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  • @scottgebow6539
    @scottgebow6539 Місяць тому +378

    I love my solitude. I can only take being around people for short periods of time.

    • @RobNC-OG
      @RobNC-OG Місяць тому +22

      totally understand. It drains my energy to deal with some types. It leaves me mentally exhausted and irritable after hearing so much junk and having to put up with them.I have a few people I care deeply for but can count them all on one hand.

    • @scottgebow6539
      @scottgebow6539 Місяць тому +13

      @@RobNC-OG Sounds a lot like me.

    • @johannakamstra-schickendan7380
      @johannakamstra-schickendan7380 27 днів тому +9

      Me too, same feelings

    • @wentworths8088
      @wentworths8088 27 днів тому +9

      So right 👍

    • @lucila5466
      @lucila5466 27 днів тому +8

      100%

  • @DogBeast221
    @DogBeast221 28 днів тому +201

    “The more I get to know people, the more I prefer the company of my dog.” -Mark Twain

  • @tinfoilhatplumber485
    @tinfoilhatplumber485 Місяць тому +594

    Most people don't even know what to do with themselves after one hour ... my solitude and inner peace are priceless

    • @charisma4200
      @charisma4200 Місяць тому +20

      Precisely

    • @thammyvandewiel8240
      @thammyvandewiel8240 Місяць тому +28

      For along time I did not follow my own needs. I did as was expected. Married young, 3 demanding children, one with special needs. When I finally took the step to divorce, after a marriage of 35 years, it still took a while to become what I was meant to be. What I wanted to find in the outer world, there was a lack of. Respect, loyalty, trust, even if you don't agree with someone, there must be at least those 3 things and those seem to be hard to find. I could never return to that old "me". I do not miss the chitchat, tiptoeing around people you could offend by anything and everything. And loyalty is like a needle in a haystack. Disappointment over and over is one of my reasons to seek a peaceful relationship with myself. And without the drama of others, my life is so much easier and more balanced, and the best lesson learned of it all, don't confuse being alone with loneliness. Those are two totally different things .

    • @mariettestabel275
      @mariettestabel275 Місяць тому

      ​@@thammyvandewiel8240💫

    • @maryrico7816
      @maryrico7816 Місяць тому +23

      I love being alone. It's so peaceful. I 😘 ve being around with only the people that bring me up and love me. The rest that give me drama I want to stay away. As you get older and wiser you get to realize this. ❤

    • @Maryjane296b
      @Maryjane296b Місяць тому

      I feel like you do​@@maryrico7816

  • @neilrushton7169
    @neilrushton7169 Місяць тому +519

    "I only go out into society to get me a fresh appetite for being alone." -- Lord Byron

  • @LaurenceDay-d2p
    @LaurenceDay-d2p Місяць тому +240

    I have been a loner since I was 7, and thought an "oddball" by family and peers because I was born with a high IQ. Being alone and doing as you please is delightful. I would much rather be alone and doing something enjoyable than being with a pack of petty, quarrelsome, small-talking people. I'm sure there are thousands of intelligent people who feel the same way I do.

    • @ritmolatino1627
      @ritmolatino1627 Місяць тому

      you are most likely to be autistic.

    • @donnasilver940
      @donnasilver940 Місяць тому +4

      I,m a loner from 10 years old.I,m not a pretty person and they hated my dads family.So they rejected me.

    • @jamesmuhihu4527
      @jamesmuhihu4527 Місяць тому +2

      I have been far more lost to wrong people until I found I loosing them ,,,, and that when i found myself,,,,

    • @galevalenti7759
      @galevalenti7759 Місяць тому +2

      I was six when I started hiding in the cubby that was made between a door and a wall. I remember falling asleep there once, so didn't hear them calling me. They said I was lying and tormented me until I was crying so hard that I could barely stand it. Needless to say, that small haven was no longer an option for me.

    • @suzmac1526
      @suzmac1526 Місяць тому +9

      I was a loner from early childhood. I was painfully shy, so I was invisible. Adults forgot I was in the room, it gave me a sharp insight into the awfulness of people.

  • @nuna4307
    @nuna4307 Місяць тому +332

    Thank you. I’ve always a loner, but everyone seems to think we HAVE to have friends, that there is something wrong with you if you choose to be alone. People make me anxious.

    • @jeanettebranco1910
      @jeanettebranco1910 Місяць тому +30

      I totally agree, I have the same issue, my peace and solitude bring me more peace then people will ever do.

    • @kerry-j4m
      @kerry-j4m Місяць тому +21

      Some people like to keep mess going on and drama. They talk about you behind your back,then smile in your face. Some talk wayyyy-TOO-much.

    • @gohajourney
      @gohajourney Місяць тому +10

      I agee

    • @janewright2800
      @janewright2800 Місяць тому +11

      @nuna with you there! People feel draining and time alone (especially in nature) energises me. We all get called weird for being loners! I get my best inspiration with time out💚

    • @AMarieKenyon
      @AMarieKenyon Місяць тому +14

      My best friend called me a "loner" and it kinda crushed me. It's a demeaning word for someone who is sensitive to their personality/ introversion. If i had to choose introvert or extrovert, i'd choose the old stand-by, introvert personality! Extroverts cause meltdown for me (my being on the far end of the introvert scale). I never needed a babysitter!😂 And my guess is that i'm probably more passionate & compassionate in-and-about my life and other life on earth than many people are!💥🤔🤭 the End!

  • @zoftigbeatnik
    @zoftigbeatnik Місяць тому +121

    100% Introvert and loving it. I don't have to answer to anyone and love being alone.

    • @KingsleyMoreland
      @KingsleyMoreland 27 днів тому +8

      Been on my own for the past 32 years and love every minute of it.

    • @sandraphillips5091
      @sandraphillips5091 17 днів тому +7

      Introvert, aroace, celibate, and live alone. I watch the shows I want, listen to the music I want, fix and eat the food I want. Don't have to buckle under to someone else's demands or whims. Life is good.

  • @Samara90012
    @Samara90012 Місяць тому +471

    Had many friends, nothing but noise,drama, chaos, and yap yap yap yap. Many betrayals and disappointments. Cut all the garbage out and now i focus solely on myself,personal growth and fitness. Never had this much peace and quiet in my life. Best decision i made in my life . !

    • @shirleylincoln4406
      @shirleylincoln4406 Місяць тому +24

      My experience as well

    • @pauline-v3b
      @pauline-v3b Місяць тому +18

      Me too

    • @kimvalpy
      @kimvalpy Місяць тому +14

      💜🪽💜🌬🕯
      My experience too...
      I keep to myself & now they put me Hosp Care & they keep saying come do this,, that & don't understand why I enjoy being Alone...
      I need to get outta here,, away from Negative opinions...
      I want to go back to Nature,, but finances short as they took EVERYTHING from me...
      Yes,, rare individuals are few apart💚
      Yes,, bla blah blah,, gives me headache...
      I would rather enjoy going in my garden & eat Fresh Fruits again,, as food here sux too...
      💚 L♥︎VE to "ALL"

    • @motowngirl5891
      @motowngirl5891 Місяць тому

      My two cats
      People are nothing but troublemakers
      Cause confusing lies

    • @clintloranrand951
      @clintloranrand951 Місяць тому +7

      "friends" ?

  • @TheBuddhistPath-2024
    @TheBuddhistPath-2024 Місяць тому +247

    Solitude becomes a gift as we age; it's the perfect time to rediscover ourselves and cherish inner peace.

    • @donnasteen2049
      @donnasteen2049 Місяць тому +5

      Yet, we older people are instructed to socialize to stay happy, avoid loneliness and even stave off dementia.

    • @TheBuddhistPath-2024
      @TheBuddhistPath-2024 Місяць тому

      @@donnasteen2049 You bring up an important point! Socializing is indeed crucial for emotional and cognitive health, especially for older adults. It’s all about balance-creating a harmonious, peaceful home while staying connected with others to nurture both mind and soul.

    • @TheStoicSage365
      @TheStoicSage365 Місяць тому +3

      Absolutely! Solitude indeed has a way of transforming into a gift, offering us the chance to delve deeper into self-awareness and discover tranquility amidst life’s noise. Finding that balance between cherishing one’s own company and engaging meaningfully with others is an invaluable skill. Thank you for sharing such profound insight!

    • @TheBuddhistPath-2024
      @TheBuddhistPath-2024 Місяць тому +1

      @@TheStoicSage365 Finding that balance between inner tranquility and meaningful connections with others is indeed an art to cherish. Thank you for sharing such a meaningful reflection! 🙏

    • @clintloranrand951
      @clintloranrand951 Місяць тому +2

      100% true... Growing older - having less or no interests 1) in women 2) in waste of finance and time on silly bars, socializing..

  • @buen393
    @buen393 Місяць тому +101

    I'd rather be on my own than to be bullied or upset by these toxic people

    • @renegade-master29
      @renegade-master29 22 дні тому +7

      100%

    • @torablack
      @torablack 12 днів тому +3

      Plus I've noticed that it's always the annoying ones who want to go out of their way to hang out with you.

    • @OdeInWessex
      @OdeInWessex 5 днів тому +1

      This.

  • @David-o9z1v
    @David-o9z1v Місяць тому +314

    I USED TO BE A PEOPLE PERSON BUT PEOPLE RUINED IT!

    • @1faunaempath.
      @1faunaempath. Місяць тому +26

      I thought about going outside today, changed my mind. It's too peopley out there 😂

    • @johnshaddick6858
      @johnshaddick6858 Місяць тому +1

      It is called human race.

    • @montamiddleton9318
      @montamiddleton9318 26 днів тому +8

      I recall a sign in my uncles house that stated PEOPLE ARE NO DAMN GOOD.
      So true in today's rushing world.

    • @louisecampbell2628
      @louisecampbell2628 22 дні тому +5

      Same here. Unfortunately I don't trust anyone

    • @renegade-master29
      @renegade-master29 22 дні тому +2

      Lol I like it and feel your pain

  • @amarula5730
    @amarula5730 Місяць тому +85

    My big problem with people is the fact that most are fake and lies all the time. It’s just piss me off. I speak truth and people don’t like it. So solitude is something that I cherish so much.

    • @lavondacarter7228
      @lavondacarter7228 Місяць тому +8

      TRUTH !

    • @lisalawson7195
      @lisalawson7195 11 днів тому +4

      Me too.If you want to get rid of people,just be yourself and tell it as it is!Most people cannot stand to hear the truth.😂😂

    • @edie4321
      @edie4321 14 годин тому +1

      The pretenders I call them. I stopped going to family functions because I could no longer pretend. The Christmas holiday was nothing but lies and I will not play along.

  • @johnmalatesta751
    @johnmalatesta751 Місяць тому +176

    Emotional vampires that drain are the worst. I love people , but they drain me. I'm definitely an introvert and love myself and my solitude.

    • @kerry-j4m
      @kerry-j4m Місяць тому +4

      Me too.

    • @klloyd3530
      @klloyd3530 Місяць тому +4

      I am an introvert as well. But when someone lies to me I present to them evidence of their lie. I WILL NOT compromise myself by sanctioning such behavior. And I love others enough to not do the same to them as they do with others.
      Of course I must accept nothing less of myself than I do of them.
      The consequence of my actions is a number of reliable Friends that I can trust implicitly, even when the truth stings I am grateful for the opportunity to change the situation if I do choose.

    • @Floyd69
      @Floyd69 16 днів тому +1

      I would call a group of people vampires in my youth, but back then, I did not know myself like I do today. Now I understand what I’m feeling.

  • @annemariepirrotta1035
    @annemariepirrotta1035 Місяць тому +111

    Being alone allows me freedom, calm. The times I socialize I try to be respectful of others and enjoy myself. When the idiot person is in the room, which is at most family gatherings, I go home feeling drained, exhausted. Now that I 'm older it doesn't matter if someone dislikes me, what matters is that they don't bother me.

  • @evelynedumadze8184
    @evelynedumadze8184 Місяць тому +79

    Finding yourself and enjoying your own campany is priceless❤

  • @gohajourney
    @gohajourney Місяць тому +108

    Every person over 70 needs to watch this video. It’s empowering and comforting at the same time. 💡

  • @OliviaWyatt-m3h
    @OliviaWyatt-m3h Місяць тому +137

    My feelings and thoughts are deep and mostly holy, most people don't appreciate my true self. I feel happy being alone, because I'm not really alone.

    • @ChindaAmadi
      @ChindaAmadi Місяць тому +3

      You are definitely not alone.

    • @hjc5457
      @hjc5457 Місяць тому +4

      You're never alone with the Everlasting Presence of the Creator🌌

    • @jamieraegro
      @jamieraegro Місяць тому

      Art helps.

    • @irenemorley75
      @irenemorley75 Місяць тому

      @@jamieraegro Only if you like art.

    • @wendyyohe-cz2un
      @wendyyohe-cz2un Місяць тому +3

      No, we are never alone and the one who is always with us never betrays us.

  • @mycocoaone
    @mycocoaone Місяць тому +56

    Old and wiser I like my solitude. Reflection is key to my life at 76.

  • @carol-us4xn
    @carol-us4xn Місяць тому +96

    There's always nice people, but just anyone won't do. Being selective is not a crime. It saves energy, time, and effort. I'd rather not waste any. 💯

    • @alainvosselman9960
      @alainvosselman9960 Місяць тому

      A few years back after having been subjected to mental abuse by a friend and waking up to it not being the first time... i rediscovered my love for solitude and am a lot more selective. I already had such a faze when i was younger but some people are just very good at having you drop your guard.

  • @smartchick649
    @smartchick649 Місяць тому +55

    I was called weird, I later found out that I’m jut an introvert. I love being by myself.

    • @mfjdv2020
      @mfjdv2020 27 днів тому +3

      exactly! me too.

    • @yvonnepoole141
      @yvonnepoole141 7 днів тому

      I have been that way since I was 5 yrs old.

  • @aramora1914
    @aramora1914 Місяць тому +55

    Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone

  • @ladyaqua4544
    @ladyaqua4544 Місяць тому +65

    I am a empath, a serious person and yes a sometimes introvert, I can’t stand being in crowds or being around fake people, users takers, drunks, attention seekers. Been betrayed too many times and now it’s Me and My dog in peace.

    • @julieshaffer3957
      @julieshaffer3957 Місяць тому +9

      Yes! My cat and I are fine. Too many betrayals and hurt...I want to be protected and safe in my last 20 years or whatever time I have left. People seem to have lost their way of what is truly important and instead don't even realize it's all about them. Trust another again? Not again...no.

    • @EastSideTerri
      @EastSideTerri Місяць тому +3

      Me too

    • @JohanBal-bc7kz
      @JohanBal-bc7kz Місяць тому +4

      An English philosefer once said ; every man deserve's one good dog in his lifetime ! I fully agree ! I've had the good fortune to have had several wonderfull dogs in my life time !

    • @chelle94
      @chelle94 27 днів тому +2

      I really want a small shih tzu or chihuahua

    • @lisalawson7195
      @lisalawson7195 11 днів тому

      Those are all toxic draining people.Better off without them.Drunks and druggies aren't real friends.I avoid those.Try to find the others like me.😮❤

  • @sherettasharif1358
    @sherettasharif1358 Місяць тому +67

    I now love being with myself 💕...ALOT 🤗💯

  • @StoicRealm-xxl
    @StoicRealm-xxl Місяць тому +49

    I've been struggling with my dislike for social situations and this has given me a lot to think about. It makes me realize that it's not a flaw but rather a complex mix of factors. Great piece!

  • @adamhuffman3354
    @adamhuffman3354 Місяць тому +20

    “When I’m by myself I’m with my best friend “ take CARE of YOUR self.

  • @sharonclegg3213
    @sharonclegg3213 Місяць тому +63

    When did you delve into my mind and decide to write my story. Thank you so much for this. I feel validated as a person.

  • @StoicTraining
    @StoicTraining Місяць тому +27

    Wow, the part about 'spending time with the wrong people' really hit home. It’s so true that not all company is good company, and learning to protect your energy by walking away from toxic people is a form of self-respect. This perspective is a game-changer - it reminds me that solitude isn’t loneliness, it’s self-care. Thanks for this insight!

  • @alanrandall49
    @alanrandall49 Місяць тому +58

    This video describes the whole of my life as an introvert, from being a shy young child to now being a 75 y.o. cynical older man who has given up on socialising a long time ago, having reached an understanding with myself that it is for the better, a more peaceful and relaxed life, and trust issues after trying to be open and friendly with the wrong, toxic people, sharing personal information and then that being used against me for their selfish, dishonest gains, not any more, I have lost too much materially and mentally, I have learned my lesson the hard way and suffered too long for that mistake! 😏

    • @arlenenash4437
      @arlenenash4437 Місяць тому +3

      I feel the same way and I'm 78.

    • @mfjdv2020
      @mfjdv2020 27 днів тому +7

      Well said, Alan! Only one thing: I would replace your word 'cynical' with 'realistic'. I'm 70 and extremely realistic about life and other people.

    • @Kaysha-r8b
      @Kaysha-r8b 17 днів тому +3

      M m m m m m less ppl less bullshit

    • @alanrandall49
      @alanrandall49 17 днів тому

      ​​@@mfjdv2020... Agree, realistic is a good word, what we all experience educates us with common sense and eventually enlightens us to the way life is, acceptance makes it easier.

    • @anthonybarra2391
      @anthonybarra2391 6 днів тому +2

      your're not the only one mate, same here

  • @ritakatona4299
    @ritakatona4299 Місяць тому +28

    If I am around even one person for more than a couple of hours, I become exhausted! Glad to know others do as well. Even when I was very young I would always look for a corner or nook I could escape to. 😮

  • @brucefrans3955
    @brucefrans3955 Місяць тому +43

    I have found ways to turn down invites to party's my entire life, i get mentally exhausted in large groups

    • @Peace17292
      @Peace17292 29 днів тому

      I am open to examples....running out of excuses ..😶

    • @voiceofreason7856
      @voiceofreason7856 26 днів тому +1

      @@Peace17292 How about " Sorry, but parties really just aren't my thing anymore. If you want to get together for coffee and a friendly catch up ? Give me a call !" You'd just have to say it once - I'm sure they'll get the idea. Good luck !

  • @davidpaglia1326
    @davidpaglia1326 Місяць тому +11

    Worked in Philly for 37 years and it gave me a hard heart. Now retired I smile and feel like a kid again.

  • @magirusdeutzjupiter2234
    @magirusdeutzjupiter2234 Місяць тому +38

    I like being with nature, near the mountains, by a beautiful river, maybe in the garden watching the stars, by the sea perhaps watching the waves and the smell of the sea air. in the forests listening to the symphony of birds, and at night I love the Moon and all the lovely things that come out like the rabbits etc. Too many humans are stupid and risk ruining all of this, so best to avoid them as much as possible.

    • @enlightenedone7141
      @enlightenedone7141 Місяць тому +1

      Absolutely!!! Nicely put!!!

    • @lavondacarter7228
      @lavondacarter7228 Місяць тому +1

      TOTALLY , TOTALLY AGREE !

    • @voiceofreason7856
      @voiceofreason7856 26 днів тому +2

      I had the absolute honor of a pair of rabbits building their small, fuzzy nests in one of my flower beds last spring - right at the foot of my clematis vine ! An often moving 'mound of hair', when the babies were awake. I never saw the babies once they'd left the nest - their Mother taught them very well how to hide to stay safe. :)

    • @HowiesOutdoorAdventures
      @HowiesOutdoorAdventures 16 днів тому +1

      I find my peace in the forest’s, I feel I as one with nature I feel new again and that I can live again

  • @RacerX1971
    @RacerX1971 Місяць тому +155

    I would rather be around dogs and cats...

    • @mariefeeney6664
      @mariefeeney6664 Місяць тому +30

      Animals are much better company than humans!❤❤

    • @rebelvgan4579
      @rebelvgan4579 Місяць тому +9

      @@mariefeeney6664 Definitely ☺

    • @brucefrans3955
      @brucefrans3955 Місяць тому +16

      Can't agree more. I go out with people and all I want to do is go home to my dogs.

    • @shinelight727
      @shinelight727 Місяць тому +10

      @@brucefrans3955 Me too, return to my dog and cat.

    • @diannesquyres4493
      @diannesquyres4493 Місяць тому +5

      They are all I need ! ❤

  • @chrissy138
    @chrissy138 Місяць тому +30

    People..they always expect things from you. It's exhausting. I don't want to prove myself to anybody.

  • @tonyrobinson5597
    @tonyrobinson5597 Місяць тому +21

    I’m happy after 77 years of making efforts , it’s much better being in my own company, I have 6 growth children and 10 grandchildren whom I love , now is my time

  • @bobbygregory1007
    @bobbygregory1007 Місяць тому +21

    This is why I have NEVER gone to my high school reunions; I had heard over the years that people go to them ONLY to talk about themselves and to make others feel bad about themselves, I had had enough of that in school, why put your hand back in the fire. I also worked with the public for years in retail, THAT will really give you an education on PEOPLE and how they are as a person, even people that went to church where I did, When I go to town for some things I need, I can't wait to get back HOME!!! No bs, no insults, etc.

    • @Jennifersams-ju1bm
      @Jennifersams-ju1bm Місяць тому +5

      So true about H.S. reunions. My reason for not attending...those aren't my people.

    • @dorisbrown3622
      @dorisbrown3622 Місяць тому +2

      Amen!!!!!!!

    • @doriangray7723
      @doriangray7723 Місяць тому +1

      I would imagine the reason why some people do just that is because they believe they are getting some form of revenge for being poorly treated in school. Children (those under 18) are often cruel.
      An example is children who are better off than their peers already look down their noses.
      Sometimes people are left out because of physical attributes; attractiveness, skin color, sex, weight, gay etcetera. I suppose children learn these things from their parents.
      After all which of us is perfect? Sinless and so kind and loving as God/Christ.
      The world is fallen and as written the hearts of men are desperately wicked and deceitful above all things.
      We all have inner work to do. Let us walk in this darkness and shine the light of Christ.
      Pray for those who slander you, curse you, and apparently are not your cup of tea. 😊

    • @johnhartsock1891
      @johnhartsock1891 Місяць тому

      An old guy who chugs vodka daily said he went to his 50th year high school reunion and got in a fist fight with a former classmate after hitting on his wife

    • @marciastewart1527
      @marciastewart1527 Місяць тому +1

      I totally agree with you.

  • @StoicRelationships-Official
    @StoicRelationships-Official Місяць тому +13

    This video beautifully highlights the depth behind solitude-it’s not about avoiding people but about honoring yourself. Such a powerful perspective on embracing who we truly are. Thank you for this!

  • @janpeters9838
    @janpeters9838 Місяць тому +35

    So -called “Extroverts” are also the same people who can’t be alone for more than 5 minutes let alone a day. I know some of these folks . I consider my introversion a blessing!

  • @barbarakirby3907
    @barbarakirby3907 Місяць тому +17

    So true… I enjoy solitude. Social gatherings exhaust my emotional state!😊

  • @shady62minx
    @shady62minx Місяць тому +12

    More often than not, I lived alone….when I was working, Monday thru Friday, I’m now retired, I would close myself in my apartment all weekend,and deliriously LOVED doing that. I still do this when I can to this day.

  • @petersimard7038
    @petersimard7038 Місяць тому +18

    Listening to this was like having someone read to me out of my own mind. Not sure what that means. Great video, thanks.

  • @janetscreativepillow
    @janetscreativepillow 16 днів тому +4

    I always felt that I didn't fit in, and after the loss of my husband, I removed myself from social media and toxic friends. I am definitely an introvert and enjoy it. I really enjoyed what you said, and yes, please do expand and share more knowledge. Positive words help many of us. Thank you for what you are doing. God bless you.

  • @jamesokeeffe3216
    @jamesokeeffe3216 Місяць тому +40

    Too many times I’ve gone to the trouble of asking people about themselves and they just keep going not one question comes back,
    The only two people I feel comfortable with are my children ☘️❤️🙏

    • @KimHarvey-cy5ji
      @KimHarvey-cy5ji Місяць тому +3

      Same here

    • @vtwinpower1903
      @vtwinpower1903 Місяць тому +3

      I've noticed that also in older age . No reply from people I've known 50 yrs. I NO LONGER ASK OR EVEN CALL ANYMORE. I STAY WITH MY WIFE ONLY. SHE'S MY BEST BUDDY.❤

    • @nancydemers6398
      @nancydemers6398 Місяць тому +1

      Amen I love ALL the children

  • @stevewhitelock-m8x
    @stevewhitelock-m8x Місяць тому +22

    Your own company is your best friend.

  • @jamessimonsen7685
    @jamessimonsen7685 15 днів тому +4

    I've always felt that being alone does not mean I am lonely. It is peaceful and relaxing.

    • @paulineashcroft1485
      @paulineashcroft1485 3 дні тому

      Aloneness and loneliness are two entirely different things. I do love being with my true friends for a couple of hours, any longer I start craving my aloneness, fortunately I believe my friends feel the same so it works well, we go our separate ways and everybody is happy.

  • @Cobber2023
    @Cobber2023 27 днів тому +3

    I used to like being around people until i reached my 20’s. I nearly died at work and all the people that were always around me all disappeared, i was laying on a hospital bed all by myself my own mother and siblings who i was always around didn’t even visit me. I had neurosurgery and the scariest time of my life taught me a very valuable life lesson. My family knew i was receiving a lump sum payout and they all showed up the day i received my payout money and every single one of them actually expected me to give them money because they were broke, i no longer talk with my mother or my siblings they never tell me when they have children and didn’t tell me when they got married. I do not need anyone i have faced things that would have broken most people and i did it all by myself i know i am good enough to be around people but i choose to avoid people 99% of people are fake and i don’t like fake people.

  • @scrider5493
    @scrider5493 Місяць тому +14

    I felt this way most of the day yesterday at staff training, everyone talking, chatting and I wished I could join in, but I did not, instead looked at my phone's news and read at this and that book. I see the social talk to be Networking and needed to form bonds, friendships, but I have one solid friend and I am married to her.

  • @matinacitrus
    @matinacitrus 10 днів тому +4

    I am social when I have to be and I can talk to people, but I prefer to be at home and with my cats. Been disappointed too many times to trust other people.

  • @hjc5457
    @hjc5457 Місяць тому +76

    You're never alone with the
    Eternal Presence of the Creator

    • @scooterboi8761
      @scooterboi8761 Місяць тому +3

      Not everyone believes that.

    • @TreasureDeal
      @TreasureDeal Місяць тому +3

      I do, deeply.

    • @boscodog4358
      @boscodog4358 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@scooterboi8761
      The earth screams of His Majesty.
      Just be stii and let God be God in your life mm

    • @Biblesmakegoodkindling
      @Biblesmakegoodkindling Місяць тому +2

      I don’t like books and religions based on violence.

    • @scooterboi8761
      @scooterboi8761 Місяць тому +2

      @@boscodog4358 I'm good. Thanks.

  • @laurie242424
    @laurie242424 Місяць тому +9

    Since I stopped social drinking, the noise and immaturity have become very difficult to put up with. I’m not finding the constant solitude particularly comfortable sometimes but I can’t step back in to the din and the falseness.

  • @nahidhosseini-ef9bd
    @nahidhosseini-ef9bd Місяць тому +16

    Being by oneself and not being bothered by that is a life skill, it’s an art. Not that everyone is able to or blessed with that.

  • @SteveViator-w6t
    @SteveViator-w6t Місяць тому +14

    I FOUND OUT IF I STAY OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE'S BUSINESS, IT WON'T COST ME ANYTHING 😇

  • @StoicQuotes365
    @StoicQuotes365 Місяць тому +6

    This video is such a refreshing perspective on why solitude is often misunderstood. It's not about rejecting people but about protecting our energy and honoring our inner world. Thank you for normalizing this journey!

  • @Thequietone974
    @Thequietone974 27 днів тому +5

    I lost my vocal chords to cancer , 23 years ago . With no voice , you are forced to listen. I work in a very bust salon , Dear LORD do people talk a lot and say absolutely nothing . My home , alone ;is my favorite place to be .

  • @The-GreenHornet
    @The-GreenHornet Місяць тому +11

    In my 50s now.
    Never been married and no children.
    Never been the biggest smartest best looking guy, but I feel that I am somewhere in the middle of those things.
    I've had some really close friends, or so I thought.
    However in order to keep those friendships I felt like I was the one who always had to be the initiator to keep the friendship going.
    I finally decided to stop being the friendship chaser.
    Those people quickly faded away.
    Wake up call!
    I'm actually good being alone, I've always enjoyed my solitude and personal interests.
    I no longer care if people truly like me or not.
    Not chasing anyone anymore. Too time consuming and I already know how it will turn out.
    Late 50s, I consider myself too old and set in my ways to even want to entertain any serious relationship, either friend or romantic.
    I'm actually very content.
    I do get lonesome at times, but it doesn't last long and I know it would be too much hassle, frustration, drama, and whatever else.
    I'm not sulking, I really am content being single and peaceable solitude.

    • @enlightenedone7141
      @enlightenedone7141 Місяць тому +4

      I get you, feel exactly the same!!!

    • @The-GreenHornet
      @The-GreenHornet Місяць тому

      ​@@enlightenedone7141
      👍

    • @The-GreenHornet
      @The-GreenHornet Місяць тому +1

      ​@@Sorsha011
      😊 godly contentment is great gain.

    • @lawrencemyers3623
      @lawrencemyers3623 День тому

      Your comment on being lonesome pretty much reflects my own. Then I remember...
      Yes, I was married, but sadly divorced 18 years later. Was I perfect? No. But in looking back, I did far more right than I did wrong and put up with a lot of garbage which would've made most guys walk away. Today, I enjoy my freedom and have a great relationship with my daughter. It was both a hard lesson to learn and a blessing.

  • @nerinebeaumont4498
    @nerinebeaumont4498 Місяць тому +7

    I love being with me, myself and I. The best company that one can have 💖

  • @Serenity-n4j
    @Serenity-n4j Місяць тому +7

    People are so insecure that they seem to need constant attention... demanding either to dump their emptiness and negativity on me or pull at me to completely focus on them ! I gave and gave No More!
    I have accepted that most people are selfish and care for noone but themselves. My Peace comes from within and my solitude.

  • @HowiesOutdoorAdventures
    @HowiesOutdoorAdventures 16 днів тому +2

    If I’m around people or even family members I get anxious to be alone I find myself wishing that everyone would just leave

  •  14 днів тому +5

    During the Covid Pandemic I did Great. I enjoyed it, not having to deal with people at work, no one coming to my house to "hang out", less people at the grocery store and no need for small talk, almost no one at the gas station, it was GREAT! I made and saved alot of money. I would love to go back to that time, it was like an old episode of the Twiliight zone, only without the bad ending. I read books and listened to music, it was great.

    • @lawrencemyers3623
      @lawrencemyers3623 День тому +1

      I was pretty much keeping to myself well before the Pandemic hit, so it was no big deal. My two "problems" were: do I have enough books to read and is there enough coffee in New Jersey? Made it through just fine.

    • @shanescott5148
      @shanescott5148 День тому +1

      Exactly 😊

    • @shanescott5148
      @shanescott5148 День тому +1

      Thankyou, 😊,im more happy in myself after hearing this

  • @CareyBilley
    @CareyBilley Місяць тому +5

    We are the ones that sit back and observe and listen, we are the shadows of life of this world always watching, listening and learning.

  • @ErwinMaas
    @ErwinMaas Місяць тому +30

    I have lost faith in mankind, I see ignorance and selfishness. If I post something about a billion people in extreme poverty I get zero likes, but if I post something about a hungry dog then everybody goes "oh, how sad". And there are many more of those examples, I see only hypocrits and conditioned beings around me who can only say what they think everybody wants to hear, just to belong to the crowd. I like to express myself when I see that I am different, but most people become rude when I do that. That's why I avoid contact, people don't want you to be yourself.

    • @redfields5070
      @redfields5070 Місяць тому

      Would you sit still and be quiet?

    • @ErwinMaas
      @ErwinMaas Місяць тому

      @@redfields5070 yes, I will only hurt myself, I have no influence at all, I am just one in 8 billion

    • @transcendentsacredcourage
      @transcendentsacredcourage 17 днів тому

      ​@@redfields5070
      That gives me peace, so this is an understatement.

  • @RinAsami1
    @RinAsami1 15 днів тому +2

    This video is spot on. I like my peace and quiet and the company of my husband and dogs. I'm an introvert and it's one of the reasons I really dislike having to go into the office for work. We can do the work from home, we should be allowed to do so. It's so exhausting having to put on a friendly face at work and be social. Plus, I've got trust issues from past hurt and betrayls from people I thought were friends or at least decent people.

  • @Jennifersams-ju1bm
    @Jennifersams-ju1bm Місяць тому +5

    I love that I'm an introvert, but i didn’t always. As a child, it WAS looked at as a flaw, and I'll never know what trajectory my life would have taken if that hadn't happened.

  • @jonhammer7109
    @jonhammer7109 17 днів тому +4

    I know 95% dont care for me regardless how decent i may be. This knowledge throughout the years has worn me down.

    • @alanrandall49
      @alanrandall49 17 днів тому +1

      Yes Jon, I understand that feeling, some people can diminish your enthusiasm for life, and it doesn’t matter if you are considerate and have a good heart, they will just take advantage, no conscience at all to fulfil their selfish needs, better aloneness than being used. 😏

  • @rem898maxamillion
    @rem898maxamillion 24 дні тому +1

    I love being around the right people. People who are kind positive outgoing patient open minded. Those are wonderful people.

  • @ShaazStoic
    @ShaazStoic 26 днів тому +1

    Stoicism has truly helped me understand why I feel this way. It's not about hating people, but more about protecting my energy and finding peace within myself. Embracing solitude allows me to grow and reflect. This video was a great reminder of the power of inner peace!

  • @kyki8512
    @kyki8512 Місяць тому +8

    I am a true introvert and being around people too long drains my energy! As you mentioned in your video, I have a heart and mind for deep, meaningful, and TRUTHFUL conversation, and MOST people HATE the truth! MOST people are COMMITTED to finding ways to ESCAPE the truth! They want to PURPOSELY stay in a delusional and superficial state of mind because the truth scares them! Because I am a deep person and a truth teller, it makes superficial people very uncomfortable! This is the main reason that I don't enjoy being around most people, superficial people who choose to be ignorant and toxic, drain my energy! We are just not the same! I belong to Jesus and because of that I accept the fact that God has called us to be DIFFERENT from the world! The world didn't accept Jesus when He was here on earth, and the world doesn't accept HIS PEOPLE! BUT......the great thing about it is that even when I am not around any human being, I am not alone! I have the comfort and the company of the Holy Spirit at all times! 🥰♥️ AND ....... my peace is priceless, and I will protect it at all cost! I love people but I ABSOLUTELY HATE drama, confusion, and chaos, which is how MANY PEOPLE seem to live their lives! I don't believe in living to compete with others! I don't believe in living to tear others down in order to make yourself feel better about yourself! I don't believe in gaining things at other people's expense! I don't believe in mistreating and hurting others! I believe in GOD'S WAY which is the LAW OF LOVE AND PEACE! ❤If everyone respected and loved GOD with all of their HEARTS and if everyone loved and respected each other, with TRUE CARING, then this world would be a beautiful place to live in, but unfortunately the world is filled with MANY selfish, superficial, ignorant, sadistic, and wicked people, who I do not care to be around! It is THE LACK OF LOVE that is destroying this world, plain and SIMPLE!

  • @Spook1234-e8i
    @Spook1234-e8i Місяць тому +3

    I am never bored or lonely with my life alone, I enjoy my own company. I also have two cats. As a senior now it just took me years to fully understand to really know what I want out of life. I can be around people family included for a short time but that's all. Im at peace with myself anymore. I went through too much in life and dealt with too much crap from people.

  • @ElenaLabra-rh9oo
    @ElenaLabra-rh9oo Місяць тому +8

    I have the ability of shut down my hearing when a conversation is not interesting, boring or annoying. I live with my own silence, I try not to talk on the phone neither and try to keep others phone calls as short as possible.

  • @magedkaram
    @magedkaram Місяць тому +7

    My library connected me with the oldest genus and future idea which is make me feel comfortable

  • @drew-shourd
    @drew-shourd Місяць тому +30

    My 5:
    People are: 1) selfish 2) rude 3) stupid 4) unempathetic 5) opinionated....

  • @Naturalintelligence30
    @Naturalintelligence30 Місяць тому +18

    I only like being around people that benefit me and add to my life. Not useless people that drain my energy and my pockets.

  • @rossbrown8145
    @rossbrown8145 Місяць тому +4

    Thank you!!!!! you nailed my feeling now I understand me and I needed that!!!! God bless you always!!!!

  • @dododoreen1
    @dododoreen1 Місяць тому +11

    I’ve had some brutal experiences in the last 10 years of my marriage. I was threatened and told I was worthless. It’s hard to bounce back from that.

    • @donnapierangeli6216
      @donnapierangeli6216 Місяць тому +1

      Please don't let a spouse define your worth! God created you perfect and loved you that's enough. The spouse or person that abuses you verbally or physically is nothing more than a clanging cymbal. Like the Bible says if you don't love you are nothing more than a clanging cymbal.

    • @hjc5457
      @hjc5457 Місяць тому

      Maybe that's how she feels about herself

    • @doriangray7723
      @doriangray7723 Місяць тому +1

      The problem is that people do not know what love is.
      Love is kind, patient, love doesn't insist on its own way. Love endures all things and rejoices in truth.
      Love is NOT arrogant or rude, etcetera.
      People think love is a warm, fuzzy feeling, sex, and any number of other things.

  • @sneshead3326
    @sneshead3326 11 днів тому +2

    I feel sorry for people who can’t be on their own. I love my own company and could escape for days by myself. I need time for reflection

  • @anucheruparambil
    @anucheruparambil 9 днів тому +2

    Being around people is so exhausting. If i go to a gathering and come back ,I feel so exhausted even if I've done nothing i just come back and lie down for hours before i can get back to normal.

  • @chantellelucas8659
    @chantellelucas8659 Місяць тому +7

    So so true. Health happiness and safety are what's important! Not all the noise and garbage Of society!! Luv to all.💗👍🇦🇺

  • @LaurieValdez-zk3dy
    @LaurieValdez-zk3dy Місяць тому +9

    I prefer to be alone.
    I'm grateful for everything. I don't care what others do or say.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @evetko
    @evetko 9 днів тому +2

    Oh yeah, 7:08 hit home for me: " ... less like socializing but more like emotional labour."

  • @jenniferspille
    @jenniferspille Місяць тому +21

    I've been alone for 10 years now. After my divorce I thought I was going to go crazy, I thought I needed to be around others for validation. When I turned to my Lord and savior Jesus Christ I knew that God was the only validation I would ever need. He knows my soul and my heart. I've never been alone after receiving Jesus Christ and will never be alone again. Thank you Father God for never leaving me. 🙏

  • @waynesilva3129
    @waynesilva3129 Місяць тому +5

    I can’t speak for anyone else. But very few people can hold my attention for very long.

  • @CiaofCleburne
    @CiaofCleburne Місяць тому +6

    All my life, I’ve heard jokes about crazy people walking around talking to trees. Now I live alone (spouse works away from home) and have 17 acres to roam at will. I’ve taken to adding those face kits you can buy onto certain trees. As I walk my dogs, I have conversations with or simply say hello to my “tree friends”. They are true, steadfast, non-judgmental and only compete with each other for light and space. Best friends I’ve ever had!!❤

    • @doriangray7723
      @doriangray7723 Місяць тому

      Have you ever judged others? As written in the Bible, man judges by the outward appearances, but God judges by the heart.
      I think we all have done it. S/he is fat, stupid, ignorant, intelligent, attractive, unattractive, skinny, weird, to feminine or masculine, and on and on and on it goes.

  • @SusanBradley-w7x
    @SusanBradley-w7x Місяць тому +4

    Im enjoying peace and happiness within my mind by cutting out the rubbish out of my life.Its easier now, no trusting people now means less chances of being betrayed, judged and treated cruelly.Self preservation.PEACE AT LAST.😢😊

  • @kaze217
    @kaze217 25 днів тому +3

    Excerpt: "It's not because you don't want to be around people..."
    Me: No, it is. It really is. People are exhausting.

  • @MikeCross616
    @MikeCross616 19 днів тому +1

    I can honestly say that I feel like I could live the rest of my life on my own, never seeing another human being

  • @AntonioLopez-mj7xk
    @AntonioLopez-mj7xk Місяць тому +2

    I have suffered social anxiety all my life. I am 42 years old, and it felt like gaining confidence during some periods of constant social interaction. But the fear of being around unknown people or public meetings has always been haunting me. It's just coming back, it hasn't got better with time... I have just decided to give up the idea of going on a speech for any kind of learning activity course or training... Just thinking about the exposure to talk in public makes me unsettle and anxious to the point that I can't sleep when I think about this.

  • @senkabobovcan2356
    @senkabobovcan2356 26 днів тому +1

    Exactly 💯🎉
    Everything you say is right.
    I did go to same church for many years with my husband.
    He is no more wit us already over 16 years 😢 RIP my dear.😢
    After I stay my self everything is different.... People look at me different eyes. Why ? Nothing I do wrong, nothing say wrong ....
    I just stop go to church because I feel bad . I want be part of conversation like before, but is not more. I'm not good enough for them ?
    I'm honoring my self 🎉 🎉🎉
    I'm happy my self , watching prayers on tv , doing crafts I love ....music.... WHAT I need more ?
    Friends is all about interes . Until my husband did great job for them and not ask any money .... We was friends. My husband was palmer , but he can build house , so much he was handyman.
    Now they not know my phone number. This is not friendship, nope.
    And again I'm happy my self. Greetings from Florida to all good people. Happy New year 2025

  • @marcusaurelius-stoicism
    @marcusaurelius-stoicism Місяць тому

    This really resonates with me. Sometimes, being around people feels draining, and Stoicism helps me understand the value of solitude and self-reflection. Thank you for this perspective!

  • @baroqueman1
    @baroqueman1 28 днів тому +1

    Some years ago I foolishly joined a social / dating organization. There was a strong feeling that one was being scrutinized, even judged, by the participants at the only gathering I attended. I found it very difficult to find things to say when it was obvious that I had nothing in common, myself slipping away quietly after about 30 mins when I could stand the rather shallow group dynamics no longer. Since then I have valued constructive solitude, plus the occasional meeting with trusted friends - and have been intent on personal and spiritual development. There will be perhaps a good number of readers on here who will relate to what I describe...

  • @TheThoughtCompass-vnm
    @TheThoughtCompass-vnm Місяць тому +4

    You make complex philosophical concepts so accessible. Your explanation really helps me understand life better. I was really impressed at 4:20

  • @aeon726
    @aeon726 Місяць тому +7

    After a forty year career of all day, daily, deeply personal interactions with people, I certainly prefer and protect the solitude of retirement. While the term 'introvert' is accurate, its too often used like a dirty word, as though noisy, pretentious 'extrovert' is better. I am not lonely, and if I am 'bored' it leads to inspiration and creativity. Also, I hate holidays.😎

    • @technojunkindatrunk
      @technojunkindatrunk Місяць тому +3

      Wow, you are singing my song! Sounds exactly like my life. Thanks for your words. 🙋‍♀️

  • @LaurieAro
    @LaurieAro Місяць тому +6

    All 5 of these are me all the way. I would rather be alone and I have no problem with that.

  • @ananimity7332
    @ananimity7332 14 днів тому

    I'm an introvert and I truly love this video. I can send it to people who just don't understand. Thank you

  • @StoicLens360
    @StoicLens360 13 днів тому

    This video perfectly captures the feeling of needing solitude and valuing meaningful connections over superficial ones. Stoicism really helps in understanding ourselves better and embracing peace within. Thanks for sharing such relatable insights!

  • @MrOrcshaman
    @MrOrcshaman 15 днів тому

    Many of these factors have played with me growing up, especially in my teens and 20s.
    I learned the most important thing in life from my mother, to respect and treat others how you wish to be respected, but don't take shit from those who don't.
    The power of not giving a shit where it matters really helped boost my confidence over the years

  • @jeanholtz579
    @jeanholtz579 Місяць тому +12

    I like being alone. Always have, always will. ⚔️⚖️⚖️⚖️💯💯💯💯🐬🐬🐬

  • @Flipping_through
    @Flipping_through Місяць тому +1

    This is a real description of how I feel. I didn't know these reasons have been thought out and talked about.

  • @briellecastello4770
    @briellecastello4770 Місяць тому +1

    😲 That’s why I’ve never been lonely! Yes, liberation, people stress me out. But not everyone, some I’m happier with than without.

  • @jessehodge9660
    @jessehodge9660 5 днів тому

    After years of wondering, I see this video and so much makes sense now. I long for meaningful connection, but try to avoid gatherings, the party scene or clubs. It’s the places like that for put-on shallow interactions that drain me emotionally and bore me to tears.

  • @ericarnaud7983
    @ericarnaud7983 Місяць тому +8

    My number one reason is the average person is basically a jerk.