encouraging him to move on. Telling him I'm just supply, you don't actually love me. I'm just a pattern of behaviour to him. He insists I'm the love of his life. I tell him how can I be the love of your life when you treat me the same way you treated every woman before me! He prides himself on being intelligent, which is what first attracted me to him, however he's not, only an exceptional manipulator. He cognitively gaps on anything I try to connect for him on his narcness and instead has convinced himself he's autistic bc this way he can believe he's a genius and not evil. It's been the worst experience dealing with a vulnerable narc but facinating to witness.
You are absolutely right because I don’t give one damn what he do as long as he doesn’t bother me
@@CB-ln2ebmy narc was so dumb I gave him autistic as an out and he got offended lmao. Okay then, youre not socially challenged hunny youre evil?? Tf? (I mean no offense to autists, at the tinm I genuinely thought thats what was going on!)
They treat them well at the start but then the devaluation and discard can be worse because they can't change and get worse as they get older.
Yep or more boring with the next it dies out because they tried so hard with you and standards and hoops it gets boring or the new supply doesn’t have what you did. Looks, working out, meal prep, knowing stuff, etc.. maybe personality also in some ways the almost compare .. been alone so I wouldn’t know 🥺🤍
Laura A, you said the realest thing. I think my ex narc gave his new supply my shoes n jacket. Like you said, the nicer they are at the beginning the harder the new supply will FALL🥀🎭💣
you’re changing my life. this shit hurts so bad. but i feel relief watching you. i cannot wait to heal.
🙏🏽🙏🏽 it's a journey
It does hurt watching his videos because everything be rite on point.
Just take it a day at a time and don't do like i did at first... block, unblock.. you have to stay consistent with the NC that gives them more supply, more weapon to hurt you. If narc comes to your mind quickly dismiss it; don't hold on to old memories. You can train yourself to do that. Dismiss ANY thoughts.
Yes, it hurts. Yes, you will heal.
I’m going thru it now
When I heard my ex narc husband got remarried, I felt bad for her and thought that she has no idea what she just got herself into. I would never contact her tho cause I know he bad mouthed me like crazy and she would never belive me anyways.
Nopeeee cause that’s her lesson and that’s how I felt about this one. Deuces
As I always say, " Time will tell". With a Narcissist it's the way they are wired it's the way they're built it's their make. The deeper they draw you in the harder it is for you to get out of it. Now imagine that🤔
@@TheRebelCoach period
@@anointed7516 Time always tells because they repeat the same cycle over and over again. They don’t change. Take it as your opportunity to run.
T4MMY BOYL3 how long they have been together?
Im glad I never approached the new supply. I was fortunate I had a friend who advised me not to do it. I'm glad I never did or I'd just look like the bad guy. They deserve each other, he's a narc and she's desperate.
She is probably codependent
@@TheRebelCoach yes I think she is. My narc ex told me her last relationship was with an addict whom she stayed with for many years. So she cheated on him with my ex, my ex cheated on me with her. My ex has gambling problems and a people addiction like a typical narc, so she basically just exchanged one addict for another. They're a couple of dysfunctional people and I'm glad he's out of my life.
@Doony Fam, facts....
@@doonyfam8431 gods for you to be out. Because that woman will repeat the same thing she had from her last man, when people at her level of no self respect, no self love, she is on her way to her cursed destiny.
@@KimberlyLBrown nope, she's not innocent. She actively helped my narc ex to hide their relationship from under my nose- I was the wife! And when we split up she was calling my lawyer to try to get shit out of my lawyer! That is not what an innocent does. Anyway he's out of my life and I'm not in his orbit any more so they're welcome to each other. A couple of dysfunctional people
Its sad how many good girls are absolutely ruined and never pure hearted again. What a waste of a beautiful innocent heart
It’s a cold world
This is so true. Social media is used to put on a facade like they are so happy. When I put pictures up I was not in a good place mentally but trying to prove a point. Lee is right the new supply will find out soon enough
I respect your honestly..
This why blocking them on everything, staying away from places you used to go and being very guarded around mutual friends you have is as vital to healing as getting therapy to heal from the relationship/s, the CPTS you may well have developed and learning to find and love yourself again. Trust me it works!
Thank you .
Very true it does work. Go find your happiness.
@@carolineibanez841 Thank you I'm well on the way. I hope you find or have found yours too 🙏
I need to get out of this mess 🥺this gives me hope & everyone’s success in leaving keeps me alive🤗
@@deehyatt5173 There is hope mate. I am living proof and have people in my network who healed their traumas and have helped me get to the point I'm at, best I've been in 24 years. It's a magical place to be 🙏
I went no contact and deactivated all my social media. I won't reactivate until I'm fully healed. I will not let him get to me lol. Ignorance is bliss 🎉
stay strong
They're being set up for disaster, just like we were!
Kudos to you Lee for getting help and becoming a better person. And thank you for helping others!
Thank yourself .
All I can say is God help the new supply their in so much danger..
TRUST ME!!!!!!!
Ouch…this hit home! He got me, I thought the women in his life treated him horribly, and I was loyal and dedicated and subsequently discarded in the worse way. Now I’m trying to recover.
Same
What I finally realized is they've been with the "new supply" all along because she has money. He believes he can have anyone he wants, but he lies to so many.
I believe this it happened to me.. Kudos
When you said about the trip to Puerto Rico.... omg. I had told my ex bf maybe we could go to Vegas together one day... you know he took the new supply 🙄 . Was about 2 years later. He hadn't even met her yet, but he took her within a few months of knowing her, and yes, he put about 5 pics on Facebook. You are right on the money Lee... Damn.
Why u watching? I don’t watch that shit fuxk her
Let's all step back a moment to think about how convoluted and messed up this is for someone to put this much effort into effing with people. lol. I don't even know if I should feel sorry or laugh at this situation. Just wow. Don't people normally have hobbies like arts and crafts..and...stuff? lol.
Laughing my butt of because Thts what I’m doing during this video 🤣🤣🤣. I hear you. Stuff is too funny. Omg why even put yourself thru this. Speaking to the narc 🤣
Lol @ arts and crafts. Yes that's the typical hobby for me.
Crochet is a big one! Very popular vs dealing with a narcissist or watching the grass grow is far more interesting
I choose to laugh , especially when my sister and I swop horror stories from our childhood, we shake our heads and laugh
Yeah thats what I’m wondering zoo
My Ex Narc is weirdly reaching out and her friends are watching my stories on social media. As far as the new supply I am not jealous nor upset for taking my problems from me .
I prayed earnestly for the new woman in his life to be able to handle what he was about to give her and that she would not become a victim like me. I prayed that God would protect her children and provide a way out for her without her being physically hurt like I was.
This is me now, I am praying she will be able to get out without the hurt pain and not lose everything and just be able to walk away without any attachments or people.
Both of you are queen's 😍
This is so true smh. Speaking from personal experience you have to block them and act like they don’t exist. My ex narc came back after a few years and apologized. He saw me out because he was blocked on all platforms and his number. I accepted and let it be that. He tried to come over my house and everything and he’s married with a child now and everything. I told him no. But he did that because I always gave him access to me no matter what but after he ghosted me and moved on with someone else as if we were not dealing with each other, that was it. They always think they can come back no matter what they have going in they life or your life. He moved on so quickly and the next thing you know he was married with a child in less than a year smh. I can tell he’s miserable and unhappy. Karma served quietly. I still see him out and am nice and everything but he no longer has access to me period. He wanted to take me out to dinner and everything and I said no. Protect your peace ☮️
Is also add the perfect next victim is a younger , less experienced and otherwise ..less “wise” also known as “innocent”.
Perfect target.
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Omg! Facts!!!
My ex proposed to the new supply in 4 months, he's never been married. I expected all of what you said but never marriage. I know logically that it has nothing to do with me - but boy seems like the ultimate kill shot.
That relationship is destined for failure. They’ll “love” you hard and fast in the beginning. He’s making sure you’re watching and if the girl knows you, she’ll try to make things seem like cupcakes and sprinkles. Block, block and block until you can’t anymore.
Mine took his next suppy three months after the breakup to a hotel that I used to work. These guys have a script of how to be trash. Don't sven take it personaly they will not last and even if they stay long term it won't be a good relationship but he won't allow anyone to know it.
Same. Except it was 2 months. And he made sure to try and marry her on my birthday but the courthouse was closed on that day so he did it the day before. Totally calculated.
Be grateful about the person they're using now. That means they'll mostly leave you alone 🌟🤞🏾
This video. This one, single video. Has given me the greatest sense of validation and relief of my experience than anything else. It was like he took my suspicions and insecurities out of my head to write for his script.
Thank you for what you do.
I don't care what supplied narcissist gets they treat everyone the same and that's why a narcissist can never be happy or in love love hurts for a narcissist
Thank you, not only for the info, but for your sense of humor. The whole “ride or die” analogy had me on the floor laughing, and it was your specific delivery that allowed this to finally penetrate my psyche.
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I ❤️ your ride or die analogy 🤣 in time dear, in time. She wanted to take what I had so bad,& so proud of herself 🤦🏼♀️ I’m thinking they might be getting a taste of their own medicine. The ex was dead & I got stuck saving 2 kids, put in positions not many people do. So I know I wasn’t the “new supply”, but she definitely Is & he’s giving her everything I wanted. It’s still all about him, but she thinks it’s bc she’s so special🤦🏼♀️ in time
My ex Narc has been through a few supplies since we broke up and I can say to everyone out there it is always just a matter a time before they are doing the old same things to new person. Now he didn't physically abuse the new ones like he did to me but he did other things. You can't get in this realm where you compare yourself to the new one. I did that, I would beat myself up wondering why he didn't put any pictures us us on social media but did with the new ones. You will drive yourself crazy trying to understand the game they play with different people. The fact is that they adapt to each situation and do what needs to be done in that situation to get what they want from that particular person or they do it to be vindictive because that is how they roll. I also do not suggest trying to tell the new supply because I found it to be not only unproductive but they almost always just think you are being vindictive and jealous and don't receive it well. They need to learn for themselves.
Yeah or use the next person to try and get over you and it backfires .. and hurts you also because they literally they were a distraction but yeah .. I guess .. or thinking about coming back for me the whole time ..
You dont know how much I needed to read this comment today especially the ruminating part about why they never posted photos of us on social media. He just started doing that with his new supply today and never of us before,but now I understand it's all just mental games.
If you’re healing from narcissistic abuse, patience is a must because they will definitely reap what they’ve sown and all the truth will eventually surface and they will get all they deserve!
Keep the new supply I'm happy so that way I don't have to deal with you ever again keep them...
The narcissist I left used to reach for my hand in the car and say "ride or die baby"...lmfao.
I know ur looking for the compliment, but u earned it. Your videos were my closure, the other women and becoming friends and lifting one another up, that was my closure, and l thought I would miss him...I MISSED ME MORE! Getting ME back...my closure.
This man knows his shit, listen to him, it becomes hilarious how BANG ON he is. Be strong, love yourself, and know that you are soooooo worth all the best.
“I’m going to target you with my happiness and smiles”🤣🤣🤣 Y’all it’s not a laughing matter but that was funny because that’s actually what Narcs do🤷🏽♀️
I've been listening to your content for a few days now and you do a such a great job. thank you for advocating in the eyes OF the narcissist, its nice to see it from that perspective because us of those who have been hurt by one ,.. its nice to have a voice from that end. thank you for what you do.
Thank you for making me laugh in this video. So nice to find humor in the midst of dealing with leaving my narcissist. Appreciate your content so much ! It’s literally life saving.
The new supply gained access to our home, life, and privacy. She used to call me and ask me to go have pedicures, go shopping or ask advice. She was, after all , the age of our children. Tried to date them and even slept with one prior to their father. 🤮 She will tolerate a lot because she has no dignity, boundaries or conscience. She targeted our family in a big way. If he thinks THAT is love, he is in for a shock. He has NEVER dealt with a person as cold and calculating as the supply and his sons tried to warn him. Good luck with that.
Mine brought the new supply around because I knew her already. They are co-workers. Tried to cover it up as them being just friends, but he would tell me about how the new supply's ex husband would behave, and how he would be working overtime to help her. Then started bringing the new supply around for our family functions, paying more attention to her than he ever did to me. I moved out. Only contact is in regards to our children.
You are amazing guidence to many of us who have been in this hell of relationship. Love and appreciation to you 🙏🏼💕
Lee very genuine and well articulated as usual TY
My neighbor was a narcissist, he recently passed away. He had a beautiful and sweet wife years ago. He treated her sooo badly. He had multiple kids with other women while they were married and physically and mentally abused her. He refused to take care of any of the nine children he has which only 2 of them were hers. He I guess some time before he died he married a woman from Dallas. He gave all of his rights to her before he died. His mom nor children got anything, he was into stocks so he was loaded. The woman had money as well. When he died in the hospital, the woman had his mother and daughter kicked out. His daughter still decided to have a memorial for him. Only two people showed up. Not only will this man suffer in hell but he didn’t get the funeral he dreamed of. I will always tell this story.🤦🏽♀️
Wow!! He made his choice and this road.
Thank you so much for giving me/us the game!! You are so on point its uncanny!! It comes straight to the core of things.
Ejected out of the seat looool, your so right, ride OR die. thankGod for social media, thanks Lee, your channels growing fast, thumbs up
Ayooooo 😂😂😂😂🤦🏽♀️ you are hilarious. You really do make my recovery process so much more light hearted
😅😅 stay empowered
And that's the part that hurt ..knowing they have no problem with getting with next person Giving that person everything your ex wanted..smh
I will not warn no new supply bcus that was my back burner she knew he was married n who cares she did me a big favor she will get worse than me ….this is my experience…… I’ve gain so much strength Lee thanks again to all your videos …… NO CONTACT is the best thing for us VICTIMS….❤️❤️
Mines married in another country too I got promised a life and divorce we’ll see if the next sticks but she doesn’t sound nice at all and someone that violent before she told me she’s fist fought her ex which currently still dealing with .. He’s still married and doing whatever I handled him for three years here did what I could but turns it around like I need my feelings validated from him and relie on him. Like no sir you got it backwards he’s very insecure and I feel kind of clingy I am co dependent to him I’ve expressed that because I obviously love him but he acts all tough then back to crying and love you but it’s an act it’s scary and crazy and like insane .. but I figured if it’s her she knows .. and even he said she was some distraction to stay away from me everything reminded him of me and salem and go somewhere else without me or didn’t reply now I did now same set up to him even though he created it .. so insane
Lee, you are a Godsend. I was discarded in June and I felt like my world was gonna end.i just couldn't understand what was happening. This was the third time she had done this. We had been together like for 3 1/2 years. I felt like she may have been narcissistic but I would always just second guess my self. Then I found your videos and the other great youtubers who dedicate themselves to helping us survivors of this type of abuse. I had already decided to block her because third times the charm. But I needed yall videos to give me strength to keep it up. God bless you and your family sir. Thank you! 🙏🏾 💯❤
Right on time .. I ran into my ex narc and his new supply at Walmart on Saturday . We have kids together and it kinda hurt to see him with her ..I left him first but he moved on to her super fast … I’m just like wow
That’s cause they been had that person.
@@TheRebelCoach most of the time I’d say, either lingering in the background as a flirtatious co worker or whatever. Most people would be broken to pieces if they went through there partners phones lol.
Right mine did the same, with a girl I knew something was up with.. After our divorce of being married for 14 years, my Ex went on Craigslist, POF, ect.. He found him 3 - 4 replacements (After we had only been separated & divorced for 2 years or less) that alll got pregnant with in days of each other 😂😭
All with my name & face tattooed on him🥴
It broke me down the way he basically bragged by asking our 14 year old "If I know any cheap or free abortion clinics"😒😡😤
I couldn't let his punk 🤬 know tho, I was healing & doing me. But here we are a few years later, he now has 3 - 4 children.
✌🏼🤣 Sets of ghetto twins, all born a few weeks to month later. One child looks like his 2homeboys that are brothers💀
He looks old burnt out, stressed out, stuck, stiiiiiiiiiiiiilllllll the same in every single way on hard drugs & dipping that baby bumpy 🥒 into anything that will pay him attention.
Keep doing you Boo, heal yourself for your & the babies..
No worries about tht clown although I get where you’re coming from. It hurts esp when there are kids involved. Trust hun. Keep doing the work to push forward because you will be fine. This experience is gonna make you so much stronger, wiser. No one would screw you over easily if you do the work to grow. On the other hand, shut the bk door because I also ran into mines at Walmart with his supply. I can’t say new because they seem too comfortable like they’d been a couple for years.
For all I know, I could have been the new supply. Walmart must be their luxury shopping outing 🤣🤣🤣
@@MegaLadylove2012 real talk 🤣🤣 he was star struck when he saw me
My ex had new supply during the last 2-3 years of our relationship. It was a twisted time - not like all 7 years weren’t - but what he got me to agree to with her - who I feel like her insecurities ran MUCH deeper than mine - was INSANE! He then left the state with her without telling anyone. She went hard for him, especially when it came to trashing on me & our son, who is barely a year old at the time! Like who is so insecure that they’re going to shit on an innocent child?! … & he would say NOTHING about it. I’m actually grateful for her now looking back, because she took someone out of my life who was bringing me down. My exes’ oldest daughter & I are still very close & she had actually told me at one point that this girl started making comments not long into their relationship like, “you’re treating me how you treated Celisse!”… apparently they’re still together from what I know & he has been disowned & cut off not only by his oldest kids, but also by his mother, who he betrayed & being a woman of stature, that really hit her ego hard, because she practically put him on a pedestal due to a lot of the notoriety & success he had created in his business.
she got what she was chasing... 🤷🏻♀👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
It’s so nice to see it from a bloke who has lived and breathe it ….I appreciate your honesty xx
12 days free from my narc neighbour! He immediately moved onto another female neighbour. I feel like I've gotten a huge nasty parasite off my back....sucking the postivness out of me daily!😌♥️🇨🇦
I don’t care how hurt the new supply gets, as a matter of fact, I sit and smile and love every bit of pain she will get, I hope he destroys her, could not happen to a more deserving person.
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He lives 2 doors down and he's flaunting everything with the new supply in my face. I feel like I have to hide in my house to avoid being constantly triggered. I am working on moving, but that doesn't happen quickly. This is miserable.
I'm in the same position as you. At just makes it so much harder to let go and move on.
@@egahovac oh I am so sorry. Truly. Deeply sorry. Because I know exactly what you're going through, I hate it for you. It makes it nearly impossible to move on.
She live in our home.
This is so good to watch
My heart broke tonight
I hope he finds help
It’s so sad
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It's interesting to watch the narcissist ex on social media. She will triangulate her supply with strangers- hollywood actors, singers, famous people. During idealization, she used a photo of us as her background on the phone and tablet, during devaluation she'll replace the photo with Jason Mamoa, etc. She is doing that right now posting videos of her pretending to sing a duet with hunky tiktok content providers. I know EXACTLY what the new supply is going through, because she did the exact same thing to me. When I was in the relationship, I certainly knew it was a disrespectful behavior, but I didn't know it was abusive... I didn't understand it was deliberate to knock me down a peg to keep me bonded to her. The new supply gets a short idealization until they're hooked, then it's the same thing she did to me. She's 50 years old and cannot understand why some Prince Charming has never asked for her hand in marriage.. I almost married her until I began to notice this behavior, and it shattered the trust. She'll always be someone's mistress and has nobody but herself to blame.
New supply is a narc as well, how does that play out?
Two ways: They’ll either end up severely hurting themselves or each other (mentally, physically). Or they will be perfect for each other and be miserable together (cheating on each other, unnecessary drama, trying to play perfect together). It just depends on how jealous or threatened the new supply is of you.
Mine was messing with someone at work, discarded me and the kids, and moved her right in... So forget that chic she on her own, she wanted him she got him...
EXACTLY !!!! He won the zero in the cracker jax box and she won the zero from the peanutt - gallery. What a helluva combination.
Thank you for this video. I’m now piecing together what happened after my ex ghosted me with no closure during the pandemic. Then to find out he was at a wedding with someone else he claimed to be a friend just two months later. He didn’t take me on a formal date blaming the pandemic but was at a wedding with her then posted a video of them on a date together. They have broken up several times and gotten back together. He’s reached out to me while with her just to ghost me again.
you’re welcome 🙏🏽
same
I really laugh when my kids tell me what their dad is doing to his girlfriend. That's what she gets...lol
His new supply after I filed was a female narcissist who used him, made him believe the love bombing which encouraged him to sign the separation agreement quickly, brought him 40,000 in debt, filed domestic assault charges against him (5th charge) and was so toxic he actually broke up with her after a few months. He making an ass of himself on social media with the facade.
I left him. He could not let go. She moved in after a couple of months and now they are getting married. My kids are being forced into a "bonus family". I'm fighting for my kids and I will not let him destroy them.
Maaannnn!!! This is what the narcissist did with the new supply. He told her things I wasn't doing (not what he was/wasn't doing to cause me not to do them). He would post her on social media and commented "This is my ride or die!"💀😂 One thing he would always tell me that he hated was that I never smiled. 😐🙄😒 But the pictures others have shown me that he's posted of the new supply, she's not smiling on any of them. 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️😂 But, he probably told her that he wasn't like he was back in high school (they graduated together). He told me he wasn't the angry little boy that he used to be growing up (he and I grew p across the street from one another). However, he soon showed that none of the anger he expressed as a child was gone. It was worse! 🤦🏾♀️😫
They only get worse over time. Smh
@@yahya4370 Right! His entire family cannot deal with him. I've told him to his face that he's a narcissist. His response was, "I probably am." 😐 However, I'm sure he didn't know what I meant by the term and he never asked me to elaborate on it. In all honesty, he really didn't care. So I'm just like his new supply will find out how he is when he moves in with her and/or decides he wants to marry her. He's been married twice! The first time was for like 2-3 weeks and the second time was for 4 months. Both times the ex-wives had to file restraining orders against him. He made the mistake of showing me the restraining order and the divorce papers filed by his second wife. I made a mental note of everything in that order and the divorce papers because he kept saying she was lying about everything. She was telling the truth because he blew up in the court room during the divorce proceedings. 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Yoooo! I’m screaming “yes!!” the whole video. Thank you.
you’re welcome
Just found out my ex was cheating on me with a friend I knew. They worked to the street from me. When I confronted both of them. I told her he’s abusive and a cheater. He chose her. He didn’t apologize to me, he changed his number. I see her posting their dates together. This is the most betrayal I’ve ever felt and it’s difficult to move on.
This is so on point!!!! I need to give an offering!!! Where do I send it??? This has truly blessed me!
Yes listen to this man ! He is on point . You can say hey well you said you loved me? And the Narcissist will say "Well NOW I love her!!!! !". And he hopes you don't like it ! Thanks for your videos I wa!tch them to remind me of why I cant have ANY expectations . Lesson I learned ? Don't try and outsmart him , it won't happen . Know that the job is dangerous ! And admit your willing to accept it. Or Not !
My narcs new supply is someone who knows all the abuse that happened to me and had the nerve to say.. "It won't ever happen to me. You just brought out the worst in him" worst off she's my babysitter so I have to see her everyday. Yikes.
It's only a matter of time... don't wait to see it.. it WILL happen to them just as it happened to you.
I would seriously get a new babysitter ASAP!!!! Not just for your health but for your kids. You have no idea what’s being told to them. 💕
@@triciaspinner9097 I'm working on it!
@@triciaspinner9097 Yep!! If the new supply is Bitter they don’t mind lying to kids.
These are very comforting words at times of stress, as I know in my body and senses that these words are a complete logical and actual truth.
I was the new supply, I finally get it. Silly me😒
Hey it happens. I feel bad for new supplies. People laughing at them and I'm like hey, that was you once!
It may seem like they treat others better and if course in the beginning you feel bad for them thinking they got a bad deal from a ex but very quickly their house if lies is exposed. Reality is they treat us all like crap. The antics they pull may be different for example if one is not tech savvy they have a field day messing online etc , where on another one they threaten to sue family etc., If they speak with that person etc., They got a whole bag of tricks they pull with everyone.
When you're sick you're never happy! That's in all sickness!!
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I just want to say thank you for your courage and honesty. I have been married to someone that I believe to be narcisstic. I am sad for him, but because of your you tube I feel very confident is saying that I was a target for his abuse. I struggle sometimes because he made me feel so sexuall inadequate and inferior. This was due to the fact that I would not allow him to dominate me through bdsm. I had to draw a line to giving him that kind of power because it is what he did to the supply before me.
Keep up the great work, I know it must be a struggle sometimes.
you’re welcome. Please stay strong on your journey
Walked into a local nightspot to meet some male friends they were chatting with my ex Narc ( weren’t aware it was him with his new supply) I just started laughing when one of my friends came over and threw his arms around me to greet me. My ex narcs jaw hit the floor. I looked like a million bucks, his new supply is a really nice girl we both knew from school. She was actually old supply from years ago that he recycled. Rumored that she has a drinking problem. I was discreet and explained the situation to my friends and told them to meet me on the other side of the bar as I didn’t want to crash his date and make her feel uncomfortable. He and his date left shortly after. My male friends told me he was visibly shaken. He loathes one of the guys I was meeting because he’s extremely successful, and my ex always thought this guy had a thing for me, but we’ve never been more than friends. Not caring is so liberating. I know I dodged a bullet and deserve a better man.
The new Supply is my godsister! I was married to my narc for 30 years. She was like our little sister during our relationship🤮 jokes on them he's a narcissist and she's a sociopath. She wants money and he is completely broke and refuses to work. He wants love and adoration and she can't love. They are going to emotionally starve each other to death. When the Smoke Clears from the love-bombing and manipulating they are both going to come up empty-handed.
You explained my child’s father to the T…he moved in his new supply that he found in another state…and he’s been from the first day she got here, persistent on pushing her onto our daughter to the point that he wanted our child sharing a room/bed with them. It’s so unfortunate that I simply look forward to my daughter growing up so I can finally go no contact with him. 😩
She already knows.
That’s exaaaactly what she made it seem like the others and I showed up ⬆️ waaay better but guess what it was false and then she met one that’s gonna do her “better than me” have fun with that. I’m healing and attracting healthier love!
Introduce kids too soon with new mom and new dad is true 🙄
Hello...this was a good episode! Thanks!
That fact you mentioned Ride or Die.
He was always saying it's so disappointing I'm not Ride or Die enough 😅
Never did one single thing to earn it 🤔
And for this reason you should always know a person really really well over a long period of time..its good to see people in action under stress,what happens when they don't get their way,if they throw tantrums,how the react to things that are outta their control,get to know a person before you sleep or have a relationship with anybody,get to know them first,period and then watch their behavior before ever jumping into a relationship 😉 thank you for your content just now getting out of a horrible relationship with my narcissist mother its been absolute hell and im 55 years old and was recently suicidal over it,I got out and got help so please please be careful who you mix your energy with
It's hard. I'm aware of everythin.But it's still hard.
it's hard but it's worth it
Narcs don't treat any supply special treatment. He is her headache now. Just be done and move on. God has better for you.
Lee, what to expect from narcisist when he was discarded with the help from the police and court following injunction and ongoing criminal investigations? How dangerous is the situation for the survivor? Will it help to keep a narcisist away forever? Thank you.
Yes please... answer for this please this is my exact situation.
Same here! Please answer
Then when they get ready to devalue the new supply they will brag about the old supply lol.
Thank you for explaining this. I felt I did something wrong but it was all about the narc love bombing their new victim.
His new supply literally pushed me out of his life and he let her, but now says that didn’t happen and it’s all in my head. Why can’t he admit that this happened and let it go, focus on her and stay away from me? I tell him he made his bed and he tells me, I made this bed for him, by leaving him and getting a divorce. I know he’s never going to forgive me for leaving, but I’m not letting a man mistreat my grandchildren and stay with him. I’m not warning anyone, let them find out on their own, I’ve blocked everyone he knows from my Facebook. I don’t want to know what he’s doing and don’t care!! I’m better than that!!
Thank you for your testimony.
U have a low self esteem work on that. that's y these demons get u trapped
@@divinee.155 can I ask why you say that? I don’t have a low self esteem, I think higher of myself than most do, I know my worth and that’s why I let him go. There’s more to the story than just this little bit. If anyone has low self esteem it would be him, always wanting to hear how good looking and what a wonderful person he is. I know in 4 years he’s been with every woman who shows him attention, believe me there’s been at least 20, that I know of. I don’t seek attention like that, sorry, I’m a better person.
@@darlenesmith5524 because thats the only way a narc can manipulate u once u notice ur being treated badly bounce if u look back u have low confidence and self esteem. Igt rid of mine in a month a soon as i noticed the manipulation i played along for a bit cause i like the finger but no supply was given he went nuts then i dumped him
@@divinee.155 He says I turned him into a narcissist, but he was before I left him. Didn’t show it until after his ex wife pasted away, then he turned on his boys, my kids, my grandchildren and me.. Not long after I left him.
We had planned to go to Japan together. Now he's thinking/planning on going there with his new one. I can't even 😅😭...it's funny and heartbreaking at the same time.
OMG you are so right, right now just now am been taken through all this kind of thing
Thank GOD I'm the opposite of the examples here in vid 🤣 holy shit, I feel badly for ppl who stick it out MORE after hearing what happened to the old supply!!! I knew/ found out, & as soon as similar things started happening to me by narc- I put my antenna up, I got more guarded, my tolerance for bs almost became nonexistent, that lasted 3 months then BOOM I cut it, still had to deal with the aftermath (mikd stalking, showing up at my apt to talk, blah blah blah) so i'm cold, i'm brief, i'm too the point, i try not to give in & if i mess up cuz unfortunately they're homless i DON'T beat myself up, & im so glad i set these big boundaries. It took me 4 months to hit that wall, then 3 months to make it stick/ or at least more permanent & safe for me 🙄 coulda done it better i know, BUT im proud I didn't stick through it for 7 years like the old supply!!! I learned from what happened to her & just... idk said FUCK THAT 🙄 I want this person to get help, just far farrr away from me! I may make the bad decision of continuing light contact bc I wanna get paid back the almost $2k the narc owe me!!! But if light contact blows up in my face bad then I guess I cut my losses cuz losing my health & my life & myself was not/ & is not/ worth anything 😮💨 so exhausting these people though! Thank You Lee for speaking on this &&& for getting help while supporting others. Proud of you man!!!
I have a lot of respect for his old supply too. I didn't even know her before I met him, & she had moments of bein rude to me before she met me cuz she prolly thought I was some shady mrfkr like HIM. But I could see all that, I could see her pain!!! I could feel her anger & frustration, I respected that she was standing up for herself despite how she was treating me 😅 I would just fuckin level with her! I was honest & I would explain my situation and in the last 3 months of relationship I was tellin HER like bitchhh im tryna get OUT of this abuse too, but I said I had to be smart about it or im putting myself in more trouble :/ I told her I was sorry that she was still dealing with it, she told me she felt bad that I was dealing with it 😅 we kinda bonded a little & I told her we should stay in touch! I'm not always the best keeping in contact with people (makin it easier for me to ghost the toxic dude 😂), but yeah me & her still talk sometimes & I really respect her! I have some love for that girl 😁 I wish more people weren't so nasty in their hearts to stay blind to what's real for so long 🙄 or bcuz society tells us to NEVER trust the ex, sometimes yes! But sometimes you gotta open ur ears && follow your heart, my heart said trust her, I also met sum ppl who knew her & opinions seemed consistent with the vibe I got off her so... yeah 👍 & I def hope the narc seeks help.
Lee have you ever dated a narcissist ? And how would u respond if you thought someone that you are currently dating is a narc ?
My ex who I work with started seeing another co-worker two days after we split. This new supply was abusive towards his exes, had a kid in another state, talked shit about his baby-moms, refused to pay child support and was an asshole towards customers and workers. He ended up getting fired. After that, now my ex got another new supply at work.
So I’m dealing with a narcissist who’s dating my co-workers at this point and I got a feeling if this one doesn’t work out, she’ll jump to the next co-worker.
I blocked her immediately after she started seeing her first supply and haven’t talked to her since, but I can still tell she’s angry and bitter towards me.
Thank You Lee🙏this was helpful
My ex told me so many things about the bad ex, so I tried harder.
At the end I talked to the ex, and she was so great, she helped the narc in so many different ways and did so many for him…
It’s a karosel you hop on and it will drop you every time!
Send the new supply a condolence card. I feel sorry for them. No body deserves that.
Thank you once more. The clarity you bring is so healing! I often read that they get worse while aging. Somehow I hope it is true, so I can be even more grateful for how things went. But I wonder if it is true?
The new suppply will be in for a rude awaking ⏰
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That’s so cruel. Why do they have to be so cruel ????? I have to know
I know the new supply and right before the truth came out about them, she tried so hard to copy me with my looks. Couldn’t come close to the original but took my compliments from others literally directed to me, and included herself as though we were both getting the same compliment 😂
He may have discarded me but downgraded while I upgraded by loving myself again and regaining the confidence he broke down