@@coverlover9117 I believe that the power of shared time and history, building things like a family makes you think hard about forgiveness and reconciliation before discarding it all. One party failed to think about that before the unfaithfulness; the other may have failed to consider it afterwards. It's impossible to know the dynamics of a relationship that you aren't a part of, so every couple must make such assessments together or as individuals.
My first wife of 21 years emotionally cheated on me with a coworker. Well it was emotional at first. Still not sure of the truth on that but it drove a wedge between us that was insurmountable at the time. One thing led to another over a very short period of time and we are now divorced.
This may or may not be the case. Check out Marriage Helper's guidance on "Signs of a Cheating Spouse, and What to do Next": marriagehelper.com/signs-of-cheating-spouse-what-to-do-next-byd/
@@ryanbates7259 I understand it’s not always the case but I will say it is something to look at very closely. Again. I know from personal experience including believing it was emotional to doing my own research and finding out the truth. Just my two cents
@@ryanbates7259 the thing that everyone forgets is this: emotional connection is progressive. The longer you’re around someone the stronger the bond. Also, emotional affairs are a stage of cheating and don’t happen in a vacuum.
Hubby is meeting his school friend since last 8yrs...they talk daily.. He texts her all the time to know if she has eaten etc..😢😢😢 ..and lied to me that he doesn't do all these things. I founf out from his phone..what is this if not emotional cheating
Potential partners need to define cheating up front, because your interactions with people that you think are normal might be what I consider cheating, and vice versa. Sometimes its black and white, but the transition from black to white has a lot of shades of grey. Define, and communicate regularly.
If you didn’t marry your best friend, get a divorce before calling anybody else that, please. For your own good. And go marry your best friend unfettered by dishonesty or betrayal.
My ex-wife had an emotional and at the end of physical affair. What she lied worked to the very end. And it's just a sure you're married when someone's not honest with you're husband or wife
A married woman 23 years younger than my friend has been having an emotional affair with him for almost three years, she makes sure she spends time with him only during the day time and says she is doing activities her young son..which she is but also seeing my friend at the same time. I thought it was innocent until he invited me to go on a trip she got jealous and wanted to come by and see him right away while I was there. She had been throwing him bread crumbs saying she was going to go out and see Christmas lights with him and her son but canceled every day for over two weeks. ( they had not been seeing each other for several weeks like they used to) .So , I think she wanted to keep her cake and eat it too. Too much drama for me, I turned down the invitation and saw my friend as a person in cahoots with this married woman in deceiving her husband. I think my friend was triangulating. No thank you ,want no part of this. . I no longer see him as a friend ,see him as a user and deceiver.
Most women do this as its a win win for them , if you confront them on it their defensive reaction is a dead giveaway that they are aware there is a something more going on. Either way, they will resort to calling the husband "jealous, possessive, controlling, insecure" etc etc , which after many arguments about it, may eventually lead to a break-up. It is very common that this break-up will often provide an opportunity for the emotional affair to become physical , at which point the husbands prophecy will have self-fulfilled. Trust your gut feeling men.
She was telling her “best guy friend” I love you so much, I can’t wait to see you … I can’t wait to give you a hug and mess with you … so I gave her a ultimatum me or him and she chose him… I had been asking her for the past 2 1/2 years to have a normal conversation with him and to make me feel comfortable and then I let her talk to him again after a while and she just came out saying all that and so I dumped her after she chose him
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No. Not unless you are acting on those feelings in some way. Texting, phone calls, sharing intimate details about your life/marriage/emotions with that person that you aren't sharing with your spouse, etc...if its just an infatuation that you haven't acted on then it is NOT cheating.
That's what I'm dealing with now my husband has cheated on me for a while and I just can't deal with it. He's been doing it for a while all that you are talking about I'm dealing with it well I cought mine
My husband and his co-worker, they talk excessively, he gets defensive and he says that he handles her finances..looking at his text says different sending heart emoji..etc..I filed for divorce
What if this is happening with my wife but her best friend is a female and they are 100% emotionally involved and it's bringing a lot of distress to our marriage
And what if your husband is not emotionally supportive at all and is so possessive that he isolates you from family and doesn’t allow you to have any friends? He is essentially creating the perfect conditions for his wife to have an emotional affair. We’ve tried couples therapy, marriage books, everything but nothing helps. He has an unhealthy attachment and overly controlling nature. He refuses to self evaluate and see his own behavior.
This. So many spouses (husbands and wives) willfully withhold a connection, as a form of control. Then, they act indignant when you "connect" with someone else.
The first definition is definitely far too broad, as later stated. There are people, particularly in religious contexts, who actually use that definition (mostly women) and as a result, they become afraid of acting like a real human being and cut themselves off from any meaningful, sincere interaction with others, particularly with those of the opposite sex. Such a definition of cheating can rob people of their personalities. Religions often punish women for being real people and train them to think any emotional connection with others is disrespectful to their man. They are only to look to their man for meaningful connection. It’s a huge problem.
@@jordanhenshawDude, if you are an atheist, then why are you so adamant about religious people's beliefs? Just let them follow their religion. You don't have to follow it.
This is like anyone can control their emotions, affection. Even when not going into physicaly, isn t it normal to feel other people? Admire beautiful man/woman ? Cheat is smth you do on purpose, and feel comes unsonsciously. I think. But still, understanding of partners needs are to consider...
Diana, I'm sorry that's happening. My wife felt the same way when I did similar things. Porn is an incredibly powerful drug. Have you seen this interview? marriagehelper.com/pornography-affects-marriage-dr-joe-show-special-guest-clay-olsen-fight-new-drug/
If it hurts you by doing so, you tell him and he does not care, It’s definitely him prioritizing someone else (fictional thoughts or not) over his partner. Which is an issue.
Why are you assuming that men or women are only supposed to get emotional fulfillment from their spouses? What if it is just not there and they just don't have that connection? Or what if the friendship existed before the marriage?
This doesn’t make sense to me. I had a best friend at work and she and I would have lots of fun together. She would give me advice all the time about my wife and our kids. I couldn’t wait to see her at work because she made work tolerable. I never had any kid of romantic feelings towards her, but according to this video it would mean I was emotionally cheating
Did you do or say anything sneaky? Did you hide texts/calls/conversation from your wife on purpose? Did you fantasize about being with her outside of work and or instead of your wife?
Cheating is when you go against the rules to get an advantage. It has nothing to do with relationships. Stop using that word in it. Because there are no rules except for the ones the couple decides for themselves on and there are no advantages.
Typically, in a marriage, there are rules, and in a romantic relationship, there are boundaries. This can be a healthy way to illustrate how much we value and prioritize our mate. When one goes outside of those (generally mutually agreed upon) values or vows (marriages typically are actual unions taken by vow - which is literally a legally binding mutual agreement of expected treatment and boundaries) for the benefits or advantages of novel sex, excitement, emotional support, thrills, addiction, or any other reason - they have broken the marital (or promised) bond by literally cheating it. They have cheated their original (now betrayed) partner out of the opportunities to connect in that way with them. So, yes. They have cheated the rules for advantage that benefits only themselves, not the union. Then, yes, it's cheating. That's an accurate description of the behavior in the English language.
What if the fulfillment that is suppose to be happening from your spouse just isn't being, if the person who isn't fulfilling the needs of their spouse is it cheating if the person emotionally leans on someone else of the opposite gender.
I would say either fix the problem or get a divorce. Developing a relationship with someone else is not going to help your marriage. I guarantee you that!!
Yes. There are more mature and appropriate ways to handle those feelings than engaging others for soothing comfort. That is a choice that invites trouble.
There is no excuse that justifies betrayal. Not if you’re a grown/up. Only narcissists need to triangulate relationships to soothe themselves - or sadists - because their comfort costs your pain.
Phillip Jones, good question. Based upon the guidelines above, it can be considered cheating. Have you read Dr. Beam's book, The Art of Falling in Love? Many of Marriage Helper's videos, podcasts, and products circle around the research and concepts of this book. In his book, Dr. Beam explains the Lovepath every relationship follows. It starts with attraction. I'd suggest checking out his book on Amazon or even looking at the Art of Falling in Love Toolkit on Marriage Helper's website: marriagehelper.com/product/path-to-soul-satisfying-love/. My marriage imploded a little over 5 years ago. By walking through this book, Marriage Helper's Save My Marriage course, and all of the resources Marriage Helper provides, I was able to turn it around and my wife and I enjoy a marriage today that we never thought possible. Today I volunteer with Marriage Helper. There is hope.
If your spouse isnt fulfilling your needs then talk to them and tell them what your needs are and ask them what theirs are. Chances are they might need support or to feel valued. The fact you seem to be so ready to go outside of your relationship for support would lead me to believe you don't put your partner first. Also by sharing those intimate details with someone outside will just give them the knowledge to drive a wedge into your relationship. The 3rd party only needs to make themselves look good for a small amount of time of interaction compared to a partner doing it 24/7.
But what if someone does not get that physical or emotional fulfillment from their spouse? Is it then cheating ? It is like if a person has a job but doesn't get paid, so that person goes and works for someone else who does pay. Is he cheating on the first job with the second?
Quit the first job before getting a contract and paid by the second employer, or at least inform the employers of the double dipping or moonlighting. Be honest.
Have a genuine heart to heart talk with your spouse. That should always be first. Most likely there are unfulfilled needs for both parties and lots of misunderstandings. Talk to your spouse first, they deserve at least that small amount of respect 🙏
Yes it's cheating. If I have a job that isn't paying me enough and I go get another job at their competitor's that pays me more at the same time im likely breaking the rules of my contract for conflict of interest etc. It's a horrid analogy anyway because you are talking about materialistic things compared to emotional things. Think of it this way. The pain infidelity causes is regarded as one of the most traumatic events a person can suffer. You are putting some gratification over causing that much pain to the person you are claiming to love. It is literally one of the most selfish and cruel things you could do. If you aren't meeting each others needs talk about it and if needed seperate.
Especially for men, you're not just cheating on your spouse, you are risking your whole family. A woman can find a way to have an affair, keep the family (minus dad) and move on; this is less common for men.
That's what makes my situation hard because I do believe in platonic friends and socialization, however my now ex partner emotionally cheated partially by lying about my existence and the other person's but also was looking for pshycial things with this person but she shot him down and just thought he was flirty. She also had her own partner and he didn't respect that. It's been hard to find the line between this situation.
@@sheenawarecki92 The line is respect. Words are one thing but when someone is looking to escalate something or go beyond that that's when the respect is lost. People should be more honest about what they want and if they don't want to be with someone have enough respect to part ways and not waste their time.
It is unrealistic you should have friends but your friend should not supersede your romantic affiliation. My wife was flirting the idea of this emotional affair with a coworker and she asked to separate I told her absolutely not we're going to work through this. She tried the gas light me and say that there's issues on my part I tried to I figure out what was going on I asked her if there was anyone else she told me no initially and then a week later she confessed that she was having feelings for her co-worker that she wasn't sure of the co-worker even had feelings for her back I told her I loved her and that I still don't accept the separation and I told her she had the block that coworker and not talk to them anymore but I still encourage her to have friends outside of our marriage she can't have a stronger bond to someone else That's the boundaries that I've set and I think it's a fair boundary.
It is realistic to expect a person to maintain appropriate boundaries. The partner doesn’t have to meet ALL needs but it is reasonable to address intimate, emotional needs within the relationship.
Hey Calvin Hunter, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
I think emotional cheating is when you are sharing emotions with someone else that should be reserved only for your mate.
What if you just can't share those emotions with your mate? What if they dont' exist?
I think once there is betrayal, it's over. It will never be the same. That is my opinion. Unless money is inovolved
I have seen examples (couples) of where it is never the same, but it is definitely not over.
@@blueskies7035 so what made them continue?
@@coverlover9117 I believe that the power of shared time and history, building things like a family makes you think hard about forgiveness and reconciliation before discarding it all. One party failed to think about that before the unfaithfulness; the other may have failed to consider it afterwards. It's impossible to know the dynamics of a relationship that you aren't a part of, so every couple must make such assessments together or as individuals.
100% agree... The amount of trust can't be ever be the same. You'll always be questioning and suspicious of everything.
My first wife of 21 years emotionally cheated on me with a coworker. Well it was emotional at first. Still not sure of the truth on that but it drove a wedge between us that was insurmountable at the time. One thing led to another over a very short period of time and we are now divorced.
I am sure that is what happened with my husband about 12 years ago.
We are not divorced, but he lives at the bar.
Dig deeper if your spouse says it is "emotional" only. Believe me, this comes from experience that there is usually more to it.
This may or may not be the case. Check out Marriage Helper's guidance on "Signs of a Cheating Spouse, and What to do Next": marriagehelper.com/signs-of-cheating-spouse-what-to-do-next-byd/
@@ryanbates7259 I understand it’s not always the case but I will say it is something to look at very closely. Again. I know from personal experience including believing it was emotional to doing my own research and finding out the truth. Just my two cents
@@ryanbates7259 the thing that everyone forgets is this: emotional connection is progressive. The longer you’re around someone the stronger the bond. Also, emotional affairs are a stage of cheating and don’t happen in a vacuum.
Why would they even say it’s emotional only???? That’s already wrong!
Hubby is meeting his school friend since last 8yrs...they talk daily.. He texts her all the time to know if she has eaten etc..😢😢😢 ..and lied to me that he doesn't do all these things. I founf out from his phone..what is this if not emotional cheating
Potential partners need to define cheating up front, because your interactions with people that you think are normal might be what I consider cheating, and vice versa.
Sometimes its black and white, but the transition from black to white has a lot of shades of grey.
Define, and communicate regularly.
He’s my friend, we are just talking. I had to dump my best friend. So annoying this was done by my wife. Emotional affairs are serious
If you didn’t marry your best friend, get a divorce before calling anybody else that, please. For your own good. And go marry your best friend unfettered by dishonesty or betrayal.
Any action big or small against your spouse is the same as you saying it is over.
Love the adapted alcohol quiz!
My ex-wife had an emotional and at the end of physical affair. What she lied worked to the very end. And it's just a sure you're married when someone's not honest with you're husband or wife
A married woman 23 years younger than my friend has been having an emotional affair with him for almost three years, she makes sure she spends time with him only during the day time and says she is doing activities her young son..which she is but also seeing my friend at the same time. I thought it was innocent until he invited me to go on a trip she got jealous and wanted to come by and see him right away while I was there. She had been throwing him bread crumbs saying she was going to go out and see Christmas lights with him and her son but canceled every day for over two weeks. ( they had not been seeing each other for several weeks like they used to) .So , I think she wanted to keep her cake and eat it too.
Too much drama for me, I turned down the invitation and saw my friend as a person in cahoots with this married woman in deceiving her husband.
I think my friend was triangulating.
No thank you ,want no part of this. . I no longer see him as a friend ,see him as a user and deceiver.
Most women do this as its a win win for them , if you confront them on it their defensive reaction is a dead giveaway that they are aware there is a something more going on. Either way, they will resort to calling the husband "jealous, possessive, controlling, insecure" etc etc , which after many arguments about it, may eventually lead to a break-up.
It is very common that this break-up will often provide an opportunity for the emotional affair to become physical , at which point the husbands prophecy will have self-fulfilled.
Trust your gut feeling men.
I can't handle this .I saw the text they exchange , what"s left to do is divorce..
She was telling her “best guy friend” I love you so much, I can’t wait to see you … I can’t wait to give you a hug and mess with you … so I gave her a ultimatum me or him and she chose him… I had been asking her for the past 2 1/2 years to have a normal conversation with him and to make me feel comfortable and then I let her talk to him again after a while and she just came out saying all that and so I dumped her after she chose him
Hey Keshawn Watt, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
@@MarriageHelper what is non physical cheating?
Matt 5:27-28 obey the Word of God do not even look at another. Thou shall not commit Adultery. Repent and return to your spouse. God Bless
Modern marriage is a fraud.
My wife says non physical cheating is only when you develop feelings in the mind for another person. Is this true?
No. Not unless you are acting on those feelings in some way. Texting, phone calls, sharing intimate details about your life/marriage/emotions with that person that you aren't sharing with your spouse, etc...if its just an infatuation that you haven't acted on then it is NOT cheating.
That's what I'm dealing with now my husband has cheated on me for a while and I just can't deal with it. He's been doing it for a while all that you are talking about I'm dealing with it well I cought mine
My husband and his co-worker, they talk excessively, he gets defensive and he says that he handles her finances..looking at his text says different sending heart emoji..etc..I filed for divorce
I alway say Adultery, which is the right word.
Great video
What does it mean when your husband tells you he don't want you to worry about him?
But what if you're a type of person that does that in general or in life
What if this is happening with my wife but her best friend is a female and they are 100% emotionally involved and it's bringing a lot of distress to our marriage
And what if your husband is not emotionally supportive at all and is so possessive that he isolates you from family and doesn’t allow you to have any friends? He is essentially creating the perfect conditions for his wife to have an emotional affair. We’ve tried couples therapy, marriage books, everything but nothing helps. He has an unhealthy attachment and overly controlling nature. He refuses to self evaluate and see his own behavior.
This. So many spouses (husbands and wives) willfully withhold a connection, as a form of control. Then, they act indignant when you "connect" with someone else.
Narcissistic
The first definition is definitely far too broad, as later stated. There are people, particularly in religious contexts, who actually use that definition (mostly women) and as a result, they become afraid of acting like a real human being and cut themselves off from any meaningful, sincere interaction with others, particularly with those of the opposite sex. Such a definition of cheating can rob people of their personalities. Religions often punish women for being real people and train them to think any emotional connection with others is disrespectful to their man. They are only to look to their man for meaningful connection.
It’s a huge problem.
Hiding it from the partner is what makes it cheating.
@@dohanara Why should we care what religious books say?
@@jordanhenshawDude, if you are an atheist, then why are you so adamant about religious people's beliefs? Just let them follow their religion. You don't have to follow it.
@@avaliausd. I tell people to stay away from poison ivy too.
This is like anyone can control their emotions, affection. Even when not going into physicaly, isn t it normal to feel other people? Admire beautiful man/woman ? Cheat is smth you do on purpose, and feel comes unsonsciously. I think. But still, understanding of partners needs are to consider...
What if my spouse goes in Pinterest to look at other women constantly, is that emotional cheating!! It hurts me
Diana, I'm sorry that's happening. My wife felt the same way when I did similar things. Porn is an incredibly powerful drug. Have you seen this interview? marriagehelper.com/pornography-affects-marriage-dr-joe-show-special-guest-clay-olsen-fight-new-drug/
If it hurts you by doing so, you tell him and he does not care, It’s definitely him prioritizing someone else (fictional thoughts or not) over his partner. Which is an issue.
Can I viewers what NON physical cheating is?
i cant get my wife to stop im ready to leave i can't keep this up
my ex did this religiously lol i’m in therapy now 😂
Why are you assuming that men or women are only supposed to get emotional fulfillment from their spouses? What if it is just not there and they just don't have that connection? Or what if the friendship existed before the marriage?
Husband is cheating, not the first time but emotional cheating is new
This doesn’t make sense to me. I had a best friend at work and she and I would have lots of fun together. She would give me advice all the time about my wife and our kids.
I couldn’t wait to see her at work because she made work tolerable. I never had any kid of romantic feelings towards her, but according to this video it would mean I was emotionally cheating
Did you do or say anything sneaky? Did you hide texts/calls/conversation from your wife on purpose? Did you fantasize about being with her outside of work and or instead of your wife?
Cheating is when you go against the rules to get an advantage. It has nothing to do with relationships. Stop using that word in it. Because there are no rules except for the ones the couple decides for themselves on and there are no advantages.
Typically, in a marriage, there are rules, and in a romantic relationship, there are boundaries. This can be a healthy way to illustrate how much we value and prioritize our mate.
When one goes outside of those (generally mutually agreed upon) values or vows (marriages typically are actual unions taken by vow - which is literally a legally binding mutual agreement of expected treatment and boundaries) for the benefits or advantages of novel sex, excitement, emotional support, thrills, addiction, or any other reason - they have broken the marital (or promised) bond by literally cheating it. They have cheated their original (now betrayed) partner out of the opportunities to connect in that way with them.
So, yes. They have cheated the rules for advantage that benefits only themselves, not the union. Then, yes, it's cheating.
That's an accurate description of the behavior in the English language.
What if the fulfillment that is suppose to be happening from your spouse just isn't being, if the person who isn't fulfilling the needs of their spouse is it cheating if the person emotionally leans on someone else of the opposite gender.
I would say either fix the problem or get a divorce. Developing a relationship with someone else is not going to help your marriage. I guarantee you that!!
Yes.
There are more mature and appropriate ways to handle those feelings than engaging others for soothing comfort. That is a choice that invites trouble.
There is no excuse that justifies betrayal.
Not if you’re a grown/up. Only narcissists need to triangulate relationships to soothe themselves - or sadists - because their comfort costs your pain.
Phillip Jones, good question. Based upon the guidelines above, it can be considered cheating. Have you read Dr. Beam's book, The Art of Falling in Love? Many of Marriage Helper's videos, podcasts, and products circle around the research and concepts of this book. In his book, Dr. Beam explains the Lovepath every relationship follows. It starts with attraction. I'd suggest checking out his book on Amazon or even looking at the Art of Falling in Love Toolkit on Marriage Helper's website: marriagehelper.com/product/path-to-soul-satisfying-love/. My marriage imploded a little over 5 years ago. By walking through this book, Marriage Helper's Save My Marriage course, and all of the resources Marriage Helper provides, I was able to turn it around and my wife and I enjoy a marriage today that we never thought possible. Today I volunteer with Marriage Helper. There is hope.
If your spouse isnt fulfilling your needs then talk to them and tell them what your needs are and ask them what theirs are.
Chances are they might need support or to feel valued. The fact you seem to be so ready to go outside of your relationship for support would lead me to believe you don't put your partner first.
Also by sharing those intimate details with someone outside will just give them the knowledge to drive a wedge into your relationship. The 3rd party only needs to make themselves look good for a small amount of time of interaction compared to a partner doing it 24/7.
But what if someone does not get that physical or emotional fulfillment from their spouse? Is it then cheating ? It is like if a person has a job but doesn't get paid, so that person goes and works for someone else who does pay. Is he cheating on the first job with the second?
Quit the first job before getting a contract and paid by the second employer, or at least inform the employers of the double dipping or moonlighting. Be honest.
Have a genuine heart to heart talk with your spouse. That should always be first. Most likely there are unfulfilled needs for both parties and lots of misunderstandings. Talk to your spouse first, they deserve at least that small amount of respect 🙏
Yes it's cheating.
If I have a job that isn't paying me enough and I go get another job at their competitor's that pays me more at the same time im likely breaking the rules of my contract for conflict of interest etc. It's a horrid analogy anyway because you are talking about materialistic things compared to emotional things.
Think of it this way. The pain infidelity causes is regarded as one of the most traumatic events a person can suffer. You are putting some gratification over causing that much pain to the person you are claiming to love. It is literally one of the most selfish and cruel things you could do. If you aren't meeting each others needs talk about it and if needed seperate.
@@jake8748 Agreed. There are more mature, respectful ways to handle not getting your needs met than cheating and creating all that drama.
Especially for men, you're not just cheating on your spouse, you are risking your whole family. A woman can find a way to have an affair, keep the family (minus dad) and move on; this is less common for men.
I think it is unrealistic to think that one person can satisfy all of their partners needs. 🤔
I agree and having healthy socialization with friends and family is important.
That's what makes my situation hard because I do believe in platonic friends and socialization, however my now ex partner emotionally cheated partially by lying about my existence and the other person's but also was looking for pshycial things with this person but she shot him down and just thought he was flirty. She also had her own partner and he didn't respect that. It's been hard to find the line between this situation.
@@sheenawarecki92 The line is respect. Words are one thing but when someone is looking to escalate something or go beyond that that's when the respect is lost. People should be more honest about what they want and if they don't want to be with someone have enough respect to part ways and not waste their time.
It is unrealistic you should have friends but your friend should not supersede your romantic affiliation. My wife was flirting the idea of this emotional affair with a coworker and she asked to separate I told her absolutely not we're going to work through this. She tried the gas light me and say that there's issues on my part I tried to I figure out what was going on I asked her if there was anyone else she told me no initially and then a week later she confessed that she was having feelings for her co-worker that she wasn't sure of the co-worker even had feelings for her back I told her I loved her and that I still don't accept the separation and I told her she had the block that coworker and not talk to them anymore but I still encourage her to have friends outside of our marriage she can't have a stronger bond to someone else That's the boundaries that I've set and I think it's a fair boundary.
It is realistic to expect a person to maintain appropriate boundaries. The partner doesn’t have to meet ALL needs but it is reasonable to address intimate, emotional needs within the relationship.
.. she’s not yours,
it’s just your turn.
Can emotional affair be with someone of the same sex? Wife with another female... ? 🙏
How did this turn out? I'm curious.
He has lied he will never tell the truth
That’s not true and telling people this is wrong
Hey Calvin Hunter, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
… 🐩 belongs to the shelter!