I agree. I hate this idea that so many have to where one particular moment alone has to determine who they are for good. Or rub off to a degree for good.
Agreed, it is shallow. Everyone has their own circumstances. Its like judging a book by its cover. Just first impression of Warren Buffet is an old and poor man.
I know. Someone who does this with everybody is likely a snob! I don't know for sure, but there's a high percentage of someone likely being a snob if they're too obsessed with something like this.
@The Intellectual Jihadist Sounds a lot like my story! I've been quiet and introverted all my life and have learned over the years to embrace my true self.
The takeaway I get from this (besides more reasons to do be careful about what is mentioned in the video) is that I'm a lot less judgemental than most people seem to be. There's really only so much you can learn about people from a first impression. Friends in need do not have it written on their faces, neither do dangerous criminals most of the time. But yeah, I should sort my life out.
This list is helpful in reminding me that many of us are still very shallow in our appreciation of other human beings and what their situation is at the moment Apparently, most of us could use a course in understanding narcissistic behavior and its isolating effect. Honestly, many of these points struck home for me in either the role of being the newcomer or the one judging the newcomer. Its important to remember that all of us are being considered on our ability to be social and desirable company. And, except for those with truly pathological personality disorders, we all have a deep desire to be loved - or at least liked - by others. My prayer to Source is that we guide ourselves to greater understanding and joy. Blessed be.
Rule #1: Be superficial. Rule #2: Be rich so you can afford procedures to make yourself more attractive to people who don't matter. Rule #3: See rules two and three, above.
“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” That said, we do get to refine and gain other, more in-depth assets by focussing the time spent on superficial presentations into improvements in other areas. Ie, a meditating monk who retires from wearing variety, yet in the time gained for increased reflection figures out how to explain meditation so it’s far clearly understood by the masses, who suddenly engage with it and human consciousness transitions... wars cease, communication Improve, social problems are minimalised... we could have heaven on Earth 🌍, if we only would try..... So there’s pros and cons both ways for the collective.......However, thanks for the advice. Today could be a Special one, so...
I'm just not really observing people that critically or with such judgement and intensity. Some things on this list do bug me though. Having nothing to say is one and having a sense of humor is essential
And I have yellow teeth and can’t get them whitened by a dentist since my funds are low. And other over the counter methods haven’t worked. It’s so sad that people have to look at teeth to find the person attractive or not.
These are spot on and will carry you well through life if you follow them. There will always be people that won’t like you or except you but you should always strive to make a good impression on everyone that you meet.
19. Stabbing them. A research suggests that people being stabbed usually take it as a sign of hostility. Instead, try hugging them first, and then gently choking them out.
18 things that show how prejudiced people really are. I've found that for the most part, people I make a good impression on, are people I don't keep up a good relationship with, and those I make a bad impression on, are those I ultimately win over, and end up being friends with for life, assuming that they give me another chance.
Yeah i think the better the person, the less they rely on 1st impressions and are open to seeing people improve over time rather than holding preconceived judgments. But people normalize being terrible human beings for some reason lol. Like its normal to fight on how important a first impression is. Even those with potential of being decent get caught up in stupid prejudices cuz in some way the world is set up for prejudices to be justified for survival. Like getting a job or finding relationships ... usually the more prejudicial person has control on the health of those endeavors its sad.
It really is extraordinary how much information we take in about another human being upon first meeting! A couple of these that were eye-opening for me, and made me go, "Oh, that totally makes sense but I never thought about it!" were: 1) looking sleep deprived and 2) having bad teeth! I have a really hard time looking past truly horrible, brown or yellow teeth. It makes the person seem instantly low-class and unintelligent. I am scheduling my next teeth whitening right now! Ha ha...
I don't like these types who constantly interrupt and/or dismiss what I am saying, walk away in the middle of a sentence. I avoid these people as much as possible when it happens & I make NO effort to connect with them again. Also, those types who share too much too soon regarding health problems, mental health issues, medications they are on etc. I get so annoyed I want to run away!
Oh no the phone I can't stand that if I'm trying to communicate with somebody and they on that phone I'm trying to communicate with them that's beyond disrespectful I agree 100% on that
You never judge a book by its cover. Depending on where or when the first impression is can change things. It could be just a chance meeting. That does not mean they are that way. If you have a chance meeting with someone take it that way. You do not know what they are going through when you meet them. A few days or a week can make a difference. Sometimes when a person goes through things they can be different. Use your instincts. If they seen like they may be okay give them a chance. If it feels wrong it may be wrong. People are still people. Things change from day to day. If you meet someone today do not assume anything. Next week they may be more themselves.. Some of this is not making sense. Use your common sense and trust yourself. I have found out that some people are fine if given a chance. What they have been through in life can make a big difference. If they have not had the best deck of cards handed to them the first impression could be so wrong. You can meet the most interesting people just being in the right place at the right time. I have learned to trust my instincts and not first impressions. I have usually been more right then wrong
I know how to fix sleep deprivation, I will just take the battery out of my phone. I will lose my balance if I try to stand with both my arms and legs crossed . Some of this is not correct. I won't take it personally because I don't really talk to a lot of people.I don't even have time to talk to people.
I don't care what people think of me. I don't try to impress anyone, I am myself . Just remember if people don't like you for who you are that's there problem not yours.
Some of the points in the video should be followed regardless of whether you care or not about what other people think (and saying you do not care at all about what others think is usually a lie on some level, but I digress). Everyone should take care of themselves by getting adequate sleep, taking care of their overall health, etc. And, being late and invading other people's personal space is not just rude, but also exploiting others. "Being yourself" does not give you license to mistreat or take advantage of others.
@@chatterbox11 I truly don't care. I'm not lying ! I used to when I was very young and naive, not anymore. This is a true fact I don't care anymore what people think. This has nothing to do with taking care of ones self. I'm talking about personality. People you should never act like someone your not act yourself, be yourself. When people try too hard to impress, to me that's acting fake.
I agree to some extent, but sometimes people act so apathetic that they send the message like, I don't care what you think, f off sort of vibe. It's a fine line.
Many of these ideas are simply being respectful to others and not trying to put over on someone. The person who says they don't care what others think of them is immature and selfish. This is a very good video to help those who are having problems with relationships.
Public service message (based on what's been said in the first 30 minutes of this video. A lasting impression usually comes from genuine encounter. Anytime you're dealing with a mature and respectable person there is no need to leave a thing. Whether it is money, your ideas, an impression or your contact information. As you're bound to be remembered for everything genuine (as in speaks volumes about you at all times) Plus, people pick and choose who they "impress", which basically confirms that you're getting an act.......and once said act is no longer needed, you no longer will be impressed.
@@venperp You know what is it with emojis these days. Some of us born before the invention of computers and the net, actually had to write and convey proper English but point taken, you were making an amusing comment. My mistake.
* Some . I love that word so much because it is simple and doesn’t group a whole species into a silly crusty box. Yes indeed, SOME people are very shallow. And it is what it is. There is no need for me to waste my deep energies on them ( not bragging) just saying. They may not be bad people, just shallow. So I’ll meet them as far as they can go and not expect anything more or less. Human behavior is very interesting and continues to evolve/ devolve in so many curious ways. The only control we have is over ourselves. How far do I want to challenge myself, today? Sometimes, watching trash tv helps out my ever roaming brain to just shush 🤫. Trash tv is very shallow, so I guess some of me is shallow. I suppose we all have different levels of almost every aspect to us. Different dimensions.
Thanks for another great video. Your videos are really very helpful. Well, if it's not about a relationship and when I fall into a conversation with someone for the first time, I notice a few important things in that person apart from his/her body language or appearance. First, and the most important of all, I notice if they are humiliating someone either directly or indirectly to show off their significance. That's the first thing I keep in mind while meeting someone for the first time. And unfortunately, I've met many of such people. And it forces me not to let them in to my personal life because they don't seem trustworthy. In the second place, I notice if they exaggerate themselves for no reason. Sometimes, they show off their relatives and the amount of wealth/support they have and a lot of people are after them. This kind of statement really shows their insecurity that they are heavily bent on gaining significance. Well, there's nothing wrong in saying good things about you but when it's said intentionally to demean/humiliate someone, it's easily noticeable. I also do take care of these things from my side too while meeting someone for the first time and your video made it even much better.👍👌
Good enough for first impressions... Rule 19 says bag rules 1 thru 18.... Some folk dont present well but are worth more digging. Impressions can be temporary, and sometimes we blow it..
It's good example not to trust UA-cam videos a 100% ,for example when you meet a girl and during conversation she constantly plays, touches her hair it's actually very good sign (means she is interested, intrigued by you) and hand in the pocket not always bad signals, depending on situation and how someone does it ,what kind of people are around or person! From my own experience I can say ,never every trust what you hear or see on UA-cam, take everything to practice,test and experience your own life! If it is dating advice ,relationship with family or friends or anything it can be JUST DO whatever your inner voice(guidance) "never disregard it" will tell you !!! You will thank me later after you do it and realize that the best experience it's your own experience! P.S. Don't get me wrong ,SOME videos are helpful !!!
Then don't say to never ever believe in UA-cam's information. We have to give a chance to the available information and question it by ourselves and our experiences, but that doesn't mean to have our learning abilities for internet diffusion of information put off just because people don't want to consider the information given out of books or school. Info is everywhere, we just have to search for it, question it, consider it test it and then go to reflection to see what works and what doesn't, trying to avoid harm with experimentation as much as possible.
I tried to do my best and show the best part of myself but nothing worked. And I started seeking for medical help since my first day in the country, but I think they thought, I wanted their belongings in the country, until I got bored and began to miss my country I was coming from and so they involved me in a game of shame of which I don't know even the sack of, but they really played me hard. I rarely missed to give a first good Impression like this and I missed my years of studies just because of that. It hit my heart so bad until today.
The main thing I've learned in life is to look at the heart and the character of a person not the way how they look or how they dress because a person can dress fly look like a million bucks and can be a complete idiot with a very bad attitude that's why I say I look at your heart and your character and how you treat me I don't care about nothing else because I have met people that look like punk rockers bikers lumberjacks and hippies and they were some of the coolest people I ever met down-to-earth laid-back honest but one thing I do agree on is the teeth messed up teeth do turns people away trust me my mouth was messed up a while back but thank God I got my stuff fixed and I noticed a big difference now I can't stop smiling from ear-to-ear 😁😁😁😁. And most people love me because I don't try too hard to impress people I just be me even though I dress like a lumberjack and like Logan I'm laid-back down-to-earth very good sense of humor keep it real I mind my own business I don't bother nobody nobody bothers me I don't take no s*** for No One that's why most people respect me even some people who don't like me give me total respect.
@@NR-nf1il Exactly. That just means they're selfish because they felt the need to interrupt you since they think what they had to say is more important.
I used to care WHAT I looked like and I did EVERYTHING this guy has said so far (and I am only 2 minutes into this video)!! I used to shave EVERY morning, brush my teeth, wear decent clothes, took an hour to shower, shave and "freshen up"!! And I would spend serious coin on quality clothing and cologne even my sneakers cost more than what some folks spend on a meal!!! And do you KNOW where all of that got me?????????????????? Answer: Nowhere!!! In the end it didn't matter I was wearing $60 Reeboks, or $60 Polo cologne, nobody gave a shit that I was clean shaven, freshly showered, or looked like I had just walked out of the "specialty shops" at the mall (which back then was "important")!!! Nobody cared that I had a NEW CAR or a decent apartment and certainly NOT my employers or the women I was trying to date, and then a few years back (1988) I met a woman who didn't give a shit either!! In fact she so "didn't care" that she married me, then made my life a living hell, VERY LITERALLY!! And I had tried my best to attract women, be a "good employee", and I wasted my life, my money and my time trying to impress EVERYBODY from my employers to my wife, even my own family, and ALL I GOT in return was shit on!! THEN in 1998 I was fed up......I started doing WHAT I WANT, WHEN I WANT and I would do it HOW I WANTED TOO!!! Because apparently NOBODY cared what I did, said or even thought and it was more than obvious to me that no matter what I did to be "accepted" that was never going to happen either by people!!! So by 2001 I just gave up!!!!!!!! The moral to my story is this, be yourself!! DO NOT dress to make people like you, DO NOT try your hardest to impress people who will NEVER care about you or accept you ANYHOW!!!! And you will quickly realize just how many "empty shells" (people who are totally fake around you) that will lie to you, disrespect you, and will never be trustworthy towards you!!! You can ALWAYS be on time, dress like a rock star, and throw away money and time trying to "impress people" and nobody will care about what you think or how you feel anyhow!!! Today I don't give a shit about what I look like, and I certainly DO NOT CARE what people think of me!!!! I speak my mind and I am true and genuine to my convictions!! Be YOURSELF!!! Even if that means being cold, bitter and rude at times!!! Trust me I have become a real jerk from the guy I used to be.....BUT I am totally brutally honest about what I feel and where I stand, and if the folks who disrespected me in the past or present DO NOT LIKE IT......then it weeds out the "real people" from those that will just use you, abuse you and then treat you like dirt anyhow, and you certainly DO NOT NEED more of them in your life anyhow!!!!
You said so much. Although I've always dressed nice because that was my interest, I never found it interesting to dress to impress others, as that's just another way of begging someone to like you. Being able to dress nice means nothing more than being able to dress nice. As certain folk will try to steal your stuff and or just hate you because they feel they should have whatever you have.
I think that Greg Benwell is spot on! I'm not sure if this list takes into account that as a nation the USA has a high level of obesity. I'm "Staypuff Marshmallow" BIG! I've made poor choices on the front of oral health because as a child of 9 years old and dentists worked on banker's hours of that time. I had a tooth pulled on a Friday with the maximum painkillers (Who knew that years later I found out I've got generalized anxiety disorder and I flinch at an injection or insert of an IV & I ask the tech to tape down the needle BEFORE they put down a butterfly bandage as it pulls up the needle painfully with movement.) and I had a "Dry Socket" every breath I took I felt PAIN!!! Until 11 AM on Monday when I got to see him again. I'd told my Mom that I don't want to go there anymore! Sometimes you get what prayed for! I've found out in the last few years that I have what used to be called "Asperger's Syndrome" so I don't recognize too many of the things in the list. I think that the current status of Autism in the population is 1 in 68, so Autism Spectrum Disorder is rising. I've met a guy named Harold "Hackie" Reitman who wrote a book called "Aspertools" he was a boxer & surgical tech while in medical school & found out now dentist are the MOST aware & sensitive to this group! His daughter was diagnosed and he found out everything that he could to help her & a movie was made of her experience. I'm a mess as far as the list goes, but I have created adaptation for the rules that they put forth. I am a genuine person who is loyal to my friend's in spite of what others do say about them. I will try to help anyone who's trying to help themselves. Am I perfect? Far from it!
You can put your hands into your pocket or cross your arms or legs, if u are confident doing that and if the other person sees uts just a part of your character( ,maybe youre a laidback person or so) then in my opinion there is no problem, the problem comes when it seems unnatural or as if it comes from anxiety
Just be careful to be the true you during the first impression or you will end up with a lot of delayed rejection. You ask how I know. I am able to do great first impressions but they leave me with the worst dissatisfaction and those relationships eventually crash.
While these things are important, we shouldn't stress about them before any social interaction. It's far more important to be a decent human being and that isn't that hard. Also need to understand that we can't please everyone.
I met my wife at work. From the moment Id seen her I new I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. We've had are ups and downs. But I know my baby is the one for me. Xxxxxx. You know who you are. Xxxxxx.
Number 7: I look down because I am processing what the other person is saying. Number 17: I prefer to listen to others rather than talk about myself. Plus, the person who I'm listening to may have more experience than I do in a certain subject. Who am I to have anything to say about an unfamiliar topic? Therefore, I contribute by listening and, as a benefit, I learn something new.
I find neglecting appearance is a big one, even if no one admits it everyone judges books by the covers. Speaking of teeth, I remember when I was in Japan I was shocked at how bad peoples teeth were, it was like crooked teeth was a trend there. I find that many guys put one hand in their pocket though
Good first impressions dont change the ugly thoughts of shallow people.We should always try to be comfortable in our skin rather than being uncomfortable by going out of our way to impress people.Besides people who care dont always rely on first impressions to like someone.
i agree about what people say about how they don't care of what people think of them, but this is shows or tells how shallow we all are, admit that all of us judging a person even we don't know about their personality 🙂
I must have at least half of the character flaws you mentioned. And provably more. Ones that haven't been discovered yet. Man I got a lot of work to do.
Being late, paying more attention to your phone, too much colone or perfume and being arrogant. I don't judge people's appearance by their teeth or hair unless it is obvious neither is brushed.
Personal appearance is important, despite the common opinion it shouldn't matter. It's only natural for us to judge on appearance and an instinctive reaction. Great video
You may find it humorous. In Indian arranged marriage setting when we meet a date for the first time, these things come very handy. Thanks for the video
Hey, you have nothing to be insecure about. I used to be like that, and you know what the problem is? Its your mental monologue, you are not saying really kind words to yourself. Start saying kind words to yourself, even if you are pretenfing, and you will start seing the difference!
Personally I feel that you should keep the ***genuine company of people that really like you and support you. If you're a genuinely decent person your confidence (as in self assurance will improve).
There are many times someone made a bad impression with me but then I got to know them and changed my mind.
Yes people are not perfect. This happens to alot of people and it's normal behavior. ✌
Tamara Magdalene yes that’s what I have found
But sumtimes we don't get to do do-overs
Yano?!
Absolutely. Have had that happen. Bad first impressions but once I got to know them, actually liked them.
Exactly, Tamara. And the opposite has happened, as well. They made a great first impression then their true colors came out later.
This is what happens when you over analyze. Causing confusion and not being yourself.
Shadow On the Sun Yes it does and shows how shallow we all are. We are so far from perfect and will never find anyone else that is.
Where there is hatred there is confusion 🎭
You cant judge someone by first impression because who knows about what they are actually about.
I agree. I hate this idea that so many have to where one particular moment alone has to determine who they are for good. Or rub off to a degree for good.
Agreed, it is shallow. Everyone has their own circumstances. Its like judging a book by its cover. Just first impression of Warren Buffet is an old and poor man.
Your comment just made a good impression on me!
The most annoying is judging people you nothing about after just meeting them. Talk about self absorbed.
I know. Someone who does this with everybody is likely a snob! I don't know for sure, but there's a high percentage of someone likely being a snob if they're too obsessed with something like this.
*Your looks, your body language, your voice pitch, your confidence aura. Let your actions speak for you.*
Im average looking, I have a resting bitch face and confidence could use some work but what if you are naturaloy ugly
@@gabeguzman there are a lot of people no matter what they look they still carry themselves professionally
That's not important. What one says is all that matters.
You are everywhere
@@johncarliebuluran1111 how do you know? Unless you're also everywhere!
The best relationships sometimes come from the most awkward first impression.
Who else recognizes this?
I recognize your statement, for sure .
For sure! I think socially awkward people end up being the best.
No shit sherlock
@The Intellectual Jihadist Sounds a lot like my story! I've been quiet and introverted all my life and have learned over the years to embrace my true self.
That's so true.
18 steps to giving everyone social anxiety!
faile486 yeah exactly 👍👍
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Y’all so true it does give you social anxiety
The takeaway I get from this (besides more reasons to do be careful about what is mentioned in the video) is that I'm a lot less judgemental than most people seem to be.
There's really only so much you can learn about people from a first impression. Friends in need do not have it written on their faces, neither do dangerous criminals most of the time. But yeah, I should sort my life out.
This list is helpful in reminding me that many of us are still very shallow in our appreciation of other human beings and what their situation is at the moment Apparently, most of us could use a course in understanding narcissistic behavior and its isolating effect. Honestly, many of these points struck home for me in either the role of being the newcomer or the one judging the newcomer.
Its important to remember that all of us are being considered on our ability to be social and desirable company. And, except for those with truly pathological personality disorders, we all have a deep desire to be loved - or at least liked - by others. My prayer to Source is that we guide ourselves to greater understanding and joy.
Blessed be.
People are fickle. So the less you you have to deal with them, the better.
Mark Trujillo 🎯
Good idea. Just lock yourself in an empty room all day and solve tricky integrals Lool! (Like $\int \sin(\cos x) dx$ etc.)
@@Grassmpl
I'm sorry. Was that supposed to be a joke, or were you serious? If it's a joke, then ummm... haha?
@@MarkTrujilloDesignsandMedia yes it's a joke but metaphorically, this is true to some extent, at least about me. Hint: note I said Lool!
@@Grassmpl
Scatterbraining is the way to go.
Lol
Thanks for the ultimate info bro, your channel is the best to build a person.
Rule #1: Be superficial.
Rule #2: Be rich so you can afford procedures to make yourself more attractive to people who don't matter.
Rule #3: See rules two and three, above.
No no no rule #1. Be a fake #2. Act like you got a lot of money. #3. Repeat #1 + #2
Perfect advice for the most shallow of people
“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.”
That said, we do get to refine and gain other, more in-depth assets by focussing the time spent on superficial presentations into improvements in other areas. Ie, a meditating monk who retires from wearing variety, yet in the time gained for increased reflection figures out how to explain meditation so it’s far clearly understood by the masses, who suddenly engage with it and human consciousness transitions... wars cease, communication Improve, social problems are minimalised... we could have heaven on Earth 🌍, if we only would try..... So there’s pros and cons both ways for the collective.......However, thanks for the advice. Today could be a Special one, so...
I'm just not really observing people that critically or with such judgement and intensity. Some things on this list do bug me though. Having nothing to say is one and having a sense of humor is essential
And I have yellow teeth and can’t get them whitened by a dentist since my funds are low. And other over the counter methods haven’t worked. It’s so sad that people have to look at teeth to find the person attractive or not.
These are spot on and will carry you well through life if you follow them. There will always be people that won’t like you or except you but you should always strive to make a good impression on everyone that you meet.
You're one judgemental person if you hate on a sleep deprived person lol
Lol. I hate sleeping so I wouldn't know.
This whole list was based on prejudices.
How can someone be not judging? Or, be judgemental? Isn’t it built in our DNA?
I'm not judging - is a judgement in itself. 😂😂😂
@@LookBeyondYourHorizon Doesnt make it a good thing.
I don't think you'll always see sleep deprivation, you might see drunk, sickly, etc.
19. Stabbing them. A research suggests that people being stabbed usually take it as a sign of hostility. Instead, try hugging them first, and then gently choking them out.
Lmaoo
yes
LMAO!!🤣🤣🤣
Just love this comment. This just my sense of humor.
…..Brilliant!!
18 things that show how prejudiced people really are.
I've found that for the most part, people I make a good impression on, are people I don't keep up a good relationship with, and those I make a bad impression on, are those I ultimately win over, and end up being friends with for life, assuming that they give me another chance.
Yeah i think the better the person, the less they rely on 1st impressions and are open to seeing people improve over time rather than holding preconceived judgments.
But people normalize being terrible human beings for some reason lol.
Like its normal to fight on how important a first impression is. Even those with potential of being decent get caught up in stupid prejudices cuz in some way the world is set up for prejudices to be justified for survival. Like getting a job or finding relationships ... usually the more prejudicial person has control on the health of those endeavors its sad.
It really is extraordinary how much information we take in about another human being upon first meeting! A couple of these that were eye-opening for me, and made me go, "Oh, that totally makes sense but I never thought about it!" were: 1) looking sleep deprived and 2) having bad teeth! I have a really hard time looking past truly horrible, brown or yellow teeth. It makes the person seem instantly low-class and unintelligent. I am scheduling my next teeth whitening right now! Ha ha...
I don't like these types who constantly interrupt and/or dismiss what I am saying, walk away in the middle of a sentence. I avoid these people as much as possible when it happens & I make NO effort to connect with them again. Also, those types who share too much too soon regarding health problems, mental health issues, medications they are on etc. I get so annoyed I want to run away!
I get it,you just have to be perfect!
Well that lets me out.
ROTFL!!!😅😅😅❤
Oh no the phone I can't stand that if I'm trying to communicate with somebody and they on that phone I'm trying to communicate with them that's beyond disrespectful I agree 100% on that
I just walk away.
Definitely a huge No No on ANY date! Shows disrespect!
I do have trouble sleeping, and I can't help it! So it's not on purpose, if I look very tired.
I'm with you on sleeping habits! It's not something that we can control.
You never judge a book by its cover. Depending on where or when the first impression is can change things. It could be just a chance meeting. That does not mean they are that way. If you have a chance meeting with someone take it that way. You do not know what they are going through when you meet them. A few days or a week can make a difference. Sometimes when a person goes through things they can be different. Use your instincts. If they seen like they may be okay give them a chance. If it feels wrong it may be wrong. People are still people. Things change from day to day. If you meet someone today do not assume anything. Next week they may be more themselves.. Some of this is not making sense. Use your common sense and trust yourself. I have found out that some people are fine if given a chance. What they have been through in life can make a big difference. If they have not had the best deck of cards handed to them the first impression could be so wrong. You can meet the most interesting people just being in the right place at the right time. I have learned to trust my instincts and not first impressions. I have usually been more right then wrong
I know how to fix sleep deprivation, I will just take the battery out of my phone. I will lose my balance if I try to stand with both my arms and legs crossed . Some of this is not correct. I won't take it personally because I don't really talk to a lot of people.I don't even have time to talk to people.
Personally when you are meeting with somebody I hope literally you have to understand each other ,thanks for your videos
When i meet someone and hear their name i visualize the most significant person with the same name. Works great for remembering names.
I don't care what people think of me. I don't try to impress anyone, I am myself . Just remember if people don't like you for who you are that's there problem not yours.
Amen
Some of the points in the video should be followed regardless of whether you care or not about what other people think (and saying you do not care at all about what others think is usually a lie on some level, but I digress). Everyone should take care of themselves by getting adequate sleep, taking care of their overall health, etc. And, being late and invading other people's personal space is not just rude, but also exploiting others. "Being yourself" does not give you license to mistreat or take advantage of others.
AMEN TO THAT
@@chatterbox11 I truly don't care. I'm not lying ! I used to when I was very young and naive, not anymore. This is a true fact I don't care anymore what people think. This has nothing to do with taking care of ones self. I'm talking about personality. People you should never act like someone your not act yourself, be yourself. When people try too hard to impress, to me that's acting fake.
I agree to some extent, but sometimes people act so apathetic that they send the message like, I don't care what you think, f off sort of vibe. It's a fine line.
Many of these ideas are simply being respectful to others and not trying to put over on someone. The person who says they don't care what others think of them is immature and selfish. This is a very good video to help those who are having problems with relationships.
Your advice is golden, thanks!
Bad breath... keep it fresh boys, don't sleep on the spearmint gum!
lol
Moses Emmet hhhhhh
Floss those teeth daily too!
Your hygienist is right, it makes a WORLD of difference!!!
Better yet EATspearmint. It settles the stomach AND freshens breath.
@@ninjapuppy8331 may I ask how to floss?
I've watched videos and read articles but idk how to and it's frustrating.
Public service message (based on what's been said in the first 30 minutes of this video. A lasting impression usually comes from genuine encounter. Anytime you're dealing with a mature and respectable person there is no need to leave a thing. Whether it is money, your ideas, an impression or your contact information. As you're bound to be remembered for everything genuine (as in speaks volumes about you at all times) Plus, people pick and choose who they "impress", which basically confirms that you're getting an act.......and once said act is no longer needed, you no longer will be impressed.
I've been trying to get out of the habit of crossing my arms and legs... I do it when I'm focusing on my thoughts, which is a LOT... 😅
I tend to cross my legs - or at least my ankles - too. My mentor is always telling me not to do it.
Takeaway: People are shallow. 😂
That'll be you then. What makes you so different? Don't be so quick to judge others.
It's not that serious y'all. Note the laughing face.
@@venperp You know what is it with emojis these days. Some of us born before the invention of computers and the net, actually had to write and convey proper English but point taken, you were making an amusing comment. My mistake.
* Some . I love that word so much because it is simple and doesn’t group a whole species into a silly crusty box. Yes indeed, SOME people are very shallow. And it is what it is. There is no need for me to waste my deep energies on them ( not bragging) just saying. They may not be bad people, just shallow. So I’ll meet them as far as they can go and not expect anything more or less. Human behavior is very interesting and continues to evolve/ devolve in so many curious ways.
The only control we have is over ourselves. How far do I want to challenge myself, today? Sometimes, watching trash tv helps out my ever roaming brain to just shush 🤫. Trash tv is very shallow, so I guess some of me is shallow. I suppose we all have different levels of almost every aspect to us. Different dimensions.
Totally true.....
Thank you. Your counsel is spot on.
This channel is underrated. Its so eduative. I learn many things.
Same
Thanks for another great video. Your videos are really very helpful.
Well, if it's not about a relationship and when I fall into a conversation with someone for the first time, I notice a few important things in that person apart from his/her body language or appearance.
First, and the most important of all, I notice if they are humiliating someone either directly or indirectly to show off their significance. That's the first thing I keep in mind while meeting someone for the first time. And unfortunately, I've met many of such people. And it forces me not to let them in to my personal life because they don't seem trustworthy.
In the second place, I notice if they exaggerate themselves for no reason. Sometimes, they show off their relatives and the amount of wealth/support they have and a lot of people are after them. This kind of statement really shows their insecurity that they are heavily bent on gaining significance. Well, there's nothing wrong in saying good things about you but when it's said intentionally to demean/humiliate someone, it's easily noticeable.
I also do take care of these things from my side too while meeting someone for the first time and your video made it even much better.👍👌
It helps in business meetings too. Thanks for the nice video. God bless!
Good enough for first impressions...
Rule 19 says bag rules 1 thru 18....
Some folk dont present well but are worth more digging.
Impressions can be temporary, and sometimes we blow it..
Another great video keep up the great work ❤
Great informative video. As a public speaker, most of these apply. Thank you for creating this!
It's good example not to trust UA-cam videos a 100% ,for example when you meet a girl and during conversation she constantly plays, touches her hair it's actually very good sign (means she is interested, intrigued by you) and hand in the pocket not always bad signals, depending on situation and how someone does it ,what kind of people are around or person!
From my own experience I can say ,never every trust what you hear or see on UA-cam, take everything to practice,test and experience your own life! If it is dating advice ,relationship with family or friends or anything it can be JUST DO whatever your inner voice(guidance) "never disregard it" will tell you !!!
You will thank me later after you do it and realize that the best experience it's your own experience!
P.S. Don't get me wrong ,SOME videos are helpful !!!
Then don't say to never ever believe in UA-cam's information. We have to give a chance to the available information and question it by ourselves and our experiences, but that doesn't mean to have our learning abilities for internet diffusion of information put off just because people don't want to consider the information given out of books or school. Info is everywhere, we just have to search for it, question it, consider it test it and then go to reflection to see what works and what doesn't, trying to avoid harm with experimentation as much as possible.
I tried to do my best and show the best part of myself but nothing worked. And I started seeking for medical help since my first day in the country, but I think they thought, I wanted their belongings in the country, until I got bored and began to miss my country I was coming from and so they involved me in a game of shame of which I don't know even the sack of, but they really played me hard. I rarely missed to give a first good Impression like this and I missed my years of studies just because of that. It hit my heart so bad until today.
Excellent list!!
Thank you very helpful reminders!!
I just love Brainy Dose gives me a good sense of direction
Whatever happened to just being your self without trying to gain everyone’s approval
Great video! Anyone who said something negative 👎🏻 is afraid to learn and change !!!
The main thing I've learned in life is to look at the heart and the character of a person not the way how they look or how they dress because a person can dress fly look like a million bucks and can be a complete idiot with a very bad attitude that's why I say I look at your heart and your character and how you treat me I don't care about nothing else because I have met people that look like punk rockers bikers lumberjacks and hippies and they were some of the coolest people I ever met down-to-earth laid-back honest but one thing I do agree on is the teeth messed up teeth do turns people away trust me my mouth was messed up a while back but thank God I got my stuff fixed and I noticed a big difference now I can't stop smiling from ear-to-ear 😁😁😁😁. And most people love me because I don't try too hard to impress people I just be me even though I dress like a lumberjack and like Logan I'm laid-back down-to-earth very good sense of humor keep it real I mind my own business I don't bother nobody nobody bothers me I don't take no s*** for No One that's why most people respect me even some people who don't like me give me total respect.
I agree with u
You sound like a narcissist mate.
Bad teeth and breath is a total deal breaker for me. If they don't look after their mouth health, that speaks volumes to me... in a bad way.
I judge people on if they care enough to think of things to talk about.
I just people on whether they give me a chance to talk. I can't stand people don't let me get a word in
@@NR-nf1il Exactly. That just means they're selfish because they felt the need to interrupt you since they think what they had to say is more important.
I used to care WHAT I looked like and I did EVERYTHING this guy has said so far (and I am only 2 minutes into this video)!! I used to shave EVERY morning, brush my teeth, wear decent clothes, took an hour to shower, shave and "freshen up"!! And I would spend serious coin on quality clothing and cologne even my sneakers cost more than what some folks spend on a meal!!! And do you KNOW where all of that got me?????????????????? Answer: Nowhere!!! In the end it didn't matter I was wearing $60 Reeboks, or $60 Polo cologne, nobody gave a shit that I was clean shaven, freshly showered, or looked like I had just walked out of the "specialty shops" at the mall (which back then was "important")!!! Nobody cared that I had a NEW CAR or a decent apartment and certainly NOT my employers or the women I was trying to date, and then a few years back (1988) I met a woman who didn't give a shit either!! In fact she so "didn't care" that she married me, then made my life a living hell, VERY LITERALLY!! And I had tried my best to attract women, be a "good employee", and I wasted my life, my money and my time trying to impress EVERYBODY from my employers to my wife, even my own family, and ALL I GOT in return was shit on!! THEN in 1998 I was fed up......I started doing WHAT I WANT, WHEN I WANT and I would do it HOW I WANTED TOO!!! Because apparently NOBODY cared what I did, said or even thought and it was more than obvious to me that no matter what I did to be "accepted" that was never going to happen either by people!!! So by 2001 I just gave up!!!!!!!!
The moral to my story is this, be yourself!! DO NOT dress to make people like you, DO NOT try your hardest to impress people who will NEVER care about you or accept you ANYHOW!!!! And you will quickly realize just how many "empty shells" (people who are totally fake around you) that will lie to you, disrespect you, and will never be trustworthy towards you!!! You can ALWAYS be on time, dress like a rock star, and throw away money and time trying to "impress people" and nobody will care about what you think or how you feel anyhow!!! Today I don't give a shit about what I look like, and I certainly DO NOT CARE what people think of me!!!! I speak my mind and I am true and genuine to my convictions!! Be YOURSELF!!! Even if that means being cold, bitter and rude at times!!! Trust me I have become a real jerk from the guy I used to be.....BUT I am totally brutally honest about what I feel and where I stand, and if the folks who disrespected me in the past or present DO NOT LIKE IT......then it weeds out the "real people" from those that will just use you, abuse you and then treat you like dirt anyhow, and you certainly DO NOT NEED more of them in your life anyhow!!!!
You said so much. Although I've always dressed nice because that was my interest, I never found it interesting to dress to impress others, as that's just another way of begging someone to like you. Being able to dress nice means nothing more than being able to dress nice. As certain folk will try to steal your stuff and or just hate you because they feel they should have whatever you have.
Greg Benwell I get you Greg.
I think that Greg Benwell is spot on! I'm not sure if this list takes into account that as a nation the USA has a high level of obesity. I'm "Staypuff Marshmallow" BIG! I've made poor choices on the front of oral health because as a child of 9 years old and dentists worked on banker's hours of that time. I had a tooth pulled on a Friday with the maximum painkillers (Who knew that years later I found out I've got generalized anxiety disorder and I flinch at an injection or insert of an IV & I ask the tech to tape down the needle BEFORE they put down a butterfly bandage as it pulls up the needle painfully with movement.) and I had a "Dry Socket" every breath I took I felt PAIN!!! Until 11 AM on Monday when I got to see him again. I'd told my Mom that I don't want to go there anymore! Sometimes you get what prayed for! I've found out in the last few years that I have what used to be called "Asperger's Syndrome" so I don't recognize too many of the things in the list. I think that the current status of Autism in the population is 1 in 68, so Autism Spectrum Disorder is rising. I've met a guy named Harold "Hackie" Reitman who wrote a book called "Aspertools" he was a boxer & surgical tech while in medical school & found out now dentist are the MOST aware & sensitive to this group! His daughter was diagnosed and he found out everything that he could to help her & a movie was made of her experience. I'm a mess as far as the list goes, but I have created adaptation for the rules that they put forth. I am a genuine person who is loyal to my friend's in spite of what others do say about them. I will try to help anyone who's trying to help themselves. Am I perfect? Far from it!
Thanks to this video I will refrain from, or at least think twice before, cracking my knuckles loudly in my silent office. LOL :)
Don't forget not to fart on your first date...
First impression eye contact 👌👌👏thank you for your video ❤️
Just goes to show that what we can take away from this video is , just how shallow we all are.
Me: “Whats your name?“
Person: “Natalie“
Me, someone who paid attention in this video: “Hello Tom, nice to meet you!“
Hi tom, so nice of you to comment
I used to work at a grocery store and I could call most of my customers by name. They really like that.
LOL! You get points for making a good first impression with your sense of humor. :-)
@@acerozaki Hey Tom, you have beautiful hair.
Hi am David what's your name?
Thank You Brainy Dose for The Proper Guidance How to Make This World A Beautiful Place to Live 🥰🥰🥰
I'm not shy, I'm not shy! My problem is, I don't necessarily have anything to share. If you talk , I talk.
Very good advice!
All I get to say is this man has a really calm voice. Makes you....
most of these things don't mean what people think, that's why I love staying with people I know
It's called COMFORT ZONE!!!
Perfect! I have identified some I need to follow!
If you're exceptionally beautiful or have plenty of money, you'll always make a good first impression. The other features will be irrelevant.
It's very important to make a good impression. The first impression is lasting. Thank You!
"Normally he's aa.. very nice guy, don't judge him from this meeting alone"
"He's not always like this."
You can put your hands into your pocket or cross your arms or legs, if u are confident doing that and if the other person sees uts just a part of your character( ,maybe youre a laidback person or so) then in my opinion there is no problem, the problem comes when it seems unnatural or as if it comes from anxiety
Excellent vid! Thanks!
Just be careful to be the true you during the first impression or you will end up with a lot of delayed rejection.
You ask how I know. I am able to do great first impressions but they leave me with the worst dissatisfaction and those relationships eventually crash.
While these things are important, we shouldn't stress about them before any social interaction. It's far more important to be a decent human being and that isn't that hard. Also need to understand that we can't please everyone.
Great advice for dealing with those stuck in the matrix
Life not prefect. And human can not be perfect. But being geninun is more important.
Number 2 : make sure you're well groomed from your hands to your feet
Keanu Reeves: hold my beer
Keanu Reeves: Take my beer, it's all yours.
I met my wife at work. From the moment Id seen her I new I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. We've had are ups and downs. But I know my baby is the one for me. Xxxxxx. You know who you are. Xxxxxx.
Jason Inman go tell HER that
Huuuh okay good for you ???
Number 7: I look down because I am processing what the other person is saying. Number 17: I prefer to listen to others rather than talk about myself. Plus, the person who I'm listening to may have more experience than I do in a certain subject. Who am I to have anything to say about an unfamiliar topic? Therefore, I contribute by listening and, as a benefit, I learn something new.
very true ! especially the teeth part
I'm only human, of flesh and blood I'm made. Born to make mistakes.
Not their best song, in my opinion.
'HUMAN LEAGUE' IN THE HOUSE..
Omg! Miss this song!!
👍
One of my favorite songs!😅❤
Next week should be a big week for me, a little nervous, I have to clean my self up a little bit
Appearance, Attitude, Approach to life in general -:))
Great list. I fully agree.
Thanks for your videos
I find neglecting appearance is a big one, even if no one admits it everyone judges books by the covers. Speaking of teeth, I remember when I was in Japan I was shocked at how bad peoples teeth were, it was like crooked teeth was a trend there. I find that many guys put one hand in their pocket though
And what are the bad things you noticed about your own country instead of talking about Japan ????
That great tips!!! I believe that very much.!!! 😃👍🏼
Good first impressions dont change the ugly thoughts of shallow people.We should always try to be comfortable in our skin rather than being uncomfortable by going out of our way to impress people.Besides people who care dont always rely on first impressions to like someone.
i agree about what people say about how they don't care of what people think of them, but this is shows or tells how shallow we all are, admit that all of us judging a person even we don't know about their personality 🙂
Great list.
I must have at least half of the character flaws you mentioned. And provably more. Ones that haven't been discovered yet. Man I got a lot of work to do.
So basically just put a cardboard picture of you, that will be perfect!
Only if your parents didn't teach you how to be thoughtful and polite to other people...
I don’t know why they say “people love to talk about themselves” I hate to - I already know everything about me!
Lmaoo that dead fish hand 🤣😂
You are funny 😁
I'm so Happy that you are back :)
This guys channel should be called I have opinions
That's funny. Saturday night I was in a room full of people that gave me a bad impression (with the exception of two of them).
Just always try and impress yourself and the right people will gravitate to you. It’s only when you don’t like yourself then you repel others too
Being late, paying more attention to your phone, too much colone or perfume and being arrogant. I don't judge people's appearance by their teeth or hair unless it is obvious neither is brushed.
Fidgeting is also a way that someone who has a difficult time focusing. When they fidget, it helps them focus.
Personal appearance is important, despite the common opinion it shouldn't matter. It's only natural for us to judge on appearance and an instinctive reaction. Great video
The most important for a first impression is a friendly smile.Not a false smile.
Just be yourself. Simple. Period.
good and accurate!
You may find it humorous. In Indian arranged marriage setting when we meet a date for the first time, these things come very handy. Thanks for the video
People tell me all the time that I have an aura of confidence because I dress well but I'm literally the most insecure person you'll ever meet 💀💀
@@fastlife711 Most cringey and self-serving comment I've ever seen.
Hey, you have nothing to be insecure about. I used to be like that, and you know what the problem is? Its your mental monologue, you are not saying really kind words to yourself. Start saying kind words to yourself, even if you are pretenfing, and you will start seing the difference!
@@Princess_Lilly13 Thanks :)
Personally I feel that you should keep the ***genuine company of people that really like you and support you. If you're a genuinely decent person your confidence (as in self assurance will improve).
@@pahzplace7853 Thank you!